why I enjoy being alone (and you should too.)

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  • @ashleyfanka9394
    @ashleyfanka9394 3 роки тому +10486

    “I’d rather be alone than be with people who make me feel alone.” Read that again bc that was a word I will be attending Kelly’s next sermon😭

    • @amourtoujours779
      @amourtoujours779 3 роки тому +116

      The biggest facts on facts since racks on racks

    • @cocoaolivia6133
      @cocoaolivia6133 3 роки тому +42

      AMEN lol 😂 Pastor was preachin' preachin' today

    • @VentureAHighway
      @VentureAHighway 3 роки тому +43

      hahaha. Solitude and time without distractions from technology or people is important.

    • @REJOICESCREEN
      @REJOICESCREEN 3 роки тому +7

      This is just me🙌🙌.

    • @Liesje182
      @Liesje182 3 роки тому +7

      Exactly

  • @user-ro7vy5si5f
    @user-ro7vy5si5f 3 роки тому +3086

    "Being alone for a while is dangerous. It’s addicting. Once you see how peaceful it is, you don’t want to deal with people anymore"

    • @chinneynz7861
      @chinneynz7861 3 роки тому +71

      Soooooooooo True !!!!!

    • @user-ro7vy5si5f
      @user-ro7vy5si5f 3 роки тому +67

      @@chinneynz7861 yeahh, I can relate to this so hard, especially after quarantine

    • @theproperone7467
      @theproperone7467 3 роки тому +50

      Absolutely true, I have learned how to appreciate being alone and I'am loving it. I'm protecting my peace ✌

    • @bluedrip5831
      @bluedrip5831 3 роки тому +21

      @ymarrero23 OMG I am the same way now it is unsane .I really enjoy too much being alone I guess .

    • @queldavis4898
      @queldavis4898 3 роки тому +30

      It is dangerous but useful to find yourself and appreciate life how its meant. Makes you realize relationships are what you make them and most people who give good relationship advice were ok with being alone before that chapter in their lives. Reflected and grew then pursued

  • @andynewman835
    @andynewman835 3 роки тому +3132

    Being alone is a power that very few people can handle.

    • @JazminBautista
      @JazminBautista 3 роки тому +33

      Agrreeeed

    • @ultralightcam6963
      @ultralightcam6963 3 роки тому +16

      Most def my siblings never alone my sister always be on face time

    • @wellenjeje
      @wellenjeje 3 роки тому +31

      Absolutely 🔥 and I'm glad I wake up each day with that power inborn ❤️

    • @WisdomStartsInside
      @WisdomStartsInside 3 роки тому +63

      Sad but true. So many people do not appreciate their own company.

    • @WisdomStartsInside
      @WisdomStartsInside 3 роки тому +8

      @@bunnyboo6295 As long as the interactions you force yourself to have serve you well, it's all good!

  • @tamiboutwell563
    @tamiboutwell563 3 роки тому +1160

    A common misconception we talk about in psychology is that being alone doesn’t equate to loneliness and being surrounded by people doesn’t equate to fulfillment. Xx

  • @MariaPerez-kc8uo
    @MariaPerez-kc8uo 3 роки тому +966

    I have to admit I’m a loner but sometimes it’s very painful not to have friends. But I do agree that it is better to be alone than hang out with people who make you feel you don’t exist.

    • @13579hee
      @13579hee 3 роки тому +52

      I agree Maria. I think what Kelly is explaining and experiencing is COMPLETELY different from the experience of not having friends. I personally don't thing someone like her (who has 4 friends) can even began to understand what it it means to have NO friends & NO social life

    • @MariaPerez-kc8uo
      @MariaPerez-kc8uo 3 роки тому +13

      Thank you for the feed back, Godbless you all. Jesus Christ loves you🥰

    • @pujaroy5724
      @pujaroy5724 3 роки тому +10

      Yes.. sometimes it's really painful 😔😔.. not having friends

    • @mstwelvedeadlycyns
      @mstwelvedeadlycyns 3 роки тому +1

      Words to live by!!!

    • @mstwelvedeadlycyns
      @mstwelvedeadlycyns 3 роки тому +13

      @@13579hee Friends can come and go. You must become your own friend first and create a social life of your own. We all do!

  • @BlackySpeakz
    @BlackySpeakz 3 роки тому +5472

    being alone ain’t bad at all, you just gotta find the right things to do.. (you actually enjoy doing alone) 💫

    • @lil-mumma-adventures
      @lil-mumma-adventures 3 роки тому +21

      Agree!

    • @LauraLoraVlogs
      @LauraLoraVlogs 3 роки тому +68

      Ayeee 🔥dope to see BlackySpeakz is part of the stampede. So if being alone "aint bad at all" Blacky, what is your insight on being a "lone wolf" upcoming artist; how are supposed to build a following being to yourself? how do you network?

    • @BlackySpeakz
      @BlackySpeakz 3 роки тому +159

      LAURA LORA I’d say don’t socialize more than needed, skip going to the functions, the parties, & industry kick backs *if they don’t serve a purpose* a.k.a - aren’t contributing to networking with people who you actually see yourself working w/ long term. Ain’t nothing wrong with having fun, but continuous & meaningless socializing drains us introverts. I’m like this myself, and that’s why I think saving your “socializing energy” should be saved for actually taking care of business rather than unnecessary amount socializing that’ll take away from actual networking anyway. Important to use whatever energy you have for no.1, your art (music) // and number 2. connecting w/ potential collaborators. It’s a whole different ball game if you’re an introvert so you gotta be smart with your energy 💫

    • @SpiritualHermit
      @SpiritualHermit 3 роки тому +63

      Who would’ve thought BlackySpeakyz watched Kelly Stamps 😮

    • @Jessemontea
      @Jessemontea 3 роки тому +4

      Wait I love making and editing videos.. is that something enjoyable? 😭

  • @dancequeen1080
    @dancequeen1080 3 роки тому +341

    this chick has guts...she's saying what everyone honestly thinks, but would never reveal to the world.

  • @SonoraD.
    @SonoraD. 3 роки тому +246

    "When I see my friends it's not because I need them, it's because I like their company". That's true friendship and partnership. Bravo.

  • @andyshee7028
    @andyshee7028 3 роки тому +1845

    Shout out to all the people who’s best friend is themselves!

    • @mjohnson1741
      @mjohnson1741 3 роки тому +47

      The only one who had my back.

    • @karinealami8193
      @karinealami8193 3 роки тому +32

      The one and only who loves me is me! I got stabbed in the back so many times, I am done! Thanks for the comment.

    • @katsworld9453
      @katsworld9453 3 роки тому +15

      And my stuffed animals

    • @Jacquelyndorindachic
      @Jacquelyndorindachic 3 роки тому +5

      Thanks
      APTTMHGOI and my puppy Coco

    • @Joyinthemorn
      @Joyinthemorn 3 роки тому +5

      👋🏾👌🏾

  • @JustNicole6400
    @JustNicole6400 3 роки тому +2554

    Literally everyone talks about “loving yourself” but nobody wants to face the reality that we need to love solitude. That’s the line people won’t cross because it’s seen as “sad” and “lonely”.. that mentality is SAD, if you don’t enjoy your own company I don’t think you can ever truly love yourself

    • @PeleNewell
      @PeleNewell 3 роки тому +26

      This is so true Nicole! Couldn’t of said it better 🧡

    • @jasDhj1
      @jasDhj1 3 роки тому +22

      Thank you for that. Worded beautifully.

    • @binbinzyy1862
      @binbinzyy1862 3 роки тому +51

      that's true. sometimes it gets to me. Minding my own business, then somebody judges me for being by myself 😐 or asks me if I'm okay.....

    • @paulbrown4625
      @paulbrown4625 3 роки тому +9

      You are spot on correct!

    • @graciekerr3137
      @graciekerr3137 3 роки тому +9

      Well put

  • @leentlou
    @leentlou 3 роки тому +366

    I prefer calling it “ being with myself “ . Saying I’m alone makes me feel like I’m isolated.

  • @melanycruz5061
    @melanycruz5061 3 роки тому +1000

    finding your channel feels like a religious experience to us introverts😂.

    • @windflowerrainstorm6497
      @windflowerrainstorm6497 3 роки тому +19

      as a recovering extrovert i agree

    • @kacey-leejacobs4115
      @kacey-leejacobs4115 3 роки тому +3

      Yaaaaas😂😂😂

    • @jacquigreen8895
      @jacquigreen8895 3 роки тому +3

      @@windflowerrainstorm6497 😄 😄😄😂😂

    • @IvanoForgione
      @IvanoForgione 3 роки тому +6

      I don't consider myself an introvert by nature, I am enfp on the myers-briggs test, still I enjoy doing most things alone (including travelling, eating out and going to the movies) just as much as (and sometimes more than) doing them in company. It's a skill I've really gotten good at in my adult life.

    • @melanycruz5061
      @melanycruz5061 3 роки тому +3

      @@IvanoForgione that's cool too, but its mainly an introvert characteristic.

  • @madison4251
    @madison4251 3 роки тому +1510

    A friend told me if you don’t like being by yourself then you’re the bad company.

    • @YenaShah
      @YenaShah 3 роки тому +45

      Oh my god. That.

    • @happilyrennieart
      @happilyrennieart 3 роки тому +11

      Deep

    • @mariaager1924
      @mariaager1924 3 роки тому +16

      Now I’m self assessing....🥴

    • @sangai4198
      @sangai4198 3 роки тому +3

      @@mariaager1924 sameee 😭

    • @Vanessa.ra1819
      @Vanessa.ra1819 3 роки тому +13

      Woah I needed this realization right now. I always wondered why my ex-friend never liked to be alone to the point where he would be miserable if he didn’t have some type of interaction. Like geeze. It made me so confused

  • @candlewax5234
    @candlewax5234 3 роки тому +747

    Being alone gives you time to think instead of listening to other people's gossip.

    • @charlottebottin5051
      @charlottebottin5051 3 роки тому +21

      Also gives me time to overthink 😂

    • @charzard1000
      @charzard1000 3 роки тому +18

      @@charlottebottin5051 same but you have to learn to control your mind as in let your thoughts go. I really struggled with my mind and thought I needed to be around people to ease it. I was shocked however, when months later, I realized that I could heal and find peace just by being my myself.

    • @charlottebottin5051
      @charlottebottin5051 3 роки тому +1

      @@charzard1000 thank you for your advice !!

    • @Vy-if3zd
      @Vy-if3zd 3 роки тому +2

      @X0 Love lmfaoooo

    • @peaceofmindofpeace1650
      @peaceofmindofpeace1650 3 роки тому +3

      Exactly and no distortion about your personal choices and next steps in life.

  • @jamiedoyle8356
    @jamiedoyle8356 3 роки тому +126

    "Most adult friendships are just agreements to be each other's sounding board" SO TRUE!!! I'd rather be alone.

  • @temaswatidlamini5315
    @temaswatidlamini5315 3 роки тому +95

    Fact: I don't miss or regret leaving any of the friendship circles I was " a part of", where they made me feel like an object of convenience

  • @keraalea
    @keraalea 3 роки тому +1555

    Kelly: "I don't need anybody."
    Camera Man: "Right, who does?"
    lol

  • @AMRHvlogs
    @AMRHvlogs 3 роки тому +417

    Being comfortable with eating at restaurants by yourself is golden!

    • @laurenbear4670
      @laurenbear4670 3 роки тому +12

      Yep, last year I went to the cinema by myself 😧 like what? but yh I jus love my own company 🙂

    • @loviisaa409
      @loviisaa409 3 роки тому +2

      And going to the movies!

    • @HolisticDramaFree
      @HolisticDramaFree 3 роки тому +3

      Still working on it 😌

  • @cazpk6840
    @cazpk6840 3 роки тому +86

    People like to control me. That is why i find freedom in being alone. No drama.

  • @Cute_Stuffs
    @Cute_Stuffs 3 роки тому +321

    I hate when people see a woman also especially men, they automatically assume she needs company 🙄 like dude am trying to be alone

    • @user-yo6it1is1d
      @user-yo6it1is1d 3 роки тому +19

      And they never believe....

    • @LucySoo1
      @LucySoo1 3 роки тому +26

      And they make us feel like we have to pretend we have a boyfriend just to get them to leave us alone.

    • @peaceofmindofpeace1650
      @peaceofmindofpeace1650 3 роки тому +11

      Yes I was often told ' yeah a woman alone'.
      As if you are a sad creature.
      And it starts in your thirties they begin to nag about you being alone.

    • @Alex-jr1zs
      @Alex-jr1zs 3 роки тому +2

      This is fake news. The right guy comes you will erase this post

    • @Cute_Stuffs
      @Cute_Stuffs 3 роки тому +2

      @@Alex-jr1zs he came to me recently trust me and I loved it 🔥😂😂😂😂

  • @stephclark50
    @stephclark50 3 роки тому +1464

    I hate when people say “you’ve changed” it’s like no shit I’ve changed, I’m changing and learning and growing everyday!! It so closed minded for people to assume I’m going to be exactly the same person I was a couple years ago. I’m starting to realize people saying you’ve changed is just an attempt to put me down and keep me in the same place as they are 🙄

    • @doctorwholover1012
      @doctorwholover1012 3 роки тому +69

      Tbh, "you've changed" has the same negative energy as "it's just a phase" like?
      Show me a permanent state of self!
      Every damn person is in a constant state of flux + evolution, that's how society progresses!

    • @itznicolelovers3200
      @itznicolelovers3200 3 роки тому +2

      I agree

    • @rzamora2545
      @rzamora2545 3 роки тому +1

      Yes.

    • @Cusp_of_magic
      @Cusp_of_magic 3 роки тому +20

      I think what people really mean by this, is they hate that the bond has changed. Of course people are going to evolve, but sometimes that can break the connection you once had with that person..

    • @brittanylove222
      @brittanylove222 3 роки тому +16

      “You’ve changed” is such a compliment to me. Whyyyyyy thhhhhank you 🙌🏼

  • @meredithbush6561
    @meredithbush6561 3 роки тому +670

    “Enter this world alone” Ma’am I was born a triplet

  • @AlexM-gp7wc
    @AlexM-gp7wc 3 роки тому +87

    “The power of privacy”
    This hit me hard 🙀

  • @johnnygunzfilmbuff7821
    @johnnygunzfilmbuff7821 3 роки тому +160

    Sometimes I'd rather be alone then being around people who are negative toxic and are not going anywhere with there lives.

    • @lashondaward2924
      @lashondaward2924 3 роки тому +5

      Amen

    • @johnnygunzfilmbuff7821
      @johnnygunzfilmbuff7821 3 роки тому +3

      @@lashondaward2924 yeah

    • @Mariooo57
      @Mariooo57 3 роки тому

      Yeah that's something I've learned in recent years. I'm actually living with someone like that and... it's hard. I've been there so I can relate but at the same time, now being on the other side and having gone through lots of self-growth, having to experience someone else's constant negativity and plain nihilism is taking a toll on me. You can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves.

    • @johnnygunzfilmbuff7821
      @johnnygunzfilmbuff7821 3 роки тому

      @@Mariooo57 very true

    • @paige172
      @paige172 2 роки тому

      this!

  • @StettyCo
    @StettyCo 3 роки тому +168

    “Just being, is exhausting.” FELT THAT

  • @ProphetZephi
    @ProphetZephi 3 роки тому +450

    Who else just loves the fact that this girl exists?

  • @kgbreviews35
    @kgbreviews35 3 роки тому +89

    I got zero friends, I inherited ADHD as a kid. I've always been misunderstood by the people around me. I don't have the energy to make someone understand me. If you try, I'll try. But I'm not going to go out of my way to get you to understand me. So I just stay in my own lane.

  • @nabasiryehilda6157
    @nabasiryehilda6157 3 роки тому +92

    Being alone makes you get further in life at a much faster pace, as long as you have a few focused friends ,you are good to go.

  • @vanessaclark3443
    @vanessaclark3443 3 роки тому +754

    The biggest irony of having "too many friends" is how much they hold you back from being adventurous and doing what you actually want to do. Like, it amazes me how people choose to not do something just simply for the fact that no one wants to go with them, it sounds more lonely than actually being alone. Most (extroverted) people are pretty boring and exhausting and yet for some reason they are so narcissistic too. Having fun in your own company is the best gift that someone can give to themselves, the world is way more open for you to just enjoy it.

    • @WadzisWorld
      @WadzisWorld 3 роки тому +6

      No lies detected! This was a word and a half and I completely agree! Sometimes it can be quite limiting

    • @CharmieGi22
      @CharmieGi22 3 роки тому +4

      That's so true.

    • @Prince_the_One
      @Prince_the_One 3 роки тому +14

      I have a good number of friends, like ten, and if I really want to do something and they don't then I just go by myself, sometimes I just go do things alone without inviting anyone too. So uhm I don't think have friends is a bad thing lmfao, only if you let them control your life, which just sounds like a follower problem.

    • @vanessaclark3443
      @vanessaclark3443 3 роки тому +7

      @@Prince_the_One Same? lol. Nobody is saying that friends are a bad thing and 10 friends is not what I'd consider "too many friends" but to each their own! Whatever works!

    • @scoobysnax8127
      @scoobysnax8127 3 роки тому +16

      And when you branch out on your own, you attract and meet new people, whether you want to or not 😂

  • @mae88b.16
    @mae88b.16 3 роки тому +1042

    People call me weird cos i eat, go out and travel alone. They didn’t know the happiness i get with being just by myself. Being in a group overwhelms me, or hanging out with a friend sometimes end up arguing for having different opinions.

    • @pm1647
      @pm1647 3 роки тому +18

      I do this too until I realized that I get targeted. No I need to recover from my anxiety and fear of being targeted by psychos because it's happened before. People who live in solitude are just perfect victims.

    • @haishafrancois9199
      @haishafrancois9199 3 роки тому +18

      I love traveling alone and going out to eat alone when I do! It’s overwhelming and stressful when you do it with others

    • @tsaunders9340
      @tsaunders9340 3 роки тому +9

      So true, people just don't understand when you make decisions that different from what the world call normal.

    • @lindagithaiga1974
      @lindagithaiga1974 3 роки тому +1

      I understand perfectly what you mean

    • @jesst1306
      @jesst1306 3 роки тому +17

      I relate too everything you said. I hate arguing with people or just disagreeing. I had to cut off a friend because she wouldn’t let me say what I want and didn’t respect my boundaries. Now I spend so much time and alone and I love it. I’ll draw or do whatever I want and it’s so peaceful. I’m really not a people person so it’s easy for me to be alone.

  • @jimsullivanyoutube
    @jimsullivanyoutube 3 роки тому +46

    “If you're lonely when you're alone, you're in bad company.” ― Jean-Paul Sartre. I'm a creative person. I like my own company. I'm a loner too. Thanks Kelly Stamps.

  • @GabrielaZapataVlogs
    @GabrielaZapataVlogs 3 роки тому +206

    I love being alone too.. people think I'm weird 😕. I have had so many bad experiences with people, I don't see the point of social interaction.

    • @emilywells7415
      @emilywells7415 3 роки тому +13

      Same. I feel like it's bad I enjoy my own company so much, like lately I would rather be alone all the time than around anyone.

    • @kimbruh9674
      @kimbruh9674 3 роки тому +15

      People are sooo exhausting

    • @Findjoyka
      @Findjoyka 3 роки тому +5

      Same

    • @Nicole-fb6fr
      @Nicole-fb6fr 2 роки тому +4

      Can't blame you!

    • @Nicole-fb6fr
      @Nicole-fb6fr 2 роки тому +5

      It's peaceful on your own, you can focus on your own shit and you don't need to deal with people's energy sucking drama!

  • @NaomisDream
    @NaomisDream 3 роки тому +224

    A milestone that people never tell us about is the art of accepting your own company and loving it.
    My dad always told me you can’t pick what people say or do, but you can pick who you want around you.
    Having relationships start with yourself 💯

  • @Wooplot
    @Wooplot 3 роки тому +689

    Kelly Stamps is the Hero Introverts Need, not the Hero we Deserve.

    • @Wooplot
      @Wooplot 3 роки тому +5

      @cray Smith honestly though i'm so glad i found her in 2020

    • @Flyboyed
      @Flyboyed 3 роки тому +1

      😂😂

    • @kensley94
      @kensley94 3 роки тому

      Nah just you

    • @Wooplot
      @Wooplot 3 роки тому

      Not Kelly Stamps hearting my comment 6 months later 😭

  • @LoneLionLeo
    @LoneLionLeo 3 роки тому +549

    I’m an empath but hate people. I love humanity but not humans. I’m probably not of this planet or universe tbh. I’m so used to my own company. I hate drama. I’m not people’s personal therapist. I’ve had enough of people using me for benefits and not focusing on myself.

    • @ankitakolhe3825
      @ankitakolhe3825 3 роки тому +16

      Sameee.. I feel the sameee❤️❤️

    • @ghostmemes2282
      @ghostmemes2282 3 роки тому +18

      You are not the only one mate

    • @LGnLA
      @LGnLA 3 роки тому +29

      Wow just WOW... thanks for sharing!! I was on the phone with a person, that ALWAYS dumps on me, has thee same drama for years... I was overwhelmed & exhausted by the time I, got off that call... no more, won't always answer, and will drastically shorten those calls!!! I choose Me!!!💯😊

    • @LoneLionLeo
      @LoneLionLeo 3 роки тому +15

      @@LGnLA protect your energy!

    • @anchuzaazuera761
      @anchuzaazuera761 3 роки тому +21

      I wish I met more peopke like you lol. Friends shouldn't bring your energy down.

  • @elisae7718
    @elisae7718 3 роки тому +192

    I found myself being alone because all of my friends had never grew up. They basically stopped growing after high school, also because they don't fu***ing read.

    • @Marbella125
      @Marbella125 3 роки тому +44

      I found myself also in same situation, but for the opposite reason most of my friends did grow up but are caught up in the rat race of work or live for their kids; when I run into them I see the life sucked out of them like they are on auto pilot

    • @elisae7718
      @elisae7718 3 роки тому +9

      @@Marbella125 that's so sad

    • @mstwelvedeadlycyns
      @mstwelvedeadlycyns 3 роки тому

      @@Marbella125 Crazy!!!

    • @_avisualz
      @_avisualz 2 роки тому

      @@Marbella125 wow someone said it! People are so obsessed with “chasing a bag” and not realizing you are actually slaving

  • @aubrikatecreations
    @aubrikatecreations 3 роки тому +333

    Kelly Stamps is the epitome of “I don’t need friends, they disappoint me 💃”

  • @deepdiver849
    @deepdiver849 3 роки тому +299

    “He who understands humanity seeks solitude” - Ali ibn Abi Talib

  • @maddycanfly7217
    @maddycanfly7217 3 роки тому +112

    How did you get so friggin insightful so young ? I’m 57 and it’s taken me my whole life to discover some of the things you spoke about . You are an amazing young woman . And I’ve learned from you . No matter where you go or what you do in life you are a true success and one of a kind . Thanks for sharing these wonderful thoughts of yours with the world .

    • @veronica9389
      @veronica9389 3 роки тому +16

      ikr she’s so smart. im 15 and learning so much from her

    • @KellyStamps
      @KellyStamps  3 роки тому +11

      Thank you for tuning in!!

    • @larealmitchell4366
      @larealmitchell4366 3 роки тому

      I'm 36 and she has taught me a lot too. She's incredible.

    • @rtoriq
      @rtoriq 2 роки тому +1

      ^same lol. MAN I wish I knew all that at her age.

  • @joannarondon4594
    @joannarondon4594 3 роки тому +303

    Another only child that doesn't like people. Yep.
    My new favorite channel.

    • @lavedadavis818
      @lavedadavis818 3 роки тому +14

      Only Child here!! I have become VERY antisocial since I've hit middle age! Wouldn't have it any other way!!

    • @KellyStamps
      @KellyStamps  3 роки тому +11

      HULLO and welcome!

    • @IvanoForgione
      @IvanoForgione 3 роки тому +11

      I am one of those too 🙋‍♂️ Can't really say I dislike people though. Growing up I learned that people must be taken in small doses, like most good food. Then they're enjoyable and stay good for your health.

    • @myu5519
      @myu5519 Рік тому

      @@lavedadavis818 same here, except around close friends or family.

  • @monicamarietv3043
    @monicamarietv3043 3 роки тому +678

    All introverts fell in love with this video, including me . 😂

  • @MulansHouse
    @MulansHouse 3 роки тому +476

    “Adult relationships are just an agreement to be each other’s sounding boards” truth speaker

    • @verda_renee
      @verda_renee 3 роки тому +8

      This really blew my mind because it's so true!

    • @dayshawnkeemp3111
      @dayshawnkeemp3111 3 роки тому +5

      frfr I never really thought of it like that that's kinda overheads...

    • @discountpaint7409
      @discountpaint7409 3 роки тому +3

      Right, so true!

    • @Memkoh
      @Memkoh 3 роки тому +5

      She dropped that casually too. It’s so true, it hurts 🥴😭

    • @saracruze2212
      @saracruze2212 3 роки тому +5

      That is so true...people only call to vent out their problems.

  • @curtistinemiller4646
    @curtistinemiller4646 3 роки тому +23

    Being alone is very peaceful, you will have a inner peace that others won't understand, not everyone can handle being alone...

  • @rohankhubchandani3694
    @rohankhubchandani3694 3 роки тому +12

    this is why i just hangout with people or party with people rather than have friends. short term commitment is better for me in the long run

  • @MissAdysse
    @MissAdysse 3 роки тому +178

    "If you feel uncomfortable around your own 'friends' that's a sign that maybe you should do some cleansing"
    Have truer words even been uttered? 🙌🏾

  • @SomeoneOnEarth_707
    @SomeoneOnEarth_707 3 роки тому +67

    When she said “ I prefer a loner lifestyle because I don’t like being a free therapist,” I felt that in my spirit😂

  • @Purple9721.
    @Purple9721. 3 роки тому +46

    I like being alone but it would be nice to find just one friend who also likes being alone, so we can do shit together sometimes but not have to talk, just be silent in each others company. Thinking of putting an ad on gumtree...lol

  • @ChristianSchaffer
    @ChristianSchaffer 2 роки тому +20

    pretty sure you’re the coolest person I’ve never met

  • @hansonel
    @hansonel 3 роки тому +109

    "If you feel uncomfortable around your friends, you need to do a friends cleanse." So true 100%

    • @SamElle
      @SamElle 3 роки тому +7

      i def removed all my toxic friends from my life

  • @marinanikolic5717
    @marinanikolic5717 3 роки тому +300

    "Dont be afraid of the solitude that comes with raising your standards, for in the silence you might hear ypur own thoughts."

  • @nikita1destiny32
    @nikita1destiny32 3 роки тому +21

    I grew up as an only child and my daughter is also an only child. I love being alone, I enjoy my own company. It is so much more relaxing and peaceful than being in a problematic relationship

  • @desireeadjei9033
    @desireeadjei9033 3 роки тому +13

    Being alone is better than trying to seek likeness and acceptance from people.

  • @PaulClipMaster
    @PaulClipMaster 3 роки тому +570

    I've learned that negative friends are usually jealous snakes who probably wish for you to fail. As a loner myself I find most people are jealous of my independence and try to exploit me more than help me in any way. My best friends are other loners who I see once a month lol. Watch out for unsolicited advice from so called friends. Most advice from friends will lead to your downfall. At least that's been my experience.

    • @fittomakeup9890
      @fittomakeup9890 3 роки тому +1

      💝💝

    • @80sbrunnette
      @80sbrunnette 3 роки тому +4

      thank you! especially those who see you being happy and successful, always try to be sneaky.

    • @PaulClipMaster
      @PaulClipMaster 3 роки тому +24

      @@80sbrunnette Someone once told me.. if you want to have lots of friends don't ever try to better yourself.

    • @aceythespacemanfrehley2566
      @aceythespacemanfrehley2566 3 роки тому +5

      @@PaulClipMaster I really felt this...

  • @taylorsmith2393
    @taylorsmith2393 3 роки тому +176

    Robin Williams said: I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone.

  • @jmc1111_
    @jmc1111_ 3 роки тому +16

    i’ve mastered the art of being alone. I definitely feel lonely sometimes but it’s for the best! 💕

  • @Naoomayoo
    @Naoomayoo 3 роки тому +53

    “I’d rather be alone than be with people who make me feel alone.” i say this so much.

  • @shehry1170
    @shehry1170 3 роки тому +445

    Attending today's lecture at the Stampede University

    • @graciekerr3137
      @graciekerr3137 3 роки тому +8

      Let’s get that stampede degree 📜

    • @hotlattewithoutsugar
      @hotlattewithoutsugar 3 роки тому +3

      Topic: Why we need to be alone

    • @jacqvelinee
      @jacqvelinee 3 роки тому +5

      Big note: “People are too egotistical to admit feelings of envy” “They’re too scared to make decisions for themselves”

    • @iflymilly
      @iflymilly 3 роки тому +3

      Ahem *Stampford*

  • @kendalblake
    @kendalblake 3 роки тому +272

    I genuinely adore my time being alone. No worries no bothers.

    • @jasDhj1
      @jasDhj1 3 роки тому +7

      So off topic, you are beautiful 🌺

    • @KellyStamps
      @KellyStamps  3 роки тому +65

      And you don’t have to pay for anyone except for yourself! I’ve had so many awkward situations going out where I order one thing and the other person orders several drinks and I am expected to split 😂

    • @kendalblake
      @kendalblake 3 роки тому +5

      @@jasDhj1 you are such a sweetheart 😭 you are beautiful too ! I can tell you have a kind spirit 💖

    • @jasDhj1
      @jasDhj1 3 роки тому

      Kendal Blake likewise 🥺 I appreciate it!

    • @jasDhj1
      @jasDhj1 3 роки тому +3

      Kelly Stamps I’ve always felt obligated to pay for my “friends” NOW, I don’t have any and my pockets have been happy lol

  • @robertocarrillo1145
    @robertocarrillo1145 3 роки тому +18

    Your worst enemy can be the public.. So unpredictable.... I love being alone....

  • @genevievevision2life150
    @genevievevision2life150 3 роки тому +19

    "because we enter and exit this world alone."
    Word 🙌

  • @ConfidenceinChrist90
    @ConfidenceinChrist90 3 роки тому +518

    I dine alone on my birthday (it’s on Valentine’s Day, so none of my friends/family are ever available). And I love it! I’ve gotten used to it and dress up really fancy and bring my Bible and people look at me like I’m crazy.

  • @MisterPol
    @MisterPol 3 роки тому +303

    The difference between an introvert and an extrovert is that the introvert loses energy interacting with others (and gains energy when left alone) and the extrovert loses energy when he's alone but gains it back when interacting with others

    • @jshep
      @jshep 3 роки тому +24

      That's true for me, an introvert. 30 minutes of being alone during a busy work day (at a large hospital) is all that I need to recharge and get back in there.

    • @KellyStamps
      @KellyStamps  3 роки тому +116

      This is true! It’s funny because while I am definitely an introvert I enjoy being on stage. I think some of the best performers are introverts.

    • @MisterPol
      @MisterPol 3 роки тому +9

      @@KellyStamps that's true! Introverts rule the world ;)

    • @yassi9574
      @yassi9574 3 роки тому +8

      @@KellyStamps Jup! A lot of performers also have severe social anxiety but being on stage/acting as someone else helps them with it!:)

    • @okuhlereeds4216
      @okuhlereeds4216 3 роки тому +3

      @@KellyStamps well then Kelly, i think you're an Ambivert like me

  • @flightforlight157
    @flightforlight157 3 роки тому +12

    Been alone all my life and learned to avoid people who make me feel bad when I'm around them because I like peace and love

  • @lynettepettitt655
    @lynettepettitt655 3 роки тому +32

    Being alone is fabulous... I've always worked in jobs that interact with the public. Unfortunately a day of seeing how lazy, selfish, petty, rude & dramatic people can be, alone is peaceful and enjoyable

  • @vickyasdf3381
    @vickyasdf3381 3 роки тому +438

    I dont need friends, they dissapoint me

    • @KellyStamps
      @KellyStamps  3 роки тому +51

      great video LOL

    • @ihateyouall7026
      @ihateyouall7026 3 роки тому +3

      Actually if you look at Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs....

    • @elisha_kl
      @elisha_kl 3 роки тому +7

      @@ihateyouall7026 it's a vine / meme

    • @DrinkMethanol
      @DrinkMethanol 3 роки тому +13

      Can't forget the iconic pose: 💃

    • @ihateyouall7026
      @ihateyouall7026 3 роки тому

      Elisha L I know.

  • @binabrown2728
    @binabrown2728 3 роки тому +309

    "To enjoy your own company is to make yourself at home in your own heart."
    - Bina Brown

  • @lilian12972
    @lilian12972 3 роки тому +7

    Being alone doesn’t mean you’re lonely. 3 things I enjoy the most when I’m alone: playing piano, reading books, and watching inspiring videos like yours. 💕

  • @crispri3919
    @crispri3919 3 роки тому +8

    “I’d rather be alone than be with people who make me feel alone.” Girl I had to jump out of bed and walk for a minute that made me catch the spirit and send a shiver up my spine. Forreal so many friendships I have had in the past that I miss until I realized that the loneliness I feel now, I actually felt it around them to, it was just dulled by physical proximity.

    • @aishab5581
      @aishab5581 2 роки тому

      you just told my whole life story😭

  • @alysssalyn
    @alysssalyn 3 роки тому +145

    The moment I stopped accepting unsolicited “advice” from “friends” was when I started accepting myself and loving myself more. You’ve got a good head on your shoulders!
    I worked in a call center in my early 20’s and one of the older ladies told me “Live alone for at least a year.” And I’m glad I did it. Didn’t have roommates or a live-in-boyfriend. Learned a lot about myself.

    • @Shirellmybelle
      @Shirellmybelle 3 роки тому +3

      Solitude is priceless, we need time to know and love ourselves. Good word.💛✨

  • @FoodTrucksForDummies
    @FoodTrucksForDummies 3 роки тому +227

    Solitude taught me who I am. And not who I thought I was, or had to be in order to be liked.

  • @Its_Me_Lady_T.
    @Its_Me_Lady_T. 3 роки тому +20

    I’m 49 years old & I’ve learned a lot about my Introverted Self watching your videos & I’m not weird or crazy because people get on my damn nerves! It’s okay to be your own best friend. I’m pretty damn cool & funny!

  • @Rainjojo
    @Rainjojo 3 роки тому +18

    I feel better when I’m alone but with a toxic family it feels like I have weight on my shoulders. I can’t wait to go to Uni and move out and be myself without judgment 🥲

  • @takforce06
    @takforce06 3 роки тому +241

    All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone," French philosopher, Blaise Pascal

  • @ReynaSingh
    @ReynaSingh 3 роки тому +282

    Being alone is such a gift and somehow people have turned it into this thing that we should avoid or be embarrassed of. There’s nothing wrong with spending time alone...

    • @catherine8789
      @catherine8789 3 роки тому +5

      💯 totally agree!!! 🌸💜

    • @xoJASAMI
      @xoJASAMI 3 роки тому +2

      Exactly!

    • @Mercy.O.
      @Mercy.O. 3 роки тому +3

      True, love spending time with myself lool

    • @AmiraKrim
      @AmiraKrim 3 роки тому +2

      I agree

    • @YonasYarncraft
      @YonasYarncraft 3 роки тому +1

      strongly agree ❤ being alone has its benefits

  • @cyberkat6615
    @cyberkat6615 3 роки тому +12

    You are so right and I hate people, too!! I love being by myself. I traveled by myself and it was the best thing I've ever done.

  • @awindham1
    @awindham1 3 роки тому +7

    it can be lonely feeling like you can't talk about your achievements with your "friends" for fear of making them feel bad and they can't relate

  • @greytab7027
    @greytab7027 3 роки тому +126

    "SCARS FROM A FEW HUMAN INTERACTIONS " Perfect title for the book of my life so far hmmm

  • @brianna6134
    @brianna6134 3 роки тому +426

    I’m a loner. Always have been. Never had more than 2 good friends at a time. I’m used to doing things by myself and prefer it that way sometimes, as I do enjoy my solitude. But I’m not going to pretend like certain things aren’t more fun with a friend. I’ll go out to eat alone, but it’s much more fun when you can do it with a good friend.

    • @health_pro101
      @health_pro101 3 роки тому +4

      I agree with you@ Brianna

    • @mjohnson1741
      @mjohnson1741 3 роки тому +4

      Yep you're right some things are better with people like vacations. But there a equal things that are awesome on your'e own.

  • @i-cannot524
    @i-cannot524 3 роки тому +4

    Insecure friends riddled with projection. Dusty behavior. You hit that on the nail. Really needed that

  • @shonquise9330
    @shonquise9330 3 роки тому +30

    I didn’t choose the loner lifestyle it chose me and I love it here 😫

  • @Topself24
    @Topself24 3 роки тому +421

    She has beautiful beautiful hands! Y’all see her hands?!? She’s so beautiful but her hands are so elegant and soft looking.

    • @BullshitDetector
      @BullshitDetector 3 роки тому +21

      She needs to tell us her hand routine

    • @KellyStamps
      @KellyStamps  3 роки тому +120

      I want to reply with an honest answer on what I do with my hand but it is hilarious and nashty so I will keep it to myself. 💀

    • @KellyStamps
      @KellyStamps  3 роки тому +54

      Ooo thank you

    • @mariaclaragoncalves9372
      @mariaclaragoncalves9372 3 роки тому +13

      @@KellyStamps no girl, say it LOL

    • @biancagardner1015
      @biancagardner1015 3 роки тому +25

      you could use ketchup, it’s a great moisturizer

  • @LifeWithLayan
    @LifeWithLayan 3 роки тому +200

    "I don't really like people.... But I like the Stampede" IM HONOURED I AM ELITE OMG WE ARE ELITE STAMPEDE ARISE WITH ME WE ARE LEGENDARY!!!

  • @samanthat.4281
    @samanthat.4281 3 роки тому +13

    As a fellow introvert, I relate so much to this. Kelly, you are so likable, have a great sense of humor, and I adore how unbothered you are. Plus, I enjoy your taste in fashion. Keep doing ice skating because it's something you genuinely like to do! Yes of course we as humans should be given room to grow, change, and evolve (no, not like Pokemon, but that made me laugh) Sending much love!

  • @karynsheer4304
    @karynsheer4304 3 роки тому +5

    I get you, girl. Being with people is emotionally exhausting.

  • @valfle
    @valfle 3 роки тому +283

    Insecure friends are so toxic. I have experienced it a lot in school and my early 20s. Now I am 29 and I realized I only kept people in my life that are curious, excited to learn new things and supportive. I like the energy

    • @michellemgbeke2693
      @michellemgbeke2693 3 роки тому +6

      I agree. They take our their shit on you and ugh

    • @Andy-hi3yt
      @Andy-hi3yt 3 роки тому +4

      Same im 28 and will wait for one good soul my entire life b4 settling for trash again

    • @tammiepulley7167
      @tammiepulley7167 3 роки тому +3

      Same

    • @sambaek1353
      @sambaek1353 3 роки тому

      im an insecure person :c

  • @JazminAlexis
    @JazminAlexis 3 роки тому +138

    I had those friends. They’re still haters, but not in my circle anymore. Go be miserable somewhere else! I’ve felt pressured to make more friends but Kelly is giving me confidence to be alone more often

  • @moonlightequilibrium
    @moonlightequilibrium 3 роки тому +6

    wise and beautiful words for those of us who spend outings wondering when it's gonna be over. the amazing thing about making your own plans is that you choose where to go, what to eat, you don't have to worry about making conversation, and you don't have to worry about dressing or acting like an idiot in front of your friend. plus the best part? you never have to check the clock wondering when its gonna be over. the second you stop having fun, you get up out of that movie theater, that cafe, that beach, and you get in your car and go straight home. what a luxury.

  • @anythingshedesires
    @anythingshedesires 3 роки тому +12

    This is so relatable. I love my own company and most ppl are sooo draining I just CANT!

  • @MsElainetv
    @MsElainetv 3 роки тому +62

    It's even worse when it's your own family that puts u down from your dreams and goals, that's why I keep my mouth shut about anything in my life.

    • @binbinzyy1862
      @binbinzyy1862 3 роки тому +8

      I feel that.. that's why I hide my vision board 😅 keep pursuing your dreams!

    • @KellyStamps
      @KellyStamps  3 роки тому +30

      I’m actually glad I’m not close with any family because like you said they could still be haters! Family reunions are so awkward in the south. I haven’t been to one in ages.
      “So have you gotten your Masters yet?“
      - well I haven’t gotten my bachelors LOL
      “Are you still with that little skinny boy?”
      - 👁👄👁

    • @MsElainetv
      @MsElainetv 3 роки тому +1

      @@KellyStamps Exactly 💪🏾

    • @lsnqkcnqkpnkpsnqpjcbpq
      @lsnqkcnqkpnkpsnqpjcbpq 3 роки тому

      This. This is so true. ty for this comment

  • @pinkelephantincloset
    @pinkelephantincloset 3 роки тому +169

    i love eating out alone. i didn't know it wasn't a ""normal"" thing until a while after i got really used to it. that and going to movies alone. its so much more fun tbh

    • @ProdavackaDivu
      @ProdavackaDivu 3 роки тому +18

      Yeah I love movies alone bc no one to talk and make eating noises next to you during the movie or make you feel awkward when you cry at the sad parts 😂😅

    • @TamakiCherry
      @TamakiCherry 3 роки тому +8

      I tend to talk a lot during movies. So I purposely wait until the movie has been shown for so long that no one buys tickets. And I have the theater to myself, so I can fully express whatever emotion I’m feeling during the movie 😁

    • @basementkid
      @basementkid 3 роки тому +4

      Sounds pretty sad miss. Expand your movements so you can meet more people and learn how to make friends. Its not cool having no friends at 50. its a very very boring long life. we cant use social media to supplement this emptiness which what i see alot of young people doing.

    • @basementkid
      @basementkid 3 роки тому

      @Blake Danforth looooooll bro you actually said it! I couldn't have said it better. The fact people have mobile phones is why they believe in this logic

    • @ultralightcam6963
      @ultralightcam6963 3 роки тому

      Holy shit ima do this

  • @jsiahc
    @jsiahc 3 роки тому +29

    “y’all look real cute today.. i see you, you in the back u did a lil sum with your hair.”
    me still in bed wearing a bonnet and pajamas: thank youu ☺️😌

  • @sparrowwilson4514
    @sparrowwilson4514 3 роки тому +4

    I’ve been like this my whole life and people have always told me I’m weird and Asocial. It is infinitely better to be alone than be around people who don’t actually care if you’re there or not.
    I can’t disappoint myself and I also don’t have to deal with people making unnecessary drama. I can be alone with my thoughts, I can write. It’s awesome. More people should try it.

  • @julianancyhamilton7144
    @julianancyhamilton7144 3 роки тому +424

    I will never stop being impressed by Kelly’s trust in random guys with her camera.
    Maybe I’ll pluck up the courage to hand mine off to a Parisian 😅

    • @debraleeperrin6246
      @debraleeperrin6246 3 роки тому +1

      That's always my first thought too! 😏

    • @lpsloveandgame6046
      @lpsloveandgame6046 3 роки тому +16

      A camera... To a parisian...
      I will never have the balls to do that

    • @carola6919
      @carola6919 3 роки тому +12

      i am not shy, but i will never have the courage cause im from fnkg brazil, guys see me taking selfies and ask "do u want me to take a picture of u" and i say a harsh "NO THANKS"

    • @julianancyhamilton7144
      @julianancyhamilton7144 3 роки тому +9

      Debralee Perrin I know! One day there’ll be a vid of Kelly chasing down a runaway camera Taken-style

    • @MichieexPoop
      @MichieexPoop 3 роки тому +1

      He sounded old so i doubt he could run away with it

  • @tyecage
    @tyecage 3 роки тому +104

    Being alone is probably why your so intelligent and self aware . Aware im general. Clearly

  • @VoorNuNogVerandern
    @VoorNuNogVerandern 3 роки тому +7

    I went to a restaurant and ordered a pizza, and they were like “ma’am, you can order and takeaway, but the restaurant won’t open until 5PM”. I was like “okay sure, I’ll wait”. And eventually the guy took a chair of a table and told me I could eat the pizza there if I wanted. I enjoyed my half hour of silence and no people❤️.

  • @susanarsoniadou3588
    @susanarsoniadou3588 3 роки тому +4

    There is nothing wrong with having friends. The problem is that friends do not exist. That is, they are not really LISTENING and so it is hard to have a relationship who is out to lunch . It is like talking to a wall.

  • @Kiki-jx6by
    @Kiki-jx6by 3 роки тому +215

    Yes. Most people are draining. Esp when your energies are needed because of work, family, and just trying to survive. Stress kills, and I believe it. In the space I am in now everything is peaceful. If one can’t be in my life to ADD happiness to it please stay away.

    • @traceylennon1204
      @traceylennon1204 3 роки тому +1

      @Kiki Well said!! 🙌🏾

    • @markwhittaker6866
      @markwhittaker6866 3 роки тому

      PREACH AND KEEP ON PREACHING.
      You hit the nail bang on the head.

    • @lillianhbbler960
      @lillianhbbler960 3 роки тому

      And for me...that includes FAMILY children and all!!!

  • @jordinkelli
    @jordinkelli 3 роки тому +204

    Omg when you said “I see you did a little somethin with your hair” I squealed cause I did do something different with my hair 😭

    • @alezzasayshey2754
      @alezzasayshey2754 3 роки тому +7

      Jordin Kelli same! I was like: girl! How you know?😱🤣

    • @adelaklegova2089
      @adelaklegova2089 3 роки тому +1

      Jordin Kelli same!! She knows

    • @farwynkaka9334
      @farwynkaka9334 3 роки тому +4

      Same here! just got my hair chopped. Its nice that she noticed lol

    • @thedannijuhl
      @thedannijuhl 3 роки тому +1

      Literally me too I had just finished doing my hair and sat down lmaooo

    • @2raybinta
      @2raybinta 3 роки тому

      me with my bonnet on

  • @chidozieugwu-oju7069
    @chidozieugwu-oju7069 3 роки тому +7

    When one is alone, peace evolves around him or her. Besides having a life partner, I agree that being alone is the best. This is because you think better and prevent that negative energy, misunderstanding, fight, enemity and so on that could result from having friends. In my opinion, I think having friends should only be for financial benefits.

  • @lilackaze
    @lilackaze 3 роки тому +9

    I have dined at restaurants as "party of one" more times than I can count and I LOVE it! Cheers