I'm legit starting to notice that which is starting to show some double standard that women shouldn't be expected to dress and look how men like but men should dress and look how women like. (Edit: ass load of misspellings.)
It shouldn’t include fat men, it shouldn’t even include fat women, get off your ass and lose weight instead of wanting people to accept you for being fat, find people that push you to lose weight and get healthy, that’s body positivity
@@WrathofFenrir99 Well, I still stand with that if they want a fit man then don't be surprised when they aren't into them most likely. Plus ever seen fat men included?
@@d3lusi0n_312 I wasn't near my phone when the video started and the first thing I noticed was her condescending tone. So her personality turned me off before I even saw her. 😂
Conflating race (genetics) with being overweight/fat is ridiculous. She lost me there. That said, I'm overweight & I accept that I'm not everyone's cup of tea. Go where you're appreciated.
If I was on a date and a girl told me she wasn't attracted to me it wouldn't bother me at all. It happens. Can't force that. Even if it was for some reason like I'm too short or don't make enough money. Whatever, that's a good heads-up I don't want to be with them. But if she was like "I'm not attracted to Asians" I'd be pretty offended. Lol
@@dracopalidine I don't understand why you'd be offended if someone said they are attracted to Asians. I could see it if it came across in a rude or racist way but in general, why would you be offended. It's an attraction like everything else. Like I'm not really into black girls. It's not my thing. It's not offensive or racist, it's just not what I'm into. So why is it a problem if it's said to you?
As a fatter woman, I completely disagree with her. Honestly from the start doing the pre-k stuff is just proving that her personality is the turn off more than anything, and it really feels she is projecting the fact that she can't deal with rejection and mislabeling it as fatphobic. Just my opinion.
You seem more beautiful and more pleasant than her though. She comes off as a resentful bitter hurt angry woman who will bash others for not wanting to date her and force it upon others by make them seem bigoted smh.
I was going to say her obnoxious condescending attitude is more of a glaring fault than her being obese. She can lose weight but I guarantee she won't lose the attitude.
yesss i agree 100% it just seems like she's more butt hurt at the fact that most men wont be attracted to her because of her weight... yet her personality is what really makes her unattractive
but when your mango is watermelon sized.... you automatically think something's wrong here... cool to see at a fair yes. but you thinks gmo's chemicals whatever and prob wont eat it.... if im gunna date an obese person i think extra future medical bills, diabetes, early death and less quality of life.... do most people want to deal with that? nope!
@@cowchow4284 You know what's funny genetically modifying plants is called agriculture. We've been doing it for a long long time just at a slower pace. Corn didn't start out looking anything like it does now. People are wild
@@equivalentexchangeisalie5726 it was bound to happen with the digital age. Were humans actually THAT naive to believe there wont be consequences to it? EVERY solution creates another problem. Its the circle of life and continued survival
I don’t think her weight is the only thing holding her back pretty sure it’s her attitude as well. Shawty started talking like she was reading a Dr. Seuss book to a kindergarten class, her overall just continued to drop from that point onward.
"She doesn't know who she's talking to" is what I'd say. That's such a disrespect to adults. No wonder she's undatable. This and she being freaking HUGE.
Yeah. The attitude is what is a turn off. There are plenty of men that like plus sized women. I think 75% of it is personality and 25% is confidence is what would make a man (or women) who don't usually date plus size people to consider dating one. The generalizing is the thing that bothers me because each person is different. That attitude is toxic as heck though!
Not only that but it's extremely detrimental to the point at hand. When you offend people like that, a majority of us tend to retaliate in different ways. I literally thought "fuck you, you fatty mc-fat fuck" when she did that shit, it took me a solid hour before looking at what she was trying to say from her point of view. She's the type of person that stalls certain conversations not progresses them (even if she is trying to be funny).
I'm a fat guy. I've been struggling to find a relationship for a while because of it. Does it make me sad sometimes ? Yes of course it does. But I don't fucking complain about it, because I know it's on me. And to see grown adults like her waste their time victimizing themselves (let alone on tiktok lol) instead of working out is just pathetic to me. These people really have NO shame. Yeah losing weight is hard, it really is, but there's a time when you have to stop complaining, you have to look at yourself, and you have to do something. Take some responsibility ffs, be an adult.
@@nzcabbage1923 I have lost quite a bit of weight, then gained some, then lost it again, gained some again, etc... I had quite a bit of shitty stuff happen to me in the last year and it wasn't always easy to keep working out. So overall I did lose weight but not as much as I would have wanted to. I'm still trying though ! And thanks for caring, your comment will serve as a reminder that I can't afford to give up :)
@-vaco-4648 I just want you to be happy my brother just be happy but also be healthy too mentally and physically. I recently started fishing for trout and salmon and cooking them to make salads etc and it brings me peace. I hope your find your peace ✌️
If you ask her if she would date any “typically undesirable” (I put it in quotes because those traits alone don’t make someone undesirable to most sane people) she woukd say no. She’s literally the *biggest* hypocrite.
That's always the rub isn't it? You can't have preferences when it comes to "marginalized groups" and "marginalized groups" means whatever these activists types want it to mean.
Im someone who's been fat his whole life and has lost a large amount of weight this past year. I want to lose the weight because being fat is just not attractive to people, chubby chasers are rare. Ive been in the bedroom before with a big girl and I just had a hard time keeping it up. I wasn't attracted to it. I would never do it again. I think thats when I realized that I myself needed to lose the weight. Not only that but being bigger its not always easy have the best hygiene, you sweat easier/faster and as gross as it sounds that carries a musk to it. Im 50 pounds down, weigh 230 now but I still think I have a long ways to go. I urge every fat person to try and lose the weight. Don't become content and think people need to accept you because they won't and you're only going to let yourself down. I personally wish I would've started sooner now that Ive come so far. Heres to atleast another 30 or 40 pounds, I know I can do it.
I'm not going to even sugar coat this but if anyone ever spoke to me the way she just did in the first part of the video....I'd walk off and never acknowledge them ever.
She sounds like a pre school teacher talking to children. She has 100% confidence and belief in what she's saying. Maybe it's because it's easier to act like this rather than live a healthier lifestyle.
She's only saying this because the people she wants to date, don't want to date her. Her strategy is to make her type feel guilty for not wanting to be with her.
Right, I'm like ma'am just look for guys who are into that type of thing and ignore your haters/negative commentors, or make a lifestyle change. Simple.
people with her ideology (and people who KNOW theyre wrong about something but really cant stomach being honest with themselves about it) always have to be on the defence about this so they are on the "right" position.
I actually like the fact she used her kindergarten teacher voice. It’s a perfect indicator of the kind of world they want. Some redo of kindergarten where very one always has to be nice to each other no matter what. Life don’t work that way.
That wasn't nice, that was obnoxious, arragont, condescending, and sarcastic. Nobody wants that big aggressive bug eyed masculine woman. She can try all she wants to sound nice, but her words condemn her to a life of lonely existence. Most of these women who think they're some sort of alpha, are actually bootleg beta males.
She’s treating dating as acceptance into society. Dating is a deeply personal exploration that only affects the individuals involved. It’s therefore not up to anyone but the individuals involved to curate.
Thank you! “Deeply personal exploration” is the best way one can describe dating. You’re literally choosing a person(s) to be intimate with/to treat extra special. That’s a pretty big decision and everyone should be entitled to their preferences in people/how they wanna go about their dating life if they want to have a happy/healthy dating experience.
I’m fast becoming “self indulgent assholeaphobic”. You can’t force someone to change their preferences because you want or need them to. Especially the way that girl’s doing it. Shaming and insulting people typically doesn’t make them like you more. It makes a formidable enemy.
Society needs to stop making a phobia out of everything… if I don’t like you, what does it matter? How do my dislike affect you? Move on. You don’t need my approval to be who you want to be.
I feel that, people want to be accepted by everyone, LITERALLY so if i don't like dating overweight people they take it as a personal offense. I'm short af and i don't care about whether you like short men or not, there's nothing wrong in not wanting to date me because I'm short.
well I'm a girl and I was offended at the way she was talking. People who are this condescending and feel like they're so much better/marter than you are are a huge turn-off in many ways. There is no way to hold a conversation with such a person. There is a huge difference in believing in something and being passionate about and being a straight Asshole.
You’re attracted to who you’re attracted too. I’ve been overweight my entire life and it doesn’t bother me when people aren’t interested in me. If she’s single I honestly think it’s her personality. She comes off very condescending and like she talks to people like children.
If looks are the only thing you got going for you but don't have a personality to make up for it. Then you won't get very far in a relationship. I mean sure being pretty has its benefits but being smart and being witty and charasmatic does too. Without those things your doomed to die alone. I really dont think her appearance is the problem its her shitty attitude and her condescending behavior. Sure there are gonna be some people who aren't attracted to you and thats fine. But don't whine and bitch about it when you know you have preferences for what you find attractive as well. Its basically being a hypocrite
Im amazed that people like this exist, where they can just blame everyone else for the fact that they're not attracting people. Its like if a videogame developer blamed everyone else for not playing their game, when theres plenty of amazing games already out there. Maybe some luck is involved, but it doesn't mean that you cant improve yourself to the same attractiveness as some of the most attractive people around. Something to note, a lot of overweight people who lose weight end up looking HOT AS FUCK. Seriously I mean that. I'll stroke my ego a bit and say I look a lot better than before, and I met a girl who went through something similar as me who I personally think is gorgeous. Its OK to improve and be healthier.
Fellow Plus sized girl. 10 guys. 5 hate fat women. 3 love fat women. 2 mostly dont care either which way. Extrapolate that to the 3.5 billion men on the planet. Fat women with something going on dont end up alone. Unpleasant, obnoxious, goofy women who are also fat end up alone.
People misuse the whole phobic/phobia thing like crazy. Just because someone doesn't like something or aren't attracted to someone don't mean they have a fear of it.
Insane how she uses that upspeak tone to present a false argument as factual. This is a dangerous mentality, and saying it all with a patronizing smile and wide eyed menace. Creepy
She doesnt like her situation and instead of changing it she blames everyone else. Such a toxic mindset. Maybe that's what's pushing people away too gurl.
It’s probably boosted by the body positivity women movement which honestly is more of a health hazard cause your body isn’t suited to be handling fat that makes you weigh over 100kg
@@najiib605 the body positivity movement isn't about physical health. It's about mental health. So people that are overweight don't feel like shit just for beeing fat. It's like a support group so they feel accepted and maybe at some point decide to become more healthy.
She’s upset that she isn’t getting what she ACTUALLY wants which is a relationship.......(from a guy that she respects and admires) But isn’t doing anything to change it because the Cawk Carrousel gives women FALSE confidence in their ability to lock down marriage up until they are introduced into reality
I don’t want to date someone who feels they can talk to me like I’m an “adult preschooler,” and then likely expect me to pick up the tab. I’m attracted to people who don’t use the word “problematic” seriously.
Using "problematic" unironically in your vocabulary is an automatic red flag. Demonstrates an inability to separate Internet slang from real-life communication.
@@MyThoughtsBelow Yeah, it's like when memes exploded on the internet, and you had kids showing up to school to actually act out the memes irl. Like nah bruh, nah. That's like, weaponized cringe.
She's lumping all fat people people together by calling the group marginalized! She should take her own advice! I'm overweight and I've never felt less than or that my weight has held me back from my love life or career.
I'm glad you understand how that works. Just because it may affect one person doesn't mean it affects everyone. Overweight is also such a lose term in today's time for some reason. Obese people use the term over weight as if to lesson what they actually are. I'm over weight. By a good 20 or so pounds. That maybe considered fat ( tbh idk) but there is a BIG difference ( no pun intended)
it has nothing to do with preferences Im not fat phobic but I am anti annoying self entitled people who try and tell me what to do and who I should do it with
A few years ago, on Facebook I wrote 'Just because you're offended, doesn't mean you're right'. People LOST their fucking minds. Seriously. Since then I have deleted Facebook because I think it is more toxic than encouraging.
I deleted mine in 2013. What was originally a format that I could contact family and old friends quickly became a stage, a platform for people with agendas. Got tired of people coming at me from every direction. People are entitled to their politics and preferences. But not entitled to try to force them onto me. I will push back.
She really compared obesity to race & disabilities. You can control your weight you can’t control your race or a disability. She shouldn’t blame the men that aren’t attracted to her. She should either focus on the people that do like her or start trying to lose the weight🤷🏾♂️.
I don’t think her weight is the only thing holding her back either pretty sure it’s her attitude as well. Shawty started talking like she was reading a Dr. Seuss book to a kindergarten class her overall just continued to drop from that point onward.
Height is also not controllable and I am willing to bet that woman, like most women draw a hard line on her height "preference" in men but I do not expect a mentally and physically lazy individual like her to be able to piece that together. It's an apples to oranges comparison.
As someone who worked with multiple kids in multiple professional occasions, her way of talking is more childish than all of them combined, and it's a bit concerning considering there are more and more grown females addressing topics this way in today's society. When I hear a voice tone and an attitude like that from a grown adult I automatically stop listening, because usually the points that come with that way of talking are painfully weak, and I wasn't wrong in this case. Glad Aba and Preach addressed it!
She said “it’s problematic when you exclude a marginalized group of people… 🤦🏾♂️ but that’s kinda the definition of a preference, that’s literally wtf it’s supposed to do. I hate when bitches get triggered, then get online saying dumb shit.😂
I’m just glad she’s advertising her crazy! If she’s complaining that no one dates her - now the ones that may have are going to avoid her because of her craziness!
"i dont think people in wheelchairs are hot, is ableist." No its not. as someone in a wheelchair, its not ablelist. Im in a wheelchair and I DONT FIND BEING IN A WHEELCHAIR HOT! its not sexy. Able bodied people- please take this pass. I gotchu. Its not ablelist that you dont want to date someone in a wheelchair.
I have seen hot chicks in wheelchairs, i would not correlate the condition with attraction i think most are scared of the responsibility of it since in our minds we cant fathom how hard it would be to live in a wheelchair so we imagine that it would be harder to date a disabled person.
Plus wheelchairs can be used by so many types of disabled people. Like having a partner with an amputation isn’t the same as having a partner that’s paraplegic. Being prepared for one type of disability doesn’t mean you can deal with every type out there. 🤷♀️
So sick of the entitlement some people feel, it’s the “I’m allowed to have preferences but you can’t cuz of my feelings” and you know she wouldn’t feel the same if you said you weren’t attracted to skinny women. I see it as almost predatory to try and force someone who dosnt want to date or sleep with you into it, even if it’s not physically forcing. Maybe lose some weight love, you arnt oppressed because you choose to overeat.
To be honest her weight isn't the problem it's her unbelievable smarm and patronizing personality that's the problem. I've dated and fallen for girls her size that were cool as fuck because they didn't have this toxic entitlement
One important thing I've learned from you guys is that it's ok that have a preference even if it limits your options or not, it's your right and we shouldn't let other people tell us what we should or shouldn't be attracted to. The other thing is yes, you have reasons to not be attracted to certain people, what is not ok is crapping on people that don't fit your standards. Just focus on you and your preferences and move on. Like Preach said, don't focus on the people that don't want you and try to push your ideas on them, just go find someone that likes you. Really great video from you guys. I'm a fat and short guy myself and I've accepted that I'm not preferred by a lot of women but that's ok. I have my personality and I've been working really hard on my health and losing weight.
I don't think her body is what's running people off, can you imagine getting in an argument with your s.o. and they start talking to you like a toddler. 😳
She has to focus on people who don’t like her, this video shows her personality. She wants to control you, the way you think and act, she wants to be able to bully and abuse you into doing whatever she wants with no respect for you as a person. That’s why she uses -ist and -phobic, they make you react viscerally to the idea you’re doing something so wrong and that’s her goal, because she’s a bad person.
It's easier to blame others & point fingers than it is to improve herself, so she takes the easy road. I'll be glad when all these fatass HAES people die off in 5-10 years so we can get rid of this bullshit "big is beautiful" garbage & land whales mistaking their cottage cheese for "curves".
I like how she’s making a decision for us on who to choose as a potential life partner. I’m a chick and lift heavy, eat healthy, and just super active overall. I prefer my partner to be fit and being a heavy set guy is not a preference for my lifestyle. It’s what I chose and there I said it. I don’t like fat guys and prefer fitter men.
I'm my case I like different body types. Short, tall, skinny, big or thicc and muscular women. Is the attitude that turns me on or turns me off. There was a couple of Big sisters at work. They were very cute and their attitude was the sweetest. They always had a smile and were kind to me. Every time a talked to anyone of them it was really difficult to walk away. I hope they are doing ok.
I'm also overweight and I can't stand people like this. If people don't want to date you then there is usually something wrong with you not an entire group of people.
I would NEVER demand that someone who isn't interested in dating me force themselves to try it anyway. People need to stop holding others responsible for their feelings.
@@gengisanimal1047 No. Its the amount of food we have. Fat women have been thought as attractive throughout history, it was seen as a sign of healthiness.
Something I don’t like about people like this lady who want to preach “acceptance of all people” is that it’s really not about that. Their activism is a reflection of their own personal issues. Someone had a preference that offended her, so she decided to express her feelings of hurt his self-indulging activism and that rings hollow to me.
A vegan recommended the book "animal liberation" like it was the end-all be-all of books to convince you to stop eating meat. Chapter 1 they compare meat eating to slavery and racism.
She saying having a preference is like you want to date someone that likes kayaking or outdoor stuff well if they're 600-lb they probably don't like kayaking
As a girthy gal, I've never had an issue. Even at my smallest, I was still big to someone while being skinny to others. I am happy and my confidence never wavered or depended on someone liking me. Everyone is entitled to their preferences. She trippin'.
This!!! Same here for me. There was a study that showed plus size women didn’t want to date plus size men. I think this is her case. The type of man she wants don’t want her.
I beg to differ. Fat people, people of color, and people with disabilities all fall into the marginalized category because they’re not neurotypical skinny white people. Fat people are not preferred just as black or brown people are not preferred in dating. The same can be said about neurodivergent people. When seeking a partner, you usually look for someone on the same level as you and it could be based on your environment.
@@aniyamarie8370 99% of fat people can always lose the weight though. People of color and people with disabilities can never change themselves. So fat people don't really belong in the same category
My preferences: I like a girl who likes to exercise and lift weights, and who also doesn’t eat a lot of fried or greasy foods. The end result, I like a girl who likes to be fit and healthy. See people, this is why they taught us to “show our work” in math class. She’s mad that people won’t explain how 1+1=2.
Thank you, Aba. We live in a time where people can insist on someone being attracted to them👀 twilight zone music should be playing in the background of her video
Ugly people are marginalized often in society, they're cared for and thought about less, more likely to be homeless, poor or suffering, can't benefit from pretty privilege. So by her definition, she should at least date every person she finds good looking to downright disgusting.
which is cool. everyone is allowed to preferences. just not in her mind, which is why she is single. even attractive bitches barely get away with entitled behavior, and this free willyette thinks she got something over attractive women? LMAO
As a man who is fat, I'm trying to lose weight right now. I'm trying to lose 100 pounds. If I am able to meet my goal I would not date a fat woman. It has nothing to do with fatphobia, I'm not saying that fat women aren't worthy of love, I'm not saying fat women are undateable. I know that for me, from lived experience, that it would be too too easy to fall back into old habits. I know this because it happened to me. Going into college I was 250, I went down to 220 and was starting to look good. I was eating better, had biking built into my day as it was my main mode of transportation, and made a point to go to the gym. I started dating this fat girl and it all went downhill. We started just eating out at restaurants and Jack in the Box and shit. She didn't exercise and since I spent most of my time with her, I stopped. I lost all my progress and wound up weighing 280, 30 pounds more than where I started. THAT is why if I can shed this weight I would not date a fat woman with one exception: that woman is actively trying to lose weight and is already implementing the things she needs to do to do so: regular exercise, eating better, etc.
One way a former fatty friend of mine did it was buying the usual type and amount of food he always did, but only ate 1/4 of it every time. The rest, he just gave to other people. Mostly the homeless in the city. You could try this, too, even though it's still not easy. Can bring a little goodness to yourself and the world.
Wow now that's a hard truth to swallow. But you are so awesome for knowing and realizing that being overweight will cost you your health on the long run. I'm hoping that's the reason why you wanna lose the weight
I lift weights 3 times a week, swim twice a week, and never have junk food in my house. I used to be obese and it took changing every single aspect of my life to get healthy. I wouldn't want to date someone who's sedentary, stocks the house with junk food, and isn't concerned with their health. It would make it harder for me to live a healthy lifestyle, and I would have trouble respecting that person. I'm sure an obese person who's comfortable being obese wouldn't want to date someone who spends so much time working out and who doesn't want to sit around and eat junk food. This lady probably hasn't actually thought about what dating a fit person would mean for her.
Dating a fit person or worse dating someone who is fat then actively trying to lose weight is frightening for a fat person that doesn't want to change bc their insecurities get ratcheted up 1000x since they know that person will be getting more attention.
Same here but i only work out 2 times a week + some sport with friends. I was fat and i still strugle with this sometimes. If i would date someone obese. I think sooner or later i would fall to the bad habits again, maybe after a year , maybe in my 40s, but it would happen. Also as i can enjoy physical activity now, it would be hard to have a gf who do not enjoy that. For example, last weekend i went to a nearby lake on bike wich is 100 km, stayed for 2 nights and i was mostly swimming, and then go back another 100 km. I think the girl in the video would not enjoy that weekend but now i just love that kind of holidays, and would not want to give that up for the girl.
Also, imagine saying that "someone who loves pizza" is a dating preference. I cannot imagine being so devoid of actual substance that I choose to either date or not date someone based on their opinion about fucking pizza. It's so insignificant that it shouldn't even be a consideration, never mind a preference.
Right tho?? Like she's so delusional it's the complete opposite. Why would I not look at someone funny if whether they'd date someone relies on something so trivial as fucking kayaking or pizza.. While the ACTUAL preferences are things that are important.
Story of my life 😂. The ones I like don't like me, the ones that like me aren't my cup of tea. But I did make an amazing friend because I was honest in my rejection.
Basically she's saying you should date someone even if you'll never be aroused by them. Which let's be honest would hurt them, probably both of us, more than waiting for someone who wants you for you. Not finding some group attractive isn't phobic. Phobic is being disgusted/hating a group simply because arbitrary characteristic A or characteristic B. Not liking is simply not liking.
Phobia is a diagnosis. An irrational fear of stuff, not hatred. I think the word has been overused and lost meaning a little, which can be dangerous considering the medical nature of the word. People don't have an irrational fear of fat people in this case, or gay people in another. It's a different beast and I wish we found some more appropriate terminology.
@@zumbur3499 yeah, ppl have lost their minds. Little kids know the definition of phobia and that it’s not being used correctly for these bs narratives-like so many other terms that have been created. Keep calling it out. Maybe if more ppl point out the ridiculousness, this weird era of group think and lack of critical thinking will come to end.
@@zumbur3499 tbh if someone was so creeped out to attack fat people then that would be fat phobia but I don't see anyone who is creeped like that. It happens with trans people because some people think we are unnatural monsters but not every case. Sometimes someone knows and still does not like you based on immutable characteristics, though being fat is a characteristic that you can affect to some degree.
@@mattiOTX people with arachnophobia don't fight tarantulas, nor do people with thalassophobia yell insults at the ocean. I may be too nitpicky, but the words we use reflect the way we think. Fear and hatred are seperate entities though they may sometimes be linked. Calling a gay beater "homophobic" labels them as "afraid and misunderstood" rather than what they actually are - hateful and violent.
Does she know the definition of the world "preference"? It means a greater liking for one over the other. It is totally fine to prefer someone who is in shape over someone who is not. I was 60 lbs overweight. I got tired of it. I am down 30 lbs in 90 days now. People preferring people who are in shape generally is how it is. 🤷🏽♀️ Either change your weight to have access to more options, or find people who like it. 🙄
Rejection is a hard pill to swallow. It is easier to blame someone else for rejecting you because of some "fault" they have, than to actually look inward do some soul-searching.
It's interesting that when folks wanna claim that they're marginalized, they immediately compare themselves to Black folks. And it's the same demographic who does that shit. 😒
Everyone be piggybacking their silly non issues off black people. They know racism is taken very seriously especially nowadays so they try and hide behind that to justify whatever bs they're crying about this week🙄🙄
When Preach said “you eventually listen to what you’re saying” I really felt that and I think that’s something that happens when a person has grown and matured, and then they think back and cringe at some of the things they’ve said earlier on. At least I have.
I wouldn't date her because she seems boring af. Same as you tho, if you're doing sort 4 5 time a week and your partner never do, smtg won't match 🤷♂️
@@PutsOnSneakers that's true how ever there is no such thing as healthy as all size. No mater if you are born or developed obesity both share the same health risk.
@@PutsOnSneakers I don't think that exactly true tho. You have predipostion to be skinny or not, but that's not fatalistic. In the end, if you do sport and care about your alimentation, you'll have an athletic body.
Also, I love the lack of self awareness from this woman. Her default belief is people aren't interested in dating (presumably her) based on weight. All the while completing unawares of her condescending attitude.
I used to care for disabled people and helped my friend with her child who is like Stephen Hawking. I could never date someone that is physically handicapped, I don't dislike them not at all, I just don't want to become a full-time caregiver for someone I'm dating. Unless I'm with them already and a terrible accident happens. It's mentally/physically draining and from the times I worked with people in need, they're extremely manipulating and verbally ab**ive. I've seen couples struggle like this.
I saw some other tiktok or a short,I don't really remember. A woman who was not obese,she looked fit for her age, saying that fat people who are working on themselves to shed some weight are fat phobic💀. People out here come up with all kinds of delusional opinions that don't make sense at all, but you aren't allowed to not accept their stupid opinions. People are going crazy my people 🥲 and it's sad.
As a girl on the bigger side, I can say that it IS okay to not want to date a “plus sized” person it’s called a preference. people are allowed to have personal dating standards.
Truth is when a woman opens her mouth she can immediately become more attractive or more unattractive. Personality does count and sadly the girl in the video has nothing going for her.
Yep, competely agree. Sad thing is people like the woman in the tik tok video is the body positivity movement has turned into l, "I am fat, love me or your a bigot." Sigh
If I was dating a man and I found out that the only reason he dated me was because he felt pressured/pity to date me I can't imagine how horrible and low I'd feel. Everyone has a preference and that's ok, I don't know how we've come to the place that you _have_ to find or accept everything as attractive. I know for a damn fact not everyone will want to date me and I'm ok with that.
Bro I was 1 min in and I was like "shut up" you can't say what my preferences should and souldn't be. Bro so many people are hiding behind the words toxic problemetic etz. which isn't right to me. I feel like if you have a problem do something about that. Why should everyone change for you if you are not willing to change for them?
"You could be the sweetest, ripest, tastiest mango in the world, there's people who just don't like mango" Gonna be my new "feel good-motto" from now on! They just not into mango and I happen to be a mango✌🏼🥭
Whenever this type of topic comes up, I always think about that quote, "you can be the best strawberry ice cream in the world, but some people just prefer chocolate." People have preferences. Such is life.
Facts. Other red flag warning words and phrases can include, gender neutral, matriarchy, sexist, toxic, finding myself, feminist to name a few. It helps me to easily vet people haha
Yes I disagree with her. If you're not turned on or attracted to overweight or morbidly obese people, why would you force yourself to try to get into a relationship when you're not even sexually attracted. That doesn't even make sense.
Weight can be genetic tho but race can never be a choice (unless you’re one of the white weirdos who have changed their race from black to asian) so yea pretty much
I’ve been fat all of my life and I don’t think I’ve ever cared about men finding my fatness attractive. I’ve never had an issue attracting quality men and I still do my best to be health conscious (down 80lbs). I honestly think fat people who obsess about being found attractive by others typically have crappy personalities that people won’t like whether they were fit or not. If you hate that your fatness stops you from getting any love, do whatever is necessary to lose the weight instead of expecting everyone to bend to your will.
yeah, a lot of the time people (men and women alikee) know that no one is perfect and youll have to compromise on things and will be able to look past a body type or a disability or such if they like the persons personality. But NO ONE can look past both a bodytype and a shitty personality.
@@NickCageDrippp that’s not the case cause just like she said, plenty of plus sized women don’t have an issue attracting men despite what we hear men openly claim to find attractive. It is similar IMO to how black woken are told we aren’t the standard of beauty so some get really bent and upset about men not dating black women while in reality most of us aren’t single and have no issue finding a man and aren’t lacking in confidence. Yes we also want to take care of our bodies. But the reality is physical shape is just part of what makes people attractive. If your face is stunning, personality is on point, good in bed, put yourself together well, and smart and supportive and only a little overweight? Men still flock and women do as well when larger men still have other great traits. It’s when they become resentful and reclusive and go on depression eating binges and won’t put effort into body hygiene and overall appearance that it becomes a huge issue as far as attracting partners. Also because, again, sometimes facially you just aren’t as attractive tbh no matter what body type or size you have. You can absolutely be fit and unattractive at the same time due to anything from your face to the way you smell, habits you have, the way you dress, etc.
It's amazing how these body positivity women believe it's easier to change the minds of millions of men rather than putting the fork down and going to the gym. Insanity.
@@jaxband2011 Tru!! I love me some chubby guys too!! It do take 2 to tangle. Where I'm from most fat people-men & women are obsessed with dating thin people. I'm from the dirty south. Most of us is fat, lol.
I'm not gonna date a gay people
~Preach
I c u caught that lmaooooo. That french 🍟
@@AbaNPreach I didn't expect anything less from a montrealais
Sounded french but I know you didn’t mean to say it like that😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
It was hilarious 🤣
Love how body positivity people never seem to include fat men🤷🏾♂️
Good point
I'm legit starting to notice that which is starting to show some double standard that women shouldn't be expected to dress and look how men like but men should dress and look how women like.
(Edit: ass load of misspellings.)
It shouldn’t include fat men, it shouldn’t even include fat women, get off your ass and lose weight instead of wanting people to accept you for being fat, find people that push you to lose weight and get healthy, that’s body positivity
@@WrathofFenrir99
Well, I still stand with that if they want a fit man then don't be surprised when they aren't into them most likely. Plus ever seen fat men included?
I think that's because huge fat women are still fuckable. Huge fat men can't fuck. Its crude but true.
This lady: There's something that prevents me from dating.
Me: It's probably your personality.
And she blames the, "It's because I'm (insert identity)!!"
or her weight... coz we cannot see personality first..
@@d3lusi0n_312 I wasn't near my phone when the video started and the first thing I noticed was her condescending tone. So her personality turned me off before I even saw her. 😂
@@jd3thegreat Same, I was playing the video in the background during my gym sets. Man, I felt like throwing up hearing her bs.
Literally everything about her annoys me, and it has nothing to do with her size
Conflating race (genetics) with being overweight/fat is ridiculous. She lost me there. That said, I'm overweight & I accept that I'm not everyone's cup of tea. Go where you're appreciated.
If I was on a date and a girl told me she wasn't attracted to me it wouldn't bother me at all. It happens. Can't force that. Even if it was for some reason like I'm too short or don't make enough money. Whatever, that's a good heads-up I don't want to be with them. But if she was like "I'm not attracted to Asians" I'd be pretty offended. Lol
Well being fat does correlate with genetics and gender, but mostly environmental.
They really wanna copy and paste the black struggle onto every other issue.
And you ARE appreciated. Well said Tori☺️🙃🤘
@@dracopalidine I don't understand why you'd be offended if someone said they are attracted to Asians. I could see it if it came across in a rude or racist way but in general, why would you be offended. It's an attraction like everything else. Like I'm not really into black girls. It's not my thing. It's not offensive or racist, it's just not what I'm into. So why is it a problem if it's said to you?
As my uncle once said, "Life's too damn short to spend it with someone you're just not that into."
You're uncle sounds miserable lol
Amen❤
"You could be the sweetest ripest tastiest mango in the world. Theres people that dont like mango." brilliant
Yeah, I thought that was a great way to sum it up too
🤣🤣🤣my husband hates mangos lmao
Her fruit is rotten
I'm cool with a little mango
I am one of those people. Mango is not for me no matter how many times I try it.
As a fatter woman, I completely disagree with her. Honestly from the start doing the pre-k stuff is just proving that her personality is the turn off more than anything, and it really feels she is projecting the fact that she can't deal with rejection and mislabeling it as fatphobic. Just my opinion.
You seem more beautiful and more pleasant than her though. She comes off as a resentful bitter hurt angry woman who will bash others for not wanting to date her and force it upon others by make them seem bigoted smh.
@@scootertheuce.mychannel4pe477 I definitely agree and thank you
And everyone outside of Tiktok and Twitter agrees without you. 👍🏿
I was going to say her obnoxious condescending attitude is more of a glaring fault than her being obese. She can lose weight but I guarantee she won't lose the attitude.
yesss i agree 100% it just seems like she's more butt hurt at the fact that most men wont be attracted to her because of her weight... yet her personality is what really makes her unattractive
Heavy facts- "you can be the juiciest mango in the world, and someone might not like mangos" - Knees to chest keep it movin'
"Heavy facts" I see what you did there lol
Me love mangos 😋
but when your mango is watermelon sized.... you automatically think something's wrong here... cool to see at a fair yes. but you thinks gmo's chemicals whatever and prob wont eat it.... if im gunna date an obese person i think extra future medical bills, diabetes, early death and less quality of life.... do most people want to deal with that? nope!
@@JPBroadcasting gmo’s are completely safe
@@cowchow4284 You know what's funny genetically modifying plants is called agriculture. We've been doing it for a long long time just at a slower pace. Corn didn't start out looking anything like it does now. People are wild
Every time I hear someone say, " that's problematic", something just tells me all I need to know them.
“Don’t concentrate on the people who don’t like you”. Most truthful thing I’ve heard this week
But we always want what we can't have.
Usually u should. Listening to only compliments about urself is just as bad as listening to only criticism of urself. U need a bit of both
@@saileshnaidu8102 Balance is lost in society. You're either on side or the other. No in between.
@@equivalentexchangeisalie5726 it was bound to happen with the digital age. Were humans actually THAT naive to believe there wont be consequences to it? EVERY solution creates another problem. Its the circle of life and continued survival
@@saileshnaidu8102 Are you saying people losing any sense of nuance or balance was to be expected with social media? How so?
I don’t think her weight is the only thing holding her back pretty sure it’s her attitude as well. Shawty started talking like she was reading a Dr. Seuss book to a kindergarten class, her overall just continued to drop from that point onward.
Holding her down you mean? :P
I felt so weird watching and listening to her ....like it's cringed..
I'd find her patronizing as a toddler. Idk why she thought that delivery would make more people listen to her, rather than be auto repelled & annoyed.
"She doesn't know who she's talking to" is what I'd say. That's such a disrespect to adults. No wonder she's undatable. This and she being freaking HUGE.
But most definitely her stomach is probably literally holding her down 🤷♂️
i hate when adults talk to other adults like they are children...that is such a bully tactic
Agreed. I legit wanted to end the video when she started doing that pre-k stuff. Fk outta here with that sht
That's when I walk away.
Yeah. The attitude is what is a turn off. There are plenty of men that like plus sized women. I think 75% of it is personality and 25% is confidence is what would make a man (or women) who don't usually date plus size people to consider dating one. The generalizing is the thing that bothers me because each person is different. That attitude is toxic as heck though!
Nah not really she looks like the one getting bullied
Not only that but it's extremely detrimental to the point at hand. When you offend people like that, a majority of us tend to retaliate in different ways. I literally thought "fuck you, you fatty mc-fat fuck" when she did that shit, it took me a solid hour before looking at what she was trying to say from her point of view. She's the type of person that stalls certain conversations not progresses them (even if she is trying to be funny).
I'm a fat guy. I've been struggling to find a relationship for a while because of it. Does it make me sad sometimes ? Yes of course it does. But I don't fucking complain about it, because I know it's on me. And to see grown adults like her waste their time victimizing themselves (let alone on tiktok lol) instead of working out is just pathetic to me. These people really have NO shame.
Yeah losing weight is hard, it really is, but there's a time when you have to stop complaining, you have to look at yourself, and you have to do something. Take some responsibility ffs, be an adult.
You got this bro 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 just stay focused .. I’m rooting for you my n*gga
Update brother you lost any weight? Even if you haven't are you all good?
@@nzcabbage1923 I have lost quite a bit of weight, then gained some, then lost it again, gained some again, etc... I had quite a bit of shitty stuff happen to me in the last year and it wasn't always easy to keep working out. So overall I did lose weight but not as much as I would have wanted to. I'm still trying though ! And thanks for caring, your comment will serve as a reminder that I can't afford to give up :)
@@d.ajr.8138 Thanks for the kind words ! (Looks like I didn't see your comment back when you sent it, oops)
@-vaco-4648 I just want you to be happy my brother just be happy but also be healthy too mentally and physically. I recently started fishing for trout and salmon and cooking them to make salads etc and it brings me peace.
I hope your find your peace ✌️
She used kayaking as an example of a valid preference. Then why is it problematic for me to prefer someone that won't sink the kayak?
God damn, I feel kinda bad for laughing at this as much as I did, dear god what has my humour become XD
@@Nightmare-wo2gd it’s ok it was funny
@@Nightmare-wo2gd It's ok my man... Laughing at something funny doesn't make you fatphobic afaik.
In this case her mouth would make you WISH the kayak would sink!
Just catch a bubble and you'll float 🤷♂️
Notice how her examples of "not dating x, makes you y-ist" didn't include short guys.
@Journey With Jay broke and short by women's standards means you don't earn twice as much and you're not 7 inches taller or at least 6ft
I'd bet an entire McDonald's meal she would not date a person my height (5'2)
If you ask her if she would date any “typically undesirable” (I put it in quotes because those traits alone don’t make someone undesirable to most sane people) she woukd say no. She’s literally the *biggest* hypocrite.
That's always the rub isn't it? You can't have preferences when it comes to "marginalized groups" and "marginalized groups" means whatever these activists types want it to mean.
@@Blutiger-Ant no one would
Im someone who's been fat his whole life and has lost a large amount of weight this past year. I want to lose the weight because being fat is just not attractive to people, chubby chasers are rare. Ive been in the bedroom before with a big girl and I just had a hard time keeping it up. I wasn't attracted to it. I would never do it again. I think thats when I realized that I myself needed to lose the weight. Not only that but being bigger its not always easy have the best hygiene, you sweat easier/faster and as gross as it sounds that carries a musk to it. Im 50 pounds down, weigh 230 now but I still think I have a long ways to go. I urge every fat person to try and lose the weight. Don't become content and think people need to accept you because they won't and you're only going to let yourself down. I personally wish I would've started sooner now that Ive come so far. Heres to atleast another 30 or 40 pounds, I know I can do it.
Good job and keep at it!
Keep going bro
Keep at it bro! You doing GOOD!
You can do it. 💪🏾
Keep at it brother
I'm not going to even sugar coat this but if anyone ever spoke to me the way she just did in the first part of the video....I'd walk off and never acknowledge them ever.
i heard "hey bestie!" and immediately knew what level of cringe i was getting myself into😭😭
I think that's what really giving her trouble in dating.
I heard, "TikTok" and knew whatever was going to be said was going to be stupid to nth degree.
I got a headache immediately dear lord
She’s upset that men choose to ignore her and is unable to friend/bestie Zone guys
@@Cookie_Monster369 LMAIOOOOOOOOO
She sounds like a pre school teacher talking to children. She has 100% confidence and belief in what she's saying. Maybe it's because it's easier to act like this rather than live a healthier lifestyle.
LOL
My guess is that she is a teacher and she's having a hard time dating. Maybe don't be obese AND talk to people like they are children.
Dr. Jean is turning into the Dark Phoenix right before our eyes.
Which is terrifying to think someone like this is in a position of power and influence over our children
People put on a fake face to hide their insecurities.
She's only saying this because the people she wants to date, don't want to date her.
Her strategy is to make her type feel guilty for not wanting to be with her.
Easy as that. She cant admit to her self that most people who are lean are that way because want to take care to stay lean.
I agree but influence from media has a lot to do with it as well, we don’t talk enough about it
S.I.G.N policy at play here.. @I likes what I likes
She's sooooooo patronizing.
I wonder how she feel about dating fat men
hating someone and not wanting someone in your bed is not the same
Point blank, she’s mad at herself for her weight and instead of fixing it she chooses to point the blameful finger at men who aren’t attracted to her.
Right, I'm like ma'am just look for guys who are into that type of thing and ignore your haters/negative commentors, or make a lifestyle change. Simple.
Couldn't have said it better myself.
That’s what Body Positivity is all about. Blaming others besides themselves LoL.
people with her ideology (and people who KNOW theyre wrong about something but really cant stomach being honest with themselves about it) always have to be on the defence about this so they are on the "right" position.
Yeah as a pretty ugly dude myself, this annoyed me. Don't worry about other people's preferences, just worry about self improvement day after day.
I actually like the fact she used her kindergarten teacher voice. It’s a perfect indicator of the kind of world they want. Some redo of kindergarten where very one always has to be nice to each other no matter what. Life don’t work that way.
@@madmoonrabbit That part
It’s also a kindergarten interpretation of what nice is, which means “do what I say or you’re not nice”
She was just being condescending and demeaning
in kindergarten having a round face was met with approval. not so as an adult. thats what shes got an issue with.
That wasn't nice, that was obnoxious, arragont, condescending, and sarcastic. Nobody wants that big aggressive bug eyed masculine woman. She can try all she wants to sound nice, but her words condemn her to a life of lonely existence. Most of these women who think they're some sort of alpha, are actually bootleg beta males.
She’s treating dating as acceptance into society. Dating is a deeply personal exploration that only affects the individuals involved. It’s therefore not up to anyone but the individuals involved to curate.
Dam thats meta fam
Thank you! “Deeply personal exploration” is the best way one can describe dating. You’re literally choosing a person(s) to be intimate with/to treat extra special. That’s a pretty big decision and everyone should be entitled to their preferences in people/how they wanna go about their dating life if they want to have a happy/healthy dating experience.
Damn brotha, you speak like a Kendrick Lamar with the words, the vibe is awesome, keep up the good work.
Really well said
her dumbass literally made dating a privilage🤣🤣
I’m fast becoming “self indulgent assholeaphobic”. You can’t force someone to change their preferences because you want or need them to. Especially the way that girl’s doing it. Shaming and insulting people typically doesn’t make them like you more. It makes a formidable enemy.
Society needs to stop making a phobia out of everything… if I don’t like you, what does it matter? How do my dislike affect you? Move on. You don’t need my approval to be who you want to be.
I couldn't agree more. A victim complex does not help anything.
@Anita Silva I just said something similar to your sentiment the other day. The way you expressed it is more eloquent.
@@monetstallion9363 thank you!!! I appreciate you!
As long as it doesn’t limit my success in society, then I completely agree with you 💯
I feel that, people want to be accepted by everyone, LITERALLY so if i don't like dating overweight people they take it as a personal offense. I'm short af and i don't care about whether you like short men or not, there's nothing wrong in not wanting to date me because I'm short.
She talks down to everyone who doesn't agree with her, and then explains her position like a child would.
If she were body weight proportionate she would still be single for this very reason.
The way she starts off her incoherent ran is condescending...from the get go you know she is a nut case
The way she explains her point as if she is right is funny
@@sheepdog5799
If she was fit she’d go for guys ABOVE her league then end up on chad’s Side chick roster
Because she is a child. Biological age is less relevant than mental and emotional maturity
As a fat person(literally all my life) I wouldn't date a fat person. But that's me.
self hating fatphobic individual.
Lool
@@AbaNPreach hello
@@AbaNPreach 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@AbaNPreach chiiiilll
I'm pretty sure that using a lame guilt-trip, by calling people "fat-phobic", is STILL not going to make a man hard for you.
as a person in a wheelchair, I wouldn't date a person in a wheelchair
They see us rolling... Im hating...
Ok I'll stop.
Hyuck hyukc hyuck hyuck
Know what they call me? DK. Stands for Drift King.
@@AbaNPreach 😂😂😂😂😂
Wow, that's so ableist of you. 😔😔
roll on their body
I just love how she thinks talking to grown men like kindergarteners is somehow going to prove her point that we should be attracted to her.
Crazy part is she herself wouldn’t even date a big guy
well I'm a girl and I was offended at the way she was talking. People who are this condescending and feel like they're so much better/marter than you are are a huge turn-off in many ways. There is no way to hold a conversation with such a person. There is a huge difference in believing in something and being passionate about and being a straight Asshole.
Right? It's so condescending and entitled.
@@fijiwill2237 yeah otherwise she would not be making the video she is fat but want a fit man not a fat one.
I know haha
You’re attracted to who you’re attracted too. I’ve been overweight my entire life and it doesn’t bother me when people aren’t interested in me. If she’s single I honestly think it’s her personality. She comes off very condescending and like she talks to people like children.
Yep , bwoy now a days everybody wants to control somebody ideology
If looks are the only thing you got going for you but don't have a personality to make up for it. Then you won't get very far in a relationship. I mean sure being pretty has its benefits but being smart and being witty and charasmatic does too. Without those things your doomed to die alone.
I really dont think her appearance is the problem its her shitty attitude and her condescending behavior. Sure there are gonna be some people who aren't attracted to you and thats fine. But don't whine and bitch about it when you know you have preferences for what you find attractive as well. Its basically being a hypocrite
Im amazed that people like this exist, where they can just blame everyone else for the fact that they're not attracting people. Its like if a videogame developer blamed everyone else for not playing their game, when theres plenty of amazing games already out there. Maybe some luck is involved, but it doesn't mean that you cant improve yourself to the same attractiveness as some of the most attractive people around.
Something to note, a lot of overweight people who lose weight end up looking HOT AS FUCK. Seriously I mean that. I'll stroke my ego a bit and say I look a lot better than before, and I met a girl who went through something similar as me who I personally think is gorgeous. Its OK to improve and be healthier.
This part. 💯💯💯
Fellow Plus sized girl.
10 guys.
5 hate fat women.
3 love fat women.
2 mostly dont care either which way.
Extrapolate that to the 3.5 billion men on the planet.
Fat women with something going on dont end up alone.
Unpleasant, obnoxious, goofy women who are also fat end up alone.
People misuse the whole phobic/phobia thing like crazy. Just because someone doesn't like something or aren't attracted to someone don't mean they have a fear of it.
Insane how she uses that upspeak tone to present a false argument as factual. This is a dangerous mentality, and saying it all with a patronizing smile and wide eyed menace. Creepy
This is what they do
It comes off as very condescending and it makes me take their point of view less serious
Feel like she work in early education and just brings that to the table to everyone she speaks to outside of work 😆
And yet she remains single….
@@sheepdog5799 shocking eh
Hey bestie, just don't want a woman who is gonna go through dialysis at the age of 40-50 and die
And can't bear children without gestational diabetes, and tons of complications, and no energy to care for the child.
@@dylans5oclockshadow tru that
@@dylans5oclockshadow im 120 lb. I've had gestational diabetes twice. It goes away after. I'm in no way an unhealthy person. Js
@@Samira87333 he probably meant obese people in general will be more prone to develop it. This isn't about you, bestie!
Yooo! 😂😂😂
She doesnt like her situation and instead of changing it she blames everyone else. Such a toxic mindset. Maybe that's what's pushing people away too gurl.
And she’s condescending too
Word
It’s probably boosted by the body positivity women movement which honestly is more of a health hazard cause your body isn’t suited to be handling fat that makes you weigh over 100kg
@@najiib605 the body positivity movement isn't about physical health. It's about mental health. So people that are overweight don't feel like shit just for beeing fat. It's like a support group so they feel accepted and maybe at some point decide to become more healthy.
She’s upset that she isn’t getting what she ACTUALLY wants which is a relationship.......(from a guy that she respects and admires)
But isn’t doing anything to change it because the Cawk Carrousel gives women FALSE confidence in their ability to lock down marriage up until they are introduced into reality
In a nutshell: The friend zone sucks. Deal with it.
I don’t want to date someone who feels they can talk to me like I’m an “adult preschooler,” and then likely expect me to pick up the tab.
I’m attracted to people who don’t use the word “problematic” seriously.
Using "problematic" unironically in your vocabulary is an automatic red flag.
Demonstrates an inability to separate Internet slang from real-life communication.
IKR she sounds like she's talking to kids. That's how I talk to my students sometimes (10 and younger btw)...
@@MyThoughtsBelow Yeah, it's like when memes exploded on the internet, and you had kids showing up to school to actually act out the memes irl. Like nah bruh, nah. That's like, weaponized cringe.
@@luzycat7869 Even kids won't tolerate her level of condescension.
She's lumping all fat people people together by calling the group marginalized! She should take her own advice! I'm overweight and I've never felt less than or that my weight has held me back from my love life or career.
I'm glad you understand how that works. Just because it may affect one person doesn't mean it affects everyone. Overweight is also such a lose term in today's time for some reason. Obese people use the term over weight as if to lesson what they actually are. I'm over weight. By a good 20 or so pounds. That maybe considered fat ( tbh idk) but there is a BIG difference ( no pun intended)
You ain’t getting the options you really want
Peach sis! shes' straight up calling us marginalized people. Not because black but because of our weight! WTF!?
You said a word!
Right!!! Home girl got problems. Why are you trying to force someone to want you.
1 second of listening to her, you know she is the type of person who will yell over anything she disagrees with and people just give up quickly.
No she will patronize you with the adult prek lessons.
lol but I'm sure she accuses people of "mansplaining"
@Saitama Eagle bruh
@Saitama Eagle thats a death sentence
her type is diabetes
it has nothing to do with preferences Im not fat phobic but I am anti annoying self entitled people who try and tell me what to do and who I should do it with
A few years ago, on Facebook I wrote 'Just because you're offended, doesn't mean you're right'. People LOST their fucking minds. Seriously. Since then I have deleted Facebook because I think it is more toxic than encouraging.
Way worse on Twitter
i deleted fb after 5 days. i checked out tiktok once my iq hasn't recovered
I deleted mine in 2013. What was originally a format that I could contact family and old friends quickly became a stage, a platform for people with agendas. Got tired of people coming at me from every direction. People are entitled to their politics and preferences. But not entitled to try to force them onto me. I will push back.
Something similar happened to me... Toxicity City, word up
I only use messenger now, fuck the rest of the site and all the other social media...
She really compared obesity to race & disabilities. You can control your weight you can’t control your race or a disability. She shouldn’t blame the men that aren’t attracted to her. She should either focus on the people that do like her or start trying to lose the weight🤷🏾♂️.
I don’t think her weight is the only thing holding her back either pretty sure it’s her attitude as well. Shawty started talking like she was reading a Dr. Seuss book to a kindergarten class her overall just continued to drop from that point onward.
Height is also not controllable and I am willing to bet that woman, like most women draw a hard line on her height "preference" in men but I do not expect a mentally and physically lazy individual like her to be able to piece that together. It's an apples to oranges comparison.
Accountability and women are like oil and water.
As someone who worked with multiple kids in multiple professional occasions, her way of talking is more childish than all of them combined, and it's a bit concerning considering there are more and more grown females addressing topics this way in today's society.
When I hear a voice tone and an attitude like that from a grown adult I automatically stop listening, because usually the points that come with that way of talking are painfully weak, and I wasn't wrong in this case.
Glad Aba and Preach addressed it!
Why don't you catch a bubble in your mouth?! Lol
I’m assuming she works with kids and her tiktok is teaching kids leftist stuff. So that’s where it came from.
The gleeful condescension makes her sound wacko.
It’s so creepy
As a non native speaker, I thought she was sarcastic and going to say "just kidding!"
She said “it’s problematic when you exclude a marginalized group of people… 🤦🏾♂️ but that’s kinda the definition of a preference, that’s literally wtf it’s supposed to do. I hate when bitches get triggered, then get online saying dumb shit.😂
Imagine thinking that you can bully someone to date you?
Right! See how that worked out for Dahmer?
Yes, like the audacity tf!!!!
Exactly
It's borderline abuse. No.. let me rephrase that: It *is* abuse.
I’m just glad she’s advertising her crazy! If she’s complaining that no one dates her - now the ones that may have are going to avoid her because of her craziness!
"i dont think people in wheelchairs are hot, is ableist." No its not. as someone in a wheelchair, its not ablelist. Im in a wheelchair and I DONT FIND BEING IN A WHEELCHAIR HOT! its not sexy. Able bodied people- please take this pass. I gotchu. Its not ablelist that you dont want to date someone in a wheelchair.
As a chubby girl I can also say, being chubby ain’t cute and she can die mad about it 🤦🏼♀️
I have seen hot chicks in wheelchairs, i would not correlate the condition with attraction i think most are scared of the responsibility of it since in our minds we cant fathom how hard it would be to live in a wheelchair so we imagine that it would be harder to date a disabled person.
@@deandra138 ive seen alot of beautiful chubby people
Plus wheelchairs can be used by so many types of disabled people. Like having a partner with an amputation isn’t the same as having a partner that’s paraplegic. Being prepared for one type of disability doesn’t mean you can deal with every type out there. 🤷♀️
Just cuz you’re in a wheelchair doesn’t mean you’re unattractive. Just know that.
So sick of the entitlement some people feel, it’s the “I’m allowed to have preferences but you can’t cuz of my feelings” and you know she wouldn’t feel the same if you said you weren’t attracted to skinny women. I see it as almost predatory to try and force someone who dosnt want to date or sleep with you into it, even if it’s not physically forcing. Maybe lose some weight love, you arnt oppressed because you choose to overeat.
THIS-IS-SO-TRUE
She is being oppressed by the calories! /s
@@GenericUserName443 😂
Promise you she doesn't date fat guys. She wants a chad and is mad she isn't the first choice.
To be honest her weight isn't the problem it's her unbelievable smarm and patronizing personality that's the problem. I've dated and fallen for girls her size that were cool as fuck because they didn't have this toxic entitlement
One important thing I've learned from you guys is that it's ok that have a preference even if it limits your options or not, it's your right and we shouldn't let other people tell us what we should or shouldn't be attracted to. The other thing is yes, you have reasons to not be attracted to certain people, what is not ok is crapping on people that don't fit your standards. Just focus on you and your preferences and move on. Like Preach said, don't focus on the people that don't want you and try to push your ideas on them, just go find someone that likes you. Really great video from you guys. I'm a fat and short guy myself and I've accepted that I'm not preferred by a lot of women but that's ok. I have my personality and I've been working really hard on my health and losing weight.
I don't think her body is what's running people off, can you imagine getting in an argument with your s.o. and they start talking to you like a toddler. 😳
That was the first thing the turned me off!!! Her condescending and annoying tone.
Demanding that other people date you even when they're not interested in you? What even is consent, amirite?
if u shame them enough their attraction towards u may build. Im pretty sure thats how it works.
@@aristotle9243 coersion, amirite?
@@aristotle9243 if you shame them they will come
@@sheepdog5799 😂
She's the kind of person that doesn't care about other people's happiness, so long as she gets what she wants.
She has to focus on people who don’t like her, this video shows her personality. She wants to control you, the way you think and act, she wants to be able to bully and abuse you into doing whatever she wants with no respect for you as a person. That’s why she uses -ist and -phobic, they make you react viscerally to the idea you’re doing something so wrong and that’s her goal, because she’s a bad person.
Basically you are saying she is woke. Yes, yes she is.
It's easier to blame others & point fingers than it is to improve herself, so she takes the easy road. I'll be glad when all these fatass HAES people die off in 5-10 years so we can get rid of this bullshit "big is beautiful" garbage & land whales mistaking their cottage cheese for "curves".
@@tomferguson9250 Nah homie. Have you seen kids today? There's a new generation of whales already ready to take over the wave.
She's trying to use the Jedi Mind Trick on people
Narcissism at its finest 👌
I like how she’s making a decision for us on who to choose as a potential life partner. I’m a chick and lift heavy, eat healthy, and just super active overall. I prefer my partner to be fit and being a heavy set guy is not a preference for my lifestyle. It’s what I chose and there I said it. I don’t like fat guys and prefer fitter men.
As an overweight woman, I AGREE WITH YOU. This argument is ridiculous and I am so tired of seeing it.
I'm my case I like different body types. Short, tall, skinny, big or thicc and muscular women. Is the attitude that turns me on or turns me off. There was a couple of Big sisters at work. They were very cute and their attitude was the sweetest. They always had a smile and were kind to me. Every time a talked to anyone of them it was really difficult to walk away. I hope they are doing ok.
Yes. Some people will like you. I think she's mad that EVERYONE doesn't like her which is narcissistic as all hell
I'm also overweight and I can't stand people like this. If people don't want to date you then there is usually something wrong with you not an entire group of people.
I think I'm sort of fat and I'm not attracted to fat men LOL...
I would NEVER demand that someone who isn't interested in dating me force themselves to try it anyway. People need to stop holding others responsible for their feelings.
Yeah. It's awfully rapey.
“Oh she’s cute.”
*starts talking*
“Nevermind.”
Do better fam. She is not cute.
@@st4ne4rmthevill63 Bro ur just as bad as her
She’s not cute, y’all considering these 300lb plus women cute is why there are so many fat women now smh
Nope. She has crazy eyes, I could see the crazy poking through even before she talked
@@gengisanimal1047 No. Its the amount of food we have. Fat women have been thought as attractive throughout history, it was seen as a sign of healthiness.
Something I don’t like about people like this lady who want to preach “acceptance of all people” is that it’s really not about that. Their activism is a reflection of their own personal issues. Someone had a preference that offended her, so she decided to express her feelings of hurt his self-indulging activism and that rings hollow to me.
I love how black people are the go-to comparison for everything
Its because racism is the worst thing you can call someone. Well.. its a go to . So shes comparing not wanting to smash w her to racism. Its silly.
A vegan recommended the book "animal liberation" like it was the end-all be-all of books to convince you to stop eating meat. Chapter 1 they compare meat eating to slavery and racism.
@@e.priest8937 Theres a whole section of black men who love fat white women lol the irony
Until it's time to tell us to "get over it"
Yeah. Get your own struggle.
I find it so ironic how these people fighting against “intolerance” are literal examples of what intolerance sounds and acts like. What heroes…
I don't tolerate fat people > I don't tolerate you not tolerating fat people. You can't make this shit up.
Eeeeeyup.
@@davidlee9532 happens often
Liberals in a nutshell
@@davidlee9532 More like "Im not attracted to fat people" < "I dont tolerate you not being attracted to fat people"
Meanwhile, a short guy approaches her...
Her: "eww gross, I don't date short men" (feels empowered for rejecting a "lesser" man 🙄)
No u see the tactic is "umm you're not my type"
no guys approach her
@@zibix4562 If they did they’d probably get caught in her gravitational field and never be able to escape
I mean can you blame him that's a mountain of goodness there she need some tall person loving😂
That sounds personal!
She saying having a preference is like you want to date someone that likes kayaking or outdoor stuff well if they're 600-lb they probably don't like kayaking
As a girthy gal, I've never had an issue. Even at my smallest, I was still big to someone while being skinny to others. I am happy and my confidence never wavered or depended on someone liking me. Everyone is entitled to their preferences. She trippin'.
Im a girthy guy, just in another way
@@ramzy4458 🤣🤣🤣
@@ramzy4458 well I've never!!!! Let us see Mr girth
This!!! Same here for me. There was a study that showed plus size women didn’t want to date plus size men. I think this is her case. The type of man she wants don’t want her.
Ah man, of all the ways to describe yourself....
Basically what she's saying is "If my crush refused me it's not because of ME, it's him being *insert woke label*"
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Not “insert woke label” ! 😅🤣🤣
Oh god.. we're talking about **insert woke label**'s now? JEEZUS🤣🤣🤣
That's basically the "toxic nice guy". "I'm a nice guy, why won't she f*"k me".
I lean into the stupid labels to trigger them. Love trolling the pathetically emotional.
Equating ones weight to someone race or disability is such a fat reach! That's simply insane.
Race isn't real.
Change my mind.
@@BluntforceJ Tell me you're white without telling me you're white.
@@riseofazrael their profile picture is literally Tom from myspace. They’re a troll
I beg to differ. Fat people, people of color, and people with disabilities all fall into the marginalized category because they’re not neurotypical skinny white people. Fat people are not preferred just as black or brown people are not preferred in dating. The same can be said about neurodivergent people. When seeking a partner, you usually look for someone on the same level as you and it could be based on your environment.
@@aniyamarie8370 99% of fat people can always lose the weight though. People of color and people with disabilities can never change themselves. So fat people don't really belong in the same category
It feels like people are loosing touch with reality. Even more so, people are unable to cope with being told no and move forward.
"you could be the sweetest tastiest mango in the world, there's still gonna be people who don't like mango" 5:20 loved that anology
Hear hear
Fuck mango!
Mango gay
My preferences: I like a girl who likes to exercise and lift weights, and who also doesn’t eat a lot of fried or greasy foods. The end result, I like a girl who likes to be fit and healthy. See people, this is why they taught us to “show our work” in math class. She’s mad that people won’t explain how 1+1=2.
I like how you put the school work in there since she's talking like a kindergarten teacher ahhahahahahhaha 😂😂😂
Nah she trying to make 1+1=4
That’s me for a long time now but I’m still fat. LOL
Sounds perfectly reasonable
Omg you said a bad word...I think the word fit is fatphobic by their logic apparently.
“Everyone else’s attitude is the problem not mine”
-Big Shirley
Why can I hear good lies playing in the distance😂
Yes, the Godfather!!!!!!!!!! 😂
I have a Phd
Queue the Tuba!!!
Thank you, Aba. We live in a time where people can insist on someone being attracted to them👀 twilight zone music should be playing in the background of her video
It's funny, because she definitely has preferences.
Ugly people are marginalized often in society, they're cared for and thought about less, more likely to be homeless, poor or suffering, can't benefit from pretty privilege. So by her definition, she should at least date every person she finds good looking to downright disgusting.
@@navonmyhand7999 that sentence is kinda harsh but hey u giving people cool aid u got to drink it too
which is cool. everyone is allowed to preferences. just not in her mind, which is why she is single. even attractive bitches barely get away with entitled behavior, and this free willyette thinks she got something over attractive women? LMAO
As a man who is fat, I'm trying to lose weight right now. I'm trying to lose 100 pounds. If I am able to meet my goal I would not date a fat woman. It has nothing to do with fatphobia, I'm not saying that fat women aren't worthy of love, I'm not saying fat women are undateable. I know that for me, from lived experience, that it would be too too easy to fall back into old habits. I know this because it happened to me. Going into college I was 250, I went down to 220 and was starting to look good. I was eating better, had biking built into my day as it was my main mode of transportation, and made a point to go to the gym. I started dating this fat girl and it all went downhill. We started just eating out at restaurants and Jack in the Box and shit. She didn't exercise and since I spent most of my time with her, I stopped. I lost all my progress and wound up weighing 280, 30 pounds more than where I started. THAT is why if I can shed this weight I would not date a fat woman with one exception: that woman is actively trying to lose weight and is already implementing the things she needs to do to do so: regular exercise, eating better, etc.
One way a former fatty friend of mine did it was buying the usual type and amount of food he always did, but only ate 1/4 of it every time. The rest, he just gave to other people. Mostly the homeless in the city.
You could try this, too, even though it's still not easy. Can bring a little goodness to yourself and the world.
@@louisarius9672 not a bad idea
Nothing wrong with that reasonig. Its way easier to bring someone down then it is to pull someone up.
Wow now that's a hard truth to swallow. But you are so awesome for knowing and realizing that being overweight will cost you your health on the long run. I'm hoping that's the reason why you wanna lose the weight
Good luck to you btw, you have a lot against you. ❤
I lift weights 3 times a week, swim twice a week, and never have junk food in my house. I used to be obese and it took changing every single aspect of my life to get healthy. I wouldn't want to date someone who's sedentary, stocks the house with junk food, and isn't concerned with their health. It would make it harder for me to live a healthy lifestyle, and I would have trouble respecting that person.
I'm sure an obese person who's comfortable being obese wouldn't want to date someone who spends so much time working out and who doesn't want to sit around and eat junk food. This lady probably hasn't actually thought about what dating a fit person would mean for her.
Respect
So in the end, you want to date someone that have an healthy lifestyle... so it's a preference !
Dating a fit person or worse dating someone who is fat then actively trying to lose weight is frightening for a fat person that doesn't want to change bc their insecurities get ratcheted up 1000x since they know that person will be getting more attention.
Same here but i only work out 2 times a week + some sport with friends. I was fat and i still strugle with this sometimes. If i would date someone obese. I think sooner or later i would fall to the bad habits again, maybe after a year , maybe in my 40s, but it would happen. Also as i can enjoy physical activity now, it would be hard to have a gf who do not enjoy that. For example, last weekend i went to a nearby lake on bike wich is 100 km, stayed for 2 nights and i was mostly swimming, and then go back another 100 km. I think the girl in the video would not enjoy that weekend but now i just love that kind of holidays, and would not want to give that up for the girl.
In other words, preferences. I'm pretty sure she has a few preferences of her own.
Another one of those "You must love me" weirdos. I think I was like this at one point, but I was a kid. She's 2 adults.
Also, imagine saying that "someone who loves pizza" is a dating preference. I cannot imagine being so devoid of actual substance that I choose to either date or not date someone based on their opinion about fucking pizza. It's so insignificant that it shouldn't even be a consideration, never mind a preference.
😂😂😂 perfect
🤣🤣🤣
Right tho?? Like she's so delusional it's the complete opposite. Why would I not look at someone funny if whether they'd date someone relies on something so trivial as fucking kayaking or pizza.. While the ACTUAL preferences are things that are important.
@@nickb6425 qqaqqq?Q?QQ????QQQA
Her life revolves around food so to her it’s apparently as important as general preferences to the rest of us.
The problem is that the men she wants doesn’t want her…
Story of my life 😂. The ones I like don't like me, the ones that like me aren't my cup of tea. But I did make an amazing friend because I was honest in my rejection.
@Aroko 76 it means she's overvalueing herself.....no matter how hard she tries to deny or gets angry.
Basically she's saying you should date someone even if you'll never be aroused by them. Which let's be honest would hurt them, probably both of us, more than waiting for someone who wants you for you. Not finding some group attractive isn't phobic. Phobic is being disgusted/hating a group simply because arbitrary characteristic A or characteristic B. Not liking is simply not liking.
Phobia is a diagnosis. An irrational fear of stuff, not hatred. I think the word has been overused and lost meaning a little, which can be dangerous considering the medical nature of the word. People don't have an irrational fear of fat people in this case, or gay people in another. It's a different beast and I wish we found some more appropriate terminology.
@@zumbur3499 yeah, ppl have lost their minds. Little kids know the definition of phobia and that it’s not being used correctly for these bs narratives-like so many other terms that have been created. Keep calling it out. Maybe if more ppl point out the ridiculousness, this weird era of group think and lack of critical thinking will come to end.
Dating people out of pity like she is suggesting is wrong. That only makes everyone involved resentful.
@@zumbur3499 tbh if someone was so creeped out to attack fat people then that would be fat phobia but I don't see anyone who is creeped like that. It happens with trans people because some people think we are unnatural monsters but not every case. Sometimes someone knows and still does not like you based on immutable characteristics, though being fat is a characteristic that you can affect to some degree.
@@mattiOTX people with arachnophobia don't fight tarantulas, nor do people with thalassophobia yell insults at the ocean. I may be too nitpicky, but the words we use reflect the way we think. Fear and hatred are seperate entities though they may sometimes be linked. Calling a gay beater "homophobic" labels them as "afraid and misunderstood" rather than what they actually are - hateful and violent.
Does she know the definition of the world "preference"? It means a greater liking for one over the other. It is totally fine to prefer someone who is in shape over someone who is not. I was 60 lbs overweight. I got tired of it. I am down 30 lbs in 90 days now. People preferring people who are in shape generally is how it is. 🤷🏽♀️ Either change your weight to have access to more options, or find people who like it. 🙄
The problem is that she’s lumping her inability to handle rejection with other people’s preferences. It’s easier to blame others than yourself.
Exactly
Rejection is a hard pill to swallow. It is easier to blame someone else for rejecting you because of some "fault" they have, than to actually look inward do some soul-searching.
Amen!
To be fair, she probably has a hard time looking inwards through the layers of fat in between.
@@hamzauzumaki double homicide 💀
It's interesting that when folks wanna claim that they're marginalized, they immediately compare themselves to Black folks. And it's the same demographic who does that shit. 😒
Everyone be piggybacking their silly non issues off black people. They know racism is taken very seriously especially nowadays so they try and hide behind that to justify whatever bs they're crying about this week🙄🙄
But yet still have no understanding on what it's like to be black.
You mean light folk or.. bc I've seen lots of tiktokers of all shades pull stunts like this
When Preach said “you eventually listen to what you’re saying” I really felt that and I think that’s something that happens when a person has grown and matured, and then they think back and cringe at some of the things they’ve said earlier on. At least I have.
"You could be the sweetest, tastiest, ripest mango on the tree...some people just don't like mango."
~Truth~
💯
THIS!
@Beige Negress2 I'm Caribbean-American, so this rang true on *so* many levels.
Too right
She is fallen fruit
I would not prefer a fat partner because I’m physically active and I prefer someone health conscious but not over the top.
I wouldn't date her because she seems boring af.
Same as you tho, if you're doing sort 4 5 time a week and your partner never do, smtg won't match 🤷♂️
Some people are just naturally big just as some people are just naturally skinny. big or skinny doesn't always indicate health status.
@@PutsOnSneakers that's true how ever there is no such thing as healthy as all size. No mater if you are born or developed obesity both share the same health risk.
@@PutsOnSneakers nobody said anything about size. These guys are talking about being active and wanting an active partner which I get.
@@PutsOnSneakers I don't think that exactly true tho. You have predipostion to be skinny or not, but that's not fatalistic. In the end, if you do sport and care about your alimentation, you'll have an athletic body.
Also, I love the lack of self awareness from this woman. Her default belief is people aren't interested in dating (presumably her) based on weight. All the while completing unawares of her condescending attitude.
I wonder what her preference in dating is?
Imagine fat guy asking her out and she tells him she's not interested and he shows her the video she made. Lol
She’s actually cute....unfortunately she’s also a arrogant self righteous idiot
the way she spoke to me like i was.a child is WILD 😭
Nobody should ever feel pressured into having a relationship. That’s messed up.
there's a difference between big, Thick, And FAT. All I'm gonna say.
Personally, I gotta lose some weight. It's not wrong to want to be healthy.
Agree
I'm sick and tired of fat girls appropriating the word "thicc".
@@leonidas0242 thic is swole with some padding.
Bro she’s all three 🤣
@@sheepdog5799 ayooo lmfao
I used to care for disabled people and helped my friend with her child who is like Stephen Hawking. I could never date someone that is physically handicapped, I don't dislike them not at all, I just don't want to become a full-time caregiver for someone I'm dating. Unless I'm with them already and a terrible accident happens. It's mentally/physically draining and from the times I worked with people in need, they're extremely manipulating and verbally ab**ive. I've seen couples struggle like this.
Naah same here, if something happend to my wife i would do my best to take vare of her, but never date someone Who was like thst from the start
I saw some other tiktok or a short,I don't really remember. A woman who was not obese,she looked fit for her age, saying that fat people who are working on themselves to shed some weight are fat phobic💀.
People out here come up with all kinds of delusional opinions that don't make sense at all, but you aren't allowed to not accept their stupid opinions. People are going crazy my people 🥲 and it's sad.
As a girl on the bigger side, I can say that it IS okay to not want to date a “plus sized” person it’s called a preference. people are allowed to have personal dating standards.
Truth is when a woman opens her mouth she can immediately become more attractive or more unattractive. Personality does count and sadly the girl in the video has nothing going for her.
Yep, competely agree. Sad thing is people like the woman in the tik tok video is the body positivity movement has turned into l, "I am fat, love me or your a bigot." Sigh
What's your Instagram 👀
@@DopeDevastation you’re thirsty 🤣 go get a glass of water bruh
@@sheepdog5799 He’s just asking for her Instagram? Chill
If I was dating a man and I found out that the only reason he dated me was because he felt pressured/pity to date me I can't imagine how horrible and low I'd feel. Everyone has a preference and that's ok, I don't know how we've come to the place that you _have_ to find or accept everything as attractive. I know for a damn fact not everyone will want to date me and I'm ok with that.
i would be ashamed and angry if someone dated me so they could be woken"
“I don’t hate you cause you’re fat, you’re fat because I hate you.” -Mean Girls 2005
So true
I came to the comments looking for this quote 😂
Lmao exposed so hard
Whet? 😂
That's so fetch
Bro I was 1 min in and I was like "shut up" you can't say what my preferences should and souldn't be. Bro so many people are hiding behind the words toxic problemetic etz. which isn't right to me. I feel like if you have a problem do something about that. Why should everyone change for you if you are not willing to change for them?
"You could be the sweetest, ripest, tastiest mango in the world, there's people who just don't like mango"
Gonna be my new "feel good-motto" from now on! They just not into mango and I happen to be a mango✌🏼🥭
Well ..you HAVE TO like mango biggot .. 😉
Hey mango... how you doing 😊
Such a good analogy! My partner loves mango and I genuinely hate it. It looks so good though 🥺
Mangos are so good I love when I catch the season every year
this is called MangoPhobic! shame on you!
Whenever this type of topic comes up, I always think about that quote, "you can be the best strawberry ice cream in the world, but some people just prefer chocolate." People have preferences. Such is life.
Well I want mint chocolate chip then!
Similar to preach Mango's analogy
I'm starting to appreciate the word 'problematic' because it's becoming a decent red flag warning for what type of person you're dealing with.
And pronouns in bios.
Facts. Other red flag warning words and phrases can include, gender neutral, matriarchy, sexist, toxic, finding myself, feminist to name a few. It helps me to easily vet people haha
Yes I disagree with her. If you're not turned on or attracted to overweight or morbidly obese people, why would you force yourself to try to get into a relationship when you're not even sexually attracted. That doesn't even make sense.
Aba is a 100% right. She’s trying to equate something that is a choice to something that is not.
Even if it is a choice, the choices of others really isn't her concern unless it puts someone in danger.
Weight can be genetic tho but race can never be a choice (unless you’re one of the white weirdos who have changed their race from black to asian) so yea pretty much
I’ve been fat all of my life and I don’t think I’ve ever cared about men finding my fatness attractive. I’ve never had an issue attracting quality men and I still do my best to be health conscious (down 80lbs).
I honestly think fat people who obsess about being found attractive by others typically have crappy personalities that people won’t like whether they were fit or not.
If you hate that your fatness stops you from getting any love, do whatever is necessary to lose the weight instead of expecting everyone to bend to your will.
yeah, a lot of the time people (men and women alikee) know that no one is perfect and youll have to compromise on things and will be able to look past a body type or a disability or such if they like the persons personality. But NO ONE can look past both a bodytype and a shitty personality.
Yeah that last paragraph made me realize that these people are just lazy and don’t want to work towards being attractive
This!!!!!!!!! Yes!!!!! Her comments in this video are grossly flawed!!!!
@@NickCageDrippp that’s not the case cause just like she said, plenty of plus sized women don’t have an issue attracting men despite what we hear men openly claim to find attractive. It is similar IMO to how black woken are told we aren’t the standard of beauty so some get really bent and upset about men not dating black women while in reality most of us aren’t single and have no issue finding a man and aren’t lacking in confidence. Yes we also want to take care of our bodies. But the reality is physical shape is just part of what makes people attractive. If your face is stunning, personality is on point, good in bed, put yourself together well, and smart and supportive and only a little overweight? Men still flock and women do as well when larger men still have other great traits. It’s when they become resentful and reclusive and go on depression eating binges and won’t put effort into body hygiene and overall appearance that it becomes a huge issue as far as attracting partners. Also because, again, sometimes facially you just aren’t as attractive tbh no matter what body type or size you have. You can absolutely be fit and unattractive at the same time due to anything from your face to the way you smell, habits you have, the way you dress, etc.
To be fair, most fat people are used to things bending to their will, such as gravity, floor boards, chairs, etc.
It's amazing how these body positivity women believe it's easier to change the minds of millions of men rather than putting the fork down and going to the gym. Insanity.
I mean it's their right to be fat (no matter if it's unhealthy or not) just as it's your right not to date em.
@@miwfreak4312 that's fair. Just don't get upset at the cons of one's decisions.
These fat women turn down other fat guys that can be really interested in them
@@chocolate-soulja40 fuck no, I love me some big boys ♥️ (in all seriousness men experience fucked up body standards as well and it's very not ok)
@@jaxband2011 Tru!! I love me some chubby guys too!! It do take 2 to tangle. Where I'm from most fat people-men & women are obsessed with dating thin people. I'm from the dirty south. Most of us is fat, lol.