My husband has never been emotionally supportive. I’ve been through the ringer with my family and he has all the evidence and facts and still remains neural. When his mom was coming over and harassing me to tears too, he wouldn’t acknowledge it might be happening. I was being irrational. He finally did hear it, he did speak up for me that time. It took years and now he says “I don’t remember that.” I feel so alone that lately, I thought, I need to get back into shape so I can find someone that would be supportive, even if it was fake support. I’m so frigging lonely. I’ve been depressed for years. I don’t feel heard. I don’t have family I’ll talk to because it’s such a toxic bunch of people. I have friends but we are all busy.
Ugh I will get back in shape and gonna take whatever comes my way, unattached! That's how I used to roll. I gave myself to this relationship and I have no emotional support, no financial support no mental support. Nothing at all. He is so utterly selfish and so insensitive on top. And boring tho, he gives empty promises. I love sports and activities, and he loves TV and his money and food. I gotta cook, he want children but I see no point anymore in having children with him. I really don't. So I will get myself back in shape and learn to be independent again!!
You are not alone I'm right there with you. No emotional support from my husband either. I'm so depressed. I guess coming here to comment helps me to talk to other people since he doesn't want to acknowledge my need for emotional support.
I have no time to ask anyone who doesn't support me why they refuse to do so. It simply means that it is time to walk. Men who are threatened and insecure later on can become abusive. If they loved me in the first place they would have clapped for me in the initial stage. I have lived a life with a man who constantly found excuses to keep me down but expected me to support him. He was selfish. I wasted my time with him. If I listened to him I wouldn't have accomplished anything. The more I strived for excellence is the more he emotionally abused me and withdew hisself from helping with his son so that I wouldn't have any freedom to accomplish anything. I advise strong women to walk away from men such as these. They have one intention and one only. To manipulate you. They want to ensure that you are always in the position where you are relying on them so they can treat you in any manner and you have to put up with it. Do not stay. Know when to walk away.
If I disagree with him on anything, I'm being combative, have an attitude and think I know better than him...🙄 Like no bro. We don't have to agree on everything.
My husband says that spending quality time with me is me sitting next to him on the couch while he plays video games. He doesn't hear anything I have to say he never has a response to anything I say and of course doesn't remember anything that I say. He always sounds like he's having the best time with his friends and his coworkers but when it's time to spend moments with me and the kids he dials it back and goes into this shell. We have only been together 3 years and going on 2 years of marriage I thought this was something that happened after 10 to 15 years of marriage so I'm pretty bummed. He's extremely nice and loving and supportive when he wants sex but as soon as sex is over he kind of crawls back into being that non-existent man again. I'm lonely anytime I'm in the room with him I wish that I had never married him and I'd stayed single forever.
I was already unhappy with my partner before getting chronically ill with ms..now I'm done with him. I would rather be alone than alone in a relationship with someone who has constantly betrayed me and showed zero loyalty..
My husband has isolated me not allowing me to really have any friends or spend any time with my mom or kids. My grandmother passed away yesterday and he's doing nothing but accusing me of lying about her death and threatening to divorce me because of my spending 20 minutes talking to my brother about the funeral plans instead of with him before I had to go to work. I've also been sick lately with severe migraines and he's angry that the house wasn't spotless. Its just constant threats to me and demanding apologies from me he refuses to accept. I don't think I should have to apologize that my grandmother passed and for talking to my brother about it.
It's scary to move on but think about it. When I left it was hard and I cried. I had no family and I was in a foreign land. But the peace I felt was worth it
This is a lot!!! Im continuously battling separation in my mind but I feel like my kids won't recover. I will be fine but I think my babies especially my oldest son would just go crazy. We never started the relationship great, based on sex not foundational at all. I got pregnant and got to know him along the way and realized I made a mistake. I know we both did but we are to prideful to admit it because we dont want to be baby daddy or baby momma to anybody so we just kept trucking lol. I think we would be better as friends and I feel that he would find a better woman who would appreciate him and all he has to offer; because its not enough for me. I CAN'T make a man be what I need him to be if I accepted him as is in the beginning! Red flags everywhere that I ignored and now have to constantly battle spiritually what has been past down to my kids; (If your a Christian you know what I mean). I'm 35 and I honestly feel that being single and getting back to a healthy loving me is better than trying to save a marriage that wasnt destined to begin with. Sometimes its okay to call it quits so the other person can find a better mate. I find myself annoyed all the time, I dont want sex anymore because there are Sooo many issues preventing me from being reciprocal in any way. I'm always struggling with money issues and just things that I didn't create but because we are marrried I have to drag the debt too. I'm exhausted, really mentally done...
Omg how does this sound like me and my husband but I’m sure mine is worse. I got pregnant after moving in after 1 month together and only dated 6 months. He kept lots of stuff from me and lied to me about shit just so I would stay. I have battled for so long going on 13 yrs now and I’m to my breaking point. I am depressed, lonely have my own childhood trauma from sexual abuse to physical abuse. He doesn’t want to date me anymore he just wants to play on his phone after work and watch tv. Our daughter sees her dad as a not nice person and he has never had a relationship with her. I’m so lonely and tired 😢
Yet falling out of love or just never loved me at all. I was financially convenient for that episode of his life. Now that is an better financial place he no longer needs me.
I maybe getting some liposuction to my thighs this winter. It's because I'm very lean everywhere else. I am an athlete, eat very healthy exercise 5 to 6 days a week and still can not get rid of some fat pockets that have bothered me since childhood. He thinks I don't need it. He knows I've had this issue with my legs forever. I know this decision is personal and my own to make, but I need him to support me. I will be in pain and healing for a few weeks and need him to help me. What bothers me is I would absolutely support him take care of him if he wanted to something, take care of anything he's been self conscious about his entire life.
My wife is my unsupportive husband in every way that you describe. This has left me feeling so trapped. I have kids and I’m the daily “hands on” parent with them of the two of us and she is more of the “hands off” planner type and money manager. It’s hard.
Before I watch the vedio i am here to tell my problem publicly bcs I don’t have one to tell ... i am in a relationship for almost 3 years and i find my bf not supportive at all although we are majoring the same thing whenever I try to talk about it he feels bored and changes the subject and the problem is he is not even trying to take step forward and develop him self and this makes me worry about my future having unsuccessful partner
Before we had a child I always supported and encouraged my wife to do anything .when I was working and she wasn’t for a while she would feel guilty about spending money.she was not a shopper by nature ,I said she didn’t need to think like that I never felt like it was my money-her money we were together . It hurts like hell ,I am the home dad and this is exactly the shit I have to live with ,and it’s killing my spirit. my wife she wanted to have a child but never wanted to stay at home .I was happy to be the home dad -absolutely the best days of my life in the early years despite suffering the stresses of my wife’s insecurities and constantly undermining me even for simple things like dad can I have a drink yes mate just grab it yourself-chid grump ...wait for mum to get home mum cam you get me a drink ...me hang on mate I sad for you to get it ....wife to me grumpy as she gets the drink. I had tried talking many times with my wife about this topic and wanting to be on the same page.but nope I was being to hard - my boy is an amazing person and a great kid but spoiled by mum and very disrespectful to his mother when things don’t go his way .I always stood up for my wife telling my boy not to be so disrespectful ect the I was a bad man from my wife and son. I was always wanting to talk about things-I felt like it would help a relationship and we would grow together-she said all the right things but little did I know she lied to me and herself .talking about anything is like pulling teeth and she goes straight to ANGERY attack mode ,says nasty hurtful things .instead of say shit baby I didn’t realise you felt that way .it’s attack attack oh so it’s my fault....me. What what how do you get that out of this . Iv thought what am I doing wrong I read the men from Mars woman from Venus book and many other over the year thinking iv got to be doing something wrong .nothing have helped .been together 20+ years and still it’s me who’s wrong .depression has consumed my spirit. Life is tuning to shit and I’m so lonely yet I love my wife .I’ll hang on until my boy leaves home .then I’m giving up on this life .true unconditional love is a one way street. People suck.
I hope your doing well. I just wanted to reach out to you and say, I hear you. You’re not crazy, you’re not alone, you’ll be okay. It’s okay to leave before your son is grown. Depression is a horrible thing so do what you have to do to alleviate that pain. You can remarry and enjoy the rest of your life.
I just wanted to comment, I was in an abusive relationship with my kids father for 14 years and the only way honestly I was able to finally break free was because he had went to prison. In the time he was in prison I stayed by myself and got an extra job and tried to go see him and send money but then they moved him further away so all I could do then is send money and have it to where he could call me and talk to me and the kids. We did stay together when he first got out but he kept saying like I wasn't there for him, as a mother of four little children who was trying to do everything herself that was enough instead of thanking me for staying by myself instead of finding someone else and thanking me for using my income tax to get him a car when he got out he wanted to put me down still. He ended up going back to prison again and that time I was done so I worked on getting my CDL and my mother and grandmother stayed with me and now he tells me he is sorry for treating me like he did but after 7 years of being by myself I met someone at my work and fast forward we have been together for five years and married but he too is not supportive on my feelings on where I would like to stay or even what I like to wear because he also likes for me to dress like a prostitute in my opinion and do my nails etc and to a point it is fine if it is for him but he starts talking about when we are having sex me doing something with someone else and that is a big turn off for me because I am trying to follow God not this world so I have had to decide is it more important to do what he wants and be miserable or follow God and put my husband in God's hands. You have to be your own self and find things in life like helping others out when you can if you are someone who enjoys talking to others, help in something because because God gives us all gifts and sometimes what we are going through if we will learn from it can be a gift to help support another going through the same issues and God can change anyone but we can't so sometimes we have to stop the bleeding and step back without being ugly to the other one and tell God they are in your hands but please help me and give me strength and wisdom in this time and please help to be at peace with whatever you do in this situation. May God Bless everyone in your trials with your spouse and help you to get peace that surpasses all understanding 🙏.
Am deeply sorry...receive virtual hugs from this side... I am also almost giving up because my hubby expects me to support him always but when it is my turn for the only thing I have ever desired he says I will support you that's all...I love him deeply but how I wish he would be my greatest cheerleader.. its killing me...I feel so bitter yet I have to always pretend that I am fine..but I am almost breaking down..I feel unfulfilled,,I said no to all men no matter how rich they seem as long as they didn't believe in my dream.its the only thing I asked him when we got married..I feel like he lied to me..kindly help I am loosing meaning to life.. ,am I asking for too much...??
Im sorry,it hurts badly. That exactly what my partner says but does nothing. Iv since decided to leave because this is too much. I feel its much better to face life alone as a single woman than face life alone in a relationship
@@melmel7011 I am deeply sorry,,,so I personally recently I got a miracle or I really can't explain it,,,but I threatened to leave and it's something I have never done in my marriage ,,so he finally gave in..and now he is truly supporting me and i am greatful to God.i am finally working on my ministry and I am yet to release my album...I know it was painful for you buy I wish this could have been your story or even more...
@@melmel7011 maybe just to clarify,, he told me,he didn't think I was that serious and committed to my passion at first coz truly he had never heard me sing,then he gave me a story that really hurt him when he was still a teenager concerning music and why he ever since hated it ,,it sounded convincing, but we both decided to put our pains and pride aside and work towards the ministry....still paying for you...don't leave without knowing why he is not being supportive,,I believe there is always a reason..
@@vayohedge Thank you for the reply. He was not my hubby yet we were just in a committed relationship. Both families were aware. So when I look into the future with him I dont see a happy one. Iv since opened up to his family members and his brother told me he is like this, he is full of empty promises. I figured I cant change him its better to leave. They thought having me would change him
So we've been together like 7 years now we have a daughter 3 years old and HE HAS ALL THE SIGNS you said He has never supporting me for my own kinda "dream" and i want to get out of here but what about our kid? :/
Same here!! I do everything by myself. I study and i raise my kids and buy what they need from my money all what he does is spend time with his friends and when he comes home uses bad language i just keep silent when kids are around. I don't want them to be emotionally destroyed
I'm an online seller.Im selling quite well but when I think about what 2 people can do instead of just me I can see fortune and success.She doesn't want anything to do with it even though her balance is negative all the time.I tell her if we together work on ebay we can have alot of nice things but she doesn't want to.I feel so unsupported and alone :-(
Would a letter expressing how our relationships is and how I feel work? Since I have tried telling him but he is “always right” and he always wins the discussions and turn things around to the point that I keep quite again. It has happened so many times...Please advice. He was a really nice person when we were friends and the first months of boyfriends but after the 1st year of so (being boyfriends) he lost interest but I was so in loved that I didn’t see it until now that it has gotten worst and too obvios. We are married now and have a lovely baby girl so I really want to fix our relationship.
Hi Lorena, thank you for your comment. Yes, a letter is definitely an option. This way he will most likely read all of what you have to say without interrupting you in person. I think if you do write a letter, let him know what you want from him/need from him moving forward. Set clear expectations about your needs, and communicate your feelings. Put some positives in the letter so he doesn't feel emotionally attacked. Put some compliments in the beginning and towards the end, with your concerns and things that are not working in the middle of the letter. It's important that he put effort into making the relationship work. It's so important that both of you feel like a team, working together. At the end of the day, him always needing to be "right" is not going to work for you ,because that's impossible for one person to always be right. It's about both people expressing their emotions and making sure BOTH peoples needs are being met. Please keep me updated. Warmly, Kristin
Hello I have a question so I have been with my husband 10 years old ut just recently got married 1 year ago not the wedding I wanted but he is an illegal immigrant so we needed to get married because with my health I could not survive in his country but I think our relationship was toxic before but wishful hoping it got better after we got married by it everything you explained is him he really has not much to say unless he is hungry or needs something and if he is just using me that is not fair I really dont know please help?
Long video, with a seriously annoying amount of "you know"`s, explaining very accurately what I am experiencing, waiting for advise, that is what exactly? Is it to get professional help, because your video is useless?
My husband has never been emotionally supportive. I’ve been through the ringer with my family and he has all the evidence and facts and still remains neural. When his mom was coming over and harassing me to tears too, he wouldn’t acknowledge it might be happening. I was being irrational. He finally did hear it, he did speak up for me that time. It took years and now he says “I don’t remember that.” I feel so alone that lately, I thought, I need to get back into shape so I can find someone that would be supportive, even if it was fake support. I’m so frigging lonely. I’ve been depressed for years. I don’t feel heard. I don’t have family I’ll talk to because it’s such a toxic bunch of people. I have friends but we are all busy.
Ugh I will get back in shape and gonna take whatever comes my way, unattached! That's how I used to roll. I gave myself to this relationship and I have no emotional support, no financial support no mental support. Nothing at all. He is so utterly selfish and so insensitive on top. And boring tho, he gives empty promises. I love sports and activities, and he loves TV and his money and food. I gotta cook, he want children but I see no point anymore in having children with him. I really don't. So I will get myself back in shape and learn to be independent again!!
You are not alone
Even I'm undergoing the same situation...Literally going into depression
You are not alone I'm right there with you. No emotional support from my husband either. I'm so depressed. I guess coming here to comment helps me to talk to other people since he doesn't want to acknowledge my need for emotional support.
You are not alone am here feeling depressed I feel like taking my daughter to my mom then I go and hustle
I have no time to ask anyone who doesn't support me why they refuse to do so. It simply means that it is time to walk. Men who are threatened and insecure later on can become abusive. If they loved me in the first place they would have clapped for me in the initial stage. I have lived a life with a man who constantly found excuses to keep me down but expected me to support him. He was selfish. I wasted my time with him. If I listened to him I wouldn't have accomplished anything. The more I strived for excellence is the more he emotionally abused me and withdew hisself from helping with his son so that I wouldn't have any freedom to accomplish anything. I advise strong women to walk away from men such as these. They have one intention and one only. To manipulate you. They want to ensure that you are always in the position where you are relying on them so they can treat you in any manner and you have to put up with it. Do not stay. Know when to walk away.
I needed to read this.
@@XX-rv6yi you'll be ok. I'm still married to him. Still trying to creep my way out of this toxic situation that I'm in.
@@Skies133 you will be ok. Stay strong. Always remember that it's your choice to stay or leave.
@Heart of Hillary unfortunately yes but I'll be divorcing him for sure
If I disagree with him on anything, I'm being combative, have an attitude and think I know better than him...🙄 Like no bro. We don't have to agree on everything.
My husband says that spending quality time with me is me sitting next to him on the couch while he plays video games. He doesn't hear anything I have to say he never has a response to anything I say and of course doesn't remember anything that I say. He always sounds like he's having the best time with his friends and his coworkers but when it's time to spend moments with me and the kids he dials it back and goes into this shell. We have only been together 3 years and going on 2 years of marriage I thought this was something that happened after 10 to 15 years of marriage so I'm pretty bummed. He's extremely nice and loving and supportive when he wants sex but as soon as sex is over he kind of crawls back into being that non-existent man again. I'm lonely anytime I'm in the room with him I wish that I had never married him and I'd stayed single forever.
Im so sorry
Is like you’re describing my life :,)
😢😢
I was already unhappy with my partner before getting chronically ill with ms..now I'm done with him. I would rather be alone than alone in a relationship with someone who has constantly betrayed me and showed zero loyalty..
My husband has isolated me not allowing me to really have any friends or spend any time with my mom or kids. My grandmother passed away yesterday and he's doing nothing but accusing me of lying about her death and threatening to divorce me because of my spending 20 minutes talking to my brother about the funeral plans instead of with him before I had to go to work. I've also been sick lately with severe migraines and he's angry that the house wasn't spotless. Its just constant threats to me and demanding apologies from me he refuses to accept. I don't think I should have to apologize that my grandmother passed and for talking to my brother about it.
It's scary to move on but think about it.
When I left it was hard and I cried. I had no family and I was in a foreign land. But the peace I felt was worth it
This is a lot!!! Im continuously battling separation in my mind but I feel like my kids won't recover. I will be fine but I think my babies especially my oldest son would just go crazy. We never started the relationship great, based on sex not foundational at all. I got pregnant and got to know him along the way and realized I made a mistake. I know we both did but we are to prideful to admit it because we dont want to be baby daddy or baby momma to anybody so we just kept trucking lol. I think we would be better as friends and I feel that he would find a better woman who would appreciate him and all he has to offer; because its not enough for me. I CAN'T make a man be what I need him to be if I accepted him as is in the beginning! Red flags everywhere that I ignored and now have to constantly battle spiritually what has been past down to my kids; (If your a Christian you know what I mean). I'm 35 and I honestly feel that being single and getting back to a healthy loving me is better than trying to save a marriage that wasnt destined to begin with. Sometimes its okay to call it quits so the other person can find a better mate. I find myself annoyed all the time, I dont want sex anymore because there are Sooo many issues preventing me from being reciprocal in any way. I'm always struggling with money issues and just things that I didn't create but because we are marrried I have to drag the debt too. I'm exhausted, really mentally done...
I feel you girl.. sending a virtual hug!
Omg how does this sound like me and my husband but I’m sure mine is worse. I got pregnant after moving in after 1 month together and only dated 6 months. He kept lots of stuff from me and lied to me about shit just so I would stay. I have battled for so long going on 13 yrs now and I’m to my breaking point. I am depressed, lonely have my own childhood trauma from sexual abuse to physical abuse. He doesn’t want to date me anymore he just wants to play on his phone after work and watch tv. Our daughter sees her dad as a not nice person and he has never had a relationship with her. I’m so lonely and tired 😢
@@MsSullivan12 im sorry Sarah. Im sure you dont deserve this. I hope by now you have found the answers you are looking for.❤️🙏
😭🙏❤️ sending my love
I think the biggest tip is to fucking leave and value yourself because obviously they don't.
Yet falling out of love or just never loved me at all. I was financially convenient for that episode of his life. Now that is an better financial place he no longer needs me.
I'm so sorry to hear that. That definitely doesn't seem fair.
Does your partner if you have one have they always supported your You Tube Channel? Thank you just found you today 😊
I maybe getting some liposuction to my thighs this winter. It's because I'm very lean everywhere else. I am an athlete, eat very healthy exercise 5 to 6 days a week and still can not get rid of some fat pockets that have bothered me since childhood. He thinks I don't need it. He knows I've had this issue with my legs forever.
I know this decision is personal and my own to make, but I need him to support me. I will be in pain and healing for a few weeks and need him to help me. What bothers me is I would absolutely support him take care of him if he wanted to something, take care of anything he's been self conscious about his entire life.
Did you write this about my husband!
My wife is my unsupportive husband in every way that you describe. This has left me feeling so trapped. I have kids and I’m the daily “hands on” parent with them of the two of us and she is more of the “hands off” planner type and money manager. It’s hard.
Before I watch the vedio i am here to tell my problem publicly bcs I don’t have one to tell ... i am in a relationship for almost 3 years and i find my bf not supportive at all although we are majoring the same thing whenever I try to talk about it he feels bored and changes the subject and the problem is he is not even trying to take step forward and develop him self and this makes me worry about my future having unsuccessful partner
Before we had a child I always supported and encouraged my wife to do anything .when I was working and she wasn’t for a while she would feel guilty about spending money.she was not a shopper by nature ,I said she didn’t need to think like that I never felt like it was my money-her money we were together . It hurts like hell ,I am the home dad and this is exactly the shit I have to live with ,and it’s killing my spirit. my wife she wanted to have a child but never wanted to stay at home .I was happy to be the home dad -absolutely the best days of my life in the early years despite suffering the stresses of my wife’s insecurities and constantly undermining me even for simple things like dad can I have a drink yes mate just grab it yourself-chid grump ...wait for mum to get home mum cam you get me a drink ...me hang on mate I sad for you to get it ....wife to me grumpy as she gets the drink. I had tried talking many times with my wife about this topic and wanting to be on the same page.but nope I was being to hard - my boy is an amazing person and a great kid but spoiled by mum and very disrespectful to his mother when things don’t go his way .I always stood up for my wife telling my boy not to be so disrespectful ect the I was a bad man from my wife and son. I was always wanting to talk about things-I felt like it would help a relationship and we would grow together-she said all the right things but little did I know she lied to me and herself .talking about anything is like pulling teeth and she goes straight to ANGERY attack mode ,says nasty hurtful things .instead of say shit baby I didn’t realise you felt that way .it’s attack attack oh so it’s my fault....me. What what how do you get that out of this . Iv thought what am I doing wrong I read the men from Mars woman from Venus book and many other over the year thinking iv got to be doing something wrong .nothing have helped .been together 20+ years and still it’s me who’s wrong .depression has consumed my spirit. Life is tuning to shit and I’m so lonely yet I love my wife .I’ll hang on until my boy leaves home .then I’m giving up on this life .true unconditional love is a one way street. People suck.
I hope your doing well. I just wanted to reach out to you and say, I hear you. You’re not crazy, you’re not alone, you’ll be okay. It’s okay to leave before your son is grown. Depression is a horrible thing so do what you have to do to alleviate that pain. You can remarry and enjoy the rest of your life.
I just wanted to comment, I was in an abusive relationship with my kids father for 14 years and the only way honestly I was able to finally break free was because he had went to prison. In the time he was in prison I stayed by myself and got an extra job and tried to go see him and send money but then they moved him further away so all I could do then is send money and have it to where he could call me and talk to me and the kids. We did stay together when he first got out but he kept saying like I wasn't there for him, as a mother of four little children who was trying to do everything herself that was enough instead of thanking me for staying by myself instead of finding someone else and thanking me for using my income tax to get him a car when he got out he wanted to put me down still. He ended up going back to prison again and that time I was done so I worked on getting my CDL and my mother and grandmother stayed with me and now he tells me he is sorry for treating me like he did but after 7 years of being by myself I met someone at my work and fast forward we have been together for five years and married but he too is not supportive on my feelings on where I would like to stay or even what I like to wear because he also likes for me to dress like a prostitute in my opinion and do my nails etc and to a point it is fine if it is for him but he starts talking about when we are having sex me doing something with someone else and that is a big turn off for me because I am trying to follow God not this world so I have had to decide is it more important to do what he wants and be miserable or follow God and put my husband in God's hands. You have to be your own self and find things in life like helping others out when you can if you are someone who enjoys talking to others, help in something because because God gives us all gifts and sometimes what we are going through if we will learn from it can be a gift to help support another going through the same issues and God can change anyone but we can't so sometimes we have to stop the bleeding and step back without being ugly to the other one and tell God they are in your hands but please help me and give me strength and wisdom in this time and please help to be at peace with whatever you do in this situation. May God Bless everyone in your trials with your spouse and help you to get peace that surpasses all understanding 🙏.
Am deeply sorry...receive virtual hugs from this side...
I am also almost giving up because my hubby expects me to support him always but when it is my turn for the only thing I have ever desired he says I will support you that's all...I love him deeply but how I wish he would be my greatest cheerleader.. its killing me...I feel so bitter yet I have to always pretend that I am fine..but I am almost breaking down..I feel unfulfilled,,I said no to all men no matter how rich they seem as long as they didn't believe in my dream.its the only thing I asked him when we got married..I feel like he lied to me..kindly help I am loosing meaning to life.. ,am I asking for too much...??
Im sorry,it hurts badly. That exactly what my partner says but does nothing.
Iv since decided to leave because this is too much. I feel its much better to face life alone as a single woman than face life alone in a relationship
@@melmel7011 I am deeply sorry,,,so I personally recently I got a miracle or I really can't explain it,,,but I threatened to leave and it's something I have never done in my marriage ,,so he finally gave in..and now he is truly supporting me and i am greatful to God.i am finally working on my ministry and I am yet to release my album...I know it was painful for you buy I wish this could have been your story or even more...
@@melmel7011is it too late to ask you to hold on and wait on your miracle?
@@melmel7011 maybe just to clarify,, he told me,he didn't think I was that serious and committed to my passion at first coz truly he had never heard me sing,then he gave me a story that really hurt him when he was still a teenager concerning music and why he ever since hated it ,,it sounded convincing, but we both decided to put our pains and pride aside and work towards the ministry....still paying for you...don't leave without knowing why he is not being supportive,,I believe there is always a reason..
@@vayohedge Thank you for the reply. He was not my hubby yet we were just in a committed relationship. Both families were aware.
So when I look into the future with him I dont see a happy one. Iv since opened up to his family members and his brother told me he is like this, he is full of empty promises. I figured I cant change him its better to leave. They thought having me would change him
So we've been together like 7 years now we have a daughter 3 years old and HE HAS ALL THE SIGNS you said
He has never supporting me for my own kinda "dream" and i want to get out of here but what about our kid? :/
Pray cuz there ia nothing you can do to change him.
Same here!! I do everything by myself. I study and i raise my kids and buy what they need from my money all what he does is spend time with his friends and when he comes home uses bad language i just keep silent when kids are around. I don't want them to be emotionally destroyed
Thanks for the video.
I'm an online seller.Im selling quite well but when I think about what 2 people can do instead of just me I can see fortune and success.She doesn't want anything to do with it even though her balance is negative all the time.I tell her if we together work on ebay we can have alot of nice things but she doesn't want to.I feel so unsupported and alone :-(
Would a letter expressing how our relationships is and how I feel work? Since I have tried telling him but he is “always right” and he always wins the discussions and turn things around to the point that I keep quite again. It has happened so many times...Please advice. He was a really nice person when we were friends and the first months of boyfriends but after the 1st year of so (being boyfriends) he lost interest but I was so in loved that I didn’t see it until now that it has gotten worst and too obvios. We are married now and have a lovely baby girl so I really want to fix our relationship.
Hi Lorena, thank you for your comment. Yes, a letter is definitely an option. This way he will most likely read all of what you have to say without interrupting you in person. I think if you do write a letter, let him know what you want from him/need from him moving forward. Set clear expectations about your needs, and communicate your feelings. Put some positives in the letter so he doesn't feel emotionally attacked. Put some compliments in the beginning and towards the end, with your concerns and things that are not working in the middle of the letter. It's important that he put effort into making the relationship work. It's so important that both of you feel like a team, working together. At the end of the day, him always needing to be "right" is not going to work for you ,because that's impossible for one person to always be right. It's about both people expressing their emotions and making sure BOTH peoples needs are being met. Please keep me updated. Warmly, Kristin
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Hello I have a question so I have been with my husband 10 years old ut just recently got married 1 year ago not the wedding I wanted but he is an illegal immigrant so we needed to get married because with my health I could not survive in his country but I think our relationship was toxic before but wishful hoping it got better after we got married by it everything you explained is him he really has not much to say unless he is hungry or needs something and if he is just using me that is not fair I really dont know please help?
This video is cool. But she goes round in circles repeating the same things - which is annoying to hear🙄
Yep...
Too much "you know"...no I don't know... that's why I wanted to watch, but the video is too long just to hear "you know" and "like" and "uhm..."
Thanks so much for the feedback Kristin! I agree! lol
I do the same thing when I film talking videos 😂 I actually edit a lot of mine out!
Aaak! Trying to listen, but this is seriously distracting and annoying!
Very unprofessional. I was hoping for something more than a teenagers point of view on this very serious and difficult situation.
Your message is good but the valley girl voice is over powering the message. Sorry, I hate to be that person.. I really do.
Thanks for watching guys! Feel Free to comment below with any questions or feedback and I'll definitely get back to you.
Long video, with a seriously annoying amount of "you know"`s, explaining very accurately what I am experiencing, waiting for advise, that is what exactly? Is it to get professional help, because your video is useless?
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