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  • @abcx377
    @abcx377 6 місяців тому +589

    FORGIVE THEM not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve peace ❤

    • @RASHME20
      @RASHME20 6 місяців тому +4

      But how many times do you forgive them if hurt happens repeatedly?

    • @Roveneimi
      @Roveneimi 6 місяців тому +1

    • @ladybonezz8017
      @ladybonezz8017 6 місяців тому +4

      @@RASHME20That is a situation I am currently in as well. Having trouble forgiving because it keeps happening by the same family member. And unfortunately I do not have the resources to pull myself away yet, and it is a family member so not someone you can easily let go of. What I am learning is the best thing I think to do is firstly accept that things are the way they are. You cannot cannot control them anymore than they can control you. We can Try to create as much distance as we can from those people and when we do have to confront them, to do our best to create boundaries and stick to your true values, and work on empowering ourselves and living in unconditional love. Try to have some empathy. It is extremely hard and will require a lot of effort on our part but there’s not much else we can do when stuck in that situation. There are people like this in the world and we can’t always avoid them but we can learn to deal with them and exercise self control.

    • @janetownley
      @janetownley 6 місяців тому +4

      @@RASHME20 I think in that case it’s your responsibility to do your best to protect yourself from their continued abuse. I believe you have a right to not be abused. Jesus talked about letting the person strike you on the other cheek as well, but I don’t think he meant that you should be beaten in the face constantly for the rest of your life

    • @KhaoticDeterminism
      @KhaoticDeterminism 6 місяців тому +1

      we aim forgiveness at ourselves in our culture but it’s a grieving process…
      and you have to first accept the past which is also a grieving process
      nobody is ever gonna change how they feel for you
      you can still self affirm and grieve out how shitty how they feel makes you feel
      as you get it out of you how they feel bothers you less and less
      once the resentment you harbour towards yourself for finding yourself in that situation to begin with is gone so is that person from your mind
      it’s nice when they no longer control you emotionally
      #2Spirit #indigenous #spirituality #philosophy

  • @Thunderwaves-tr8pt
    @Thunderwaves-tr8pt 2 місяці тому +81

    You have a very big heart if you are watching this video

  • @pratibhabhushan
    @pratibhabhushan 6 місяців тому +221

    Forgiveness is hard when you have close relations hurt you over and over

    • @sifromwales5452
      @sifromwales5452 6 місяців тому +9

      Yes it really is hard.

    • @rl453
      @rl453 5 місяців тому +7

      I am finding myself feeling so much more charitable since going NC. Even wishing people their own healing from WAY over there. I understand that for some people it’s more difficult to go NC than for others. But it was impossible to forgive and also impossible for me to heal while being continually (& purposely) hurt.

    • @neelk18
      @neelk18 4 місяці тому +2

      So TRUE,,,
      It's really Hard ,,,,💔💔

    • @chickadeeacres3864
      @chickadeeacres3864 2 місяці тому

      @@neelk18only if you say it’s s hard. Once you say it, you create it.

    • @xkwho
      @xkwho 14 днів тому

      Got that right

  • @radiorebel1015
    @radiorebel1015 8 місяців тому +167

    Sometimes I think I forgive someone but then when I see them, I get angry all over again. Forgiveness is hard. It's especially hard to let go of anger and resentment that you've built towards them. But you don't want to continue to hold grudges for years because then it will start to affect you. At some point you have to let go. I'm trying my best to not only understand this but live it.

    • @KrisannaMarie
      @KrisannaMarie 5 місяців тому +15

      Totally. I'll think I'm healed and have moved on but it creeps back up and flares up again. My therapist told me sometimes it's cycles and each time it releases till it's gone. Hope so

    • @grod2695
      @grod2695 5 місяців тому

      Seek and ye shall find

    • @DYoungmusic
      @DYoungmusic 5 місяців тому +3

      I feel the same way… so how do you truly forgive that person.? do you just tell them you forgive them but also tell them you are choosing to no longer associate yourself with them ? Or what

    • @manu8098
      @manu8098 3 місяці тому +1

      How to forgive people who bully you

    • @lndperera4189
      @lndperera4189 3 місяці тому +8

      @@manu8098 Bullies are weak. They have low self-esteem. They expect a reaction so they can satisfy themselves. The last thing you want to do is, making them happy. Therefore the best revenge you can take is, move on with your life and forgive yourself. In the end YOU are the WINNER.

  • @Peace-12230
    @Peace-12230 Місяць тому +13

    today i choose to forgive, not because they deserve it but i wanna move on.

  • @kathleenwharton2139
    @kathleenwharton2139 Рік тому +221

    Forgiveness is the Hardest and most Challenging thing I have ever had to Do! It is definetely Not for Weak people! 😊❤

    • @jayakumardivakaran537
      @jayakumardivakaran537 Рік тому +7

      True❤❤

    • @joebutta7539
      @joebutta7539 7 місяців тому +3

      💜 very true, once one releases the hot coal, true healing begins.

    • @joebutta7539
      @joebutta7539 7 місяців тому +1

      If they can drop it that is (many can't due to pride, conviction...ego.& external "support")

    • @kathleenwharton2139
      @kathleenwharton2139 7 місяців тому

      @@joebutta7539
      You are Right! I am familar with all those reasons. I have found the best way for me..is to just Ask God to Bless EveryOne and kind of lump them and try to overlook the specifics. I married a man who treated me with disrespect and some of the children too. We are old now and his second wife died..I did pretty good when he was married to someone else..but my son built a house and has put us back together and now all the old feelings flood back as he continues to treat me with disrespect and expects me to honor him. This is tough! I am really praying for Gods Help. I don’t want bad for him but I don’t want to be treated like that either. I feel bad for my son. He meant well..but I don’t think he realizes the damage that was done to me. I Need to be Saved!

    • @julbro8451
      @julbro8451 6 місяців тому +4

      People who knowingly and willingly harm others for their own personal gain believe that forgiveness is a weakness. They are wrong. If you forgive, you get the last laugh, because when you forgive them, and even praise them in spite of their evil deceits and manipulations, your act of compassion heaps Karma upon them. They really hate it when they screw you, and you thank them for it. That is not the reaction they were hoping for!
      People who cause harm want to provoke their victims to anger and revenge so they may profit by it, but instead, "pour hot coals over their heads" with a benign response, as Jesus taught. Jesus said, "love your enemies, forgive your enemies." When they exhibit no remorse or repentance and continue their malevolent behaviors, the Karmic backlash catches up with them. It boomerangs on them when we respond with compassion instead of anger. Never seek justice in anger because that is the true weakness, and bad people know it.
      Buddhist teachings are the best kept secrets! And as the Hindus say, forgive, and let Karma do its work.

  • @StudyyyBunnyy
    @StudyyyBunnyy Рік тому +128

    Whenever I'm hurt or lazy or having a negative mindset, this yt channel and Buddhism help me so much to restart my life again 🙏

  • @thatsmellsdelicious5146
    @thatsmellsdelicious5146 Рік тому +58

    I forgive by forgiving myself, I don’t want to hold on to this anger and resentment because I love myself, I don’t want to hurt myself : That sentence made me cry ❤

  • @glenoneill3950
    @glenoneill3950 Рік тому +73

    ALL PAIN IS SELF CREATED.
    YOU ARE NOT FORGIVING OTHERS, YOU ARE FORGIVING YOURSELF.
    EVERYONE IS A REFLECTION OF YOU.
    BLESSINGS TO ALL

    • @nathantrujillo471
      @nathantrujillo471 8 місяців тому +2

      Meh maybe

    • @iqbalkazi4707
      @iqbalkazi4707 6 місяців тому

      Would any women forgive a Rapist

    • @iqbalkazi4707
      @iqbalkazi4707 6 місяців тому +5

      The answer is no

    • @darkfeather6857
      @darkfeather6857 5 місяців тому +5

      Nope. All pain is NOT self created.

    • @glenoneill3950
      @glenoneill3950 5 місяців тому

      @@darkfeather6857 ALL EXPERIENCES ARE SELF CREATED. THE WORD "SELF" IS NOT REFERING TO THE HUMAN IDENTITY, IT IS REFERING TO THE HIGHER SELF, ONE'S TRUE ESSENCE.

  • @aditi14209
    @aditi14209 Рік тому +241

    Follow Buddha's Eightfold Path
    1)Right Understanding
    2)Right Resolve
    3)Right Speech
    4)Right Action
    5)Right Living
    6)Right Effort
    7)Right Thought
    8)Right Self-Concentration.
    Namo Buddhay 🙏

    • @mitalpatel3088
      @mitalpatel3088 Рік тому +4

      This is called astang marg ( octagonal path)🙂

    • @aditi14209
      @aditi14209 Рік тому +2

      @@mitalpatel3088 It is also called Eightfold Path. Namo Buddhay 🙏

    • @edwardlee5412
      @edwardlee5412 Рік тому +1

      Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🐅🐅🐅

    • @savitagrover6941
      @savitagrover6941 Рік тому +1

      Forgiveness is not so easy. We are all creatures of habit, things , methods, thinking methods of living , Growing up again environment around us we do not really understand what is driving or motivation others to behave differently, Ignorance is extremely difficult to eradicate. Same peoples same response appears so auto mathematically. Any easy remedy to begin with……..

    • @zhamiladamn2975
      @zhamiladamn2975 9 місяців тому

      May Tripal Gem Bless you 🙏.

  • @user-id2lu9uz2z
    @user-id2lu9uz2z Рік тому +43

    I always forgive them who hurts me but I can't forget Amen

    • @DYoungmusic
      @DYoungmusic 5 місяців тому

      Do you forgive and still associate with that person u do you tell them you have to let them go

  • @sovereignprime4683
    @sovereignprime4683 Рік тому +41

    If forgiveness means letting go of the past completely, then I'm into it.

    • @sovereignprime4683
      @sovereignprime4683 Рік тому +2

      Too late... You should have liked this comment when I posted it!

  • @johnfretz1938
    @johnfretz1938 Рік тому +26

    I had an epiphany on the thought that forgiveness is being weak, or a weakness. It suddenly occurred to me that it's very easy to not forgive someone. It's easy to allow the gravity of anger to pull you along this way and that. What's harder, clearly, is to forgive. It takes effort if someone is not accustomed to it. So to forgive someone is to show strength, and as with most feats of strength, the more you do it, the easier it becomes. But it is always a strength. Never a weakness.
    Thank you for your talk.

  • @jonathantan3690
    @jonathantan3690 Рік тому +37

    Forgiveness is not acceptance.Forgiving the people who betrayed you is actually loving yourself. Forgive but use your wisdom to get away from such people. Namo Buddhaya.

    • @netizencapet
      @netizencapet Місяць тому

      but how do you do this while preserving the amount of inner trust to unrelated others? once burned 2x shy until shell shocked

  • @kalharadineth
    @kalharadineth Рік тому +16

    "if you did not forgive people what are you going to do"
    this is the best quote that I ever heard in my life. thank you.

  • @Iguana2289
    @Iguana2289 Рік тому +9

    Exactly forgiveness is treated as weakness . People start taking undue advantage of forgiveness.

  • @danieltenebrion9413
    @danieltenebrion9413 Рік тому +26

    This is so true. I found out the hard way that even a loving and forgiving person will still cheat and be hurtful to you while acting like they still love you. Through only trying to forgive others and not gaining any wisdom, they learn to seperate feelings from actions and will do the same hurtful things to you that have been done to them.

    • @kyokitty1
      @kyokitty1 Рік тому +1

      Yes. Hurt people, hurt people

  • @GRALOW_SHORTS
    @GRALOW_SHORTS Рік тому +15

    We can't change which happen in past . When we think nostalgicaly it gives the same feeling that we feeled in past . BUT accepting our past and let it go is best way to live a happy life.
    Namo buddhay🙏

  • @cherrybacon3319
    @cherrybacon3319 Рік тому +18

    I carry so much hurt and anger around with me over how I've been treated, and how I've not been strong enough to resist toxicity in certain people. Listening to this video made me cry, and I had to pause before I typed this because I couldn't see for the tears. I've often felt that holding 9n to my pain and anger stopped me from living my life, and I believe in being a better person, so before I continued typing, I forgave my Ex for his treatment of me, but informed him I wouldn't forget this time. 🍒

  • @vesnavesna978
    @vesnavesna978 Рік тому +50

    I am orthodox christian and I enjoy to listen to these words ...I have found many common aspects of life topics which are same and it serves to makes us better persons if we choose to apply in our lives. Blessings to all people of good will.❤❤❤

    • @KumarS-ls1wy
      @KumarS-ls1wy Рік тому +1

      Hi mam can you

    • @zhamiladamn2975
      @zhamiladamn2975 9 місяців тому

      Study Buddhism ☸ 💖.

    • @user-zh5yz1rz4v
      @user-zh5yz1rz4v 9 місяців тому

      We lost own country ,thousand of monks n nuns were killed.sprituial leaders were forces to kill each other.our hightest spiritual leaders force to leave own nation.n refugee in others land...we still forgive them because we have faith in buddhas teaching...but sad is Non of buddhist nation or buddhist try to raise voice against devil's china...infect sharing what they looted from us...and helped them to change the history..

    • @Starforme-xr6sb
      @Starforme-xr6sb 7 місяців тому +1

      Jesus was buddhist monk.we have an archaeological evidence for that

  • @chrisfield1952
    @chrisfield1952 Рік тому +15

    Amen and thank you 🙏❤️
    I didn't realize that once I forgive someone that I am really forgiving myself 👍🏼😊

  • @flowergirl7260
    @flowergirl7260 Рік тому +45

    I'm really glad to hear your teaching on the wisdom of detaching and staying away so you don't fall into the same trap. Distance does help soften things. THank you.

  • @rekhaverma1383
    @rekhaverma1383 Рік тому +37

    I M NOT BUDDHIST , BUT I DONOT WHY THESE VIDEOS PUSHES ME TO FOLLOW THE RIGHT PATH AND I LOVE LISTENING TO EACH AND EVERY VIDEOS VERY VERY CAREFULLY , BECAUSE IT DONOT TEACH US FIGHTING ...AND OTHER MISBEHAVIOURS WITH OTHERS BUT IT IS ALL ABOUT LIVING A PEACEFUL ND A HAPPY LIFE IGNORING EVERY BAD THINGS HAPPENING IN LIFE ........
    NAMOH BUDDHAY🙏🙏

    • @drl495
      @drl495 Рік тому +1

      ❤❤❤

    • @mahe4102
      @mahe4102 Рік тому +1

      So happy to hear and so true. :) May it continue to help you!!
      Namo Buddhaya!

    • @rekhaverma1383
      @rekhaverma1383 Рік тому

      @@mahe4102 NAMO BUDDHAY🙏

    • @mahe4102
      @mahe4102 Рік тому

      If I can recommend you something, that is 'Mahamevnawa Toronot Buddhist Monastery' which is the same organisation this monk is from. I suggest you see some videos there too, as it has helped me so much.
      Hope it helps you too!
      Namo Buddhaya 🙏🏼

    • @rekhaverma1383
      @rekhaverma1383 Рік тому

      @@mahe4102 IT IS THERE IN SOME OTHER LANGUAGE WHICH IS NOT UNDERSTANDABLE , and THERE IS NO ANY MONK TO EXPLAIN SUCH BEAUTIFUL WORDS LIKE THIS MONK DO ...🥲

  • @glenndouglas.T
    @glenndouglas.T Рік тому +14

    Thankyou Buddhism for this message. After 51 years of holding onto a deep rooted resentment and NOW hearing your message im ready to forgive - because, really, yes I need to forgive myself for the issue. It is time.

  • @deepikavishwakarma7806
    @deepikavishwakarma7806 Рік тому +60

    Dear thero,
    I always remember your teaching.
    Forgive with wisdom😊. Thanks for valuable teachings. Forgiveness is symbol of strong person.
    Thanks my teacher.

    • @Call_Upon_YAH
      @Call_Upon_YAH Рік тому

      Be it known:
      Through the Holy Spirit, God has put it on me to preach to those lost in the devil's deceit!
      I tell ye, truly, Jesus of Nazareth is the propitiation for the whole world's sins. He is the anointed one, for he is, Jesus Christ. God the Father has raised him from the dead; who is gone into heaven, and is on the right hand of God! Angels and authorities and powers being made subject unto him.
      Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life: no one comes to the Father, but by him. They who believe and are baptized with the Holy Spirit shall be saved; but they who believe not shall be damned. For they who believe not on him, shall die in their sins!
      I tell ye now to repent of your sins, accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, and you'll receive the gift of the Holy Spirit upon asking the Father!
      There are *NO* sub-divisions of Christianity. You're either a disciple of Christ or not. A Christian is someone who follows God's word, not a religion. Who obey the Father and follow his will; not man's nor their own heart's. Unless you keep Jesus' commandments, think not the Holy Spirit will dwell within you!
      They who heed this message and did what was stated with an open heart to God...
      Read the Holy Bible (KJV) daily and every time before you read, pray to the Father and ask:
      "Lord I ask that you give me understanding of your word, that I interpret it the way you want me to, and none of my own. I ask you in Jesus' name, amen."
      1 John 2:2 KJV
      2 And he is the propitiation for our sins: and not for ours only, but also for the sins of the whole world.
      Acts 13:26-33 KJV
      26 Men and brethren, children of the stock of Abraham, *and whosoever among you feareth God, to you is the word of this salvation sent.*
      27 *For they that dwell at Jerusalem, and their rulers, because they knew him not, nor yet the voices of the prophets which are read every sabbath day, they have fulfilled them in condemning him.*
      28 And though they found no cause of death in him, yet desired they Pilate that he should be slain.
      29 *And when they had fulfilled all that was written of him, they took him down from the tree, and laid him in a sepulchre.*
      30 *But God raised him from the dead:*
      31 And he was seen many days of them which came up with him from Galilee to Jerusalem, who are his witnesses unto the people.
      32 *And we declare unto you glad tidings, how that the promise which was made unto the fathers,*
      33 God hath fulfilled the same unto us their children, in that he hath raised up Jesus again; as it is also written in the second psalm, Thou art my Son, this day have I begotten thee.
      1 Peter 3:22 KJV
      22 Who is gone into heaven, and is on the right hand of God; angels and authorities and powers being made subject unto him.
      John 14:6 KJV
      6 Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.
      Mark 16:16 KJV
      16 He that believeth and is baptized shall be saved; but he that believeth not shall be damned.
      John 8:24 KJV
      24 I said therefore unto you, that ye shall die in your sins: for if ye believe not that I am he, ye shall die in your sins.
      Acts 2:38 KJV
      38 Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.
      Luke 11:13 KJV
      13 If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children: how much more shall your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to them that ask him?
      John 14:21-24 KJV
      21 *He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him.*
      22 Judas saith unto him, not Iscariot, Lord, how is it that thou wilt manifest thyself unto us, and not unto the world?
      23 Jesus answered and said unto him, *If a man love me, he will keep my words: and my Father will love him, and we will come unto him, and make our abode with him.*
      24 He that loveth me not keepeth not my sayings: and *the word which ye hear is not mine, but the Father's which sent me.*

  • @dec66.18
    @dec66.18 Рік тому +19

    Forgive, but with wisdom.Wise words.Thank you ven. Bhante. 🙏

  • @Simo_Wolfclaws
    @Simo_Wolfclaws Рік тому +13

    So forgiving is something good that I do to myself, not to others. Thank you for this beautiful message. ❤️🙏

  • @rtytrtyrfdgdfgf
    @rtytrtyrfdgdfgf 2 місяці тому +35

    I came to know Christ in jail in 2013 by reading a book, "Overcoming spiritual blindness" by James P. Gills MD. The veil was taken off my eyes. Heaven came through for me in my finances too, getting $25,000 monthly. I can support God's work and give back to my community. God is absolutely more than enough!

    • @NatashaMurphy-zf5rj
      @NatashaMurphy-zf5rj 2 місяці тому

      Hello how do you make such monthly ? I'm a born Christian and sometimes I feel so down of myself because of low finance but I still believe in God...

    • @dennisbattye
      @dennisbattye 2 місяці тому

      Isaiah 45:3 speaks of a transfer of riches from the heathen to the righteous... I will give you the treasures of darkness and the riches hidden in secret... I received this for my household in Jesus' name. Amen!.

    • @simonedennis695
      @simonedennis695 2 місяці тому

      What a testimony!!! 🙏🙏🙏
      I'm genuinely curious to know how you earn that much monthly?

    • @JamesRodriguez-dj8vd
      @JamesRodriguez-dj8vd 2 місяці тому

      I started pretty low though, $500 thereabouts. The returns came massive. Liam is in school doing well, telling me of new friends he's meeting in school. Thank you Claire Morin, you're a miracle

    • @user-nw9wr4cm1d
      @user-nw9wr4cm1d 2 місяці тому

      Can I also do it?? My life is facing lots of challenges lately.

  • @sanjeebtalukdar2353
    @sanjeebtalukdar2353 Рік тому +42

    I am forgiving myself by letting go of resentment ,anger, bitterness, jealousy,envy. Filling each day and moment of my life with love , happiness, joy ,wisdom,kindness, listening to others, health ,wealth ,abundance , gratitude,prosperity. Namoh Buddhaye ❤.

  • @davidholman48
    @davidholman48 6 місяців тому +4

    I've found that one of the premises of my ability to forgive is realizing that the one who hurt me was a broken person, full of fear, self doubt, and a sense of loss. Case in point: My late mother was physically and emotionally abusive. I ran away from home at age 15. Many years later as I began to discover things about her childhood, about her relationships, and about the disappointments she endured, I saw, clearly, she was broken and lashed out even when she knew what she was doing. She was the loneliest person I had ever known. Now she is dead, and my ardent prayer for her is that God's understanding and divine love, and heavenly healing agencies are working to integrate her, to heal her. And I want her to know that I understand and all is forgiven. It brings me peace, and I hope it restores her in the fullest sense.

  • @laxmiroy1921
    @laxmiroy1921 Рік тому +302

    Who obey Buddhism 🙏

    • @anfunnyvedio4444
      @anfunnyvedio4444 Рік тому +5

      🙋💕💕💕

    • @abdulmajithg
      @abdulmajithg Рік тому +9

      Buddha is one of prophets who are sent by God..

    • @hsu5219
      @hsu5219 Рік тому +7

      🙋‍♀️ I do🙏 !

    • @animewings2787
      @animewings2787 Рік тому +4

      @@abdulmajithg 😊 we all are made by God

    • @SrinathLahiru
      @SrinathLahiru Рік тому +28

      ​@@animewings2787 who told you that? How did you realise that? The concept of God is created by people! It's all about belief. Buddhism is not about belief. It's all about reality!

  • @CarrieannStirton
    @CarrieannStirton 3 місяці тому +4

    It's Easy to say you should forgive. Forgiveness comes naturally you can force it. When it does happen though you don't even realise until you see that person and say to your self ''I don't hate u any more I feel sorry for you '' I have experienced this once in my life and I'm so grateful I have forgiven as it would mess with my head hating. To forget is a different story that's impossible xx

  • @common9
    @common9 Рік тому +7

    Truly agree. However, the challenge arises when we see that person physically and being strong enough to make a change.

  • @Rai0013.
    @Rai0013. Рік тому +15

    When you forgive someone not only better for that person, also better for your mind health.our mind can't bear burden.

  • @blackcat2628zd
    @blackcat2628zd Місяць тому +2

    It took me years of hard work to forgive my mum. The relief was huge and I am very proud of myself, It was VERY hard. My brother did the most horrible thing and was hurting me many many times. I was always forgiving him because despite it all I loved him. I can´t and don´t want to forgive him for the last thing he did. I can´t let him hurt me again and again. I am not a negative person, I am not eaten with anger or hate. I am just protecting myself. Finally.

  • @Klurpaderp
    @Klurpaderp Рік тому +18

    I really needed this today. Thank you so much. I have been hurt a lot by people close to me and it's easy to get angry and resentful. I'm trying so hard to let go of the anger but it's tough.

    • @Daisy-oi2jy
      @Daisy-oi2jy Рік тому +4

      Write a letter to whoever has hurt you. Call them all the names under the sun. BUT the last line is I AM WILLING TO FORGIVE YOU. Sign it. Then tear in to small pieces and throw away.

    • @shreenjandutta
      @shreenjandutta 9 місяців тому +1

      ​@@Daisy-oi2jywhat a good meaningful exercise
      Thank you u know
      Thank u so much 💞💞

    • @Daisy-oi2jy
      @Daisy-oi2jy 9 місяців тому +3

      You are so welcome.
      By writing a letter it brings bad feelings into physical reality. By destroying letter it clears things.
      It has the same effect as shouting at someone, you feel better briefly but then you may feel bad/guilty
      . By writing the letter has the same effect but the other person doesn't know.
      It works for me every time. 💖

  • @mithunsarkar7002
    @mithunsarkar7002 Рік тому +7

    I love Lord Buddha and his lesson.But it’s very hard to forgive enemies but i shall try.

  • @bmCommando0
    @bmCommando0 Рік тому +9

    I relate to this the most When I sit alone

  • @crbarnes001
    @crbarnes001 4 місяці тому +2

    It's so true. A friend once couldn't forgive someone that hurt her badly. She kept reliving it and getting angry. I simply asked her how many times are you going to allow you to keep hurting you. By holding onto the anger she is continually hurt. The other person either doesn't care or is enjoying seeing them hurt over and over. At what point will she let go snd stop hurting herself? Forgiveness is a must. It help to move forward.

  • @chandrakanthidesilva2216
    @chandrakanthidesilva2216 Рік тому +6

    Forgiveness is good quality of a human.if someone think forgiveness is a weakness he is not a wise person

  • @henrytang2203
    @henrytang2203 Рік тому +8

    Forgive, but remember the lesson. It's a very powerful message, thank you.

  • @janetownley
    @janetownley 6 місяців тому +17

    BUT forgiving doesn’t mean you subject yourself to more abuse by the person, or that you need to suddenly have a close and trusting relationship.

  • @limchea
    @limchea Рік тому +6

    🙏🙏🙏Forgive someone is like we liberate ourself from bad matter such as ill will, hatred, jealousy by doing good thing, what you think…

  • @reginaballensiefen7473
    @reginaballensiefen7473 Рік тому +5

    What a beautiful man !

  • @sharonallison9922
    @sharonallison9922 Рік тому +6

    LET'S NOT BE NAIVE....ALL THING'S ARE'NT FORGIVABLE MY DARLING 🙏😇💖

  • @JulieBlossoms
    @JulieBlossoms 9 місяців тому +4

    I love you and this channel so much, I swear this feels like one of the only stable things in my life. I wish I had an inner voice that knew all the things that you knew. That buddishm knew. I struggle with mental health and struggle with many different aspects of mental health I feel like my mind will never shut up and I’ll never make it out of the hole that is my heart, my brain and my life. But when I’m here and watch these videos I feel closer to peace than I ever have, not entirely because I’m afraid a couple of videos won’t completely heal me. But I’m able to take a clean fresh and cold breath through my system and just for a minute I’m ok. And I’m grateful that you’ve given me this even if it’s just a couple of breaths out of the billions I’ll take in the lifetime.

  • @grannyblaylock623
    @grannyblaylock623 Рік тому +6

    THANK YOU FOR BEING SO KIND.. YOU BRING PEACE🌹

  • @audrey04021
    @audrey04021 Рік тому +3

    Finally, the right answer where things come together in a logical way! Thank you for providing the "wisdom" component to this dilemma. I feel good about walking away and never returning, still feel the love I once felt but know that it is impossible to interact, and needed to know that once I have learned this time I will not need to repeat--here and in the future. 🙏🏼

  • @Christynmaine
    @Christynmaine Рік тому +8

    Such good advice. Thank you. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself, then share with others.

  • @WasanaSathsarani-dj2rt
    @WasanaSathsarani-dj2rt Рік тому +4

    Don't let yesterday take up too much of today. For inner peace best way is giveup, forgive with wisdomly.

  • @poojakakraina6893
    @poojakakraina6893 Рік тому +1

    Gratitude 🙏🏻
    I was so hurt... Your guidance is what changed my life and helped me strongly for focusing on my true feelings, path.... All dark clouds faded..... My blessings..... respect and gratitude 🙏🏻

  • @robertwilliams3527
    @robertwilliams3527 Рік тому +1

    It’s my favorite how he throws in “right” here and there
    It’s like a period at the end of his sentence

  • @minicraftylady
    @minicraftylady Рік тому +8

    I loved to hear from you host..your words are very helpful...for me, i feel better if i forgive those people whu hurt me..my life becomes easy and free because i also forgive myself too

  • @vijayapurdairy7786
    @vijayapurdairy7786 Рік тому +5

    It's hard to forgive but any other change we can make .

  • @danaicastillo6472
    @danaicastillo6472 Рік тому +1

    Thank you Bante, as I see it it's a gentle strengths approach towards persons around us who manipulate.
    I have kept from another teaching, 'anger will never, ever help you in anything with your life'.
    Next step is forgiveness.
    Letting go of toxic' safety', and moving on to what life delivers.
    It's usually better.
    Bante, many blessings and everyday merits, may you be well and happy🙏🕯️Namo Buddhaya

  • @sangeetanair3643
    @sangeetanair3643 Місяць тому +1

    I have Forgiven and let go all those people who have hurted me although they never realised their mistakes as they are always keen in finding faults in others than themselves ...But I am blessed with a large sensible heart but I don't want them back ever again in my life because their reactions depends on their mood and circumstances ..today good tomorrow they will end up behaving the same..if they are angry they feel they have the right to degrade any person....... And as we age emotionally we are unable to digest such craps ..We have to learn to protect our heart that is so emotional and vulnerable..it's always better to stay away...Let them be happy always..God bless them

  • @punkyb3713
    @punkyb3713 Рік тому +5

    This video has help me forgive those who have truly hurt me in life. I have learned many lessons ❤

  • @sandip_kanzariya8476
    @sandip_kanzariya8476 Рік тому +3

    I had done same thing with some one but, I have little bit regret for that but I had done it with forgiveness + wisdom so, I have regret now after listening this.
    Thank you !

  • @PhuongNguyen-ci7sb
    @PhuongNguyen-ci7sb Місяць тому

    Thank you so much. I always watch your channel whenever I can’t calm down because someone hurt me.

  • @DartmoorPaul
    @DartmoorPaul Місяць тому

    I like this and the lovely calming, caring voice you have. I struggle with my therapy and the word “forgiveness” because of how it has been portrayed to me by mum “I’ve been to church so my sins are all forgiven”, basically “I’m off the hook”. So we’ve substituted the word Forgiveness for “Letting Go”. I can now link this to your words of wisdom and being kind to myself. Thank you for these really wonderful videos.

  • @ribz747
    @ribz747 Рік тому +10

    Thank you. I needed to see this today ❤

  • @Vikings_06
    @Vikings_06 Рік тому +4

    Namo buddhaya..!❤️🇳🇵

  • @MayMay-od5wv
    @MayMay-od5wv Рік тому +2

    😊 Thank you. Your message really lifted me today.

  • @teresiamarangu8732
    @teresiamarangu8732 Рік тому

    True. Forgiveness throws out the pain and replaces it with peace and strength to move on. I forgive all....

  • @maryannfroa4698
    @maryannfroa4698 Рік тому +12

    Thank you for giving me strength to forgive someone 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @Chinna502
    @Chinna502 Рік тому +5

    I'm waiting for you're video sir why because your words are so inspiring to me .so many people faced problem to forgiveness

  • @joannechia2925
    @joannechia2925 Рік тому +1

    So much wisdom in 3 minutes. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @sarahraja4069
    @sarahraja4069 4 місяці тому +2

    I always pray that GOD forgive my sin because I have forgiven those who have hurts me over and over again.

  • @stephencarpenter3124
    @stephencarpenter3124 Рік тому +11

    True forgiveness is a powerful thing.

  • @holylandgaya1457
    @holylandgaya1457 Рік тому +3

    I listen attentively and try to act like the teaching of the Supreme Buddha.
    Namo budday

  • @teresadockery7018
    @teresadockery7018 Рік тому

    Yes ! Trying your best to forgive! It’s not easy but we have to trying hard.

  • @polaroid2913
    @polaroid2913 11 місяців тому

    Thanks. The amount of relief is unmatched. You really should forgive you in order to overcome self-limiting thoughts. Karma exists. Thanks

  • @DIMALRANDIKA
    @DIMALRANDIKA Рік тому +3

    Thank you! It just helps me to forgive myself

  • @carolinehaythornthwaite2965
    @carolinehaythornthwaite2965 5 місяців тому +3

    Forgiveness may be difficult when the abuse comes from close relatives, but you can learn to let go.

  • @nicoleandrews3961
    @nicoleandrews3961 2 місяці тому

    i love the part where the correct way to forgive, includes gaining wisdom from the event/interaction.
    i think thats the one thing i was missing with this major hurt i have been going through.
    i felt i was wronged and have nothing to show for it and that made it very hard to forgive.
    I need to focus on the lesson, what it taught me, the wisdom.. and that allows me to truly forgive.
    thinking back on my past experiences where it was easy for me to let go and forgive, i actually did focus on what i gained.
    thanks for this - breakthrough

  • @vaishalitayade10may
    @vaishalitayade10may 10 місяців тому +1

    I just needed some guidance today and this video gave me that. thank you so much!

  • @mdmurshidalam1337
    @mdmurshidalam1337 Рік тому +4

    Namo Bhudhaya sir i watch your all video because I want to learn in English as well as motives ourselves

  • @aybigetek
    @aybigetek Рік тому +3

    when we forgive people we choose love and understanding.. we love life.. block lists are hate..

  • @twilit
    @twilit Рік тому

    the things he says and talks about feel good 😌

  • @simadas7962
    @simadas7962 Рік тому

    I will be happy to watch a video on self confidence in the light of Supreme Buddha's teachings.

  • @bmCommando0
    @bmCommando0 Рік тому +6

    Namo buddhay sir
    How are you I hope you're doing good
    Thank you for these learnings

  • @rejanisreevalsom8818
    @rejanisreevalsom8818 Рік тому +4

    Love from India 🇮🇳 💖 🙏 🌹

  • @rhondacox8289
    @rhondacox8289 5 місяців тому +1

    I am a work in progress. I'm trying and trying to forgive. I have let go of the anger but the hurt is so hard to let go. I'm learning to love myself more than the hurt.

  • @mikeandjuliecarson5067
    @mikeandjuliecarson5067 Рік тому

    What a beautiful clip. Much needed for me. Thank you.

  • @kalpasri3654
    @kalpasri3654 Рік тому +3

    We want more videos and motivation from u 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

  • @gayashakawmini5809
    @gayashakawmini5809 Рік тому +3

    Namo Buddhaya🙏🙏🙏🌼

  • @mindovermovement6401
    @mindovermovement6401 3 місяці тому

    Forgive and create boundaries.. the best advice ❤❤❤

  • @devasathviksrinika4863
    @devasathviksrinika4863 6 місяців тому

    Thank you so much.. Really today my confusion about forgiveness has gone..

  • @rainarahman635
    @rainarahman635 Рік тому +4

    Thanks Buddhism, again.Thank you❤❤

  • @KellysMagicalRealm
    @KellysMagicalRealm Рік тому +13

    I notice when I forgive someone I go back to that person and get hurt again. It’s hard to forgive and let go

    • @lovelightshining4444
      @lovelightshining4444 Рік тому +3

      ❤️Happy Easter Blessings Dear Kelly!🐇🕯️🌹🙏😇✨💛✨

    • @rainbowgirljules
      @rainbowgirljules Рік тому +6

      The person who is hurting you is the hurt person: hurt people hurt people. It is the other person's weakness and not yours. When you realise that the other person is in pain then it becomes easier for you to become less hurt by them.
      You begin to have compassion for the other person, and in turn, true forgiveness comes easier. This takes practice, I know this only too well!

    • @KellysMagicalRealm
      @KellysMagicalRealm Рік тому +1

      @@lovelightshining4444 happy Easter my dear friend ❤️🙏

    • @KellysMagicalRealm
      @KellysMagicalRealm Рік тому +1

      @@rainbowgirljules Thank-you Julia! I really appreciate that!

    • @winniewee1393
      @winniewee1393 Рік тому

      Just walked away from this negative person no more connections with these people
      Be happy and enjoy your day ya

  • @HH-80
    @HH-80 Рік тому +1

    Thanks for sharing your valuable words and please never stop 🙏🏻

  • @baijuvikraman1269
    @baijuvikraman1269 6 місяців тому

    Each words can keep it as a treasure in our mind.more motivational and inspirational speech who taught us how to walk,run and chase our dreams..reallu stupendous !!!!

  • @dlittlejohn6177
    @dlittlejohn6177 Рік тому +3

    🤔Very interesting. I've never thought of forgiveness in this manner. It's brilliant! So much of the time, I am in my own head that the only thing driving my anger was what I looked at as things being done to me. It's amazing how much of our lives is negatively effected by our thoughts and feelings about ourselves. I really like the way you worded this. Thank you.

    • @gurubhaikhalsa9337
      @gurubhaikhalsa9337 5 місяців тому

      Yes, it's like not forgiving them is signing up for perpetual victimhood.

  • @rockerzzz...353
    @rockerzzz...353 Рік тому +2

    Main point : Forgiveness + wisdom
    Is the correct way to follow to get past something hurtful..
    Follow it ! & love yourself !
    Namo Budhaaya

    • @Daisy-oi2jy
      @Daisy-oi2jy Рік тому

      Be WILLING to forgive.
      WILLING IS A MAGICAL WORD. ❤️ 🙏

  • @aynos629
    @aynos629 Рік тому +2

    Beautiful, thank you. And, useful!

  • @amuthevalli9524
    @amuthevalli9524 Рік тому

    Thank you as a reminder in life.Namo buddaya...

  • @radhikabose3258
    @radhikabose3258 Рік тому +3

    Thank you for all the inspirational videos

  • @adrienne3334
    @adrienne3334 Рік тому +4

    I've already forgiven everyone whom has trespassed against me ever. But what these people need to do is 'Forgive themselves' Forgiveness always begins with self..namaste 🙏

  • @indayboding7735
    @indayboding7735 Рік тому

    I'm not a Buddhism, but I love listening him.

  • @AlexaPiantini
    @AlexaPiantini Місяць тому

    I am glad I healed myself.