I honestly didn't mean for the video to be this long, but like all good conversations sometimes things just flow and you get caught up. Maybe play it at 1.5x speed? I'd love to know, Are you an introvert or extrovert? What about it do you find challenging in your every day life?
I get the “I don’t miss people”… I don’t miss people, I never have. It makes for very strained relationships because people think I’m either angry at them or just using them for the moment. The truth is I love my friends, but it’s literally out of sight out of mind. Once I’m able to interact again, I enjoy those interactions until next time. While I get that it’s important to use tools to make up for those deficits, I wish extroverts would understand that I don’t function in the same way and also make concessions… I wish some of our traits were more socially acceptable
Luckily I think with our generation and those after, understanding personality differences is becoming more common place because there is more education around it. Hopefully that continues
1. Congratulations on being able to say what you need to say. You’re fine just the way you are. 2. I’m you, in female form. My family has learned to accept me as I am. I am an only child, have 1 child, and 1 grandchild and I’m still not a overly emotional person. Chitchat exhausts me and I absolutely need my time alone. I have a few friends that I can go months without talking to and pick up right where we left off. I’ve come to love who I am and I no longer feel the need to apologize for who I am. 3. Great Video! Thank you so much 😊
Oh god, I've tried a spontaneous trip once. I got to my hotel... And proceeded to watch movies the whole weekend because I didn't know what to do with myself.
Introvert here! But my boyfriend says I can make friends anywhere I go. I enjoy talking to people one on one, but I'm pretty bad in groups and I feel like I need a break from others (sometimes it's because I feel empathy for them). Your experience/take was super interesting to listen to.
I've talked to people like that before, who's empathy level is so high they can experience overwhelm simply through being around someone emotionally charged about something. I can't imagine how you feel lol literally. Though that's probably why you are so good at making friends!
@@AdrianLoganLive Lol it's awful. I can only assume, but I bet your logical thinking can ground people who are overly emotional in certain situations. And that can be nice to have around.
I’ve never had something resonate with me so much. I do have deep meaningful relationships with some family members and friends, so I am not on the extreme side of things, but it is about the same.
Just want to say thanks for the video. Lord knows I could have kept going even if it was 5 hrs long. You have no idea what it means to me. Been feeling "lost" of late. I know I am quieter than most of the people I am around. And sometimes it really feels weird. Like I am some "alien" like thing not really connecting with anyone. Like when I happen to go through these sudden urges to be by myself or this emotions that I cant seem to explain. I've resonated with a couple of stuff you've said and it's really nice to hear someone else's viewpoint, since I have no one to talk to about how I feel and all.... I know there is still a long way to go for me to understand who I am. And this video made that slightly clearer. Hopefully the me 10 years from now will have reached the point where we both figured out what we need to do. Would like a video on how to be more comfortable with oneself or about just being as reflective and in depth at least as you. I really like to the way you articulate stuff. (I know my head wonders far and wide, but sometimes writing it down is really hard) (would like to journal). If possible. Definitely going to watch your other videos, look forward to more content. Thanks again.
I'm glad it's helped in some way. Your video suggestions are worth making a video on. I'll have to ponder those topics a bit and collect my thoughts on it. The life long self discovery process is both rewarding and challenging, and I think that's part of the point. Only those willing to go through the tough parts get to take joy in the beauty of it. It's a worthwhile pursuit!
As someone who's an extreme extrovert, I can tell you that being an introvert is underrated. People are like CC tvs. The more of them you have around you, the more surveillance and scrutiny you're under.
That is true. I do feel there is less social drama in my life as a result. Glad to hear an extrovert sees value in the introverted ways. Sounds like you have a well rounded perspective on it
It's amazing how much I've learned about myself now, that I knew nothing about 5 years ago (despite it being there), self awareness is really a life long pursuit. A worthy one at that. Thanks for watching!
I can completely relate to this video. So far in my learning that I am introvert. I have mostly read about it in books/from websites. Haven't listened to many videos on the subject. I really appreciated hearing you voice it. I found myself going "yes" or yep "that issue" or " he gets it" Almost as if I had spoken the words myself!
Truly miss you posting videos. I often come back to this and your autism video because no one articulates what I go through like you did. I hope you're doing well.
Hey. It means a lot to know that. Thank you. I've been doing...okay lol I think I've been a bit overwhelmed that past few months, and my job has been challenging, and I started taking an accounting course which eats up a lot of my time. I just don't have the availability to manage everything I want to do. I've started making tiktok videos lately though because it takes less time. Maybe I will post them here on this channel as Shorts, but if you're on tiktok find me: www.tiktok.com/@adrian.logan?_t=8nYrnEvFI6n&_r=1
I can definitely relate to these! Overthinking can be incredibly exhausting. It’s like you train your brain to think so much that you end up forgetting how to act sometimes. All of your brain energy is so focused on details and analyzing things that you can become stuck in your own little bubble. That’s why I talk to myself sometimes too, because it refocuses my energy outwards and gets me out of that cycle of keeping my energy stuck in my own head, or at least it feels that way! Some of this I think is also a struggle of being a man in society. I think women are more likely to be socialized when they’re younger and encouraged to let out their emotions, and they receive emotional reinforcement because they fit into that stereotype of what is expected for a girl. With boys, not so much. I too value information, especially concerning ideas, and love learning about other people’s routines to paint a picture to try to better understand another person, and I can only focus on one individual at a time, as group dynamics both freak me out (it’s sometimes unnerving for me to see people’s behavior shift according to the pressures of their peers) and overwhelm me. The way I connect with people is through discussing ideas. My family relationships have also never been close, there’s not a common interest we share, and when I have tried to share my intellectual interests, they are never as interested in the same things as I am, so that is why I often find I end up feeling closer to strangers than even within my own family. TL;DR: Very relatable! What do we do now though, should we all buy an island somewhere and start a new country?
That's a good point about how talking to yourself refocuses the energy outwards. Very much true with how I feel about it. And you're right, being a male with the typical male expectations would have certainly added to my emotional resistance and limitations with emotions. I've never put it into words like that but you're right, it's unnerving seeing people's behaviors change based on peer pressure...or even simply the presence of someone else. You experience one version of them when it's just the two of you, then suddenly when you catch them with their other friends they are a completely different way. Maybe it's their own insecurities, maybe it's their need to feel like they belong so they change with each group. But either way it feels weird to see play out. I think an Island is the only way! I've got like $7 on my pocket to contribute. We just need another.....1.5 million + resources to make it habitable.
@@AdrianLoganLive It’s the groupthink aspect that gets me. Sometimes I find myself shocked by the behaviors of people I know when they engage within a larger social group. I suppose as a neurodivergent person as well, seeing just how well people conform to the group they are in makes me feel even more surprised. All right, move aside Lonely Island, Introvert Island is a go! We just need infrastructure and management to deliver safe drinking water… should be easy!?🏝
Thank you for this video Adrian, love hearing your thoughts! I can relate to many of these experiences to a certain extent. I like how your videos are like talking with a friend as you mentioned, instead of talking at people.
Also, I’m glad you mentioned it in the end… I don’t think everything you mentioned is due to your introversion… definitely something happening there, just listening to you list it all, reaffirmed that for me
What's up Adrian. I have a son who's 17 that is an extreme introvert. He just graduated highschool and I'm starting to worry about him. He doesn't have any friends and doesn't want to go out to make them. All he does all day is stay in his room and just plays video games. He says the players that he plays with are his friends. But yet none of these friends come over and interact with him. So my question is how did you transition from school to living a productive life? My fear is my son will be this way for the rest of his life with no inspiration to do anything. My only option is to try to seek therapy. Maybe he needs help
Hey man. You know the more I reflect on my life, the more I'm convinced that sports saved me. Basketball and running track got me out of the house, Engaged in competition (both mental and physical stimulation) and allowed me to interact and meet people who became friends, a couple of them became close friends...Once you have even just 1 close friend to experience the world with and connect with on a deep level nothing can compare to that. So it started with sports for me. There is an element of luck there though because I'm naturally very fast so always being labelled "the faster runner in school" gave me popularity that completely changed my experience. I'm too "different" to have survived the social jungle of school without sports. I'd have been the guy who walks around alone if not for it most likely. I know that isn't very actionable to apply to your son but that was my reality. I will say though that my general curiosity for life got me outside of the house and invested into learning new things. Watching documentaries, trying to make sense of the world. It kept me from being depressed and "giving up". I don't know what he is interested in, and maybe outside of games he hasn't shared much, but consider sharing experiences with him if possible. Even if that's just trying to find outside events he may want to attend, documentaries that dive deep into a topic that may catch his interest, expose him to things and hopefully something grips his imagination and curiosity in a way that he is intrinsically inspired to pursue the mental adventuring of learning more about it on his own. Therapy is always a great choice, it just requires him to be open to it for it to be effective. Lastly, he may be neuro-divergent and his mind just wired differently...like me. Therapy may be able to help identify that. Cognitive science is making leaps and bounds. I personally want to see a therapist myself because I think there is a possibility I'm a person with high functioning autism. If not they may be able to identify something else that explains why I think and process the world the way I do. I'm aware I'm different. Maybe he is too. I'm not an expert, and I don't know enough about your son to even speculate to give solid advice. But if there's one thing I've learned in my life it is how easy is to feel isolated in your own mind. To feel alone. At 17 your mind is just getting to a place where you start to realize how serious life is, and how much it will change within a few years as you early young adulthood. Worries about woman, college, the work life and being independant. 17 is a tough stage of life, it could also just be a coping mechanism during this transitioning period. I can only imagine how challenging it is for you as a parent, and being worried and concerned about your son's experience and path of life. The uncertainty of it all. Parenting is tough. I hope he starts to feel energized and inspired about something and starts to carve out his own path in the world. I imagine it's challenging as a parent to sit down and talk with him, and feel confident that he is being open and vulnerable about his feelings. But don't forget to encourage it. Sharing his feelings. I wish I had someone to encourage it and make me feel safe in sharing my feelings growing up. For Men there is a stigma around that which causes a lot of damage. Allow him to feel safe opening up and sharing whatever he feels. That's what I needed. Anyway, I hope something I've said helps in some way. Sorry for it being so long! All the best man!
I'm an extreme introvert with avoidant personality disorder. I'm having issues fitting in at work even while working remotely. I'm disconnected because I have gone from higher and adult education to healthcare IT. I don't have any healthcare experience whatsoever while everyone else in the team has experience. It is hard to engage because I find myself completely disconnected from the team. Making a career transition is very challenging when you are building new skills for more money but don't necessarily fit your gifts and passions while in a collaborative environment. I am also the only minority in my immediate team. I tend to do best as an advocate, counselor, or teacher which are generally one-to-one or small group work. I only offer advice when asked and do really well with not offering an opinion and being quiet otherwise.
I hear you with taking opportunities that don't fit your talents and gifts for more money. I also feel best and most connected when interacting 1 on 1. Society is tough for people that are non-typical or neurodivergent. I hope you find a space within your role that feels more welcoming and natural to you. I'm about to start a new position next week that's hopefully a step in the right direction, as my current role is talking on the phones all day which completely drains me. All the best Carlton!
I am an extreme introvert (and I don't like it when people use the term extreme loosely). Quantitatively, I've scored 98-100% introversion consistently over time throughout life. Qualitatively: I have thought about putting up a sign on my shirt that says I'm mute (when I'm not) so that I don't have to do small talk. I don't need nor want an in real life friendship because I see them as unnecessary social obligation and I feel somewhat satisfied with online ones. The IRL ones that want to go out a lot and get me to do things with them are a baggage because they are tormentingly draining and I don't satisfy them due to needing a lot of time alone. Even the online ones drain, especially if they want to talk too frequently. I could go on forever on that, but you get the point. There are two things I don't relate to, though: 1. I may not sound like it, but I have high empathy. I can be systematic and rational, but I am also very emotionally intense within the confines of my paradigm. I've learned that emotions are also vital information, regardless of its perceived affect, and they have internal logic that's different from something purely concrete. This means that I will listen when someone really needs it. I try not to present logical solutions when someone is crying but maybe so when they're in a better head space if they ask. I try to understand someone from an emotional point of view as well, not just logical. Usually that happens when someone is in a rough spot or I am close enough with someone to check in with. 2. I do sometimes miss some people, just not very frequently. I just don't always feel like I'm in the right energetic space to socialize. There's nothing to add to this, I suppose. To me it's a sign that I care enough about some people or some memories to maintain relationships, but even then, it's very hard for me to maintain them as I get extremely drained. I don't "yearn to see people again" on the physical plane but I do sometimes yearn to text them once in a long while. I do relate to other things you said though.
@PSLegend999 I believe I agree even with the things you mentioned you don't relate to. Since making the video, I have discovered and been diagnosed as autistic, and have went through therapy (and continue to) and I have furthered my self understanding and realized it's not that I'm not empathetic or don't miss people, but rather that the way it manifests within me is just "different" from what is typical. The self-discovery process is continuous. All the best!
I've never felt more understood than I do right now. I use to think something was wrong with me but last year I became closer to God and I get to understand myself better. I realise I was an extreme introvert last year, previously I just thought it's a me thing and it used to piss me off.
I'm very happy to hear the video helped make you feel understood. There's a lot of pressure to think we should experience the world as everyone else does, when the truth is that we are all different and some more than others. We should never feel like outcasts because of our individuality. All the best!
I put on such a persona at work that if anyone slights me, I don’t even care because they’re not talking about me, they’re talking about the person I’m pretending to be. The real me comes out when my shift is over and I’m sitting in my car.
Thank you for this video Adrian! The way you have articulated it so well I have even shared it with my partner so he could get a better understanding of my extreme introversion. It's just so reassuring to know that there are more people out there like me, I'm not alone! Although there are a few variations here and there (like you mentioned, not all introverts are exactly the same) but most of the points I resonated with 100%. It is indeed an extroverts world unfortunately. You're doing a great job with your vids, keep it up👍 A subie from South Africa
Thanks for the video Adrian. I watched the whole 40+ mins. 100% that I'm an introvert and an over thinker. I think most of the friends I have had in the past were extroverts who also understood me. I think the world needs balance of both spontaneous and non-spontaneous people. But still, I rather be a OVERthink than an UNDERthinker. An example is if I would not have took time to think about having a child or being married and if it was really for me, I would be in a not so good situation. I think all we can do is try to find ways to get better with dealing with ourselves. 24:00 I don't enjoy shallow conversations either...right no substance there. 29:51 (ish) That means something better was meant for you. I have had similar experiences. I can't wait for the day to come where I won't need to work for anyone anymore. I won't ever talk to anyone ever again j/k!!! 😂............I'm starting to think that extroverts need attentions from introverts kind of like introverts need to be to themselves. I think if they didn't have our attention or small talk or something, they would be miserable.
Definitely would prefer to overthink than underthink lol There's a lot of positive that comes from being able to think through, process and evaluate situations. It makes for good leadership qualities! If only society got to the level of efficiency where we could find work best suited for individual personalities and demeanor and then work together according to our individual strengths. Society would be on a different level. And so would happiness!
So true ! 🤩 I knew I identified with your vibe or way of being . I’m sometimes jealous of more spontaneous people . Especially when I was younger and feel like I missed out on a lot of experiences with friends that where off on spontaneous adventures. When Cvd first came I was thinking 💭 and preparing so much thinking 💭 that O’no third is gunna be like the Spanish flue of the early last century or the small pox epidemic the swept the North West coast in the 1880’s but then something snapped and I figured we are all guna die someday and it was a very rapid transition in thinking and very liberating! Probably the happiest I’ve ever been the past 2 years having a fun fkt care free attitude thinking we will all die someday so no reason to hold back in life . But now the whole Ukrainian escalation and ramifications to our economy has me thinking and planning and strategizing and over thinking about a plan in life again . Yes I’ve really only told one person that I seriously love them and that’s my current partner . Yes love is a very serious word and meaning . I enjoy you insights 🤔
Thanks man. I think today's day and age is the toughest for overthinkers because we have access to so much incoming information it's sometimes hard to keep it in check. To the point I have to put my phone down sometimes or restrict myself from the internet haha Thanks for watching Nathan
I don't enjoy shallow conversations because many people are inauthentic during them. (Un)fortunately i have a keen ear for this trait, and it seems like many people realize when it's going to be a short/shallow conversation and are just ... Fake ... Because they know they can get away with it. No one will press them further during shallow conversations. One way I've been dealing with this when I can't avoid it, is to actually ask many questions to that person about the topic . It a) forces me to engage during these shallow conversations and b) forces the person to elaborate on their position and think it through further. I guess I try to take shallow conversations over to the deep end, if I have the energy for it at the time 😅
That's great insight. If you can't get away from it, may as well control the conversation with questions and see if any depth can come from it. I didn't think of that but you're right, the problem with shallow conversations is the fakeness of it. It's not only that it's not interesting, but that they aren't being inauthentic usually and it's more so just a show for formalities sake. Very true
@@AdrianLoganLive more like a severe drain. If they're sad, you feel it and it puts you in a state of sadness as you try to help them. If they're happy, it makes you happy as well and essentially increases their happiness which then makes them want to be around you more often. It's extremely contradictory - but people tend to really want to be around and talk to me; it's just that, I want complete solitude. I function very well in social environments, but I don't feel at peace. I live in the deep woods on a lake so I don't have to see my neighbors - but those close by also know if they need help, they can call.... but I'm not gonna be going on fishing trips or BBQ'n w/ them etc. like they ask.
See that's why I don't feel too bad about having low empathy. It's a needed part of an understanding and connected society, but the inner stress and turmoil of adopting the feelings of others is tough. If I had control of it I would increase mine a bit, but since I can't I'm happy to know how other people feel doesn't impact me much at all. Thanks for sharing that.
I'm an introverted and it has made my personal life very difficult. It's odd because I wasn't always like that. As a child I was very out going and have lots of friends. As I got older I found social interaction more and more difficult, and just enjoyed being by myself more and more. Did you or anyone else you might now have a similar experience or transitioning from an extrovert to an introvert?
I can relate. But I don't think it's a transition from extrovert to introvert. I think it's because the way people socialize as an adult is different from when you are a child. I think social Interaction as a child works well for introverts. Open connection, you can come and go as you please, shallow conversation isn't really a thing as a child. Conversation and interaction is still novel. But as you get older, the way people communicate and interact becomes more stiff, social cues become more subtle, and people share less authentically. That doesn't click well for introverts.
@@AdrianLoganLive Wow never thought of it that way, but makes sense. I just remember how confusing everything was becoming. How uncomfortable I would be and social pressure to conform. It "didn't click well" exactly!
I lose my personality around extroverts. I am staying with a sister now who is extremely extroverted and she is making me cry. I just want to do stuff alone, be alone. She wants to eat together, sit on my bed with me, shop together, go to church together, watch tv together, everything and anything together. No alone time. I am really struggling. I told her I was an introvert but she didn't listen. She just is so overdoing it. I feel like I want to go live in a cave. I am so uncomfortable. Growing up I had to deal with this. It drove me to drinking and suicide. I just can't be around people. They drive me nuts. I would rather go hike alone and die in a forest than be suffocated by people all the time. Why don't extroverts listen ever when I tell them I am an introvert? They never listen or try to adjust. Women especially have no boundaries.
Sorry to hear you're in that situation. I understand how you feel. Not having a place of solitude where you can be seperate from others with the expectation you can't be walked in on and have your peace disturbed is a slow mental torture. I've been there. I hope you soon discover a path where you can have your own place and a space you can control that's all your own!
I'm under the age of 13 and I've developed being an extreme introvert. I don't like to eat in public restaurants, Or go inside shopping malls, I just always want to stay in my room. It's so extreme that even just socializing with others I tremble. I want and I have to get rid of this. Even my mom doesn't want me to act like this. But whenever I try to socialize with others, It's so hard to keep the conversation going. Whenever I'm in an awkward situation, I feel like I just want to disappear into thin air. When I socialize with others, The next day I always lookback on it and overthink about our full convo. It's so tiring to always think about it. At this point it has become a daily thing now. A daily thing of always feeling anxious and uneasy. Online classes are about to start tomorrow and I can't even sleep properly or think straight. Whenever I'm doing something that distracts me for awhile, Things automatically explore my mind. Which makes it hard to focus. Whenever I'm called in class, My legs shake very bad and my heartbeat beats rapidly. It's so hard to become an introvert. My friends are also introverts but not extreme ones. That's why I always envy them.
Thanks for sharing that. I can relate to everything you've said, and I think what you're experiencing has a lot to do with social anxiety. I didn't realize that's what it was for me until this past year (And I'm 32). I made a video about this as well - ua-cam.com/video/wcpdweouN8s/v-deo.html - Please watch it, I think it will be helpful for you because what you describe sounds very much like social anxiety. Read about it too. Let me know what you think when you watch it. All the best
Great video! I resonated a lot with what you said. It is also extremely challenging for me to participate in group conversations where it involves people I'm not 100% comfortable with. & I'm sooooo drained from having to put on a mask in the workplace...sometimes I wish someone would just shoot me in the head.
It's definetely harder sometimes more than others. I do think the nuances between various mental health challenges are becoming better understanding, and with that so is the ability to assist and improve the lives of those who find themselves with difficulties. I'm optimistic with the direction things are going. Including the licensed therapeutic use of plant medicine/psychoactives to really assist people in a large way. All the best and thanks for sharing that!
Could you imagine the scenario you described about chit chats during breaks when you are introvert and English is your second language?. That's my struggle everyday at work and Life 😞.
Adrian, I’m sorry to be one of these guys who leaves negative comments. I love what you have to say, but could you please consider ditching the background music? I find it so distracting that I can’t watch the video. It just overtakes your voice maybe because you’re soft-spoken. I wonder if anybody else agrees with this but I think your videos would be so much better without the background music. It’s just not necessary because what you have to say is genuinely engaging. Thanks.
I actually go back and forth in my mind about that in general. I did make a post quite a while back asking peoples thoughts on it and most said to keep it so I did. I do edit the frequencies so its not directly competing with my voice. I agree with you though, it's not necessary and probably could have done without it especially on this one. It's one of those things I would never care to do it personally but on UA-cam and through tests it's proven to yield longer watch times. I'll play with no using it in the future. Thanks for the input. I appreciate it!
@@AdrianLoganLive wow thanks for replying and considering me comment! I really appreciate that. I had no idea that background music led to longer watch times, so yeah, I can see where that would be a struggle. I guess I’m in the minority. Anyway I totally dig your content so I am going to try and deal with it.
Same lol 2 months ago I bought a 70 inch Samsung TV and I love it. But it's so abnormal of a buy for me knowing I could have got a smaller but still good TV and the money saved would have paid my yearly gym membership cost haha. Thanks for sharing
@@AdrianLoganLive wow I never thought it that way. You right! One can get a year gym membership with the money. Mine was I could buy a flight to Costa Rica for a vacay
I really like it as well. Despite the areas that are challenging, I enjoy the experience, it's only challenging at times because we have to integrate with a society that wasn't formed with introverts in mind. But I would never change that part of me either!
Thanks for this video. I can relate to many parts. And how about the UPSIDES of being an extreme introvert? Anybody wanna share with me what they like the most about being an extreme introvert?
I think the absolutely best thing about being an introvert is the ability to find peace and enjoyment in solitude. Socializing is great, but even the most social people are likely spending more time alone than socializing with others and if solitude drains you then there is a type of dependence on others just for basic contentment. As an introvert knowing that I can have a great time doing the simple every day stuff alone if need be is relieving. Seeing a movie alone? No problem. Going out for dinner alone? no problem. When people are involved even better. Being alone for many people is viewed as unfortunate...but it shouldn't be. We are all alone in our minds, and I'm happy it's not a draining experience for me!
@@twosomeplaceTV Exactly. Due to quarantine I had to start working from home for my job. Absolutely loved the change. Though I had coworkers that couldn't standing it and went back into the office the moment they had a chance. Thanks for the initial question!
Best part about being an introvert is I can go enjoy shows, art galleries, restaurants and all kinds of things by myself and not have to worry if someone else is having a good time. I live for my experiences and I truly get to enjoy them. Whenever I have tried to invite someone else along they didn’t quite appreciate it like I did.
@@81eniale I've went on several solo backpacking trips to other countries, that started out with me inviting people who claimed they would like to go. They didn't, and thay didn't stop me from doing it alone anyway lol
I honestly didn't mean for the video to be this long, but like all good conversations sometimes things just flow and you get caught up. Maybe play it at 1.5x speed? I'd love to know, Are you an introvert or extrovert? What about it do you find challenging in your every day life?
your video is fine!
Are you scorpion? It's sounds like you were speaking of me...
@@eri_gq1741 I'm not at all familiar with astrology, but I happen to know I am an Aquariius
I get the “I don’t miss people”… I don’t miss people, I never have. It makes for very strained relationships because people think I’m either angry at them or just using them for the moment. The truth is I love my friends, but it’s literally out of sight out of mind. Once I’m able to interact again, I enjoy those interactions until next time. While I get that it’s important to use tools to make up for those deficits, I wish extroverts would understand that I don’t function in the same way and also make concessions… I wish some of our traits were more socially acceptable
Luckily I think with our generation and those after, understanding personality differences is becoming more common place because there is more education around it. Hopefully that continues
This describes me perfectly. I completely agree with you
1. Congratulations on being able to say what you need to say. You’re fine just the way you are.
2. I’m you, in female form. My family has learned to accept me as I am. I am an only child, have 1 child, and 1 grandchild and I’m still not a overly emotional person. Chitchat exhausts me and I absolutely need my time alone. I have a few friends that I can go months without talking to and pick up right where we left off. I’ve come to love who I am and I no longer feel the need to apologize for who I am.
3. Great Video! Thank you so much 😊
Thank you :)
Oh god, I've tried a spontaneous trip once. I got to my hotel... And proceeded to watch movies the whole weekend because I didn't know what to do with myself.
lmao I get that!
Introvert here! But my boyfriend says I can make friends anywhere I go. I enjoy talking to people one on one, but I'm pretty bad in groups and I feel like I need a break from others (sometimes it's because I feel empathy for them). Your experience/take was super interesting to listen to.
I've talked to people like that before, who's empathy level is so high they can experience overwhelm simply through being around someone emotionally charged about something. I can't imagine how you feel lol literally. Though that's probably why you are so good at making friends!
@@AdrianLoganLive Lol it's awful. I can only assume, but I bet your logical thinking can ground people who are overly emotional in certain situations. And that can be nice to have around.
Its nice to hear I am not the only one. Thanks for making this video
Thanks for watching. I know it takes commitment on this one haha
I’ve never had something resonate with me so much. I do have deep meaningful relationships with some family members and friends, so I am not on the extreme side of things, but it is about the same.
Happy to hear it resonated Tasha. Makes me feel good to know others have similar experiences.
Just want to say thanks for the video. Lord knows I could have kept going even if it was 5 hrs long. You have no idea what it means to me. Been feeling "lost" of late. I know I am quieter than most of the people I am around. And sometimes it really feels weird. Like I am some "alien" like thing not really connecting with anyone. Like when I happen to go through these sudden urges to be by myself or this emotions that I cant seem to explain.
I've resonated with a couple of stuff you've said and it's really nice to hear someone else's viewpoint, since I have no one to talk to about how I feel and all....
I know there is still a long way to go for me to understand who I am. And this video made that slightly clearer. Hopefully the me 10 years from now will have reached the point where we both figured out what we need to do.
Would like a video on how to be more comfortable with oneself or about just being as reflective and in depth at least as you. I really like to the way you articulate stuff. (I know my head wonders far and wide, but sometimes writing it down is really hard) (would like to journal). If possible.
Definitely going to watch your other videos, look forward to more content.
Thanks again.
I'm glad it's helped in some way. Your video suggestions are worth making a video on. I'll have to ponder those topics a bit and collect my thoughts on it.
The life long self discovery process is both rewarding and challenging, and I think that's part of the point. Only those willing to go through the tough parts get to take joy in the beauty of it. It's a worthwhile pursuit!
As someone who's an extreme extrovert, I can tell you that being an introvert is underrated.
People are like CC tvs. The more of them you have around you, the more surveillance and scrutiny you're under.
That is true. I do feel there is less social drama in my life as a result. Glad to hear an extrovert sees value in the introverted ways. Sounds like you have a well rounded perspective on it
I have never recognized myself as much as I do now... the struggle is real somethimes, especially with group dynamic.
Great video Adrian.
It's amazing how much I've learned about myself now, that I knew nothing about 5 years ago (despite it being there), self awareness is really a life long pursuit. A worthy one at that. Thanks for watching!
I can completely relate to this video. So far in my learning that I am introvert. I have mostly read about it in books/from websites. Haven't listened to many videos on the subject. I really appreciated hearing you voice it. I found myself going "yes" or yep "that issue" or " he gets it" Almost as if I had spoken the words myself!
Glad to hear that! it's nice having a first person perspective to learn from instead of only academic blah blah
Thank you for this video. As an introvert, it really helped me understand elements in my life that I've always wondered about.
Awesome. Happy to hear that. Thanks for watching!
Truly miss you posting videos. I often come back to this and your autism video because no one articulates what I go through like you did. I hope you're doing well.
Hey. It means a lot to know that. Thank you. I've been doing...okay lol I think I've been a bit overwhelmed that past few months, and my job has been challenging, and I started taking an accounting course which eats up a lot of my time. I just don't have the availability to manage everything I want to do.
I've started making tiktok videos lately though because it takes less time. Maybe I will post them here on this channel as Shorts, but if you're on tiktok find me:
www.tiktok.com/@adrian.logan?_t=8nYrnEvFI6n&_r=1
glad I found this video. I totally relate
I can definitely relate to these!
Overthinking can be incredibly exhausting. It’s like you train your brain to think so much that you end up forgetting how to act sometimes. All of your brain energy is so focused on details and analyzing things that you can become stuck in your own little bubble. That’s why I talk to myself sometimes too, because it refocuses my energy outwards and gets me out of that cycle of keeping my energy stuck in my own head, or at least it feels that way!
Some of this I think is also a struggle of being a man in society. I think women are more likely to be socialized when they’re younger and encouraged to let out their emotions, and they receive emotional reinforcement because they fit into that stereotype of what is expected for a girl. With boys, not so much.
I too value information, especially concerning ideas, and love learning about other people’s routines to paint a picture to try to better understand another person, and I can only focus on one individual at a time, as group dynamics both freak me out (it’s sometimes unnerving for me to see people’s behavior shift according to the pressures of their peers) and overwhelm me.
The way I connect with people is through discussing ideas. My family relationships have also never been close, there’s not a common interest we share, and when I have tried to share my intellectual interests, they are never as interested in the same things as I am, so that is why I often find I end up feeling closer to strangers than even within my own family.
TL;DR: Very relatable! What do we do now though, should we all buy an island somewhere and start a new country?
That's a good point about how talking to yourself refocuses the energy outwards. Very much true with how I feel about it. And you're right, being a male with the typical male expectations would have certainly added to my emotional resistance and limitations with emotions.
I've never put it into words like that but you're right, it's unnerving seeing people's behaviors change based on peer pressure...or even simply the presence of someone else. You experience one version of them when it's just the two of you, then suddenly when you catch them with their other friends they are a completely different way. Maybe it's their own insecurities, maybe it's their need to feel like they belong so they change with each group. But either way it feels weird to see play out.
I think an Island is the only way! I've got like $7 on my pocket to contribute. We just need another.....1.5 million + resources to make it habitable.
@@AdrianLoganLive It’s the groupthink aspect that gets me. Sometimes I find myself shocked by the behaviors of people I know when they engage within a larger social group. I suppose as a neurodivergent person as well, seeing just how well people conform to the group they are in makes me feel even more surprised.
All right, move aside Lonely Island, Introvert Island is a go! We just need infrastructure and management to deliver safe drinking water… should be easy!?🏝
Thank you for this video Adrian, love hearing your thoughts! I can relate to many of these experiences to a certain extent. I like how your videos are like talking with a friend as you mentioned, instead of talking at people.
Awe, Thank you Jacky. I'm glad it feels that way to you
Love your Channel, love these real conversations!
Thank you Grace :)
Also, I’m glad you mentioned it in the end… I don’t think everything you mentioned is due to your introversion… definitely something happening there, just listening to you list it all, reaffirmed that for me
I'm a psychological melting pot I guess lol
What's up Adrian. I have a son who's 17 that is an extreme introvert. He just graduated highschool and I'm starting to worry about him. He doesn't have any friends and doesn't want to go out to make them. All he does all day is stay in his room and just plays video games. He says the players that he plays with are his friends. But yet none of these friends come over and interact with him. So my question is how did you transition from school to living a productive life? My fear is my son will be this way for the rest of his life with no inspiration to do anything. My only option is to try to seek therapy. Maybe he needs help
Hey man. You know the more I reflect on my life, the more I'm convinced that sports saved me. Basketball and running track got me out of the house, Engaged in competition (both mental and physical stimulation) and allowed me to interact and meet people who became friends, a couple of them became close friends...Once you have even just 1 close friend to experience the world with and connect with on a deep level nothing can compare to that. So it started with sports for me. There is an element of luck there though because I'm naturally very fast so always being labelled "the faster runner in school" gave me popularity that completely changed my experience. I'm too "different" to have survived the social jungle of school without sports. I'd have been the guy who walks around alone if not for it most likely.
I know that isn't very actionable to apply to your son but that was my reality.
I will say though that my general curiosity for life got me outside of the house and invested into learning new things. Watching documentaries, trying to make sense of the world. It kept me from being depressed and "giving up".
I don't know what he is interested in, and maybe outside of games he hasn't shared much, but consider sharing experiences with him if possible. Even if that's just trying to find outside events he may want to attend, documentaries that dive deep into a topic that may catch his interest, expose him to things and hopefully something grips his imagination and curiosity in a way that he is intrinsically inspired to pursue the mental adventuring of learning more about it on his own.
Therapy is always a great choice, it just requires him to be open to it for it to be effective.
Lastly, he may be neuro-divergent and his mind just wired differently...like me. Therapy may be able to help identify that. Cognitive science is making leaps and bounds. I personally want to see a therapist myself because I think there is a possibility I'm a person with high functioning autism. If not they may be able to identify something else that explains why I think and process the world the way I do. I'm aware I'm different. Maybe he is too.
I'm not an expert, and I don't know enough about your son to even speculate to give solid advice. But if there's one thing I've learned in my life it is how easy is to feel isolated in your own mind. To feel alone. At 17 your mind is just getting to a place where you start to realize how serious life is, and how much it will change within a few years as you early young adulthood. Worries about woman, college, the work life and being independant. 17 is a tough stage of life, it could also just be a coping mechanism during this transitioning period.
I can only imagine how challenging it is for you as a parent, and being worried and concerned about your son's experience and path of life. The uncertainty of it all. Parenting is tough. I hope he starts to feel energized and inspired about something and starts to carve out his own path in the world.
I imagine it's challenging as a parent to sit down and talk with him, and feel confident that he is being open and vulnerable about his feelings. But don't forget to encourage it. Sharing his feelings. I wish I had someone to encourage it and make me feel safe in sharing my feelings growing up. For Men there is a stigma around that which causes a lot of damage. Allow him to feel safe opening up and sharing whatever he feels. That's what I needed.
Anyway, I hope something I've said helps in some way. Sorry for it being so long! All the best man!
This video is so timely. I especially relate to the bottling and navigating my own emotional inhibitions. Thank you as always for the insight. :)
:) Thanks for watching!
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. You are quite an inspiration. Continue being yourself.
Thank you so much
I'm an extreme introvert with avoidant personality disorder. I'm having issues fitting in at work even while working remotely. I'm disconnected because I have gone from higher and adult education to healthcare IT. I don't have any healthcare experience whatsoever while everyone else in the team has experience. It is hard to engage because I find myself completely disconnected from the team. Making a career transition is very challenging when you are building new skills for more money but don't necessarily fit your gifts and passions while in a collaborative environment. I am also the only minority in my immediate team. I tend to do best as an advocate, counselor, or teacher which are generally one-to-one or small group work. I only offer advice when asked and do really well with not offering an opinion and being quiet otherwise.
I hear you with taking opportunities that don't fit your talents and gifts for more money. I also feel best and most connected when interacting 1 on 1. Society is tough for people that are non-typical or neurodivergent. I hope you find a space within your role that feels more welcoming and natural to you. I'm about to start a new position next week that's hopefully a step in the right direction, as my current role is talking on the phones all day which completely drains me. All the best Carlton!
I am an extreme introvert (and I don't like it when people use the term extreme loosely). Quantitatively, I've scored 98-100% introversion consistently over time throughout life. Qualitatively: I have thought about putting up a sign on my shirt that says I'm mute (when I'm not) so that I don't have to do small talk. I don't need nor want an in real life friendship because I see them as unnecessary social obligation and I feel somewhat satisfied with online ones. The IRL ones that want to go out a lot and get me to do things with them are a baggage because they are tormentingly draining and I don't satisfy them due to needing a lot of time alone. Even the online ones drain, especially if they want to talk too frequently. I could go on forever on that, but you get the point.
There are two things I don't relate to, though:
1. I may not sound like it, but I have high empathy. I can be systematic and rational, but I am also very emotionally intense within the confines of my paradigm. I've learned that emotions are also vital information, regardless of its perceived affect, and they have internal logic that's different from something purely concrete. This means that I will listen when someone really needs it. I try not to present logical solutions when someone is crying but maybe so when they're in a better head space if they ask. I try to understand someone from an emotional point of view as well, not just logical. Usually that happens when someone is in a rough spot or I am close enough with someone to check in with.
2. I do sometimes miss some people, just not very frequently. I just don't always feel like I'm in the right energetic space to socialize. There's nothing to add to this, I suppose. To me it's a sign that I care enough about some people or some memories to maintain relationships, but even then, it's very hard for me to maintain them as I get extremely drained. I don't "yearn to see people again" on the physical plane but I do sometimes yearn to text them once in a long while.
I do relate to other things you said though.
@PSLegend999 I believe I agree even with the things you mentioned you don't relate to.
Since making the video, I have discovered and been diagnosed as autistic, and have went through therapy (and continue to) and I have furthered my self understanding and realized it's not that I'm not empathetic or don't miss people, but rather that the way it manifests within me is just "different" from what is typical.
The self-discovery process is continuous. All the best!
I really learned a lot of valuable information. Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video.!
Happy to hear Dani. Thank you!
I've never felt more understood than I do right now. I use to think something was wrong with me but last year I became closer to God and I get to understand myself better.
I realise I was an extreme introvert last year, previously I just thought it's a me thing and it used to piss me off.
I'm very happy to hear the video helped make you feel understood. There's a lot of pressure to think we should experience the world as everyone else does, when the truth is that we are all different and some more than others. We should never feel like outcasts because of our individuality. All the best!
I put on such a persona at work that if anyone slights me, I don’t even care because they’re not talking about me, they’re talking about the person I’m pretending to be. The real me comes out when my shift is over and I’m sitting in my car.
As someone who's spent a lot of time working in customer service, I completely agree
Thank you for this video Adrian! The way you have articulated it so well I have even shared it with my partner so he could get a better understanding of my extreme introversion. It's just so reassuring to know that there are more people out there like me, I'm not alone! Although there are a few variations here and there (like you mentioned, not all introverts are exactly the same) but most of the points I resonated with 100%.
It is indeed an extroverts world unfortunately.
You're doing a great job with your vids, keep it up👍
A subie from South Africa
Thanks Lelo I'm really happy to hear it resonated that well with you to share it. Definetely will continue. I appreciate it!
Thanks for the video Adrian. I watched the whole 40+ mins. 100% that I'm an introvert and an over thinker. I think most of the friends I have had in the past were extroverts who also understood me. I think the world needs balance of both spontaneous and non-spontaneous people. But still, I rather be a OVERthink than an UNDERthinker. An example is if I would not have took time to think about having a child or being married and if it was really for me, I would be in a not so good situation. I think all we can do is try to find ways to get better with dealing with ourselves. 24:00 I don't enjoy shallow conversations either...right no substance there. 29:51 (ish) That means something better was meant for you. I have had similar experiences. I can't wait for the day to come where I won't need to work for anyone anymore. I won't ever talk to anyone ever again j/k!!! 😂............I'm starting to think that extroverts need attentions from introverts kind of like introverts need to be to themselves. I think if they didn't have our attention or small talk or something, they would be miserable.
Definitely would prefer to overthink than underthink lol There's a lot of positive that comes from being able to think through, process and evaluate situations. It makes for good leadership qualities!
If only society got to the level of efficiency where we could find work best suited for individual personalities and demeanor and then work together according to our individual strengths. Society would be on a different level. And so would happiness!
So true ! 🤩
I knew I identified with your vibe or way of being . I’m sometimes jealous of more spontaneous people . Especially when I was younger and feel like I missed out on a lot of experiences with friends that where off on spontaneous adventures.
When Cvd first came I was thinking 💭 and preparing so much thinking 💭 that O’no third is gunna be like the Spanish flue of the early last century or the small pox epidemic the swept the North West coast in the 1880’s but then something snapped and I figured we are all guna die someday and it was a very rapid transition in thinking and very liberating! Probably the happiest I’ve ever been the past 2 years having a fun fkt care free attitude thinking we will all die someday so no reason to hold back in life . But now the whole Ukrainian escalation and ramifications to our economy has me thinking and planning and strategizing and over thinking about a plan in life again .
Yes I’ve really only told one person that I seriously love them and that’s my current partner . Yes love is a very serious word and meaning .
I enjoy you insights 🤔
Thanks man. I think today's day and age is the toughest for overthinkers because we have access to so much incoming information it's sometimes hard to keep it in check. To the point I have to put my phone down sometimes or restrict myself from the internet haha
Thanks for watching Nathan
I don't enjoy shallow conversations because many people are inauthentic during them. (Un)fortunately i have a keen ear for this trait, and it seems like many people realize when it's going to be a short/shallow conversation and are just ... Fake ... Because they know they can get away with it. No one will press them further during shallow conversations.
One way I've been dealing with this when I can't avoid it, is to actually ask many questions to that person about the topic . It a) forces me to engage during these shallow conversations and b) forces the person to elaborate on their position and think it through further.
I guess I try to take shallow conversations over to the deep end, if I have the energy for it at the time 😅
That's great insight. If you can't get away from it, may as well control the conversation with questions and see if any depth can come from it.
I didn't think of that but you're right, the problem with shallow conversations is the fakeness of it. It's not only that it's not interesting, but that they aren't being inauthentic usually and it's more so just a show for formalities sake. Very true
One of the biggest problems I have is a strong sense of empathy. It can be a driving force to push even more into seclusion.
Why does having a strong sense of empathy push you into seclusion? Emotionally overload?
@@AdrianLoganLive more like a severe drain. If they're sad, you feel it and it puts you in a state of sadness as you try to help them. If they're happy, it makes you happy as well and essentially increases their happiness which then makes them want to be around you more often.
It's extremely contradictory - but people tend to really want to be around and talk to me; it's just that, I want complete solitude. I function very well in social environments, but I don't feel at peace.
I live in the deep woods on a lake so I don't have to see my neighbors - but those close by also know if they need help, they can call.... but I'm not gonna be going on fishing trips or BBQ'n w/ them etc. like they ask.
See that's why I don't feel too bad about having low empathy. It's a needed part of an understanding and connected society, but the inner stress and turmoil of adopting the feelings of others is tough. If I had control of it I would increase mine a bit, but since I can't I'm happy to know how other people feel doesn't impact me much at all.
Thanks for sharing that.
I'm an introverted and it has made my personal life very difficult. It's odd because I wasn't always like that. As a child I was very out going and have lots of friends. As I got older I found social interaction more and more difficult, and just enjoyed being by myself more and more. Did you or anyone else you might now have a similar experience or transitioning from an extrovert to an introvert?
I can relate. But I don't think it's a transition from extrovert to introvert. I think it's because the way people socialize as an adult is different from when you are a child. I think social Interaction as a child works well for introverts. Open connection, you can come and go as you please, shallow conversation isn't really a thing as a child. Conversation and interaction is still novel.
But as you get older, the way people communicate and interact becomes more stiff, social cues become more subtle, and people share less authentically. That doesn't click well for introverts.
@@AdrianLoganLive Wow never thought of it that way, but makes sense. I just remember how confusing everything was becoming. How uncomfortable I would be and social pressure to conform. It "didn't click well" exactly!
That was very interesting ! and I can relate on many levels!
Thank you Julieta!
I lose my personality around extroverts. I am staying with a sister now who is extremely extroverted and she is making me cry. I just want to do stuff alone, be alone. She wants to eat together, sit on my bed with me, shop together, go to church together, watch tv together, everything and anything together. No alone time. I am really struggling. I told her I was an introvert but she didn't listen. She just is so overdoing it. I feel like I want to go live in a cave. I am so uncomfortable. Growing up I had to deal with this. It drove me to drinking and suicide. I just can't be around people. They drive me nuts. I would rather go hike alone and die in a forest than be suffocated by people all the time. Why don't extroverts listen ever when I tell them I am an introvert? They never listen or try to adjust. Women especially have no boundaries.
Sorry to hear you're in that situation. I understand how you feel. Not having a place of solitude where you can be seperate from others with the expectation you can't be walked in on and have your peace disturbed is a slow mental torture. I've been there. I hope you soon discover a path where you can have your own place and a space you can control that's all your own!
I have an ambivert sister and an extreme extrovert sister. I get along more with the ambivert as she’s more chill.
I'm under the age of 13 and I've developed being an extreme introvert. I don't like to eat in public restaurants, Or go inside shopping malls, I just always want to stay in my room. It's so extreme that even just socializing with others I tremble. I want and I have to get rid of this. Even my mom doesn't want me to act like this. But whenever I try to socialize with others, It's so hard to keep the conversation going. Whenever I'm in an awkward situation, I feel like I just want to disappear into thin air. When I socialize with others, The next day I always lookback on it and overthink about our full convo. It's so tiring to always think about it. At this point it has become a daily thing now. A daily thing of always feeling anxious and uneasy. Online classes are about to start tomorrow and I can't even sleep properly or think straight. Whenever I'm doing something that distracts me for awhile, Things automatically explore my mind. Which makes it hard to focus. Whenever I'm called in class, My legs shake very bad and my heartbeat beats rapidly. It's so hard to become an introvert. My friends are also introverts but not extreme ones. That's why I always envy them.
Thanks for sharing that. I can relate to everything you've said, and I think what you're experiencing has a lot to do with social anxiety. I didn't realize that's what it was for me until this past year (And I'm 32). I made a video about this as well - ua-cam.com/video/wcpdweouN8s/v-deo.html - Please watch it, I think it will be helpful for you because what you describe sounds very much like social anxiety. Read about it too. Let me know what you think when you watch it. All the best
I completely relate to this video, thank you.
Glad you felt you could relate. Thanks for watching
I now people see me as a shy , feared , but i'm not but i care a lot . I have only problem of overthinking . Overthink is bisect me how can i cure it
Overthinking is a tough one. I've wanted to make a video about it but first I have to improve on it myself. It's difficult for me too.
Great video! I resonated a lot with what you said. It is also extremely challenging for me to participate in group conversations where it involves people I'm not 100% comfortable with. & I'm sooooo drained from having to put on a mask in the workplace...sometimes I wish someone would just shoot me in the head.
It's definetely harder sometimes more than others. I do think the nuances between various mental health challenges are becoming better understanding, and with that so is the ability to assist and improve the lives of those who find themselves with difficulties. I'm optimistic with the direction things are going. Including the licensed therapeutic use of plant medicine/psychoactives to really assist people in a large way. All the best and thanks for sharing that!
Could you imagine the scenario you described about chit chats during breaks when you are introvert and English is your second language?. That's my struggle everyday at work and Life 😞.
Yes I can only imagine how draining and unpleasant that would be. You have my sympathy! lol
Introverts all the way👍💯
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Dude I am extremely introverted istj
I live alone on a farm by myself and I rarely see other humans
Can't get much more solitude than that. Is that an ideal lifestyle for you that you chose, or just the way things worked out?
@@AdrianLoganLive I chose it. I have major trust issues with anyone .
I'm very spiritual and I am appalled at most people
@@AdrianLoganLive I do my best to be socially Normal and I am told I'm good at it but the fact is I don't like it.
Adrian, I’m sorry to be one of these guys who leaves negative comments. I love what you have to say, but could you please consider ditching the background music? I find it so distracting that I can’t watch the video. It just overtakes your voice maybe because you’re soft-spoken. I wonder if anybody else agrees with this but I think your videos would be so much better without the background music. It’s just not necessary because what you have to say is genuinely engaging. Thanks.
I actually go back and forth in my mind about that in general. I did make a post quite a while back asking peoples thoughts on it and most said to keep it so I did. I do edit the frequencies so its not directly competing with my voice. I agree with you though, it's not necessary and probably could have done without it especially on this one. It's one of those things I would never care to do it personally but on UA-cam and through tests it's proven to yield longer watch times. I'll play with no using it in the future. Thanks for the input. I appreciate it!
@@AdrianLoganLive wow thanks for replying and considering me comment! I really appreciate that. I had no idea that background music led to longer watch times, so yeah, I can see where that would be a struggle. I guess I’m in the minority. Anyway I totally dig your content so I am going to try and deal with it.
Ye no problem. I'm always open to recommendations and input. Thanks!
Now that you mentioned it … it’s distracting me lol
I didn't even notice the music 😂 upon reading this comment, I had to stick my phone right against my ear to try and notice it.
Very relatable vid
I recently bought a nice SONY TV and I am still overthinking where I could have spent the money. Lol
Same lol 2 months ago I bought a 70 inch Samsung TV and I love it. But it's so abnormal of a buy for me knowing I could have got a smaller but still good TV and the money saved would have paid my yearly gym membership cost haha.
Thanks for sharing
@@AdrianLoganLive wow I never thought it that way. You right! One can get a year gym membership with the money. Mine was I could buy a flight to Costa Rica for a vacay
Maybe even two vacays haha Always some good deals on flights to Costa rica
@@AdrianLoganLive i am telling you
Half of my day is me pretending to be normal
Well I like being an introvert. I don't have to work, so workers and other won't bother me about going places with them.
I really like it as well. Despite the areas that are challenging, I enjoy the experience, it's only challenging at times because we have to integrate with a society that wasn't formed with introverts in mind. But I would never change that part of me either!
Thanks for this video. I can relate to many parts. And how about the UPSIDES of being an extreme introvert? Anybody wanna share with me what they like the most about being an extreme introvert?
I think the absolutely best thing about being an introvert is the ability to find peace and enjoyment in solitude. Socializing is great, but even the most social people are likely spending more time alone than socializing with others and if solitude drains you then there is a type of dependence on others just for basic contentment.
As an introvert knowing that I can have a great time doing the simple every day stuff alone if need be is relieving. Seeing a movie alone? No problem. Going out for dinner alone? no problem. When people are involved even better. Being alone for many people is viewed as unfortunate...but it shouldn't be. We are all alone in our minds, and I'm happy it's not a draining experience for me!
@@AdrianLoganLive Quarantine? No problem.
@@twosomeplaceTV Exactly. Due to quarantine I had to start working from home for my job. Absolutely loved the change. Though I had coworkers that couldn't standing it and went back into the office the moment they had a chance. Thanks for the initial question!
Best part about being an introvert is I can go enjoy shows, art galleries, restaurants and all kinds of things by myself and not have to worry if someone else is having a good time. I live for my experiences and I truly get to enjoy them. Whenever I have tried to invite someone else along they didn’t quite appreciate it like I did.
@@81eniale I've went on several solo backpacking trips to other countries, that started out with me inviting people who claimed they would like to go. They didn't, and thay didn't stop me from doing it alone anyway lol
Is your girl friend introvert or extrovert greetings,
She's an introvert. Thankfully haha
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