For reasons of life, I've been having a lot of long distance friends, and the hardest thing for me has been to keep the contact frequent as it is not that I don't love my friends (or even family) but if I don't see them every now and then, they just don't pop into my head. Some of them understand it and are still close to me, but I've lost a lot of people due to the same thing. Leaving me feeling like I failed to them as I still appreciate them but suddenly they grew apart.
Always overthinking all my actions, and feeling like they hate me forever when I make a small mistake. Not being able to keep up with them online even though I think about them a lot and care so much for the friendship, even though my actions don't seem to show this.
Depends on the people, sometimes I just don't feel like it's a very deep friendship or I don't know how to synch with some people, since generally most people (particularly women, like moms especially) enjoy tight knit circles. I've had few of those because I had to move often growing up. I never had kids, never go to nail salons regularly, stuff like that, I don't feel like I relate as well. I don't feel neurotypical enough to just maintain many friendships but I have many acquaintances from work or college, I guess. It's just over my head honestly
This made me cry, because I've always felt like a bad person due to my lack of close friendships. I get so excited when I meet new people and we have a great connection, but afterwards everything crashes to the ground because I lose all my energy and can't text or call. I have no childhood friends or any close friends due to this.
Yes, this seems to happen with me or I'll try to initiate the idea of hanging out, but feel so awkward, if they don't show interest in that, I think it's usually something about me.
The non standard English accent somehow works better than if it were narrated in standard English accents. Adds character. Even though me being a learner has to struggle a bit to understand the words.
I met a girl online with adhd and we’ve been speaking for like 3 months every day all day! But very recently she seems to text less and I don’t know if she has become bored of me now? She’s such a great person and I’m just abit upset that she seems to be acting distant
It’s probably not personal as I am a woman with ADHD and have done this just drop a message and she’ll respond back when ready Time is different for us
What’s the hardest part of friendship for you 👀?
Honestly, everything in this video
But the keeping contact part is the place I struggle most and causes me a lot of stress and anxiety
For reasons of life, I've been having a lot of long distance friends, and the hardest thing for me has been to keep the contact frequent as it is not that I don't love my friends (or even family) but if I don't see them every now and then, they just don't pop into my head. Some of them understand it and are still close to me, but I've lost a lot of people due to the same thing. Leaving me feeling like I failed to them as I still appreciate them but suddenly they grew apart.
Always overthinking all my actions, and feeling like they hate me forever when I make a small mistake. Not being able to keep up with them online even though I think about them a lot and care so much for the friendship, even though my actions don't seem to show this.
Depends on the people, sometimes I just don't feel like it's a very deep friendship or I don't know how to synch with some people, since generally most people (particularly women, like moms especially) enjoy tight knit circles. I've had few of those because I had to move often growing up. I never had kids, never go to nail salons regularly, stuff like that, I don't feel like I relate as well. I don't feel neurotypical enough to just maintain many friendships but I have many acquaintances from work or college, I guess. It's just over my head honestly
This made me cry, because I've always felt like a bad person due to my lack of close friendships.
I get so excited when I meet new people and we have a great connection, but afterwards everything crashes to the ground because I lose all my energy and can't text or call.
I have no childhood friends or any close friends due to this.
Yes, this seems to happen with me or I'll try to initiate the idea of hanging out, but feel so awkward, if they don't show interest in that, I think it's usually something about me.
me too :( my interest piques with strangers, and feel guilty about this
This is what’s going on now with a girl who has adhd! Spoke all the time for 3 months and now she’s texting so much less and I feel upset
Thank you do much for explaining this. My gf has ADHD and this explains why at times it takes her days to reply back. I really enjoy all your content.
This is fantastic! Thank you for being so comprehensive!😁
so called friends all ghosted me and blamed me for the fallings out
"friendships were important, but they couldn't always be a priority" ouch yep
The non standard English accent somehow works better than if it were narrated in standard English accents. Adds character. Even though me being a learner has to struggle a bit to understand the words.
Thank you for making these videos. So nice to not feel that alone.
This was beautiful! Thank you!
I met a girl online with adhd and we’ve been speaking for like 3 months every day all day! But very recently she seems to text less and I don’t know if she has become bored of me now? She’s such a great person and I’m just abit upset that she seems to be acting distant
It’s probably not personal as I am a woman with ADHD and have done this just drop a message and she’ll respond back when ready
Time is different for us
@ thank you for the reply! When you say time is different please explain?
Very well explained 🙂
Omg that's so real..
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