I have a habit of learning something new and really digging into it. Then getting bored and moving on. Then when I come back to it 'x' amount of time later, I've forgotten most of what I had worked so hard to learn!
There actually is an answer/solution to this. I might make a full breakdown but the tl:dr is that some info is use it or lose it. Creating reference sheets to refresh what you have learned and learning through mnemonics can help slow the lose it phase.
This is exactly why "Break it down into smaller steps" is *horrible* advice for me. 'Cause then I'm like, "Ok great. 1 task is now 1,000 tasks." 😖 Add to that I've also been diagnosed with OCPD, so there's an extra layer of "everything has to be done the right/best way" and "let me plan everything before I start so I don't waste any time or energy" and it's absolutely crippling! I like the visual of the guy using flash cards though. I can dump everything first, then organize priority/categories second because every item can be freely rearranged, unlike writing a long list on one sheet of paper (if that makes sense. I'm rambling now. 😅) Anyway, good content! I'll keep an eye out for more!
Do you recognize this? I start a routine with 2 tasks. It works. I get hope. I'm thinking about the next routine I should do or expand this one? Than I get a call from my friends on a Saturday morning to go to the beach, which is great. Two weeks later I remember I started a routine a few weeks ago. I forgot.
Sounds like your routines are kept only mentally. A small change that might help is to plot your routines out on a time-segmented calendar, and set reminders throughout the day to check on that calendar so you don't forget about it.
Plotting routines on a time-segmented calendar (what is that, anyway), then setting alarms. This is a whole procedure on its own, and we've already filled our clocks with reminder alarms that chime throughout the day. I don't see that u understand ADHD at all. U have a fast answer for everything. Why don't we just try harder?
Well made video! It all made sense and made some things clearer for me (but of course I haven't watched it entirely :D). I just wish I wasn't losing energy to fight my ADHD as I age. 😢 Anyway, you deserve more subs. 👍
Losing sight of single aspects of a full process is not exclusive to ADHD. I regularly see the language skills of my students (foreign language learners) going out the window as soon as the content becomes more demanding in written exams with much more than (the estimated ADHD percentage of the population of) 5% of my classes. Sometimes this share approaches 1/3 or even half of any given class. I do tell them to take notes at the beginning about things they do not want to worry about while writing so that they have a checklist to go through after the writing process - which usual pitfalls to check for before handing in their result; but I see almost nobody doing this, even though I regularly point out that a good short essay will net more points than a bad long one. That, it seems to me, is a question of _acquired_ discipline rather than inherited disposition.
Yes, the reward trick has stopped working for me long time ago. The thought of doing something fun after I get done with a certain task that seems a like a burden is not exciting anymore.
I am not diagnosed but this would happen with me unless I write it down. When steps 2 to 99 are written down (yea i have very granular to-do lists) i plan a timebox to do and finish step 1. this is the only way it works. i don't know if i have adhd, actually i don't think so, i just need really strict self imposed deadlines and strategies to be able to "function".
I find these tips helpful but it is very tiring and overwhelming to do this over and over. I am now at burnout and can no longer learn. (Undiagnosed adhd combination 51yo female.) is there any way to stop being SO TIRED and learn things again? And REMEMBER THEM?
Yes. 53 yr old female here. This is me. I'm so exhausted that thinking about writing it all down shoots me into full overwhelm. So sitting on the couch watching UA-cam keeps me from crawling upstairs and into the back of my closet with a dark sheet over me so no one can see me.
Could you make a video where you address smoking addiction and possible ways to quit? Also, how to prevent falling for another addiction as an attempt to compensate from the previous one. Thanks a bunch :)
Addiction is a big topic, and highly correlated with ADHD, so I'm certain many people who watch my ADHD content will want to see it. I'll for sure be getting to addiction content eventually, but I need to make sure I can think of a digestible, helpful, and responsible way of doing it first.
Make a doc and place it on the desktop. I have to write it all out, or i will forget what's next. Like an outline. Idk. It helps. But the time limit makes me freak out. Things always take longer than expected.
My problem is I would love to do a flow chart but I don't know the steps . I know there are steps. I don't know what those are. And every time I ask people they do it intuitively, they don't know. I love that your example was essays because I only have papers left to write. But I physically do not know how. And somehow, whoever I ask, I can't wrap my head around it. I "just" need to write those damn papers. I don't know how. And this overwhelm never leaves. It's always there. I am always 1 minor inconvenience away from a mental breakdown.
Is there some way u can make this video to be not just words? And there was way too much info. U combined a how-to video with an educational one. They need to be separate things. I recommend a 3-4 minute educational vid, then u point to the how-to procedure. Which is the list of concrete steps you spoke at 08:30 ish, only with visual aids and examples. And not visual aids flashed up on-screen to disappear unexpectedly, visual aids sharing screen with your face and staying up awhile, removed and replaced only as u go on to the next step. I tried to remember the gist of what u said (the how-to) but I didn't think I even remembered the time number I put down. Maybe get someone who has ADHD to help u see where the sticking points are? 4 or 5 minutes is the absolute limit in length that an ADHD-directed segment should run. Thanks, hope it helps, big fan.
Thank you for your help on the topic. I have been scouring for some good explanations and solutions. I think you best described my experience and issues. Will give your suggestions a try to see if they help with my freeze ups.
Thanks that was insightful & I think I learnt some useful stuff...I thought my adhd test was happening very soon but today found out it's a year away...how best can I deal with this please?
So, in essence, use a planner. I've searched for apps that works with my AuDHD brain, to no avail. They're made for normies. I have my own tool, a non-hierarchic and holographic analysing-planning-organising-executing tool, but I'm no programmer so there's no app yet. So I'm constantly on the lookout for new apps or an interested programmer.
The way I describe it isn't like a 100% neurologically accurate layout of how things work, but functionally it works as a way to describe the process as it occurs for most people.
Leave any questions and I'll answer in future Q & A video.
Linktree in the description with my other platforms :)
Your sequence chart is too much like doing another essay.
I have a habit of learning something new and really digging into it. Then getting bored and moving on. Then when I come back to it 'x' amount of time later, I've forgotten most of what I had worked so hard to learn!
There actually is an answer/solution to this. I might make a full breakdown but the tl:dr is that some info is use it or lose it. Creating reference sheets to refresh what you have learned and learning through mnemonics can help slow the lose it phase.
@@DantePsychologydid you make that video?
@@brendalg4 maybe he forgot?
@ Somewhat ironically, I totally forgot 🙃
@@DantePsychology it's cool... I just didn't want to spend time looking for it if you didn't make it.
I'm a good starter :)
I usually do it like this:
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Don't know why, but somehow I am incapable of getting things done..
This is exactly why "Break it down into smaller steps" is *horrible* advice for me. 'Cause then I'm like, "Ok great. 1 task is now 1,000 tasks." 😖
Add to that I've also been diagnosed with OCPD, so there's an extra layer of "everything has to be done the right/best way" and "let me plan everything before I start so I don't waste any time or energy" and it's absolutely crippling!
I like the visual of the guy using flash cards though. I can dump everything first, then organize priority/categories second because every item can be freely rearranged, unlike writing a long list on one sheet of paper (if that makes sense. I'm rambling now. 😅)
Anyway, good content! I'll keep an eye out for more!
Do you recognize this? I start a routine with 2 tasks. It works. I get hope. I'm thinking about the next routine I should do or expand this one?
Than I get a call from my friends on a Saturday morning to go to the beach, which is great.
Two weeks later I remember I started a routine a few weeks ago. I forgot.
Sounds like your routines are kept only mentally. A small change that might help is to plot your routines out on a time-segmented calendar, and set reminders throughout the day to check on that calendar so you don't forget about it.
Plotting routines on a time-segmented calendar (what is that, anyway), then setting alarms. This is a whole procedure on its own, and we've already filled our clocks with reminder alarms that chime throughout the day. I don't see that u understand ADHD at all. U have a fast answer for everything. Why don't we just try harder?
@@Julia.Mandelbrot That's a bit harsh. I too have many alarms through the day already. There are two time segment blocks for me: Work and home.
Well made video! It all made sense and made some things clearer for me (but of course I haven't watched it entirely :D). I just wish I wasn't losing energy to fight my ADHD as I age. 😢
Anyway, you deserve more subs. 👍
Thank you 🙂
Man this was right on point brother Amazing I’m putting straight work
Incredibly helpful. Hope you continue creating content irrespective of views and engagement.
Best explanation I’ve heard. Thanks!
Losing sight of single aspects of a full process is not exclusive to ADHD. I regularly see the language skills of my students (foreign language learners) going out the window as soon as the content becomes more demanding in written exams with much more than (the estimated ADHD percentage of the population of) 5% of my classes. Sometimes this share approaches 1/3 or even half of any given class. I do tell them to take notes at the beginning about things they do not want to worry about while writing so that they have a checklist to go through after the writing process - which usual pitfalls to check for before handing in their result; but I see almost nobody doing this, even though I regularly point out that a good short essay will net more points than a bad long one. That, it seems to me, is a question of _acquired_ discipline rather than inherited disposition.
Yes, the reward trick has stopped working for me long time ago. The thought of doing something fun after I get done with a certain task that seems a like a burden is not exciting anymore.
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Thank you for this information. I learned some things that I didn’t know before.
I am not diagnosed but this would happen with me unless I write it down.
When steps 2 to 99 are written down (yea i have very granular to-do lists) i plan a timebox to do and finish step 1. this is the only way it works. i don't know if i have adhd, actually i don't think so, i just need really strict self imposed deadlines and strategies to be able to "function".
Is this why I cannot do mental maths, but still got an 8 in my exam where I get to write the steps out out?
No, you get an 8 because the teachers thinks you are a snack
Excellent Video Dante !! Really loved the references to help me understand better
Glad it was helpful!
I find these tips helpful but it is very tiring and overwhelming to do this over and over. I am now at burnout and can no longer learn. (Undiagnosed adhd combination 51yo female.) is there any way to stop being SO TIRED and learn things again? And REMEMBER THEM?
Yes. 53 yr old female here. This is me. I'm so exhausted that thinking about writing it all down shoots me into full overwhelm. So sitting on the couch watching UA-cam keeps me from crawling upstairs and into the back of my closet with a dark sheet over me so no one can see me.
Could you make a video where you address smoking addiction and possible ways to quit? Also, how to prevent falling for another addiction as an attempt to compensate from the previous one. Thanks a bunch :)
Addiction is a big topic, and highly correlated with ADHD, so I'm certain many people who watch my ADHD content will want to see it. I'll for sure be getting to addiction content eventually, but I need to make sure I can think of a digestible, helpful, and responsible way of doing it first.
now i just need to figure out how to NOT GET DISTRACTED
Your channel is great and it will blow up in no time!!! Keep up the great videos!
Ok, but then we forget what peogram we used for the flowchart (or that it even exists) or we misplace it or can't access it
Make a doc and place it on the desktop. I have to write it all out, or i will forget what's next. Like an outline. Idk. It helps. But the time limit makes me freak out. Things always take longer than expected.
Thank you for this. I see myself in this video. It makes so much sense and is really helpful. Thank you!
My problem is I would love to do a flow chart but I don't know the steps . I know there are steps. I don't know what those are. And every time I ask people they do it intuitively, they don't know.
I love that your example was essays because I only have papers left to write. But I physically do not know how. And somehow, whoever I ask, I can't wrap my head around it. I "just" need to write those damn papers. I don't know how. And this overwhelm never leaves. It's always there. I am always 1 minor inconvenience away from a mental breakdown.
Goblin Tools (online website) is a free tool that breaks down tasks into steps for you. It's not perfect, but can be really helpful to assist.
Is there some way u can make this video to be not just words? And there was way too much info. U combined a how-to video with an educational one. They need to be separate things. I recommend a 3-4 minute educational vid, then u point to the how-to procedure. Which is the list of concrete steps you spoke at 08:30 ish, only with visual aids and examples. And not visual aids flashed up on-screen to disappear unexpectedly, visual aids sharing screen with your face and staying up awhile, removed and replaced only as u go on to the next step.
I tried to remember the gist of what u said (the how-to) but I didn't think I even remembered the time number I put down. Maybe get someone who has ADHD to help u see where the sticking points are?
4 or 5 minutes is the absolute limit in length that an ADHD-directed segment should run. Thanks, hope it helps, big fan.
@ For sure. I think matching on screen visuals would be a huge boost. I need to figure out how to do that better.
@@Julia.Mandelbrotthe chapters mean u can go straight to the section of the video you want
Thank you for your help on the topic. I have been scouring for some good explanations and solutions. I think you best described my experience and issues. Will give your suggestions a try to see if they help with my freeze ups.
My ADHD didn't let me finish the video and somehow I had the motivation to type this comment 😂
Great video, thanks!
There weren't enough pleasure hits, so I had to run it a couple of times 😄
Excellent Video
Thanks!
04:00 That's why I have 64gigs of ram for Chrome to load😂
Thanks that was insightful & I think I learnt some useful stuff...I thought my adhd test was happening very soon but today found out it's a year away...how best can I deal with this please?
Thanks! Perhaps you can check in with your family doctor to see if they can refer to to another other testing locations/practitioners?
I try to do this but I end up having it written it down on a paper, then on the computer and then again on some other paper 🥲
So, in essence, use a planner. I've searched for apps that works with my AuDHD brain, to no avail. They're made for normies. I have my own tool, a non-hierarchic and holographic analysing-planning-organising-executing tool, but I'm no programmer so there's no app yet. So I'm constantly on the lookout for new apps or an interested programmer.
I'm 35 years old always knew I got in me the adhd but by the years passing I feel it harder and harder to get anything done, should I seek help?
I'll be making a few ADHD in adults and ADHD+motivation/depression type videos which might answer this in the future
+1, best on X2 speed😉
I do both in my Braun and 100 tabs on my computer😂
Idk man, your description of a typical brain seems made up. That can't be true. Don't tell me there are people who can actually do that? 🤯
The way I describe it isn't like a 100% neurologically accurate layout of how things work, but functionally it works as a way to describe the process as it occurs for most people.
😂sounds like magic