Avocado Cado it funny how I saw the reaction to the SAT score coming. “Not good, but not awful” - sounds like something I would tell my child if they showed me a report card with full of B’s and C’s.
@@GuardianDiancieSome Asian parents would use this grading scale: A = Average (or Acceptable) B = Below average C = Can't eat dinner D = Don't come home F = Find a new family Asian child: "I got an A+ on all of my finals!" Asian parent: "That's OK, you could do better." Normal A = Excellent B = Above average (Good) C = Average (just Ok) D = Below Average (Poor) F = Failed (Very bad) Western child: "I got an A+ on all of my finals!" Western parent: "Wow, that's really awesome! I'm so proud of you!"
@@aaronchao7562 Omg true, since I've been living in the US I would say my parent's "grading scale" is a mix of both when I was in 6th grade since my average GPA was 3.8, but in by the end of 7th grade my GPA throughout the entire year was a 4.0 so now my parents always expect me to get all A's while for my OLDER brother 2 B's are fine.
Living vicariously through their children is a hobby for most Asian parents. My mom did not care if I get into an Ivy or not as long as I become financially successful. Have to agree. You can't eat a dioloma or give it as a deposit for a house.
@@ira5290 At the end of the day those people who you are trying to please will pass away and you would be left with a life and degree you never wanted that you stressed to achieve. You better do what you love so you dont regret later; stop trying to live their failed dreams and live yours instead.
@Xushi1sMissing At the end of the day those people who you are trying to please will pass away and you would be left with a life and degree you never wanted that you stressed to achieve. You better do what you love so you dont regret later; stop trying to live their failed dreams and live yours instead.
Elena Lina Unlike asians we would rather choose to not be stressed out to the point of killing ourselves. Us blacks, hispanics, and white people would rather be truly successful and happy.
@@heavensangel7882 That is very true, but do you think we have a choice in not following our parents' words? They would disown us if we didn't act according to their wishes.
Julie Song I know that you don’t have a choice as a child but I was replying to the person who said that Hispanics, blacks, and whites were less successful than Asians just because our parents don’t stress us out with unnecessary work and pressure.
I said that too. And if I do have kid I want them to live for them self. I don't really find enjoyment letting someone else do what I wanted. If that wanted to do it to that's fine but I want to do it for my self.
She gets rejected not because of her grades but because in her application she lacks character, due to her parents making her study all the time that means she doesn’t to sports, after school activities and she doesn’t have other commitments so universities don’t see what’s so special abt her
My parents reaction with my marks: 40 below: wtf is wrong with u? 50-60 : dis is not i want 70-80 : pass below 90! 90-99 : why don't u get 100 instead?!! 100 : hmmm.. Don't be too proud of yourself, maybe the test was too easy
I usually get only 93-97 and my parents keep asking me why I don’t get a 100 but, when I do get a 100, they say that maybe it was too easy and to get a 100 on tests that are hard.
asian parents want their kids to do better than they did. This includes scores on tests, SATS, really anything. So the kids probably would be better but honestly, I think the parents are doing good at what their doing.
Did these Asian parents ever think that their kids aren’t getting accepted because they aren’t well rounded? Their kids are all academic, don’t participate in anything. The kids don’t have time. If you only have the grades, you aren’t getting into an ivy.
My Asian parents can't understand this. I take part in orchestra and since I need to practice a lot, I didn't study as much. My grades was still the same though, the typical between 70-90 which they are always so disappointed in. My mom keeps saying that orchestra is affecting my grades and tells me to quit orchestra. I tell them that co-curriculum marks are important too but guess what my mom said? She said that universities prioritize grades more than co-curriculum activities. I honestly don't know how to convince her to understand... Sorry you had to listen to me rant
It's just how differently the college process works in China. It's literally your score on a single test that decides everything iirc. Still extremely upsetting to think about, though.
@@AngelicaStar I'm really sorry they don't understand. Perhaps they don't know that universities don't just consider grades as a path to success. Extracurricular activities, community service hours, GPA, SAT scores, and a good character are all incorporations which decides if colleges are going to accept you or not. Sorry if I don't have much to say to this but I feel really bad that your mom is harsh on you like this. I'm Asian and I guess my parents are the same, especially they push me so much to rant and work about on SATs and sometimes it's just really, really annoying.
Judging if that were my dad/mom, they mean that every single thing that they expect me to do (a crap ton) should be done before they think that you've died and come to jabber for half an hour about how their friends' kids are more responsible and could get into Ivy Leagues.
Apparently not long after this documentary was filmed, Sophie was arrested for possession of marijuana. Can't say i blame her. Maybe if her Dad was more supportive of her 760 score she wouldn't have relapsed. Karma.
If sophies parents let her do extracurriculars she might have been accepted because colleges especially ivy league ones look at that, the schools dont just want robots, im not saying scores arent important but extracurriculars help
Nah, most people who even apply to Harvard Princeton Yale have full score acts and full scores on 3-4 SAT subjects tests. For Asians, that's practically expected for any applicant. You need extracurriculars and leadership on top of that. Even non hyp like Penn, Dartmouth, Cornell, and Brown have like a 2-3% acceptance rate for Asians, and most of them applying will have full scores. It's crazy.
Arctic Zombie nah lol I’m asian as hell too. In asia it’s pretty normal that students do no extra curricular and mainly focus on exam scores. I remember at my my high school(USA), the seledectorian wrote a long ass Facebook post on how he was depressed af since he didn’t get into Stanford and only focused his GPA. He blamed not doing any extra curricular and his obsession to his school rank. He ended up going to Cornell. Other stories like this were not uncommon in my school.
Exactly! It takes more than grades to be successful. I'm a Harvard graduate and I'm studying law there. When I first got accepted, I was making A's and B's (mostly A's, maybe one B) my junior year all the way through my senior year, and a 1508 average for the SAT but I was very well rounded and got involved into the community. That's all there is to it. They aren't looking for the perfect-grade students, but students who are well-rounded.
And the lawsuit against Harvard shows that is false. That is the dumb myth perpetuated by the Ivy's to justify why they have so little Asians. Say that against the Blacks and its racism. Say it against he Asians and it's "the truth".
If I was her I will abandon him later. Fuck that, they think they can just fck and have a baby without fulfilling the baby's emotional needs. Disgusting. I'm asian and I loathe this.
Zack Tom Damn. Here in my family my parents are the one who consoles me whenever I get shit grades. Always telling me that Im already doing my best and that I shouldn’t stress over it. Hell they’re happy as long as I pass, and get excited when I get on top of class. (I usually got honors from Elementary to Senior High and 90+ on cards but I don’t see myself as a smart guy since I have to make a huge effort and study time with my friends just to pass Math in Senior High). Compared to this girl I was very average when I was her age, yet my parents always bragged about me to their friends (I dont know whether to feel embarrassed or happy lol). Really puts things into perspective. Glad I don’t live in a family where grades equate to your parents love.
My parents never really congratulate me when I get good grades and I'm never rewarded for them, and they also never console me when I get not so good grades lol they just tell me I need to study that subject harder and not so much phone 💀💀
as an asian myself, asian parents usually have double standard and only focuses on grades rather than their kid's actual talent and wont bother help developing it. they usually want their kids to be a doctor, lawyer, or a rich investor. so like becoming a singer,actor,etc is considered bad by asian parents lol
these parents think that they would be embarrassed if their children don’t get in good universities but little do they know that it’s more embarrassing for ppl to know how much you tortured your children for something that you “couldn’t achieve”.
The parents more concerns about kids further, the better college means higher chance to have a good life. As a Chinese, I would do the same thing like my parents required me, higher degree and better school gave me more chance than other peers. I don’t want my kids live in a poor families in the future.
Chad lee I understand but they still need a social life. Going to school and straight home, you will develop no social skills. High school is a very important time of their life, but also their last time as a minor. After high school they’re going to be working for the rest of their life.
@@chadlee870 yeah that might be one of the reasons but Nhi Le is also right as well, my parents who are Vietnamese consider any college or university with a 40% or higher acceptance rate as easy to get in which means that it isn't worth aiming for. They see it as an embarrassment to themselves if they let me go to any university or college that is "easy" to get in.
RIGHT, its mine too :D I live in Cali so its also conveintent but the campus and everything else just makes me want to go!. I hope they accept me. (I have three years left of highschool) and I hope they accept you whenever you apply.
But sadly this is the condition of several Asian students (Particularly Indian ) I personally have seen a lot of my friends here in India have parental pressure like insane
The parents will regret this later once the resentment boils over from their children. Once their kids move out, they will learn that their biggest regret was not bonding with their children.
I honestly will never understand why Asian parents put so much pressure on the child and when they finally get the grades they deserve, their parents just put them down and that causes a bad attitude, stress, and low self-esteem in asian teens.
Wanna have an estranged relationship with your kids? Do this. Force them to do what you want. Treat them as numbers. I promise you will be hated when they move out.
“you can party when you get older” “you can party after school” “you can party when you get into harvard” “you can party when you get a job” “you can party after work” “you can party when you retire” “haha too bad you’re dead now”
@@TempleofBrendaSong not everyone believes in Heaven and we don't know if it exists. and i'm pretty sure God didn't tell us to work ourselves to death all the time.
I’m Asian myself and if I went through this, I would’ve honestly killed myself. All this stress, peer pressure, anxiety and no love. I pray for these children.
@@_also__also_5170 btw, I want to take 5 APs next year for sophomore and my Asian parents(which value education) and they are like bruh, most kids only take 6 APs for entire 4 years at Highschool at my school and I’m like bruh, let me work harder. Smh
Affirmative action isn't perfect. It's supposed to level the playing field but it isn't because the system is way past broken. Asians are getting screwed for doing well, and it's mostly middle class or lower income white women that benefit from affirmative action. It needs an overhaul.
David Morales Why? The race insulting on this topic is so unnecessary. First of all, Hispanics and black people are on par with college statistics due to affirmative action, in some fields Hispanics are actually higher up smartass. In terms of test scores, Hispanics tend to score slightly higher than black people, thus the point advantage for black people which in most cases isn't significant enough to make a difference. The numbers based on population look worse for Hispanic students in some areas because there are so many more of you. Besides, affirmative action was invented to help remedy the centuries of negative impact slavery, Jim Crow and segregation has had on black students. While there is an obvious mistreatment of Hispanics (especially those from immigrant, non-English speaking, low income households), it is not on the same level of what we've been through systematically. Hispanics are actually benefiting from race equality initiatives more than black people. Let's not get into who's more "deserving" of these points. That's an argument you will lose.
Wow, I’m Asian and I’m so glad my parents are not like that!! Yes, they do care about my grades and want me to do well in school, but all they care about is that they want me to be happy in life. They don’t care what job I have, what school I go to, etc. They want what’s best for me and also my siblings. I feel bad for them and I really hope they can find happiness in life and that what their parents can realize what they’ve done and become better people.
Same for my asian parents. They don't really care about my grades as long as they aren't a C or lower, or if I really tried my best. They only care about my health and happiness
There are three types of birds 1. Those that learn to fly early 2. Those that learn to fly late And 3. Those that don’t bother flying and lay an egg to make their children fly. I believe most asian parents are 3.
@@Boymanjusri tried to understand them a lot for all my life of 21 years... But I don't know how many times I found their obsession to success as reasonable. Like, what if kid doesn't like and it u force it on them?! I always dreamt of studying business administration and my parents said "it's not for girls" and forced me to study computer science which I hate the most and they still expect me to top in it! Yeah I understand them.
@@army_4ever748 actually, I have also tried to think in their pov and I think I can understand them. The thing is that Asian parents want us to achieve the things that they never could achieve. They think that if they push us to have good grades, atleast we will be able to get into good colleges and get a good job and earn money. I am sure they also feel regret somewhere in their life and thus, making us do things. I believe this kind of parenting is not healthy and should never be encouraged. A kid should have the freedom to choose whatever they want to become in their life. This kind of parenting runs in the family. My grandmother used to beat up my mom when she was younger and she was also verbally abusive but they never realised it. So now my mom also does the same to me. Honestly, I am just gonna start being independent and start earning my own money and then move out when I turn 18.
Little Cube I have Asian parents but they’re not as strict as them! Kids to have time to themselves and to live their lives cause you only have one childhood!
Batukhan Kipçakoğlu for real. And they didn't even want me to go to those " tops colleges ". I was jokingly said " i'll become a doctor in the future " and my dad said " no! It's hard and really tiring "
Lemon Juice lol same I would joke around like that with my mom and she would be like nah what you saying you suck at math, science, and english there is no hope of you getting a high paid job
I'm pretty sure they didn't mean it like that. They would've been happy with any Ivy League college but Havard, Yale and Princeton and the oldest Ivies and have a bigger reputation.
FireNinja606 tbh every prestigious college in the US is filled with snobby white kids, majority are mostly, if not, all white. I know because I go to UPENN.
I'm Asian and I got 60% for math and my parents didn't scold me cuz they knew that I suck at math and I tried my best and they were proud of me. Now I'm aiming to get 70%
grew up in HK, I hate the way HKers, mainland Chinese, or some other Asian parents raise their children. In my childhood, 80% of parents around me talked to their children in a very traditional way which includes scolding, yelling, blaming, abusing, everything was just too negative. But now I think things got better and may be half of parents are like that. On the flip side, majority of parents in China still talk to their kids without respect, as if children have no feelings like robot. I personally think that children need love, care, encouragement, company , and respect way more than just lecturing or threatening. I am treating my children like my friends, I joke with them, I talk to them with respect, I play and share my experiences with them. I praise and encourage them a lot too. I get serious sometimes only when they cross the boundary. They do feel motivated to learn things when they get recognized and complemented by me. When I was a child, I never got complemented by my parents, they would just said I was stupid and useless, and compared me with other better kids. What's the damn point of hurting your own kids' feelings I mean. Furthermore, adults talk to adults in very negative way too, I understand that human get jealous sometimes , but there's no point to cut someone's head to make yourself feel taller. Moreover, most of the teachers I met also verbally abused their students, they basically gave up on those students that didn't do well at school. Western values and cultures are just too different. In comparison, western parents would say " love you" to their kids almost everyday. But a big portion of Asian parents would not even say that to their children in the whole life. Don't get me wrong that Asian/Chinese Culture is all bad, they study hard, work hard, they are family oriented etc etc...But when it comes to parenting and teaching at school , it's just too cruel. Children with a fragile heart deserve more love, encouragement, patience, recognition and positive complements.
Asian culture is not touchy feely. A lot of things are left unspoken but are understood. But Asian parents do have a tendency to treat their children like toddlers way after adulthood.This is why my siblings and I do not go out of our way to speak to her. We are all now middle aged adults and yet she still talk and lecture to us like we are toddlers… still complaining that our lives didn’t went in the directions SHE expected.
These parents are delusional. These schools look at extracurricular activities, job experience, community service, letters of rec etc. GPA and test scores is at the bottom of the list now a days. The schools also accept various GPA since we’ve already seen someone with a 3.7 rejected and there’s been cases when someone with a 3.4 gets accepted. It all depends on whether your application stands out in various sections.
I'm sorry, but GPA And Standardized Testing are STILL the primary way to weed out applicants in extremely selective schools. Just take a look at the 25th percentile math section score for the SAT for MIT students. It's 790. Which means 75% or more people who attend MIT have an SAT math score of 790+ Sure extracurriculars matter, but grades are still the most prominent factor in your college application, unless you created and insane invention that helped the world. The fact of the matter is that the kids in this video just didn't have good enough scores to even be average at IVY league colleges
GPA (and test scores to a lesser extent) is the minimum to get in now. Top universities are now looking for students with good stats, but also have ECs, job experience, and essays that stand out. 3.7 unweighted GPA is now considered on the low end, and top schools will need either extenuating circumstances or outstanding extracurriculars (for example being nationally recognized in a competition) to compensate.
@@aarohgokhale8832Most of these schools are now test optional, so this matters even less. Sure no one is going to get into the Ivy league with abysmal grades, but the reason why you can see a 4.0 GPA get reject, and a 3.5 GPA get accepted is because they don't just rely on academic accomplishments. They want well rounded individuals.
@@piscesgroovesupreme GPA is a minimum though. You can still look at the grade distribution for non legacy college applicants and there is a clear pattern. Grades allow you to be considered at the very minimum. Getting into an ivy with a 3.5 is not the norm.
*there is a difference between being truly smart vs. being forced to study for a particular exam to get the particular grade. the person who makes the video game always makes more money than the best player playing the game.*
Chris USA, what you wrote is rather stupid. "the person who makes the video game always makes more money than the best player playing the game." Firstly, this is false equivalency. "there is a difference between being truly smart vs. being forced to study for a particular exam to get the particular grade" Secondly, this attitude encourages the glorification of unearned natural talent, while scoffing at hard work and perseverance.
My thought exactly. If they are open enough to criticize as little as they were on camera I don't even want to think about what they do when the camera man is gone.
@@jeffreywong7244 I don't even did what she say but it happens and she don't believe me then she blame me and beat me I remember that time it still bleeding
Is the fact that these kids are trying very hard and getting GREAT scores not good enough for their parents?? Come on, give your kids credit. They’re constantly pushing themselves to the limit, studying hard, and doing the school work.
She probably didn't get accepted because she didn't do any extra activities like participate in sports or clubs because things like that boost ur chases of getting into college But all her parents wanted her to do is study study study thank god my parents aren't like that Jesus
Yeah you need to do extra curricular activities to get a better chance of acceptance but it doesn't mean she has no chance cause she's really high performing in common core which means she's qualified, but doesn't really show the characteristics of an outgoing leader which colleges want.
Just because colleges have to abide by some form of affirmative action doesn't mean that they're letting in "morons". if you think about it logically, most colleges cost a lot of money and require a lot of fees, and most people cant pay them alone, let alone those from underprivileged backgrounds who are generally minorities (going by the populations who have a higher percentage of people living under the poverty line where African Americans, Latinos/Hispanics, and Native Americans are over 20% near 25, and Caucasians and Asians at around 10-12% federalsafetynet.com/us-poverty-statistics.html www.census.gov/prod/2013pubs/acsbr11-17.pdf). And if those people can't pay, then you probably won't let them in, even if they are qualified in terms of grades and test scores. I feel that affirmative coxed colleges into giving more people a chance to receive an education who wouldn't have otherwise, and even with those lucky few, some colleges stop after they get their number since they are not obligated to do anything else, so its still not "fair"
SAT is a joke by Indian standards. Even an average student in India can score above average in it and above average Indian students easily get perfect scores
@@NikhilDeshpandeSohamDeshpande no sorry, you do not know what you are talking about. I agree that scoring above its average is pretty easy, but the above average indian student will not be able to achieve a perfect score. Have you taken the sat. You dont know what youre talking about
Nikhil Deshpande you’re wrong. I’m also Indian too. India sucks anyway, pollution and most people there are pretty bad. India can’t even get on the moon
I’m 16, Spain. My mom doesn’t really care about grades, she just wants me to pass so I can study whatever I want later on. She also lets me go out whenever I want until whenever. I’m really grateful for that. It normally doesn’t happen, but I guess freedom is a very important value in my family as well as having as many options as I can.
She could've gotten in if her parents let her do extracurricular activities, programs, community service, sports, etc. Instead of studying all the time.
i had a friend who had a gpa of higher than 4.2 and he couldn’t get into ucla because he didn’t have any extracurriculars. this was 10 years ago so i’m not sure what the requirement is now, but that was crazy to me.
Yeah lol. My parents are Indian but we discussed practically, since my grades weren't THE BEST and practically speaking, it isn't worth the effort just to get into a prestigious school. You can do just as well going to a really good state school with much less effort in academics but really investing in practical applications
It's not certain you would make money off of video games, and i understand completely how the parents think. Asian parents come to America living a hard life. Taxes cost a lot. College costs more here than anywhere else in the world. People said America was the land of opportunity, it turned out to not be much better here. But they don't want their kids to live like they did, so they work hard, have their kids study hard, and have them go to a good school so they can make money and be happy in life.
J Ho but depriving them from things they want to do is just horrible. They should be outside, hanging with friends, or something they want to do. Obviously they should still work hard in school but there should be a balance. Are the parents really gonna waste their kids childhood? Like someone is gonna ask them one day when they're older and be like "man don't you ever just wanna go back to your childhood" they're gonna say fuck that shit cause all they did was study. I'm savouring my childhood for as long as I can because I only have a couple years till I'm an adult.
Sameeeeeeeee! My parents are very very fun but a little bit serious and too pushy and and I can't get a break when my mom is screaming a lot sometimes and I love listening to music and art and also expressing myself and having fun PS I'm 17 years old and I'm half Filipino and Canadian.😂😂😂😂😂😂🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭
I was born and grew up in Asia. My parents were supportive but never pressured me to get perfect score. They just wanted me to be happy. When asked why they weren't pushing me like other parents, they answered "There is more to life than school." The emphasis was on integrity. It worked. While other kids burned out, my fire was burning bright. I'm about to finish my PhD in the US debt-free.
I think this mostly applies to Asian-American families as it's usually the case of immigrant parents who move to US for a better life for their children and give them what they didn't get
the way Asians are trained from a young age like them will grow up to be a very hard WORKER but will never be leaders because of the way they were taught. i know how it feels like because i am one of them.
it would be nice to be in a world where teens could let be free to go fish, play basket or soccer as they wish and then when they are 20-25 just give to them a desk where they can do a job and raise several Ks to buy a fancy house and feed a family with 5 kids that will live the same way. But unfortunately we don't live in such a world. Unfortunately what a person needs in their 20ies is that his parents took good care of them when they were younger and hot-headed.
puffolotti you can have fun and also buy a good house at the same time you know, you have to find some balance there, besides, just studying school works alone really isnt healthy to their mind, i say parents should help kids find and explore what they truly love and good at, its easier to be successful that way too. you dont want kids to grow up and wishing that they had a good childhood/teenage because iit would be too fking late...
Also do not forget, it is important to go to a "good" schools. Even though you learn the same thing, you get better connections, and resources which help you succeed in life. Every wonder why people graduate and go on to earn a higher median salary? its cuz of this.
It always happened to me and in my elementary school all Asian people like me has to score 75% in our starr test and other people it is like 45% or 50% like i don't get it 🤔🤔🤔
I can't stop crying seen all the pressure, stress and hardwork they put up and still didn't get any appreciation from parents. They are gonna be great in future for sure but will miss all the youthful activities they wished they had. Strict parenting and over obedient kids. Study well and enjoy well whenever possible. Don't get stuck with alcohol and drugs. Stay blessed. Happy for all your hardwork and success
I ended up in the hospital from this kind of upbringing. I was so depressed and wanted to die because all I knew is to be efficient and useful for others to the point where relaxing makes me anxious. Don't do this to your kids folks.
Master meme honestly, getting beat up and bruised doesn't mean I failed. I'm successful but what they did, things like this is not necessary. I excel in the arts because that's the only thing I wasn't pressured to do. Good grades are useless when you get out of high school. So get the fuck off of your high horse and shove its head up your ass. Getting ptsd and suicidal tendencies enough to get sent to the ER and end up in the recovery center is no joke. What's the point of luxury of I can't even enjoy being alive?
Master meme, it sounds like you're instead referring to yourself rather than Heven demo when it comes to your own inabilities. Seriously, don't talk like you know shit.
Ever wonder how there are so many academically 'brilliant' Asian students out there in high school or uni, but once you enter the mainstream society most of them seems to fade away? That is the problem with Asian parenting. Asian kids were forced to follow the 'correct' and the safest path that was pointed out by their parents. Asian kids don't have a say in any decisions about themselves during their youth. As an Asian myself I experienced that throughout my youth. This resulted in the poor ability of decision making, lack of leadership, and the unwillingness of taking any risks. Ultimately this would lead most Asian into a 'follower status'. Most of them might still get decent pay due to their high education however they will always remain as the insignificant part of the population. It is really rare to see an Asian to get recognised of what they are excel on. Personally I think it is due to that they tend to not think outside the box because of the risks factors. This creates a limitation of creativity within their mindset which isn't beneficial at all. They might be brilliant at doing work as most of them are hard workers, but they tend to struggle with excessive problem solving that involves creativity and quality decision making. Sadly most Asian parents only consider a job with good pay, a payed off house and a few grandkids as the only measure of success. Personally I'm really into edm production however I always need to hide my works from my parents since everytime they see me making a beat they always tell me that ain't gonna earn you money. Asian parents do not have the concept of individual uniqueness, they evaluate your potential base on the comparison with other kids. And that really sucks. I believe this also apply to my other Asian brothers out there whether it is music, arts or sports. This is a long comment and I know. If you have read it till the end, I really wish you to live your lives to the fullest. Surround yourselves with passions and make no regret. Lastly have a good day. -message from a random asian dude.
Y'know, this really hit me. You're right. Absolutely right. The "successful" Asians are all doctors or random engineers. People like Jack Ma were once considered failures. My parents want me to go to med school, but I don't want to. I'm Asian as well. Thank you for putting this up. Frankly, I want to be in the pharmaceutical industry as a chemical and Biomolecular engineer. This is by all means a high-paying job that has much scope for career growth but my parents think only of med school.
Very similar experience too. Ended up in pharmacy school rn and it demands a lot of people skills, something that I hardly touched until uni. It’s very hard work to do really well whilst developing the communication and leadership skills. Definitely would’ve been beneficial to be exposed to it much earlier on in my life.
It broke my heart when that girl didn't get into any of the colleges her parents were pushing her to go to, and she said "I'm not special enough" I understand that these parents are wanting the best for their children. But this obviously isn't good for their mental health. These parents I think forget that these kids have emotions, and they feel and think things, based of their parents approval, because she knows her parents are probably dissappointed in her that she didn't get into these schools. She thinks shes not special enough. Her parents need to drop the pridefulness, go in there and hug their child. If what they say is true, that girl went off and got caught smoking weed when she got into another college, I really don't blame her.
mya619 its Asian tradition and culture that's the way it is. And a lot of people die from this system in China, Japan and South Korea and suicide is normal there for young age.
***** It's apart of their society I understand that. I understand that students in a lot of these asian countries have a high suicide rate. It's just crazy to put that much pressure on the human brain like that. You can never have too much knowledge, but mental abuse is never okay, that stays with people forever. South Korea is actually one of the most top rated countries where students commit suicide. That's why there's such a high demand in becoming kpop stars in Korea, if they feel like they have talent and attractive, they can have a shot at becoming a kpop star, where they won't have to have all the pressure of the school system and their parents constantly pushing them.
mya619 The main reason I think is because the parents looking up to some other kids. Could be a relative, friend our college kids. Since they think wow he/she gets straight A you can do it to! NO the world doesn't work that way because not EVERYONE can get straight A, but Asian parents are to stubborn to understand and wont except this reality. Many Americans go to Harvard our Yale and at the same time they staying happy and have a social life. There is more then one way to succeed in life and I believe a lot of the Americans have that succeed. Americans ARE very good with motivation compared to the Asian parents.
***** Well I agree and disagree. Most Americans who are Ivy league students, have been pressured by their parents. But we just have a different method. Yes there is harsh studying, restrictions on a lot of things during childhood, and shelteredness. That's why when these kids go to these colleges, they want to party, smoke weed, and do other things that their parents forbid them to do when they were growing up. That's why they seem happy when they go to college. But alot of american parents aren't going to be as mentally abusive like a lot of asian parents. You will hear more support like "You can do it." "Do your best." " You'll get better text time." Those are the things I don't think a lot of Asian parents say to their kids. They expect their kids to get good grades as if it's like brushing their teeth or taking a shower. "You're suppose to get nothing but A's in all your classes. Why should I praise you for that?" I think what the flaw is, is rewarding your child to make them feel good that they accomplished something. But I'm not Asian, so I don't want to step over my line on what they should and shouldn't do.
mya619 You make up a good point. I am Asian Chinese so I know this from my own parents and other relatives and friends. The things you said that American parents they applaud their kids, motivates them and also encouraging them to work hard. Asian parents are very abuse specially psychological abuse. When you get straight A there almost never any good job our present because in their eyes getting A in every class is like breathing. American parents push their kids, but not the same way Asians do. The only time Asian parents realize when they gone to far is when their children s commits suicide. And that is way to late and I don't feel sorry for those parents they got what they deserved I feel sorry for their kids who died very young.
maybe top tier schools arent even worth the crazy student loan debt... ugh.. i read a post of a kid pressured to go to one has like 120k debt.. nothin g wrong with community college and state school
@@yoleeisbored there is absolutely NOTHING wrong going to community college or state school. Actually that’s the smart thing to do. Biology is biology. Harvard isn’t teaching voodoo magic ok. Same shit
and what would they be doing, when their child really did well at school, did success, would they even be proud of their child and praise their child besides beating?
+Brandon Yong But the effort athletes put in goes into their physical ability. They work just as hard as these kids, they just put the effort towards something different.
When she says that if Harvard (or some other Ivy League) doesn't accept her, then they don't know what kind of person they'll accept. How about someone who does sports, interacts with the community, and is helpful rather than just studious.
@@turkikan8942 can you not. Get your negativity outta here. Idc if people are going to be like "its true tho" you cant say a country is shitty. Now if its North Korea that would be a different story.
420PhanIt i'm also australian and i just spent some time looking into it there's an old PDF here that looks at converting SAT scores to UAI: davidpratten.com/wp-content/uploads/2006/10/SAT1%20Assessment%20Schedule%202006-Sep-15.pdf apparently you can ask the UAC for a copy of the "Common Assessment Schedules for converting SAT and AP scores to their equivalent ATAR" but there's nothing online that i could find and this whole "old SAT vs new SAT" shit is mindfucking me so hard, i can't find anything to do with 770, in fact, everything i've come across says that 840 (or 1200 depending on the SAT test?) is a mark that the lowest 25% would get in the SAT's but this is literally 10 mins of research at almost 3am in the morning the most common answer seems that there isn't a logical approach to it as most people can't figure it out so honestly it's probably not even worth considering unless you care enough to call the UAC up but they are a bunch of cunts
Seeing this video made me realize what amazing parents I have. I have always being good with grades and all, but there are times where I have too much pressure and get C’s or B’s and my mom always hugs me and tells me how proud of me she is because she sees that I am working hard and that even without an A or a perfect SAT score, she believes on me and that I will have a very good future. I could not ask for better parents ngl. ❤️
I’m Asian and I understood this was the early 2000s but dude, this is crazy af. My parents were immigrants and so am I. They never got a chance to study high school due to financial difficulties yet they’ve built a quite comfortable life completely from scratch. Education is important but seriously, as long as ur kid can get a job and be able to feed themselves when they reach adulthood, why stress them so much?? It’s sad to watch this video, it’s even sadder that we still have the same pressure in our school system nowadays.
These kids and parents don't understand that with Ivy Leagues it's not just about have good grades, it's about developing some kind of life altering invention, beating world records in sports, volunteering across the country,,ect.
the problem is that after they are forced to live up to insane expectations, they don't live a happy life as adults. Yes, they are academically successful, but that is only a small piece of what makes a happy life. These people probably lack other skills, such as social interaction, relationships, self esteem and so much more.
alot of asian parents dont let their kids inreract and socialize with other children.. which damages them, cant network, dont do well in interviews, they have a harder time standing up for themselves, more likely to be targeted for bullying, etc.. also physically abusive too
Crackpot Scientist Depression is not caused BY things that happen to you (aside from temporarily due to bereavement or cancer etc), it's caused by your inability to cope with life. Ten people can be subjected to the same stressors, but only one of them will succumb to depression. That's how we know that external events are not the cause.
BLS. That’s racist and such a dumb statement to say 😂 They can’t be depressed because they’re Asian? Really? And please don’t use some random quote to justify that being stressed out causes someone to be stronger, because in some cases it doesnt.
Kermit You're talking about situational sadness, which is something we all experience during difficult times. It's not the same thing as depression ... which is notable for its absence of quantifiable triggers. And you simply confirmed what I said - about 1 in 10 people reacting to a given stressor. The reason we react differently (to the same things) is because we're all raised differently. In other words, whether someone succumbs to chronic depression is determined by how they were raised. It's not determined by the events of our lives. Some people live hellishly difficult lives, yet never experience ongoing depression. THAT is the evidence that events are not the cause.
DP 63 sadness and depression is two different things. Sadness is a short term feeling that someone has. For instance, sadness can be caused over not winning a competition or not getting an A+. Depression, on the other hand, is sadness basically on steroids and is long term. Depression can be resulted by rape or bullying. Both sadness (or.. situational sadness, whatever you wanna call it) and depression can be triggered by events, and it’s so evident in so many cases. People can be depressed for SEVERAL different reasons, because, like you stated, we all react to things differently. One may become depressed because it’s just their personality or life events can trigger it off. And even if my environment had a cause in my depression, a specific event can still trigger it off. It may be your opinion that depression is not caused by events, but scientifically, depression is cause by a variety of different things, including events. For credibility in my argument please check out these sources: www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/depression/what-causes-depression www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/what-causes-depression www.webmd.com/depression/guide/causes-depression
TheOnlyWil u must be white. For us thats normal but fo sure im not gonna raise my kids that way but thats how we were raised my bro just made us mentally stronger
bruv they r just being real. This world is too cruel no ones gna pamper ur ass and i didnt say thats 100% right jus saying thats how we were raised and made us stronger.
Lol they do realize that the good colleges also take into consideration extra curricular activities, sports, social life, community service...like geez
+Dolores Dean no only study matta! plaing outside for amaricans you no want to be like these americans! they stoopid! college want A+ go study befoa dinna!
+Dolores Dean you know whats sad, connections are worth way more than a college degree. You graduate from yale and still not get the jobs because you are socially awkward or don't have the right connections. Most of the time you have either have connections or have some sort of prior job related experience to the job to even get it. Getting good grades for a good college just means you know how to follow directions. Also, even if you graduate with a major and get the job you want you will still have to learn how things work as most of the time it isn't real world applications and they aren't the best/fastest way to do it with reasonable results.
Jerry Wong Asians Don't understand that, the moment I started talking to people at the hospital I volunteered at, she tried to get me to quit because she felt her parenting authority was threatened. She didn't want me to learn from dirty "Americans".
I have Indian parents, which for most of my childhood wouldn’t accept anything other than As. But when I got into 8th and and freshman year, they started to realize that if I focused on acing hard AP classes, that’s all I would be able to do and nothing else. My parents are super supportive of me now. Of course they won’t be extremely happy if I got a C, and they still prioritize my studies and grades, but they understand me and let me explore what I want to.
Kid: I got a perfect SAT score!
Parents: Not good, but not awful.
Avocado Cado it funny how I saw the reaction to the SAT score coming.
“Not good, but not awful” - sounds like something I would tell my child if they showed me a report card with full of B’s and C’s.
That's pushing it.
That's what my parents would say if I got an A- on my report card ( I'm not asian, I'm black)
@@GuardianDiancieSome Asian parents would use this grading scale:
A = Average (or Acceptable)
B = Below average
C = Can't eat dinner
D = Don't come home
F = Find a new family
Asian child: "I got an A+ on all of my finals!"
Asian parent: "That's OK, you could do better."
Normal
A = Excellent
B = Above average (Good)
C = Average (just Ok)
D = Below Average (Poor)
F = Failed (Very bad)
Western child: "I got an A+ on all of my finals!"
Western parent: "Wow, that's really awesome! I'm so proud of you!"
@@aaronchao7562 Omg true, since I've been living in the US I would say my parent's "grading scale" is a mix of both when I was in 6th grade since my average GPA was 3.8, but in by the end of 7th grade my GPA throughout the entire year was a 4.0 so now my parents always expect me to get all A's while for my OLDER brother 2 B's are fine.
when sophie was overflowing with joy and called her dad only to be disappointed yet again, i felt that
honestly she looked so sad 😢
At wat time?
time?
Timestamp?
@@void-xt8pw 7:24
"unless she got 800 then i would hug her" damn i feel so sorry for these kids
Lewi i started crying when I heard that
Damn right you should😂
Hmm... Welcome to my daily life
@@shrutis damN I feel you 😔
They’re so lucky, i wish my parents were like that. I naturally love studying tho. But motivation like that would be good.
The girl that got accepted in yale didnt cry because she got accepted but cried because her mom finally hugged her
LMAO AHAHAXHAHAHAHHA
Wouldn't be surprised if it was her fist time.
And she can't wait til mom ...
Child: *blood types B*
Asian parents: *disappointed*
Duh😂
Hmm I see u have been watching chonny
B pos is still not good enough, not til I get A pos
😂😂😂
Ooof am O positive. And will never be A positive lmao
Child:listens to cardi B
Parent : LISTEN TO CARDI A!
This comment is so underrated
Lmfao
😂😂😂
Lol
Lol
“You can’t argue with a stubborn Chinese man”
Words of wisdom.
M2RC0 expect a black woman can...
Heh 666 likes
@@BlueberrySummertime oof only if they weren't stubborn 😂
PREACH
I just recognized am so so lucky from minimal pressure of a Chinese background family - am rarely lucky to have a stress free childhood
You cannot live your failed dream though your kids. The kids has their own dream to fulfill.
Indeed.
That is exactly what happened to Sophie’s dad. None of his 3 children attended Ivy League schools.
Nature, wherofore doesn't hesitate to turn the tables on such a person. That's exactly what betides when you have a nimiety of expectations.
unfortunately, they didn't get that memo.
Living vicariously through their children is a hobby for most Asian parents. My mom did not care if I get into an Ivy or not as long as I become financially successful. Have to agree. You can't eat a dioloma or give it as a deposit for a house.
What breaks me the most is when I hear their voices. Their tones express all their feelings. You can just hear their exhaustion and emptiness.
Their soul and spirit already left their body..They just operate on auto pilot mode.
we get used to it
@@ira5290 At the end of the day those people who you are trying to please will pass away and you would be left with a life and degree you never wanted that you stressed to achieve. You better do what you love so you dont regret later; stop trying to live their failed dreams and live yours instead.
@Xushi1sMissing At the end of the day those people who you are trying to please will pass away and you would be left with a life and degree you never wanted that you stressed to achieve. You better do what you love so you dont regret later; stop trying to live their failed dreams and live yours instead.
*Gets 100% on SAT*
Asian parent: Do better.
FBI... open up
Why is that soo true? I got a 4 and 4 is the highest in our school system and my dad said get a 5 next time when 4 is literally the highest!!!
Say it with a Chinese accent lol
Extra credit
IT IS I DIO! Lmao make your own questions and answer them 🤣🤣🤣🤣
“I’m not special enough” when she said that, it broke my heart
True dat. She needs to be more special . Cookie cutter doesn’t work.
It’s cause she doesn’t do extracurricular activities smh
Her parents
April Dong that’s not enough. You need to show some special skill or achievement. Be unique. They don’t want cookie cutter.
The daughter will be next strict asian parent too... they are same 😂
just boils my blood the type of kids that usually feel this way go on to commit suicide or eventually breakdown and lose themselves
The Asian Grading Scale:
A-Average
B-Bad
C-Can't Eat Dinner
D-Don't Go Home
F-Find a New Family
haha! child abuse so funny to joke about right?!!!!
@@ohno685 Fuck yeah
@@ohno685 its reality most of the times
Copy and paste
@@ohno685 yep
Poor girl has no me-time. If I was her, I would’ve had a mental breakdown
Elena Lina Unlike asians we would rather choose to not be stressed out to the point of killing ourselves. Us blacks, hispanics, and white people would rather be truly successful and happy.
@@heavensangel7882 That is very true, but do you think we have a choice in not following our parents' words? They would disown us if we didn't act according to their wishes.
Julie Song I know that you don’t have a choice as a child but I was replying to the person who said that Hispanics, blacks, and whites were less successful than Asians just because our parents don’t stress us out with unnecessary work and pressure.
My parents are a lot like this, it would just be a step up.
@Elena Lina top 10 richest people in the world: *white*
They didn’t accept her because she didn’t join any clubs or activities. Like colleges want more from a student than number
right, these schools want well rounded individuals, not just doing well on tests. your extra curriculars, communication, and volunteer work matter.
Yeah but she couldn't do any because her parents made her study all day
From what I heared the only important thing is 1. Being great at a popular sport 2. Having a bullshit amount of volunter work
Little Blue it’s more like showing passion and initiative in a specific field of interest, so if that passion happens to be a sport yeah
You're an idiot. All colleges want are students with the best scores. Clubs and other activities have no importance to being a well rounded person.
Parenting 101:
*Don't live through your kids*
I said that too. And if I do have kid I want them to live for them self. I don't really find enjoyment letting someone else do what I wanted. If that wanted to do it to that's fine but I want to do it for my self.
Drenched in black
I don't want kids
Until I'm 32 years old
@@theroadtocosplayandcomicco5840 big mood
@@QuanBrown27 What does "live for them self" even mean? Children are molded by their environment. What you are proposing is a fool's errand.
“The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of its parents.” - Carl Jung
Omg I never even thought about this, this is such a good quote thank you for sharing this
She gets rejected not because of her grades but because in her application she lacks character, due to her parents making her study all the time that means she doesn’t to sports, after school activities and she doesn’t have other commitments so universities don’t see what’s so special abt her
Jimmy Neutron that’s true and even though colleges indeed require after school activities
Exactly, you need a balance between the two
Yes but asian parents don't see that if there was a parent who would the older generations would say no
Jimmy Neutron agree
Number Five absolutely. As a professor I can tell you grades is only one factor
These parents think they are making their kids succesfull but in reality they are making them depressed and unsocialized
And soon develop mental disorder..they push their kids to the breaking point
Plus an unsocialised adult is not a successful one...
These parents are turning their children into robots.
wiktoria kohman they can be social when they are rich and successful
@@ty9392 you can't be rich of your not social. Your not gonna be able to find connections or pitch a idea
Asian grading system
A: acceptable
B: Beating
C: can’t have dinner
D:Don’t come home
F: Find new family
That's clever
I am asian but thank God my parents are not like them
Same, that's too much.
A: a is for average
A - average
B - bad
C - crap
D - dead
F - fucked
My parents reaction with my marks:
40 below: wtf is wrong with u?
50-60 : dis is not i want
70-80 : pass below 90!
90-99 : why don't u get 100 instead?!!
100 : hmmm.. Don't be too proud of yourself, maybe the test was too easy
I usually get only 93-97 and my parents keep asking me why I don’t get a 100 but, when I do get a 100, they say that maybe it was too easy and to get a 100 on tests that are hard.
Gets 0: get the hell outta my house
what about 40-50
I bet that Indonesian or malaysian parents lol
@@mysticalx7974 Out of house?
More like executed
Child: *gets 760 out of 800*
Parent: *"noT So Bad, NoT sO gOoD"*
Honestly I'd like to see them do better
Ikr
It was actually 770..
Sadly every Asian parent is like that sooo..
@James the said thing is that those parents want their children to live THEIR ideal life not the life the kid want, sad honestly
asian parents want their kids to do better than they did. This includes scores on tests, SATS, really anything. So the kids probably would be better but honestly, I think the parents are doing good at what their doing.
Did these Asian parents ever think that their kids aren’t getting accepted because they aren’t well rounded? Their kids are all academic, don’t participate in anything. The kids don’t have time. If you only have the grades, you aren’t getting into an ivy.
girl got into Yale but seriously I wanna join Harvard I do get straight As but I only can draw anime oof
My Asian parents can't understand this. I take part in orchestra and since I need to practice a lot, I didn't study as much. My grades was still the same though, the typical between 70-90 which they are always so disappointed in. My mom keeps saying that orchestra is affecting my grades and tells me to quit orchestra. I tell them that co-curriculum marks are important too but guess what my mom said? She said that universities prioritize grades more than co-curriculum activities. I honestly don't know how to convince her to understand...
Sorry you had to listen to me rant
It's just how differently the college process works in China. It's literally your score on a single test that decides everything iirc. Still extremely upsetting to think about, though.
I’m Asian and my parents gave up on me when I was 10
@@AngelicaStar I'm really sorry they don't understand. Perhaps they don't know that universities don't just consider grades as a path to success. Extracurricular activities, community service hours, GPA, SAT scores, and a good character are all incorporations which decides if colleges are going to accept you or not. Sorry if I don't have much to say to this but I feel really bad that your mom is harsh on you like this. I'm Asian and I guess my parents are the same, especially they push me so much to rant and work about on SATs and sometimes it's just really, really annoying.
3:23
Dad: I hope you will yell at yourself.
Daughter: For what?!
I burst out laughings.
Lol
Judging if that were my dad/mom, they mean that every single thing that they expect me to do (a crap ton) should be done before they think that you've died and come to jabber for half an hour about how their friends' kids are more responsible and could get into Ivy Leagues.
Apparently not long after this documentary was filmed, Sophie was arrested for possession of marijuana. Can't say i blame her. Maybe if her Dad was more supportive of her 760 score she wouldn't have relapsed. Karma.
Source?
Wheres the source
Relapsed?
*ITS JUST WEED*
source? also weed should be decriminalized everywhere
@@juniper154 people have a poor understanding of how one gets into drugs
If sophies parents let her do extracurriculars she might have been accepted because colleges especially ivy league ones look at that, the schools dont just want robots, im not saying scores arent important but extracurriculars help
Nah, most people who even apply to Harvard Princeton Yale have full score acts and full scores on 3-4 SAT subjects tests. For Asians, that's practically expected for any applicant. You need extracurriculars and leadership on top of that. Even non hyp like Penn, Dartmouth, Cornell, and Brown have like a 2-3% acceptance rate for Asians, and most of them applying will have full scores. It's crazy.
Maybe for Harvard but Ik plenty of Asians who still get into Cornel and Dartmouth just because they had great GPA and a good essay
Arctic Zombie nah lol I’m asian as hell too. In asia it’s pretty normal that students do no extra curricular and mainly focus on exam scores. I remember at my my high school(USA), the seledectorian wrote a long ass Facebook post on how he was depressed af since he didn’t get into Stanford and only focused his GPA. He blamed not doing any extra curricular and his obsession to his school rank. He ended up going to Cornell. Other stories like this were not uncommon in my school.
They probably arent getting accepted because they’re only focusing on their grades
Some else said that in the comments too.
Exactly! It takes more than grades to be successful. I'm a Harvard graduate and I'm studying law there. When I first got accepted, I was making A's and B's (mostly A's, maybe one B) my junior year all the way through my senior year, and a 1508 average for the SAT but I was very well rounded and got involved into the community. That's all there is to it. They aren't looking for the perfect-grade students, but students who are well-rounded.
Anonymous Anonymous
One question, what was your gpa?
Sumaiya Fatema, my GPA was 3.8, I believe.
And the lawsuit against Harvard shows that is false. That is the dumb myth perpetuated by the Ivy's to justify why they have so little Asians. Say that against the Blacks and its racism. Say it against he Asians and it's "the truth".
Asian kid: *Listens to 50 cent*
Asian parent: *Y u no listen to 100 cent*
If asian parents see you listen to rap they'll yell at you and be racist and compare you to black kids in a bad way.
@@PENSDYNASTY for 1st gen immigrant parents yes but not for 2nd and 3rd gen.
PENSDYNASTY 2020 lmao that may be true in most cases, but I’m asian American and I listen to rap with my parents in the car and they like rap too😂😂
Lmao
@@PENSDYNASTY my parents are first generation and my dad loved tupac when he came here so...
The look on Sophie's face when her dad wasn't that happy with her getting 760 on both subjects just sucked the life out of her.
Her dad's so fickle in his thinking. My God! For heaven's sake, make up your mind.
If I was her I will abandon him later. Fuck that, they think they can just fck and have a baby without fulfilling the baby's emotional needs. Disgusting. I'm asian and I loathe this.
Imagine if she responded by saying “YOU KNOW HOW MUCH I SACRIFICED?!!”
Bro it’s like the only F she ever received was her gender on her report card.
Ikr😂😆
Then how bout m oh yeah the word start with silent *a* ...m
hi directioner!
Her parents where probably mad at thst lmao
this remind me of that amazing world of gumball episode
“Unless you gets 800 I would hug her.” Ok I can say that this parent failed as being a parent.
Zack Tom
Damn. Here in my family my parents are the one who consoles me whenever I get shit grades. Always telling me that Im already doing my best and that I shouldn’t stress over it. Hell they’re happy as long as I pass, and get excited when I get on top of class. (I usually got honors from Elementary to Senior High and 90+ on cards but I don’t see myself as a smart guy since I have to make a huge effort and study time with my friends just to pass Math in Senior High). Compared to this girl I was very average when I was her age, yet my parents always bragged about me to their friends (I dont know whether to feel embarrassed or happy lol). Really puts things into perspective. Glad I don’t live in a family where grades equate to your parents love.
My parents never really congratulate me when I get good grades and I'm never rewarded for them, and they also never console me when I get not so good grades lol they just tell me I need to study that subject harder and not so much phone 💀💀
@Benjamin Miller haha too bad for you guys. my race, black, we get diversity. what a shame for y'all
@@InsertUsernameHere_a plZ say dang
as an asian myself, asian parents usually have double standard and only focuses on grades rather than their kid's actual talent and wont bother help developing it. they usually want their kids to be a doctor, lawyer, or a rich investor. so like becoming a singer,actor,etc is considered bad by asian parents lol
I think if she had gotten 800 they would have been like why not 900?
@@andrewtaylor2430 it did
@@andrewtaylor2430 r/woooosh
Andrew Taylor it’s called a joke.....
Like the other comments saying, why %100? Why no get %150?
Lucy Nguyen I bet if she got 900 they would be like “U need to get da 1929847573929299494 dumb child”
900 why not 9000
Chinese Parents : " Get good grades "
Children : " What's the highest you guys have ever gotten "
Chinese Parents : "You want beating!?"
Me an edge lord: do you want to drown in your own blood?
@@veevee1111 nah, after school they just forget shit. Like me- Whenever I ask my Korean mom, she just tells me to go finish my work-
@@veevee1111 they meaning my parents-
My mum got straight A and scholarship, this will never work
This kind of thing is being mocked in the internet by Asians themselves, I am Asian too but Filipino, we westernized and I like this.
these parents think that they would be embarrassed if their children don’t get in good universities but little do they know that it’s more embarrassing for ppl to know how much you tortured your children for something that you “couldn’t achieve”.
The parents more concerns about kids further, the better college means higher chance to have a good life. As a Chinese, I would do the same thing like my parents required me, higher degree and better school gave me more chance than other peers. I don’t want my kids live in a poor families in the future.
Chad lee I understand but they still need a social life. Going to school and straight home, you will develop no social skills. High school is a very important time of their life, but also their last time as a minor. After high school they’re going to be working for the rest of their life.
@@chadlee870 yeah that might be one of the reasons but Nhi Le is also right as well, my parents who are Vietnamese consider any college or university with a 40% or higher acceptance rate as easy to get in which means that it isn't worth aiming for. They see it as an embarrassment to themselves if they let me go to any university or college that is "easy" to get in.
you obviously dont understand Chinese parents. the parents dont care about their face, they care about their children's future.
T yeah by forcing them to do something that pays well but is boring to the child and making the rest of their life: work/eat/sleep.
He thinks UCLA is lower class?! That’s my dream college!!
RIGHT, its mine too :D I live in Cali so its also conveintent but the campus and everything else just makes me want to go!. I hope they accept me. (I have three years left of highschool) and I hope they accept you whenever you apply.
@-_*SlickySlickDo* _- Its a religion.
Back in his day college admissions weren’t as competitive
Socializing her to look down upon Rutgers. Gtfoh
In 2010, UCLA wasn't nearly as reputable as it is now. As of 2019, the acceptance rate is around 11% which nears less competitive ivy leagues.
This is making me so angry. No child should every be pressured like this😠
Fuck those parents
But sadly this is the condition of several Asian students (Particularly Indian ) I personally have seen a lot of my friends here in India have parental pressure like insane
Tech Wiz my parents are asian and Arab and it’s really tuff dealing with the pressure
Bebe Kingham ikr but fight on dude....and you’ll achieve your dream on your own way
I agree with u bro
The parents will regret this later once the resentment boils over from their children. Once their kids move out, they will learn that their biggest regret was not bonding with their children.
They will wonder why their kids do not call or talk to them. But they will never learn.
@@PungiFungi And they will die alone and not even meeting their child’s family and will be forgotten and die empty.
@@firemangan2731 Very poetic. When the internet is more emotional mature than the AP themselves.
@@longwlenguyen4214 Thanks.
True then wonder why they’re kids don’t call or come around as much.
It broke my heart how she was excited to call her dad, and when she did he wasn’t even happy for her.
7:34
Camille Villa so so sad
This definetly is not parent love, everything is supperficial and conditional is so sad
She will end up hating them
I honestly will never understand why Asian parents put so much pressure on the child and when they finally get the grades they deserve, their parents just put them down and that causes a bad attitude, stress, and low self-esteem in asian teens.
Villainøus Extremity they do love her they just want her to do her best
Wanna have an estranged relationship with your kids? Do this. Force them to do what you want. Treat them as numbers. I promise you will be hated when they move out.
Exactly
lol then they 'll pretend of being choqued about why their kids hate them
They probably gonna pretend part of their paychecks
you dont know asian parents. so shut the fuck off you mouth.
asian parents gave lot of love to theri children, much more than white parents
Aww how cute, you kiss your mother with that mouth kid?
i got a 790, my parent's reaction? why not 800?
we're Asian....not Bsian or Csian for a reason.
that's a good one
oof. 😂 I felt that.
Us asian have it hard mann even if my parents dont pressurise me i still care about my education
Than Africans and Arabic also Americans should be straight stressful ass A
So original 😂
“you can party when you get older”
“you can party after school”
“you can party when you get into harvard”
“you can party when you get a job”
“you can party after work”
“you can party when you retire”
“haha too bad you’re dead now”
so true
i hate being a "good kid"
i rather be differnet than a puppet
But you can party for eternity in Heaven.
@@TempleofBrendaSong not everyone believes in Heaven and we don't know if it exists.
and i'm pretty sure God didn't tell us to work ourselves to death all the time.
@@TempleofBrendaSong What's the point of partying in heaven anyway if u wasted your whole life living like a robot.
Never attempted parties because I procrastinate at home. And then I just get used to complaining to the piano.
"Dad is gonna be so happy about this."
7:41 her reaction though... it makes me want to cry too..
Ame thyst That’s so sad!
It happens to me everytime
They just wanted her to be smart and successful so that they could live in her life and house later on
I’m Asian myself and if I went through this, I would’ve honestly killed myself. All this stress, peer pressure, anxiety and no love. I pray for these children.
I’m Asian and I’m going through it and honestly, I push myself harder than my parents.
@@Evili555 GOD STILL LOVES YOU
@@_also__also_5170 nice
@@_also__also_5170 btw, I want to take 5 APs next year for sophomore and my Asian parents(which value education) and they are like bruh, most kids only take 6 APs for entire 4 years at Highschool at my school and I’m like bruh, let me work harder. Smh
I wouldn't be surprised if she's a bit suicidal too tbh
Kid “mom I got stung by a bee” mom why you not stung by A”
aee
hahaha😂
Brilliant .🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂🤣🤣
Stealing this and posting on another vid
If the cameras weren’t there.... the parents would’ve taken out the old sandal...
Nah man probably the belt and the slippers. double damage!
@@racheltlytly1178 you forget wires
my mexican parents : the voy a dar la chancla
There’s the metal pole for me.
the broom and the stick
780 in math??? Holy shit, give her some credit. Do these parents realize how high these test scores are?
No. Since they all stressed and a show off, they just don't see this world is just sad WHY is no-one doing anything about this!?
Affirmative action isn't perfect. It's supposed to level the playing field but it isn't because the system is way past broken. Asians are getting screwed for doing well, and it's mostly middle class or lower income white women that benefit from affirmative action. It needs an overhaul.
Alan Xiong I hate how African Americans get more points added to their scores instead of Hispanics. Hispanics deserve those points more
David Morales Why? The race insulting on this topic is so unnecessary. First of all, Hispanics and black people are on par with college statistics due to affirmative action, in some fields Hispanics are actually higher up smartass. In terms of test scores, Hispanics tend to score slightly higher than black people, thus the point advantage for black people which in most cases isn't significant enough to make a difference. The numbers based on population look worse for Hispanic students in some areas because there are so many more of you. Besides, affirmative action was invented to help remedy the centuries of negative impact slavery, Jim Crow and segregation has had on black students. While there is an obvious mistreatment of Hispanics (especially those from immigrant, non-English speaking, low income households), it is not on the same level of what we've been through systematically. Hispanics are actually benefiting from race equality initiatives more than black people. Let's not get into who's more "deserving" of these points. That's an argument you will lose.
Justin Nizza
That is sat II math. Its a sat subject test. The majority of ppl get 800's because of the curve.
Wow, I’m Asian and I’m so glad my parents are not like that!! Yes, they do care about my grades and want me to do well in school, but all they care about is that they want me to be happy in life. They don’t care what job I have, what school I go to, etc. They want what’s best for me and also my siblings. I feel bad for them and I really hope they can find happiness in life and that what their parents can realize what they’ve done and become better people.
Grace Lieu You read I love yoo too
Kocoa Butter, YEP!! :)
That's all parents but they need to have a life as well
My parents are exactly like that too.
Same for my asian parents. They don't really care about my grades as long as they aren't a C or lower, or if I really tried my best. They only care about my health and happiness
parents : next time, 500 atleast
also parents : 770 is not good
also the parents : 800 minimum
There are three types of birds
1. Those that learn to fly early
2. Those that learn to fly late
And
3. Those that don’t bother flying and lay an egg to make their children fly.
I believe most asian parents are 3.
Yessir
so sorry you dont understand your parents. maybe you will when you have children
@@Boymanjusri tried to understand them a lot for all my life of 21 years... But I don't know how many times I found their obsession to success as reasonable. Like, what if kid doesn't like and it u force it on them?! I always dreamt of studying business administration and my parents said "it's not for girls" and forced me to study computer science which I hate the most and they still expect me to top in it! Yeah I understand them.
@@army_4ever748 It's really hard. I've been this same situation. But atleast I can choice with my own.
@@army_4ever748 actually, I have also tried to think in their pov and I think I can understand them. The thing is that Asian parents want us to achieve the things that they never could achieve. They think that if they push us to have good grades, atleast we will be able to get into good colleges and get a good job and earn money. I am sure they also feel regret somewhere in their life and thus, making us do things. I believe this kind of parenting is not healthy and should never be encouraged. A kid should have the freedom to choose whatever they want to become in their life. This kind of parenting runs in the family. My grandmother used to beat up my mom when she was younger and she was also verbally abusive but they never realised it. So now my mom also does the same to me. Honestly, I am just gonna start being independent and start earning my own money and then move out when I turn 18.
If my parents did this to me I'd be depressed. I feel bad for these kids, all they want is some free time.
Yeah most Asian kids ARE pretty depressed.
Little Cube k
Little Cube I have Asian parents but they’re not as strict as them! Kids to have time to themselves and to live their lives cause you only have one childhood!
I just play video games and eat and sleep and I'm still depressed
Bro this is my life right now if someone ask me how’s your childhood it what is childhood lol
"You can't argue with a stubborn Chinese man."
Roasted
I am Asian and my parents do not force me to study everytime.
Batukhan Kipçakoğlu fr
Batukhan Kipçakoğlu for real. And they didn't even want me to go to those " tops colleges ". I was jokingly said " i'll become a doctor in the future " and my dad said " no! It's hard and really tiring "
Lemon Juice lol same I would joke around like that with my mom and she would be like nah what you saying you suck at math, science, and english there is no hope of you getting a high paid job
Yale, Harvard, or Princeton “Everything else is lower class”
So Columbia is lower class? Hmm,
I'm pretty sure they didn't mean it like that. They would've been happy with any Ivy League college but Havard, Yale and Princeton and the oldest Ivies and have a bigger reputation.
kjcpoper ahh ok. Got it :]
u forgot Penn, MIT, Stanford, Princeton, Cornell, Brown, Colombia, CALTECH and all the others
Of course! And Cornell? Don't even get me STARTED on that shithole.
Cornell is one of the easier ivys to get into.
this is a perfect example of conditional love. their affection towards her is based on her academic success.
I dislike how her mom keeps comparing her to her brother
comparing siblings is honestly one of the worst ways to be a parent tbh
Jasmine Love Ha its funny you say that because that's 99% guaranteed to happen in every Asian family.
Jasmine Love eh when you have a twin people compare you to everything
Like my parents don’t compare every single thing me and my brother do
michael a sav tho
Lmao this guy thinks that Duke, Stanford and MIT are “lower class”
Duke is pretty trash, though. Stanford and MIT are much more reputable and aren't filled with snobby, overly pretentious white kids.
FireNinja606 tbh every prestigious college in the US is filled with snobby white kids, majority are mostly, if not, all white. I know because I go to UPENN.
also lmao MIT is pretty much the top uni in the world right now
@@timbat5324 *Jewish
@@zoeguan9941 you mean Princeton right? MIT is the top tech university in the world, not THE top university in the world.
I'm Asian and I got 60% for math and my parents didn't scold me cuz they knew that I suck at math and I tried my best and they were proud of me. Now I'm aiming to get 70%
DamsiePlays you’re very lucky.
DamsiePlays I’m half Asian and I get 60-90 and my mom hates that I can’t make a 100
That's awesome and sweet! Glad you have such awesome parents.
I once got yelled at for getting a 97. Not kidding.
@@audreygunawan5648 WHAT???
grew up in HK, I hate the way HKers, mainland Chinese, or some other Asian parents raise their children. In my childhood, 80% of parents around me talked to their children in a very traditional way which includes scolding, yelling, blaming, abusing, everything was just too negative. But now I think things got better and may be half of parents are like that. On the flip side, majority of parents in China still talk to their kids without respect, as if children have no feelings like robot. I personally think that children need love, care, encouragement, company , and respect way more than just lecturing or threatening. I am treating my children like my friends, I joke with them, I talk to them with respect, I play and share my experiences with them. I praise and encourage them a lot too. I get serious sometimes only when they cross the boundary. They do feel motivated to learn things when they get recognized and complemented by me. When I was a child, I never got complemented by my parents, they would just said I was stupid and useless, and compared me with other better kids. What's the damn point of hurting your own kids' feelings I mean. Furthermore, adults talk to adults in very negative way too, I understand that human get jealous sometimes , but there's no point to cut someone's head to make yourself feel taller. Moreover, most of the teachers I met also verbally abused their students, they basically gave up on those students that didn't do well at school. Western values and cultures are just too different. In comparison, western parents would say " love you" to their kids almost everyday. But a big portion of Asian parents would not even say that to their children in the whole life. Don't get me wrong that Asian/Chinese Culture is all bad, they study hard, work hard, they are family oriented etc etc...But when it comes to parenting and teaching at school , it's just too cruel. Children with a fragile heart deserve more love, encouragement, patience, recognition and positive complements.
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Asian culture is not touchy feely. A lot of things are left unspoken but are understood. But Asian parents do have a tendency to treat their children like toddlers way after adulthood.This is why my siblings and I do not go out of our way to speak to her. We are all now middle aged adults and yet she still talk and lecture to us like we are toddlers… still complaining that our lives didn’t went in the directions SHE expected.
Same here in India.. it's hard really really hard.
In Asia, True Happiness cannot be found. But you could become so rich there.
These parents are delusional. These schools look at extracurricular activities, job experience, community service, letters of rec etc. GPA and test scores is at the bottom of the list now a days. The schools also accept various GPA since we’ve already seen someone with a 3.7 rejected and there’s been cases when someone with a 3.4 gets accepted. It all depends on whether your application stands out in various sections.
I'm sorry, but GPA And Standardized Testing are STILL the primary way to weed out applicants in extremely selective schools. Just take a look at the 25th percentile math section score for the SAT for MIT students. It's 790. Which means 75% or more people who attend MIT have an SAT math score of 790+
Sure extracurriculars matter, but grades are still the most prominent factor in your college application, unless you created and insane invention that helped the world. The fact of the matter is that the kids in this video just didn't have good enough scores to even be average at IVY league colleges
grades doesnt matter just attitude and discipline
and you have a brain think
GPA (and test scores to a lesser extent) is the minimum to get in now. Top universities are now looking for students with good stats, but also have ECs, job experience, and essays that stand out. 3.7 unweighted GPA is now considered on the low end, and top schools will need either extenuating circumstances or outstanding extracurriculars (for example being nationally recognized in a competition) to compensate.
@@aarohgokhale8832Most of these schools are now test optional, so this matters even less. Sure no one is going to get into the Ivy league with abysmal grades, but the reason why you can see a 4.0 GPA get reject, and a 3.5 GPA get accepted is because they don't just rely on academic accomplishments. They want well rounded individuals.
@@piscesgroovesupreme GPA is a minimum though. You can still look at the grade distribution for non legacy college applicants and there is a clear pattern. Grades allow you to be considered at the very minimum. Getting into an ivy with a 3.5 is not the norm.
*there is a difference between being truly smart vs. being forced to study for a particular exam to get the particular grade. the person who makes the video game always makes more money than the best player playing the game.*
Chris USA Damn dude!!!
You are Awesome!!!!!
Chris USA my classmate who game is all top scorer
Ninja thoooo
Chris USA, what you wrote is rather stupid.
"the person who makes the video game always makes more money than the best player playing the game."
Firstly, this is false equivalency.
"there is a difference between being truly smart vs. being forced to study for a particular exam to get the particular grade"
Secondly, this attitude encourages the glorification of unearned natural talent, while scoffing at hard work and perseverance.
Aadi Saha but epic games is making billions
*she always tells her friends and relatives I'm never satisfies with her*
"I'm proud of you"
YEA ONLY AFTER SHE GOT ACCEPTED INTO A HIGH UNIVERSITY
xoxo xoxo fr that’s also what I said lol
That's so sad :( that's probably the only time she feels loved by her mother
10:50 those parents are just acting calm in front of the cameraman. They just waiting for the camera man to leave.
My thought exactly. If they are open enough to criticize as little as they were on camera I don't even want to think about what they do when the camera man is gone.
They would beat them up after
@@jeffreywong7244 yess so true I got some scar on my body because of my mom misunderstanding and blaming
@@jeffreywong7244 I don't even did what she say but it happens and she don't believe me then she blame me and beat me I remember that time it still bleeding
@@jeffreywong7244 I hate it Im not even allow to send help because im in Malaysia everyone saw this scene as normal everyone just sick
Is the fact that these kids are trying very hard and getting GREAT scores not good enough for their parents??
Come on, give your kids credit. They’re constantly pushing themselves to the limit, studying hard, and doing the school work.
710 is not good
@@bradley3157 710 out of 800... thats still a good score
She probably didn't get accepted because she didn't do any extra activities like participate in sports or clubs because things like that boost ur chases of getting into college But all her parents wanted her to do is study study study thank god my parents aren't like that Jesus
Yes u have to be super sweaty. I already having to prep with Eagle Scout, dci auditions, drum major and etc. it sucks
You dont learn shit if you stude 24/7
Yeah you need to do extra curricular activities to get a better chance of acceptance but it doesn't mean she has no chance cause she's really high performing in common core which means she's qualified, but doesn't really show the characteristics of an outgoing leader which colleges want.
She didn't get accepted because of affirmative action. You have to let every race in and every moron in to make things "fair."
Just because colleges have to abide by some form of affirmative action doesn't mean that they're letting in "morons". if you think about it logically, most colleges cost a lot of money and require a lot of fees, and most people cant pay them alone, let alone those from underprivileged backgrounds who are generally minorities (going by the populations who have a higher percentage of people living under the poverty line where African Americans, Latinos/Hispanics, and Native Americans are over 20% near 25, and Caucasians and Asians at around 10-12% federalsafetynet.com/us-poverty-statistics.html www.census.gov/prod/2013pubs/acsbr11-17.pdf). And if those people can't pay, then you probably won't let them in, even if they are qualified in terms of grades and test scores. I feel that affirmative coxed colleges into giving more people a chance to receive an education who wouldn't have otherwise, and even with those lucky few, some colleges stop after they get their number since they are not obligated to do anything else, so its still not "fair"
Why don’t the parents try doing the SAT I would be so happy for them failing and realizing that it’s really hard
Ikr
SAT is a joke by Indian standards. Even an average student in India can score above average in it and above average Indian students easily get perfect scores
@@NikhilDeshpandeSohamDeshpande no sorry, you do not know what you are talking about. I agree that scoring above its average is pretty easy, but the above average indian student will not be able to achieve a perfect score. Have you taken the sat. You dont know what youre talking about
My dad doesn’t care, literally says “You can do better than me and you have it in your blood.” no cap
Nikhil Deshpande you’re wrong. I’m also Indian too. India sucks anyway, pollution and most people there are pretty bad. India can’t even get on the moon
I’m 16, Spain. My mom doesn’t really care about grades, she just wants me to pass so I can study whatever I want later on. She also lets me go out whenever I want until whenever. I’m really grateful for that. It normally doesn’t happen, but I guess freedom is a very important value in my family as well as having as many options as I can.
My parents are Asian and they allow me to be anything I want as long it’s safe and I’m happy for
Pain but with an s
same with me
I am so happy for you!!
That's why many Spanish are super unemployed
She could've gotten in if her parents let her do extracurricular activities, programs, community service, sports, etc. Instead of studying all the time.
Bryce Hudson that’s what I was thinking hahaha just having smarts doesn’t do anything lol
Exactly, because most colleges are holistic, so excelling in something other than school work would very much help your chances of getting in.
She did dance and the boy does Football
i had a friend who had a gpa of higher than 4.2 and he couldn’t get into ucla because he didn’t have any extracurriculars. this was 10 years ago so i’m not sure what the requirement is now, but that was crazy to me.
Yeah lol. My parents are Indian but we discussed practically, since my grades weren't THE BEST and practically speaking, it isn't worth the effort just to get into a prestigious school. You can do just as well going to a really good state school with much less effort in academics but really investing in practical applications
It actually makes me so sad watching this...the mental and emotional abuse these kids had to go through ...
YT LG it’s. Not. Abuse.
YT LG it is called the way of traditional Chinese
Leo Lu it actually is in some places
Leo Lu oh yeah it's not abuse to literally deprive a child of their basic right to make the ONE childhood they get EVER as fun as they can.
lmao its definitely a traditional asian upbringing but i still think its abuse to some degree.
Being honest, if my parents were like this I would run away.
same
I wish if it was that easy to escape, unfortunately there is nowhere to run.
Honestly, I don't know if I would want Asian parents, but I wish I had parents growing up who would've believed in me and pushed me a little more.
It's not certain you would make money off of video games, and i understand completely how the parents think. Asian parents come to America living a hard life. Taxes cost a lot. College costs more here than anywhere else in the world. People said America was the land of opportunity, it turned out to not be much better here. But they don't want their kids to live like they did, so they work hard, have their kids study hard, and have them go to a good school so they can make money and be happy in life.
J Ho but depriving them from things they want to do is just horrible. They should be outside, hanging with friends, or something they want to do. Obviously they should still work hard in school but there should be a balance. Are the parents really gonna waste their kids childhood? Like someone is gonna ask them one day when they're older and be like "man don't you ever just wanna go back to your childhood" they're gonna say fuck that shit cause all they did was study. I'm savouring my childhood for as long as I can because I only have a couple years till I'm an adult.
I’m grateful that my Asian parents don’t pressure me when studying.
Sameeeeeeeee! My parents are very very fun but a little bit serious and too pushy and and I can't get a break when my mom is screaming a lot sometimes and I love listening to music and art and also expressing myself and having fun PS I'm 17 years old and I'm half Filipino and Canadian.😂😂😂😂😂😂🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭
Same. My parents aren’t too bad either. I’m filipino as well. 🇵🇭
You lucky individual
I was born and grew up in Asia. My parents were supportive but never pressured me to get perfect score. They just wanted me to be happy. When asked why they weren't pushing me like other parents, they answered "There is more to life than school." The emphasis was on integrity.
It worked. While other kids burned out, my fire was burning bright. I'm about to finish my PhD in the US debt-free.
honjokun06, well you're lucky.. My parents are like those in the video.
My parents dont pressurize me at all ...they want me to be happy...still i dont study and i regret later on...i dont know why?i am an asian too btw
Dont let school get in the way of your education
I think this mostly applies to Asian-American families as it's usually the case of immigrant parents who move to US for a better life for their children and give them what they didn't get
asia is a big place buddy. where in asia?
the way Asians are trained from a young age like them will grow up to be a very hard WORKER but will never be leaders because of the way they were taught. i know how it feels like because i am one of them.
I feel you bro.
You don't speak for all Asians but okay
I fukin love your profile pic
Speak for yourself.
Chucky Conan
I’m so sorry. 😐😐😐😐😐😐😐😐
"I hope you will yell at yourself."
wtf...that dad dosnt know how teens work.
wow - shits real 😂😭
that's my parents as well but indirectly
i cracked when he said that , lmao...and myself is Asian
it would be nice to be in a world where teens could let be free to go fish, play basket or soccer as they wish and then when they are 20-25 just give to them a desk where they can do a job and raise several Ks to buy a fancy house and feed a family with 5 kids that will live the same way.
But unfortunately we don't live in such a world.
Unfortunately what a person needs in their 20ies is that his parents took good care of them when they were younger and hot-headed.
puffolotti you can have fun and also buy a good house at the same time you know, you have to find some balance there, besides, just studying school works alone really isnt healthy to their mind, i say parents should help kids find and explore what they truly love and good at, its easier to be successful that way too. you dont want kids to grow up and wishing that they had a good childhood/teenage because iit would be too fking late...
These parents should know that these “good” schools are actually just tougher and gives you a degree with a better title
they hardly do that
@@ohno685 What do you mean? On getting degrees?
@@CaptainBones222 at the time i was referring to the fact that they wont be tougher, however tbh it is varying based on the school.
Also do not forget, it is important to go to a "good" schools. Even though you learn the same thing, you get better connections, and resources which help you succeed in life. Every wonder why people graduate and go on to earn a higher median salary? its cuz of this.
8:57 I believe that's the worst thing that you can do to a teenager. Don't compare a teenager to another one, you are killing him/her mentally.
Emanuel's world sadly it’s extremely common in asian families...
That was so depressing to watch.
It always happened to me and in my elementary school all Asian people like me has to score 75% in our starr test and other people it is like 45% or 50% like i don't get it 🤔🤔🤔
It increases your competitiveness in order to excel others.I don't see what's the wrong in that.
My parents constantly did and it made me hate myself so much when I was a teen
I can't stop crying seen all the pressure, stress and hardwork they put up and still didn't get any appreciation from parents. They are gonna be great in future for sure but will miss all the youthful activities they wished they had. Strict parenting and over obedient kids. Study well and enjoy well whenever possible. Don't get stuck with alcohol and drugs. Stay blessed. Happy for all your hardwork and success
Amen 😔
Singapore, India, Korea, hongkong, Taiwan and China all the same. No life for kids.
I ended up in the hospital from this kind of upbringing. I was so depressed and wanted to die because all I knew is to be efficient and useful for others to the point where relaxing makes me anxious.
Don't do this to your kids folks.
If you're this kind of person you shouldn't have kids to begin with.
And it juuusstttt happened again 🙃
Try to understand your children folks. They're people too.
Bubblegumsouths honestly? No, not really, but at least I'm not suicidal rn. I can't wait to move out, I'm saving up.
Master meme honestly, getting beat up and bruised doesn't mean I failed. I'm successful but what they did, things like this is not necessary. I excel in the arts because that's the only thing I wasn't pressured to do. Good grades are useless when you get out of high school. So get the fuck off of your high horse and shove its head up your ass.
Getting ptsd and suicidal tendencies enough to get sent to the ER and end up in the recovery center is no joke.
What's the point of luxury of I can't even enjoy being alive?
Master meme, it sounds like you're instead referring to yourself rather than Heven demo when it comes to your own inabilities. Seriously, don't talk like you know shit.
"I hope you will yell at yourself."
"FOR WHAT?"
is the single most relatable thing ive ever seen
Unreal that her Dad said that to her.
Those parents are horrible AND HE'S ENCOURAGING SUCH MINDSET
You only get a childhood *once*
Sadly they don't have one lmao there whole life is based on materialistic values
Childhood is only for having struggle later in life
@@mimicutiee6975 What?
@@mimicutiee6975 what type of shit are you on?
Chiraag Sharma only realistic diehard people know what im saying. Aint for simpel soft people
Ever wonder how there are so many academically 'brilliant' Asian students out there in high school or uni, but once you enter the mainstream society most of them seems to fade away?
That is the problem with Asian parenting. Asian kids were forced to follow the 'correct' and the safest path that was pointed out by their parents. Asian kids don't have a say in any decisions about themselves during their youth. As an Asian myself I experienced that throughout my youth.
This resulted in the poor ability of decision making, lack of leadership, and the unwillingness of taking any risks. Ultimately this would lead most Asian into a 'follower status'. Most of them might still get decent pay due to their high education however they will always remain as the insignificant part of the population.
It is really rare to see an Asian to get recognised of what they are excel on. Personally I think it is due to that they tend to not think outside the box because of the risks factors. This creates a limitation of creativity within their mindset which isn't beneficial at all. They might be brilliant at doing work as most of them are hard workers, but they tend to struggle with excessive problem solving that involves creativity and quality decision making.
Sadly most Asian parents only consider a job with good pay, a payed off house and a few grandkids as the only measure of success. Personally I'm really into edm production however I always need to hide my works from my parents since everytime they see me making a beat they always tell me that ain't gonna earn you money. Asian parents do not have the concept of individual uniqueness, they evaluate your potential base on the comparison with other kids. And that really sucks. I believe this also apply to my other Asian brothers out there whether it is music, arts or sports.
This is a long comment and I know. If you have read it till the end, I really wish you to live your lives to the fullest. Surround yourselves with passions and make no regret. Lastly have a good day.
-message from a random asian dude.
Y'know, this really hit me. You're right. Absolutely right. The "successful" Asians are all doctors or random engineers. People like Jack Ma were once considered failures. My parents want me to go to med school, but I don't want to. I'm Asian as well. Thank you for putting this up. Frankly, I want to be in the pharmaceutical industry as a chemical and Biomolecular engineer. This is by all means a high-paying job that has much scope for career growth but my parents think only of med school.
Very similar experience too. Ended up in pharmacy school rn and it demands a lot of people skills, something that I hardly touched until uni. It’s very hard work to do really well whilst developing the communication and leadership skills. Definitely would’ve been beneficial to be exposed to it much earlier on in my life.
I'm asian, but my parents arent that strict. It's also good having Asian parents because we get to eat a lot of varieties of foods
oh yeah yeah my dad extreme asian and forced me to swim little did he know I skipped that and played pool instead and said I was at the pool ez clap
I read to the end 😇
It broke my heart when that girl didn't get into any of the colleges her parents were pushing her to go to, and she said "I'm not special enough"
I understand that these parents are wanting the best for their children. But this obviously isn't good for their mental health. These parents I think forget that these kids have emotions, and they feel and think things, based of their parents approval, because she knows her parents are probably dissappointed in her that she didn't get into these schools. She thinks shes not special enough. Her parents need to drop the pridefulness, go in there and hug their child. If what they say is true, that girl went off and got caught smoking weed when she got into another college, I really don't blame her.
mya619 its Asian tradition and culture that's the way it is.
And a lot of people die from this system in China, Japan and South Korea and suicide is normal there for young age.
***** It's apart of their society I understand that. I understand that students in a lot of these asian countries have a high suicide rate. It's just crazy to put that much pressure on the human brain like that. You can never have too much knowledge, but mental abuse is never okay, that stays with people forever. South Korea is actually one of the most top rated countries where students commit suicide. That's why there's such a high demand in becoming kpop stars in Korea, if they feel like they have talent and attractive, they can have a shot at becoming a kpop star, where they won't have to have all the pressure of the school system and their parents constantly pushing them.
mya619 The main reason I think is because the parents looking up to some other kids. Could be a relative, friend our college kids.
Since they think wow he/she gets straight A you can do it to!
NO the world doesn't work that way because not EVERYONE can get straight A, but Asian parents are to stubborn to understand and wont except this reality.
Many Americans go to Harvard our Yale and at the same time they staying happy and have a social life.
There is more then one way to succeed in life and I believe a lot of the Americans have that succeed. Americans ARE very good with motivation compared to the Asian parents.
***** Well I agree and disagree. Most Americans who are Ivy league students, have been pressured by their parents. But we just have a different method. Yes there is harsh studying, restrictions on a lot of things during childhood, and shelteredness. That's why when these kids go to these colleges, they want to party, smoke weed, and do other things that their parents forbid them to do when they were growing up. That's why they seem happy when they go to college. But alot of american parents aren't going to be as mentally abusive like a lot of asian parents.
You will hear more support like "You can do it." "Do your best." " You'll get better text time." Those are the things I don't think a lot of Asian parents say to their kids. They expect their kids to get good grades as if it's like brushing their teeth or taking a shower. "You're suppose to get nothing but A's in all your classes. Why should I praise you for that?"
I think what the flaw is, is rewarding your child to make them feel good that they accomplished something. But I'm not Asian, so I don't want to step over my line on what they should and shouldn't do.
mya619 You make up a good point.
I am Asian Chinese so I know this from my own parents and other relatives and friends.
The things you said that American parents they applaud their kids, motivates them and also encouraging them to work hard.
Asian parents are very abuse specially psychological abuse.
When you get straight A there almost never any good job our present because in their eyes getting A in every class is like breathing.
American parents push their kids, but not the same way Asians do.
The only time Asian parents realize when they gone to far is when their children s commits suicide. And that is way to late and I don't feel sorry for those parents they got what they deserved I feel sorry for their kids who died very young.
It's so sad that parents and school influence students to believe their self-worth depends on getting into a top-tier university.
maybe top tier schools arent even worth the crazy student loan debt... ugh.. i read a post of a kid pressured to go to one has like 120k debt.. nothin g wrong with community college and state school
@@yoleeisbored there is absolutely NOTHING wrong going to community college or state school. Actually that’s the smart thing to do. Biology is biology. Harvard isn’t teaching voodoo magic ok. Same shit
Hahaha wow if the cameras weren't around they'd be beating their asses
and what would they be doing, when their child really did well at school, did success, would they even be proud of their child and praise their child besides beating?
My mom still kicks my ass.
Mincah what i mean is they would get a beating because of their attitude towards their parents
女子高生 My mum stopped when i stuck up for myself
+Eden Sika Lucky, I stick up for myself but she doesn't care. I just have 1 more year before I can move out.
Lmao these kids getting rejected and athletes with half the study time get in
Brandon Yong because athletes have extra curricular activities which gives u a higher chance of getting in
+Brandon Yong But the effort athletes put in goes into their physical ability. They work just as hard as these kids, they just put the effort towards something different.
College athletes are heavily exploited though...making thousands for the school yet not being paid.
Donald trick Trump Has STD's from Stormy D. Please. Those athletes are overpaid and overprivileged. They don't contribute shit to society
In fairness athletes work their asses off too, just in a healthier way
13:46 "There's no song called congratulations..."
2019 - _Pewdiepie has entered the chat_
Incedium i was looking for this
post melon
@@water3250melon
2017 - Post Malone
oof day6 too
When she says that if Harvard (or some other Ivy League) doesn't accept her, then they don't know what kind of person they'll accept. How about someone who does sports, interacts with the community, and is helpful rather than just studious.
Goku Black yes I agree
my asian parents: “at least you get into college we love you”
aww 🥰
Because they don't live in shity country like China
@@turkikan8942 excuse me?
@@turkikan8942 can you not. Get your negativity outta here. Idc if people are going to be like "its true tho" you cant say a country is shitty. Now if its North Korea that would be a different story.
@@MissLilCuteTea I don’t agree with that statement. I kinda like China but they aren’t very pro press
Well you can't be just smart to go to Harvard. You have to be special.
Yes. They like well rounded people who are involved in things outside of the classroom. For example, sports, clubs, and other organizations.
*Have a shit load of money
stfu holistic admissions is BS race and student athletes have been proven to be the most important factors in apps
Andy do You have to be a special child... in a different way, like very special.
My cousin got accepted there and I'm truly happy for her. College isn't for everyone and I'm content with my 3 degrees but do want a few certificates
WTF 770 is fucking damn near perfect
Yeah, but according to these parents, near perfect=complete failure.
May be but they robbed their child of a childhood by making her learn math and crap at 4 she needs that age to play and have fun
I'm from australia so can you explain to me like whats an average and like whats it out of. Idk any of this shit, we don't have the SAT's
420PhanIt
i'm also australian and i just spent some time looking into it
there's an old PDF here that looks at converting SAT scores to UAI: davidpratten.com/wp-content/uploads/2006/10/SAT1%20Assessment%20Schedule%202006-Sep-15.pdf
apparently you can ask the UAC for a copy of the "Common Assessment Schedules for converting SAT and AP scores to their equivalent ATAR" but there's nothing online that i could find and this whole "old SAT vs new SAT" shit is mindfucking me so hard, i can't find anything to do with 770, in fact, everything i've come across says that 840 (or 1200 depending on the SAT test?) is a mark that the lowest 25% would get in the SAT's but this is literally 10 mins of research at almost 3am in the morning
the most common answer seems that there isn't a logical approach to it as most people can't figure it out so honestly it's probably not even worth considering unless you care enough to call the UAC up but they are a bunch of cunts
Lol ikr, a 770 in literature is like a 35 on act english!?
Seeing this video made me realize what amazing parents I have. I have always being good with grades and all, but there are times where I have too much pressure and get C’s or B’s and my mom always hugs me and tells me how proud of me she is because she sees that I am working hard and that even without an A or a perfect SAT score, she believes on me and that I will have a very good future. I could not ask for better parents ngl. ❤️
nice for you
As a Chinese,i can't stop cursing while watching this video,they are your offspring,not slaves,holy fuck!
LOL
lol I feel bad for these kids, studying is worth nothing if you don't love the subject that you are studying.
My parents don't really care what university I go but I want to go to a good university
YES EXACTLY WHAT I WAS THINKING
I wanted to play the piano
but nope
not enough $
"I've got 851/850!"
*such disappointment...*
Daughter: Hey dad, I got a 799!
Dad: Did you say 799?
Dad: *gets belt*
Dad: YOU SHOULD’VE GOT A 800!!!
The Savage Starfish the scores r in tens, so it’s impossible to get 799
Kristen Tran take a joke
my mom is like that, "Just one point" and it doesn't matter if I had the highest score in the room.
@@kristentran1897 r/woooosh
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I’m Asian and I understood this was the early 2000s but dude, this is crazy af. My parents were immigrants and so am I. They never got a chance to study high school due to financial difficulties yet they’ve built a quite comfortable life completely from scratch. Education is important but seriously, as long as ur kid can get a job and be able to feed themselves when they reach adulthood, why stress them so much?? It’s sad to watch this video, it’s even sadder that we still have the same pressure in our school system nowadays.
These kids and parents don't understand that with Ivy Leagues it's not just about have good grades, it's about developing some kind of life altering invention, beating world records in sports, volunteering across the country,,ect.
Isobel Swan has
Isobel Swan beating world records in sports ain’t gonna help society, it’s all about being smart!
13:45
Dad: play the song congratulations
Daughter: there's no song called
congratulations
Me: thinking how great post malone would go into this moment
Bill Sosa
well this was recorded many years ago and at the time there was no congratulation
Surafel Geleta no shit sherlock
Bill Sosa I was singing that song when he said that 🤣😂
Pewdiepie
or pewdiepie
3:46 "she needs to cut the playing time with her friends"
boi your daughter is a senior in high school
the problem is that after they are forced to live up to insane expectations, they don't live a happy life as adults. Yes, they are academically successful, but that is only a small piece of what makes a happy life. These people probably lack other skills, such as social interaction, relationships, self esteem and so much more.
alot of asian parents dont let their kids inreract and socialize with other children.. which damages them, cant network, dont do well in interviews, they have a harder time standing up for themselves, more likely to be targeted for bullying, etc.. also physically abusive too
Recipe for early childhood depression
Crackpot Scientist Depression is not caused BY things that happen to you (aside from temporarily due to bereavement or cancer etc), it's caused by your inability to cope with life. Ten people can be subjected to the same stressors, but only one of them will succumb to depression. That's how we know that external events are not the cause.
Gray Not sure who you're calling "retarded", but these kids are actually less likely to succumb to depression, than kids who get it easy.
BLS. That’s racist and such a dumb statement to say 😂 They can’t be depressed because they’re Asian? Really? And please don’t use some random quote to justify that being stressed out causes someone to be stronger, because in some cases it doesnt.
Kermit You're talking about situational sadness, which is something we all experience during difficult times. It's not the same thing as depression ... which is notable for its absence of quantifiable triggers. And you simply confirmed what I said - about 1 in 10 people reacting to a given stressor. The reason we react differently (to the same things) is because we're all raised differently. In other words, whether someone succumbs to chronic depression is determined by how they were raised. It's not determined by the events of our lives. Some people live hellishly difficult lives, yet never experience ongoing depression. THAT is the evidence that events are not the cause.
DP 63 sadness and depression is two different things. Sadness is a short term feeling that someone has. For instance, sadness can be caused over not winning a competition or not getting an A+. Depression, on the other hand, is sadness basically on steroids and is long term. Depression can be resulted by rape or bullying. Both sadness (or.. situational sadness, whatever you wanna call it) and depression can be triggered by events, and it’s so evident in so many cases. People can be depressed for SEVERAL different reasons, because, like you stated, we all react to things differently. One may become depressed because it’s just their personality or life events can trigger it off. And even if my environment had a cause in my depression, a specific event can still trigger it off. It may be your opinion that depression is not caused by events, but scientifically, depression is cause by a variety of different things, including events. For credibility in my argument please check out these sources:
www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/depression/what-causes-depression
www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/what-causes-depression
www.webmd.com/depression/guide/causes-depression
That’s child abuse. Restricting a child that much will drive them crazy. Mental health and recreation is just as important as schooling
TheOnlyWil u must be white. For us thats normal but fo sure im not gonna raise my kids that way but thats how we were raised my bro just made us mentally stronger
TheOnlyWil you’re child abuse
Ali Ali lol i bet u im 100 times mentally physically n spiritually stronger than u and can endure alot more than u
@@KillaKush1 nobody gives a crap about how strong you are this kind of pressure to a kid is still damaging
bruv they r just being real. This world is too cruel no ones gna pamper ur ass and i didnt say thats 100% right jus saying thats how we were raised and made us stronger.
Lol they do realize that the good colleges also take into consideration extra curricular activities, sports, social life, community service...like geez
+Dolores Dean no only study matta! plaing outside for amaricans you no want to be like these americans! they stoopid! college want A+ go study befoa dinna!
Peter Kim I wasn't joking...take away the cheesy attempt at an accent and its the story of my life.
+lordmasterization You have to get duh A uderwize u can not be duh Asssssian.
+Dolores Dean you know whats sad, connections are worth way more than a college degree. You graduate from yale and still not get the jobs because you are socially awkward or don't have the right connections. Most of the time you have either have connections or have some sort of prior job related experience to the job to even get it. Getting good grades for a good college just means you know how to follow directions. Also, even if you graduate with a major and get the job you want you will still have to learn how things work as most of the time it isn't real world applications and they aren't the best/fastest way to do it with reasonable results.
Jerry Wong Asians Don't understand that, the moment I started talking to people at the hospital I volunteered at, she tried to get me to quit because she felt her parenting authority was threatened. She didn't want me to learn from dirty "Americans".
I have Indian parents, which for most of my childhood wouldn’t accept anything other than As. But when I got into 8th and and freshman year, they started to realize that if I focused on acing hard AP classes, that’s all I would be able to do and nothing else. My parents are super supportive of me now. Of course they won’t be extremely happy if I got a C, and they still prioritize my studies and grades, but they understand me and let me explore what I want to.
same, except mine are biracial (mom is black dad is white).
@semi that’s great news
Oh my god, my parents learned that around the same time too.
Yes, I can relate this!