Are you qualified for marriage? - Mufti Menk
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- Опубліковано 6 бер 2019
- Some basic qualities required before you truly qualify for a successful marriage. There was a disturbance during this live session so it was cut short but will be redone soon inshaAllah.
1. Communication
2. Patient
3. Selfless
4. Accommodate others
5. Kindness
6. Don't scream & Don't yell
good akhlaq and iman
I just got married pray for me in sha Allah
yaisatou john Masha’Allah May Allah bless your marriage sister and give you healthy offsprings that will be a blessing to you and your spouse Ameen ❤️🙏
yaisatou john may Allah bless your relationship
Barakallahu lakumaa wabarakaa a'leykumaa wajama'a baynakumaa fiy KHEIR sISTER
May Allah make him the coolness of your eyes and may Allah make your children the coolness of your eyes. Ameen thumma Ameen
Mashallah
MashAllah, what a great advice I was married at age 19 and was married until my husband passed away ,but it was no piece of cake but we worked together to make our marriage last 25 years. May Allah Grant my husband the highest place in Jannat Ameen
Ms. Ali may allah make it easier for you sister.
@@Kofi_Mensahs_BurnerAccount thank you so much for kind regards.
May Allah bless you...
MashaAllah thuma MashaAllah... Ameen Ya Rahman
Ameen may Allah make your husband and you go to jannah firdaws
I just got divorced.. I pray to allah to find a man that will value me and will be happy to be a family with me.
Ameen,and for me too. I'll keep you in my dua
Amin
can you marries me?
inshAllah
IN SHAA ALLAH , ameen
Wallah I was thinking of marriage and suddenly I came a cross this. May Allah blesss u so much mufti, I want to thank You for this video. It's extremely beneficial
Malik Mali me to and I have the same name like you
@@abdulmalikh5841 Your name is forgotten?
Actually google listens to you and they promote videos and advertisements that may suit you 😂
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May Allah guide us to marriage and protect us from zina
Ameen
Ameen
Ameen
Sergio Ramos Ameen
I have one question guys can you have sex after marriage which is zina?? If not the how do u make babys???
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Well said
Basically you have to be mature in mind and body. Unfortunately some people never mature .
And fortunately we shouldn't marry such people haha
Shay shay
But sometimes you only find out when it’s too late
@@Boss-gk8kc then you find out before marriage everything about the individual keep eyes at 💯 open .... Now a days people are faker then the food
Shay shay 🤣🤣🤣 sooo true!!!
Ma sha Allah, Please Like, Share and subscribe to my channel as well. may Allah bless you for this Aameen!!.
I love how there’s noise in the background and Mufti looks over sometimes then realises the noise isn’t going to stop and says “sorry there’s noise in the background but it’s fine” and carries on so calmly, Mashallah may Allah make us this calm!!!
My grandfather gave me the best advice, "Marriage is serious. Take it seriously."
I am watching your videos a lot while I am considering conversion to Islam. You’re helping me greatly. Thank you.
Are you muslim now?
اللَّهُمَّ اِنِّىْ اَسْئَلُكَ حُبَّكَ وَ حُبَّ مَنْ يُّحِبُّكَ وحُبَّ عَمَلٍ يُّقَرِّبُ اِلى حُبِّكَ
Allahumma inni as aluka hubbaka, wa hubba man yuhibbuka, wa hubba kulle 'amalin yuqarribuni ila hubbika.
O Allah! I ask You for Your love and the love of those who love You, and for the love of every action which will bring me closer to Your love.
Ameen.Ameen.
Ameen
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A'ameen
I laughed so hard when you said the brothers wanted to be live with you. Dear Ustad, the world is in dire need of mentors like you.
are you qualified for marriage?
1) communicating skill.
2) being very very patient.
3) Be selfless to a great degree.
4) Learn to accommodate others.
5) sometimes may have to do things that you dont Normally like to do, simply to put a smile on the faces of those whom you love. ( but stay away from haram )
6) kindness, need to be very kind, kindness begins at home. Dont be miserly.
7) lower Your voice, Don't yell.
8) appreciate what goes Right.
an example for the 5th: someone I know doesn't like to cook but she tries new recipes just to see a smile in his face
Don't forget about deen and there Islamic behaviour. If you swear your not ready develop your sleeves stop swearing it is a sin. And if you like a girl or a man dont be hesitant into telling them that I want to marry you and get to know for marriage don't leave it to last minute you will, get depressed and trust in Allah that it will happen think of the good aspects that will happen positive thoughts and trust in Allah that it'll happen if they're in difficulty and see having exams saying your like 17 and in love pray for them and ask allsh to help both of you. Be patient is key 🔑
I got married when I was 17 Knowing nothing about marriage and I regret it everyday I wish I could have had listened this Sheikh at that time
pray to ALLAH
Nothing to regret if your life is ok 👍
Don’t listen to shaytaan you are watching it now sister
Don't regret, Learn from it.
No its kheir. All one comes across is Part of Allahs plan
Pls pray for me, I m getting married within 6 months.. May Allah bless me with all the necessary qualities...
Mohd. Akhtar I’m getting married in March hope the best for all of us
So how is marriage so far?
@@fatmamusa5315 , assalamualaikum, first of all Very very happy Eid.... alhamdulillah summa alhamdulillah, my marriage is going very well.... please pray for me for the first child, I stay in UAE alone but my wife is in my home country, I want to live with her, please just pray for me to live my beloved wife.... thank you very much,
Allah Hafiz
My brother, I’m in a dilemma. I’m going through a new relationship with a Muslim an man who has made me fall in love with Islam, I’m Zimbabwean and Christian. Your speech is so pertinent. I watch and follow you, and am so proud of you!
Pindai Islam yacho sis..lol
Peace be upon you, with all respect to you sister kindly watch on UA-cam ef dawah, sc dawah ,the Muslim metaphysician channel videos regarding comparative discussions between Islam and christianity, may God guide you to the right path
Saka zvakafamba sei nhai
Asalamualaikom salon, have you accepted islam yet?
May Allah show u the right path..
I'm so ready to be a RIGHTEOUS WIFE😊 I just only want to be a GOOD WIFE n GOOD MOM for my children's in the future ☺️
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InshaAllah
But is your husband good to you?
@@JafrinKhan-gu5fm why you say this to our sister? We must motivate eache other. You dont have any respect for women Subhan Allah.
Why would u say this? Grow up child
BEST WORDS OF ADVICE
Unfortunately and fortunately i am not qualified to be a spouse, yet. It is a race against the clock, and i think i am a tortoise.
Allah knows best
Don't take that seriously, mufti sir is talking from a different perspective of the divorces happening. As long as we have those human qualities such as kindness, empathy, and respect fellow human beings.... Everyone is good to be a spouse.
There is always a person for another person, the point is if you're good then your husband/wife will be good for you, Allah knows best. It's always good to start from yourself
The sheikh mentioned marriage course. No matter what marital status we are in each one of us should take marriage course. In sha Allah.
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Atleast u r admittin u r not qualified yet .unqualified have 4kids already 😂😂
🙋TORTOISE here too 🐢 😂😅👍
Teenagers- I wanna get married
Mufti menk- are you SERIOUS😂😂😅
Eclipse 14 where from you
@mohammed Sabeel
How do u know? 😇
Yes he is SERIOUS.
@@zainabibrahim4183 lmo
In this age of mobile phones and hundreds of dirty sites , it is necessary parents get their teenagers get married as early as possible. If they fall in to bad habits, no amount of advice and coercion will help . Get them married in a simple traditional way and register them when they reach the legal age . it is better than , them having boy friends and girl friends.
Awesome advice.. sir we need more people like you in india 🇮🇳... bag full of deeniyaat knowledge... love and respect from India 🇮🇳
Ma sha Allah, Please Like, Share and subscribe to my channel as well. may Allah bless you for this Aameen!!.
We don't find such knowledgeable people in India.. india is a lot more interested in kufr
I am nearly 20 years old. I am a typical Asian guy with not a rich background. Over the past few years of my life, I've suffered a lot but I never gave up hope and still suffering EVERY SINGLE DAY and praying to Allah so I can live a better life. These past few years, in these years I learned everything mentioned above in a hard way. I have every single skill for being eligible to marry however marriage is a HUGE responsibility which I think I am yet to be able to shoulder. May Allah give us the strength to restrain ourselves from zinah or any other bad deeds Insha Allah.
If you are reading this and also going through a very hard time of your life, brother or sister don't lose hope. Don't lose faith in Allah. DON'T DOUBT THE ALMIGHTY LORD! He is always looking at you. Taking care of you. You just don't know it or don't think that way. Stay strong and pray to Allah.
Also, pray for me too! Who knows when, whose, where someone's prayers will be taken for granted. Peace!
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May Allah grant you a righteous spouse
asalamualaikum, now it's been 3 years, how's your life?
Billion dollar advice....Thank you.
its the spoken word of the action of our beloved prophet Muhammad p.b.u.h
See his sabr when the other side was noisy. If that was me I would have lost it.
Hhhhh me too!!!
You are not qualified for a marriage 😂
Sorry, wanted to turn it into a joke
Hahaha me too
Lol
1.Communication skills/interacting skills
2. Patience
3.Kindness
4.Politeness with spouse
5.Not Belittling/yelling
6.Sensitive
I struggle with patience. May Allah grant me sabr.
Ameen
Ameen
I am Christian but I listen to you all the time. It makes me a better person everytime.
"You should have married your phone."😅
Problem of today's generation.
God Bless you po!
Thank you for your hardwork❤
Very important issue, if only people knew this. They just say he is 20, 21 so get married without thinking if he is ready or not.
I don't usually comment on videos. I really needed to hear this. Thank you.
May Allah (swt) bless you immensely for your efforts in creating this.
Hope you're having a lovely Ramadhan so far.
i think im ready to get married. I have almost all the qualification to marry. My mother also said, you are as polite and decent behaving as you need to be as a spouse. But im not financially comfortable yet. And im finding someone who will care about me and my mother. And i will get her all the happiness of world as much i can. May Allah accept my dua and get me a beautiful hearted one.😊
Noman Mridha Ameen
Its ur job to care of ur mom not hers
@@ayeshaartacademy3818 He meant care about as in not being oppressive to his mother. Because some women treat their mothers in laws very badly~
May Allah fulfill your desire.... Aameen ya rabbal Aalameen
@@hajraansari7116 Thank you my sister
I keep praying for a good wife ....but watching this ...ibask allah for strength and patience....but it's hard to be alone ....seeing everyone together even when I look at my parents I feel alone
Exactly marriage is no joke and there is a reason why Allah has given you a spouse, children who sometimes push our limits, but we need to put our best efforts to make it work, and that's what the test is, and it's given to you because you can handle it. Allah doesn't burden a soul for more than it can bear.
Ma Sha ALLAH. I needed to hear this badly. May ALLAH bless you Sheikh.
The Best message I've ever heard on this topic! SubhanAllah Mufti!
Jazak allah kheir muft. It is a very adorable lesson i wish it could be even more than an hour. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
You have such an open mind mashallah ! You remind me of my father (RahamuAllah) 😌may Allah give you a happy and blessed life my brother
Alhamdulillah for this video. I'm always just about ready to click out of the video but when I tell myself to stick around until the end, I learn something much more valuable.
I can’t stop listening to this kind man, may you live long 👏🤝🤝🤝
Mashaa Allah, Sheikh Mufti really understands our generation and how to explains things for us
May Allah bless you brother
I’m 22 year old I’m not ready for marriage until I’m 25 because of my maturity
This is actually the best knowledge and counselling that can be given to a youth preparing for marriage 2🙏🙏🙏
JazakumAllahuKhairan! You're guiding so many youths out there including myself.
So many things to learn.... Especially the Patience when you get that disturbance in the background.... Love you Mufti ❤️
You are talking about me. What a great reminder thank you very much brother
I wish if I could spent last 10 Ramadan in Mecca and Madina with my wife, pray for me everyone
Thank you for this, please keep me in your duas - Hope to get married one day! Inshallah
Maashallah the best advice you could give the ones are not married yet 👌
I'm not yet financially ready for marriage but I wish I could have someone to understand each other before marriage
@Farasha Muslimah from QC
Listen again to what MM is saying --> "Be responsible"
Bringing 3-4 kids in to this world without being financially independent is IRRESPONSIBLE.
Before marriage
Jenny Muslimah but is important to be financially ready
Yusuf Maryam no u can marry some one who is in your current or lower financial statused family
Ahh the anatomy..
InshAllah I would love to get married one day. May Allah choose a spouse suitable for me...Ameen
Amin 🙏
Ameen
Ameen!
Masha Allah. I’m planning to get married and I came across this video. This has really educated me a lot. Thank you very much for this subject.
Assalamo alykum I just love the way how u elaborating the topic SubhanAllah 💐
Hi....
I love each and every word of you ..when ever i listen to your speech i really feel my life has changed ...thanks a lotttt
I m not a muslim i Love your advice sir thanks you so much for advice I will start to follow your suggestion 😊😊😊👍👍👍👍
Becouse you are born Muslim!!!!!!
MashaAllah my favorite Imam !!! ALLAH BLESS U. !!!!!
YOur lecture is the Best T.T
Listening to Mufti Menk is now my hobby. Such an inspiration.
MASHA ALLAH,May Allah bless u here and After mufti , Awesome Advice fr teenaged , InshaAllah I will try to develop my quality before marrige ,All r requested to please pray fr me fr here and After
Great effort by you Mufti Menk. May Allah bless you with Jannah-tul-Firdaous, May Allah guide us and All humanity to right path. All your effort to make better relations among society counts.
Wonderful. Absolutely wonderful. This video couldn't have come at a better time. Bless Mufti Menk
Alhmldh.. I really feel v inspired by listening to it.. I learn alot.. Mashallah god bless u sir..
Jazak Allah khair . And the sound did not bother at all .... becoz all concentration goes to your brilliant advice.
Much needed advise.
Sarah!!
I really love his talks. He keeps it real.
WOW! I so needed to hear this, time to change my ways.
Alhamdulillah thank Allah I have my electric blanket to keep me warm. Being single and alone all winter in New Jersey is brutal. I love Allah. I am so thankful I have Allah. I am thankful. I am sorry I complain about not having a husband but this has been very hard on me. Please do not take me the wrong way. The men here in New Jersey play too many games and even the Muslim men. Relationships should be taken more seriously even friendship. Allah comes first yes and honest communication skills
In today's time, it is challenging to find decent Muslim men. Just speaking in general and not saying all men are like that.
@@iloveanimalsok Interesting
Maybe you need to move to somewhere where there are men who are dedicated to Allah
Sara Stratton IF you Love Allah like you Said ! Do good four your soul , take hijab !! I Said like good friends four one good friends!
And i want explain somthing ! You know All Prophet ho come in Allah namne (Gods namne) have same words ( Jesus Said Peace with you)
In Arabic means Salam
And Musa in hebrew (jewish langugae Said) shalom and that means same!
I hope Allah answers your Duas and needs.
Oh my goodness how patience you are!!!!!👏🙏🏼
Jazakallah kheer brother, may Allah reward you in this world and here after.
Mashallah, thank you so much sheikh may Allah reward you for this beautiful message
"Hitting the nail on the head masha'allah"shukran💯%
Beautiful video :) Being ready is very important..
Is anyone gona talk about how patient and soft-hearted he was towards the workers’ disturbances? I would NOt have kept my cool like that🤧💨❤️
Thank you I'm so happy when I listen your speech really may Allah almighty bless you Sheekh 🙏 I get courage to your speech form Djibouti East Africa
This cleared so many things Alhamdulillah! It's not that easy finding or knowing all this, but Alhamdulillah this has made it way easier and inshAllah this message reaches as many people as possible!
Nobody’s perfect May Allah make all of us perfect, give us what we want.jazakallah
Everyone matures at a different age through their experiences. I’m 21 and give advice to my brother in laws regarding their marriage issues. Maybe I’m just built different. 😁
May Allah bless you brother , listening to your videos and advice has got me through many hard times in life , may allah grant you paradise
Right time to watch this...somehow I got this in recommended videos...Jazakallah❤️
Masha allah ... oh man you are the perfect mentor to guide me about islam and you make me to love my Allah more and more ... thank you allhamdhulilah
Masha'Allah
I was looking at the words in front of him and wondering what it says.... it says "A feast for freinds"...🤗 lovely talk once again. Thank you Mufti Menk , I'm glad theres no music in the background it sounds more genuine. Thanks
Very true may Allah bless us all with good and positive thoughts Aameen
JazakAllah u khairan kaseeran kaseera shaikh🎓 it was much needed ❤ this video is a gem💎...... really appreciate this👏 may Allah azza wa jal bless you mufti menk may Allah azza wa jal bless you with firdaous ya Rabbi ya Rahman aameen ya Allah
Woow God bless you for all your Wounderful advice 🙏🙏🙏🙏💖
I like a guy for a very long time,we are same age, so I want to marry him as soon as possible,please make Dua'a for me
May Allah make it easy for us
i love how mufti menk stayed cool and kept his temper maashallah an example in how to stay composed
lovely message by this sheikh. We must ask ourselves before getting married the above question.
Watching this video renewed my hope that Ill be ready to start looking for a spouse next year, everything you said is so true to keep a relationship going.
I was married 19yrs ago alhamdulilah till now we keep goin' yes theres a lot of things to consider but in GOds love we remain loved
Wonderful! Finally a voice of reason
I am very impressed with your videos.
Will be listening to much more....
Thank you for these.
Beautiful question and beautiful respect of an answer to help people think about a life long priceless commitment that is the epitome of human adult development and most valuable key relationship that we could ever take part in in our lifetime.
The sound in the background is testing your patience 😂 ma sha Allah
Yes that's true😃😁
Exactly having patience is must...I think this is the first quality we should see in Ourselves before going for marriage
Alhamdulilah. May Allah swt reward Mufti Menk in this dunya and grant him the highest level in Jannah. Ameen. Great advise. I really agree with this. Also look at his patience even though he's getting disturbance he remains calm. Alhamdulilah perfect example.
Salam jazakallah really lovely video with so many gems. Just when you think you've heard so many marriage talks, there's still so much more to learn.
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Luv u Ummah ❤🕌🕋🇿🇼thankyou for letting me vent and I will pray more. I am trying my best to strive. Allah knows my heart
May the almighty make it easy for you, ameen.
Yeah Allah Is knowing of every heart
Sara Stratton how are you
Sara Stratton u beauty girl u facing problem
Try not to use the word Jihad. Even though it means to struggle. Try to use different words. 1 Urdu word is muschl (hard).
Subhanallah, what a great advice for muslim May Allah help us to improve ourselves. Your lectures are so effective that they impress us properly. Allah bless you sir
this is so useful...i need to work on myself and be a better version of me before i can commit to understanding someone else..
I think parents has a MAJOR role in getting their sons prepared for marriage, not by finding them spouses, but by teaching them the skills that Mufti has mentioned and show them a good example of a good marriage.
Mashallah TabarakAllah Mufti Menk... What a beautiful way to handle your character and poise in that uncomfortable yet a bit funny situation. May Allah open our doors and grant us Jannatul Firdeous. Amin. May Allah grant you and your loved ones the best of companions both in Dunya and in Akhira. Thank you for all that you are and all that you do Sir. Jazakallahkhair
Thank you for these powerful motivational speech' Im learning a lot from you Mufti Menk.
Subhanallah very beneficial...
Our youth should listen / educated before they get married... May Allah almighty guide all Aameen