I was 23 (and wife 22). No job and just out of university. I sponsored my wife and by the time she arrived (6 months), Allah had blessed with a permanent government job with a great benefit package and salary. All praise belongs to Allah.
Mashallah brother, May Allah (S.H.T.) shower you with his mercy and enter you in Jannah. I give you one piece of advice, keep having mercy on your wife love and honour her and tell her you love her and her heart will never leave you insha'Allah. Ahmeen
ilmas ashraf there’s literally no reason for you to call her a dumbass. you obviously knew what she meant, and you could’ve just simply corrected her without the profanity.
This line made me change my whole prospective on marriage. I'm 28 Always been scared of marriage and divorced and the pain it brings. But on inside I feel so empty and alone. I really want to do this halal mistake now and not be scared of it anymore. Relationships should be beautiful not hurtful.. even if it ends, no problem, it was a halal mistake. I wish I thought like this before. Made me cry too
my heart literally crying everytime i listen to this kinda lecture. i got rejected countless time because of my looks. They like my profile but when it comes to physical appearance i got cast aside. i know other sistersss who are in similar situations. we are trying our best to practice the deen and don't get involved in free mixing.Here we are in our 30's single and bitter. Again people blame us for being too picky when we can't even start the ta'aruf process! And the proposal never came.Not all sisters whose never been married want an extravaganza wedding. Daughters are being buried alive just like back in jahiliyyah. The difference is we are buried emotionally..Allaahu musta’aan. Please help and make dua for all of us.
well some people are not blessed. Allah want them to go to hell. so here we are doing sins. Allah is not nice to others like he is to you. I think Allah selectively hate certain people and make their life miserable on purpose. good luck if you are one of the lucky one. Im sure you will make it in heaven.
Brief notes: Allah says Get the unmarried among them married. - talking mostly about women. - Allah is highlighting divorced women first - preference is given to them - Who does it apply to? Usually, parents put age constrictions/conditions for marriage - The person should be Saliheen (good with Allah), of age - Not having money is not that big of a problem How do we make marriage easy? - Shaytaan's work - make halal hard, make haram easy - What parents do - oppress/supress - Make it hard for children to get married - Trying to pretend the world is the way it was back then. Parents need to adapt to the world as it is now - If a girl says I don't like him, that's it. You can't force her. She doesn't even have to give a reason. - don't force your young girls into rebelion (Quran) - don't force children into marriage - If a young woman/man is old enough to get married, they're old enough to make their own choices - To men - hold on as best as you can. Try your best to stay away from haram. - Take the halal option the first moment you get the opportunity - Connections form when families come to the masaajid. - There are legitimate ways of getting people to know each other - Allow young people to meet in a dignified fashion, with the knowledge of the family - only marriage preceding marriage talked about in the Qur'an is about Musa (a.s) - homeless, fugitive, Israelite - ends up in Arab tribe. Helped some girls.. one of the girls tells the father she's interested in him. Father says yes. 1) Girl was interested 2)He was strong 3)Trustworthy, carried himself with dignity. - We have to be open and allow children to get married more easily I didn't get all the info, sorry - I'm watching this on my phone. And I also apologize for any mistakes . You can contribute to the notes if you want InshaAllah :) Jazakum Allahu Khayran
Where men only want to marry virgins, when they themselves are not, only brings ruin: " Good women are for good men, and good men for good women". Islam has been infiltrated by the desires of men, not Allah. These are the last days. I was 30 years old, divorce with 3 children. I was considered a charity case that no one wanted. So, I went to college. Earned a scholarship to U.S.C., got an excellent job with the city of Los Angeles making good money and benefits. Worked for 28 years and now retired Alhamdulillah, free and happy. I have retirement for the rest of my life. Happy for ever Alhamdulillah.
A proposal came from a decent man , but my family was stubborn to marry me with a better option, Alhamdulillah fearing allah I convinced my father and got married with good jobless person,
I am 30+,unmarried women. I lost my mother in 2012.I get asked why i didn't get married yet. My only sin was that I never believed in dating and relationships. I recently started liking someone but he also wanted to just do haram as my mom isn't around m we anymore. After listening to nouman Ali I believe I jus keep waiting and if ALLAH wants things will convert and that man who rejected me for values and principles will accept me for what I am today. Thankyou Nouman Ali.
Masha'Allah, may He grant you a good man, Ameen. Sister, you're still young. I'm 40 and divorced; that's like the seal of death on a woman, haha! You're good. : )
Salams. Isa Allah will send someone doe you but are you putting yourself out there to be seen? Do you volunteer at the mosque and various events so you can socialize and be seen. Do you work? Do you meet with other sisters to socialize and have activities? Do you have normal weight and do you exercise and walk to stay healthy? Are you open to other nationalities and races, only caring about their Deen? Are you a pleasant person with minimal bad habirs and glaring faults? Work on yourself and you will attract others,
@@redapple9488 Just never give up, I was at the same situation as you back then, even I got suicidal thought. Now I'm at 29 and Insya Allah will be married few months later. The anxiety is still there, it wont just disappear, instead we have to face it one by one, slowly. Back then I always wondered if I'll able to marry someone someday, but now I'm here.
yh im sorry to here that and i know what ur talking about. it goes completely against the religion and is, unfortunately, a problem in some asian culture.
My suggestion is if you can find a Muslim devoted convert then much better for you because you both will understand each other...no one will be racist against you because both of you are the same...may Allah SWT bless you.
I terribly want to get married ☺, but there is a time which allah swt has already decided , may allah bless us all with the patient's we need, and may allah swt grand us all his Jannah.
Jazak Allah Khair for the much needed reminder. As a mother of an 18 year old daughter and 15 year old son, I have always been open about marriage and finding the one who they connect with. My son has said on numerous occasions his desire to marry at 19. I pray Allah make it easy for him Ameen. This Khutba as well as others are a constant reminder to us parents that we have to first put our trust in Allah and second listen to our children. May Allah reward ALL involved in the effort of these Beautiful Khutba and May Allah protect our youth Ameen Ameen Thumma Ameen
You are a believer! Probably one of the 144,000 or I could be wrong. You'll be fine so long as you don't worship Jesus as God. And, I strongly urge you to read the Quran, for it is also God's words. You will know what was there before God created Adam, the jinns, and other interesting stories you will only know in Quran. And after having read the whole book, and you still want to remain a Christian, so be it. But I doubt you will and if you are someone who truly hears the words of God and is born of spirit. You will know that Quran is the Last Book of God and after Muhammad, no more prophets will be sent down. And btw, whenever you find yourself worshipping Jesus as God or ascribing him as equal or partner to God, read the 1st and 2nd commandment.
Yup, we've made marriage so hard & haram so easy. Parent's always make excuses and are blind to there children's need to satisfy there sexual urges & have a family. The earlier they get married , the better. Especially in today's society of filth everywhere! Instead parents just Follow there own whims and fancies.. someone need's to wake em up! Inshallah Allah will help us. Peace be with you all
Pornography, movies, billboards & all this objectification of the female body. It's ruining the Youth & on top of that Parent's are blind to reality :(
Practical Islam What exactly does ISNA do as an organization ??? As a Muslim growing up in the US for over 20 years...I find it hard to find any personal impact ISNA has provided for me. I think the problem resides within the lack of traditional scholarship ISNA'S board consists of. We need a team of leaders with refined souls to lead the Muslims of America. And i dont really see that with ISNA. Most people on the board try to comform with American values whilst leaving Islamic values. We are facing an identity chrisis as Muslims living in America...and ISNA is confusing the identities of many American Muslims. Id argue ICNA is doing much better work than ISNA is with a smaller team and following. What are your thoughts!??! JazakAllah Khairan
As Salam alaykum. I m 30 years old not married. i really want to have my own family. pls all make dua for me to get married soon n may Allah give me patient n guide me amin summa amin
Our Indian sub-continental mentalities rather have their children an unhealthy marriage than helping the children to be honest in their conjugal lives. Many sins are committed just because of the fear "what will others say?" and the families rather have the "show-case" marriages and destroy lives.
Nouman, I am 27 years old Muslima who want to get married to a real man ..a real Muslim man who will treat me with fear of God.. and inshallah I'm mature and salleha
"I'm not attracted to him" "Asthafirullah dont worry Allah will put it in your heart" had me snorting so loud oh God his khutbahs always have me hooked😂😂😂
Marriage is part of Allah's Qadr, it's predestined.. If unmarried there's no reason to worry or feel distress, these are tools of shaytaan which make one feel down, begin to blame, feel desperate and engage in impermissable actions. Keep your duty to Allah, guard yourself, don't take on bf/gf or communicate online to opposite sex.. if you're pure, Allah will find you a pure spouse, think good of Allah SWT, and place your trust in Him. Don't go into marriage seeking your rights, whilst it's okay to be aware of them, place more attention on your responsibilites and seek to improve yourself.
I agree with all that, but there's nothing wrong with going out and searching for a spouse. Put in the effort, Allah swt rewards hard work, effort and good intentions.
Masha allah another beautiful Khutbah by brother Nouman. May allah make it easy for us young Muslims who are hoping for marriage one day, ameen. Because today’s society has a lot of bad temptations, may allah steer us away from it ameen ya rab 🙏🏾❤️
Our society needs people like you.. I'm 24 and I'm ready mentally and physically.. and every haram things are so easy around me.. I told my parents so many times but they don't listen.. I cry i wish i had someone who could understand me.. I feel like my desires are gonna distance myself from Allah.. I don't wanna involve in any thing that is haram but it's getting really tough for me.
i am a young mother with 2 girls and a third girl coming soo in sha allah...but I hope to remember thos lecture when my kids are at the age of marriage especially seeing how my parents handle this type of issue with me n my sister my allah help us all
I wish this was in Somali so I can put a speaker when I am in the bus so those who are parents can understand what their children want and what they want
This makes more sense. Praise Allah!!! I want to learn more. I grew up going to Catholic Church and never understood anything. I feel like something is missing.
"If you wanted to get them married in the village why didn't you stay in the village?" 😭😭😭😭😭😭 I literally gave my parents 1 condition and it was the guy has to be grown up in America and even then that's too much to ask for 🤦♀️
Wow!!! How come I had never listened to This man before. This is the kind of leaders Islam needs today. May Allah grant you a long healthy life. May Allah bless you thousands of times.
I reeelly want to get married and protect myself from Haram, BUT parents!!! 🙁, they don't allow me yet, now i study in a university in bachelor's degree in 3rd course, my father says first finish bachelor's degree, and after this finish the other degree which lasts for 2 years, then work, get money for your wedding and after all of these you Can merry 😂. I keep making dua and asking Allah to give me a good spouse.
They should allow you to marry while you pursue degree. If you and your husband have children. What is wrong with the grandparents raising them until you both are able to financially support them. In china and africa children are raised by grandma aunties and extended families. Most important marriage gives you the legal permission to cohabitate in the eyes of Allah. Thats it. Its a license.
@W dude, i had written this almost two years ago, and I have completely changed my view in these matters. 😂 Anyway thank you for reminding me. And still I'm not married 😂
I am 30 and struggling so much with finding a right spouse. Even if I get connected with someone and it seems like its gonna work out, I get rejected by family because of my age. People judge me, assume things about me. I pray so much to Allah day and night, Ya Allah Help me. Brothers and sisters please make dua for me! JazakAllah Khair
I hope Allah ease for you and sorry to say this, screw people surrounding that judging you in the wrong way.. i feel u.. u're not alone.. even family could be toxic when it comes to marriage matter..
"It's a halal mistake" This line made me change my whole prospective on marriage. I'm 28 Always been scared of marriage and divorced and the pain it brings. But on inside I feel so empty and alone. I really want to do this halal mistake now and not be scared of it anymore. Relationships should be beautiful not hurtful.. even if it ends, no problem, it was a halal mistake. I wish I thought like this before. Made me cry too
It's so nice to have a jumma khutabah week in week out for me as I don't go to jumma I get some lovely knowledge that I will think about during the week. It just makes my Friday complete. wa jazakallahu khair
you should try your best to go to jummah. For every step a person takes to walk to the mosque on friday a year of fast and a year of qiyam is rewarded to that person. That applies for actually going and coming back home after. So you should try, even if its just once a month.
@@yazenyounis7591 dude dont blame us ladies most Mosques dont have any place for women especially here in India. And the funny thing is most women want to go and most men just go cuz they gotto.
@@maryamkidwai2543 Salam Alakium sister. I wasn't trying to blame anyone, perhaps what I said came out in a manner that I did not intend. But I was simply trying to encourage that's all. thank you for your comment and may Allah make it easy for you in India. Salam.
I got married when I was 22, my husband is 24, who just got a job. My parents used to postpone our marriage and it made me depressed, waiting for 3 years. I've listened to Nouman's talks about marriage to comfort myself. I really hope early marriages are normalized again in the future to avoid the same problem.
Maa Shaa Allah.Alhamdulillah I made a right decision to told to my parents that I wanna get married.you are right Imam. When we are out of control of our desires we need to get marry and save ourselves from sins.
I was in love with a non muslim, we were in a relationship for 2 years and I asked my parents many times if I could marry her and they refused. She converted to Islam and still my parents refused. Then she left me because she could not accept inlaws who did not see her as human just because she was white. I have been broken ever since and I wish parents would follow ISLAM rather than CULTURE!
Problem with marriage is in the 5th century marriage is the husband,wife and God! Now everyone gets in. Imam, family, government, planners, guests, freaks , geeks. The whole community has to get involved. Marriage is far from simple!
@@rukayyahaliru6006 I know what it's like I wanted to marry a beautiful girl from Pakistan and she introduced me to her family. They seemed cool and liked me but I'm not of their culture and language so she told me we cannot marry. It was hard but I realised there is nothing I can do! So we stopped seeing each other. I just want a woman who agrees to a simple marriage but these days people want a grand spectacles. #bringbacksimplemarriage
MashaAllah, Ustadh Nouman always give a incredibly balanced lecture. Whatever the subject may be. Such wisdom Mashallah. May Allah protect him for us, and give him strenght, so that he can strenghten this Ummah and share with us more of his knowledg. Ameen.
it's true that a girl can reject a guy, but it also should be kept in mind no prince charming will ever come who is all perfect. Girls should be wise enough to make a choice rather than rejecting guys on baseless reasons. May Allah help everyone! amenn
JazakaAllah Khair for having this lecture! He addressed so many problems that young people are facing to get married. I hope this video reaches out to everyone, esp parents. May Allah swt make things easy for all of us, Ameen.
JazakAllah, Nouman. You are doing a commendable work. You have simplified things for people like me, who have embraced Islam. May we all stay on the righteous path which Islam teaches.
*The Ummah of the Beloved Prophet Muhammad ﷺ should be United, and this is the real love from us for the Lovely Prophet Muhammad ﷺ* ❤ *Ummah, We are One large Family!*
13:05 it reminds me of when my parents were looking for my sister's match and she didn't want to marry a certain guy and my parents and other relatives would fume for weeks talking her into marrying and she felt so bad and depressed during the whole process. I tried to support her but it was not enough. now she is going to get married tomorrow to someone else. May Allah bless her with a happy married life. May her spouse prove to be the best of men. May they be blessed.
I am 28 n still unmarried n no one is accepting me because I don't have high degree I m not smart beautiful according to them , they don't care they have daughters too may Allah bless me with a pious spouse ameen
May Allah swt give spouse which will be coolness of your eyes i'nshallah ,make lots of dua , pray , for Allah swt only character matters ।। I am also 26 unmarried want to get married but right now it's not possible because delaying is also a hikmat from Allah swt ...
I think many young guys and girls want to get married. Even while studying. The big point is that the family expects a marriage (naturely). But many youth can't afford to spend €10.000 for a marriage + renting a house because they still study
this-is-madness so true and in the Turkish culture (my culture) a wedding costs so much people sell farms and houses to pay for it and are still in debt after that. So sickening.
Sarah K same is true for Pakistan... Normal expense on a girl marriage in middle class is $ 15000 to 20,000 US dollars which is very big amount in Pakistan.
I am 22,pursuing my undergrad in statistics and waiting for the perfect spouse for me. I Don't know when Allah decided her entrance into my life,but i pray to Allah after every single salah that whoever she is,she must be a muminah, Ya Allah,please make my difficulties easier for me and send her to me. It become so tough to stay away from fitnah these days. Please pray for me my dear brothers and sisters.
i will inshallah marry a widow. i see the logic the main lesson i learned in my life "if u trust material to give u happyness,it will betray u. same can be said with beauty. beauty lasts a few years caracter lasts till death.
u should have respect for women they are ur mother n sister ur talking about. i only want to marry because widow women knows how much motherhood worth rather than beuty which only last a few years u should change ur veiw my friend
I support you mate. I have married a divorced girl who was divorced just because she gave birth to a babygirl. i have the girl as my daughter now and Allah has made it so easy for me that not for even a little bit i get a feeling that there is anything different than marrying a virgin and then having a daughter. I am happy and so is all my house and this is the best thing happened to me in life. I however had to take a firm stand. faced a lot of pressure and criticism but in the end all went my way ALHAMDULILLAH. so go for it mate and yeah make sure you never let your wife feel you went out of the way and did this for her. you do it so you get jannah IN SHA ALLAH.
misb lamp is this the typical Indian mentality that has your people known worldwide as the leaders of rape culture? استغفر الله العظيم Dont forget you will be judged for the words you said one day
InnShaAllah I will get married soon. I have started the searching process. I will recommend the Muslim brother and sisters to get married as soon as possible. If you think of getting yourself established, then you will be waiting for a very long time. However, it is important to be ready mentally.
So if you wann get married do you already have everything ready like a proper job and have a home and what's your age I'm just wondering because I'm in my 20s and still in school I wanna get married but my parents dont let me till I have everything ready so when I be in my 30s
PLZZZZ brother nouman. do this in URDU. ITS A HEARTY REQUEST. MAY ALLAH SWT GET YOU WITH HIS PROPHET SAW IN JANNAH. ITS A MESS HERE IN THE URDU WORLD. WE NEED THIS TALK IN URDU
Shah Khan Dear ,its not prblm with the language...the problm is to understand wht he tought us gv knowledge in the most common language in world wide is englishh...he was doing his best i thnk ..thankuuu soo much
Wallahi you are the best one , Our kashmiri islamic scholars are only propagating wrong message about nikkah, they are spreading Hindu culture here by saying parents will decide choice in marriages, which is so sad. Islam gives children's right to choose, and parents duty of supervision / investigation only. But unfortunately in Kashmir right to choose is in the hands of parents. These types of lectures is needed ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I am 40 years old now. Youngest daughter of my parents. All my siblings and my parents don't accept any man for me. They say just wait for the perfect match. And i lost all my time of marriage waiting for perfect match. If i accept some one with my heart, all family says, no no you're gonna spoil your future. He is not perfect for you.
There is no such thing as a perfect time for it. Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials on the earth and the spread of corruption.” Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1084 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani It would seem your parents have blocked that which the messenger told us not to block ( if the proposal was pious and righteous)
Dearest Faiza ,my name sake my Allah make it easy for yoy, biidhnillah you will be rewarded with better than you aim at and in shaa Allah all the time you had sabr will be fruitful ...aaamin...am 25 and been having several proposals and my parents wuldnt want me to marry becz we r different cultures bt biidhnillah i believe as av prayed for you there will come a time to be rewarded for our sabr,and duaz nad efforts in shaa Allah and if ts nat in this dunia then in the aaakhira biidhnillah....aaamin ,stay strong and stay positive dear and always have tawakkal on Allah he is Arrazaq and He is the one who destined you for this, it is your test so may u pass it with flying colours biidhnillah amin
This is hard I know. Pray to Allah and if you find someone nice and good who is ready to take your responsibility just RUN AWAY WITH THAT PERSON. In sha Allah, Allah will help you .
tell your parents that allah created everyone equal and that they shouldnt think so high of themselves. Also do rukyah on you and your family. Your family isn't normal.
I just try marry a widow women, she is 27 years old! And im virgin with 24 years! Ladies and gentlemen dnt care what culture say go ahead marry which women you like! Pray for me! May Allah keep it easy for every muslim!
Marriage is so easy in Islam but people put hardship upon themselves. Marry someone who is compatible with you and makes you happy, don't marry someone because they 'fit in' with your family and their needs. It's your marriage and your life. Also, you only marry someone because they are the right person, not because you just want to get married. If you don't find the right person, don't settle for someone who is clearly not suitable for you, just because you feel desperate, such marriages of desperation end quickly. Be patient, the right one will come along, and be content with single life until then. I don't think it's a bad thing if you don't meet the right one, and if people study Islam they will find many examples of Muslims who did not marry for many reasons, including not having found the right person or their lives were committed to the religion in terms of study, dawah, etc.
its sad that our parents dont get to listen to these preechings, but we the future generation should follow these islam teachings when it comes to marrying off our children In Sha Allah.. May Allah make parenting easy for us🤲🏻❤️❤️
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I m turning 29 on 6 Dec 2017, and recently i got a good job in government sector but my mother is not ready to get me married because she want a doctor bride for me. (In Punjab, Pakistan mothers are crazy for doctor brides). And this will delay my marriage for at least 3 to 4 years. I said to my mom clearly that i want to get married to any suitable girl. Even my Father wanted me to marry but due to "" Women rights"" and "" democarcy "" mothers dominate everywhere. Bcz mothers have more votes than fathers in most homes. I m very much religious and trying to be pious but enough is engouh yaar....plus i have no confidence to propose any girl. This Fitna of late marriage should end soon.
So sad people value tradition over fear of Allah. The Quran show that people rejected Islam because of tradition. They said because that is what they saw their fathers and anecestors worshiping false gods...so they refuse to upgrade.
I am sorry to hear this SubhanaAllah, titles "Dr" actually will be stressful I see a lot of them divorced. I was engaged to a surgeon subhanaAllah glad never married him all I am seeking is for a Good Muslim man that I will benefit now and here after. A religious man will recite for me and will be away from haram. Brother seek for a wife that is strong in Islam you will be more happier.
Its been three years since i had made that desperate comment and i am still unmaried. They are looking for a girl but with very slow progress. There is an unannounced ban on marriages in Pakistan. So many hurdles; Caste, sect, financial status, age, look and what not. May Allah have mercy on all of us!
@@TajamalGhumman Do you live in pakistan? May Allah make it easier for you. I live with the pakistani community and they are very strict in who their sons and especially daughters marry. I knew this pakistani guy who fell in love with a practicing latina sister and wanted to marry her. His mother flipped out and completely rejected the girl. Allah will reward you tremendously for your patience. Trust me brother the rewards you have accumulated for being patient while unmarried is so many. Make Allah make it easier for you. Have you tried to look for a Pakistani? Dont you think she will be more compatible with you in terms of culture and language?
Super valid points, I’m 22(m), trying to follow Allah’s way. I’m going to keep praying for a righteous spouse nonetheless, and creating myself into the ideal husband but this generation is hopeless, period. Too many career driven chasing dunya type people. Money is important but will not follow you into the Qabr, nor does a degree, nor does your job. You could die tomorrow and have nothing to show for Allah, always remember that. Ya Allah have mercy on us all, ease this hardship, make the Nikah easier for us all. Ameen 😪
إِن يَكونوا فُقَراءَ يُغنِهِمُ اللهُ مِن فَضلِهِ If they are poor, God will enable them with His grace.. (QS Annur:32) for those who intends to get married, believe in God's promise through this verse. May your affairs be made easier. amen
As someone isn't Muslim I can agree when I was 16/17 my mom &dad wanted me to get married and they wanted me to be with a certain guy because he had money or came from a good family high class and they got mad I said no till this day their upset.. Its the people in religion that that suck :(
I find it to be pretty comical how non muslims end up on the islamic channels, take their time to watch islamic lectures, whose audience, of course is the muslim community, and actually vomit whatever nonsense they've got here!
Ustadh always speaking from the bottom of his heart and with the right knowlegde..on the other hand 20y me has way too high standards for this... Our generation is just something else man..I feel like our generation is just starting to deny the sunnah of the best human being to ever face the earth (Muhammad s.a.v.s)
I was 23 (and wife 22). No job and just out of university. I sponsored my wife and by the time she arrived (6 months), Allah had blessed with a permanent government job with a great benefit package and salary. All praise belongs to Allah.
@@yoshiremixx *What are you laughing about idiot?*
Good for you
Mashallah brother, May Allah (S.H.T.) shower you with his mercy and enter you in Jannah. I give you one piece of advice, keep having mercy on your wife love and honour her and tell her you love her and her heart will never leave you insha'Allah.
Ahmeen
SubhanAllah
Mashalah
Anyone else looking for a righteous spouse ? 👀🙋🏻♂️
May Allah make easy for all of us . Ameen 🤲🏼
Zollax Ameen!
Zollax this comment section has become a purposal section too😂
here
Zollax Amin
Zollax
Ameen
the problem isn't in our religion.. it's in our communities, in our habits😒… we hope all thinking like u ustadh
True the problem is our communities
problem is money
ilmas ashraf there’s literally no reason for you to call her a dumbass. you obviously knew what she meant, and you could’ve just simply corrected her without the profanity.
I am a young Muslim and I am looking for a Muslim wife
could u help me?
mostafa elalfy hi
I am 36 years old and i am still hopping ALLAH will marry me and give me children..pray for me...ALLAH is the greatest! Al hamdoulilah
Marry me and save me and yourself from zina
May Allah give you a beautiful/ righteous husband.
@@PROSKILLS323 ameen
May allah give you the blessings
May allah give you what you want for amiin ya rabi
"That halal mistake is way better" This line made me wanna cry. Sooo truuuue 😭💔
Google User 😞😢
:'(
This line made me change my whole prospective on marriage.
I'm 28
Always been scared of marriage and divorced and the pain it brings.
But on inside I feel so empty and alone.
I really want to do this halal mistake now and not be scared of it anymore. Relationships should be beautiful not hurtful.. even if it ends, no problem, it was a halal mistake.
I wish I thought like this before. Made me cry too
@@wealthwithesha May Allah help you
@@studentnice5466 Thank you so much
my heart literally crying everytime i listen to this kinda lecture. i got rejected countless time because of my looks. They like my profile but when it comes to physical appearance i got cast aside. i know other sistersss who are in similar situations. we are trying our best to practice the deen and don't get involved in free mixing.Here we are in our 30's single and bitter. Again people blame us for being too picky when we can't even start the ta'aruf process! And the proposal never came.Not all sisters whose never been married want an extravaganza wedding. Daughters are being buried alive just like back in jahiliyyah. The difference is we are buried emotionally..Allaahu musta’aan.
Please help and make dua for all of us.
We'll do dua that God All Mighty resolves it in short period of time, Ameen.
You are so beautiful i am so sure of it especially in the eyes of Allah sister❤️
Agree with you sister.
Sadiya Akram May Allah help you to find a good spouse. Ameen
Allahummah ameen
Salam
Who ever is reading this may Allah bless you and your family and the Muslim ummah also may Allah grand all the Muslim ummah to jannah Ameen
Boss Ahmed Ameen
walaikum assalaam
Aameen ya rabb
well some people are not blessed. Allah want them to go to hell. so here we are doing sins. Allah is not nice to others like he is to you. I think Allah selectively hate certain people and make their life miserable on purpose. good luck if you are one of the lucky one. Im sure you will make it in heaven.
Boss Ahmed Aameen brother, May Allah (swt ) bless you and your family as well
Sad to see so many 30+ sisters complaining about not being married. May Allah grant us all spouses who will be the coolness of our eyes, ameen
Yeah sad but their crying to Allah so their going to be crying until Allah answer's, but their crying to the right one
Ameen
Ameen
@@fardosaadan5963 Ameen
@@damonslayton8074they are crying for a fat ATM
Brief notes:
Allah says Get the unmarried among them married.
- talking mostly about women.
- Allah is highlighting divorced women first - preference is given to them
- Who does it apply to?
Usually, parents put age constrictions/conditions for marriage
- The person should be Saliheen (good with Allah), of age
- Not having money is not that big of a problem
How do we make marriage easy?
- Shaytaan's work - make halal hard, make haram easy
- What parents do - oppress/supress - Make it hard for children to get married - Trying to pretend the world is the way it was back then. Parents need to adapt to the world as it is now
- If a girl says I don't like him, that's it. You can't force her. She doesn't even have to give a reason.
- don't force your young girls into rebelion (Quran)
- don't force children into marriage
- If a young woman/man is old enough to get married, they're old enough to make their own choices
- To men - hold on as best as you can. Try your best to stay away from haram.
- Take the halal option the first moment you get the opportunity
- Connections form when families come to the masaajid.
- There are legitimate ways of getting people to know each other
- Allow young people to meet in a dignified fashion, with the knowledge of the family
- only marriage preceding marriage talked about in the Qur'an is about Musa (a.s) - homeless, fugitive, Israelite - ends up in Arab tribe. Helped some girls.. one of the girls tells the father she's interested in him. Father says yes. 1) Girl was interested 2)He was strong 3)Trustworthy, carried himself with dignity.
- We have to be open and allow children to get married more easily
I didn't get all the info, sorry - I'm watching this on my phone. And I also apologize for any mistakes . You can contribute to the notes if you want InshaAllah :)
Jazakum Allahu Khayran
JazakAllah
Where men only want to marry virgins, when they themselves are not, only brings ruin: " Good women are for good men, and good men for good women". Islam has been infiltrated by the desires of men, not Allah. These are the last days. I was 30 years old, divorce with 3 children. I was considered a charity case that no one wanted. So, I went to college. Earned a scholarship to U.S.C., got an excellent job with the city of Los Angeles making good money and benefits. Worked for 28 years and now retired Alhamdulillah, free and happy. I have retirement for the rest of my life. Happy for ever Alhamdulillah.
@@MalikaTica Alhamduillah. You will surely be rewarded for your struggles!
ameen
Marry me and save me and yourself from zina
I am addicted to his Khutbas, I wait for them the whole week.
i give khutbahs to if u interested.....the word of christ
Ali Ahmadi what do you mean the word of christ ?
Word of Christ is to believe in Muhammad so whoever doesn't believe in Muhammad does not believe in Christ
Brother Ijaz Ali listening to his qutba is very easy and interesting but REFLECTING upon it is the most difficult thing
Ali A this is extremist behavior... we are minding our muslim business... why are you forcefully trying to turn us into christians?
A proposal came from a decent man , but my family was stubborn to marry me with a better option,
Alhamdulillah fearing allah I convinced my father and got married with good jobless person,
I am 30+,unmarried women. I lost my mother in 2012.I get asked why i didn't get married yet. My only sin was that I never believed in dating and relationships. I recently started liking someone but he also wanted to just do haram as my mom isn't around m we anymore. After listening to nouman Ali I believe I jus keep waiting and if ALLAH wants things will convert and that man who rejected me for values and principles will accept me for what I am today. Thankyou Nouman Ali.
Aliya Ansari where do you live my sister?
Good for you...based on you rejecting wrong doings Allah will give you what you seek..A good Halal relationship.. Is: marriage
Aliya Ansari u r in my duas. Inshahallah u r married if not yet then may Allah answer ur dua soon
Masha'Allah, may He grant you a good man, Ameen. Sister, you're still young. I'm 40 and divorced; that's like the seal of death on a woman, haha! You're good. : )
Salams. Isa Allah will send someone doe you but are you putting yourself out there to be seen? Do you volunteer at the mosque and various events so you can socialize and be seen. Do you work? Do you meet with other sisters to socialize and have activities? Do you have normal weight and do you exercise and walk to stay healthy? Are you open to other nationalities and races, only caring about their Deen? Are you a pleasant person with minimal bad habirs and glaring faults? Work on yourself and you will attract others,
I pray that whoever is seeking a righteous spouse may get one, by the will of Allah. Ameen
Ameen
25 and I feel old.. may Allah help my brothers and sisters in the struggle. Ameen
Ameen
Ameen
Ameen ya rab 💔💔😞
26 and feeling undesired and unwanted
@@redapple9488 Just never give up, I was at the same situation as you back then, even I got suicidal thought.
Now I'm at 29 and Insya Allah will be married few months later. The anxiety is still there, it wont just disappear, instead we have to face it one by one, slowly.
Back then I always wondered if I'll able to marry someone someday, but now I'm here.
Marriage is so hard in this day and age. Inshallah things will be easy when we find the one.
Meriam Mussa sister I would love to get to know you I'm looking for marriage if you are
In Shaa Allah
Meriam where r u from
Marry me and save me and yourself from zina
All these guys are thinking with lust. Thirsty losers.
I am a convert never imagined I would encounter rampant racism because as I was learning about Islam racism goes completely against the faith....
Cherry Garcia what kind of racism u experienced? And from which ethinicity? Towards whom ?
yh im sorry to here that and i know what ur talking about. it goes completely against the religion and is, unfortunately, a problem in some asian culture.
That's alright sister the latino muslim community is growing strong . We are there for each other
My suggestion is if you can find a Muslim devoted convert then much better for you because you both will understand each other...no one will be racist against you because both of you are the same...may Allah SWT bless you.
@@alizzalovelysamonte1176 absolutely agree with you. It's better to marry a person who will understand you.
25yo and already finding difficult time to get married due to being unsocial
Make duaa for me to get married to the righteous man.
May Allah grant you a righteous spouse that will be the coolness of your eyes
Ameen 🙏
What does social got to do with it ? Marriage in Islam is supposed to be arranged
I wanna grow up and be like Nouman, Jazakallahu Khairan
u should grow up and try to be yeezus christ. Amen!
TheJimmy I said "be like Nouman" not be "Nouman" but thanks :)
Ali Ahmadi Hey Kanye West Follower, lol. Those who mock Jesus Christ are not Muslims.
No wonder you sound like shiaa
sunnis are shariah abiders!
shia has some logic in them
I terribly want to get married ☺, but there is a time which allah swt has already decided , may allah bless us all with the patient's we need, and may allah swt grand us all his Jannah.
Aameen
Assalaam Alaikum Warahamatullaahi Wabarakaatahu. My brother are you are married now? Am looking for a spouse for my daughter.
Same goes to me, may Allah swt see us through.Ameen
SHAMSUDEEN EK astags bro control yourself. My dad got married at 86 the day before he died
Ek where r u from
Jazak Allah Khair for the much needed reminder. As a mother of an 18 year old daughter and 15 year old son, I have always been open about marriage and finding the one who they connect with. My son has said on numerous occasions his desire to marry at 19. I pray Allah make it easy for him Ameen. This Khutba as well as others are a constant reminder to us parents that we have to first put our trust in Allah and second listen to our children. May Allah reward ALL involved in the effort of these Beautiful Khutba and May Allah protect our youth Ameen Ameen Thumma Ameen
you are the mother that every child wants
Srsly you're the mother that every child wants !!!
Gloria Simmons it hurts me to read this. May Allah bless you !
Fardeen Anwar à
maasyaa Allah may Allah bless you !!! yassarallahulakum (you, your son and your daughter)
I'm a Christian but I'm enjoying your teachings.
Still??
Yeah still?
What do you mean by “Still” ?
You are a believer! Probably one of the 144,000 or I could be wrong. You'll be fine so long as you don't worship Jesus as God. And, I strongly urge you to read the Quran, for it is also God's words. You will know what was there before God created Adam, the jinns, and other interesting stories you will only know in Quran. And after having read the whole book, and you still want to remain a Christian, so be it. But I doubt you will and if you are someone who truly hears the words of God and is born of spirit. You will know that Quran is the Last Book of God and after Muhammad, no more prophets will be sent down. And btw, whenever you find yourself worshipping Jesus as God or ascribing him as equal or partner to God, read the 1st and 2nd commandment.
Yup, we've made marriage so hard & haram so easy.
Parent's always make excuses and are blind to there children's need to satisfy there sexual urges & have a family.
The earlier they get married , the better. Especially in today's society of filth everywhere!
Instead parents just Follow there own whims and fancies.. someone need's to wake em up!
Inshallah Allah will help us.
Peace be with you all
"filth" ? How exactly do you define that?
Pornography, movies, billboards & all this objectification of the female body.
It's ruining the Youth & on top of that Parent's are blind to reality :(
Practical Islam parents love their children, they want the best for them.
Wanting the best for someone doesn't automatically equal to being the best to someone.
Practical Islam What exactly does ISNA do as an organization ??? As a Muslim growing up in the US for over 20 years...I find it hard to find any personal impact ISNA has provided for me. I think the problem resides within the lack of traditional scholarship ISNA'S board consists of. We need a team of leaders with refined souls to lead the Muslims of America. And i dont really see that with ISNA. Most people on the board try to comform with American values whilst leaving Islamic values. We are facing an identity chrisis as Muslims living in America...and ISNA is confusing the identities of many American Muslims. Id argue ICNA is doing much better work than ISNA is with a smaller team and following. What are your thoughts!??!
JazakAllah Khairan
I regret not watching this before. This needs to be forwarded to every whatsapp group modern parents are involved in.
That wont be of any benefit. Our parents are done. When we become parents and if we can change, only then its possible practically
As Salam alaykum. I m 30 years old not married. i really want to have my own family. pls all make dua for me to get married soon n may Allah give me patient n guide me amin summa amin
May Allah give you a righteous husband and children insh'Allah.
Where r u from asma
@@OO-pr7qg BD
@@asmakhanom1050
Which country u from
@@OO-pr7qg BD stands for Bangladesh
We need to make marriage easier again!
#makemarriageeasyagain
“So protective of our women we want them to be invisible”👏👏👏 could not have said it any better
Our Indian sub-continental mentalities rather have their children an unhealthy marriage than helping the children to be honest in their conjugal lives. Many sins are committed just because of the fear "what will others say?" and the families rather have the "show-case" marriages and destroy lives.
May Allah make it is easy for us all
Marry me and save me and yourself from zina
The phrase that destroyed the subcontinent "Loog kya khein ge"
I am still single due to pursuing my career. But since hijab, I need to get married with the righteous spouse. Please pray for me 🙏🏻
May Allah make it easy for you, pursue your career with a spouse who can support you and bring you peace 🥺❤️
May Allah Bless You
May Allah bless you
Pls pray for me to find a suitable husband ☹️😞😟😩
🤲
@@thisisfine1115 Thank u 🙂
And me also pray
may Allah give you a compatible and pious husband
Where r u from
Nouman, I am 27 years old Muslima who want to get married to a real man ..a real Muslim man who will treat me with fear of God.. and inshallah I'm mature and salleha
سهلا ان شاء الله
Assalamu alikum
Insha'Allah I'm looking for get married too.
Mutaher Hussain Well, why don't you two see if you live near and can discuss marriage
Random Smile she wrote this comment one year ago. May be she got married 😂😂😂
Maaz Ahmed she might have sister so never lose hope bro :)
"I'm not attracted to him"
"Asthafirullah dont worry Allah will put it in your heart" had me snorting so loud oh God his khutbahs always have me hooked😂😂😂
Right? If your not attracted to him, once married,sleeping with him will make me hate him more...lol
@God Lord exactly. That's my point, there has to be attraction.
Another gold mine from brother Nouman may Allah bless him and grant him the highest level in paradise.
Ameen
Marriage is part of Allah's Qadr, it's predestined.. If unmarried there's no reason to worry or feel distress, these are tools of shaytaan which make one feel down, begin to blame, feel desperate and engage in impermissable actions. Keep your duty to Allah, guard yourself, don't take on bf/gf or communicate online to opposite sex.. if you're pure, Allah will find you a pure spouse, think good of Allah SWT, and place your trust in Him. Don't go into marriage seeking your rights, whilst it's okay to be aware of them, place more attention on your responsibilites and seek to improve yourself.
I agree with all that, but there's nothing wrong with going out and searching for a spouse. Put in the effort, Allah swt rewards hard work, effort and good intentions.
Masha allah another beautiful Khutbah by brother Nouman. May allah make it easy for us young Muslims who are hoping for marriage one day, ameen. Because today’s society has a lot of bad temptations, may allah steer us away from it ameen ya rab 🙏🏾❤️
Ladaney where r u from
One of the most amazing iman so far, we have to have an open mind.
Our society needs people like you.. I'm 24 and I'm ready mentally and physically.. and every haram things are so easy around me.. I told my parents so many times but they don't listen.. I cry i wish i had someone who could understand me.. I feel like my desires are gonna distance myself from Allah.. I don't wanna involve in any thing that is haram but it's getting really tough for me.
may Allah open the door of marriage and righteousness for you.
i am a young mother with 2 girls and a third girl coming soo in sha allah...but I hope to remember thos lecture when my kids are at the age of marriage especially seeing how my parents handle this type of issue with me n my sister
my allah help us all
Ameen
Looking down on women is not what the Prophet did (WAWS), what I read he protected them. May Allah guide us all
I wish this was in Somali so I can put a speaker when I am in the bus so those who are parents can understand what their children want and what they want
Nin ajanebi ah bay rabta halagu dhoho 🤣🤣🤣
This makes more sense. Praise Allah!!! I want to learn more. I grew up going to Catholic Church and never understood anything. I feel like something is missing.
May Allah the Almighty guide you to the straight path...
May Allah guide you to the right path, sis
"If you wanted to get them married in the village why didn't you stay in the village?" 😭😭😭😭😭😭 I literally gave my parents 1 condition and it was the guy has to be grown up in America and even then that's too much to ask for 🤦♀️
I wish this was in urdu so I can show it to my parents
Aaima Abid May Allah solve your challenges
May Allah help you
Where r u from
Marry me and save me and yourself from zina
@@FarhanKhan-vl1db bruh
Wow!!! How come I had never listened to This man before. This is the kind of leaders Islam needs today. May Allah grant you a long healthy life. May Allah bless you thousands of times.
Very true.Aameen!
This is one of the besttttt lectures i have listened so far
Ameen. I’m going to share this with my family and friends. May Allah(SWT) bless us all and our desires.
ameen
I reeelly want to get married and protect myself from Haram, BUT parents!!! 🙁, they don't allow me yet, now i study in a university in bachelor's degree in 3rd course, my father says first finish bachelor's degree, and after this finish the other degree which lasts for 2 years, then work, get money for your wedding and after all of these you Can merry 😂.
I keep making dua and asking Allah to give me a good spouse.
They should allow you to marry while you pursue degree. If you and your husband have children. What is wrong with the grandparents raising them until you both are able to financially support them. In china and africa children are raised by grandma aunties and extended families. Most important marriage gives you the legal permission to cohabitate in the eyes of Allah. Thats it. Its a license.
@W dude, i had written this almost two years ago, and I have completely changed my view in these matters. 😂
Anyway thank you for reminding me.
And still I'm not married 😂
@@anything6889 did you get married lol?
@@sohailalexander4681 yes😂, I'm going to be a father soon InshaAlloh
@@anything6889 haha thats good mashallah. Pray for the rest of us to be in your position
I am 30 and struggling so much with finding a right spouse. Even if I get connected with someone and it seems like its gonna work out, I get rejected by family because of my age. People judge me, assume things about me. I pray so much to Allah day and night, Ya Allah Help me. Brothers and sisters please make dua for me! JazakAllah Khair
I'm sorry you went through this. Did you get married in the last 4 years?
I hope Allah ease for you and sorry to say this, screw people surrounding that judging you in the wrong way.. i feel u.. u're not alone.. even family could be toxic when it comes to marriage matter..
"It's a halal mistake"
This line made me change my whole prospective on marriage.
I'm 28
Always been scared of marriage and divorced and the pain it brings.
But on inside I feel so empty and alone.
I really want to do this halal mistake now and not be scared of it anymore. Relationships should be beautiful not hurtful.. even if it ends, no problem, it was a halal mistake.
I wish I thought like this before. Made me cry too
may Allah make it easy for you
@@dbcooper28 thank u
I don't agree with that line. I will take my time.
@@nimrahkhan9105 As long as you don't fall into Zina during your time waiting it is ok. Humans are weak though remember
I cried as well 😭
It's so nice to have a jumma khutabah week in week out for me as I don't go to jumma I get some lovely knowledge that I will think about during the week. It just makes my Friday complete. wa jazakallahu khair
you should try your best to go to jummah. For every step a person takes to walk to the mosque on friday a year of fast and a year of qiyam is rewarded to that person. That applies for actually going and coming back home after. So you should try, even if its just once a month.
It's not possible for me to go jumma during term time but when the semester is on a break I usually try and go
@@yazenyounis7591 dude dont blame us ladies most Mosques dont have any place for women especially here in India. And the funny thing is most women want to go and most men just go cuz they gotto.
@@maryamkidwai2543 Salam Alakium sister. I wasn't trying to blame anyone, perhaps what I said came out in a manner that I did not intend. But I was simply trying to encourage that's all. thank you for your comment and may Allah make it easy for you in India. Salam.
@@yazenyounis7591 yeah I guess you cant really get a person over a comments section. Thanks. Salaam.
I got married when I was 22, my husband is 24, who just got a job. My parents used to postpone our marriage and it made me depressed, waiting for 3 years. I've listened to Nouman's talks about marriage to comfort myself. I really hope early marriages are normalized again in the future to avoid the same problem.
Ameen Ya Rabbul Aalameen
I hope I could get married when I’m 24
@@TinkerGrape If you already found the right person, go for it! You should start the marriage paperwork ahead so your parents know you're serious.
In These times getting married is so hard choosing the halal way doing good .. on the other hand zina is so easy ,,, sign of end of times
You’re right but never give up on Allah. And may Allah make your marriage easy for you.
Maa Shaa Allah.Alhamdulillah I made a right decision to told to my parents that I wanna get married.you are right Imam. When we are out of control of our desires we need to get marry and save ourselves from sins.
I was in love with a non muslim, we were in a relationship for 2 years and I asked my parents many times if I could marry her and they refused. She converted to Islam and still my parents refused. Then she left me because she could not accept inlaws who did not see her as human just because she was white. I have been broken ever since and I wish parents would follow ISLAM rather than CULTURE!
Ooh I’m so sorry to hear that. Mannn, your parents are going to have to answer to Allah swt for that
If you really wanted her you would have fought for her
@@targaryenblood yeah keep fighting. Love is not forbidden in Islam.
Don’t fear your parents opinion, be a man and stand up for your woman 💪🏻
Ya Rabb grant me someone who will be the coolness of my eyes..vice versa
M Hussain Allahouma ameen
Ameen
Ameen ya Allah 😢😢😢
Aameen brother Hussain.
Copy that ! 💗
Problem with marriage is in the 5th century marriage is the husband,wife and God! Now everyone gets in. Imam, family, government, planners, guests, freaks , geeks. The whole community has to get involved. Marriage is far from simple!
Jay Silva true
I am a young Muslim and I am looking for a Muslim wife
could u help me?
Am 28 yrs old my fiance father is against mii marrying his son because am not from their language pls what should I do ...am so depressed ryt now
@@rukayyahaliru6006 I know what it's like I wanted to marry a beautiful girl from Pakistan and she introduced me to her family. They seemed cool and liked me but I'm not of their culture and language so she told me we cannot marry. It was hard but I realised there is nothing I can do! So we stopped seeing each other. I just want a woman who agrees to a simple marriage but these days people want a grand spectacles. #bringbacksimplemarriage
@@jaysilva5854 the father accepted me before and all of a sudden he still changed his mind
MashaAllah, Ustadh Nouman always give a incredibly balanced lecture. Whatever the subject may be. Such wisdom Mashallah. May Allah protect him for us, and give him strenght, so that he can strenghten this Ummah and share with us more of his knowledg. Ameen.
it's true that a girl can reject a guy, but it also should be kept in mind no prince charming will ever come who is all perfect. Girls should be wise enough to make a choice rather than rejecting guys on baseless reasons. May Allah help everyone! amenn
Halima Usman 100 percent true halima if girls gave guys a chance they would have learnt something new from him ...
If he isn't 6 foot tall and rich.......
Social media is messing them up
if she rejects a good man shes into haram and blinded by media and high expectations. A person with deen will never reject a good person.
JazakaAllah Khair for having this lecture! He addressed so many problems that young people are facing to get married. I hope this video reaches out to everyone, esp parents. May Allah swt make things easy for all of us, Ameen.
JazakAllah, Nouman. You are doing a commendable work. You have simplified things for people like me, who have embraced Islam. May we all stay on the righteous path which Islam teaches.
*The Ummah of the Beloved Prophet Muhammad ﷺ should be United, and this is the real love from us for the Lovely Prophet Muhammad ﷺ* ❤ *Ummah, We are One large Family!*
13:05 it reminds me of when my parents were looking for my sister's match and she didn't want to marry a certain guy and my parents and other relatives would fume for weeks talking her into marrying and she felt so bad and depressed during the whole process. I tried to support her but it was not enough. now she is going to get married tomorrow to someone else. May Allah bless her with a happy married life. May her spouse prove to be the best of men. May they be blessed.
I’m 26 and my parents are trying to do that to me. I don’t like him at all and I get pressured into it
I am 28 n still unmarried n no one is accepting me because I don't have high degree I m not smart beautiful according to them , they don't care they have daughters too may Allah bless me with a pious spouse ameen
May Allah swt give spouse which will be coolness of your eyes i'nshallah ,make lots of dua , pray , for Allah swt only character matters ।। I am also 26 unmarried want to get married but right now it's not possible because delaying is also a hikmat from Allah swt ...
May Allah help you
may Allah make things easy for everyone who wants to get married.Ameen
Marry me and save me and yourself from zina
I think many young guys and girls want to get married. Even while studying. The big point is that the family expects a marriage (naturely). But many youth can't afford to spend €10.000 for a marriage + renting a house because they still study
that kind of marriage is not the one Islam supports.. it should be simple
this-is-madness so true and in the Turkish culture (my culture) a wedding costs so much people sell farms and houses to pay for it and are still in debt after that. So sickening.
Sarah K same in Pakistan
This problem is worldwide.
Sarah K same is true for Pakistan...
Normal expense on a girl marriage in middle class is $ 15000 to 20,000 US dollars which is very big amount in Pakistan.
This is excactly my father needs to watch. I was rejected...
But i trust Allahs plan.
Make dua for parents of this ummah to see the truth.
I am 22,pursuing my undergrad in statistics and waiting for the perfect spouse for me.
I Don't know when Allah decided her entrance into my life,but i pray to Allah after every single salah that whoever she is,she must be a muminah,
Ya Allah,please make my difficulties easier for me and send her to me.
It become so tough to stay away from fitnah these days.
Please pray for me my dear brothers and sisters.
Aamiin.
Did u listen to the khutbah? Perfect? No one is perfect may Allah give u righteous woman
ONE Ummah One God One Humanity
this needs to be interpreted for Somali parents lol.... actually all stubborn cultures
Mohamed Dahir right lol
Somaha! Too many Somali parents want qabiil marriage only. So sad
Indian
It’s a myth to marry outside of qabiil let alone ajanabi, it’s a really bad mindset
True walahi my allah guide us
It's been 7 years since I first heard the khutbah, and I'm still on the journey of seeking marriage
Remember me in your prayers, brothers 🤲ジ
i will inshallah marry a widow.
i see the logic
the main lesson i learned in my life "if u trust material to give u happyness,it will betray u.
same can be said with beauty.
beauty lasts a few years caracter lasts till death.
u should have respect for women they are ur mother n sister ur talking about.
i only want to marry because widow women knows how much motherhood worth rather than beuty which only last a few years
u should change ur veiw my friend
misb lamp
"They deserve a merciless banging"
Disgusting. Simply filthy to the core.
misb lamp nobody deserves that and you're not better than the 'spoilt princesses' for having that thought
I support you mate. I have married a divorced girl who was divorced just because she gave birth to a babygirl. i have the girl as my daughter now and Allah has made it so easy for me that not for even a little bit i get a feeling that there is anything different than marrying a virgin and then having a daughter. I am happy and so is all my house and this is the best thing happened to me in life. I however had to take a firm stand. faced a lot of pressure and criticism but in the end all went my way ALHAMDULILLAH. so go for it mate and yeah make sure you never let your wife feel you went out of the way and did this for her. you do it so you get jannah IN SHA ALLAH.
misb lamp is this the typical Indian mentality that has your people known worldwide as the leaders of rape culture? استغفر الله العظيم Dont forget you will be judged for the words you said one day
Excellent and so encouraging speech....it makes me to stay STRONG for halal...ALHAMDULILLAH
Marry me and save me and yourself from zina
indeed. when halal become hard n haram become easy. May Allah protect us.
InnShaAllah I will get married soon. I have started the searching process. I will recommend the Muslim brother and sisters to get married as soon as possible. If you think of getting yourself established, then you will be waiting for a very long time. However, it is important to be ready mentally.
So if you wann get married do you already have everything ready like a proper job and have a home and what's your age I'm just wondering because I'm in my 20s and still in school I wanna get married but my parents dont let me till I have everything ready so when I be in my 30s
@@darkstar8116 if you want to get married then get yourself in a somewhat stable position. You can always work harder for achieving your goal.
PLZZZZ brother nouman. do this in URDU. ITS A HEARTY REQUEST. MAY ALLAH SWT GET YOU WITH HIS PROPHET SAW IN JANNAH. ITS A MESS HERE IN THE URDU WORLD. WE NEED THIS TALK IN URDU
Shah Khan definitely
Shah Khan he gave a similar talk in Urdu. you can find it just search Nouman Ali Khan advice to Desi parents.
Asalamu alikum brother. in sha allah. maybe i can help you
+Alhamdulilah salman jahufer What part of *ullululululululala* did you not understand? - (Allah)
Shah Khan Dear ,its not prblm with the language...the problm is to understand wht he tought us gv knowledge in the most common language in world wide is englishh...he was doing his best i thnk ..thankuuu soo much
ustadh has SO much swag he's such a cool ustadh and the talk is even better delivered thank you Nouman Saab
Wallahi you are the best one ,
Our kashmiri islamic scholars are only propagating wrong message about nikkah, they are spreading Hindu culture here by saying parents will decide choice in marriages, which is so sad.
Islam gives children's right to choose, and parents duty of supervision / investigation only.
But unfortunately in Kashmir right to choose is in the hands of parents.
These types of lectures is needed ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
My parents cultural beliefs have made me getting married to the person I want near impossible. I have a growing resentment towards them.
Try Ruqyah
I am 40 years old now.
Youngest daughter of my parents. All my siblings and my parents don't accept any man for me. They say just wait for the perfect match. And i lost all my time of marriage waiting for perfect match. If i accept some one with my heart, all family says, no no you're gonna spoil your future. He is not perfect for you.
There is no such thing as a perfect time for it.
Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it. If you do not do so, there will be trials on the earth and the spread of corruption.”
Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1084
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani
It would seem your parents have blocked that which the messenger told us not to block ( if the proposal was pious and righteous)
Dearest Faiza ,my name sake my Allah make it easy for yoy, biidhnillah you will be rewarded with better than you aim at and in shaa Allah all the time you had sabr will be fruitful ...aaamin...am 25 and been having several proposals and my parents wuldnt want me to marry becz we r different cultures bt biidhnillah i believe as av prayed for you there will come a time to be rewarded for our sabr,and duaz nad efforts in shaa Allah and if ts nat in this dunia then in the aaakhira biidhnillah....aaamin ,stay strong and stay positive dear and always have tawakkal on Allah he is Arrazaq and He is the one who destined you for this, it is your test so may u pass it with flying colours biidhnillah amin
This is hard I know. Pray to Allah and if you find someone nice and good who is ready to take your responsibility just RUN AWAY WITH THAT PERSON. In sha Allah, Allah will help you .
tell your parents that allah created everyone equal and that they shouldnt think so high of themselves. Also do rukyah on you and your family. Your family isn't normal.
Are your other siblings married?? I would say run away its high time now they are wasting your life
I just try marry a widow women, she is 27 years old! And im virgin with 24 years!
Ladies and gentlemen dnt care what culture say go ahead marry which women you like!
Pray for me!
May Allah keep it easy for every muslim!
I love this Brothers honesty . Real talk
Marriage is so easy in Islam but people put hardship upon themselves. Marry someone who is compatible with you and makes you happy, don't marry someone because they 'fit in' with your family and their needs. It's your marriage and your life. Also, you only marry someone because they are the right person, not because you just want to get married. If you don't find the right person, don't settle for someone who is clearly not suitable for you, just because you feel desperate, such marriages of desperation end quickly. Be patient, the right one will come along, and be content with single life until then. I don't think it's a bad thing if you don't meet the right one, and if people study Islam they will find many examples of Muslims who did not marry for many reasons, including not having found the right person or their lives were committed to the religion in terms of study, dawah, etc.
100%
I am 26 and un married !! I want to get maried praying and waiting for kun from him
Are you single now?
It is not easy to find the right partner in life. Keep faith in God & pray to show us the right way & protect us from bad partners.
its sad that our parents dont get to listen to these preechings, but we the future generation should follow these islam teachings when it comes to marrying off our children In Sha Allah.. May Allah make parenting easy for us🤲🏻❤️❤️
Ustad,I just keep admiring you,just admiring you :) May Allah bless you and your institution.
I hope my parents learn about this topic and understand me In sha Allah.
1. Do not be rude in speech (3:159)
2. Restrain Anger (3:134)
3. Be good to others (4:36)
4. Do not be arrogant (7:13)
5. Forgive others for their mistakes (7:199)
6. Speak to people mildly (20:44)
7. Lower your voice (31:19)
8. Do not ridicule others (49:11)
9. Be dutiful to parents(17:23)
10. Do not say a word of disrespect to parents (17:23)
11. Do not enter parents’ private room without asking permission (24:58)
12. Write down the debt (2:282)
13. Do not follow anyone blindly (2:170)
14. Grant more time to repay if the debtor is in hard time (2:280)
15. Don’t consume interest (2:275)
16. Do not engage in bribery (2:188)
17. Do not break the promise (2:177)
18. Keep the trust (2:283)
19. Do not mix the truth with falsehood (2:42)
20. Judge with justice between people (4:58)
21. Stand out firmly for justice (4:135)
22. Wealth of the dead should be distributed among his family members (4:7)
23. Women also have the right for inheritance (4:7)
24. Do not devour the property of orphans (4:10)
25. Protect orphans (2:220)
26. Do not consume one another’s wealth unjustly (4:29)
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28. Avoid suspicion (49:12)
29. Do not spy and backbite (2:283)
30. Do not spy or backbite (49:12)
31. Spend wealth in charity (57:7)
32. Encourage feeding poor (107:3)
33. Help those in need
by finding them (2:273)
34. Do not spend money extravagantly (17:29)
35. Do not invalidate charity with reminders (2:264)
36. Honor guests (51:26)
37. Order righteousness to people only after practicing it yourself(2:44)
38. Do not commit abuse on the earth (2:60)
39. Do not prevent people from mosques (2:114)
40. Fight only with those who fight you (2:190)
41. Keep the etiquettes of war (2:191)
42. Do not turn back in battle (8:15)
43. No compulsion in religion (2:256)
44. Believe in all prophets (2:285)
45. Do not have sexual intercourse during menstrual period (2:222)
46. Breast feed your children for two complete years (2:233)
47. Do not even approach unlawful sexual intercourse (17:32)
48. Choose rulers by their merit (2:247)
49. Do not burden a person beyond his scope (2:286)
50. Do not become divided (3:103)
51. Think deeply about the wonders and creation of this universe (3:191)
52. Men and Women have equal rewards for their deeds (3:195)
53. Do not marry those in your blood relation (4:23)
54. Family should be led by men (4:34)
55. Do not be miserly (4:37)
56.Do not keep envy (4:54)
57. Do not kill each other (4:92)
58. Do not be an advocate for deceit (4:105)
59. Do not cooperate in sin and aggression (5:2)
60. Cooperate in righteousness (5:2)
61. ’Having majority’ is not a criterion of truth (6:116)
62. Be just (5:8)
63. Punish for crimes in an exemplary way (5:38)
64. Strive against sinful and unlawful acts (5:63)
65. Dead animals, blood, the flesh of swine are prohibited (5:3)
66. Avoid intoxicants and alcohol (5:90)
67. Do not gamble (5:90)
68. Do not insult others’ deities (6:108)
69. Don’t reduce weight or measure to cheat people (6:152)
70. Eat and Drink, But Be Not Excessive (7:31)
71. Wear good cloths during prayer times (7:31)
72. protect and help those who seek protection (9:6)
73. Keep Purity (9:108)
74. Never give up hope of Allah’s Mercy (12:87)
75. Allah will forgive those who have done wrong out of ignorance (16:119)
76. Invitation to God should be with wisdom and good instruction (16:125)
77. No one will bear others’ sins (17:15)
78. Do not kill your children for fear of poverty (17:31)
79. Do not pursue that of which you have no knowledge (17:36)
80. Keep aloof from what is vain (23:3)
81. Do not enter others’ houses without seeking permission (24:27)
82. Allah will provide security for those who believe only in Allah (24:55)
83. Walk on earth in humility (25:63)
84. Do not neglect your portion of this world (28:77)
85. Invoke not any other god along with Allah (28:88)
86. Do not engage in homosexuality (29:29)
87. Enjoin right, forbid wrong (31:17)
88. Do not walk in insolence through the earth (31:18)
89. Women should not display their finery (33:33)
90. Allah forgives all sins (39:53)
91. Do not despair of the mercy of Allah (39:53)
92. Repel evil by good (41:34)
93. Decide on affairs by consultation (42:38)
94. Most noble of you is the most righteous (49:13)
95. No Monasticism in religion (57:27)
96. Those who have knowledge will be given a higher degree by Allah (58:11)
97. Treat non-Muslims in a kind and fair manner (60:8)
98. Save yourself from covetousness (64:16)
99. Seek forgiveness of Allah. He is Forgiving and Merciful (73:20)
100. Do not repel one who asks (93:10)
I m turning 29 on 6 Dec 2017, and recently i got a good job in government sector but my mother is not ready to get me married because she want a doctor bride for me. (In Punjab, Pakistan mothers are crazy for doctor brides). And this will delay my marriage for at least 3 to 4 years. I said to my mom clearly that i want to get married to any suitable girl. Even my Father wanted me to marry but due to "" Women rights"" and
"" democarcy "" mothers dominate everywhere.
Bcz mothers have more votes than fathers in most homes.
I m very much religious and trying to be pious but enough is engouh yaar....plus i have no confidence to propose any girl. This Fitna of late marriage should end soon.
So sad people value tradition over fear of Allah. The Quran show that people rejected Islam because of tradition. They said because that is what they saw their fathers and anecestors worshiping false gods...so they refuse to upgrade.
I am with you sir. I am a girl my mother is doing the same with me. Her checklist doesn't seem to end
I am sorry to hear this SubhanaAllah, titles "Dr" actually will be stressful I see a lot of them divorced. I was engaged to a surgeon subhanaAllah glad never married him all I am seeking is for a Good Muslim man that I will benefit now and here after. A religious man will recite for me and will be away from haram. Brother seek for a wife that is strong in Islam you will be more happier.
Its been three years since i had made that desperate comment and i am still unmaried. They are looking for a girl but with very slow progress. There is an unannounced ban on marriages in Pakistan. So many hurdles; Caste, sect, financial status, age, look and what not. May Allah have mercy on all of us!
@@TajamalGhumman Do you live in pakistan? May Allah make it easier for you. I live with the pakistani community and they are very strict in who their sons and especially daughters marry. I knew this pakistani guy who fell in love with a practicing latina sister and wanted to marry her. His mother flipped out and completely rejected the girl. Allah will reward you tremendously for your patience. Trust me brother the rewards you have accumulated for being patient while unmarried is so many. Make Allah make it easier for you. Have you tried to look for a Pakistani? Dont you think she will be more compatible with you in terms of culture and language?
Super valid points, I’m 22(m), trying to follow Allah’s way. I’m going to keep praying for a righteous spouse nonetheless, and creating myself into the ideal husband but this generation is hopeless, period. Too many career driven chasing dunya type people. Money is important but will not follow you into the Qabr, nor does a degree, nor does your job. You could die tomorrow and have nothing to show for Allah, always remember that. Ya Allah have mercy on us all, ease this hardship, make the Nikah easier for us all. Ameen 😪
إِن يَكونوا فُقَراءَ يُغنِهِمُ اللهُ مِن فَضلِهِ
If they are poor, God will enable them with His grace.. (QS Annur:32)
for those who intends to get married, believe in God's promise through this verse. May your affairs be made easier. amen
As someone isn't Muslim I can agree when I was 16/17 my mom &dad wanted me to get married and they wanted me to be with a certain guy because he had money or came from a good family high class and they got mad I said no till this day their upset.. Its the people in religion that that suck :(
its nt bad....bt thy cant force
Mashallah very informative. Islam makes it so simple alhumdulilah.
When they are old enough to get married, they are old enough to make their own choice. Yesss thank you Nouman sir! Assalamualaikum! 😇😇
Masya Allah... Thanks.. ustadz
I am from Indonésia I am very thankful ... I am also 27 year old still looking for my imam.. may Allah bless All us..
hey
Very truely said brother.
May Allah guide us to follow the true path of Islam.
"When they are old enough to get married then they are old enough to make their own decisions and choices.."
I find it to be pretty comical how non muslims end up on the islamic channels, take their time to watch islamic lectures, whose audience, of course is the muslim community, and actually vomit whatever nonsense they've got here!
We never know who will be the next muslim
Ustadh always speaking from the bottom of his heart and with the right knowlegde..on the other hand 20y me has way too high standards for this... Our generation is just something else man..I feel like our generation is just starting to deny the sunnah of the best human being to ever face the earth (Muhammad s.a.v.s)
Alhamdulillah this was an amazing lesson. May Allah Swt lead all of us to the straight path of Islam insha'Allah.
This is exactly what I have been saying for so many years...