Hey Denmo. Thanks for posting this video. I've never actually been in a relationship before as an autistic 23 year old, but this did help me out a lot. I'm in a winter arc now and am currently working on myself for another three months. So, maybe I shouldn't go approach or try to attract women for now. As a matter of fact, I should probably never ever allow myself to be in a relationship at all. I have to stay away from women for a good reason.....😞
The only advice you'll ever need: Don't overthink it and don't give too many fcks. Try to live a good life for yourself, and if you're confident about it, one day, someone might want you to share it (even if not, then you still had a good life for yourself). It's not the man's responsibility to manipulate every aspect of a situation only to "get" a girl. If she wants you and you want her, you'll find a way as long as you're both honest about it.
Just let her know you're interested and don't go overboard, invite her and hangout with her even if it's just the small stuff. Let her know you like her without being overly blunt about it. if she likes you she'll reciprocate and you'll take up each other's time and enjoy each other's company. Don't try to force something, try to create a connection and try to vibe together. If it's meant to be you'll know and figure it out.
"Be yourself" means be authentic, but that's difficult for people who have been pretending all their life. But yeah, you have to be someone you're proud to be first.
wow, this video explains human nature really well. I have a couple of friends that put an act so that they can attract women, at the end of the day they are in debts and they are not them self, it only works for a small period of time and in a long term this is pretty devastating.
I watched a video and thought fuck it.. Went for a skate with the intention to strike up a chat with the first person I found attractive. The first one was weirded out and made me feel like a bitch.. Then I met Sophia... She's an art teacher.. With a studio in a nearby town. I walked her home from work and got her number. She was kind and sweet. I didn't let the first encounter stop me and I'm glad. Thanks for the inspiration king.
Be yourself means: Don't fake it and be as good as you can possibly be, like and love yourself and be genuine about who you actually are. Even if no girl on the planet will like you you will still like you because you are the best veraion of you and you don't need to pretend to be anyone else to be good for yourself. So the only woman you need is the one who can apriciate you the same way you apriciating yourself. And if you have to pretend aoneone you are not because you don't like who you actually are maybe it's time to make something to actually like yourself and know yourself better to find your authentic features which are actually good about you
Ive been honest my whole life and have gotten nowhere. I actually advise guys to be fake, fake jn confidence and how "fun" they are. But don't fake your beliefs and values because that wont stick for long. But fake ur energy because girls don't like nice guys or 'boring' guys
I just wanna add a point : It really doesn't matter if you DO go throught all this, just ti get ti knie yourself. It's a journey in anycase. Lest's say you meet a girl, and at first you pretend because you're insecure, and after sime weeks or months ir falls aparr.. YIU STILL learned that thus stratgey of behaviour is not gonna work. Just like Denmo did.. and jyst like all the rest of us.
“Be yourself” is the most idiotic and vague statements ever created. You continue to find aspects of yourself till the day you die, I don’t think anyone is truly being “themselves” because we evolve every single year whether you think or not. “Be your best self” is much more logical and realistic.
Resonate with me. I'm broke, I'm working on it. When I get to the point of earning money. I would be a money maker, so that I will not ACT like I have money, I actually will have. Then again, money might not get you friends or women, but I can buy food with it.
*It’s interesting how self-improvement and authenticity can work together. Do you think being your true self is enough, or does adapting to the situation matter more?*
Sure, if you're very handsome and reasonably extraverted/sociable then just be yourself around them. It doesn't matter what you say or do. When you get to be about 30 y.o. though it helps if you have an extremely high income as well as being super-handsome. I can't believe how many people make a huge fuss over this simple, rudimentary crap.
I really can't interact with people. Everytime someone comes to me I'm just staring at their eyes, waiting my turn to talk, say "yeah" and that's it. I just CAN'T focus on the topic of the conversation, everytime I'm in a social situation I just wanna leave, I have no idea about what I like, my mind is in permanent blank, I can spend days and days in total silence
If they think you're attractive, it doesn't matter what you act like. I've seen guys act like complete bags and still get lucky that night with the girl they were hanging out with. Either she wants you or she doesn't and there's not much you can do to change her feelings.
I think I was being myself, maybe I was just confident. But I started seeing this 6foot 2 inch tall chick. I’m 5-6, fat, haven’t had a hair cut, and dressed like shit. I think what we need is to be FUNNY!! Being confident was definitely a little harder tho
I want to know your opinion about something, about a girl I liked at my workplace, I'm 19 years old and she's 17, and I acted too fast to attract her at the beginning and after a few weeks of dating, I asked her to go out together. ... or for example, my colleagues would tell me that the girl likes something, I would go and buy it for her... Yono, my behavior as a boy is considered masculine and mature by many people around me, and they all say that I am actually husband material... and I The first step is to attract that girl, I'm a bit weak, but I'm very strong to keep our relationship after we go into a relationship... Do you think I'm doing the right thing or maybe I'm doing something wrong? Because even though I showed her that I love her with my work and attention, she is still not attracted to me... and I think she has a boyfriend right now... and the issue here is not attracting that girl, the issue is whether the problem was my fault. ? Or that girl just doesn't like me...
Most of what I'm trying to say is that even though I was the perfect, good, caring man for her, and everyone said she felt safe with me... and despite all the big and small signs she gave me, she still went off with someone. So... do you think it was my problem? Or should I just continue my life and not care?
Only Jesus Christ can save you from hell. The Lord Jesus Christ died for our sins, was buried and rose again the third day (1 Corinthians 15:1-4 KJV). Jesus Christ shed His blood for our sins (Ephesians 1:7 KJV). We are not saved by water baptism (1 Corinthians 1:17 KJV). We are saved by grace through faith, not our works (Ephesians 2:8-9 KJV).
You are articulating the ways about how to impress a woman by saying don't just do anything just to impress a woman ...😂. People say to girls what you ask them to say to girl just to impress bro 😂
The problem is _that_ , and _how_ , women (and e.g. you) nowadays 'define' high value. Why the hell do I need to go to the gym? I'm 6'2'', slender, not ugly, a scientist with a PhD and prices for it for god's sake! I'm really smart and can do lots of things, I have a lot of talents, I'm very musical etc. - but I ALSO NEED TO BE BUFF ??? Wtf? You know what? I'd rather stay alone for the rest of my life than debase and betray myself by going to the gym and 'improve myself'.
Why do you view going to the gym as a betrayal against yourself? Besides making yourself more attractive, going to the gym is a purely positive thing for your health
@@gremlinchemist3621 Hm, apparently my answer got deleted. Well, here again: "going to the gym is a purely positive thing for your health" --> That's of US origin, and not a general truth. Unfortunately every fad from the US eventually crosses the Atlantic and gets to Europe where now it's also expected that every man needs to work out. Barf. I'm a scientist, always have been a nerd and always hated sports - and since I'm slim, that's totally fine. In my family we're all high academics and nobody does any sports, and the men all lived >82 years, my father currently being 88, and never did any sports in his lifetime. I even tried going to the gym for some time, but it's just futile, I'm a hard-gainer to the extent that it's just not worth it other than to lose fat - but I don't have any! So ... what's the point? Since I'm 6'2'', I'm still strong enough to move around heavy furnature when moving etc. and I've never been in a fist fight (that used to be a virtue here, meanwhile I'm not so sure any more), so why the hell should I try to gain muscle? 50 years ago, I would have been attractive as I am now because, well I'm a good scientist, very smart etc. - and just like I said in my first post: Now, I'm expected to be buff, too? Wtf??? Imagine women would now expect men to all have an IQ of 120! Wouldn't that piss you off? Or at least all the men that are at
@@gewinnste Ok, so you don't feel like you need to practice sports to maintain your health. And that's fine. l find that qualities like confidence and intelligence are more important than being muscular anyways. Skinny guys find themselves in relationships all the time. Why do you think it would be impossible for you to find a woman who wants you?
super valuable video to remind you that pretending to be something your not is only gonna push others away from you
Worth it for them to get pushed away
Hey Denmo.
Thanks for posting this video. I've never actually been in a relationship before as an autistic 23 year old, but this did help me out a lot. I'm in a winter arc now and am currently working on myself for another three months. So, maybe I shouldn't go approach or try to attract women for now. As a matter of fact, I should probably never ever allow myself to be in a relationship at all. I have to stay away from women for a good reason.....😞
You can't just be yourself if you don't even know who you are.
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Stop finding excuses, find reasons...
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@@BandmanNik writing lines quicker than a car, driving down the highway lanes, take the speed of flight..., plane, ay, that's good😂
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The only advice you'll ever need: Don't overthink it and don't give too many fcks. Try to live a good life for yourself, and if you're confident about it, one day, someone might want you to share it (even if not, then you still had a good life for yourself).
It's not the man's responsibility to manipulate every aspect of a situation only to "get" a girl.
If she wants you and you want her, you'll find a way as long as you're both honest about it.
Broooo, that is extremely good advice.
yea
this /topic
Instead of "Just be yourself" : "Be your best self"
From 23 minutes -> 1 second.
Instead : Should you "just be yourself" around girls you like? --> Do you want to be attractive to other women?
Answer: Yes!
Then do the work.
When you’re authentic, you’re more comfortable in your own skin, which can project confidence. Confidence is often perceived as attractive.
Just let her know you're interested and don't go overboard, invite her and hangout with her even if it's just the small stuff. Let her know you like her without being overly blunt about it.
if she likes you she'll reciprocate and you'll take up each other's time and enjoy each other's company. Don't try to force something, try to create a connection and try to vibe together. If it's meant to be you'll know and figure it out.
"Be yourself" means be authentic, but that's difficult for people who have been pretending all their life. But yeah, you have to be someone you're proud to be first.
wow, this video explains human nature really well. I have a couple of friends that put an act so that they can attract women, at the end of the day they are in debts and they are not them self, it only works for a small period of time and in a long term this is pretty devastating.
glad it helped
Came to this conclusion myself just a while ago and seeing this video gave me confirmation that its 100% right, thanks Denmo!
If she doesn't want to know about my Bionicle collection is it even worth dating her ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
lmao bruh
Just be the BEST of yourself
I watched a video and thought fuck it.. Went for a skate with the intention to strike up a chat with the first person I found attractive. The first one was weirded out and made me feel like a bitch.. Then I met Sophia... She's an art teacher.. With a studio in a nearby town. I walked her home from work and got her number. She was kind and sweet. I didn't let the first encounter stop me and I'm glad. Thanks for the inspiration king.
Be yourself means:
Don't fake it and be as good as you can possibly be, like and love yourself and be genuine about who you actually are.
Even if no girl on the planet will like you you will still like you because you are the best veraion of you and you don't need to pretend to be anyone else to be good for yourself.
So the only woman you need is the one who can apriciate you the same way you apriciating yourself.
And if you have to pretend aoneone you are not because you don't like who you actually are maybe it's time to make something to actually like yourself and know yourself better to find your authentic features which are actually good about you
Denmo I swear you have saved me I love you man I make result everyday much love to you❤❤❤❤
gotchu brother
Ive been honest my whole life and have gotten nowhere. I actually advise guys to be fake, fake jn confidence and how "fun" they are. But don't fake your beliefs and values because that wont stick for long. But fake ur energy because girls don't like nice guys or 'boring' guys
Sense of humour and making girls laugh is huge, if you can talk and make her comfortable you’re golden
@@retrogamer82 ive made girls comfortable and they're usually just ok with me as a friend not a partner...guess gotta keep trying
@@hpfusion8842 yup I agree with you. Making women laugh will maybe spark an interest in her, but if she perceives you as boring you won't keep her.
I don't play games and don't like smalltalk. Usually I scare them away with my directness.
this format of videos suits me a lot
glad it helps baby
Its called being genuine
As a guy that’s been playing guitar for 17 years I can confirm that guitar doesn’t get you girls lol. I was lied to
can confirm
You must be short then that plays guitar
@@tmp1k Even if you’re really good lol.
Just got one today💀
@@Mrbergmann you must’ve played Purple Rain
I just wanna add a point :
It really doesn't matter if you DO go throught all this, just ti get ti knie yourself.
It's a journey in anycase.
Lest's say you meet a girl, and at first you pretend because you're insecure, and after sime weeks or months ir falls aparr..
YIU STILL learned that thus stratgey of behaviour is not gonna work.
Just like Denmo did.. and jyst like all the rest of us.
“Be yourself” is the most idiotic and vague statements ever created. You continue to find aspects of yourself till the day you die, I don’t think anyone is truly being “themselves” because we evolve every single year whether you think or not. “Be your best self” is much more logical and realistic.
Great explanation Denmo. Once you work on bringing your DESIRABILITY SCORE up, being yourself is all you’re going to want to do eh
you're my favorite content creator love
Resonate with me. I'm broke, I'm working on it. When I get to the point of earning money. I would be a money maker, so that I will not ACT like I have money, I actually will have. Then again, money might not get you friends or women, but I can buy food with it.
thanks for this
When I'm myself everybody runs away because I am a lunatic.
ROFL!
some girls are freaky so ur cool
Problem here is the difference between older generations and our generation because they had different understanding about be youself
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Love the whiteboard videos
*It’s interesting how self-improvement and authenticity can work together. Do you think being your true self is enough, or does adapting to the situation matter more?*
best teacher at it again
welcome back
Sure, if you're very handsome and reasonably extraverted/sociable then just be yourself around them. It doesn't matter what you say or do. When you get to be about 30 y.o. though it helps if you have an extremely high income as well as being super-handsome.
I can't believe how many people make a huge fuss over this simple, rudimentary crap.
Thanks bro, all I need now is just talk to girl.
I absolutely hate when an activity or interest becomes somebody’s entire identity. It’s so lame but it’s also so common.
I really can't interact with people. Everytime someone comes to me I'm just staring at their eyes, waiting my turn to talk, say "yeah" and that's it. I just CAN'T focus on the topic of the conversation, everytime I'm in a social situation I just wanna leave, I have no idea about what I like, my mind is in permanent blank, I can spend days and days in total silence
For the people who struggle with attraction, maybe you should give a read on a book named Magnetic Aura from Talesio!
you got a new sub
welcome king
this video really clicks with some of the things I've been reading in 'Magnetic Aura' from Talesio
If they think you're attractive, it doesn't matter what you act like. I've seen guys act like complete bags and still get lucky that night with the girl they were hanging out with. Either she wants you or she doesn't and there's not much you can do to change her feelings.
Aka people self improvement.
I think I was being myself, maybe I was just confident.
But I started seeing this 6foot 2 inch tall chick. I’m 5-6, fat, haven’t had a hair cut, and dressed like shit.
I think what we need is to be FUNNY!! Being confident was definitely a little harder tho
great video as always, I would suggest people looking into this to read 'Magnetic Aura' from Talesio
Prediction: Become your best self and then be yourself
just be happy LOL
I want to know your opinion about something, about a girl I liked at my workplace, I'm 19 years old and she's 17, and I acted too fast to attract her at the beginning and after a few weeks of dating, I asked her to go out together. ... or for example, my colleagues would tell me that the girl likes something, I would go and buy it for her... Yono, my behavior as a boy is considered masculine and mature by many people around me, and they all say that I am actually husband material... and I The first step is to attract that girl, I'm a bit weak, but I'm very strong to keep our relationship after we go into a relationship... Do you think I'm doing the right thing or maybe I'm doing something wrong? Because even though I showed her that I love her with my work and attention, she is still not attracted to me... and I think she has a boyfriend right now... and the issue here is not attracting that girl, the issue is whether the problem was my fault. ? Or that girl just doesn't like me...
Most of what I'm trying to say is that even though I was the perfect, good, caring man for her, and everyone said she felt safe with me... and despite all the big and small signs she gave me, she still went off with someone. So... do you think it was my problem? Or should I just continue my life and not care?
You’re simping too hard that’s you’re problem
This dude is really af!!!
goat
First minute of the video and gotta say moms don't know anything about dating etc :D
Based
why would girls care whether you're working out or not
can you do an $100 - $150 socializer sale for haloween , its all i can afford rn lol.
send me an email ill let you know the next time we do a promo
If you're seeing this comment, it might be a sign to read 'Magnetic Aura' from Talesio, much love ❤️
Aww man my comments got deleted they were informative
Denmo, men aren’t mad that men and women play by different rules. It’s that women are allowed to change the rules in their rule book and men aren’t.
What is this even supposed to mean lol
Only Jesus Christ can save you from hell. The Lord Jesus Christ died for our sins, was buried and rose again the third day (1 Corinthians 15:1-4 KJV). Jesus Christ shed His blood for our sins (Ephesians 1:7 KJV). We are not saved by water baptism (1 Corinthians 1:17 KJV). We are saved by grace through faith, not our works (Ephesians 2:8-9 KJV).
You are articulating the ways about how to impress a woman by saying don't just do anything just to impress a woman ...😂.
People say to girls what you ask them to say to girl just to impress bro 😂
The problem is _that_ , and _how_ , women (and e.g. you) nowadays 'define' high value. Why the hell do I need to go to the gym? I'm 6'2'', slender, not ugly, a scientist with a PhD and prices for it for god's sake! I'm really smart and can do lots of things, I have a lot of talents, I'm very musical etc. - but I ALSO NEED TO BE BUFF ??? Wtf? You know what? I'd rather stay alone for the rest of my life than debase and betray myself by going to the gym and 'improve myself'.
Why do you view going to the gym as a betrayal against yourself? Besides making yourself more attractive, going to the gym is a purely positive thing for your health
@@gremlinchemist3621 Hm, apparently my answer got deleted. Well, here again: "going to the gym is a purely positive thing for your health" --> That's of US origin, and not a general truth. Unfortunately every fad from the US eventually crosses the Atlantic and gets to Europe where now it's also expected that every man needs to work out. Barf. I'm a scientist, always have been a nerd and always hated sports - and since I'm slim, that's totally fine. In my family we're all high academics and nobody does any sports, and the men all lived >82 years, my father currently being 88, and never did any sports in his lifetime.
I even tried going to the gym for some time, but it's just futile, I'm a hard-gainer to the extent that it's just not worth it other than to lose fat - but I don't have any! So ... what's the point? Since I'm 6'2'', I'm still strong enough to move around heavy furnature when moving etc. and I've never been in a fist fight (that used to be a virtue here, meanwhile I'm not so sure any more), so why the hell should I try to gain muscle? 50 years ago, I would have been attractive as I am now because, well I'm a good scientist, very smart etc. - and just like I said in my first post: Now, I'm expected to be buff, too? Wtf???
Imagine women would now expect men to all have an IQ of 120! Wouldn't that piss you off? Or at least all the men that are at
@@gewinnste Ok, so you don't feel like you need to practice sports to maintain your health.
And that's fine. l find that qualities like confidence and intelligence are more important than being muscular anyways.
Skinny guys find themselves in relationships all the time. Why do you think it would be impossible for you to find a woman who wants you?
Typical
first
I still can't believe no one on youtube is talking about the ebook magnetic aura from Talesio