Agreed some people who’ve known me for over 20 years. Probably only know I love dogs, reading and the color purple. I never give information about what goes on in my mind. Because, I know people won’t get me. I’m good with that as an adult. I didn’t do well with it as a teen and young adult.
When an INFJ tell somebody they should apologize, it's not for themselves, it's for the person who did the betrayal, because they know it'll help that person start to heal from their stupidity.
INFJs are by far the finest people on the planet. We slam the door on ignorance and hate and stupidity. INFJs don’t door slam confidants or loves. They door slam the worst of humanity.
As anINFJ I can be a very good friend to have. But when lied to, decieved, manipulated, etc. I am so done. The door slams. When someone has lost my trust and or respect they've lost it forever, no one has ever gotten it back from me. The only person I forgive is myself for being too nice of a person to them. Ive learned to think twice before giving or doing for others, admittedly I am not as giving a person as I used to be. Some might say I am a colder person than I used to be.
People who mistreated me came back to me, asked for another chance slamming them again did not make me feel guilty at all.. it feels like i do not care if they existed or not.. if you push me away I will leave asap.. but do not dare to come back again asking for help/attention. We're done.. I do not owe you anything. Periodt. 😳 Was I too mean ? I did not know at first I was an INFJ until I took tests and read articles about it.
My brothers, best friend, girlfriend, Aunt who just passed! I have not spoken to them in years and I never spoke to my Aunt again! The funeral is today and I won’t speak to my brothers or best friend!
This has definitely happened with me. I cut the strings with 2 of my best friends in the past. They didn't betray me in a traditional sense but I realized that they weren't treating me like I wanted to be treated. I never definitively told them that I was ending the friendship, I just kinda ... left their lives. So, cold shoulder and all that is very true.
@@lindore1689 Nothing really. One of them I've talked since, because it's been over 10 years now. She moved away and we don't see each other often, but we're okay again, I guess. The other one I haven't really spoken much with in the past 2 years, except a short "hi" here and there, when mutual friends organize something.
@@1412mariLU then i guess you never cold with them. Yall just drifted. U aint done nothing wrong hey. Its Life. We naturally drift apart if we aint meant to be, across all boards.
I did the same , being an INFJ we give them a lot of chances even without telling them and when they cross the line it’s done for us. We don’t care cause we know you never cared.
We cheating becomes a habit. We give them chance to changed . But when they take us for granted. Doors are close and walls are built.. And a new life is to begin.
Spot on video. Actually with no.4, I keep to myself not to manipulate them. It may end up being manipulative of their emotions. However on my part, I've retreated into my inner world and are having fun. Here's what people don't get: We're social because we need to be but our heads are way more fun than real life. So when someone betrays me and proves to me that they weren't worth my time and energy; I focus on myself and inner world. This is usually in the form of writing and exploring subjects I like. As you can see, there isn't much talking involved. To the outside-in person, it seems like I'm keeping my thoughts to myself so they keep second-guessing. Especially as they're used to my chatty, verbally expressive self. The actual reality, I'm expressing myself through writing and creating.
I don’t care for revenge but I have to categorize a relationship as no longer supportive if I see the person is harmful for me. I will listen to genuine apologies but look for genuine change. I don’t purposely make them regret their behavior. You can’t change someone so they probably don’t care anyway.
I don’t slam the door. I close it gently and then I lock it. I try to end things with a sense of grace and dignity. Not for their good but for my own satisfaction. It’s easier the older I get.
I’m working on my big dilemma “do I show my power and my vulnerabilities so people can decide early to avoid the door slam or do I remain mysterious til I get exasperated?”
I’d say communicate your requests and boundaries in a calm and logical way. Sometimes we need to tell people what to expect and give them a choice. If they choose not to you can simply keep company elsewhere.
I think it's better to forgive no matter what happens. Especially if the other person is sorry. Why hold on to bitter feelings. Although, door slam is peaceful, it's much better to be patient and forget it. Even Jesus did not want Peter to hurt the guard. Only the God Almighty in heaven, can judge all people in the end through Jesus Christ. No one is absolutely blameless or sinless to not forgive. We can use some kindness to resolve conflicts.
If you are an INFJ congrats, you might be one of the few to understand that giving in to your feelings, desires for payback and default ways ends up in a lonely sad life. I know several and some very close and what this channels dont mention is how much regret they end up with late in life after they have lost every friend after they have lost a whole lot of family members to the point in which I know of cases in which their own children grow up not wanting to deal with the INFJ parent because of how difficult they become. They keep track of everything everyone else does and seek to judge and not forgive but have no clue how much people around them have been silenly forgiving them for many trespasses which have stayed silent in order not to hurt their feelings
I am not a INFJ. Please don't send me other people's personality my personality is nobody. So if you got some information on that personality that would be awesome. Thank you
I will forgive. But trust? No. Most recently I was betrayed by a friend about the friendships of our children. Their were lies and character defamation from their side... devastating to me. When I tend to give the benefit of the doubt and let kids learn from mistakes and grow. Also false accusations are too much. Door slam.
What about when a infj betrays you. Who wants to try and measure up to there perfection requirements.they are not God.theydont always get it write.give me someone who talks things through and who is not so perfectionist any day than someone who manages relationships in the manner of a infj.yuck
instead of judging an infj for not being perfect, all you have to do is own up to what you were doing wrong. trust me, an infj will admit to their shortcomings as well but when it is not a two way street, you will be sent to the heaven.
I'd rather spend time learning to understand myself, than explaining myself to someone who won't understand.
That’s so true, I’m like addicted at this point! Like if I could spend time alone, I would be in bliss!
@@catkohlee Nobody's holding you back, go get that bliss!! According to the law of attraction, it'll bring you a blissful life :)
This applys so much to my current situation
Well said!
Agreed some people who’ve known me for over 20 years. Probably only know I love dogs, reading and the color purple. I never give information about what goes on in my mind. Because, I know people won’t get me. I’m good with that as an adult. I didn’t do well with it as a teen and young adult.
When an INFJ tell somebody they should apologize, it's not for themselves, it's for the person who did the betrayal, because they know it'll help that person start to heal from their stupidity.
I nothing them. I don't hate them, love them, are mad at them, pity them.....I just nothing them.....
You can never be more loved and then more irrelevant
That’s exactly what I do!!!
INFJs are by far the finest people on the planet. We slam the door on ignorance and hate and stupidity. INFJs don’t door slam confidants or loves. They door slam the worst of humanity.
As anINFJ I can be a very good friend to have. But when lied to, decieved, manipulated, etc. I am so done. The door slams. When someone has lost my trust and or respect they've lost it forever, no one has ever gotten it back from me. The only person I forgive is myself for being too nice of a person to them. Ive learned to think twice before giving or doing for others, admittedly I am not as giving a person as I used to be. Some might say I am a colder person than I used to be.
Amen 👏🏼💯😘
This is accurate. I can and will cut off any one that hurts me. I love too deep or none at all. I have no in between
People who mistreated me came back to me, asked for another chance slamming them again did not make me feel guilty at all.. it feels like i do not care if they existed or not.. if you push me away I will leave asap.. but do not dare to come back again asking for help/attention. We're done.. I do not owe you anything. Periodt. 😳 Was I too mean ? I did not know at first I was an INFJ until I took tests and read articles about it.
Yeah right? Then you realized you did not even care at all .. bcoz they deserve it anyway..
Lol....oh my gosh. I can relate totally
Not too mean.
My parents betrayed me, cut them off 20yrs ago.
My brothers, best friend, girlfriend, Aunt who just passed! I have not spoken to them in years and I never spoke to my Aunt again! The funeral is today and I won’t speak to my brothers or best friend!
This has definitely happened with me. I cut the strings with 2 of my best friends in the past. They didn't betray me in a traditional sense but I realized that they weren't treating me like I wanted to be treated.
I never definitively told them that I was ending the friendship, I just kinda ... left their lives. So, cold shoulder and all that is very true.
What did they do?
Lol. What happened then?
@@lindore1689 Nothing really. One of them I've talked since, because it's been over 10 years now. She moved away and we don't see each other often, but we're okay again, I guess.
The other one I haven't really spoken much with in the past 2 years, except a short "hi" here and there, when mutual friends organize something.
@@1412mariLU then i guess you never cold with them. Yall just drifted. U aint done nothing wrong hey. Its Life. We naturally drift apart if we aint meant to be, across all boards.
I did the same , being an INFJ we give them a lot of chances even without telling them and when they cross the line it’s done for us. We don’t care cause we know you never cared.
This a perfect explanation of an INFJ.
I've been betrayed and manipulative behavior which I despise. Don't manipulate an INFJ
We cheating becomes a habit. We give them chance to changed . But when they take us for granted.
Doors are close and walls are built..
And a new life is to begin.
Spot on video.
Actually with no.4, I keep to myself not to manipulate them. It may end up being manipulative of their emotions. However on my part, I've retreated into my inner world and are having fun.
Here's what people don't get:
We're social because we need to be but our heads are way more fun than real life.
So when someone betrays me and proves to me that they weren't worth my time and energy; I focus on myself and inner world. This is usually in the form of writing and exploring subjects I like.
As you can see, there isn't much talking involved.
To the outside-in person, it seems like I'm keeping my thoughts to myself so they keep second-guessing. Especially as they're used to my chatty, verbally expressive self.
The actual reality, I'm expressing myself through writing and creating.
Interesting…..thank you for sharing
@@14OnterioH my pleasure.
Slam door 100%..will never talk to you ever again..block,cut ties, sayonara..nice to meet you.
You mean "not nice to meet you" lol. All of the wasted time and efforts.
I don’t care for revenge but I have to categorize a relationship as no longer supportive if I see the person is harmful for me. I will listen to genuine apologies but look for genuine change. I don’t purposely make them regret their behavior. You can’t change someone so they probably don’t care anyway.
Once you betray us- it would be as if you never even existed to us. We dont wish anyone harm...we just simply detach💯
This video is the absolute best description of us.
It boggles the mind how well you know us.
Thank you!
I agree 💯🍿🎤😘
I don’t slam the door. I close it gently and then I lock it.
I try to end things with a sense of grace and dignity. Not for their good but for my own satisfaction.
It’s easier the older I get.
👏🏼👏🏼 ~ nailed it
Me, too. Was laughing most of the time!
💯🎯 Facts- spot on 😁
100% true 😊👍
I could not agree more. This is so accurate, it is scary. It is exactly how I react.
No mercy l forgive myself 👋🤣🤣
Them clips are something else bruh 💀💀
As an INFJ, I want to say that people suck!
All facts!👏🏼💯❤️
Thank you!
@@brainwatched You’re welcome 😇
Yup. So true.
Absolutely perfect accuracy. A+ Professor!!! I have cut off more people and family since 2016 than ever before in my life. Lol
I’m working on my big dilemma “do I show my power and my vulnerabilities so people can decide early to avoid the door slam or do I remain mysterious til I get exasperated?”
I’d say communicate your requests and boundaries in a calm and logical way. Sometimes we need to tell people what to expect and give them a choice. If they choose not to you can simply keep company elsewhere.
I think it's better to forgive no matter what happens. Especially if the other person is sorry. Why hold on to bitter feelings. Although, door slam is peaceful, it's much better to be patient and forget it. Even Jesus did not want Peter to hurt the guard. Only the God Almighty in heaven, can judge all people in the end through Jesus Christ. No one is absolutely blameless or sinless to not forgive. We can use some kindness to resolve conflicts.
If you are an INFJ congrats, you might be one of the few to understand that giving in to your feelings, desires for payback and default ways ends up in a lonely sad life. I know several and some very close and what this channels dont mention is how much regret they end up with late in life after they have lost every friend after they have lost a whole lot of family members to the point in which I know of cases in which their own children grow up not wanting to deal with the INFJ parent because of how difficult they become. They keep track of everything everyone else does and seek to judge and not forgive but have no clue how much people around them have been silenly forgiving them for many trespasses which have stayed silent in order not to hurt their feelings
Accurate
I am not a INFJ. Please don't send me other people's personality my personality is nobody. So if you got some information on that personality that would be awesome. Thank you
Hello XXXX :D !
I will forgive.
But trust? No.
Most recently I was betrayed by a friend about the friendships of our children. Their were lies and character defamation from their side... devastating to me. When I tend to give the benefit of the doubt and let kids learn from mistakes and grow. Also false accusations are too much.
Door slam.
well....................
I think you don't have to be an infj to act these way, top 10.
I'm an infj so it seems al logic
99% of the viewers are INFJs lol
Yeah...I don't care about you or your feelings...I don't even love you anymore ...and i dont care!
What about when a infj betrays you. Who wants to try and measure up to there perfection requirements.they are not God.theydont always get it write.give me someone who talks things through and who is not so perfectionist any day than someone who manages relationships in the manner of a infj.yuck
Sorry you feel this way.
instead of judging an infj for not being perfect, all you have to do is own up to what you were doing wrong. trust me, an infj will admit to their shortcomings as well but when it is not a two way street, you will be sent to the heaven.
😂 God complex much?