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1. Deceit and manipulation 2. Small talk 3. People who take more 4. Consistent or long-term chaos 5. Arguing for the sake of arguing 6. Prolonged periods of no alone time 7. Being challenged to compromise their values 8. Harsh or unnecessary criticism 9. Ulterior motives and ingenuine kindness 10. Cruelty in any form
INFJ here & I hate pranks. Even if it’s considered “funny or harmless”, I hate it. I feel empathetic towards the person getting pranked. I don’t take part of it & can’t watch pranks shows.
I completely agree! Unless, it's pranks against theives, so when they steel a purse or backpack that was left unsupervised, and quickly run to a hiding spot, open the bag and POOF!!! Powder or shaving cream explodes in their face!! Lmao!! 😂😂😂
It’s almost therapy reading the comments on all the INFJ videos I’ve been watching recently. Instead of feeling “alone in a group”, reading how many others are actually out there like me makes me feel like part of a group, while alone (if that makes sense)
This is 100% correct. As an INFJ, it is a constant struggle just to co-exist among a civilization of mostly selfish people. We observe behaviors that fill us with sorrow and grief. For myself, I find that people make simple situations much more difficult than they are and it is very frustrating to me. INFJ's know when a person is being authentic and when they are holding back. Deception is inexcusable to an INFJ and will result in ties being severed.
100x100% true 😅 I used to think I was just being overly critical of other people. It turns out, as an INFJ, we could see through other's intentions. True enough, we only keep a few in our circle. Engaging with the rest seems pointless.
We should still be careful though with judging people's intentions entirely. For example, a person may be being manipulative which is unnerving, but behind that also may be good intentions in their own moral sense even though we may disagree and dislike it. I've found that trying to think of the good intentions also behind things or just excuses for others will help me to balance out my emotions and sensitivity and feel better, more positive, less judgemental, more loving. This I try to do for my relationship with God first and foremost and it has also been helping all other relationships. At the same time, as an INFJ I try to use those heightened senses of ours to try to hone in on what's really going on so that I can help others and myself as much as possible
This is very accurate, for some reason when someone is being ingenuine with me I think to myself "OK, what do you want from me? Just skip past the chitter chatter and get straight to it." I also try to avoid conflict because I can sense vibes from people when it feels tense. 😳
This is the most accurate description of everything I truly hate! Finding out my personality type has really helped me understand myself and why I have so much trouble connecting. I just can't stand the superficial conversations people seem to be content with in their lives. It is so boring!
The small talk thing is the only one I disagree with. I don’t hate small talk. It just didn’t make sense to me for a long time. I think it was because I was taking too long to try to compose my replies in my head, because subconsciously I knew that I had a hard time making myself understood. But other people would just kind of word vomit their way through a conversation and they were fine with whatever nonsense came out. So I’ve had to practice a ton to be better at small talk, and to not overthink my replies to questions that are very low stakes and ultimately unimportant.
Not arguing for the sake of arguing is HUGE for me. Confrontation is our last resort so it’s hard for us to understand when it’s someone else’s first solution.
An INFJ here all these are 100 percent accurate with me. #1, deceit & manipulation is the number one deal breaker for me. When someone lies or deceives me, or tries to manipulate me I'm DONE with them I slam the door closed! Any trust or respect I may have had for such person is GONE, dead and there is no coming back. I can be a great friend to have, but when I've been crossed, it's over I'm done.
I'm a Heyoka INFJ. Boundaries an alone time are a must. I don't do the news in anyway. Lies, manipulation, and non genuine behavior or comments throw up all kinds of flags for me. Falling in love with someone who was a narcissist, definitely drove me to extreme levels of sickness. All of this resonates so deeply with me.
I just recently learned that I have the Heyoka traits, I have just started learning about my true abilities, and how to use them. I am horribly co-dependant on a guy that I've given almost 5 years of my "fresh start", after separating from a 24 year alcohol induced, abusive marriage. I'm starting to think he is a well practiced Covert Narsisist, that has never been found out. A battle is brewing, he is trying to discard me at the moment, but I am every emotion times 1,000 and not going to let him dictate my future, going homeless again, without a fight. Every person that knows him, my (entire hometown) will know what he is and what he's done! I'm a bit frightened though, he has already destroyed my reputation, self confidence, and pride. He pre conditioned every person he talked to, to dislike, even hate me. So I'm gonna need proof and prayers to successfully"out" this bully that I stupidly still love. 😥
People who say "can I just stop you there?" are difficult for me to work with. It's obvious that they don't listen 🙄. I usually say "no, you can listen and then I will listen to you, it's called a conversation ".
As an INFJ Prolonged periods of no alone time is something that really irritates me 😅 I hadn't realized it until now, sometimes I just felt angry out of nowhere and overwhelmed
😣 Recently I felt burned out! No alone time, since I'm a mom, and stress building up over time. Finally had 4 hours to myself and now I feel a bit better. ☺
@@StepIntoGodsLight Taking care of children is always stressful, and as a mother, it's like a full-time job, so it's great that you've had time to relax [●´︶｀●]
And loud, noisy door slammers, obnoxious car hooters with the windows open and the bass booming from 3 streets away, people that shout across at midnight to their door neighbours, dogs barking at the moon and foxes mating calls, oh the joys of being an INFJ'S or a grumpy old so and so 😃😂
Well i guess i mean im an infj and while yes these things do anoy me. I do these actions to often myslef that i feel guilty saying they anoy me. macking me the real hypocrite, wich is funny cause that was at the top of your list
I LOVE MAKING PEOPLE HAPPY, I ALWAYS GET TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF ALL OF THE TIME. I REMIND MYSELF, I WILL GET MY TIME TO SHINE ON MY OWN DIME
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Spot on. Also, as an INFJ, I find the loud background music extremely annoying. Couldn't wait for the video to end. Attack on my nerves. If you must put it, lower the volume. I personally, could easily listen to the video without the background music.
I find loud noise of any kind intrusive, overwhelming, and it distracts me from functioning efficiently; I call it noise pollution, and escape the city, immediately after work.
Particularly from #5 forward, dead on. Fake kindness makes me nauseous, and having to compromise my values ... well, I can't hardly do it. Really good stuff, want to send it to my family, my boss, and co-workers .... maybe I won't do that ...
As an INFJ, i totally agree 100% with this, and thru experiences as i am getting older, i am really good to set boundaries, especially when someone challenge me to comprimise my values, trust me, i will win the battle (this is the time when conflict can't be avoided).
I absolutely hate these 10 things as an INFJ. It was quite the aha moment when I finally learned that I was an INFJ/empath and hsp (this partly explained my feelings of detachment and feeling out of place). I also struggle with the group mentality other types display (gossip) and their apparent inability to be independent thinkers.
As much as I agree that deceit and manipulation are things we despise I also find I usually anticipate it before it happens so it loses any shock value...depending on the person involved I have strategies to protect myself... however if you are in a relationship this becomes much tougher to deal with as you often know you will yield to avoid any conflict or perhaps more accurately you yield for the sake of peace
the small talk is so accurate it kills me. I dive in with my deep questions and interests in people and people either get scared off cuz of that or they love it. edit: and the ingenuine kindness one so much. I was being talked to by someone trying to tell me something and they so artificially went 'teehee' it boiled my blood so much. Ingenuine kindness and artificial positive expression of emotion is exactly why jobs that involve advertising and general manipulation of people for your own benefit would kill me.
I recently discovered I am a INFJ-A/INFJ-T and I'm now searching for a better understanding of myself, I'm 54 years old and most of my life I just thought I was different from everyone else. Now I know why, because I am different.
Yes weighing things. Our intuition is there but gathering evidences and observing unnoticeably to prove that we are so right!!!! Then we proceed to the conclusion.
I would actually like to talk to someone who consistently places in the INFJ personality type, just to see in person someone who is almost exactly like me, and if we have had similar life experiences.
Yo en los tests de mbti doy infj pero no me fio mucho de los testes, he hecho muchos y alguna vez he dado infp. Creo que es guay para hacerte una idea para conocerte a tí mismo y entender que hay genta que no funciona de la midma manera que tu. Personalmente hay cosas de los videos que hablan de infj que dan en la diana, por ejemplo mi frustracion ante las criticas, el tipico infj door slam, mi miedo al fracaso y a los conflictos, sobre todo cuando siento Que hay un conflicto latente que va a explotar en cualquier momento. Pero bueno, tengo la sensacion que estos testes pueden conducir a que nos forcemos para encajar en la personalidad que hemos dado. Además, me da la sensacion que el mbti y todo el contexto de youtube o paginas que se le asocian encaja con una manera anglosajona de ver las cosas.
@@orciawazhere 45 yr old INFJ. Been writing a lot of poetry lately of life lessons plus some past personal struggles. If interested in reading, link is on my YT under the about tab
I have never been officially designated as an INFJ, but every video description I’ve seen I related to 90% or more of the traits. The annoyances described here are spot on.
These were truly on point. Especially the challenges to compromise on values and morals, ulterior motives and ingenium kindness, and cruelty in any form. In 2021, I think there is even more emphasis on these particular hates because of how the world is and how single sided people are becoming, instead of openly discussing each perspective in an honest manner. Everything has more then one perspective, but big topics of today only seem to have one side be the focus creating a lot of emotional chaos in our societies.
@@lavapopsicle203 here are some quotes that help me “ That thing that you call intuition? It is your soul. You can trust it. “ I’m not sure who said it. This one is by Eckhart Tolle. “Rather than being your thoughts and emotions, be the awareness behind them.” You should always trust what your feeling. I know easier said than done. However if it’s a feeling that’s nagging you, you can’t break away from it for longest than a few minutes at most a few hours. That is your gut, your instinct, your soul, in essence the essence of yourself. Letting you know what’s up. I hope this helps even a little:) take care
I am INFJ-A and this is so completely me!! Until I learnt about all of this, people had trouble understanding me and I had trouble understanding myself sometimes. It's good to know why these things get triggered in me and it helps my friends, family, and people around me to understand where I am coming from. I so need the alone time right now!!! 😁 Thanks for the video!!
As an INFJ, I agree with everything on this video. Especially the manipulation part, I can't stand to see others being manipulated, and I hate being manipulated myself.
Yes, I'm INFJ. Yes, I relate to all of these things. Especially, I hate cruelty in any form. Especially too, in my own life where my sense of external empathy will make me put in the effort with needy people, not because I want to be liked by them but because I care. Then sometimes the needy person will take advantage of this to the point where I feel used and disrespected and overwhelmed. Sometimes too, the needy person - I can always tell - will see me as a bit of a mug or a sap and won't be aware that I can read this in them. It's that contradiction of caring Fe and insightful Ni. Sometimes too, being lumbered with people who take far more than they give can get so disproportionate, that I simply cut off contact abruptly and altogether - which again, I know is a very INFJ trait. James Eccles
In the last few days I've put in some research into INFJs after finding out this is me 100 percent having felt like I was from a different place entirely for a long time, this has given me a lot of peace and answered a few questions too. if only I could get my friends/family attention long enough to show them what an INFJ is and that I'm not boring/moody sometimes and on my own for no reason.
I think my biggest pet-peeve would be the ignorant who refuse to listen and accept new information just because it contradicts with the information they already have. Since I love learning new things if not on daily basis, this type of people really boils my blood.
I use Smalltalk in two ways, first is like a starter course to the main meal that being the deeper conversation that the Smalltalk can lead into. The other way is to keep people I do t yet trust out. I can say a load of nothing, and use it as a wall.
Wow, these are spot on! This video has helped me see myself much clearer as I often can’t find the right words to describe myself. Thank you for making this video!
I'm mind-blown by this video. I recently took a personality test and it said I am an INFJ-T, I still had my doubts...not anymore. whatever said in the video 100% true to the core.
I tell my husband what I really like about him is how authentic he is. He does not really get that., but he's always his real self and it's very relaxing to be around him.
INFJ-T here and I check all of these boxes 100%. I just always thought that these things were (or should be) hated by all humans, I didn't think they were personality related. I'll find things other personality types hate too and see if we have many of them in common with other personality types.
It gives us Joy to give to Others ..we bend backwards for almost Anyone that needs us.. We know we can't fix Every Problem in the World..but we won't give up trying to help another! It's our mission..and No One Else Can help as best as we can!💯💥
this is absolutely true . i’m an INFJ / HSP . i hate any form of cruelty towards animals even insects or towards another human. i hate bullies and will stand up for anyone who gets bullied. i don’t like harsh , unnecessary and mean criticism but constructive ones that helps me to become a better person i will listen, and reflect.people who lie, cheat, manipulate for their own personal greed and gains really turns me off! I used to know someone who does that sort of shallow stuffs and whenever that person’s name appear on my text messages notification or in coming calls I began to have this nauseating feeling and even threw up once. it was so bad that i had to door slam that person out of my life immediately. i never had that nauseous feeling when i encounter these kind-of toxic people only this one person i’m not sure why, i literally just threw up. I hope I’ll never cross path with such people in my life ever but if i should , hope i will able to see and acknowledge those red flags and quickly cut them off . the problem with me, i give people too many chances and I’ m always telling myself. to stop over thinking over analysing someone or situation because it’s all in my head and people often tells me i’m overly sensitive but time and time again my intuition proves me right and i’m always ended up telling people this,”see! I told you so!” people do feel intimidated by us especially those dishonest, manipulative and mean people . i will immediately project my thoughts and energy vibe of dislike and letting them know that i know what they are.. and often these people do get uneasy feelings about them being expose’ and will go tell others how judgemental and unaccepting i can be!! been misunderstood countless of times but when the truth is finally out then there i go again!! see!! i told u all so!! then the only response i get is silence!! it’s ok.. because i don’t expect anyone that misunderstood me to understand me . i’m just glad that when the toxic journey ended everyone sees the truth and that’s all that matters.
As an infj i dare say it’s true that we feel happy when we make others happy but when they want to use this feature of us, we get so disappointed and there is a high chance for us to disappear from their lives.
Arguing for the sake of arguing. That's why I hate debating. I DESPISE debating. Debating is nothing more than a battle of egos to prove one person is right over the other.
First video I've seen that matches with me nearly 100%. Only thing is I welcome criticism. I'm constantly combing myself for imperfections, so I am always nearly begging people to point out my flaws. Everything else? Spot on!
These are exactly my pet peeves. I had a supervisor once, who tried to get me to lie so they could fire another worke. I wouldn't do it. I was disgusted by that person's behavior.
This has been the most like me video that I have found. I could honestly play this video for someone who doesn't get me and I think they'd be like, 😲 oh ok. You're still weird but I understand you a little more. And yet they would still be slightly offended because they'd know they fit into one of those things I find annoying or stressful. 😉
Hahah so true.. also they'd know that you know way more about them than you're willing to tell them about yourself, which can make people a little uncomfortable 😂 Ooops.. just INFJing 🙆
the thing not to forget is taking a step back and seeing how critical we are of others as they are critical of us. We aren't superior beings and justified in our actions to be hurt others regardless of what they have done to us, including being passive aggressive at the end of the day we are human as well.
As an INFJ, someone who thinks about my thoughts and actions many times before making a move, I really do have a hard time dealing with people who speak/ do whatever's on their mind regardless of how insensitive they can become. I despise arguments, and I'd rather keep my distance from those people
As an INFJ, nothing, NOTHING, triggers me more than not getting enough alone time. I just recently completed 2 months straight of 60 hour work weeks & I don’t understand how I didn’t have a nervous breakdown. The constant interacting with people is so damn draining, I can not stand it.
Late to the party…but want to add how tired I am am of ‘self-centered- it’s all about me’ - types of people. That was my mother, in a negative way, and made me feel invisible and unloved. They’re everywhere! And yes I realize it’s up to me to detach and set boundaries. Thankfully my husband is not like that.
I always tend to sleep or get irritated whenever my head is crowded with chaotic and unnecessary thoughts and I always thought there's something wrong with me until I found out I'm an INFJ-T and that brought my feelings back up.
Me and my girlfriend were professionally assigned Meyer-Briggs tests and we are both INFJ's lol everything in this video relatable, especially the reciprocation and the "gut feelings" I get about people
Oh my, ... this video pretty much sums me up perfectly! I am often criticised for hating small talk and people see it as 'rude', but I just can't stand it.i want to know what's really going on, who really is this person in front of me. The only difference between me and the video is that my life experiences have caused me to distrust words, because people are often untruthful. So if you pay me a verbal compliment or criticism, then I am expecting to see confirmation of what you said in your actions. Words without accompanying actions are hollow to me.
Take the test. Don’t go by a video. Hope you are not. Hard to watch people burn and know why and they never listen. Also hard to talk to anyone because no one wants to talk about important things. Always mindless babble about their troubles and experiences. You do not want to be an INFJ.
Yes, I can definitely relate. In a socially demanding and extroverted world, it's so important for us INFJs to set clear boundaries around our time and energy - yet it's much easier said than done. 🙄💙
INFJ-T here, about the trust breaking part... agree 100% (story below) Last year a group of friends decided to shut me down in conversations and telling me off for joking (harmless non-offensive jokes) and in general push me away for the better part of 4 months, I obviously thought that it must have been something I said to one/several/all of them. So cut to me spending several nights on end rewinding conversations in my head to try and pinpoint my apparent mistake, which ended up costing me my position at a new job due to being exhausted basically all the time. Come to find out later, a guy and a gal in that friend group started having feelings for one another, and they thought that I was interested in her as well... so instead of asking me if I had feelings for her, which I didn't, they decided the best course of action was to do what I decribed above. Even as an INFJ who definitely hates conflicts and confrontations, I do recognize that in certain circumstances, they are important... which is why I decided to talk to them about this whole situation and let them know how disappointed and hurt I felt... the response I got was "stop being so full of yourself and get over it" Needless to say, I cut ties with that group and haven't spoken to them since. Every now and again I get a message where they pretend like nothing happened, but simply don't reply... Bit of a rant, sorry 😅 Moral of the story: don't put up with people who are willing to push you to the side and not own up to it later.
I've always hated going to parties - even when I was at an age when I was supposed to like going to parties - because I would have to engage in small talk to get along. I can't think of anything that's more of a waste of time than small talk. Maybe video games, but those are at least fun. Small talk doesn't even have that benefit.
I agree with all the points. Right now at my job, my boss complains a lot that I look out too much for the customers and thet I should only look out for the business, I've tried explaning her that by looking out to make the customers happy it helps the business too because they are more likely to come back soon, but she just can't see that, and that's only one of her negative points, honestly I'm building confidence to quit because she is in a hard place so I can't get myself to do so now.
That is completely me 100%. Eg: My boyfriend and I live together and he gets home from work before me and the only time I have alone is when he falls asleep and on the weekends when he goes for an hour run. If I get invited to go with him places sometimes I just beg off so that I can have that time alone to do what I need to do. But all the rest is also me. Good to know I’m not alone.
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Take what people say with a grain of salt. As for #10 is a big one. Cruelty is a big NO-NO!
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No. I rely on these things. They are my radar.
Actually. I like because I can’t stand evil people
1. Deceit and manipulation
2. Small talk
3. People who take more
4. Consistent or long-term chaos
5. Arguing for the sake of arguing
6. Prolonged periods of no alone time
7. Being challenged to compromise their values
8. Harsh or unnecessary criticism
9. Ulterior motives and ingenuine kindness
10. Cruelty in any form
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Thank you!
Sounds like me
Thank you.
who likes those things though?
INFJ here & I hate pranks. Even if it’s considered “funny or harmless”, I hate it. I feel empathetic towards the person getting pranked. I don’t take part of it & can’t watch pranks shows.
Totally! Empathy towards the person being prank is a given - great point 🙌
Yip, I agree, pranks on people are just mean in my opinion.
I completely agree! Unless, it's pranks against theives, so when they steel a purse or backpack that was left unsupervised, and quickly run to a hiding spot, open the bag and POOF!!! Powder or shaving cream explodes in their face!! Lmao!! 😂😂😂
Totally agreed. I despise pranks! It’s mean and cruel, for the amusement of the prank-puller.
Same. Even there is emotional that it's funny for other. I'm easily get hurt.
It’s almost therapy reading the comments on all the INFJ videos I’ve been watching recently. Instead of feeling “alone in a group”, reading how many others are actually out there like me makes me feel like part of a group, while alone (if that makes sense)
It makes total sense, thanks for sharing 🙏
This is 100% correct. As an INFJ, it is a constant struggle just to co-exist among a civilization of mostly selfish people. We observe behaviors that fill us with sorrow and grief. For myself, I find that people make simple situations much more difficult than they are and it is very frustrating to me. INFJ's know when a person is being authentic and when they are holding back. Deception is inexcusable to an INFJ and will result in ties being severed.
Well said, my friend! You are exactly correct 💙 🙏
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Before I jump to judegement, I let my intuition tell me if it is deception or really something else
Oh my gosh, you are my people! I have found my people!!
so true
As an INFJ-A....Breaking my trust is a major thing! And I agree with everything said 1000%!!!!!!
Totally, I am the same type myself and trust & honesty comes first before anything else when it comes to a connection, thank you for your comment!! 💙
Once someone shows me I can’t trust them its done.
I am also an INFJ-A
@@iamzarra8905 I am an infj as well right now as I right I am watching alot of video on the topic of infj everything so far is accurate
I'm a Infj-T
100x100% true 😅
I used to think I was just being overly critical of other people. It turns out, as an INFJ, we could see through other's intentions. True enough, we only keep a few in our circle. Engaging with the rest seems pointless.
We should still be careful though with judging people's intentions entirely. For example, a person may be being manipulative which is unnerving, but behind that also may be good intentions in their own moral sense even though we may disagree and dislike it. I've found that trying to think of the good intentions also behind things or just excuses for others will help me to balance out my emotions and sensitivity and feel better, more positive, less judgemental, more loving. This I try to do for my relationship with God first and foremost and it has also been helping all other relationships. At the same time, as an INFJ I try to use those heightened senses of ours to try to hone in on what's really going on so that I can help others and myself as much as possible
This is very accurate, for some reason when someone is being ingenuine with me I think to myself "OK, what do you want from me? Just skip past the chitter chatter and get straight to it." I also try to avoid conflict because I can sense vibes from people when it feels tense. 😳
Ya I tend to lose myself after the hello, good to see you
Small talks omg so painful
Truth, honesty, accountability.
i can't thank you enough for ranking "deceit & manipulation" at #1.
double standards are always the deal breakers.
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Well said! Thanks for watching 🙌
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This is the most accurate description of everything I truly hate! Finding out my personality type has really helped me understand myself and why I have so much trouble connecting. I just can't stand the superficial conversations people seem to be content with in their lives. It is so boring!
Thank you for your comment! Yes, I totally agree lol. When you discover you're an INFJ, a lot of things start making sense 😅💙
Yes! A total game changer for me. Thank you so much for these videos!👍
Totally relate to what you are saying-; haven't heard my inner world described so accurately... would seem I am a classic infj. Good to know.
The small talk thing is the only one I disagree with. I don’t hate small talk. It just didn’t make sense to me for a long time. I think it was because I was taking too long to try to compose my replies in my head, because subconsciously I knew that I had a hard time making myself understood. But other people would just kind of word vomit their way through a conversation and they were fine with whatever nonsense came out. So I’ve had to practice a ton to be better at small talk, and to not overthink my replies to questions that are very low stakes and ultimately unimportant.
Boring..truth!! I finally blurted to a friend, “do I really have to listen to this!”
Not arguing for the sake of arguing is HUGE for me. Confrontation is our last resort so it’s hard for us to understand when it’s someone else’s first solution.
An INFJ here all these are 100 percent accurate with me. #1, deceit & manipulation is the number one deal breaker for me. When someone lies or deceives me, or tries to manipulate me I'm DONE with them I slam the door closed! Any trust or respect I may have had for such person is GONE, dead and there is no coming back.
I can be a great friend to have, but when I've been crossed, it's over I'm done.
I'm a Heyoka INFJ. Boundaries an alone time are a must. I don't do the news in anyway. Lies, manipulation, and non genuine behavior or comments throw up all kinds of flags for me. Falling in love with someone who was a narcissist, definitely drove me to extreme levels of sickness. All of this resonates so deeply with me.
Amazing.. thank you for sharing your insights as an INFJ.
Agreed, I'm just now getting into all this personality type stuff and discovering there are other people who think like I do. Who knew...
I just recently learned that I have the Heyoka traits, I have just started learning about my true abilities, and how to use them. I am horribly co-dependant on a guy that I've given almost 5 years of my "fresh start", after separating from a 24 year alcohol induced, abusive marriage. I'm starting to think he is a well practiced Covert Narsisist, that has never been found out. A battle is brewing, he is trying to discard me at the moment, but I am every emotion times 1,000 and not going to let him dictate my future, going homeless again, without a fight. Every person that knows him, my (entire hometown) will know what he is and what he's done! I'm a bit frightened though, he has already destroyed my reputation, self confidence, and pride. He pre conditioned every person he talked to, to dislike, even hate me. So I'm gonna need proof and prayers to successfully"out" this bully that I stupidly still love. 😥
People who say "can I just stop you there?" are difficult for me to work with. It's obvious that they don't listen 🙄. I usually say "no, you can listen and then I will listen to you, it's called a conversation ".
Oh that's the worst 🙄
Right? Ugh! It’s the worst or “can I interject?” So annoying!
As an INFJ Prolonged periods of no alone time is something that really irritates me 😅
I hadn't realized it until now, sometimes I just felt angry out of nowhere and overwhelmed
Yup classic introverted intuitive trait. You need time to process information and recharge!
Truth!!! I become edgy and get anxious if i cannot get my down time.
😣 Recently I felt burned out! No alone time, since I'm a mom, and stress building up over time. Finally had 4 hours to myself and now I feel a bit better. ☺
@@StepIntoGodsLight Taking care of children is always stressful, and as a mother, it's like a full-time job, so it's great that you've had time to relax [●´︶｀●]
@@shiorishiro2312 ;-; and I wish there was a second season of no game no life as a Infj-T I'm sad all I watch is born in a different world animes
Liars, cheats, dishonesty, disrespect, rudeness, selfishness, egotistic, shall I continue? lol
Hahah sounds about right! 😂
And loud, noisy door slammers, obnoxious car hooters with the windows open and the bass booming from 3 streets away, people that shout across at midnight to their door neighbours, dogs barking at the moon and foxes mating calls, oh the joys of being an INFJ'S or a grumpy old so and so 😃😂
Apart from that we are very tolerant pleasant polite caring people 😃😅❤
Basically the today's society implicit rules 😅 I fell you!
That’s so enough!!! 😂 summing up cruelty in all forms irks INFJ
Pet peeves: hypocrites, no self awareness, people driving under the speed limit in the fast lane, and closed minded people.
Lol yup, pretty much sums it up 😂
Ditto with this right here.
On point
Well i guess i mean im an infj and while yes these things do anoy me. I do these actions to often myslef that i feel guilty saying they anoy me. macking me the real hypocrite, wich is funny cause that was at the top of your list
Oh my gosh I hate hypocrites
I LOVE MAKING PEOPLE HAPPY, I ALWAYS GET TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF ALL OF THE TIME. I REMIND MYSELF, I WILL GET MY TIME TO SHINE ON MY OWN DIME
Spot on. Also, as an INFJ, I find the loud background music extremely annoying. Couldn't wait for the video to end. Attack on my nerves. If you must put it, lower the volume. I personally, could easily listen to the video without the background music.
We've changed that for more recent videos - I hope you can enjoy a little better 🙌
I find loud noise of any kind intrusive, overwhelming, and it distracts me from functioning efficiently; I call it noise pollution, and escape the city, immediately after work.
Particularly from #5 forward, dead on. Fake kindness makes me nauseous, and having to compromise my values ... well, I can't hardly do it. Really good stuff, want to send it to my family, my boss, and co-workers .... maybe I won't do that ...
As an INFJ, i totally agree 100% with this, and thru experiences as i am getting older, i am really good to set boundaries, especially when someone challenge me to comprimise my values, trust me, i will win the battle (this is the time when conflict can't be avoided).
I totally agree and certainly share the importance of boundaries in my experience as well. If it pertains to values ... There is never a compromise.
I absolutely hate these 10 things as an INFJ. It was quite the aha moment when I finally learned that I was an INFJ/empath and hsp (this partly explained my feelings of detachment and feeling out of place). I also struggle with the group mentality other types display (gossip) and their apparent inability to be independent thinkers.
As much as I agree that deceit and manipulation are things we despise I also find I usually anticipate it before it happens so it loses any shock value...depending on the person involved I have strategies to protect myself... however if you are in a relationship this becomes much tougher to deal with as you often know you will yield to avoid any conflict or perhaps more accurately you yield for the sake of peace
the small talk is so accurate it kills me. I dive in with my deep questions and interests in people and people either get scared off cuz of that or they love it.
edit: and the ingenuine kindness one so much. I was being talked to by someone trying to tell me something and they so artificially went 'teehee' it boiled my blood so much. Ingenuine kindness and artificial positive expression of emotion is exactly why jobs that involve advertising and general manipulation of people for your own benefit would kill me.
I recently discovered I am a INFJ-A/INFJ-T and I'm now searching for a better understanding of myself, I'm 54 years old and most of my life I just thought I was different from everyone else. Now I know why, because I am different.
Amazing - it can be an enlightening experience for sure. We hope our other INFJ videos find you well in your self-learning journey! 🙏
Infj's like ambivert personality type and there's no in between. Hahaha we always tend to weigh things before we come to a conclusion.
You're so right! 😅
Yes weighing things. Our intuition is there but gathering evidences and observing unnoticeably to prove that we are so right!!!! Then we proceed to the conclusion.
I would actually like to talk to someone who consistently places in the INFJ personality type, just to see in person someone who is almost exactly like me, and if we have had similar life experiences.
Yo en los tests de mbti doy infj pero no me fio mucho de los testes, he hecho muchos y alguna vez he dado infp. Creo que es guay para hacerte una idea para conocerte a tí mismo y entender que hay genta que no funciona de la midma manera que tu. Personalmente hay cosas de los videos que hablan de infj que dan en la diana, por ejemplo mi frustracion ante las criticas, el tipico infj door slam, mi miedo al fracaso y a los conflictos, sobre todo cuando siento Que hay un conflicto latente que va a explotar en cualquier momento. Pero bueno, tengo la sensacion que estos testes pueden conducir a que nos forcemos para encajar en la personalidad que hemos dado. Además, me da la sensacion que el mbti y todo el contexto de youtube o paginas que se le asocian encaja con una manera anglosajona de ver las cosas.
same here!
Same. I'm still a teen so i'd love to meet some adult infjs and listen to their advices :)
@@orciawazhere That would be awesome intel!
@@orciawazhere 45 yr old INFJ. Been writing a lot of poetry lately of life lessons plus some past personal struggles. If interested in reading, link is on my YT under the about tab
I have never been officially designated as an INFJ, but every video description I’ve seen I related to 90% or more of the traits.
The annoyances described here are spot on.
These were truly on point. Especially the challenges to compromise on values and morals, ulterior motives and ingenium kindness, and cruelty in any form. In 2021, I think there is even more emphasis on these particular hates because of how the world is and how single sided people are becoming, instead of openly discussing each perspective in an honest manner. Everything has more then one perspective, but big topics of today only seem to have one side be the focus creating a lot of emotional chaos in our societies.
"Where are you from? What do you do for a living? How's work been?"
Go away.
😂
"stuck in a limbo of knowing the right action" T_T
Yup.. a clear INFJ sign 😅
@@PSYCH-O any tips for how to better my intuition\my trust in it?
@@lavapopsicle203 here are some quotes that help me “ That thing that you call intuition? It is your soul. You can trust it. “
I’m not sure who said it.
This one is by Eckhart Tolle.
“Rather than being your thoughts and emotions, be the awareness behind them.”
You should always trust what your feeling. I know easier said than done. However if it’s a feeling that’s nagging you, you can’t break away from it for longest than a few minutes at most a few hours. That is your gut, your instinct, your soul, in essence the essence of yourself. Letting you know what’s up.
I hope this helps even a little:) take care
What INFJ need to be happy. Please watch and comment if you are able to relate.
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Yh it went on for 16 years with me. Then i got super duper tired. No more stress or mirroring. Im free 13mths now enforcing no contact like a boss...
I am INFJ-A and this is so completely me!!
Until I learnt about all of this, people had trouble understanding me and I had trouble understanding myself sometimes.
It's good to know why these things get triggered in me and it helps my friends, family, and people around me to understand where I am coming from.
I so need the alone time right now!!! 😁
Thanks for the video!!
As an INFJ, I agree with everything on this video. Especially the manipulation part, I can't stand to see others being manipulated, and I hate being manipulated myself.
Yes! Classic empath trait, kindness all around 🖖
Absolutely relate seriously with all of this. So difficult to tone my reactions to it all down. Very stressful.
Yes, I'm INFJ. Yes, I relate to all of these things. Especially, I hate cruelty in any form. Especially too, in my own life where my sense of external empathy will make me put in the effort with needy people, not because I want to be liked by them but because I care. Then sometimes the needy person will take advantage of this to the point where I feel used and disrespected and overwhelmed. Sometimes too, the needy person - I can always tell - will see me as a bit of a mug or a sap and won't be aware that I can read this in them. It's that contradiction of caring Fe and insightful Ni. Sometimes too, being lumbered with people who take far more than they give can get so disproportionate, that I simply cut off contact abruptly and altogether - which again, I know is a very INFJ trait. James Eccles
In the last few days I've put in some research into INFJs after finding out this is me 100 percent having felt like I was from a different place entirely for a long time, this has given me a lot of peace and answered a few questions too. if only I could get my friends/family attention long enough to show them what an INFJ is and that I'm not boring/moody sometimes and on my own for no reason.
I think my biggest pet-peeve would be the ignorant who refuse to listen and accept new information just because it contradicts with the information they already have. Since I love learning new things if not on daily basis, this type of people really boils my blood.
Spot on! 🙌
It's because "WE" ACTUALLY LISTEN!!!!
YES - you're so right!! 💙🙏
I use Smalltalk in two ways, first is like a starter course to the main meal that being the deeper conversation that the Smalltalk can lead into. The other way is to keep people I do t yet trust out. I can say a load of nothing, and use it as a wall.
Those are some great points. Saying a load of nothing for the means of keeping actually important info to yourself - spot on!
This guy is like totally spot on with everything.
I can't believe how I am completely every one of these, even how these comments are saying what I don't even know how to say. This video is amazing!
Wow, these are spot on! This video has helped me see myself much clearer as I often can’t find the right words to describe myself. Thank you for making this video!
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True! Same
I'm mind-blown by this video. I recently took a personality test and it said I am an INFJ-T, I still had my doubts...not anymore. whatever said in the video 100% true to the core.
Haha yup.. when you know, you know! Thanks for watching 🙏
nice to hear a human voice , especially my own accent .
spot on , puts a lump in my throat when someone i've never met describes me down to "T"
Thanks for the feedback, my friend! I know, when you're introduced to your personality type, you feel as if you're being read like an open book! 💙🙌
@@PSYCH-O
I'm 49 and only just found about MBTI !
my life makes sense all of a sudden
thankyou
"Criticism can bring them down, leaving them ruminating for days." I smirked @ days, can be more like years depending on the boundary violation.
LOVE BOUNDARIES. I never USED to understand that they are not mean in any way. We NEED what WE need. WE give IT so IT better be RETURNED.
I'm teaching my children boundaries and that Mommy needs alone time sometimes so that I don't go bonkers lol.
It helps!
Ugh, the fact that this overlaps with my horoscope- Scorpio- has me over here like "damn...I can't escape it, this is who I am" hahaha
Scorpio, INFJ, High Empath.. The struggle is so real. 🖤
My parents, especially my birth mother, lied and manipulated me most of my life. UGH I hate it and am still dealing with it as an adult.
I am also so sick of being told I am "too sensitive"
Yes and it has special problems! Not always easy to navigate. 🙃
I despise manipulation. To an extent, can't help but feel as this is a manipulation in a level I have yet to comprehend.
10 for 10! Especially the last one. That is incredibly accurate.
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I tell my husband what I really like about him is how authentic he is. He does not really get that., but he's always his real self and it's very relaxing to be around him.
My ex was an INFJ.. This is exactly 100% what she hated, like unbelievably correct...
Pretty spot on.
Especially the first one.
Awesome! 🙏
INFJ-T here and I check all of these boxes 100%. I just always thought that these things were (or should be) hated by all humans, I didn't think they were personality related. I'll find things other personality types hate too and see if we have many of them in common with other personality types.
I don't get distressed, I don't get uncomfortable, I don't get overwhelmed. What I get is irritable and pissed. And then distance.
I don’t speak to 80% of my family for these reasons and I haven’t for years I can’t believe how spot on this is
We're sorry to hear that but happy you at least know why 😅
It gives us Joy to give to Others ..we bend backwards for almost Anyone that needs us.. We know we can't fix Every Problem in the World..but we won't give up trying to help another! It's our mission..and No One Else Can help as best as we can!💯💥
As a textbook INFJ, I agree with all of your list. Loving your videos. Great job!😘🖤
We're so glad you like them! Thank you!
this is absolutely true . i’m an INFJ / HSP . i hate any form of cruelty towards animals even insects or towards another human. i hate bullies and will stand up for anyone who gets bullied. i don’t like harsh , unnecessary and mean criticism but constructive ones that helps me to become a better person i will listen, and reflect.people who lie, cheat, manipulate for their own personal greed and gains really turns me off! I used to know someone who does that sort of shallow stuffs and whenever that person’s name appear on my text messages notification or in coming calls I began to have this nauseating feeling and even threw up once. it was so bad that i had to door slam that person out of my life immediately. i never had that nauseous feeling when i encounter these kind-of toxic people only this one person i’m not sure why, i literally just threw up. I hope I’ll never cross path with such people in my life ever but if i should , hope i will able to see and acknowledge those red flags and quickly cut them off . the problem with me, i give people too many chances and I’ m always telling myself. to stop over thinking over analysing someone or situation because it’s all in my head and people often tells me i’m overly sensitive but time and time again my intuition proves me right and i’m always ended up telling people this,”see! I told you so!” people do feel intimidated by us especially those dishonest, manipulative and mean people . i will immediately project my thoughts and energy vibe of dislike and letting them know that i know what they are.. and often these people do get uneasy feelings about them being expose’ and will go tell others how judgemental and unaccepting i can be!! been misunderstood countless of times but when the truth is finally out then there i go again!! see!! i told u all so!! then the only response i get is silence!! it’s ok.. because i don’t expect anyone that misunderstood me to understand me . i’m just glad that when the toxic journey ended everyone sees the truth and that’s all that matters.
We also hate being ignored because we also tend to try to understand why ignoring and we end up overthinking it
As an infj i dare say it’s true that we feel happy when we make others happy but when they want to use this feature of us, we get so disappointed and there is a high chance for us to disappear from their lives.
Arguing for the sake of arguing. That's why I hate debating. I DESPISE debating. Debating is nothing more than a battle of egos to prove one person is right over the other.
First video I've seen that matches with me nearly 100%. Only thing is I welcome criticism. I'm constantly combing myself for imperfections, so I am always nearly begging people to point out my flaws. Everything else? Spot on!
Thats awesome - thank you for watching!!
We’re called rude for setting/ sticking to boundaries
These are exactly my pet peeves. I had a supervisor once, who tried to get me to lie so they could fire another worke. I wouldn't do it. I was disgusted by that person's behavior.
All of these are straight facts, I'm definitely an INFJ
This explains how I operate quite accurately. Great video 🤙
Nailed it. Door slammed a long-term relationship who broke me with 4 of these 10 signs of deep disrespect. 😢
MY BODY DOES TOO. I FEEL THE PAIN OTHERS FEEL WHEN THEY DESCRIBE IT TO ME.
Never compromise! Not even in the face of Armageddon!
Lol absolutely 😂
This has been the most like me video that I have found. I could honestly play this video for someone who doesn't get me and I think they'd be like, 😲 oh ok. You're still weird but I understand you a little more. And yet they would still be slightly offended because they'd know they fit into one of those things I find annoying or stressful. 😉
Hahah so true.. also they'd know that you know way more about them than you're willing to tell them about yourself, which can make people a little uncomfortable 😂 Ooops.. just INFJing 🙆
Run for your life when you think about or say 'soul sucking' or 'vampire about someone you are interacting with or worse in a relationship with.
Yes! Set boundaries and don't let them down for anyone until you've fully assessed - some call it trust issues, we call it intuition! 👌💙
the thing not to forget is taking a step back and seeing how critical we are of others as they are critical of us. We aren't superior beings and justified in our actions to be hurt others regardless of what they have done to us, including being passive aggressive at the end of the day we are human as well.
💯 correct! I’m an INFJ and can completely resonate with all ten. Thank you for the info, it’s nice to know I’m not alone in feeling that way 😎👍🏻👏
Injustice and loud, shallow, selfish people.
Hypocrisy.
Amen! 🙏
I have a really hard time tolerating greedy people.
As an INFJ, someone who thinks about my thoughts and actions many times before making a move, I really do have a hard time dealing with people who speak/ do whatever's on their mind regardless of how insensitive they can become. I despise arguments, and I'd rather keep my distance from those people
As an INFJ, nothing, NOTHING, triggers me more than not getting enough alone time. I just recently completed 2 months straight of 60 hour work weeks & I don’t understand how I didn’t have a nervous breakdown. The constant interacting with people is so damn draining, I can not stand it.
its hard to believe how accurate this is
Lol, thank you!
When trust is broken, there's no second chance. That person is done. Everything said here in this video is true about INFJ.
Blood boils when I see or hear or read abuse...
Late to the party…but want to add how tired I am am of ‘self-centered- it’s all about me’ - types of people. That was my mother, in a negative way, and made me feel invisible and unloved. They’re everywhere! And yes I realize it’s up to me to detach and set boundaries. Thankfully my husband is not like that.
I always tend to sleep or get irritated whenever my head is crowded with chaotic and unnecessary thoughts and I always thought there's something wrong with me until I found out I'm an INFJ-T and that brought my feelings back up.
Thank you
Me and my girlfriend were professionally assigned Meyer-Briggs tests and we are both INFJ's lol everything in this video relatable, especially the reciprocation and the "gut feelings" I get about people
Wow, that's super interesting. It must be a deep connection with all of that empathy and deeply-seated thoughts wrapped into a partnership 😊
Oh my, ... this video pretty much sums me up perfectly! I am often criticised for hating small talk and people see it as 'rude', but I just can't stand it.i want to know what's really going on, who really is this person in front of me.
The only difference between me and the video is that my life experiences have caused me to distrust words, because people are often untruthful. So if you pay me a verbal compliment or criticism, then I am expecting to see confirmation of what you said in your actions. Words without accompanying actions are hollow to me.
I'm a widower who lost his best friend. Now I can't imagine sharing my life with someone!
Sounds like I found my type.
Awesome!! Welcome aboard, my fellow INFJ! 💙🖖
careful...no none wants to be an INFJ
....it just is given to us by God, and we gotta make the best of it
@@murrismiller2312 yes, it is a nightmare sometimes
Take the test. Don’t go by a video. Hope you are not. Hard to watch people burn and know why and they never listen. Also hard to talk to anyone because no one wants to talk about important things. Always mindless babble about their troubles and experiences. You do not want to be an INFJ.
@@559925 Agree!
I have barely any alone time as an injf an d I've started hating what I have become
Yes, I can definitely relate. In a socially demanding and extroverted world, it's so important for us INFJs to set clear boundaries around our time and energy - yet it's much easier said than done. 🙄💙
You are spot on!! Very good! I am a seasoned infj-a, and I shook my head in agreement this whole video!! 👍
Amazing - thank you for your feedback, it means so much! 💙😊
Dang…ya got me! That was SPOT ON!…to the point of me wondering who crawled up into my head? 😱🤪. Holy Sheet!
I actually really do! Neat! Love learning more about my personality, so that I can better understand myself!
We're so glad!
INFJ-T here, about the trust breaking part... agree 100% (story below)
Last year a group of friends decided to shut me down in conversations and telling me off for joking (harmless non-offensive jokes) and in general push me away for the better part of 4 months, I obviously thought that it must have been something I said to one/several/all of them. So cut to me spending several nights on end rewinding conversations in my head to try and pinpoint my apparent mistake, which ended up costing me my position at a new job due to being exhausted basically all the time.
Come to find out later, a guy and a gal in that friend group started having feelings for one another, and they thought that I was interested in her as well... so instead of asking me if I had feelings for her, which I didn't, they decided the best course of action was to do what I decribed above.
Even as an INFJ who definitely hates conflicts and confrontations, I do recognize that in certain circumstances, they are important... which is why I decided to talk to them about this whole situation and let them know how disappointed and hurt I felt... the response I got was "stop being so full of yourself and get over it"
Needless to say, I cut ties with that group and haven't spoken to them since. Every now and again I get a message where they pretend like nothing happened, but simply don't reply...
Bit of a rant, sorry 😅
Moral of the story: don't put up with people who are willing to push you to the side and not own up to it later.
Excellent and comforting,.. thank you...
Thanks for listening 🙌
I've always hated going to parties - even when I was at an age when I was supposed to like going to parties - because I would have to engage in small talk to get along. I can't think of anything that's more of a waste of time than small talk. Maybe video games, but those are at least fun. Small talk doesn't even have that benefit.
I agree with all the points. Right now at my job, my boss complains a lot that I look out too much for the customers and thet I should only look out for the business, I've tried explaning her that by looking out to make the customers happy it helps the business too because they are more likely to come back soon, but she just can't see that, and that's only one of her negative points, honestly I'm building confidence to quit because she is in a hard place so I can't get myself to do so now.
Spot on!
Cheers! 🙌
My mother also loves giving unnecessary criticism. Destructive criticism. Happens far too often.
That is completely me 100%. Eg: My boyfriend and I live together and he gets home from work before me and the only time I have alone is when he falls asleep and on the weekends when he goes for an hour run. If I get invited to go with him places sometimes I just beg off so that I can have that time alone to do what I need to do. But all the rest is also me. Good to know I’m not alone.