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As an INFJ myself, firstly thank you. THANK YOU SO MUCH for telling what all we infjs go through alone in this video. We ourselves struggle to tell all these things out and to make our loved ones understand what we do and why we do certain things the way we do. Especially with our disappearing times and being sensitive to light or loud noises at times. And to answer your question, yes i have door slammed a lot of people after been used to being abandoned since my childhood. I will give these people certain deadlines and chances and when they fail to value me and my time, they're permanently out of my life and then i cut out every way possible of communications on all social media platforms. In real life i plainly ignore them and avoid them to be peaceful and focus entirely on minding my own business henceforth.
I’m 31 years old and just slammed the door for the 4th time in my life. I feel so relieved, as I always do after each door slam, because an INFJ doesn’t slam the door for simple things. We do it because we have reached a point where the other person has absolutely DRAINED us emotionally. You shouldn’t be having severe anxiety attacks and experience physical pain because of another person, particularly not because of someone you call your closest friend. We should do it (doorslam) sooner - or rather, we should have said “no” more often. Then perhaps a relationship/friendship could’ve been saved in time.
Hmmmm, as an INFJ I find that I am often mistaken as an extrovert. That means when I am out in public being engaged by people, my "Fe" comes across as warm and charming. Every MBTI profilers know INFJs are the most extroverted (social-able) of the introverts. I disagree that we are complicated to get to know, I would say we are elegant and very user-friendly... complicated means we are high maintenance, which goes against the fact that INFJs value harmony above anything else...that means INFJs are "easy going" to be around with. Now if you meant complex...yes, I am complex, you can know me for ten years in my inner circle, but only gotten thru just a few layers of my depth. My favorite metaphor is...you just installed a brand new, latest Windows or MAC OS on your computer, turned it on...on the surface - the new window interface is sleek, artsy, snappy quick, user-friendly, multi-fauceted, has a "wow" neato factor...what you don't see is the hundreds of thousands lines of machine language coding underneath that window's interface that makes it elegant on the surface...that's an INFJ. The only time I go cold-hearted is when dealing with arrogant people, narcissists that only deal in win/lose deals with everyone they target as their victims. As someone who values harmony, I look for and do win/win deals with people, so any predator that targets me will see my INFJ shadow, an untamed ESTP demon (think "The Hulk") with all the resources of my INFJ's human psychology going Machiavellian on them (Ti with no Fe). As the counselor type, INFJs have the ability to observe and not absorb (like a doctor does with a patient)...so the HSP also doesn't resonate with me either...can you imagine seeing a counselor in their office that's HSP, the trust level would drop immediately, right? That "doctor" mode may come across as being cold when someone is losing their head, that mode allows us to step back and be an objective counselor for them...in other words I am not going to be reactive when someone is being over-reactive...I am going to remain cool and level-headed...like a counselor. Most narcissists will get the hint that I will be difficult victim for them (INFJs hate bullies - INFJs value our independence - anyone trying to makes us into a slave for them will get a rebellious INFJ) and they move on to an easier target, it's the dark triad types that see me as a challenge will eventual trigger my INFJ shadow. I agree with Funnshine Sunshine, the misconception that INFJs are emotional hypersensitive is wrong when INFJs own the highest EQ out of all the other MBTI types (High EQ is a prerequisite for being a "natural" counselor-type)...it's our inferior Se is where it can become sensitive and overwhelming because it's our inferior function, but since I am Ni - dom, I can easily turn off my Se and go inside my own head to tune out external stimuli, where it's more peaceful and harmonious (It's a garden inside my own head), so over-stimulation is always a temporary experience.
I'm an INFJ and everything you've said resonates with me 110%!!!!! I would say I'm a healthy INFJ but oh my goodness you nailed it when you mentioned arrogant self serving types... I have absolutely no time for them and my shadow side comes out when they rub me up the wrong way!!! Excellent articulation on our "Type"... thank you!
What a perfect timing..woke up by a coworker today at 7am,( worked from 4pm till 12am..slept at 3:30am, just as I was thingking I could finally rest) telling me the van is waiting and I have work ,will be leaving in 5minutes.No shower no breakfast no nothing..later to find out most of the others said NO to go work( its my f%^&*ng day off) . They asked for it. No more Mr.nice guy from now on.
Once we realize that setting boundaries is essential to peace of mind, then things go better. If someone doesn't like it when we set boundaries, then we can be cold about it. It is important for us to be our natural INFJ selves. We enjoy helping people and making a difference in the world for the better, but not at the cost of our sanity. Yeah, once we get a few of the basic rules down, then we can find our way in the world in a more satisfactory way. If that seems selfish or cold to people who don't have boundaries, then so be it. It is even possible to confront people about our personal preferences in a gentle way when we are respectful to our own well-being and happiness. Even when people try to be manipulative or con us into carrying their water for them, we don't have to get upset about it if we can be clear about our own personal rights first. Be Ok about saying no.
I did'nt have the time to even process what was going on. That feeling when you got cornered in a half awake half asleep moment..like here's your bag, get dressed drivers waiting. Next time, I will lock the doors on my day off. I will not allow people to barge in my room just like that. They just lost my respect today. Nobody in any workplace should do that. Let alone a supervisor will wake you up , no emails sent , nothing prior to the actual time of duty . This is actually a nightmare after you wake up is just mind blowing. NEVER AGAIN.
We do take on others feelings painful ones aswell, I’ve ended up in hospital twice taking in other’s energies, that’s when I started waking up nd paying attention 💛✨🙏🏼
I have already used the epic Door Slammed on someone so close to me way back high school. During those times I didn't know I was an INFJ but since that person hurts me so much emotionally and mentally so I cut her off. Whenever we met on the street or on the mall it's as if she never existed at all in my life.
@@brainwatched you’re welcome My fiancée is also an INFJ and I share them with her. We have the best relationship and these videos help us not only understand ourselves individually but each other
As INFJ, we think about things in a deep way, we have strong feeling and opinion even if we don’t always show them to everyone. When we run into a rude person, we could have a very logical analysis about the situation, or even overthinking, and judge such kind of behavior in a deep level. We treat everyone in a respectful way and do our best to avoid influencing others by our own problems, so when we do not receive the same level of respect, we consider to door slam.
one time new fabric had fabric piece on back side of it - I was trying to take it out but when got frustrated just teared it apart while other person in room was wondering what happen.*nothing just this thing touching my body
The last time i took the MBTI test on Oct 2022, i've been trying the test mote than 20 times by differwnt ways. I thought i will find a new personality but i found my self still an INFJs person since 2019 when i knew the test. 😂😎
Interesting right? I’m an INFJ and my son is high functioning autistic. We both express a high sensitivity to loud noises and overly stimulating environments. I didn’t use to be but as I evolve, I want peace. Wonder if there is a connection or just a common ground?
@@robinmitchell7457 Both my daughters are gifted Autistics with ADHD. I was just diagnosed myself, this year, at age 50! I was not able to be my authentic self and tested as an ENFP. My entire identity was based on outside acceptance which meant being an excellent masker. It's only in the last 10 years that I've healed enough to recognize my true nature and then embrace it. I used to fear being alone. Now, I crave my alone time. Crazy, this journey, isn't it?
Hi, I don’t want to come off as rude and maybe it’s just the ADHD in me, but it was very hard to process the information in this video because of the overwhelming footage and constant transitions. I could hear you speak, but I just couldn’t understand what you were saying. It might be better for the video if the footage doesn’t overpower the information you have.
This is read by a machine. That's why it's an unnatural pace of speaking. I hear what you're saying. I just listen and avoid watching atn the same time..:) -ENFP
Ill bet ppl think im cold hearted for laughing at whomen with high body counts when another chad uses them n ghosts them like how they use n ghost normal guys 😄😄😄
I bet ppl think im cold hearted when i dont care if bad ppl get hurt or even k1ll3d, would i laugh if a Salty Jolly Wolf got hit by a car? Yes😄😄😄😄 Sit in the street like a traffic cone n get run over like an idiot lol #NoShame
INFJ, which is an acronym for Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, and Judging, is one of the 16 personality types on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator or MBTI.
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Many door slams, re-opened one door closed 30 years ago. It ruined my life. Never a again. It’s a healthy response to betrayal.
It's weird cause I thought I was sensitive emotionally. Nah it's bright lights, loud noises suddenly, and pain... Omg pain
Im the same
I'm both lol
People become hostile as soon as they feel they cannot take advantage anymore.
Silence is the best revenge.
As an INFJ myself, firstly thank you. THANK YOU SO MUCH for telling what all we infjs go through alone in this video. We ourselves struggle to tell all these things out and to make our loved ones understand what we do and why we do certain things the way we do. Especially with our disappearing times and being sensitive to light or loud noises at times. And to answer your question, yes i have door slammed a lot of people after been used to being abandoned since my childhood. I will give these people certain deadlines and chances and when they fail to value me and my time, they're permanently out of my life and then i cut out every way possible of communications on all social media platforms. In real life i plainly ignore them and avoid them to be peaceful and focus entirely on minding my own business henceforth.
I’m 31 years old and just slammed the door for the 4th time in my life. I feel so relieved, as I always do after each door slam, because an INFJ doesn’t slam the door for simple things. We do it because we have reached a point where the other person has absolutely DRAINED us emotionally. You shouldn’t be having severe anxiety attacks and experience physical pain because of another person, particularly not because of someone you call your closest friend. We should do it (doorslam) sooner - or rather, we should have said “no” more often. Then perhaps a relationship/friendship could’ve been saved in time.
That's 100÷ on point
Hmmmm, as an INFJ I find that I am often mistaken as an extrovert. That means when I am out in public being engaged by people, my "Fe" comes across as warm and charming. Every MBTI profilers know INFJs are the most extroverted (social-able) of the introverts.
I disagree that we are complicated to get to know, I would say we are elegant and very user-friendly... complicated means we are high maintenance, which goes against the fact that INFJs value harmony above anything else...that means INFJs are "easy going" to be around with. Now if you meant complex...yes, I am complex, you can know me for ten years in my inner circle, but only gotten thru just a few layers of my depth. My favorite metaphor is...you just installed a brand new, latest Windows or MAC OS on your computer, turned it on...on the surface - the new window interface is sleek, artsy, snappy quick, user-friendly, multi-fauceted, has a "wow" neato factor...what you don't see is the hundreds of thousands lines of machine language coding underneath that window's interface that makes it elegant on the surface...that's an INFJ.
The only time I go cold-hearted is when dealing with arrogant people, narcissists that only deal in win/lose deals with everyone they target as their victims. As someone who values harmony, I look for and do win/win deals with people, so any predator that targets me will see my INFJ shadow, an untamed ESTP demon (think "The Hulk") with all the resources of my INFJ's human psychology going Machiavellian on them (Ti with no Fe). As the counselor type, INFJs have the ability to observe and not absorb (like a doctor does with a patient)...so the HSP also doesn't resonate with me either...can you imagine seeing a counselor in their office that's HSP, the trust level would drop immediately, right? That "doctor" mode may come across as being cold when someone is losing their head, that mode allows us to step back and be an objective counselor for them...in other words I am not going to be reactive when someone is being over-reactive...I am going to remain cool and level-headed...like a counselor.
Most narcissists will get the hint that I will be difficult victim for them (INFJs hate bullies - INFJs value our independence - anyone trying to makes us into a slave for them will get a rebellious INFJ) and they move on to an easier target, it's the dark triad types that see me as a challenge will eventual trigger my INFJ shadow.
I agree with Funnshine Sunshine, the misconception that INFJs are emotional hypersensitive is wrong when INFJs own the highest EQ out of all the other MBTI types (High EQ is a prerequisite for being a "natural" counselor-type)...it's our inferior Se is where it can become sensitive and overwhelming because it's our inferior function, but since I am Ni - dom, I can easily turn off my Se and go inside my own head to tune out external stimuli, where it's more peaceful and harmonious (It's a garden inside my own head), so over-stimulation is always a temporary experience.
Phillip- very well written and analyzed! From a female INFJ
❤️ That was a beautiful explanation!
Honestly, it’s like coming home to people you never met before. I love this new experience! Thank you.
I'm an INFJ and everything you've said resonates with me 110%!!!!! I would say I'm a healthy INFJ but oh my goodness you nailed it when you mentioned arrogant self serving types... I have absolutely no time for them and my shadow side comes out when they rub me up the wrong way!!! Excellent articulation on our "Type"... thank you!
Yes i agree with the demon part, If I want I can become war itself.
-Italian INFJ
Very well said, your thoughts are so well written.
5:17 door slam? i prefer burning bridges and admire the fire.
😂 good one
People are jealous.
We become cold after losing too many.
INFJ is so rare it would be unlikely i would meet one in real life. I haven't met any infj in person. none even come close.
What a perfect timing..woke up by a coworker today at 7am,( worked from 4pm till 12am..slept at 3:30am, just as I was thingking I could finally rest)
telling me the van is waiting and I have work ,will be leaving in 5minutes.No shower no breakfast no nothing..later to find out most of the others said NO to go work( its my f%^&*ng day off) .
They asked for it.
No more Mr.nice guy from now on.
Once we realize that setting boundaries is essential to peace of mind, then things go better. If someone doesn't like it when we set boundaries, then we can be cold about it. It is important for us to be our natural INFJ selves. We enjoy helping people and making a difference in the world for the better, but not at the cost of our sanity. Yeah, once we get a few of the basic rules down, then we can find our way in the world in a more satisfactory way.
If that seems selfish or cold to people who don't have boundaries, then so be it. It is even possible to confront people about our personal preferences in a gentle way when we are respectful to our own well-being and happiness. Even when people try to be manipulative or con us into carrying their water for them, we don't have to get upset about it if we can be clear about our own personal rights first. Be Ok about saying no.
I did'nt have the time to even process what was going on. That feeling when you got cornered in a half awake half asleep moment..like here's your bag, get dressed drivers waiting.
Next time, I will lock the doors on my day off. I will not allow people to barge in my room just like that. They just lost my respect today. Nobody in any workplace should do that. Let alone a supervisor will wake you up , no emails sent , nothing prior to the actual time of duty . This is actually a nightmare after you wake up is just mind blowing.
NEVER AGAIN.
💯🎯 100% on Target with this one!
Ditto!
We do take on others feelings painful ones aswell, I’ve ended up in hospital twice taking in other’s energies, that’s when I started waking up nd paying attention 💛✨🙏🏼
I have already used the epic Door Slammed on someone so close to me way back high school. During those times I didn't know I was an INFJ but since that person hurts me so much emotionally and mentally so I cut her off. Whenever we met on the street or on the mall it's as if she never existed at all in my life.
Yes I think we can 'go along with things' for quite a while but when we're done.....we are done..!
@@susanpauli3719 True.
Oh my GOSH! NAILED IT
Thank you😁😁
@@brainwatched you’re welcome
My fiancée is also an INFJ and I share them with her. We have the best relationship and these videos help us not only understand ourselves individually but each other
As INFJ, we think about things in a deep way, we have strong feeling and opinion even if we don’t always show them to everyone. When we run into a rude person, we could have a very logical analysis about the situation, or even overthinking, and judge such kind of behavior in a deep level. We treat everyone in a respectful way and do our best to avoid influencing others by our own problems, so when we do not receive the same level of respect, we consider to door slam.
8:23 Yeah, but not like I will completely avoid the person when I can't, or have to acknowledge the presence.
Afterall we are well mannered...
one time new fabric had fabric piece on back side of it - I was trying to take it out but when got frustrated just teared it apart while other person in room was wondering what happen.*nothing just this thing touching my body
This is sooooo true! Me all the way. Oh my God
The last time i took the MBTI test on Oct 2022, i've been trying the test mote than 20 times by differwnt ways. I thought i will find a new personality but i found my self still an INFJs person since 2019 when i knew the test. 😂😎
How many others INFJs are diagnosed with Autism and or ADHD???
Interesting right? I’m an INFJ and my son is high functioning autistic. We both express a high sensitivity to loud noises and overly stimulating environments. I didn’t use to be but as I evolve, I want peace. Wonder if there is a connection or just a common ground?
@@robinmitchell7457 Both my daughters are gifted Autistics with ADHD. I was just diagnosed myself, this year, at age 50! I was not able to be my authentic self and tested as an ENFP. My entire identity was based on outside acceptance which meant being an excellent masker. It's only in the last 10 years that I've healed enough to recognize my true nature and then embrace it. I used to fear being alone. Now, I crave my alone time. Crazy, this journey, isn't it?
Asperger’s is also present in many of us INFJ’s. We are a little weird! But I love my weirdness! 😊
Why is this so true💀💀 just remembered myself almost crying after hanging out with 2 non close girls for to long
I have done a few door slams. In my life. I only opened up a couple of them.
Well I don't want to be around me either SMH
Door slammed my parents, 20yrs ago..
I'm now 89. Did the same when I was 18. Never saw them again. Best decision I ever made.
My mom finally passed away.
We live in an era of thumbnails
Yes, yes! And oh ya! Yes! And yes again!
I can't be bothered with people any more. I have detached and can leave humans to their fate, especially Australians.
Hi, I don’t want to come off as rude and maybe it’s just the ADHD in me, but it was very hard to process the information in this video because of the overwhelming footage and constant transitions. I could hear you speak, but I just couldn’t understand what you were saying. It might be better for the video if the footage doesn’t overpower the information you have.
This is read by a machine. That's why it's an unnatural pace of speaking. I hear what you're saying. I just listen and avoid watching atn the same time..:) -ENFP
Im both colder than -1000 and as passionate as a new born star, i am both not and am
True
Ill bet you think im cold hearted for not donating to charity despite knowing there are already plenty of others doin it
introverted intuition introverted
❤❤❤
Ill bet ppl think im cold hearted for laughing at whomen with high body counts when another chad uses them n ghosts them like how they use n ghost normal guys 😄😄😄
I bet ppl think im cold hearted when i dont care if bad ppl get hurt or even k1ll3d, would i laugh if a Salty Jolly Wolf got hit by a car? Yes😄😄😄😄
Sit in the street like a traffic cone n get run over like an idiot lol #NoShame
You probably think im cold hearted for finding a dog begging for my food annoying when i see em get fed daily, go ahead n hate me 😄