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    You're Dating An EMOTIONALLY Broken Man If He DOES THIS!... In this dating, love, and relationship advice video, I will give you one of the seven red flags you're dealing with an emotionally broken man that you should not overlook. You may deal with an emotionally damaged man on first dates, online dating, or somewhere in the dating process. Take heed to this dating advice and ensure you watch the entire video.
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  • @StephanSpeaksClips
    @StephanSpeaksClips  Рік тому +3

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  • @CC-br9qg
    @CC-br9qg Рік тому +219

    When I was crying in front of him, he stared at me blank faced. That's when I knew it was over.

    • @daniellem578
      @daniellem578 Рік тому +13

      Same here. My ex was a monster

    • @sr0716
      @sr0716 Рік тому

      My ex laughed at me so when he fuked up crying like a bitch.. I said what you crying for ? Because you fuked up again finding a sexi cake i ordered for him he saw then i said pack your shit and get out of my house... I had to be hard on him... And kept the cake haha

    • @antoniajarvi2217
      @antoniajarvi2217 Рік тому +13

      Mine couldn't handle me crying. He was so rude afterwards & didn't want to talk to me if I was gonna cry.
      Never in his life time is he going to have someone love him like I did & I told him that. I believe he played me for 6 months & has moved on. I think that's his trademark. He is a heartless coward!
      Take care of yourself...

    • @stephanSpeakss
      @stephanSpeakss Рік тому +3

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    • @LionessTee
      @LionessTee Рік тому +10

      My ex would talk down to me and have me in tears then he’d go to sleep. I didn’t realise how much damage he had done until I started to heal from him. It has been almost two years and I can’t imagine dating again.

  • @chloethemessenger
    @chloethemessenger Рік тому +160

    I agree. When a man loves you, he cares about how you feel. Someone being cold and detached doesn’t care, for sure or is broken. I 💯 agree. If someone is willing to get help then fine but it seems most men don’t want to change or seek help. Your wisdom is helping me heal. Thank you 🤍

    • @deborasampy2762
      @deborasampy2762 Рік тому +8

      Yup so true they want to punish someone that didn't hurt them and that's not fair 😒

    • @irinaivanovic9792
      @irinaivanovic9792 Рік тому +4

      @@deborasampy2762 Exactly this. I've just recently been on the receiving end of shitty treatment from a self-admitted HIGHLY traumatized man, who led me on to believe I was different and that he'd never do things to me that he believed ALL OTHER WOMEN DESERVED (he DESPISES WOMEN). But his actions never once backed up his words. I felt alone, unheard, he would constantly interrupt me when talking, and would have nothing to do with emotional expression on his end. He'd be totally silent if I expressed a fraction of emotional vulnerability toward him. He was not affectionate in any sense of the word. I felt he either didn't like me or was not comfortable with being hugged or hugging me; despite him being totally OK trying to get me to have sex with him and keep me in bed with him. Only then was he all over me (I did not have sex with him though). As soon as there were regular moments between us (non-sexual), he was HANDS OFF and I felt I was just some friend or some co-worker. I felt so emotionally starved for affection. He would not even hold my hand. I tried SO hard to hang on, to understand him and figure him out but I was emotionally suffocating. I always left feeling sad and let down after every time I saw him/went out with him.

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    • @gapeach7814
      @gapeach7814 Рік тому +2

      @@irinaivanovic9792 wow I'm sorry you had to go through that! I'm super proud of you for recognizing that he wasn't meeting your needs then choosing to move on to find someone that will willingly give you all of those things and more. Good luck to you.

    • @irinaivanovic9792
      @irinaivanovic9792 Рік тому +2

      @@gapeach7814 Yes, it was just too much and I knew this had to come to an end eventually. Thank you for the positivity and encouragement!

  • @MsPrincessaj
    @MsPrincessaj Рік тому +54

    Narcissists also have this trait. And they may even tell you that they have childhood traumas to deal with. My advice is: please run. Let them deal with themselves first, and THEN, (possibly) see if they can be the person for you. Make sure you are doing your own work where necessary, to be able to determine their sincerity in healing their issues. Thank you Stephan for your teaching.

    • @leticiaferreiravaz
      @leticiaferreiravaz Рік тому +4

      Right can’t heal someone that doesn’t want their wounds closed and would rather keep putting a bandage over it. Learned my lesson, moving on now and putting all of that energy into me 🫶🏾

    • @stephanSpeakss
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    • @LionessTee
      @LionessTee Рік тому +3

      My ex is a narcissist. I saw him laugh while I cried after I caught him cheating and he brought the memorabilia into my home.

    • @LittleBambi777
      @LittleBambi777 Рік тому

      @@LionessTee horrible, like a walking corpse with no heart, no feelings, cruel af. I'm sorry you have to went through that because of him.

  • @Didi-fr5ic
    @Didi-fr5ic Рік тому +107

    I have one last story to share here..it took this one man to be the last man that will ever hurt me..you come to a point where you sit and be like damn I am attracting all these men because I don't have self respect or boundaries..this man hurt me deeply I went into isolation mode and deep emotional work, I did it myself by reading, doing yoga I live by the beach so healing went up a notch, the ocean does that to me. I started setting boundaries with men, I stopped chasing because ladies a man knows what he needs to do if he is emotionally healthy to court you..trust me, I started saying no, I don't allow them in my home until I have gotten to know you..things started changing the low effort men started disapearing and I would let them go where I usually chase, if sexual remarks was thrown my way I started setting my boundaries around that again men dissapeared. I feel wonderful knowing what I deserve. That man will come and I will know. The rest must walk and continue with this hookup culture. You become better. I live in a small town and see this man daily but slowly I am smiling and waving at him wishing him well that is healing ❤
    Also it wouldn't be possible if I didn't listen to stephan because this man helped me alot. I re watch your videos to help me..I made myself a better woman because I am putting in the work.
    Thank you

    • @cynthianguyen185
      @cynthianguyen185 Рік тому +10

      This is so beautiful🥹 I wish to reach this level one day

    • @bambellaaa
      @bambellaaa Рік тому +4

      Love this!!!!! ❤

    • @fizahaque
      @fizahaque Рік тому

      What about someone who stopped with the hookup culture for you and wants to be committed to you. Is that reliable ? He hooked up one day before seeing me in real life. But ever since then. He stopped.

    • @prttyblck
      @prttyblck Рік тому

      When you love self!! 💖💖💖

    • @mercedesb5344
      @mercedesb5344 Рік тому

      I can relate to this. Thank you!

  • @Prettytaddi__
    @Prettytaddi__ Рік тому +106

    I feel so blessed to be 25 and have these types of resources 😩 Just for life in general plus I have children who I pray will make better decisions than the circumstances they come from. Thanks! 💯

    • @liztowers2058
      @liztowers2058 Рік тому +3

      You're a good mom ;)

    • @Prettytaddi__
      @Prettytaddi__ Рік тому +1

      @@liztowers2058 I truly appreciate that!

    • @stephanSpeakss
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  • @user-vm9jv4lq2t
    @user-vm9jv4lq2t Рік тому +49

    Sometimes certain people been hurt let down that many times they find it hard to get feelings

    • @AdventuresOfBillAndMia
      @AdventuresOfBillAndMia Рік тому +1

      That’s true too.

    • @Nutz4Lutz3624
      @Nutz4Lutz3624 Рік тому +7

      its true, but you need to have enough compassion and love for yourself to heal. if youre grown you cant make excuses. everyone’s been through it. everyone.

    • @stephanSpeakss
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  • @MA-yc7pz
    @MA-yc7pz Рік тому +45

    I did date this type of guy before it became official I saw the signs and left despite the fact I really liked him.

    • @no1zzle3
      @no1zzle3 Рік тому +7

      Good for you ❤🎉❤🎉

    • @shaprinash8916
      @shaprinash8916 Рік тому +7

      Same here completely discarded my emotions. Glad it only took 60 days.

    • @MA-yc7pz
      @MA-yc7pz Рік тому +5

      @@shaprinash8916 Same amount of time but in my case I have to see him weekly we attend to the same Church

    • @stephanSpeakss
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  • @queenoftorts1
    @queenoftorts1 Рік тому +31

    A thousand times yes! I thought I was crazy when my emotions were either ignored or treated like they weren't justified. It's not healthy and it breaks you down. Thank you.

  • @ClaudiaZachara
    @ClaudiaZachara Рік тому +70

    I poured my heart out to the guy I was dating and told him how I wanted to be treated. Then he ghosted me. It's been a month since I've heard from him. :( I don't understand how someone can be cold and callous to just leave someone hanging like that, especially when he knew how much trauma I had been through before him.

    • @CC-br9qg
      @CC-br9qg Рік тому +7

      stay strong sister. I'm in the same boat as you. I am stuck in fight or flight mode PTSD now. I spent years working in therapy and inner work before I met him / entered another relationship.

    • @ClaudiaZachara
      @ClaudiaZachara Рік тому +2

      @@CC-br9qg I'm so sorry you went through that. Stay strong as well. Hopefully this all happened for a reason. Hopefully better is out there. 🙏🏽 At least that's what I'm trying to tell myself. 😔

    • @ashleydiaz8739
      @ashleydiaz8739 Рік тому +11

      Wow …. Your story touched my heart. I’ve been ghosted too. I’ve been killing my self trying to figure out what I did wrong … I think I’m realizing it wasn’t me. I showed up and put my best foot forward. And yes sometimes the super sweet guy that’s easy to like is also capable of thinking that disappearing on someone is an acceptable choice to make.

    • @ClaudiaZachara
      @ClaudiaZachara Рік тому +7

      @@ashleydiaz8739 I'm sorry you went through that. Everyone tells me that ghosting says more about the ghoster than it does about us. They're just cowards who lack respect for others sadly. Karma will get them.

    • @1college100
      @1college100 Рік тому +15

      That's why we have to stop telling the wrong ones the trauma we went through in hopes he'll do right cause of your previous pain life.

  • @curtistinemiller4646
    @curtistinemiller4646 Рік тому +24

    When someone shows you who they are ,the first time,believe them..... Maya Angelou.......✨✨

    • @KM-oy5yh
      @KM-oy5yh 7 місяців тому +1

      AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN 🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤

  • @valariepigletpeairs888
    @valariepigletpeairs888 Рік тому +11

    Sitting here listening and everything said is hitting me like a ton of bricks...I cry and he doesn't hold me, wipe my tears, and make me feel better... I'm asked why am I crying or I'm just completely ignored...I can't believe I allowed myself to go through a one sided situationship for 8 years, with nothing resolved...Unwilling to change, flirting behavior...I just can't go through this over and over again...I've tried explaining, addressing my feelings...He discards me, ignore my feelings, and punishes me by entertaining other women daily...It's nothing to him...He makes excuses as to why he does this and most importantly, how it makes him feel...Social media has really been a major issue... Everything I have seen him do and say on these women pictures, in some cases, were very inappropriate considering he's in a relationship with me...I'm Emotionally, Mentally, Spiritually, and Verbally Abused when it comes to how he interact with these women...Pictures are a temptation for him and that's what draws him in deeper for more...Mine don't excite him anymore, because of the overflow of so many female friends...I'm not welcomed to meet any of them and these words came out of his own mouth...I chose to let go and end it...God knows what's best for me and in the end, I'll have a man that will love me so deeply and truthfully, and wouldn't mind letting the world know and show his genuine Love for Me and Me Alone... 🙏🏽💯🎯

    • @gapeach7814
      @gapeach7814 Рік тому +1

      You’re absolutely right Sis. Your King will come but you have to set boundaries and no longer allow yourself to entertain another grown boy. He’s not a man…men are honest about their intentions and wouldn’t disrespect you in this way. Heal yourself doing deep inner work then you will meet the MAN that God has for you. Good luck & God bless! 🙏🏽 You deserve nothing less than the best!

    • @HelloWorld-rj1qb
      @HelloWorld-rj1qb Рік тому +1

      I can do you one better. He asked me, “Why are you pissing at the eyes?” I was like what and who says that to someone who’s crying. It happened again and I was like he’s broken for sure. I’ve cried on the phone with him and he did not acknowledge it.

  • @killit21
    @killit21 Рік тому +15

    I wasted so much time and energy on an emotionally unavailable man. The day he told me he loved me it sounded in hindsight like he couldn’t believe he said it..years later i asked him to talk about our connection and what it means bc I fell for his good qualities & overlooked his brokenness. He totally avoided the conversation brushed me off but said we will always be connected. But he refused to discuss his emotions or why he created boundaries against marriage, relationships. Says his views are so different no one understands him. I said try me. He shut down. I decided that day to lean back & not contact him anymore for anything. He can keep all that brokenness. I’m done done!

    • @gapeach7814
      @gapeach7814 Рік тому

      Completely understand! I’m done done with mine as well. Tired of trying to help heal broken man. It’s not my job. It’s on them to seek healing then come back around green healed if things are meant to be they’ll be.

  • @jackiewallace8516
    @jackiewallace8516 Рік тому +6

    He's not moved by my hurt when it's caused by HIM. when it's something/someone else, he cares

    • @RicanPrincess888
      @RicanPrincess888 Рік тому

      That’s even more confusing and hurtful in my opinion.

    • @LittleBambi777
      @LittleBambi777 Рік тому

      This is truth, was with a man like this and he destroyed my self esteem. I felt like my value was 0. After I said I wanted to break up with him the 1st time, he changed a little, but still avoided feelings or emotional connection. Whenever I opened my mouth to talk about how I felt, he just wanted me to stop. He even gaslighted me that I was the one who made things worse, created dramas... and no one would ever want me. Well, I left him for good.

    • @tammier8860
      @tammier8860 Рік тому

      He's moved... by guilt

  • @yv7252
    @yv7252 Рік тому +30

    I needed you 6 years ago .. just left a 6 year relationship the last 2 years I was completely drained the stress made me physically sick once I left him my back pain and migraines went away !!!

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  • @ShannonShenanigans79
    @ShannonShenanigans79 Рік тому +44

    Makes fun of me for crying.
    He DOES NOT CARE if he hurts me. Never has in 18 years. (Refuses to show it, that is more the truth. And MOVED BY OTHERS!)
    Currently separated after 18 years, due to domestic violence. First time I ever called the cops. We have been apart for 1 month. I am FINALLY SEEING It's not me. Not only has my blood pressure returned to normal, my depression has lessened by at least 70%
    I feel bad for saying it, but it's true.

    • @marjoriesyoutube4530
      @marjoriesyoutube4530 Рік тому +8

      This is my story , my ex never said I’m sorry , never was moved by my crying , it’s crazy people were shocked how much emotional abuse I was dealing with , my health was in jeopardy, tru narcissistic man . I’m now divorced and single and learning to love myself again through God . I can’t begin to tell you how Developing a relationship with God has given me strength and hope . 😊

    • @nancycortez1231
      @nancycortez1231 Рік тому +5

      Never settle for less, i divorce 12 yrs ago same reason domestic violence, tro this yrs i found myself
      Is been a wonderful journey, i have 2 daughters 20&16 yr old
      We traveled together
      2020 i started my own business
      I become unstoppable
      God is faithful 🙏
      You not alone God is with you
      Never look back
      I wish you all the best

    • @ShannonShenanigans79
      @ShannonShenanigans79 Рік тому +1

      @@marjoriesyoutube4530 Same here the Emotional is the worst. Now he says I've changed, sure have. Should have realized what you had. He is a Narc all the way

    • @ShannonShenanigans79
      @ShannonShenanigans79 Рік тому +4

      @@nancycortez1231 ours are 17 in October and 10 this month he's even destroyed the relationships with them for the most part. It says he's going to work on himself, been there done that years ago with him
      I'm at the point where all I want to do is be happy now, I want to be treated with respect to love and definitely not be with someone that's going to cheat multiple times. I come from a traditional Italian American background, so you know traditional housewife. Dinner cook dinner put it on the plate serve it to you, everything you could think of that I could physically do for you.
      And with hardly anything in return, now I'm good.

    • @nancycortez1231
      @nancycortez1231 Рік тому +3

      @@ShannonShenanigans79 is his lost
      Happy for you that you're good
      Life goes on

  • @Sabina-ve9ie
    @Sabina-ve9ie Рік тому +11

    I totally agree! Such an important message!!! And it fits absolutly to my experience, with meanwhile 60 I have some. 😉 If he doesn't resonate , respond or react to your emotions - even tears because you are adressing an issue again and again, feeling helpless and frustrated - instead he's remaining silent or changing the topic or even becoming angry: Leave! Don't find all the excuses, understanding, hope for the future, s.o. As Stephan said clearly: This is an broken man, you can't help and it will become worse! Help yourself and leave! (I should have way earlier).
    I love Stephans Videos, such a good advice, I wish I had known earlier - and followed.
    Greetings from Germany 🤗

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  • @Daniellehiu
    @Daniellehiu Рік тому +13

    My ex straight up told me that he didn't care about my hurt when we were discussing our relationship problems. What is there to say after that? ✌🏾

  • @daryapersia
    @daryapersia Рік тому +10

    My ex always said why I’m so emotional so sensitive and that I’m childish if I cry… the reason for our breakup was… no commitment after 4 years because of his fears in his past divorce.
    I was loyal, faithful and did really everything to get this work.
    Waste of energy, time and everything but I got my lesson, give all in god hands cause he was the one who closed the door even though he wanted to close the door sooner but I refused to take my fingers away from the door, that’s why it hurt all the time. Now I know.
    Looking forward to make someone out there the luckiest man one day with lords help.
    Thank u Steve for all your videos❤god bless u

    • @fizahaque
      @fizahaque Рік тому +1

      My current partner did this twice. 2 days in a row! I broke up afterwards but he told me he was going through a lot and had a rough day as well. We both did but I broke down crying and he just started telling me how I’m a child and too sensitive. That I need to go through more things in life. That was extremely painful and one of the most disrespectful things you can do if your partner is literally. Down. I never did that to him and reminded him that when he called me after I deleted him from all social media. I don’t know if this is a big misunderstanding or if I should just move on. Any tips ?

    • @daryapersia
      @daryapersia Рік тому +2

      @@fizahaque exactly my situation, let me tell u something I forgave his behavior 4 times it started last year in summer and a few weeks ago he came back again, I mean it’s my fault too cause I’ve always been there, I can’t give you any tips because no matter what I or your friends say, you will literally feel it in your body and bones that this energy is NOT your future. I broke up and sure I’m crying and thinking about all the things I’ve done and all my dreams but you know what? It’s their loss, not ours. Like Steve said “if you know that you were a good person to them than they will regret” as you can see my bf always came back but did he change? No. Did he commit? No. I was just naive and in love but I think I was in love with his words but his cold heart and actions showed me that hey I want someone who is Heart broken for hurting me but all he does is running away from stress problems and communication. Move on believe me it’s his loss not yours. They will search for us in others but they won’t find it

    • @daryapersia
      @daryapersia Рік тому +2

      @@fizahaque if he is treating you now like that, and you had conversations over conversations and nothing changes… do you think that your future will be better? My mom says “why should they change when you’re always there u already accept how they treat u”

    • @fizahaque
      @fizahaque Рік тому

      @@daryapersia It’s funny how you say it because every time I voice my concerns or things I would like to be improved in our relationship. He keeps saying how I start arguments and that he doesn’t want them. He just wants to be happy. I mean he’s 22 and I’m 21 so we’re young. But still. I was shocked and blocked him since I never saw this side of him before. Normally when we were friends and I cried. He was there for me. Supported me. So for him to now say as my partner to grow up and stop acting as a child… just didn’t sit right with me. I’m truly confused because at times I feel like its because of him travelling rn and not having enough time and that I need to be more understanding. But then a few minutes later I question if he is the one for me. It’s so weird because at a distance, let’s be real. It’s really difficult to even truly get the gist of the situation. So I can’t even judge from a distance. So on video call it tends to be difficult. Whereas in real life I know I need to be way more calm while communicating. I just acknowledge that we both have a lot of healing to do so idk if this a situation where we truly love eachother but its just not the right time. We both have a lot of growing up to do in regards to relationships.

    • @daryapersia
      @daryapersia Рік тому +1

      @@fizahaque oh my hahahaha mine says that too “why discuss, why sad, I just want no problems, no discussion etc” where I explain that no relationship is without problems or discussion. He just don’t understand just like your bf and he’s 34 so… as you can see age is just a number but you guys are still young, I’m 32 and I wish somebody where there to tell ma all these things when I was your age. Both of you need to know what you guys really want in life, focus on yourself I know that’s easy to say but if this mf doesn’t appreciate u he clearly doesn’t deserve u, my bf and me we live in the same city but cause of work just see each other on weekends so I know what you mean, I can’t communicate trough WhatsApp or video call but this is what he wants just short discussion and a happily ever after but that’s not the real life. They need to grow up and we want to be girlfriend or wife not a therapist

  • @barbarabagatin8962
    @barbarabagatin8962 Рік тому +3

    Beautiful video and words. Thank you.
    IMO, this world is broken. It's full of broken and lonely people ( with all respect), but there are too many egocentrated persons who can heal, but they don't, because they are dishonest with themselves: lazy, superficial, irresponsable. Adults have to learn to be more honest and generous. If you need to heal you have to. It's your work: nobody can take this decision, except you. For yourself, for your relationships. I don't know where this Planet is going. If a person can't afford a therapist there are many smart people to talk to, like religious, for example, philosophers, old friends, a neighbour. Moreover, it is needed to take once for all the courage to accept that in this cases one must to say goodbye to the wrong and toxic fake friends, if there is need to heal. Because they didn't see you, they never listened to you. They just exploited you and you learnt to do the same. Nothing is harder than changing our old behaviors. There's nothing wrong to talk to someone, asking for a help. Too much entitlement also. People who can't see and accept their inner side have a conscious level of a toddler.

  • @keshiarobinson8230
    @keshiarobinson8230 Рік тому +10

    I appreciate the video. I broke up with my ex because he needs to focus on healing. As well ad myself, the relationship was to toxic

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  • @liztowers2058
    @liztowers2058 Рік тому +7

    But he's in therapy, he's thoughtful, he cares about my feelings and tells me so and shows that he cares by his actions....he's just broken. He knows it. He's trying.. . And he told me that TOO.
    It's hard but as long as he fixing himself and trying, I'll be around. Just NOT 100 percent invested - YET. Ladies always keep something for yourself until HE SHOWS AND TELLS YOUR HES READY FULLY AND 100 PERCENT INTO JUST YOU. HEALTHY.

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  • @matchsticknik652
    @matchsticknik652 Рік тому +1

    What some people don't understand is that sometimes they want to show the love they feel but they are scared to be hurt and hide their feelings

  • @rubiwade8009
    @rubiwade8009 Рік тому +2

    He straight up said “I don’t care about your feelings”

  • @kingsleybaby
    @kingsleybaby Рік тому +16

    If a guy acts like a wall, then why would you want to be with a walking wall with no romantic emotions. Knowing a wall like guy does not mean you have to stay with a walking wall. I am no longer interested in a human wall. If a guy is not romantic then be with a forever romantic guy, they exist.

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  • @daniellem578
    @daniellem578 Рік тому +10

    These men have serious issues.

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  • @skyejacques
    @skyejacques Рік тому +34

    💯 - keep meeting emotionally numb men. I foster them until they find the women they want lol

    • @lizbethreyes4445
      @lizbethreyes4445 Рік тому +2

      😂😂😂

    • @stacey5951
      @stacey5951 Рік тому +2

      I can relate!!!😟

    • @acd1168
      @acd1168 Рік тому +10

      I did it once and never again. Don't worry, they won't be totally happy in his new relationship.

    • @jamaicanjoyh6883
      @jamaicanjoyh6883 Рік тому +6

      done w charity work here
      I'm a b strategic when I get put bk in ...

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  • @MenofValueSpeaks
    @MenofValueSpeaks Рік тому +4

    Let me just say this. Everyone who's dealing with a man like this. I guarantee he has options far beyond you. These are traits of a psychopath. It's a trained trait that we see in men and women who don't face rejection. When men/women have many options and are polyamorous, they become numb to the emotions of others, and sex becomes transactional. This is the same thing that happens to men when they date promiscuous women. They'd sleep with a man, and be on Tinder the next day looking for another. The guy she just slept with was ghosted. This is why you MUST DATE ON YOUR LEVEL. Keep chasing the top men, when you aren't in the top 10% of beauty and fitness, gets you ghosted, used, and played. But if you got with a man on your level, he would value you. One man's trash is another man's treasure.

    • @mahiaggarwal6286
      @mahiaggarwal6286 Рік тому

      Ive took the screenshot of your comment so that i can read it whenever i want.

  • @rachfayee
    @rachfayee Рік тому +2

    Thank you for all of your advice Stephan! Praying for you, your family, and an amazing New Year!

  • @colleenoslund5555
    @colleenoslund5555 Рік тому +14

    I get told I'm trying to manipulate him if I have emotions or I cry 😕

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  • @bambellaaa
    @bambellaaa Рік тому +13

    My ex said I was being dramatic 🤦🏾‍♀️ hence why he’s my ex…I’ll know I’ll find someone better-the sky people have my back lol ❤🤲🏾🙏🏾

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  • @auntyb4130
    @auntyb4130 10 місяців тому +1

    One day if u decide to come to South Africa, I hope u hold a mens conference..ur wisdom is highly commendable

  • @MWisdomWisdom
    @MWisdomWisdom Рік тому +1

    LET HIM GO 5 YEARS AGO && NEVER LOOKED BACK SINCE . GOOD RIDDANCE🙌🤞👌✌️.

  • @natnat0576
    @natnat0576 Рік тому +6

    Yes misunderstandings will happen however like you say a healthy human being dont behave this way....I dated a guy like this....

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  • @abigalestoll
    @abigalestoll Рік тому +1

    You're right 💯, thank you for sharing.

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  • @MenofValueSpeaks
    @MenofValueSpeaks Рік тому +4

    How are you ending up with these blokes 😂😂😂? You can't be picking based off of character, outcomes, discipline, and personality.
    You have to be picking based on looks and genetics. It's the only way you ignore the red flags that get you into this situation.
    Believe it or not, most people don't change. You just failed to see you were never on his level, and he never valued you. Water always seeks its own level. He may bed you, be may tell you sweet lies. But what does his actions say? If you are getting this type of man, you need to seriously look at yourself.
    Women who get men like this, are the modern, Independent, I can do it by myself types. This is why you're dealing with men who can't communicate. Because often when real men communicate their wants, the woman walks away for the guy who's easy and tells them sweet lies. Then they get ran through and dropped over and over. Maybe even give men who have never showed you that you were special a few kids that you and the government has to raise. Stop making FOOLISH MISTAKES. You women know who good men are. But your lust for genetics over leadership is your biggest issue. No reason for felons to have more children than hard working black men....... can't blame the felons. Women control who gets sex, definitely 100% control who's born.
    Here's free game, if you are meeting a man of value. Don't ever tell him about your exes and how they treated you. No matter what he thinks of you in that moment. When he finds out you made stupid decision after stupid decision and now have standards for him, he will put in time, communicate only enough to keep you happy. He will then leave and seek to find a woman with better decision making. If this is what you experience when you meet men of value. This is why, men judge your past while women judge our futures. They don't want to wife up Tyrone's leftovers. If you're 35+ most women and men are leftover, so you have to come up with a plan to provide true value to get your partner. You don't deserve a partner, you MUST EARN HIM OR HER
    Nothing worth having, comes easy. Men of value have standards, and if you don't want to work, you will continually get these men raised in single mother homes who can't communicate or show manhood outside of aggression. Hence why you're dealing with men who ghost, have walls, and have trauma they haven't resolved.

  • @kaylahyang1712
    @kaylahyang1712 Рік тому +1

    Thanks for your content, you are like the big brother we can never have.

  • @debrajordan6514
    @debrajordan6514 Рік тому +9

    All I can say is Lord!! have mercy

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  • @darkirisr.380
    @darkirisr.380 Рік тому +3

    Men are crazy. If you are emotionally broken, what the freak you doing going for another relationship 🥴

  • @beegee5305
    @beegee5305 Рік тому +9

    My ex BF was not affected personally by my emotions. In fact, take it one step further, I passed out on the floor bc I was sick, blacked out for about about 30 seconds... I came too, and discovered he was standing at my feet kicking my lower leg to see if I was "alive" or not. Another time, when I was crying bc he pulled a wipe-off calendar that he made from my wall. I went into my bedroom and he came right in and took a photo of me crying. I said "Why are you taking a picture?" He said " so you can remember this". Huh? I get that once in awhile might be a fluke. But there was a pattern. When my cousin died young suddenly and I was crying, he didn't comfort me in the least... he just started laughing while mentioning how he remembered how my cousin had chapped lips that were pealing and the skin was sticking up on his lips. Huh?

    • @kelebekw8191
      @kelebekw8191 Рік тому +1

      I have been through similar. Strange because in spite of this, there were moments of tenderness from him. Those moments kept me hooked.
      Now I see the light by understanding that.

    • @ToniaAlex13
      @ToniaAlex13 Рік тому

      That's a psychopath

    • @claudieC.
      @claudieC. Рік тому

      Girl run, there is and will be no joy with that one. Save your self the misery. Don't waste time with an insensitive jerk.

    • @Valentino2vaild
      @Valentino2vaild Рік тому

      Sounds like a sociopath

  • @Ohkeh640
    @Ohkeh640 Рік тому +1

    Facts a man who loves a woman should be moved indeed same as women should feel that way for him ❤

  • @hannahlouise1604
    @hannahlouise1604 Рік тому

    My ex refuses to make adjustments I have made mine but he refuses. Its so draining..I've just caught him out lying and I feel he has inner trauma and I have compassion for him but he refuses to look within.

  • @cecilharris1156
    @cecilharris1156 Рік тому +1

    I’m numb to the dumb stuff anyway people do anyway. Trust people of what they are not who they are.

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  • @oliviadart612
    @oliviadart612 Рік тому +2

    The memories of me crying next to my boyfriends who where just on their phones scrolling through Instagram when i just wanted them to hug me and connect :) embarrassing I stayed after that treatment. No more! Next month I’ll buy your books, I need a sale tho :( im from a poor country :(

    • @LittleBambi777
      @LittleBambi777 Рік тому

      I feel you, this happened to me, he didn't even know I cried. Once I cried in front of him and he was very angry and left without looking back. Well, I left him for good. Be strong sis!

    • @assessobserveandexemplify4112
      @assessobserveandexemplify4112 Рік тому +1

      Reading all these sad comments... I trully wish every woman and man in this world would be in a happy relationship with a man she wants or a woman he wants. And they both lived happily ever after.
      But you must know why we are in such a sad situation full of lonely hurt people everywhere. Do you know?

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      @oliviadart612 Рік тому

      @@assessobserveandexemplify4112 Why

  • @JenniferMarieUSA
    @JenniferMarieUSA Рік тому

    I guess you are telling me to question my own self judgment Correct?

  • @liztowers2058
    @liztowers2058 Рік тому +2

    Met a man April who right away told me..."I have walls , I'm doing some therapy for childhood trauma, I'm sort of emotionally busted .."
    Me finding this video today and thinking:
    Ohhh he better have all these traits or the bastard lied to me!
    LOL!!
    As usual. Great advice, and yaaaa , he Def is emotionally broken.

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  • @JuJuBabyMusic
    @JuJuBabyMusic Рік тому +1

    This struck a nerve or two.. there’s so much I want to say…

  • @michellegraves3577
    @michellegraves3577 Рік тому

    Do you have videos discussing women. Because some things you talk about in a man is also us women. I believe my emotions are shutdown. My defense go up because in a short time the guy is pointing my flaws. Just recently I'm told that I'm a overthinker and I am constantly thinking. Should I view that as negative. But I notice when I want to iron things out and get an understanding of him. He shuts the communication off. Lol he blocked me from messaging him twice.

  • @ScarfaceFranckRibery
    @ScarfaceFranckRibery Рік тому +1

    Dear girls
    We men only ever fall in love three times in our lives. Once we get heartbroken by someone we considered “the one”, we are never the same again. We become stoic and straightfaced. We are dead inside.

    • @jcqwater8713
      @jcqwater8713 Рік тому +3

      we all experience pain in our lives, there is always hope for healing, Jesus heals, He did heal me, its been 5 yrs and I know I get to be in a healthy loving relationship with a good and healed man one day

    • @KM-oy5yh
      @KM-oy5yh 7 місяців тому +1

      AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN. SISTER 🎉

  • @lisajones-franklin3574
    @lisajones-franklin3574 Рік тому +1

    🙏🏾🙌🏽❤

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  • @melaniehubbard3646
    @melaniehubbard3646 Рік тому

    Ypppppp!

  • @mlml8820
    @mlml8820 Рік тому +1

    Another clear cut, well for me, is a man who gets mad at a misunderstanding and curses me out. Not just curse within the conversation, but I am a dirty MF or a b…. No!!!! No one can live someone and do this!!! It’s over done.

  • @kelevare2438
    @kelevare2438 Рік тому

    My childrens father said being in a relationship/ getting married is just signing your life away. Everybody is miserable in a relationship. That’s why everybody cheat. He has never been in a relationship.

    • @MenofValueSpeaks
      @MenofValueSpeaks Рік тому

      And you GAVE HIM A CHILD????!!! Why would you give a child to man who openly tells you aren't worthy of more than his sperm? We have to do better. Unless you are bottom barrel and this is what you deserve.
      The modern relationship is akin to slavery though. Most women are repulsed by submission, but expect traditional men. Responsibiliy without AUTHORITY is slavery. If you're an independent, modern woman, marriage will be slavery for the man.

  • @richricogranada9647
    @richricogranada9647 Рік тому +1

    The man I met was left with 2 small offsprings by a wife because she wanted to wide open her crack to another stud. That man was visibly deeply disturbed.

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