Clancy, you are not a crazy mom. You are a new mom and you are making sure your baby is healthy and safe. You are keeping it real and honest and that is what matters. Stay true to you. ❤
I have so many things I want to say to you as a mom with teenagers now, but the most important thing is that YOU ARE AMAZING! As much as I would love to tell you everything to expect and that EVERYTHING you are experiencing is absolutely normal- you have discovered that you learn by doing. Motherhood is a ‘learn as you go’ adventure lol You are absolutely phenomenal sweet, Clancy. Love and prayers and hugs to you! Also, your joy and glee and laughter brought so much happiness to my day on top of everything else you do!
My babies are in their 20s now and watching your journey brings back so many memories. It is SO hard. But it's so temporary You are so positive and you're doing such a great job. ❤❤❤
Honestly, this is so refreshing to watch. You talked about your struggles in other videos, but hid it well how hard it actually was. This video has shown how hard it actually is and it's refreshing to see even someone like you, who is usually the happiest on the planet and has her ish together, also struggles like the rest of us - with motherhood in particular. (I have 2 of my own and 2 step kids) That being said this stage is the hardest going through it, but looking back you might see it was the easiest. My best advice is give little man all the snuggles in the world and really be present with the baby time. 😊 You don't need our opinions, but if it counts I think you're an awesome mama and doing great. ❤
It's TOTALLY normal if you're not able to work while taking care of your newborn. Yes, some babies sleep very well, but just like you, I also had a baby that did not nap. Since I didn't have any family or friends to help, I couldn't do any work besides taking care of my baby. It's A LOT more work than a 9 to 5.
I appreciate your honesty so much! I am 33 weeks pregnant with a little boy as well and have loved watching your videos on pregnancy and now with your little one. It's so refreshing to see the realness, though I can imagine it's hard to share, but you are giving hope and comfort to so many of us! I've also been watching you channel for several years now and used to live in both the Dayton Cincinnati areas, but now live in Columbia, SC! Thanks again for making such honest and relatable content, and Decker is absolutely adorable, congrats to you and Zac!
Aww Clancy you’re doing amazing!brings back memories of me experiencing motherhood the first time around! All the breastfeeding anxieties going out with the baby worrying baby’s going to cry! It’s true that the best thing to do is live it for yourself! ❤
You are a great mother. You are doing the best you can. Please be gentle on yourself. It is better to overthink than under react- your son is safe, it doesn’t matter if you feel like you’re a “crazy mom” be the crazy mom. If your mom gut is telling you something is off, don’t question it! Every day is new for you and for little man and you’re each navigating it without any experience- you’re doing your best. Take it in increments you can handle - sometimes it’s 3 minutes, sometimes it’s 3 hours- either way, you’re kicking butt
The newborn sleep deprivation is real. It’s honestly insane how you just survive because you have to but in the moment it feels so hard. I have a 6 month old who still doesn’t sleep well and it’s been so difficult returning to work as a nurse. Napping is so difficult on our end as well but watching her learn and grow is so rewarding. I remember there were times I had horrible headaches from lack of sleep or my eyes would just cross by the end of the night and I couldn’t even focus them to do something for myself. Solidarity to you mama! You are doing it and doing it well ❤
I'm in the thick of motherhood with you (had my first at the end of July and he just turned 4 months old) and I have to say I appreciate you sooo much!! You are the first person I've seen where our days and thoughts are almost the exact same and it's so refreshing to see another fresh postpartum mom just being real 😭
Felt this in my soul. The beginnings of motherhood was soooo so tough. Three years in now and while it’s a little easier it’s still hard. Thanks for sharing.
I love mama Clancy!! Iv been following you for a very long time and this is the best yet! I remember going through postpartum with my little guy always watching your vlogs and now you a mama 🥹 I can relate to it all and let me tell you, you are k I l l ing motherhood (in the best way!!) i relate to it all!! Motherhood is definitely humbling!! The no showers no sleep over thinking everything I get it all and love you so much girl keep being real 🫶🫶🫶
I remember those days as a mom with a newborn. It's really stressful and my son was born early and he was so colicky. He's all he did was scream and he didn't sleep unless he was on me or we drove him around the neighborhood and then as soon as we got him out of his car seat he'd start crying again. His pediatrician finally told me at 10 months you can put him down and let him cry and then soothe him for a minute and then leave and let him cry a little bit more and as soon as I did that he taught himself to put himself to sleep. Also he said put him in his crib awake which I had never done. It was a miracle. It was only bad for like two nights and that was it. It gets better. You're awesome parents!
Hang in there, Clancy. What you’re describing is totally normal for a new baby. Wait til he turns about 6 months, it gets so so much better. Naps and feedings become more consistent. Baby’s temperament is so much better and they generally sleep a lot longer stretches at night (sometimes through the night 🤞🏻) Motherhood is probably the most challenging yet most rewarding human experience there is. You’re doing a fantastic job and I commend you for being so honest and open. We need SO much more of that in the motherhood space. Much love ❤️
Don’t feel anything wrong about going to the doc/hospital. It’s so worth it for your peace of mind. And it’s good that you are acting “better safe than sorry”. I was like this with my first baby. ❤
Awe, our sweet Clancy, 11:40 I thought you were crying or about to cry, just know you are doing the very best you can, and you are doing great! We ❤❤❤ you!
My kiddo is two and man this video brought me back!! You’re doing so good. Everything you’re talking about is so sooo normal. Omg the trying to leave the house alone the first time. I remember I went to a coffee shop and literally felt like I was on another planet ha ha. The marathon nursing sessions could be his way of asking your body for more milk. The more they remove and feed the more it stimulates your milk production. Maybe he’s having a growth spurt. My little used to cluster feed before bed and then he’d have a longer stretch of sleep after getting super full.
My first was like that - contacts naps only for the first year. We are just now transitioning out of cosleeping with him from 1-3 years old. We weren’t in to sleep training so we succumbed to cosleeping after a year of no sleep. My second baby, who is born in late August and is now 3 months old - he is so chill!! Can put him down for each and every nap, is able to be in his bassinet overnight, rarely cries and is constantly smiling. The good thing about all the contact naps with my first is that I feel like we are SOOOO close & have a very very special bond. I’m very bonded with my second little one but because he sort of “needs me” less, it’s not as deep of a bond yet, if that makes sense.
I am a mama of two, my kids are 18 months apart. I promise you it does get better as time goes on. Neither one of my kids slept much as babies either, and they eventually started to sleep through the night around 1. You're doing a great job!! :)
You’re doing a great job Clancy! The hard parts will pass with the breastfeeding and having a newborn. It’s an entire life shift. I didn’t go out with my daughter for the first couple months because I was stressed about her getting upset. Little outings will build confidence. My daughter was a terrible napper/sleeper so until we got on a schedule it wasn’t worth the anxiety it caused me. Take it day by day and be proud of the amazing job you’re doing!
At my recent appointment, the midwife said that the posts of people having freezers full of milk stored is actually not typical and is overproduction. It can be very hard to think you’re “doing enough” in a world where people are sharing so much. It’s good you aren’t affected by that. Your body is learning how much milk to produce for your baby and it also fluctuates throughout the day. Such an interesting process!
This is so true! If you are feeding your baby only your breastmilk you are making exactly the amount they need day to day. If you are pumping and storing you are over producting. A bit of this is fine, but too much can cause oversupply which is an issue.
@Colleen-m4k There's nothing wrong with an oversupply,I had a lot of an oversupply the second my 1st was born and just had to lower the supply myself for both babies. Some people just naturally oversupply, and there's nothing wrong or issues if you do or don't have one,the issues come about when it's not a natural thing(:
@ yeah it’s not a bad thing. Some people make it seem like it’s normal for everyone so those who are struggling with breastfeeding can feel pressure and lacking if their experience is not that way.
My daughter went thru much of what you are going thru. She agonized over breast feeding, and eating and sleeping schedules. It takes awhile for the routines to set in. I hated to see her stress over it so much. I found that when she was a baby her sleep schedule and eating schedule naturally evolved. The doc gave guidelines on feeding and it seems things evolved into her having a morning nap and a longer afternoon nap. After having oatmeal (more filling), she began sleeping all night. All babies are different some on the all night thing. But it takes awhile for the routines to take place. The sleep sacks though were so helpful. They know it’s bedtime or naptime when the sleep sacks though goes on and it helps calm them. I’m 61 but love watching you and I remember these feelings so well. Good luck to your Mom and Dad as they begin their move!
I love how open you’re being in these vlogs, right now my daughters are 4 & 5 years old but I would’ve killed to feel less crazy when they were newborns, especially with my first born. She never took a bottle, we spent so much money on different bottles and formulas and she just never took it for I breastfed for an entire year & 6 months until one night I broke down and couldn’t anymore, motherhood is so rough and it feels so lonely but when you’re up in the middle of the night for feedings remember there’s thousands of other mamas doing the same 🩷 big hugs to you🩷
I’m 3 weeks postpartum currently and have been loving this content! I was dealing with milk supply issues (not making as much as baby needed) and tried power pumping twice a day for three days and I feel like that really helped my supply go up. Also for the spectra pump I switched to settings 70, 54, 70, 38 each for 5 minutes. ❤
I am 5 weeks postpartum and just want to say THANK YOU so much for being so honest and real! I get so excited when you post a new video because your experience has been so relatable and I’m just a few weeks behind you ❤ everything down to pumping less than you needed for a feed makes me feel so much less alone. You are an amazing Mom and are doing an incredible job! 😊
Hi Clancy! I love your channel I’ve been following you since your college days. You always brighten my day! Congrats on baby Decker!! How adorable. We were pregnant at the same time time actually. I had my 3rd baby in October. I now have a 3 yr old, 1.5 yr old, and a 2 month old. And I’m telling you, I love it!! Hard days, yes, but way more good than bad. Once you find Decker’s rhythm I know you will tackle each day with confidence and ease! The newborn phase can be tricky, but something that has helped me with each of my 3 kids is the baby’s “eat, play, sleep” cycle. I wonder if this might help Decker sleep during the day better in case he’s over tired and not resting well. Basically I would nurse on both sides, then diaper change to keep him awake for his “play/awake” time, then by the time he gets fussy again I know he’s tired and ready for his nap. I would either rock to sleep or baby wear to sleep. And then when the nap is over, I’d feed and the cycle would begin again. It helped me find my rhythm throughout the day and made things more predictable. Not sure if that helps at all but it worked for all 3 of my kids and made me feel more confident when the baby cried I knew why they were crying. Holding the baby and bouncing on our medicine ball also helped get him to sleep! That was a game changer for my husband when he felt helpless haha. Wishing you the best in your motherhood!! You are such a positive light, way to keep things real. You got this!
You and your family are doing great! Going places as a new mom is stressful! You will get into a routine and one for leaving the house. I highly recommend having an emergency diaper kit in the car with a changing pad, diapers, wipes, and a change of clothes. Thanks for showing the good and hard moments!
Count to 10 and take a deep breath. All of this will pass-I promise! I'm way past the baby stage, but I still remember the struggles. You are doing great! Give yourself some grace having a baby isn't easy. Take Decker to the doctor when necessary and never question your judgment. Hang in there!
So relatable! You're doing great! I remember for my first, I was so excited to rush through the steps (eating solids, crawling, walking) 😂 but that's when all the hardest (but wonderful 😊) times come, because you are constantly worried they're going to fall, hit their head, touch and outlet, grab something they shouldn't lol! When the second one came around I appreciated the baby phase so much more because I knew the tornado that was waiting for me after 😂😂 can't wait to see you fully immersed in this and you are going to be the best mom ever!! ❤
Just wanted to say you are doing freaking awesome. Postpartum is HARD, even with great support. You’re crushing it, please be kind and gentle with yourself ❤️
Clancy find a good lactation consultant to help you! It makes such a difference. I could not get much of a stash either. And I rarely got a full feeding. I did triple feeding (nursing, bottle, pump) for 3 weeks which was so tough at the time but it did help my supply so much!
I hate giving any kind of mom advice but I hope you see this! I COMBO FED both of my kids, pediatrician loved it , they both mostly got formula , but I breast fed them 2-3x a day, direct feeding with my first, and strictly pumping with my second. I wasn’t a good supplier with either . When I’d pump I’d only get .5oz to 1 oz out of each breast. So I didn’t have to give up on my dream of breast feeding I just did both ! No issues! Just read about it when you get a chance, it saved my mental health to ❤️
Once you learn to breastfeed in the baby carrier it’s sooo easy to go out with the baby! I exclusively nurse and I just feed my baby in the carrier. I get a few breastfeeding shirts with zippers…. Life changing. It gets easier!!
You are doing a great job being a mommy😊 Thank you so much for posting about your motherhood/post partum journey. I also had a baby boy in Sept and a rough start to post partum. The Moms on Call book has been a lifesaver for us for starting a schedule! We started initiating the schedule around 9ish weeks when our son started sleeping longer stretches at night but still waking up around 2-3am. Once he got used to the schedule we were able to eliminate the 2am feed.
I had two born, April and May, at the beginning of the year and two at the end of the year, November and December. The 2 at the end of the year cried a lot and didn't sleep. The 2 at the beginning were the best babies that slept great.
I remember my first couple outings, and the word ticking time bomb is exactly right! Your worries are totally valid, nothing crazy about new mom anxiety❤❤❤
Clancy I just want to hug you. I know exactly how you feel. I actually didn't leave my house with my kiddo by myself. If hubby didn't go I didn't go or I just left myself and got what I needed. You got this, Clancy, and you are doing a great job. 💜💙
Praying for you Clancy. You seemed very anxious in this video. Very sleep deprived. It will get better. Keep pushing. Give yourself grace and try to slow down a little. You are doing a great job!
Clancy nothing is worth u and ur baby's safety. Thankfully it wasnt a serious accident, but if ur going to be late, just be late for the sake of being safe and collected and calm. Glad it wasnt serious tho❤❤
My baby experience was exactly the same. My baby hardly ever napped. We really didn’t get a schedule until about 9 months old. You are doing great and what you are feeling is justified. ❤
Mom tip of 6** This is our 6th earth baby (I’m due in 8 weeks) we have one angel baby- and girlie I promise this is the thick of it and it gets easier, you have my word. Babywearing saved me with my last baby because she sounds like she was just like decker - I used to think wait are you even an infant hahah!!! It really helped until she was big enough to entertain herself with music and toys and stuff. ❤❤
Hang in there! Thankfully everyday is a new day! Also baskets for the hall cubbies/Ashers treats might be nice! Happy Holidays 💕 PS! Pacifiers are absolutely the BOMB! Giving it to him regularly will encourage him!
This vlog was so refreshing to see, it is so comforting as a mom to see that someone else can relate to the struggles! You are doing amazing!! In case you haven’t already, I would check with your car seat manufacturer to see if your car seat needs to be replaced. Some manufacturers require replacement no matter how small the accident is. You don’t want to mess with car seat safety!
I’m a mom to an almost 2 year old, I know getting out of the house is hard but the more you do it the easier it gets, you slowly learn what works best for you. Motherhood definitely builds your problem solving skills lol
I have a 12 week old so just a few weeks ahead of you!! A few things- we are just now at the point where I can put my baby down for a while to play, not to nap. Contact naps only here lol! A mom’s group was LIFE CHANGING TO ME!!! And also you inspired me to eat chocolate oats lol
Becoming a new mom and being a parent is the absolute hardest job in the world! And you cant even prepare for the things you may experience. Your baby is the sweetest, cutest, most demanding job you will ever have. Your life is not your own and you learn that no matter what, baby demands to be first. It will get easier and better as time goes on. Some babies are more demanding and some are just chill. Your life changes is way you can't even imagine but you would never give it up for anything. Enjoy it now because you will turn around and he will be grown and you will wonder where all the years have gone. You are doing great Clancy. You are a great mom. And it's ok to be stressed sometimes. You have never experienced this. How can you not be anxious. It's ok! 🙏👣💙🎄☃️🎅🙏👍🙏
This was all so relatable on soooooo many levels! From "I thought the baby would sleep but.. nope no sleeping"- my son never ever napped or slept even close to what others said their kids did and I spent so many months thinking I was doing everything wrong but some kids are just not good sleepers. Also I was never formally diagnosed with "thrush" but my ob said it was still a yeast. The most painful thing EVER and knives...like you said. I highly suggest looking up APNO cream/grapefruit seed extract/boiling all parts and bras vs just washing and steaming.
Clancy... You're doing great! Give yourself grace and celebrate the small wins. Everyone's experience is different and unique. Tune out the haters and trust yourself. You know your baby best.
It’s okay to feel the way you do! When I had my first 21 years ago, my coffee addiction started. I was sleep deprived and still having to go to work. It was horrible.
My daughter was so easy right from day one. Slept 6 hours at night, breastfed exactly 4 hours apart, napped. My son was very different. He ate every single hour on the hour. 24 times a day. For two straight weeks. Then he ate every two hours from 2 weeks old to 7 weeks old. Then switched to every 4 hours with only one night feeding. I feel for you!!!
During my 15m breastfeeding journey I was notorious for clogged ducts on one side. Advil and ice helped me most ❤ a big misconception is that they’re actually “clogged” it’s mainly inflammation so best to treat with ice rather than heat. It’s just what worked for me ❤️ you’re doing amazing!
You’re doing great! When my daughter was born, she was my first child. She slept for the first two weeks of her life. After that she’s been awake. She’s now 22. My son when he was born, he slept until he was 14 months still to this day. He sleeps a lot and he is 19.
Clancy, for real, it is so hard! Major kudos to you for breastfeeding - I pumped milk for my babies and supplemented with formula, because I could never pump enough. So frustrating. Also, so proud of you for going out and about with Decker! It is a daunting experience the first time and I'm sure your car accident didn't help. But girl, you're doing great. ❤
Once our daughter was out of the newborn phase, her naps were down to around 30 mins. Almost 5 months and she takes (4) 30 min naps between when she wakes up (7am) and bedtime (7pm), with the first (2) naps being more predictable. I’ve just learned to do what i have to get done while trying to incorporate carrying her around. She sleeps well during the night so I like to think of these cat naps as a trade off…which I hands down will take if it means she give us at least 5-8hrs of continuous sleep. 😂
Clancy! I’m a FTM and got a lot of recommendations from moms I know IRL to check out the Taking Cara Babies course, I actually put it on my registry and someone gifted it so I’ve already started watching the modules. It’s some great guidance about baby soothing/napping/sleeping that does not rely on cry it out sleep training at all. I’m so excited to put in practice after all the people I know claiming it changed everything for them!
I have a 6.5 month old boy. We are lucky if we get a 40 minute nap in. His typical naps are 30 minutes or less. Has been that way since he was born. Still wakes up a couple of times per night occasionally but we don’t do night feedings anymore. Hang in there mama, you’re not alone! It’s discouraging to hear about babies taking 2-3 hour naps and sleeping through the night.
Baby wearing creates a safe space for your baby as they get older. I started baby wearing when my daughter was newborn and now at 19 months we still have cuddles before bedtime and when she’s sick in our carriers (I’m a nutcase that has a carrier for every age and situation lol).
clancy you are doing amazing! Type A personalities are by far the hardest! I am the same way as you. I am 14 weeks PP and couldn't do the laundry, dishes or clean the house for a while. It is so hard with a newborn! Have you looked at the Snoo? We are finally getting longer overnight sleep, and daytime naps are easier. It rocks baby to sleep. Sleep is crucial for survival!
My daughter was the same way as a newborn. She’s 2.5 now and still doesn’t sleep lol. She dropped all of her naps “early” and stopped napping totally before she turned 2. I put it in quotes because every baby is different. I tried all of the tricks but she just doesn’t have high sleep needs 🤷🏻♀️ She never took a bottle or a pacifier and cried a TON and it was really hard. I’ve enjoyed every stage since then more and more as she gets older. She sleeps through the night ~75% of the time now so it did get a lot better for us. Edit: it always felt like my baby was a ticking time bomb at play groups and stuff. Sometimes she would freak out and I’d have to nurse her but most of the time it ended up being fine. I’ve learned that getting her out of the house (even now) is usually the answer. It’s amazing that you’re sharing your honest experience.
For the pain associated with mastitis, look up how to use cabbage leaves directly on the chest (don’t know if UA-cam allows the proper word!). It really helps. Nursing is best to unclog the ducts. I feel like the pump actually makes things worse. At least for me, that’s what worked! Position Decker’s mouth in all sorts of ways to relieve pain from different areas.
My Mom always babysat infants in her home, sometimes 3 or 4 at the same time. She was done with them once they started walking and talking. She always said, "They're easy to take care of, all they do is eat and poop." Of course, she didn't have to deal with night-time, or breast feeding. But, once I had my own kids, I found that mindset helped make the days seem pretty easy.
I just had my first baby in June of this year and postpartum life is not for the weak that is for sure! The judgement from others is very hard especially when you are a first time mom and you are anxious about everything. I had many moments of people coming up to me being rude. I had an older lady in the grocery store call me a cruel mother in front of a crowd of people because I didn't have a hat on my baby but let me say she was in a long sleeve shirt and pants and was wrapped in a fuzzy blanket. She was very comfortable! I also had a women comment on my weight a month after having my baby saying I can still see your baby bump and some crunches will help with that but at that time I wasn't even cleared yet to be working out. So what I have learned is ignore people and their comments. You know your baby best and you know what is best for him.
It's so hard to get out of the house as a new mom! I always feel better once we've gotten out though, my son seems to cry less when we're around strangers than when it's just us at home. I'm sorry you've had a rough week, the first few months are full of so much change and it's such a challenge. It's also so hard when they don't nap and you don't get a break, my son also doesn't nap much so I feel your pain.. 😅
Good Lord! You silly girl, this video was very upbeat. I’m sitting here literally laughing out loud at your conversation with Zac 😂 I would have made him let me put the groceries away! 🤣
Vista print is where I got my save the dates for my wedding..we did custom magnets, everyone loved them! I still have some in perfect shape 12 years later
The not napping baby is called a fomo baby! Mine is the same way. They love learning about the world and you will notice they meet their milestones faster than other babies!
Oh! I feel for you with the thrush! It’s so so painful!! I was given diflucan for it. Don’t let anyone tell you it’s not hard to leave with a baby! It’s exhausting but, it goes by fast♥️
This vlog is one of the most relatable representations of motherhood that I’ve ever seen. I love you so much for this!
Clancy, you are not a crazy mom. You are a new mom and you are making sure your baby is healthy and safe. You are keeping it real and honest and that is what matters. Stay true to you. ❤
I have so many things I want to say to you as a mom with teenagers now, but the most important thing is that YOU ARE AMAZING! As much as I would love to tell you everything to expect and that EVERYTHING you are experiencing is absolutely normal- you have discovered that you learn by doing. Motherhood is a ‘learn as you go’ adventure lol
You are absolutely phenomenal sweet, Clancy. Love and prayers and hugs to you!
Also, your joy and glee and laughter brought so much happiness to my day on top of everything else you do!
Aww!! You are so kind 🥹 thank you so much for this sweet message! ❤️
I needed this as well🤍 momma of a 6 month old boy
@@Vrsenese1095same here❤ my baby boy was born May 30!
You’re the best advocate for him. So many kids don’t have parents that do anything. You’re doing an awesome job
Actually your hair short and straight is so pretty, like in the 2nd clip!
I love how you can keep a positive attitude no matter the circumstances (finding the lessons in the struggles, etc). It's really admirable! 💗
My babies are in their 20s now and watching your journey brings back so many memories. It is SO hard. But it's so temporary You are so positive and you're doing such a great job. ❤❤❤
Me too, Dana ❤ Blessings from NH
Honestly, this is so refreshing to watch. You talked about your struggles in other videos, but hid it well how hard it actually was. This video has shown how hard it actually is and it's refreshing to see even someone like you, who is usually the happiest on the planet and has her ish together, also struggles like the rest of us - with motherhood in particular. (I have 2 of my own and 2 step kids)
That being said this stage is the hardest going through it, but looking back you might see it was the easiest. My best advice is give little man all the snuggles in the world and really be present with the baby time. 😊
You don't need our opinions, but if it counts I think you're an awesome mama and doing great. ❤
It's TOTALLY normal if you're not able to work while taking care of your newborn. Yes, some babies sleep very well, but just like you, I also had a baby that did not nap. Since I didn't have any family or friends to help, I couldn't do any work besides taking care of my baby. It's A LOT more work than a 9 to 5.
I appreciate your honesty so much! I am 33 weeks pregnant with a little boy as well and have loved watching your videos on pregnancy and now with your little one. It's so refreshing to see the realness, though I can imagine it's hard to share, but you are giving hope and comfort to so many of us! I've also been watching you channel for several years now and used to live in both the Dayton Cincinnati areas, but now live in Columbia, SC! Thanks again for making such honest and relatable content, and Decker is absolutely adorable, congrats to you and Zac!
Aww Clancy you’re doing amazing!brings back memories of me experiencing motherhood the first time around! All the breastfeeding anxieties going out with the baby worrying baby’s going to cry! It’s true that the best thing to do is live it for yourself! ❤
You are a great mother. You are doing the best you can. Please be gentle on yourself.
It is better to overthink than under react- your son is safe, it doesn’t matter if you feel like you’re a “crazy mom” be the crazy mom. If your mom gut is telling you something is off, don’t question it!
Every day is new for you and for little man and you’re each navigating it without any experience- you’re doing your best. Take it in increments you can handle - sometimes it’s 3 minutes, sometimes it’s 3 hours- either way, you’re kicking butt
The newborn sleep deprivation is real. It’s honestly insane how you just survive because you have to but in the moment it feels so hard. I have a 6 month old who still doesn’t sleep well and it’s been so difficult returning to work as a nurse. Napping is so difficult on our end as well but watching her learn and grow is so rewarding. I remember there were times I had horrible headaches from lack of sleep or my eyes would just cross by the end of the night and I couldn’t even focus them to do something for myself. Solidarity to you mama! You are doing it and doing it well ❤
I'm in the thick of motherhood with you (had my first at the end of July and he just turned 4 months old) and I have to say I appreciate you sooo much!! You are the first person I've seen where our days and thoughts are almost the exact same and it's so refreshing to see another fresh postpartum mom just being real 😭
It might be hard but Clancy you are absolutely GLOWING wow
Awww thank you 🥹❤️
Im all caught up on the pregnancy videos! I enjoyed them so much! Cant wait to see your next update! Prayers y’all are all doing well!
Felt this in my soul. The beginnings of motherhood was soooo so tough. Three years in now and while it’s a little easier it’s still hard. Thanks for sharing.
I love mama Clancy!! Iv been following you for a very long time and this is the best yet! I remember going through postpartum with my little guy always watching your vlogs and now you a mama 🥹 I can relate to it all and let me tell you, you are k I l l ing motherhood (in the best way!!) i relate to it all!! Motherhood is definitely humbling!! The no showers no sleep over thinking everything I get it all and love you so much girl keep being real 🫶🫶🫶
I remember those days as a mom with a newborn. It's really stressful and my son was born early and he was so colicky. He's all he did was scream and he didn't sleep unless he was on me or we drove him around the neighborhood and then as soon as we got him out of his car seat he'd start crying again. His pediatrician finally told me at 10 months you can put him down and let him cry and then soothe him for a minute and then leave and let him cry a little bit more and as soon as I did that he taught himself to put himself to sleep. Also he said put him in his crib awake which I had never done. It was a miracle. It was only bad for like two nights and that was it. It gets better. You're awesome parents!
“Like I’m going to waltz around my house in jeans”. -My life motto since working from home 😂😂😂
Hang in there, Clancy. What you’re describing is totally normal for a new baby. Wait til he turns about 6 months, it gets so so much better. Naps and feedings become more consistent. Baby’s temperament is so much better and they generally sleep a lot longer stretches at night (sometimes through the night 🤞🏻) Motherhood is probably the most challenging yet most rewarding human experience there is. You’re doing a fantastic job and I commend you for being so honest and open. We need SO much more of that in the motherhood space. Much love ❤️
never stop being you. thank you for sharing your life with us !
Don’t feel anything wrong about going to the doc/hospital. It’s so worth it for your peace of mind. And it’s good that you are acting “better safe than sorry”. I was like this with my first baby. ❤
Awe, our sweet Clancy, 11:40 I thought you were crying or about to cry, just know you are doing the very best you can, and you are doing great! We ❤❤❤ you!
I love that you included pictures of Asher in all of the gifts ❤
My kiddo is two and man this video brought me back!! You’re doing so good. Everything you’re talking about is so sooo normal. Omg the trying to leave the house alone the first time. I remember I went to a coffee shop and literally felt like I was on another planet ha ha.
The marathon nursing sessions could be his way of asking your body for more milk. The more they remove and feed the more it stimulates your milk production. Maybe he’s having a growth spurt. My little used to cluster feed before bed and then he’d have a longer stretch of sleep after getting super full.
My first was like that - contacts naps only for the first year. We are just now transitioning out of cosleeping with him from 1-3 years old. We weren’t in to sleep training so we succumbed to cosleeping after a year of no sleep.
My second baby, who is born in late August and is now 3 months old - he is so chill!! Can put him down for each and every nap, is able to be in his bassinet overnight, rarely cries and is constantly smiling.
The good thing about all the contact naps with my first is that I feel like we are SOOOO close & have a very very special bond. I’m very bonded with my second little one but because he sort of “needs me” less, it’s not as deep of a bond yet, if that makes sense.
I am a mama of two, my kids are 18 months apart. I promise you it does get better as time goes on. Neither one of my kids slept much as babies either, and they eventually started to sleep through the night around 1. You're doing a great job!! :)
Just be you, just be raw. And normal for you is different for someone else. you're doing great!
Clancy you are doing great! Thank you for how authentic you are on these vlogs. Your channel is always so real, down to earth and relatable:)
You’re doing a great job Clancy! The hard parts will pass with the breastfeeding and having a newborn. It’s an entire life shift. I didn’t go out with my daughter for the first couple months because I was stressed about her getting upset. Little outings will build confidence. My daughter was a terrible napper/sleeper so until we got on a schedule it wasn’t worth the anxiety it caused me. Take it day by day and be proud of the amazing job you’re doing!
At my recent appointment, the midwife said that the posts of people having freezers full of milk stored is actually not typical and is overproduction. It can be very hard to think you’re “doing enough” in a world where people are sharing so much. It’s good you aren’t affected by that. Your body is learning how much milk to produce for your baby and it also fluctuates throughout the day. Such an interesting process!
This is so true! If you are feeding your baby only your breastmilk you are making exactly the amount they need day to day. If you are pumping and storing you are over producting. A bit of this is fine, but too much can cause oversupply which is an issue.
@Colleen-m4k There's nothing wrong with an oversupply,I had a lot of an oversupply the second my 1st was born and just had to lower the supply myself for both babies. Some people just naturally oversupply, and there's nothing wrong or issues if you do or don't have one,the issues come about when it's not a natural thing(:
@ yeah it’s not a bad thing. Some people make it seem like it’s normal for everyone so those who are struggling with breastfeeding can feel pressure and lacking if their experience is not that way.
My daughter went thru much of what you are going thru. She agonized over breast feeding, and eating and sleeping schedules. It takes awhile for the routines to set in. I hated to see her stress over it so much. I found that when she was a baby her sleep schedule and eating schedule naturally evolved. The doc gave guidelines on feeding and it seems things evolved into her having a morning nap and a longer afternoon nap. After having oatmeal (more filling), she began sleeping all night. All babies are different some on the all night thing. But it takes awhile for the routines to take place. The sleep sacks though were so helpful. They know it’s bedtime or naptime when the sleep sacks though goes on and it helps calm them. I’m 61 but love watching you and I remember these feelings so well. Good luck to your Mom and Dad as they begin their move!
I love how open you’re being in these vlogs, right now my daughters are 4 & 5 years old but I would’ve killed to feel less crazy when they were newborns, especially with my first born. She never took a bottle, we spent so much money on different bottles and formulas and she just never took it for I breastfed for an entire year & 6 months until one night I broke down and couldn’t anymore, motherhood is so rough and it feels so lonely but when you’re up in the middle of the night for feedings remember there’s thousands of other mamas doing the same 🩷 big hugs to you🩷
I’m 3 weeks postpartum currently and have been loving this content! I was dealing with milk supply issues (not making as much as baby needed) and tried power pumping twice a day for three days and I feel like that really helped my supply go up. Also for the spectra pump I switched to settings 70, 54, 70, 38 each for 5 minutes. ❤
I am 5 weeks postpartum and just want to say THANK YOU so much for being so honest and real! I get so excited when you post a new video because your experience has been so relatable and I’m just a few weeks behind you ❤ everything down to pumping less than you needed for a feed makes me feel so much less alone. You are an amazing Mom and are doing an incredible job! 😊
Hi Clancy! I love your channel I’ve been following you since your college days. You always brighten my day!
Congrats on baby Decker!! How adorable. We were pregnant at the same time time actually. I had my 3rd baby in October. I now have a 3 yr old, 1.5 yr old, and a 2 month old. And I’m telling you, I love it!! Hard days, yes, but way more good than bad. Once you find Decker’s rhythm I know you will tackle each day with confidence and ease!
The newborn phase can be tricky, but something that has helped me with each of my 3 kids is the baby’s “eat, play, sleep” cycle. I wonder if this might help Decker sleep during the day better in case he’s over tired and not resting well. Basically I would nurse on both sides, then diaper change to keep him awake for his “play/awake” time, then by the time he gets fussy again I know he’s tired and ready for his nap. I would either rock to sleep or baby wear to sleep. And then when the nap is over, I’d feed and the cycle would begin again. It helped me find my rhythm throughout the day and made things more predictable. Not sure if that helps at all but it worked for all 3 of my kids and made me feel more confident when the baby cried I knew why they were crying. Holding the baby and bouncing on our medicine ball also helped get him to sleep! That was a game changer for my husband when he felt helpless haha.
Wishing you the best in your motherhood!! You are such a positive light, way to keep things real. You got this!
You and your family are doing great! Going places as a new mom is stressful! You will get into a routine and one for leaving the house. I highly recommend having an emergency diaper kit in the car with a changing pad, diapers, wipes, and a change of clothes. Thanks for showing the good and hard moments!
Be patient with yourself. It’s hard being a mom. You’ll learn what works and it will get better.
Count to 10 and take a deep breath. All of this will pass-I promise! I'm way past the baby stage, but I still remember the struggles. You are doing great! Give yourself some grace having a baby isn't easy. Take Decker to the doctor when necessary and never question your judgment. Hang in there!
Sleep deprived driving is as bad as drunk driving your brains tired. Please don’t drive when u feel like this. It’s not worth it.
This 100% I’m chronically ill and the main reason I rarely drive is because of my chronic fatigue. People just don’t understand how dangerous it is.
Sometimes, you have no other choice,congrats if you do(:
So relatable! You're doing great! I remember for my first, I was so excited to rush through the steps (eating solids, crawling, walking) 😂 but that's when all the hardest (but wonderful 😊) times come, because you are constantly worried they're going to fall, hit their head, touch and outlet, grab something they shouldn't lol! When the second one came around I appreciated the baby phase so much more because I knew the tornado that was waiting for me after 😂😂 can't wait to see you fully immersed in this and you are going to be the best mom ever!! ❤
This was so refreshing! Most people don’t share the hectic part of motherhood and this vlog really cheered me up! Thank you for sharing
Just wanted to say you are doing freaking awesome. Postpartum is HARD, even with great support. You’re crushing it, please be kind and gentle with yourself ❤️
You hair looks amazing! 😍 love the inspo from momma Burke but the chocolate is also so cute
Clancy find a good lactation consultant to help you! It makes such a difference. I could not get much of a stash either. And I rarely got a full feeding. I did triple feeding (nursing, bottle, pump) for 3 weeks which was so tough at the time but it did help my supply so much!
I hate giving any kind of mom advice but I hope you see this! I COMBO FED both of my kids, pediatrician loved it , they both mostly got formula , but I breast fed them 2-3x a day, direct feeding with my first, and strictly pumping with my second. I wasn’t a good supplier with either . When I’d pump I’d only get .5oz to 1 oz out of each breast.
So I didn’t have to give up on my dream of breast feeding I just did both ! No issues! Just read about it when you get a chance, it saved my mental health to ❤️
Once you learn to breastfeed in the baby carrier it’s sooo easy to go out with the baby! I exclusively nurse and I just feed my baby in the carrier. I get a few breastfeeding shirts with zippers…. Life changing. It gets easier!!
You are doing a great job being a mommy😊 Thank you so much for posting about your motherhood/post partum journey. I also had a baby boy in Sept and a rough start to post partum.
The Moms on Call book has been a lifesaver for us for starting a schedule! We started initiating the schedule around 9ish weeks when our son started sleeping longer stretches at night but still waking up around 2-3am. Once he got used to the schedule we were able to eliminate the 2am feed.
I had two born, April and May, at the beginning of the year and two at the end of the year, November and December. The 2 at the end of the year cried a lot and didn't sleep. The 2 at the beginning were the best babies that slept great.
Keep going to those groups!! They helped me so much. I was super anxious taking my first born out by myself.
I remember my first couple outings, and the word ticking time bomb is exactly right! Your worries are totally valid, nothing crazy about new mom anxiety❤❤❤
I love your transparency. You are helping so many mamas ♥️
Clancy I just want to hug you. I know exactly how you feel. I actually didn't leave my house with my kiddo by myself. If hubby didn't go I didn't go or I just left myself and got what I needed. You got this, Clancy, and you are doing a great job. 💜💙
Okay you are wearing him and he has his sucker and you NAILED THIS!!!! I was so proud you girl!!!!!
Praying for you Clancy. You seemed very anxious in this video. Very sleep deprived. It will get better. Keep pushing. Give yourself grace and try to slow down a little. You are doing a great job!
Thanks for the smiles 😊 take care ❤ see ya Saturday
I never comment but Clancy you look so beautiful (as always) and I love your hair!
Clancy nothing is worth u and ur baby's safety. Thankfully it wasnt a serious accident, but if ur going to be late, just be late for the sake of being safe and collected and calm. Glad it wasnt serious tho❤❤
I’m so glad you have cleaners coming! I can do that this time around with baby number 2 and I’m definitely doing it
My baby experience was exactly the same. My baby hardly ever napped. We really didn’t get a schedule until about 9 months old. You are doing great and what you are feeling is justified. ❤
Mom tip of 6** This is our 6th earth baby (I’m due in 8 weeks) we have one angel baby- and girlie I promise this is the thick of it and it gets easier, you have my word. Babywearing saved me with my last baby because she sounds like she was just like decker - I used to think wait are you even an infant hahah!!! It really helped until she was big enough to entertain herself with music and toys and stuff. ❤❤
Hang in there! Thankfully everyday is a new day! Also baskets for the hall cubbies/Ashers treats might be nice!
Happy Holidays 💕
PS!
Pacifiers are absolutely the BOMB!
Giving it to him regularly will encourage him!
Thank you!! And yess, I think baskets would be so nice there!
Still working on getting him to like the pacifier 😒 haha
This vlog was so refreshing to see, it is so comforting as a mom to see that someone else can relate to the struggles! You are doing amazing!!
In case you haven’t already, I would check with your car seat manufacturer to see if your car seat needs to be replaced. Some manufacturers require replacement no matter how small the accident is. You don’t want to mess with car seat safety!
I’m a mom to an almost 2 year old, I know getting out of the house is hard but the more you do it the easier it gets, you slowly learn what works best for you. Motherhood definitely builds your problem solving skills lol
I have a 12 week old so just a few weeks ahead of you!! A few things- we are just now at the point where I can put my baby down for a while to play, not to nap. Contact naps only here lol! A mom’s group was LIFE CHANGING TO ME!!! And also you inspired me to eat chocolate oats lol
Becoming a new mom and being a parent is the absolute hardest job in the world! And you cant even prepare for the things you may experience. Your baby is the sweetest, cutest, most demanding job you will ever have. Your life is not your own and you learn that no matter what, baby demands to be first. It will get easier and better as time goes on. Some babies are more demanding and some are just chill. Your life changes is way you can't even imagine but you would never give it up for anything. Enjoy it now because you will turn around and he will be grown and you will wonder where all the years have gone. You are doing great Clancy. You are a great mom. And it's ok to be stressed sometimes. You have never experienced this. How can you not be anxious. It's ok! 🙏👣💙🎄☃️🎅🙏👍🙏
This was all so relatable on soooooo many levels! From "I thought the baby would sleep but.. nope no sleeping"- my son never ever napped or slept even close to what others said their kids did and I spent so many months thinking I was doing everything wrong but some kids are just not good sleepers.
Also I was never formally diagnosed with "thrush" but my ob said it was still a yeast. The most painful thing EVER and knives...like you said. I highly suggest looking up APNO cream/grapefruit seed extract/boiling all parts and bras vs just washing and steaming.
Clancy...
You're doing great! Give yourself grace and celebrate the small wins. Everyone's experience is different and unique. Tune out the haters and trust yourself. You know your baby best.
The "Boy mama" hat, my heart melted ❤
Thank you so so much for sharing everything with us Clancy💗🥹
It’s okay to feel the way you do! When I had my first 21 years ago, my coffee addiction started. I was sleep deprived and still having to go to work. It was horrible.
Clancy you are a great mom
You look gorgeous !! Hair and face waw❤ do you mind sharing what foundation you had on in the first clip? Dying to have it
I am so happy to see your new videos ❤ First of all, your dedication and work ethic is absolutely outstanding!
Thank you for your posts. I'm also postpartum 1 month it helps to know we are not alone with ups and downs and the struggles are shared❤😄
Put baskets in the drop zone area. Will look so much neater. I think it would help your stress about it.
My daughter was so easy right from day one. Slept 6 hours at night, breastfed exactly 4 hours apart, napped. My son was very different. He ate every single hour on the hour. 24 times a day. For two straight weeks. Then he ate every two hours from 2 weeks old to 7 weeks old. Then switched to every 4 hours with only one night feeding. I feel for you!!!
During my 15m breastfeeding journey I was notorious for clogged ducts on one side. Advil and ice helped me most ❤ a big misconception is that they’re actually “clogged” it’s mainly inflammation so best to treat with ice rather than heat. It’s just what worked for me ❤️ you’re doing amazing!
You’re doing great! When my daughter was born, she was my first child. She slept for the first two weeks of her life. After that she’s been awake. She’s now 22. My son when he was born, he slept until he was 14 months still to this day. He sleeps a lot and he is 19.
Clancy, for real, it is so hard! Major kudos to you for breastfeeding - I pumped milk for my babies and supplemented with formula, because I could never pump enough. So frustrating. Also, so proud of you for going out and about with Decker! It is a daunting experience the first time and I'm sure your car accident didn't help. But girl, you're doing great. ❤
Thank you so much!🥹❤️
Once our daughter was out of the newborn phase, her naps were down to around 30 mins. Almost 5 months and she takes (4) 30 min naps between when she wakes up (7am) and bedtime (7pm), with the first (2) naps being more predictable. I’ve just learned to do what i have to get done while trying to incorporate carrying her around.
She sleeps well during the night so I like to think of these cat naps as a trade off…which I hands down will take if it means she give us at least 5-8hrs of continuous sleep. 😂
That’s awesome that you guys are on a schedule - I dream of that haha and I 1000% agree…I’d rather the overnight sleep!!
Clancy! I’m a FTM and got a lot of recommendations from moms I know IRL to check out the Taking Cara Babies course, I actually put it on my registry and someone gifted it so I’ve already started watching the modules. It’s some great guidance about baby soothing/napping/sleeping that does not rely on cry it out sleep training at all. I’m so excited to put in practice after all the people I know claiming it changed everything for them!
I have a 6.5 month old boy. We are lucky if we get a 40 minute nap in. His typical naps are 30 minutes or less. Has been that way since he was born. Still wakes up a couple of times per night occasionally but we don’t do night feedings anymore. Hang in there mama, you’re not alone! It’s discouraging to hear about babies taking 2-3 hour naps and sleeping through the night.
You got this Clancy!!
Baby wearing creates a safe space for your baby as they get older. I started baby wearing when my daughter was newborn and now at 19 months we still have cuddles before bedtime and when she’s sick in our carriers (I’m a nutcase that has a carrier for every age and situation lol).
Lovvee you guys❤
clancy you are doing amazing! Type A personalities are by far the hardest! I am the same way as you. I am 14 weeks PP and couldn't do the laundry, dishes or clean the house for a while. It is so hard with a newborn! Have you looked at the Snoo? We are finally getting longer overnight sleep, and daytime naps are easier. It rocks baby to sleep. Sleep is crucial for survival!
I love your vlogs You put a smile on my face when Indont feel likecit
My daughter was the same way as a newborn. She’s 2.5 now and still doesn’t sleep lol. She dropped all of her naps “early” and stopped napping totally before she turned 2. I put it in quotes because every baby is different. I tried all of the tricks but she just doesn’t have high sleep needs 🤷🏻♀️ She never took a bottle or a pacifier and cried a TON and it was really hard. I’ve enjoyed every stage since then more and more as she gets older. She sleeps through the night ~75% of the time now so it did get a lot better for us.
Edit: it always felt like my baby was a ticking time bomb at play groups and stuff. Sometimes she would freak out and I’d have to nurse her but most of the time it ended up being fine. I’ve learned that getting her out of the house (even now) is usually the answer. It’s amazing that you’re sharing your honest experience.
For the pain associated with mastitis, look up how to use cabbage leaves directly on the chest (don’t know if UA-cam allows the proper word!). It really helps. Nursing is best to unclog the ducts. I feel like the pump actually makes things worse. At least for me, that’s what worked! Position Decker’s mouth in all sorts of ways to relieve pain from different areas.
My Mom always babysat infants in her home, sometimes 3 or 4 at the same time. She was done with them once they started walking and talking. She always said, "They're easy to take care of, all they do is eat and poop." Of course, she didn't have to deal with night-time, or breast feeding. But, once I had my own kids, I found that mindset helped make the days seem pretty easy.
I just had my first baby in June of this year and postpartum life is not for the weak that is for sure! The judgement from others is very hard especially when you are a first time mom and you are anxious about everything. I had many moments of people coming up to me being rude. I had an older lady in the grocery store call me a cruel mother in front of a crowd of people because I didn't have a hat on my baby but let me say she was in a long sleeve shirt and pants and was wrapped in a fuzzy blanket. She was very comfortable! I also had a women comment on my weight a month after having my baby saying I can still see your baby bump and some crunches will help with that but at that time I wasn't even cleared yet to be working out. So what I have learned is ignore people and their comments. You know your baby best and you know what is best for him.
It's so hard to get out of the house as a new mom! I always feel better once we've gotten out though, my son seems to cry less when we're around strangers than when it's just us at home.
I'm sorry you've had a rough week, the first few months are full of so much change and it's such a challenge. It's also so hard when they don't nap and you don't get a break, my son also doesn't nap much so I feel your pain.. 😅
Good Lord! You silly girl, this video was very upbeat. I’m sitting here literally laughing out loud at your conversation with Zac 😂 I would have made him let me put the groceries away! 🤣
Vista print is where I got my save the dates for my wedding..we did custom magnets, everyone loved them!
I still have some in perfect shape 12 years later
The not napping baby is called a fomo baby! Mine is the same way. They love learning about the world and you will notice they meet their milestones faster than other babies!
Ina May's guide to breastfeeding was also helpful to me! I know you love a good book!
Stay dark shows your blue eyes!!💙
Oh! I feel for you with the thrush! It’s so so painful!! I was given diflucan for it. Don’t let anyone tell you it’s not hard to leave with a baby! It’s exhausting but, it goes by fast♥️