Yes, I noticed this regarding animals. Patting a dog that looked and sounded more like slapping. And definitely sexual abuse as I had the misfortune to catch them in the act. And I suspect is the basis for their narc trauma 40yrs later. Yes this is graphic but it needs to be exposed for what it is.
@@narcabusecoach I steer clear of the narc now. I now know that they are a wrecking ball to themselves and the people around them and are extremely dangerous to your sane mind.
@@pingechelon9389 When he realized I may leave him because of his emotional abuse he bought me a lab puppy that I adored. Few days later he wanted to throw him out because " you love him more than you love me". Never known anyone this insecure.
@@BrolyPowerMaximum they are demonic especially when you encounter middleaged older ones. They know exactly what they're doing and who they are and they don't care or feel the need to repent and seek therapy.
@@BrolyPowerMaximum, You are mistaken about the, "Golden Child." Do you know about the formation/development of the "Golden Child" narcissist? No excuses for narcs. I don't pardon them for anything and I know it sounds mean, but I careless about what or basically none at all abuse they have experienced. The narcs. need to hold people accountable for their so called abuse, or just being a spoiled, enabled, coddled brat, and bully. To hold others responsible for their abuse when you were not even there or even perpetrated their so called abuse. Did you know that narcissists make up stories of abuse or if abuse occurred they embellish their stories to high heaven to make it more believable. Narcissists lie about everything and that also includes stories of abuse to gain attention, sympathy, and for their partners to experience guilt and dismiss thoughts to leave the relationship. Also, they use suicide threats to keep them locked in the relationship for fear their significant other will commit suicide. People who are committed to a plan of suicide most times say nothing to others about their plan and don't write a letter, but some do though. When you are dealing with a narcissist and for years and years they have made threats to kill themselves and if they were serious about it they would have done it along time ago.
Same here. Said he was all about truth …even had a tattoo on his arm with a Chinese symbol for honesty. Turns out he is the biggest liar I have ever known. Nothing but a hypocritical liar. The honesty he talked about was expecting it from others but never to give it
1. They can micromanage your life, but they need their "space". 2. You owe them every bit of information about yourself including what you are thinking, but they owe you none. 3. Your money is "our money", but their money is theirs and theirs alone. 4. You need to prioritize them above all else, however you are at the bottom of their list of priorities. 5. They need not reply to your texts or attend your calls because they are "busy". However, you better attend their calls, if you don't want to lose the Narc. 6. They don't owe you an apology for their bad behavior, but you owe them one even if it isn't your fault. 7. They are free to broadcast your personal information, even sensitive information as they wish. However, you need to guard their information with your life. 8. When they fail, you should automatically understand it wasn't the Narc's fault. However, you should take full responsibility for your failures and expect to be publicly humiliated. 9. You should spend a good time closing their skill gaps, however they will bully and humiliate you when they know something you don't. 10. They can abuse you all they want, but if you do as much as state facts, you are being "harsh".
They don’t like to be “checked” or challenged when you catch them in lies and untruths. I was also told that he never wanted another relationship to work as much as he wanted ours to work but all the while being untrustworthy and cheating and constantly projecting their behavior onto you.
He told me he is a Christian but still committed adultery! I'm glad I left him. Fifteen years of infidelity. Still he feels like a righteous person. Family backed him up. They are liars, thieves, cheaters, and a major Hypocrite.
_To be fair,_ Christians aren't supposed to gossip or speak poorly of others either. The Christian bible teaches them that speaking ill of someone else is a corrupting/evil force -- unbefitting of a Christian.
Sometimes I think the narc truly believes their expressed feelings in the initial stages. But when real life sets in and the initial buzz and novelty is over, they need to find that buzz again and everyone in their path takes a hit. They are believable in the beginning because they believe it themselves. They just aren’t keepers. They rot on the vine and never mature.
Also, rules, laws, boundaries and consequences are for OTHER people who are INFERIOR to narcissists. But they themselves are allowed to break every single of them due to entitlement. They also feel they are ABOVE rules that apply to others. One example: Narcissists can check their partner's phone at all times, but don't anyone dare to even get NEAR their phone.
I know. Nothing applies to narcissists. Laws, rules, personal morals and values, societal boundaries and regulations, policy and procedures, personal and professional ethics, and so on. See, they seriously believe they are above others and are more intelligent and smarter than people such as doctors, lawyers, therapists, basically any type of professional in any given profession. Narcs. think that people in general are stupid. They think they have been bestowed with an intelligence of a genius eventhough they have not gained the education, practice, tools, and skill set to perform that particular profession. Their huge ego and grandosity proves this.
Apparently my phone rang when I was in the bathroom. My husband picked it up and it was my coworker. Husband told her to NEVER call my number again. I knew nothing about this until my coworker reported it to me later at work.....Meanwhile, he got the phone number of another of my coworkers from where I had written it down for my own reference and he put it in to HIS contacts and proceeded to start texting her. He didn't even know her! I asked him why he did that, and he said he wanted to 'keep an eye on me' to make sure I was ok when he wasn't around ????!!!!! Just text ME dude, and see if I'm ok!
Yeah I left my phone unlocked in his car while I ran into the house to pick up something I forgot. Later that day I noticed that a function within an app that I had never before used had been activated. I knew he had gone through my phone. Should have been enough to walk away but it wasn't.
I can relate to #5. My narc husband is very close to his mom and always puts her first, and yet she often treats him like a little boy. He always has double standards
This is spot on. They pretend to be incredibly loyal and obsessively jealous of you getting attention. Then the mask falls off and all they want is to cheat on you.
I have found it strange how many people, especially narcissists will complain and put up with their family, but they will discard their loyal friends for petty things that don’t compare to what the family or relatives did. Or questioning the dysfunction actions of that family may get you discarded too. That message many movies promote “Family is everything” seems kind of toxic to me?
Yes, everything was and still is a contradiction. How can somebody who always tells you he loves you, keep hurting you every single day? How can somebody who says they respect you and your opinion never listen to you and never follow your advice? How can somebody who tells you how talented you are constantly criticize everything you are doing? He controlled what i eat, what i wear, i never so much as bought a pair of underwear without his ok. He sabotaged all my beginnings as soon as I became successful at something. He wanted me to just listen to him for hours on the subjects that he knew nothing about, had no opinion and was just reading from an article and agreeing with everything. He hated his family, sister, mother and did not talk to them for years until he discarded me and now they are his best friends. When they manipulated and mentally abused him he cried on my shoulder and I defended him and now I am an enemy number 1. It's maddening and nobody in the legal system cared that we were the victims of the worst mental abuse ever.
Dear Margold, it's as if you wrote this about what I also went/going through. They use the same operating system. I'm sorry you have endured this behavior. Nobody believes you until they are affected by one. Keep spreading the word...
Margold, Terrible. Just terrible the way he treated you. I am so sorry you were targeted and caught up in his web of lies and deceit. I am all to familiar with your story as I have experienced this myself. The abuse stories he told you do you know if they are true? Did you witness the abuse he says his family perpetrated upon him? As you know narcissists lie and lie about anything and everything inorder to get attention and to further tie you up and trap you to discourage any thoughts of you to break free. Narcs. are know to lie and make up stories of abuse or embellish their so called abuse stories to high heaven to gain sympathy to prevent you from leaving and abandoning them. They can bring on the tears and can cry on demand as they are the perfect actors.
@@Prometheuspredator I saw his mother be demanding and histerical to get things from him, I saw his sister manipulate him like she manipulated her father, I saw his biological father tell him that he gave his mother money for abortion and that he has no son. I did not see how he was abused during his childhood or teenage years but what he told me about. All I know is that nobody ever loved him he was always alone and was ready to do anything to be loved. I truly loved him, he never loved me, but I thought he did, he told me he did every day. All lies, still lies, he lied in court and we've proven 99% of his lies and I still lost because the judgde had no balls. I can understand now him being an ass, but the problem is in the court system as well. Nobody cares about us and I hate the word victim, I never considered myself a victim, he was always a victim and still pretending to be one. But the system should be able to recognize narcissistic behavior and nobody gived a damn! We are being abused by our narcissistic spouses, by courts, by judges and nothing is being done to stop it, I can't ask court to protect me from narcissistic or cohersive abuse and control, because they are ignorant and see nothing but numbers on the paper.
I was married to one for 13 years my dear. He did the exact same thing to me. People (flying monkeys) I thought were my friends became his friends and my enemies. I divorced all of them 5 years ago. I had to get a good therapist and today I'm in a good place. My husband was a maglinent covert narcissist. This video is exactly what I went through.
@@umelokarnes5460, So very sorry. Oh my gosh! Terrible I know. Malignant narcissists are the worst type of narcissist on the Narcissistic Personality Disorder spectrum. They are capable of cold blooded murder. So happy that you are out and experiencing life again inside of being a target of a malignant narcissist.
TRUTH about the animals. When the relationship was ending, I decided to get a puppy. Since we never lived together, my ex Narc had zero right to an opinion regarding my getting a pet. When he came over and I showed him my Blossom, the cold and unemotional look he gave her was shocking. I started laughing at his lack of interest and asked him what was wrong. Then I made a joke about whether he was jealous of my pup and he said nothing. 2 weeks later I dumped him. I have had my Blossom of 13 years and it was definitely a trade up!
My narc husband suggested I get a kitten, which I did. A few months later he became jealous of it and said openly that he thought I loved the cat more than him. When a stray showed up, I wanted to keep it (we lived rural and lots of property and cats keep the rodents down). He said if I adopted the stray I would have to get rid of the first cat. I held my ground but used psychology. I successfully convinced him that the stray had a very strong attachment to him. I had to purposely step back and not bond with this cat. But it worked, and before I knew it, my competitive husband was trying to prove 'his' cat was so much better than mine. Had both cats over a decade.... I eventually divorced the husband.
Narcissism needs to be put out there more where it can be understood more than just by us that have suffered by it. They do everything by being sneaky so that everyone believes them and we are the ones stuck. So infuriating,!!!!!
It’s going to be difficult. I notice many tv shows and movies have narcissist characters in them as family, yet it seems somewhat acceptable to put up with them and act as though it’s just normal family drama.
It is getting somewhat better. The younger generation is becoming familiar with the term, "narcissists" and are becoming more aware about their toxic behavior. My niece is 21 years old and she has encountered more than one narcissist and she is becoming more aware and educated about them.
Great video and thank you Danish. They have 2 personalities...Fake nice Fake charm...and the evil personality. To use both personalities brings about Fake charm and shockingly evil things.
Its amazing how on point all the traits are. The lovebombing phase and the discard stage reactions for all traits are matching in my case. I still miss her, but it was always a losing battle for me in terms of it always being me against her family. Even if to a neutral eye the fault would lie with members of her fam, I would somehow be blamed for it! Threats and verbal abuse was a common thing from members of her family too. Amazing, absolutely staggering how uncanny the traits matchup to be ! Trying to heal. Thanks Danish ! 🌻
The know it all contrary narcissist has shocking double-standards, they are unable to self-reflect in any way, shape or form. Their stubborn denial won't let them see the truth of things.
I hear you. It’s unbelievable these people exist… and so many people will still think they are so amazing and wonderful…and you’re there as a shell of a person on the side of the road doubting your existence. Don’t let them !!!!❤
There not sick at all, but very healthy and always on the prowl for a new target. You or someone else, people in general they are ready to feast at anytime.They don't have a disease or virus, but they are truly evil, evil, evil.
I saw the dynamic between my ex Narc and his family. They were completely dysfunctional and when we were driving home his mask slipped and the rage was exposed. I felt sorry for him but also I knew then there was serious damage.
My mom is a Narc. I lost so much time... and no career ... I was blindfolded... now I see things... I am an abandoned scapegoat child. Now I empty handed.. only God's Miracle can save me. Physical abuse was also part of it.
Danish, Sounds just like my Ex toxic Narc Girlfriend who after 15 years of dating not even living together. I finally had to walk away from her you described to her to a T. I got very tired of her Future Faking BS. Being taken for granted used the last 2 years she became the Devils Daughter always a taker and never a giver. Selfish, Insecure, Jealous, No empathy. Always the Poor Victim. Once they know that you now know who they are and they can no longer get what they need from you SUPPLY. Your done. Like you never even existed. They go to there Ex's or a New Supply toy.. Narcs Sucks. Going No Contact and Total Silent on her was my best move ever. You always put out GREAT Videos.
Do yourself a favor. If you're dealing with a natc.....GET THE HELL AWAY! It will NOT get better. They will NOT change. You will stress yourself out and run yourself crazy trying to deal with the BS. I speak from experience. Nothing u do will ever be good enough. It's not worth it.
The part on animal abusing strikes me because after I left my narcissistic husband five months ago I heard several stories from different people on him abusing animals (dogs, cats, sheep, horses). Once I caught him when he was literally throwing one of our sheep into the land while he first let her escape by opening the gate… I confronted him and he became furious. It was all my fault because he did not want to have sheep and he had to do all the work (which is not true!).
Wow! Hit the nail on the head for the last sign. I love animals and my two dogs. My ex went as far as getting into a vet assistant program just to give up after first semester, it was too much hard work. She mirrored everything about me, but I payed attention to her actions and how she treated my dogs. Kick them, pull on their legs, force them outside, say they stink, ugly etc… But to the outside world she used them as her main talking point in convos with random people. And I agreed to foster kittens, it was just more screaming and frustration from her. It didn’t make any sense to me like why. Then she “needed” a therapy kitten. Got one and she treated it like dirt. She wanted to me to get rid of one of my dogs, I said hell no your leaving before my dog. Narc injury occurred lol
@@josephc235, Yea!!!! Happy that you kicked her out the front door. My ex fiance wanted me to get rid of my animals. I call them my companions and family members. I said no and could not do that. I quess my animals and working a part time job on weekends to subsidize my full time job got the best of him and after 6 months he discarded me. Since then I have not responded to any of his attempts to make contact. I went into no contact mode eventhough I didn't know what "go no contact" meant, but i cut him out, eventhough the emotional pain was excruciating and devastating for me i immediately terminated him out of my life. He called insistently, stalked me, and broke into my home, but ignored him and never retaliated. I was not gonna allow fear run my life as he would have liked and make contact to confront him. No way! I was determined that I was not going to allow him to project, patronize, and gaslight me. I also had an ex friend who said, "I hate you. I hate you stupid bird! I jumped her s..t., but in a short matter of time I discarded her and never made any attempts to reconnect with her eventhough she has numerous times attempted to reconnect.
@@Prometheuspredator These people are evil, sounds like you went through psychopathic narcissist. Glad your okay and made it out! They alums start out loving every little thing about your life then slowly start tearing it down, sick people.
The first time my small and super sweet dog met the narc, he was barking really aggressively towards him. He has never done that before or since to anyone!! I mean my dog knew.. 🤗 Should have listened to my dog lol.. 7 months it took, but I finally had enough of his BS and drama and I kicked him out, literally..
Yes true, in my case too, dogs bark soo aggressive to him , aftermath of betrayal only i think dogs are capable to sense what their evil intentions are
Oh yes my narc husband and his mother and sisters would act like their a couple. I’m an outsider. Very painful and confusing Thank you for clearing that up. Could never figure out what this weird closeness was
I experienced all of these with the ex-wife. Being in an addictionship with a narcissist is really mental and emotional abuse on so many levels. She was a walking hypocrite! Speaks badly about her ex who cheated on her and cheated during our marriage, and this is just one of many contradictions. This female makes you feel more manly than anyone else you have ever come across and its all fake. The point you made about you being made to feel that you must outdo all her exes or you feel like you have to prove that you know her better than anyone else, especially her exes is so accurate man!
A new hire had a prominent tattoo that said "radiate kindness"..she seemed kind at first..but overtime her true self emerged. She was lazy, selfish, entitled and lacked the discipline and focus to do her job. She often walked off the job and distracted others from doing their job. She didn't like the more productive workers and often trashed them behind their backs. When she was told to get back to work, she threatened to report the person for "bullying" her. She was removed from the facility after a few people complained they were tired of cleaning up after her. She created a really toxic environment where right was wrong and wrong was right. I finally realized the tattoo was nothing more than virtue signaling. Things really improved after she left.
He and his mother had a love-hate relationship. It was so confusing. She would send him greeting cards to a great father and son. This man had nearly 20 kids and he picked a child to be the flavor of the month. That came from her own mouth. He told me he had only 1 child. His mother covered for him when I called her. She wouldn't confirm what I discovered. Later, when I discarded him she told on him. She's is just as crazy as he is.
Oddly enough her family was not only their own little cult. They were all actually in a cult. In the beginning of the relationship (lovebombing). I spoke my thoughts and fears of organized religion. They were mirrored back to me with what she said were her thoughts and feelings on the subject. Later on in the relationship. I found myself the blacksheep of the gatherings with not only the family but the circles of friends from within the organization. I find it refreshing to know that this was not just in my head. You are an amazing and caring man for your work. Thank you Danish. God bless.
When sis was a teen someone ask what she wanted for Christmas she said hell that she wanted hell I 🙏 ed earnestly she would dream she went the before she actually did she did. And seem to have a conversation but never stopped her meanness. and abuse and head game's so it seems she's making her choice.
Narcs learn new tactics as they go as well so if you point out they keep saying "all their exes were toxic and crazy" so what does that say about them then they'll add in a "token" one who wasn't (based on the fact she supported his toxicity until he sabotaged things), if you mention their repetitive victim story and how 99% of whatever they say is full of lies, hate, resentment, insults, sarcasm, negativity and blaming others... who conveniently aren't ever there to give their side of the story... they'll add in a really shallow flaw or two of their own such as admitting they gave that friend who stole from them their bankcard so they could pay bills when they were unwell, etc., it's like a relentless avalanche of myriad tactics that mess with our minds as we're constantly being mentally and emotionally challenged to reconcile contradictory, hypocritical, dissonant, mixed messages that never add up consistently and this makes us sick, drained and exhausted over time. And they love it as they're sadistic to boot. 🤯🔎😈😏😇🔍☹️
So much information here. I have been wondering where the self of me went. I'm just a shadow person, an empty shell. He adores his mother. She is a wild one. I wondered where the cats went.
My mother would make a big deal about how sad it was to see an injured and handicapped animal in media, but at the same time regularly beat her dogs and yell at them and and treat them in the most inconsistent ways imaginable.
@sonja7halcyon ,yes, that makes sense ! This is the truth... However, narcissistics can be different- some of them are cruel, others are not so cruel. .
I was born into a Narcissistic family. Those were various types. All lack empathy and all painted false scenarios. All are do not contact now. They got their wishes. To squish me via deception of logical help. And they all knew my true path was my strength, therapy and created to help others achieve. Over the past year I've woken up to the schemes and I'm finally on a path to logical healing in a very broken world typically ran by narcissist.
Within the two weeks of talking to her, she actually told me that it's just easy to be honest because then you don't have to worry about trying to keep up lies. She then proceeded to lie about pretty much everything.
My ex boyfriend was extremely enmeshed with his mother. He was a grown man in his late 50s and living with his mother. Initially, I had thought it was because he was financially recovering from his divorce but as I really got to know him, I saw some serious red flags. The first red flag was that he had to call his mother when we were out on a date because he had to check on with her. At first, I thought that it was kinda cute but then I thought "this is very strange." Then as I got to know him, I felt that it was a bit creepy because his sister and her husband also lived with the elderly mother. I didn't like the way he treated me either. I felt more like a kitchen maid than I did a mate as we rarely went anywhere or did anything. The last straw was my ah ha moment when he was sitting in my kitchen waiting for me to cook and serve him. I had just gotten out of the hospital a few days earlier recovering from severe anemia and was exhausted. He sensed that I was not happy with him being in my home and he left and said that he was going to his mother's house to spend the weekend. At this point in our relationship, he had moved out of his mother's house and took an apartment 4 hours away BUT here's the thing. Initially I thought that he finally was ready to break free from his mother's control and live his own life. Nope! He had to get that apartment because he had started a new job which was 4 hours away from his mother's house. So, on the last day of our relationship, he left my apartment and decided to not go home to his own apartment but instead travel 4 hours to his mother's house to sleep on the couch the rest of the weekend 😳. He was without a doubt a covert narcissist. He hated his sister and her husband but preferred to live there with them. He had a six figure salary and slept on his mother's couch. His mother stunted his emotional development. He never had the emotional freedom to explore life. His father was extremely controlling and abusive and his mother was way over nuturing. I got the hell away from him as I discovered that this was a nest of narcissists. Sick beyond belief
@@AT-yd1vj He was definitely a covert narcissist because he constantly violated my boundaries and ignored me whenever I tried to reinforce them. In addition, he also hijacked my belongings and tried to claim them as his own. For example, my car. He had his own car but he wanted to drive my car and then he took it upon himself to disconnect one of the features on MY car without my consent. This is only one of many things that he did.
The guy must be from those countries where the mom is jalouse of their daughter in law. My friend was married to this doctor . His mom moved herself with them. The parents always move with the oldest son. He used to sleep with his mom in her bed. The very first night he was embarrassed to sleep with him mom, so the mom came to their bedroom they slept 3 of them together the wife, husband / son in the middle and the mom.
Yessss!!!! I have a child with one just like that. I can identify with everything that you've stated. Initially it does seem nice how they interact with their Mom ,but you slowly start to see something isn't right. My son is 10 yrs old and haven't seen them in 5 years. I don't mind because I don't want my son around them they are really strange.
Oh my gosh!!! I am so very sorry. God Bless her/his little heart 😥😟🥺. I hope you have seriously thought about dumping her for life seriously. Don't take a risk to give her 2nd and 3rd chances she sounds very dangerous and evil.
My wife calls me a wife beater in front of my children after my case was dismissed of the criminal charges of DV. She outright set me up before i knew she was a narcissist.
I was raised by 2 narcissists, and have not been able to get the emotional/psychological distance yet though I have been no contact since running away when I was 17. I didn't know my parents were narcissists, and it took a series of abusive relationships before I started to come into awareness. My last ex lied about everything, and I mean everything. The most confusing for me in addition to the cheating (in person and online) was how he lied about his age. He let me celebrate his birthday year after year and the whole time I though he was 6 years older than he was. I only found out because one day I borrowed his car for work while mine was in the shop. I accidentally got locked out and had to call AAA. When they arrived I was told they could not let me into the vehicle because it wasn't registered to him at all. It turned out that it was his mothers! Long story short, he had to verify his identity over the phone while on a 3 way with his mom and the AAA agent. When they asked his age I almost fell over when he revealed the truth. (of course he had told me HE owned the car as well but omg the age thing really knocked me back!)
So true regarding cheating. My Narc showed up at my door unannounced one night, he thought he heard someone in my home before I opened the door. The look on his face when I opened the door was hilarious and I laughed at how appalled he looked for no reason. Jealous as hell.
Again I'm listening to you and 27 seconds into your talk and again you nail it on the head of my relationship with my husband of 18 years. Is my younger son said to me, "Mom, he is saying one thing but his feet and body are walking towards the other woman."
Yes!!! So shocked because he apparently offered therapy for PTSD patients and was a Forensic Analyst. Cannot believe he was like he was with me!!!! Everyone saw him as a great person, omg!
Know your reality even though he has fooled everyone else. That's plain cowardly and evil. Get your validation from the comments section. We all know what they are like behind closed doors. Jekyll and Hyde.
The narc I know is seen as a very wonderful, helpful person on the outside but boiling hot temper and revengeful behind closed doors. No one is exempt from these peoples cruelty; not unless you know who they are.
OMG at the end of our relationship when my ex knew he was losing control of me I was taking singing lessons. The man would literally QUIT his job, he did it 3 different times, then tell me " well you have to quit your singing lessons now, we can not afford it!" The last time he did it I told him " I pay for them out of MY check, I still have MY income, YOU quit, YOU deal with YOUR bills, I am still doing my lessons" and I refused to stop! He was PISSED! I hated him by then!
I think I am one of a few who didn't have a love bombing stage. Apparently, he expected me to leave quickly. It lasted 5 years and in between there was sporadic love bombing. Your videos are very helpful, thank you. Yes, he lied daily. About nearly everything. He treats our dog very non feelingly. Last time we talked, he said he tried to do some of the things I did, like hug the dog. But he really seems to love the cat . hmm
Daaaaamn... now i know why his mother was calling him every day even though they live in different countries. Who gets a call from a mother every day when hes 40??!!!! Disturbing AF. Dayum... there is some real traumatic shit going on there. I know his father was an alcoholic and was humiliating towards them...
I had several omgggg moments listening to this video. Every single point was spot on even the last animal care... so so so glad I got away before it was too late.
1. Helping other old persons in the community vs never helping their own parents. 2. Isolating you vs Socializing themselves. 3. claims of simplicity vs materialistic tendencies. 4. having a family vs being a bottom gay. 5. for you to be available 24/7 vs themselves being absent when needed. 6. Prayers/religious practices vs sexual escapades. 7. Hating you vs befriending you. 8. wanting sex vs withholding it just because you want it too. 9. marrying vs sex with total strangers. 10. being good to you on your face vs tarnishing you behind your back. I feel no.10 has not been discussed enough in the mainstream. I would like a video on that. My narc is never bad to me on my face.
In simple term "double standards" is what characterized narcissist. They are not just hypocrite, they truly believe that they are above others and as such, they have one rule for themselves (superiors) and another rule for their "inferiors" (us) It is not surprising to hear a narcissist say, I have the right to criticize you out of "love" but don't dare do to me the same thing. I heard one toxic man shouting at his wife but when the wife reacted and shouted back, he blamed her for her reaction stating that as a man (superior) he has the right to shout at her if she "misbehave" but women should be obedient and as such she has no right to shout at him. When a child makes a mistake the parents have right to publicly criticize him but the child in the other hand should not dare criticize adults because it is disrespectful etc I noticed that narcissist apply the issue of double standard only to those they consider inferior, they are pretty open to people they consider higher than them.
Hey Danish, I can't watch the video right Now, but Ijust wanted to say- Ican Answer the Question Perfectly that just Popped onto My Screen. "Are Narcissists Hypocrits?" - Most Definitely!!! I'll be able to watch the Video in a Couple of Hours.
Friends who claim that you are their best friends, but only contact you like every two or three months, and whenever they DO contact you, they play the can we borrow some money? We will pay you back on payday card. Then being the forgiving empaths we are, we forgive them on the im sorry can’t afford to pay you back, we’ll get it next time, or they say we’re best friends and friends don’t ask friends to pay back money.” We were stupid a few years ago. Last night I calmly told our friends, we are not loaning you money for anything anymore. We are setting boundaries.” I actually said that along with setting boundaries. Calmly , detached from emotion. She gives me this look of surprise mixed with that glare. I also brought up the fact she had commented about me to my mother in law narc on FB. Again, that surprised look and no we don’t talk about you. I couldn’t help laughing. Told her the exact conversation where and when. 😅
He was a ministers son, appeared to be a true Christian and was the opposite! Such a hypocrite yet still continues the facade. I’m a Christian and so stayed as I thought I was doing the right thing. You are spot on with th3 family cult too! Their opinion was all that mattered and I was constantly berated. My mistake has cost me my 2 adult children who he has brainwashed . They all treat me with utter contempt, abuse and disrespect. 44 year# of marriage and my wasted life. I wish I’d know this years ago. I stayed thinking I was showing my children love and forgiveness…I was teaching them abuse and disrespect…..a hugely costly mistake I will be paying for the rest of my life. Run…and keep running.
I agree they are well trained, educated in their tricks, and self taught. They learn new techniques from others. They use tricks from the past and develop new strategies, because narcissists are extremely obsessive and compulsive, and they work on new strategies to implement on new targets, also they are extremely paranoid.
@@PrometheuspredatorThank you for your answer, unfortunately he knew about his great charisma , about this the list of victims will never end. So sad, a lot of women will be captuted by him. And unfortunately he must not make any effort, the women are as naive as I was. Will they ever get stopped by someone? And the classic story: to the publicity he presented himself as a good father, as social engaged, fighting for women rights 🙈, with a strong woman by his side, engaged in several organizations 🤮🤮🤮 the classic narcissist, always to shine and glam, he needs confirmation like the air to breathe. Must tell you that I have right at the beginning a little bit of bad intuition, why did I hear not to my intern concerns?
@@Prometheuspredator He was trained by his profession in Body language, so he is an expert how to handle with people. He ist 1000 % full profiler.... I was so dum
@@Prometheuspredator But please, something I cannot understand ... I blocked every channel on earth , it is Impossible to reach me for him. WHY didn't He blocked me????? It makes me a little bit afraid of. From time to time I control my app and I wish he would delete my account. In the past I wrote him during his ghosting my descision for discard. I have never heard again from him. For normal persons you would block the other or delete the others account. So I think must be careful further on? What do you think? What sickness ist going on in his brain? I am such an unimportant uninteresting meanwhile old Woman, there are hundreds of young interesting attractive women in the world who would love to throw to the lion. Would he practize revenge some day? What ist it?
@@coolgirly6454, You are so welcome. Nothing stops a narcissist. They are full throttle for the rest of their lives. Honestly, they would live no other way, but being a narcissist meets all their needs. They get the opportunity to leave a trail of trauma behind them upon people's life's. Narcs. are adrenaline junkies as they enjoy hurting others and as one told me they get a "high" off it. Hopefully the other women who fall for his tricks will have some knowledge about narcissists and will realize the relationship is going nowhere and will jump ship sooner than later.
My biggest challenge is trying to get over her, it's crazy I just learned about reverse disgard which means they blocked you, they block PayPal if you where sending something, they deny that they are the narcissist.
My father told me that I was adopted 3 times before I was 3 months old. He was trying to convey to me that “no one can put up with how terrible you are (even as a tiny baby) and only because of our kindness, we adopted you and were kind enough to not “return” you”. My adoption records, that I sent away for, clearly state I was adopted once at 11 months old. The lies are unbelievable…and ultimately pathetic.
Danish… it is as though you had a camera in my home and took notes before you made this video because every single thing you said was experienced, every detail. Except for the depths of the animal part lol but he did easily discard his dog as well
Omg... my ex fiance was a narcissist. My dog was always wierd about him, she barked at him every day when he got home even though we lived together for two years. She'd also try and protect me from him a few times when we were just playing. I trust my dog, and I knew something was a bit off with him after about 6 months but I never thought him dangerous to me or my dog. He used to play with her, train her, take her for walkies... He worked nights and I worked days so he had her alone almost every single day. Now I'm terrified of what he could have possibly done to her 🤮😭 trust your pets, people! They know!
Danish, you hit on the fine details that is mind blowing. Early intimacy in love bomb stage, she revealed heartbreaking details of her personal life and things she was deeply ashamed of. I was moved by the open, deep reveal and felt she trusted me with this knowledge and I, in turn could trust her. Now, I look back and it seems like the 'full court press' of a con job. She probably played that part before.
Yes we had many pets all at his request.they were terrified of him and he would abuse them in front of me to get me to leave my job or get a reaction out of me.i was married 27 yrs. I thought I could save him,crazy I almost lost me completely.
Thank you danish.your words let the healing begin gave me hope.your videos help me to understand narcissist ,to Enable me no contact. I learned about narcism . I feel like my pain has disappear and I am able to perform daily routine .God bless you.😊
“I’ll kill you if you leave me “ - he moved so fast and wanted to get married because he was trying to get even with an ex. “You took MY money” - he is the only reason why I’m $15,000 in debt and lost my home and car. He didn’t steal my savings or smoke, snort, drink and gamble money because he was my husband “You smother me” - if I intentionally stopped he would say the opposite “You’re mine!” - he was everyone else’s with his 5 Facebook accounts “You can’t work!” - we never have money because you won’t work “I was joking” - I had bite marks on my body “Go see your family. It’s your fault” - the amount of abuse I got if I left the house at all “I hate my mother” - him and his mother work together to destroy my life and they abuse me together from attacking me online to reporting me to my health insurance for fraud because she works for the company “That’s in the past. Let it go!” - but he doesn’t let anything go and months go by then he brings everything back up and hasn’t let anything go He used to kill animals when he was younger. He cares about his kids more than anything- let’s go see them/buy gifts/send cards! No. No effort to see them. It’s my fault though. He was in jail for 5 months of our 14 month marriage but it was my fault too. He is a drug addict and he cared so much about his children he failed a drug test (meth and benzodiazepines) and he violated his probation and went to jail. (I had no idea he was involved with this or a convicted felon drug addict) The list is endless. I am almost divorced.
He said I never lie in the first week. I laughed and brushed it off with the answer that that was a lie. He didnt reply. I had no idea of the extent and severity of his lies...but I found many out. He knew what he was doing and tried to get away with them by telling half truths, twisting stories and blaming me for cheating. He played me big time. But now I see and his games with me are over. He's off to the next supplies and I'm healing. Take care guys and stay educated.
The way you frame it is how I'm really getting it. Your own perspective added to your knowledge i think, is what I can relate to because the cultural aspect is what I think i was missing from doctor Raminis videos because like I've grown up in here and the language here is so much different but the ways are the same and abuse too but hard to decipher because it's so much enmeshment and narcissism is embeded in the culture and supported. I also understand because of the centuries of trauma our ancestors have been thru. So .... it's understandable this way is what I wanted to say. Thank you so much
My narc husband is a compulsive liar I hate it it drives me crazy and is affecting my mental health. He lies about the smallest of things. He is cheating on me and gaslighting me and is accusing me of cheating and accusing him. I have read the texts seen the calls coming through but tells me it’s in my head. I hope he leaves me because m my mental health is deteriorating because of him. A part of me wants to help him and a part of me hates him and can’t wait for him to leave.
My goodness. My beautiful Golden Retriever was intentionally given a Diabetic Syringe to chew on. And plus He got into her Valium Bottle all at the same time. My boy Koda was throwing up in the truck. It was a very sad night. Koda was brought to the Vets the next day. His mouth was sore and the 5Mg tablet was ingested, but thank goodness he was Ok.
I just LOVE what you just said. It's my story. Amazing how you put al things in words.My husband now is very handicapped and sick, MS if you know He became very bitter, controlling, toxic and rude. He's always been narcissistic and arrogant, 22 years of marriage and emotional abuse. Now it's getting worse since he's half paralyzed. He just lost his job b/c of disability,, and I'm gonna lose mine b/c of taking care of him. for along time .. Anyone who know what I'm talking about? anyone in this situation?
You sound like my neighbor. Her husband lost his leg to poor blood circulation. His narcissistic behavior went through the roof after that. They are now divorced, but he still comes back to have the cops called on him. She has a restraining order against him, but he doesn't care about that. She now has a guard dog. I have been trying to help her out by letting her know when I see him creeping around the neighborhood. We are on a dead end road. He has no other reason to be down here. I am divorcing my narcissistic wife now. I wish that I could stay here to help keep the neighbor lady safe, but I have to move away to protect myself. I hope that my neighbor will be able to get the peace that she deserves. You as well.
It is like you are telling my whole lifetime story. 30 years and having 4 kids with him. Your each and every video mirrors my life......he passed last year
Please heal about your loss, and forgive him about every bad thing he did. Someone says GOD divorces an abusive spouse by letting an abuser die, because that is the only way a codependent can have freedom as in normal circumstances they can't leave the situation
Two years ago I adopted a little feral kitten while my husband was on a trip. I adored her. She was AFRAID of him. I never wanted to travel and stay away from home because I could not trust that he would take good care of her.
My partner finds it very hard to accept that I'm well read as her but in certain areas know more than them. She taunts me by saying that I know everything that I'm god.
So perfect. I've gone through all this with this man just waited till my children were able to stand strong in d process i did not lose my self because of my strong spiritual awakening he even tried to shut this out i ignored every thing he put on me n was in my bliss taking each day he got concur i am good still d story is going on waiting for d end . Thank
Did you experience this?
Experienced every single point. Also turned out he is also an alcoholic.
Yes, I noticed this regarding animals. Patting a dog that looked and sounded more like slapping. And definitely sexual abuse as I had the misfortune to catch them in the act. And I suspect is the basis for their narc trauma 40yrs later. Yes this is graphic but it needs to be exposed for what it is.
They always have this element of addiction
@@narcabusecoach I steer clear of the narc now. I now know that they are a wrecking ball to themselves and the people around them and are extremely dangerous to your sane mind.
@@pingechelon9389 When he realized I may leave him because of his emotional abuse he bought me a lab puppy that I adored. Few days later he wanted to throw him out because " you love him more than you love me". Never known anyone this insecure.
They are not even hypocrites. They're just twisted. It's like they don't care about hypocrisy.
Yep, they cannot even see their own hypocrisy, not even for a second! Any problem is always someone else's fault
similar to liberals and leftists...
@@MGTOWPsycheyou have trouble with projecting your right wing insecurities in random places. Seek help
@@fincarosa exactly...!
@@fincarosa Thanks for exposing this nonsense.
The dead staring nonblinking "wolf eyes" and gaslighting is your clue that you are dealing with something not quite right or even human.
So true!
@@BrolyPowerMaximum they are demonic especially when you encounter middleaged older ones. They know exactly what they're doing and who they are and they don't care or feel the need to repent and seek therapy.
@@BrolyPowerMaximum you are so misinformed ,they are demonic, to their very core.
@@BrolyPowerMaximum, You are mistaken about the, "Golden Child." Do you know about the formation/development of the "Golden Child" narcissist?
No excuses for narcs. I don't pardon them for anything and I know it sounds mean, but I careless about what or basically none at all abuse they have experienced. The narcs. need to hold people accountable for their so called abuse, or just being a spoiled, enabled, coddled brat, and bully. To hold others responsible for their abuse when you were not even there or even perpetrated their so called abuse.
Did you know that narcissists make up stories of abuse or if abuse occurred they embellish their stories to high heaven to make it more believable. Narcissists lie about everything and that also includes stories of abuse to gain attention, sympathy, and for their partners to experience guilt and dismiss thoughts to leave the relationship. Also, they use suicide threats to keep them locked in the relationship for fear their significant other will commit suicide. People who are committed to a plan of suicide most times say nothing to others about their plan and don't write a letter, but some do though. When you are dealing with a narcissist and for years and years they have made threats to kill themselves and if they were serious about it they would have done it along time ago.
The narc expects their partner to live by certain standards, but they do not hold themselves to the same standards.
First meeting he told me "honesty and trust is everything in a relationship". Now I realize I have yet to meet someone more dishonest and cunning.
That sums it up!
That is so very true, they all have the same traits.
Ditto!
Same here. Said he was all about truth …even had a tattoo on his arm with a Chinese symbol for honesty. Turns out he is the biggest liar I have ever known. Nothing but a hypocritical liar. The honesty he talked about was expecting it from others but never to give it
@@BrolyPowerMaximum and next thing you find out is they're having an affair.
1. They can micromanage your life, but they need their "space".
2. You owe them every bit of information about yourself including what you are thinking, but they owe you none.
3. Your money is "our money", but their money is theirs and theirs alone.
4. You need to prioritize them above all else, however you are at the bottom of their list of priorities.
5. They need not reply to your texts or attend your calls because they are "busy". However, you better attend their calls, if you don't want to lose the Narc.
6. They don't owe you an apology for their bad behavior, but you owe them one even if it isn't your fault.
7. They are free to broadcast your personal information, even sensitive information as they wish. However, you need to guard their information with your life.
8. When they fail, you should automatically understand it wasn't the Narc's fault. However, you should take full responsibility for your failures and expect to be publicly humiliated.
9. You should spend a good time closing their skill gaps, however they will bully and humiliate you when they know something you don't.
10. They can abuse you all they want, but if you do as much as state facts, you are being "harsh".
Very well expressed
Exactly 💯
Facts
This is shockingly ACCURATE! The hypocrisy and contradiction is on another level with narcissists
They don’t like to be “checked” or challenged when you catch them in lies and untruths. I was also told that he never wanted another relationship to work as much as he wanted ours to work but all the while being untrustworthy and cheating and constantly projecting their behavior onto you.
He told me he is a Christian but still committed adultery! I'm glad I left him. Fifteen years of infidelity. Still he feels like a righteous person. Family backed him up. They are liars, thieves, cheaters, and a major Hypocrite.
_To be fair,_ Christians aren't supposed to gossip or speak poorly of others either.
The Christian bible teaches them that speaking ill of someone else is a corrupting/evil force -- unbefitting of a Christian.
I just got told I was selfish for asking for a first date because I didn’t want to just go over and hook up. I blocked him.
Good for you! You not a PAID ADULT COMPANION (prostitute). Oh I forgot , he wanted it for free. What a creep.
Sometimes I think the narc truly believes their expressed feelings in the initial stages. But when real life sets in and the initial buzz and novelty is over, they need to find that buzz again and everyone in their path takes a hit. They are believable in the beginning because they believe it themselves. They just aren’t keepers. They rot on the vine and never mature.
Well said!
This video is so helpful. It is like I have all the bits and pieces of knowledge swimming around but you pin it down. Thanks so much ❤
Also, rules, laws, boundaries and consequences are for OTHER people who are INFERIOR to narcissists. But they themselves are allowed to break every single of them due to entitlement. They also feel they are ABOVE rules that apply to others. One example: Narcissists can check their partner's phone at all times, but don't anyone dare to even get NEAR their phone.
I know. Nothing applies to narcissists. Laws, rules, personal morals and values, societal boundaries and regulations, policy and procedures, personal and professional ethics, and so on. See, they seriously believe they are above others and are more intelligent and smarter than people such as doctors, lawyers, therapists, basically any type of professional in any given profession. Narcs. think that people in general are stupid. They think they have been bestowed with an intelligence of a genius eventhough they have not gained the education, practice, tools, and skill set to perform that particular profession. Their huge ego and grandosity proves this.
Apparently my phone rang when I was in the bathroom. My husband picked it up and it was my coworker. Husband told her to NEVER call my number again. I knew nothing about this until my coworker reported it to me later at work.....Meanwhile, he got the phone number of another of my coworkers from where I had written it down for my own reference and he put it in to HIS contacts and proceeded to start texting her. He didn't even know her! I asked him why he did that, and he said he wanted to 'keep an eye on me' to make sure I was ok when he wasn't around ????!!!!! Just text ME dude, and see if I'm ok!
Yeah I left my phone unlocked in his car while I ran into the house to pick up something I forgot. Later that day I noticed that a function within an app that I had never before used had been activated. I knew he had gone through my phone. Should have been enough to walk away but it wasn't.
I can relate to #5. My narc husband is very close to his mom and always puts her first, and yet she often treats him like a little boy. He always has double standards
Same. They love the mothers attention. Prob #1 supply.
This is spot on. They pretend to be incredibly loyal and obsessively jealous of you getting attention. Then the mask falls off and all they want is to cheat on you.
I have found it strange how many people, especially narcissists will complain and put up with their family, but they will discard their loyal friends for petty things that don’t compare to what the family or relatives did. Or questioning the dysfunction actions of that family may get you discarded too. That message many movies promote “Family is everything” seems kind of toxic to me?
Yes, everything was and still is a contradiction. How can somebody who always tells you he loves you, keep hurting you every single day? How can somebody who says they respect you and your opinion never listen to you and never follow your advice? How can somebody who tells you how talented you are constantly criticize everything you are doing? He controlled what i eat, what i wear, i never so much as bought a pair of underwear without his ok. He sabotaged all my beginnings as soon as I became successful at something. He wanted me to just listen to him for hours on the subjects that he knew nothing about, had no opinion and was just reading from an article and agreeing with everything. He hated his family, sister, mother and did not talk to them for years until he discarded me and now they are his best friends. When they manipulated and mentally abused him he cried on my shoulder and I defended him and now I am an enemy number 1. It's maddening and nobody in the legal system cared that we were the victims of the worst mental abuse ever.
Dear Margold, it's as if you wrote this about what I also went/going through. They use the same operating system. I'm sorry you have endured this behavior. Nobody believes you until they are affected by one. Keep spreading the word...
Margold, Terrible. Just terrible the way he treated you. I am so sorry you were targeted and caught up in his web of lies and deceit. I am all to familiar with your story as I have experienced this myself. The abuse stories he told you do you know if they are true? Did you witness the abuse he says his family perpetrated upon him? As you know narcissists lie and lie about anything and everything inorder to get attention and to further tie you up and trap you to discourage any thoughts of you to break free. Narcs. are know to lie and make up stories of abuse or embellish their so called abuse stories to high heaven to gain sympathy to prevent you from leaving and abandoning them. They can bring on the tears and can cry on demand as they are the perfect actors.
@@Prometheuspredator I saw his mother be demanding and histerical to get things from him, I saw his sister manipulate him like she manipulated her father, I saw his biological father tell him that he gave his mother money for abortion and that he has no son. I did not see how he was abused during his childhood or teenage years but what he told me about. All I know is that nobody ever loved him he was always alone and was ready to do anything to be loved. I truly loved him, he never loved me, but I thought he did, he told me he did every day. All lies, still lies, he lied in court and we've proven 99% of his lies and I still lost because the judgde had no balls. I can understand now him being an ass, but the problem is in the court system as well. Nobody cares about us and I hate the word victim, I never considered myself a victim, he was always a victim and still pretending to be one. But the system should be able to recognize narcissistic behavior and nobody gived a damn! We are being abused by our narcissistic spouses, by courts, by judges and nothing is being done to stop it, I can't ask court to protect me from narcissistic or cohersive abuse and control, because they are ignorant and see nothing but numbers on the paper.
I was married to one for 13 years my dear. He did the exact same thing to me. People (flying monkeys) I thought were my friends became his friends and my enemies. I divorced all of them 5 years ago. I had to get a good therapist and today I'm in a good place. My husband was a maglinent covert narcissist. This video is exactly what I went through.
@@umelokarnes5460, So very sorry. Oh my gosh! Terrible I know. Malignant narcissists are the worst type of narcissist on the Narcissistic Personality Disorder spectrum. They are capable of cold blooded murder. So happy that you are out and experiencing life again inside of being a target of a malignant narcissist.
TRUTH about the animals. When the relationship was ending, I decided to get a puppy. Since we never lived together, my ex Narc had zero right to an opinion regarding my getting a pet. When he came over and I showed him my Blossom, the cold and unemotional look he gave her was shocking. I started laughing at his lack of interest and asked him what was wrong. Then I made a joke about whether he was jealous of my pup and he said nothing. 2 weeks later I dumped him. I have had my Blossom of 13 years and it was definitely a trade up!
Good for you. I was engaged to a guy who told me I wasn't allowed to have a dog because I would love the dog more than him. I'm glad he is gone.
@@kameshiam1674 Yes! They may be able to hide their true selves from us directly but add external triggers and the mask slips.
My narc husband suggested I get a kitten, which I did. A few months later he became jealous of it and said openly that he thought I loved the cat more than him. When a stray showed up, I wanted to keep it (we lived rural and lots of property and cats keep the rodents down). He said if I adopted the stray I would have to get rid of the first cat. I held my ground but used psychology. I successfully convinced him that the stray had a very strong attachment to him. I had to purposely step back and not bond with this cat. But it worked, and before I knew it, my competitive husband was trying to prove 'his' cat was so much better than mine. Had both cats over a decade.... I eventually divorced the husband.
@@l.5832 well done! I find it creepy bizarre that a grown man would actually be jealous of a pet. Losers!
You kept the right one 👏🏼
"I will fight my arms broken for you" were always his words on the beginning. Yet I've been the only one fighting for us for 17years
Narcissism needs to be put out there more where it can be understood more than just by us that have suffered by it. They do everything by being sneaky so that everyone believes them and we are the ones stuck. So infuriating,!!!!!
It’s going to be difficult. I notice many tv shows and movies have narcissist characters in them as family, yet it seems somewhat acceptable to put up with them and act as though it’s just normal family drama.
It is getting somewhat better. The younger generation is becoming familiar with the term, "narcissists" and are becoming more aware about their toxic behavior. My niece is 21 years old and she has encountered more than one narcissist and she is becoming more aware and educated about them.
Very exhausting dealing with those demon. The ex-husband was totally a narc from hell experience will teach you if you don't follow your gut feeling 🎯
Great video and thank you Danish. They have 2 personalities...Fake nice Fake charm...and the evil personality. To use both personalities brings about Fake charm and shockingly evil things.
This is scary.
God help us!
Its amazing how on point all the traits are. The lovebombing phase and the discard stage reactions for all traits are matching in my case. I still miss her, but it was always a losing battle for me in terms of it always being me against her family. Even if to a neutral eye the fault would lie with members of her fam, I would somehow be blamed for it! Threats and verbal abuse was a common thing from members of her family too. Amazing, absolutely staggering how uncanny the traits matchup to be ! Trying to heal. Thanks Danish ! 🌻
The know it all contrary narcissist has shocking double-standards, they are unable to self-reflect in any way, shape or form. Their stubborn denial won't let them see the truth of things.
💯🎯💥🥺😔totally unbelievable….they are sick sick sick ….😔never did i ever think they would be such dirtbags!!
I hear you. It’s unbelievable these people exist… and so many people will still think they are so amazing and wonderful…and you’re there as a shell of a person on the side of the road doubting your existence. Don’t let them !!!!❤
I never thought such beings exist..they are living curse
There not sick at all, but very healthy and always on the prowl for a new target. You or someone else, people in general they are ready to feast at anytime.They don't have a disease or virus, but they are truly evil, evil, evil.
I saw the dynamic between my ex Narc and his family. They were completely dysfunctional and when we were driving home his mask slipped and the rage was exposed. I felt sorry for him but also I knew then there was serious damage.
My mom is a Narc. I lost so much time... and no career ... I was blindfolded... now I see things... I am an abandoned scapegoat child. Now I empty handed.. only God's Miracle can save me. Physical abuse was also part of it.
Danish,
Sounds just like my Ex toxic Narc Girlfriend who after 15 years of dating not even living together. I finally had to walk away from her you described to her to a T. I got very tired of her Future Faking BS. Being taken for granted used the last 2 years she became the Devils Daughter always a taker and never a giver. Selfish, Insecure, Jealous, No empathy.
Always the Poor Victim. Once they know that you now know who they are and they can no longer get what they need from you SUPPLY. Your done. Like you never even existed. They go to there Ex's or a New Supply toy.. Narcs Sucks. Going No Contact and Total Silent on her was my best move ever. You always put out GREAT Videos.
I had a similar experience. They scatter like a bunch of cockroaches 🤣
Do yourself a favor. If you're dealing with a natc.....GET THE HELL AWAY! It will NOT get better. They will NOT change. You will stress yourself out and run yourself crazy trying to deal with the BS. I speak from experience. Nothing u do will ever be good enough. It's not worth it.
True, and great advice 👍
The part on animal abusing strikes me because after I left my narcissistic husband five months ago I heard several stories from different people on him abusing animals (dogs, cats, sheep, horses). Once I caught him when he was literally throwing one of our sheep into the land while he first let her escape by opening the gate… I confronted him and he became furious. It was all my fault because he did not want to have sheep and he had to do all the work (which is not true!).
Wow! Hit the nail on the head for the last sign. I love animals and my two dogs. My ex went as far as getting into a vet assistant program just to give up after first semester, it was too much hard work. She mirrored everything about me, but I payed attention to her actions and how she treated my dogs. Kick them, pull on their legs, force them outside, say they stink, ugly etc… But to the outside world she used them as her main talking point in convos with random people. And I agreed to foster kittens, it was just more screaming and frustration from her. It didn’t make any sense to me like why. Then she “needed” a therapy kitten. Got one and she treated it like dirt. She wanted to me to get rid of one of my dogs, I said hell no your leaving before my dog. Narc injury occurred lol
Don’t let her abuse your animals! Report her and get rid of her! I fight for animals rights!
@@madeline6177 she’s gone!
@@josephc235 🙏👍🏻
@@josephc235, Yea!!!! Happy that you kicked her out the front door. My ex fiance wanted me to get rid of my animals. I call them my companions and family members. I said no and could not do that. I quess my animals and working a part time job on weekends to subsidize my full time job got the best of him and after 6 months he discarded me. Since then I have not responded to any of his attempts to make contact. I went into no contact mode eventhough I didn't know what "go no contact" meant, but i cut him out, eventhough the emotional pain was excruciating and devastating for me i immediately terminated him out of my life. He called insistently, stalked me, and broke into my home, but ignored him and never retaliated. I was not gonna allow fear run my life as he would have liked and make contact to confront him. No way! I was determined that I was not going to allow him to project, patronize, and gaslight me.
I also had an ex friend who said, "I hate you. I hate you stupid bird! I jumped her s..t., but in a short matter of time I discarded her and never made any attempts to reconnect with her eventhough she has numerous times attempted to reconnect.
@@Prometheuspredator These people are evil, sounds like you went through psychopathic narcissist. Glad your okay and made it out! They alums start out loving every little thing about your life then slowly start tearing it down, sick people.
The first time my small and super sweet dog met the narc, he was barking really aggressively towards him. He has never done that before or since to anyone!! I mean my dog knew.. 🤗 Should have listened to my dog lol.. 7 months it took, but I finally had enough of his BS and drama and I kicked him out, literally..
Dogs can sense the energy as well as their intentions. Always listen to your dog.
Yes true, in my case too, dogs bark soo aggressive to him , aftermath of betrayal only i think dogs are capable to sense what their evil intentions are
@@barbraallbritton4222 yes true
Oh yes my narc husband and his mother and sisters would act like their a couple. I’m an outsider. Very painful and confusing Thank you for clearing that up. Could never figure out what this weird closeness was
I experienced all of these with the ex-wife. Being in an addictionship with a narcissist is really mental and emotional abuse on so many levels. She was a walking hypocrite! Speaks badly about her ex who cheated on her and cheated during our marriage, and this is just one of many contradictions. This female makes you feel more manly than anyone else you have ever come across and its all fake. The point you made about you being made to feel that you must outdo all her exes or you feel like you have to prove that you know her better than anyone else, especially her exes is so accurate man!
So disgusting , they berate you , but they are very long term unfaithful to someone you never even met
A new hire had a prominent tattoo that said "radiate kindness"..she seemed kind at first..but overtime her true self emerged. She was lazy, selfish, entitled and lacked the discipline and focus to do her job. She often walked off the job and distracted others from doing their job. She didn't like the more productive workers and often trashed them behind their backs. When she was told to get back to work, she threatened to report the person for "bullying" her. She was removed from the facility after a few people complained they were tired of cleaning up after her. She created a really toxic environment where right was wrong and wrong was right. I finally realized the tattoo was nothing more than virtue signaling. Things really improved after she left.
He and his mother had a love-hate relationship. It was so confusing. She would send him greeting cards to a great father and son. This man had nearly 20 kids and he picked a child to be the flavor of the month. That came from her own mouth. He told me he had only 1 child. His mother covered for him when I called her. She wouldn't confirm what I discovered. Later, when I discarded him she told on him. She's is just as crazy as he is.
Everything you are talking about, I’ve experienced with with my ex narcissist boyfriend!
Lies, cheats, on the down low, datig sites, running 28 women currenty.
He has done everything you mentioned!
Oddly enough her family was not only their own little cult. They were all actually in a cult. In the beginning of the relationship (lovebombing). I spoke my thoughts and fears of organized religion. They were mirrored back to me with what she said were her thoughts and feelings on the subject. Later on in the relationship. I found myself the blacksheep of the gatherings with not only the family but the circles of friends from within the organization. I find it refreshing to know that this was not just in my head. You are an amazing and caring man for your work. Thank you Danish.
God bless.
When sis was a teen someone ask what she wanted for Christmas she said hell that she wanted hell I 🙏 ed earnestly she would dream she went the before she actually did she did. And seem to have a conversation but never stopped her meanness. and abuse and head game's so it seems she's making her choice.
Definetely yes !!!!!
Hypocrite since they FAKE
They are someone outside and someone else inside
Narcs learn new tactics as they go as well so if you point out they keep saying "all their exes were toxic and crazy" so what does that say about them then they'll add in a "token" one who wasn't (based on the fact she supported his toxicity until he sabotaged things), if you mention their repetitive victim story and how 99% of whatever they say is full of lies, hate, resentment, insults, sarcasm, negativity and blaming others... who conveniently aren't ever there to give their side of the story... they'll add in a really shallow flaw or two of their own such as admitting they gave that friend who stole from them their bankcard so they could pay bills when they were unwell, etc., it's like a relentless avalanche of myriad tactics that mess with our minds as we're constantly being mentally and emotionally challenged to reconcile contradictory, hypocritical, dissonant, mixed messages that never add up consistently and this makes us sick, drained and exhausted over time. And they love it as they're sadistic to boot. 🤯🔎😈😏😇🔍☹️
The best was him saying he was an empath and loyal 🤣🤣🤣
I now have the tools to build a brick wall against these vile people thanks to all the content on u tube 😮
So much information here.
I have been wondering where the self of me went. I'm just a shadow person, an empty shell.
He adores his mother. She is a wild one.
I wondered where the cats went.
My mother would make a big deal about how sad it was to see an injured and handicapped animal in media, but at the same time regularly beat her dogs and yell at them and and treat them in the most inconsistent ways imaginable.
True. This is what narcisists are and do. I have experienced and seen it.
Animals do not like narcissists! They smell the evil on them.
That' s not true! Definitely! Their domestic animals and pets love them.
Yeah my narc had pets around him. Narcs are predators and operate more animalistic so I'd say animals would get on well with them.
@sonja7halcyon ,yes, that makes sense ! This is the truth... However, narcissistics can be different- some of them are cruel, others are not so cruel. .
@@KalinaKrencheva They're all cruel, just some are overt and some are covert about it.
I was born into a Narcissistic family. Those were various types. All lack empathy and all painted false scenarios. All are do not contact now. They got their wishes. To squish me via deception of logical help. And they all knew my true path was my strength, therapy and created to help others achieve. Over the past year I've woken up to the schemes and I'm finally on a path to logical healing in a very broken world typically ran by narcissist.
Within the two weeks of talking to her, she actually told me that it's just easy to be honest because then you don't have to worry about trying to keep up lies. She then proceeded to lie about pretty much everything.
Fifth is what I have gone through, a narcissist mother son duo, with unhealthy boundaries! Just them versus me as there ‘supply’.
My ex boyfriend was extremely enmeshed with his mother. He was a grown man in his late 50s and living with his mother. Initially, I had thought it was because he was financially recovering from his divorce but as I really got to know him, I saw some serious red flags. The first red flag was that he had to call his mother when we were out on a date because he had to check on with her. At first, I thought that it was kinda cute but then I thought "this is very strange." Then as I got to know him, I felt that it was a bit creepy because his sister and her husband also lived with the elderly mother. I didn't like the way he treated me either. I felt more like a kitchen maid than I did a mate as we rarely went anywhere or did anything. The last straw was my ah ha moment when he was sitting in my kitchen waiting for me to cook and serve him. I had just gotten out of the hospital a few days earlier recovering from severe anemia and was exhausted. He sensed that I was not happy with him being in my home and he left and said that he was going to his mother's house to spend the weekend. At this point in our relationship, he had moved out of his mother's house and took an apartment 4 hours away BUT here's the thing. Initially I thought that he finally was ready to break free from his mother's control and live his own life. Nope! He had to get that apartment because he had started a new job which was 4 hours away from his mother's house.
So, on the last day of our relationship, he left my apartment and decided to not go home to his own apartment but instead travel 4 hours to his mother's house to sleep on the couch the rest of the weekend 😳. He was without a doubt a covert narcissist. He hated his sister and her husband but preferred to live there with them. He had a six figure salary and slept on his mother's couch. His mother stunted his emotional development.
He never had the emotional freedom to explore life. His father was extremely controlling and abusive and his mother was way over nuturing. I got the hell away from him as I discovered that this was a nest of narcissists. Sick beyond belief
Nest of narcissists. Sounds dark
“Nest of Narcissists” reminds me of a lair of vampires! Well said.
@@AT-yd1vj He was definitely a covert narcissist because he constantly violated my boundaries and ignored me whenever I tried to reinforce them. In addition, he also hijacked my belongings and tried to claim them as his own. For example, my car. He had his own car but he wanted to drive my car and then he took it upon himself to disconnect one of the features on MY car without my consent. This is only one of many things that he did.
The guy must be from those countries where the mom is jalouse of their daughter in law. My friend was married to this doctor . His mom moved herself with them. The parents always move with the oldest son. He used to sleep with his mom in her bed. The very first night he was embarrassed to sleep with him mom, so the mom came to their bedroom they slept 3 of them together the wife, husband / son in the middle and the mom.
Yessss!!!! I have a child with one just like that. I can identify with everything that you've stated. Initially it does seem nice how they interact with their Mom ,but you slowly start to see something isn't right. My son is 10 yrs old and haven't seen them in 5 years.
I don't mind because I don't want my son around them they are really strange.
I firmly believe that the narc that I know(soon to be ex❤️🙏🏽🤞🏾) poisoned 💔our dog. She🐶 never really liked him.
Oh my gosh!!! I am so very sorry. God Bless her/his little heart 😥😟🥺. I hope you have seriously thought about dumping her for life seriously. Don't take a risk to give her 2nd and 3rd chances she sounds very dangerous and evil.
My wife calls me a wife beater in front of my children after my case was dismissed of the criminal charges of DV. She outright set me up before i knew she was a narcissist.
Shape shifters is the right word
I was raised by 2 narcissists, and have not been able to get the emotional/psychological distance yet though I have been no contact since running away when I was 17. I didn't know my parents were narcissists, and it took a series of abusive relationships before I started to come into awareness. My last ex lied about everything, and I mean everything. The most confusing for me in addition to the cheating (in person and online) was how he lied about his age. He let me celebrate his birthday year after year and the whole time I though he was 6 years older than he was. I only found out because one day I borrowed his car for work while mine was in the shop. I accidentally got locked out and had to call AAA. When they arrived I was told they could not let me into the vehicle because it wasn't registered to him at all. It turned out that it was his mothers! Long story short, he had to verify his identity over the phone while on a 3 way with his mom and the AAA agent. When they asked his age I almost fell over when he revealed the truth. (of course he had told me HE owned the car as well but omg the age thing really knocked me back!)
So true regarding cheating. My Narc showed up at my door unannounced one night, he thought he heard someone in my home before I opened the door. The look on his face when I opened the door was hilarious and I laughed at how appalled he looked for no reason. Jealous as hell.
I bet HE was cheating, so he figured you were, too
I’m continually shocked how bang on accurate you are and it’s almost creepy that the examples you use ARE my ex husband! It’s insane!!
Again I'm listening to you and 27 seconds into your talk and again you nail it on the head of my relationship with my husband of 18 years.
Is my younger son said to me, "Mom, he is saying one thing but his feet and body are walking towards the other woman."
Yes!!! So shocked because he apparently offered therapy for PTSD patients and was a Forensic Analyst. Cannot believe he was like he was with me!!!! Everyone saw him as a great person, omg!
Know your reality even though he has fooled everyone else. That's plain cowardly and evil. Get your validation from the comments section. We all know what they are like behind closed doors. Jekyll and Hyde.
Yes
The narc I know is seen as a very wonderful, helpful person on the outside but boiling hot temper and revengeful behind closed doors. No one is exempt from these peoples cruelty; not unless you know who they are.
OMG at the end of our relationship when my ex knew he was losing control of me I was taking singing lessons. The man would literally QUIT his job, he did it 3 different times, then tell me " well you have to quit your singing lessons now, we can not afford it!" The last time he did it I told him " I pay for them out of MY check, I still have MY income, YOU quit, YOU deal with YOUR bills, I am still doing my lessons" and I refused to stop! He was PISSED! I hated him by then!
I think I am one of a few who didn't have a love bombing stage. Apparently, he expected me to leave quickly. It lasted 5 years and in between there was sporadic love bombing. Your videos are very helpful, thank you. Yes, he lied daily. About nearly everything. He treats our dog very non feelingly. Last time we talked, he said he tried to do some of the things I did, like hug the dog. But he really seems to love the cat . hmm
Daaaaamn... now i know why his mother was calling him every day even though they live in different countries. Who gets a call from a mother every day when hes 40??!!!! Disturbing AF. Dayum... there is some real traumatic shit going on there. I know his father was an alcoholic and was humiliating towards them...
Sounds familiar and all while telling me how she would burn him as a child.
You are spot on. I am happy i stumbled upon your channel a little while ago. Thank you
I had several omgggg moments listening to this video. Every single point was spot on even the last animal care... so so so glad I got away before it was too late.
1. Helping other old persons in the community vs never helping their own parents.
2. Isolating you vs Socializing themselves.
3. claims of simplicity vs materialistic tendencies.
4. having a family vs being a bottom gay.
5. for you to be available 24/7 vs themselves being absent when needed.
6. Prayers/religious practices vs sexual escapades.
7. Hating you vs befriending you.
8. wanting sex vs withholding it just because you want it too.
9. marrying vs sex with total strangers.
10. being good to you on your face vs tarnishing you behind your back.
I feel no.10 has not been discussed enough in the mainstream. I would like a video on that. My narc is never bad to me on my face.
In simple term "double standards" is what characterized narcissist. They are not just hypocrite, they truly believe that they are above others and as such, they have one rule for themselves (superiors) and another rule for their "inferiors" (us) It is not surprising to hear a narcissist say, I have the right to criticize you out of "love" but don't dare do to me the same thing. I heard one toxic man shouting at his wife but when the wife reacted and shouted back, he blamed her for her reaction stating that as a man (superior) he has the right to shout at her if she "misbehave" but women should be obedient and as such she has no right to shout at him. When a child makes a mistake the parents have right to publicly criticize him but the child in the other hand should not dare criticize adults because it is disrespectful etc I noticed that narcissist apply the issue of double standard only to those they consider inferior, they are pretty open to people they consider higher than them.
Right on the Money with this Video. Really Good Job.
"The winner takes it all..." is the narc's swansong!! 🎶😈🎶😬
Hey Danish, I can't watch the video right Now, but Ijust wanted to say- Ican Answer the Question Perfectly that just Popped onto My Screen.
"Are Narcissists Hypocrits?" - Most Definitely!!!
I'll be able to watch the Video in a Couple of Hours.
Friends who claim that you are their best friends, but only contact you like every two or three months, and whenever they DO contact you, they play the can we borrow some money? We will pay you back on payday card. Then being the forgiving empaths we are, we forgive them on the im sorry can’t afford to pay you back, we’ll get it next time, or they say we’re best friends and friends don’t ask friends to pay back money.” We were stupid a few years ago. Last night I calmly told our friends, we are not loaning you money for anything anymore. We are setting boundaries.” I actually said that along with setting boundaries. Calmly , detached from emotion. She gives me this look of surprise mixed with that glare. I also brought up the fact she had commented about me to my mother in law narc on FB. Again, that surprised look and no we don’t talk about you. I couldn’t help laughing. Told her the exact conversation where and when. 😅
The man I dated for years acted like his children were perfect and mine a mess when it was completely a lie !
He was a ministers son, appeared to be a true Christian and was the opposite! Such a hypocrite yet still continues the facade. I’m a Christian and so stayed as I thought I was doing the right thing. You are spot on with th3 family cult too! Their opinion was all that mattered and I was constantly berated. My mistake has cost me my 2 adult children who he has brainwashed . They all treat me with utter contempt, abuse and disrespect. 44 year# of marriage and my wasted life. I wish I’d know this years ago. I stayed thinking I was showing my children love and forgiveness…I was teaching them abuse and disrespect…..a hugely costly mistake I will be paying for the rest of my life. Run…and keep running.
We went to a cat cafe, cats swarmed me from me not doing anything whereas cats run away from my ex lmao. Animals can tell.
Weaponise their honesty omg bang on👍🎯🎯🎯
They are absolutely trained, what words are affecting and triggering you, they studied at the "Disturbing- people-in- short-time University"
I agree they are well trained, educated in their tricks, and self taught. They learn new techniques from others. They use tricks from the past and develop new strategies, because narcissists are extremely obsessive and compulsive, and they work on new strategies to implement on new targets, also they are extremely paranoid.
@@PrometheuspredatorThank you for your answer, unfortunately he knew about his great charisma , about this the list of victims will never end. So sad, a lot of women will be captuted by him. And unfortunately he must not make any effort, the women are as naive as I was. Will they ever get stopped by someone? And the classic story: to the publicity he presented himself as a good father, as social engaged, fighting for women rights 🙈, with a strong woman by his side, engaged in several organizations 🤮🤮🤮 the classic narcissist, always to shine and glam, he needs confirmation like the air to breathe. Must tell you that I have right at the beginning a little bit of bad intuition, why did I hear not to my intern concerns?
@@Prometheuspredator He was trained by his profession in Body language, so he is an expert how to handle with people. He ist 1000 % full profiler.... I was so dum
@@Prometheuspredator But please, something I cannot understand ... I blocked every channel on earth , it is Impossible to reach me for him. WHY didn't He blocked me????? It makes me a little bit afraid of. From time to time I control my app and I wish he would delete my account. In the past I wrote him during his ghosting my descision for discard. I have never heard again from him. For normal persons you would block the other or delete the others account. So I think must be careful further on? What do you think? What sickness ist going on in his brain? I am such an unimportant uninteresting meanwhile old Woman, there are hundreds of young interesting attractive women in the world who would love to throw to the lion. Would he practize revenge some day? What ist it?
@@coolgirly6454, You are so welcome. Nothing stops a narcissist. They are full throttle for the rest of their lives. Honestly, they would live no other way, but being a narcissist meets all their needs. They get the opportunity to leave a trail of trauma behind them upon people's life's. Narcs. are adrenaline junkies as they enjoy hurting others and as one told me they get a "high" off it. Hopefully the other women who fall for his tricks will have some knowledge about narcissists and will realize the relationship is going nowhere and will jump ship sooner than later.
My biggest challenge is trying to get over her, it's crazy I just learned about reverse disgard which means they blocked you, they block PayPal if you where sending something, they deny that they are the narcissist.
My father told me that I was adopted 3 times before I was 3 months old. He was trying to convey to me that “no one can put up with how terrible you are (even as a tiny baby) and only because of our kindness, we adopted you and were kind enough to not “return” you”. My adoption records, that I sent away for, clearly state I was adopted once at 11 months old. The lies are unbelievable…and ultimately pathetic.
So sad, such sick persons, they do not know what they have lost and din't think about what they have disturbed in the psyche of the people around.
Thank you for teaching me about shapeshifters, very helpful ❤️
Danish… it is as though you had a camera in my home and took notes before you made this video because every single thing you said was experienced, every detail. Except for the depths of the animal part lol but he did easily discard his dog as well
Omg... my ex fiance was a narcissist. My dog was always wierd about him, she barked at him every day when he got home even though we lived together for two years. She'd also try and protect me from him a few times when we were just playing. I trust my dog, and I knew something was a bit off with him after about 6 months but I never thought him dangerous to me or my dog. He used to play with her, train her, take her for walkies... He worked nights and I worked days so he had her alone almost every single day. Now I'm terrified of what he could have possibly done to her 🤮😭 trust your pets, people! They know!
Danish, you hit on the fine details that is mind blowing. Early intimacy in love bomb stage, she revealed heartbreaking details of her personal life and things she was deeply ashamed of. I was moved by the open, deep reveal and felt she trusted me with this knowledge and I, in turn could trust her. Now, I look back and it seems like the 'full court press' of a con job. She probably played that part before.
Hi, I just found your channel great videos God bless you, sir thank you for helping us 👍🏻❤️😊
WHAT?!?! OMG. That’s nuts.😑😑😑
My dad and his mother were kind of in an amished entanglement, I remember how she was viewed almost as infallible, if not totally.
Yes we had many pets all at his request.they were terrified of him and he would abuse them in front of me to get me to leave my job or get a reaction out of me.i was married 27 yrs. I thought I could save him,crazy I almost lost me completely.
Thank you danish.your words let the healing begin gave me hope.your videos help me to understand narcissist ,to
Enable me no contact.
I learned about narcism .
I feel like my pain has
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“I’ll kill you if you leave me “ - he moved so fast and wanted to get married because he was trying to get even with an ex.
“You took MY money” - he is the only reason why I’m $15,000 in debt and lost my home and car. He didn’t steal my savings or smoke, snort, drink and gamble money because he was my husband
“You smother me” - if I intentionally stopped he would say the opposite
“You’re mine!” - he was everyone else’s with his 5 Facebook accounts
“You can’t work!” - we never have money because you won’t work
“I was joking” - I had bite marks on my body
“Go see your family. It’s your fault” - the amount of abuse I got if I left the house at all
“I hate my mother” - him and his mother work together to destroy my life and they abuse me together from attacking me online to reporting me to my health insurance for fraud because she works for the company
“That’s in the past. Let it go!” - but he doesn’t let anything go and months go by then he brings everything back up and hasn’t let anything go
He used to kill animals when he was younger.
He cares about his kids more than anything- let’s go see them/buy gifts/send cards! No. No effort to see them. It’s my fault though. He was in jail for 5 months of our 14 month marriage but it was my fault too. He is a drug addict and he cared so much about his children he failed a drug test (meth and benzodiazepines) and he violated his probation and went to jail. (I had no idea he was involved with this or a convicted felon drug addict)
The list is endless.
I am almost divorced.
He said I never lie in the first week. I laughed and brushed it off with the answer that that was a lie. He didnt reply. I had no idea of the extent and severity of his lies...but I found many out. He knew what he was doing and tried to get away with them by telling half truths, twisting stories and blaming me for cheating. He played me big time. But now I see and his games with me are over. He's off to the next supplies and I'm healing. Take care guys and stay educated.
The way you frame it is how I'm really getting it. Your own perspective added to your knowledge i think, is what I can relate to because the cultural aspect is what I think i was missing from doctor Raminis videos because like I've grown up in here and the language here is so much different but the ways are the same and abuse too but hard to decipher because it's so much enmeshment and narcissism is embeded in the culture and supported. I also understand because of the centuries of trauma our ancestors have been thru. So .... it's understandable this way is what I wanted to say. Thank you so much
My narc husband is a compulsive liar I hate it it drives me crazy and is affecting my mental health. He lies about the smallest of things. He is cheating on me and gaslighting me and is accusing me of cheating and accusing him. I have read the texts seen the calls coming through but tells me it’s in my head. I hope he leaves me because m my mental health is deteriorating because of him. A part of me wants to help him and a part of me hates him and can’t wait for him to leave.
My goodness. My beautiful Golden Retriever was intentionally given a Diabetic Syringe to chew on. And plus He got into her Valium Bottle all at the same time. My boy Koda was throwing up in the truck. It was a very sad night. Koda was brought to the Vets the next day. His mouth was sore and the 5Mg tablet was ingested, but thank goodness he was Ok.
I gasped. So glad Koda is ok. I hope you got rid of her like for life?
I just LOVE what you just said. It's my story. Amazing how you put al things in words.My husband now is very handicapped and sick, MS if you know He became very bitter, controlling, toxic and rude. He's always been narcissistic and arrogant, 22 years of marriage and emotional abuse. Now it's getting worse since he's half paralyzed. He just lost his job b/c of disability,, and I'm gonna lose mine b/c of taking care of him. for along time .. Anyone who know what I'm talking about? anyone in this situation?
You sound like my neighbor. Her husband lost his leg to poor blood circulation. His narcissistic behavior went through the roof after that. They are now divorced, but he still comes back to have the cops called on him. She has a restraining order against him, but he doesn't care about that. She now has a guard dog. I have been trying to help her out by letting her know when I see him creeping around the neighborhood. We are on a dead end road. He has no other reason to be down here. I am divorcing my narcissistic wife now. I wish that I could stay here to help keep the neighbor lady safe, but I have to move away to protect myself. I hope that my neighbor will be able to get the peace that she deserves. You as well.
Oh lived to every hypocritical behavior and constant contradiction and a pathological lier!!!
It is like you are telling my whole lifetime story.
30 years and having 4 kids with him.
Your each and every video mirrors my life......he passed last year
They are so predictable
Please heal about your loss, and forgive him about every bad thing he did. Someone says GOD divorces an abusive spouse by letting an abuser die, because that is the only way a codependent can have freedom as in normal circumstances they can't leave the situation
Two years ago I adopted a little feral kitten while my husband was on a trip. I adored her. She was AFRAID of him. I never wanted to travel and stay away from home because I could not trust that he would take good care of her.
My partner finds it very hard to accept that I'm well read as her but in certain areas know more than them. She taunts me by saying that I know everything that I'm god.
They want you to not have dreams come true
So perfect. I've gone through all this with this man just waited till my children were able to stand strong in d process i did not lose my self because of my strong spiritual awakening he even tried to shut this out i ignored every thing he put on me n was in my bliss taking each day he got concur i am good still d story is going on waiting for d end . Thank