6 Undeniable Signs A Narcissist Is Cheating On You | Danish Bashir
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- Narcissists are big-time cheaters, but they hide it so well that it becomes almost impossible for you to know that they are doing something behind your back.
They leave signs, but not so obvious for you to know that there is something going on. Whatever the proof is, they conceal it, hide it, and twist it so that you believe that you are the crazy one here, you are making things up, and the worst, you are cheating on them.
So what are the signs that you should look for to truly know that a narcissist is cheating on you? Let's learn about these signs in this episode
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Chapters
00:00 introduction
00:54 They pretend to hate cheating
02:19 They frequently cancel plans at the last moment
03:58 They Typically disregard their sexual health
05:24 Their sexual behaviour may change
07:23 Their Grooming behaviour may change
09:48 They Brush off their cheating stories as lies
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This reminds me of the old saw: "Why does a man (woman) cheat?" Answer: "Because he (she) can".
Thanx danish ,i am married since 5 month and culd not find why my wife is doing these drama ,angry and cheating on me .after watching ur many videos i got confirm that my wife is extreme narcist ,,so going to follow ur suggestion to get out of this relation.thnx for saving my future
My question is whether narcissists have some favourite object or not? Why he keep coming back to one person every time though he has number of other supplies? Is there a concept of favouritism in narcissist's mind?
Yes
HOW DO YOU KNOW A NARCISCISST IS LYING? HIS/HER LIPS 💋 ARE MOVING!
First sign: you feel it in your gut.
fr
Might be right for women, women have a stronger gut feeling than men.
Thank you I needed to hear that
Yes.
Ikr..
6 signs a narcissist is cheating on you:
1. They're a narcissist
2. They're a narcissist
3. They're a narcissist
4. They're a narcissist
5. They're a narcissist
6. They're a narcissist
You absolutely clarified this!! 🧐😁 You spoke the truth!
Lol
Hahaha
How do know narcissist is lying ?
Their lips are moving
@@casperinsight3524 hahaha
The saddest thing about narcisistic abuse is that it's needless, makes no sense, occurs for no reason, and can permanently damage the victim's sense of identity, self-worth, and ability to trust in others. I don't have any mental- healthcare credentials, to be clear. However, I could write ten books about how it feels to be a victim of such abuse; and how difficult it can be to recover from. Victims of narcissistic abuse will often suffer for years, even long after the abusive relationship has ended. This kind of abuse has one sole purpose, which is to feed the narcissist's need to feel; superior, dominant, and omnipotent by draining the victim of their mental, emotional, and often financial stability. Narcissistic abuse is not just about someone “temporarily losing it” after a bad day. It's not about stress or even dishonesty, falling out of love or cheating etc. Although narcisists may engage in such behaviors; not every cheating, dishonest, or even self-absorbed person is a narcissist. Not all batterers are necessarily narcissists ( although many probably are). Narcissism is like the worst possible behaviors towards others, multiplied by at least 10; then added to that is the narcissist's inability to feel conpassion or empathy for others. Narcissistic Abuse is a calculated means of controlling someone else's behaviors and thought processes via extreme mental, and emotional bullying and outright emotional blackmail; commonly (but not alway) accompanied by physical abuse. Narcissists will tell you the sky is red. If you disagree and say the sky is actually blue, they'll tell you you're crazy, stupid, and incapable of distinguishing different colors. When you go outside and point to the sky and say, “ The color of the sky is clearly blue”, the narcissist will respond with, “ Of course it is, that's what I've been saying all along!” Do you see how insane this is? It would be quite hilarious if it weren't for the fact that the entire purpose of an argument such as the one above, is to cause the victim to start questioning his or her own sanity. If the victim of such abuse doesn't recognize what's going on, they will slowly begin questioning their own judgement and sanity. These techniques are also frequently used with gaslighting. Gaslighting is the act if purposefully confusing someone through circular, unending arguments; or may occur by moving or removing a victim's objects such as keys, phone, other items- all in an effort to trick the person into thinking they're going crazy. An example: “Where is my wallet? I know I put it in my purse last night. Now I don't have my checkbook, cash, etc. I must be losing it!” Most people can't imagine why someone would purposely cause such confusion and chaos for someone else, therefore never suspect the narcissist unless they're caught. Even then, the narcissist will likely deny any accusations… The narcissist's main goals- is to reap havok, chaos, and dysfunction into an otherwise mostly normal person's life. What's more, the perpetrator will purposefully cause the victim into a reaction, then use that reaction to gain support from their”flying monkeys”. These agents of narcissists are carefully picked, so that the narcissist's view cannot be debated by an objective observer. This triangulation also causes the victim to further doubt or dismiss their own thoughts and feelings. Narcissistic abuse is complete and total psychological warfare against another human being. The targeted person can be the NPD's children, but is often the NPD's spouse or significant other. Children of narcissists are also more likely to become narcissists themselves due to genetic and environmental factors. Or, they may have BPD or BPD tendencies. That's not to say that ALL children of NPD's have personality or mental-health disorders. Targets of those with NPD are usually very generous, often sensitive, and friendly people that have their lives at least somewhat together. NPD'S choose these kinds of people for a reason, because the reality is NPD's are empty human beings full of self-hatred. They are inwardly chaotic, and this chaos often translates into either an extremely neat and tidy exterior facade or may manifest into complete disorder and mess. I don't sympathize with those with NPD because they aren't psychotic- they do know the difference between right and wrong. They just choose to do wrong, choose to purposely hurt others because it boosts their often very tiny, fragile egos. These are dangerous people, and the only difference between most of them and a common murderer is that they haven't physically murdered anyone yet. Well, most of time. Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions. Cheating is a choice and there’s simply a lot of ignorance in the process.... Thank you so much for helping me out Barryinvestigation@gmail. com. Your advice and services helped me so much. You are a lifesaver !!! The information you gave me about my cheating partner when you gave me access to his phone was everything I needed to get,.. thank you very much..
Yes, a narcissist is very good at hiding their constant cheating. But they will cheat on you either emotionally or physically and they cannot change.
THEY are HARDWIRED to CHEAT 👹
Financially also
He visits her on a regular basis he comes home in a foul mood my question why? Did she snub him or what?
X you run as fast as you can. Don't look back.
Shattered me. Then I found out it was when we were dating too. And when we were married, long before I found out. But, after I picked up the pieces, the illusion was gone. Once the illusion was gone, I gave up trying. And then I realized I could live without X just fine. So, aside from the year or so of excruciating, relentless pain, I'd say it was a good thing.
Sign #1 A narcissist is cheating on you: He/She is alive and breathing. 👍🤣
Right 😂 once you figure out who they are it is an absolute given they are cheating on you in some form or another 🤦♀️
Periodtt
Facts
Not always. There are different types and degrees of narcs. Some would view cheating as damaging to their image if they get caught.
Lol…true!
"Whatever serves them in the moment is all that exists for them". THIS!!!!
Exactly, that’s why they’re so fine after discarding you
@@miyumiyu12 yup
Serves? Pls explain serve what?
@rv7065 you never heard something put that way? In this context it means someone using another for their own needs
@@gigidayz6936 yah i get it, server of supply
#1 Clue your narcissist is cheating on you - They start keeping secrets
#2 - Their behavior becomes odd
If they accuse you of cheating just know they are cheating
Not true , some people show red flags then when you question them they use that same comment you just made against you.
My wife accused me of cheating... WRONG!
9 times out of ten the if they false accuse you of cheating, they are cheating then they will twist it to blame you to accuse you everything they do it and justify thier behavior wether its emotional abuse,verbal abuse or even physicalabuse. They accuse you of cheating to throw you off what they did and make it that you did it and they can treat you in anyway now. I just left and blocked one. They also " forget" what they said 5 minutes ago . He use to tell me every time an in the end of relationship in a argument he going to do it ,then will flip I 5 minutes later tell me I was cheating had cheated. Tell me I was ugly,then next moment I was beautiful how much he wanted to hold me and be intimate with me, it was a turn off to me after this last time. I did tell him he hated me,because he showed it,he tell me to shut up if I wanted a healthy communication, no argument and then he would smirk start out that way" nice" to go on the attack the if didn't get his way immediately asked me why I don't compliment himI mean immediately I was to shut up when he said shut up or come the verbal abuse, I admit I said shit right back,yet I ment them I called him a narcissistic person and told him I don't trust him or believe him. He then copy me,switch it up to a fake apologies to try to confuse me,except I wasn't confused very long I caught on to his games,gaslight, shift blaming. I told him to leave me alone for good and he took it as I have to make her believe my lies including i fell in love with you that why i act this way. He claim he didn't want to hurt me,yet that was his only goal. Told me my mouth,sanding up for myself was ugly not attractive. I told him he had control issues don't want a subscription to them peace out I'm gone.
That's not true. If they were cheated on in the past and the person is showing certain signs of things they experienced it makes them feel insecure and worry.
@@phantomvampyressshadowkiss4690 exactly!! I hate when people say that , always talkin and don’t know what they talking bout just repeating what they heard
They cheat in all kinds of ways, it's not always sexual cheating.
It was meeting other women for coffee, going on and on about how beautiful this one that one was. Flirting obviously right in front of me to make me feel like rubbish etc ..
So spot on J D..in nearly 30 yrs with a covert narcissist/sociopath type..he did all you mentioned there and more and its all cheating 🤨😬
Foreplay was telling me deeply personal graphic stories about his high school conquests.
He refused to spare my discomfort from hearing this mental cheating every day.
My ex husband would do all of these things. When I would ask him "If this is how you act in front of me, how do you behave when I'm not there??" He'd lose his mind and deflect by telling me all the reasons I was worthless.
Makes you wonder
I had this treatment from a woman.drove me nuts
Another big sign is (if they are “seriously” cheating as opposed to just one night stands, hookers, etc.) their personality will completely change since they are concentrating on mirroring the new (possible replacement) supply. This new persona will seem really weird and it is because they are now reflecting whomever that new supply wants them to be, not you.
Hookers and strip clubs are cheating regardless of whether you pay for it or not, doing the deed in real life with someone other to whom your in a valid monogamous or legal relationship ie married defacto committed is actual adultery cheating fornication. 🤔
Interesting, sounds just about right!
Fantastic insight!
Yes!!!! So true, mine starting listening to weird music he never liked before, I knew something was off,yuk,makes me sick as n I have kids to him.
😵 I have never heard it put so simply! YES! this explains EVERY ONE OF THEM!
Narcissistic infidelity differs from "normal cheating", because a narcissist feels no shame or remorse for what they've committed! In fact, they convince themselves it's your fault, and actually lead the new partner to believe they're a victim of you. A narcissist will talk about marriage and having kids with you, while sleeping with another person. They'll give you the silent treatment and punish you, trying to make you feel bad for their own bad behavior. Survivors often wonder "why wasn't I good enough?" or "why is the new partner better than me?" because the narcissist will shamelessly wave this person in your face and parade the new target around on social media. Every second you spend comparing yourself to this person will erode your self-worth and fill you with feelings of inadequacy and rejection. How did they replace you so quickly, immediately making all the same promises to another person? The answer is simple: Cluster-B disorders all stem from the inability to attach. They never attached to you, which is why they try to intensely manufacture all the normal feelings of love and bonding, and it's also why they are able to detach and do the same thing to someone else in one day. Because they never successfully attached to you, despite all of their sweeping words. Sociopaths and narcissists are incapable of attaching to other human beings, so they hone all of these other skills like seduction, flattery, mirroring-all in an attempt to mimic what they see other people doing: loving each other. The problem is, they see "love" as receiving constant attention and adoration. This is what they give to you, and this is what they want to receive in return. The NY Times describes it this way. "Narcissistic alexithymia: The inability to understand or describe the emotions in the self. Unable to know themselves, sufferers are unable to understand, relate or attach to others. To prove their own existence, they hunger for endless attention from outside." Narcissistic "supply" is really just a distraction from this condition. When you fail to relieve this (because no external factor can), you are punished and replaced. No matter how caring and kind you were, they still don't feel good, and their disorder convinces them that a new partner will be the magical fix to everything. This is when you get "split" as the crazy bad person so they can justify their sudden change of heart. Even though they blame you, I hope you can see that this process has literally nothing to do with you. You can follow their new relationship, hope it fails, analyze yourself, analyze them, try to be more perfect, prove yourself, figure out whose fault it was, etc. All you're doing is hurting yourself. Turn your focus from external to internal. What do you feel? Inadequacy? Shame? Rejection? Betrayal? These are your feelings, and those are what matter. You need to work with these feelings, understand them, and learn to offer yourself the comfort and love needed to heal them. Otherwise you're just left with an unresolved mess of pain from an impossible situation, and a frightened heart that believes it's at fault. Left untended, it'll eventually just fade into a numb obscurity. Work with this pain, understand it, talk with it, communicate with your body. This is the most important thing you can do. Every time you're tempted to check on them, ask yourself what you're feeling. A void? Emptiness? Loneliness? Resentment? Numbness? These issues cannot be resolved through searching externally. Yes, they were created by an external factor, but it's your wound now, whether you want it or not. You are the only person who can decide to nurture these wounds and build a loving relationship with your emotions. If you need to find out about a cheating narcissist; send a request to: *MetaspyHub@gmail. com*
❤❤❤❤thank you very much
Absolutely incredible analysis - spot on! 😯
Thank you so much this is so helpfull❤
My ex narcissist was constantly cheating on me and he gave me syphilis that took 3 weeks of antibiotics to get rid of and he did say once that he had an STD and that I gave it to him but because I was high when he told me I forgot about it and didn't get tested... He always accused me of cheating and then one day I did cheat and used a condom and left the wrapper on the floor in my room for him to find... I figured if I was getting accused of it I might as well do it and I used protection and when he found it I said "at least you know I am safe as I am using protection" He on the other hand wasn't using protection and I got syphilis and got blamed for it... The more he accused me of cheating the more I knew he was... when I was living with him he took off one night when I was asleep and cheated on me and lied about where he was... A few months later I caught him In that lie as I have a really good memory about things like that which he used to hate because he couldn't get away with anything as I would remember what happened that day and what he said and did... I am one person who he couldn't get around... In the end I left the cheating prick after he tried hitting me with a massive wrench...
You are a Genius Dan
And narcissists always say " i am the most honest person you will ever meet 😅"......
So true!!
OMG I thought that was just my X! was always saying, 'You know me, I'm honest to a fault.' 'You know I wouldn't say these things if they weren't true' (That one was reserved for crushing criticism.)
Yes! He'd also say that he was the best person I'd ever meet. I think not!
@@KAT-wo1js Wow! The Best Person. My stars, what a lucky one you are.
@@relied7934😂
They make you feel guilty and naggy for being uncomfortable that they are regularly gone with no trace for hours.
Well said.
Yes and they accuse you of being clingy or selfish for wanting them to take you out twice a month when they disappear for hours on end the rest of the time. You try to set up outings with your own spouse and they turn you down every single time, but have no trouble arranging outings with 'friends'.
This is exactly what my ex husband did. Supposedly he was always at work. I found out later that he was missing appointments that he set up and told me he was going to but never showed up. He even told one client by text message that his daughter (he doesn’t have any kids) was involved in a fatal car accident, it wasn’t her that was killed but her friend. Disgusting and manipulative pos.
Spot on
THIS. Especially when ua call em out
My ex is 57 and says he still feels like he is 28. Completely obsessed with his body weight. Another sign: sudden weird behavior with their phone.
cause is they actually steal energy from their victims, effect they are rewarded with more of the life force .
Hollywood is full of them and the government is ran by them 🥴🙏🏽 they actually fake deaths in Hollywood to steal peoples energy 🕵🏻♀️
BINGO!!!!! Your intuition is there for a reason ladies and gents When you start seeing screen locks, changing passwords, secrecy....do you know how many dating apps I stumbled upon in secret folders? OMG too many to count and it is ALWAYS an excuse. DO NOT LISTEN TO THEIR BS EXCUSES BC THAT IS ALL THEY ARE....MORE SMOKE BEING BLOWN UP YOUR ASSetc. etc. etc.
Dito.....mine is in shape at that age and says women of age 35 won't mind having me bcaz I look young. He is on dating websites and iv seen his messages inviting women from different countries. On confronting he justifies that he was celibate for so long though he in relationship now. ..another is I m.just online, dint do anything. Any good looking stewardess or nurse or office assistant will be his flirting target and that's how he gets their favors of doing hid job.
Mine blocks the bathroom for 40 minutes every morning and is offended if I need to enter. He has two lovers. A sexy escort and an intellectual teacher. Very different persons and I recognize who he met because his mirroring changes his mentality and behaviour for a while. I could write a book about narcissism after my experience with this psycho 😢
It’s called perpetual Peter Pan syndrome - look it up, it’s a thing
Being with my ex narc for the past 6 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I got to know about my narc husband bad ways when I reach out to a private detective Metaspyhub@gmail. com for help he did a perfect work for me I can see everything he’s doing on his device.
On point
Accurate
100000% true living the same situation at this very moment…I can’t take his lies anymore…we just got into a fight over him hiding text messages with me which he deleted because of our fight such a liar I can’t take this abuse anymore everything is my fault..
They always accuse you of doing what they have already done
What a point👍
I don't know how VIPs handle their privacy.
😂 if the narcissist is breathing, they are cheating! End of story.
GOSO - Get Out Stay Out.
absolutely!
@@heartofpuregold 1. Attention 2. Affection 3. Admiration 4. ENTITLEMENT 5. GRANDIOSITY. FYI ROSE - In my case…I am the male, this was the female (my wife).
@@cajuncrackerranch7990 thank you brother. Thank you for reaching out. I know God will heal.all your wounds. God is helping me. My guardian angel.is my late brother who has always watched over me in life and now from heaven.
Im lucky to still be here and not a statistic. God saved my life.All the professionals I deal with always praise me. They know what I been through most cant even understand, Im.grateful to my loyal people .
Im sorry i dont privately chat with anyone from.online as my personal policy.
God bless you 😇
@@narcabusecoach it's not easy to GOSO when you have kids and financially dependent on the narsssist ..as divorce is still not acceptable by the kids and society in India..😮💨
@@dr.vandana6621 is being killed from the inside out acceptable in India?? Because that's what's going on. Separate yourself from the need for external validation! Otherwise you are dead meat!
If you’re single., You don’t have to mess with all that drama.
Yess I feel the same way when you by yourself no worries about that no more
Jennifer Frazier I've mentioned that it's one of the many positive aspects of being single, especially with social media etc, which is obviously causing huge issues with relationships nowadays! ❤
Agree! I have been single for a while now and it’s glorious lol
Why? Why not move on and find the love of your life?
@@karlabritfeld7104 if you don't heal, you:
'll just keep attracting the same thing,again and again and again, calling it bad luck or a broken picker, until you are dead!
It's either in person, dating sites, live chats and live sex cams, messenger and other social media sites...They're always talking to other women.
Putting on cologne suddenly
And all them ready.
This goes both ways.
@Davo667 yes it sure does! From what I've researched, some say women Narcissists are even more deadly than men because women can pull off that sweet and innocent act plus the way society is groomed to view women.
I had no idea someone could be so hypocritical and accuse me of cheating until a friend of mine told me he's accusing me of cheating because HE IS CHEATING! That finally opened my eyes. This video is spot on!
That's not all ways true I just want to say I don't cheat but I have been with guys that have an once they cheer an I still be with em I'm always asking them or thinking that they want some one else so that's not true all the time. Maybe because it's they have been hurt before . Just saying.
@@tam9571 🥺🙄
@@tam9571
@@tam9571if you’re going to stay with them you might as well not even ask if they cheating. Just leave them after finding out they cheated.
It's good to have friends that can be honest with you. It's even better that you were able to see the truth. I didn't filly believe it, even though I had suspected she was cheating. I came home from work early and caught her in the act. She blamed me for her infidelity. I'm grateful it happened. That was the last straw. I threw her out. She called everyone we knew and told them I was an abusive closet case. You find out who your friends are in that scenario. These narcissists have no moral compass at all.
And during a texting conversation they'll act like they're really into you, hot and steamy texts, then suddenly go MIA and no texts for almost an hour. Then you'll suddenly get one that's completely different saying something like "okay, no worries, take care." It means their other supply texted them mid convo and they suddenly got bored with you
Facts
Your sick lol fr
I swear. Going through it this exact moment. I’m done. I’m tired…I’m an empathetic person & I want off this ride.
@@Kykylandfarmingbegged him to stop cheating…. You just made me remember my past years… now i openned my eyes with surprise! How can we beg them to stop cheating!!! Send him to hell! This is our right movement! Never… listen… never give your power to anybody again for the rest of your life!
Same happened with me really hurts
They tell stories about their friend or coworker or someone else they know who is cheating, but it is actually them. They are telling you the story of their own cheating and pretending it's someone else.
He used to tell me stories like that. Now I wonder. Hmmm. It was the neighbor. But perhaps, after all, it was him!
@@lc4972 Hate to say it, but yes it was most likely him. It's twisted (like a lot of things they do) but they do it for a number of reasons actually. First it helps them clear their concious by telling themselves that they told you (it's up to you to figure it out as far as they are concerned). They also get pleasure from seeing and hearing your reactions to it without it coming back onto them. They also use the information they get from your reaction to judge how you would handle things if in the future you were to catch him directly. And on top of all that, they simply just enjoy fooling you. They are laughing to themselves that you can't figure it out. They don't just tell stories of cheating either. They do this about anything they know you would not approve of like carelessly spending money and any other behaviors that would be a no go in your relationship. If your ex was full of these kinds of stories about other people you might ask yourself just how is it exactly that he was always in the know about all these juicy details about other people's lives especially since these are the types of things people usually try to keep hidden. Why would so many people confide in him? I don't know if Danish has any videos about this, but do a youtube search because there are some really good videos about the stories of narcs who are actually telling on themselves that are very interesting and insightful.
@@inbornwanderlust1076 I do believe he received pleasure from fooling me. So how would I phrase my search? "How narcs tell on themselves"?
@@inbornwanderlust1076 many things you told relates to my ex.. Nicely described..
I can see this now in hindsight I think it's also a form of virtue signaling like Oh My Best Friend cheats on his wife but I would never do that to you kind of deal
That’s what my ex did, in the beginning gave me a lecture about how much he hate cheating and how every woman has cheated on them. And if I ever cheat, he ends the relationship immediately, no second chances. In the end I was completely loyal and he wasn’t
The ex said the same thing. However, HE was the cheater in every instance.
Same here
Same here lmao. Are we all dating the same person?😂😂
Same here!! He let me know how much he hated cheaters, he even said it whit so much passion lmao the fcker started not long after that openly flirting at front of me with other girls. He defenitly cheated on me but I never caught him.
Yup...it is like they are all the same.
They use the words “trust me””believe me” a lot in the beginning stages. They act like wolves in sheep’s skin.
Unless you’ve already dealt with one, it’s very hard to understand right away they’re a narcissist.
That's true. I have experienced it.
Trust me why would I just believe me verbal abuse hitting money damage to belongings n I've got it all going on yes i"m a man
Come home from work then start a fight with you, so they feel entitled to disappear for the night🤔or the week…
or the next 5 days.
OMG that is so incredibly spot on and true!!!!!
Mine would start a fight and start saying I see what you up to as if it was I that started it and I'm the one that started the fight so i can go out and cheat.
Yes!!!
Projection, gaslighting & D.A.R.V.O.
Patterns of behaviour repeat with these dark personality profiles.
Drama, trauma & chaos=Cluster B
Yes! My 60 year old (now ex) said he was having affairs..because it made him ‘feel 25 again’. Give me a break. How sickening. Never grew out of being a horny teenager. 🤮
Nothing wrong with him he needs sex! you guys needed to talk about it and not push him away, afterall if he couldn't get it with you he's going to look elsewhere for it.
No you don't need to worry about it but blaming him. Is not the way to go about it.
@@tigerstripes3926 you don’t understand it’s not a normal healthy adult sexual relationship. I understand that teenage boys can only think of sex but when your 40+ it’s time to realize sex is only PART of a healthy relationship.
@@bethyates2984 I'm sure you had your journey as well. But don't be coming on here and stipulating what is excessive. every man is at a different level in their sex drive. Afterall men need their release.
The women nowadays dictate more often than the men when it is time for bedtime stories. Give me a break I don't understand.
@@tigerstripes3926 when that is the end all be all and nothing else matters in life but sex. That’s a sad life. It is only PART of life. I don’t think anyone on their deathbed wishes they had had more sex. Maybe if they are a young virgin 🤷♀️
@@bethyates2984 please don't put words in my mouth I didn't say nothing else matters but sex is essential to having a good relationship. That's why it should be talked about.
There are many different signs. These include spending time on phone that was not spent previously, withholding sex from you, withdrawing in communication with you, agitation or anger over Petty stuff or making up situations to get angry or agitated over, lying, being secretive in any way, randomly spending more time caring for and pampering oneself such as putting on makeup or wearing cologne or coloring hair etc. Any type of changed behavior that is not aimed at pleasing or benefiting your relationship. With all of that though, follow your gut. your gut is telling you that something isn't right and it's telling you that this could or is happening, therefore listen to it. Just Free yourself from all of it! Run and don't look back. Go 100% no contact. The mental and emotional abuse is not okay at all! Do not bring anything up to her. Don't try to rationalize or have a conversation about anything. Don't let her know that you know she's in narcissist. All of that can cause a narcissistic rage. If you have not yet witnessed one of those just trust me that you don't want to! A narcissistic rage is beyond any rage I have ever seen or witnessed in my entire life. I am an army combat veteran and served front lines for a year and afghanistan. I have abuse going back from as long as I can remember, the first time in my personal memory is 2 years old. With everything I have been involved in, and my rape, other sexual abuse, their physical abuse, etc in narcissistic rage is by far the worst! If you need to contact your local police department and start a new contact order. No one can protect you like you can! free yourself from it all and move forward in your life. The minute you run and go no contact is the minute your life begins again. If need be seek out professional help. Therapy is the best thing I did for myself. The best gift I gave to me! The abuse is so deep and overwhelming that having a professional guide you through the steps of the healing process is extremely beneficial! Just remember, there is great strength in asking for help. There is great lack and strength or no strength at all in putting on a mask and hiding behind the opinions of society and pretending that you are okay! As human beings we all witness A Time In our lives where we are not okay! Those that heal, move past, and move forward, and have a brighter future are those who ask for help and do the work that is needed through the help! I'm so sorry you are going through this and I wish you the very best! Good luck! Always remember that you are stronger than you believe you are, you are worthy and deserving of better and always, and you are enough just the way you are and who you are today! Take this time for you! Get yourself again. Fix that meal that you're all time favorite, rent that movie you've been wanting to see, have a guys night out with your best friends, remodel a room in your home, go purchase that item you've been wanting to for so long, just do for yourself! Self-acceptance, self-love, and being able to forgive yourself is far more important than what anyone else can give to you! Believe in who you are! You deserve nothing less than that! You're not alone! Feel free to tag me in any other questions that you have! I'll help if I can. Additionally you can hire a cyber expert to help you get remote access to their phone so you can track them and monitor all of their activities without them knowing. You may locate the top cyber specialists locally at Digitalinvestigate@gmail. com, where you can engage a well-trained professional to assist you..........
Very well said!!!❤
Wow! All this was in my face about my husband for years and now it rolls off like water off a ducks back. Thanks to the Holy Spirit, my trust and faith in Yeshua I remain joyful and he can not take that from me and nor will I relinquish it. It's infuriates my husband that he no longer affects me, I smile, laugh even more and daily strive to live with joy while he rolls & waddles in his own filth. May God have mercy on Him. I've forgiven much, continue to forgive, yet I see now (thank you Jesus), I will not fall for the bait- Not anymore. No more stumbling block, now it's my footstool all thanks to my friend, the Holy Spirit guiding me and uplifting me when I couldn't even get up, held me when I cried, collected my tears and hurt when I hurt, love & comfort me, shadow me, kept me and daily thanking Him for its the way my faith grew roots, my walk match my talk and the word of gave light to my life through challenges, disappointment, hurt and setbacks yet they were all for my good and that of generations to come. Daily I overcome, endure yet victorious, I am blessed to suffer suchlike for Christ suffer for me too and because He chose me, I know He's got me too.
@@sonyaluhman4648 Amen. Jesus saved me too I was at his feet humbled by my suffering and he wept for me, my suffering has purpose just like him, I am now in a spiritual awakening and have Christ consciousness. Life is beautiful 😢
Ty sir very helpful in my situation
He tried to hide his cheating ways until I became a detective.
What exactly did you do to uncover what he was up to? I don’t have a lot of money to hire someone but I have this feeling and things that he said at the beginning before we became intimate. He won’t admit to anything, of course, I’m older than he is but I’m treating like I’m the crazy one. I don’t want to follow him because that’s considered stalking. So I’m curious as to your detective work.
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I resorted to something I've never done before, when his phone wasn't hooked to his umbilical cord I looked at it. I found out all kinds of lies. At first I didn't accuse him I would ask round about questions to see if he'd be honest and when he would lie I threw what I found up in his face. They do get angry because you've busted them. I found women's phone numbers and I'd call them, they proved my suspicion accurate .
Another way was driving by and parking where he couldn't see me on places he use to paint, because he was cheating social security and getting paid under the table. I saw things that broke my heart. Of course he said I was over reacting. Seeing him kiss on some woman was over reacting I guess. SMH. I finally went and stayed no contact.
@@susanweaver6946 I don’t have the luxury of viewing his phone as he keeps it locked. We are not married just dating and doing things together. I can’t look him up for a background check and his phone is under his brother’s name. I’m still not sure what to make of that. My story is very lengthy so I will leave it with this information.
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I'm guessing he has many things he's hiding from you. My Ex Narc would blatantly leave his phone unlocked, I believe it was to degrade me when I saw what he was doing but yet argue with me when I called him out. Since then I've learned that even when they can get you to the point of being upset is fuel for them.
@@susanweaver6946 I don’t doubt it. Something tells me that it’s all going to blow up in his face. He was living with someone who kicked him out and he still keeps in contact with an x girlfriend who lives in Mexico. He is from Mexico and has said that he is not married but like the others say if a narc is moving their mouth they are lieing. Probably.
Just happened Thursday. Came to my house to say he cared about me. Why was I avoiding him? Said, I don’t trust you anymore.
Here is the only sign a narcissist is cheating on you: They are a narcissist.
My wife cheated on my for years and when she was finally caught she blamed me . The worse thing was the whole time she was making me question myself if I’m doing something wrong. She would hate when I went to the gym cause girls were there but i never spoke or looked at anyone so I was confused. She made her ex look like the worse cheater to make me feel she needs protection which I gave her . The things she did to me for 16yrs is unspeakable and hard to understand that someone that’s said they love you can cause you so much hurt.
He is almost 50 and continues to hang around persons who are in their late 20's and 30's. Nothing looks better on a narcissist than youth. At least in their opinion 😂
My ex never accused me of cheating, but if course he was very clear that HIS cheating was MY fault. He told me the sex wasn't as good as it had been in our twenties...we were in our late fifties at the time. When I told he was much nicer to me in our twenties, he didn't see how that was relevant.
First thing a narcissist will do is accuse you of cheating. Without any proof. Just because they know that they are cheaters themselves. My ex was a narcissist and accused me of cheating all of the time when I was not. He claimed he wasn't cheating but that was a lie and I only find out after I left him that need been cheating for 7 years. The entire time we were together.
The very first time I became suspicious narc ex-husband was cheating, was when he accidentally texted me, about me being sick, and to drink tea, do some Vicks, etc.. He texted me that 10 minutes after leaving for work. I was NOT sick. It turns out he was texting/cheating with a homeless woman that lived in her van with her dog, that kept her van parked on our street. I later discovered that woman, had a reputation of ill repute, slept with multiple men in our neighborhood and owed alot of money to various people in our neighborhood too.
How DISGUSTING is he?
If I have anymore aha moments I may start to hyperventilate .... I get accused constantly of being the cheater I've caught him on multiple dating sites other women under men's names in his phone he says he can't love me because look at me how can he love somebody who thinks so badly of him. Yes doesn't want e to be friends with his old friends because they say to me the awful shit they know he's doe to me.... what's wrong with these people they need to go back to Satan's balls where they came from
Mine slept with TWO prostitutes - and ten other women - I FOUND- who knows how many there actually were.
I watched Lee Hammond- mental Healness and he just did a video about them leaving us for TRASH -
Because they are so low, they find themselves digging through the trash ..
Wtf?
Wow
They love rescuing people so they can feel like a hero. Nothing surprises me.
I was having a long distance relationship with a narcissist. He would suddenly vanish for a couple of days and was not reachable. He would give me a myriad of excuses: car accident, lost phone, etc. I finally broke up with him. Narcissists are horrible human beings!
One minute he is sexually attentive doing everything he can and them nothing. No sex drive. And he cut his beard close to his face in an interesting pattern. Totally different. When he went out with the guys he wore cologne, same at the gym. And, yes he’d disappear for days of no contact. Yes, he constantly told me I was cheating and when he gave me an STI he blamed me. I figured out that whatever he was accusing me of he was doing. He told me that “he knew” I was flirting on Facebook. That’s crazy! Oh, that means he is. Got it.
He kept his phone glued to him he even brought it to the bathroom and was going outside to make calls the physical side was non existed he would start fights to go off and switch his phone off for days nasty and cruel so glad to be out 💯♥️📞
Yess I know that trick
Yep! Been there with my ex to. Exact same game
TRUE 😢
To the Narcissist I had a beautiful smile in the beginning. All of a sudden I have big teeth..lol!! He puts on extra cologne in the morning to see if I notice. I noticed a mark on his cheek that looked like a hickie and he explained it away. He starts fake arguments and I always tell him if you want to see someone else be my guest because we have no future and he will deny he is seeing someone. He tried something new in the bedroom and I noticed. There is more to the story but I am done with the circus act for good.
Hope he's gone for good?
IKR 😮
The narcissist was always gone for obscene amounts of time with lame excuses. I would self gaslight for sure and make excuses for the narcissist. All the years I spent virtually alone...sad.
Yep
Ugh. 12 years I lived with this. Never going back
Good for you not going back. I've been in this Narssictic relationship for 13 yrs. It's now at the end. I'm seeing all these signs. Mainly now all of a sudden she has to lose weight. Eat healthy foods. I told her to do that a few year's back. Loves that foul rap music. It's difficult for me. Because I do care for her. I need to care more about me .
I will make it, and be just fine.
Same
As unfortunate as this was to have happened to me, I am very grateful God protected me. No pregnancy and no marriage, out in under a year. I truly went off my intuition and it led me out of evil and into the light of God. I tell God yes I still love this person despite what they have done to me, but please protect me from them and give me the strength I need when I am weak. I say this prayer just about everyday. I used to feel shame for loving someone so horrible but now I feel okay. The strength of my love is strong because I was able to love a monster. Now I know the strength of my love, but this time it will not be misused again. Amen and stay safe. Blessings to all.
I felt this post in my heart and soul. Thank you for explaining how I feel and for the involuntary encouragement. I’m still trying to heal, grow, thrive, forgive him & myself and move forward ❣️🙏🏾
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I’m sorry you went through this but it also painful to read that you loved this monster and maybe still do, I want to correct that by saying you did not love that monster but you loved the mask he put on! I hope you will find a good hearted person in you live!
You are so strong . God bless your heart
Same ❤
I once had a gut feeling something was going on but had no proof. When I confronted him he said "All I want is you, and I'd never cheat on you, but if we're not together then it's not cheating". I think I git my answer there 🍒
Exactly this. This is how they justify it to themselves whilst trying to keep you hanging on. Run and never look back.
Well, depend of the others situation at this point.
I was raised in family were my relatives were all married until they died, cheating only happened on tv. I was a perfect target, but I don’t think giving trust is a bad choice, the sin lies solely on the person who breaks it. I’m smarter now, but I hope I keep believing in good, that would be a horrible loss after narcissistic abuse. He took enough, I will give him no more.❤
So your single huh😂 jk
Same
I didn't understand what was happening in my marriage until I came across this information, now am packing up and leaving him😢
Once he took a selfie with classmates at another classmates funeral. He laughed at how much younger he looked than his classmates. Even more laughable to me is that he looked older than any of them.
My ex wife showed her vacation photos during a funeral
My mother is a narcissist but she also has an aversion to talking about sex, even to the point that she never had the healthy discussions about it with her own children. My parents divorced when I was 10 and to my knowledge, she has had only 1 date since then (I am 50 now). Sex was a big issue in my parent's divorce, but I think it was more that she didn't want it and he did. So I doubt she cheated. However, she is annoyingly vain. She used to boast about how much prettier and younger looking she was than other people her age. She last tried it when talking about an family friend who was dying of cancer. Essentially, it boiled down to this:
Mom: Mr. X is 2 months younger than me, but don't you think I look years younger than him?
Me: Mom, nobody is going to mistake you for my sister, if that's what you're wondering.
She didn't talk to me for a few hours after that and then she never talked about Mr. X again. Poor Mr. X passed away a few months later and she couldn't be bothered to go to his funeral.
@@Mac-sb6dr SMH but typical narc
@@ladyv5655 Terrible
@@ladyv5655 my mamm too, no divorce but all you saied. Not all narcisists cheat on sex sometimes they are fobic or because of their countries morality they are proud to don't cheat sexually speaking, in those cases is a non sexual cheating, cheating of the soul instead, not sexual. In those cases they want the admiration of the others. Have a nice life.
I dont know but after watching this video I am crying why I spoil myself over a inhuman evil who exploit me in the name of love.. It feels like the scar that he gave to me will haunt me always.. And still my mind doesn't believe how can somone be so inhuman how
U are not alone
Divine Justice has no mercy. I hope you are in a place of healing and forgive yourself. You’re not alone dear, love yourself and respect yourself it’s our weapon against these fools ❤
I know, the narcissist appear to leave ever lasting scars, that know one see’s. I don’t believe mine was a cheater whilst married to me, because deep down I believed he hated women.
Their body, energy, aura and all around general disscust can be seen and read all over them. They change they style, scents, look and always tell you with their words before and while they are doing it.
It also always surprised me the type of person he cheated on me with. They were never the same "type" in looks or interests etc. They ranged from 20 years older than him, to women that were almost 20 years younger than him. Short, taller, thin, bigger, race was never a factor. What I did notice, was that he chose women that were either " married, unavailable in some sense, or fractured in a way as personal life, sexual issues, depression, anxiety, low self esteem, one person I suspected was even someone who self mutilated. He clearly was a predator. He even told me once" I am usually going after Unavailable women". he said he knew that. These are women who for one reason or another were easy targets, lonely, couldn't leave a marriage, felt like they were past their prime, or lacked self esteem. And I can say that because I am one in the list above. Whenever he was cheating, the texting would drop from off and on most of the day, to randomly through the day or here and there every few days. He would stop visiting me, he wouldn't be consumed with sex talk or wanting to meet somewhere for it. And there was always supply around him and he was fuller in himself than normal, and would get mad if you even suggested he was cheating.
He described himself as a very unique person and that he couldn’t help that others (women) found him so charismatic and wanted to “befriend” him. I never met his so called girlfriends/former colleagues, but he was in hospital at one point, and during that time, I ran into 2 (!) of them. None of them had ever heard of me. He was caught, but twisted it around, and called us drama queens. 7 years with that man hoovering me, gaslighting me. No more. I’m free now. No contact. In his opinion, I play the victim. He was a manipulative and evil person, and now I am so happy, I left him. Thank you so much for this Channel ❤
Sounds like the narc I’m getting prepared to leave! Thank you for sharing x
I was married to a narcissist for eight years and I eventually got the strength to leave all the lies and manipulations. I am happy I left him , now I am healing and I am enjoying life with my three daughters. Now, I also understand the importance of the support of family and friends. No wonder he isolated me from them. They had really helped with my healing and are still helping. I am really grateful I left him.
This is my situation right now. The start of divorce. 😢
@@stephthomas2247 you need all the strength in the world but trust me once you heal, you would say "thank you, divorce". Trust me, I have been there before. heal and you would find peace and happiness within yourself.
He was a mean man and always negative to others. I couldn't take that anymore.
Me neither! It's the worst just grumpy and harsh when they wake up! 🤮 meanwhile u like oh what a beautiful day it is outside and just happy to have woken up and be alive, I say this most morning when I wake up in MY house and walk down the stairs and see the sun radiating out my windows through the door, he is such a hater because Im genuinely appreciative of life no matter what I got going! I think thats why he ruined my day first things in the morning now that i think about it 🤔 just dawned on me WOW!!!
I'm about there rn
My Narc accused me of cheating from day one. It came up over and over whenever he would get upset about anything. Once I asked him, “if you think I’m such a terrible person, why are you with me?” His answer?...”So I can have sex on the weekend.” Unbelievable
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Yes,experienced all & it still makes my stomachs turn. Thank you for what you do!
Yes you never forget it forgive never go back again courage we win!
My ex started dying his hair for first time ever when I had figured him out that he is a narcissist. I was heavily pregnant and he wouldn't touch me throughout the pregnancy then after he wanted it everyday and I was so suspicious. He said it was all in my head and that he wasn't doing anything. Whatever. I left his sorry ass and now he has the same hairstyle he had when I met him 15 years ago and is trying so hard to look younger. I just laugh and say to myself thank God you woke up and got the hell out with the kids.
Good for you sister. Praise be to God for getting you and your children out.
Sad thing is they don’t even care about the kids. They only want contact with them for control over you or if the kids can make them look normal to others.
@@brendacarey5207 thar is so sad but true. My ex only wants to see our kids 3 hours on a Saturday and that's it. Not bothered about taking annual leave and seeing them extra days in school holidays etc but he will take annual leave to go abroad on holiday instead. I feel for my kids- they are girls and I don't want them to think all men are like their dad
LoL I look back now and I laugh about my father and my ex boyfriend they think they are so clever but in reality they are thick as shite I'm glad that as survivers we can now laugh at them because we had the last laugh🥰🥰🥰
Or he’s been GAY😢
Perfectly said.
They are great liars!
As I was watching your video I had a huge smile on my face. I so connected with what you were saying. I just started watching you and you are fantastic thank you. I'm now out of the narcissistic relationship but I keep watching this as it keeps me strong. Like an alcoholic goes to AA and doesn't drink but still goes to the meetings, you are like my meetings for narcissistic behavior and what to look for. Again thank you
Yes I thank you to. I never knew about Narcissistic personality, learnt so much watching your video's and others on this channel. Wasted so much of my life, all force. God didn't promise sunshine without rain. 🥲
I can tell by the language and the tone of a text message and my intuition if someone is cheating on me. 😆
Trust is the basis of all relationships but narcissist use your trust to break it, never stoop to their level they not worth it. Maintain your dignity. A person who truly loves you will protect you and you will feel safe.
@@heartofpuregold Messages to me. Sometimes it's a gut feeling. I trust my intuition.
@@AliceDont888 i really wish i could help more people and say more but legally i cant
All I can say is that i think if a person truly loves you they accept you in good and bad times and its easy to be faithful. The problem is they are cowards it takes courage to love and live for another person.
"Need to work late" or "getting grocies" at 10pm when the stores are closed and everyone goes home after 5pm at most offices.
The internet has hurt so many marriages. Too much temptation. So much time wasted on their sorry asses.
Absolutely! "My dad was a cheater, I would never cheat on you!"- heard that one from the first day!
People do dirty things behind people back are crazy people I shouldn't socialize with ! They aren't worth my friendship
I finally am understanding more clearly why my father was the way he was. 58 years old and finally finding answers that make sense. Thank you Danish.
💯% true, Danish. My soon to be ex husband probably has pretty much cheated on me our entire marriage by using his rental property as excuses for leaving the house.
I am just learning about narcissism, I see the typical signs on my husband of many years, I am working on ending our marriage Early on when our daughter was a toddler I got an STD, he totally denied he had done anything wrong, he kept saying maybe j was misdiagnosed, and other things that did not make sense, I was a virgin when I met him, he was the first and only man I had been with, so he knew better not to accuse me. I was devastated, fortunately I was treated and him too with antibiotics. He never took responsibility or confessed what he did. He is a covert narcissist that presented himself as a true Mr. Nice Guy, that's how everyone else sees him. He is not the violent or argumentative type, which is even more misleading, but he has cheated, gas lighted, lied a ruined our finances. I can see now that he is so dysfunctional and immature but hides under a fake perfect facade.
@@nz630 I only learned about narcissism a few years ago. It’s amazing how much alike and how predictable their demonic personalities are.
@@nz630..Coverts can be Fake charm. Fake nice and Fake shy. They are never faithful. They are sick disgusting and sex creeps.
@@nz630 lol are you in Nz?.
?? He's not called chev is he??? Sounds like a idiot like my ex.
What a dog.
Everything you said here is absolutely true. Took me forever to figure out my ex-husband was a narcissist and he did everything you described, twice! I was not real smart when I was younger, it wasn't until long after I left him that I figured all of this out
It's horrible experienced, when u are relationship with narcissistic...
Those people who go around saying "If it walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck" never realize how much quacking they're actually doing.
Love your saying 🙂
I always had a gut feeling that there was another person in my partner's life but I never had proof. when I saw this video I was very intrigued but I also didn't wanna watch it because I knew that I'll hear something that I don't wanna hear. And sure enough, some of these signs sounded very familiar. I guess I have to face the truth eventually. Thank you for your videos!
I went through all of this. I’m healed now. This is great validator for anyone going through that craziness
congratulations on your own healing
How long did it take???
Ditto…
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Once you realize what your dealing with and come to terms with it, your whole perspective will change.
Number 1 is so spot on! LOL. When I dumped the Narc we had a conversation about whatever happened behind my back was no longer my problem. He denied it but at that point I knew he had most likely crossed lines. Refusing to accept the aging is HILARIOUS! I took a picture of him when we were out to dinner, he looked older than his age, he made me rip it up 😂😂😂 I should have run for the hills when he told me one of his exes burned his clothes on a lawn when they broke up. It was always the exes fault.
Lol mine said his ex cheated and got preggos 4 another man
You are 100% accurate.
I have now watched several of your videos and you are spot on with your assessments of narcissists.
Very impressive … keep up the great work!
I agree learned a lot from.him.despite the woman who troll him on here ms royal bullcrap
Yes, this happened to me, behavior change and with holding sex, blaming, dying their hair and beard, working out, new clothes, devaluing, dont answer phone and call back in 10 to 15 mins., Always going in private to talk, always on phone, angry if you ask whom they are texting, planned nights with friends that now you cant go on any more because I act stupid, accusing me of cheating, if I ask a question, they say Im accusing them, they are the book of a malignant covert narcisist...
My experience? Yes...I was called the abuser. I was called out for doing the cheating and being the liar. I FINALLY snapped and lost it on him (wrong move but NOBODY is that strong and everyone has their breaking point) and told him how much I could NOT take another second of his BS! FOR 21 YEARS he through in my face things I did 20 years ago when I was still young (51) and blamed for literally EVERYTHING. The twisting, the omitting, playing the victim, never wrong, wants me held accountable but has no accountability for his own deplorable actions, demands apologies yet offers none only blanket statements, says he loves me but in the same breath puts me down for all he has sacrificed for 22 years. He even recently used the unaliving himself move yet AGAIN because I left. I am a former shell of my old self. I mourn that girl.
Wishing you well in your journey of self-care and self-worth. 💪🏼
Sound familiar.
You will find your way back in your journey. I wish you all the best ...
The narcissist is married and, wanted me to cheat with him. I wouldn't so I'm sure he has others on the side. I don't get that. He has a beautiful wife and, what appears to be a good life. It's never enough for narcissist. They try to fill that emptiness anyway they can.
I agree. Everything you explained had happened to me. Started with a f/b orbiter asking her out on messenger. Someone we knew from high school. He knew we were together. He didn't care. He played the empathy card trying to reel her in. It worked. She was still sleeping w/me while going out w/him. All unbeknownst to me. She straight ghosted me when we had made plans over 4th of July and later that month. I figured it out. I texted her & told her I was onto her game. She called me & admitted she has been dating this piece of shit for a couple of weeks, but wanted to stay "best friends like we always were since 5th grade." I was appalled & told her "that's the sacrifice you're going to have to make." No way to the friends gig and I told her we will never see each other again. 80 days N/C & it's been absolute radio silence since. I am pretty sure she's living with this self proclaimed empath & posting them all over f/b partying & dinners, ballgames. Some empath, didn't give a shit @ my situation. His problem now, and he has no idea what he is in for. As soon as the limerence is over, she'll be moving on to the next supplier. (Sorry such a long post) Such a terrible thing to do to someone that treated you with nothing but love & respect. Sickening to say the least.
Devastating wake up call, harsh life lesson indeed
@@casperinsight3524 Thanks. Worse thing that's ever happened to me. And I've been through a lot of turmoil. Life shock.
Be grateful you did not marry her and have children. I married a Covert narcissist and 20 years he did lying and adultery. Our children grew up in that mess. I knew nothing about Narcissist...I was sucked in and hoped that for our children he would stop his sick behavior. I did file for divorce and he got more abusive. I did heal from the abuse and I remarried to a very honest good man. 22 years after I divorced the Scum Covert Narc....he tried to get between me and my husband. It did not work...yet it's proof of how long the Narcissist are destructive people. Be Grateful she left your life...that is a blessing in disguise.
@@JChristo1984 same. Normal people can't comprehend that such evil people exist.
@@melisentiapheiffer3034 They will find out in time. A couple of minutes after they see their guts lying on the floor in front of them.
Here are a few more signs: They change their taste in music all of a sudden. They begin to eat things they never liked before, or refused to eat before. They begin changing their style in clothing, as well as different colors from their normal palette. They begin using different words or phrases out of the blue. The want to vacation elsewhere, and perhaps without you. They now have new (and younger) friends. In other words, they change themselves to fit the mold of the targeted new supply. And of course, that's also what they did to get US!
Omgg so true. Changing music tastes and also using new vocabulary from the person they're cheating us on with
@@psh2365 You got it!
They are demonic parasitic energy vampires.
You are spot on in ALL accounts. My ex narcissist exhibits all these behaviors and more, and is verbally, physically & financially Abusive!!
How about starting an argument so they can be so offended they need to stay with “ a girlfriend”? Dramatic over their body when nothing negative said? How about trying to act like they are in their 20’s- 30’when they are in their 50’s? What about being consistently irresponsible, lazy and crossing boundaries? What about not being able to negotiate mutually acceptable things.. (their way only acceptable ).. ?
I put myself back on the dating app I met him on but took 10 years off my age as I suspected I was as just an option. Within an hour he text asking me why i was lying about my age. Hilarious how he couldn’t see my trap and tried to say I was as cheating I wasn’t just making a point I knew he was hunting for other supply.
This video describes my abusive narcissistic marriage to a tee. After stone cold abandoning me without any explanation, he tried to hoover me after the devastating divorce finalized. But I found out about his philandering ways after an ex-gf of his went batshit crazy and galvanized all the women he cheated on and exposed him in ways that is tabloid-worthy. It was from his harem of women that I found out the disgusting smear campaign he did on me, his lies about me were all a projection of his selfish narcissistic character. But karma avenged for me without me ever being vindictive nor spiteful.
To all those who have gone through the turmoil of a narcissistic relationship, their come uppance will come, no matter how lonely and hurt you feel in your heart and mind, the day will come when they will be exposed to the world.
My ex narcissist kept a "trophy" book of pictures of almost 300 women he had had sex with. Most were half naked in the pictures or laying in bed. I suppose I'm in it too now that he's finished with me. He would take it out and show it to people. He's 87 years old now and I know he has not changed.
If he just comes right out and says, "I don't cheat." Yes, you do, you're the King of cheaters! If he keeps telling you what a good person he is, then he's not! Geez, grow up and get help! Thanks for another helpful video!
I knew he was a cheater.
He kept throwing himself at me.
Lying about the person he was with
So. I knew He was a cheater.
I should have not given in.
I'm ashamed of it!
Kind of figured he would do this to me
I had noticed that the intimacy had changed I also smelled perfume on his jumper after he came back from a certain club I asked him why it smelled like perfume and he just shrugged it off, It had been 6 years into the relationship and nothing changed it only got worse I left him to his own devices until I had no choice but to make a plan and leave
AMEN 🙏🏽
Probably one of the most painful and healing videos I’ve ever watched thank you!
Oh lawd!! It's always said that everyone wants to take them down!!!. Every time I listen to your video,I see a lot more of this person!. It's a friggin nitemare!. The only thing is,I am dealing with things on a whole different level,I am stronger mentally and emotionally,no more tears,Just Determination!!. I believe someone else is involved,the sneeky late nite texts,the scanning of photos,the change in intimate relations!!.Not jealousy,but a gut feeling something is goin on Outside. So glad I am learning more and MORE each day. Genuine love plays no part there!!
Oh yeah. All of it. Now he says he is celibate, can't quit laughing. He has told so many lies it is worthy of a book.
Narc accused me of cheating, when I would go to my mother's to help her; the Narc never helped her or never went with me. My neighbor is an old man and I am a straight dude, so I found that odd. Anyway, I took the Narc's accusation as a confession that she was cheating on me; cuz that's how a Narc confesses. I divorced her. I am much happier without the stress of a Narc.
I realized I had blocked out so much of his infidelities in order to survive my marriage and not loose my sanity. We attended a funeral of one of his former drinking buddies and a woman approached me and apologized to me and it all came flooding back. It has been a struggle ever since. He wants to pretend like it never happened and I should “get over it”. I asked him “what am I supposed to get over if it never happened.”.
Its a good thing I no longer measure my self worth by his standards.
Sorry to hear this....I've been there myself, though not exactly the same sitch. I know it may not help, but if it were me me in your place, I'd consider the roundabout confession of that woman to be your confirmation AND vindication. Your closure as well.
Yes, he'd just call her "crazy", and maybe he'd call you that too. But stick with her confession and your intuition.
And now, respond accordingly. Don't waste another minute of YOUR previous life and time on this man. And don't listen to fear while you move on.
You've got this. Honor your SELF, dear.
The narcissist I dated always called herself and empath and was always the victim of something. I gave her a solution to not be the victim but that was complete nonsense to her.
My health is important to me. If he is cheating, by all means he's free to cheat but don't expect me to sleep with him anymore. It's better for him to pack up and live with the woman he's sleeping with. He's a narcissist that I want to discard anyway. Why should I sleep with him? Go whatever hell he want to go. The devil lives there, he can join her.
IKR😢
Truthfully, being given another day in 50’s heading to 60’s, it really is such a Blessing, beyond 💖 There’s nothing greater at times one can celebrate these moments, and feel deeply grateful for these days.💖
Narcissists accuse their victim of being unfaithful, but they are the ones who are cheating. They accuse their victim of what they are doing. In other words it is like a confection.
She has cheated on me so many times now that I just let it slide and call it "an open relationship" 😮 wow
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i had a partner who started treating me like shit out of the blue, and i had no idea why, but it was because he cheated on me and rather than facing his guilt, he was more comfortable attacking me even though i didn't even suspect anything had happened
Ugh that's disgusting...i know how u felt...my mom always said a man treat u mean and nasty he got somebody else! He is gross 🤮
@@lala5061 thanks. it was a long time ago
The smartest thing ive done is to not tell him what I've learnt about narcissistic people....
Ive listened, observed, and by doing this i have now freed myself of his grasp.
Watch as many as you can, and dont tell them just watch and learn.
Walk away......be free....be you....❤
After getting an STI from my narc spouse, he accused me of giving it to him. Freaking maddening!
This video was very enlightening Danish. These things resonate with me, especially the part about cancelling at the last minute. I had assumed it was a way to get back at me for some unseen thing he assumed I did, but listening to you it made since, of course most of it was to go to another supply. It was like a light turned on and I just remember asking once were we still going to go to lunch..and I remember him saying hold on we'll see. I remember how arrogant and smug he was, so he probably was weighing his options then. The more I watch, the more I can see everything play out week by week from my experience with him. It's scary how accurate this information is. And yes, right at the beginning I stated how I didn't like cheaters and liars, and he just went overboard about he didn't either and how his ex's had did that to him, just like you said. He honestly must be the most arrogant person I know to play this game so well with so many. I have walked away from him and am doing pretty good so far. Your videos are helping me tremendously, thank you.
I began to suspect towards the end of my relationship with my ex bf that he was cheating, but at that point I was already getting ready to break up with him because he's a terrible person, so I didn't even bring it up. I never did find out for sure and to be honest, since I had clean STI tests later, I don't really care at this point. If he were to come to me now and admit to cheating during our relationship, I would probably say something like, "Who gives a f@%k?"
Yeeeessss 👏🏽 I been stopped having sex with him it's been a looong 18 years in this bullsh*t....the physical disconnection is usually the last step for a woman to be gone...im just lining it up and he knows it too! Sick of his a$$ 😂, Im tired of being single I would like to get to experience a kind, loving relationship where someone takes me out at least occasionally 🙄 do something or buy something for my birthday and anniversary at least occasionally damn...started feeling like maybe im a f*cking side chick that's when I was like yea im done! He really sees no value in me and all the potential great guys I passed up and I got myself stuck with this bullsh*t 🤦🏽♀️ im so angry with myself!
That age and sexual apperance part is most accurate one
Seriously my Ex asked me how she's looking age wise just to gain attention of her new boyfriend ☺️☺️
This explains the happy hours, work events, disappearing at our wedding, sending me away for my birthday and going no contact, lying about being at work, the alarming number female friends, lying about lunch dates with female coworkers, late night FaceTimes and texts, being in the bathroom for hours in the middle of the night, multiple showers a day, wanting to get violent during sex and try new positions, always denying when I initiated, liking and responding to thirst traps, obsessing over the gym randomly, awkwardly inviting women who aren’t close to me to my special occasions, and accusing me of cheating while I was PREGNANT. I could not deny the pit in my stomach but there was never any PROOF..
Recently my narc and I went out to talk. We ordered drinks. The waiter asked for my ID but not my narc’s. We’re only 1 yr apart so to be honest I was surprised but showed my ID anyhow. After I went to the restroom and after I got back my narc started to complain as to why I was carded and he wasn’t. He wouldn’t stop. I didn’t realize how much it had bothered him. You see, years ago a lady thought i was his daughter, others thought our son was his grandson. I kept telling him that it was just his grey hair...or his serious, no-happy-go-lucky expression. Yes, he’s into his looks...