MEETING THE ENEMY A feminist comes to terms with the Men's Rights movement | Cassie Jaye | TEDxMarin

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  • @dreggory82
    @dreggory82 5 років тому +31396

    She gets it, equality should not be about punishing the other side, it should be about lifting each other up.

    • @benthayermath
      @benthayermath 5 років тому +278

      Yes.

    • @scottsteiner359
      @scottsteiner359 5 років тому +513

      Literally men have been supporting and protecting women since ages . While women can't do anything for men .

    • @victorrafih9238
      @victorrafih9238 5 років тому +1394

      Scott Steiner that’s just straight up ignorance bro, cmon

    • @vaclav_fejt
      @vaclav_fejt 5 років тому +754

      @@scottsteiner359 Well, she's the prime example that they can and they do.

    • @scottsteiner359
      @scottsteiner359 5 років тому +153

      @@plannetworld89 nah , I don't want women , I just want to focus on my career and earn lots of money . Maybe I'll also do some social work . But I'll never restrict myself to one woman . I'm that smartass .

  • @francocruz1083
    @francocruz1083 3 роки тому +39071

    When someone admits they’re wrong or are able to see the other persons point , they earn my full respect

    • @boxscorestuffer6217
      @boxscorestuffer6217 3 роки тому +266

      Same here

    • @Maribro4
      @Maribro4 3 роки тому +486

      Agreed. People today are either too self righteous and won’t admit when they’re wrong even if they know it because they’re too proud, or they’re scared to admit they’re wrong because they’re taught that when someone is wrong they’re bad because being wrong is bad. There is nothing bad about being wrong, no one is perfect and we all make mistakes and are wrong about something. We need to spread that message more because it shouldn’t be such a rare thing to see people openly accept and admit they were wrong.
      I will always respect people who admit when they’re wrong or are able to see the other person’s point, i just wish it was more common

    • @ryanrich06
      @ryanrich06 3 роки тому +215

      Ya, she wasted 10 years of her life with idiotic viewpoints.

    • @darrientwyman1309
      @darrientwyman1309 3 роки тому +96

      Yeah but it still took her being around people who are dealing with issues and then she needed those issues re-enforced after years of research. Shorty just proves we will never understand eachother, much respect, but she really shows how long it takes for someone to use common sense.

    • @glennmoyers4956
      @glennmoyers4956 3 роки тому +172

      She wasn't wrong, only misguided and brainwashed by leftist ideology

  • @TheBillNye
    @TheBillNye 5 років тому +30363

    “It’s not a contest, but I kept making it into one”
    Perfectly sums up the issues at hand

    • @jaked924
      @jaked924 5 років тому +375

      Never thought id agree with you. But here i do.

    • @benjamin7670
      @benjamin7670 5 років тому +176

      @@jaked924 Lol You have no idea how mutual that comment is...

    • @APiccolo
      @APiccolo 5 років тому +167

      Either I'm too naive and just got whooshed or these guys just believed this is the actual Bill Nye. ...or even, I'm BIG TIME naive because this is the actual BN haha

    • @DiscocheeseGaming
      @DiscocheeseGaming 5 років тому +35

      Alexandre Piccini it’s a wooosh

    • @alma8508
      @alma8508 5 років тому +49

      Almost thought it was
      the real Bill Nye

  • @imAnonymous_19
    @imAnonymous_19 6 місяців тому +643

    "Go outside, everything you see was built by a man, and everyone you see, was made by a woman."
    When it all comes together, it makes a very beautiful sentence.

    • @eunomiac
      @eunomiac 5 місяців тому +17

      It really does! Though I'm pedantic so I'd remove the third comma: "Go outside, everything you see was built by a man, and everyone you see was made by a woman."

    • @Haakonisak
      @Haakonisak 5 місяців тому +1

      Everyone was made by a woman AND a man. Without a man a woman can't make anything but trouble.

    • @imAnonymous_19
      @imAnonymous_19 5 місяців тому +14

      @@eunomiac The presence of the third comma indicates the significance of the line as an eye opener towards current beliefs and expectations of hearing, the brief little pause the last comma provides provides a short amount of time for the listener to grasp the importance of the role of women in creating the creators. This concept somewhat defies expected statements regarding this topic. To further demonstrate the sheer beauty in the art of creation, be it in the first case or the second, a brief pause is provided before revealing the immense importance of women, and that's what the comma signifies.
      I generally don't overlook minor details, and this comment wasn't an exception.
      (Edited in a play of words with a repeat of the word 'provide' to humorously demonstrate attention to detail)

    • @terrencelong6436
      @terrencelong6436 4 місяці тому +25

      No..that's incorrect,...apart from natures creations...everything and everyone you see was made by contrbutions from both man and woman.

    • @imAnonymous_19
      @imAnonymous_19 4 місяці тому +12

      @@terrencelong6436 It's a broad generalisation of the major role of men in construction and the role of a mother in parturition of a newborn offspring. As it's natural for a quote, this quote is generalised.

  • @dontcare3293
    @dontcare3293 3 роки тому +5593

    The fact she actually said "i wasnt actually listening to them. I was loooking for flaws" made me respect her. Not only she renewed her world view. But she also became honest of what she felt at that moment and was not ashamed of admitting her mistake.

    • @brickplank_films5189
      @brickplank_films5189 3 роки тому +98

      sadly that is modern day society we look at people flaws we judge people by there race,ethnicity,likes,dislkes,opinions,gender instead of truly judging people by there character

    • @jxslayz6663
      @jxslayz6663 3 роки тому +26

      As one who has sinned, its best for us to help others who are lost in the sin we are now free from. It's the right thing to do.

    • @shauryasinha7785
      @shauryasinha7785 3 роки тому +15

      The confirmation bias... is the worst of all

    • @fishgaming9959
      @fishgaming9959 3 роки тому

      @@brickplank_films5189 quite ironic

    • @Aj-vz5ux
      @Aj-vz5ux 3 роки тому +1

      @@brickplank_films5189 I am 2 years old and will never become a member Pen

  • @zackjandali
    @zackjandali 5 років тому +5907

    “We have to stop expecting to be offended” are the wisest words I’ve heard in a long time.

    • @emaan6082
      @emaan6082 5 років тому +45

      Amen brother

    • @dorothycampbell3
      @dorothycampbell3 5 років тому +63

      Sorry I hadn't seen this sooner. We waste so much valuable time "wanting to be offended" 😞

    • @morokeiboethia6749
      @morokeiboethia6749 5 років тому +80

      There are so many people who are absolutely addicted to victimization (always seeing themselves victims of injustice) that they want to be offended. There are tons of feminists who are addicted to this selfish/self centered mindset.

    • @dorothycampbell3
      @dorothycampbell3 5 років тому +15

      Zack, I never thought of it as an "addiction," but truth has been spoken.

    • @scallen3841
      @scallen3841 5 років тому +23

      @@morokeiboethia6749 I think playing the victim is the easy out .

  • @Phisim101
    @Phisim101 3 роки тому +3701

    "We have to stop expecting to be offended" - really hit the nail in the head with that line.

    • @billsimms2511
      @billsimms2511 3 роки тому +85

      Yes, but we are going on the wrong direction. So many people are trying to look for sexism or racism everywhere

    • @soph5423
      @soph5423 3 роки тому +27

      it odd to me how I've never looks at it that way, its kind of amazing how much that sentence changed my view in an instance

    • @JMObyx
      @JMObyx 3 роки тому +32

      @@billsimms2511 That's exactly the point, people are looking for war and conflict where there is none, The Left wants a fight, you can see it in every interaction with them.

    • @CMT_Crabbles
      @CMT_Crabbles 3 роки тому +2

      @@JMObyx Whats the left? I hear it everywhere and it just seems like political slang that everyone seems to get.

    • @Lilgip234
      @Lilgip234 3 роки тому +10

      @@CMT_Crabbles it honestly goes both ways the left will also say oh he’s right it doesn’t matter but both sides have become extreme

  • @ClimbnFish
    @ClimbnFish 11 місяців тому +132

    Ugh having been falsely accused of abuse when in fact my ex was the one that was violent, this hit home. It took her own sister testifying against her for me to get custody of my kids. Ridiculous.

    • @DiamondCraft2000
      @DiamondCraft2000 17 днів тому +1

      sorry to hear that you had to deal with that :(

    • @bplayerr1
      @bplayerr1 16 днів тому +1

      ✊️

    • @hmu05366
      @hmu05366 5 днів тому

      Millennial women are generally nuts to be honest.

  • @Bmetamaximus
    @Bmetamaximus 4 роки тому +4491

    From a father who escaped an abusive marriage but is still trying to save his son... Thank you!

    • @lightningrain313
      @lightningrain313 4 роки тому +212

      I sincerely hope you get your son back!

    • @jacksonbreece1066
      @jacksonbreece1066 4 роки тому +94

      You go king

    • @joshwilliams9248
      @joshwilliams9248 4 роки тому +142

      I feel you Brother. The court system is against us and its completely unfair. Best of luck...

    • @MrDahQ
      @MrDahQ 4 роки тому +36

      Best of luck to you brother!

    • @iuliastratulat5503
      @iuliastratulat5503 4 роки тому +100

      if your wife is abusive I do hope you get your child, I would hate it for an abusive person to get the child. I am a woman and I don't care about the idea that a mother should get the child, he/she should be with the person that would take care of the well being of the small person as best as they can. good luck to you!

  • @richardfrankenberg4268
    @richardfrankenberg4268 5 років тому +6653

    There is nothing that brings a tear to my eye and stirs my soul like when I see someone grow and admit fault. Humility.

    • @KLOC2812
      @KLOC2812 5 років тому +159

      Idno man, you seen those videos of soldiers coming home to their dogs? That stuff'll get you every time :P

    • @Andrew-oj3pv
      @Andrew-oj3pv 5 років тому +52

      Kial O'C Don’t get me going down that UA-cam rabbit hole

    • @Picklespit
      @Picklespit 5 років тому +38

      @@Andrew-oj3pv I can't get down another rabbit hole. I've just watched 5 ted talks in a row.

    • @xmixaplix
      @xmixaplix 5 років тому +11

      Yes well God knows how much damage she did before she became woke 🤔

    • @richardfrankenberg4268
      @richardfrankenberg4268 5 років тому +22

      @@xmixaplix God? You think God cares?? look around you.. Does it really look like a God cares what we do? People drop that name like they know it personally.. Like there is a 2 way convo going on.. Do you pay any mind to the ant crossing the side walk? Nope, so why would a god?? Are they sociopaths?? Because the behavior they have displayed says they are... God.. seriously?? God died once mankind started having IQs over 135..

  • @Bubbles-od2zm
    @Bubbles-od2zm 4 роки тому +4715

    “When you start to humanize your enemy, you, in turn, may be dehumanized by your community.”
    What a sadly raw, honest statement.

    • @peasant7214
      @peasant7214 4 роки тому +55

      Still into effect in most communities, including some/most muslim communities
      whats the cure? :(

    • @riteshbolane
      @riteshbolane 4 роки тому +69

      When Jon Snow considered the wildlings were human too , and shud be protected from the night king, he gave them shelter.
      In turn he was murdered by his brothers of the Nights Watch for supporting them. He never said he was switching sides, he just wanted the same side for all.

    • @beneaththesurface1569
      @beneaththesurface1569 4 роки тому +35

      Feminists are a community of deranged man bashers set in a society that already favors women. I have quit women and want nothing to do with them. The arrogance of being in a "movement" that wants to push men further off the cliff of inequality that is practiced against men should be enough for anybody.

    • @sammyruncorn4165
      @sammyruncorn4165 4 роки тому +23

      @@beneaththesurface1569
      I feel sorry for you.

    • @nbofddsrtre6216
      @nbofddsrtre6216 4 роки тому +11

      @@riteshbolane the one true king,The King in the North

  • @ynotbloom
    @ynotbloom Рік тому +425

    The part about “wrongly accused” so rung a bell for me. Not often, but several times during my career. I saw how men and women claiming domestic violence victimhood were significantly treated differently. I will share the one that sticks in my crawl, the most, even after all these decades.
    As a Police Officer ( now retired) in a metro of nearly 200K pop at the time, I took & investigated a complaint of Domestic Violence-Related Kidnapping. The complainant gave a verbal and written account of how her ex-husband used the presence of wanting to work some things out, held her hostage and in fear of her life for hours until they happened to stop for a traffic signal near her mom’s house. There she claimed to have jumped out of the car and fled to Mom’s house. She gave vague times and locations (citing mental trauma) but an intimately detailed description of their clothes and car.
    Because of how our State & local laws & policies were written I was either to locate the subject & interview him (as in -functionally- locate & communicate with him within about half an hour), or put out an Apprehension Request on him (essentially jail him until either I or a Judge spoke to him). Even if I communicated with him, if there was even a reasonable possibility that the complainant was correct, he would still be jailed.
    I actually found him at home about 10 minutes after I finished speaking with the complainant. He was cooperative and came with me to the department for questioning.
    His account paralleled that of the complainant with significant differences. He gave very specific location and time information of their whereabouts for the evening and question. He stated that she had wanted to celebrate his birthday by going out that evening. He further said the night ended nicely with her, giving him a kiss goodbye in the car, getting out, and then actually running down the block as he left… To give him one more good night kiss through his driver window.
    I knew the locations given, and all were known to have excellent video security elements. Within 48 hours, I had obtained five, good quality to excellent quality video accounts of what occurred that evening evening - including (miraculously) an owner voluntarily submitted ring, doorbell, video of the , Chase and second good night kiss.
    In contacting the complainant back for a secondary interview, she double downed on her account, claiming that he had actually choked her in the car just before she jumped out and escaped.
    When I completed the investigation, I referred the complainant to the district attorneys office For two counts of filing a false police report, and one count of obstructing an officer (because the video evidence completely exonerated the subject, and completely contradicted the complaints story).
    The end result was the district attorney declined to press charges. In a quote off the record” conversation some months later, a secretary told me that the talk in the office was that it would not look good at election time to have charged a female, domestic violence complainant such charges.
    Further, I received a verbal and written “tongue, lashing“ from one of our detective captains regarding my investigation. I was specifically told that, instead of wasting my time, trying to prove the complaints guilt, I should have concentrated my efforts on, proving the subject was guilty. my options going forward were to either drop the batter, or risk being suspended for insubordination (putting both my and my family’s livelihood at risk).
    Yes - there is a significant discrepancy when it comes to how persons on this topic are treated in the legal and judiciary system: and it is not even handed.

    • @zerocal76
      @zerocal76 10 місяців тому +32

      Jesus all of that is simply frightening. I had an ex once who even when she was 100% wrong would never admit to it and was cold until I'd apologize or stop being upset myself. I'm so glad all that ended. Be strong and wise men! Thank u for sharing the story sir 🙏

    • @tile82
      @tile82 10 місяців тому +21

      That's just unbelievable and unfair. And we call this justice?

    • @GianlucaTorromeo
      @GianlucaTorromeo 10 місяців тому +14

      wow that justice system sucks.

    • @mmmbbop9351
      @mmmbbop9351 9 місяців тому +26

      Yep as someone who has been falsely accused I am due to appear in court on Friday for the announcement of the trial date.
      This system is terrible and I have to admit, if I see a woman in trouble or in need of help or anything, I just keep on walking now.
      My very biological need to protect women has been stripped out of me and I'm not the only one.

    • @Hadgerz
      @Hadgerz 9 місяців тому

      The Party dictates that a woman absolutely cannot be seen being charged for a false accusation, because that would look bad come election time.
      This is why you DON'T vote blue, no matter who.

  • @distractionbeast778
    @distractionbeast778 5 років тому +8447

    When 3 of my 4 children were born, the hospital's policies would not allow me to be alone with them, including when my wife was sleeping. We were provably married, my wife even gave consent, but their policies still prohibited me based on the *possibility* that I was an abusive man. As a loving, religious, married and involved husband and father, I don't think I've ever felt as diminished in my life.

    • @RRC6490
      @RRC6490 5 років тому +837

      John Michel wow! That’s just ridiculous, I’m sorry man

    • @grumpyyellowfang3344
      @grumpyyellowfang3344 5 років тому +653

      Wow, that should shouldn't be illegal your wife even gave consent

    • @ailurophile107
      @ailurophile107 5 років тому +557

      That is absolutely heartbreaking. They shouldn't be allowed to split up families like that. I'm so sorry this happened to you. :(

    • @ashleywilliams10
      @ashleywilliams10 5 років тому +73

      Oh my god..

    • @joshuatan942
      @joshuatan942 5 років тому +120

      America?

  • @Valhalla1987
    @Valhalla1987 3 роки тому +2664

    "When one group is silenced, it's a problem for all of us.". Something I wish more people understood.

    • @jorgecardenas4438
      @jorgecardenas4438 2 роки тому +2

      JA JA JA JA

    • @c.sstudios3060
      @c.sstudios3060 2 роки тому +4

      Tbh idc if far right folks would be silenced

    • @josephreinhart8712
      @josephreinhart8712 2 роки тому +12

      @@c.sstudios3060 then why do you care so much?

    • @brentbarfuss7900
      @brentbarfuss7900 2 роки тому +34

      @@c.sstudios3060 Shush yo mouth soy boy

    • @theiranxican7412
      @theiranxican7412 2 роки тому +2

      @@c.sstudios3060 yeah well us fAr RiGhT eXtReMiStS don't need silence when you communist soybeans do just fine running your mouths like inept teeny boppers. Just saying...🤷‍♂️

  • @srinivasgogula7235
    @srinivasgogula7235 3 роки тому +4391

    "When you start to humanize your enemy, you, in turn, may be dehumanized by your community " this is so true .

    • @scarletwarlock3261
      @scarletwarlock3261 3 роки тому +106

      Powerful but very true. Everyone around you hates this person or group. When you dig deeper and realize the monster you thought was there was actually not there but just a human. Your group starts to hate you because they believe that by seeing good in something bad then you are as bad as that accused person or group

    • @wyleecoyotee4252
      @wyleecoyotee4252 3 роки тому +9

      But when will the enemy humanize you?

    • @snowbind
      @snowbind 3 роки тому +85

      @@wyleecoyotee4252 Maybe they were never your enemy to begin with?

    • @wyleecoyotee4252
      @wyleecoyotee4252 3 роки тому +11

      @@snowbind ask the Red pill society that question how they feel about women, all women of all ages

    • @PatrickMenesesYTOfficial4945
      @PatrickMenesesYTOfficial4945 3 роки тому +6

      History repeats itself

  • @R3GARnator
    @R3GARnator Рік тому +478

    I was falsely accused by a woman for turning her down, and this made me cry.

    • @Momonga32
      @Momonga32 11 місяців тому +41

      Stay strong brother were in this together

    • @nfymgeas4
      @nfymgeas4 10 місяців тому +16

      number one way to get that to happen in my experience is to reject them, speaking from experience.

    • @lisahinton9682
      @lisahinton9682 9 місяців тому +1

      @R3GARnator Accused of what?

    • @BigBananaBus
      @BigBananaBus 9 місяців тому

      what do you mean of what? XD its obvious lmao @@lisahinton9682

    • @L333gok
      @L333gok 8 місяців тому +3

      “The only thing that matters is me because I met one bad woman even though the majority of abusers are male”

  • @LargeLadCharles
    @LargeLadCharles 5 років тому +19235

    As cool as this is, the whole talk boils down to “I decided to actually listen to someone with a different opinion and changed my views based on new information”. It’s sad that this has to be glorified when it should just be the norm.

  • @supersleepy6295
    @supersleepy6295 4 роки тому +3737

    This woman is so smart. She realized her bias and her dismissal and fixed it instead of justifying it. Bravo!

    • @stefanos6505
      @stefanos6505 4 роки тому +2

      Italiano anche te?

    • @Gyros-nr9ke
      @Gyros-nr9ke 4 роки тому +23

      @@stefanos6505 spaghetti?

    • @stefanos6505
      @stefanos6505 4 роки тому +5

      @@Gyros-nr9ke Preferisco le costate.

    • @john-paulsilke893
      @john-paulsilke893 4 роки тому +21

      It’s a beautiful thing to learn just how much you don’t know. I sincerely hope you returns to woman’s rights advocacy. It’s important to have such intellectual honesty in an adversary. Fight me and win on your merits means that you deserve the resources. It’s better to lose to honestly then to win because of communist propaganda. If woman’s rights needs such resources then by all means but if some other rights such as men’s rights need those resources then they should win.

    • @andrechantiloupe5449
      @andrechantiloupe5449 4 роки тому +2

      That is wonderful. How many can?

  • @markgcarroll
    @markgcarroll 4 роки тому +1616

    Massive admiration for anyone standing up and saying they were wrong in their assumptions, and being willing to change their mind. In short supply these days.

    • @justinhamilton2334
      @justinhamilton2334 4 роки тому +38

      I think one of the reasons why it is so rare is that we treat saying "I was wrong" as some sort of weakness or moral failing.

    • @peacefulambiance9064
      @peacefulambiance9064 4 роки тому +15

      It takes a strong heart to not fear backlash for admitting your mistake.

    • @TeamPill
      @TeamPill 4 роки тому +10

      @@justinhamilton2334 most definitely. People love to say that others should admit they are wrong more, yet will scrutinize or judge those who admit it in ways that make people not want to admit incorrectness/failures.

    • @justinhoover7025
      @justinhoover7025 4 роки тому +6

      Absolutely. Not only that, but understanding both sides and admitting mistakes makes you a more likely candidate to listen to. People who never admit they're wrong even when they are, have no merit.

    • @sg2412
      @sg2412 4 роки тому +6

      It takes wisdom to recognise one's flaws, courage to accept them and a will to change them.

  • @planseed
    @planseed 9 місяців тому +24

    I almost cried watching this because it hit so close to home. Thank you Cassie for having the courage to stand up for us, not many people do. I'm not a religious person but I see you as a saint. Wishing the best for you, yours and everyone.

  • @DavidDiMuzio
    @DavidDiMuzio 6 років тому +20746

    As a man I've always felt in the very back of my mind like my feelings don't matter as much. Even in a disagreement with a girl if the girl starts to cry I feel awful, as if "look what I've done." even if I know that deep down I'm feeling just as much emotional pain as they are. I've always felt like the pain that I feel must not matter as much because I'm not as good at outwardly expressing my emotions in ways such as tears. I've also been physically hit or at least slapped by almost every girl I've dated long term, yet I've never lifted a hand to a girl. Some of my male friends have told me the same, but it's something very strange to talk about. I've always known I could never "fight back" because if a guy shows physicality it's more "wrong" and I could easily go to jail. The documentary Cassie made really hit me hard. I'd call it a must watch no matter what your view point.

    • @DarkSymphony777
      @DarkSymphony777 6 років тому +206

      B G that's very true

    • @dctfgltjatsmdssgmmrajl5572
      @dctfgltjatsmdssgmmrajl5572 6 років тому +565

      thats right and SUPERMAN is still better than goku in literally every single way, um wait wrong convo and wrong topic, lol, oops nvm haha

    • @marcinpagorek3578
      @marcinpagorek3578 6 років тому +979

      Totally agree. It's surprising how many people will not make a big deal out of a girl hitting a guy, but if it's the other way around, then it's "domestic violence".

    • @wendyb2438
      @wendyb2438 6 років тому +138

      432 Productions: Are you saying that women shouldn't access the full range of emotions available to them because it makes you uncomfortable? We all should be allowed to feel our feelings. There's nothing manipulative about having and expressing genuine feelings.

    • @jamieflett5650
      @jamieflett5650 6 років тому +965

      This is straight out of the Cathy Newman playbook. "Are you saying that ..." and then you distort what has been said.

  • @natalianat9105
    @natalianat9105 2 роки тому +2199

    I got attacked too by many so-called feminists because i stand up for men's rights too. Gender equality is acknowledge BOTH rights. I salute Cassie for this! Total wisdom. God bless you, dear ❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @DenEz_TV
      @DenEz_TV 2 роки тому +28

      Natalia, you are doing the right thing. ✅️

    • @homiyarsachinwalla9424
      @homiyarsachinwalla9424 2 роки тому +15

      God bless you too !

    • @roko2xz47
      @roko2xz47 2 роки тому +9

      individualist

    • @hubristicmystic
      @hubristicmystic 2 роки тому

      Big Brothers solution is to declare gender “a social construct” so this lovely lady’s statement “all people were birthed by a woman” is now transphobic and fact checked false. George Orwell warned us, it’s too late.

    • @serowisd
      @serowisd 2 роки тому +1

      Humans like you are the only reason God still accept us lol

  • @juanjrocha
    @juanjrocha 3 роки тому +7193

    This woman has simply gone to a higher level of understanding, she is far beyond a thought of gender, she is clear about the true sense of equality, she has my deepest respect.

  • @ballroomdancer2010
    @ballroomdancer2010 Рік тому +117

    "We have to stop expecting to be offended, and we have to start truly, openly, and sincerely listening." This right there, would solve most hate crimes, Racism, sexism, classism, and most issues us as humans have with each other!

  • @ace_ofchaos9292
    @ace_ofchaos9292 5 років тому +8039

    When you dehumanize your enemy you feel more justified in attacking them.

    • @j_freed
      @j_freed 5 років тому +152

      This is what I think about reading on the Bolsheviks and Stalin's Russia, or when looking at the secret pictures taken in the Lodz Ghetto. Everything was done to remove people's humanity AND THEIR HOPE a little bit at a time so it appears less shocking to finally destroy them, and in fact they hardly resist. How else possible except by psychology.
      Different regimes, same intentional and gradual systemic dehumanization as today's (Way Too) Far Left. They want to wear you down so you give up and play along.
      Did you know right after Kristallnacht, some Jewish people immediately left notes and committed suicide? They were literally killed by the IDEA of their whole society they were part of for generations now rejecting them. *Political triumph of the Left and Right is really the murder of hope and the human spirit.*

    • @myeyesaredrymylove
      @myeyesaredrymylove 5 років тому +26

      Damn thats a banger quote!

    • @Thleta
      @Thleta 5 років тому +3

      Absolutely

    • @whatami999
      @whatami999 5 років тому +67

      It’s what the Nazis did to the Jews

    • @jesusgod8060
      @jesusgod8060 5 років тому +3

      Kid you not this is the emeny

  • @usethefooorce
    @usethefooorce 4 роки тому +3822

    I respect this woman for acknowledging her bias and having the humility to shed it.

    • @adamjohns78
      @adamjohns78 4 роки тому +25

      usethefooorce agreed... one of few it seems...

    • @SW-pb4ch
      @SW-pb4ch 4 роки тому +48

      @Peter Laughton ok mr incel

    • @kevinvanderperre5921
      @kevinvanderperre5921 4 роки тому +24

      I believe we have found the other half of the issue

    • @justanotherweirdo11
      @justanotherweirdo11 4 роки тому +16

      Hopefully more women and men (like Peter in the coments) will do the same.

    • @thatgaming1940
      @thatgaming1940 4 роки тому +7

      @Peter Laughton Ok simp

  • @normanwilliams2737
    @normanwilliams2737 2 роки тому +4356

    “When you start to humanize the enemy. You become dehumanized by your community” Amazingly put.

    • @harleyquiinnnn
      @harleyquiinnnn 2 роки тому +16

      💯

    • @nwinburn
      @nwinburn 2 роки тому +118

      As a former liberal, liberals are experts at doing that.

    • @govsecret536
      @govsecret536 2 роки тому +98

      @@nwinburn Any group is. Look at what Trump supporters do to conservatives who don't like Trump.

    • @danishdude6750
      @danishdude6750 2 роки тому +22

      @@govsecret536 What do they do?

    • @williamhu9567
      @williamhu9567 2 роки тому +43

      This is why i'm always scared of discussing any social or political issue with anyone. The fear of being heavily judged by both sides discourages me from speaking up. I'm sure there's a great number of moderate political folks, but since the media grossly generalises left and right, they don't have a voice in the conversation.

  • @veermehta3066
    @veermehta3066 9 місяців тому +128

    its been 6 year since the video is posted , still no change is there in society

    • @rettenthetetlen8759
      @rettenthetetlen8759 9 місяців тому +18

      It's disheartening to hear that there hasn't been much progress in addressing misandry despite the passage of time. It's important to continue raising awareness and advocating for equality and respect for all genders. Change can be slow, but every effort counts towards creating a more inclusive and understanding society. Keep speaking out against discrimination and promoting empathy and understanding.

    • @BlatFlattery
      @BlatFlattery 9 місяців тому +21

      It’s actually worse with woke movement

    • @hunter.5625
      @hunter.5625 9 місяців тому +1

      @@BlatFlatteryway way worse now these feminists are fighting to give men in dresses better rights and privelage than actual woman….

    • @L333gok
      @L333gok 8 місяців тому

      Maybe because this woman is literally just a misogynist and a pick me, and everything she’s saying makes zero sense and is literally just made to distrust you from the fact that men are oppressing women. Nothing she said is true. She knows it isn’t. Women are still oppressed and men are the oppressors

    • @alexxx4434
      @alexxx4434 8 місяців тому +4

      Humans being silly humans, instead of sides working out a complex issue together people prefer to radicalize and declare enemies.

  • @jimbojankerson5610
    @jimbojankerson5610 3 роки тому +1901

    Single father here. Closer to my DAUGHTER than she is with her mother. I woke up in the middle of the night during infancy not her. I was cheated on and abandoned then forced to pay child support in a JOINT custody agreement where I have her 50% of the time. I've been put through the ringer and continue to be and nobody cares. Glad to hear this. Men aren't always what society pretends they are. Respect to all the single moms out there no disrespect. Respect to all the good dads too.

    • @ThePooppantsman
      @ThePooppantsman 3 роки тому +90

      I'm sorry my man and people wonder why we want to kill our exes haha

    • @wrestlingyoutube8170
      @wrestlingyoutube8170 3 роки тому +21

      This is dark

    • @jasonsensation46
      @jasonsensation46 3 роки тому +103

      I've had custody of my 2 children for nearly 2 years. We haven't received a single penny from their mother in child support.
      She cheated, she abused me and my children.
      If it was the other way around it would be whole different story. But on a brighter note I've met a lot of women since I've had them and they have all supported me and been great.

    • @Avaritia_IV
      @Avaritia_IV 3 роки тому +3

      @Tessi simp my moms a single mom but my father was the one who cheated on her

    • @karlsmith2570
      @karlsmith2570 3 роки тому +43

      I feel you, brother
      I'm also a single dad to a daughter who, like your daughter, is closer to me than her mother, in fact, she doesn't even acknowledge her mother as being her mother, saying that "She doesn't deserve the title" and she's right
      Just like in your situation, I also was cheated on, or I suspected that she'd cheated on me at least, I ended up paying child support to her mother's Aunt and Uncle whom she'd surrendered her parental rights of our daughter to and prior to my being able to appear in court for custody of my daughter, I was arrested for a BS charge, which was eventually thrown out of court for lack of evidence and that was enough to make the lawyer representing me to tell me that she'd felt that my only options were:
      Voluntarily surrendering my parental rights to my daughter and still having the chance to have visitation with her
      Or
      Go to trial, get my parental rights taken from me anyway and never get to see her again

  • @GIGASHOT1997
    @GIGASHOT1997 4 роки тому +4250

    "I was told they were my enemy"
    Literally every war ever

    • @Nemesis0513
      @Nemesis0513 4 роки тому +54

      (Agonized screaming)

    • @Nemesis0513
      @Nemesis0513 4 роки тому +10

      @Just one more thing were you told to?

    •  4 роки тому +55

      You are always the hero in your point of view

    • @Hahny
      @Hahny 4 роки тому +1

      Realtalk

    • @imamfn
      @imamfn 4 роки тому +12

      As a 1920's kid I can relate to this

  • @it82298
    @it82298 3 роки тому +2139

    "We Have to STOP EXPECTING to be Offended, & WE have to START TRULY, Openly & Sincerely Listening"
    KILLED IT

    • @ActivatedSpy06
      @ActivatedSpy06 3 роки тому +17

      Wth I was scrolling threw comments and I hear her say “stop” as I saw the comment

    • @akanecollazo6244
      @akanecollazo6244 3 роки тому +9

      @@ActivatedSpy06 omg the same thing just happened to me lmao

    • @ActivatedSpy06
      @ActivatedSpy06 3 роки тому +5

      @@akanecollazo6244 😂😂😂

    • @joseangelsolano6145
      @joseangelsolano6145 3 роки тому +4

      That's not going to happen, in this moment everyone gets offended by everything

    • @mclion8135
      @mclion8135 3 роки тому

      Nice profilpicture

  • @justinh.1290
    @justinh.1290 9 місяців тому +121

    Ask 10 men who they talk to or confide in when they’re down. The amount of men that respond with something like “no one, nobody cares” may astound you.

    • @namtech425
      @namtech425 5 місяців тому +4

      Oooh yes, being a man is a lonely road. And doing what we as men do, day in and day out will scare most women to their core, the amount of mental and physical strength required to be a man on a daily basis is surreal, but that being said - we make it look easy don't we lads?

    • @hazelhazelton1346
      @hazelhazelton1346 5 місяців тому +1

      @@namtech425 We sure do, with a bit of help from Gordon, Johnnie, and Morgan...

    • @bsallre
      @bsallre 4 місяці тому

      We have to be there for each other

    • @szaka9395
      @szaka9395 4 місяці тому

      ​@@bsallre i know that feeling so good. I was alone for 15 years, im 33, and ironically my two best friends are very young ladys 24 and 26. I meet them 2-3 months ago. There was not one person, friend, brother, sister, mother, father i could talk like that with about life. I felt like my familly gave up on me for some reason. I am thanking God that i meet one of them and she introduced me to her friend. They literaly changed my life, saved me from sueside.

    • @y.a.p8951
      @y.a.p8951 4 місяці тому

      ​​@@namtech425 it's remind me of something.
      Did you by any chance come by the name of Dax?
      just asking 🙂

  • @HazeDays
    @HazeDays 7 років тому +6010

    "We have to stop expecting to be offended" That right there.

    • @WealthyThomas
      @WealthyThomas 7 років тому +2

      Haze Days hi is this young thing. I don't here 35 plus feeling intense about men or women. But seeing it everywhere can drive us zany lol

    • @michaelbulls5872
      @michaelbulls5872 7 років тому +15

      Amen, brother

    • @paulpeartsmith
      @paulpeartsmith 7 років тому +35

      Goes all ways. All ways.

    • @damminers49
      @damminers49 7 років тому +10

      Great quote!

    • @vgloveforlife
      @vgloveforlife 6 років тому +10

      I'd like to see one MRA listen to a feminists and try not to get offended. And vice versa.

  • @funch357
    @funch357 3 роки тому +5115

    The real enemy is EXTREMISM that completely shuts out the other side, regardless of which way you lean.

    • @typ044
      @typ044 3 роки тому +133

      Indeed, the truth is usually somewhere closer to the middle.

    • @klaudinegarcia8932
      @klaudinegarcia8932 3 роки тому +8

      This!!!

    • @A2goddess
      @A2goddess 3 роки тому +1

      People like chanty binx and Alex Jones

    • @kirbyarroyo2118
      @kirbyarroyo2118 3 роки тому +29

      @putalawea equisde stop

    • @cmerks5
      @cmerks5 3 роки тому +6

      Its called fascism

  • @princekazhila2003
    @princekazhila2003 3 роки тому +1846

    "as an interviewer you don't interrupt." there is something you dont see in today's mainstream media.

    • @Vaguer_Weevil
      @Vaguer_Weevil 3 роки тому +36

      She was rather professional about it at the very least, externally anyway..

    • @dr.c196
      @dr.c196 3 роки тому +7

      Interview with Jordan Peterson.

    • @Simon-cd1ui
      @Simon-cd1ui 3 роки тому +5

      Sometimes its hard when populism is a thing and politicians are constantly lying in interviews. But in this case you’re right.

    • @johndavis-fl8yj
      @johndavis-fl8yj 3 роки тому +2

      Because the main stream media has an agenda

    • @nabahmadi5012
      @nabahmadi5012 3 роки тому +4

      Look up her interview in Australia... it was so bad. The media was trying to bring her Down.

  • @hadleys.4869
    @hadleys.4869 Рік тому +28

    The amount of compassion and empathy she is capable of is emotionally moving.

    • @treelinehugger
      @treelinehugger Рік тому

      First, she used logic and facts to realize her views were mistaken. Only later did she become empathetic.
      The problem with our culture today is that facts and logic are seen as uncaring, even patriarchal. Our "education" institutions indoctrinate young minds into believing that feelings are what matter most. Our culture is the opposite of stoic, and this is the result of feminism.

    • @charlesg7926
      @charlesg7926 Рік тому

      She seems like a really, really good person imo. Beautiful inside and out

  • @acib3491
    @acib3491 4 роки тому +2787

    I haven’t seen my two boys in almost 5 years despite having joint legal custody. I’ve spent a half million dollars in court with no success. You see, I’m the dad so I’m the bad guy. Men’s issues are real. So glad this lady had the guts to admit that.

    • @Aaron-ln3ht
      @Aaron-ln3ht 4 роки тому +107

      This could really happen to anyone. I hope that you will find justice for your (and their) actions someday.

    • @stephenjoseph5265
      @stephenjoseph5265 4 роки тому +163

      I lost my two boys for 7 years but things have started to change. Hang in there. They need you, even if they don't know it yet. In modern western culture men lose custody battles.

    • @saralomauyesu
      @saralomauyesu 4 роки тому +39

      women are fighting their own ego. Nothing about men.

    • @Aaron-ln3ht
      @Aaron-ln3ht 4 роки тому +80

      @@saralomauyesu I get where you're coming from but you have to remember that Not all women are like that, and men can be losers too.

    • @ea2314
      @ea2314 4 роки тому +58

      She has been destroying men rights for years and just makes a video for views and suddenly is forgiven
      If a criminal admits to a crime it doesn't make him/her a better person

  • @l1v1dsow26
    @l1v1dsow26 3 роки тому +2152

    “It’s not a contest, but I kept making it into one.” bingo. I feel like so many people from both sides of this argument (as well as many others) need to realize this.

    • @ALJ9000
      @ALJ9000 3 роки тому +20

      Yes. If people stop thinking only about themselves, everyone would be happy

    • @mariana457
      @mariana457 3 роки тому +8

      I must admit, I have done that mistake as well 😬

    • @thephilosopherwhojoked4249
      @thephilosopherwhojoked4249 3 роки тому +26

      @@mariana457 The key to self improvement is acknowledging mistakes.

    • @mariana457
      @mariana457 3 роки тому +2

      @@thephilosopherwhojoked4249 Thank you 😊

    • @ashishgahalaut8121
      @ashishgahalaut8121 3 роки тому +2

      Yes💯

  • @scottkendrix6231
    @scottkendrix6231 5 років тому +940

    It's a beautiful thing when someone, ANYONE, can stand up and say "I was wrong so now I want to put things right".

    • @dorothycampbell3
      @dorothycampbell3 5 років тому +24

      AMEN Scott Kendrix, it takes a strong person to admit when they're wrong. I despise the term, "Toxic Masculinity"

    • @mattg6106
      @mattg6106 5 років тому +8

      @@dorothycampbell3 Toxic masculinity is maybe an over-used term by some groups in an attempt to demean others but it is an issue. More often than not it's an issue that negatively effects men. Men aren't allowed to show emotion or 'weakness' in a lot of cases or else they are ridiculed. This sort of thing can and does lead to issues of depression and misrepresentation. There are additional TED talks about the subject which are worth a watch.

    • @ch1gga22
      @ch1gga22 5 років тому +3

      Matt G in a lot of cases the fact that we don’t show emotion is the reason in general men are funnier than women as instead of just staring our feelings we put a filter on it via comedy so it doesn’t make us look weak

    • @Deairejeffries81
      @Deairejeffries81 5 років тому +1

      This woman is a great add to society

    • @mkobd
      @mkobd 5 років тому

      Matt G toxic masculinity is not real because it is a subjective idea and has no true definition. The definition changes from person to person therefore it’s just an Internet slang term that made it big time but will definitely fade away soon.

  • @Alex-sr3ez
    @Alex-sr3ez 7 місяців тому +7

    My then wife had Borderline Personality Disorder. This wasn’t just my personal opinion, she had been clinically diagnosed that way by no less than 3 separate physicians and clinical psychologists. Near the end of our 3-year marriage we got into one of many arguments and after about an hour and realizing we needed to stop and then come back and readdress the issue once we both calmed down, I told her I was going for a walk. She didn’t like this so she got in her SUV and followed me as I walked down the sidewalk in our neighborhood. She drove beside me on the road yelling for me to come back home. When I refused to stop telling her I’d be back in an hour she became enraged. She drove up on to the sidewalk and bumped me from behind with her vehicle. I then walked up away from the sidewalk and started walking across neighbor’s yards as it was a heavily treed neighborhood and I knew she couldn’t get to me while walking in the yards. She gave up and went home. After about 10 minutes I resumed walking on the sidewalk. All was well for about 30 minutes and then BAM she came up behind me and once again hit me with the bumper of her vehicle, this time knocking me down. I wasn’t seriously hurt other than my knees and hands getting scraped up from hitting the sidewalk. This was witnessed by a homeowner who then called the police. They asked me if I wanted to press charges and I (foolishly) said “no”. No action was taken against my ex.
    A few months later I filed for divorce after discovering she had cheated on me.
    We were legally separated pending divorce. One night she got drunk and and insisted that our previous agreement on division of furniture wasn’t fair to her (even though I agreed to her taking about 70% of it). Through texts I told her I wasn’t giving her anything else unless a judge ordered it. She got angry, drove over to my house, broke a window to get in and then refused to leave unless I gave her what she wanted. I called the police. They told me that because the house was still in both our names they couldn’t do anything. I filed a restraining order and then went to the county office of domestic violence to inquire about what resources they head to help me deal with an abusive spouse. They looked at me like I had 3 eyes and told me with a straight face that they don’t handle domestic violence for men.

  • @nilnil12345
    @nilnil12345 2 роки тому +4027

    Once during a college debate I spoke about Men's rights and I was stopped midway and made to apologise for daring to speak for men's issues as if it was somehow anti woman. I was villified and called a misogynist, sexist bigot by the same feminists who claim they care for gender equality. Totally sick mentality.

    • @ok-sj7bx
      @ok-sj7bx 2 роки тому +25

      Are you male or female and where are you from if you don't mind me asking?

    • @devonm042690
      @devonm042690 2 роки тому +350

      @@ok-sj7bx Why does that matter?

    • @clutx3116
      @clutx3116 2 роки тому +236

      @@devonm042690 you have hit the nail on the head!

    • @okplay9446
      @okplay9446 2 роки тому +206

      @@ok-sj7bx Judging by his comment, he's probably a male student in an American college.

    • @ya33a
      @ya33a 2 роки тому +114

      I was villified at work for suggesting that I wasn't able to access programs for support and when I suggested there was inequality in the process and workplace I was put on a performance review .... yes this whole debate is BS it's about mutual respect and rights, so long as some groups have more rights and opportunities than you do....

  • @patrikjarvine8542
    @patrikjarvine8542 3 роки тому +2580

    Way way way way wayyyyy too many people look at mens rights as just ”anti-feminism”
    man these replies are getting old

    • @wellDamnJamz
      @wellDamnJamz 3 роки тому +41

      at first I understood the critique because I only ever saw it used in response to women complaining about their rights. but over time I've seen more and more dudes and even women try to go up for men independent of anything to do with somebody else's ongoing convo, get smeared online, labeled and clowned. what started as genuine concern quickly shifted to something else.

    • @wellDamnJamz
      @wellDamnJamz 3 роки тому +65

      @Stefon Palinic it's not a competition. People who frame it that way defeat the purpose of discussions about gender relations anyway. Women have advantages as do men. Although most of ours are based on person to person perception and not law like theirs. There is truth on both sides of the discussion. But both sides take the worst of the opposing side and frame it as the norm. That's why convos go nowhere.

    • @wellDamnJamz
      @wellDamnJamz 3 роки тому +6

      And if you read my post you'll see my issue was the topic being "all lives matter"ed when nobody is heard that way. I can be critical of both sides because again it isn't a competition

    • @chrisdee7931
      @chrisdee7931 3 роки тому +10

      @@Plaky No feminazi is for extremists. Blindly.

    • @preethiyadav2862
      @preethiyadav2862 3 роки тому +1

      Shutup you Sexist

  • @Ryan-eu3kp
    @Ryan-eu3kp 4 роки тому +4880

    She is a very rare human, the one who can admit they were wrong.

    • @garrettcooper471
      @garrettcooper471 4 роки тому +160

      She's addressing the real problem. Lack of Understanding.

    • @chrisdee3211
      @chrisdee3211 4 роки тому +11

      Very true

    • @luciensong7414
      @luciensong7414 4 роки тому +8

      magic trombone true...

    • @Frizzles
      @Frizzles 4 роки тому +33

      Not as rare as you think it is, people who know when they are wrong or can admit they are less influential that people who believe they are right.

    • @Ryan-eu3kp
      @Ryan-eu3kp 4 роки тому +2

      @@Frizzles True

  • @Money_Making_Mentality
    @Money_Making_Mentality 8 місяців тому +277

    "Empowered Voices: A Journey Through Feminism" Great one. Pageturn Junction where to find. Loved it!!!

    • @Emily-dw8wd
      @Emily-dw8wd 8 місяців тому

      I loved this one. Kept me Going!!!

    • @Jacob-yp4th
      @Jacob-yp4th 8 місяців тому

      Made me think alot about rights for women. Great help!!

    • @EleanorGray-iq5oz
      @EleanorGray-iq5oz 8 місяців тому

      Thanks for this book for existing!!!

  • @TheMeJustMe75
    @TheMeJustMe75 3 роки тому +1800

    My ex-wife used to turn in me in a second and then try to swing at me like a man. If something didn't go her way in life then she would yell and cuss at me. She did that to me in public. I finally filed for divorce and then she completely flipped. She was kind and wanted me to pull the divorce papers. When I refused she then told me that she would have me killed. I just looked at her, told her she had 5 days to pack up her stuff and get out. Long story short, she disappeared so she couldn't be served the divorce papers. She didn't even show up to court. Men get abused more often than people think.

    • @TEAMGETHELP
      @TEAMGETHELP 3 роки тому +2

      @藍染 惣右介Aizen Sousuke depends on state laws

    • @trevorking2820
      @trevorking2820 3 роки тому +19

      Way to stand your ground 👍🏾

    • @mercenary3353
      @mercenary3353 3 роки тому +12

      i would never commit just pump and dump

    • @11lvr11
      @11lvr11 3 роки тому +9

      I'm sorry that happened to you:(

    • @VaultedPicks
      @VaultedPicks 3 роки тому +18

      Thank you for sharing you story, I hope your doing better these days! Stay strong :)

  • @intoHeck1964
    @intoHeck1964 2 роки тому +1797

    The real issue with society: people will oppose you without even knowing what you stand for. They will deny what you say without even hearing what you have to say.

    • @mikeexits
      @mikeexits 2 роки тому +31

      It's largely, if not all rooted in assumption. That and the inability to admit you're wrong. If you can admit when you're wrong and catch yourself when you assume something (whether true or not, but especially if not), you'll notice that conflicts that arise in your life will get nowhere near as bad as they were before being this way. If more people did that, emotionally charged arguments would be a lot more uncommon. Sadly much of modern culture promotes and incentivizes irrationality, hivemind mentality, and even psychological/emotional manipulation, if only subliminally.

    • @PatrickMenesesYTOfficial4945
      @PatrickMenesesYTOfficial4945 2 роки тому +3

      Then don't entertain them problem solved.

    • @woswasdenni1914
      @woswasdenni1914 2 роки тому +3

      well they dont even know what they stand for themself

    • @L0vetube1
      @L0vetube1 2 роки тому +2

      yeah, they just wanna be right in every situation... more than wanna be human...

    • @Beerbottles123
      @Beerbottles123 2 роки тому +2

      That's just society in general.

  • @indridcold8433
    @indridcold8433 5 років тому +1467

    She has gained my respect. Her well spoken, calm, logical, presentation is a rarity today.

    • @uk9383
      @uk9383 5 років тому +4

      Its like listening to my slovene teacher

    • @notalawyer9824
      @notalawyer9824 5 років тому +10

      She stated the facts

    • @doboi8121
      @doboi8121 5 років тому +7

      It’s a trap!

    • @norsefury74
      @norsefury74 5 років тому +14

      That's why the left has probably banished her. Because she's rational.

    • @shadow-man8715
      @shadow-man8715 5 років тому +4

      Respect for her but she still has the power to screw you over just like any other woman.

  • @joefatalooch8057
    @joefatalooch8057 Рік тому +15

    This program should be shown at every learning institution in the world. Absolutely the most brilliant and perfect synopsis of our age.

    • @benjaminallen6469
      @benjaminallen6469 8 місяців тому

      Unfortunately it never will be and I suspect there is a reason why it's a TEDx Talk and not just a TED Talk.

    • @ChasingMySmoke
      @ChasingMySmoke 27 днів тому

      Her red pill movie is life changing

  • @clampy7987
    @clampy7987 4 роки тому +1015

    There *shouldn't* be an *enemy* in a fight for *equality*

    • @potaterjim
      @potaterjim 4 роки тому +62

      The enemy is _inequality_
      If your answer to fighting it is to make more, the war will never end

    • @michaelgerardi2126
      @michaelgerardi2126 4 роки тому +8

      Only if you assume that feminists actually WANT "equality". That is a false assumption.

    • @ashdoeslife1794
      @ashdoeslife1794 4 роки тому

      Correct

    • @thelegacyshow4248
      @thelegacyshow4248 4 роки тому +3

      There shouldn't be a fight in the first place, it should be peaceful logical discussion...

    • @nicholasmacdonald3147
      @nicholasmacdonald3147 4 роки тому

      Then I guess it wouldn’t be a fight then

  • @marcb5594
    @marcb5594 5 років тому +652

    "Stop expecting to be offended "
    Great advice for me and everyone
    And Listen without interrupting is a gem

    • @staus949
      @staus949 4 роки тому +7

      could you imagine if the media would do this when they interview people that they don't agree with

    • @nathanmyles1
      @nathanmyles1 4 роки тому +3

      u said it

    • @yannick9761
      @yannick9761 4 роки тому +6

      That’s true. Just look at Jordan Peterson. He constantly gets interrupted by his hosts. They also always anticipate to be offended by what he says. They don’t listen but jump at every yap of something that out of context sounds anti-women like

    • @Endlessfairytale
      @Endlessfairytale 4 роки тому +3

      Yup. If we only learn to truly listen it wouldn’t be hard to see and understand others and not just on this issue.

    • @anthonyyoussef01
      @anthonyyoussef01 4 роки тому +2

      Liverpool ❤❤

  • @KC-wf7qt
    @KC-wf7qt 5 років тому +20265

    Did I just witness logic on the internet? Quick somebody pinch me

    • @brandonchase7273
      @brandonchase7273 5 років тому +234

      Only illogical thing he probably witnessed was you ;)

    • @chillmoney3858
      @chillmoney3858 5 років тому +25

      better ill like your comment

    • @bailydekker9377
      @bailydekker9377 5 років тому +92

      *pinchy pinchy*

    • @IvantheMusical
      @IvantheMusical 5 років тому +54

      And from a TedxTalk no less

    • @fatcatsnuggleparty4272
      @fatcatsnuggleparty4272 5 років тому +98

      That's illegal. Everyone here shall be purged.
      ...Even me. I ... witnessed logic on the internet too. We'll start with me first.

  • @dmytros1273
    @dmytros1273 2 місяці тому +1

    Thanks!

    • @TEDx
      @TEDx  Місяць тому

      Thank you!

  • @gregorflopinski9016
    @gregorflopinski9016 4 роки тому +2783

    This is healthy, listening to the other side is healthy.
    Don’t let the elite divide us

    • @gemmahodson8300
      @gemmahodson8300 4 роки тому +2

      @@gplugt7960 how so?

    • @tuckerhenrikson7709
      @tuckerhenrikson7709 4 роки тому +23

      @@gplugt7960 How? He literally said to listen to the other side, which is what the woman speaking was encouraging...

    • @AmphiStuG
      @AmphiStuG 4 роки тому +4

      @@gplugt7960 Mate you might want to take the filter off for this one.

    • @Jacob-zk1jy
      @Jacob-zk1jy 4 роки тому +3

      Both sides have some legitimate problems

    • @thestretchy1539
      @thestretchy1539 4 роки тому +10

      Your absolutely right you must know your enemies side of the story to be able to achieve a better future for our children and their children we must work together not again each other

  • @mirkwoodforest
    @mirkwoodforest 3 роки тому +2280

    I'm glad that the internet exists. I'm 14 years old, and these kinds of videos really help me shape my understanding of what kind of person that I should be when I grow up. Thank you for helping me be a better person.

    • @kkasfa1596
      @kkasfa1596 3 роки тому +100

      Im 13 and i can agree with you.

    • @wikiwoof9590
      @wikiwoof9590 3 роки тому +114

      Y’all are doing the right work. I have hope for the future.

    • @darrenjones2933
      @darrenjones2933 3 роки тому +51

      I wish you luck on your journey.

    • @workconverseify
      @workconverseify 3 роки тому +82

      Be safe on your journey of knowledge; there is a lot of misinformation purposely out there to lead you astray

    • @shadowling77777
      @shadowling77777 3 роки тому +38

      Bless this comment thread

  • @ImnHazzz
    @ImnHazzz 3 роки тому +2797

    This is peak character development

    • @SomeCowguy
      @SomeCowguy 3 роки тому +24

      Pp... Erwin... P p...

    • @ImnHazzz
      @ImnHazzz 3 роки тому +7

      @@SomeCowguy pp

    • @erenyeager8845
      @erenyeager8845 3 роки тому +5

      @@ImnHazzz p p

    • @erenyeager8845
      @erenyeager8845 3 роки тому +3

      @@ImnHazzz i just used one of my google accounts to make this account

    • @ImnHazzz
      @ImnHazzz 3 роки тому +2

      @@erenyeager8845 ah i see

  • @spoopythings
    @spoopythings 11 місяців тому +9

    This aged like fine wine

  • @TheIzaam
    @TheIzaam 5 років тому +1382

    "When you start to humanize your enemy, you, in turn, may be dehumanized by your community". So true.

    • @selftaughtpolyglot
      @selftaughtpolyglot 5 років тому +9

      So true!!!!

    • @selftaughtpolyglot
      @selftaughtpolyglot 5 років тому +4

      Hey!! Did someone else said It or is it hers? So beautiful!!
      I love the thought.

    • @TheIzaam
      @TheIzaam 5 років тому +6

      @@selftaughtpolyglot It's hers

    • @EinFelsbrocken
      @EinFelsbrocken 5 років тому +19

      Interestingly; this has been documented several times throughout history. Cases; where kings; generals; or other important people show empathy with the enemy; and immediately get spurned as a consequence.
      Seems we humans really like to double down on our bias..

    • @igninis
      @igninis 5 років тому +3

      American history X...

  • @mohamaddahduli1829
    @mohamaddahduli1829 4 роки тому +2197

    12:28 "It turns out I did meet my enemy while filming, it was my ego." That's powerful. Mad respect to this woman for her humbleness.

    • @twiston43
      @twiston43 4 роки тому +25

      Humility.

    • @nicholasleclerc1583
      @nicholasleclerc1583 4 роки тому +9

      @@twiston43
      'beat me to it X D

    • @dwang663
      @dwang663 4 роки тому +5

      Nicholas Leclerc haha same I was just about to reply that

    • @ukko8457
      @ukko8457 4 роки тому +1

      And now her ego is getting even bigger due to this

    • @MrTmulhern92
      @MrTmulhern92 4 роки тому +11

      Kuuukko this not a very constructive comment. Would you agree with the statement “If she can maintain the sense of humility and compassion displayed in this presentation rather than allow the publicity associated with her projects to make make her more egotistical and vain that she would greatly contribute to an uptick in overall human rights”?

  • @matthewjbarron
    @matthewjbarron 4 роки тому +3322

    “When you start to humanize your enemy, you, in turn, may be dehumanized by your community.”

  • @KaneA87
    @KaneA87 17 днів тому +3

    She legitimately understands the problems both sodes face, wants to learn more, and would like all people to do better for everyone.
    Also, intelligent, focused, confident, and funny. Pretty much as close to perfect as it gets

  • @magnumsherman6349
    @magnumsherman6349 4 роки тому +2598

    As a man who is still trying to cope with a false accusation thank you

    • @stroopeter
      @stroopeter 4 роки тому +127

      I wish you the best from The Netherlands, eventually the good will overcome the bad.

    • @beeman4266
      @beeman4266 4 роки тому +86

      Just know that nobody cares about your feelings, stay strong man, shit's rough out here.. best of luck

    • @nav7819
      @nav7819 4 роки тому +13

      wish you sm luck you will get through this!!

    • @sam8742
      @sam8742 4 роки тому +85

      @@beeman4266
      That first bit sounded demotivational

    • @sam8742
      @sam8742 4 роки тому +2

      @@gladiammgtow4092
      Hasn't that just become an incel women hate club?

  • @tneighbors
    @tneighbors 4 роки тому +2405

    If she was met with hostility for saying this, imagine how a man would be treated who says the exact same thing. That's why you're not hearing this much.

    • @SonofPerson
      @SonofPerson 4 роки тому +140

      Pretty sure she was publicly vilified and slandered for this. Her movie was mocked, subject to controversy, and banned on different platforms and different countries. Men need to realize we are under attack and actually always have been.

    • @taliesin1977
      @taliesin1977 4 роки тому +110

      That's the problem with double standards. If feminists want to attain equality there are privileges that need to be given up in exchange for removing the disadvantages. Children are used as bargaining chips against men in divorce. Why? If a father is given 50% custody, he is expected to be grateful and willing to give up something else (usually money / property)... Why is that not a right? If not for the father's, then a right of the children?

    • @SonofPerson
      @SonofPerson 4 роки тому +10

      You need magnesium. Ha! Indeed they were clowns. However, the insidious undertone is that they needed be nothing more. They still won the day, censorship still occurred, idiocy aside. And concerns for the rights and liberties of men were once again marginalized. If anything, their idiotic bating could’ve been catastrophic for men had not she handled herself so gracefully (an example we men should seek to emulate.) Underestimating our adversaries is a gift undeserved... And we have given enough of those already.

    • @EphemeralProductions
      @EphemeralProductions 4 роки тому

      yep!

    • @tea1019
      @tea1019 4 роки тому

      @@taliesin1977 what do you mean 'Why is that not a right?...'?

  • @whitetigerak
    @whitetigerak 2 роки тому +2127

    This hit me in my feels when she got to the part about domestic abuse shelters. I was married to an abusive woman and when I hit my breaking point I tried to reach out for help, but every shelter I went to and every resource I contacted told me 'I'm so sorry, we are only equipped to assist women. You'll have to figure this out yourself."

    • @Rocky-nc1cr
      @Rocky-nc1cr 2 роки тому +95

      Sorry to know about the stuff you have been through. But never lose hope, there's always a light at the end of the tunnel.

    • @MasterGhostf
      @MasterGhostf 2 роки тому +44

      i'd suggest suing them, but i don't know if you had the financial ability to do so.

    • @joaoramos9952
      @joaoramos9952 2 роки тому +17

      Sorry to know about that man, hope you're getting better. Never lose hope, u can make it out

    • @madej5
      @madej5 2 роки тому +11

      @@MasterGhostf oh boohoo I’ve been denied jobs to make money for my bills because it’s a “man’s job” I didn’t go suing anybody I just kept moving.

    • @Dobviews
      @Dobviews 2 роки тому +26

      Not only that but so many of our youth are fearful of coming to shelters for fear of theives, abusers, pimps etc. The things I have seen at shelters make my hair stand on end.
      I would like to see pod rooms that can lock and allow people to feel safe. I wish we took the concept of pod living and community gardening and mental health centers smashed them together and helped people meld back into society at their own pace and in a way they can sleep without one eye open and with their arms tied through their shoulder bags!

  • @joelskoglund9619
    @joelskoglund9619 17 днів тому +2

    7 years later
    Not much have changed.
    But this has given me enough hope to get through the day knowing there are people out there that dont blame me for everything. That can show compassion even though I am a man suffering with mental illness. To everyone else hurting and are shown the door by your family and people around you. Do not give up because there are compassionate people out there that wont look down on you and will treat you as a human being.
    Thank you

  • @solidsnake9898
    @solidsnake9898 6 років тому +21541

    Some men are good, some women are good.
    Some men are bad, some women are bad.

    • @tenacious645
      @tenacious645 6 років тому +583

      Do you think love can bloom, even on a battlefield?

    • @tenacious645
      @tenacious645 6 років тому +54

      Ayberk Tiras What you said was just an unnecessarily convoluted way of saying what the original poster said...

    • @Jackiechan-ty7yp
      @Jackiechan-ty7yp 6 років тому +83

      Nah fish are all bad even tuna! I hate cod and tuna so yeah

    • @the500mphtortoise
      @the500mphtortoise 6 років тому +215

      +Solid Snake
      IF SHE BREATHES SHE A THOT
      ALL WAHMEN ARE QUEEN

    • @machida58
      @machida58 6 років тому +66

      Solid Snake Humans are just vehicles for DNA replication. Morality is irrelevant.

  • @rebeccaatzenweiler373
    @rebeccaatzenweiler373 6 років тому +1743

    the power of admitting one's own prejudices and uninformed opinions. This is fantastic

    • @Gyozafiend
      @Gyozafiend 6 років тому +12

      Rebecca Belacqua both this video and your comment deserve many more likes

    • @-hasamastersdegreeinwumbol8565
      @-hasamastersdegreeinwumbol8565 6 років тому +5

      It takes guts

    • @stevencash8867
      @stevencash8867 6 років тому +8

      This is the only way for us to heal ourselves, as individuals and as a society. Polarization and superiority trips are never going to accomplish anything...

    • @davidsteele2198
      @davidsteele2198 6 років тому +3

      Rebecca Belacqua hope is not dead

    • @panzerraven4135
      @panzerraven4135 6 років тому +1

      That is amazing, thank you!

  • @cloversonthehill
    @cloversonthehill 4 роки тому +2603

    I feel like the problem here is that everyone keeps calling it “men’s rights” or “women’s rights” when it’s honestly just “human rights”
    Also this video made me really happy thank you
    Edit: sweet Jesus I didn’t want to start a controversy I just wanted to post my opinion.

    • @oliverlara5712
      @oliverlara5712 4 роки тому +36

      Gender equal right seems a bit more accurate

    • @Kaharris.96
      @Kaharris.96 4 роки тому +8

      @Calum Tatum. Economic inequality is a pile of manure. If I own a company and you work for me, then you get paid accordingly to what you do for the company. It doesnt mean you make as much me. Understand?

    • @Kaharris.96
      @Kaharris.96 4 роки тому +3

      @Calum Tatum. Ok..what's your definition of income inequality? redistribution of wealth? Do tell.

    • @wherethetatosat
      @wherethetatosat 4 роки тому +5

      I think she actually covers this topic in her documentary. Because worldwide, "human rights" mostly just means women and children. I forgot the exact UN clause but nowhere does it explicitly mention men, but it does for women and children.
      Perhaps we need to be the first to change that, but I understand why she isn't using the phrase "human rights".

    • @thestovietunion790
      @thestovietunion790 4 роки тому +4

      As a bird, I feel very offended by the statement "human rights".
      Why can't it be just "rights" (not "bird's rights", either).

  • @radiopilot850
    @radiopilot850 2 роки тому +1150

    I fought to save my son from a life of drugs and poverty. I was told by Judge Remington that “ simply because You had a child out of wedlock it gives the woman the upper hand, in this case custody will remain with the mother” there is legitimate discrimination against men. I hired a female “mens rights” lawyer and have had my son for the last 15 years. Thank you for doing this Ted talk.

    • @summydots
      @summydots 2 роки тому +29

      Sorry it gets confusing because we can't see who's commenting, it took me a couple of tries to fully understand, you must be the father, who was able to have his son for last 15 yrs

    • @smelly_code_odor_coder
      @smelly_code_odor_coder 2 роки тому +80

      My childhood was essentially ruined and wasted because my mom got custody for similar reasons. My dad was both mentally and financially stable while my mom was far from it but my dad's lawyer told him it's not worth even trying to get custody as a male. Both I and my siblings have suffered because of my mom's choices, neglect, and abuse. We all eventually moved in with our dad but I can't help but obsess how differently and better my life could've gone had my dad raised us.

    • @eldridgecoutinho2674
      @eldridgecoutinho2674 2 роки тому +24

      Probably an irrelevant point but you did a great job by hiring a female lawyer. I think that helped Jonny Depp a little too. It shouldn't be the case buts thats how it seems to be now

  • @juanchotag2173
    @juanchotag2173 3 роки тому +1655

    She earned my full respect and admiration, because she recognized her flaws and worked around them, and thats not easy to do.

    • @scuffedcovers2031
      @scuffedcovers2031 3 роки тому +13

      I like your tank

    • @sdv4675
      @sdv4675 3 роки тому +18

      I don’t understand why people disliked this... they probably haven’t done the same thing she did yet

    • @LocusSix
      @LocusSix 3 роки тому +21

      @@sdv4675 that's pretty simple: they didn't understand the message of this Ted Talk.

    • @tinytim9616
      @tinytim9616 3 роки тому

      Tunk

    • @gv6095
      @gv6095 3 роки тому

      Damn, that ain't no aordinary tank either

  • @darshpathak1018
    @darshpathak1018 2 роки тому +4084

    Being a male, I wasn’t expecting something this positive towards men, mostly because of the bitterness against men.
    Sincerely, we need more women like you❤️

  • @Ys500seid
    @Ys500seid Місяць тому +1

    I’m pretty sure this is the first actual TED talk (not a joke one) that I’ve watched, and I’m glad I did.

  • @flipnap2112
    @flipnap2112 5 років тому +712

    people dont want confirmation of the truth, they only want affirmation of their own beliefs

    • @alexismisselyn3916
      @alexismisselyn3916 5 років тому +9

      it's a really common bias, should directly be taught in schools

    • @shivanigautam7456
      @shivanigautam7456 5 років тому +6

      and so you found it here, congrats.

    • @thebluepineapplephoenix101
      @thebluepineapplephoenix101 5 років тому +1

      wisdom

    • @orbitingsentientsatellite4361
      @orbitingsentientsatellite4361 5 років тому

      teddy pendergrass well damn that exposes us all doesnt it

    • @marksolidum832
      @marksolidum832 5 років тому +3

      The hard thing about this issue is that most times our reality and our truth is defined by our own beliefs. So much so that truth and belief become interchangeable. So when someone is telling the truth, it's perceived by many as it's their truth or it's their beliefs. So essentially, confirmation of the truth doesn't mean much because which truth is it? Whose truth is it? That's where the issue is.

  • @TheFallenScathed
    @TheFallenScathed 5 років тому +1035

    "Us versus them" has never, will never, can never, come to an unbiased or equal solution to any problem.

    • @TheFallenScathed
      @TheFallenScathed 5 років тому +8

      @Roy Batty lol your comment is a blanket statement, reread my comment... sure us vs them comes to a solution, but not an unbiased or equal one.

    • @worldofdoom995
      @worldofdoom995 5 років тому +5

      "A house divided cannot stand." -Abraham Lincoln

    • @TheFallenScathed
      @TheFallenScathed 5 років тому +3

      I don't think you grasp what us vs them means or implies

    • @MrHristoB
      @MrHristoB 5 років тому

      @@worldofdoom995 spot on!!!! But it seems it's the agenda of the liberal lunatics, divided sosiety is much easier to manipulate. And with the state of the education system and the questionable quality of reporting in the so called mainstream media it seems all lines up just as they would like it...

    • @Triple_J.1
      @Triple_J.1 2 місяці тому

      @@MrHristoB the "Liberal" lunatics?
      Us vs Them much.
      The Right Wing is perhaps MORE rabid and deranged than the left.
      If you count the fact the religious lunatics infiltrated the Republican party of Lincoln, and turned it into a hatefest that stands diametrically opposed to human rights.
      I've seen enough of the radical right, fully 100% of all Republicans believe to some degree or another in conspiracy theories created by Qanon, Alex Jones, Donald Trump, or any one of his government employees.
      Show me a single person who does not believe a single one of these lies, and I'll show you a person who would never vote R.

  • @renelaforgia705
    @renelaforgia705 6 років тому +4542

    This lady did somethin very brave and hits all the right spots .I am a single dad of 3 .I raised my 2 sons and daughter on my own .At my devorece hearing she said I would hit her and abuse her in front of the kids .The judge then spoke to my kids alone and my youngest of 5 answered very well.He said dad never hit mommy but mommy hit dad and daddy just stopped her and left.I won and raised all 3 alone and the first born I met he was14 month I raised and loved him like my 2 biological kids becaus back then he was 12 and said to the judge that I was his real dad and wanted to stay with me .Even today 10 years later I am still the bad guy and it is all my fault because I am the man .She is the 1 that cheated and hit but still I am the bad guy with 3 kids alone with no help and 3 jobs .So hopefully this lady will shed some light for us because we love and hurt like women but we keep it all in

    • @dontlookatme6765
      @dontlookatme6765 6 років тому +259

      René Laforgia keep it up bro

    • @aoli8142
      @aoli8142 6 років тому +320

      Dude you're great. And you raised great children too.

    • @frikabg
      @frikabg 6 років тому +210

      you are a much better person than i ever will be! All the luck in the world mate hang in there. :)

    • @mattlourer9692
      @mattlourer9692 6 років тому +111

      Really we don't need this woman at all. People will put her on a pedestal after all the negative she has done. It is best to teach the younger about women and how the system has killed the man. I have nothing for American women anymore.

    • @drakeequation521
      @drakeequation521 6 років тому +73

      I raised my special needs son from 3rd grade on. He is now 46 and still lives with me. Over the years his mother and I have become good friends and she has owned up to her abusive ways. I have seen a lot of people who crapped on my life wind up owning up to it on their death beds. Time is on your side Rene. She will grow tired of herself one day and you will be vindicated.

  • @steveroberts728
    @steveroberts728 4 місяці тому +5

    Finally, a woman who admits that she was wrong.

  • @TeteBruleeFR
    @TeteBruleeFR 5 років тому +7743

    I have great respect for that women.
    It takes a lots of guts to tell a story where you describe yourself as the vilain...

    • @BihansGMVs
      @BihansGMVs 5 років тому +35

      TeteBruleeFR villain*

    • @DriscolDevil
      @DriscolDevil 5 років тому +331

      She is a badass. She entered an opposing ideaology, and learned it instead of imediately dismissing it.
      I wish more people were like her.

    • @jaydamalley3398
      @jaydamalley3398 5 років тому +60

      @@DriscolDevil Men's rights advocacy is not an ideology, never mind the opposite of feminism. It's an opinion compatible with every ideology on the sane part of the political spectrum, be it progressivism, (social and classical) liberalism, conservatism, libertarianism, and everything in between. The only gender-ideology in existence is feminism.

    • @BEAST-rd6wg
      @BEAST-rd6wg 5 років тому +124

      Men have been saying this for years.... and what? It took a female to explain for people to somewhat acknowledge this? There's Another example....

    • @shimy6461
      @shimy6461 5 років тому +40

      The hardest choices require the strongest will

  • @sashabonnie987654
    @sashabonnie987654 4 роки тому +1070

    In Victoria, Australia, the state government website says: 'For women, who are the victims of family violence, there are support services available' etc. 'For men, who are, or are concerned about becoming family violence offenders, the following support services are available'.. etc.
    Broke my heart when I read it.

    • @Internetbutthurt
      @Internetbutthurt 4 роки тому +148

      There is not an insignificant number of cases of domestic and psychological abuse by women against their husbands but its greatly under-reported due to the stigma.

    • @AlaskaErik
      @AlaskaErik 4 роки тому +34

      I don't know of any man who has any sympathy for a male who allows himself to be abused. I know I don't. That's why there aren't any men's shelters.

    • @sihingpatrickquain6124
      @sihingpatrickquain6124 4 роки тому +22

      Agreed. The campaign says, "There's no excuse for abuse."
      But, the propaganda is completely biased.
      It follows on the heels of, "To violence against women, Australia says no."

    • @AlaskaErik
      @AlaskaErik 4 роки тому +8

      @Jonathan Neufeld I'm not implying anything about women's shelters.

    • @icecoldchilipreppers
      @icecoldchilipreppers 4 роки тому +13

      Everyone is sexist against men, especially other men, that's the problem. I also am disgusted by victimized men instead of being sympathetic like I would with most women... social problems bro.

  • @LzkLdg
    @LzkLdg Рік тому +2207

    "Humanizing your enemy leads to your community dehumanizing you" Brilliant!!!

    • @nathancarter2156
      @nathancarter2156 Рік тому

      She's Smarter and more human than you and people like you actually.

    • @jakeplumber1373
      @jakeplumber1373 Рік тому +26

      Calling them your enemy isnt really humanizing...

    • @LzkLdg
      @LzkLdg Рік тому +56

      @jakeplumber1373
      What was meant by that phrase is that if you seek to empathize and see the common shared positive traits of those who your community view as an enemy, than your community may turn on, and make an enemy out if you.
      Sometimes the words used aren't perfect, but if we listen carefully we can determine what the speaker is trying to communicate.

    • @Caine_House
      @Caine_House Рік тому +9

      ​@@jakeplumber1373 How slow are you?

    • @NINacide
      @NINacide Рік тому +12

      Norah Vincent tried what this lady tried but didn't make it through.

  • @jamesromero2233
    @jamesromero2233 5 місяців тому +2

    Awesome speech!! What an unbiased human being!! Thank you for your bravery!!!

  • @mudhutproductions
    @mudhutproductions 3 роки тому +3017

    Three years of hindsight later, Cassie Jaye paid dearly for her blasphemy against Modern Feminism. She was bullied, threatened and deplatformed by guess who? Hint, it wasn't men.

    • @jonathanferguson9226
      @jonathanferguson9226 3 роки тому +119

      Oy vey, shut it down!

    • @hugowerkman6228
      @hugowerkman6228 3 роки тому +274

      I'm sorry to hear that, Cassie Jaye sounds like a wise person that I and many others could learn a lot from.

    • @djfreem6881
      @djfreem6881 3 роки тому +70

      not blasphemy if it's true

    • @FarmersAreDummies
      @FarmersAreDummies 3 роки тому +15

      VALID

    • @bernardakoito
      @bernardakoito 3 роки тому +113

      @@djfreem6881 truth is blasphemy to those sjw

  • @talk2gray1
    @talk2gray1 4 роки тому +936

    "I still support women's right, and I now care about men's rights as well" that was so touching to hear.

    • @antdx316
      @antdx316 4 роки тому

      I dare all the girls to take cool whip pies to the face and put the video on youtube!!

    • @jaredturney2782
      @jaredturney2782 4 роки тому +12

      It is. We all deserve equal rights!!!!

    • @kellyratana7348
      @kellyratana7348 4 роки тому +14

      So basically you care about Humans rights, right?

    • @redchimera7597
      @redchimera7597 4 роки тому

      That’s contradicting lol , it’s like you say I support misogynists but I also support feminists. The correct statement is “I support both men and women right”, that’s much more fair for both genders.
      Feminism is a wave of anger, hate, against men, and we can all see it clearly .

    • @grenadeout562
      @grenadeout562 4 роки тому +17

      @@redchimera7597 How is it contradicting? You can care about anyone

  • @mozes88
    @mozes88 3 роки тому +1721

    What she is doing, a lot of people need to learn. This needs to be taught at schools to listen instead of building a wall around your opinion.

    • @JR-yn1wk
      @JR-yn1wk 3 роки тому +17

      Wise words

    • @monkiman2335
      @monkiman2335 3 роки тому +9

      Exactly my man

    • @bali-b292
      @bali-b292 3 роки тому +3

      Fr man

    • @jesseherron6377
      @jesseherron6377 3 роки тому +13

      Everything stems from politics and they want everyone divided. It’s such a shame. School curriculums are skewed and everything on tv is hate and a line drawn in the sand. We all need to come together! Hope everyone has a great day ❤️ Hopefully we can get back to life in the next 10 years lol

    • @texomatex1
      @texomatex1 3 роки тому

      It could probably be done once they get the help they need to deal with their wall. Our coping skills could use some help.

  • @stefanc4520
    @stefanc4520 4 місяці тому +1

    Possibly the greatest Ted Talk, Nay, greatest talk in the 21st century. Its literally a core social,survival issue!

  • @HalETosis
    @HalETosis 2 роки тому +2082

    This is a great story of how 99.99% of problems go away if we can figure out how to listen to each other while putting our biases aside.

    • @cobusbrits2
      @cobusbrits2 Рік тому

      Somehow the agenda for this day had been developing into how easily can I be offended.
      Gender inequality, race inequality, political indifferences, etc, it all comes down to the same thing.
      Wonder who is driving the agenda? Media is only the tool being used.

    • @mathiasanscott4224
      @mathiasanscott4224 Рік тому

      The fact feminists call mens rights activists the enemy is proof some aspect of feminism is wrong since they dont care about the other side of the story

    • @gameseeker6307
      @gameseeker6307 Рік тому +17

      But my opinion is better

    • @noahtekulve2684
      @noahtekulve2684 Рік тому +27

      ​@@gameseeker6307 no, your opinion is wrong.

    • @gameseeker6307
      @gameseeker6307 Рік тому +7

      @@noahtekulve2684 😭

  • @pedroroque4084
    @pedroroque4084 4 роки тому +901

    I wish people could see how we're being tricked into separation and hate culture... "Together we stand, divided we fall."

    • @CM-og4vc
      @CM-og4vc 4 роки тому +12

      I agree. watch The Social Dilemma. It will explain the divide

    • @pedroroque4084
      @pedroroque4084 4 роки тому

      @@CM-og4vc thanks. I Will check it out 🙂

    • @AiLowithaHalo
      @AiLowithaHalo 4 роки тому

      ♥️

    • @saketnaik1
      @saketnaik1 4 роки тому +2

      @@pedroroque4084 did you see it? All they're getting is hate, everybody is making it about politics.

    • @EdithEsquivel
      @EdithEsquivel 4 роки тому +8

      When the elites wanted to separate workers they created racism. Now they are distracting us from real economic inequality by separating men from women

  • @pixelpudding3914
    @pixelpudding3914 3 роки тому +4718

    “We have to stop expecting to be offended”
    Twitter and TikTok: *that wasn’t very cash money of you*

    • @chumpychumpanzee2085
      @chumpychumpanzee2085 3 роки тому +16

      @timber wolf im assuming youve never heard of the first amendment -_-
      (im not saying i like cancel culture, but you cant exactly shut someone up for expressing their views)

    • @10dvvks.d.r.tharun15
      @10dvvks.d.r.tharun15 3 роки тому +7

      yea lol

    • @megasbaladoros
      @megasbaladoros 3 роки тому +18

      Twitter and Tictok: Hey! What do you have against our business plans?

    • @bradgaines5091
      @bradgaines5091 3 роки тому +22

      @@chumpychumpanzee2085 Unfortunately, the 1st amendment actually only applies to the government restricting speech. It technically doesn't apply to non-government organizations. So again technically Twitter and Facebook can ban whoever they want because they're not government. And the 1st Amendment could actually be used to prevent the government from stopping them from banning people.
      It takes the Supreme Court deciding to interpret the Constitution as saying they can't ban people to stop them.
      If this is actually what you meant and I misunderstood, this post would then be directed toward timber wolf.

    • @chumpychumpanzee2085
      @chumpychumpanzee2085 3 роки тому +2

      @@bradgaines5091 yea thats whut i meant

  • @marcooliveira389
    @marcooliveira389 Місяць тому +1

    Congrats for the honesty, above all else, to yourself. As a father of a little 1year old boy, I can only be hopeful there will be more discussion like this while he grows up.

  • @yidy1
    @yidy1 5 років тому +1024

    "In a time of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act."

    • @evilmonkeyfromchriscloset1211
      @evilmonkeyfromchriscloset1211 4 роки тому +14

      Orwell's quote

    • @zonero174
      @zonero174 4 роки тому +12

      in the same vein I'm partial to Klavan's "in a kingdom of liers, It takes a Crazy man to tell the truth"

    • @AmSeris
      @AmSeris 4 роки тому +8

      @midgetydeath its just a quote its not supposed to be literal

    • @johnhungerford6073
      @johnhungerford6073 4 роки тому +2

      But it rarely turns a profit...🤪

    • @Ragitsu
      @Ragitsu 4 роки тому

      @midgetydeath "liberal deceit"
      ^ Moron detected.

  • @magicalfrijoles6766
    @magicalfrijoles6766 2 роки тому +837

    The last time she hit me, I was holding our infant daughter. I went outside and called 911. The officer shows up and I walk back inside with him, still holding my daughter. The officer looks at my ex and says, "Did you hit him?" She admits she did. He says, "Was he holding the baby?" She admits I was. He turns to look at me and says, "Sir, you need to leave. Hand the child to her and come with me." He wasn't rude. He wasn't going to arrest me. But, it was made perfectly clear to me that being assaulted by a woman, even while holding my infant daughter, didn't matter to the Austin Police Department.
    If you are being abused by a woman, or she is endangering your children, then quietly hire the best lawyer you can. Even then, you will likely still receive standard visitation and experience parental alienation. But, it is the only chance you have. If you wait for her to hire a lawyer, or file for divorce/custody first, game over.

    • @donovanumbra9704
      @donovanumbra9704 2 роки тому +68

      I think even better advice is to be very, very careful, and to thoroughly get to know a woman before you become intimate with her.

    • @glennquagmire9737
      @glennquagmire9737 2 роки тому +78

      @@donovanumbra9704 better yet just don’t interact with them at all. problem solved

    • @P.Whitestrake
      @P.Whitestrake 2 роки тому +4

      ​@@glennquagmire9737 Or better yet, go to a mountain & live alone as a hermit.

    • @Bill87762
      @Bill87762 2 роки тому +95

      Pretty much exactly the same thing happened to me in the same area. She told the police she punched and tackled me- and I was taken away. She even had the gall to say she didn't want to press charges. I lost my job, had to move, lost my kids and now I am supposed to be happy to give over 30% of my income for kids I get to see once a month if I can afford it.
      In court it was pretty much just punishing me and rewarding her. After years of abuse she gets the kids and the money and I scrape by wondering if I pay rent late or miss another car payment.
      No justice. No compassion. No child's best interest- like that's the most ridiculous statement they always say.

    • @endoobietv9954
      @endoobietv9954 2 роки тому +42

      @@Bill87762 man I’m praying for you bro. I’m going threw the early stages of a very similar situation. Awready been to jail for a couple days for a false DV claim, straight up Amber Hearded me after physically abusing me more than once. Stole money out of my bank account & stole a phone I was trying to return that was $1500. Have to file a police report on both while also having all of my personal possessions sold and my 3 kids I have with her taken away. Haven’t seen them since the 2nd of April & I think of them every night. I can truly see why the suicide rate for men is so high. Women we love fail to ever trust us or have any compassion for what is going on with us mentally or emotionally. Many of them just think about themselves to the point to where they turn to narcissistic sociopaths. Many of them are born & don’t have fathers themselves which makes the situations even worse

  • @hardcore_hobo127
    @hardcore_hobo127 2 роки тому +2077

    "When you start to humanize your enemy, you may be de-humanized by your own group", this I think is the most important thing she said.

    • @latequilera22
      @latequilera22 2 роки тому +6

      so when will woman haters learn this?

    • @jasminevirgil7777
      @jasminevirgil7777 2 роки тому +1

      Girl shut up

    • @REN-rp3np
      @REN-rp3np 2 роки тому +64

      @@latequilera22 when they learn to put their ego aside, and decide to listen to our struggles. and we should do the same for them.

    • @spiker1797
      @spiker1797 2 роки тому +26

      This is probably the most frustrating thing I experience nowadays. Everything is so polarized and people make so many assumptions about you when you openly state your view on something.

    • @cdubya586
      @cdubya586 2 роки тому +45

      @@latequilera22 Curious if you actually listened to this talk? You are quite literally doing exactly the projection she finally realized she was guilty of.

  • @noonoo4774
    @noonoo4774 10 місяців тому +1

    This video should be mandatory viewing for everyone. We're better and more powerful when we come together than when we're pitted against one another, fighting against the person next to us rather than for positive societal change.

  • @forcedgaming3102
    @forcedgaming3102 4 роки тому +1762

    "When you start to humanize your enemy, you in turn may be dehumanized by your community"
    Damn

    • @SilentEagle999
      @SilentEagle999 4 роки тому +37

      Let's try not to be part of that community.

    • @OfficialBrownieGER
      @OfficialBrownieGER 4 роки тому +28

      what an incredibly true statement

    • @PhoenixGC89
      @PhoenixGC89 3 роки тому +16

      @@peterfazio512 at least she gets it now.

    • @robertpreisser3547
      @robertpreisser3547 3 роки тому +36

      That was the most disheartening but honest line in the whole talk. Identity politics (and critical race theory) are designed to dehumanize anyone who holds different views, in an attempt to silence those views. Through shame and social pressure if possible, or through cancel culture and petitions to punish people by destroying their livelihoods if not.

    • @voidastro4873
      @voidastro4873 3 роки тому +11

      I'm going to make sure that quote by her get's famous. Get's written in the History books. I'll make sure she's remembered as a revolutionary Gender Equality genius. Because she really is.

  • @cadenhenderson4322
    @cadenhenderson4322 4 роки тому +1587

    I think everyone should watch this video. NOBODY is immune to having a closed mind, but watching this does help.

    • @AstridRuna
      @AstridRuna 4 роки тому +11

      Gods speed, brother.

    • @c0dakw0lfgaang48
      @c0dakw0lfgaang48 4 роки тому +4

      💯💯

    • @banjofangirl3458
      @banjofangirl3458 4 роки тому +5

      Oh god, have kpop stans always been a liability!?!?! I CAN'T SEE THE WLM TROLLING THE SAME WAY AGAIN GODDAMNIT

    • @starvethebeast6480
      @starvethebeast6480 4 роки тому +1

      Indeed

    • @leeholmes9962
      @leeholmes9962 4 роки тому +2

      Well said mate 👍 💪 💛 ✌ 🇬🇧 👍

  • @mx2201
    @mx2201 4 роки тому +2624

    Why such a "common sense" speech sounds revolutionary nowadays? We are living strange times where insanity took over.

    • @Uthael_Kileanea
      @Uthael_Kileanea 4 роки тому +70

      Common sense IS insanity.
      What she's saying is not common sense. It's reason.
      Common sense is overrated and flawed way too often for it to be labeled as good.
      If you present reason and/or logic to a common human, you'll be labeled as uncaring, rude and cold.
      That's why what she's talking about sounds revolutionary.

    • @what-jh4iq
      @what-jh4iq 4 роки тому +22

      It's revolutionary in a world that is being dictated to do the opposite.
      Impediment of free speech and will is what the people in power need.
      That is why over-sensitivity is a thing now, don't say this or don't do that because someone might feel offended.( A smart way to impede free speech/will i might say)
      Have you seen lions hunting? They don't fight the whole herd, they break it apart to weaken it, and attack singular targets.
      Just like how society is constructed, to create fake racism, fake hate and imaginary groups.
      The more the groups the more singularity, now create a war between them and the herd has been broken...that is when the lions attack.
      Are people waking up? Its Corona time, that might sell some chips.
      People are expecting a second and even worse lockdown, the economy will collapse and chips will be handed by the millions.
      Nobody needs a damn chip, in fact I'm sure that the chip will be the ultimate free speech/thought/will impediment there ever will be.
      You are not agreeing with the sadistic government? Cardiac arrest. ;)

    • @INeatFreak
      @INeatFreak 4 роки тому +20

      because common sense isn't so common

    • @FesteringRatSub
      @FesteringRatSub 4 роки тому +4

      exactly what i thought

    • @landynmullins894
      @landynmullins894 4 роки тому +3

      If you are here in 2020, its gonna be the straw that broke the horses back.

  • @Cirithungul
    @Cirithungul Місяць тому +2

    I love that a man wanting equality is automatically bad but a woman is a hero. Makes sense.

    • @andrealy72
      @andrealy72 Місяць тому

      Gaslighting
      Women are master and simp men follow like dogs

  • @Paul_Elam
    @Paul_Elam 7 років тому +9141

    Cassie, your unique way of self disclosure; of openly showing how you confront and overcome your own prejudice in such an honest, incisive way, not only demonstrates how genuine you are, it also challenges your audience in a blindingly clever way. You are literally yanking the covers off of their narrow mindedness, laying bare their resistance to listening and their prejudice. And they willingly applaud you for it. Just brilliant.

    • @Fireholder1
      @Fireholder1 7 років тому +262

      You've been in this 'fight' for years. You've been the face of 'the enemy' for longer than I've even known there was such a thing as men's rights. You have been dragged through the mud, tarred and feathered, and put on the chopping block of society. And you stand strong, with dignity and integrity through it all.
      I'm not the first, and I won't be the last, but I just want to let you know how much you've done for me, personally, even though you don't have a clue who I am.
      Thank you, from every atom of my being, for all that you've done, and all you'll continue to do.

    • @deeperlook3234
      @deeperlook3234 7 років тому +24

      @Fireholder1 You brilliantly expressed my thoughts and feelings.

    • @TheHoodmailbox
      @TheHoodmailbox 7 років тому +24

      Well said, Paul.

    • @StrixTechnica
      @StrixTechnica 7 років тому +64

      @michael coslo; I've met Cassie several times at screenings and spent time with her and her colleagues afterwards. I won't claim to know her well, but I rather doubt she'd actively seek to destroy her husband.
      Just maybe, once, she might have, but it's evident from what she's said publicly about her experiences in making _TRP_ that she has changed her way of looking at these things. So I think it unlikely now.

    • @JarinXeno
      @JarinXeno 7 років тому +93

      Not all women seek to destroy their husbands during a divorce but that still does not mean that divorce and family courts don't unfairly favor women. There is still no upside to marriage for a man, it is still a one sided contract.

  • @gershomgordon4685
    @gershomgordon4685 5 років тому +20124

    this woman should have been Captain Marvel

    • @alexandert696
      @alexandert696 5 років тому +110

      Why, what's wrong with brie larseon

    • @bye1551
      @bye1551 5 років тому +1939

      @@alexandert696 she's a narcissistic misandrist sjw that hates straight white men and thinks she's always right....

    • @simpsbelongtothegulags3702
      @simpsbelongtothegulags3702 5 років тому +768

      She a biatch

    • @westboundNinja1
      @westboundNinja1 5 років тому +356

      They should have left her in *Room*

    • @AxiomaLibre
      @AxiomaLibre 5 років тому +102

      @@alexandert696 you.

  • @Khorne_of_the_Hill
    @Khorne_of_the_Hill 5 років тому +2976

    She's the type of strong woman little girls should be looking up to 💚

    • @ghostdragon3754
      @ghostdragon3754 5 років тому +6

      Yeah thank girl God that fathers are out of the picture amiright.

    • @Khorne_of_the_Hill
      @Khorne_of_the_Hill 5 років тому +105

      @@sleekoduck I don't think I'd go so far as to call it Stockholm Syndrome, but either way she snapped herself out of it and started thinking for herself again; breaking free from a pattern of indoctrination requires an extraordinary amount of courage and willpower

    • @humblesaltminer2463
      @humblesaltminer2463 5 років тому +113

      @@sleekoduck Why do you immediately consider it Stockholm Syndrome? You're exactly like the person who described herself in the video; why do you only see the potential negative? Is every girl who disagrees with you somehow suffering from Stockholm Syndrome? Don't make claims without proper justification.

    • @emilymonahan5232
      @emilymonahan5232 5 років тому +3

      Yes~!

    • @zeppelin67637
      @zeppelin67637 5 років тому +2

      Ghost Dragon what?

  • @IvadyLevente
    @IvadyLevente Місяць тому +2

    This video is a very important moment of the human history.
    I hope it!

  • @PHATB0Y20
    @PHATB0Y20 4 роки тому +1260

    His name was Earl Silverman, and he ran the only men’s shelter in Canada out of pocket. He took his own life in 2013 because of the strain

    • @anotherhuman459
      @anotherhuman459 4 роки тому +60

      RiP

    • @mathewanderson7528
      @mathewanderson7528 4 роки тому +35

      That sucks, RIP😭

    • @KevinM88TR11
      @KevinM88TR11 4 роки тому +25

      Terrible

    • @mycutepetshrimp1532
      @mycutepetshrimp1532 4 роки тому +6

      R.I.P.

    • @EPsiEqualsHhatPsi
      @EPsiEqualsHhatPsi 4 роки тому +43

      RIP ''-( and the strain must have been severe. But to do this it probably wasn't just the strain - he probably was himself a wounded healer, a person touched by fire, like so many of the very best activists, including many wonderful feminists who are little talked about in this thread. I hope the Canadian mens' shelter project survived him?