Hang in there my man. I can promise you it's worth it. As someone who struggled with alcohol for years and quit just to relapse several times I can tell you first hand that sticking to it is more rewarding and life changing than you can imagine. The first couple weeks are usually the hardest because your brain chemistry is all fucked up and you're not producing enough dopamine since your brain is used to relying on a substance to do it. So you can feel very sluggish, irritable, anxious, and even depressed. But after about a week or two of sobriety your brain chemistry will balance back out and it's like taking drugs I swear. You have so much more energy and you feel so much more attentive. Experiencing just good ol organic natural dopamine coming from a healthy clear brain instead of relying on alcohol or other substances to force it's production is a completely different kind of happy than alcoholic/druggy "happy". It's worth it friend.
Good luck maddog, I am Sober app helped me along. Get past a week, then a month, then three months. Just keep going. I am on day 267. You are not alone
If you can make it 4 days, you can make it 5. If you can make it 5 then you can definitely make it 6. And that's how it goes. Once you made it past the hard part then why bother going back and starting over.
You can do it. Eat all the food you’re craving because you’ll crave sugar. First three weeks are the hardest and you’ll get the hang of it faster than you think. Plus, remember that alcohol is poison. It ruins lives - from kids of alcoholic parents, to innocent victims in a drunk driving crash, to all those relationships that end, all the assault that occurs under the influence of alcohol... it’s just bad for you and bad for our society. We are all better off without it.
I’m laying in bed in a treatment facility trying to get clean from heroin and alcohol. I’m going to show this to the group. Stories like this are good reasons to stay sober. Love from Canada
It gets better brother. I was where you were a little over a year ago. My fiance died and that just sped up my need for alcohol. Find a sponsor, work the steps and it will change your life.
The worst part about quitting drinking for me is that a lot of my problems got worse and I realized that it wasn't alcohol that was the problem. Very sobering reality
@@jaylaidlaw11 my dad is an alcoholic and I haven’t touched beer at all in my 23 years. I grew up seeing how my dad treated us and my mother while he was drunk and from those experiences I knew I would never do the same. So I can be proof to that statement😄
@@cappy0023 Shouldn't you let go after all these years? Or is the struggle still real enough you need to remind yourself of how long its been to stay on track?
Haven’t had a drink in 10years or cocaine. Thank God. It’s definitely genetic. Blackout drinking was my specialty. I did not stop until I was 40 in 2011. Congratulations !!!!
@@journeyman1218 Of course it is, they have done brain scans of an addicts brain verse a non-addicts brain. I am glad we live in the 21st century and we don't have to listen to poor opinions anymore.
Grats, man. The blackout specialty is a worrisome comment tho. Look up "Blackout Drinking May Increase Risk of Dementia", hopefully you didn't cause too much permanent damage.
My father is a chronic alcoholic. He went to residential school and it deeply scarred him. He never sobered up til just a cpl years ago. He’s got two years now, I guess something just clicked. Keep on fighting the good fight! Stay strong with the addict 💯
@@pio7763 No. I wasn't a hard drinker either. Just beer everyday then wake up sluggish and working in construction, that everyday drinking just got in the way. So I changed things and it wasn't difficult but not easy either. I vape thc here and there but again that's only on weekends and the only thing I did to replace the substance during that initial transition was smoking more but with in a week I had that more or less controlled
That's awesome man, but for a real alcoholic like myself here's how that works. "Only two Tall cans tonight, and then I'll stop, eat dinner, and go to work tmro" I'll prove to myself I can do it. 9:45am the next day, didn't even call into work & there's 14 empty beers on my countertop & I feel like dog shit. I've tried over 100x to only drink a 6pk and stop. Its a 100% fail
It's a tough thing and there is no hard and fast rule, I mean, I spent 20 years in the military and we partied hard all the time. I just got to the point where it was really hurting my health and you felt so shitty for so long that you forget what it's like to feel normal. That's when I just stopped putting it my mouth. It took a while to get over the habit of doing it, but it was worth it for me.
Yessir. Physical withdrawals are over surprisingly fast, even the DTs - but restructuring a life takes a while. It was six months for me before I could say I was normal without my beer. It only took me four years to spiral downward into hell, and now that I’m three years free I’ll never go back. Glad you made it, MJA, I’ve seen people lose the fight.
I have that shit that Joe talks about in 7:08.Most of the time i am just a fun guy that likes to sing,be kind and play guitar but sometimes the mean drunk comes out.Angry,bitter,crying and starts question shit but i always apologize to my friends,family and such the day after.I am better now and drink less but 15 years ago i was a mess and hade no friends.Nowadays i feel good and have many friends that loves me and that cause i drink less.Alcohol is pure shit.
I'm the same way and gave it up because of it. I saw a story one time that really resonated with me. It was about a guy whose son has an anger problem, so whenever the son lost control of his anger, he had to to go hammer a nail into the fence. So he does, and pretty soon all up and down the fence are nails everywhere. Then as the kid is getting better the dad says, "now every time you control your anger instead of to give in to it, I want you to go remove a nail from the fence". So he does, and after some time, the boy is pulling out the last nail. He had learned to control his anger, but his father had one more lesson, so he steps out and says "well done my son, but look at the fence. We can forget and forgive, but we can't undo the things we've done, and that damage will still be there. That is why it's so important to control your anger, so you don't make your own life, and the life of others, end up like this."
We got my dad to stop smokin, gambling, drinking, and dipping in one go. Me, my sister, and my cousin used to make signs and we posted them on his door when he was asleep or passed out, we would get together with cards and swarm him when he got home, saying ily, stop drinking, please dont drink tonight, etc. Ofc I think it was up to him whether he actually stopped or not, but he did and I think we definitely pushed him in the right direction. Been sober going on 14 years
I got my mom to stop smoking. I moved back to her house and made her miserable. I was like just put a gun to ur head. I harassed her so fucking bad My mom always tells me u don't know how to be a fucking guest. She still got lung cancer, but I think how much worse it would have been had she not quit. Alive and kicking at 70.
@@brandonlee1168 mine did. He loved my sister too much to hit her, but he felt just fine hitting me. Fair, seeing as how I hated him and let em know it, but it was mostly because he was never around much, and when he was it was to hit me
July 26, 2016 is my sobriety date. Only finally stopped when I got fed up of myself. Wish I would have gotten fed up 20 years prior but at least I got there. Thankful every night when I go to sleep and not pass out. It wasn’t booze either
I've been sober for 8 months and I felt really good about it for a while but now I'm just bored and lonely. Was never a daily drinker, just can't moderate at all, once I've had 3 drinks I'll drink everything in sight and I don't really lose my motor functions, I lose my mind. I quit out of necessity, I've dodged so many bullets while blackout drunk, so many times I could have ruined or ended my life while drinking. Father is still an alcoholic and we're Indigenous (Australia), many people say that Indigenous people can't handle alcohol, I'm inclined to believe them after my experiences.
The bored and lonely part is what gets to fall off the wagon every time. Only so many weekends I can stay home alone bored. It's frustrating because if it wasn't for the boredom I'd have no reason to drink.
@@JT-jb4mr I do use Spotify, though I’m not currently on premium. I prefer using UA-cam because I have premium and the UA-cam app functions better on my iPad and phone. I probably need an update because my Spotify app is super slow and clunky, especially with the video aspect. I have fiber internet btw, so it’s not that.
I don't understand whats so hard about just getting spotify, It's l;ike downloading an app is the hardest thiing in the world, its so ridiculous, it's like going to a shop and buying a drink and they stopped selling the drink and said oh they sell them next door and you just come back everyday oh man i wish you still had that drink and there like dude its next door but you just refuse to go next door its literally that silly, its a god damn app that is free just down load it FFS
Every man in my family was an alcoholic. I struggled for years. Seek help. It took me 5 trips to the hospital to finally get it. Life is so much better sober.
my dad was an alcoholic among other things. i myself started drinking very young, and i found that when i drank, I felt how i "should". not afraid of the world. not anxious. makes me an overall better person, better at anything i try. i can actually talk how i want to and feel things for once, and it feels too right. it's scary, because alcohol is a horrible thing. but so tempting.
Its definitely passed on in traits. Environmental influences, social pressures, traumas, emotional deficiencies and the craving to be liked all have an immense impact on the outcome of ones drinking. I'm happier not drinking. I'm of Irish descent so it's in my makeup, so its said. Alcohol is damaging to the spiritual membrane that protects us from dark influences and forces. It lost it's fun a long time ago,for me. I'm grateful to be more present now. To all that struggle,may you find peace and strength to overcome!
If you get black out drunk mate trust me you got no memory of what you did or done. I’ve done it a thousand times cos I love drinking piss but I’ve had to be told about some crazy shit that happened before at times. I’ve crashed cars been in fights not known to the next day.
@@scottclark1975 Fuck me, blackout drunk is the worst. The fucking panic when you wake up and try to remember what you did, or to a phone call from someone telling you....
@@outlawm1 yeah mate. Done it way too many times. Usually had a blast though. I would wake up look in the mirror ...no black eyes sweet. lol. one time happened in Bangkok first night after landing after a weeks party from New Zealand big leaving party ended up waking up in a hotel like where the fuck am I. Happened to be my room , sweet stayed in bed all day got the courage to go outside later about 9 pm recognised some Carlsberg umbrellas outside this bar walked into applause from 20 odd people at this table going well done mate. You happened to be drinking like you were in the world championships ( joed out / fell asleep ) woke up projectile vomited all over the lower tier of tables below me cleared the whole bar almost ( really stinky ) then went back to sleep. Some irish blokes I had just met as I was alone went anybody know this guy? Went through my pockets found my room key and put me to be 6 floors up ( carried me). Once I hit the room I was trying to fight them apparently. Long story short 13 years on we are still good mates. Ended up randomly living in the same city as them in Australia and still do.
Not everybody blacks out. I don’t. I can drink myself to death without blacking out. My girlfriend can sometimes black out in the first drink and then drinks a crazy amount after. Sometimes she can have 3 drinks and be fine. Alcohol is weird.
@Wayne Mcnamara I will puke quick too though, It kinda prevents me from getting too drunk. I haven't drank in a couple years but I used to when I was younger. I'm done going deep.
My great grandfather, my grandfather, and my father were all alcoholics. All my uncle's are alcoholic s back home in mexico. When My dad saw my grandpa die of liver cancer, he decided to put down the booze and focus on what was more important and that was his family. My father wears 12 years of sobriety like a badge of honor and I couldn't be more proud of him. In my generation,I'm breaking this vicious cycle of alcoholism. Stay strong folks
I've been Cali sober for just over 10 years. I was a daily drinker for 15 years and I can't remember most of it but I will never forget the day I decided to quit for good.
I quit sometime December of 2019. I find that if you put a date it adds pressure. Dont think about how many days just one at a time really that's it. Pray. Meditate. Get close to your loved ones. You can do it maddog
To the alcoholic, one drink is too many and a thousand is never enough. God saved me from alcoholism and I pray anyone else suffering can seek to find Him. God won't disappoint you🙏
My big brother went to rehab 3 times, found God, & hasn't taken a drink since he got baptized. He has something to follow & live for now. God helped him. 🙏
I quit without God. I did it myself. I had a hard time with 12 step people telling me I had no choice and it was out of my control. I disagree. But... im not saying 12 step and/or God wont help. I'm just saying I didn't need it.
I quit drinking when I realized I was tired of feeling the way I did over the reason why I felt that way and it layed the stepping stones for the way out of that, switching to pot helped me quit completely very quickly
Been sober for a month and a half it’s very hard when you have social anxiety, and the constant jabber in your brain when your sober that you want to silence. Usually around this time is when I start thinking I have changed and I can partake.
When she said one day she was just done. It’s so true. Nothing was going to make me quit. Not my wife, not my son, not my job, not my health. Nothing. One day I had a couple drinks and just felt different, and it’s hard to describe how I felt but I knew I was done right then and there. Haven’t looked back, it’s been almost a year.
I’m 6 years sober. I tried to make myself quit over and over again for years. I tried support groups, therapy, lost relationships, my abdomen was sore every day, my blood pressure was through the roof. And then one day I stopped. I don’t know what was different about this time, but it stuck. And I’m deathly afraid of ever going back.
@@ExtremeTG the shame, guilt and hopelessness was always there but for some reason wasn’t enough to make me stop. And it stopped being fun long before I quit, it just became something I did, my routine. I hated myself so much that one day it just clicked, this is a horrible life and I need to stop. I could tell you the time and place where I had this epiphany. Nothing remarkable happened, I was just sitting down, sick and hungover and said that’s it I’m done.
Went sober for 3 years then slowly went back. This last year I've been full blown at it, I've blacked out probably over 80 times this last year. 6 days sober now shit is ridiculous, always creeping back into my mind.
Keep it strong! I'm 5 years sober today I cannot explain how phenomenally better my life is. Repaired and improved my health, mind, soul. My family is so stoaked and loves to have the true son/brother back. Get into a gym stop eating bad food. Work on your self talk and make life your bitch.
Go to meetings either in person or online. You need to have someone, or a group of people, to be accountable to. I've been trying to get sober for a least 6 years and it only really started making sense when I started reading the big book and talking every week to a sponsor. The other most important thing is to stop hanging out with anyone you drink with.
@@HarryManback0 I agree, I've considered cutting myself away from a couple of close friends for this reason. I feel amazing right now just after 6 days and keep thinking about drinking but I'm staying occupied with yardwork and my family. Thanks for the words everyone. Chugging a bunch of water all day.
ive been blacked out drunk before. Didnt remember anything for some days but after hearing stories and trying to piece together what happened. The memories came back.
I CAME FROM A LONG LINE OF RAGING ALCOHOLICS AND I QUIT DRINKING IN 2018 JAN. HAVENT TOUCHED IT. AND I WAS NEVER REALLY INTO IT. I JUST STOPPED TO SEE IF I CAN
This is what we call a “normie” who drinks hard, realizes it’s hurting their health, and so does the logical thing and quits. An alcoholic has the logic on board - this is bad for my health, I want to quit - but can’t. It’s...something you almost have to experience to believe. Brain chemistry. Hard to understand unless you’re an addict or alcoholic. Alcoholics in other areas of their lives exemplify tremendous feats of self discipline and will. Powerless under the deluge of this disease once they’ve crossed that invisible line
Exercise (running/biking especially) + breathing exercises like the wim hof method were essential for me to regulate my emotions and I’d recommend that to anyone trying to quit. Do a marathon or triathlon to set a goal and stick to it
It’s so strange how that happens, how one just struggles and struggles then one day they’re just done with it, it doesn’t even have to come to a down and out moment either. After smoking for 14 years I just stopped one day and didn’t do it anymore. I don’t remember the day or even how it happened. I also quit energy drink/coffee addiction, but it was different, all of a sudden I started feeling the after effect jitters more than I have been aware of in the past and I found it just undesirable and I just quit it and it took no resistance or will power you know what I mean. Now I have tried to quit drinking multiple times and every time I’m resisting the urge and it takes a lot of will power and eventually i give in. I’ve even tried to drink so much that I’d just get turned off from it but that hasn’t worked either. I tried psychedelics because that has been known to have a good success rate but I ended up having one of the worst trips of my life and continued drinking the day after. I’m not hopeless drunk or anything I drink much less than I used to, I rarely finish a 6 pack in one night, but I do it frequently like 5-6 nights a week, it’s costly and just unnecessary but I haven’t been fortunate enough to see the light. I don’t want to quit completely I just want to feel ok about not having a couple beers almost every night. It brings me comfort and it feels like a bummer to be sober watching the hockey game etc.
I drank a shit load of alcohol as a teenager and smoked a ton of weed, Then one day I started getting acid relux and weed would give me anxiety, SO I just stopped it. My mom liked to drink a lot during that time and she let me and my friends drink, Now nobody drinks. She still lights up the weed though.
@@clintbeasthood9758 I don't know, It's gotten worse over the years. Alcohol makes it way worse. I haven't drank alcohol in years, Not just because of reflux, but never felt the need to. Right now I'm trying to get off acid reflux medicine because I don't want to take too long, It's going to be a bitch getting off.
@@christru22 I made mine stop by not eating after 6 p.m, and eating lighter meals. I also cut out greasy foods, and it helped a ton. And for some reason, oatmeal or bananas help me more than any of the medicines with flare ups
@@clintbeasthood9758 I'm doing that now, I might have crohn's or something similar so my digestion is just super messed up right now. It's caused my to completely change my diet.
@@christru22 I have a similar backstory as you, minus the Weed part. I solved 90% of my weirdass oddball excuse for a stomach by completely cutting out sugars (glucose, fructose, etc), bread, pasta, excessive fibers (I found 15% of recommended intake to be perfect for me) and eating only every other day, followed by a day of maintaining blood glucose levels by eating as little as possible. Allowing the small intestine to clear up in between real meals for 20-24 hours really helps.
I have a group of friends ive grown up with but now since we have gotten older the only time we actually go out to hangout together is when we go out to drink but if it's anything else you invite them to they always say nah/nope , they'll only go out if you say let's drink. I'm afraid that alcohol is going to ruin our friendship.
Sounds like you have a group of drinking buddies not friends. I've had friends and I've had drinking buddies. The difference is that friends tend to do things other than drink and are there for you when times are hard.
Many of us have that story. They all pretty much unfold the same way. Some find careers and marriage by 30 and stop partying and you don't see them as often but still keep in touch. Some you just never hear from again. Some go down dark roads, you'll probably lose one of them to addiction, and it's awful. Then there's those lucky few who pull off the balanced life of a successful career, family, and occasional partying and drug use at a responsible level, time, and place through adulthood with little consequences to life and health that we all strive for.
Can agree my mother was an alcoholic my entire life, despite not completely enjoying the lack of control which comes with being drunk, yet I still find release and relaxtion in drinking almost to the point where I can't stop myself. Thanks for the podcast!
I never drank alot at all. But the last year I just stopped. Just felt I much rather not. I like waking up early on the weekends and going for a run. Not being hung over. I dont miss alcohol
Alcohol is such a weird thing... I am pretty similar to Joe in the sense that I can get drunk how many times I want for multiple days straight, then instantly not feel like drinking anything for multiple months, I can go out with friends to bars and just have one beer and I'm satisfied with that, meanwhile I have friends who feel like they must get drunk to the point of blacking out multiple times and they can't seem to control it whatsoever. I don't know if it's genetic or pure willpower, but some people are clearly more tolerable with alcohol to others. I've noticed the same thing with nicotine, I've used snus "swedish snuff" daily for multiple months then one day I just felt like "meh, who do I need to snus for? It doesn't do much for me anyway" and then abstained for years and now I haven't done it for 6 years, and not once felt any withdrawal symptoms.
I remember my sober day. I've been sober for 3 years now and counting. Not a drop. I won't preach, it wasn't easy but ultimately doing it for yourself is the only way that works. You do it for someone, you'll always be let down and it rarely sticks for real if the break up of that bond breaks. It almost becomes like a built in crutch. If you're struggling, there is help. Don't be afraid. Alcohol abuse is not a joke and genuinely can be really life destroying. Get help before it is literally too late to. You are not alone.
I'm 3 yrs sober now. It's wonderful. I binge watched a lady on UA-cam. Her channel is This Naked Mind. She's great. I used to think it was genetic, like born within you to become addicted or not. But now I think it's a learned behavior. Maybe not learned but a downloaded or programed thing from being raised by faulty parents. From ages 0-7 it's your parents job to teach you about the world (this is green- that is poison-this is a cat) then from 7-12 it's your parents job to help you learn who YOU are (do you like green beans or peas- do you feel hurt- do you like that person) . But they usually teach you how to be them (eat this because I made it- that doesn't hurt, don't be a baby- hug your aunt even if you hate her), so you end up drinking or taking drugs because you feel guilty being you or you don't know how to be you and it feels crappy because it's too hard to be someone else. It's called Codependency. I also watch Lisa A Romano on UA-cam. Start from her oldest videos because if you jump right in to her recent ones, it gets a little wonky. Good wonky but you should build up to it. Good luck to anyone trying. It's easier that you think. YOU GOT THIS!! *CHEST BUMP*
My alcoholic grandpa was always a jolly old fellow. Was never mean or abusive in any way. Anyhow he used to drink beer and drive every day. He lived way out in the country in Tennessee and back then you could get away with it. When I was 13 or so he just had me drive him around. But he used to tell me the reason people can't drive drunk is because they don't get enough practice 😂😂😂. I know it's not supposed to be funny but he was a old jolly WW2 veteran and I can't help but chuckle about it. One time I drove him into town to pay his taxes at court house and when we left he looked around and said " you see any God damn cops?? Haha". I said no pawpaw I sure don't. So he throws his beer can out the window on the town square and opened another one 😂😂 I sure miss my pawpaw. He was my hero. Yea he had a drinking problem but he was a old jolly loving man. I never met a single person who had a bad thing to say about him and that's pretty rare for a alcoholic. But he eventually had to stop and he withered away and ended up in nursing home. He was 85 and really fragile and he fell out of his wheel chair and hit his head on the floor. He died a few hours later. It broke my heart
Dude that's really funny about "people can't drive drunk because they don't get enough practice" I'm gonna use that! I've been a serious beer drinker for over 20 years, here in CA no DUI's thank the heavens.. 🙌 I try not to, like get an 18pk so you don't run out for the day... 4 days sober
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i like to drink as well, but i try and limit it to the weekend, lots of water, and i make sure i work out the next day regardless how hung over i am. i wish i could say i am sober, for x amount of days months or years, but restraint is where i have to go, not ready for full blown sobriety yet.
Same! I’ll also take off random weeks at a time sometimes a whole month but I know I won’t stop drinking for good but even when I go back it’s just once a week and try to have my shit together other then that and all around
I enjoy beer. I love a good IPA or Imperial Stout. That and it is so ingrained into our social lives. I mean really, what is there to do on a Saturday night that doesn't involve alcohol? It's just frustrating because I know that I could be a much better version of myself without it. But like you, I'm just trying to limit it at this point and try and keep it under control.
Go to AA. It's super easy atm because soo much of it is on Zoom. Whatever you think that AA is, it's almost certainly not. It's not a cult, it's not a bunch of religious whacko's, it's a spiritual journey and the solution to the disease we suffer from. *Edit* to qualify myself, I was an almost daily binge drinker with a propensity for drugs that involved needles. I'm now 40 with a good amount of time under my belt clean and sober. I have a good job, a beautiful fiance, and know a happiness that 10 years ago, in my wildest dreams, could not possibly comprehend.
Find some online meetings and do them every day for a while. Having an individual or a group that you're accountable to is incredibly important to staying sober.
My grandpa could drink whiskey and any hard liquor he could get his hands on from the moment he wakes up, to the moment he goes to bed, for almost every day of the rest of his life. He did die of liver cancer in 2012 but he was 76 and he served in the Navy during Vietnam. He turned into the color yellow. My dad likes to drinks some beer at least like once a week. But I only drink socially and at parties and holidays and birthdays and only on special occasions. Sometimes I go months or a year without drinking so I don't think it is genetic. But it could be a type of psychosis and influence that some kids pick up from their fathers if they didn't have much of a family or life while they were growing up. When a kid is still like "stupid" cuz their brain is still developing, sometimes a father unknowingly teaches them by the only example they got. Lucky that I had a life.
My great grandpa was alcoholic. My Grandpa was alcoholic. My aunt is alcoholic ( grandpa's daughter). My mom wasn't. I used to drink real heavy but it was weekend binge drinking. Every weekend from 16 to 27 years old I was hammered drunk. But when I decided to settle down I just quit drinking and never gave it a second thought. Zero issue. I suppose I was lucky because I easily could have become addicted due to family history. I think it's genetic but I dodged the bullet I guess I also think genetic memory is a fact too.
I grew up between drunks, knew some that died and seen the shit it caused, i love a drink but i never go down that road! I dont drink every day, and i never need it! somethimes i miss a stiff drink but i dont and never need it!
They told me when I went to a meeting 27 years ago that if I kept coming I would live a life 2nd to none! They didn’t lie what a life I’ve lived sober! So many things I never would have done if I carried on drinking. God Bless any of you that r sober or r trying your best to stop. It’s worth it trust me!!
I can say WE ALL want an excuse and inherent alcoholism is a huge one to use. It’s easier to blame others and past behavior of relatives than it is to just look in the mirror and ask “ why are you really doing this to yourself. “
Also besides the Rewards of alcohol relieving us of our emotional/physical problems for the night, there is the Reward of being too sick to work the next day. Then the Reward of more beer the next am to "feel better..."
I once met a tall and handsome man in Montana who kindly shared his realization of having a problem, which was also his reason for quitting: Alcohol wasn't a viable excuse, it was just a problem. Having had/have many problems of my own, that always sticks with me
My dad was a massive alcoholic. Destroyed his carrier, marriage, and his relationship with my sis and me. I never picked it up. Just don't care for it. 49 years old now and still don't drink. 🤷♂️ So if it is genetic, it must have skipped me. I credit my loving mother.
I'm coming up on three years this August, and I've learned a lot. I can't stand the taste of booze and don't drink but I love opiates - yet if I sit next to an alcoholic we've got different stories, but we end up at the same rock bottom. Yet recovery programs seem to separate us. I don't know why it's separate, buy we've got to stop putting alcoholism and drug addiction in different categories. Addiction is addiction, whether it be opiates, alcohol, gambling, sex or food. Different means, withdrawals, stories, but it's all the same in the end. If you're out there reading this and have issues with addiction, hang in there. Remember, the most important step you can take is the next one.
iam 30, i have been drinking daily since about 19. both my parents are sever alcoholics , and both of my granddads and so is my uncle, it does not help that we are Russian...interesting enough we are functioning alcoholics. mortgages, good jobs, good people. (although my childhood was a nightmare due to my mums emotional manias and screaming) Being a young person with alcoholism i can say that its a very complex mix of genetics and serious emotional trauma. So far the best i can do is go sober 1week.
It is fucking great to be clean and sober. Love life today and I'm not consumed by the constant "need" for a substance. Really frees up room to live a life.
There is a difference between having a drink or two. And being an alcoholic. Being from family of alcoholics they almost patronize me when they see me drinking. Realizing you have a problem or not. Always stay in control.
3 months sober here. First month wasn’t to bad. The 2nd and third month has been the most darkest. Feeling everything again is hard. But gotta keep fighting bc I hear it gets better.
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I go months without alcohol when I'm by myself - I love meditation, yoga, and working out. However, whenever I'm in a social scenario, I go ape shit and simply cannot take it slow.
I use to remember the date I last had a drink but it is so long and far away from were I am now and I was a find my self in the gutter alcoholic .it has been 30 years sober
I've been clean and sober for 4 years. Addiction is a symptom of an imbalanced state of body, mind, and spirit. If you're struggling, go and get help. You can't fix your imbalanced mind with your imbalanced mind.
Everyone who is an alcoholic addict is the descendant of a warrior Survivor you wouldn't be here without that addictive genetic trait it's a gift and a curse.
I think its environmental with a side of genetic influences. People who have no sense of purpose in life almost always end up doing something destructive to themselves in search of a fix for their aimlessness. Finding purpose is the hard part. I havent figured it out myself but Im convinced that is what we need, which funnily enough gives me a little sense of purpose in itself. And already it makes things a little bit easier.
My parents both drank, my mum was an alcoholic up untill i was maybe 14, she quit cold turkey after driving home drunk and not remembering. I belive addiction can run in genetics
@Gshi _ im not an alcoholic, but i reached a point in my young adult life where i was getting black outs, i pretty much drink max 2 or 3 beers a night if any. I find i get addicted to illicit substances rather easily and that is hard to control
1/21/96........Since that time one brother died of alcohol and my other brother died of Heroin...It’s incredible to think I have 25 years clean..by Gods grace..It can be done🙏🏻🙏🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
when he said the shark eyes thing man that shit really hit. i can go multiple days without drinking but if i have one it feels like its only a matter of time till im shit-faced. i cant drink to relax, i have to drink to get drunk. im 24 and i wont lie this scares me a little for the future
I'm 4 days sober, I know exactly what u mean. Wish me luck plz. Its rlly hard and I'm trying, longest I've been sober since my alcohol addiction began.
Sometimes its finally maturing or finding a good woman, in my case it was both. I look back at my younger years and the stupid shit I did while drinking and am amazed I'm alive.
Sober 4 days now. Wish me luck everyone
Edit: still sober 5-23
Hang in there my man. I can promise you it's worth it. As someone who struggled with alcohol for years and quit just to relapse several times I can tell you first hand that sticking to it is more rewarding and life changing than you can imagine. The first couple weeks are usually the hardest because your brain chemistry is all fucked up and you're not producing enough dopamine since your brain is used to relying on a substance to do it. So you can feel very sluggish, irritable, anxious, and even depressed. But after about a week or two of sobriety your brain chemistry will balance back out and it's like taking drugs I swear. You have so much more energy and you feel so much more attentive. Experiencing just good ol organic natural dopamine coming from a healthy clear brain instead of relying on alcohol or other substances to force it's production is a completely different kind of happy than alcoholic/druggy "happy". It's worth it friend.
Good luck maddog, I am Sober app helped me along. Get past a week, then a month, then three months. Just keep going. I am on day 267. You are not alone
If you can make it 4 days, you can make it 5. If you can make it 5 then you can definitely make it 6. And that's how it goes. Once you made it past the hard part then why bother going back and starting over.
Take it one day at a time and keep in mind that you will feel better at some point. And i mean a lot better. Best of luck !
You can do it. Eat all the food you’re craving because you’ll crave sugar. First three weeks are the hardest and you’ll get the hang of it faster than you think. Plus, remember that alcohol is poison. It ruins lives - from kids of alcoholic parents, to innocent victims in a drunk driving crash, to all those relationships that end, all the assault that occurs under the influence of alcohol... it’s just bad for you and bad for our society. We are all better off without it.
If alcohol didn’t exist and you invented it, they’d classify it as a Class A drug and put people in prison for years for brewing or selling it
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They tried that, it made al capone a mint.
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Stupid comment
I quit drinking when I realized that nearly all of my problems in life were because of alcohol.
I started drinking when i realized that nearly all of my problems in life were because of not drinking alcohol.
@@matyugovich 😆
@@matyugovich 🙄
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Drugs and alcohol are always good for bringing a whole new set of problems. They don't disappoint in that arena.
I’m laying in bed in a treatment facility trying to get clean from heroin and alcohol. I’m going to show this to the group. Stories like this are good reasons to stay sober. Love from Canada
My prayers for your success, it doesn't make life easier, makes life livable.
Good luck! Keep it up okay I’m right there with you God bless you
Good luck on your journey, many blessings.
You're allowed a phone in treatment?? If say it's a good idea to not be on your phone while in rehab.
It gets better brother. I was where you were a little over a year ago. My fiance died and that just sped up my need for alcohol. Find a sponsor, work the steps and it will change your life.
The worst part about quitting drinking for me is that a lot of my problems got worse and I realized that it wasn't alcohol that was the problem. Very sobering reality
Dam deep but that's life man we will always have problems. Never stop trying 🤘
A lot of traits are inherited just by observing our parents, work ethic, responsibility, respect to others.
Coming from a former alcoholic, I was coming to say this.
No wonder why im screwed lol
we also learn not to fall into the same behaviors as our parents by observing them
@@jesseespinoza8657 I sure hope so
@@jaylaidlaw11 my dad is an alcoholic and I haven’t touched beer at all in my 23 years. I grew up seeing how my dad treated us and my mother while he was drunk and from those experiences I knew I would never do the same. So I can be proof to that statement😄
I've been clean and sober for 7 years, 7 months, 2 days, 15 hours, and 3 minutes as I type this comment.
Best decision I ever made...
Congrats bro, 7 years April 19 for me
Is it really all that healthy to be counting like that?
Depends I guess, but probably not
@@itsthatsebguy93 Yes, assuming one knows how to count.
@@cappy0023 Shouldn't you let go after all these years? Or is the struggle still real enough you need to remind yourself of how long its been to stay on track?
Haven’t had a drink in 10years or cocaine. Thank God. It’s definitely genetic. Blackout drinking was my specialty. I did not stop until I was 40 in 2011. Congratulations !!!!
Congrats you're a quitter
It's not genetic. That's ridiculous.
@@journeyman1218 Of course it is, they have done brain scans of an addicts brain verse a non-addicts brain. I am glad we live in the 21st century and we don't have to listen to poor opinions anymore.
Grats, man. The blackout specialty is a worrisome comment tho. Look up "Blackout Drinking May Increase Risk of Dementia", hopefully you didn't cause too much permanent damage.
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My father is a chronic alcoholic. He went to residential school and it deeply scarred him. He never sobered up til just a cpl years ago. He’s got two years now, I guess something just clicked. Keep on fighting the good fight! Stay strong with the addict 💯
How did he come to deal with his traumas from residential school?
My fellow native
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I've heard horror stories from those schools. I hope he can put his traumas behind him. God speed.
Makes sense. it’s not often they came out of those schools not traumatized. It was a fucked place
"I was sober for 11 years once"
Oh yeah, what happened?
Turned 12
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Why did you think that was clever
@@picassoboy52 apparently 124 others thought it was funny. Kick rocks cupcake
When I was able to limit my drinking strictly to a weekend drink or two and my life drastically improved. Been 5 years since
So controlled drinking works for you? You didn't replaced it with weed other addictions?
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No. I wasn't a hard drinker either. Just beer everyday then wake up sluggish and working in construction, that everyday drinking just got in the way. So I changed things and it wasn't difficult but not easy either. I vape thc here and there but again that's only on weekends and the only thing I did to replace the substance during that initial transition was smoking more but with in a week I had that more or less controlled
That's awesome man, but for a real alcoholic like myself here's how that works.
"Only two Tall cans tonight, and then I'll stop, eat dinner, and go to work tmro"
I'll prove to myself I can do it.
9:45am the next day, didn't even call into work & there's 14 empty beers on my countertop & I feel like dog shit.
I've tried over 100x to only drink a 6pk and stop. Its a 100% fail
^^^ & if that's a "controlled, responsible work-night," imagine trying to stop on a Friday night. I'm 4 days sober today, & it's Saturday woo! 👍
It's a tough thing and there is no hard and fast rule, I mean, I spent 20 years in the military and we partied hard all the time. I just got to the point where it was really hurting my health and you felt so shitty for so long that you forget what it's like to feel normal. That's when I just stopped putting it my mouth. It took a while to get over the habit of doing it, but it was worth it for me.
Yea I just gave it up for lent. The hardest thing was is to give up the habit. I had a habit of drinking and watching sports.
Where do you put it now?
@@Daplin1 joker lol
Dude. Yeah.
Yessir. Physical withdrawals are over surprisingly fast, even the DTs - but restructuring a life takes a while. It was six months for me before I could say I was normal without my beer. It only took me four years to spiral downward into hell, and now that I’m three years free I’ll never go back. Glad you made it, MJA, I’ve seen people lose the fight.
I have that shit that Joe talks about in 7:08.Most of the time i am just a fun guy that likes to sing,be kind and play guitar but sometimes the mean drunk comes out.Angry,bitter,crying and starts question shit but i always apologize to my friends,family and such the day after.I am better now and drink less but 15 years ago i was a mess and hade no friends.Nowadays i feel good and have many friends that loves me and that cause i drink less.Alcohol is pure shit.
But the anger is still inside, just suppresed. It’ll come back
You mean SHARK BOY!!
Yes I've had a few friends become super Sharkboy.
I'm the same way and gave it up because of it.
I saw a story one time that really resonated with me.
It was about a guy whose son has an anger problem, so whenever the son lost control of his anger, he had to to go hammer a nail into the fence. So he does, and pretty soon all up and down the fence are nails everywhere.
Then as the kid is getting better the dad says, "now every time you control your anger instead of to give in to it, I want you to go remove a nail from the fence".
So he does, and after some time, the boy is pulling out the last nail.
He had learned to control his anger, but his father had one more lesson, so he steps out and says "well done my son, but look at the fence. We can forget and forgive, but we can't undo the things we've done, and that damage will still be there. That is why it's so important to control your anger, so you don't make your own life, and the life of others, end up like this."
There is no Jimmy. There is only Zu'ul.
We got my dad to stop smokin, gambling, drinking, and dipping in one go. Me, my sister, and my cousin used to make signs and we posted them on his door when he was asleep or passed out, we would get together with cards and swarm him when he got home, saying ily, stop drinking, please dont drink tonight, etc. Ofc I think it was up to him whether he actually stopped or not, but he did and I think we definitely pushed him in the right direction. Been sober going on 14 years
I got my mom to stop smoking. I moved back to her house and made her miserable. I was like just put a gun to ur head. I harassed her so fucking bad My mom always tells me u don't know how to be a fucking guest. She still got lung cancer, but I think how much worse it would have been had she not quit. Alive and kicking at 70.
@@july713x3 Wow 👏 you sound like a great son 😂
Wow my Dad would beat the hell out of me if I did that.
@@brandonlee1168 mine did. He loved my sister too much to hit her, but he felt just fine hitting me. Fair, seeing as how I hated him and let em know it, but it was mostly because he was never around much, and when he was it was to hit me
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I quit drinking 11 yrs ago. Had no choice. If you are trying. It is possible.
Why didn’t you have a choice?
@@nestoo10 Was killing me.
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@@michaelcarley9866 cirrosis?
@@nestoo10 you’re heart will feel bad before your liver does.
July 26, 2016 is my sobriety date. Only finally stopped when I got fed up of myself. Wish I would have gotten fed up 20 years prior but at least I got there. Thankful every night when I go to sleep and not pass out. It wasn’t booze either
Good job Frank!
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I've been sober for 8 months and I felt really good about it for a while but now I'm just bored and lonely. Was never a daily drinker, just can't moderate at all, once I've had 3 drinks I'll drink everything in sight and I don't really lose my motor functions, I lose my mind. I quit out of necessity, I've dodged so many bullets while blackout drunk, so many times I could have ruined or ended my life while drinking.
Father is still an alcoholic and we're Indigenous (Australia), many people say that Indigenous people can't handle alcohol, I'm inclined to believe them after my experiences.
The bored and lonely part is what gets to fall off the wagon every time. Only so many weekends I can stay home alone bored. It's frustrating because if it wasn't for the boredom I'd have no reason to drink.
I feel like alcoholism is mostly linked to consuming alcohol honestly.
Your probably right
Source?
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Good point
What in gods name made you think that was so clever that you just couldn't resist posting it
Cool video. I wish the podcast was still on here.
Bruh just use Spotify its free
I don’t get why people refuse to use Spotify. It’s free and you can listen with your phone off
Spotify better
@@JT-jb4mr I do use Spotify, though I’m not currently on premium. I prefer using UA-cam because I have premium and the UA-cam app functions better on my iPad and phone. I probably need an update because my Spotify app is super slow and clunky, especially with the video aspect. I have fiber internet btw, so it’s not that.
I don't understand whats so hard about just getting spotify, It's l;ike downloading an app is the hardest thiing in the world, its so ridiculous, it's like going to a shop and buying a drink and they stopped selling the drink and said oh they sell them next door and you just come back everyday oh man i wish you still had that drink and there like dude its next door but you just refuse to go next door its literally that silly, its a god damn app that is free just down load it FFS
Every man in my family was an alcoholic. I struggled for years. Seek help. It took me 5 trips to the hospital to finally get it. Life is so much better sober.
my dad was an alcoholic among other things. i myself started drinking very young, and i found that when i drank, I felt how i "should". not afraid of the world. not anxious. makes me an overall better person, better at anything i try. i can actually talk how i want to and feel things for once, and it feels too right. it's scary, because alcohol is a horrible thing. but so tempting.
Its definitely passed on in traits. Environmental influences, social pressures, traumas, emotional deficiencies and the craving to be liked all have an immense impact on the outcome of ones drinking. I'm happier not drinking. I'm of Irish descent so it's in my makeup, so its said. Alcohol is damaging to the spiritual membrane that protects us from dark influences and forces. It lost it's fun a long time ago,for me. I'm grateful to be more present now. To all that struggle,may you find peace and strength to overcome!
I had a friend who claimed to be a “black out drunk” but really just couldn’t take accountability for his actions while drunk. Truth comes out
If you get black out drunk mate trust me you got no memory of what you did or done. I’ve done it a thousand times cos I love drinking piss but I’ve had to be told about some crazy shit that happened before at times. I’ve crashed cars been in fights not known to the next day.
@@scottclark1975 Fuck me, blackout drunk is the worst. The fucking panic when you wake up and try to remember what you did, or to a phone call from someone telling you....
@@outlawm1 yeah mate. Done it way too many times. Usually had a blast though. I would wake up look in the mirror ...no black eyes sweet. lol. one time happened in Bangkok first night after landing after a weeks party from New Zealand big leaving party ended up waking up in a hotel like where the fuck am I. Happened to be my room , sweet stayed in bed all day got the courage to go outside later about 9 pm recognised some Carlsberg umbrellas outside this bar walked into applause from 20 odd people at this table going well done mate. You happened to be drinking like you were in the world championships ( joed out / fell asleep ) woke up projectile vomited all over the lower tier of tables below me cleared the whole bar almost ( really stinky ) then went back to sleep. Some irish blokes I had just met as I was alone went anybody know this guy? Went through my pockets found my room key and put me to be 6 floors up ( carried me). Once I hit the room I was trying to fight them apparently. Long story short 13 years on we are still good mates. Ended up randomly living in the same city as them in Australia and still do.
Not everybody blacks out. I don’t. I can drink myself to death without blacking out. My girlfriend can sometimes black out in the first drink and then drinks a crazy amount after. Sometimes she can have 3 drinks and be fine. Alcohol is weird.
@Wayne Mcnamara I will puke quick too though, It kinda prevents me from getting too drunk. I haven't drank in a couple years but I used to when I was younger. I'm done going deep.
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lol. touche
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My great grandfather, my grandfather, and my father were all alcoholics. All my uncle's are alcoholic s back home in mexico. When My dad saw my grandpa die of liver cancer, he decided to put down the booze and focus on what was more important and that was his family. My father wears 12 years of sobriety like a badge of honor and I couldn't be more proud of him. In my generation,I'm breaking this vicious cycle of alcoholism. Stay strong folks
I've been Cali sober for just over 10 years. I was a daily drinker for 15 years and I can't remember most of it but I will never forget the day I decided to quit for good.
Been Cali Sober since 10/13/2019
Ur not sober. Jesus Christ.
cali sober?
Weed only
@@divinegon4671 they might not be, but they’re a more productive member of society so more power to them
I quit sometime December of 2019. I find that if you put a date it adds pressure. Dont think about how many days just one at a time really that's it. Pray. Meditate. Get close to your loved ones. You can do it maddog
To the alcoholic, one drink is too many and a thousand is never enough. God saved me from alcoholism and I pray anyone else suffering can seek to find Him. God won't disappoint you🙏
no. you saved yourself.
@@pjm3005 I tried to stop by myself for years. Even went to 2 rehabs and still couldn't stop. Once I gave it to God He took it away.
My big brother went to rehab 3 times, found God, & hasn't taken a drink since he got baptized. He has something to follow & live for now. God helped him. 🙏
@@25_September same here brother.
I quit without God. I did it myself. I had a hard time with 12 step people telling me I had no choice and it was out of my control. I disagree. But... im not saying 12 step and/or God wont help. I'm just saying I didn't need it.
I quit drinking when I realized I was tired of feeling the way I did over the reason why I felt that way and it layed the stepping stones for the way out of that, switching to pot helped me quit completely very quickly
Nice. Replacing one addiction, with another.
@Rezz amhik...
The underlying cause is still there though.
Been sober for a month and a half it’s very hard when you have social anxiety, and the constant jabber in your brain when your sober that you want to silence. Usually around this time is when I start thinking I have changed and I can partake.
Read today’s meditation ( April 6th ) in the 24 Hour Book ( AA ) - it speaks directly to your comment. One day @ a time. Hang in there...
Same. My anxiety has went thru the roof since I quit smoking and drinking
@shoneast6880 gate keeping anxiety..
When she said one day she was just done. It’s so true. Nothing was going to make me quit. Not my wife, not my son, not my job, not my health. Nothing. One day I had a couple drinks and just felt different, and it’s hard to describe how I felt but I knew I was done right then and there. Haven’t looked back, it’s been almost a year.
did u feel a lot of shame/guilt/worry/hopelessness/reflection or was it more like "ah this doesnt seem as fun, kinda bored of it now"
I’m 6 years sober. I tried to make myself quit over and over again for years. I tried support groups, therapy, lost relationships, my abdomen was sore every day, my blood pressure was through the roof.
And then one day I stopped. I don’t know what was different about this time, but it stuck. And I’m deathly afraid of ever going back.
How much were you drinking, thought?
@@ExtremeTG the shame, guilt and hopelessness was always there but for some reason wasn’t enough to make me stop. And it stopped being fun long before I quit, it just became something I did, my routine. I hated myself so much that one day it just clicked, this is a horrible life and I need to stop. I could tell you the time and place where I had this epiphany. Nothing remarkable happened, I was just sitting down, sick and hungover and said that’s it I’m done.
@@demun6065 at the end when I was at my worst I was downing a 5th a day at least. Night time binge drinker
Went sober for 3 years then slowly went back. This last year I've been full blown at it, I've blacked out probably over 80 times this last year. 6 days sober now shit is ridiculous, always creeping back into my mind.
Fight the urge bro. You got this.
Keep it strong! I'm 5 years sober today I cannot explain how phenomenally better my life is. Repaired and improved my health, mind, soul. My family is so stoaked and loves to have the true son/brother back. Get into a gym stop eating bad food. Work on your self talk and make life your bitch.
Go to meetings either in person or online. You need to have someone, or a group of people, to be accountable to. I've been trying to get sober for a least 6 years and it only really started making sense when I started reading the big book and talking every week to a sponsor. The other most important thing is to stop hanging out with anyone you drink with.
@@HarryManback0 I agree, I've considered cutting myself away from a couple of close friends for this reason. I feel amazing right now just after 6 days and keep thinking about drinking but I'm staying occupied with yardwork and my family. Thanks for the words everyone. Chugging a bunch of water all day.
Same here dude! 4 days sober
ive been blacked out drunk before. Didnt remember anything for some days but after hearing stories and trying to piece together what happened. The memories came back.
I CAME FROM A LONG LINE OF RAGING ALCOHOLICS AND I QUIT DRINKING IN 2018 JAN. HAVENT TOUCHED IT. AND I WAS NEVER REALLY INTO IT. I JUST STOPPED TO SEE IF I CAN
Congrats! Now we have to work on your caps lock addiction lol
OKAY GREAT FOR YOU
So you started smoking weed?
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@@TheAvos18 I SMOKED WEED FROM 1993-2015 THEN AGAIN 2016-2021 ONWARD
I swear it is common knowledge that, alcoholism much like drug abuse is genetic, the same with mannerisms and interests.
This is what we call a “normie” who drinks hard, realizes it’s hurting their health, and so does the logical thing and quits. An alcoholic has the logic on board - this is bad for my health, I want to quit - but can’t. It’s...something you almost have to experience to believe. Brain chemistry. Hard to understand unless you’re an addict or alcoholic. Alcoholics in other areas of their lives exemplify tremendous feats of self discipline and will. Powerless under the deluge of this disease once they’ve crossed that invisible line
Yep couldn’t agree more.
Exercise (running/biking especially) + breathing exercises like the wim hof method were essential for me to regulate my emotions and I’d recommend that to anyone trying to quit. Do a marathon or triathlon to set a goal and stick to it
It’s so strange how that happens, how one just struggles and struggles then one day they’re just done with it, it doesn’t even have to come to a down and out moment either. After smoking for 14 years I just stopped one day and didn’t do it anymore. I don’t remember the day or even how it happened. I also quit energy drink/coffee addiction, but it was different, all of a sudden I started feeling the after effect jitters more than I have been aware of in the past and I found it just undesirable and I just quit it and it took no resistance or will power you know what I mean. Now I have tried to quit drinking multiple times and every time I’m resisting the urge and it takes a lot of will power and eventually i give in. I’ve even tried to drink so much that I’d just get turned off from it but that hasn’t worked either. I tried psychedelics because that has been known to have a good success rate but I ended up having one of the worst trips of my life and continued drinking the day after. I’m not hopeless drunk or anything I drink much less than I used to, I rarely finish a 6 pack in one night, but I do it frequently like 5-6 nights a week, it’s costly and just unnecessary but I haven’t been fortunate enough to see the light. I don’t want to quit completely I just want to feel ok about not having a couple beers almost every night. It brings me comfort and it feels like a bummer to be sober watching the hockey game etc.
I drank a shit load of alcohol as a teenager and smoked a ton of weed, Then one day I started getting acid relux and weed would give me anxiety, SO I just stopped it. My mom liked to drink a lot during that time and she let me and my friends drink, Now nobody drinks. She still lights up the weed though.
What caused the acid reflux for you? For me, beer started giving it to me so I just stop drinking entirely. The buzz is not worth the reflux haha
@@clintbeasthood9758 I don't know, It's gotten worse over the years. Alcohol makes it way worse. I haven't drank alcohol in years, Not just because of reflux, but never felt the need to. Right now I'm trying to get off acid reflux medicine because I don't want to take too long, It's going to be a bitch getting off.
@@christru22 I made mine stop by not eating after 6 p.m, and eating lighter meals. I also cut out greasy foods, and it helped a ton. And for some reason, oatmeal or bananas help me more than any of the medicines with flare ups
@@clintbeasthood9758 I'm doing that now, I might have crohn's or something similar so my digestion is just super messed up right now. It's caused my to completely change my diet.
@@christru22 I have a similar backstory as you, minus the Weed part. I solved 90% of my weirdass oddball excuse for a stomach by completely cutting out sugars (glucose, fructose, etc), bread, pasta, excessive fibers (I found 15% of recommended intake to be perfect for me) and eating only every other day, followed by a day of maintaining blood glucose levels by eating as little as possible. Allowing the small intestine to clear up in between real meals for 20-24 hours really helps.
I have a group of friends ive grown up with but now since we have gotten older the only time we actually go out to hangout together is when we go out to drink but if it's anything else you invite them to they always say nah/nope , they'll only go out if you say let's drink. I'm afraid that alcohol is going to ruin our friendship.
I have the same problem 😯
Michael is that you...?
Had same in my youth. Think its pretty usual
Sounds like you have a group of drinking buddies not friends. I've had friends and I've had drinking buddies. The difference is that friends tend to do things other than drink and are there for you when times are hard.
Many of us have that story. They all pretty much unfold the same way. Some find careers and marriage by 30 and stop partying and you don't see them as often but still keep in touch. Some you just never hear from again. Some go down dark roads, you'll probably lose one of them to addiction, and it's awful. Then there's those lucky few who pull off the balanced life of a successful career, family, and occasional partying and drug use at a responsible level, time, and place through adulthood with little consequences to life and health that we all strive for.
Can agree my mother was an alcoholic my entire life, despite not completely enjoying the lack of control which comes with being drunk, yet I still find release and relaxtion in drinking almost to the point where I can't stop myself.
Thanks for the podcast!
I never drank alot at all. But the last year I just stopped. Just felt I much rather not. I like waking up early on the weekends and going for a run. Not being hung over. I dont miss alcohol
Alcohol is such a weird thing... I am pretty similar to Joe in the sense that I can get drunk how many times I want for multiple days straight, then instantly not feel like drinking anything for multiple months, I can go out with friends to bars and just have one beer and I'm satisfied with that, meanwhile I have friends who feel like they must get drunk to the point of blacking out multiple times and they can't seem to control it whatsoever. I don't know if it's genetic or pure willpower, but some people are clearly more tolerable with alcohol to others. I've noticed the same thing with nicotine, I've used snus "swedish snuff" daily for multiple months then one day I just felt like "meh, who do I need to snus for? It doesn't do much for me anyway" and then abstained for years and now I haven't done it for 6 years, and not once felt any withdrawal symptoms.
You get fed up of being fed up. It's that simple sometimes.
Maybe its no alcohol genetics maybe depression genetics, alcohol is just a coping mechanism
I remember my sober day. I've been sober for 3 years now and counting. Not a drop. I won't preach, it wasn't easy but ultimately doing it for yourself is the only way that works. You do it for someone, you'll always be let down and it rarely sticks for real if the break up of that bond breaks. It almost becomes like a built in crutch.
If you're struggling, there is help. Don't be afraid. Alcohol abuse is not a joke and genuinely can be really life destroying. Get help before it is literally too late to. You are not alone.
Thank you for your post.
Sometimes there is several underlying issues that turn a person to the bottle.
The trick is also addressing those issues.
I'm 3 yrs sober now. It's wonderful. I binge watched a lady on UA-cam. Her channel is This Naked Mind. She's great. I used to think it was genetic, like born within you to become addicted or not. But now I think it's a learned behavior. Maybe not learned but a downloaded or programed thing from being raised by faulty parents. From ages 0-7 it's your parents job to teach you about the world (this is green- that is poison-this is a cat) then from 7-12 it's your parents job to help you learn who YOU are (do you like green beans or peas- do you feel hurt- do you like that person) . But they usually teach you how to be them (eat this because I made it- that doesn't hurt, don't be a baby- hug your aunt even if you hate her), so you end up drinking or taking drugs because you feel guilty being you or you don't know how to be you and it feels crappy because it's too hard to be someone else. It's called Codependency. I also watch Lisa A Romano on UA-cam. Start from her oldest videos because if you jump right in to her recent ones, it gets a little wonky. Good wonky but you should build up to it. Good luck to anyone trying. It's easier that you think. YOU GOT THIS!! *CHEST BUMP*
1 week sober after a recent slip.
It’s amazing how quick shit gets out of control.
AA just reach out there is plenty of people to talk to!
April 19 2014... we know the day. Alcohol is WAY more of an issue than our society acknowledges.
My alcoholic grandpa was always a jolly old fellow. Was never mean or abusive in any way. Anyhow he used to drink beer and drive every day. He lived way out in the country in Tennessee and back then you could get away with it. When I was 13 or so he just had me drive him around. But he used to tell me the reason people can't drive drunk is because they don't get enough practice 😂😂😂. I know it's not supposed to be funny but he was a old jolly WW2 veteran and I can't help but chuckle about it. One time I drove him into town to pay his taxes at court house and when we left he looked around and said " you see any God damn cops?? Haha". I said no pawpaw I sure don't. So he throws his beer can out the window on the town square and opened another one 😂😂
I sure miss my pawpaw. He was my hero. Yea he had a drinking problem but he was a old jolly loving man. I never met a single person who had a bad thing to say about him and that's pretty rare for a alcoholic. But he eventually had to stop and he withered away and ended up in nursing home. He was 85 and really fragile and he fell out of his wheel chair and hit his head on the floor. He died a few hours later. It broke my heart
Dude that's really funny about "people can't drive drunk because they don't get enough practice"
I'm gonna use that! I've been a serious beer drinker for over 20 years, here in CA no DUI's thank the heavens.. 🙌 I try not to, like get an 18pk so you don't run out for the day... 4 days sober
seriously, the most authentic and sympathetic person i've ever seen on your podcast
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I heard one day that in 1/3 of people alcohol reacts with an opioid receptor. So alcohol is much more addictive to 1/3 of the population.
I also saw this mentioned long ago. The receptor trait is genetically inherited.
This chick was boring. I can see why people say Joe's guest suck.
@The Time is Now 😂😂😂😂
Didn't know a DP of a one off car I've had on this 12 year old account had any sort of significance. I must be from a time UA-cam wasn't filled with idiots.
My whole family has an addiction problem, except me and my sisters. Everyone else even the extended family shares the curse.
most of my friends and fam drink i dont i just dont like it especially hangovers yuck lol
Im so ready to get sober, alcohol is subliminally ruining my life.
Look up Allen Carr’s book on Drinking it’s a life saver
i like to drink as well, but i try and limit it to the weekend, lots of water, and i make sure i work out the next day regardless how hung over i am. i wish i could say i am sober, for x amount of days months or years, but restraint is where i have to go, not ready for full blown sobriety yet.
Same! I’ll also take off random weeks at a time sometimes a whole month but I know I won’t stop drinking for good but even when I go back it’s just once a week and try to have my shit together other then that and all around
I enjoy beer. I love a good IPA or Imperial Stout. That and it is so ingrained into our social lives. I mean really, what is there to do on a Saturday night that doesn't involve alcohol? It's just frustrating because I know that I could be a much better version of myself without it. But like you, I'm just trying to limit it at this point and try and keep it under control.
@@AlexG-tp2ik when drinking limiting myself is the hardest part though it’s almost a go hard or go home attitude after a few drinks
@@timbodragon9379 I'm the same way. Don't threaten me with a good time Lol
@@AlexG-tp2ik lol yea gotta enjoy life but try your best to not get carried away or get the bad reputation of being “that guy” when you drink
I don't drink no more .
And I don't drink no less .
I quit drinking for almost a year and then I got heart broken and now I'm struggling to stop again :(
I am in the same place. Stay strong you’ll get there. So will I
Stay strong brother. You’ll get there
Go to AA. It's super easy atm because soo much of it is on Zoom. Whatever you think that AA is, it's almost certainly not. It's not a cult, it's not a bunch of religious whacko's, it's a spiritual journey and the solution to the disease we suffer from.
*Edit* to qualify myself, I was an almost daily binge drinker with a propensity for drugs that involved needles. I'm now 40 with a good amount of time under my belt clean and sober. I have a good job, a beautiful fiance, and know a happiness that 10 years ago, in my wildest dreams, could not possibly comprehend.
@@jbclaytor thanks man the zoom thing might make it easier to do. 💪🏻
Grandma is a durty gurl 😂
Find some online meetings and do them every day for a while. Having an individual or a group that you're accountable to is incredibly important to staying sober.
Congratulations on your sobriety. Hard to get, even harder to keep. Much respect.
Joe "DMT cures alchoholism" Rogan
Funny thing is... It prob will xD
Sober 5 years.
My grandpa could drink whiskey and any hard liquor he could get his hands on from the moment he wakes up, to the moment he goes to bed, for almost every day of the rest of his life. He did die of liver cancer in 2012 but he was 76 and he served in the Navy during Vietnam. He turned into the color yellow. My dad likes to drinks some beer at least like once a week. But I only drink socially and at parties and holidays and birthdays and only on special occasions. Sometimes I go months or a year without drinking so I don't think it is genetic. But it could be a type of psychosis and influence that some kids pick up from their fathers if they didn't have much of a family or life while they were growing up. When a kid is still like "stupid" cuz their brain is still developing, sometimes a father unknowingly teaches them by the only example they got. Lucky that I had a life.
Sometimes blame genetics is a poor excuse to explain your own failures
My great grandpa was alcoholic. My Grandpa was alcoholic. My aunt is alcoholic ( grandpa's daughter). My mom wasn't. I used to drink real heavy but it was weekend binge drinking. Every weekend from 16 to 27 years old I was hammered drunk. But when I decided to settle down I just quit drinking and never gave it a second thought. Zero issue. I suppose I was lucky because I easily could have become addicted due to family history. I think it's genetic but I dodged the bullet I guess
I also think genetic memory is a fact too.
Nice video. Also, Happy Easter everybody. Hopefully it goes well for you and your family.
I grew up between drunks, knew some that died and seen the shit it caused, i love a drink but i never go down that road! I dont drink every day, and i never need it! somethimes i miss a stiff drink but i dont and never need it!
They told me when I went to a meeting 27 years ago that if I kept coming I would live a life 2nd to none! They didn’t lie what a life I’ve lived sober! So many things I never would have done if I carried on drinking. God Bless any of you that r sober or r trying your best to stop. It’s worth it trust me!!
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I can say WE ALL want an excuse and inherent alcoholism is a huge one to use. It’s easier to blame others and past behavior of relatives than it is to just look in the mirror and ask “ why are you really doing this to yourself. “
Genetics load the gun, environment pulls the trigger. Genetic predisposition to addiction is a very real thing and not just an "excuse"
Also besides the Rewards of alcohol relieving us of our emotional/physical problems for the night, there is the Reward of being too sick to work the next day. Then the Reward of more beer the next am to "feel better..."
I once met a tall and handsome man in Montana who kindly shared his realization of having a problem, which was also his reason for quitting: Alcohol wasn't a viable excuse, it was just a problem. Having had/have many problems of my own, that always sticks with me
I been sober for 2 years. I quit drinking , when I realized there was no rock bottom , I just had to quit digging.
My dad was a massive alcoholic. Destroyed his carrier, marriage, and his relationship with my sis and me. I never picked it up. Just don't care for it. 49 years old now and still don't drink. 🤷♂️
So if it is genetic, it must have skipped me. I credit my loving mother.
I haven't drank in 2wks. I've decided to quit because I started waking up in my own piss shit & vomit and swolen ankles and feet.
I'm coming up on three years this August, and I've learned a lot. I can't stand the taste of booze and don't drink but I love opiates - yet if I sit next to an alcoholic we've got different stories, but we end up at the same rock bottom. Yet recovery programs seem to separate us.
I don't know why it's separate, buy we've got to stop putting alcoholism and drug addiction in different categories. Addiction is addiction, whether it be opiates, alcohol, gambling, sex or food. Different means, withdrawals, stories, but it's all the same in the end.
If you're out there reading this and have issues with addiction, hang in there. Remember, the most important step you can take is the next one.
Joe needs to come back to UA-cam. Let’s make a petition!! #comebackjoe
Whats wrong with Spotify?
He probably got tired of all these losers commenting on UA-cam and is happy with millions of dollars and not having to deal with us.
iam 30, i have been drinking daily since about 19. both my parents are sever alcoholics , and both of my granddads and so is my uncle, it does not help that we are Russian...interesting enough we are functioning alcoholics. mortgages, good jobs, good people. (although my childhood was a nightmare due to my mums emotional manias and screaming)
Being a young person with alcoholism i can say that its a very complex mix of genetics and serious emotional trauma. So far the best i can do is go sober 1week.
Jeez. The day I leave treatment this drops. Been 10 years of substance after substance. Finally fully surrendered to the program. 1 day at a time.
Nice. You can do it! Don’t be too hard on yourself if you relapse, it’s part of the process.
It is fucking great to be clean and sober. Love life today and I'm not consumed by the constant "need" for a substance. Really frees up room to live a life.
Watching this as Im opening a beer...Great.
I've been drinking since noon. After waking up at noon with a hangover.
Quite the youtube notification.
Maybe it’s a sign telling y’all to ease up on the drinking
I quit drinking but I don't judge anyone who does. I just figured for the fun I had it wasn't worth the price to pay.
There is a difference between having a drink or two. And being an alcoholic. Being from family of alcoholics they almost patronize me when they see me drinking. Realizing you have a problem or not. Always stay in control.
Can't turn back now bro, bottoms up
3 months sober here. First month wasn’t to bad. The 2nd and third month has been the most darkest. Feeling everything again is hard. But gotta keep fighting bc I hear it gets better.
People saying “leave spotify” have no idea how contracts work. Just download the free app and shut up
And then only buy products from Walmart and Amazon so the world can accelerate faster towards 3- 5 companies getting 99% of all retail and entertainment sales.
I go months without alcohol when I'm by myself - I love meditation, yoga, and working out.
However, whenever I'm in a social scenario, I go ape shit and simply cannot take it slow.
Well, that clears things up... "blackout drunk" just before the unconsciousness and the puking sets in...
Alcohol was called "spirit" for a reason. It's as if it's a doorway for the spirits to possess your conscious self.
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I use to remember the date I last had a drink but it is so long and far away from were I am now and I was a find my self in the gutter alcoholic .it has been 30 years sober
I've been clean and sober for 4 years. Addiction is a symptom of an imbalanced state of body, mind, and spirit. If you're struggling, go and get help. You can't fix your imbalanced mind with your imbalanced mind.
What about successful people who obsess about acceptable things.
You cannot be successful in this society without being out of balance.
@@OperationsAndSmoothProductions i don't believe that's true. and it depends on how you define success.
@@Recoveryplus True,
but anyone pushing a 70 hour week or taking performance drugs to "stay ahead of the game" probably has a problem?
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Only time I watch JRE anymore is little UA-cam clips. Spotify sucks.
Everyone who is an alcoholic addict is the descendant of a warrior Survivor you wouldn't be here without that addictive genetic trait it's a gift and a curse.
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I think its environmental with a side of genetic influences. People who have no sense of purpose in life almost always end up doing something destructive to themselves in search of a fix for their aimlessness. Finding purpose is the hard part. I havent figured it out myself but Im convinced that is what we need, which funnily enough gives me a little sense of purpose in itself. And already it makes things a little bit easier.
Well said.
My parents both drank, my mum was an alcoholic up untill i was maybe 14, she quit cold turkey after driving home drunk and not remembering. I belive addiction can run in genetics
@Gshi _ im not an alcoholic, but i reached a point in my young adult life where i was getting black outs, i pretty much drink max 2 or 3 beers a night if any. I find i get addicted to illicit substances rather easily and that is hard to control
Haven’t had a drink in 6 months now, feels great. Notice how every person who tells about their sobriety says how amazing it is, because it is.
When is uncle Diaz coming bro ... I miss hearing his stories .....
1/21/96........Since that time one brother died of alcohol and my other brother died of Heroin...It’s incredible to think I have 25 years clean..by Gods grace..It can be done🙏🏻🙏🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
"Lifeless eyes...black eyes, like a Gerbil's eyes. When he comes at ya, doesn't seem to be living" -Joe Rogan
@Dances With Squirrels Couldn't help think of Jaws lol
when he said the shark eyes thing man that shit really hit. i can go multiple days without drinking but if i have one it feels like its only a matter of time till im shit-faced. i cant drink to relax, i have to drink to get drunk. im 24 and i wont lie this scares me a little for the future
I'm 4 days sober, I know exactly what u mean. Wish me luck plz. Its rlly hard and I'm trying, longest I've been sober since my alcohol addiction began.
@@maddog7795 Luck has nothing to do with it.If you are fed up with drinking, the rest falls into place.
@@NibsNiven your completely right and I didn't mean wish me luck literally, it's just a common saying.
I wonder how many poor Gerbils have PTSD from hours of stoned Joe Rogan holding them up to his face staring into their eyes.
My father died of alcoholism..I'm 52 and never had a drink in my life..my grandfather was also a heavy drinker.
Joe "you ever looked in a gerbil's eyes" Rogan
Sometimes its finally maturing or finding a good woman, in my case it was both. I look back at my younger years and the stupid shit I did while drinking and am amazed I'm alive.