How to STOP Jealousy & Comparison | A Monk's Approach

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  • TOP 5 TIPS to avoid jealousy & comparison | A Monk's Approach
    With the amount of social media and the messages we receive on a daily basis, it is easy to fall into the pattern of comparing ourselves to others. If one is not mindful, this issue can negatively affect one's overall mental health. In this video, I wanted to share 5 tips that may help you decrease jealousy and comparison. I hope this helps :) #mentalhealth #monk #monks
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    10:05 Spread loving kindness
    14:20 Talk to them and ask them how
    18:32 Everyone experiences suffering
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  • @nickkeomahavong01
    @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +544

    Question of the Day: Do you struggle with jealousy and comparison? If so, what are you doing to overcome it?

    • @traycex
      @traycex 3 роки тому +117

      I’m trying to replace comparison with admiration 😌

    • @MoonLight-bu9hz
      @MoonLight-bu9hz 3 роки тому +28

      I was use to feel jealous and compared my life with others but not anymore once I realized it I felt very bad about myself. This bothers me more then anything else.... when I think what kind of person i was.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +6

      @@traycex wonderful

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +10

      @@MoonLight-bu9hz yea it's not a good feeling.

    • @alanahorner8012
      @alanahorner8012 3 роки тому +25

      l do my best not to compare myself with others as l believe we all have our heavy cross to carry however with social media it's hard not to do so. When you see people enjoying life with friends and family (l am not in good terms with my family) it does trigger something. But one thing that l do is that l say to myself what can l do to get what they have? Also something to keep in mind is that social media is a facade, people modify their bodies, lifestyle etc just to look good online but we don't know what they go through on the inside.

  • @nicolafrost3942
    @nicolafrost3942 3 роки тому +2987

    My late mentor always said: " Don't compare your inside with somebody else's outside".

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +92

      That's beautiful. I love it :-)

    • @roxana_88
      @roxana_88 3 роки тому +21

      That’s good! I’m going to keep that quote😊

    • @neranderthal
      @neranderthal 3 роки тому +61

      Yes this is so good thank you... I was very jealous of a girl who a guy left me for, I’ve never met her and only seen her profile and pictures online. It was a very dangerous thing to compare myself to, as it was only her perfected surface I was seeing, when she could be going through her own troubles that I am unaware of.

    • @the1andonlypalyar
      @the1andonlypalyar 3 роки тому +7

      So meaningful ❤️

    • @janewright2800
      @janewright2800 3 роки тому +10

      Love that truth!🙏💚🌈we are all beautifully unique🥰

  • @TakeBackYourMind997
    @TakeBackYourMind997 3 роки тому +2053

    Top 4 things that helped me stop comparison:
    - You can never TRULY know someone. So you're not actually comparing yourself to them, you're comparing the whole of yourself to your incomplete outside perception of them.
    - Even if comparison were fair and rational, it still doesn't serve us. It's a useless train of thought, thinking that way gets you nowhere.
    - You most likely don't want the other person's life, you just want a few qualities from their life. Maybe that's money, confidence or something else. But whatever it is, it's the quality you want, not the other person's life. So take the person out of the equation and just decide if want certain factors from their life in your life, if you do then make it happen. If you can't, learn to accept that.
    - Everytime you get a comparison thought, mindfully observe it, tell yourself 3 positive things about yourself, then let the thought go through distraction. You'll rewire your thinking.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +176

      Wow that is very beautiful. Great tips. If you would like, you're welcome to join our online Reddit community. These kind of posts would be so helpful to others. So much value my friend :-) thank you

    • @djdazm
      @djdazm 3 роки тому +4

      This is great. Thank you

    • @tenderness3237
      @tenderness3237 3 роки тому +4

      Great and helpful❤

    • @liber1993k
      @liber1993k 3 роки тому +13

      @@nickkeomahavong01 @Nick Keomahavong yeah, words of wisdom. There is a way to trully know someone, but at that point your life is already at stage where you are above all that, comparison, jealousy, all of it. You start looking at them as different players, but deep down they are same force, divine energy, call it god or whatever.
      I trained my mind to ignore judgment, to accept people who they are, to accept world for what it is, but on the other hand we are creators of world, we choose what world we want to live in. We choose if we want to stay in negativity, judgement, doubt, selfpity,... Stronger than we think, material is merely energy condensed and our thoughts sometimes arent even ours to begin with. When you shut out all external noise and find yourself in that dark room, at that point you are in front of a challenge. Real you is hiding underneath all that loud noise, waiting to be released. . Question is, are you willing to see something you wont like? Different you, someone you dont know yet.
      Here's the thing, our ego is a quitter untill you change your mind. When you do that, this body will follow, your character will change habits or create new ones.
      Why i say this, because its easier to be something you are not, another person,.. when this mask starts to crumble, mind gets in trigger mode, either deal with it or go in that direction deeper and deeper.
      Why we compare, why we want to be partially someone else? This question was asked many times, here's my response.
      Because what another person creates can be in a way measured, ex, he's happy, look at his beautiful wife and home, that must surely be one of many reasons.
      Who you are under all that bs we projected onto ourselves is immeasurable, its something you cant define, our mind cannot comprehend yet.
      Exists as possibility to be created from a quantum field of energy called source.
      Thats why mind goes into trigger mode and stays in comfort zone, compares, judges,...
      Its a repetitive program and its on us how we program it.
      Working atm so i had to put it all together like this, anyways, mind is very interesting, especially when you go really deep. 🙏🥰🤪😃

    • @karensmith1521
      @karensmith1521 3 роки тому

      TYSM

  • @kokos1209
    @kokos1209 Рік тому +110

    Don't compare yourself to others, compare yourself to you. Instead of trying to be exactly like other people, try to be a better version of yourself. Try to be calmer, more grateful, more generous, more loving, more understanding, more forgiving, more joyful and happy and less jealous, less angry, less envious, less egocentric, less sad, less bitter...Everyday, try to be better than you were yesterday, even if it's just a little, it matters. It's a key to your healing.

    • @tillyreece8071
      @tillyreece8071 Рік тому +2

      thank you SO much for this, this is a brilliant and beautiful bit of advice and i'm going to do this tomorrow 🙏❤

    • @kokos1209
      @kokos1209 Рік тому +2

      @@tillyreece8071 thank you! I hope this advice helps you. I myself am practicing this everyday and i’m a much happier person than i was a year ago!

    • @juliaveronneau
      @juliaveronneau Рік тому

      i love this ❤️ the best motto

  • @liabinimelisulzurrun3833
    @liabinimelisulzurrun3833 3 роки тому +790

    I’m my opinion deleting social media is the same a treating the symptoms but not the root of the problem. If we all learn from his words, we should be able to enjoy and look at social media without feeling jealous or comparing ourselves to others.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +13

      Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊

    • @mikhay144
      @mikhay144 3 роки тому +14

      Jesus is the only way to eternal life. He died on the cross and rose again on the third day so that you may be forgiven of your sins and saved from hell.Forsake your sin and turn to Christ. You will be set free and have everlasting life. Seek Him with all of your heart and you shall find

    • @gtfo3609
      @gtfo3609 3 роки тому +78

      @@mikhay144 stop pushing your religion

    • @mademagic8430
      @mademagic8430 3 роки тому +41

      this exactly! the root of the problem is within ourselves, deleting social media isnt taking away the problem. I can scroll through social media without comparing myself & being unhappy or jealous, other ppl cant do the same. The root is within the mind, change the mind & social media wont be able to affect you

    • @operationbroomstick
      @operationbroomstick 3 роки тому +19

      Easier said than done. Unfollow the same people on your contact list and just follow your interest on social media, you will improve

  • @oliverkhrisyahgabe8532
    @oliverkhrisyahgabe8532 2 роки тому +104

    I always remind myself with this quote "No one is you and that is your POWER".

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  2 роки тому +1

      sadhu sadhu. thank you so much for sharing Khrisyah 🙂🙂🙂

  • @canadianRadio
    @canadianRadio 3 роки тому +515

    I disabled my social media. Seems to help my brain immensely.

  • @jeffarch1435
    @jeffarch1435 3 роки тому +46

    “if you want to be miserable, just compare yourself to someone.”
    - margaret sanger, holocaust survivor RIP

  • @relax-n-reads1514
    @relax-n-reads1514 3 роки тому +294

    As Mark Twain simply put it, "Comparison is the death of joy."

  • @crisjoseaguilar3495
    @crisjoseaguilar3495 3 роки тому +673

    I’m only 17 but i feel stuck, alone, ugly and depressed! Thank you Mr. Nick, your wisdom is slowly transforming me into a better version of myself.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +116

      Thank you Cris. Just be gentle and patient with yourself. It takes time. Also, if you like, you are welcome to join our online Reddit community. Hear you and connect with others and receive support. There should be a link in the description :-)

    • @tempesnyder6243
      @tempesnyder6243 3 роки тому +6

      Yes, his suggestions are positively wonderful.

    • @sd7317
      @sd7317 3 роки тому +91

      I remember being 17, the fact that you saw this video proves you are already on to becoming your own best friend, I already see you as a very beautiful, kind and responsible person.

    • @TheTenof12
      @TheTenof12 3 роки тому +9

      Hey Chris, this is an extremely challengng time. "hang in there" I too feel lonesome & rubbish about my life sometimes. I never expected to feel this way at my age (half Century) I run a gentle group Spirit of The Age Astrology and Spirituality on FB if you would like to join us I'm sure there are folk you would get a long with. Ten ;-) ;-) ;-)

    • @duckgod7370
      @duckgod7370 3 роки тому +2

      At least you aren't 29.

  • @brendahunter9134
    @brendahunter9134 3 роки тому +227

    Jealousy is when you fear someone has stolen the affection of a loved one. Envy is when you think others have something that you can't have. Many people see things others have and feel envy as if they can't have it or better. If you see something that some one has and you want that, celebrate their good fortune and know you can also have it.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +5

      😊

    • @janemh5866
      @janemh5866 3 роки тому +10

      Or, probably more importantly to me, work on accepting that you can't have it and that's ok. There's lots of things we can't have for all different reasons and that's just how it is.

    • @PhuongNguyen-ji8rj
      @PhuongNguyen-ji8rj 2 роки тому +6

      @Me4U I am dealing with envy and I'm telling you it gradually damages my inner peace and soul to the point it hurts. That is some kind of pain that has no limits. It is like an invisible prison. I highly suggest no one would let envy enter their mind. When envy somehow wanders around you, please shift your mind to love and care. Maybe I cannot see it and you cannot see it but people that we envy might be dealing with envy themselves. When we decide to sympathize, things get a bit easier. I am on the path to free myself from envy.

    • @jacksonwriterpoet
      @jacksonwriterpoet 2 роки тому +1

      Yeah, but be careful what you wish for! Nick's fifth point is really important here: even if you do get the thing, it will come with its own suffering!

    • @MS-ns4ki
      @MS-ns4ki 9 місяців тому

      no one would like me to have anything, and when I do they go wild.

  • @carijanet7871
    @carijanet7871 3 роки тому +120

    Comparison is a thief of joy

  • @ciscowarrior
    @ciscowarrior 3 роки тому +118

    I learned to deal to go of jealousy by 1. blessing the person and wishing them more good. 2. filling my head/heart with the thought that my Creator would/could give me the same thing or even better sometime in the future.

  • @arthurlincoln9093
    @arthurlincoln9093 3 роки тому +155

    I looked at a tree in my garden today. Just standing, observing, listening, still, quiet. No need to do anything else. See the bird in branches. Hear the bees in the blossum. See the green if the leaf and the way every leaf allows light fall on the others.
    I felt at complete peace just for a that moment in time.

  • @Ange777ify
    @Ange777ify 3 роки тому +53

    The desideratta says " never compare yourself with others, you will become vain and bitter. For there will always be greater and lesser persons than yourself".

  • @Kyouma.
    @Kyouma. 3 роки тому +164

    What really only matters is one question: "Have I gotten a bit better than I was yesterday?"
    Your potential doesn't need comparison with others. It's already there. You just need to unleash it

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +2

      😊😊

    • @Kyouma.
      @Kyouma. 3 роки тому

      @@nickkeomahavong01 Thank you for your videos. They're really helpful and inspirational, Nick 😊

    • @dianaaiello588
      @dianaaiello588 2 роки тому

      Yes

  • @carolinecarol7223
    @carolinecarol7223 3 роки тому +28

    Guys, I've been in a love relationship for 7 years now, and it's not just roses, poetry, rainbows, and birds singing; there are difficulties too. To think that everything is beautiful is an illusion

  • @vhoy7899
    @vhoy7899 3 роки тому +97

    Charity begins at home. Home is the self. We cannot give love if we donot first love ourselves through patience, kindness, respect etc...

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +4

      Beautiful ❤️❤️

    • @vhoy7899
      @vhoy7899 3 роки тому +4

      I started an indoor garden to help with my patience and to improvemy garden skill. I'm in NYC. You ever saw a plant grow? It moves at its own speed... very slowly, often like a tortoise. Patience has been my one word for a few years now. I am better but not where I want to be...
      My plants are teaching me THAT LIFE HAPPENS and I am paying attention.

    • @cenedraleaheldra5275
      @cenedraleaheldra5275 3 роки тому +2

      Powerful words thank you

    • @Honestandtruth
      @Honestandtruth 3 роки тому +2

      @@vhoy7899 People with Good knowledge and Wisdom can make this Great Comment 👍👍❤️
      Love is Sharing and Helping and Teaching....😃❤️

  • @rtj7397
    @rtj7397 3 роки тому +117

    I used to get jealous easily then I found out I always ended my jealousy with underestimating others to make me feel better! But it's very bad thing to not treat everyone equally and kindly,then I started practicing Buddhism and read few books it's really help me to become good person and not compare myself with other dhamma really teach me to treat people equally and be happy about other people success!
    Who reading this I wish u to get good health, happiness and prosperity ❤️🙏
    Sadhu sadhu sadhu🙏

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +2

      Thank you so much for sharing Riti. Hope you're doing well :-)

  • @avaceleste
    @avaceleste 3 роки тому +121

    Let me just add: the background noises of nature and birds is amazing 💚

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +2

      Thank you so much ava :-)

    • @violinseetha
      @violinseetha 3 роки тому +1

      Thank you for sharing the wisdom. I felt peace,when I listened.please bless me.

    • @dionneyagla5731
      @dionneyagla5731 2 роки тому

      I love the sounds too. Peacocks and roosters!! So nice 🌹❤️

    • @Orangeon-lh8eu
      @Orangeon-lh8eu 2 роки тому

      From an existentialist/gnostic standpoint the birds are actually suffering fighting and looking for food. Humans just here it as “beautiful “ but they’re actually screaming and talking about food and how/where to get it.

  • @traciemyers4137
    @traciemyers4137 3 роки тому +22

    The act of comparing ones life to another, then feeling less than, stems from low self esteem. Find the part within you that is injured, acknowledge it, heal it, and let it go.

  • @vish1567
    @vish1567 3 роки тому +95

    There's no enemy outside our soul, the real enemies live inside us Anger, hate, ego and greed. 🙏🙏🙏☸☸

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +1

      😊😊

    • @destroyermaker
      @destroyermaker 8 місяців тому

      Transforming bloodshed into beauty and raising the phoenix of forbidden expression - The real war is in us.
      -MIA

  • @2967_
    @2967_ 3 роки тому +140

    An easy way to do it is to stop using social media and watching TV. I have never been a jealous person, so these things made me so exhausted because I felt like folks were trolling me with their stupid likes and TV was a massive time waste and provoked useless desire. It was the best decision ever, 14 years no TV and 3 years no social media. I'm clueless about pop culture and it feels so great.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +8

      That's a wonderful tip :-)

    • @quorrakai
      @quorrakai 3 роки тому +29

      Absolutely!! I am the same. No TV, no social media except for YT to learn and research. I have no idea what's going on with people's lives and it's great. I'm normally a very private person.

    • @perlitalaguna6622
      @perlitalaguna6622 3 роки тому +6

      Same no TV, cable+ internet bundle. Just the internet from my phone!

    • @ginger732
      @ginger732 3 роки тому +3

      @@quorrakai you are a wise human☀️

    • @ginger732
      @ginger732 3 роки тому +1

      @@perlitalaguna6622 you are a wise human☮️💜

  • @amarabeaumont2367
    @amarabeaumont2367 9 місяців тому +4

    I like the quote "BE YOURSELF , EVERYONE ELSE IS TAKEN". 😊

  • @carries.9919
    @carries.9919 3 роки тому +2

    I don't go on social media either. At work I don't gossip about others and I try to think about the good points about others. At home I do gardening to connect with nature by feeding birds and hummingbirds. The only thing I have trouble with is loving myself. Go figure, I can look for good things about other people but not myself 🤔 I love your channel 💓❤️🧡💛💚💕

  • @AnnieLyn
    @AnnieLyn 3 роки тому +84

    Always start your day with a greatful heart, don't compare, don't feel envy to others. 💕

  • @7himmy
    @7himmy 3 роки тому +38

    Love how you said "Train yourself in a gentle way". Words to live by. I often become too critical when I observe my mistakes. And this advice is a great reminder to treat myself with kind was even while I notice my own mistakes and don't guilt-trip myself about them.

  • @amarabeaumont2367
    @amarabeaumont2367 9 місяців тому +2

    Literally catching up on all your videos in 2023! You are the absolute best, This world is so blessed to have you!

  • @dearcharly9110
    @dearcharly9110 3 роки тому +36

    When I was younger, I always compare my self to other and says, they are lucky and I'm not. But now, I always think that we all have our own karmas. We come back here on earth to do something. We have our own destiny and everyone deserve the best.

  • @MrPanzerDragoon
    @MrPanzerDragoon 3 роки тому +44

    Psychologically, this is the one problem I had growing up. It was ingrained in me at an early age by my parents. It's the worst thought and feeling till this day.

    • @Cherry-lm9rz
      @Cherry-lm9rz 3 роки тому +3

      ☹️ try meditating.... almost guaranteed it will help you ❤️

    • @MrPanzerDragoon
      @MrPanzerDragoon 3 роки тому +1

      @@Cherry-lm9rz I've started small recently with the Sam Harris app.

    • @Cherry-lm9rz
      @Cherry-lm9rz 3 роки тому +3

      @@MrPanzerDragoon
      That’s good. If you enjoy reading, I suggest you buy “ The power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle. I finished reading a few days ago. It has blown my mind away 🤯. The paperback is about 10 bucks. It is life changing ❤️.

    • @MrPanzerDragoon
      @MrPanzerDragoon 3 роки тому +1

      @@Cherry-lm9rz ooh thanks!

    • @Cherry-lm9rz
      @Cherry-lm9rz 3 роки тому +1

      @@MrPanzerDragoon
      Anytime 🙂

  • @ligaya6660
    @ligaya6660 2 роки тому +32

    I've been struggling with comparing and feeling jealous all the time...
    Thank you for this❤️

  • @daisytyson
    @daisytyson Рік тому +1

    Thank you, it helps a lot. One thing I try and remember is that if you spot it you got it. So if you’re seeing things in other people you are jealous of, you have that inside you, you might need to learn to cultivate it. Haven’t figured out the money part, that’s pretty black and white. 💖🤩

  • @4RealtorsTurlock
    @4RealtorsTurlock 3 роки тому +28

    I did fall into that trap of thinking others don’t experience suffering. Going to do my best to do the exercises you shared 🙏🏼

  • @camillabartlett9128
    @camillabartlett9128 3 роки тому +12

    Meditation walking
    Share loving kindness compassionate caring with self and then radiate outwards
    Take note of your core and know your blessings with gratitude 🙏

  • @hughp00
    @hughp00 3 роки тому +64

    Another great video Nick. In 1982 my sponsors told me "quit comparing your insides to everybody else's outsides". Something I have continued to work toward on a daily basis for the last almost 39 years. Well presented Nick. As always, stay safe my friend.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +1

      Thank you Hugh. And that's great advice from your sponsor :-)

    • @MS-ns4ki
      @MS-ns4ki 9 місяців тому

      I don't get this , as I don't, trust me LOL

  • @loveienne93
    @loveienne93 3 роки тому +23

    WHY AM I EVEN CRYING? THIS IS SO GOOD!!!

  • @megakcstar
    @megakcstar 3 роки тому +7

    My heart feels at peace in a new way for the first time in a very very long time

  • @megakcstar
    @megakcstar 3 роки тому +11

    This video lead to me having a breakthrough!!! I ended up getting in contact with a friend I was jealous of. She moved away and I felt hurt and jealous of her new friends and pushed her away. So I saw your video and cried realizing I could’ve stayed her friend the entire time!!! It’s been three years!!!!!!!!! My heart was so full of love I cannot thank you enough I hope you see this. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for your amazing teachings.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +2

      Wonderful. I'm glad it's been able to bring you some resolution to your life. That's great to hear my friend 😊

  • @pasupulasaikumar484
    @pasupulasaikumar484 3 роки тому +7

    Not caring people ! And trying to find peace and joy being alone 😍🥰 it helps to overcome them.

  • @pollypick2854
    @pollypick2854 3 роки тому +7

    It’s true to the part you mentioned about some single people thinking that those in a romantic relationship must be nicer so they yearn to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend too. it’s all sweet and exciting the first couple of years, then it all becomes hard work when the romance sort of died down.... it’s never easy, being single, you lack of a companion and all the things couples do together but you get to focus on yourself with no distraction and you are free to do whatever you want. Being attached to a partner has it’s good and bad too. It’s all the same in the end like you’ve said. 🙏

  • @sweetnayru
    @sweetnayru Рік тому +2

    Been really in a rut, I haven’t been comparing myself to others when it comes to craft. Feeling jealous, not good enough. like I haven’t improved and that no one cares. It’s been difficult to navigate these feelings but I’m going to start a journey of bettering my thoughts and putting these tips into action. Thank you so much for this video!

    • @Elle-gm9rt
      @Elle-gm9rt Рік тому +1

      I wish you well on this journey. May it be a successful one🤗

  • @iamworth
    @iamworth 3 роки тому +6

    I love this so much. I want to use my jealousy to improve myself not to destroy other peoppe

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +1

      Beautiful Lou. Yes use it to gain insight into yourself and also to improve yourself :-)

  • @ysabellaperez3377
    @ysabellaperez3377 3 роки тому +15

    This gave me comfort. I’m not a Buddhist but this was very enlightening. Thank you for sharing!

  • @merryana3588
    @merryana3588 4 місяці тому +2

    I can feel his compasion ❤

  • @Ashley-zt9yh
    @Ashley-zt9yh 3 роки тому +11

    One of the things I’m struggling with is trust. I was watching the video and the portion when you said to “practice spreading love and kindness even to those you dislike until it becomes more natural to you”… my thoughts immediately went to “but how can I trust them”. I immediately responded with fear that if I was kind to them, they would hurt me (not physically). I have been through a lot of Trauma and have so many fear. I have such a lack of trust in anything. I’m so tired of feeling scared all the time. My memories tell me it’s reasonable but I end up just hurting myself. I just want peace in my mind and body.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +4

      It's ok Ashley. Just give it a try and diligently spread loving kindness and forgiveness to yourself and others everyday. It's definitely a practice 😊

    • @queencass9127
      @queencass9127 Рік тому

      I’m struggling in the same way…. I’m at a loss……..

  • @mjsia8873
    @mjsia8873 3 роки тому +6

    I have been loving kindness to myself every single day even to my coworker.. I can recognize their weakness, sadness, emptiness. I no longer feel anxious, nor angry or jealous. I never felt so alive n full of potentials. God is good. Finally I can say that I am on my journey to be abundant with grace, love and many more. 🙏❤💪. Thank you Nick for sharing ur thoughts. Good quality content.. 🥰

  • @darklausal23
    @darklausal23 3 роки тому +4

    I have two coworkers, they are the same age, one looks very young for his age and the other looks old, they compared themselves, one about how the other one looks and the other one about the achievement of the older looking, I told them: you have different priorities and you both had unique experiences so why does it matter what someone else has done or how they look? If you are happy that's all it matters.

  • @liyaaaliyaaaa4508
    @liyaaaliyaaaa4508 3 роки тому +10

    I feel better after watching these. I was so struggling compared myself to others because I couldn’t stop my parents to said things like comparison to me but I can stop myself from having a negative thought about it. And of course it really takes time to stop the thought. Thank you so much, I found these really helpful to me , it made me to look at life in a different ways.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +1

      Wonderful. I'm glad it was helpful. Thank you my friend 😊😊

  • @geethanjalihc4078
    @geethanjalihc4078 2 роки тому +3

    Be your own refugee is something that opened my eyes, although I overthink when I feel jealous, I will try and inculcate these tips. MANY THANKS Sir, your smile makes us feel your lightheartedness and also feel calm when listening to your content, Thanks again

  • @AmmaNonna
    @AmmaNonna 3 роки тому +5

    Off topic - You reply to your comments - a lost compassion. People yearn for a connection. You make the effort. Very compassionate.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому

      Thank you Mrs. Bizzy. I do my best. I think it's important to acknowledge people's efforts. It's very sweet. 🙂🙂

  • @knottymom88
    @knottymom88 3 роки тому +10

    I AM OBSESSED WITH YOUR LAUGH...it makes me smile instantly. I can feel the energy an feeling behind It.....just know u are helping me so much and giving comfort..thank u ;) ❤

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +1

      Hahaha. Thank you so much my friend 😊Greetings to you all the way from Thailand :-) stay safe.

    • @adriananeagu609
      @adriananeagu609 2 роки тому

      Me too ...!😄

  • @iloveyellow7214
    @iloveyellow7214 3 роки тому +21

    Nick? You are one of the highlights that i found in this pandemic. You taught me so many things I do not know how to repay you. I will just pay it forward I guess... And integrate what I learned from you.
    Keep safe and healthy Nick! You are such a blessing Im so happy I found you

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +2

      Thank you so much my friend. Yes keep continue to train yourself diligently :-) that is the best gift.

  • @swelch5541
    @swelch5541 3 роки тому +10

    That rooster is giving his amens.

  • @zjoy2458
    @zjoy2458 3 роки тому +9

    This video is so precious. I ran into it at such great timing it almost feels like it's meant to find me. Anumotanaboon!

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +1

      Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you so much. Glad it's helpful

  • @alanahorner8012
    @alanahorner8012 3 роки тому +6

    Thank you so much for this valuable piece of advice. This is the truest thing l have ever heard: Everyone experiences suffering. There was a girl in primary school that was my classmate l used to find her very beautiful and she had the prettiest stuffs, she was also talented she could draw and make jewelry, she was very skinny and elegant. l have to admit l was kind of jealous because l didn't look like her. We talked a bit since she was sitting besides me in class. Turns out she looked that way because she had an illness and she passed away at 20.

  • @ainelawlor5755
    @ainelawlor5755 3 роки тому +1

    Stop looking at others just look at your self you are worth it you are amazing

  • @supersexypatou
    @supersexypatou 3 роки тому +5

    Where were you all my life? I have been searching for someone like me who speaks from experience. Thank you for all you said and done, helped a lot!

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому

      Thank you so much Patrick and welcome to the channel :-) I hope you're doing well

  • @rodrigoalvarado6664
    @rodrigoalvarado6664 3 роки тому +9

    Comparison is the thief of joy

  • @jockoffwillink3732
    @jockoffwillink3732 2 роки тому +1

    I take from the last part, life is a game of soccer. Be happy that you are alive and in the game. It certainly beats the hell out of being dead on the bench.

  • @TheKimbaSimba
    @TheKimbaSimba 2 роки тому +6

    You’re a beautiful soul with the ability to share profound wisdom in a easily relatable way. You make the world a better place 🙏🏻

  • @melissagarcialynn5465
    @melissagarcialynn5465 3 роки тому +6

    Amazing. I’ve never heard someone so honest approach on this widespread topic. I wish I had a family member that is a monk. They are very intelligent individuals. Why aren’t there more likes or more people watching this.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +1

      Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you so much melissa.

    • @melissagarcialynn5465
      @melissagarcialynn5465 3 роки тому

      It’s the truth. Plain and simple, I’m having a good time watching the Dali lama video on you tube of overcoming anger and anxiety it has calmed myself in ways I cannot explain. But when I feel sad angry confused or like I can’t do it anymore I always make a vow of not talking until I can speak peacefully.

  • @boibaguette544
    @boibaguette544 2 роки тому +13

    THANK you from the bottom of my heart for this Nick! It can sometimes be hard for me to understand and apply spiritual advice so these very hands on tips are much appreciated.
    I am at such a low point in my life right now and this seriously made my day-to-day life a lot easier to handle.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  2 роки тому

      Sadhu sadhu 😀😀 thank you so much and hang in there my friend

  • @HobbyHarri
    @HobbyHarri Рік тому +2

    My mind likes to have imaginary fights with people I've never met, so now I catch myself in that moment and ask myself "Where is my enemy?". Honestly makes me laugh sometimes. Thank you for this video

  • @LearnAlbanianOnline
    @LearnAlbanianOnline 2 роки тому +1

    OMG, can I please have a video of your laughing? It’s a whole therapy on its own. I can’t stop replying some parts where you laugh!

  • @matttheman9740
    @matttheman9740 3 роки тому +9

    Thank you so much for this. I really needed this advice, I recently realized how my jealousy of others was taking over me and how toxic it was. It was even getting to the point where I would lie about my life to people just so they don't look down on me, which is embarrassing to admit. I have looked high and low for advice but couldn't seem to find ways to deal with it. This has just came out at the right time for me. Anyways, thanks again Nick, I shall apply this to my practice😊❤️

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +1

      Wow Matt. I'm glad you're here. There are no coincidences my friend. I hope these tips are helpful for your situation.
      I'm cheering you on all the way from Thailand 😊😊

    • @matttheman9740
      @matttheman9740 3 роки тому

      @@nickkeomahavong01 thank you very much 🙏

  • @kichapi
    @kichapi 2 роки тому +4

    Thank you Nick for this one. Your tip about giving space for each person in a notebook is helpful for me. Made me realize that each one of us has it's own strengths - just like in a rpg game, we are here to lend our strengths with each other. We just have to recognize what's ours and gather other people that we can share it with. :)

  • @annielark6650
    @annielark6650 2 роки тому +2

    I am extremely insecure. I was bullied as a child right upto my teens...the scars are deep. I call this trauma. I was cheated on by partners which only reinforced my feelings of not being good enough and of others being better than me. Im here because I don' t want to feel this way anymore. I know only I can make the decision to allow healing to begin within me...yes i feel that jealousy and insecurity is like a sickness that steals my life force...it takes a lot of energy to live in such a state of self-rejection. Thank you Nick for this message of healing....I hope to absorb it and practice it till it transforms me 💚🌻

    • @Niko-pi3ks
      @Niko-pi3ks 2 роки тому

      I’m sorry you were bullied. You are right it is trauma. My father remembers being bullied as a kid because he was poor and wore the same clothes to school. He said they were clean his mom would wash them everyday

    • @Niko-pi3ks
      @Niko-pi3ks 2 роки тому

      The most beautiful person to me is a kind,good heart, and an authentic smile. The inner beauty shines way brighter than any outer beauty. The most beautiful person on the outside can be the ugliest on the inside.

  • @saheermohammed6395
    @saheermohammed6395 3 роки тому

    Thank you Nick for the warm and kind message. It brings much needed balance in an out of balance world.

  • @broganb8926
    @broganb8926 3 роки тому +5

    Your videos are amazing and always seem to pop up at the right time for me! I struggle with comparison in the sense of feeling “behind” in life compared to my peers. Career, relationships etc. But I try my best to focus on the fact we are all on our own path and the “behind” feeling is just a societal pressure!

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +1

      Yes that's very normal. Just now use the energy to put into your own self work :-) you got this 😊😊

  • @astrotarotbyelenavaldez
    @astrotarotbyelenavaldez 3 роки тому +3

    This is one of the best videos I've ever seen on YT. Thank you for your beautiful energy and wisdom. ❤

  • @evelyne7071
    @evelyne7071 11 місяців тому +1

    Jealousy is lousy. You have a very positive outlook on others, yourself and the betterment of your spirits.

  • @honeybee7768
    @honeybee7768 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for this! I used to always look for at least one good thing about each person I met. Lately, I have become increasingly bitter, angry, and jealous of others... This is an excellent reminder. I was much happier when I was focusing on others' good qualities than when I am dwelling on my flaws. So simple! Thanks again and many blessings to you, :)

  • @emmyyb
    @emmyyb 3 роки тому +6

    Thank you for another wholesome video full of practical tips! I really like the first tip on seeing the qualities we envy of others as expanders. I often feel inferior to those who are further ahead in life than I am and by seeing their qualities as a potential to growth I am able to see them as a giver rather than someone who is taking things away from me. :)

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому

      Sadhu Emmy. That's a great perspective to look at people from. We have so many teachers to learn from 😊😊

  • @dr.sabrinagiuliano1908
    @dr.sabrinagiuliano1908 3 роки тому +5

    I adore you. You words are so beautiful and powerful and I can definitely feel your positive energy. I practice meditation since one year now and I’m learning a lot of amazing things. Some of theme are in common with the things that you say and I really hope to know in my life a lot of people that see the world and the people like you do. Thanks a lot for sharing with us your amazing thoughts 🙏🏻🌸

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +1

      Aww thank you so much Dr. Sabrina. I'm glad it's helpful. And please keep up with your meditation practice. It's very important ☺️☺️

  • @AngelKay813
    @AngelKay813 3 роки тому

    This is one subject that is truly needing attention these days, so thank you Ven. Nick for speaking so eloquently about it. I see so many young people now comparing themselves to what they see on social media and on TV and it’s heartbreaking. Thank you for sharing your tips with us. 😁👍

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +1

      Thank you Angel. I agree. We definitely need more education.

  • @SimmyYiu
    @SimmyYiu 2 роки тому +2

    Dear Nick, I know this will sound very strange - but every time I watch your video, the tears just won't stop and your words are very touching.
    Thank you for everything.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  2 роки тому

      Aww thank you my friend. I'm glad it resonates with you :)

  •  3 роки тому +180

    Beautiful words. Thank you 🙏

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +6

      Thank you so much my friend. Greetings to you from Thailand 😊

    • @mikhay144
      @mikhay144 3 роки тому

      Jesus is the only way to eternal life. He died on the cross and rose again on the third day so that you may be forgiven of your sins and saved from hell.Forsake your sin and turn to Christ. You will be set free and have everlasting life. Seek Him with all of your heart and you shall find

    • @lamargames3940
      @lamargames3940 3 роки тому

      @@nickkeomahavong01 hi

  • @koksinglau2494
    @koksinglau2494 3 роки тому +12

    Your tone, smile and body language project calmness. Combined with your words of wisdom, I aldy feel better after listening to you. Greetings from Kuantan, Malaysia

  • @kunalphadte2674
    @kunalphadte2674 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much for this video
    I have been struggling with this condition for a long time now. I feel like I have built up so much jealousy and negative energy inside me that it feels impossible to even think of me telling other people that I admire a certain quality of them and asking them how they have developed that quality.
    Deep down I know and realize that everyone has their share of troubles and suffering no matter how they look or are perceived externally but I still can't get myself to accept that fact, as paradoxical as that may sound.
    I have so much to learn about.
    Thank you again.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому

      Wonderful. Thank you for sharing Kunal. Please try out those tips and keep us updated on your progress :)

  • @mariabejaranomonge2183
    @mariabejaranomonge2183 3 роки тому

    Oh Nick, it's always a gift listening to you! Thanks for sharing these beautiful teachings. 🙏✨✨✨

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +1

      Thank you so much Maria. I hope you're doing well :-)

  • @DJNaphoxay
    @DJNaphoxay 3 роки тому +5

    I’m so glad your channel came up on my feed today. I watched a few of your videos and thank you for bridging mental health and Buddhism together. I’m dealing w/ mental illness due to death of a baby. I turned to in depth Buddha’s teachings to help me get through this suffering. However, Ive been listening/watching in Thai, some words were hard to understand. I’m glad yours are in English. I look forward to watching more of your videos. Btw, I’m from San Diego too.

  • @Montevideo2313
    @Montevideo2313 3 роки тому +8

    Interesting insight to "Anumotanaboon" or rejoice in your merit. We do this (well, I do this) with small children. We rejoice every time when a baby tries to walk, or talk...just about anything kids learn something positive, we heap joy and encouragement to keep going. Why do we stop doing that as adults and be super critical (not the healthy kind either). As a parent, I do my best to give myself positive encouragement and strive to be my best in a healthy way so my kids learn to love themselves. Nothing is easy, life is tough and we make mistakes...be kind.

  • @ratnabahadurgurung9850
    @ratnabahadurgurung9850 5 місяців тому +2

    Namo Buddhaye.Thank you bhanteji for your precious preaching.

  • @mariannedovani-shotton4997
    @mariannedovani-shotton4997 2 роки тому +1

    As always I find these videos so so amazing. They hit a nerve for me and create a spark in me to keep going - be more at peace with myself and to remember that there is still opportunity to train myself. For years I have found interacting with others threatening - as you say, "trying to find our place." As a teacher myself I so appreciate the way you teach - express yourself so so clearly and give structure to the "lessons"....!!! Thank you for sharing and talking about such everyday issues that can be so heavy in our bags.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  2 роки тому

      Thank you so much Marianne. Glad it resonates with you 😀😀

  • @definitelymaybe_cath
    @definitelymaybe_cath 3 роки тому +7

    Thank you for posting every morning!
    I like starting my day with these kinds of reminders.
    -sending peace from Philippines!

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому

      Thank you catherine. I'm glad it's helpful :) Greetings to you from Thailand.

  • @yunalee13
    @yunalee13 3 роки тому +6

    Whenever I catch myself comparing myself with others, I try to remember the moments that I did great things, so I feel again that I appreciate myself and I start trying to make greater things than in the past :)

  • @peggygilbertsen9099
    @peggygilbertsen9099 3 роки тому

    “Bridge that.” I love that. Thank you Nick.

  • @jicajacobsonkimbreaux
    @jicajacobsonkimbreaux 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for taking the time to carefully and compassionately explain your process- it has greatly helped me to identify where my thought process turns negative and how to proactively use the mind's tendency for constant comparison for personal benefit rather than a tool for self-flagellation. It's so difficult to remain in a place of nonjudgment all of the time (especially towards ourselves), and I believe many people will benefit greatly from this advice. 🙏🏼

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому

      Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 thank you so much Jessica. I'm glad it's helpful

  • @lenave22
    @lenave22 3 роки тому +3

    Beautiful and thank you, this video has come to me when I felt jealousy of someone else and I said to myself I don't want to be jealous of them. I did not like that so I listened to a few videos and I saw this one. Thank you, this feels right.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +1

      That's so wonderful Lena. I'm glad you're here and I'm glad it's helpful. Yes use these tools and slowly integrated into your life. I think it will help :-)

  • @QUEENOFIR
    @QUEENOFIR 3 роки тому +3

    You’re epic! I teach people self love ❤️ every day! Awesome wisdom is something that money can't buy. God bless you for spreading love in most meaningful ways.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +1

      Aww thank you my friend. And keep up the wonderful work you are doing also ☺️😘

  • @lydiagosling7459
    @lydiagosling7459 3 роки тому +2

    I feel a "much welcomed" calmness within myself whenever I watch your videos...as if I was talking with a good friend and having a "soothing" cup of tea. Thank you Nick🕊.

  • @rebeccajourney3183
    @rebeccajourney3183 2 роки тому +1

    As always, thank you for your time and teaching us how to improve! Blessings to you 🙏

  • @magnolia8626
    @magnolia8626 2 роки тому +4

    What a great idea! To sit down with a person and genuinely discuss their good qualities with them 🙏

  • @mercurialthrills9011
    @mercurialthrills9011 2 роки тому +3

    This video, as well as the comments, are so insightful when it comes to jealousy and comparing yourself to others. A lot of videos have the similar advice over and over again. This one is a lot different. I love the spreading of love and kindness to others, because I used to wonder why people spread so much love... and now I know why.
    The hardest part of all is knowing there are some aspects you cannot integrate into your own life. That's where the advice "We're all on different paths with different circumstances" is important.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you so much my friend. I'm glad it resonates with you :)

  • @MilkiiGreenTea
    @MilkiiGreenTea 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for your words, a nice reminder to myself to take my own pace and appreciate others instead of compare!

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому +1

      Wonderful. It's very important Crystal. Just keep your eyes on your own progress :-)

  • @environmentalnews6040
    @environmentalnews6040 3 роки тому +1

    Nick, you have so much wisdom to share with the world. Thank you for your generosity. The world is a better place, because of you.

  • @meryam9880
    @meryam9880 3 роки тому +5

    Oh my God ! I wrote down that jealousy and comparison are feelings that I have to get red of them .....then took my phone to watch some videos ... Suddenly i find this one 💚

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому

      Sadhu Sadhu 😊😊 welcome to the channel my friend. Hope it was helpful.

  • @Dil.Careem
    @Dil.Careem Рік тому +4

    If you find yourself struggling with jealousy and comparison, try these tips:
    1) Practice self-awareness and identify your triggers.
    2) Challenge negative thoughts and focus on your strengths.
    3) Celebrate others' successes and practice gratitude.
    4) Set realistic goals and avoid perfectionism.
    5) Focus on your own journey and progress, not others'.
    Remember, it's natural to compare ourselves to others, but it's important to not let it consume us. With practice and patience, you can break free from jealousy and comparison and live a more fulfilling life.

  • @mitigatedsteam07
    @mitigatedsteam07 3 роки тому

    Just found your channel. Been going through a lot of anxiety lately with current life events, and your words of wisdom have brought some light into my life. Thank you.

    • @nickkeomahavong01
      @nickkeomahavong01  3 роки тому

      Thank you. I'm glad it's helpful :-) we also started an online Reddit community as well if you are interested. It will give you a space to give and receive support :-) there should be a Link in the description

  • @RumoHasIt
    @RumoHasIt 3 роки тому +1

    These were actually really thoughtful, useful tips! Thank you for sharing your experience!
    "Someone else who is successful is not your competition, they are proof that it can be done!"