Overcoming Envy and Dealing with Jealousy
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- Опубліковано 30 чер 2024
- Envy and jealousy sneakily gain control of our minds. They don’t feel like other sins that give at least a brief moment of gratification, so it’s easy to dismiss these disordered thoughts. In this video, Fr. Mike explains why we need to focus in on whatever jealousy or envy we may have in our lives, because it could inhibit our relationship with God. The remedy he shares is a reminder of who we are in God’s eyes, which is all that matters.
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I'm in a situation right now where I get so annoyed with what my friends have not realizing I've already started to envy them. I am so sad that they have this life that I don't have. So angry that I was born in a poor family. My heart feels so heavy with sadness and anger. I feel so bad right now because they are my friends. I should be happy of what they have. Listening to this story again reminds me to always be grateful of what I have. My heart is so heavy but I feel like there's an elephant's foot taken out of my chest. I'm glad I watched this video. God really has so many amazing ways giving us answers to our questions ❤️
Ma'am many of us understand. Huuuuuuuuuuugg. God Bless you.
beautiful❤
Amen! Praise God He has given an awareness to you and you can confess and renounce and be restored in the Sacrament of confession. And, dear friend, your humility is beautiful, and it sounds like you are found in Jesus’ beatitudes which means that you have spiritual blessings well beyond what others have materially.
You are blessed to admit this you are not alone I have similar reasons I am here.
Same …. Is so sad to feel this when actually your friends love us … so frustrating
Another rememdy is to pray for the person you are envious of. I tell people there is no way you will be jealous of someone you sincerely pray for.🤗
What do I pray for in that person I’m jealous of?
creative, its a funny trick. it implies they are the ones who experience some lack of some sorts, thus needing your help.
Everyone has problems. Some people keep their problems very well hidden, but they are there. I'm older, so I've witnessed the downfall of couples and families who at one time appeared to have it all. I know people who have beautiful homes and lots of money, yet they have addictions, troubled children, legal battles, or are victims of adultery or ongoing abuse. I have very little material possessions due to the cards life has dealt me, yet I count my blessings for God's grace and where I stand today.
You're the one with the issues. They do not have to change or apologise for succeeding in life. You need to look in the mirror and ask yourself why you are comparing to them rather than working on yourself. Laziness is the answer. You're lazy and don't want to put in the work that they are putting in.
That’s the most awesome ideas I ever heard 😅
I wept. I struggle with so much bitterness at being 54 and never married. This was just what I needed. Thank you, Father Mike.
Up until yesterday I believed I had no one. Never married, no kids, little family I had I fled as soon as I was able to escape the abuse. Can't trust anyone so no friends either (have them for a bit, depression/anxiety kick in & lose touch.) God is always here for us though. We are never alone, he is by our side and takes pity on the "widows & orphans" of this cruel world (the whole of it under the sway of the evil one, remember.) Even when I ignorantly turned my face from Him, He never turned away from me. God loves us, and I pray you find peace on this earth.
May God bless you
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1. Be happy for someone been blessed by God with things
2. Be aware of things God have blessed you with
3. Be grateful for everything God have blessed you with
4. Place yourself under the gaze of the God for He loves you His unique way
Number one is doable
Ive been trying this for years and it still doesn't work. 😞😞😞
This came in handy for singles on Valentines day
All we can say is, God loves us even if nobody else does.
...and here I am Valentine’s Day weekend watching this. 😩😭😂👍🏾
I searched this today for that very reason 😂😂
@@Angelalex242 LOL 😂😭😭
and again!
Fr. Mike, I loved how you mentioned that envy is the only sin in which there is no pleasure involved.
I've never heard envy described as a "sadness", but it's so true. I'm sad that I'm not good at anything and I'm not who I want to be, but it leads me to intense, anger-inducing envy. I feel slighted, and like you said "blinded to my own blessings". I don't wanna see them, because then I won't have an excuse to covet so much. It's such a terrible sin, but it feels so hard to overcome when you're low and behind and can't succeed at anything. This really hit home.
Thank you for your repentance toward this if I can counter what you said I can say you good at being honest and transparent and that always a blessing like you just were for me
I feel the same about myself but ❤ I’m grateful for your post
I feel the exact same way. Envy and jealousy made me feel so sad and melancholic about myself and my life. I hate feeling that way.
I'm not a religious man, sorry if that disappoints, but your advice and wisdom has been a tremendous help in some difficult times in my life. This channel is a shining example of what the catholic or any other church should be. Thank you again father.
"The remedy for envy is placing yourself under the gaze of the Father." 😢
Yes, and so much more helpful than just the bromide that goes, The answer is to be grateful. No argument, fine, sounds good, but Fr. Mike tells us what to DO and not how to somehow get to BE. Incisive, insightful, no cliches. Very helpful video.
I struggled with this a lot a number of years ago. I found one cure for envy is to praise the person you are envying, genuinely praised them. I did this and my envy disappeared.
My best friend has loving parents that support her.. my parents were abusive and abandon me. Its hard to not wish the worst for her. i love her. I envy her blessings. on family trips i feel like the odd one out and when they take pictures together and Im alone in the side it hurts. thats why Iam here. because i want to be happy for her and i want to take away this disgusting jelousy that is eating me up inside. i know i have my own blessings. but it gets hard to see them when others have what you most want
I too suffer sometimes from such 😓Usually when I’m tempted I just deny myself and pray 3 Hail Marys to that person also thank God for their blessings even if it’s hard I think if we might get in the habit to do that to thank God for others and for what we have it might get easier ☺️
Also another way to be thankful is to imagine if what we have was gone we tend to appreciate things like that idk humans 🤷♀️
I have a brother that gets all the blessings of my family while I get shuned in a corner all the time. But remeber that your family is not God and that God had taken away the love of your family for you to discover something and have some thing or some knowledge you woudn't have otherwise. God works in mysterious ways.
Our victory is that we want to fight this, we want to be happy for others and we will succeed.
Thank you, everyone.
I really needed to hear that today, Father Mike. I'm a methodist and not Catholic, but truly you are a man of faith and joy. Thank you
Anders Holmen Come home to the One Holy Apostolic Catholic Church :)
You shouldn't be Methodist. Christ founded only one Church and to not belong to it is to basically say that you don't care about about His plans, His design, His intent or His authority and that you want to do things your way. The false man-made Methodist "church" was created by John Wesley in 18th century England, whereas Catholicism was founded by Jesus Christ, tue God and true man, in 33 A. D. Jerusalem. Read Matthew 18:17 to find out what Christ says about those who refuse to listen to His Church.
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In AD 33? are you sure its not AD 325 after your council of Nicea agreement with the roman empire for which you chose to branch out from the true faith and embrace roman pagan worship for which you still practice to this day?
1 John 2 19
They went out from us, but they were not of us, for if they had been of us, they would no doubt have continued with us, but they went out, that they might be made manifest that they were not all of us.
Matthew 18 vs 17 is referring to the Catholic so called church that has turned its back to the true church and went its own way.
You can rest assured that you already are part of the one holy apostolic catholic church, and that Fr Mike has got much of his learning from good Protestant teachers. We should rejoice that we can all share together.
Envy sure messes any inner peace you have. I sure want to unload it. 1John 1:9 has been exercised
Hi Fr and the internet, can I ask you to please pray for me as I'm struggling with envy. I recently finished university and have had no luck so far with job hunting although some friends of mine have recently gotten jobs. It's also a very frustrating time for me. So please pray for me, thank you.
I pray you will be fine, it is a victory you are trying to find it
Haha, I got a job and then still was not happy. I then was jealous of rich business owners and celebrities. Envy is a bottomless pit. Strive for better but be grateful for what you have!
Right now am in same situation as u were before... I don't know about ur current situation but i will definitely pray for u.. Please pray for me to get a job... Please... Am weak now...
When you define it so accurately, envy does sound rather silly
This man actually managed to give me comfort in a time of intense envy and jealousy while giving me, a non-religious person, real life solutions that work for anyone. Even therapists cant do that very often. So eloquently spoken.
I can NEVER be envious or jealous of anyone of what they have. My thinking, is always, how can I feel like that, when God has given them whatever they have. Amen.
studying the deadly sins is what led me back to the church
@@fireandgrace9456 What if I told you to become a Muslim because Christianity distorts the prophets teachings. See it's not right is it to push your beliefs on others. It's one think to tell people about christianity in a positive way but another do put down their religion to make a point.
@@fireandgrace9456 You know nothing about me. I'm not catholic or Christian I dont believe in any religion but the BS you're typing is laughable, shaming people and putting them down to show how much better you/your religion are. I'm sure few Christians are as ignorant as you so I won't blame religion on this one.
@@fireandgrace9456 btw your previous comment made no sense. I never said anything about Jesus, I was making a comparison With the Prophet Mohamed and Islam. Just goes to show you that you're not blind, you just see what you want to see.
Me too!
Islam is a demonic religion. It serves to make christians stronger by challenging us. That's why I'm thankful of Islam and its demonic influence.
So I was eating my dinner while watching this and all of the sudden started crying like crazy.
Thank you Father!!! I have been struggling with envy of my married friend. I am single & want to be married someday too. I will will try harder to get overcome that horrible feeling & focus on my own blessings
I myself am not catholic (im from another denomination) but what he says is absolutely true we humans constantly look at others and wish we could not realizing we that the reason god doesnt allow us to obtain it is because we are envious of those who have
I'm not one to entertain jealousy or envy but when it comes oh how it loves to make itself at home. I try and distract myself with other thoughts on what I'd like to pursue. Anyway bottom line is it ain't easy to deal with but I'll take what Father Mike has said and put it to practice
Jude Onsongo jealousy has sat with me since I was a young kid.... it’s really horrible. I honestly don’t think that if we even DID have what they have we would magically be happy... we should appreciate who we are and our own personal struggles.. like those struggles made us stronger in Christ anyways.
Praying to be delivered from envy and jealousy. In the night name of Jesus. Amen!
I have noticed this thing in myself that everytime i'm so focused on the LORD and full of love for Him, every problem as such seems to dissapear. I suddenly have no hate, no despise, no envy, gluttony, pride, umcertainty, double-mindness, and everything else. And i now understand how so very true it is thay the very first step towards Christ is the death of ones self. If you're dead, you do not have such problems, for then Christ is in you and He is able to take full control over you, and He transforms you in love.
So basically, loving Christ first is the solution to all problems. 😊
I have been struggling a lot lately with this I’m glad I seen this. Makes me feel as if God put this here to let me know He knows my struggles and is going to help me
Catholicism provided me with a great relief from much of my envy. When I was in a state of constantly seeking worldly pleasures, I found myself consistently envious of those who had more of what I wanted, whether that was money, sex, social popularity, etc. Now that I'm less concerned with these things, I pity those that have them, as they're often unhappy and out of touch with The Lord.
Amen!
Father Mike, I just about cried when you talked about how envy is believing the lie that "the success of others takes away from my success" because that resonated so deeply with me and how I have been feeling. I am becoming completely freed of envy now and your advice here in this video helped me do that. I am so grateful. Thank you.
For me, thinking that instead of gazing those who, by wordly standards, are above me, I should help those who really are below me and need help has helped me defeat envy.
Envy is by far my most common sin, I constantly fear that others are seen as better than me. It makes me try too hard to be a people pleaser and at times will do things I regret. I wallow in self pity and hatred because others have what I don’t, I try really rarely hard to be thankful for everything God has already given me.
this video was here 5 years ago and it's still touching people like it was meant for each and everyone of us..thanks Fr. Mike!
I feel like I've needed these words my whole life. Teeearrs. Thank you Fr. Mike, this is amazing. God is so good. Thanks Ascension Presents! God bless the team.
I have envy of Fr. Mike’s haircut.
I envy his green german eyes hahaha
The rise of the Roman Church..you might find this indteresting:
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You have nice hair. You don’t need to envy. Lol
@@user-lv1wn5wq7n Are they green though? They looked kinda blueish-grey to me. Beautiful, definitely. But not green.
Not only is he a wonderful inspirational priest's but he's super good looking 🙏🏾
I loved the last sentiment that sitting in the gaze of God's love is the ultimate solution. I needed that.
You help me to understand what i am face right now thank you sir and god bless you the way Christ bless us
I really needed to hear this today. God bless you, Fr. Mike.
I have had struggles with envy since I was in college and became aware of the economic differences of myself and those around me. When Father Mike mentioned an attitude of scarcity, it hit the nail on the head. I have been working on this envy thing for years. It makes me feel horrible. I can do well for months and then out of the blue I see something and think, "Why can't I have that?" "What did they do to deserve that?" Then I punish myself for those thoughts. I have gotten good at recognizing the triggers. But when it comes in these floods, it keeps me on my knees in prayer.
The urge to just hug this man as thanks is nearly overwhelming. I thank God for bringing His message through you for me to hear! And in the perfect, most enlightening way it could have been said for me. Thank you and may God continue to bless each and every one of you
This reminds me of something I read on a GUESS tag once.. It reads "The special techniques applied to this garment result in a product that is unique from any other. No two garments will be exactly alike." :)
I’m really out here knowing the definition of envy, but “Envy is sadness at someone else’s blessings” still hit me in the chest yikes
That's such a good point about envy/jealousy, that it gives no pleasure; not even for a moment. I had never considered that.
Its sad to see some folks are that way even in friends or family , thou they will show you they are through their bahavior or the look in their eyes and expression on the face. thats what i learnt !
Father Mike i am a catholic from Indonesia in my early 20s, and i've been struggling a lot to seek inspiration in finding the truth about God's word. i am totally grateful to the fact that God has led me to find this channel. i have been watching your videos everyday for about 4 days now, and plan on continue to do so. you have truly helped me in learning to love more about catholic, and to commit myself into loving Jesus. Thank you father, i hope someday i can meet you in person .
We will all have our own blessings! Trust God!
God has really done so much for me. Whenever I am reminded of His love, I just forget everything else. I need to make more time to be with God.
I wish there was a love button instead of just a thumbs up! Love this! :) Thank you for sharing your insights!
Thank you Father. I will practice gratitude, count my blessings and try to be more graceful. Peace.
I am His sheep! I have this sin. It’s a problem- I am placing my self in the gaze of the father! Thank u Father Mike.
The Lord told me in prayer study time worship quiet fasting it is a spirit of Envy Pride arrogance selfishness like he said in 2nd Timothy chapter 3
Im not religious but this channel and your teachings are a great help to anyone.
One of my favorite of your messages! Seeing ourselves as under His gaze can heal so much...thank you for this.
There is no pleasure that comes from the sin of envy or jealousy, but I do think there must be something we get from it. It is like “venting,” which I think is not holy but that, chemically and spiritually, we lack the self control to redirect a holy way. I think envy is shielded by pride and brokenness, immaturity and insecurity. It takes higher level thinking and spirituality to rise above the belief that we do not need to compare ourselves to another or receive validation by someone as being “enough” in order to be secure. I always appreciate being taught so that I can confess things I was unaware of (like the talk on vanity being an inordinate concern for what people think of me… never knew and very powerful to be able to confess and renounce.) Praying for all souls to come to the truth that sin is never something to be ashamed of and hide but to confess and renounce and be freed from its bondage. Praise God for the Sacrament of confession which restores us to fullness of grace and communion with God as He designed for us at our creation🙏 And 3 Hail Marys for Fr. Mike 🙏
I just discovered this video. I am overtaken by envy and jealousy. THank you so much for this message Fr . Mike
im still struggling with envy and jealousy
Just coming back to this video. Wow thank you father Mike I always rewatch your videos
Father God, please remind me of who I am to You. Bam! Another deeply fruitful message at the right time -- God bless Father Mike!
Interesting point about envy being different from other sins, since it doesnt give any pleasure. As someone who envies a lot (sadly), I think the root of envy is actually “comparing one’s self with others” which does give us a good feeling of being better than another. That’s why it’s hard to stop comparing. As Mike says, if I will go to the Father and know I am deeply loved, I will have no need or desire to compare myself.
Father Mike, I'm not usually envious of what people materially have but I do feel envy when I think the person does not deserve the relationship they are having. For example, I don't sleep around and there are these irresponsible and promiscuous women getting married even after having a child or worse children with different men.
I have seen this played out in my close relationships. I feel miserable. I'm praying to God that if God doesn't see me deserving of having a family of my own to just please take back the life that he's given to me.
Some of those who attack out of jealousy need to be shamed & forced to confront the damage done. Those do NOT need to be affirmed.
Thank you man. Amen. I'm not catholic btw tahst why I said man. But whatever stops me from sinning is good. I'll pray for you
This is very helpful❤️I never thought of envy and jealousy that way. Thanks!🙏🏻
Thank you, Father Mike. I found this very helpful for my ‘weird’ envy of another’s gifts and talents, and I will return to listen as often as I need to hear God’s words through you, His instrument. I am His instrument, too. His. 😊
On point! Thanks Fr. Mike.
This was amazing, and I really needed this! I've always caught myself being envious and never knowing how to address it! Thank you so much Fr. Mike!
Thank you for this!!!!
YOU ARE A BLESSING
Thank u Fr.! God Bless u! :)
Everyone I know are amazing super talented, super geniuses. I guess being a one man cheerleading squad is about the only useful thing I can do.
Exactly what I needed. Thank you, Fr.
I really needed to hear this message. Thank you for the tips ❤️
Thank you so much Father Mike!
Thank you, father. I needed to hear this today.
Amen Father Mike!! ❤️🙏
Thank you Fr. Mike!!! God bless you. Sharing this video!
Thank you! You helped❤️
Hello Father Mike!! I was trying to find a video of someone taking about how to overcome envy and nothing gave me more peace and hope than this video ☺.. Thank you!!
One of your best, and your the best a lot of my days! Thanks.
thank you father Mike!!!!!
I love your videos. I enjoy putting the earbuds on and just listening. Great topics and great explanations. You do an awesome job of delivering the word of god. God bless
Excellent advice...I can relate and this is the one that I need to confess being jealous or envy with others. Thanks Fr Mike!
Thank you Father Mike, another video I'll be rewatching!
so true and beautiful. thank you fr. mike 💛👏
Thank you Father. God bless you. ✝
Thank you Father Mike. God bless you.
I don't think I will ever be without envy so I have sort of given up that fight. I just want my life to get better.
Thank you!
I really needed this today. Thank God for placing this in your heart!
You rock!!!! Thanks Fr. Mike
Thank you for clarifying that. My gratitude is 👍 Great.
Thank you 🙏
Thank you so much Father!
Thank you Fr. Mike for the sharing.
Yes, father Mike, you're right'.🙏.
indeed, “what they have don’t take away what I have”, so true.
LOVE you Father Mike
Thank you so much, you are a God send!!
Wow thanks so much Father! Your word about envy and the remedy for it has really changed my outlook. Putting ourselves under the gaze of the father! Love it
Appreciate this Fr.Mike. Thank you!
Thank you Father for this great message.
Thank you Father for your message. ❤
Thank you so much..this is so profound especially at the begining of the year. You have a gift off teaching fhank you this really helped me.
This is exactly what I needed.
Thank you Fr. Mike💕
Thank you
I didnt realized my sin until watching your video. Thank you for your great remedy Father! I will keep that in mind!