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КОМЕНТАРІ • 452

  • @deblinadey2789
    @deblinadey2789 2 роки тому +195

    I compare myself with my classmates all the time and self hate....thanks for the video

    • @strikerx3810
      @strikerx3810 10 місяців тому +15

      Me too and i can't getting rid of this problem😢😢

    • @SonOhJom
      @SonOhJom 9 місяців тому +7

      Me too 😐
      I always hope that they are doing the same as i do and i often think they are negative by doing that which is wrong 🫥

    • @SonOhJom
      @SonOhJom 9 місяців тому +5

      Now i know what to do because of this channel. It enlightened me so much that i can became more happy and practice kindness and patience is better than comparing ourselves to others. 🙂🙏

    • @arpitbalia6447
      @arpitbalia6447 8 місяців тому +3

      Same 😢

    • @saraswathikalpana1875
      @saraswathikalpana1875 7 місяців тому +2

      Don't go to school

  • @thepieguylol
    @thepieguylol Рік тому +51

    I’ve always achieved success in life through comparison. Had a successful running career in college because there were people faster than me “I need to be faster than that guy, I’m going to outwork that guy to win” after graduating I got a job in sales. It was a really competitive environment. I brought the same mindset and became a top performer because I knew it was possible. Now I’m in a place in life where the comparison is only causing me tremendous stress. Friends making more money than me. Wife left me and now she’s making more money than me, her life seems it’s taking better direction than when we were together. It makes me feel absolutely horrible. But the truth is, I absolutely love my job, it’s so much fun and I’m making enough money to support myself. I love my friends and I love my life. But the comparison always works together with my competitiveness to torture me. I’ve just started this journey of gratitude and letting go of trying to be “better than” others in order to feel accomplished. Wish me luck

  • @sulthanibrahimrajakhan9372
    @sulthanibrahimrajakhan9372 2 роки тому +49

    Amazing advice from the great Human Being!!!

  • @suethai7359
    @suethai7359 2 роки тому +22

    Be yourself, love yourself, Knowing yourself 🧘🏻‍♀️🧘🏻‍♀️🧘🏻‍♀️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏

  • @shimaalcarrim7949
    @shimaalcarrim7949 2 роки тому +18

    I have really been struggling with feeling shitty after comparing myself to others better than me

  • @lifeisshortmeditation5922
    @lifeisshortmeditation5922 Рік тому +16

    LIFE IS A CIRCLE OF HAPPINESS, SADNESS, HARD TIMES, AND GOOD TIMES. IF YOU ARE GOING THROUGH A HARD TIME, KNOW THAT GOOD TIMES ARE ON THE WAY.

  • @brainstormssmilebyasankabu3150
    @brainstormssmilebyasankabu3150 2 роки тому +120

    This is the best preching I have ever heared which makes my mind blowing and very sensible at the moment I heard it. Applicability of the concepts compared with Supreme Buddha's preeching gives it a content validity.

    • @smithasusan4864
      @smithasusan4864 2 роки тому +1

      True

    • @sleepinggiant575
      @sleepinggiant575 Рік тому +1

      This was good and I'm Christian. I'm headed to a buddah temple soon.

    • @xaviergregory7876
      @xaviergregory7876 Рік тому

      Good messages. I am a senior citizen. I listen almost every day. Good presentation and accent. But if you can spare some time to avoid certain mistakes, incorrect usages (grammatical) it would be great🙏

    • @millionyohannes1036
      @millionyohannes1036 Рік тому

      Tank You For Message

    • @swarupam1667
      @swarupam1667 Рік тому

      ​@@smithasusan4864you

  • @limbenglee
    @limbenglee 10 місяців тому +10

    True .. I left Instagram and Facebook....
    I now listen to good UA-cam.

  • @minislearningworld6040
    @minislearningworld6040 2 роки тому +27

    Being calm and cool
    By hearing this video it's an amazing experience to me that ever I have listened

  • @floriansantos2657
    @floriansantos2657 2 роки тому +25

    I always look forward on hearing and
    taking notes of Buddhist lessons and
    advices.🙏🙏🙏 thank you very much.

  • @tubadurantdoda
    @tubadurantdoda 2 роки тому +58

    This is one of the best videos about comparison and jealousy that I've seen so far. I have tendencies to get frustrated over other people's lives, especially if they have what I've dreamt of having. I don't know if it'll be easy to just wish them happiness, while I, myself struggle to get that same thing, when they are served with it for free. That's the part that I struggle with. He's so right about social media fuelling such toxic feelings, but still you can't get rid of that feeling of jealousy and comparison when you try so hard to get it for all these years and someone out there just got it for free. If anyone has a similar experience and knows how to fix it, please let me know.

    • @memenchance1747
      @memenchance1747 2 роки тому +4

      I used to be jealous all the time and I'm not really sure how I managed to remove it from me. I think for me it's the idea of impermanence helped a lot. At the end of the day everything will go away so I don't really think much of what I have. I also think that envy is just an emotion that motivates you to do better, so whenever I feel it I know that it's just me desiring something and I immediately try to remove it from my thoughts because it feels bad and it don't really help me accomplish things. Desire is the root of suffering according to Buddhism and I completely agree but I can't help myself sometimes but still its possible to remove envy even though you still have desires, I think you just have to be aware of it. I'm sorry if this answer is confusing I'm not that good at sharing my thoughts. 😁😁
      This may not be the solution for you but I know by experience it's possible to free yourself from envy. I can't believe that I've done it either, one day and it was just gone. Sometimes it comes back but I just have to remind myself that it don't matter in the end. So don't worry you'll find your way soon! 😁😁

    • @poojamhatre4290
      @poojamhatre4290 2 роки тому

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    • @luisaespedilla4600
      @luisaespedilla4600 Рік тому +2

      My advice to you is just live a simple life .. don't dreamed the things that impossible for you to achieved....the saying is life is so unfair....

    • @tubadurantdoda
      @tubadurantdoda Рік тому +1

      @@memenchance1747 I know, it's not easy to remove it completely, but it's best to just reduce it I guess and it only happens by staying away from social media as far as I observed.

    • @stefaniakonstantinidou981
      @stefaniakonstantinidou981 Рік тому +1

      You are unique. Nobody is like you. And material things don t matter. Only the kindness of your heart and your values are important. What s important is given for free to everybody. What s not important requires money to buy

  • @daisydaruwalla4189
    @daisydaruwalla4189 2 роки тому +43

    I came upon this simply by chance. But from the moment I saw the first one I could not stop myself from watching others also. Each of them is so interesting and teaches us the simple rules of living a happy and contented life.

    • @dec66.18
      @dec66.18 2 роки тому

      Yes,came upon these by chance also,on a weekend that wasn't going well (nothing serious but annoying).I watched the video ,and now I watch daily,very helpful.

  • @anjaoldnettle2841
    @anjaoldnettle2841 2 роки тому +74

    Jesus says love yourself like you love others! I am reminded of this when I listen to you and I as a Christian see no problem taking your advice. It is the right and true advice!

    • @okso6369
      @okso6369 Рік тому +14

      As Walpola Rahula wrote, "Truth needs no label: it is neither Buddhist, Christian, Hindu, nor Moslem. It is not the monopoly of anyone."

    • @clarencefernando3968
      @clarencefernando3968 Рік тому +4

      Agreed. 100% correct.Good luck and all the best.

    • @diwasH3DD
      @diwasH3DD Рік тому +1

      Love have'nt social status

    • @Jay-ft3xh
      @Jay-ft3xh 8 місяців тому +1

      Please keep your bigoted, hate filled dogma inside your home. Less you be a hypocrite.

    • @Jay-ft3xh
      @Jay-ft3xh 8 місяців тому

      Besides the deep irony of you comparing your belief system with the philosophy of non religious people.

  • @sarangamalkanthi1813
    @sarangamalkanthi1813 2 роки тому +16

    Namo Buddhaya 🙏
    Great preaching of Gautama Buddha.🙏 This is valuable for day to day life for every one.
    Swaminwahansa may you more good health and success 🙏🙏🙏

  • @marinasharma782
    @marinasharma782 2 роки тому +9

    O LEARNED ONE
    YOU are such a good soul from where do you bring so much of peacefulness and compassion in you
    Thankyou just love to hear you God Bless you

  • @carmelinemarcus2102
    @carmelinemarcus2102 2 роки тому +55

    Hello 🙂
    This is such a great video full of wisdom. We as humans at one time or the other get fustdrated in.many areas of life for not having our dreams fulfilled and compare ourselves with others especially with others.
    From this video we have to learn to run in our own tracks and stop comparing to others. So very true. Thank you very much for your words of Wisdom.🙏

  • @noel5564
    @noel5564 Рік тому +7

    Sadu I am a Christian but I listen to your preaching and I say you are a great preacher. God bless you.

  • @remonymanoharan3821
    @remonymanoharan3821 2 роки тому +14

    I am so happy tp hear this words. Namo budhaya

  • @kimberlydavis5034
    @kimberlydavis5034 Рік тому +8

    Thank you and I appreciate your UA-cam videos. Your an excellent teacher and have great wisdom and knowledge. I learn so much from you. Thank you so much for your understanding, guidance, wisdom and knowledge.

  • @Manellamusic
    @Manellamusic Рік тому +13

    I feel so happy to follow this simple explanation you are giving us every time on different topics. Thank you so much Hamuduruvane. Budusaranai !

  • @-kabaddi421
    @-kabaddi421 2 роки тому +12

    I'm also worrying and comparing my life with my friends in foreign

    • @ALC0A021
      @ALC0A021 2 роки тому

      He he don't do that

  • @buddhismforchildren3807
    @buddhismforchildren3807 2 роки тому +12

    Thank you. If we stop comparing us to others it will eradicate jealousy as well.

  • @Sllee93
    @Sllee93 Рік тому +6

    Namo Buddhaya Bhante. Thank you for alleviating my fears. 🙏🏻

  • @michelleyani1474
    @michelleyani1474 2 роки тому +10

    I feel so comfort n peaceful sir.
    Thank you 😊

  • @rupalimukherjee9617
    @rupalimukherjee9617 2 роки тому +5

    You can be the better version of yourself...❤️

  • @DreamingwithD
    @DreamingwithD 6 місяців тому +4

    Very true..i use social media very less nowadays.

  • @dilsenavirathna5960
    @dilsenavirathna5960 2 роки тому +6

    Ayubowewa.... AWESOMELY well said👊 Namo Buddhaya 💟😘👌

  • @marciadesouza3314
    @marciadesouza3314 2 роки тому +10

    Hello Buddha 👋! Every topic of yours are very interesting and inspiring ✨ 😊 ☺ I cannot thank you enough 😊 ☺ 🙏🙌👋

  • @indusalgado6628
    @indusalgado6628 Рік тому +2

    One of the best dhamma preaching i listening. So true for most. Who keep winging about others houses,vehicles what other eat and all sort of things.
    Namo Buddhaya obawahanseta 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @methuthathsarani
    @methuthathsarani 2 роки тому +32

    May my birth be there to the nations that attain Nirvana,wherever the friends of Sathpurusha Kalyana are!!!🥺🙏💫🌻

  • @sharminali8887
    @sharminali8887 2 роки тому +8

    Every word you said it is useful and perfect 🙏🏻❤️

  • @rodsalvadortibubos4431
    @rodsalvadortibubos4431 2 роки тому +8

    Thank you so much...for very informative and reality advice..God bless us all...

  • @alterrajbpaws4519
    @alterrajbpaws4519 2 роки тому +9

    So inspiring & realization of life's essence...Thanks to your videos.🙏

  • @amitdaswani6922
    @amitdaswani6922 2 роки тому +8

    Be grateful for what God has blessed you with and appreciate it with all your heart...hope I can remember your advice uncle

  • @shuklamonibarua3469
    @shuklamonibarua3469 Рік тому +2

    Bondhona vante🙏when I listen your
    speech it seems to me that Lord Buddha used to deliberate speech like that for the betterment of mankind🙏Best wishes 🙏

  • @dj.iinoxent
    @dj.iinoxent 6 місяців тому +2

    I always compare myself to those because of my insecurities . It sucks because I never used to be like this . Thank you for this video 😊

  • @maymaadham96
    @maymaadham96 Рік тому +4

    Your service to society is Highly valuable & appreciated.BUDDHA's Thoughts and suggestion to life is extremely practical and can be applicable in any time in life.

  • @nabashangkarchakma2369
    @nabashangkarchakma2369 2 роки тому +3

    This is the perfect advice & suggestion to control our jealous, envious & depression. The lord Buddha always shaw us how to lead a happy & prosperous life so that the earth become co-existent with peacefully. In the present world we want to be more wealthy in order enjoying life. But the process of acquiring assets are not unique somebody make proper way somebody are not then we involve in evil competition as a result we create discrimination, bad precedent & anti- social activities. In this regard neither do i but in order to dominate my foul mindset early in the morning after doing exercise always listen your holliness verse.Namo Buddha.. may all beings in the world be happy & successful. Sadhu 3

  • @chaltubefekadu2676
    @chaltubefekadu2676 2 роки тому +7

    Thank you so much you filled me with happiness ❤❤❤!!!

  • @user-br7eu2qc2h
    @user-br7eu2qc2h 2 роки тому +8

    Swaminwahansa, can you do a preaching about people’s anger. The way people behaved during the last few days burning houses etc

  • @kjeevanand2162
    @kjeevanand2162 11 місяців тому +2

    Best preaching in a very simple and lucid manner. Even a lay man can understand.

  • @nishadijayasooriya9197
    @nishadijayasooriya9197 2 роки тому +6

    Such a greatest life advice 🥺🙏really needed this

  • @madameserenity0880
    @madameserenity0880 8 місяців тому +2

    I love your teachings. It brings an inner peace while listening to you❤

  • @ratnabahadurgurung9850
    @ratnabahadurgurung9850 6 місяців тому +2

    Namo Buddhaye.Thank you sir for your excellent advices.

  • @lesleygordon5262
    @lesleygordon5262 Рік тому +4

    I love listening to all your wonderful advice. Thankyou so much 💕

  • @sue9552
    @sue9552 2 роки тому +3

    සාදු.. සාදු.. සාදු.. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @hoebeng1
    @hoebeng1 2 роки тому +7

    Do not compare yourself with others; there will always be someone greater or lesser than you....Desiderata

  • @Yogaa2.0
    @Yogaa2.0 11 місяців тому +2

    This channel made my day even more better😇🙏.....nd I'm seeing positive changes inside me, ...

  • @Mukeepundir07
    @Mukeepundir07 6 місяців тому +1

    Yes, exactly true.... We shouldn't compare self with other like personally then we get lose in own life in addition if we do compare to other as professionally so we need to focus at work and need more hard work then it will be good for our life....

  • @alisharegmi7271
    @alisharegmi7271 2 роки тому +7

    thanks for this sharing ❤️.. it's too important for students..🤞

  • @champikasakalasuriya5273
    @champikasakalasuriya5273 Рік тому +1

    Reverent sir excellent preachings .
    Everyone can learn buddhism through this channal very simple way.the one who create this video channel is a great person . buddhism is reality of the world.He also gets lot of merits through this.

  • @kapilafavorites
    @kapilafavorites Рік тому +2

    Namo Buddhaya! Thanks 🙏 for your videos it help us to change our life! Your beautiful calming voice with Buddish philosophy it is amazing! Namo Buddhaya!

  • @dru6737
    @dru6737 Рік тому +2

    This video helps me a lot...🥺 namo budhdhaya🙏🙏🙏

  • @abhijeetgaikwad7174
    @abhijeetgaikwad7174 2 роки тому +3

    May All beings be Happy & Successful. Mangal Ho!!!🙏🙏🙏

  • @kalpasri3654
    @kalpasri3654 Рік тому +1

    Your seriously changing so many people life 🙏🏿 thanks for great words

  • @harithpriyajayarathne9135
    @harithpriyajayarathne9135 2 роки тому +2

    Great advice pinwath swameenwahansa.. Theruvansranai
    Namobuddhaya

  • @manoudaya9018
    @manoudaya9018 2 роки тому +2

    Smileing to speaking very nice and very kaind 👏🏿👏🏿🙏🙏👌👌all people very lucky because you in the world 👌👌👌shiring good things 👍others❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

  • @satyaratnashaurya062
    @satyaratnashaurya062 Рік тому

    Very remarkable ,useful and inspiring speeches of bhante ji.
    Vandami bhante ji,
    Namo buddhay!

  • @wasalakumari3576
    @wasalakumari3576 Рік тому +1

    Sadu sadu anumodame. This is teaching us a lot🙏🙏

  • @sampathnkn1418
    @sampathnkn1418 Рік тому +1

    Thank you so much for the invaluable throughs. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @Udumbara568
    @Udumbara568 Рік тому

    Reverend sir, during your great dhamma preaching, it gives more enery by remo
    ving my weaknesses. That mean I think it is real experience. May the triple gem bless you

  • @geethug4069
    @geethug4069 Рік тому +2

    Everyday, i gain new knowledge from you, Thank you ! "Namo buddhaya".

  • @anilsaraswathy5534
    @anilsaraswathy5534 2 роки тому +1

    I love every people,religion and also leaders of every cast.i love all good speeches.

  • @sutharmian
    @sutharmian 2 роки тому +6

    Beautiful wisdom ! 🙏

  • @aneeshbhasker9672
    @aneeshbhasker9672 2 роки тому +6

    Priceless gift

  • @ismachauhan7874
    @ismachauhan7874 Рік тому +2

    Best channel I have ever found

  • @jenifatavares8761
    @jenifatavares8761 2 роки тому +2

    praise God for you.you are blessed

  • @sreelekhasasi1990
    @sreelekhasasi1990 Рік тому

    Very very thankful for giving such a wonderful advice🙏🙏🙏

  • @gaaoui
    @gaaoui Рік тому +4

    So lovely!! 🤗🤗🌸🌺💐💐💐🌻✨✨✨ may all the beings in this world be successful!!!! 🤗🤗🤗🫶🫶🫶💛🌟✨ peace, health, and happiness for all, the world over and over and always forever 🌌♾️

  • @maryannschembri5295
    @maryannschembri5295 2 роки тому +2

    You are amazing . You are my piece of mind

  • @samanthapathiraja7583
    @samanthapathiraja7583 Рік тому +1

    Many many thanks.there is no words to say its vallue.

  • @aninditasarkar1588
    @aninditasarkar1588 8 місяців тому +1

    Nice video..I always look forward on hearing and
    taking notes of Buddhist lessons and
    advices.🙏🙏🙏 thank you very much.

  • @MarkytheCat73
    @MarkytheCat73 6 місяців тому +1

    I have had this problem since I was diagnosed with a depressive disorder. It’s so hard to accept myself.

  • @bhimlimbu2510
    @bhimlimbu2510 2 роки тому +1

    Great lesson for everyone and especially for my self thanks

  • @yasmminkalpesi4605
    @yasmminkalpesi4605 Рік тому +1

    Thank you. Namo Buddhaya. 🙏🙏🙏🌹🌹🌹👍👍👍💐💐💐❤️❤️❤️

  • @SonOhJom
    @SonOhJom 9 місяців тому

    Now i know what to do because of this channel. It enlightened me so much that i can became more happy and practice kindness and patience is better than comparing ourselves to others. 🙂🙏

  • @pothakamahima8826
    @pothakamahima8826 Рік тому

    great lesson for us.Inner happyness is most important .Thank you very much Rev.sir.

  • @mukeshtiwari3901
    @mukeshtiwari3901 Рік тому

    I am very happy to see the great video.
    Amazing voice and thought and thank ❤you to give me good advice 🙏🙏
    नमो बुद्धाय

  • @nuwansampath7348
    @nuwansampath7348 2 роки тому +5

    Namo Buddahya!!!

  • @Danushka1985417
    @Danushka1985417 2 роки тому +2

    B the Best version of your self...🙏

  • @rosaliapama
    @rosaliapama Рік тому

    Thru this channel I tried to start to forgive and to realized the positive side in life it's real. But I do good for convenience of others hope forgiveness is the key.

  • @MrJohnnykhoo88
    @MrJohnnykhoo88 9 місяців тому

    Thank you Maha Bhante, i really felt Mudita for Maha Bhante because you always sharing and spreading Supreme Buddha Right Teaching thru out the Whole World🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻May you be well and happy Sukhi Hontu 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @cutieworld2512
    @cutieworld2512 Рік тому +1

    Im so frustrated when im in my first year of univ life....cuz every one good in subjects and they living joyfull lifes....
    At the some point i blocked some of my friends who is success in there life...
    I stoped looking fb , insta posts....
    Finally i realized that , tht is not gonna work anymore....
    Best way to overcome comparison is face it straight ....talk with them , be friendly with them , push ur self to watch what others doing....and try to be happy for them....at the first stage it will be difficult ...but trust me it will gonna make ya life so better .....
    Cuz i still regret to be envious with my gf...i lost lot of things been a asshole.......wish ya good luck...

  • @Sunny_Day1111
    @Sunny_Day1111 Рік тому +1

    Metta ✨Thank you for sharing the dharma with us. Currently looking for a sangha or online platform to connect with others to dive more into the dharma. Namo Buddhaya 🙏🏻🌻

  • @positivevibes5610
    @positivevibes5610 2 роки тому +2

    Namo bhudaye gratitude 🙏🥰💫✨🙏

  • @sunilagurung1479
    @sunilagurung1479 2 роки тому +4

    Namo buddhaye ❤️

  • @madstranger369
    @madstranger369 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you so much....🙏🙏🙏

  • @judethomas4216
    @judethomas4216 Рік тому

    Thank you Buddha for answering this question🙏🙏😇😇☺️☺️

  • @nimeshaharshani5833
    @nimeshaharshani5833 2 роки тому +3

    Namo buddhaya🙏 🙏🙏

  • @user-uy7wg6uo1f
    @user-uy7wg6uo1f 10 місяців тому

    I feel so interesting to follow your great thoughts and teachings on different topics. They help us to change our life. Thank you so much...🌹🙏 Namo Buddhaya 🙏🙏🙏

  • @surajmatta2544
    @surajmatta2544 6 місяців тому +1

    Namo Buddhaya

  • @prabuddhiwijesinghe4754
    @prabuddhiwijesinghe4754 Рік тому +1

    I am soo much thankfull you thero🙏...namo buddhaya

  • @kmurugalakshmi510
    @kmurugalakshmi510 2 роки тому +4

    Nice videos... Thanks a lot😊

  • @shwetaka378
    @shwetaka378 Рік тому +1

    This is best technique. Thank you

  • @haibaalexander6979
    @haibaalexander6979 6 місяців тому

    Once again I feel relieved from depression after watching this episode.Thankyou NamoBuddhaya.

  • @saikumarsaladi332
    @saikumarsaladi332 2 роки тому +2

    Sir your voice is so pleasent

  • @DianaWaldman-fd8cf
    @DianaWaldman-fd8cf 6 місяців тому

    Yes..correct
    Teacher of Buddah...know you so loved and
    valued by 'zillions'
    of people, Holy God, and me. I value you.
    A Teacher...USA

  • @princess0584
    @princess0584 2 роки тому +1

    I turn off my Facebook 5months ago the reason is im very much disappointed my eyes start commiting a sin .because why they post on facebook all what they have and for me i bought expensive car but im shy to show to people or post photos on fb. Alot of my friends on facebook comparing each other they post everything .less stress .I learned alot from you.. thanks for your advice .

  • @knowkytv8.984
    @knowkytv8.984 2 роки тому +8

    Never compare with others becoz each of us have our own capabilities , strength , wisdom or talents, we can never be equal with each other..

  • @frankiea6482
    @frankiea6482 Рік тому +1

    Great video, words and thoughts. There are 3 ingredients that most humans never truly master: Know, Love and Respect yourself. The reason there is so much turmoil in the world is because humans lack 1 to 3 of these critical ingredients to master their own life...