Erin, I absolutely love your channel and appreciate everything you've done for the community, but I felt compelled to provide my honest feedback. I think it was a horrible idea airing this. I suspect 90% or more of your subscribers want what you have, remote work with work life balance and financial freedom. This is why many watch your channel. They want to learn from you to achieve what you have. I feel that you have turned your back on many of your loyal followers with this type of content that embraces office work. We need more people to support your historical support for remote work and work life balance. We don't need any more corporate wankers like this panelist telling us about the "benefits" of office work. The truth is that most of our coworkers rarely care about us and would move on in an instant if we left. If someone feels they need to have a strong social network at work then I feel sorry for them. They need to spend more time with people that actually love them like friends and family. Lastly, I would have appreciated it if the panelist talked about the study confirming that employees who are sick, hospitalized, or dead tend not to be very productive. That's what's happening out there. For many working in an office is very damaging to their mental, financial, and physical health. Thanks for your consideration. P.S. For any people that think I don't have office experience, I do. I'm a Gen X'r who has worked most of their life in an office. Late in life I made the switch to remote work and have seen great improvement in my life.
Hi Erin! Excited to give it a listen 😊 I was just wondering when is it going to be released on Spotify? Currently it's showing only the introduction and not this episode yet. Thanks!
“If I don’t get social, I get weird” 😂 that is a very valid point. I started working hybrids since Covid and I do get very comfortable at home, however, it is easy to forget how extremely important being in the office in person and interacting with people outside of our team really is. Thank you so much for your video. It’s a great reminder.
@@SummerSun-sg3wf ''I treasured my friends and later figured I'm better off without them.'' But Danielle says that it is the number one factor for a fulfilled life.
I think it’s so important that you brought up the fact that not every friend needs to be a best friend. Sometimes we have such a strong desire to get closer with people, but we need our fun-time friends just as much as we need our deep-talk friends!
Having friends as an adult is pursuing what my inner child always wanted to do but was afraid of being judged, and meeting people with the same experience can be life changing
I love how she explained that it doesn't matter if you are an introvert or an extrovert, we all need quality people. Growing up, as an introvert I used to feel a bit embarrassed that I didn't know lots of people, specially compared to acquaintances who had lots of followers or followed many people. As I grew up, I would tell myself that it didn't matter because I had my handful of beautiful meaningful relationships. It was interesting to hear in the way it was formulated. The difference between extroverts and introverts is the fact that extroverts just enjoy more social time.
This part blew my mind - Our brains can only maintain 150 social connections, we only have the capacity for 3-5 ultra close, but we also need ALL the rings of connections such as fringe friends. - This whole part changed my mindset on friendship. 🤯💡💚💯
I like that your content is focussed not only on carreer advice but also in wellness. It is a good reminder that we are human and need human connection. Thank you.
Saving this to listen to again. I just moved to a new city and also work independently and KNOW that my sudden lack of circles is affecting my mental health. Thank you both so much!
As a self-proclaimed introvert and homebody, I feel healthfully challenged to broaden how I approach social connections. Friendships in your early 30’s feels so hard and next to impossible, I will be more intentional this year and try to open up again. Sending love from Arizona ♥️🌵
@milesonhope. - I have had 1 singular Friend since I was 5, At this point we've known each other for well over 55 years. My babygirl is 40, with kids of her own and for as long as I can remember I have struggled with making friends. I am an to my core an introvert and I didn't know this for a long time, I'm an introvert WITH people skills. - I'm capable of making friends with people I believe At the beginning to be friend-able, but there's something that needs to be within them to stay friends. It's not about being picky or finding fault, for me it's about actually understanding what being a friend means and demonstrating this in action. I too have been trying to go outside of my immediate comfort zone. Do what you need to do for yourself and have your acceptance for friends be meaningful because you are like the 5 people you hang around the most. Friends influence, Let that influence be from those who have goodness for you in their hearts and minds. Just a little Granny wisdom...
@asifnawaz108 - I know you are asking OP, - for me, I'd say 20. - most people don't completely understand the difference between introvert and extrovert, and there's the 3rd which is a combination of - an extrovert feeeeeels, and needs, desires and is energized by the energy of being around others, Are fueled by being around a lot of people, large or small groups, on a regular basis, and outwardly seem to be the life of the party. introverts are more drawn to solitude because they are drained of THEIR energy being around a lot of people or in large groups. it's not just a sense of shyness. An introvert can be there for a little bit but would need a nap, or At the least a moment of peace and quiet. - for me, it's like the sensation of trying to keep standing and moving forward through an intense wind storm, it can feel very much like a steamroller just ran over me. there's days where even the slightest sound is enough to do Me in. I don't do well when there's a lot of ongoing loudness - day's where there's a lot of emergency vehicles, or a greater than normal of people activities going by - such as extra traffic - conventions or giant rewards ceremony's. - there's also the common misconception that an introvert doesn't want to be social, we do, we want the opportunity to be, we want the option to be, the invite to and for to be, and we need the ability At the moment to say no. I hope this helps your understanding and answers your questions. 🤗💜
I loved the "I Am" statements to recognize where you might be missing community. There are so many parts of ourselves that deserve to be seen and validated and cared for. Thank you for the amazing advice!
Wow, that's extremely useful, thank you! I'm 31 years old and just lately realized that I suffer of not having meaningful relationships with other people. I became a part of a club. That's increased significantly the level of my satisfaction with my life and with what I'm doing. Thank you again for having this episode!
The advice for what I identify as and figuring out where relationally I'm lacking in those areas is completely changing my perspective on how to tackle this loneliness problem. Also the advice for how to support men in my life looking for friendships, was very enlightening. Loved this episode and I'm excited for more!
The point about the different circles of friendships is so important. Imagine telling your colleague at the coffee machine every little detail about your life and listen about theirs. My brain would be soup before the first meeting. But that quick chat about favourite coffee brewing techniques really lightens both our moods and helps me through my day
Hello Erin! I thought this video was super insightful. One quote that really stuck with me was "For anybody who is feeling discouraged because they don't understand how where they are now is connected to where they are supposed to be, I felt like that so many times." I think it is very easy to get discouraged from setbacks, and I have experienced this in my own life. I have been following your platforms for about a year, and I would love to have the opportunity to talk with you. You have given me some pretty great advice, and although I am simply starting my career, I believe there are many things I can learn from you.
Quality of any relationship is sooo important whether it's family or significant other. For friendship, it's so tricky because unlike family or significant other, you either really know your friends deeply or on surface level/acquaintance status. I truly believe that the quality of friendship can determine whether person is happy or not since it takes both side to reach out and genuinely get to know each other. Which is hard to do nowadays but kudos to people who really are putting themselves out there.
I have struggled with maintaining genuine friendships in my teens and twenties - I know that connections come and go but sometimes it's so awkward and hurtful to let friendships go, even if they bring more frustration than enjoyment. Thanks for creating this episode ❤
I've been finding it harder and harder to make new true friends, especially as an international moving from Brazil to the US. However, pushing yourself out is the only way to build new friendships and grow relationships that are so important for our well being and mental health. Loved the episode, I'll stay tuned for more!
I loved this interview - it was a little longer than what I normally watch on UA-cam and I was really glad I stuck with it and watched the whole thing! Lots of great information! I'm looking forward to future episodes 😁
Great that you mention we need more connections. I like to help/talk to people in shops, even if it seems insignificant, it might make someone's day or just smile, doesn't matter. Every little help, costs nothing :)
9:50 "I am just a teacher." I heard that and knew I was led to this video for a reason! As someone who is not only trying to transition out of teaching, but also someone who just moved to a new city with no friends/family, this was such a rollercoaster ride. Didn't know how much I needed to hear so many of these things until you ladies were saying them. So much appreciation to both of you, thank you so much! Excited to hear more. 💛💛💛
My dream life is to share a home with a handful of friends and loved ones where we co-parent and take care of pets and plants as a team 🥰 I want to work a meaningful job 3/4 days a week and have enough money to go visit people in different cities and countries sometimes. Thanks Erin for making this episode. I love that the science backs me on this!! ❤😂
I love how you brought up friendship hierarchy. I’ve personally seen so many changes over time. Truths, lies, people leaving, people entering. It can hurt, but it can also make you a stronger person.
What an amazing first episode! Danielle is so eloquent and knowledgeable. I learned so much, and I'm definitely not seeing friendship the same way I did before watching. Also, great work on the set, it looks very professional, the logo too. If I had one criticism, Erin, it would be the phone... It did feel a little weird seeing you read from your phone for info and questions. I think your interview skills are amazing but that little detail just looks a little out of place compared to cards or even a notepad or tablet. I can't wait for the next episode!!!!
This is NO joke! Once you finish university making friends feels almost imposible, unless you connect with young professionals like yourself. Keep up the content! ❤
I love that she was a teacher and it gives me so much hope to really go out teaching as well, we really don’t get as much support we need, I love when Danielle says, that we all need to connect and the age doesn’t really change that.
As a man who's generally happy to be by himself, I can say that even at times having some friends or close familial relationships make a big difference. Thanks for posting this, Internet Big Sister Erin.
41:00 ..... thank you Erin for this interview and introducing us to Danielle ❤ This was something I needed in my life currently. Thank you Erin for asking all those questions and the specially the one addressed at 41:00. Frankly speaking, this video covered most of the questions which are running in my minds these days including career, friendship, having different opinions and more. Tbh, I am really grateful to even find this video. 💖
2:00 awwww I miss the innocent days when we could ask this question without being a weirdo lol. Also, I would be honored and grateful to win the 1 on 1. 😇💜
It's very true "the ability to have someone to call at 2am" having someone to talk to about anything, sharing your joys, your struggles, your thoughts etc. to feel validated really impacts how you feel - whether it's talking to someone that you can draw strength/encouragement from or feeling understood or even less alone in whatever you're going through, makes a tremendous difference in your outlook and how you approach different seasons in your life.
I agree so much with the study that the quality of your social network is the best prerequisite for having a healthy and happy life. Great first episode Erin!
I’ve been loving your content ever since I first came across it! As someone who is currently on the job hunt, your advice has really been useful and I just want to say thank you for doing this! ❤
Exactly what I needed, Erin! It's one of the topics that I discuss with my life coach, it's so difficult to make friends when moving around different places
You guys reminded me of something I learned in a sociology class at university. The variation / extension on the phrase “ It’s not what you know, it’s who you know.” I was taught “it’s not who you know, it’s who knows you” when you need help with something and you can kind of start having everyone who put some feelers out and keep an eye out, and then they can refer you or just be a connection for you to help accomplish your goal. I’ve never heard it since, so I’m glad other folks know this and are taking about it!
Thank you for opening up about such an important topic! I've personally struggled with this as someone who moved abroad. It helps to know we're not alone and we all seek connection :)
I really appreciated the portion about teachers - Danielle alluding to the dilemmas she faced on her journey as a teacher, and also, you denoting the reality of regarding teachers needing to be paid and provided for appropriately. I am cognizant of this myself, but it was significant for the show to highlight this because it sheds light on the real-life struggles faced by educators.
I loved the part where you mentioned that the person looking for friendships asks themselves who are they. Love this whole thing because I have a friend who has been a work from home wife since adult hood and she has very few friendships and I’m going to show this to her
I love this statement “The quality of your relationships” is most important. I’m 58 and cherish the relationships I have with my daughters, grandkids, and friends more than ever. One thorn, is one particular person at work. I have to change careers for my health.
I appreciated everything that you and Danielle talked about, but especially work friendships. Even though I worked remotely, I was still able to build close relationships with a few coworkers that have lasted beyond my time at the company. We continue to support each other through changes we go through even though we were initially bonded by all the 💩 we were going through in the job. I also can relate when Danielle talked about men going to their spouses for talking through what they’re going through. I’m definitely my husband’s go-to person.
Erin, you are becoming everyone’s favorite teacher/sister/auntie who is guiding us in life. Girl, I am obsessed with you and am a super fan really. You have made some remarks that makes so much sense especially about the personal agendas and so on in friendships. Besides all that, you helped me a lot by just telling tips online about career adventures. You have such a likable personality and a voice tone that gets people to listen that it is a talent really! Much loves! ♡
I loveee this episode! I moved to another country 6 years ago and making friends has been a complicated matter, so I loveeee tearing down the concept of "It is a bestie or nothing" because we do have the opportunity to have friends that come and go, and not just because their are not our new BESTIES and that they might not be present for the long haul, that does not mean they can't be our friends. This really was a topic I needed today! Thanks!! :D
Erin, Your videos have been helpful in my job search and I want to thank you. Congratulations on this new adventure. The information Danielle and you discussed during this interview is valuable to everyone but is focused more on women. Do you have a similar resource for men?
totally agree that meaningful connections are extremely valuable for our mental health. As an extrovert, I really feel a lot better when I have social interactions, and that's the main reason I always choose an office job over remote. Thank you for this helpful episode!
I didn‘t think anyone could make career development a fun topic for me, but you did 🤍 and this episode hits close to home too. Currently re-evaluation my career at 38 😅 thanks for reminding me that I‘m not alone in this
I really appreciated this. It’s been hard maintaining but also making new friendships as an adult. I’ve actually leaned towards an intimate wedding because when I think about it there’s not a lot of people who I would want to be there or need to be there for that very intimate moment in my life.
Hi Erin ❤️❤️ thanks a million for introducing Danielle 😍😍 loved the episode. Been connecting with friends virtually. As a language learner, this is how I make friends
This was sooo good! It felt like watching 2 good friends have a talk. Danielle is such a good person for this, I feel like she has ability to make everyone feel comfortable when talking to her
I've never had many friends and going to school in another country made it really difficult and I always wanted to fit in. This reminded me that you need friends on a different level and that different people are looking for different friendships. It means that you need to look for people who would like to connect on the same level. Really mind opening podcast, loved it!
Loved the point of being in a society now where so many people are working from home, and how to navigate making new friends considering that. Quality of friendships/social network is so important. Keep doing what you're doing Erin!!
This episode is perfect. I relate to this in so many levels, being the first one in the family to go to college, working full time while coming to school, moving to the US at the age of 13 loosing all my childhood friends and moving to a new place with barely any family. I was also the first one in my(initiate) family to get married, get out of our culture and marrying an American. Having limited friends to have in my wedding party. The world around you influences you in so many ways to do things that are not you. I loved this episode. Thank you.
Congratulations on your 1st episode 💖It is so true - when school is finished and you move away, even abroad - you have a need to make new connections, but it is difficult sometimes. I think that social apps do work as well as social events advertised online these days. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us Danielle and Erin
"You have to raise your hand and have a courage to link up, because you'd be surprised how many people out there feels the same way!" This is great and applicable on many things in life. ❤ Love the Erin's podcast show !
As someone who values the depth of human connections, this episode resonated with me deeply. It's refreshing to hear candid discussions about friendship dynamics and the challenges of maintaining meaningful relationships, especially in the context of remote work and adulthood.
This was such a refreshing take on friendship! It seems like, in today’s society, we are highly underestimating the power of connecting with other people, as we tend to prioritize independence to a fault. This video confirms that self-sufficiency is a bit unrealistic, and that we need to connect not only for our jobs, but our wellbeing too. The part about the three types of loneliness (intimate, relational, and collective) was very insightful and explains a lot about why sometimes we may feel like we don’t have a direction in life - sometimes it has to do with not having a “tribe”, a community we resonate with. As someone who is on her way to building a new lifepath and a new career, I found Danielle’s transition from teacher to PR and friendship coach motivating and practical. Thank you to both Erin and Danielle for this enlightening interview!
What a powerful first episode. Thank you so much for this. I've been struggling with friendships in my 30s since moving to a new state. I'm not gonna lie, I cried while listening to this for how much I needed this support. Thank you ❤❤ thank you so much. I would love to be friends with you both ❤️
I desperately needed this. You could not have chosen a better topic for your first video of the series Erin! Ever since the start of covid when my schooling when all online and all my college friends moved away, I've basically been living like a hermit. It's so hard for me to make plans with anyone but my husband and I literally have no ways to meet people. This video gave me lots to think about and is a good first step to helping myself become the social person I used to be.
Really loving this new format amd loving this first topic! I do have to say the audio is slightly off from the video the whole time and is a little distracting.
Hi Erin! After moving states and changing jobs a couple times since being out of college, I've struggled with the direction of my career and my relationships inside and outside of it. Your videos are always so helpful, wholesome, and educational. I really appreciate what you do and seeing you out here making a difference!
I love this episode. Friendship is bot talked about enough for adults, but even kids. Kids really struggle with friendships and as she mentuons it effects everything. Great episode!
The topic of cultivating friendships in adulthood deserves more attention and discussion. Thank you for initiating this important conversation and shedding light on the significance of forming meaningful connections later in life.
Erin talks about how to make a living and how to sustain yourself mentally and how you should take people! She is truly the best person to go to when you need all three!
Hearing everything you both say makes me appreciate my friends even more! I’m so lucky to have such supportive, communicative, and loving friends and I feel really proud of having such a relationship with them❤
5:52 “coming into your own, getting comfortable with who you are” I think this is the best quote, it sounds like: Don’t let anyone who hasn’t walk in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces😊
On one hand, I love that you started off with a bang but on the other hand I’m like, Ms. Erin, how is this even fair to episodes 2, 3, 4, etc?! 🤣 absolutely loved seeing you and the topic is SO relatable and helpful ♥️ thx so much for doing this! Can’t wait to see more!
Episode 01 is here! 🎉 thanks to @DanielleBayardJackson for our insightful conversation. ❤
Erin, I absolutely love your channel and appreciate everything you've done for the community, but I felt compelled to provide my honest feedback. I think it was a horrible idea airing this. I suspect 90% or more of your subscribers want what you have, remote work with work life balance and financial freedom. This is why many watch your channel. They want to learn from you to achieve what you have. I feel that you have turned your back on many of your loyal followers with this type of content that embraces office work. We need more people to support your historical support for remote work and work life balance. We don't need any more corporate wankers like this panelist telling us about the "benefits" of office work. The truth is that most of our coworkers rarely care about us and would move on in an instant if we left. If someone feels they need to have a strong social network at work then I feel sorry for them. They need to spend more time with people that actually love them like friends and family.
Lastly, I would have appreciated it if the panelist talked about the study confirming that employees who are sick, hospitalized, or dead tend not to be very productive. That's what's happening out there. For many working in an office is very damaging to their mental, financial, and physical health. Thanks for your consideration.
P.S. For any people that think I don't have office experience, I do. I'm a Gen X'r who has worked most of their life in an office. Late in life I made the switch to remote work and have seen great improvement in my life.
Hi Erin! Excited to give it a listen 😊 I was just wondering when is it going to be released on Spotify? Currently it's showing only the introduction and not this episode yet. Thanks!
@@clairehouston5189yay! 🎉 Spotify & Apple syndication will be a few days delayed-but this episode is on Spotify now! ❤
Building friendships as an adult is not talked about enough, as an introvert, I appreciate this
“If I don’t get social, I get weird” 😂 that is a very valid point. I started working hybrids since Covid and I do get very comfortable at home, however, it is easy to forget how extremely important being in the office in person and interacting with people outside of our team really is. Thank you so much for your video. It’s a great reminder.
I've always been weird so its circular. I treasured my friends and later figured I'm better off without them. I'm a hermit and happy.
@@SummerSun-sg3wf ''I treasured my friends and later figured I'm better off without them.'' But Danielle says that it is the number one factor for a fulfilled life.
8:01 "we're all trying to figure out how to navigate friendships" it's so comforting to hear!
I think it’s so important that you brought up the fact that not every friend needs to be a best friend. Sometimes we have such a strong desire to get closer with people, but we need our fun-time friends just as much as we need our deep-talk friends!
Having friends as an adult is pursuing what my inner child always wanted to do but was afraid of being judged, and meeting people with the same experience can be life changing
I love how she explained that it doesn't matter if you are an introvert or an extrovert, we all need quality people. Growing up, as an introvert I used to feel a bit embarrassed that I didn't know lots of people, specially compared to acquaintances who had lots of followers or followed many people. As I grew up, I would tell myself that it didn't matter because I had my handful of beautiful meaningful relationships. It was interesting to hear in the way it was formulated. The difference between extroverts and introverts is the fact that extroverts just enjoy more social time.
This part blew my mind - Our brains can only maintain 150 social connections, we only have the capacity for 3-5 ultra close, but we also need ALL the rings of connections such as fringe friends. - This whole part changed my mindset on friendship. 🤯💡💚💯
Would u like to expand your friend circle, genuine friend I mean
I like that your content is focussed not only on carreer advice but also in wellness. It is a good reminder that we are human and need human connection. Thank you.
Saving this to listen to again. I just moved to a new city and also work independently and KNOW that my sudden lack of circles is affecting my mental health. Thank you both so much!
As a self-proclaimed introvert and homebody, I feel healthfully challenged to broaden how I approach social connections. Friendships in your early 30’s feels so hard and next to impossible, I will be more intentional this year and try to open up again. Sending love from Arizona ♥️🌵
Out of 10 how introvert are u?
@milesonhope. - I have had 1 singular Friend since I was 5, At this point we've known each other for well over 55 years. My babygirl is 40, with kids of her own and for as long as I can remember I have struggled with making friends. I am an to my core an introvert and I didn't know this for a long time, I'm an introvert WITH people skills. - I'm capable of making friends with people I believe At the beginning to be friend-able, but there's something that needs to be within them to stay friends. It's not about being picky or finding fault, for me it's about actually understanding what being a friend means and demonstrating this in action. I too have been trying to go outside of my immediate comfort zone. Do what you need to do for yourself and have your acceptance for friends be meaningful because you are like the 5 people you hang around the most. Friends influence, Let that influence be from those who have goodness for you in their hearts and minds. Just a little Granny wisdom...
@asifnawaz108 - I know you are asking OP, - for me, I'd say 20. - most people don't completely understand the difference between introvert and extrovert, and there's the 3rd which is a combination of - an extrovert feeeeeels, and needs, desires and is energized by the energy of being around others, Are fueled by being around a lot of people, large or small groups, on a regular basis, and outwardly seem to be the life of the party. introverts are more drawn to solitude because they are drained of THEIR energy being around a lot of people or in large groups. it's not just a sense of shyness. An introvert can be there for a little bit but would need a nap, or At the least a moment of peace and quiet. - for me, it's like the sensation of trying to keep standing and moving forward through an intense wind storm, it can feel very much like a steamroller just ran over me. there's days where even the slightest sound is enough to do Me in. I don't do well when there's a lot of ongoing loudness - day's where there's a lot of emergency vehicles, or a greater than normal of people activities going by - such as extra traffic - conventions or giant rewards ceremony's. - there's also the common misconception that an introvert doesn't want to be social, we do, we want the opportunity to be, we want the option to be, the invite to and for to be, and we need the ability At the moment to say no. I hope this helps your understanding and answers your questions. 🤗💜
I loved the "I Am" statements to recognize where you might be missing community. There are so many parts of ourselves that deserve to be seen and validated and cared for. Thank you for the amazing advice!
Wow, that's extremely useful, thank you!
I'm 31 years old and just lately realized that I suffer of not having meaningful relationships with other people. I became a part of a club. That's increased significantly the level of my satisfaction with my life and with what I'm doing. Thank you again for having this episode!
The advice for what I identify as and figuring out where relationally I'm lacking in those areas is completely changing my perspective on how to tackle this loneliness problem. Also the advice for how to support men in my life looking for friendships, was very enlightening. Loved this episode and I'm excited for more!
The point about the different circles of friendships is so important. Imagine telling your colleague at the coffee machine every little detail about your life and listen about theirs. My brain would be soup before the first meeting. But that quick chat about favourite coffee brewing techniques really lightens both our moods and helps me through my day
Erin, your content is so genuine and wholesome. Excited for this new series
Hello Erin! I thought this video was super insightful. One quote that really stuck with me was "For anybody who is feeling discouraged because they don't understand how where they are now is connected to where they are supposed to be, I felt like that so many times." I think it is very easy to get discouraged from setbacks, and I have experienced this in my own life. I have been following your platforms for about a year, and I would love to have the opportunity to talk with you. You have given me some pretty great advice, and although I am simply starting my career, I believe there are many things I can learn from you.
Quality of any relationship is sooo important whether it's family or significant other. For friendship, it's so tricky because unlike family or significant other, you either really know your friends deeply or on surface level/acquaintance status. I truly believe that the quality of friendship can determine whether person is happy or not since it takes both side to reach out and genuinely get to know each other. Which is hard to do nowadays but kudos to people who really are putting themselves out there.
I have struggled with maintaining genuine friendships in my teens and twenties - I know that connections come and go but sometimes it's so awkward and hurtful to let friendships go, even if they bring more frustration than enjoyment. Thanks for creating this episode ❤
So informative and entertaining, the time flew while watching it, looking forward to upcoming episodes! Thank you for this!
I've been finding it harder and harder to make new true friends, especially as an international moving from Brazil to the US. However, pushing yourself out is the only way to build new friendships and grow relationships that are so important for our well being and mental health. Loved the episode, I'll stay tuned for more!
This is so incredibly put together! I love the organization and flow. Once again doing the Lord’s work career-wise, Erin!
I loved this interview - it was a little longer than what I normally watch on UA-cam and I was really glad I stuck with it and watched the whole thing! Lots of great information! I'm looking forward to future episodes 😁
Great that you mention we need more connections. I like to help/talk to people in shops, even if it seems insignificant, it might make someone's day or just smile, doesn't matter. Every little help, costs nothing :)
This is so comforting to hear, I've always felt slightly weird that I find it super hard developing friendships as an adult! Brilliant discussion 👏
9:50 "I am just a teacher."
I heard that and knew I was led to this video for a reason! As someone who is not only trying to transition out of teaching, but also someone who just moved to a new city with no friends/family, this was such a rollercoaster ride. Didn't know how much I needed to hear so many of these things until you ladies were saying them. So much appreciation to both of you, thank you so much! Excited to hear more. 💛💛💛
Here in hopes to get a talk .. really stuck in life nowhere to go . U helped me a lot thanks for that❤
My dream life is to share a home with a handful of friends and loved ones where we co-parent and take care of pets and plants as a team 🥰
I want to work a meaningful job 3/4 days a week and have enough money to go visit people in different cities and countries sometimes.
Thanks Erin for making this episode. I love that the science backs me on this!! ❤😂
I love how you brought up friendship hierarchy. I’ve personally seen so many changes over time. Truths, lies, people leaving, people entering. It can hurt, but it can also make you a stronger person.
What an amazing first episode! Danielle is so eloquent and knowledgeable. I learned so much, and I'm definitely not seeing friendship the same way I did before watching. Also, great work on the set, it looks very professional, the logo too. If I had one criticism, Erin, it would be the phone... It did feel a little weird seeing you read from your phone for info and questions. I think your interview skills are amazing but that little detail just looks a little out of place compared to cards or even a notepad or tablet. I can't wait for the next episode!!!!
Glad you’re liking the show! I usually have my iPad 🤪
This is NO joke! Once you finish university making friends feels almost imposible, unless you connect with young professionals like yourself. Keep up the content! ❤
I love that she was a teacher and it gives me so much hope to really go out teaching as well, we really don’t get as much support we need, I love when Danielle says, that we all need to connect and the age doesn’t really change that.
What a great show! Making friends as an adult is definitely challenging but doable :) looking forward to more episodes!
As a man who's generally happy to be by himself, I can say that even at times having some friends or close familial relationships make a big difference. Thanks for posting this, Internet Big Sister Erin.
41:00 ..... thank you Erin for this interview and introducing us to Danielle ❤
This was something I needed in my life currently. Thank you Erin for asking all those questions and the specially the one addressed at 41:00.
Frankly speaking, this video covered most of the questions which are running in my minds these days including career, friendship, having different opinions and more.
Tbh, I am really grateful to even find this video. 💖
Got to know 3 types of loneliness which is fascinating and quality of life depends on your relationships was my favourite key take away.
I’ve been WAITING for this Erin!! 🙌🏻🙌🏻
2:00 awwww I miss the innocent days when we could ask this question without being a weirdo lol.
Also, I would be honored and grateful to win the 1 on 1. 😇💜
This is so GOOD!! I am here for it.
It's very true "the ability to have someone to call at 2am" having someone to talk to about anything, sharing your joys, your struggles, your thoughts etc. to feel validated really impacts how you feel - whether it's talking to someone that you can draw strength/encouragement from or feeling understood or even less alone in whatever you're going through, makes a tremendous difference in your outlook and how you approach different seasons in your life.
I agree so much with the study that the quality of your social network is the best prerequisite for having a healthy and happy life. Great first episode Erin!
I’ve been loving your content ever since I first came across it! As someone who is currently on the job hunt, your advice has really been useful and I just want to say thank you for doing this! ❤
ok, I have to say I was waiting a looongg time to somebody came with an episode like this, love it!!
let's goo!! adding this to my morning commute for tomorrow
Exactly what I needed, Erin! It's one of the topics that I discuss with my life coach, it's so difficult to make friends when moving around different places
Omg, love both of these creators. They help me feel more confident as a new adult. Can’t wait for more!
You guys reminded me of something I learned in a sociology class at university. The variation / extension on the phrase “ It’s not what you know, it’s who you know.” I was taught “it’s not who you know, it’s who knows you” when you need help with something and you can kind of start having everyone who put some feelers out and keep an eye out, and then they can refer you or just be a connection for you to help accomplish your goal. I’ve never heard it since, so I’m glad other folks know this and are taking about it!
Thank you for opening up about such an important topic! I've personally struggled with this as someone who moved abroad. It helps to know we're not alone and we all seek connection :)
Erin, there is nobody like you online. You are so helpful and wholesome.
This is a great episode :) very interesting to hear about Danielle’s research and perspective!
I really appreciated the portion about teachers - Danielle alluding to the dilemmas she faced on her journey as a teacher, and also, you denoting the reality of regarding teachers needing to be paid and provided for appropriately. I am cognizant of this myself, but it was significant for the show to highlight this because it sheds light on the real-life struggles faced by educators.
I loved the part where you mentioned that the person looking for friendships asks themselves who are they. Love this whole thing because I have a friend who has been a work from home wife since adult hood and she has very few friendships and I’m going to show this to her
Great kick off Erin! ❤️ You got this!
I love this statement “The quality of your relationships” is most important. I’m 58 and cherish the relationships I have with my daughters, grandkids, and friends more than ever. One thorn, is one particular person at work. I have to change careers for my health.
I appreciated everything that you and Danielle talked about, but especially work friendships. Even though I worked remotely, I was still able to build close relationships with a few coworkers that have lasted beyond my time at the company. We continue to support each other through changes we go through even though we were initially bonded by all the 💩 we were going through in the job. I also can relate when Danielle talked about men going to their spouses for talking through what they’re going through. I’m definitely my husband’s go-to person.
Erin, you are becoming everyone’s favorite teacher/sister/auntie who is guiding us in life. Girl, I am obsessed with you and am a super fan really. You have made some remarks that makes so much sense especially about the personal agendas and so on in friendships. Besides all that, you helped me a lot by just telling tips online about career adventures.
You have such a likable personality and a voice tone that gets people to listen that it is a talent really! Much loves! ♡
I loveee this episode! I moved to another country 6 years ago and making friends has been a complicated matter, so I loveeee tearing down the concept of "It is a bestie or nothing" because we do have the opportunity to have friends that come and go, and not just because their are not our new BESTIES and that they might not be present for the long haul, that does not mean they can't be our friends. This really was a topic I needed today! Thanks!! :D
Great to see your new content 🎉
Erin, Your videos have been helpful in my job search and I want to thank you. Congratulations on this new adventure. The information Danielle and you discussed during this interview is valuable to everyone but is focused more on women. Do you have a similar resource for men?
totally agree that meaningful connections are extremely valuable for our mental health. As an extrovert, I really feel a lot better when I have social interactions, and that's the main reason I always choose an office job over remote. Thank you for this helpful episode!
I didn‘t think anyone could make career development a fun topic for me, but you did 🤍 and this episode hits close to home too. Currently re-evaluation my career at 38 😅 thanks for reminding me that I‘m not alone in this
“You need all of those rings.” That is so true! Those smaller connections give so much more purpose to the day.
Thank you Erin for starting this new series of Videos!
I really appreciated this. It’s been hard maintaining but also making new friendships as an adult.
I’ve actually leaned towards an intimate wedding because when I think about it there’s not a lot of people who I would want to be there or need to be there for that very intimate moment in my life.
Hi Erin ❤️❤️ thanks a million for introducing Danielle 😍😍 loved the episode. Been connecting with friends virtually. As a language learner, this is how I make friends
This was sooo good! It felt like watching 2 good friends have a talk. Danielle is such a good person for this, I feel like she has ability to make everyone feel comfortable when talking to her
Love this new show!! Can´t wait for the next episode great Job Erin!!
Her voice is gorgeous!
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Great format - interactive is always better from a learning standpoint. Well done, Erin.
I've never had many friends and going to school in another country made it really difficult and I always wanted to fit in. This reminded me that you need friends on a different level and that different people are looking for different friendships. It means that you need to look for people who would like to connect on the same level. Really mind opening podcast, loved it!
It’s so great that you talk about a honestly pretty unknown yet important topic.
Wow. This was such an informative and comforting session! I'm so excited for upcoming episodes Erin❤
Thank you so much for opening this new series Erin! Keep rocking!
Loved the point of being in a society now where so many people are working from home, and how to navigate making new friends considering that. Quality of friendships/social network is so important. Keep doing what you're doing Erin!!
This episode is perfect. I relate to this in so many levels, being the first one in the family to go to college, working full time while coming to school, moving to the US at the age of 13 loosing all my childhood friends and moving to a new place with barely any family. I was also the first one in my(initiate) family to get married, get out of our culture and marrying an American. Having limited friends to have in my wedding party. The world around you influences you in so many ways to do things that are not you. I loved this episode. Thank you.
Congratulations on your 1st episode 💖It is so true - when school is finished and you move away, even abroad - you have a need to make new connections, but it is difficult sometimes. I think that social apps do work as well as social events advertised online these days. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us Danielle and Erin
"You have to raise your hand and have a courage to link up, because you'd be surprised how many people out there feels the same way!" This is great and applicable on many things in life. ❤ Love the Erin's podcast show !
As someone who values the depth of human connections, this episode resonated with me deeply. It's refreshing to hear candid discussions about friendship dynamics and the challenges of maintaining meaningful relationships, especially in the context of remote work and adulthood.
I feel such relief knowing I’m not the only one❤ thank you for this!
Based on my own experience I assure you, she know what she's talking about! Really great advice ❤😊😮
This was such a refreshing take on friendship! It seems like, in today’s society, we are highly underestimating the power of connecting with other people, as we tend to prioritize independence to a fault. This video confirms that self-sufficiency is a bit unrealistic, and that we need to connect not only for our jobs, but our wellbeing too. The part about the three types of loneliness (intimate, relational, and collective) was very insightful and explains a lot about why sometimes we may feel like we don’t have a direction in life - sometimes it has to do with not having a “tribe”, a community we resonate with.
As someone who is on her way to building a new lifepath and a new career, I found Danielle’s transition from teacher to PR and friendship coach motivating and practical. Thank you to both Erin and Danielle for this enlightening interview!
What a powerful first episode. Thank you so much for this. I've been struggling with friendships in my 30s since moving to a new state. I'm not gonna lie, I cried while listening to this for how much I needed this support. Thank you ❤❤ thank you so much. I would love to be friends with you both ❤️
I desperately needed this. You could not have chosen a better topic for your first video of the series Erin! Ever since the start of covid when my schooling when all online and all my college friends moved away, I've basically been living like a hermit. It's so hard for me to make plans with anyone but my husband and I literally have no ways to meet people. This video gave me lots to think about and is a good first step to helping myself become the social person I used to be.
This was incredible! The complexity and depth of friendship and loneliness was eloquently addressed, and I can’t wait to dive deeper into it!
Really loving this new format amd loving this first topic! I do have to say the audio is slightly off from the video the whole time and is a little distracting.
Glad to hear it! The audio is synced directly. Maybe try checking your headphones if you’re using Bluetooth? Or listen on Spotify/Apple ❤
Hi Erin! After moving states and changing jobs a couple times since being out of college, I've struggled with the direction of my career and my relationships inside and outside of it. Your videos are always so helpful, wholesome, and educational. I really appreciate what you do and seeing you out here making a difference!
I love this episode. Friendship is bot talked about enough for adults, but even kids. Kids really struggle with friendships and as she mentuons it effects everything. Great episode!
The topic of cultivating friendships in adulthood deserves more attention and discussion. Thank you for initiating this important conversation and shedding light on the significance of forming meaningful connections later in life.
Such a good informative interview. We all need some advice for having meaningful friendships nowadays.
Omg I totally needed this! Since graduating college making new friends has been so difficult. Love your stuff Erin!
Highschool was such an awkward time in our lives, thank you for making us feel like we weren't alone in our youth struggles!
I feel like so many people need this, including me. thank you!!
Erin talks about how to make a living and how to sustain yourself mentally and how you should take people! She is truly the best person to go to when you need all three!
Quality of your relationship is soooo important! Learned this the hard way
Hearing everything you both say makes me appreciate my friends even more! I’m so lucky to have such supportive, communicative, and loving friends and I feel really proud of having such a relationship with them❤
5:52 “coming into your own, getting comfortable with who you are” I think this is the best quote, it sounds like: Don’t let anyone who hasn’t walk in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces😊
I wish I had a teacher like her. She is amazing! ❤❤❤
On one hand, I love that you started off with a bang but on the other hand I’m like, Ms. Erin, how is this even fair to episodes 2, 3, 4, etc?! 🤣 absolutely loved seeing you and the topic is SO relatable and helpful ♥️ thx so much for doing this! Can’t wait to see more!
I love the part about listing things about yourself to realize where you may be lacking a friendship!
I love the recognition around mutual prioritization in female friendships! I’ve never thought about it that way!