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  • @UzomaIroche
    @UzomaIroche  Рік тому +141

    WATCH PART 2 HERE! ua-cam.com/video/TADM8O-B_s8/v-deo.html
    Guys I am sooo overwhelmed by this response!🤯🤯🤯
    Jesus is glorified continually through this channel and all of us, i see every comment and i will respond asap, but thank you for the support, for watching and for being here, love you all!!💓💓💓

    • @anuoluwapojoel
      @anuoluwapojoel Рік тому

      Thanks

    • @Mo_doyin
      @Mo_doyin Рік тому +3

      How do I break up with a boyfriend who I feel is not compatible with me in the things of God. Am I being unfair? What if I want a man who can lead me spiritually because I’m not very strong as a believer and being with him isn’t helping me much. I’m hope you get what I mean? Please help

    • @christleynkunika2667
      @christleynkunika2667 Рік тому +1

      @@Mo_doyin no you are not being unfair in any way, you can first talk to him about it be transparent as possible …. with him see his response and then from that make a decision. i almost dated a guy that 1. was a Muslim 2. the other one was just not aligned in and with the will of God. sex for me has been out of my equation, not that i haven't done it nope i have and i can tell you that the many times i did it i was even more broken than the first. So how did i deal with the two guys. 1. the Muslim- i was open enough with him to tell him we could not be together, not that we were not compatible no. we were the most compatible , he was my soul mate but then, I had to discern if this man's purpose was aligned to mine. would he support me in the things i am passionate about God? i don't think so. and we mutually parted ways, we still talk from time to time but not as much. 2nd guy , was more of your situation, he wasn't all interested in the things of God and i am just one too passionate about Christ to let a boy or man destroy that believe it or not, with God there are certain things you must discern for yourself and see what the will of God is. With God you have to be intentional , missionary dating i wouldn't recommend , you may be into deep but sis if he is not interested in the things of God it is best to let him go. tell him your reasons for doing so..

    • @Mo_doyin
      @Mo_doyin Рік тому +1

      @@christleynkunika2667 thank you so much ma. I’m scared 🥺

    • @christleynkunika2667
      @christleynkunika2667 Рік тому

      @@Mo_doyin it must be fear and probably that is what you will have to overcome before you make such a big decision

  • @misskim6362
    @misskim6362 Рік тому +198

    Sexual purity to me is not just staying from the sexual act sex but also also staying away from sexual materials like overly sexual movies/books/videos/conversations that are erotic and masturbation. Its a struggle but God is faithful so far I am doing good in this area as I wait for my kingdom marriage

    • @rachelkudzaivukomba538
      @rachelkudzaivukomba538 Рік тому +5

      The way I am constantly pulling myself back from twerking, 18SNL movies, music, and discussions 😅😅😅😅 coz I know those contributed to my impurity. Even dressing

  • @mayacokie4811
    @mayacokie4811 Рік тому +285

    Honestly I love being celibate, like I actually sat with myself today and I realized that I don't regret not having sex with my exs or the men I used to be interested in and sexually attracted to. I am so glad that I didn't have sex with any of them, that I never gave in. Yh I have my sexual feelings but the peace I have now is so much better than possibly ever giving in to my sexual needs. Thank u lord for self control💖

    • @goodnesschinenye461
      @goodnesschinenye461 Рік тому +3

      This is how I feel😊❤

    • @innowlelaka1913
      @innowlelaka1913 Рік тому +11

      They always said they can be Celibate with me but when we are behind close doors all they wanted was sex. I ended the relationship, and felt bad so I wanted to get back with him because he ticked most of the boxes except this important one. But thank God they couldn’t take me back. It’s been 2 months on my celibate journey, I don’t crave for sex nor miss the person intimately but I just miss doing this life thing together. I think being away from the person has helped me in a positive way because I’m building my confidence back again and now I can simply say No to relationship requests of which in the past I was a people pleaser.

    • @mayacokie4811
      @mayacokie4811 Рік тому +9

      Yes girl don't let these men try to change u and bend ur morals, cuz the sad thing is they actually respect u less when u give in. They just get a thrill out of trying to have sex with u and they don't really value u most times. I'm glad u never went bk to him💖

    • @sciencenerd777
      @sciencenerd777 Рік тому

      Yes yes... You will never regret or fell used afterwards after breakul

    • @euniceprecious8530
      @euniceprecious8530 Рік тому +1

      It feels like we are in one mind phase ....people see me stupid for saying no sex

  • @EbbyMercy_
    @EbbyMercy_ Рік тому +599

    Watched this yesterday and here to drop my comment. When she said “ they lack self-discipline “ ✅ The discipline you have before marriage is what you will bring into marriage. If you lack self-discipline before marriage, it will be difficult to have discipline in marriage. Thank you ladies for sharing. I enjoyed watching. 💜

  • @user-rw6kn9qw6g
    @user-rw6kn9qw6g Рік тому +99

    I’m still a virgin at 22 and I’ve been debating on whether or not to just go ahead and lose my virginity but after an incident that happened on Thursday I feel like waiting till marriage is whats best for me. This video also just confirmed that I would like to wait for marriage 😢

    • @jomilojuadedeji9063
      @jomilojuadedeji9063 Рік тому +7

      Dear sis 🙌, it's not just about debate or feelings. Jesus Christ is true and if you are a follower of Jesus (christian) he says to flee immorality, fornication and adultery. There is blessing in waiting. Love❤️ & Light 💡.

    • @ThePretty.lifestyle
      @ThePretty.lifestyle Рік тому +9

      My dear just hold on to it . There’s nothing better than actually waiting till marriage just as the lord orders.

    • @ezeugojuilet8694
      @ezeugojuilet8694 2 місяці тому +2

      The truth is you are not missing out on anything. Trust me..forget when they ask how will u know if u are compatible or tell u u are missing out. You can do it, whenever you have that urge feeling, just distract yourself and talk to the Holyspirit cos that's what I do..that guy is my gist partner..Yes he's holy but he loves to hear every details of your life

    • @Esther_nwachukwuu
      @Esther_nwachukwuu 2 місяці тому

      Please wait; you’ll be glad ❤

    • @user-rw6kn9qw6g
      @user-rw6kn9qw6g 2 місяці тому +2

      Just a heads up I’m 24 now and I’m still a virgin it’s been a HARD struggle but imma be okay

  • @halimatshaibu7205
    @halimatshaibu7205 Рік тому +43

    I can totally relate to everything Uzoma said. I've been dating my fiance for 5 years and we're engaged to be married in few months time and walahi, it hasn't been easy. I even thought the urges will get better once we get engaged and the wedding is close, but omo! It's harder. The devi will tell me that it's just few moths to the wedding, we'll eventually get married, but thank God for wisdom ,we're still standing. In summary, being I a sexual pure relationship isn't easy, but it's easier when you both are on the same page.

  • @i.am.michellekirabo
    @i.am.michellekirabo Рік тому +40

    Stop creating marriage attachments (sex), where there's no marriage commitment. Gems! Thank you Pastor.

  • @itsjoshayo
    @itsjoshayo Рік тому +88

    This is sooo good!! As one who is in a Christian relationship dating towards marriage, we have made our mistakes and decided wholeheartedly to pursue God with our actions by also being abstinent. It certainly has been a struggle but extremely efficient through reading the word of God and praying diligently. So watching other Christians talk about this is so encouraging to see! Great video 👍🏿

    • @itsjoshayo
      @itsjoshayo Рік тому +5

      Self-discipline is a very important trait every human being NEEDS to have! Can't be over-emphasized.

    • @busayoad10
      @busayoad10 Рік тому +2

      i'm guessing you're a man. It's relieving to see thid coming from you. its frustrating not seeing enough men practice celibacy. i gat hope now

  • @yveee_
    @yveee_ Рік тому +220

    Sexual purity definitely helps with clearing the mind - atleast I can attest to that! Thank you ladies, this was a great watch!

  • @deonnarxngxr3637
    @deonnarxngxr3637 Рік тому +21

    “You have created a marriage attachment where there is not a marriage commitment”🔥🔥🔥

  • @annelysenono6397
    @annelysenono6397 Рік тому +62

    I’m only 7 minutes in and I’m so grateful this popped up on my page because the way you guys are even speaking shows your humanity, authenticity, and genuine devotion to Christ. We need more women like you to help shape others who feel very alone on their purity journeys, and show them that there’s another way

  • @akintolaoluwaseyi6966
    @akintolaoluwaseyi6966 Рік тому +235

    “You’ve created a marriage attachment, when there is no marriage commitment!!”
    Thank you both for being vulnerable to help us learn.
    God bless you
    See we stop listening to world trying to say sex with anyone is “normal” we do not settle for these contradicting ideologies!

  • @callumjaye
    @callumjaye Рік тому +37

    celibacy is hard in this culture and in church it is so demonised when you fall or stumble so hearing this honest and open space and conversation God bless you ❤

  • @Oyinbrandy
    @Oyinbrandy Рік тому +301

    Absolutely loved filming this with you 🤍 bring me back oo🫶🏾

  • @Yadah
    @Yadah Рік тому +35

    This video should go viral really. It’d encourage a lot of people and let everyone know that sexual purity is possible!!! Well done ladies 😍😍😍

  • @BGdiary
    @BGdiary Рік тому +113

    We definitely need a part 2 please, my problem is getting someone who is aligned with that vision because it feels like most guy sees staying celibate as something impossible especially here in Nigeria or maybe I've not yet met any God fearing person

    • @UzomaIroche
      @UzomaIroche  Рік тому +31

      girl i feel you but trust me it is definitely possible. are you putting yourself in spaces where you’ll find the type of guys you want?

    • @sanitationEng
      @sanitationEng Рік тому +17

      It's not Nigeria alone..I've not met a man in my country who's staying celibate for God's glory. This journey is just lonely and tough.

    • @kaysmellsgood
      @kaysmellsgood Рік тому +4

      @@UzomaIroche please examples of the kinds of spaces

    • @wellness_with_valerie
      @wellness_with_valerie Рік тому +3

      ​@@sanitationEng I agree... I am Ugandan and to find a man with the same vision, one that wants to honor God with their bodies is tough.

    • @michellewoje
      @michellewoje Рік тому +8

      Girlllllll!!! This table! In God's time, He'll bring men aligned with this vision into our lives.

  • @obinnawilliams9436
    @obinnawilliams9436 Рік тому +191

    I believe there should be a Part 2. I really like what you guys are talking about. When I say I desire to marry a virgin some people think I’m selfish (kinda plays a role) but I want to walk this journey and learn with my Mrs. As a male who haven’t done the do & I’m in my early 30s, I kinda fear expectations so I’d rather want one we both learn and grow. But hey, it could be otherwise & I thank God as well.
    You people raised really strong points especially the 2nd question. At times I think of it & ask, why would God tell us to hold back on something that the body naturally desires for and seeks after? Why put it at a certain time to be unlocked yet we’re sexual beings? Isn’t it better that the day one gets married, all the desires just happens like boom 😅. But there’s that call for self discipline/self control.
    Finally, you ladies are beautiful and God bless your relationships.

    • @judithaustine1903
      @judithaustine1903 Рік тому +4

      Congratulations 🎉

    • @SkegeeAce
      @SkegeeAce Рік тому +61

      I don't think it's selfish at all if you are also a virgin! If the guys who run around sleeping with anything walking and then ask for a virgin that I find appalling.

    • @Queen_of_health
      @Queen_of_health Рік тому +18

      You are doing just great and I pray your desires come through. From your lips to Gods ears

    • @mathildaobi6620
      @mathildaobi6620 Рік тому +3

      it's not selfishness 😊

    • @obinnawilliams9436
      @obinnawilliams9436 Рік тому

      @@judithaustine1903 😅😅😅

  • @reyaluko
    @reyaluko Рік тому +40

    Love love love this . I like when Christians don’t pretend like these things are not even our realities . We are all humans 👏

  • @chibaby800
    @chibaby800 Рік тому +76

    Lol Uzomas story is a lot similar to mine, I never used to even think of it and wonder why everyone made sex look like this thing with so much hype but now I’m 24, not totally innocent but have still not done it. It’s crazier now plus when you don’t see marriage in the nearest future it’s like harder to think of waiting. And tbh not even sure if I want to. I do see the benefits and I’m grateful for that but people never talk about the part of being single till a very old age

    • @flourishorji6681
      @flourishorji6681 Рік тому +13

      Gosh! I can relate. I had to bear the marital talk with my dad of recent. Though he meant well but I was just mentally tired! Can't I live my life in peace? I want to do a lot career wise and travel and finish Medical school but yet everyone keeps on popping the question,"Are you in a relationship","Where is the guy" like a to do list. it's so annoying!

    • @enoasangansi5103
      @enoasangansi5103 Рік тому

      @@flourishorji6681 😂

  • @JulieOpia
    @JulieOpia Рік тому +6

    Nobody talks about this topic so openly and truly like this 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @nathaniagrace3914
    @nathaniagrace3914 Рік тому +126

    Honestly Gods timing is perfect.. this morning I was struggling because I had slipped up .. but what I learnt today is not to stay in that slip up but to run back to God. Thought I was alone in this but thank God for you girls coz now I know we are all operating under His grace !
    Thank you for this vid !

    • @UzomaIroche
      @UzomaIroche  Рік тому +13

      thank God for His sovereignty!
      i am proud of you for running back to Him❤️

    • @chibaby800
      @chibaby800 Рік тому +10

      Yeah I used to have the mindset of distancing myself farther away but I had to change that

    • @rachelkudzaivukomba538
      @rachelkudzaivukomba538 Рік тому +3

      I almost slipped a few nights ago when my hormones had flared, and wanted to watch something sensual. I prayed and told the devil straight up, "you don't have power over my body, my eyes, everything" and I just slept it out. 😅😅😅

  • @vanillababy2890
    @vanillababy2890 Рік тому +8

    “nobody is going to stop being fine because you’re married” !!

  • @ibemevictoria
    @ibemevictoria 3 місяці тому +1

    "How much more can I use this season to honour God"❤ powerful

  • @somfe_a
    @somfe_a Рік тому +2

    God sent this video to my TL because my mindset about celibacy and sex as a whole was beginning to change due to society’s pressure. I thank God for the renewing of my mind

  • @toluwaniabe
    @toluwaniabe Місяць тому +1

    Loved the idea of the group chat thingy with your mentors and being accountable that Uzoma spoke about 👏

  • @Tamariasmr
    @Tamariasmr Рік тому +3

    I’m a Jewish woman and we also practice celibacy. I loved this video and your pov’s, it feels alone but I’ve noticed the more I am celibate that I feel like more able to have intimate connections and being vulnerable even without touch. Before that I had many defenses and so it helps a lot ! 💕💖

  • @wakasukku
    @wakasukku Рік тому +25

    This is the most honest video i have seen so far on this topic ... people are really struggling with this and need more than just condemnation ... thanks ladies 🤩

  • @jamilladambo
    @jamilladambo Рік тому +36

    This video deserves an award!!! My goodness! Real 👏🏽 talk 👏🏽!!! Thanks Pastor Brandy and Uzoma!

  • @isabelleileleji
    @isabelleileleji Рік тому +69

    📌Created a marriage attachment when there’s no marriage commitment! So in-depth!

  • @favourbamisaye1124
    @favourbamisaye1124 Рік тому +21

    I love how transparent this video is, like honestly it is hard and when brandy said it gets harder with time like even when you haven't done it before it still gets harder when you are connected with someone alone love you both for this and trust me when I tell you that this video came at this right time let me go back into my bible reading 🙏🙏

    • @UzomaIroche
      @UzomaIroche  Рік тому +2

      awww thanks for watching love, we’re in this together!!

  • @Victoria-f8k4o
    @Victoria-f8k4o Рік тому +9

    Thank God yt recommend this video cause y'all spoke about this topic in a way it was enjoyable to watch. Sexual purity is not an easy journey and being a teenager I still have a long way to go😭but with sexual discipline and with his word we can do this🙏🏼

    • @UzomaIroche
      @UzomaIroche  Рік тому +3

      so proud of you, you can do this!!

  • @Fashion_style_modesty_beauty
    @Fashion_style_modesty_beauty Рік тому +13

    OMG...I love this, because sexual purity is something I have struggled with, and it's refreshing to know that there is hope and it is not impossible to be sexually pure till marriage

  • @JaycelineBrand
    @JaycelineBrand Рік тому +34

    Awwwwn this is interesting. As a born again Christian. Started my dedicated journey in august last year. And frankly celibacy has been a big issue lol. I’ve lost men I thought were perfect cause of the tension. Actually just mutually decided with my newest boyfriend 2 days ago to stay ‘friends’ since he wasn’t on this celibacy journey and it is a big struggle for him.
    I miss him as my boyfriend but we are friends now and literally talk everyday lol. I think it just removed the pressure but I don’t think we’d be back as a romantic couple and it is sad. Cause I do love him and he’s literally perfect.

    • @dolphinegariy3272
      @dolphinegariy3272 Рік тому +4

      It's soo amazing how God's works. Coz I read your comment and I'm like a
      I ain't alone. My situation is soo like yours

    • @UzomaIroche
      @UzomaIroche  Рік тому +10

      proud of you for making such a bold move

    • @Sarah-kv3qs
      @Sarah-kv3qs Рік тому

      Maybe he will realize through you how to take on celibacy or wait till you are ready. Never know what the future holds since he was perfect in other boundaries.

    • @Odii_inyama
      @Odii_inyama Рік тому +3

      God's law is perfect. Don't worry, God will bless you with the man He wants for you.

    • @favourilobi2532
      @favourilobi2532 Рік тому

      Let him not be on standby when your guards are down.
      No need to be in a romantic relationship when marriage is still far.

  • @meisyonuoha
    @meisyonuoha Рік тому +32

    Brandy just be spitting gemsss... I'm only halfway through the video, and I can't count how many times I've "mmmm-ed" and said "word word word". I love how raw and real this video is, I do!! 😭💗

  • @Sheyitan005
    @Sheyitan005 Рік тому +18

    I don't know how your video even landed on my homepage, but I'm so glad I watched it. You guys said a lot of things that shook me. A lot of self-discipline is needed, and it is true how clear your mind is when you don't focus so much on sexual things in a relationship. Thank you so much for this video!!!

  • @preciousthomas2293
    @preciousthomas2293 Рік тому +12

    “You have created a marriage attachment where there is not marriage commitment“👏🏾👏🏾 16:19

  • @estheredigbe1518
    @estheredigbe1518 Рік тому +27

    I saw your videos on tiktok and just screamed this is the exact content I need on dating rn. Opened my UA-cam few minutes afterwards and I find this video . My heart is very happy cl!

  • @angelicagalabuzi1131
    @angelicagalabuzi1131 Рік тому +5

    Another thing I'd like to add is that sexual purity is not limited to abstaining from s*x. It also involves minding what you watch and avoiding things like masturbation, etc. That all has to do with purity.

  • @soniaevwoja6535
    @soniaevwoja6535 Рік тому +3

    Glad I saw this today. It's really not easy when you have a partner that thinks differently. Sex before marriage should exclude every other thing that feels like sex. Honoring God is so important.This is so real!

  • @abisolablossomaderemi3264
    @abisolablossomaderemi3264 Рік тому +13

    From someone whom Holy spirit literally told to work on her self control because I wasn't doing a good job. He literally said, you know self control is an actual fruit of the spirit and it's not like you have a choice. I pray we all find this journey rewarding in the end.

  • @abusdaughter_
    @abusdaughter_ Рік тому +13

    Abstinence teaches us SELF CONTROL!!!!👏👏👏👏👏

  • @desokie257
    @desokie257 Рік тому +5

    I seriously needed this!!! Bless you sisters in Christ 🤍

  • @chiomamadueke5618
    @chiomamadueke5618 Рік тому +1

    I just love the two women, honesty at its peak. love love.
    "you might fall during your journey but don't stay at it" wise words!!!

  • @FisayoGracieAbby
    @FisayoGracieAbby Рік тому +3

    This video popped up on my screen and i can't believe i was standing the whole time while watching it. Haha so good! Love what you said about having a group chat with your mentors, accountability should certainly be a big deal for any godly couple seeking to date the right way, I don't hear this said in many places and I'm really glad it was mentioned here.
    God bless you both. More grace!

  • @efyarhborngreat438
    @efyarhborngreat438 Рік тому +38

    My boyfriend and l just started celibacy journey
    I brought it up to him and what he thinks about it.
    At first he wasn't okay with it but I have to explain to him that the fact that the world is doing it doesn't mean it's a good thing to be having sex before marriage.
    He was hesitant but he finally agreed to it and we depending on God to help us through it
    Actually we in a long distance relationship so that's much easy for me
    Buh sis,the day I started celibacy,omo the sexual age was 100%.i was feeling for sex and I knew the devil knows we on a good way so he wants to tempt me
    Buh thank God we on it
    Buh sometimes I feel guilty for having sexual acts some years back before I now embark on this celibacy journey

    • @BOBTSeries
      @BOBTSeries Рік тому +9

      Heyy girl!
      This is amazing and I pray God helps you both with Strength. Always ask the Holy Spirit for help, don’t do it based on your own knowledge.
      And girlll guilt is of the devil and conviction is of God! So shake the guilt off, Grace has enveloped you! And always will!
      Lots of love!

    • @lizzyjoledo5441
      @lizzyjoledo5441 Рік тому

      Congratulations, may God make it easy for you

  • @thegrowthroompod
    @thegrowthroompod Рік тому +7

    This conversation was SO NEEDED! Wow the vulnerability is everything!

  • @oyiinda
    @oyiinda Рік тому +19

    First time on this page, and I’m glad this was my first watch, trust I subscribed right away. God bless your hearts for this💕. This was a video I never thought I needed and I could relate so much. I definitely learnt a lot and I also was reminded about the true importance of purity, which is not just for God’s pleasure but also for my edification. Thank you guys so much and yes please we definitely want a second watch (if I say so myself). Love and light🧡

  • @Wanny4show
    @Wanny4show Рік тому +6

    Everything Uzoma is saying is meeeee 😭😭😭 I used to think I had a problem for not having those urges but now hmhmmmmmmmmmmm!!!!!! Thankful for understanding and growth in God!! Thank you for this video and Pastor Brandy, you’re amazing.

  • @sunflowerpalee
    @sunflowerpalee Рік тому +3

    I love how transparent you guys are❤❤❤

  • @Bibzthebarb
    @Bibzthebarb Рік тому +70

    Currently in a long distance relationship so it’s not an issue abstaining for either of us, and even when we are together we just want to spend time together and do stuff together because we don’t get to see each other as much.

    • @UzomaIroche
      @UzomaIroche  Рік тому +16

      wow this is such a blessing in disguise because omo it can be hardddd

    • @musicgal9830
      @musicgal9830 Рік тому

      That’s crazy because I am currently in a long distance too and my experience is quite different. We both have the will to abstain but we have fallen a few times with a different type of intimacy. I think it’s a blessing that we are long distance for the time being because it will allow us to be more disciplined.

    • @enjay7747
      @enjay7747 Рік тому

      Same here. But it’s kind of hard sometimes 😢

  • @aminashillasadique5849
    @aminashillasadique5849 Рік тому +7

    As a part 2, there should be a Q&A. Thanks for the explanations girls. As a fellow celibate, it feels good to hear about the topic ❤

  • @oribabibiana9022
    @oribabibiana9022 Рік тому +1

    This video needs to reach the whole world likeee..omggg❤️❤️

  • @Megibk_reality82
    @Megibk_reality82 Рік тому +1

    You just gain a new subscriber, I love your videos

  • @stephx1502
    @stephx1502 Рік тому +4

    This video was so goooood!! Part 2 yes please. Feel like you were speaking to me directly.

  • @cornemoos9296
    @cornemoos9296 Рік тому +9

    I agree with the topic, I am a virgin and I was 27 when I told my ex-school/varsity friends that I was not sexually active nor had sexual affection/soul ties with my exes and luckily long-term relationship I ever was in was with a Christian, born by water and spirit and we dated for 5 years and knew each other for 5months before actually dating or making a choice to date/courtship and the mere fact we know the principles of the bible about relationships, dating, sex, marriage. Here am I still fighting the good fight of faith, I will get married hopefully to someone that is also abstaining or resisting sexual immorality/sex before marriage because it is significant not to me but to God, my family, and my church. Being pure, clean, and holy not just with what we say and think but, also with our body, mind and soul because of our own choices that lead to "things' whereby at times an individual is regretful, ashamed or even worse heartbroken because of intercourse (sex) due to the guilt or soul ties" that needs to be broken because it's vital due to the body is the temple of God and God is a jealous, just, holy and righteous Father...

  • @farabale5220
    @farabale5220 Рік тому +19

    loved this! y'all look too good btw! please give us part 2 🙏
    if you do film part 2, could you please talk about the value of waiting from the perspective of someone in a long-term relationship (that'll likely end in marriage), to contrast the perspective of someone who has multiple sexual partners?

    • @UzomaIroche
      @UzomaIroche  Рік тому +1

      thank you love, hmmm very interesting!

  • @krissie115
    @krissie115 Рік тому +1

    This was so insightful I loved it. My biggest take away was Self Discipline we should instill that value first because as Uzoma said, someone is not going to stop being fine because you are married.

  • @_divinelyguided_highlyfavoured

    thank you for this🥰...we really need to understand that marriage is only as good as our singleness , what you do by yourself is a foundation for your marriage, that is who you're bringing to the marriage.

  • @abuajoseph7033
    @abuajoseph7033 Рік тому +3

    Wow, just wow, I absolutely understand why my gf said she felt attacked watching this video, it's super insightful and thanks a lot!

  • @tg_blossy
    @tg_blossy Рік тому +8

    Pastor Brandy is soo pretty. She looks like a big hugger too hehe!

  • @nazasdiary2599
    @nazasdiary2599 Рік тому

    i really appreciate this video especially Oyins story. i’ve barely found currently married couples who were honest about not being pure from the jump. seeing the mercy of God in redeeming and keeping y’all together even through giving your lives and restarting is so freaking beautiful. gives me so much faith🥺🥺

  • @prudencesibanda2669
    @prudencesibanda2669 Рік тому +6

    This is a great video . I like how you are tackling issues that many Christians are battling but very few are vocal about . Continue making such videos 🌟❤

  • @Moisthatgirl
    @Moisthatgirl Рік тому +11

    This sexual spirit honestly was actually what my mum said about having sex before marriage so profound

  • @T.L.O
    @T.L.O Рік тому +5

    It's my first time on this channel and I love Uzoma already! This is so relatable.

  • @zeemichaels8389
    @zeemichaels8389 Рік тому +4

    This is the most realistic conversation about this I have heard
    Please part 2🥺❤️

  • @Ahudaddie
    @Ahudaddie Рік тому +6

    I didn’t want this video to end.
    This was so amazing and worth every minute
    Thank you guys for the unbiased truth about celibacy.

  • @ima-mz2bx
    @ima-mz2bx Рік тому +6

    I and my boyfriend are practicing celibacy.... it's what we both agreed on and we've been able to keep that

  • @josephinejacob5585
    @josephinejacob5585 Рік тому +15

    Honestly this video is amazing it came at a time when I needed to be clarified. I love you guys so much and thank you for the transparency in this video ❣️❣️❣️

    • @UzomaIroche
      @UzomaIroche  Рік тому

      thanks for watching Josephine🥺💓

  • @rosebenson6162
    @rosebenson6162 8 місяців тому

    Can we appreciate the powerful revelations they’re sharing. This was very real, relatable and powerful. Thank you for this🙏

  • @Peace-mq8pp
    @Peace-mq8pp Рік тому +5

    God makes all things pleasurable in His time! Thank you for this timely video.. you’ve got a new subscriber😌🤗

  • @melissahngosa1287
    @melissahngosa1287 Рік тому +1

    Wow this has really come at the right time for me😅... I've had some challenges being celibate but y'all need to know that it just takes God and His grace...We fall but we rise again..
    I've had some challenges with my sexual orientation 😢, but thank God before I could go beyond I was brought back by His grace and I'm telling God has been faithful 😭😭... Praise be to Him❤🙏

  • @tarsbar3804
    @tarsbar3804 Рік тому +2

    I don't know what language you guys normally speak, but today you spoke FACTS.

  • @olanma.o
    @olanma.o Рік тому +9

    Never have I ever related to a video on celibacy on such a deep and personal level omllll
    You and Brandy did so much justice to this topic and I’ve learned so much that I can’t wait to implement by the grace of God.
    I love the point you made about getting to know your partners mind. It resonated with me deeply
    You both look ABSOLUTELY gorgeous! love you both so much, thank you for being transparent with us, it’s empowering to know that I can also do the same ❤

  • @ifeoluwaidowu2351
    @ifeoluwaidowu2351 9 місяців тому

    My journey is so similar to Brandy’s…I’m not married and not getting married soon though. I’m very grateful for the wisdom & vulnerability in this video cuz Christians don’t get content like thisss. Sexual purity is so important to honour God in your relationship. God bless you Pst. Brandy & Uzoma for letting us that know that sexual purity is possible 🙏🏾❤️

  • @omonefedavies2356
    @omonefedavies2356 Рік тому +3

    New subscriber ❤
    I agree that these topics are not discussed on enough. And the few persons who discuss this are not transparent/honest.
    Thank you so much once again to you ladies ❤

  • @pelumi_x
    @pelumi_x Рік тому +4

    Brandy is a very wise woman. Thank you for sharing

  • @tamaratarere
    @tamaratarere Рік тому +1

    omg I fully thought you guys planned the outfit lol! Love it!

  • @sharonenemchukwu7593
    @sharonenemchukwu7593 Рік тому +12

    Oh my goodness Uzo and Brandy by the help of the Holy Spirit Ate this topic and left no crumbs!!! God bless you both *10000 . This was so transparent and encouraging ♥️🤲🏻🥰. “You can’t love someone you don’t know” please give these women their flowers .

    • @UzomaIroche
      @UzomaIroche  Рік тому

      thanks Sharonnn, glory to God!🥺❤️

  • @omasirikalu2378
    @omasirikalu2378 Рік тому +1

    I just came across your channel and trust me I'm here to stay!
    There's so much truth in the things Oyin said and Uzoma just gets me 😂I'm really grateful for this video.💕

  • @adejuwonfolakeseun1924
    @adejuwonfolakeseun1924 2 місяці тому

    I'm new, straight from Brandy's channel. You guys are spitting sense! I LOVE U Uzoma🥰
    Pray for me sis, I'm not married but lately I've been feeling somehow like gosh😪😪

  • @Amayah_Jirai
    @Amayah_Jirai Рік тому +3

    I am so happy about this topic to see believers talk about it is really wonderful and helpful for those of us abstaining and please there has to be a part 2 you can't talk about it in one video 😂😂

  • @MrHandle_1
    @MrHandle_1 2 місяці тому

    The intro alone got me hooked!....first timer

  • @Prishe_henry
    @Prishe_henry Рік тому +3

    Beyond just physical, I actually got really blessed by this video, thank you for putting this out 🙏

  • @beautyforashes_
    @beautyforashes_ Рік тому +2

    Tempted to watch for the second time! Well done ladies! More Grace

  • @marie-rienne
    @marie-rienne Рік тому +6

    The way this video is on point ! I absolutely love how relatable it is! We needed this !

  • @feyiikemi
    @feyiikemi Рік тому +7

    i learnt so much omg! definitely want a part two

  • @UCHECHI.
    @UCHECHI. Рік тому +4

    I love the transparency on both parts.

  • @toyazara
    @toyazara Рік тому +3

    so good you guys!! 👏👏 a lot of people have been blessed by this video

  • @iraflora1616
    @iraflora1616 Рік тому +1

    The fact that you have a good relationship with your pastor, thats goals

  • @254glow
    @254glow Рік тому

    Your Video has been recommended twice on my timeline both on my phone and pc and I was like "Okay God, I here Yoi. I'll listen." I love the authenticity of your channel💯May God keep being glorified.

  • @tofunmiOA
    @tofunmiOA Рік тому +7

    Love, love this videoooo!!! The vulnerability was needed. Thank you guys 💗💗💗💗

  • @adebisiajayi8732
    @adebisiajayi8732 Рік тому +2

    The gems in this video, my God! Thank you both. I’m going to watch this again and again and again until it sticks in 😊

  • @thandolwethugama8818
    @thandolwethugama8818 Рік тому +4

    I was excited to watch this video as someone on a celibacy journey . Thanks putting this out for us . But most sounded like a judgemental conversation not an educational one !

  • @Eniola-yh2hg
    @Eniola-yh2hg Рік тому +3

    My favourite UA-camr. I am so proud of you for this honesty and vulnerability. Thank you for being a light. I love you!!❤❤❤

  • @_amarachee
    @_amarachee Рік тому

    Can't believe I just stumbled on your channel- I'm blessed🙌

  • @daniellarita5340
    @daniellarita5340 Рік тому

    My first time here and I'm grateful,I found this channel. God bless you

  • @onyekwerechinenyejessica9899
    @onyekwerechinenyejessica9899 Рік тому +2

    Thank you Oyin for your transparency 🤗. God bless you!

  • @Riiebabyy
    @Riiebabyy Рік тому +1

    this was educational, so so good !🤍

  • @adetomiwaadewuyi
    @adetomiwaadewuyi Рік тому +3

    “You’re a little bit of this and a little bit of that but nothing of God” 😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨
    Love this video!!!

  • @maridiyaibrahim8210
    @maridiyaibrahim8210 Рік тому +13

    Anyone who is able to control their sexual urges is most likely going to achieve their goals in life because they're discipline