The One About Intimacy | Couple Things
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- Опубліковано 23 лют 2021
- This week on Couple Things, we tackle the topic you've all been asking for...Intimacy. What it means to us, how we view intimacy, and so much more.
Some of the other topics that we cover are:
:00 intro
- what is intimacy 3:25
- some of your questions 8:08
- how we have kept it alive 11:35
- how things change in different seasons of life 22:12
- how to stay intimate during pregnancy 28:02
- how to not make intimacy a chore when trying to have kids 34:27
- balancing different sex drives 36:43
- intimacy with a baby in the room? 39:49
- who should initiate it? 40:25
- non-physical things to keep intimacy alive in the relationship 44:09
- how often 47:50
- is it normal to struggle with intimacy during marriage? 51:26
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every time I hear the word “Intimacy” it reminds me “in to me see”. meaning seeing your spouse.
The sex in my marriage ended 8 years ago when my husband began having strokes. Intimacy has kept us together. He can still communicate with me and for that I am very grateful.
This is a very interesting testimony. The fact that you two still connect intimately (not sexually) and are still happy being together is beautiful. I admire your love for one another- Truly beautiful! May God continually bless your marriage!
I don’t think you know how badly so many of us needed to hear some of these things. THANK YOU
I love when Shawn said, "...sex is not a relationship. Sex is only a small part of it. You're going to spend 90% of your relationship not having sex with your spouse." (23:40) There is soooo much truth in this statement. You have to be able to communicate and live life with your SO.
I'm not even in a relationship but this Podcast has made me think and grow so much as a person, and helped me prepare for any future relationships. Love, love, love! Ya'll rock. Please do a 2nd episode.
YES!! Agreed!
Don’t get me wrong! Sex is important in a relationship’ in a marriage! I crave that intimacy! I just don’t get it anymore! I guess I can say I’m pretty much feeling alone in our marriage! I do tell her I meed as much she needs intimacy!
As a married woman in her 30s w/a 4 y/o, this conversation brought up a couple of extremely important topics that I need to discuss with my husband. Thank you THANK YOU to Shawn and Andrew for keeping this discussion honest, respectful, frank, but most importantly REAL. If I didn’t already have incredible respect for both of you, I have even more respect now 🙏🏻❤️👍🏻
Taking care of my husband of 43 years as he was fighting his last fight(cancer), we felt more intimate than we ever did having sex. He was completely dependent on me and that was hard for him but he joked that he bet I never expected this when I said in sickness and in health”.
When my husband of 33 years was diagnosed with terminal cancer the sex part ended for various reasons however intimacy has been the part that keeps us connected. It was super hard and we grieved they sex part but we developed new types of intimacy
Same here NashDog Mom! 32 years of marriage for us, and Intimacy really does keep you connected as a couple when you lose the ability to have sex because of health issues. Being honest with each other is a must to keep that connection and intimacy, because Relationships are constantly changing and growing.
I wish you and your husband all the best and health🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💞 lots of love from Poland💖💕
@@monart2009 thank you so much. That was really kind of you
@@nashdogmom2254 🙏🙏💖💕💞💗💓
Praise God for your beautiful marriages. Pray for mine.
Be blessed 🙏
I truly enjoyed this. Been married 17 yrs been with him 19 yrs. Only in our 40s. You are absolutely correct. Intimacy is not always about the act of sex. Its the way you connect and get close to one another. Yes the act of sex does slow down as your relationship ages but you go through chapters in your life. Your relationship shouldn't stay like it was when you first met or you are not growing in your relationship. You need to understand your partner. Be respectful of their body changes. Their insecurities, and more. Thats called marriage and loving your partner. Sex can still be just as good the older you get and longer your relationship ages but its in different ways. Sometimes just a nice walk with your partner with the dog every night leaving your phones and having conversations with your partner holding hands can be so intimate and close. This is a great topic. We all can use this conversation. Part 2 please.
Learning never stops, we are seniors and still changing and learning about each other and what makes each other happy. May it never stop that we are willing to please each other. Isn’t that love?
As a single person, many of the Couple Things topics don't necessarily apply to me but I think it is very important to many people in your age range to hear these things. On this specific topic, as a 56 year old Catholic woman, I have come to realize that I will most likely be single the rest of my life because so many single men in my age range will NOT even consider dating someone if sex is not a significant priority and available early on in the dating time frame. I wish more people understood that intimacy is not necessarily about sex. Thank you for being honest and vulnerable for the benefit of others.
Totally agree Patti Anne! I'm in the same boat, age 60, evangelical Christian single. Very hard to find men that respect the decision of waiting for marriage. We just want to honor God.
Amen sister, thst has been my experience as well.
@Patti Anne I'm Catholic too and struggling to find someone. Have you considered joining Catholic adult groups? You might be able to meet someone with same values and beliefs ^_^ St. Anthony is good to pray for sending a spouse ^_^
I'm 62 yrs old, listening and watching this I've learned to be me.Thank you both ☺️🤗🌞
Yes part 2!! I love how y’all said to not compare your intimate life to other people’s because it isn’t theirs, it’s you and your spouses! Would love to hear more about yalls Christian background and how that led y’all with boundaries before marriage and your view on “Christian dating”:)
My husband and I recently had a baby and we are going through a phase. Thank you for helping me articulate better what I'm feeling and why! I have shared this with my husband for us to discuss today. Sometimes I think hearing the things I have been saying from someone else (you guys) is more effective and doesn't make the other party feel attacked. Never stop Couple Things!
My parents have been married 65 years and every night, my dad gives my mom a half hour foot rub - for them, that is a special form of intimacy and has nothing to do with sex.
Wow, your mom is lucky! Lol
@@givipixie it started a few years ago when she was going through treatment for breast cancer and has carried on ever since. My dad looks forward to it more than she does i think.
Kudos for the Video! Apologies for the intrusion, I would love your initial thoughts. Have you heard about - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (google it)? It is a smashing one of a kind guide for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger minus the headache. Ive heard some awesome things about it and my close friend Aubrey at last got amazing success with it.
I love how your dad takes care of your mom! For years I started to offer to dry my wife’s back and backside when she comes out of the shower! Even on trips I do that for my wife! Plus I put out a wash cloth and a towel for her for years on trips too
Intimacy is a different level of closeness and communication! Couples can have sex and just go through the motions. What makes it intimate is knowing your partner, knowing their needs, wants, and desires. The connectedness is what makes the act of sex intimate. Love you guys! Thank you for always being transparent!
This is why so many relationships fail. Too many (younger people especially) start their relationship based purely on physical attraction and sex and don’t pay enough attention to the rest of it
@@hayleymarse2853 Well said. I agree 100%
@@hayleymarse2853I totally agree with everything you said! I know what my wife want! Her needs!
You may wonder why a 61 year old grandma is viewing a podcast on intimacy in relationships, but I believe we are all here to learn from each other and a big part of this is sharing our experiences. You all are so good at doing this and because I have had failed relationships and my kids come to me for advice, I can use your success as a couple to pass on to my kids. Intimacy is one of the most valuable components of a healthy relationship and so many people think that intimacy just means sex. Thank you for the valuable contributions you are making to other couples relationships and for giving me a valuable tool to assist me in explaining the difference to my adult kids and grandkids who need to know what true intimacy is. I know you are not experts but sometimes the human approach far outweighs any educational approach.
Love this discussion. I’ve been married 16 yrs (together 23) & agree w/all of it. Phases are totally normal. Having kids changes your sexual intimacy. For me, I enjoyed it during pregnancy up until the last trimester (rough) but then having young kids makes it tough then it gets better..then you have teenagers & if you live in close quarters that comes w/challenges because now they now about sex & lord knows you don’t want them hearing anything (traumatizing) 😳😂 But in general we found physical intimacy to be heightened after having kids for multiple reasons. And yes, trust & communication are key. Resentment can creep in if you’re not intentional about open dialog, being respectful & having grace for the other persons needs. And compromise is huge.. I like that word better than sacrifice. When you do something you don’t necessarily feel like doing for the good of your relationship it’s not a sacrifice, it’s compromising because hopefully it’s a mutual thing that your spouse does as well. Totally agree that intimacy is far deeper than sex & doesn’t even have to include sex however, obviously a healthy marriage should include as much sex as you & your spouse need to feel connected. Men tend to need physical intimacy more whereas women tend to need emotional intimacy more. It’s just about learning how to best serve the other person & communicating your own needs as well.
My deceased husband always said that sometimes the best sex/intimacy isn't about the act or penetration it's about the affection you show each other whether just be cuddling or like Shawn said just simply talking & laughing laying in bed together. I know for him and I also we both agreed that we never wanted to use the word sex in the term I want sex, we had sex, etc. we always wanted it to be more than just sex. We always used the word made/making love, it just help romanticize it more. Anyone can have sex he said, but it take effort and work to make love and be romantic, however it looks again different for every couple.
I'm not sure if you guys have mentioned this in the past, but I was hoping you guys could do a whole video on your Christian background and how that influenced your decisions/ views on sex. I know Andrew mentioned sometimes coming from a Christian background there are boundaries and rules that you have to follow and that can become an "idol" or to strive for perfection in staying pure. Wondering if you could answer how you overcame that or if you guys did wait until marriage to have sex?
Yes!! I would really love this too!
YES PLEASE.
Yes!
In a previous video on the East Family channel (I think it was a truth or dear type format) Mr. East opened up and answered this question. I do not want feel comfortable to re-answer it for him, but if I remember the link I will try remember to share it.
@@gilashroot8697 classy answer👍
Absolutely there are stages in every relationship. One of the biggest things I’ve learned is good communication always fosters deeper intimacy. If you’re not constantly talking and getting to know one another, then I feel sex becomes more surface. You’ve got to stay in tune, no matter what comes. You have to prioritize each other and be fully transparent. Because there’s always going to be something that comes up where intimacy takes a hit. Sometimes it’s with disagreements, with moving, with expanding family dynamics, with illness and more. Its forever going to be something that requires effort and consistency.
Men’s view of intimacy is also very different to women’s and I feel like you have to connect those dots too. Understanding that quite frankly, some men view sex as confirmation/result of intimacy and if it’s missing I find they do disconnect.
So much great content in this conversation. Great podcast I can tell you guys were very thoughtful with this. It was really good.
I’m new to your podcast and obviously 2 years later because I’m binge watching your podcasts, I’m 56 years old and twiced divorced. I wish I had y’all 20/30 years ago to listen to. I had 3 c-sections and I felt that both of my husbands were not comprehending the fact that I had major surgery bringing my babies into the world plus taking care of the little ones, trying to cook, clean and also take care of them they were selfish! I needed to be pampered as well. Most men back then were like hey soak it up and do your duty and please me! I was so alone. My middle child is married with 2 children and her husband is the exact opposite! He is so understanding and caring to her needs. Maybe it’s a generation gap idk but I’m so glad that in your generation that men are on the same page and more in tune to your feelings. You are so blessed to have a kind,loving and caring husband and visa versa! To top it off I’m a proud grandmother of two beautiful grandchildren and now me and my first husband are currently seeing each other and both acknowledge what went wrong! Thank you so much for talking about this! Y’all rock as a couple and it’s kinda insane how I’m learning how to be a good partner from you both because I’m old enough to be your mother! Y’all are so smart, and good at what you’re doing to expose yourself and bring so much purpose to the Gen X generation and everyone else!
This was one of my favorite episodes YET! I love the way Shawn expresses her opinions and discusses this topic. She completely spoke my language and I am so appreciative for people like her to have a platform.
As a newly wed, I needed to hear some of the things we go through are NORMAL! And even though things happened earlier on in our relationship/marriage, I still need to communicate that those things are still wanted and needed for me
Can’t tell you how much I appreciate you guys talking about all of these topics! I’ve been with my husband for almost 15 years (since we were teenagers), and married for 8 with 3 kiddos. Intimacy OUTSIDE of sex is KEY in marriage. It greatly improves our communication so it’s all full circle. And just know, there will always be ups and downs. Marriage isn’t easy, but insanely worth it! ❤️❤️
My husband and I lacked intimacy for a long time but we stopped and talked through things and figured out what we both needed from each other for intimacy to be there and we’ve been better ever since.
actually laughed out loud about your dog being in the room feeling so weird - have literally had the same conversation with my husband while both of our large dogs stare at us. 😂
Amazing job giving your experience & advice without compromising or dishonoring each other & your private relationship!! I feel like sometimes people want to know too many personal or private details. Thank you 💕
Shawn and Andrew, thank you for having this topic on your Podcast. I am a survivor of domestic violence and rape with PTSD due to the trauma. My husband and I have had many conversations about love languages and our intimacy is phenomenal because of them. We have been married for 6 years, but together for 15 total.
I appreciated this episode a lot! I appreciate how you handled this with depth and maturity and the greater picture of intimacy. I’ve seen podcasts or videos on this topic which are so gossipy , inappropriate and quite frankly TMI. We do not need to know how frequently you and Shawn have sex and your personal bedroom preferences. It’s absolutely none of our business and I believe an invasion of your privacy. Thank you so much for your thoughtful handling of this topic.
I just encourage you to continue your habits of communication and trust. Now as a Mama of two children where we are past the baby stage .... 2 under 2 will be intense. Keep your habits, keep laughing, get help when you need it, keep putting each other first and you will come out in a few years with such a rock-solid marriage and family.
I love this episode. I hear y’all speak and I’ve come to a couple of conclusions:
1. Sex is not the door to intimacy but the consummation of it.
2. This only because I’m a birth and postpartum educator/Doula. If we educate ourselves during pregnancy about what to expect during birth and the 4th trimester than we can better prepare to keep the door of communication open. Theoretically this will help maintain the intimacy because dads can understand what mom is going what she will go through. Moms can understand that their roller coaster of emotions is normal and not guilt themselves for it. So many things
3. Talking about Data points. We have to get rid of the notion that sex is a transactional thing. You’re trading goods and services. Absolutely not! Once you get rid of that notion, and you begin to understand that sex is a layer of intimacy than data doesn’t matter.
Sense of humour is very necessary for a good marriage
This one hit me really hard. I didnt know how to put some of my feelings into words but the fact is I haven’t felt like I can be vulnerable for years in my marriage because of judgement of just having feelings. I am in therapy and recently started couples therapy to help but it’s extremely tiring to revisit past hurt within my marriage. Thank you.
Listening to the two of you uncomfortable and being valuable with us is beautiful.
I absolutely love your podcast Shawn and Andrew!! You two are an amazing couple and I appreciate the time you put into all of this! 💚
Intimacy is great as long as you can find someone to stick around long enough. Too many people hit a bump in the relationship, then boom, they're over it. Sad
Truth! 💚 I love y'alls honesty. I think everyone in the beginning has an unrealistic view of how marriage is, will or should be. BUT as long as both don't give up and stay respectful, the ups and downs won't be so damaging. My husband and I have been married for 20 years, we have 3 kids in HS. And everyday we learn a lil more and that's ok. 💚
Thank you for being vulnerable enough to put this out into the world. I appreciate what you are doing.
My husband and i have been talking about intamency and our relationship here lately. I hope to listen to this again with him. Thank you.
This was great and love how open you two are about everything!
This really has been the most helpful of all the episodes so far - and I wasn't expecting that...You guys did a great job of keeping it so helpful and classy.
Yes please do a part 2! This was wonderful!!
This is actually my favorite podcast from you guys so far. Very relatable and grounded.
Those statistics are mind blowing.
This podcast has been super helpful. I’m pregnant with our second and I have been feeling as far as one could be from feeling sexy. My husband is so understanding of this and I’ve been feeling guilty knowing his needs aren’t being met. Hearing some suggestions of other non-physical forms of intimacy has been super helpful! Thank you two!
I really appreciate that you kept a lot of the specifics out of this - we all need to compare ourselves less and focus on what our own souls need 💕
I could tell that your words were so carefully thought out and genuine. This episode was very thought provoking! Thank you!
The changes and transitions you speak of continue on through the decades that you are married. My wife and I are approaching our 34th anniversary, and we are having more fun with intimacy now than maybe ever. We are empty nesters. And that makes a definite difference! So, the need to communicate never goes away.
Awesome episode! "Humor and communication" I cannot agree more. It's so important to feel comfortable with your spouse and be able to laugh in the most vulnerable situations.
Your so open on all aspects of your relationship. You're a great couple. Thank you for sharing.
You both hit it on the nail in the classiest way every episode. So relatable and always inform me on topics I have so many thoughts about. Thank you guys for being so vulnerable and honest
Maybe talk about intimacy after a miscarriage ? I’ve had two losses so far so it would be nice to hear from someone else. 💛
This would be a great episode!
I absolutely loved this episode and y’all seriously nailed it! You guys explained and broke down everything so perfectly with examples and references. I truly think this is going to help so many people. Myself being married for 10 years there’s a few things I’m taking from this that we haven’t practiced and I’m thankful for that. You guys are amazing. Thank you for talking about the hard things. 💜
This was so raw and relevant and done with so much candor in a classy, fun way. Loved it! I feel like one of the the most fundamental things about intimacy is making sure your husband/wife/significant other feels how important, special, and significant they are to you and your entire existence. It allows the confidence and security your “person” needs to feel loved and adored and for them to want to reciprocate all those things making for a beautiful emotional and physical connection and relationship.
Every podcast is pure gold and wisdom. Love you guys!
I heard someone say before that intimacy is an overflowing of love for another. That has always stuck with me. 💓
However many episodes you need to make please do. This information is vital. Great episode.
So great! I'm still towards the beginning of the episode, but I think another barrier to real intimacy with your significant other is the need to compare ourselves to other couples. I like how you said that what works for one may not work for another. I'd love another episode diving deeper. If you feel like sharing your personal intimacy, go for it! But I think also allowing you guys to keep that between you is a way we can respect your boundaries. Anyway, as a professional marriage, family, and children's counselor, I appreciate the unbiased but genuine information you guys gave. Love and appreciate you both!
Loved this one Shawn and Andrew! I really appreciate your honesty and openness. Intimacy should be talked about more and I loved the concept of intimacy not just being all about sex. I tend to feel guilty when I feel like my fiancé and I aren’t having sex “enough”. But it’s true when you’re in a committed relationship with someone there will always be phases. Thank you for sharing your experience and I look forward to your next episode!
I really enjoyed this podcast. Im glad you talked about intimacy, and just how it changes through a relationship. Its so true. I always thought that would be the easiest part, and then life happens. Its so easy to forget that we all need to feel special,and loved too, even the small things can help. Thanks for sharing your personal experience and thoughts on this.
I think y’all should do updates on past podcasts for people like me who are new to the channel. That would be such an awesome podcast to go over and review the comments that came in way after the original episode!
This podcast has helped my husband and I so much! Thank you guys for being willing to discuss such things!
Thanks for this episode guys; I really appreciated how open, honest, and helpful you guys were! 😊
This was incredible insight as I was a month away from getting married, thank you SO much for your vulnerability and transparency!
Yes i agree 💯. Starting a marriage off with very helpful advice, such as this, is key to building a lasting intimate relationship. Been married for almost 19 years and the advice given here is so relatable and helpful. I would love to hear more as i think this will be of much help for us as well.
I Thank the lord for the fact that I believe my future husband will do anything and everything to make me happy.
Ok i think this was my favorite episode . I definitely needed to hear some of these things. Its hard not to compare . Thanks for the fun ideas. ❤️
In a relationship sex is important but intimacy is more important. My husband and I are once a weekers, occasionally twice. We’re opposites when it comes to sex, I’m the one usually wanting it and he’s like eh doesn’t matter if we do or not.
Thank you!!! Love this so much. Communication is definitely the key to it all!
THANK YOU for this video :) thank you for taking the time to share and give us advice, loved the video!!
Thank you for this episode. It is certainly "the" episode ;). I agree totally intamacy is a feeling of connection and closeness that cannot be put into words. I really appreciate your openness and willingness to open up about a vulnerable topic. You really covered this very comprehensively and responsibility. You voiced very important points. Every time you do an episode about couples, I learn something, but more importantly it connects me to others and myself. So thank you.
Would love a part two!!!!
Can you talk about what you did (if anything) about this topic when preparing for marriage with your partner? Did y’all start being intentional with (non sex) intimacy when you were dating/engaged. What did that look like?
Thank you for talking about this. My bf and I have been together for a year and we are still struggling with it.
One of my favorite podcasts from you two on here.
Thank you so much for this!! So blessed by this podcast 😌
Loved this video and your podcast in general! Thank you for these episodes!
I have watched your videos from time to time. Andrew you are just precious. Your parents should be commanded raising you to be the young man you are. Shawn you are too! Keep your eyes on the Lord and let him be at the center of it all.
First I love that y’all did this!! I think it’s so important to have these conversations.
For so many years and even now people are so Embarrassed to talk about intimacy or sex.
When it’s such a natural thing, that we all experience.
For anyone watching this could open up a conversation with their spouse they didn’t know they needed to have.
LOVE IT!
I am a very open person, and sometimes probably too open at times. 🤣🥴
But that has helped me have these conversations with friends and other couples.
The main part of this whole video is communication!!
Just talking about intimacy or sex can change so much in your marriage alone!
I had sent a question via IG asking if y’all talk about expectations.
That was a conversation that my husband and I had a couple years ago and it actually helped take the pressure of me, as a wife. I felt that my husband ALWAYS wanted sex; and I wasn’t able to do that. I asked him what his expectations were on the amounts either per week or month. What I had thought in my head was way different (less) than what he told me.
I know sex Is very important for MY marriage. So I do try and make it a priority. But just having communication, has helped so much.
And often “taking one for the team” has helped as well😉.
But we’ve been together for almost 15 years and have a pretty healthy sex life. We go through the ups and downs like all marriages, and that is OK!!!
Just be open and honest with your partner.
If you don’t feel comfortable doing it face to face.. send a text. It can be easier to have a conversation through text sometimes rather than in person.
I am already excited to see part two!!!
Love everything about what you guys shared🙌🏻 Thank you for being willing to share your story for others to relate.
This was amazing! So helpful! Please do part 2!
I watched this for the 1st time about intamiticy and you guys helped me out alot so Thank You so much...
Thanks for your transparency, especially on this topic.
EXCELLENT session! You both are so open and honest and so very well-spoken! I think your talk will help many married couples! ❤️🙏🙏
This is the first video I have watched of your podcasts and I thought it had some really great points to think about and I appreciated your realness and honesty! I will definitely be watching more! I am in a long term relationship which sometimes seems to have lulls and not always sure where to go with that as we are both young and have an almost 3 year old. It’s hard to navigate growing up and figuring out our relationship while also being a huge influence on a little one. Hoping to continue to learn more from you guys and grow each day 😊
Love this. 😍💖Just wanted to mention to the ladies out there, a great way to know when you're ovulating without a test, just pay attention to when you start having discharge. This is a natural sign of ovulation and typically occurs 1 to 1.5 weeks after your period stops. Hard to not make it feel like a chore when you're so focused on tests. Thanks for being so open you two, we love you!💖🙏🌞🌈🤗🤩
Great perspectives. Its all about love, true intimacy, trust, and freedom I think! People should find what works for them ad a couple and it should never be condemning or guilt driven 💖
Love love love this episode!! Please do Part 2!!
Thank you both for this- y’all have so much wisdom, I really appreciate all these videos! ❤
Love this advice, thank you both! And would love a part 2!
Thank you!! You guys are awesome to watch!
Thank you for this episode. Beautiful to see the vulnerability and honesty.
Part 2 please love it!
Thank you so much for this. It was beautifully said/stated, etc.
Such a beautiful, respectful episode. Thank you for that.
This conversation was soo great and helpful! Thank you for doing this! Very thoughtful, informative, respectful and classy! It gave me such insight into my own relationship. The ebbs and flows of how you and your partner are intimate/ are not intimate is such a great way of describing it.
just wow. thanx. i soooooooooooooo much appreciate how vunerable and honest you are. Im 10000 yrs old but i learn something everytime. Next time your in Westfield, let me know. luv to tee it up. luv u guys
This was so amazing, honest, such good advice! ❤️
Yea, yea, yea...homegirl lucked the eff out with this guy. He's just a good guy thru and thru. Good 4 ya, Shawna.👏👏👏
I think there were some really important points covered in this video. One thing I would like to see you pull into your episodes is more awareness of people whose couple/family life looks very different than yours does. For example, couples who work different work shifts, parents who work outside of the home, those who rely on full-time childcare (not a family member), etc. It's not remotely realistic for parents who are rushing to get themselves and their young children out of the door by 6 AM to have reading time or deep conversation in the mornings. There are many of us who cannot have regular date nights because we work different shifts or because we don't have anyone to watch our kids in the evenings. I'd also love to see some inclusion of how poor body image plays into a couple's sex life.
I get what you are saying, however they often state how this is THEIR story and not everyone will relate. so I think you asking them to discuss something different from their story is kind of missing the point.
@@montanakirkum8260 they have said in several podcasts that they are hoping to reach couples from around the world and in various walks of life. both Shawn and Andrew seem like open-minded and welcoming individuals...i highly doubt that their goal is to reach people who live the same lives they do. the reason they take feedback and questions from subscribers is because they want to tailor their podcasts accordingly. i was merely giving a suggestion.
Great job on a very challenging subject matter, guys! Coming from a Marriage and Family Therapist. Tons of wisdom and I even learned a few great ideas from you
Nooo I didn’t want the video to end!! Love you guys!
I enjoyed that thank u. Communicating about such intimacy is scary but a must with ur spouse. I appreciate that discussion.