A lot of you didn’t watch the video for 2 minutes. Yall are telling me connecting is what we’re supposed to do as humans and that I’m full of myself for not talking but I quite literally said that I want deep connections….so obviously I do talk and have close bonds with ppl. yall are annoying
Don't let it get you. Someone told me to stop care and stress about things I have no control over, it breaks you. Life is easier and less stressful that way, you keep your cool and you will learn to be patient and let things go theyre way. Patience is something that takes time to learn. Keep goin! Greets from Germany 🇩🇪.
For the life of me, I can’t understand why more people from my generation find fear in being alone and being lonely. Use that time and space to heal yourself and know what you want instead of allowing others to steer your path for you.
I’d only partially agree. We need to make an important distinction between aloneness and loneliness. It’s difficult to focus on oneself and healing when they don’t have the option of connection. After all, in the case of loneliness (which one seldom chooses) connections between people are a big factor in that healing and self discovery. So it’s no wonder many aren’t okay with loneliness. But being okay with aloneness is a completely different thing and can be really beneficial. A lot of people seem to group those two words together far too simply when they mean different things.
@@marshmelloo356I understand that. I kind of meant in a way to not be in the wrong crowd once you think you’re ready to socialize again. Because what if you end up with a friend or a partner and they ruin that healing for you as a scenario? Learning that discernment during your isolation period could prevent that. But yes, alone ≠ lonely. It’s good to be alone if you need to be but not lonely. That hurts a bit more. But don’t force yourself to be in bad company to deny loneliness.
@@vibe9155It is paralyzing, but also being around people who wish on your downfall is traumatizing. Learning to be alone (not lonely) for a temporary period is way better.
It’s so peaceful being alone, I wouldn’t dare break it for someone who doesn’t match my vibe. Also without distractions or obligations, I can fully focus on being my best self and enjoying my own company ❤
When the average person can’t figure someone out, they get uncomfortable, because many people are use to playing people according to the matrix, many people want to get what they can get from people, gain, not necessarily love
A lot of people are use to coming across aggressive black people, although people accept Asian people for their stillness and cerebral stoicism, when black people do it, most people don’t have a mental recollection of black people being zen
I'm 37 years old and I'm an introvert. Not anti social but socially selective. It takes me a while to feel people out. It's such a extrovert world and it feels like lately I been forcing myself to be more extrovert. It feels like a lot a people talk just to avoid silence. You are like the female version of me
Hi. You are totally right about holding your ground on wanting authentic relationships. You remind me so much of me. I totally relate. You just popped up on my channel feed. Even if they think you are a b..it's great to get to the point where you are ok with being misunderstood and misjudged. The reason they ask you if you are ok all the time..is because they aren't ok with your silence. Are these people asking you about you as far as who you are? Are they trying to get to know you on a spiritual level? And yes. So many black women are the loud friendly ones and talking 1st and making others comfortable..so when you are a black woman that is an introvert..you make them uncomfortable. Keep on being authentic
Always be your authentic self, Elevated being. You never have to explain to others why you are not like them. I live alone in the mountains and my phone is always on airplane mode. I love it! It protects my energy and keeps me high vibrational. We are energetic beings and will vibrate like our surroundings. Do we want to become chao/drama/complaining.... or do we want to find our peace, happiness and joy? When you find that, you start walking your purpose.
as long as it doesnt turn into judging everyone else and seeing yourself as above them, thats narcissistic, and happens often when we stay to ourselves and judge everyone else
A lot of people in America associate people being alone with being on time out as a kid, for doing things you should not do, plus some people think it’s narcissistic to focus on your self too much, which in many cases, it’s true, yet being alone can build self accountability and self discipline
Yeah this definitely me. Its even hard when you're dating. I was dating this woman recently and she's a good person , i don't have anything bad to say about her but she broke things off with me because she couldn't connect with me all the way , she felt that there was times i was being too reserved and that confused her. She wanted me to initiate conversations more , call her more frequently rather then just texting. We went on our first date and she explained to me how i was only creating small talk. I reflected back on it tho and i can understand to a certain a degree , but im just a very laid back introverted person. Its some things i would like and currently improving on but overall im just a simple person. I can start and have a conversation with you but not for long 😅 like i can't even yap to you about the things i really like fr , i get tired of talking quickly 😂. Sorry for this book i wrote...i think i needed to get this off my chest 🤣🤙🏾
i resonate a lot with this video. i also struggled with “shyness” growing up and just always being questioned because i too just don’t feel like talking lmaooo. i am now growing comfortable with my CHOICE in how and who i interact with.
Most people.. oh look at that Asian person enjoying nature by themselves, also most people, what’s that black person doing in the park all by themselves for.. 😢
You're me! lol. I wish we lived in the same country, you are a beautiful black girl. Being alone can be nice sometimes, but for me it's mostly hell. Wherever I go I'm alone. I feel bad when I see people having fun or talking together, and that's why everywhere I go turns into hell. I'm socially awkward, the bad thing is that because I don't communicate with anyone, no one realizes my potential or abilities. It's been like this my whole life and it will be like this. I don't want to meet anyone because I can't find anyone like me. I don't care at all about the things people like, the movies they watch, the music they listen to or their hobbies. If you're not from the majority, life will just be torture. Also, people don't understand your desire to be alone of your own free will. It's like everyone has to be like them. Who determined this? Not everyone has to be like them.
I relate to this one hundred percent. I just don’t connect with most people. Never met anyone like me. Not trying to sound like a snowflake just being honest.
I’m like that. Sometimes it spooks people out. It was worse when I was younger. Found online they call it Selective Mutism. Learned live with it. It’s my super power
“Being alone makes you a visionary” I used to feel so bad about keeping to myself even though I’m not even introverted but you get the advantage of being from the outside looking in.
Healthy healed people dont mind being alone. Obviously people need social interaction. But these people who fear being alone above all else are spiritually injured and looking for someone to keep them together.
Growing up I grew up so shy same as you but now I talk when I please and I’m comfortable. I use work at Walmart and I rarely made awkward small ! People are uncomfortable with silence and love to project because they don’t know what you’re thinking it’s more of us insecurity . me person don’t feel like putting on a façade just to fit society standards.
Bruh, you basically are living my Future Plan, my Future life! I'm you when I'm in my 40's 😂. I did the whole outside thing, the whole lots of friends thing, the player phase when it comes to girls, the whole prison thing, all that immature stuff, now I'm owning Loner phase, and it's a beautiful thing. God is GOOD!
I feel like us meeting in real life would be a fun experience because I relate to a lot of the things you say. (Side note) id like to think I’m socially comfortable but a lot of the times I notice I put up a front at first with meeting anyone, like you it takes me a while to reveal all of me to someone,at the same time I am very comfortable in my own presence and for most people my social battery does have a limit but bro I just want some genuine connections someone I can share these life experiences with, I’d like some community.
Lots of people don’t just seat and feel life, most people are caught up in being a ping pong ball in the destructive side of life.. aka the rat race .. I recommend people get back to nature, and have more self love, and less desperate attachments to toxic people, reserve your energies for true connections
You are the girl version of me. I’m just too authentic to the point where some ppl just don’t understand or want to comprehend how I am as a person. This is the root reason for why I don’t have much friends or even lack of romantic relationships
I've felt this way since the second half of my high school years till now (2nd yr uni). Imma call it "micro-FOMO" and it's real. Rn though I don't really care, I just be chilling fr. Trying to make people like me is so cringe, I'd rather die ngl (nah but I'm actually lying).
Someone. Gets. Me. I literally can only do deep connections or nothing. I’m a deeply feeling and loving girl but only to the right people you know, like as you said, no offense but I just don’t have the tolerance for stupid people 😭 also I have learned the people who talk the most always have the least to say
Im like the opposite of shy , I'm like super projected when I speak , unfiltered asf , I talk to ppl like I've known them my whole life 😂😂😂😂but I tend to be a loner
if you're ever in Southern California? wanna grab a coffee and go Hiking and enjoy nature... don't worry i'm a lone Wolf too i won't bring a lot of People with me only my little Dog Mya. lol
I get what you mean about feeling like its a race thing. Im half black (wm/bm) and my mum and her side of the family always think I have a problem because of my face. I love friendship but no one is ever interested becoming my friend, but I'm a very friendly person and it kinda hurts. I think I would be more comfortable with having only one friend if my parents weren't always poking fun at me for it.
Yea, like myself I appreciate my own solitude and quietness, then when I feel like engaging with others I’ll make the effort. When I was younger I tried making friends but realized it was a waste of energy giving up my identity and integrity for social acceptance. I’m not gonna say there are times I haven’t given into peer pressure, but after that I decided I’d rather be my own person.
You're very beautiful and intelligent...people will try to get 100% out of you during every interaction and it's draining. Big reason i prefer to be in my own space most of the time
Hey being alone is a superpower it allowed me to grow my relationship with God and also I was set free from anxiety depression fear of the unknown etc.. best time of my life l highly recommend praying and fasting if whoever reads Is interesting in that God bless everyone.
Great video! Being a loner is good. I also only want deep connections & not superficial ones. People enjoy the “play” or “ games” of conversations in someone’s face. Keep It Champagne 🥇🏆🍾
I understand exactly we’re your coming from. I’m a loner silent and intense but can open up to certain ppl when the energy is genuine. For me it has to be a real feeling or meaningful for me to open up just to conversate but I just wanted to say thank you for this video. Bjork - All is full of love
this resonates SO much with me omg, it's crazy i found this randomly when trying to find videos to watch while doing work. what you were describing, with ppl thinking you always have an attitude and that you come off as intimidating as a Black woman/fem, this is exactly how i've been feeling for awhile. i think i like to say i enjoy being alone, but i'm definitely not there yet and am in the process, because i honestly do wish i didn't come off that way as times. but i realize it really is a gift to only attract people into your life that see past that. anyway, glad i found your channel! :)
You look like Bethel, an Ethiopian lady I knew in university in Ottawa, Canada. Are you from Ethiopia or Eritrea ? Your people have a unique look, for sure.
I think our bodies speak way more authentically than our words do....and people pay attention. I'm just like you but im trying to attune myself to be more connectable without compromising my authentic self. loneliness sucks
I've been alone since 2010. I'm 29, I've been alone by default.. not my choice. I'm a musician and artist, I play keyboard and electric guitar and play Metal and Classical Music as well as Experimental Music.. I don't know why ppl don't want to get the chance to know one another then they use apps like TikTok and complain about not having friends but the "friends" they usually have are on online video gaming or Social media and not in real life.. as much as I'd like a friend I don't know if that'll happen.. imo I think ppl are to scared to know someone that's not online (partially joking). Well, I use my skills of being a musician and painter/drawer to my advantage to distract myself from having no friends.. the funny thing is ppl think because I'm an attractive person that I have friends etc.. but then I tell them, no, actually I have 0 friends. Their faces are just like 🤔😲😦😧 It's whatever though, if ppl want to be friends with someone they'll present themselves when the right moment is there.. that's my two cents, ok, bye bye 👋
I feel this . I talk when I want to or somebody intrigues my interest . I don’t mind small talk cause I try to make it fun. I love being alone and need my space. When I get in a friendship I get too consumed with the other person. I think that people project on quiet people !
ur so beautiful and inspiring. i relate so much of what u said but a lot of these parts of me i want to change and am deeply ashamed of. Hearing this out loud from another person with so much self love healed something in my brain
I resonate with how you are when you meet new people. I take the first couple of times meeting them to gauge who they are and how they act. At first im quiet and probably wont talk to them besides a few words. If they give good energy Ill open up more.
After a number of years of being rejected and kept at arms length I’ve had no choice but to keep myself to myself,bring alone gives me ultimate and tranquility and I don’t miss peoples bitching and putting me down.
Matthew 25:31 All the nations will be gathered before him, and he will separate the people one from another as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats
Well they can not fully meet you if your not talking.. Maybe you're having a whole conversation in your head that does not reflection in your character , off putting !! Leave know space to get to know you
the amount of times I said clock that tea at everything you said! being a black girl and also introverted… ouuu they gone hate real bad. I can literally be happy asf and somebody would come up to me and be like “are you okay” and then I overthink about it all day because I hated how ppl perceived me as mean but now I just don’t have the time to keep proving myself to people anymore.
You dress like a weirdo and get a bunch of unconventional piercing to where even if someone wanted to be near you they can't, then wonder why you alone. You isolate your self.
Being alone wasn't something I wanted..but God wanted it for me. To grow and learn myself, and get stronger. To be ready for the right woman to come along. I see the purpose of it now. It's a blessing
A lot of you didn’t watch the video for 2 minutes. Yall are telling me connecting is what we’re supposed to do as humans and that I’m full of myself for not talking but I quite literally said that I want deep connections….so obviously I do talk and have close bonds with ppl. yall are annoying
Don't let it get you. Someone told me to stop care and stress about things I have no control over, it breaks you. Life is easier and less stressful that way, you keep your cool and you will learn to be patient and let things go theyre way. Patience is something that takes time to learn. Keep goin! Greets from Germany 🇩🇪.
please tell me you're a taurus?! or a earth sign in general 😣
@@mikejurgens1013 patience is something I’ve been learning alot lately, thank you from charlotte North Carolina!
@@davedashawn1599 who? me?
I’ll be your deepest darkest friend 😂. Nah but I’m the male version of you fr. Quiet is peace, fuck the haters. Masking is way too draining anyways.
For the life of me, I can’t understand why more people from my generation find fear in being alone and being lonely. Use that time and space to heal yourself and know what you want instead of allowing others to steer your path for you.
I’d only partially agree. We need to make an important distinction between aloneness and loneliness. It’s difficult to focus on oneself and healing when they don’t have the option of connection. After all, in the case of loneliness (which one seldom chooses) connections between people are a big factor in that healing and self discovery. So it’s no wonder many aren’t okay with loneliness. But being okay with aloneness is a completely different thing and can be really beneficial. A lot of people seem to group those two words together far too simply when they mean different things.
@@marshmelloo356I understand that. I kind of meant in a way to not be in the wrong crowd once you think you’re ready to socialize again. Because what if you end up with a friend or a partner and they ruin that healing for you as a scenario? Learning that discernment during your isolation period could prevent that.
But yes, alone ≠ lonely. It’s good to be alone if you need to be but not lonely. That hurts a bit more. But don’t force yourself to be in bad company to deny loneliness.
@@afrofaeries Loneliness is paralyzing
@@vibe9155It is paralyzing, but also being around people who wish on your downfall is traumatizing. Learning to be alone (not lonely) for a temporary period is way better.
Solitude is key to introspection.
you just like me fr. I just be chilling 🙏🏾
💯
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I feel the same way. I hate small talk. I have no issue being alone I love more organic connections and I’m a deep thinker.
Yes!!!
Yup I just be in my space thinking and writing lool
Small talk is like reading a cover of a book
worse. the book cover makes me wanna read the book. small talk...tuh. i hope i understand what you meant
Why are people online cooler than people offline
Because being online = vulnerability for most people
Cuz I can do this 😎
Because it’s captured moments edited and presented in the most palatable way not raw even they themselves aren’t that cool offline lmaoo
@@thealchemist1951Lol facts real life is called that for a reason
@@NgqabuthoLloydMafu yup
It’s so peaceful being alone, I wouldn’t dare break it for someone who doesn’t match my vibe. Also without distractions or obligations, I can fully focus on being my best self and enjoying my own company ❤
When the average person can’t figure someone out, they get uncomfortable, because many people are use to playing people according to the matrix, many people want to get what they can get from people, gain, not necessarily love
judging everyone will lead to judging yourself and a reclusive life
Did anyone ever let you know that you are absolutely gorgeous!!?
I’ve heard before 😭 and thank you ❤️
Girl we should be friends, I hate ppl always making judgments b4 actually knowing me
A lot of people are use to coming across aggressive black people, although people accept Asian people for their stillness and cerebral stoicism, when black people do it, most people don’t have a mental recollection of black people being zen
I'm 37 years old and I'm an introvert. Not anti social but socially selective. It takes me a while to feel people out. It's such a extrovert world and it feels like lately I been forcing myself to be more extrovert. It feels like a lot a people talk just to avoid silence. You are like the female version of me
Gay
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Hi. You are totally right about holding your ground on wanting authentic relationships. You remind me so much of me. I totally relate. You just popped up on my channel feed. Even if they think you are a b..it's great to get to the point where you are ok with being misunderstood and misjudged. The reason they ask you if you are ok all the time..is because they aren't ok with your silence. Are these people asking you about you as far as who you are? Are they trying to get to know you on a spiritual level? And yes. So many black women are the loud friendly ones and talking 1st and making others comfortable..so when you are a black woman that is an introvert..you make them uncomfortable. Keep on being authentic
judging others has led to this, but you want others to accept you as you are.
@@AaronD313Exactly, people want to be understood but fail to understand others mate.
Where can i find people like you
Exactly
Usually we’re just chilling at cafes, bookstores, parks, or thrift/record shops. Or just a homebody bc everyone else is annoying
I’ve been looking them for years!!
@@afrofaeriesliterally
Sometimes it feels like u always have to be "entertaining" I just wanna meet chill people where we're not saying anything but saying everything
Always be your authentic self, Elevated being. You never have to explain to others why you are not like them. I live alone in the mountains and my phone is always on airplane mode. I love it! It protects my energy and keeps me high vibrational. We are energetic beings and will vibrate like our surroundings. Do we want to become chao/drama/complaining.... or do we want to find our peace, happiness and joy? When you find that, you start walking your purpose.
as long as it doesnt turn into judging everyone else and seeing yourself as above them, thats narcissistic, and happens often when we stay to ourselves and judge everyone else
It really doesn't bother me if I hardly have any friends. People drain and they take from you. I enjoy the peace and the solitude for the most part!
A lot of people in America associate people being alone with being on time out as a kid, for doing things you should not do, plus some people think it’s narcissistic to focus on your self too much, which in many cases, it’s true, yet being alone can build self accountability and self discipline
I felt and still feel this way. People always thought I was conceited too, I’m just quiet and reserved.
Yeah this definitely me. Its even hard when you're dating. I was dating this woman recently and she's a good person , i don't have anything bad to say about her but she broke things off with me because she couldn't connect with me all the way , she felt that there was times i was being too reserved and that confused her. She wanted me to initiate conversations more , call her more frequently rather then just texting. We went on our first date and she explained to me how i was only creating small talk. I reflected back on it tho and i can understand to a certain a degree , but im just a very laid back introverted person. Its some things i would like and currently improving on but overall im just a simple person. I can start and have a conversation with you but not for long 😅 like i can't even yap to you about the things i really like fr , i get tired of talking quickly 😂. Sorry for this book i wrote...i think i needed to get this off my chest 🤣🤙🏾
i resonate a lot with this video. i also struggled with “shyness” growing up and just always being questioned because i too just don’t feel like talking lmaooo. i am now growing comfortable with my CHOICE in how and who i interact with.
heavy on the im always irritated!!!!
@@keeperofkeyzget over yourself
@@AaronD313 NO DEVLIN! GET INTO YOURSELF!
@@keeperofkeyz fine but stop judging everyone else, thatll turn you into a narcissist if it hasnt already
@@AaronD313 lmaooo are u trolling me devlin 🤭
I genuinely thought i was the only person like this, it’s so relieving knowing there are other people just like me.
Most people.. oh look at that Asian person enjoying nature by themselves, also most people, what’s that black person doing in the park all by themselves for.. 😢
Yup. I get this all the time and it’s funny too cause I’m actually Black and Asian lmao
You're me! lol. I wish we lived in the same country, you are a beautiful black girl. Being alone can be nice sometimes, but for me it's mostly hell. Wherever I go I'm alone. I feel bad when I see people having fun or talking together, and that's why everywhere I go turns into hell. I'm socially awkward, the bad thing is that because I don't communicate with anyone, no one realizes my potential or abilities. It's been like this my whole life and it will be like this. I don't want to meet anyone because I can't find anyone like me. I don't care at all about the things people like, the movies they watch, the music they listen to or their hobbies. If you're not from the majority, life will just be torture.
Also, people don't understand your desire to be alone of your own free will. It's like everyone has to be like them. Who determined this? Not everyone has to be like them.
I relate to this one hundred percent. I just don’t connect with most people. Never met anyone like me. Not trying to sound like a snowflake just being honest.
I can relate 100%
What makes you so different from others?
@@Barcodez5555 Nothing. People just aren't like me.
I say “fuck them”. You just gotta live your life the way YOU want to. Fuck everyone else.
I’m like that. Sometimes it spooks people out. It was worse when I was younger. Found online they call it Selective Mutism. Learned live with it. It’s my super power
Me at the park chilling with animals, some people walking by .. give me your energy, or I won’t like you.. me: leave me a voicemail 😂
I don’t know if I’m autistic but I relate to all this. Like everythingggggggggg
"Get the time to know me instead of assuming"💯💯so true!
“Being alone makes you a visionary” I used to feel so bad about keeping to myself even though I’m not even introverted but you get the advantage of being from the outside looking in.
Healthy healed people dont mind being alone. Obviously people need social interaction. But these people who fear being alone above all else are spiritually injured and looking for someone to keep them together.
Growing up I grew up so shy same as you but now I talk when I please and I’m comfortable. I use work at Walmart and I rarely made awkward small ! People are uncomfortable with silence and love to project because they don’t know what you’re thinking it’s more of us insecurity . me person don’t feel like putting on a façade just to fit society standards.
Im a 44 year old guy
Live alone
No kids
Its peaceful
Alot.of women try to change me and i be resistant to it😂😂😂
Bruh, you basically are living my Future Plan, my Future life! I'm you when I'm in my 40's 😂. I did the whole outside thing, the whole lots of friends thing, the player phase when it comes to girls, the whole prison thing, all that immature stuff, now I'm owning Loner phase, and it's a beautiful thing. God is GOOD!
Im 27 and samee haha
The way u talk in these videos, are exactly how I be talking to my self 😭ur so real, thanks for sharing ur thoughts/rants. It’s comforting in a way
Do you....and don't apologise for it. You don't need validation from anyone
I feel you being reserved and staying out the way is best. To many snakes and fakes. Always do what’s best for you cause if you don’t who will.
I feel like us meeting in real life would be a fun experience because I relate to a lot of the things you say. (Side note) id like to think I’m socially comfortable but a lot of the times I notice I put up a front at first with meeting anyone, like you it takes me a while to reveal all of me to someone,at the same time I am very comfortable in my own presence and for most people my social battery does have a limit but bro I just want some genuine connections someone I can share these life experiences with, I’d like some community.
Lots of people don’t just seat and feel life, most people are caught up in being a ping pong ball in the destructive side of life.. aka the rat race .. I recommend people get back to nature, and have more self love, and less desperate attachments to toxic people, reserve your energies for true connections
You are the girl version of me. I’m just too authentic to the point where some ppl just don’t understand or want to comprehend how I am as a person. This is the root reason for why I don’t have much friends or even lack of romantic relationships
I've felt this way since the second half of my high school years till now (2nd yr uni). Imma call it "micro-FOMO" and it's real. Rn though I don't really care, I just be chilling fr. Trying to make people like me is so cringe, I'd rather die ngl (nah but I'm actually lying).
Someone. Gets. Me. I literally can only do deep connections or nothing. I’m a deeply feeling and loving girl but only to the right people you know, like as you said, no offense but I just don’t have the tolerance for stupid people 😭 also I have learned the people who talk the most always have the least to say
As a capricorn and loner i really can relate... i only like talking to the people i grew up with and my children.
Girl, yes. Just yes, I completely resonate growing up very introverted and quiet.
Im like the opposite of shy , I'm like super projected when I speak , unfiltered asf , I talk to ppl like I've known them my whole life 😂😂😂😂but I tend to be a loner
I understand your perspective coz I am just like you I don’t take people BS and people misunderstood us as we talk more…❤️🧿
I'm an introvert and I like being alone. I hate noise,I don't even have friends bro I just like my life as a loner,
if you're ever in Southern California? wanna grab a coffee and go Hiking and enjoy nature... don't worry i'm a lone Wolf too i won't bring a lot of People with me only my little Dog Mya. lol
I get what you mean about feeling like its a race thing. Im half black (wm/bm) and my mum and her side of the family always think I have a problem because of my face. I love friendship but no one is ever interested becoming my friend, but I'm a very friendly person and it kinda hurts. I think I would be more comfortable with having only one friend if my parents weren't always poking fun at me for it.
Yea, like myself I appreciate my own solitude and quietness, then when I feel like engaging with others I’ll make the effort. When I was younger I tried making friends but realized it was a waste of energy giving up my identity and integrity for social acceptance. I’m not gonna say there are times I haven’t given into peer pressure, but after that I decided I’d rather be my own person.
You're very beautiful and intelligent...people will try to get 100% out of you during every interaction and it's draining. Big reason i prefer to be in my own space most of the time
Yessss I’ve tried to be socially likable like bubbly and charmisatic but I just don’t feel genuine.
You make such sense
I have had people tell me that they thought I was “smug” when they met me.
You might be a fellow INTJ 😊
Hey being alone is a superpower it allowed me to grow my relationship with God and also I was set free from anxiety depression fear of the unknown etc.. best time of my life l highly recommend praying and fasting if whoever reads Is interesting in that God bless everyone.
Are you a libra? I merely hate pretending and expanding my energy to people who don’t deserve it.
Great video! Being a loner is good. I also only want deep connections & not superficial ones. People enjoy the “play” or “ games” of conversations in someone’s face. Keep It Champagne 🥇🏆🍾
I understand exactly we’re your coming from. I’m a loner silent and intense but can open up to certain ppl when the energy is genuine. For me it has to be a real feeling or meaningful for me to open up just to conversate but I just wanted to say thank you for this video. Bjork - All is full of love
Another bjork listener here🎧
A band right... i love the song " Young Folks "
ماشاءالله جميله. فيك لمحه من السودانيين. كأنك سودانيه
She's so pretty
Thank you love
Being a loner is unhealthy, humans are made for interacting
Being alone allows you the opportunity to delve into a more intimate relationship with God. I highly recommend this. It has changed my life.
Great video 💚💙❄️🥶👀👂💯💯💯💯💯🎯
this resonates SO much with me omg, it's crazy i found this randomly when trying to find videos to watch while doing work. what you were describing, with ppl thinking you always have an attitude and that you come off as intimidating as a Black woman/fem, this is exactly how i've been feeling for awhile. i think i like to say i enjoy being alone, but i'm definitely not there yet and am in the process, because i honestly do wish i didn't come off that way as times. but i realize it really is a gift to only attract people into your life that see past that. anyway, glad i found your channel! :)
Hunny your are not really alone.. Some one is hitting that stop lying to yourself
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You look like Bethel, an Ethiopian lady I knew in university in Ottawa, Canada. Are you from Ethiopia or Eritrea ? Your people have a unique look, for sure.
What a beautiful day wherever you’re at
I swear I love your videos! You are literally me!! This video explains ME! Sends this to family....
I think our bodies speak way more authentically than our words do....and people pay attention. I'm just like you but im trying to attune myself to be more connectable without compromising my authentic self. loneliness sucks
Defo a capricorn lol
There’s a lot of people that are intimidated by strong and aware people
Because they know they can't push you around like they do with other people
I can relate to this video 100%
I've been alone since 2010. I'm 29, I've been alone by default.. not my choice. I'm a musician and artist, I play keyboard and electric guitar and play Metal and Classical Music as well as Experimental Music.. I don't know why ppl don't want to get the chance to know one another then they use apps like TikTok and complain about not having friends but the "friends" they usually have are on online video gaming or Social media and not in real life.. as much as I'd like a friend I don't know if that'll happen.. imo I think ppl are to scared to know someone that's not online (partially joking). Well, I use my skills of being a musician and painter/drawer to my advantage to distract myself from having no friends.. the funny thing is ppl think because I'm an attractive person that I have friends etc.. but then I tell them, no, actually I have 0 friends. Their faces are just like 🤔😲😦😧
It's whatever though, if ppl want to be friends with someone they'll present themselves when the right moment is there.. that's my two cents, ok, bye bye 👋
I feel this . I talk when I want to or somebody intrigues my interest . I don’t mind small talk cause I try to make it fun. I love being alone and need my space. When I get in a friendship I get too consumed with the other person. I think that people project on quiet people !
"You shut the fuck up too well" yes u would be my best friend in real life lol
i'd like to philosophise with you!
Email me !!
Finally someone gets it
Only the strong stay alone. Keep it up!
ur so beautiful and inspiring. i relate so much of what u said but a lot of these parts of me i want to change and am deeply ashamed of. Hearing this out loud from another person with so much self love healed something in my brain
I'm 54, I wish I had your wisdom when I was your age
I feel like you are the female version of me lol.
I resonate with how you are when you meet new people. I take the first couple of times meeting them to gauge who they are and how they act. At first im quiet and probably wont talk to them besides a few words. If they give good energy Ill open up more.
After a number of years of being rejected and kept at arms length I’ve had no choice but to keep myself to myself,bring alone gives me ultimate and tranquility and I don’t miss peoples bitching and putting me down.
its ok you are a good soul stay strong queen
Heyy Zion hope your day is well . Thanks for letting us into your life journey
🕉️🪔🌅🌜🌬️🎪🛕🕌⛪🤸🧍🏿♂️🎯💐🙏 that's why, myself loves all black people's
Matthew 25:31
All the nations will be gathered before him, and he will separate the people one from another as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats
Mean why I'm all alone here no family no friends, just pains and pains everyday. Overthinking is killing me. 😢😢
Give black woman space to be different !
I get you ❤👍🏾👍🏾 I’m always thinking so it’s like interrupting me with me
Well they can not fully meet you if your not talking.. Maybe you're having a whole conversation in your head that does not reflection in your character , off putting !! Leave know space to get to know you
this is helping me understand and accept myself as a young black girl who is always judged for being a “bitch” lol
I hate small talk a lot of people don’t have personality they all got social media brains
the amount of times I said clock that tea at everything you said! being a black girl and also introverted… ouuu they gone hate real bad. I can literally be happy asf and somebody would come up to me and be like “are you okay” and then I overthink about it all day because I hated how ppl perceived me as mean but now I just don’t have the time to keep proving myself to people anymore.
You dress like a weirdo and get a bunch of unconventional piercing to where even if someone wanted to be near you they can't, then wonder why you alone. You isolate your self.
😄 You're the female version of me, or am I the male version of you? Either way it was funny listening to myself through you
6:30 "damn i kinda ate"
Being alone wasn't something I wanted..but God wanted it for me. To grow and learn myself, and get stronger. To be ready for the right woman to come along. I see the purpose of it now. It's a blessing
We the same. I have gotten comfortable with it. I’m an only child. I don’t try to fit in.
Salam andHi, be alone but NOT LONELY.
Tuned in❤