I’ve unfortunately given up on closeness and intimacy in friendships. For me every time I allow someone a higher level of access to me they end up backstabbing me or become envious of my success and light. Like you said the world was created for some of us to be alone. It used to bother me when I was younger but now I just feel like it is what it is.
Thank you so much for this video, I resonate with this so much. For the longest time I’ve been seeking a strong platonic friendship but at the moment I don’t have that at all, more just acquaintances that come in and out of my life. Ngl it’s super lonely sometimes but I’m learning more about myself & how much I value my friendships & people in my life.
You’re relatable as always Zion ❤️ personally I’d rather put my heart into something 1000 times and get heartbroken 1000 times than ever become cold, also I remember the original vid lol
The more you talk the easier my life gets knowing someone else is going through the same things I’m going through or dealing with. But in the end it always works out. Just keep pushing forward be yourself express yourself. You’re doing nothing wrong you make so many people happy and give positive vibes and good energy
plz dont delete this, if only for your own sake of course. i resonated with this more than any other of your other videos. Helped me recognize what I've not been able to in my own head. ✨
we’re literally in the same energy, i totally get you, i’ve been avoidant the whole last 2 years and for the first time i feel open and it really is lonely and vulnerable and weird being open in todays world specially after so long being totally closed emotionally
i randomly found your channel yesterday and i relate to this video so much. i’m trying to grapple with this loneliness and isolation that im feeling personally and it’s been a struggle for me. thank you for this video🌸
I’ve probably said this before in a comment to one of your videos after being blown away by them, but every word you said for a good chunk of the video was just like a verbatim reading of my internal monologue. Thank you again ❤💐
i think loneliness is apart of the human experience. the truth is, our world is kinda going to shit and it easier to connect with people when you can be whoever you want (on the internet). That’s why the internet is disillusioning because it feels like nothing (on the internet) is real. And then we log off and realize that our world is not exactly built on ideas like “togetherness”. That’s why you have to foster those ideals for yourself. It’s the human condition [under capitalism] that promotes loneliness. It’s not impossible to break out of but it’s just a simple fact that we’re all destined to be alone in this realm. though, you can use that similarity in the human condition to actually connect to others and sift through all the BS. Sorry if this made no sense. The video just sparked the idea in me. :)
I feel the same way!! but I think it’s just us craving deep intimacy with ourselves. If we achieve that then having deep and meaningful relationships with others won’t feel like a necessity. If anything having a deep connection with ourselves will attract individuals that will have those deep relationships with us.
haven't watched the whole video yet but so far same (kind of) lol i used to be very avoidant and hated vulnerability and communicating and now that i've tried healing it, i've somehow pushed myself into, yes, i want love and communication and feelings and spreading the love but now i'm w an anxious attachment style 😭 so now i'm working on being secure. crazy
Zion you are not the only 1 babygirl I feel the same way too. So far we have something in common. I'm not the type to do online dating I rather meet Dat person in person face to face and to really get to understand Dat person. Ik how u feel trust me. And also I want to let u know Dat u are very beautiful and intelligent in all your videos💯❤️ you will find the right 1 soon it could be me😊
15:51 so me, with everything you said before except the way to view failed past relationships. Feels like most people around me are ok being closed off, and even when I've met girls where we were having a good, fulfilling time, they revealed themselves to be just as closed off as everyone else, asked them to see me again, to talk, to share some time together, and got ignored or rejected as if my attempt was made to try and end up in their panties like the dating culture we're living in nowadays encourages. :/ Gotta keep waiting and hoping, been in your same boat for a year at 25 after 5 years of a relationship that worked out great until it no longer did.
And being that you just got out of relationship i can see your still emotionally attached. In my experience i know what thats like, missing the affection. being an affectionate person and single kind of defeats the purpose of being affectionate at all.. But just as that squirrel climbing across the wire when it should climbing across a tree branch or something, we learn to adapt
Girl I super see myself in your words, I would just advise you to start seeing failed relationships less as something you've done wrong, less like something you've failed, but rather as something you failed with somebody... We can only control the part of the duo that concerns our own self, the other person is another universe, we can't dictate nor influence (influence maybe yes, very slightly) their feelings.
Can I ask what city or country you’re in? And what your studying? I share so much of the same interests and I’m in a phase where I’m trying to have some clarity over what I’ll study and where I’ll be in the future.
Please don't delete! The way you broke it down is exactly how a lot of us feel out here. Literally!!! At least you found a beautiful way to express yourself, but trust and believe WE know how it feels. The desire to deeply connect to another heart is what keeps us going 🥹
This is resonating soo deeply, so grateful for this vid and you, I weeped about this very thing today- that deep desire for meaningful and intimate connection after a period of not really facing my feelings- and heavyyy on thy feeling from childhood and lack of love carrying over into adulthood, as in yes I was loved on the very “acts of service” sense but never felt like my internal world was adequately acknowledged/cared for
🙈 ong we must be living the same life, cause yeah I had a thing where I was actually emotionally available and expressing myself the most that I ever have and… it still isn’t working or panning out the way I thought it would 🙈
I’ve unfortunately given up on closeness and intimacy in friendships. For me every time I allow someone a higher level of access to me they end up backstabbing me or become envious of my success and light. Like you said the world was created for some of us to be alone. It used to bother me when I was younger but now I just feel like it is what it is.
“ you don’t have to look at yourself through someone else’s eye “ how many times did you play that back ? yes .. 🥺
Thank you so much for this video, I resonate with this so much. For the longest time I’ve been seeking a strong platonic friendship but at the moment I don’t have that at all, more just acquaintances that come in and out of my life. Ngl it’s super lonely sometimes but I’m learning more about myself & how much I value my friendships & people in my life.
You’re relatable as always Zion ❤️ personally I’d rather put my heart into something 1000 times and get heartbroken 1000 times than ever become cold, also I remember the original vid lol
The more you talk the easier my life gets knowing someone else is going through the same things I’m going through or dealing with. But in the end it always works out. Just keep pushing forward be yourself express yourself. You’re doing nothing wrong you make so many people happy and give positive vibes and good energy
plz dont delete this, if only for your own sake of course. i resonated with this more than any other of your other videos. Helped me recognize what I've not been able to in my own head. ✨
we’re literally in the same energy, i totally get you, i’ve been avoidant the whole last 2 years and for the first time i feel open and it really is lonely and vulnerable and weird being open in todays world specially after so long being totally closed emotionally
Your pink hair matches your pink aura! 🩷🩷🩷
I love pressing play on your videos and just letting you talk while I do whatever.
The thing you said about how folks treat detachment like avoidance is so true. I’m glad I’m not the only one who’s picked up on it.
i randomly found your channel yesterday and i relate to this video so much. i’m trying to grapple with this loneliness and isolation that im feeling personally and it’s been a struggle for me. thank you for this video🌸
I’ve probably said this before in a comment to one of your videos after being blown away by them, but every word you said for a good chunk of the video was just like a verbatim reading of my internal monologue. Thank you again ❤💐
i think loneliness is apart of the human experience. the truth is, our world is kinda going to shit and it easier to connect with people when you can be whoever you want (on the internet). That’s why the internet is disillusioning because it feels like nothing (on the internet) is real. And then we log off and realize that our world is not exactly built on ideas like “togetherness”. That’s why you have to foster those ideals for yourself. It’s the human condition [under capitalism] that promotes loneliness. It’s not impossible to break out of but it’s just a simple fact that we’re all destined to be alone in this realm. though, you can use that similarity in the human condition to actually connect to others and sift through all the BS. Sorry if this made no sense. The video just sparked the idea in me. :)
this made perfect sense you cooked Marc !!❤️
i love how your videos just find me after i keep forgetting to subscribe. universe got meeeee
I know what you mean. I hope you find it with the right person 👊🏾
I feel the same way!! but I think it’s just us craving deep intimacy with ourselves. If we achieve that then having deep and meaningful relationships with others won’t feel like a necessity. If anything having a deep connection with ourselves will attract individuals that will have those deep relationships with us.
you feel lonely because you miss me ❤️🌟 I miss you too Zion
who are you exactly???
LMAO 😂
this comment and the first reply is so funny
🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 great 👍
I resonated with this so much, thank you for sharing❤️
Nature looks good on you
haven't watched the whole video yet but so far same (kind of) lol i used to be very avoidant and hated vulnerability and communicating and now that i've tried healing it, i've somehow pushed myself into, yes, i want love and communication and feelings and spreading the love but now i'm w an anxious attachment style 😭 so now i'm working on being secure. crazy
Good video I'm watching it now
Your hair! I had your exact hairstyle once looks great
Smiled when I saw you on top of my feeddd:))📧💕💫
Your videos are real glad I found you ❤
BYEEE the way you just yelled at that cat 😭😭
I would say its not always about doing your best, it's all about chemistry. If the chemistry is off, there is nothing you can do. IMO.
You should not make your life dependent on being liked or loved by someone. Do things for yourself. Not for others. 😢
Zion you are not the only 1 babygirl I feel the same way too. So far we have something in common. I'm not the type to do online dating I rather meet Dat person in person face to face and to really get to understand Dat person. Ik how u feel trust me. And also I want to let u know Dat u are very beautiful and intelligent in all your videos💯❤️ you will find the right 1 soon it could be me😊
15:51 so me, with everything you said before except the way to view failed past relationships. Feels like most people around me are ok being closed off, and even when I've met girls where we were having a good, fulfilling time, they revealed themselves to be just as closed off as everyone else, asked them to see me again, to talk, to share some time together, and got ignored or rejected as if my attempt was made to try and end up in their panties like the dating culture we're living in nowadays encourages. :/ Gotta keep waiting and hoping, been in your same boat for a year at 25 after 5 years of a relationship that worked out great until it no longer did.
And being that you just got out of relationship i can see your still emotionally attached. In my experience i know what thats like, missing the affection.
being an affectionate person and single kind of defeats the purpose of being affectionate at all.. But just as that squirrel climbing across the wire when it should climbing across a tree branch or something, we learn to adapt
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1:11 hey, don't birds eat those things?
I hear you B
i love your cross necklace 💗 where did you get it ?
Nondidwa😂
You vibe with Dark green, if your open to hair color suggestions
I love you 🎉
Girl I super see myself in your words, I would just advise you to start seeing failed relationships less as something you've done wrong, less like something you've failed, but rather as something you failed with somebody... We can only control the part of the duo that concerns our own self, the other person is another universe, we can't dictate nor influence (influence maybe yes, very slightly) their feelings.
Can I ask what city or country you’re in? And what your studying? I share so much of the same interests and I’m in a phase where I’m trying to have some clarity over what I’ll study and where I’ll be in the future.
I’m also focusing on the same phase of interest in meaningful connections while also being avoidant with most friends.
Maybe I can reach out over your email to call or something, girl I’d love to talk to you more about this and share. I’m a 22 yo Egyptian girl.
🐈⬛💖💖
I’m ready for love and intimacy
Real intimacy.. I want it for be physical so I can see n feel everything
I’m in the present rn but I’m waiting for something
At first you don’t succeed keep trying cuz you got a million options, plus you fineAF😅
This made me giggle lol thank you 😂💗
@@zions_diary you’re welcome gorgeous 😉
Please don't delete! The way you broke it down is exactly how a lot of us feel out here. Literally!!!
At least you found a beautiful way to express yourself, but trust and believe WE know how it feels. The desire to deeply connect to another heart is what keeps us going 🥹
This is resonating soo deeply, so grateful for this vid and you, I weeped about this very thing today- that deep desire for meaningful and intimate connection after a period of not really facing my feelings- and heavyyy on thy feeling from childhood and lack of love carrying over into adulthood, as in yes I was loved on the very “acts of service” sense but never felt like my internal world was adequately acknowledged/cared for
🙈 ong we must be living the same life, cause yeah I had a thing where I was actually emotionally available and expressing myself the most that I ever have and… it still isn’t working or panning out the way I thought it would 🙈
I also take it so personally when things don’t work out 😭
Nondidwa😂