QUALITIES TO LOOK FOR IN A POTENTIAL HUSBAND
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- Опубліковано 27 сер 2024
- We all want to have good spouses, but what qualities make a good husband, well, watch this video to see just some of the qualities I have in my list regarding what to look for in a future husband. As most of us know, marriage is not easy but God willing, we can find partners who make the journey that much more easy so that we can avoid as much as possible, divorce. I hope it helps when considering the ideal muslim husband also. May Allah grant you all righteous and good husbands with whom you will have everlasting marriages with. Ameen
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and if we want these qualities in our potential husband, we need to have them in ourselves first.
thanks for pointing that out. Too many muslim women are just asking for husband should be this and that, but they rarely concentrate on themselves
not have the same but have the female equivalent. For example : female equivalent of a strong man is a soft and nurturing woman.
You are very smart. Most women list hundreds of qualities they want in a man & can not list a single thing they are bringing to the table. It’s pathetic.
1. A hardworking man with a clear vision.
2. Find someone who is compatible for your personality.
2. A man who is mentally tough.
3. A man who knows what he wants.
4. Find someone who is trustworthy. You need to have a trustworthy person if you want to conquer some hurdles in life.
5. Fulfill his promises. Ask other people about his character. You want someone who can be a role model for your children.
6. Takes responsibility for his problems.
7. A man who prioritizes appropriately.
8. Someone who helps you get closer to Allah SWT.
9. Search for qualities that will make him a great father.
+Nafisa's Pearlz - You are a gem. To be so young, you have a lot of valuable wisdom to offer the sisters as well as the brothers. Keep at it, Sis.
Anthony Miller Thank you brother, God bless.
I'm a Christian but I've just subscribed. Good advice.
Michelle Torok we are basicall the same. Muslims n christians
Kindly ask any Muslim about mutah
David Omondi kindly fuck off🤣 you bored nigga! Worry about yourself and your own faith! there are some issues you need to sort out babes🤣❤️
@@summera4019 is this the way you are defending a religion of truth by talking trash yet I used your own sources to respond to the lies you are trying to teach people here
David Omondi please don’t say you’re a Christian PLEASE.? For the love of God.. because it’s embarrassing when y’all try to debunk Islam when you’ve got a big issue at hand. Dm me if you can! I’d like to educate you cuz you’re ignorant and most likely misinterpret everything cuz you want your faith to be the “right one”🤣🤣
I am working on being a better woman so that I can finally attract a great husband inshallah
A very good lecture sister, I would like to add as a woman married for 28 years ma sha Allah, husband and wife relationship grows over the years as we go along, no one is perfect but we are supposed to be strong and keep fighting to keep marriage going, ignore the little things it's about give and take, look at the good in each other, be soft spoken, be patient with each other, and don't disclose anything about each other to friends and family especially on social media people get jealous and boom nazar evil eye, don't be an open book relationship that's what I always say
zeet4z mashallah great advice sister, may Allah reward you.
Thanks a lot for your insight. I love hearing from people who have been married for a length of time. Time will test all marriages. Most marriage “experts” on the internet are have been married like 2 years.
Great video sis! Yes a major one for me is a man who doesn't get his responsibilities right. Like you said having a man who is grounded is a biggie!
Thanks girl, yes, irresponsibility is definitely a deal breaker. Thanks for watching x
Hitting the like button before i watch the video 😁
same!!!
Allah swt is The Greatest
You are gonna to have InshAllah a good Saleh husband
You deserve it❤️
Mashallah sis, I really appreciate you taking the time and effort to share your knowledge with all the sisters who may not have anyone to speak to about such matters.
my son was 18 yrs old when we started to look for his marriage partner and he is 26 now and still wating for Allah s. w t """" help """ he has completed his hifz alim & mufti studies please pray for all those in need from england u.k jazakAllah
please say *Allah with capital always
@@jgcvjsdxcbksdk2843 jazakAllah hu khair thank you for your kind advice and I've just changed the letter A
Help him. Go to the masjid snd speak with the imam or sheikh
Sister your inner light radiates Mashallah
May Allah preserve you and grant you jennah inshallah
may God bless you with a Muslims husband
Ibrahim Ba Ameen
May الله grant you a husband that has all these qualities اللهم امين
ami Ndiaye Ameen
A Muslim husband who is able to strike you on a mere suspicion of rebellion sura 4:34 , a Muslim husband who will marry three more wives or you might not be first wife sura 4:3 and who can simply divorce you by just pronouncing I divorce you three times and your marriage is over.
@@davidomondi8819 Islam Liberates Women.1400 years ago Islam liberated women, gave meaning to their existence and bestowed rights which other civilized nations recently enjoy.
Sister can you please make a woman version I'm really curious thank you for reading for in advance
Sister you are doing a soo good work. Don't stop it.may Allah bless you.
Balawalhussain hussain thanks you, inshallah I won't stop.
May ALLAH bless me with righteous wife in this ramadhan in shaa Allah Ameen.
Yes, Men must be strong, physically and mentally. The world is a harsh place, the man must make money in this harsh place by being strong in all ways. Allah's wishes are not always what the world wants and he must succeed regardless...strength of character and will is the #1 trait. ..and money,..he must have money to provide properly for his children and accommodate the needs of his wife.
Avoid Narcissist and borderline personality disordered men .. this is the biggest blessing.. Mostly found on muslim dating websites!!! Women like to call them marriage websites, men know them to be muslim dating sites!! Take your pick..
Beyond Beauty69 agreed . Them narcissistic men are the worstttt. May Allah guide them and us all.
Beyond Beauty69 I married one for 11 years. Suffering sis
Oh yeaaaah
What are the signs...? Thanks!
All you said I 100% agree with. However, how are you gonna be able to know all these qualities? Asking him won't be not reliable, he can say I am very responsible etc but really he is not! That's the issue for me. Any tips/ questions/ "tricks" that can help me know if he has any of those qualities or not before getting married. Thanks lots.
Marwa Arnaout I think you have to be strategic in how you get these qualities seen, its not by asking them questions, its comes through with what they do and say, and what other people have to say about them, your family should inshallah inquire about him others etc. There is only so much that you will know before marriage but then, that's why we perform istikhara so that Allah will guide us and make it happen if its best for us. Remember though that no one is perfect so don't expect to see 100% positive qualities just enough that you feel that you can live with him and that the negative qualities aren't a deal breaker. And Allah knows best.
Salam sister. I think it would be great if you could make a video to highlight this more in detail :) It's because these days it's so common to see Muslims dating as couples (without being accompanied by another person) before marriage to get to know each other, which is not at all what haya' is about. I guess part of the problem is because many Muslims don't know how to get to know their potential spouses the halal way. jzk :)
itsliyanna Great suggestion, inshallah I will add it to my list inshallah.
May Allah bless you with His peace & blessings, mercy on you & respond to all our duas.
May He forgive our sins, multiply our hasanat, grant us & our family good health, happiness at every step of life.
May Allaah protect us from this deadly virus(corona).
May He bless us with good people around us and allocate a place for us in jannah.
Aamiiiiiin
Barakallah! I like this video but please you should please make a video for Qualities to look for in a Potential wife too?
Wa alaykum salaam wa rahamatullahi wa barakatuh, the points you say are so true! May Allah give us all a husband like that, ameen.
BarakAllahu feeki ukhtie. ❤
I am glad I came across your channel. May Allah SWT bless you sis. Aameen 🤲
Jazak ALLAHU khair sister. Kindly enlighten us in the rights and responsibilities of both the husband and wife. Thank you.
Everything you said is fine. But I was just wondering how do you find comfort in knowing a man will control your life? Give orders, say what you can’t do.
I’m asking not out of judgement but out of me trying to digest this for myself.
(Please make a video)
Also sister could you make a video on what extent do parents have a say in a girls marriage. To start looking without permission - is that okay? & should the daughter still choose to obey her parents if she doesn’t want marriage whether now or ever
I am a 30-year-old single man who graduated from university
Pray for me to marry a good wife❤❤❤❤❤❤
Ma Shaa Allah sister Nafisa I really find ur videos interesting May Allah continue to bless u and all of us Ameen
Mariama Jalloh Ameen
Love this video and the last bit about bring each other closer to our Lord al,OST bring a tear to my eye. You are beautiful and wise. Thank you sister
Alhamdulilah, is so nice lecture,it will help me
What happens if a person already marries a person who lacks most of these qualities. I mean before marrige they portray themselves way differently than what they are. Some men are just religious by name and family yet completely different on the inside. What should be done? Also in a case where a man "thinks" he knows it all yet so immature at the same time.
Just pray to Allah to change him and make him good..meanwhile focus on your deen ...Always remember the story of Asiya who was firoun's wife and how he was very rude all the time but Asiya just focused on her prayers .. its a blessing if we get a good husband but if we dont then we should see if we can adjust... but if there is a huge problem or any danger of staying with him any longer then better leave him
Masha Allah. I really love the work that you do, I would like to do it someday. Do you mind telling your story of how you made it this far?😊
fatima abana tha k you. How do you mean by how I made it this far?
I mean like how you became this eloquent in speech and really going straight to the point and still making sense 😊
fatima abana Oh I see. I don't really know is the short answer. I really believe that it's my natural gift (you know, everyone is naturally good at something) although I didn't recognise it until I started making UA-cam videos. My secondary school English teacher put me in a group back then called 'Gifted and Talented in English' but my whole life till now I was convinced that she only did that because we got on so well.
As for getting to the point, it's probbably my impatient side. I naturally like people to get to the point lol. But I do write each point down so that I don't forget what I want to say and I think that gives some clear structure. My best advise is that practise makes perfect so even if it's not a natural gift, it's a skill that can be learnt and improved on with practise.
Sorry for the essay 😁
I guess I'll try to practice more, I am the timid kind of person, but I'll try my best to get there. Thanks for the advice(essay) 😆. It was really helpful.
Maa shaa Allah, your videos are so beautiful .
May ALLAH reward you abundantly
TESLIMAT IBIKUNLE Ameen allahumma ameen
Sister Nafisa I agree with you 100% but to look for this qualities in a stranger whom you are only suppose to interact with alot of limitations and a girl has to be with a mahram while interacting with him how would I figure out any of those qualities since you have to know a person well to figure that out ?
A good one indeed. Barakallahu feeh sis. I love your channel
I love you Nafisa, itz my first time watching you.. You said it all, u 100% right sister
great advice ! but please girls and boys before you get into marraige do istikhara and seek guidance from Allah SWT the Most Power full for only he knows what is in the hearts of the people. An istikhara is the actual guide and very easy.
As selamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh dear sis, I find your videos super beneficial ma sha Allah, you just motivated me so much with your videos☺💕 may Allah keep you steadfast and make you among his most beloved followers. Ameen.
Machallah you arr so nice may Allah Al hakim increase your knowledge so that you kind reach truth and share it with us Amine❤
you are perfectly right my dear
Great advice for those who want to marry may Allah bless you for videos.
MashaAllah sister
May Allah bless u abundantly for sharing ua knowledge
Much love😍
Masha Allah,sister nafisa,this is so inspiring.thanks a bunch
May Allah forgive us
Yogeeta Ramnandon Ameen
Sister Nafisah May Allah bless you. In shaa Allah
Thanks allot you are so good
masha allah well said, I love the accent as well
jazakallah
good advice sister
😊 Thank you for your video this one is the gem out of All for me right now.
Marsha Allah sis... I got some of the answers I wanted to ask.... Jazakhallahu Khairan dear
What make me sad and discouraged is that as a Muslim who lives in a Western world, seeing girls my age who have sex before marriage getting married… And they get married to also decent men! And here I am feeling so unloved and I feel like there is no light for me to get married Soon :( I make everyday duas duas and duas but despite my effort, I feel like I haven’t gotten the fruitful result. May Allah forgive me but it feels torturing sometimes!
Marsha Allah Sis may Allah STW bless u ,tanx a lot for this advice
one of the most inspiring muslimahs ever.
and I noticed that you re having a reed diffuser next to your Quran in the background and sister, reed diffuser oils have alcohol content in it and I think its better to not keep it right next to the Quran.
-from your huge fan.!!!!!
and once again- You are soooo Gorgeous!!!!!
Assalam alaikum sister, Love from India... I love ur videos.
sun shine Thank you
I'm happy 😊😀that you gave me reply...
Great videos! keep the good work sis....
Oh ya Alah i whish I have sis like you & know you before Mashallah great video.
Happily ever after in Jannah is pure fictitious!
Why should we conclude that Jannah shall be similar to life in this world?
The hijab is not centered- I’m distracted
😂😂😂same
Ohh Haha yes , but what she is saying is more attentive
this really helpful thank you sis
Alhdulilah I discovered your chanel😍 Im watching all your videos 😅😍😍😍
Dear Nafeesa pearl kindly check comment section ,being a muslim it is unbearable for us if someone disrespect our beloved PROPHET (peace be upon him )
There is a person David omandi is continuously passing disrespectful comments for our PROPHET (peace upon him) in response to a comment by Michelle Gower , kindly check it and delete it, these very harsh comments no muslim can bear it.
So proud of you
Sister my friends husband is not religious neither supports her and kids financially because his not earning enough and she never complains and support her kids from her benefits money and pays bills.. Is that right way or wrong..
Nafisar nakuuliza ukienda mahali ukipewa five hendred itakamilika lini hilo ndio swali langu kisha hiyo ndio mitihani yenu nimuniwache tu mim nifanye kazi nijitafutie pesa kisha nikuje
Great advice sister x
Love this so much.
Dear Nafisa I like your videos alot. Can you add up English subtitles in your videos as I don't understand your fluent English. Your videos are so inspiring ❤️
Inshallah we meet
Simple.5min
Jazakumullah khairan
Assalamualaikum warahmatullah tala wabarakatuhu dear sister.... I have a question for u.... A man asked for my hand in marriage and I don't know how to go abt it.... Do u have suggestions????
Suhkran 🤗
Thank u sister but how we can know all about that Things?
Yeeees my sister I accepted everything you mentioned and I share your video...do you have a Facebook account too?
Im a new Muslim but inshallah, if a man approached me and offered to help me study Quaran, I would consider marriage.
But how do you know he’s trustworthy if we only knew each other for a short while
Unfortunately, most of the muslims are munafeeq at this age. I rather marry a church going woman then a so called muslimah...All the muslim family want for their daughter is a RICH man.with a very good job or business....May He guide us ALL...May He give you LONG GOOD life and bless you with awesome children..
But brother is it allowed to marry a christan??? I don't think so!!!
Slave of Allah s.w.t
It is allowed
Peace be upon him
Masha'allah.
Hermosa mujer mashallah
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Well u forgot to mention how do we find whether a person has these qualities or not especially those of us piving in south asia
Is potential husbands height important? If everything else is GOOD
Maa shaa Allah x
Nafisa you are both chaste and beautiful ❤️
Extly.
Thank u
Am i the only muslim guy that meets all of the requirements listed on this video and is under 18 ???
Lol,no
Amazing advice💕
I love you girl.
I can palay this game bettter then u ever and winner instantly.cloup moreeeee
Please give us some advice on how to marry a man who is already married. I want to marry a man but he is already married. He is ready to marry me as well.
Okay sis... Many people exploit polygeny .. stay safe !
Please get a pre-nup ready. If he rejects. This is red flag. Yes Islam permits men to have more than one wife . But men can and do exploit this - many plural marriages at least one wife or family ends up with financial or emotional hardship or both. Can it succeed yes but a pre-nup is there to protect you and your future kids. Also get him to give you a will that protects your rights and your future kids in case he pass away. Never agree to marry a man who rejects a pre-nup and giving you a will. These docs are about protecting you - not about hurting him and other wife. Get an informed person or your wali ( whose job is to protect you) to negotiate the pre-nup and will for you. These contracts are about protecting you & your future children's rights it is not about creating hardship but preventing it where possible Insya Allah. In my country singapore muslim men are allowed to marry up to 4 wives. I used to work as a legal assistant for a family/divorce lawyer thats why i am sharing.
Orr munionganaizie trsp mim nijipange nahiyi pesa ikuwe ya chakula
salaam I love your videos Nafisa I'm script going through a very hard period of my life an need some advice where can I kindly contact you on xxxxxxxxxxx M
And offcourseeeeee she
Can you talk about polygamy?
Bliss beauty That's a heavy subject, lol, but inshallah I will at some point.
Bliss beauty
Polygamy is part of Islam if the man have enough financial and equal rights for all of his wife’s. سوره نساء
Dear Sister,
Assalam-O-Aliekum
Thank you for sharing wisdom with us and guiding us towards Sirat - e - Mustaqeem by the Grace of Allah SWT.
I wanted to give you a small suggestion:
While watching this video, I noticed that the Holy Qur'an is placed on the shelf such that your back is towards it. Since, Holy Qur'an is the word of Allah SWT so out of respect for it we should try our best that our back is never towards the Holy Qur'an.
I hope you will understand my point. JazakAllah!!
Kind Regards,
Salaam Aleikum Nafisa
I met you just at the beginning of this Ramadhan and you are precious ❤️
Can I meet you in person please
Today’s girls think about money then having good character.
Weldown farhiashappinesss congaragulations
Do these men exist...
Yes they exists...
Yes they do , but there are times when you will still not be happy