USING YOUR BODY TO GET A MAN & WHAT IT SAYS ABOUT YOU

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  • @danceillusions13
    @danceillusions13 Рік тому +89

    It's not that we think our bodies are our best asset; rather, every woman deep down knows that to give a man her body is the most precious and valuable thing one can give (which is true). But men are not like that. When we compromise our modesty (not necessarily sex, but even for example agreeing to touch or kiss while dating), we get emotionally attached to the man and expect reciprocity and commitment. But men are willing to continously touch a woman even without intending to marry her! Who's the biggest loser here? The woman! Pls girls save yourselves and don't make the mistakes others have done. Again I'm not even talking about going as far as sex. Compromising even an iota of your modesty for a man you're not married to is not worth it. Not even wearing tighter clothing or something to please a potential match because he requests that.

    • @MissUnderstood17
      @MissUnderstood17 Рік тому +9

      👏 yes! Don't get comfortable with no man or change even an iota. We do get emotionally attached. Ladies, stay true to yourself.

  • @Halo.H
    @Halo.H Рік тому +60

    Sending the message loud and clear to avoid Zina. The Kim Kardashian people and such like have ruined it for us women. Especially this culture of casual hook ups. Ya Allah swt save us chaste women who are trying with all our might to save ourselves Ameen.

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Рік тому +12

      Ameen ❤❤
      I know the norm these days but insha’Allah we will stand firm.

    • @zainabirfan1809
      @zainabirfan1809 Рік тому +1

      Yes but those people are involved in drug overdose, alcohol addiction etc, even though they have everything! "Indeed in the remembrance of Allah, do hearts find rest"

    • @shimmer4771
      @shimmer4771 Рік тому

      ​@@zainabirfan1809 Don't forget child trafficking. Sell their souls to the devil.

  • @applerox101
    @applerox101 Рік тому +26

    Wow, thank you so much. Literally, you're the older sister we all need and now have. Thank you so much for encouraging us to uphold our modesty and dignity but not in a condescending way or equating us to lollipops LOL. It's refreshing to hear from a fellow woman and not a sheikh (though they are well intentioned), I'd much rather hear it from a woman.

  • @Spiritualmuslim786
    @Spiritualmuslim786 Рік тому +47

    I remember watching that video of “What every Muslim girl needs to know” when it first came out. Having taqwa and tawakul will help us if we just worship Allah properly

  • @geekygirl648
    @geekygirl648 Рік тому +14

    Girls please make dua for my full recovery. I really need ( Spine Injury / Shoulder Pain )
    May Allah swt bless all of u Ameen

  • @noon2775
    @noon2775 Рік тому +17

    Hi nafisa I love your videos even at 16yo, I’m gonna use it in the future InshaAllah , can u make a vid on Self Love and confidence as a muslimah

  • @pineappleoreo5349
    @pineappleoreo5349 Рік тому +13

    I feel like Nafisa secretly reads my mind and posts what Im thinking of! Arrest her!
    Thank you for this internet big sis❣️❣️

  • @ummzahra9196
    @ummzahra9196 Рік тому +14

    May Allah reward you sis in this life and the next💕

  • @diamondlucky7860
    @diamondlucky7860 Рік тому +14

    Nowadays it’s so difficult to find a partner. One side expects flirting and going on dates and have a modern life it’s oke if the wife does not know how to cook they’ll just order a pizza and don’t ever mention a mahram, the other side expects no music or movies just praying and the women must know how to be the perfect housewife oh and the guy refuses to talk to the woman and asks for a mahram. There is no in between… do the ones that are on neither sides not have a chance? What if one wants to keep it as halal as possible before marriage but still wants to listen to music and because of mental issues can’t fulfill other expectations? Marriage has become a trend. When I hear older people talking about marriage they make it sound like a contest. And these contests vary from adult to teenagers who still go to school and should not have babies at that age. I think non believers have it easier in a way. The man and women meet up and they get to know each other and show their soft and vulnerable or more fun side. Love can make one tolerate some things that one normally wouldn’t. But because we’re not allowed to show the fun side people treat marriage like a business deal. If the deal doesn’t sound appealing it’s off. It would be easier if both could be honest about their strengths and weaknesses and then discuss the possibilities of how to make it work. Instead people lie and only show their acceptable side and pretend they don’t have a soft vulnerable side just so they won’t be rejected… it just doesn’t make sense to me. I wish to find my life partner while being super honest. I’m autistic so lying or pretending isn’t my thing. And now I’m just stuck because culture has made up these rules that I’m not following…

    • @Yahyamourad_
      @Yahyamourad_ Рік тому +2

      The in between is the correct way, الدين لين meaning it is flexible, and not to our nafs الامارة بالسوء but to our nafs الراضية. There is a huge issue with both men and women, yet there is a rare minority that are in the process of healing ancestral traumas and connecting with the Real islam that is outside of the scholars that didn't do their duties correctly. Music isn't haram for example as it contains many therapeutic and ascention attributes. Cooking is a must for both men and women to, since they serve one another. 🙇

    • @soob9178
      @soob9178 Рік тому

      Flirting and going on dates is haraam. Music is haraam and so are most movies, you can't fault somebody for wanting the same in their spouse. Nobody is a perfect wife or husband however. There should be a mahram involved.
      Yes marriage has been made difficult nowadays, for many different reasons. However don't be disillusioned that non-believers have it easier. They don't. How many times do you hear of women racking up many bodies, of men looking to the Phillipines for traditional women, of most men being invisible to most women, of women being dumped after 4 years dating. Dating is haraam for a reason and the rules are in place mostly to protect the woman. You don't have to be stone-faced when going through the talking stage, but as long as it is in a safe environment it's okay.

    • @Yahyamourad_
      @Yahyamourad_ Рік тому

      @@soob9178 Music isn't haram, unless you want it to be for yourself. The prophet said دف which is like a drum, is allowed to be used in weddings, same as poetry. There is a whole forgotten history of Islamic music full of devotion, divinity, and healing. As for movies, you have so many films about prophets made by muslims. There is not one hadith or quran verse that speaks about this, so please stop ruining the image of Islam as if it's a religious that forbids everything. Be mindful.

    • @soob9178
      @soob9178 Рік тому

      @@Yahyamourad_ The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:
      “Among my ummah there will certainly be people who permit zina, silk, alcohol and musical instruments…” (Narrated by al-Bukhari ta’liqan, no. 5590
      The four madhabs for the most part say most music except for certain types. Even the few scholars and imams that say music in it's self, 99% of the music nowadays is filth and by default is haram because it contains explicit content. Stop trying to mislead people as if you know better than the majority of the major scholars.
      I find it is people that listen to music who try to justify it as something halal out of denial when they know deep inside what they are listening to is filth.
      Yes there are movies about the Prophets, etc. However this STILL does not change the fact the VAST majority of movies are haraam.
      When I talk about music and movies I'm TALKING about modern music and movies which is what most people, including muslims are consuming. And this is the common understanding when somebody refers to music and movies. Besides, even some of these so called "nasheeds" contain instruments which are haraam.
      Wallah you made a very huge claim that there is not ONE Quran and Hadith that speaks against music. The majority of scholars cite Quran and Hadith for prohibiting music. YOU need to be 20x mindful for denying what is contained in the Quran, Hadith and knowledge of the great scholars, this is a very huge sin.
      What's forbidden is forbidden, and for a reason. It doesn't matter how normalized or how engrained in society it is.

    • @Yahyamourad_
      @Yahyamourad_ Рік тому

      @@soob9178 Trust me, I am 20x mindful. Did Vipassana many times and drank Ayahuasca. I know more than your scholars who barely scratched the surface of their consciousness. 🙏
      Renewal in the understanding beyind التطرف العقائدي.

  • @sadafahmed9563
    @sadafahmed9563 Рік тому +15

    Good video / advise. Mash Allah.
    Big problem in the kuffar women.
    Unfortunately, looks is a big thing in south asians men in general. Pakistani & indian men always go for the good looking one the 'pretty & fair one' someone young and submissive. If you are average looking you don't stand a chance... (even if you have all the qualities to be a good wife - they still will go for the trophy).
    One of the reasons I got married late...

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Рік тому +10

      That is such a shame! One misses a great woman/man when one makes looks the most important thing.
      May Allah guide us all.

    • @ruqaiyahkhan8145
      @ruqaiyahkhan8145 Рік тому +7

      You hit the nail on the head! I’ve just started searching for a spouse and it’s brutal. I’ve been rejected 4 times because I’m too dark and I’m too short. Which is okay, because everybody has the right to their own preference, but it’s the way people say it.

    • @SS30938
      @SS30938 Рік тому +4

      @@ruqaiyahkhan8145 Sis I'm so sorry you went through that. That just shows how ignorant they are. They are missing out on a great human being. Making dua for you that God gives you a righteous and loving husband! ❤

    • @ruqaiyahkhan8145
      @ruqaiyahkhan8145 Рік тому

      @@SS30938 jazakhallah khair! That’s very sweet of you to say.

    • @KadershaN-ou2sj
      @KadershaN-ou2sj Рік тому

      @@ruqaiyahkhan8145 Allah have reserved you for his great devoted slave. Whatever keep your self modest and chastity for your own good and also for your future husband. The man is lucky to have you as his wife and to enjoy your love and affection.

  • @shukrimuhudin7295
    @shukrimuhudin7295 Рік тому +6

    WaAleykum salaam sis nafisa I can't believe I'm the first person to comment on this video ❤ May allah bless you sis I really enjoy watching your channel.

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Рік тому +4

      Ameen and May Allah bless you for seeking nearness to him ❤️

  • @sahreshkhan4912
    @sahreshkhan4912 Рік тому +2

    Mashallah sister Nafisa, may Allah swt bless you with the best of both worlds Ameen.. New subscriber to your channel and I just wanna say, keep it up sis!

  • @jeremynx
    @jeremynx Рік тому +2

    Thanks, very helpful

  • @alexanderv7702
    @alexanderv7702 Рік тому +3

    You are talking a lot of sense!

  • @Sudsyasmr_
    @Sudsyasmr_ Рік тому +5

    Salam sister Nafissa, can you please make a video on homemaking please for the married sisters.

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Рік тому +1

      Walaikumsalam, which aspect of homemaker in particular?

  • @mystery5327
    @mystery5327 Рік тому +1

    Love your content 🥰 keep spreading the positivity! Love from MALAYSIA ❤

  • @Khwaab
    @Khwaab Рік тому +2

    Sadly, being married is touted as the "Purpose of a woman´s life", so women are ready to compromise in ways that even surprise themselves, just to get married. I know sisters who have been exemplary all their life, but when a guy demanded that she show her hair ("We´re about to be married anyway") or start talking in bad ways on the phone....they actually felt weak. When the parents have met, the wedding dress is bought and the date set, some sisters compromise for his increasing demands. They think that they´re being "unkind" and will lose the man if they don´t comply. Or that he will get the impression that she isn´t as interested in him. They also think that the man is "helplessly in love" with them and that it´s natural for him to demand things because of that. Women actually CREATE excuses for men´s bad behaviour, because we were RAISED to make excuses for men and to see them as "helpless when in heat". All our lives, we were raised to believe that only women are responsible for everything. Men are either "made angry" by someone else, or "provoked" by a woman. We are used to creating excuses for our brothers, our father and our sons. It´s always a woman´s fault, basically.
    Men are EXPERT manipulators in their speech towards women. They will say ANYTHING to get her to comply, and they know the tricks. Even young boys at 14-15 KNOW what women like to hear! Women aren´t seduced as much through looks, as they are through his speech, his long gazes at her and him doing acts of "service" to her (like being nice to her family). Most of us Muslim women aren´t used to getting attention, so when men give us "the look" (in their eyes), it makes a woman feel like he´s absolutely lost in her. Let´s just be honest. That gaze of a man will haunt a woman no matter how religious she is, because it makes her feel seen and desired. And most Muslim women aren´t experienced, but rather overworked, verbally abused at home for even sitting in the "wrong" way, and never appreciated by their parents. Getting that look from a man can make her feel like she "exists" ("Wow, someone actually finally likes me and sees me"). And about desire...most Muslim women have no hope of ever even feeling desired (or desiring a man). They grow up knowing that they will most likely either get an arranged marriage to a man they´re not even attracted to, or married away to an older man who feels more like an uncle. So there isn´t even a hope of ever knowing what it feels like to be loved by a man that you also feel attracted to. They get told "Love comes eventually", and while forcing oneself to believe that, they end up having 3-4 kids but still not ever really knowing what true desire feels like. We should not forget that marital rape is NORMALISED in many cultures, and women will fool themselves for years, hoping that "love comes", but it doesn´t. It never does. It´s a myth perpetrated by older women, in order to force younger women to follow the cultural agenda.

    • @KadershaN-ou2sj
      @KadershaN-ou2sj Рік тому

      Love your husband after marriage that's what me. Mine was arranged marriage and after that i first fall in love with a man in my life first time i can't even describe how much i feel for him like anything in this world precious given to me i can't make in even close to my husband. It's really hard to control to the thought of getting a love from a man that you love a avoid the men who give you attention i avoided those things suppressed it after marriage i take that all my feeling and desire on my husband such a relief from long control and believe me it will make your love for your husband stronger than usual and long lasting. May Allah give you loving husband who can release your love locked in your heart so you can enjoy with him in any situation.

  • @zohraazo9678
    @zohraazo9678 Рік тому +5

    There is a difference betwen attraction and comittement. In our society, since long time female are conciderate as an sexual object. A lot of movies, cartoons, manga, arts, advertisings, songs, video clip... drived our brains since we are child in this wrong way. May Allah protect us from this alienation. Amin.
    Learning Qur'an help us to have a right filter to keep awarness and have critiques on our journey in this life.

    • @KadershaN-ou2sj
      @KadershaN-ou2sj Рік тому

      Still women are sexual objects and now it is more and many women exposing their body by their own choice.

  • @mattynyang3282
    @mattynyang3282 Рік тому

    Assalamu Alaikum Sister Nafisa. Thamk you for sharing this video. This talk get me thinking twice how to dress modestly and appropriately without covering fully although i do cover my head. First time I come across you on UA-cam and first time watching one your videos. I love you inductions of things in Islam and what is the right to do and as a Mulimah should do if you want the righteousness man /husband in the same deen and knows Allah. I have followed you and subscribed so i won't miss any of your upload videos.lol. may Allah bless you Insha'Allah 🤲🏾 and you for what you do to Educate people about marriage, concealing and about the deen. love the way you talk time to explain things so that people can understand you clearly and make it makes sense to want to do better and change for the right reasons and for a better being especially as in Islam and what it stands for overall. Stay blessed always 🤲🏾🤗💪🏾🤲🏾🤎🥰❤️💯

  • @ilhaanf663
    @ilhaanf663 Рік тому +5

    I was away from youtube for a while. I missed your videos. Jazaakillaah sis for pearl advice

  • @sugaz2099
    @sugaz2099 Рік тому +4

    Great message MashaAllah.😊😚

  • @laylabitar5853
    @laylabitar5853 Рік тому +3

    Great video. May I ask, what does the word Haya mean?

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Рік тому +4

      Thank you. It means an inherent sense of modesty or shyness in approach. It can relate to the hijab worn on the body or in the way we behave and speak. The prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) stating that it is a branch of faith thus an admirable quality to have.

    • @NardiaTalbert
      @NardiaTalbert Рік тому

      Really in need of advice

    • @laylabitar5853
      @laylabitar5853 Рік тому

      @@NafisasPearlz thank you 💞💞

  • @nazneensheikh377
    @nazneensheikh377 Рік тому +2

    i love you nafisa you advice like a elder sister 😘

  • @salsabilwayz8584
    @salsabilwayz8584 Рік тому

    Masha Allah tabaarak Allah may Allah swt bless you with longevity and good health!

  • @SarahKowalczky1
    @SarahKowalczky1 Рік тому +2

    Can you talk which place to find muslim husband ! Thanks

  • @sanji546
    @sanji546 Рік тому +2

    Yes looks is every thing in some culture astaghfirullah

  • @mattynyang3282
    @mattynyang3282 5 місяців тому

    As Salaamu Alalikum Wa Rahmatuallahi Wa Barakatu. Thank you Sis for this video.. its welk saix and very formative and something to pounda upon and reflect in terms of being paitcien and wait for Allah's wills for the right spouse to marriage. Self respect and dignity memorial is very important especially in Islam and our imaan. Barak Allhahu Khayran Allaahumma Aaaameen 🤲🏾🤲🏾✨🌴💖💖💟

  • @moturollajay9742
    @moturollajay9742 Рік тому

    Thank you so much for this video! Really needed someone else other than myself to tell me this, otherwise I would’ve been struggling with this advice.

  • @sanji546
    @sanji546 Рік тому +2

    So men sees body that is all they want but we are doing it in a halal way

  • @AKAK-hr7ug
    @AKAK-hr7ug Рік тому +5

    12:59 immature man 😂

  • @Strivingmuslim-
    @Strivingmuslim- Рік тому +4

    MashaAllah

  • @NardiaTalbert
    @NardiaTalbert Рік тому +1

    Assalamu alaykum how can I get in touch with u

  • @bbjattachannel3602
    @bbjattachannel3602 Рік тому

    Good morning sister Nadia’s thank you so much may Allah bless you 🙏🏽 I have been used your video on my UA-cam because give good advice ❤❤❤❤❤❤ I love you sis stay

  • @najmasalim9160
    @najmasalim9160 5 місяців тому

    I miss you vlog

  • @mohammadfahim2838
    @mohammadfahim2838 Рік тому

    Thank you sister for sharing this video

  • @saffwa.
    @saffwa. Рік тому

    At some Desi Muslim households, it is not allowed to meet a man or get to know him before marriage, what can we do about that?

  • @abdualgabareisa2686
    @abdualgabareisa2686 Рік тому

    ماشاء الله تبارك الله نعمه الاسلام

  • @goldenkidsacademy8360
    @goldenkidsacademy8360 Рік тому +1

    Assalamu aleika, Hajia NAFISA, I've been ff U ever since, my major problem is, I'd be glad if U can use Ur unique platform to help me to get a Muslim Lady to marry. I am Ghanaian. I need a partner whom I can spend the rest of my life with on the path of ALLAH. I pray U take me serious. My yardstick would be inward beauty, s.o who always try to polish the TRUTHG, at least, little educated to help in organizing women and to spread ISLAM and a lady who takes delight in helping the poor. Thx so far.

  • @KadershaN-ou2sj
    @KadershaN-ou2sj Рік тому

    I'm a married muslimah. Islam says beautify yourselves for your spouses. Whatever every men want their women to beautify them when they are in private. Like wearing dresses that exposes physical body assets maintaining body shape only for our husbands am not taking about dress vulgar to grab attention of men. I do maintain my body shape and wear sexy cloths when am with my husband and he likes to watch my body. And like to grab his attention he is the only one whom i can show my beauty and enjoy the gaze. Does it have any problem in Islam.

  • @Ninaslife252
    @Ninaslife252 Рік тому

    Shukren leki may allah grant you jannatul ferdows

  • @RayOfHope8
    @RayOfHope8 Рік тому +1

    ❤❤❤

  • @Swed813
    @Swed813 Рік тому +11

    But what about the sisters who cover from head to foot and give a religious image but they are sleeping around with their secret boyfriends and are in secret marriages where they are breaking another woman's marriage? Please do a video on the moral compass of Hijab because the morality of it is also important. About the Niqab its a beautiful aspect of the Hijab but I don't always feel comfortable wearing the Niqab because in the South Asian community with Pakistani and Bengali males the Niqab is seen as a s^xual fetish. They harass and stare excessively when women wear Niqab and so I personally try to avoid it in certain situations.

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  Рік тому +4

      Thank you for your input I will consider your video suggestions insha’Allah.

    • @Swed813
      @Swed813 Рік тому

      @@NafisasPearlz jazak Allah

    • @thatgirlcamillatravel6393
      @thatgirlcamillatravel6393 Рік тому +7

      Wow. Such an interesting experience you shared about how guys harass you even with a Niqab on.Although maintaining modesty is good, your comment reminded me that even with such attire on, guys will still fetishize or harass if they really want to. At no fault of the girl of course.

    • @Swed813
      @Swed813 Рік тому +1

      @@thatgirlcamillatravel6393 i think it's a cultural fetish it's culturally seen as alluring and s+xual etc.

    • @Swed813
      @Swed813 Рік тому +7

      @@thatgirlcamillatravel6393 also if a Man wants to harm or harass a woman then he'll do that when the opportunity arises. We as women wear Hijab for God. Serial killers and rapists have never been known to say 'i killed her because she was naked' if he sees a chance he'll do whatever whether she's naked or in a Niqab.