Ladies, never EVER tell your abusive partner you’re leaving. Find a way to do so in secret. One of the most dangerous times for a woman is when she is trying to leave an abusive relationship.
That detective took the time to call the manufacturer of the clothes dryer, to understand the time cycle to determine that the 911 call coincided with when he puts the dryer on. That’s detecting.🖤
Actually if you just try to run the cycle yourself you'll know how many minutes it takes and there are many different kinds of cycles so it's not as hard as he just said you just have to subtract the most commonly used cycle common sense not great detective work
I'm a retired police officer from the Seattle area. I am so thankful this trash was sentenced to life in prison. Just another angry violent man who has the mindset, if I can't have her, no one can. What a tragedy.
Do you honestly believe they PROVED it? If you do, it's a good thing you are out of the police force, because you DON'T KNOW THE LAW. Dear God, man, what's wrong with you?
Seeing that little girl, her granddaughter, seeing her face break and wrinkle when she broke to cry made me break and cry. My heart just broke for her I’m crying with her. You can see she was trying to be strong and then she just broke.
Nurse Sandi- I'm an Icu RN in Florida. Do they, did they ever teach the staff the universal hand sign for "I need help". Trafficking, dvd, Etc I don't know why they don't teach us that. I posted above but we should really get the word out❤
oh my g! I was laughing so hard. this guy is so horrible actor it is worse than non union soap drama actors ! lol so there was no appearance of the neighbor guy who was friend of Dan who was f ing her? Why was Kendy with Dan for 20 something years?
If you tell your spouse that you want a divorce, then wake up in the middle of the night to him standing over you, leave immediately, and don't come back without a police escort to get your stuff. 30% of female homicide victims are killed by their partner or ex partner. Your intuition is never wrong. NEVER.
@@bobbysands6893that’s awfully cruel. I am unequivocally against cheating but nobody deserves to be murdered for it. If he really wanted to stick it to her all he’d have to do is visit/call every good divorce attorney in the state. Once he’s discussed his case with them they can’t take hers regardless of whether or not he retains them. Although I suspect she was the breadwinner anyway and wasn’t going to take much from him other than his dignity.
If your stuff isn't valuable, you may not even want to go back. Get out, disappear and replace things later. I've read about too many women who went back to get stuff and ended up dying.
I was born and raised in Kootenai County. My dear mother was the first female detective in the county. She worked crimes against people and helped many abused women and children. I'm so proud of her and I miss her so much. Glad they put this scuzzball away.
My wife left me after 27 years. I had absolutely no warning. Everything seemed fine. She was my best friend and i wanted nothing more than to be with her for the rest of my life. I was devastated when she told me she had been wanting to leave me 2 years prior to this. Never talked to me about it. Never shared anything about why. Turns out as I was working she was having an affair. Trust me. I can relate to how he felt. But would never go to that level. Been over 3 years now and it still hurts. But I could absolutely care less for my ex. Hating someone you loved with all your heart is one of the greatest pains ive ever felt.
This woman had multiple affairs. Not defending his actions, and no one deserves to die for having an affair, but as someone who's been where you have been, the words of Chris Rock ring true: "I'm not saying what OJ Simpson did was right... but I understand."
I waited until my husband went out of town for two days to pack up and leave. My divorce lawyer recommended that I do that for my own safety and I'm glad I followed his advice. My (ex) husband was really mad when he came home to me being gone, but I'm alive. Ladies, look out for yourselves and have a safe exit plan.
Exactly. I wonder how he thought he was going to get away with that one. Oh well I guess that's the answer to the choice of gunshot wound location, right? He likely thought a gunshot to the mouth would totally muddy those waters. He's not a very good cop if he doesn't understand that honest, hard-working medical examiners who just want to see Justice done.... don't miss much
That neighbor woman must have been screwing him cause ain’t no way she think that woman committed suicide when all she wanted to DO was Leave HIM. He wasn’t having it!
He beat her black & blue & she stayed; he stood over her with a pillow in his hands wearing plastic gloves & she stayed....talking about being in denial.
The dryer running and time cycle is critical. Not too many husbands - estranged or not - do laundry at all, much less late at night, and surely not after finding a spouse dead and only then decide to do laundry.
I remember my daddy telling me when I was a teenager to never forget & to understand that it’s hard enough keeping control over oneself, don’t try to control another. It is wasted time. I’ve took that through my whole life. People please take control of yourself, your emotions, your health and your testimony… if you do that you won’t be inclined to obsess over someone else.
Great detective calling the manufacturer of the dryer time cycle and connected the time the killer called 911!!!! This is serious stuff, great work! 👍👏
To anyone who is in an abusive relationship, PLEASE DON’T TELL YOUR PARTNER YOU’RE LEAVING. Narcissistic, abusive, controlling partners will NEVER let you go. Find help. Tell someone you need to escape. Hell, I will help!
My ex did not want me to leave yet he also wanted divorce (went behind my back to talk to a divorce lawyer), then begged me to not leave him then was planning to be more controlling so I finally left! It is so suffocating to be with an insecure controlling possessive jealous man!!! Emotionally and mentally abused drained and tired of being in that marriage so I packed my stuff from the new house we bought and one day just left.
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I agree he didn't want to share any of his assets. Should've never gotten married if that was the case. Don't know why he thought he would get away with this.
@@maryanne7161 If I remember correctly, Chris said she didn’t fight him, she just laid there. And she didnt have defensive wounds. If I’m incorrect, I blame it on my super bad memory. 😥
@@rm4519 In a country where buying firearms is easy peasy lemon squeezey or stealing them from houses & cars, you don't need the job or impunity just a mouthy woman who don't know her place & wont let the man do his will?
@dianegreyson8787 I hope the son knows better now. I say, the trusting are like little children who give us a glimpse of Heaven, and this is why every time trust is broken more and more of the Heaven on earth is lost, until at last, as it is in these endtimes, only Wickedness/Evil remains.
Concerning the woman killed during the traffic stop: Two fugitives (40 yo female, 25 yo male partner) tried to run him over with a jeep at a traffic stop. He shot into the vehicle multiple times and she died. You’re ignorant. He was cleared for a reason.
I was thinking this the entire time. Like he wasn’t doing anything until he found out about all that, he begged her to save the marriage and she wouldn’t. Then she picked him up from the airport and told his she wanted to leave instead of simply leaving while he was gone. She wanted to cause drama and she wanted to tear him down more than she already did. This man is completely guilty but she drove him to do it. I won’t condone what he did but I understand why.
The fatal decision was going back to the house after fearing for your life. I can understand being manipulated into thinking everything is fine and they are sorry; but when people show you who they are, believe them the first time.
@duckhunt1902 If you're not a monster, people know it. You don't have to claim it. You'd say I would never do X. Monsters always say that they aren't. Good ppl rarely have to say it.🤷♀️. Same goes for pathological liars
How on earth can the neighbor believe Kendy committed suicide ignoring the red flags and facts?!!? "I don't deserve to be here" and crying over her failed marriage does NOT equal suicide MONTHS LATER.
Dan the ex marine and cop describes the gunshot sounding like a thud. I just heard a 9-mil gunshot 2 days ago, and it sounded like something violently exploding. It was deafening.
It sounds like Kendy was unloved, abused, scared, alone in her marriage, and looking for love wherever she could find it. It’s so sad when a happy, upbeat, loving, outgoing person gets with a boring, grumpy, controlling, domineering stick-in-the-mud who ruins (or even takes) their happy life. My narcissistic ex-husband promised me all the love in the world and pretended to want a real marriage and connection. As soon as we were married, he turned into a controlling, critical, emotionless robot who wanted to be alone all the time and couldn’t stand it if I wanted to (God forbid) leave the house to do a fun activity. Poor Kindy and her family.
You summed this case up in such an eloquent way, as only a victim of abu$€ could. Thank you for sharing and I hope that you are now free to recover and find the happiness you deserve elsewhere. Hugs from Switzerland 🇨🇭🤗
Thank you both for the sweet comments! I am SO MUCH happier now, although I still struggle a bit with anger and many of the other negative emotions one has to work through after narcissistic ab•use• I have a fun life and a sweet bf now. My ex probably regrets losing me, since he has to see me sometimes and realizes what a fool he was. I will never settle again. *Never* lower your standards, ladies and gentlemen!
@@Autumn_Forest_Good for you, I left a 22 year marriage, my husband was “checked out” and I said ok, i will leave with 8 and 10 year old boys. It took a lot of time to work through what he did to me. I never looked back….
You are so right I remember a time when I went to a women’s house for a weekly meeting that would be held there. I could hear her being beat up by a man. I was so frustrated and scared for her. We were in a third world country. There was no 911 I could call. I was so scared for her and so frustrated because there was nothing I could do. I felt that if I knocked on the door I would have just made it worse since I couldn’t do anything to protect her after I left. My heart breaks for how little I could do. She was such an amazing person. If there are any people who pray please pray for her
Actions do have consequences. After toiling for the family for decades, only to be blindsided by a spouse who clearly plans to break up security itself. *Beware* the reaction..
She doesn’t believe her words either, the second she says I believe she took her own life, she immediately looked down, I knew she was lying. She is probably thinking she now has a shot at getting the husband
During the killer's 3-week stints in Alaska would have been an opportunity for Kendy to quietly move out of the house and go into hiding. I wish it was explained why she didn't do that. 😢
You never leave your house, if you are in a community Property state. I don’t practice family law, but was told this in law school. Remember he controlled the money. The assets appeared to be tied to the land, my guess is her lawyer suggested it would be better if she tried to “work out the financial split” with him to put herself in a better financial position. Just my guess.
This is another sad story where women stay in the home or go back to the home after asking for a divorce…don’t go back to the home…we’ve seen it time and time again unfortunately end so tragically.
Even if you don't light up a room or give your shirt off your back to someone, you can still end up 6 feet under. Divorce is much cheaper in the long-run
Interesting that only the living and generous and beautiful are victims of violence. Seriously, she was cheating. There’s rarely a totally innocent victim. There’s usually some antagonism involved… some action or word that triggers the offender. I’m certainly not saying she deserved this, she surely didn’t. I’m just saying she was living with a bear and instead of getting away from the bear quietly, she decided to poke it first.
I’m 15 minutes in and the husband is guilty and the neighbor saying she committed suicide is either having an affair with the guilty husband or wants to have an affair with the guilty husband.
Tragic... To all Women, don't ever bring up a divorce when you're alone with a man that has a history of violence. When your sure you are leaving the marriage or relationship, ( secretly pack just what you need and go into hiding while doing the paperwork with your lawyer ) .
The 1st medical examiner who performed the original autopsy should have known better; the multiple bruises throughout Kendy's body, her broken jaw and the bruises to both sides of Kendy's neck should have raised suspicion. Surely, there was something else going on here.
Bro why everyone acting like the woman was innocent. Yeah she didn’t deserve to die. But cheating on your partner with your neighbour/partner best mate is sick and horrible and then wondering why he was so angry etc. like woman you causes your own demise. You cheat then act like a victim until you became one. Like he shouldn’t have killed her but he was suffering from betrayal syndrome. Horrible horrid woman and a heartbroken horrid man
Indeed. People's judgement sometimes irritates me. She was an awful wife, she cheated on him multiple times. She was also stupid. She did see him over her with gloves on contemplating murdering her but she was too delusional to accept the reality and leave asap. It wasn't like she was financially or emotionally trapped in that marriage. I have no sympathy for people like her.
Leave quietly and quickly, in silence. Report all physical abuse to police, get restraining order. Move in to rental for time being, you can buy a new house later when you're done with divorce. Don't lose your life to that predator. And yeah, that "crying" was so fake, its just disgusting to hear it. I knew immediately he is the one who did it. Poor lady fell victim for his sick games. RIP beautiful ❤
He would’ve appeared more “real” if he didn’t engage in the ridiculous wailing and crying. It appeared so fake that I’m sure it was the first red flag to the detective.
These small towns often have only 'Medical Examiners' who are not MDs. And often in these murders that make it to a show, the ME's conclusions don't fit.
Truly devastating 😢😢😢never tell him, instead plan your exit carefully then just leave! Abusive narcissistic men are dangerously cruel and they lie, manipulate and will fake empathy too!
The problem with that, in the UK anyway, is you have to report it yourself as an adult. A woman I know was being ab*sed by her son!! Scrams down her neck..he's huge and she's terrified. I told her I was reporting it and she ok'd it but she was scared. The authorities refused point blank to do anything because she would have to call herself! She was too scared to in case they took her other children from her. What a mess!
At least she somehow has 3 of the glass chickens from an entire china cabinet full of them. He sold her Grandma's whole collection at yard sale, wouldn't let his granddaughter or his daughter have them or any momentos. Worse, Kendy's son (and little girl's Uncle) stood there and enforced when his sister tried to even buy any heirlooms at the yard sale when she found out about it happening and raced over.
The officer wasn't buying into his antics crying and gagging like he was going to throw up. The officer said " do you need a medic?" In a short tone lol
This case is actually very obvious since the very beginning. Stay safe to everyone who have household problems and try to separate/to divorce. It's said to hear this type of case happens quite a lot😢
What sticks out to me first thing is that fake crying and the way he was faking the way he was talking so it would seem like he was crying when clearly he was not. Then the fact that she supposedly took her own life while taking a bath?? No, a woman isn't typically going to want to be discovered nude. She may commit the act in a tub to limit the mess to that area, but she's gonna be dressed and she's gonna probably leave a note of explanation. The lack of blood in that bath water was also a sign. Actually there were so many signs pointing to guilt it was unbelievable.
The death of Kendy all of a sudden felt personal and heartbreaking the moment her beautiful little granddaughter spoke and couldn't hold back her tears. I wish the law had a clause whereas additional penalties and sentencing could be implemented as punishment for the utter lifelong devastating damage that loved ones, primarily children, would suffer because of the actions of the perpetrator. But no judge or jury will ever have the authority to issue a sentence of burn in hell. Too bad.
@@MoogieBI have no doubt but I don't think it God he's going to be seeing. You're supposed to repent and ask God's forgiveness while you're still alive if you want redemption. This guy doesn't strike me as a confessing type. Why should God waste his time?
How much cheating can one man take? She wasn’t so fearful of him not to cheat. She absolutely did not deserve to die but could he have been driven to do this??
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This may be the quickest video ever on 48 hrs to immediately note who was guilty! I've never heard such fake crying in my life!.
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That’s some of the worst fake crying I’ve ever heard. Good grief.
Worst is too nice of a word. Do these people think before they commit these despicable acts?
Exactly what I thought.
About as cringe as it gets
Rightt😓 I was embarrassed for him.
Pathetic...
Ladies, never EVER tell your abusive partner you’re leaving. Find a way to do so in secret. One of the most dangerous times for a woman is when she is trying to leave an abusive relationship.
This! 100%.
Hear the wisdom of the ladies man
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And never cheat on an abusive partner before you leave.
This!!! NEVER EVER TELL THEM YOUR PLANS! Get out while they are gone & have others with you!
That crying is a crime in itself
Facts cringe
😂😂😂exactly 😢😢😢
Frl
He sounds like the Cowardly Lion in the Wizard of Oz.
Absolutely! Big doofus.. 😒 😡
That detective took the time to call the manufacturer of the clothes dryer, to understand the time cycle to determine that the 911 call coincided with when he puts the dryer on.
That’s detecting.🖤
Agreed wow
He was diligent at his job.
Actually if you just try to run the cycle yourself you'll know how many minutes it takes and there are many different kinds of cycles so it's not as hard as he just said you just have to subtract the most commonly used cycle common sense not great detective work
I'm a retired police officer from the Seattle area. I am so thankful this trash was sentenced to life in prison. Just another angry violent man who has the mindset, if I can't have her, no one can. What a tragedy.
She had two affairs within a ten-year interval and they blame the husband.😂
Thank you for your service.
Thank you for your bravery and service❤
Do you honestly believe they PROVED it? If you do, it's a good thing you are out of the police force, because you DON'T KNOW THE LAW. Dear God, man, what's wrong with you?
@@truthadvocacyexactly. They didn't prove this
And the Oscar goes to...not this guy, that's for sure.
Lol true 😂😂😂
LMBO!!!
Give him a Razzy Award 😂
Definitely not Oscar material there.
LOL‼️✔️🙌🏼😛😂🤣🤩
28 seconds in.....hes guilty!!!
Totally fake crying at the start.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
1000% it was laughable - tho there’s nothing funny about this loser but his acting was a joke
100% it’s so disgusting to watch. And they always do the same thing.
I came here to say this exact same thing. As soon as I heard him “crying” I 100% knew he did it!
Agree. My sentiments, exactly.
"When was the last time you saw your wife alive?"
"HHWWWAAAAA"
Get serious, Dan.
You know how people always self snitch by their internet searches?
This guy watched 8 videos of men crying
Good Lawd 😩
Oh dammmmmat ah hwa hwa hwa hwa!
@@Frenchblue8 😂 I just started the video…but what a loser. He had to watch multiple videos of men crying…
@@MetaMortis21psychopaths don't know what these normal emotions so he has to look for it for reference.
The cop killed a WOMAN "during a traffic stop."
Let that sink in.
Another case of cops investigating themselves and finding themselves innocent.
Have you seen the unhinged people out there? Facts are needed.
Definitely. Dude is twisted, no doubt about it.
He was cleared
@@jimwertherso your point 🤨
Seeing that little girl, her granddaughter, seeing her face break and wrinkle when she broke to cry made me break and cry. My heart just broke for her I’m crying with her. You can see she was trying to be strong and then she just broke.
Same, teared up the minute she broke down. It's so sad that she had to learn so young how evil people can be.
Don’t you just love the probing questions of the “journalist?”
A future single mother like her mother. And her grandma had two affairs within a ten-year interval. Some family.
I made it through the whole episode without crying. Throw in the granddaughter and I’m bawling before she is. 😢
I'm a nurse. As soon as the lack of blood was mentioned, I knew she was dead before she was put in that tub 💯💯💯
Yep.. me too🤦🏼♀️🩺♡. Hi RN friend♡ What's that fake sobbing. After 24 years in the ICU ,I've seen real real emotion. Can't fake it
Ya how would he not think of that?? It’s pretty common sense for a cop
Nurse Sandi- I'm an Icu RN in Florida. Do they, did they ever teach the staff the universal hand sign for "I need help". Trafficking, dvd, Etc I don't know why they don't teach us that. I posted above but we should really get the word out❤
I'm not a nurse. I knew she was dead When i Saw the headline and thumbnail
@@tina-xp3pk 😂
The fake crying on the 911 call is always the first clue
Right
Bull sh..t. if he wasn't crying they would say he showed no emotions therefore he must be guilty.
Lol his acting when the cops came is ridiculous
You mean he didn't sound genuine to you? 😅😅
oh my g! I was laughing so hard. this guy is so horrible actor it is worse than non union soap drama actors ! lol so there was no appearance of the neighbor guy who was friend of Dan who was f ing her? Why was Kendy with Dan for 20 something years?
If you tell your spouse that you want a divorce, then wake up in the middle of the night to him standing over you, leave immediately, and don't come back without a police escort to get your stuff. 30% of female homicide victims are killed by their partner or ex partner. Your intuition is never wrong. NEVER.
sadly kendi didn’t have the *intuition* to not cheat. i’m glad she’s gone.
Especially if he’s standing over you in all black wearing gloves! 😱
@@bobbysands6893that’s awfully cruel. I am unequivocally against cheating but nobody deserves to be murdered for it.
If he really wanted to stick it to her all he’d have to do is visit/call every good divorce attorney in the state. Once he’s discussed his case with them they can’t take hers regardless of whether or not he retains them. Although I suspect she was the breadwinner anyway and wasn’t going to take much from him other than his dignity.
@@bobbysands6893🤭😂🤣
If your stuff isn't valuable, you may not even want to go back. Get out, disappear and replace things later. I've read about too many women who went back to get stuff and ended up dying.
I was born and raised in Kootenai County. My dear mother was the first female detective in the county. She worked crimes against people and helped many abused women and children. I'm so proud of her and I miss her so much. Glad they put this scuzzball away.
I miss my mother too , no words can make it easier 😭
That is so cool. I’m sure she helped a lot of people.
My wife left me after 27 years. I had absolutely no warning. Everything seemed fine. She was my best friend and i wanted nothing more than to be with her for the rest of my life. I was devastated when she told me she had been wanting to leave me 2 years prior to this. Never talked to me about it. Never shared anything about why. Turns out as I was working she was having an affair. Trust me. I can relate to how he felt. But would never go to that level. Been over 3 years now and it still hurts. But I could absolutely care less for my ex. Hating someone you loved with all your heart is one of the greatest pains ive ever felt.
Fine line between. Love and hate.
@@Mr60minor No, not really. Just an old wive’s tale.
That sucks, you deserve better and hopefully u can still find someone.
This woman had multiple affairs. Not defending his actions, and no one deserves to die for having an affair, but as someone who's been where you have been, the words of Chris Rock ring true: "I'm not saying what OJ Simpson did was right... but I understand."
@@zyrrhos not only that but she was hiding credit cards.
I waited until my husband went out of town for two days to pack up and leave. My divorce lawyer recommended that I do that for my own safety and I'm glad I followed his advice. My (ex) husband was really mad when he came home to me being gone, but I'm alive. Ladies, look out for yourselves and have a safe exit plan.
Or don't get married in the first place.😊
@fionagregory9147 You think GFs/BFs take breaks ups so well? It's better to just live alone with cats.
@@Marlaina yes it is indeed.
Yes!! This is the best break up advice … it needs to be amplified
She obviously wasn't very bright.
Amazing that you can be married to someone for 26 years, raise a family, all those memories…and still be killed by them.
Amazing that you can be married for 26 years, raise a family, all those memories…and still cheat on them.
He valued money more than a human life. Her friends said he didn't like to part with money.
Because of being a cheater you mean? Anyway no one has any rights to take others life.
@@bethford6884 money or her being a cheater or both?
@@bobbysands6893 Cheating is not punishable by death. Not the same at all. Bad to do, but come on. You sounds off.
She didn't break her own jaw. She didn't give herself a million bruises.
We do know she cheated on her husband.
Exactly.
Exactly. I wonder how he thought he was going to get away with that one. Oh well I guess that's the answer to the choice of gunshot wound location, right? He likely thought a gunshot to the mouth would totally muddy those waters. He's not a very good cop if he doesn't understand that honest, hard-working medical examiners who just want to see Justice done.... don't miss much
@@johnsmith-ug5tp hence the lock jaw
@@johnsmith-ug5tpAnd? I'm so confused with the correlation?
Dispatcher: "9-1-1, what's your emergency?"
Husband: "Yeah, um, how many dryer sheets do I need for one load? Oh, and my wife is dead in the tub"
IKR. What an odd response. 👀
That neighbor woman must have been screwing him cause ain’t no way she think that woman committed suicide when all she wanted to DO was Leave HIM. He wasn’t having it!
i agree
That is highly possible
He’s caught standing over her with a pillow, wearing black latex gloves.
A very short time later she’s dead and he says it’s suicide?
Just…. No.
He beat her black & blue & she stayed; he stood over her with a pillow in his hands wearing plastic gloves & she stayed....talking about being in denial.
💯
Hearsay
@@RideoutMr exactly!
Wondering how defense attorney's sleep at night.
The dryer running and time cycle is critical. Not too many husbands - estranged or not - do laundry at all, much less late at night, and surely not after finding a spouse dead and only then decide to do laundry.
that was a Perry Mason move from the detective
Why was the jury not told he try to flee from the airport? Surely it's a fact & the jury could decide for themselves!
I mean I do love clean clothes but yeah that looked pretty suspicious.
My mum always does her laundry after 10 pm. But because of the cheaper electricity not because of having murdered someone
The detective who went to check the data of that dryer deserves an award!!
Your wife dies and your first words are "I was downstairs"...
🎉🎉😂😂😂😂😊
😂😂😂😂😂😅😅😅
My first thoughts exactly.
“Thud.”
Yeah I noticed that too!
I remember my daddy telling me when I was a teenager to never forget & to understand that it’s hard enough keeping control over oneself, don’t try to control another. It is wasted time. I’ve took that through my whole life. People please take control of yourself, your emotions, your health and your testimony… if you do that you won’t be inclined to obsess over someone else.
We are taught that emotions must guide us. It's just the opposite.
Great detective calling the manufacturer of the dryer time cycle and connected the time the killer called 911!!!! This is serious stuff, great work! 👍👏
To anyone who is in an abusive relationship, PLEASE DON’T TELL YOUR PARTNER YOU’RE LEAVING. Narcissistic, abusive, controlling partners will NEVER let you go.
Find help. Tell someone you need to escape. Hell, I will help!
My ex did not want me to leave yet he also wanted divorce (went behind my back to talk to a divorce lawyer), then begged me to not leave him then was planning to be more controlling so I finally left! It is so suffocating to be with an insecure controlling possessive jealous man!!! Emotionally and mentally abused drained and tired of being in that marriage so I packed my stuff from the new house we bought and one day just left.
Don't forget to tell them not to cheat on them. Might make it worse
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Me too!
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@indranuryadin5753 you guys have orangutans right?
Dan knew his relationship was over and didn't want to lose the money. Greed plain and simple.
I don't think it was about the money. Her extramarital affair was the igniter.
Less the money, more the control. Couldn't stomach the fact that this woman was ready to move on and already had. Guys like this are friggin pathetic.
Control and money
I agree he didn't want to share any of his assets. Should've never gotten married if that was the case. Don't know why he thought he would get away with this.
@@JamesKroenNah. Greed and hubris.
The laundry at midnight parts insane to me. I have five kids. I do all my laundry at midnight while I binge watch tv alone in the quiet.
Same. I do all my laundry late at night.
You didn’t have a dead woman in your upstairs bathroom either 🤣🤣🤣
Doing laundry now & it's almost midnight
Dan is guilty because it just strange a man would do laundry late at night.
A lot of people do their laundry at night but not when you've just found your partner/wife/husband dead in the bath tub...
When a woman is unhappy because she’s being abused and then dies. It means she was murdered by the abuser. It’s not suicide.
She wasn't abused. Sounds like she over the marriage and Committed adultery
And she wants to leave
She had two affairs within a ten-year interval and they blame the husband.😂
48 hours is definitely the best crime channel on YT.
Forensics Files
YT? These go overboard on all channels!
Classy place
Nothing compares to Forensic Files.
Rest in Power Peter Thomas.
@@shirleyharris1335What other channels?
dude is a WALKING RED FLAG.
She was a red flag as well sleeping with the neighbors smh
Of course the GSR test was negative, he showered
Yes you are right...brilliant.
I forget this point
the test was not fine enough
Just because there are no defensive wounds, doesn’t mean he didn’t do it. You don’t always have an opportunity to wound your attacker.
Interesting. Shanann Watts didn’t defend herself either. Odd.
@@FredPorlock-1892What do u mean?
@@maryanne7161 If I remember correctly, Chris said she didn’t fight him, she just laid there. And she didnt have defensive wounds. If I’m incorrect, I blame it on my super bad memory. 😥
@@FredPorlock-1892You are right.
@@liviamoon 🙏
Quit cheating people ! Cheating - Is Abuse , it can send people on the edge over the edge. Conflating grief and rage is very dangerous.
A job where you drive around with a loaded gun and impunity attracts a lot of sociopaths.
Extremely true.
@@rm4519 In a country where buying firearms is easy peasy lemon squeezey or stealing them from houses & cars, you don't need the job or impunity just a mouthy woman who don't know her place & wont let the man do his will?
I wonder if they give piligraph , psychological eval and proper training. Lee's Summit cops are nuts.
@@amorkorollennu3813 I don't know if they do it anymore but police used to give IQ tests to candidates. If you scored too high you were out.
@vivalaleta I seem to remember that too.
That judge was savage! So glad that murderer didn't get away with it. Worst actor ever. You can read his body language so clearly.
Yes, and the judge made sure Dan knew he wasn't fooling anybody.
@@ninaballerina2807 He fooled their son. Betrayed his own mom and sister and little niece.
@dianegreyson8787 I hope the son knows better now. I say, the trusting are like little children who give us a glimpse of Heaven, and this is why every time trust is broken more and more of the Heaven on earth is lost, until at last, as it is in these endtimes, only Wickedness/Evil remains.
He should have been put in prison when he shot and killed that other woman on duty
Why? Do you know the full story?
Completely ignorant statement ….
@@nicefish10 agreed
Oh......you know what happened.
Tell us.
Concerning the woman killed during the traffic stop: Two fugitives (40 yo female, 25 yo male partner) tried to run him over with a jeep at a traffic stop.
He shot into the vehicle multiple times and she died.
You’re ignorant. He was cleared for a reason.
Both sound like horrible people cheating with his good friend then having another affair hiding credit cards and bills and him abusive smh what a mess
I was thinking this the entire time. Like he wasn’t doing anything until he found out about all that, he begged her to save the marriage and she wouldn’t. Then she picked him up from the airport and told his she wanted to leave instead of simply leaving while he was gone. She wanted to cause drama and she wanted to tear him down more than she already did. This man is completely guilty but she drove him to do it. I won’t condone what he did but I understand why.
@@marcusfullerton9420She drove him? Shame on you for even thinking there's an excuse to homicide.
@ this isn’t me excusing it, I’m just saying you can only push people so hard🤷
@@marcusfullerton9420 you wouldn't condone it but you understand why is a contradiction. Pick an effing lane. Unbelievable
@@marcusfullerton9420we'll add this to your record.
An adulteress wife and a murderer for husband. What a pair! And yet he calls it 28 years of mostly happy marriage.
Exactly. They were both selfish and juvenile. That’s not gonna end well.
Right ppl are glazing over that. Adultery can drive ppl insane . Him being a cheapskate doesn't necessarily validate that
That's because her infidelity has nothing to do with it. She could have had 100 affairs. Her husband had no right to take her life.
@@Lourdes-p4k And she had no right to cheat on her husband. Actions have consequences
@jlondono7 Yes.. the consequences..like divorce! Not death!
The fatal decision was going back to the house after fearing for your life. I can understand being manipulated into thinking everything is fine and they are sorry; but when people show you who they are, believe them the first time.
You are so right.
His terrible fake crying plus the lack of real emotion at her funeral are obvious red flags!! 😱😱
Your first instincts especially of danger are always right. Trust yourself always. Confide in your loved ones. Seek help. Plan your exit in silence.
Monsters always claim that they're not monsters
What about people who aren't monsters? Do they claim to be monsters? I'm trying to understand the logic here
@duckhunt1902 If you're not a monster, people know it. You don't have to claim it. You'd say I would never do X. Monsters always say that they aren't. Good ppl rarely have to say it.🤷♀️. Same goes for pathological liars
'I'm not that monster, I assure you' ... coming from a convicted murderer. Excellent judge.
How on earth can the neighbor believe Kendy committed suicide ignoring the red flags and facts?!!? "I don't deserve to be here" and crying over her failed marriage does NOT equal suicide MONTHS LATER.
Ikr
Some women hate themselves and assume all women do, too. They believe all men instead of looking at the facts.
Getting side piece vibes.
No kidding! I was shocked by her statement there.
Shame on that neighbor!
Leaving an unfaithful spouse with half of a $2+ million estate would have been a better decision.
👍
That crying is giving me second hand embarrassment
Seeing her granddaughter crying at the end absolutely broke my heart. That poor, sweet baby. Just breaks my mama heart. 😔💔
Dan the ex marine and cop describes the gunshot sounding like a thud. I just heard a 9-mil gunshot 2 days ago, and it sounded like something violently exploding. It was deafening.
It sounds like Kendy was unloved, abused, scared, alone in her marriage, and looking for love wherever she could find it. It’s so sad when a happy, upbeat, loving, outgoing person gets with a boring, grumpy, controlling, domineering stick-in-the-mud who ruins (or even takes) their happy life. My narcissistic ex-husband promised me all the love in the world and pretended to want a real marriage and connection. As soon as we were married, he turned into a controlling, critical, emotionless robot who wanted to be alone all the time and couldn’t stand it if I wanted to (God forbid) leave the house to do a fun activity. Poor Kindy and her family.
I'm sorry you went through that. I hope life is better now.
You summed this case up in such an eloquent way, as only a victim of abu$€ could. Thank you for sharing and I hope that you are now free to recover and find the happiness you deserve elsewhere.
Hugs from Switzerland 🇨🇭🤗
Thank you both for the sweet comments! I am SO MUCH happier now, although I still struggle a bit with anger and many of the other negative emotions one has to work through after narcissistic ab•use• I have a fun life and a sweet bf now. My ex probably regrets losing me, since he has to see me sometimes and realizes what a fool he was. I will never settle again. *Never* lower your standards, ladies and gentlemen!
Wow, yes your story sounds very familiar, she wanted out and he didn’t want the marriage to end…
@@Autumn_Forest_Good for you, I left a 22 year marriage, my husband was “checked out” and I said ok, i will leave with 8 and 10 year old boys. It took a lot of time to work through what he did to me. I never looked back….
That "crying" is awful!
And that fake wailing. Please.
Seriously 😑
The grand daughter crying was real and broke my heart.😢
He cries like Alex murdaugh
😂😂😂😂
The guilty cry
They both attended the Amber Heard School,of Drama.
🤣@@dragonmummy1
Sounds like the Menendez brothers.
LADIES….please, please NEVER tell your partner you’re leaving. Especially an abusive partner. Just leave. That is the most dangerous time.
If the police hadn't heard her daughter screaming at Dan over the phone it might have turned out differently for him. Good timing!
They were on to him from the beginning. Just added to their suspicion and gave them a great opportunity to confront him and get his reaction.
I really appreciate 48 Hours.Thank you.
Domestic violence is a global problem. Women should not be scared to tell someone about this.
You are so right
I remember a time when I went to a women’s house for a weekly meeting that would be held there. I could hear her being beat up by a man. I was so frustrated and scared for her. We were in a third world country. There was no 911 I could call. I was so scared for her and so frustrated because there was nothing I could do. I felt that if I knocked on the door I would have just made it worse since I couldn’t do anything to protect her after I left. My heart breaks for how little I could do. She was such an amazing person. If there are any people who pray please pray for her
This is so sad reality. Woman should be safe and know they can ask for help.
There's a global problem with men being violent in all kinds of situations.
And dont sleep with your husbands best freind who happens to be the neighbor. If you do at least leave the house and never return
Actions do have consequences. After toiling for the family for decades, only to be blindsided by a spouse who clearly plans to break up security itself. *Beware* the reaction..
That neighbour who said she committed suicide, I guess she hated her because she had an affair with her husband
😂
Yeah that was really strange of her to say…
Thought same 😂
I was thinking the same thing the neighbor must be messing around with the husband or wanted him for her to be so sure she committed suicide smh.
@@VeeDriven1 yesss
Makes me wonder how many times he lied in police reports, planted evidence, and lied about his hours worked. ???????????
The fake spider-leg lashes are a bit much while on patrol 😂😂
But her brain still on!❤
The neighbour who believes she did this to herself is an idiot!
Isn't that the truth!!!!
You think she wants him?
She is Not the brightest candle in the chandliere
She doesn’t believe her words either, the second she says I believe she took her own life, she immediately looked down, I knew she was lying. She is probably thinking she now has a shot at getting the husband
She did do it to herself by being a pos wife
Immediately this guys acting skills 🤦♂️
Exactly! Razzie award on this one! He couldn’t shed one tear and was too over dramatic.
Right!🤦🏾♀️ I already knew what time it was with him.
Hilarious, no...???
Exactly bad acting
@@angelabordacklol Razzie award 😂😂😂
BEING SINGLE AND LIVING ALONE IS AWESOME😂
Lots of single women have been killed too.
@@Lourdes-p4k CAUSE THEY DONT KNOW HOW TO STAY ALIVE
i agree - u cant buy that kind of peace. am so grateful for my aloneness
@@leelunk8235 Yes, that's why their dead.
@@CleopatrasNemesis FACTS, SAME HERE
I can't not mention that leaving your spouse or partner is the most dangerous time. Never be alone with them while leaving.
I can't fathom waking up to my husband standing over me in black latex gloves with a death stare in his eyes....and NOT leaving. That's creepy AF. 😮
Listening to this while I drive and my 12 year old son says “that fake cry is so annoying” 😂😂😂😂 even a kid knows a liar when he hears one
Kids are the best detectives 😂
@@monicamomney8756 absolutely 😂
I hope your 12 year old wasn't listening to this entire story with you.....yikes!
Oh my God, it's my 13 year old daughter..."he should have just given up from the start cuz that fake crying is soooo annoying " lol😅
I don't think kids should listen to this.
During the killer's 3-week stints in Alaska would have been an opportunity for Kendy to quietly move out of the house and go into hiding. I wish it was explained why she didn't do that. 😢
She probably did not think she was in danger…sadly she was wrong.
You never leave your house, if you are in a community Property state. I don’t practice family law, but was told this in law school. Remember he controlled the money. The assets appeared to be tied to the land, my guess is her lawyer suggested it would be better if she tried to “work out the financial split” with him to put herself in a better financial position. Just my guess.
Dont forget she was sleeping with the neighbor. She probably didnt want to leave her side peice
Ladies, when a man shows you who he is believe him! Get out! Your life may depend on yourself.
👍🏼👍🏼it's not worth the risk you are right
Don’t just get out, STAY OUT!
I do laundry all the time, even at midnight
I do laundry at midnight, morning, midday or anytime its a good idea.
That was a bit week.
This is another sad story where women stay in the home or go back to the home after asking for a divorce…don’t go back to the home…we’ve seen it time and time again unfortunately end so tragically.
Don't commit adultery also. Just divorce leave and love your life.
Dan sounded like Kermit the Frog, he might as well have confessed. Poor Kendy.
Cops act tough with black motorists-only to turn into punks in court....
😂😂😂😂
At times he sounded like Morty lmao
Even if you don't light up a room or give your shirt off your back to someone, you can still end up 6 feet under. Divorce is much cheaper in the long-run
Interesting that only the living and generous and beautiful are victims of violence. Seriously, she was cheating. There’s rarely a totally innocent victim. There’s usually some antagonism involved… some action or word that triggers the offender. I’m certainly not saying she deserved this, she surely didn’t. I’m just saying she was living with a bear and instead of getting away from the bear quietly, she decided to poke it first.
I’m 15 minutes in and the husband is guilty and the neighbor saying she committed suicide is either having an affair with the guilty husband or wants to have an affair with the guilty husband.
Tragic... To all Women, don't ever bring up a divorce when you're alone with a man that has a history of violence. When your sure you are leaving the marriage or relationship, ( secretly pack just what you need and go into hiding while doing the paperwork with your lawyer ) .
Im 30 seconds in and this is the worst fake crying and acting job ive seen yet. This guy is already definitely guilty.
The 1st medical examiner who performed the original autopsy should have known better; the multiple bruises throughout Kendy's body, her broken jaw and the bruises to both sides of Kendy's neck should have raised suspicion. Surely, there was something else going on here.
Yes! He should retire!
@@dberd9149He did retire. That was his last autopsy. He didn’t even try. Thankfully, several experts were brought in to prove his results were wrong.
Ladies u have to plot quietly and secretly!!! Never let them know ur next move!
You
Your
Grammar matters.
@@OutWestRedDirt ya mom matters go call her before I do!!!
Yup. Just say something like "I'm going to pick up some stuff at the store. Want me to bring you beer?" And never come back.
@@OutWestRedDirt we are on the internet. This is normal for internet speak.
Great advice
Bro why everyone acting like the woman was innocent. Yeah she didn’t deserve to die. But cheating on your partner with your neighbour/partner best mate is sick and horrible and then wondering why he was so angry etc. like woman you causes your own demise. You cheat then act like a victim until you became one. Like he shouldn’t have killed her but he was suffering from betrayal syndrome. Horrible horrid woman and a heartbroken horrid man
Indeed. People's judgement sometimes irritates me. She was an awful wife, she cheated on him multiple times. She was also stupid. She did see him over her with gloves on contemplating murdering her but she was too delusional to accept the reality and leave asap. It wasn't like she was financially or emotionally trapped in that marriage. I have no sympathy for people like her.
Leave quietly and quickly, in silence. Report all physical abuse to police, get restraining order. Move in to rental for time being, you can buy a new house later when you're done with divorce. Don't lose your life to that predator.
And yeah, that "crying" was so fake, its just disgusting to hear it. I knew immediately he is the one who did it. Poor lady fell victim for his sick games. RIP beautiful ❤
She had beautiful daughter and granddaughter. Pity we didn't hear Brooke yelling Dan he killed her mother. She knew immediately what he had done.
“I’m not that monster people portray me to be”. Sir you are ABSOLUTELY that monster that people have portrayed you to be. SMH
He portrayed it by his own actions.
@@dberd9149 absolutely
…he’s actually worse than he was portrayed.
If you look up Narcissism on Wikipedia you'll see his picture.
His plea for leniency and statement of his own innocence is nauseating.
Yeah, he did it. He deserves his punishment.
But man, for a married woman, she was a strumpet.
That crying was fake as hell!
He would’ve appeared more “real” if he didn’t engage in the ridiculous wailing and crying. It appeared so fake that I’m sure it was the first red flag to the detective.
Absolutely fake
Agreed!!!
I don’t believe Bryan Kohberger committed the 4 murders in Idaho!
I've seen enough of these to know crocodile tears are the first indicator of a killer and crime.
When they explain too much about themselves and what they were doing prior to the 911 call.
I just did laundry at midnight last night lol But he was of course destroying evidence. Such a dumb criminal
@@ezzb but did you do it after finding your partner dead?
Right. I do too. But I'm not a murderer. But dang they can pull your utilities usage. Wow
These small towns often have only 'Medical Examiners' who are not MDs. And often in these murders that make it to a show, the ME's conclusions don't fit.
@@24kachina😂
The wife cheated twice ‘’made him to go over the edge .
Truly devastating 😢😢😢never tell him, instead plan your exit carefully then just leave! Abusive narcissistic men are dangerously cruel and they lie, manipulate and will fake empathy too!
this guy is a cop and these r the best acting skills that he can come up with?🙄
His acting 🎭 skills were AWFUL!
I wish the friend would have went behind her back and reported the abuse. It might have saved her life.
The problem with that, in the UK anyway, is you have to report it yourself as an adult. A woman I know was being ab*sed by her son!! Scrams down her neck..he's huge and she's terrified. I told her I was reporting it and she ok'd it but she was scared. The authorities refused point blank to do anything because she would have to call herself! She was too scared to in case they took her other children from her. What a mess!
Or if she didnt cheat with the neighbor and then taunt her husband with it. ha
@@johnsmith-ug5tpTruth. And she did this knowing he was dangerous. 🤦
When Kendy's granddaughter starts crying in the end 🥺🥺🥺😢💔
At least she somehow has 3 of the glass chickens from an entire china cabinet full of them. He sold her Grandma's whole collection at yard sale, wouldn't let his granddaughter or his daughter have them or any momentos. Worse, Kendy's son (and little girl's Uncle) stood there and enforced when his sister tried to even buy any heirlooms at the yard sale when she found out about it happening and raced over.
The officer wasn't buying into his antics crying and gagging like he was going to throw up. The officer said " do you need a medic?" In a short tone lol
This case is actually very obvious since the very beginning. Stay safe to everyone who have household problems and try to separate/to divorce. It's said to hear this type of case happens quite a lot😢
What sticks out to me first thing is that fake crying and the way he was faking the way he was talking so it would seem like he was crying when clearly he was not. Then the fact that she supposedly took her own life while taking a bath?? No, a woman isn't typically going to want to be discovered nude. She may commit the act in a tub to limit the mess to that area, but she's gonna be dressed and she's gonna probably leave a note of explanation. The lack of blood in that bath water was also a sign. Actually there were so many signs pointing to guilt it was unbelievable.
The death of Kendy all of a sudden felt personal and heartbreaking the moment her beautiful little granddaughter spoke and couldn't hold back her tears. I wish the law had a clause whereas additional penalties and sentencing could be implemented as punishment for the utter lifelong devastating damage that loved ones, primarily children, would suffer because of the actions of the perpetrator. But no judge or jury will ever have the authority to issue a sentence of burn in hell. Too bad.
Don’t worry. God has a long memory and will handle the final judgement. 👿👹
@@MoogieBI have no doubt but I don't think it God he's going to be seeing. You're supposed to repent and ask God's forgiveness while you're still alive if you want redemption. This guy doesn't strike me as a confessing type. Why should God waste his time?
💔💔💔
Are there only 3 pictures of her?
It doesn't matter what title is attached to their name....STOP PROTECTING ABUSERS!
How much cheating can one man take? She wasn’t so fearful of him not to cheat. She absolutely did not deserve to die but could he have been driven to do this??