The Marshmallow Test (Stanford Experiment + Truth)
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- Опубліковано 18 бер 2021
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The best career advice that I learned is don’t ever attach your-self to a PERSON, a place, a company, an organization or a project. Only Attach your-self to your mission in life and your PURPOSE. That’s how you keep your power and keep your peace!
although this is true like you said thats career advice not life advice that is a border line sociopathic tendency, character development is massive and being the way you described shuts that ability out i literally watched my roomate one of the smartest ppl i knew mess everything up because he believed in this so heavy
Because everyone shits on you eventually
Why the hell is this exact comment on every psychology vid
It's also how you end up single and not rewarded in the workplace because you lack chemistry with your co-workers.
Just give your kids lots of love. Give hugs when asked. Offer hugs whenever you see they are upset. Don't promise unless you know you can deliver. If you can't, apologize and explain why. These simple acts of kindness and love can do wonders to any children include those who cannot delay gratification. Sometimes science search for something that is already known, just to add a few data points in their experiments without really changing the results.
Even religion says the same brother.
Beliving on Jesuses reserrection has helped true christians on afterlife by not to being greedy and selfish because of it
I was the youngest of 3 boys. We did not grow up with much means. I recall countless times, we’d get a treat, like a Kit Kat or a Twix bar. I’d slowly eat 1 Twix bar and save the other, my brothers would inhale there whole candy bar then pick on me and try, sometimes achieving stealing my saved half. Needless to say, one is a drug addict and the other buys and lives way beyond his means and has made many poor decisions in his adult life, setting him back for the years to come.
One year between my brother and I. As children, he would instantly devour any kind of treat/drink and I would pace myself. He would get mad at me because I would have something left over. He is got caught stealing from work and lost his job. He was using the stolen money to buy take out. How good were those burgers for you to be arrested, charged and prosecuted?
I know I am commenting on a year old video, which in itself is reporting on a 60 year old experiment, however, I have often wondered about little nuances that may have gone unnoticed in the children and so, not recorded, and therefor not researched in later visits. For instance:
- if the child ate the marshmallow, but lied about it saying someone else came into the room and ate it -- was later found to be a pathological lair.
- if the child ate the marshmallow, but lied about it saying that the adult didn't leave one in the first place -- was later found to have short-term memory issues.
- if the child wanted to negotiate with the adult regarding exactly how long they had to wait and if they waited longer could they get 3 marshmallows -- later became a politician
- if the child argued with the adult about getting the second marshmallow up front and then do the waiting afterwards -- later became a used car salesman.
- if the child put the marshmallow in her pocket, but then wanted to argue the point that she had not eaten it, so now she deserved 2 more marshmallow -- was later found to be my ex-wife.
...the list is endless
lmao, nice one: "- if the child put the marshmallow in her pocket, but then wanted to argue the point that she had not eaten it, so now she deserved 2 more marshmallow -- was later found to be my ex-wife."
@@keithk888 Can you think of any to add?
😂 very entertaining
- if the child asked how long they would have to wait... idk think of one here lol
If the child comes from a large family of around 5 to 8 kids...and is used to having to grab things immediately or go without. If the child is always being told one thing and the parents do the other...like withholding treats. If the kid decides he/she only wants one marshmallow...If the kid hates marshmallows...etc. etc. etc.
Can here to look for my problem of agression and while its not direct related on topics i think i can use part of it. Like i can not remove my temptation (the triggers for my agression) but i can distract myself from it. Instead of suppressing the anger of acting on it. Btw nice video keep up the good work.
It's funny, I showed my daughter a video on the Marshmellow Test when she was 6 years old. It didn't mention any possible errors. But all the same, she just took it as true and applied it. Now, she's top of her class, works to make and save her own money, while making time for friends and computer. She just accepted it as true and integrated patience and hard work in her value system.
When I hear marshmallow test, I think of how many marshmallows you can put in your mouth 😂
this made me laugh out loud lmfao
HAHAHA that is Chubby bunny bruh
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@did you see those sisters on tlc doing that ?? mr.empathy3984
In the video is mentioned, that the factor economic situation of the families sort of explains the results and the narrator attributes it to abundance, and also the education level of the parents. Might it also relate to the parenting style, as more educated parents may be more likely to have a better parenting style?
If the child comes from a large family of around 5 to 8 kids...and is used to having to grab things immediately or go without. If the child is always being told one thing and the parents do the other...like withholding treats. If the kid decides he/she only wants one marshmallow...If the kid hates marshmallows...etc. etc. etc.
thank you. I learned
Make a bit of a mockey of the old idioms "A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush"
In the experience, is the test take in consideration the possibility of children hate marshmallow? All children don't like marshmallow. Maybe having access to the documents of this experience could be interesting on this point
Great videos
Instant gratification vs Delayed gratification. I have been in my delayed gratification journey for over 3 years now. What does that say about me? 🤔👑
Those who patiently endure will have a successful life
Where is the video you mentioned about Delayed Gratification?
What if the kids didn't like marshmallows? 🤔
Then you can give chocolate to them. Its better than marsh.
@@josephh9001 What if the kids didn’t like chocolate? 🤔
@@ryanexx5250 If there is such a child, he already has very good willpower😄
Just use their favourite whatever. Ive seen bananas used or like a doughnut
lmfao
yeah i can see a bunch of outliers and other factors that might screw with the results..
I think recent tests trying to debunk the Marshmallow Test are in themselves flawed. For example, a parent who is aware of the test is going to try and adjust their parenting. Most college educated people are required to take psych 101, and learn about this test. It also doesn't account for societal differences between now and then, after 50 years. If I weren't aware of the marshmallow test, I probably wouldn't have stressed patience/delayed gratification and rewarded it when raising my kids, and I'm sure they would be worse off for it.
The experiment hasn't been debunked. It has merely been explained more deeply. The marshmallow test could only examine a single point in time of a child's development and compare it to later single-point development. It is informative and useful to see the reasons why children's momentary impulses were gratified or not, but that doesn't disprove the test.
The next step of explaining why a strong impulse control exists or not, helps us to develop a childhood environment that promotes a child's impulse control, thereby giving him or her the power to give up immediate gratification in return for long term success and even freedom from addictions. But that was not in the scope of the original test. Without the marchmallow test, the subsequent tests and examinations could never have been performed. You have to start somewhere.
how do i switch to being able to have delayed gratification
@@girlbossincorporated I struggled with this for a long time myself. I have found that having strong and well-defined financial goals makes it easier to resist impulsive purchases. It might help to put photos of your goals in places you will see them every day. When you are tempted to spend money, imagine that spending that money will make your real goals move further away from you. (That actually IS what is happening, you just need to strongly visualise it!)
Coincidentally, in a couple of weeks I'm paying cash for the first property purchase I've made in 25 years. So yeah, no matter how much you earn, it works if you create a determined mindset.
Making a conscious decision to look for ways to NOT spend money can become a habit and can be fun. But you have to really want to make it happen.
Build some "fences" to protect your money from impulse buying. For example, some of these things that might help:
1. "A dollar saved is a dollar earned" is an old saying but it is false. Every time you are tempted to spend, remember that "every dollar you don't spend is actually equal to two dollars earned". This is because visible and hidden taxes take at least half of your income. So when you are tempted, remember that that $6 coffee actually costs you $12. Ouch!
2. Say you manage to save $5,000. Something you "want" costs $1000. That is a whopping 20% of your savings! Remember how hard it was to save that money? Ask if you REALLY want to give up 20% of your savings to have it.
3. Buy now, pay later schemes should be avoided at all costs. Even if there isn't an apparent cost to you, the costs are hidden in the price. More importantly, "buy now, pay later" schemes encourage you to spend money you don't have, often on things you don't really need. Then the bill comes in and you get caught in a debt spiral. This is a deadly financial trap.
4. Have two bank accounts. Keep enough money in one to pay the bills and for spending. Put any money that you don't need for essentials in the other account and cut up the card to that account so you have to make a real effort to get to your money. You don't have to give up luxuries completely, you just have to decide which luxuries are worth the cost.
5. Avoid places that tempt you to spend money unnecessarily. This might be eBay, a club with poker machines, stores, fast food joints... You will know the places you are most easily tempted.
6. Get rid of credit cards. They are the worst trap for anyone (myself included) who has impulse control difficulties. If you have a credit card debt, talk to the bank about getting the balance/s transferred into a personal loan with lower interest rate, a fixed repayment amount and no withdraw facility.
7. Look for places that sell cheap essentials like groceries and clothing. The savings you make can turbocharge your saving for those major goals that you want to achieve.
8. Learn how stores psychologically manipulate you to spend your hard-earned money. UA-cam has heaps of videos on this topic. Realising the tricks they use will help you to resist them.
Anyhow, I hope some of this helps. Using these methods has helped me to change my spending habits and put my finances into a much better condition. The most important thing is being willing and determined to make real changes. You really gotta want it for it to happen.
@@andymanaus1077 im not talking financially
They did the marshmallow test on me when I was a child. I saw where they kept the marshmallows. I waited until they left the room, and then ate all the marshmallows except for the 1 they left me on the plate like cheap bastards. How did I do?
what if the kids have easy access to marshmallows or they don't like them so much, so as to be motivated to take another one? I agree on the connection btw capacity to postpone gratification and discipline and success. But it highly depend on what motivates one. I hope when doing the test they used other items as well, depending on the interest of each subject. Otherwise the test cannot be relevant.Besides, there are some people who postpone gratification just from a sense of scarcity. They don't like marshmallons, but having more somehow makes them feeling secure. They probably will wait until they get 20 marshmallows and then keep them until they are not good anymore.
I literally searched this up because I watched a video where it mentioned that this really just showed that poor kids are disadvantaged.
yes environment and money also affect psychology
@@ocal123 environment and money also effect parenting
edit: spelling
This test assumes healthy parenting. It doesn’t account for children whom make decisions out of fear not self-control. A child can delay eating the marshmallow will probably delay eating two more out of fear of what the parent will say. And if the parent is reporting 10 years later the parent might lie. The child might be in horrible situation but not based on their own self control but abuse in the home.
I'm 52 years old and my best friend from childhood is 3 days older than me. We were both raised in old fashion households where children were expected to do heavy shores and spankings were common. But while I remember my parents with love and understand they raised me the only way they knew how my best friend resents his father to this day and feels he was very abusive towards him. The same input can have very different effects on humans. The mystery is to know where do resilience and self control come from.
Interesting
I'm like the kids who didn't take the marshmallow, but instead waited. Now as an adult, I realize that the additional marshmallows I waited for are just taken by the state and by the government via taxes.
Why do the other marshmallow videos have their comments turned off?
cause the study was debunked! TRUE
@@joshy_j_ oh no kidding.
@@joshy_j_ no it wasn't
Psychology must interect with sociology to have a deeper understanding
Is this yore first vid
I didn't know this was done by Stanford. This Stanford experiment is much better than that other Stanford prison experiment. I didn't know they did it with marshmallows either. I knew it as the candy test.
It was done by Walter michell at Stanford University, not by Stanford!
My 1st thought was scarcity. 🤷🏾
сегодня тест по этой теме будет...
"According to their parents"
Me: oh false
El oh el
Walter Mischel did this
As someone who doesn't like marshmallows, I would give mine to the other kid and not care about the second one.
I would also blame trust... I wonder if kids who had bad homelives would not wait as long.
Depends on how hungry they were and if this kind of treat was plentiful at home etc. I would not wait for the marshmallow because, I believe that it's a bird in the hand etc
Would've been nice if he went into how this study was debunked
yep
It wasn't it was modern psychology students having no new ideas of their own and wanting to be famous for throwing shade into these studies. Also if the people were mostly "white" then they want to say it was racist and not diverse etc. A final point is the far left wants a world that craves pleasure and satisfaction. Having a study that shows this will hurt your development can't be tolerated if this agenda is to be pushed.
Me the same with tobacco
I will go for the first marshmallow because diabetes is a bitch
Thanks for adding so many great informative video. could you slow down when speaking since the amount information can be overwhelming to some listeners.
Who else is here because of Rolf Dobellis's book the ART OF THINKING CLEARLY??
maybe
Yummy test 😋
Oh I thought this was the prison one
Me too
Imagine if they did this with children
😂
Maybe some of the children were hungry and others weren't. Some just ate and others haven't eaten in hours.
so wait for few minutes, then get another
so what, waiting all day for food why not wait a few minutes more
30 Precent Of The Kids Waited And 20 Years Later They Have a Sucessfull Life And The Other Have A Unsucessfull life this is what i call Self Control!
So in order to take care of your responsibilities you have to sell your only computer (in my case) so you don't forget to do them? Even if it's one you study on, and not just for gaming? Pft!
"Someone wanting to finally study sells their gaming console"
Ah man, eat the marshmallow, smoke a ciggy and hit the snooze button. That is freaking amazing life, the kind of life everyone dreams of.
Gotta keep it 💯 Id eat the $h!t outta that first Marshmellow.
This might be one of the reasons why most wealthiest people come from wealth too.
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Correlation does not equal causation. The correlation does not explain whether they ate the marshmellow because of the experiences of being poor, or whether their family is poor because their mom is a marshmellow eater and they picked up her vices. Your rationality that poor people are driven to consume doesn't make any sense because conserving the few things you have for later would also be a good survival strategy. Many people who survived the Great Depression were notorious for being penny pinchers.
What if the child doesent like marshmallow, 😑
Maybe they were just hungry 🤔
Nope they are like most people living for instant gratification .... wich makes life shitty ... nobody succeeds without patience and sacrifice and delayed gratification ...
@Seaworth lol what a lot of bs to try to explaine why most people are losers this days
@Seaworth So you are saying that people don't get fat because of instant gratification .... for example ? when people choose the 5 second pleasure of a pizza for a lifetime of regret of being fat ..
I doubt that cartoon child shown in the beginning would pass the test lol.
I think marshmallow is a good impulse control testing tool. I disagree the comments that children have poorer self control because of lower social economic status because candies are very inexpensive. Children learn from what they observe from their family members and peers along with certain hereditary factors in personality traits.
I agree with you that it's not about whether they're inexpensive or not. It's about the negative impact of the kids' learned mindset about limited resource availability (scarcity mindset due to growing up poor) on long-term life outcomes.
If it was 2 out of 3 in the U.S. and 2 out of 3 in South America, then we just need to do a study using all poor kids, and one using kids from wealthy families... Don't even have to wait 15 years, just see if you get 2 out of 3 they don't wait...
Please get rid of the vignette please it's driving me nuts tysm~
Really cool & interesting study tho, can't wait to do some further digging!
0:21 yeah right you got a black kid to not instantly grab the first marshmellow. they dont have a conceptual understanding of what-comes-next. they dont even get that if they steal a bag of marshmellows, get into a fight with a cop and then WIN that fight, that all the other cops in town willl be after them.
We should all fail at life to insult Susan
The original test, sets a demoralizing Label Tag
Channel has became Vanilla AF.
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First like
The study isn’t debunked. It’s because most people fail it and a lot of people got butthurt and salty that their kids are utterly midwits not meant for success in later life
First?
whiteboard crypto
Susan Wojik is the worst. I don't give any of this credit any longer.
This video is just trying to mud the waters with pseudo-science, anecdotes and conjecture to theorize why the marshmallow test wouldn't be reliable, meanwhile the data shows it is one of the most reliable predictors of success.
It's disgusting that you are still spreading this BS. The study was debunked, it shows nothing. You mention the debunking, but go on to assume the results are valid: they are not.
It *was* immensely influential, encouraging the libertarian "poor people are feckless and that is why they are poor" mindset.