In case anybody without adhd is wondering, those "extra voices" (at least in my experience) aren't the same thing as audio hallucinations, like hearing voices in disorders like schizophrenia. For me, at least, it's more like my mind is moving so fast, I can literally carry on multiple inner dialogues, more or less at the same time, or close together, typically in the "background" for the most part, with one main one being my actual inner thoughts, as opposed to my meanderings and preoccupations. I also have OCD, so I often find myself commenting on my own odd mannerisms and quirks, in a very annoying marriage of the two disorders. The voices are still mine, as in sound like my main inner dialogue, and I associate them with myself, and technically have a semblance of control over them (Except they sorta happen, whether I want them to or not, bc racing mind). So, they aren't hallucinations, for that reason.
Same here, even on medication for both, things get really complicated really quickly whenever the thing i am trying to do has more than pre-requisites.
I most likely have both (can't afford a diagnosis but multiple therapists, a psychologist and psychiatrist have said I most likely have one or the other, or both. Plus friends and ex partners who are nuerodivergent, have ADHD or know someone that does think I have ADHD as they see the same behaviours in me as in themselves). I'm different in the fact that while my mind races constantly and jumps from thought to thought, I don't have an internal dialog... I also don't see visuals in my mind. Which is strange as I can be very creative. Yet, I have to have references. I can't conjure up a great sketch from my mind. If you were to ask me to picture something in my mind or imagine a scene, I can't... yet occasionally I get strange flashes of things. But they feel so far in the back of my mind that I can't reach them and they're blurry and indistinct and only last a fraction of a second. I will add that I was diagnosed with PTSD at 14 years old, then not long after with insomnia (due to my mind not settling down... constant thoughts racing and when I finally do sleep I'm restless and wake up multiple times; this went away for years but has come back with a vengeance in the last year or so). Was also diagnosed at 15 with manic depression and anxiety. Yet I think bipolar was a completely wrong diagnosis; while I did have mood swings they were a daily thing, not something that changed over months. Also, I never had the manic stage... delusions of grandeur, heightened emotions, etc I was severely depressed though and put on ecitalopram, then citalopram, then Prozac (fluoxetine) at 15! It didn't work... I didn't feel depressed anymore but I didn't feel anything else either. I had suicidal idealation, self mutilated and had mental break downs... one landed me in hospital at 18 years old. Mind you, my life was traumatic... moved out at 15, came back home at 17, then got kicked out at 18 after my last mental break down as my parents couldn't handle my behavior, didn't know what to do and my step Dad was at his wits end, not to mention they had my half brother to look after, who is 10 years my junior. I started self medicating by turning to drugs, which actually cured my depression and insomnia (but obviously did not address the underlying issues)... because I was high and blissfully unaware for years. Spent years wasted and off the planet. I've been in recovery for over half the time I've been a drug addict yet for the past 3 years I've finally stopped using on the side. Yet, all my disorders, emotional issues, etc have reared their ugly heads up. I'm finding daily life debilitating. As a 30 year old woman I'm assuming I was wrongly diagnosed with bipolar as a teen and my ADHD went under the radar, as happens to so many women. Yet after doing a lot of research, watching videos like this (ADHD Love channel made me feel so validated as 98% of the issues she has with daily life were relatable to me). I'm just so freaking tired all the time! I need help but without being able to afford screening and a diagnosis I can't receive the help I so desperately need. I don't know what to do anymore... my mental state has declined these last couple months and now I'm really depressed for the first time in a decade (mind you, depression and anxiety as a teen was way worse... probably why I ended up in co dependent relationships and now have anxiety when in public by myself; parties, social gatherings, etc are fine and I can easily strike up a convo with strangers but doing things by myself is anxiety inducing... I don't like walking on the street, people driving past, etc as I fear they're looking at me... which is ironic as my aesthetic is alternative, I have body mods and used to dye my hair all sorts of funky colours... yet I could hide behind that. Now that I've grown up I'm more casual yet I'm not expressing myself like I used to... which also feels like a detriment to my mind). Sorry for the big spiel... sometimes I can't help it. I'm absolutely unbearable in person (well I think so yet my friends say there's never a dull moment) as I'm a chatterbox and it comes across online as well.
Ah yes. The classic “why do I feel sick. Oh. I haven’t had food or water today. It’s dinner time. Oh no.” But at least half my dishes are unloaded, and I got the vacuum out.
This is eerily similar to my thought process and why I can never get anything done The only difference I have is stopping and staring at something forget what I was doing and then leave the room
I too am in tears watching this, I can't even explain how deep it cuts. It's a constant battle and a thankless struggle because who is going to praise an adult for "just" getting through a day, right? But they don't know that each day is like this... Thank you so much.
@@newbeginnings5610 I am so glad to see yet another recent viewer, I only realized after I posted the comment that the video was uploaded quite some time ago
@@newbeginnings5610 @decipherity hi recent viewers, i just saw this too. i hope y’all know that you’re doing amazing, and try not to be hard on yourselves because you’re living life on hard mode and literally NEVER get a break. meds are nice but they don’t rival what it’s like to be neurotypical. i’m so proud of yall, keep doing the best that you can because even though so many people have no idea how much harder everything is for you than it is for them, you deserve to be the subject of your own pride. you don’t get an award for surviving life with a brain like this, but just because you don’t get an award doesn’t mean that it isn’t just as incredible of an accomplishment. you are a force to be reckoned with, never forget that.
Today I was at a neurodiversity training and I was obviously doing a million things OTHER than listen to that, until they reached the ADHD part and played this. I was LITERALLY in tears by the end
The especially relatable part for me is that after all that, she didn't actually start the dishwasher and didn't end up eating. Damn you really got this spot on.
Good paying attention! I remembered the "need to eat," but missed the others. This is quite relatable! ✌️😎🍀 Note: 🔑the key thing is why I have a small over the shoulder small satchel and try to always have pockets, so when I get too distracted muscle memory will take over, and at least the keys will be with me on the right side of the door! Also, have a larger purse where most everything else important goes, cards, necessary bills a container w/meds in case I missed something..... The kitchen thing, or cleaning my room, I got nothing. I try not to think of how life would be different if only I could complete the simple tasks....
@@erinmcdonald7781 I have a kind of belt attachment for my keys. I always use the same sturdy belt, and this is the only way I don't lock myself out or lose my keys all the time
For those without ADHD that might be a bit confused, it's not voices in your head it's just the split train of thought. So the voices represent every thought being processed at the same time
Thank you for clarifying... I could relate to the multi-thought process, but wasn't sure if she was actually hearing voices (and if I've been mistaken about myself 😊)
Wait so is the lack of "extra" trains why Normals can only single task and look annoyed when the radio AND TV and running life's background sound tracks while you're doing a primary task ?
This is one of the few "what's it's actually like to have ADHD" videos I've seen that aren't people just being "oh I was doing that and then I saw a butterfly" or just randomly shifting focus to something random out of nowhere. I like the fact it shows the struggle of actually trying to put effort into executing daily tasks and setting reminders (the sticky notes) but failing at things when you realize you left stuff to pile up and you need a certain step or like a clean space to execute your next task and they're all chained together untill you realize they all pile into an entire house of undone things and before you realize it it's time to go back to bed, you haven't done anything yet you're insanely tired.
I could remember few years back after my husband died, I was left alone with 3 kids. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with ADHD. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment changed my life for better. I can proudly say i'm totally clean for 6 years and still counting. Always look to nature for solution to tough problems, Shrooms are phenomenal.
I love hearing great life changing stories like this. I want to become a mycologist because honestly mushrooms are the best form of medicine (most especially the psychedelic ones) There are so many people today used magic mushrooms to ween off of SSRI medication- its amazing! Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death buddy, lets be honest here.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
I'm so very happy for you mate, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
I love that she never DID find her keys. So true. Now just imagine this five minutes before it's time for you to go to work, and add in some panic induced adrenaline because you know you're already on notice for lateness. 😬
That type of situation helps really. Suddenly I know what and how much of it I need to do in the very moment. Only pity is, there is so very little time left, if only the clearness would come earlier next time lol
WAIT I TOTALLY FORGOT ABOUT THE KEYS- I thought "they're right there, on the counter", but then she switched to another thing and the keys completely flew out of my head
.... I forgot she forgot that. By the time she was at the dishwasher. .... Yea this is pretty damn accurate. Just my thoughts are often more random, this is just how it looks like when I manage to focus on something.
That's like one of the bigger things with ADHD is forgetting to eat. My husband asked how does one forget your hungry. Idk there is so much going on up in my head.
didn't even realize until i saw this comment! so accurate, cause i do the same thing. i wanna eat so i go to the kitchen, but because i have a roommate there's already dirty dishes from her meal, so i have to clean them and the dishwasher was thankfully turned on but i have to unload it and put the other dishes in, but in order to unload the dishwasher i have to reorganize the cupboard so everything can fit because roommate doesn't remember where everything goes/doesn't have time to/doesn't bother to put things back in the right spot. for some reason the cat treats are in the tupperware cupboard. oh, right, i need to feed the cats, but while i'm doing that i notice the filter in their water fountain getting gross so i need to clean that, but in order to clean that i need to clear out the sink but to do that i need to unload the dishwasher but to do that i need to reorganize the cupboards and - 3 hours later the kitchen is spotless and i'm exhausted, but i forget to eat
The biggest problem is our non-existent short term memory bandwidth, which causes keeping all of these seemingly simple tasks que'd up nearly impossible and stressful to to achieve. This is why there is such relief once the tasks are on the actual white board and not the one in our head. The whiteboard in our head gets erased every 10s while simultaneously being written on by what seems like 2-3 other people with different ideas about everything in our field of view. All of this is happening simultaneously with background music. FYI, none of this stops when we have conversations with people.
I have only just learnt, after many failings in my life in jobs, with no overall success, that the short term memory bandwidth thing is a thing!. Wow I wished I understood that back in highschool, or in jobs. I wanted to be a primary school teacher, but I stopped after a year because I could not keep organised on everything at once at the same time. It was one of the biggest failures I had, I loved teaching.
@@AlextheENTP Thankyou for asking. The problems I had with staying organised, establishing routine, has haunted me in all jobs since then. I still cant hold routines now and am hot and cold with where things grab my initial interest. I havnt solved my problem of dealing with it as yet.
@@MrBennyrick77 If I may offer a bit of advice (acknowledging that I don't know you, so this may or may not apply) - my own working memory is pretty atrocious. I use the calendar and tasks apps on my phone OBSESSIVELY. Things that normal people wouldn't even have to write down, let alone break up into ten steps, I break into ten steps and set a reminder for each step. I DO NOT swipe it off the screen until it's truly done. I'm also all over the place with interests - the trick is to choose or create a job that allows you to explore multiple skills/interests and is varied enough to not become stale (eg, work on the computer, then you're on the road, then in the workshop, etc). Of equal importance is that this constant shifting can potentially keep you from becoming overwhelmed and bogged down. And if it works for you, get a friend or assistant to keep you on track. Sometimes we actually just need someone with a brain that does the tasks ours can't. 😵💫 I hope this wall o' text contained at least a snippet of useful information for you. All the best!
I’m actually in tears right now, I didn’t realise not everyone’s brain was like this. I truly didn’t know, I thought it was like this for everyone. Only in the last six months due to increased awareness have I started to realise I think I’ve had adhd my whole life. I’m female and 50 and I’ve never understood why I am the way I am, I thought I was just useless lazy. I’ve struggled my whole life like this and I didn’t know. Thank god for increased awareness, I’m going to ask for help now. What a brilliant video.
Do you really hear many voices in your head all at once!? Wow, that sounds like a mighty struggle Good luck on getting help, it sucks you couldn’t find out earlier
@@inevitabley Oh no they don't hear multiple voices, it's just their inner thoughts focusing on multiple things at once. You could say something real simple to somebody who has ADHD, and if they're even a little stressed at that moment, it's possible they might not comprehend what you said because they're too focused on a dozen other things. Relaxation can prevent this, but it's so darn hard to be relaxed. Even while I'm typing this, I had to stop and inhale/exhale just to get my thoughts together and focus on writing this.
There’s a great book on ADD/ADHD that is called “You mean I’m not lazy, stupid, or crazy.” This book was life-changing for me and I’ve known I have ADHD my whole life.
This is why it is so hard to stay on task with ADHD. You remember things you were meant to do whilst trying to figure out what needs doing now. This video demonstrates it very well. If you have depression or anxiety or PTSD in addition to ADHD the mental process is so overwhelming that you feel like you are spiraling into mental and emotional breakdown.
This. And then you turn around and see the absolute trail of destruction you’ve left behind in no time flat: open cupboards, half-made sandwich, “most” of the dishes done, “some” of them dried, bottle of soda on counter next to fridge, glass on a completely different counter, ice tray…how’d that wind up in the dining room, and…oh wait I was looking for my keys, that’s right, now where…oh let me finish that sandwich… 🙀
@@Ale-xv1un I think you misunderstood things there, Alex. Also, I'm fairly sure you are a troll, since you have a very empty channel. Read a bit more about ADHD and then come back and we'll see if you're worth our time of explaining everything to you.
This is a great simulator. I showed it to my husband and he’s horrified. He finally understands what our son lives on a daily basis. I think what shocked him the most was hearing the “noise” - the constant brain dialogue/feedback, both positive and negative.
I think exactly the way the video shows, so it confuses me that your husband is "horrified". Anyone that doesnt finish any task because it becomes many is just lazy and they lack discipline The end result for me wouldv been a whistle clean kitchen and a full stomach
I burst into tears halfway through this video as I saw myself going through these motions n tracking all the tasks n hearing all the other thoughts simultaneously! I fairly recently received my adult diagnosis, and I have never seen an ADHD simulation video before. This is exactly what it is like for me. All day, every day. (The task board is a good idea. I use a brain dump pad currently).
As someone with ADHD, I can confirm this is pretty damn accurate. Except I usually get overwhelmed and then end up doing absolutely none of the stuff I was supposed to do- then a few hours later I’ll be on my phone and I’ll think “wait wasn’t I supposed to be doing something?” And the cycle begins again :,)
This is ACTUALLY a really good depiction of how it is. I mean, REALLY GOOD. Most videos on social media about ADHD is just silly. Like trying to make it a quirky and fun superpower that everybody would like to have. So that people can be like; “oh, adhd is so cool and it’s part of my personality.” This is a disorter. And yeah, sometimes I feel like my adhd CAN be to my advantage - but THIS - this video shows how the average person with adhd struggles without not realizing it’s a struggle. You are just doing your thing and suddenly; time is up, someone’s disappointed in you and everything becomes chaos.
Whow, this is overwhelming. I just learned - with this video - that i have undiagnosed ADHD. That last sentence of yours even made me tear up a bit. Now I just have to convince everyone - who is already tired of my constant fickleness - that I'm ill. But to stay positive: Now I can, much better, explain why I constantly lose my stuff, which is great timing 'cause I miss my wedding ring for some months now... again.
the scary part is that when others are disappointed you don't even know why because you're trying your best to do your tasks, even tho you still haven't do the first and only task they asked you to do. I just forget/trying to get there!
one of the most accurate things is how the internal monologue gets more and more dejected and upset as you realize the “one task” is much more overwhelming and time-consuming than you thought. You captured really well how it feels when you’re *trying* to stay on track and motivated while constantly trying to ignore the part of you that’s overwhelmed and upset with yourself because all the obstacles you encountered only exist because past you made yet another mistake.
Why does she keep such mess around if she knows her condition? This is so stupid. I don't have ADHD, but I know how overwhelming things get if you don't finish them and it all piles up. Depressing enough for me, let alone for someone who has a precondition.
This made me cry. It made me feel more normal, and like I wasn’t lazy, or crazy. The intrusive negative self talk associated with the disorganization in the background was the icing on the cake. That is what set me crying. And I literally did this to my kitchen last week. It took me 5 hours to take care of my groceries. AND I forgot trash bags! I felt like I was watching a replay of my life.
Thing is I thought this was normal until a year ago and now I've been contemplating ADHD diagnosis but also have the ADHD tendency to keep putting it off.
I had to like, and then unlike so I could relike this post, I feel ya!!! I had the worst anxiety attack I've had in a while today, ironically largely because of a teeth cleaning appointment but it was getting the gas that calmed me down enough to be able to realize just how out of control my brain was. I don't know what to do about it but I recognize that the problem is worse than I thought.
THANK YOU for this. I was diagnosed late in life and I've never been able to explain what happens in my head. Also amazing creativity with the overlapping thoughts while trying to focus. Even with meds some days the chatter doesn't stop, it just slows down. Please keep sharing what you learn and educating people.
I completely understood all the voices. Some were memories, some were imaginary conversations you might have today with real people, some were future lists of tasks that need to be done later, some were hobbies you would REALLY like to get to one day.
And the jingle, song or phrase repeating whether it be "keys,keys, keys," or like in this one the Stranger Things line "Chrissy wake up" in all it's sing-song glory.
Everything you talk about I've done also. I'm 79, and no one knew about this in my youth. I could have been so much more if I had understood I wasn't lazy, rude, selfish, and an annoying person, but uniquely disabled. Had I experienced compassion, and help to do more I could have been so much more. Instead I'm filled with anger and sadness realizing what I lost .
My family crest should just be self loathing ADHD as far back as I have stories for. So I get it. I got diagnosed at 35, but only managed to get treatment 5 years ago, and am processing the emotional damage of being undiagnosed for most of my life has caused with my lovely, but overworked and underpaid therapist at the clinic. It's not your fault. And if hugs help- I offer all the virtual hugs possible. Take care
@@Omnihilo Mostly talk therapy with an eye on accepting that the world is not made for me. I'm retired because of severe injury though, so my treatment probably wouldn't work for most. I wish I had more to offer
This hits home! I wish everyone who ever told me “Just try harder to remember.” Would realize that if that solution worked,I’d’ve done it a LONG LONG time ago.
I would take this as the more focused version because you're getting things done (focusing on what needs to be done). The unfocused version you're ALSO thinking about everything else that's going on your life, has happened in your life, might happen in your life, May never happen to your life, has nothing to do with your life, has nothing to do with life, and has everything to do with life. Yet like a chain of thought. Dishes; what did I eat last; lasagna; my mom makes good lasagna; I remember when we went to Sonic; I'm thirsty. Hey wife, wanna go to Sonic? Where are my keys? Then there is an occasional mind wipe where everything goes blank for few seconds in the attempt to reset yourself. The negative of the mind wipe is you have to start over what you are thinking about. You sometimes end up on a completely different thought chain. I usually say, "okay so" in my head. It only happened three..... Nine times in the statement. With edits. (This has been edited 8 times)
i high-key forgot this was an adhd thing and i always assume everyone is just better at being overwhelmed lol. Your thought process was literally so spot on I didn't question it.
Exactly! Only halfway through viewing I was like ‘oh this is meant to demonstrate ADHD’ as I was so used to the thought process going on it felt normal
@@r3mixgaming82 It really is... Especially at work, in my first ever job, ive misunderstood things so many times, and the slightest detail that isnt explained "properly" to me makes me overthink of doing something wrong. Sometimes it makes me so overwhelmed i feel sick in the head. Ive told my boss about it and stuff, but i dont think he understands how much it really affects me. So basically, adhd sucks.
@@r3mixgaming82 Well, while I OTOH also consciously try to do just one thing at a time but decided to put unplanned things (from other people at least) on queue, do them after what I've had planned. But this way you're disappointing other people, so that's also not a solution.. And writing most of it down in to-do lists also doesn't work well, at least for me, as while you don't forget things this way, the lists grow and I'm getting stressed out and you're busy all the time or feel the guilt of procrastinating..
I appreciate how in the end, the reason why you went into the kitchen in the first place (getting food for the first time that day) went ignored. Very accurate.
This is a near perfect representation of the mind of a person with ADHD. They didn't touch on the fact that the whole time you're mind is screaming at you about 10 other things the whole time.
Mine is also constantly saying how stupid I am for not eating not being able to finish, for taking too long for wasting time and how thirsty I am and I can't get a drink because I can't work myself up to it
Did you not hear in the background the chit chatter of like 5 other voices singing and reciting Humpty Dumpty and suggesting "you could just use a towel" instead of a drying rack. And putting her down like "gosh Youre so forgetfull" "why cant you do anything right?" ~that one may have come from my head tho...
@@Bimby-b mine says I'm awesome and funny when my mind say jokes 😅 to other thoughts train in my mind then it says "wait why nobody is around that was so funny" And I'm like lol yeah 😅
I envy this person's ability to conceive, create, and publish a two-minute video while also dealing with ADHD like this. I can barely *watch* a two-minute video without my attention wandering.
This made me feel an extreme amount of empathy to know that someone literally thinks and feels exactly how I do on a daily basis…yet also made me tear up a bit to know that someone else literally thinks and feels how I do on a daily basis. Great video though. Subscribed.
Hi!! I'm a neurotypical and I can sau that I would prioritize something to eat FIRST because thats a bodily need and something i wanted to do. Since the dishwasher was started this time you could actually avoid hand washing the dishes while youre at the store because then the dishes will be done, you unload, and you put the new ones in - now dishes are done! You dont HAVE to clean the cabinets if the day has already been overwhelming cause at least you ate something, cleaned dishes, and got those garbage bags (+returned book if you dont forget to grab it)
@@loserchips1112 eating will make more dishes. There is no where to put the dishes that will get dirty because the sink is full, the counter is full, and the dishwasher is full. Can't put them in any clear surfaces because that will make them dirty and more to clean. And the whole point of them being clean is because I said I wouldn't put any thing else in those spots so they will always be clean. So I need to do the dishes first.....
I don’t have ADHD. I would not have gotten distracted from needing to eat - that is the primary goal. So I would figure out a way to make that happen. No clean dishes? Ok, I’ll hand wash a single plate or whatever the minimum thing I need to achieve that goal. Definitely not starting any major projects before getting my food. I’d probably start the dishwasher running for later, then grab some food and eat that. I would notice things like the book and the messy cabinets (which I probably already knew about) but I’d be better able to assess their urgency and automatically prioritize when I’ll do what. For example, I’ll start the dishwasher now because it takes 1 min. I’ll take the book back and buy garbage bags after I eat. The messy cabinets are a big and not urgent project so I’ll tackle on a weekend sometime when I have time. Etc
This is LITERALLY me. Then I collapse from the pressure of being overwhelmed and play video games for two hours, then get guilty for not getting anything done.
For somebody like me who witnesses this on a daily basis being with their partner, what could i do to help support him to remain productive instead of repeating the cycle of try to do tasks > get overwhelmed > video games > guilt > repeat ?
The overlaying of your thoughts talking over each other is the best part! No one ever talks about how fast our brains go and all our thoughts trip over each other. I love this
Honestly I’m impressed you thought to have a task board and remembered to put it on the wall and remembered it exists and remembered to update it and didn’t lose the post it notes or get distracted while looking for a pen
@@lionsatmidnight No they're not. I've got a small white board on the wall in my shower, because that's where I tend to think about all the things I need to do. I use one sticky note at a time and in very small writing I'll list the items from the white board onto the sticky note after I get dressed, then I fold it so the sticky part keeps it folded (writing side out) and tuck it in my pocket. I can write on one sticky note for a few days if I write small enough. I keep it in my pocket and scratch things off as I complete them, and scan the list for the next thing that I can cross off, usually picking some small thing thats right in front of me at the time. I'll kind of circle or underline things that can be chained together, like post office, grocery store, drop off book, then at the grocery store I'll cross off items as I pick them up. It's pretty satisfying to see a sticky note with a bunch of tasks crossed off. Of course the list is never ending, because life is a never ending list of sh*t that you need to do. When the paper gets full, I copy the items I haven't crossed off onto a new sticky note and start over. "Task boards" with multiple sticky notes wouldn't work for me, because 1) it's not always with me to add something that needs doing or to check what needs doing and 2) something about all those separate sticky notes just seems like a jumbled mess that my brain would just rather avoid. A list is much simpler. " post office, chicken, tooth paste, olive oil, bank, electric bill, ear buds, paper towels, pay John, fix railing, bread, eggs, laundry" etc. One trip to the grocery store and I've got 6 things crossed off the list That's satisfying and what's left looks easily manageable. Anyway, that's what I do. It works well for me. Believe me I'd way rather just avoid it all and get lost in playing my guitar or Ace Combat or something, but the sh*t gets piled up and seems unmanageable in no time. I like to write, so thanks for reading.
@@AZ-kr6ff honestly i would forget it exists too.. it’s an extra step which: instead of spending the limited energy we have to do tasks we gotta spend it on updating the board.. i personally carry a pocket sized book with a pen and write down thoughts, ideas, and tasks in there right away (as a rule). But once you fall into the “i can remember this task without writing it down” trap, youre gonna take weeks to reorganise!! 😅
I love using my fridge as a whiteboard. And I got a 3 foot calendar that I put right in front of my door I literally have to make things so big and obnoxious that I can’t miss them anything smaller it’s going in the brain trash
As someone who has ADHD AND helps people with ADHD as her job, this is actually pretty accurate. The overwhelming feeling of tasks to do not knowing where to start is often why people with ADHD look lazy. No we are not lazy. We just don't know what to do first. Also there is a missing part of hyperfocus, where suddenly your brain put everything in a correct order and you can do all the tasks in a split of the time of how long other people would need. Consequence: you are efficient, but after that your energy is down to 0. Also NEVER speak to someone who hyperfocus. If they lose their concentration it's over.
pretty much like yes I have worked on maths for the past 3 hours without adjusting my chair or anything else but maths but don't dare come into my room or try to talk to me because I will have a minor breakdown, lose all motivation and be unable to continue my work for quite a long time
Actually the hyperfocus part for me is more like, got all the tasks laid out on the task board, then think if im throwing out food im gonna have to buy more too, and then spend the next 5 hours browsing south east asian recipes. In fact I opened youtube to search for a recipe but here I am commenting on this instead 😵💫
My daughter confirms this, and it has helped me understand her so much. We call this, multiple trains of thought; the "voices" are not some hallucinations but just like everyone has an inner monologue or train of thought, evidently an ADHD brain has 2 or 3. Which helps with multitasking!! my daughter is great at it. Thanks for the videos, there's a lot of stuff on ADHD out there but these are real.
I'm 43 and recently diagnosed. This is 1000% accurate. I always thought I was just "flighty" and "lazy" and "stupid". Don't wait as long as I did to be diagnosed. My life could have gone so differently if I hadn't waited because I was told "adhd is just an excuse not to do what you need to and only do what you want to".
Lol as if it's just as simple as not waiting .... you have it so easy as a woman who can just request... I would get framed, raped, abused, tortured in hospital & by police for seeking treatment, 😆 🤣 😂 😹 all you had to do was stop waiting ? Your life is in super easy mode compared to mine if that's the case
Same here! I'm 43 and I know I have this I don't even know how I graduated High school because I barely made it by. How did they diagnose you? What can you do for it?
@@ras_krystafari3333 first, you don't know me or my story, or anything I've been through in my life so don't act like you do. Second, I don't need your trauma dump like it is my fault. Take your anger and do something constructive with it.
@@ninamarise237 I actually took my teenage daughter in to her doctor first and it was basically just an appointment with a psychiatrist where they asked her a ton of questions and she answered them honestly. As I listened to the questions a lightbulb went on And I made an appointment for myself on the way out. They are doing a combination of medicine and behavioral therapy to teach us skills to overcome the challenges medicine alone can't fix. Mine was misdiagnosed as depression for 30 years.
EXACTLY! Like, I experience this thought process but I don't believe I have ADHD, but how would someone do all these tasks otherwise? Just start washing dishes then move stuff with soap all over their hands and knock stuff over because it is in the way? People who DON'T think this way, please explain what your process would be. Maybe that can help me and others.
@@WeezieVyes, once I'm in the sink and my hands are wet I don't leave till I finish, unless I have to wait for the kettle to boil water for those extra greasy dishes. I might temporarily forget about the dishes, but eventually resume the task.
@@WeezieVim hyper organized not (i am on the autistic spectrum and not ADHD Idk if that matters) i stack dirty dishes neatly in the sink to one side i clean off the counters and i have a "routine" and order i go in. And when i place things in cabinets, i also am very neat with boxes, cans, etc, all same shape and size category goes together, cans stack together. Pasta stands together etc, kind of like Tetris. I think my friend may be closer to ADHD because she has her things in disarray like cans on bags of rice etc and i cant understand how someone can not notice or be okay with leaving the sink or cabinets or closets etc so chaotic. It literally gives me anxiety to see disorder to that extent, but i mean that without judgement. Its just our brains function differently and the more disarray the harder it is to clean up. My dad also taught me to clean as you go, as in dont wait until its a tornado of a mess to start cleaning tho i know for some its easier said than done. 😢😅 BTW🎉 Happy New Year🎉
@@WeezieVI did have the same thought process, however, I would have put the tasks on the wall and started with turning on the dishwasher, then go out to return the book and buy garbage bags, and then come back home to empty and reload the dishwasher. Which would leave me with time to clean up the cabinet etc. ;)
I've never really been able to put my ADHD into words but she did a very good job in this video, it made me feel a lot better about myself seeing someone else that had the same problems.
The talking in the background was the most accurate/relatable bit for me. So many of these sorts of videos just present the person as scatty and all over the place. For me, it's the ten million thoughts all happening at once
You know what was a nice touch? When you first walked over to the task board and all the voices stopped what they were doing to say “board…board…board…yay!” But then immediately fell into chaos again once you had to make a decision (“I guess I’ll start with the dishes”) I’ve noticed lately that every decision I make fractures the task into something smaller, and often leaves me standing and staring at the table or the dishes or the wall, as my brain gets caught up in a loop.
I absolutely LOVE that you included the LOUDNESS of being inside an ADHD head. That was a PHENOMENAL way to explain it. I've tried explaining it before, but never been very good at it. The best explanation I've seen from other people (besides this one) is as follows: Imagine you're in a small room. You're in the centre of it all. The room is completely full of people. Maybe 20-30 or so. All of these people are talking to you simultaneously and the volume varies, some quietly, some normal volume and some are yelling loudly. All of these people are trying to draw your attention. All of these people believe that what they're trying to get you to focus on is very important and you must pay attention to it RIGHT NOW!!!!! You just saw something colourful out of the corner of your eye. Another person is trying draw your attention to it. Another is trying to get you to focus on the task at hand. Another is trying to get you to remember that line from a show you watched last night. Another is trying to get you to think about what's happening tomorrow and what you need to do to prepare. And than the volumes that the everyone is speaking to you at varies randomly. Some will go from yelling to quiet or vice versa for no apparent reason.
that on top of all the physical stimuli and sensory overload you experience on a day to day basis- istg some neurotyps are just like “well, you can just filter it out 🤪” and to which i say HOW?? you’re the one talking, not giving a shit that im the one having a panic attack because of the fucking 24/7 screaming, talking, yelling that i cannot escape wherever i go, and you’re just telling me to stop stimming but you want me to just “filter it out”? im so goddamn done.
@@nena5518 I always end up with a song I listen to once or haven’t heard in years stuck in my head. It’s never the song I’m currently playing on a loop until I’m sick of it 😅
YES.. seriously! Yes! I sent the video to my friend and my boys- because they tease me about losing my mind. Today I got a rose from my kids and a card .. telling me how they appreciate all I am doing. It took them by surprise, because they didn't understand! Now, they speak softer and try to help me out more.. my friend has been doing my shopping because I get overwhelmed with the noise in stores! He didn't realize that I was pushing so hard to do normal thing's and he now comes over once a week to do anything outside and straightening up the house. I have mobile issues too. I was in tears, a small video can help do so much! Thanks for letting the world see the struggle! ✌️🌹🤍
The board is a great representation of what it feels like. Where others see one simple task “clean the kitchen” we see seven different tasks, and that’s not counting what might have been forgotten. I got overwhelmed just looking at the board, no wonder I suck at getting things done
I had no adhd and the board is indeed overwhelming. I'm a "I'll do whatever I feel like doing" person so to do list is a huge stress for me. It's like several monsters are behind me constantly reminds me to do stuff
No the average person would see several tasks to clean, an entire room incompasses several tasks, this is somebody trying to label everyday things or really her inability to do everyday tasks or her making shit difficult as ADHD and it's not.
@@bobkoontz5814 this are normal thought processes. The Person in the Video actually Made the correct plan, getting Garbage bags makes sense. Noticing various Things is Not adhd. If she noticed the book and then would have started to Look Up library opening hours and ended Up websurfing i May have believe IT. but she noticed the book and still had the task in mind
Omg the zoning out is the biggest barrier of them all. I usually follow it up with a rampage because of how far behind I got and OH MY GOD I'M SO LATE.
I feel like such a baby because I honestly cried after this video. it's been so hard to describe to my friends, family and especially my wife what it's like inside my head everyday all day thank you so much.
That constant criticism is too real & really takes a toll! I’m glad that I finally got diagnosed by 45 years old, it’s made my whole life so different - even therapy is so different - even my relationship with my grown kids - for once in my life I’m consistent af with a medication which in turn makes my life so consistent, flexible & manageable… I don’t ever want to go back to the way things were… ADD/ADHD is no joke; get help or get your loved ones the help that best suits them sooner than later 🙏
I was diagnosed at 48, and in the first three years of being treated with medication, I took an accelerated masters program in Elementary Education and made straight A's, taught myself plumbing, electrical, construction, and HVAC to save myself money on repairs to my mom's and my rentals, all while raising a daughter by myself and taking care of an 85 year old mother with dementia and a 60 year old brother with a Crack and alcohol addiction
I really appreciate the overlapping thoughts. I haven’t seen that aspect depicted so effectively before. It can be a struggle to explain to neurotypical people how challenging it can be to exist this way. Thank you for creating this.
Yeah, same. I've tried to explain to my husband before that I can be in a conversation with him, think about my RP group, about something that went wrong with work, about having to clean the lizard cage, oh, and that one train of thoughts is humming the tetris melody again. He looked at me like I was crazy.
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As someone who also has ADHD, this is incredibly relatable, especially the _constant_ dialogue in your head (edit) to people who think I have schizophrenia, you are misunderstanding what I mean. I'm referring to my thoughts as "dialogue" because in the video the thoughts were portrayed like "dialogue" even though it's not actual dialogue. Please stop saying I have schizophrenia. I do not have it. Thank you.
@@jimmcneal5292 I mean how the thoughts are just constant. not like "Oh, I should do this thing." I mean constantly talking in your head without stop no matter what you're doing. Even interrupting your own thoughts sometimes to have another random thought. It never stops. It's really annoying most of the time, like if you're trying to sleep and you just keep thinking and thinking and thinking and thinking without end. That's a huge con to having a hyperactive brain, lol. (edit) I meant THOUGHTS not VOICES. I am not schizophrenic.
@@rosieleaverton idk, unless i'm going to bed I have this same thing but it's ok, I don't feel discomfort(it's especially "severe" if I read math, then I feel like overclocked cpu)
My doctor suspects I have ADHD and honestly this video is so accurate to the point that it made me feel so overwhelmed, my brain just shut down and now I feel extremely tired and sick. It's shit to get nothing done
I know, it is so annoying! But you need to try and be happy that you know yourself more now (if you have it) and there is plenty of research into it unlike a few years ago; meaning it is really known about and you can get help. I find that it also helps knowing that others also live with ADHD, so there is a community around it that YOU are a part of 😊
Yeah, I hit that point right around “I have to clean the cabinets” (although not as intensely, I just know I would’ve given up around then). This felt EXACTLY like my internal monologue, you might want to follow up on that potential ADHD diagnosis
as someone who is professionally diagnosed: you have ADHD. the reason why you feel tired and sick is because your brain is starving for dopamine constantly so when you're through a task in a way that puts a lot of pressure on you, your brain is suffering because it needs the Do and Reward chemical and it just is not getting through. Your brain literally goes dim when you try harder. I can't think of anything else it could be except for executive dysfunction. Something that helps for me is focusing solely on the root of the task first and only (sometimes for the entire day) or quantifying the task if it's sisyphean. Also putting your shoes on for some tasks helps for some reason. For example, for this video what I would focus on first is going to the store (with a list so i don't forget) to get trash bags and use the trip as an excuse to return the book. I would put the trash bags in a place where they are convenient to re-line the trash. Then, I would do something nice for a little while in the same room where I need to do the next task and I would do a little starting with 10 of this or 5 of that, setting a really small goal so you can do something rather than nothing, and even overachieve. I also like to wear gloves and watch a video while I'm handwashing dishes so that my brain is distracted from the awful sensation and there is a physical barrier between me and the awful sensation BUT all of this is way easier on medication, off medication it is still physically painful and mentally agonizing for me to get things done. And even on medication sometimes it's easier when you ask people to do the silliest little tasks for you like "can you play games in the same room as me while i'm taking stuff out of the cabinet" "can you talk to me while i do the dishes" or just tiny tasks that somehow feel so big
I have ADHD and there aren't actual "voices" like this - but it FEELS like that, as the title says. Just a dozen thoughts, ideas, etc., getting in the way of an immediate task with the potential for any one of them to replace the immediate task. BUT - what's also important to remember about ADHD is that there's also manic *FOCUS* a particular task - you can end up honing in on one thing very intensely; it's not always not finishing or being able to focus on what you're supposed to do, it can also be the opposite, but to an extreme degree. The latter is usually followed by a long period of inactivity, having accomplished *something*, even though it's not what you needed to actually do, which leads to a false sense of accomplishment and neglecting what has to be done. It's not fun.
After I host a party I am done. I dont clean up all the way for like a week. I always wait till the last minute to accomplish or plan and that's when inspiration strikes and I can laser focus (not so easy as I get older though). Then after the event I'm wiped out. Hmm...
No like real shi I'll be walking around and randomly talk to my self all day in my head I just do it you wouldn't notice be cause you doing other thing some take a walk out side and at least remember to try not to think and if you do then try to catch something that you normally don't do try it I catch my self doing it all the time is normal I guess
thank you for saying this. sometimes I get frustrated with these 'simulator' videos because it doesn't exactly translate to most that these aren't actual voices, and I think there comes a lot of confusion and people diagnosing themselves. for example, I struggle with anxiety and these 'voices' fit better in that scenario, because I talk to myself in my head. But, my ADHD is completely different. Real ADHD is always lost in translation. its not black and white, rather a grey area but that grey area gets misplaced with that of normal habits. talking to yourself is not enough to diagnose yourself with ADHD, for example.
I literally did that spice thing the other day. I ended up with a sink STILL filled with dirty dishes BUT a cabinet full of perfect spices in perfect order! Normally I try to figure out what tasks are more important and tell myself that the “top priority tasks” MUST be done… but my brain sometimes overrides all that and says “no thanks let’s do this”. It’s forever an uphill battle but learning more about ADHD and getting external support from others who have it really help! Your videos are really helpful and make me feel less alone!
It's been like that for me for a very long time and I've actually never been diagnosed. How it's been missed is beyond me. Hopefully this will soon change. Thank you for sharing this, so very helpful of what day to day life is actually like instead of what someone thinks it might be like. This is excellent, insightful, and extremely helpful! Thank you🙏
The most perfect part about this, is she completely forgot that she was unable to find her keys! Wrote down all the steps and plotted out everything and once she starts to leave for the store, it all unravels.
This is by far THE MOST ACCURATE depiction I've ever seen...I DIDN'T EVEN THINK IT WAS POSSIBLE TO DEPICT YOUR EXTRA VOICES IN VIDEO FORM BUT YOU DID IT, you deserve an Emmy or something for this masterpiece
Totally.. I was always in denial of even having ADHD even though i was prescribed meds in my youth but I always thought the dialogue I was hearing was simply my brain processing things but I had no idea this was unique to ADHD! I almost feel relieved that i actually know now
52 and a vaguely functional adult. Been trying to address this issue with my doctor for years. Think I’m going to show this to him next week. Cuz yeah… that’s me. Voices and all the rest.
I tried describing it to people with "Having like 3 separate trains of thought at once and you can't pick one to focus on" Needless to say unless you experience ADHD people think I'm just going crazy or exaggerating with that description
@@Rogueixpresents it's incredibly frustrating not being able to explain to people what it's like in your head and if you do usually the response is "Ok, sure. You're just procrastinating by choice." Or "You're over exaggerating". So to find such an accurate depiction is so validating. You have something to show people who don't understand. It's exciting!
Please do more of these ADHD simulators. They have really helped me explain what I deal with to my family. More of them explaining different aspects of ADHD life would be amazing.
My ADHD curse is doing a little bit of all the things each day until one day they are all completed at the same time, which gives a lot of self-satisfaction.
I’m just now starting to unpack the realization that this isn’t how everybody’s brain works, that I’m not just weaker or stupider than them for not being able to navigate life with as much grace and ease as them. This is EXACTLY what I see and feel and experience every single day, it’s what I’ve felt forever. It’s been heartbreaking but also fascinatingly healing to look back and see all the ways I consciously & subconsciously saw myself as “defective.” Thank you for the most incredibly accurate ADHD simulation I’ve ever seen.
Every time the three wishes from a genie question pops into my head or into a conversation my immediate answer is always a fully functional brain. It breaks my heart where I am in life right now as old as I am when I know I'm smarter than a lot of the people around me and I can't follow through because I get overwhelmed and shut down. I know I could manage if I had somebody helping me everyday but that's an unrealistic thing apparently. I don't understand how though, I feel like it's no different than somebody who needs a crutch or a wheelchair to get through their day. Half the time I literally sleep or curl into a ball in the couch and Xbox or Netflix and it's not because I'm lazy, I'm just super overwhelmed by everything on my plate. I'm getting better at dealing with stuff but it's hard... It's really hard... And I'm nowhere near where I want to be in life because of it. Not because I'm not capable, but because my brain won't let me do what I want to do
This is exactly like the verbal test a chief psychiatrist of a mental hospital gave me to diagnose my ADHD; he gave me 6 chores for the day and asked me how I'd go about accomplishing them, and my response was just like this video
The background singing and self critizising is so accurate. Also, very responsible of you to keep a task board and use post-it notes. I've been thinking about doing the same thing for months now, I just haven't gotten myself to do it yet. There's always something else that needs my attention.
I was expecting a funny video but by the end I was near tears. I didn't realize so many of these behaviors of mine were from ADHD. But yeah, I'm ADHD through and through I guess. The negative thoughts, the constant monitoring of available energy, the turning of one task into many
Best way to describe executive dysfunction I've seen. Everything you want to do has 1 of two other tasks you have to do before that and those 1 or 2 tasks have aother one or two that need to be done before. It's an endless loop of not being able to do shit
Nah you will find the task is pointless, not overwhelmingly overwhemling. There is a theory this so called adhd is just people that suited to hunting and killing. (The protectors of the village)
@@Lunearien well I think one must remember all information is controlled by a centralised tap and the flow is highly controlled. It's also important to remember that nothing is so set in stone that everything else should be disregarded becuase someone says you have no right to opposing books.
what I love so much about this video is how you have multiple people (you's) talking to you while still trying to determine what stimuli to filter out while trying to keep track of what you're trying to do in that moment while trying to remember the steps you need to take to accomplish -- wait wasn't I hungry?? ❤🤣 Thank you so much for posting this
Wow. As someone without ADHD, this video, along with all of the comments here, are REALLY eye-opening and enlightening for me. I've got lots of respect for those who have to deal with all of this constantly.
Same here. I was just curious about how ADHD people see the world. I am entertained by some people commenting "Wait, doesn't everyone has it like this in their minds?" ... no, we don't.
@@thornelderfincan you do a video of what a normal brain does when asked to do the dishes? My tasks always look like the one in the video, except I don't have a white board 🙃
@@shannono9158 I am really not sure I have a "normal brain", but I am sure I don't have ADD / ADHD. When I do the dishes I either focus on the details of what I am doing and how to clean it, or if it's just a mundane repetitive cleaning I turn on the autopilot and my mind drifts to one specific topic (usually pre-planning future, solving some problem, defragmenting my semantic memory). But it is only one thing, one topic. It doesn't jump around topics. Also if I get a notification on my phone, instead of having urge to check it I just tell myself I will check it later (and immediately forget about it) and often I don't even notice the distractions (you could sneak up on me, I wouldn't notice). Like when I am typing this text here, I have tunnel vision and am 100% focused on it and nothing else (I don't think I would survive in nature - a predator would sneak up on me and kill me).
As someone who doesn’t have adhd: Thank you for making this ! You’re videos have helped educate me on what having adhd is like. Before seeing some of your videos I always thought of adhd as “it’s just hard to focus”. Thank you for broadening my mind :)
There's some additionnal stuff as well, for example our emotional drive tends to be twofold in terms of strenght , we tend to deal with hypersensitive rejection disphoria often, we're more prone to anxiety and depression , we *do* have moments where we can focus, but it's hyperfocus , in those moments you can get so absorbed by what you're doing that you forget to eat, drink and do anything else except what you're doing and suddenly it's 2 am and you gotta head to bed. Physiologically speaking , people's brain secrete dopamine on the regular, the brain's way to "reward" accomplishing tasks , it helps focus, emotions, etc, with us, our brain either doesn't do it or barely does so it constantly tries to find other ways to make it , so we're also more prone to reckless driving, addictions, on the flip side there's extreme sports, etc. Most meds that exists to help it are basically meth to some extent , but to be more precise, they transform into amphetamines in the brain
Imagine if you are a beehive. The bees that live inside of you are what you need to do and the interior thought trains that you have. Some bees come along and are like were heading out to pollinate. Others come along and say we are going to build more nest. With ADHD all the bees fly up to you and talk at once and start talking. Some make sense, some are very alarming and urgent and cause you anxiety. Then there are the ones buzzing on the side being funny and trying to distract you.
What has worked for me so far. Step 1. Do 1 thing Step 2. Pat yourself on the back Step 3. Refer to Step 1 I eventually get to a point where I can create an order of operations. And even a routine. It has taken a lot of time and effort, but it has been a process I have learned to enjoy. I like to separate the rooms. Once i get one room or area in said room done, i count it as another step 1. Keep working the steps because you can do it!
I've actually never used this word, because it never felt appropriate, but this was really triggering. Not a complaint or a criticism, just proof of how accurate it is - as soon as I got on the right meds for my ADHD, my anxiety got cut in half. Five years later, just watching the first minute of this almost set off a panic attack.
I hate that the comment section is about how accurate this is, cuz for me this is at best a waterd down spoof of my ADHD. How I would love to just have to deal with that level of ADHD But also yeah people never talk about how stressful it is and how effectively taking meth is still better lol
god this video is overwhelming me, i cannot imagine living like that. if it is actually accurate and that’s how people with adhd feels like, i have a huge respect to all of you, you guys are really strong.
Thank You. This is very accurate, even down to the schizophrenic type thing in the back of our heads. Also imagine living like that for your whole life. but it's not that bad all the time. it's either MELTDOWN, or not thinking anything.
I'm 65. Ive thought this way all my life and I didn't know it had a name. Of course Ive had hours at a time of clarity and focus, but mostly, it's like this. I just have to manage it and force focus bcz of deadlines, but sometimes I can't, then I shut down until I can regroup. Ive run my own company for 40 years, which has been moderately successful bcz im intelligent, but I do it independently so I can manage and hide the times I need to shut down. I went to graduate school in a hard science with decent grades but it was hard and i certainly didnt use my full potential. I still don't. I use to beat myself up for it, still do a bit, but it is just what I have to do to survive. I live duel life really. If anything ive learned in the last half century is that the lion's share of people can't or don't want to understand. Im okay with that now, but it is a bit lonely. I thought your post was a kind thing. Thx for that. Cheers.
It’s like…word for word what is going through our head when doing at the very least house tasks. It’s also why you’ll ask us to do something, and then turn your back and we’re doing something completely unrelated cause we’ve gone fully down a rabbit hole of tasks that were all somehow related to the first one, but there have been so many a lot of them have been forgotten.
A way I have learnt to tackle this issue is whenever you realise you're stuck in a loop, JUST STAND STILL!! Stand still between each task and don't move until you're clear what your next task is. This method really helped me. Also, LET EVERYTHING GO AND EAT FIRST.
Dude! I was stuck in the loop right at the moment I read your comment and realized that I haven't eaten yet. The last part of the message, I felt so hard and now I'm going to go eat before trying to do anything more. Lol Thanks. 😊
1:53 1:53 1:53 First time leaving a comment and it says push this to leave current time 😳 this isn’t MY current time! Push again, repeat… Only going to say that I’ve tried stopping the loop. Only works for me about 30 minutes. Thank God I have a patient husband that has a huge sense of humor and still puts up with me after 25+ years. Finally seeing a psychiatrist this month to be tested.
A lot of ADHD creators have tried to make this video but this is the first one that feels the most accurate. Your goal was to accomplish A SINGLE TASK and things snowballed from there. And I feel you on that moment because clean the kitchen isn’t just a single easy task. I felt this so hard I almost started crying.
The other commenters have summed things up really well. I just wanted to give you kudos for having found time to go to the library and borrow a book on calculus! Oh, and I hate washing up, too.
Exactly! I explained to my psychiatrist that just emptying the dishwasher was overwhelming because it was like someone had written down instructions for how to empty it and then torn up the instructions into tiny bits and scattered the bits all over the place. And I had to put it all back together before I could even start emptying the dishwasher! Medication has helped so much! I’m now able to do most tasks without overthinking.
Yeah this, my psychologist gave me some very helpful apps, not all were useful to me, but I do love sweepy. You need to spend some time on setting it up, but once you've done that you've got yourself a list of household tasks, and you don't have to think about how urgent a certain task is, or isn't, because sweepy tracks the frequency and I only have to keep track of which tasks need to be done today, and I can forget the rest, I don't need to do them yet.
Cleaning a dishwasher is a children task, there is nothing to overthink. The only problem is if you keep mess in your home, then any task immediately escalates into overwhelming levels. The environment around us affects directly the state of mind. Just finish every task you begin, stop piling them up, put your shit together and you will ease your mind and suddenly realize that you can do anything.
Love that you acknowledged the insane amount of negative self talk that comes along with it. I’m hypercritical of myself partially bc I was the scapegoat of the family, but seeing this made me feel less alone in how my inner monologue tears me apart over the smallest things. The “of course you forgot, you’re so forgetful, you always mess up, you can’t do things correctly” voice is so exhausting to battle with.
I spent my whole life hating myself. I’m 40 yrs old and just got diagnosed with severe combined type adhd. My whole life makes sense now. If my mom would have taken me to the doctor instead of making fun of me or giving me shit cuz my thinking was so “wrong” maybe I wouldn’t have been a drug addict from age 11-30yrs old. Guided meditations on self esteem changed my life. ❤ once you learn how to love yourself, the whole world changes for the better.
Aw, it's heartbreaking to realise that this is how it must be for some people. No wonder my son struggled so much at school, with all the 'distractions' going on in his head. I'm just so grateful that I'm home schooling him now. I'll do it for as long as he wants me to. I could only watch about a minute of this video - it was so distracting, but I can totally understand why you've done it this way. I initially thought that I must have got another UA-cam video playing in another tab, but when I paused your video - I could see that the other audio / talking was coming from your video and when I paused your video - the additional sounds stopped....Very effective way to demonstrate. I'm going to show this to my son - to see if that's how it feels for him...I'll also show it to my husband x
This is so accurate. It's like having two or three people constantly talking to you. It's a task in and of itself just to keep track of what you're doing.
I have the same thing but I doubt it's adhd since it's just because other people are thinking and talking so slowly that my normal thought process is several times faster
nah man, you don't know if others are thinking slowly, but i can assure you - i am thinking way faster than i can speak a coherent sentence, i bet that's the case for many people
I genuinely thought everyone felt like this… this is spot on minute to minute in my brain but I never realized this was ADHD and not just how everyone’s inner monologue and task completion went, just assumed everyone else were better at managing their shit. Thank you for sharing and producing ADHD content! It is helping us all learn and find ways to improve day to day more than any doctor I have seen
@@robertstevens3522 ADHD is a well-documented neurological condition which requires specific strategies and sometimes medication to treat/combat/live with. It's not about being irresponsible; it's about having a brain which processes things differently. It's not an excuse, but an explanation for why certain tasks seem more challenging for those with ADHD. Plenty of folks with ADHD perform very well in, say, their careers but struggle to take care of themselves. This is unfortunately not a condition that one can outgrow. It also has a lot of comorbidities such as depression, anxiety, etc. It is very important that people who suspect they have ADHD get diagnosed so they know what they are dealing with, and not rely on internet diagnosis: that said, it's equally important not to disparage people for a health condition.
I agree, hearing from actual people who experience what you experience has been the only helpful thing in my experience! Clinical powerpoint presentations mean nothing. Have you heard of the _Struggle Care_ podcast by KC Davis? She has put into words a lot of things that I couldn't put my finger on, or didn't realise were actually part of the deal.
As someone who was just diagnosed with ADHD last week, I truly have spent well over 20 years thinking that this was everyone’s experience. Thankful that I’m not alone in this and I can start getting treatment. Thank you for your awesome content!
just make sure you do NOT use Adderal, or Ritalin. Ritalin will rot your teeth, and more often than not leaves you with worse problems than before. Adderal is extrordinarily addictive, and is really bad for your health. It's much better to try and cope in different manual ways than with meds. I have ADHD, I was diagnosed when I was 6 years old, And I have learned to cope in many ways.
Is this not everyone’s experience? And if not, then _how?_ What to you do when you remember that you need to complete another task to finish the task already at hand if not this???
@@KeitieKalopsia I do not have ADHD at all (my brain works the opposite way) and this is definitely not my experience. I just focus on single task and entire world around it fades away (to the point that you can sneak up on me). It's just calm and clear in my head, but also very slow and never ever can I do 2 tasks at the same time and hate "context switching" - I like to pick one single thing and dive very deep into it. But also never get bored with anything. It's pluses and minuses. It seems the world is changing in favor of ADHD as everything goes faster and faster with 20 different things happening at the same time and people get bored so fast. It is becoming more and more difficult for me to adapt to this new faster "blinking" overwhelming world.
This is terrifyingly accurate to my everyday life. It's a struggle that makes it hard for me to even want to exist another day. ADHD has consumed me for over 40 years and has destroyed my life beyond repair. I've lost countless jobs which put a strain on myself and my family and cost me two marriages. If I do go out in public and my ADHD causes me to mess something up, people act and look at me like I'm an idiot, not knowing why I messed up and its out of my control. I've gotten to the point where I avoid everyone and everything at all cost. I don't want to explain myself every time I find myself in those type of situations. I have no more fight left. I don't have the energy or the will to deal with it any longer. Life isn't fun.
I recently was diagnosed ADHD.... This is exactly how my mind feels and sounds. I thought everyone had these thoughts but we're just better at handling them or doing ALL THE THINGS. Or maybe they didn't have all the bad experiences and traumas rolling around their head? It's incredible how you captured the random, negative and overwhelming thought spirals.
As someone who does not have ADHD, this was horribly stressful to watch! We all have moments when we get overwhelmed, but it appears as if, according to this video, there's an inability to keep one's thoughts organized in your head, along with a crushing anxiety. I was thinking to myself while watching this thoughts like "Well, I'd just go to store to get the bags, take the book with me and drop it off the library on the way to the store. Before leaving, I'd run the dishwasher so the dishes will be clean when I get back, and I'll organized the cabinets, put the clean dishes away, and put dirty dishes in the sink when I get back.
This is pretty constant, yes. Our prioritization function is a bit wonky, so finding your keys winds up being as important as putting the baking soda away and eating something before you pass out, and each one of those items has a million steps leading up to it.
Oh... I thought this was maybe a bit overdone, or that it represented my worse days, or perhaps I don't even have ADHD (because I'm only self-diagnosed), but then I read your comment and realised that I didn't even start thinking about how I'd organise the tasks, I was already confused and exhausted trying to follow them, although they aren't even mine and I don't need to do them. Oh well.
Yeah, but then you walk into the hallway to get your shoes and realise you only have summer shoes out and it's raining, so you need to find waterproof shoes somewhere, and then you notice the wet laundry while walking to the box with winter shoes, and wet laundry will get mildew so that needs to be dried right now, otherwise you'll forget it and it will stay where it is for 3 days before you see it again and remember it, and it will need to be washed a second time. So you can't leave yet, otherwise the laundry WILL just escape your mind. Then when the laundry is done your stomach rumbles, so you remember you wanted to eat and the kitchen loop repeats (with the exception of making the list on the whiteboard). And then you will finally find the shoes you needed and go to the store, but you will forget the dishwasher. because that's inside of the kitchen task list which is completely separated from the shopping and library task list. So when you come back you need to turn that dishwasher on, and then you can start on the dishes. Meanwhile you still haven't eaten. And if you're lucky you won't meet another list of 10 tasks when you walk into the living room, or bedroom, or bathroom, etc etc.
This hits home. My dad has ADHD and is a really smart man, but he can easily be perceived as lazy or forgetful. It's hard to understand someone with the condition without having the condition yourself, so you always have to be patient with who have ADHD. This video really helps me understand my dad a lot better.
i’m so glad you were able to learn and sympathize using this video, as an ADHD person myself it’s not often that people are understanding of what our real challenges are
I don’t have ADHD but my mind is also like this. (I have been diagnosed with a whole bunch of other disorders). It’s a struggle I also thought everyone went through. I’m starting to realise that that’s not necessarily true, through all these ADHD videos (just found out that my baby cousin has been diagnosed). When people say just do this ONE thing, trying to encourage you to get out of bed and out of your depressive episode, I always think that they’re crazy. It really never is just ONE thing. It builds and it builds until it seems impossible and you give up on everything because it’s all too much.
I’ve not been diagnosed as anything but I experience the video and what you described. I assume I have ADD but what do you think it is, if you don’t mind please
Sounds too much like me. I give up so much. I'll do some things here and there and be proud of myself, but really I'd love to see myself on top of things. I think I was thinking I was giving up for some other reason, but maybe it really is a brain thing from ADHD (haven't been diagnosed), trauma, depression, something. (I believe I have OCD, anyway, which causes things to be added on to my tasks and seems to make them feel unbearable). But I still think maybe I was just never taught how to organize and implement these tasks as well. I hope you and I get better at this soon. No one is perfect, and I'm reminded that God uses our imperfections in our life to draw us to realize we need Him, and to learn to depend on Him for strength.
@@miss_bhello7925 I definitely think/have found it to be a mixture - neurodivergent kids tend to learn differently/need to be taught organisation etc in a specific way. So there's a) something already making it difficult (depending on the exact "disorder"...) + b) not being taught as well or efficiently how to manage that. Keyword: executive function ;)
My thoughts work this way too, but idk if I have it or not. It's videos like this that always get me wondering though. I do have OCD issues with intrusive thoughts so maybe it's just that. I'm pretty good with organizing and being tidy so I don't feel like I have an issue with executive function. I have no idea.
My husband has ADHD and this is helpful; I’ve always wondered how the “tornadoes of thoughts” (his words) in his brain sounded like as he became more flustered!! Thank you for making this!!❤❤
I used "racing thoughts" as my words. I'm going through my 3rd divorce now. I'd rather be single than being accused of things like I ignore a lot, I'm not interested anymore, I must be thinking of someone else.... Help your husband by helping him make his life easier. He will love you even more. But, don't lose yourself in the process. Make self-care a priority as well. 🙂
Thank you so much for putting in this effort for him. I know that ADHD is one of those things that you can't fully grasp unless you've experienced it, but it warms my heart to see someone who cares enough about their partner to work towards understanding it. People like you remind me that there is good in the world.
It’s like trying to drink out of two thought fire hydrants at one time and the water is drowning you yet you can’t swallow one mouthful of thought to process it. Or like the dog trying to bit me the water coming out of a water hose, just like that.
@@SPANIMATIONS4114 I think I had ADHD pre-TBI, but I mainly had the hyperfocus. I could do just about anything I was interested in really well and better than most people. Now it is mostly attention deficit and getting hyper focused on everything except what I am trying to do. I sort of know what I’m missing. I wish I had always been like this. I think it would be easier to accept.
I'm in my 20's and just this year got diagnosed ADHD. And honestly, I had no idea "normal" people didn't think this way. This is exactly what my brain sounds like (along with a song or 2 and some white noise coming from my ears), and growing up, I just assumed everyone's brains worked like this. It probably didn't help that my mom is also like this (she's never been diagnosed, but I guarantee she has it too), so she never questioned the way I thought either.
Oh my goodness, I always thought this was normal too. This is exactly what my brain is like. And I’ve often marveled at how people have immaculately clean houses. Probably because their brains don’t do this and aren’t left with a dozen half-done projects around the house. I’ve often wondered if I had add or adhd…this just makes me wonder more. 🤔
Yes! Lots and lots of music and singing going on in my head all the time too! 🎵🎵🎵 I must admit, sometimes it’s beyond frustrating being me, sometimes it’s super fun. I’m thankful I do mostly have fun. 🦋
This is literally perfect. I know how this feels. It’s like playing one of those old point-and-click adventure games: in order to solve the puzzle you really want to solve, you need to get a specific item, but in order to get that item, you need to solve like two other puzzles.
Adhd is a metroidvania where the final zone/boss you have to unlock is the main task that you’re supposed to be doing RIGHT NOW (don’t forget to eat) is locked behind everything that’s getting in the way
In case anybody without adhd is wondering, those "extra voices" (at least in my experience) aren't the same thing as audio hallucinations, like hearing voices in disorders like schizophrenia. For me, at least, it's more like my mind is moving so fast, I can literally carry on multiple inner dialogues, more or less at the same time, or close together, typically in the "background" for the most part, with one main one being my actual inner thoughts, as opposed to my meanderings and preoccupations. I also have OCD, so I often find myself commenting on my own odd mannerisms and quirks, in a very annoying marriage of the two disorders. The voices are still mine, as in sound like my main inner dialogue, and I associate them with myself, and technically have a semblance of control over them (Except they sorta happen, whether I want them to or not, bc racing mind). So, they aren't hallucinations, for that reason.
Same here, even on medication for both, things get really complicated really quickly whenever the thing i am trying to do has more than pre-requisites.
Same here too!!! 😢
Mine all sound like my voice, different tones & volumes tho
I thought it was just me. . .
I most likely have both (can't afford a diagnosis but multiple therapists, a psychologist and psychiatrist have said I most likely have one or the other, or both. Plus friends and ex partners who are nuerodivergent, have ADHD or know someone that does think I have ADHD as they see the same behaviours in me as in themselves).
I'm different in the fact that while my mind races constantly and jumps from thought to thought, I don't have an internal dialog... I also don't see visuals in my mind. Which is strange as I can be very creative. Yet, I have to have references. I can't conjure up a great sketch from my mind. If you were to ask me to picture something in my mind or imagine a scene, I can't... yet occasionally I get strange flashes of things. But they feel so far in the back of my mind that I can't reach them and they're blurry and indistinct and only last a fraction of a second.
I will add that I was diagnosed with PTSD at 14 years old, then not long after with insomnia (due to my mind not settling down... constant thoughts racing and when I finally do sleep I'm restless and wake up multiple times; this went away for years but has come back with a vengeance in the last year or so). Was also diagnosed at 15 with manic depression and anxiety. Yet I think bipolar was a completely wrong diagnosis; while I did have mood swings they were a daily thing, not something that changed over months. Also, I never had the manic stage... delusions of grandeur, heightened emotions, etc I was severely depressed though and put on ecitalopram, then citalopram, then Prozac (fluoxetine) at 15! It didn't work... I didn't feel depressed anymore but I didn't feel anything else either. I had suicidal idealation, self mutilated and had mental break downs... one landed me in hospital at 18 years old.
Mind you, my life was traumatic... moved out at 15, came back home at 17, then got kicked out at 18 after my last mental break down as my parents couldn't handle my behavior, didn't know what to do and my step Dad was at his wits end, not to mention they had my half brother to look after, who is 10 years my junior.
I started self medicating by turning to drugs, which actually cured my depression and insomnia (but obviously did not address the underlying issues)... because I was high and blissfully unaware for years. Spent years wasted and off the planet. I've been in recovery for over half the time I've been a drug addict yet for the past 3 years I've finally stopped using on the side. Yet, all my disorders, emotional issues, etc have reared their ugly heads up. I'm finding daily life debilitating. As a 30 year old woman I'm assuming I was wrongly diagnosed with bipolar as a teen and my ADHD went under the radar, as happens to so many women. Yet after doing a lot of research, watching videos like this (ADHD Love channel made me feel so validated as 98% of the issues she has with daily life were relatable to me).
I'm just so freaking tired all the time! I need help but without being able to afford screening and a diagnosis I can't receive the help I so desperately need. I don't know what to do anymore... my mental state has declined these last couple months and now I'm really depressed for the first time in a decade (mind you, depression and anxiety as a teen was way worse... probably why I ended up in co dependent relationships and now have anxiety when in public by myself; parties, social gatherings, etc are fine and I can easily strike up a convo with strangers but doing things by myself is anxiety inducing... I don't like walking on the street, people driving past, etc as I fear they're looking at me... which is ironic as my aesthetic is alternative, I have body mods and used to dye my hair all sorts of funky colours... yet I could hide behind that. Now that I've grown up I'm more casual yet I'm not expressing myself like I used to... which also feels like a detriment to my mind).
Sorry for the big spiel... sometimes I can't help it. I'm absolutely unbearable in person (well I think so yet my friends say there's never a dull moment) as I'm a chatterbox and it comes across online as well.
She forgot her first task, to get something to eat…. As someone with a lifetime of ADHD, this is very accurate !
Ah yes. The classic “why do I feel sick. Oh. I haven’t had food or water today. It’s dinner time. Oh no.”
But at least half my dishes are unloaded, and I got the vacuum out.
@@haileybalmer9722 wow you are organized today and the last 3 days i woke up at dinner time
Yup, I'll go an entire day, and suddenly be like, "why the hell am I so hangry today, oh yes, I didn't eat anything yesterday, did I?"
This is why I'm so skinny
bruh i forgot she needed to eat ;-;
This is eerily similar to my thought process and why I can never get anything done
The only difference I have is stopping and staring at something forget what I was doing and then leave the room
same
It feels like whatever is controlling my brain went out to get a coffee real quick and i just sit there head empty until it comes back
@@FroggyGizmo no literally lol
Yea it’s scary how much this sounds like me
Ditto!
I too am in tears watching this, I can't even explain how deep it cuts. It's a constant battle and a thankless struggle because who is going to praise an adult for "just" getting through a day, right? But they don't know that each day is like this... Thank you so much.
I'm so glad to see a recent comment 🫂 I'm sobbing in my car 😥
@@newbeginnings5610 I am so glad to see yet another recent viewer, I only realized after I posted the comment that the video was uploaded quite some time ago
@@Decipherity Thank you so much.
@@newbeginnings5610 @decipherity hi recent viewers, i just saw this too. i hope y’all know that you’re doing amazing, and try not to be hard on yourselves because you’re living life on hard mode and literally NEVER get a break. meds are nice but they don’t rival what it’s like to be neurotypical. i’m so proud of yall, keep doing the best that you can because even though so many people have no idea how much harder everything is for you than it is for them, you deserve to be the subject of your own pride. you don’t get an award for surviving life with a brain like this, but just because you don’t get an award doesn’t mean that it isn’t just as incredible of an accomplishment. you are a force to be reckoned with, never forget that.
Today I was at a neurodiversity training and I was obviously doing a million things OTHER than listen to that, until they reached the ADHD part and played this. I was LITERALLY in tears by the end
The especially relatable part for me is that after all that, she didn't actually start the dishwasher and didn't end up eating. Damn you really got this spot on.
And she never found the key
@@centrifugedestroyer2579 to be fair I also completely forgot about the key by the end LMAO
Good paying attention! I remembered the "need to eat," but missed the others. This is quite relatable! ✌️😎🍀
Note: 🔑the key thing is why I have a small over the shoulder small satchel and try to always have pockets, so when I get too distracted muscle memory will take over, and at least the keys will be with me on the right side of the door! Also, have a larger purse where most everything else important goes, cards, necessary bills a container w/meds in case I missed something.....
The kitchen thing, or cleaning my room, I got nothing. I try not to think of how life would be different if only I could complete the simple tasks....
@@erinmcdonald7781 I have a kind of belt attachment for my keys. I always use the same sturdy belt, and this is the only way I don't lock myself out or lose my keys all the time
Is it bad i didn't even realise at all? 💀💀💀
For those without ADHD that might be a bit confused, it's not voices in your head it's just the split train of thought. So the voices represent every thought being processed at the same time
Thank you for clarifying... I could relate to the multi-thought process,
but wasn't sure if she was actually hearing voices (and if I've been mistaken about myself 😊)
Several trains leaving the station at different times and the same time.
Wait so is the lack of "extra" trains why Normals can only single task and look annoyed when the radio AND TV and running life's background sound tracks while you're doing a primary task ?
@@Funloverjef No way you just said "Normals" 💀
@@Miss_Eldritch
I know, I know, but they get annoyed when referred to as "the Obsolete" just bc they failed to evolve our multitasking gene. Lol.
This is one of the few "what's it's actually like to have ADHD" videos I've seen that aren't people just being "oh I was doing that and then I saw a butterfly" or just randomly shifting focus to something random out of nowhere. I like the fact it shows the struggle of actually trying to put effort into executing daily tasks and setting reminders (the sticky notes) but failing at things when you realize you left stuff to pile up and you need a certain step or like a clean space to execute your next task and they're all chained together untill you realize they all pile into an entire house of undone things and before you realize it it's time to go back to bed, you haven't done anything yet you're insanely tired.
THIS
This
Yes THIS!
Exactly. It's very bad
And also run on sentences
I could remember few years back after my husband died, I was left alone with 3 kids. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with ADHD. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment changed my life for better. I can proudly say i'm totally clean for 6 years and still counting. Always look to nature for solution to tough problems, Shrooms are phenomenal.
I love hearing great life changing stories like this. I want to become a mycologist because honestly mushrooms are the best form of medicine (most especially the psychedelic ones) There are so many people today used magic mushrooms to ween off of SSRI medication- its amazing! Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death buddy, lets be honest here.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
Yes sure of Pedroshrooms
I'm so very happy for you mate, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
Where do I reach this dude? If possible can I find him on Google
The only part you forgot was the giving up because you’re suddenly REALLY overwhelmed. Lol.
Yes! Happens to me all the time as soon as she opened the cupboard I was done- time for a nap
Jep, 100 things to do but I do nothing instead, because I don't know where to start.
@@schokoloko2092 yesss same
Around the time she was looking for her keys is when I would have said "Fuck it", started the dishwasher and put it all off till tomorrow.
@@GolgariGymBro and I think there is nothing wrong with that. Not everything needs to be done now. A little dish in the sink never hurt anybody 😄
I love that she never DID find her keys. So true. Now just imagine this five minutes before it's time for you to go to work, and add in some panic induced adrenaline because you know you're already on notice for lateness. 😬
so on point
That type of situation helps really. Suddenly I know what and how much of it I need to do in the very moment. Only pity is, there is so very little time left, if only the clearness would come earlier next time lol
WAIT I TOTALLY FORGOT ABOUT THE KEYS-
I thought "they're right there, on the counter", but then she switched to another thing and the keys completely flew out of my head
She also forgot about getting food lol
😢
I love how she COMPLETELY forgot that she wanted to eat something. this is crazy accurate lol
.... I forgot she forgot that.
By the time she was at the dishwasher.
.... Yea this is pretty damn accurate. Just my thoughts are often more random, this is just how it looks like when I manage to focus on something.
That's like one of the bigger things with ADHD is forgetting to eat. My husband asked how does one forget your hungry.
Idk there is so much going on up in my head.
I knew there was something that she forgot! I just couldn’t remember what it was…
didn't even realize until i saw this comment! so accurate, cause i do the same thing. i wanna eat so i go to the kitchen, but because i have a roommate there's already dirty dishes from her meal, so i have to clean them and the dishwasher was thankfully turned on but i have to unload it and put the other dishes in, but in order to unload the dishwasher i have to reorganize the cupboard so everything can fit because roommate doesn't remember where everything goes/doesn't have time to/doesn't bother to put things back in the right spot. for some reason the cat treats are in the tupperware cupboard. oh, right, i need to feed the cats, but while i'm doing that i notice the filter in their water fountain getting gross so i need to clean that, but in order to clean that i need to clear out the sink but to do that i need to unload the dishwasher but to do that i need to reorganize the cupboards and -
3 hours later the kitchen is spotless and i'm exhausted, but i forget to eat
she wanted to eat something?
The biggest problem is our non-existent short term memory bandwidth, which causes keeping all of these seemingly simple tasks que'd up nearly impossible and stressful to to achieve. This is why there is such relief once the tasks are on the actual white board and not the one in our head. The whiteboard in our head gets erased every 10s while simultaneously being written on by what seems like 2-3 other people with different ideas about everything in our field of view. All of this is happening simultaneously with background music. FYI, none of this stops when we have conversations with people.
Conversations with people are excruciating when the inner chaos is at its loudest. 😩😢
I have only just learnt, after many failings in my life in jobs, with no overall success, that the short term memory bandwidth thing is a thing!. Wow I wished I understood that back in highschool, or in jobs. I wanted to be a primary school teacher, but I stopped after a year because I could not keep organised on everything at once at the same time. It was one of the biggest failures I had, I loved teaching.
@@MrBennyrick77 Is it too late? Can you go back into teaching now that you're wiser?
@@AlextheENTP Thankyou for asking. The problems I had with staying organised, establishing routine, has haunted me in all jobs since then. I still cant hold routines now and am hot and cold with where things grab my initial interest. I havnt solved my problem of dealing with it as yet.
@@MrBennyrick77 If I may offer a bit of advice (acknowledging that I don't know you, so this may or may not apply) - my own working memory is pretty atrocious. I use the calendar and tasks apps on my phone OBSESSIVELY. Things that normal people wouldn't even have to write down, let alone break up into ten steps, I break into ten steps and set a reminder for each step. I DO NOT swipe it off the screen until it's truly done.
I'm also all over the place with interests - the trick is to choose or create a job that allows you to explore multiple skills/interests and is varied enough to not become stale (eg, work on the computer, then you're on the road, then in the workshop, etc). Of equal importance is that this constant shifting can potentially keep you from becoming overwhelmed and bogged down.
And if it works for you, get a friend or assistant to keep you on track. Sometimes we actually just need someone with a brain that does the tasks ours can't. 😵💫
I hope this wall o' text contained at least a snippet of useful information for you. All the best!
I’m actually in tears right now, I didn’t realise not everyone’s brain was like this. I truly didn’t know, I thought it was like this for everyone. Only in the last six months due to increased awareness have I started to realise I think I’ve had adhd my whole life. I’m female and 50 and I’ve never understood why I am the way I am, I thought I was just useless lazy. I’ve struggled my whole life like this and I didn’t know. Thank god for increased awareness, I’m going to ask for help now. What a brilliant video.
Do you really hear many voices in your head all at once!? Wow, that sounds like a mighty struggle
Good luck on getting help, it sucks you couldn’t find out earlier
@@inevitabley Oh no they don't hear multiple voices, it's just their inner thoughts focusing on multiple things at once. You could say something real simple to somebody who has ADHD, and if they're even a little stressed at that moment, it's possible they might not comprehend what you said because they're too focused on a dozen other things. Relaxation can prevent this, but it's so darn hard to be relaxed. Even while I'm typing this, I had to stop and inhale/exhale just to get my thoughts together and focus on writing this.
There’s a great book on ADD/ADHD that is called “You mean I’m not lazy, stupid, or crazy.” This book was life-changing for me and I’ve known I have ADHD my whole life.
@@cw5451 thank you for the recommendation, I’ve been trying to choose a book. I’m going to order that right now. ❤️
@@sooticablue1664 I very rarely comment. But good luck, love!
This is why it is so hard to stay on task with ADHD. You remember things you were meant to do whilst trying to figure out what needs doing now. This video demonstrates it very well. If you have depression or anxiety or PTSD in addition to ADHD the mental process is so overwhelming that you feel like you are spiraling into mental and emotional breakdown.
Exactly, and then the shut down, the overwhelm, and immobilization. 😢
This. And then you turn around and see the absolute trail of destruction you’ve left behind in no time flat: open cupboards, half-made sandwich, “most” of the dishes done, “some” of them dried, bottle of soda on counter next to fridge, glass on a completely different counter, ice tray…how’d that wind up in the dining room, and…oh wait I was looking for my keys, that’s right, now where…oh let me finish that sandwich… 🙀
Yes! Yes! Yes!
i have bipolar, bpd, ptsd and am gonna be tested for adhd D:
@@Ale-xv1un I think you misunderstood things there, Alex. Also, I'm fairly sure you are a troll, since you have a very empty channel.
Read a bit more about ADHD and then come back and we'll see if you're worth our time of explaining everything to you.
This is a great simulator. I showed it to my husband and he’s horrified. He finally understands what our son lives on a daily basis. I think what shocked him the most was hearing the “noise” - the constant brain dialogue/feedback, both positive and negative.
I think exactly the way the video shows, so it confuses me that your husband is "horrified". Anyone that doesnt finish any task because it becomes many is just lazy and they lack discipline
The end result for me wouldv been a whistle clean kitchen and a full stomach
that's not adhd, that's schizophrenia because it's a second personality.
@Jo Pearson DID is real though.. but yeah it’s totally different from schizophrenia which is totally different from ADHD
@@freezingcathedral Are you qualified to make diagnoses?
i got diagnosed w adhd a few weeks ago and this is really accurate lmaoooo
I burst into tears halfway through this video as I saw myself going through these motions n tracking all the tasks n hearing all the other thoughts simultaneously! I fairly recently received my adult diagnosis, and I have never seen an ADHD simulation video before. This is exactly what it is like for me. All day, every day. (The task board is a good idea. I use a brain dump pad currently).
As someone with ADHD, I can confirm this is pretty damn accurate. Except I usually get overwhelmed and then end up doing absolutely none of the stuff I was supposed to do- then a few hours later I’ll be on my phone and I’ll think “wait wasn’t I supposed to be doing something?” And the cycle begins again :,)
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This is exactly what happens to me,is there any salutations for that?
Solution *
EXACTLY
This is my brain 😢 thanks for making me feel like I’m not alone.
Watch out! You might be haunted... Boohoohooooooo
@@Wonkess_Chonkess your face is haunted and apparently your profile pic too.
@@Wonkess_Chonkess oh
@@JediWebSurf Boohoohooooooo
We should literally start a support group. This is so refreshing.
You forgot the intrusive thoughts and the three songs playing in the background lol
In all seriousness though, this is completely accurate.
I really liked the singing in the background, but yeah my brain is more like 2 or 3 radio stations that are on simultaneously ALL day long
Anyone have Imagine Dragons permanently owning real estate in their head while Michael Jackson occasionally rents out a room?
@@jayatibali2337 yes lol
You get 3 songs? My brain picks ONE and that’s what plays for the rest of the day
@@loftydabird54 Yep, that sometimes happens too. Those are the worst days!
The singing in the background the whole time is so real
This is ACTUALLY a really good depiction of how it is. I mean, REALLY GOOD. Most videos on social media about ADHD is just silly. Like trying to make it a quirky and fun superpower that everybody would like to have. So that people can be like; “oh, adhd is so cool and it’s part of my personality.” This is a disorter. And yeah, sometimes I feel like my adhd CAN be to my advantage - but THIS - this video shows how the average person with adhd struggles without not realizing it’s a struggle. You are just doing your thing and suddenly; time is up, someone’s disappointed in you and everything becomes chaos.
That last line hit the nail on the head, perfectly.
It’s like you wrote out how I feel, especially the last line
Whow, this is overwhelming. I just learned - with this video - that i have undiagnosed ADHD. That last sentence of yours even made me tear up a bit. Now I just have to convince everyone - who is already tired of my constant fickleness - that I'm ill. But to stay positive: Now I can, much better, explain why I constantly lose my stuff, which is great timing 'cause I miss my wedding ring for some months now... again.
Actually it was weak… I thought that was normal behavior 😅Now I know why somebody asked if my weird ass was autistic or something LOL
the scary part is that when others are disappointed you don't even know why because you're trying your best to do your tasks, even tho you still haven't do the first and only task they asked you to do. I just forget/trying to get there!
one of the most accurate things is how the internal monologue gets more and more dejected and upset as you realize the “one task” is much more overwhelming and time-consuming than you thought.
You captured really well how it feels when you’re *trying* to stay on track and motivated while constantly trying to ignore the part of you that’s overwhelmed and upset with yourself because all the obstacles you encountered only exist because past you made yet another mistake.
Why does she keep such mess around if she knows her condition? This is so stupid. I don't have ADHD, but I know how overwhelming things get if you don't finish them and it all piles up. Depressing enough for me, let alone for someone who has a precondition.
@@NiMareQ
Congrats you missed the point entirely.
@@Batsquid_well said! It went right over that person’s head.
Exactly
@@NiMareQlmao. You didn’t have to clarify you don’t have adhd. It’s pretty clear from your question.
This made me cry. It made me feel more normal, and like I wasn’t lazy, or crazy. The intrusive negative self talk associated with the disorganization in the background was the icing on the cake. That is what set me crying. And I literally did this to my kitchen last week. It took me 5 hours to take care of my groceries. AND I forgot trash bags! I felt like I was watching a replay of my life.
It made me cry too, it's so accurate
I cry when you cry. Imagine our grandparents saying that they cried because they couldn't put away groceries...I cried with you...
Thing is I thought this was normal until a year ago and now I've been contemplating ADHD diagnosis but also have the ADHD tendency to keep putting it off.
@Theresa Dawson you are not crazy. You are not lazy. You are enough.
I had to like, and then unlike so I could relike this post, I feel ya!!! I had the worst anxiety attack I've had in a while today, ironically largely because of a teeth cleaning appointment but it was getting the gas that calmed me down enough to be able to realize just how out of control my brain was. I don't know what to do about it but I recognize that the problem is worse than I thought.
THANK YOU for this. I was diagnosed late in life and I've never been able to explain what happens in my head. Also amazing creativity with the overlapping thoughts while trying to focus. Even with meds some days the chatter doesn't stop, it just slows down. Please keep sharing what you learn and educating people.
I completely understood all the voices. Some were memories, some were imaginary conversations you might have today with real people, some were future lists of tasks that need to be done later, some were hobbies you would REALLY like to get to one day.
And of course there was that one magic jukebox playing a random song in the back of the mind :D
@RuailleBuaille Yes, only the jukebox forgot half the words and is on constant repeat, but somehow it's still pleasant to have.
I have tons of imaginary conversations for the future!
And the jingle, song or phrase repeating whether it be "keys,keys, keys," or like in this one the Stranger Things line "Chrissy wake up" in all it's sing-song glory.
Don't forget the never ending cicle of repeating favorite movies scenes, sometimes the WHOLE movie.
The intrusive thinking which creates a distraction when already distracted is so accurate ❤️
Yes!!!, IT'S AWFUL !! 😑😑
So relatable and so awful lol.
I heard you like distractions, so I made a distraction for your distraction!
Everything you talk about I've done also. I'm 79, and no one knew about this in my youth. I could have been so much more if I had understood I wasn't lazy, rude, selfish, and an annoying person, but uniquely disabled. Had I experienced compassion, and help to do more I could have been so much more. Instead I'm filled with anger and sadness realizing what I lost .
You have right now to treat yourself with compassion and as a priority
My family crest should just be self loathing ADHD as far back as I have stories for. So I get it. I got diagnosed at 35, but only managed to get treatment 5 years ago, and am processing the emotional damage of being undiagnosed for most of my life has caused with my lovely, but overworked and underpaid therapist at the clinic.
It's not your fault. And if hugs help- I offer all the virtual hugs possible.
Take care
@@nyxskids If you don’t mind, what treatment did you receive? I’m hesitant to try medication again.
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@@Omnihilo Mostly talk therapy with an eye on accepting that the world is not made for me. I'm retired because of severe injury though, so my treatment probably wouldn't work for most. I wish I had more to offer
This hits home! I wish everyone who ever told me “Just try harder to remember.” Would realize that if that solution worked,I’d’ve done it a LONG LONG time ago.
I would take this as the more focused version because you're getting things done (focusing on what needs to be done). The unfocused version you're ALSO thinking about everything else that's going on your life, has happened in your life, might happen in your life, May never happen to your life, has nothing to do with your life, has nothing to do with life, and has everything to do with life. Yet like a chain of thought. Dishes; what did I eat last; lasagna; my mom makes good lasagna; I remember when we went to Sonic; I'm thirsty. Hey wife, wanna go to Sonic? Where are my keys? Then there is an occasional mind wipe where everything goes blank for few seconds in the attempt to reset yourself. The negative of the mind wipe is you have to start over what you are thinking about. You sometimes end up on a completely different thought chain. I usually say, "okay so" in my head. It only happened three..... Nine times in the statement. With edits. (This has been edited 8 times)
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ME.
Yes. 😐
STAWP EXPOSING ME T.T
I felt like I was the only one. Thank you for sharing ❤️
I’m 28, and I haven’t been diagnosed with ADHD, but this video is ridiculously relatable.
Same wtf
That's what TikTok , shorts and reels do to you.
Same like I might need to figure this out
Is this adhd specific? Isn't everyone's mind like this? (Also, my mind at least goes NO! THERE'S MORE ROOM IN THAT DISHWASHER!)
I'm about to be 28 in feb and this has been my life for years. But I as well have not been diagnosed with ADHD
i high-key forgot this was an adhd thing and i always assume everyone is just better at being overwhelmed lol. Your thought process was literally so spot on I didn't question it.
it's honestly so foreign to me that people's brains can be just silent on a regular basis
I thought this is the norm 😂how is it different for people with no ADHD?
Exactly! Only halfway through viewing I was like ‘oh this is meant to demonstrate ADHD’ as I was so used to the thought process going on it felt normal
Same here
@@dreambrush7251 That can happen? You're not just talking about brain fog, right?
And because of how overwhelming it is you forget to do tasks properly or just procrastinate. This is just spot on.
Yeah, I always do one thing at a time, but if someone tells me to do something, I do that before I do something else. It's painful.
@@r3mixgaming82 It really is... Especially at work, in my first ever job, ive misunderstood things so many times, and the slightest detail that isnt explained "properly" to me makes me overthink of doing something wrong. Sometimes it makes me so overwhelmed i feel sick in the head. Ive told my boss about it and stuff, but i dont think he understands how much it really affects me.
So basically, adhd sucks.
@@Inzpectre Very much.
@@r3mixgaming82 Well, while I OTOH also consciously try to do just one thing at a time but decided to put unplanned things (from other people at least) on queue, do them after what I've had planned. But this way you're disappointing other people, so that's also not a solution.. And writing most of it down in to-do lists also doesn't work well, at least for me, as while you don't forget things this way, the lists grow and I'm getting stressed out and you're busy all the time or feel the guilt of procrastinating..
I'm asking as someone who has very similar symptoms: Did any of you guys suffer from Narcolepsy as well?
I appreciate how in the end, the reason why you went into the kitchen in the first place (getting food for the first time that day) went ignored. Very accurate.
She could've just eaten what was in the cabinet and avoided everything else entirely. 😂
@@royalwolf7603 yeah but the point is that's not how someone with adhd does stuff
Happens to me every day. @_@;
This is a near perfect representation of the mind of a person with ADHD. They didn't touch on the fact that the whole time you're mind is screaming at you about 10 other things the whole time.
Mine is also constantly saying how stupid I am for not eating not being able to finish, for taking too long for wasting time and how thirsty I am and I can't get a drink because I can't work myself up to it
Did you not hear in the background the chit chatter of like 5 other voices singing and reciting Humpty Dumpty and suggesting "you could just use a towel" instead of a drying rack. And putting her down like "gosh Youre so forgetfull" "why cant you do anything right?" ~that one may have come from my head tho...
@@MountainBabyRoses I def heard it... but then into got drowned out by my own internal chatter heh
@@Bimby-b mine says I'm awesome and funny when my mind say jokes 😅 to other thoughts train in my mind
then it says "wait why nobody is around that was so funny"
And I'm like lol yeah 😅
@@Bimby-b also drink chamomile tea because my mind went from 5 to 8 different thought trains, to just one and is very zen and relaxing 😌
I envy this person's ability to conceive, create, and publish a two-minute video while also dealing with ADHD like this. I can barely *watch* a two-minute video without my attention wandering.
This made me feel an extreme amount of empathy to know that someone literally thinks and feels exactly how I do on a daily basis…yet also made me tear up a bit to know that someone else literally thinks and feels how I do on a daily basis. Great video though. Subscribed.
Hugs, I get it!!
I want a simulator for a normal person in this situation so I can see how they aren’t going thru this every time.
Right? Like, how do NT brains work? Do people just _not_ constantly have music playing in the background?
Hi!! I'm a neurotypical and I can sau that I would prioritize something to eat FIRST because thats a bodily need and something i wanted to do.
Since the dishwasher was started this time you could actually avoid hand washing the dishes while youre at the store because then the dishes will be done, you unload, and you put the new ones in - now dishes are done!
You dont HAVE to clean the cabinets if the day has already been overwhelming cause at least you ate something, cleaned dishes, and got those garbage bags (+returned book if you dont forget to grab it)
@@loserchips1112 holy shit wait that’s smart
@@loserchips1112 eating will make more dishes. There is no where to put the dishes that will get dirty because the sink is full, the counter is full, and the dishwasher is full. Can't put them in any clear surfaces because that will make them dirty and more to clean. And the whole point of them being clean is because I said I wouldn't put any thing else in those spots so they will always be clean. So I need to do the dishes first.....
I don’t have ADHD. I would not have gotten distracted from needing to eat - that is the primary goal. So I would figure out a way to make that happen. No clean dishes? Ok, I’ll hand wash a single plate or whatever the minimum thing I need to achieve that goal. Definitely not starting any major projects before getting my food. I’d probably start the dishwasher running for later, then grab some food and eat that.
I would notice things like the book and the messy cabinets (which I probably already knew about) but I’d be better able to assess their urgency and automatically prioritize when I’ll do what. For example, I’ll start the dishwasher now because it takes 1 min. I’ll take the book back and buy garbage bags after I eat. The messy cabinets are a big and not urgent project so I’ll tackle on a weekend sometime when I have time. Etc
This is LITERALLY me. Then I collapse from the pressure of being overwhelmed and play video games for two hours, then get guilty for not getting anything done.
Same...
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“And play video games for two hours…” OMG?! When will UA-cam stop calling me out?! 😭💀
Same
For somebody like me who witnesses this on a daily basis being with their partner, what could i do to help support him to remain productive instead of repeating the cycle of try to do tasks > get overwhelmed > video games > guilt > repeat ?
Very accurate, and also for those who don’t have ADHD, the extra voices aren’t hallucinations, just different thoughts that race through your mind.
The overlaying of your thoughts talking over each other is the best part! No one ever talks about how fast our brains go and all our thoughts trip over each other. I love this
Honestly I’m impressed you thought to have a task board and remembered to put it on the wall and remembered it exists and remembered to update it and didn’t lose the post it notes or get distracted while looking for a pen
That was me--as soon as she saw the book I feared that she would take a peak at a chapter 😂😂😂
It just goes to show task boards are useless and pointless to someone with ADHD.
@@lionsatmidnight
No they're not.
I've got a small white board on the wall in my shower, because that's where I tend to think about all the things I need to do.
I use one sticky note at a time and in very small writing I'll list the items from the white board onto the sticky note after I get dressed, then I fold it so the sticky part keeps it folded (writing side out) and tuck it in my pocket.
I can write on one sticky note for a few days if I write small enough.
I keep it in my pocket and scratch things off as I complete them, and scan the list for the next thing that I can cross off, usually picking some small thing thats right in front of me at the time.
I'll kind of circle or underline things that can be chained together, like post office, grocery store, drop off book, then at the grocery store I'll cross off items as I pick them up.
It's pretty satisfying to see a sticky note with a bunch of tasks crossed off.
Of course the list is never ending, because life is a never ending list of sh*t that you need to do.
When the paper gets full, I copy the items I haven't crossed off onto a new sticky note and start over.
"Task boards" with multiple sticky notes wouldn't work for me, because 1) it's not always with me to add something that needs doing or to check what needs doing and 2) something about all those separate sticky notes just seems like a jumbled mess that my brain would just rather avoid.
A list is much simpler.
" post office, chicken, tooth paste, olive oil, bank, electric bill, ear buds, paper towels, pay John, fix railing, bread, eggs, laundry" etc.
One trip to the grocery store and I've got 6 things crossed off the list That's satisfying and what's left looks easily manageable.
Anyway, that's what I do. It works well for me.
Believe me I'd way rather just avoid it all and get lost in playing my guitar or Ace Combat or something, but the sh*t gets piled up and seems unmanageable in no time.
I like to write, so thanks for reading.
@@AZ-kr6ff honestly i would forget it exists too.. it’s an extra step which: instead of spending the limited energy we have to do tasks we gotta spend it on updating the board.. i personally carry a pocket sized book with a pen and write down thoughts, ideas, and tasks in there right away (as a rule).
But once you fall into the “i can remember this task without writing it down” trap, youre gonna take weeks to reorganise!! 😅
I love using my fridge as a whiteboard. And I got a 3 foot calendar that I put right in front of my door I literally have to make things so big and obnoxious that I can’t miss them anything smaller it’s going in the brain trash
As someone who has ADHD AND helps people with ADHD as her job, this is actually pretty accurate.
The overwhelming feeling of tasks to do not knowing where to start is often why people with ADHD look lazy. No we are not lazy. We just don't know what to do first.
Also there is a missing part of hyperfocus, where suddenly your brain put everything in a correct order and you can do all the tasks in a split of the time of how long other people would need. Consequence: you are efficient, but after that your energy is down to 0. Also NEVER speak to someone who hyperfocus. If they lose their concentration it's over.
pretty much like yes I have worked on maths for the past 3 hours without adjusting my chair or anything else but maths but don't dare come into my room or try to talk to me because I will have a minor breakdown, lose all motivation and be unable to continue my work for quite a long time
@@EmmaTheSmol Omg yeah
Flow state flows. interrupt at the peril of....
Oh FUCK...
I forgot to take my noon adderall today.
My mantra is "One thing at a time. One thing at a time. One thing at a time." (Always 3x for some reason.) It helps a little.
Actually the hyperfocus part for me is more like, got all the tasks laid out on the task board, then think if im throwing out food im gonna have to buy more too, and then spend the next 5 hours browsing south east asian recipes. In fact I opened youtube to search for a recipe but here I am commenting on this instead 😵💫
My daughter confirms this, and it has helped me understand her so much. We call this, multiple trains of thought; the "voices" are not some hallucinations but just like everyone has an inner monologue or train of thought, evidently an ADHD brain has 2 or 3. Which helps with multitasking!! my daughter is great at it.
Thanks for the videos, there's a lot of stuff on ADHD out there but these are real.
I'm 43 and recently diagnosed. This is 1000% accurate. I always thought I was just "flighty" and "lazy" and "stupid". Don't wait as long as I did to be diagnosed. My life could have gone so differently if I hadn't waited because I was told "adhd is just an excuse not to do what you need to and only do what you want to".
Lol as if it's just as simple as not waiting .... you have it so easy as a woman who can just request... I would get framed, raped, abused, tortured in hospital & by police for seeking treatment, 😆 🤣 😂 😹 all you had to do was stop waiting ? Your life is in super easy mode compared to mine if that's the case
Same here! I'm 43 and I know I have this I don't even know how I graduated High school because I barely made it by. How did they diagnose you? What can you do for it?
What did the doctor do to help you?
@@ras_krystafari3333 first, you don't know me or my story, or anything I've been through in my life so don't act like you do. Second, I don't need your trauma dump like it is my fault. Take your anger and do something constructive with it.
@@ninamarise237 I actually took my teenage daughter in to her doctor first and it was basically just an appointment with a psychiatrist where they asked her a ton of questions and she answered them honestly. As I listened to the questions a lightbulb went on And I made an appointment for myself on the way out. They are doing a combination of medicine and behavioral therapy to teach us skills to overcome the challenges medicine alone can't fix. Mine was misdiagnosed as depression for 30 years.
I still find it so hard to believe there’s people who don’t experience this. Thanks for posting this!
EXACTLY! Like, I experience this thought process but I don't believe I have ADHD, but how would someone do all these tasks otherwise? Just start washing dishes then move stuff with soap all over their hands and knock stuff over because it is in the way? People who DON'T think this way, please explain what your process would be. Maybe that can help me and others.
@@WeezieVyes, once I'm in the sink and my hands are wet I don't leave till I finish, unless I have to wait for the kettle to boil water for those extra greasy dishes. I might temporarily forget about the dishes, but eventually resume the task.
@@WeezieVim hyper organized not (i am on the autistic spectrum and not ADHD Idk if that matters) i stack dirty dishes neatly in the sink to one side i clean off the counters and i have a "routine" and order i go in. And when i place things in cabinets, i also am very neat with boxes, cans, etc, all same shape and size category goes together, cans stack together. Pasta stands together etc, kind of like Tetris. I think my friend may be closer to ADHD because she has her things in disarray like cans on bags of rice etc and i cant understand how someone can not notice or be okay with leaving the sink or cabinets or closets etc so chaotic. It literally gives me anxiety to see disorder to that extent, but i mean that without judgement. Its just our brains function differently and the more disarray the harder it is to clean up. My dad also taught me to clean as you go, as in dont wait until its a tornado of a mess to start cleaning tho i know for some its easier said than done. 😢😅
BTW🎉 Happy New Year🎉
@@WeezieVI did have the same thought process, however, I would have put the tasks on the wall and started with turning on the dishwasher, then go out to return the book and buy garbage bags, and then come back home to empty and reload the dishwasher. Which would leave me with time to clean up the cabinet etc. ;)
@@CrisTryingToBeProductive9
I've never really been able to put my ADHD into words but she did a very good job in this video, it made me feel a lot better about myself seeing someone else that had the same problems.
The talking in the background was the most accurate/relatable bit for me. So many of these sorts of videos just present the person as scatty and all over the place. For me, it's the ten million thoughts all happening at once
You know what was a nice touch? When you first walked over to the task board and all the voices stopped what they were doing to say “board…board…board…yay!” But then immediately fell into chaos again once you had to make a decision (“I guess I’ll start with the dishes”)
I’ve noticed lately that every decision I make fractures the task into something smaller, and often leaves me standing and staring at the table or the dishes or the wall, as my brain gets caught up in a loop.
the other voice was a different personality. that's schizophrenia, not adhd.
@@freezingcathedral …. What? That was her thoughts lol.
@@freezingcathedral No it's just the person's thoughts. Schizophrenia would be if you were hearing voices, not just thinking verbally.
@@freezingcathedral oh I have everything
I absolutely LOVE that you included the LOUDNESS of being inside an ADHD head. That was a PHENOMENAL way to explain it. I've tried explaining it before, but never been very good at it.
The best explanation I've seen from other people (besides this one) is as follows:
Imagine you're in a small room. You're in the centre of it all. The room is completely full of people. Maybe 20-30 or so. All of these people are talking to you simultaneously and the volume varies, some quietly, some normal volume and some are yelling loudly. All of these people are trying to draw your attention. All of these people believe that what they're trying to get you to focus on is very important and you must pay attention to it RIGHT NOW!!!!! You just saw something colourful out of the corner of your eye. Another person is trying draw your attention to it. Another is trying to get you to focus on the task at hand. Another is trying to get you to remember that line from a show you watched last night. Another is trying to get you to think about what's happening tomorrow and what you need to do to prepare.
And than the volumes that the everyone is speaking to you at varies randomly. Some will go from yelling to quiet or vice versa for no apparent reason.
that on top of all the physical stimuli and sensory overload you experience on a day to day basis- istg some neurotyps are just like “well, you can just filter it out 🤪” and to which i say HOW?? you’re the one talking, not giving a shit that im the one having a panic attack because of the fucking 24/7 screaming, talking, yelling that i cannot escape wherever i go, and you’re just telling me to stop stimming but you want me to just “filter it out”? im so goddamn done.
This is AMAZING. Yes! *Thank you for sharing.*
Don't forget the music. I often also have a song on repeat and like one or two bars from a song that I try to identify.
@@nena5518 I always end up with a song I listen to once or haven’t heard in years stuck in my head. It’s never the song I’m currently playing on a loop until I’m sick of it 😅
YES.. seriously! Yes!
I sent the video to my friend and my boys- because they tease me about losing my mind.
Today I got a rose from my kids and a card .. telling me how they appreciate all I am doing. It took them by surprise, because they didn't understand!
Now, they speak softer and try to help me out more.. my friend has been doing my shopping because I get overwhelmed with the noise in stores! He didn't realize that I was pushing so hard to do normal thing's and he now comes over once a week to do anything outside and straightening up the house.
I have mobile issues too. I was in tears, a small video can help do so much! Thanks for letting the world see the struggle! ✌️🌹🤍
The board is a great representation of what it feels like. Where others see one simple task “clean the kitchen” we see seven different tasks, and that’s not counting what might have been forgotten. I got overwhelmed just looking at the board, no wonder I suck at getting things done
Yeah I hate boards or to do list , they get me anxioud
I had no adhd and the board is indeed overwhelming.
I'm a "I'll do whatever I feel like doing" person so to do list is a huge stress for me.
It's like several monsters are behind me constantly reminds me to do stuff
No the average person would see several tasks to clean, an entire room incompasses several tasks, this is somebody trying to label everyday things or really her inability to do everyday tasks or her making shit difficult as ADHD and it's not.
@@k_t530 what?
@@bobkoontz5814 this are normal thought processes. The Person in the Video actually Made the correct plan, getting Garbage bags makes sense. Noticing various Things is Not adhd. If she noticed the book and then would have started to Look Up library opening hours and ended Up websurfing i May have believe IT. but she noticed the book and still had the task in mind
It’s like being stuck in a game where everywhere you turn you gather more and more side-quests just while trying to do one important mission.
OMG! I'm in my 50s and always thought this was normal and that I was just weak for always getting overwhelmed! Thank you!
Is anybody else crying? I’m glad you showed how difficult it is inside my brain. This is very comforting.
Me! I couldn’t believe someone else got it! It hurt my heart seeing what I battle depicted, we are strong resilient people.
Me shocked! At the aged 34 and couldn’t explain to anyone,
Even my doctor
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I laughed so I would not cry.
As someone who has ADHD, I can say this is super accurate, but you forgot the part where you zone out for God knows how long 🤣
Oh yes. It is like stimulus overload, and you find yourself just staring into space.
Omfg yes😭😭
Also: ADHD paralysis
I think zone out is about 7 years between tasks.
Omg the zoning out is the biggest barrier of them all. I usually follow it up with a rampage because of how far behind I got and OH MY GOD I'M SO LATE.
I feel like such a baby because I honestly cried after this video. it's been so hard to describe to my friends, family and especially my wife what it's like inside my head everyday all day thank you so much.
That constant criticism is too real & really takes a toll! I’m glad that I finally got diagnosed by 45 years old, it’s made my whole life so different - even therapy is so different - even my relationship with my grown kids - for once in my life I’m consistent af with a medication which in turn makes my life so consistent, flexible & manageable… I don’t ever want to go back to the way things were… ADD/ADHD is no joke; get help or get your loved ones the help that best suits them sooner than later 🙏
What are those medications?!
Which medication. Ritalin doesn't work well for everyone.
I was diagnosed at 48, and in the first three years of being treated with medication, I took an accelerated masters program in Elementary Education and made straight A's, taught myself plumbing, electrical, construction, and HVAC to save myself money on repairs to my mom's and my rentals, all while raising a daughter by myself and taking care of an 85 year old mother with dementia and a 60 year old brother with a Crack and alcohol addiction
What meds ?
Which medication worked for you ?
I really appreciate the overlapping thoughts. I haven’t seen that aspect depicted so effectively before. It can be a struggle to explain to neurotypical people how challenging it can be to exist this way. Thank you for creating this.
Yeah, same. I've tried to explain to my husband before that I can be in a conversation with him, think about my RP group, about something that went wrong with work, about having to clean the lizard cage, oh, and that one train of thoughts is humming the tetris melody again. He looked at me like I was crazy.
@@beardiemom do dodo do do dodo do dodo do do do do do dooo dooo dooo dooo doooo dooo do do do (all pronounced like doo but amount of "o"s indicates length of oo sound)
Yes. Sometimes it just feels like layers on top of layers of thoughts. Wow it feels good to hear someone talk about that
Yes!!
@@RosenrotRtLiebchen87 megalovania?
As someone who also has ADHD, this is incredibly relatable, especially the _constant_ dialogue in your head
(edit) to people who think I have schizophrenia, you are misunderstanding what I mean. I'm referring to my thoughts as "dialogue" because in the video the thoughts were portrayed like "dialogue" even though it's not actual dialogue. Please stop saying I have schizophrenia. I do not have it. Thank you.
Isn't that normal when you're planning what to do?
@@jimmcneal5292 I mean how the thoughts are just constant. not like "Oh, I should do this thing." I mean constantly talking in your head without stop no matter what you're doing. Even interrupting your own thoughts sometimes to have another random thought. It never stops. It's really annoying most of the time, like if you're trying to sleep and you just keep thinking and thinking and thinking and thinking without end.
That's a huge con to having a hyperactive brain, lol.
(edit) I meant THOUGHTS not VOICES. I am not schizophrenic.
@@rosieleaverton idk, unless i'm going to bed I have this same thing but it's ok, I don't feel discomfort(it's especially "severe" if I read math, then I feel like overclocked cpu)
@@jimmcneal5292 Yeah, i get that. Math makes my brain feel like it's short-circuited sometimes (doesn't help that I'm also dyslexic, lol)
People with ADHD are commonly very high IQ.
This made me cry. This is exactly what I deal with on a day to day basis
My doctor suspects I have ADHD and honestly this video is so accurate to the point that it made me feel so overwhelmed, my brain just shut down and now I feel extremely tired and sick. It's shit to get nothing done
I know, it is so annoying! But you need to try and be happy that you know yourself more now (if you have it) and there is plenty of research into it unlike a few years ago; meaning it is really known about and you can get help. I find that it also helps knowing that others also live with ADHD, so there is a community around it that YOU are a part of 😊
Yeah, I hit that point right around “I have to clean the cabinets” (although not as intensely, I just know I would’ve given up around then). This felt EXACTLY like my internal monologue, you might want to follow up on that potential ADHD diagnosis
as someone who is professionally diagnosed: you have ADHD. the reason why you feel tired and sick is because your brain is starving for dopamine constantly so when you're through a task in a way that puts a lot of pressure on you, your brain is suffering because it needs the Do and Reward chemical and it just is not getting through. Your brain literally goes dim when you try harder. I can't think of anything else it could be except for executive dysfunction.
Something that helps for me is focusing solely on the root of the task first and only (sometimes for the entire day) or quantifying the task if it's sisyphean. Also putting your shoes on for some tasks helps for some reason.
For example, for this video what I would focus on first is going to the store (with a list so i don't forget) to get trash bags and use the trip as an excuse to return the book. I would put the trash bags in a place where they are convenient to re-line the trash. Then, I would do something nice for a little while in the same room where I need to do the next task and I would do a little starting with 10 of this or 5 of that, setting a really small goal so you can do something rather than nothing, and even overachieve. I also like to wear gloves and watch a video while I'm handwashing dishes so that my brain is distracted from the awful sensation and there is a physical barrier between me and the awful sensation
BUT all of this is way easier on medication, off medication it is still physically painful and mentally agonizing for me to get things done. And even on medication sometimes it's easier when you ask people to do the silliest little tasks for you like "can you play games in the same room as me while i'm taking stuff out of the cabinet" "can you talk to me while i do the dishes" or just tiny tasks that somehow feel so big
@@eileensnow6153 i hit it when i saw the stilll dirty dishes in the dishwasher
but, no guarantee u got adhd lol
I have ADHD and there aren't actual "voices" like this - but it FEELS like that, as the title says. Just a dozen thoughts, ideas, etc., getting in the way of an immediate task with the potential for any one of them to replace the immediate task. BUT - what's also important to remember about ADHD is that there's also manic *FOCUS* a particular task - you can end up honing in on one thing very intensely; it's not always not finishing or being able to focus on what you're supposed to do, it can also be the opposite, but to an extreme degree. The latter is usually followed by a long period of inactivity, having accomplished *something*, even though it's not what you needed to actually do, which leads to a false sense of accomplishment and neglecting what has to be done. It's not fun.
After I host a party I am done. I dont clean up all the way for like a week. I always wait till the last minute to accomplish or plan and that's when inspiration strikes and I can laser focus (not so easy as I get older though). Then after the event I'm wiped out. Hmm...
Whoa. This is spot on.
No like real shi I'll be walking around and randomly talk to my self all day in my head I just do it you wouldn't notice be cause you doing other thing some take a walk out side and at least remember to try not to think and if you do then try to catch something that you normally don't do try it I catch my self doing it all the time is normal I guess
Very accurate!
thank you for saying this. sometimes I get frustrated with these 'simulator' videos because it doesn't exactly translate to most that these aren't actual voices, and I think there comes a lot of confusion and people diagnosing themselves. for example, I struggle with anxiety and these 'voices' fit better in that scenario, because I talk to myself in my head. But, my ADHD is completely different. Real ADHD is always lost in translation. its not black and white, rather a grey area but that grey area gets misplaced with that of normal habits. talking to yourself is not enough to diagnose yourself with ADHD, for example.
I literally did that spice thing the other day. I ended up with a sink STILL filled with dirty dishes BUT a cabinet full of perfect spices in perfect order!
Normally I try to figure out what tasks are more important and tell myself that the “top priority tasks” MUST be done… but my brain sometimes overrides all that and says “no thanks let’s do this”. It’s forever an uphill battle but learning more about ADHD and getting external support from others who have it really help!
Your videos are really helpful and make me feel less alone!
It's been like that for me for a very long time and I've actually never been diagnosed. How it's been missed is beyond me. Hopefully this will soon change. Thank you for sharing this, so very helpful of what day to day life is actually like instead of what someone thinks it might be like. This is excellent, insightful, and extremely helpful! Thank you🙏
The most perfect part about this, is she completely forgot that she was unable to find her keys! Wrote down all the steps and plotted out everything and once she starts to leave for the store, it all unravels.
I forgot that to
Also no breakfast
@@pollyrg97 well, that parts a daily
This is by far THE MOST ACCURATE depiction I've ever seen...I DIDN'T EVEN THINK IT WAS POSSIBLE TO DEPICT YOUR EXTRA VOICES IN VIDEO FORM BUT YOU DID IT, you deserve an Emmy or something for this masterpiece
Totally.. I was always in denial of even having ADHD even though i was prescribed meds in my youth but I always thought the dialogue I was hearing was simply my brain processing things but I had no idea this was unique to ADHD! I almost feel relieved that i actually know now
52 and a vaguely functional adult. Been trying to address this issue with my doctor for years. Think I’m going to show this to him next week. Cuz yeah… that’s me. Voices and all the rest.
Relax dude it’s not that a big deal LMAO
I tried describing it to people with "Having like 3 separate trains of thought at once and you can't pick one to focus on"
Needless to say unless you experience ADHD people think I'm just going crazy or exaggerating with that description
@@Rogueixpresents it's incredibly frustrating not being able to explain to people what it's like in your head and if you do usually the response is "Ok, sure. You're just procrastinating by choice." Or "You're over exaggerating". So to find such an accurate depiction is so validating. You have something to show people who don't understand. It's exciting!
Please do more of these ADHD simulators. They have really helped me explain what I deal with to my family. More of them explaining different aspects of ADHD life would be amazing.
Agreed 👍
My ADHD curse is doing a little bit of all the things each day until one day they are all completed at the same time, which gives a lot of self-satisfaction.
I’m just now starting to unpack the realization that this isn’t how everybody’s brain works, that I’m not just weaker or stupider than them for not being able to navigate life with as much grace and ease as them. This is EXACTLY what I see and feel and experience every single day, it’s what I’ve felt forever. It’s been heartbreaking but also fascinatingly healing to look back and see all the ways I consciously & subconsciously saw myself as “defective.” Thank you for the most incredibly accurate ADHD simulation I’ve ever seen.
That’s so true. It honestly makes me angry that some people don’t have to deal with this every day.
Every time the three wishes from a genie question pops into my head or into a conversation my immediate answer is always a fully functional brain.
It breaks my heart where I am in life right now as old as I am when I know I'm smarter than a lot of the people around me and I can't follow through because I get overwhelmed and shut down. I know I could manage if I had somebody helping me everyday but that's an unrealistic thing apparently. I don't understand how though, I feel like it's no different than somebody who needs a crutch or a wheelchair to get through their day. Half the time I literally sleep or curl into a ball in the couch and Xbox or Netflix and it's not because I'm lazy, I'm just super overwhelmed by everything on my plate. I'm getting better at dealing with stuff but it's hard... It's really hard... And I'm nowhere near where I want to be in life because of it. Not because I'm not capable, but because my brain won't let me do what I want to do
Wait..I thought everyone was like this?
@@theyearwas1473 well having somebody help you is different from having a wheelchair bc a wheelchair is an inanimate object lmao
@@yell0w-man bruh the video is literally called adhd simulator
This is exactly like the verbal test a chief psychiatrist of a mental hospital gave me to diagnose my ADHD; he gave me 6 chores for the day and asked me how I'd go about accomplishing them, and my response was just like this video
The background singing and self critizising is so accurate. Also, very responsible of you to keep a task board and use post-it notes. I've been thinking about doing the same thing for months now, I just haven't gotten myself to do it yet. There's always something else that needs my attention.
I was expecting a funny video but by the end I was near tears. I didn't realize so many of these behaviors of mine were from ADHD. But yeah, I'm ADHD through and through I guess. The negative thoughts, the constant monitoring of available energy, the turning of one task into many
Best way to describe executive dysfunction I've seen. Everything you want to do has 1 of two other tasks you have to do before that and those 1 or 2 tasks have aother one or two that need to be done before. It's an endless loop of not being able to do shit
Nah you will find the task is pointless, not overwhelmingly overwhemling.
There is a theory this so called adhd is just people that suited to hunting and killing. (The protectors of the village)
@@micksteel007 Or you could actually listen to what people with ADHD are telling you, instead of ignoring people's lived experiences.
@@tbotalpha8133 they tried it with me, but becoming a life long addict wasn't my thing.
(I wonder why they want children on drugs so young)
@@micksteel007 Is there a video or book I can read about it?
@@Lunearien well I think one must remember all information is controlled by a centralised tap and the flow is highly controlled.
It's also important to remember that nothing is so set in stone that everything else should be disregarded becuase someone says you have no right to opposing books.
what I love so much about this video is how you have multiple people (you's) talking to you while still trying to determine what stimuli to filter out while trying to keep track of what you're trying to do in that moment while trying to remember the steps you need to take to accomplish -- wait wasn't I hungry?? ❤🤣 Thank you so much for posting this
I agree. I think the hardest thing to do is prioritize.
And there’s always that one background voice criticizing you for losing this or that or not doing the one task you started out to do.
This is a really good illustration!
@@anarcho-communist11 - the hardest thing is to get the other inner dialogs to shut up 😆. It's just impossible
Wow. As someone without ADHD, this video, along with all of the comments here, are REALLY eye-opening and enlightening for me. I've got lots of respect for those who have to deal with all of this constantly.
Same here. I was just curious about how ADHD people see the world. I am entertained by some people commenting "Wait, doesn't everyone has it like this in their minds?" ... no, we don't.
Thank you for your compassion!
@@thornelderfincan you do a video of what a normal brain does when asked to do the dishes? My tasks always look like the one in the video, except I don't have a white board 🙃
@@shannono9158 I am really not sure I have a "normal brain", but I am sure I don't have ADD / ADHD. When I do the dishes I either focus on the details of what I am doing and how to clean it, or if it's just a mundane repetitive cleaning I turn on the autopilot and my mind drifts to one specific topic (usually pre-planning future, solving some problem, defragmenting my semantic memory). But it is only one thing, one topic. It doesn't jump around topics. Also if I get a notification on my phone, instead of having urge to check it I just tell myself I will check it later (and immediately forget about it) and often I don't even notice the distractions (you could sneak up on me, I wouldn't notice). Like when I am typing this text here, I have tunnel vision and am 100% focused on it and nothing else (I don't think I would survive in nature - a predator would sneak up on me and kill me).
You're awesome, lol. Glad to see the support and trying to understand others.
OMG ! This nailed it for me ! This is exactly what I go through on a daily basis ! It's exhausting sometimes ! Then I give up !
The background voices overlapping is so painfully accurate and possibly the best representation of this I've ever seen
Especially the ones that were really loud like “so irresponsible!”
As someone who doesn’t have adhd:
Thank you for making this ! You’re videos have helped educate me on what having adhd is like. Before seeing some of your videos I always thought of adhd as “it’s just hard to focus”. Thank you for broadening my mind :)
There's some additionnal stuff as well, for example our emotional drive tends to be twofold in terms of strenght , we tend to deal with hypersensitive rejection disphoria often, we're more prone to anxiety and depression , we *do* have moments where we can focus, but it's hyperfocus , in those moments you can get so absorbed by what you're doing that you forget to eat, drink and do anything else except what you're doing and suddenly it's 2 am and you gotta head to bed.
Physiologically speaking , people's brain secrete dopamine on the regular, the brain's way to "reward" accomplishing tasks , it helps focus, emotions, etc, with us, our brain either doesn't do it or barely does so it constantly tries to find other ways to make it , so we're also more prone to reckless driving, addictions, on the flip side there's extreme sports, etc.
Most meds that exists to help it are basically meth to some extent , but to be more precise, they transform into amphetamines in the brain
ADHD can be described as being on a Rollercoaster but the train/car is a spinning tea cup.
So what is your experience of this scenario? I can't imagine it any other way
Imagine if you are a beehive. The bees that live inside of you are what you need to do and the interior thought trains that you have. Some bees come along and are like were heading out to pollinate. Others come along and say we are going to build more nest.
With ADHD all the bees fly up to you and talk at once and start talking. Some make sense, some are very alarming and urgent and cause you anxiety. Then there are the ones buzzing on the side being funny and trying to distract you.
@@kirara2516 this is so underrated. i hate how true it is
What has worked for me so far.
Step 1. Do 1 thing
Step 2. Pat yourself on the back
Step 3. Refer to Step 1
I eventually get to a point where I can create an order of operations. And even a routine. It has taken a lot of time and effort, but it has been a process I have learned to enjoy.
I like to separate the rooms. Once i get one room or area in said room done, i count it as another step 1.
Keep working the steps because you can do it!
I've actually never used this word, because it never felt appropriate, but this was really triggering. Not a complaint or a criticism, just proof of how accurate it is - as soon as I got on the right meds for my ADHD, my anxiety got cut in half. Five years later, just watching the first minute of this almost set off a panic attack.
Trigger...good word. I became short of breath and anxious. 😂
Try smoking weed
I hate that the comment section is about how accurate this is, cuz for me this is at best a waterd down spoof of my ADHD. How I would love to just have to deal with that level of ADHD
But also yeah people never talk about how stressful it is and how effectively taking meth is still better lol
Right
Absolutely right
@@ghassenbenabdallah5899 sometimes weed can actually increase ones anxiety and it surely doesn't help with ADHD .
god this video is overwhelming me, i cannot imagine living like that. if it is actually accurate and that’s how people with adhd feels like, i have a huge respect to all of you, you guys are really strong.
Thank You. This is very accurate, even down to the schizophrenic type thing in the back of our heads. Also imagine living like that for your whole life. but it's not that bad all the time. it's either MELTDOWN, or not thinking anything.
I'm 65. Ive thought this way all my life and I didn't know it had a name. Of course Ive had hours at a time of clarity and focus, but mostly, it's like this. I just have to manage it and force focus bcz of deadlines, but sometimes I can't, then I shut down until I can regroup. Ive run my own company for 40 years, which has been moderately successful bcz im intelligent, but I do it independently so I can manage and hide the times I need to shut down. I went to graduate school in a hard science with decent grades but it was hard and i certainly didnt use my full potential. I still don't. I use to beat myself up for it, still do a bit, but it is just what I have to do to survive. I live duel life really. If anything ive learned in the last half century is that the lion's share of people can't or don't want to understand. Im okay with that now, but it is a bit lonely. I thought your post was a kind thing. Thx for that. Cheers.
Yes it is stunningly accurate.
This is what it's like.
It’s like…word for word what is going through our head when doing at the very least house tasks. It’s also why you’ll ask us to do something, and then turn your back and we’re doing something completely unrelated cause we’ve gone fully down a rabbit hole of tasks that were all somehow related to the first one, but there have been so many a lot of them have been forgotten.
A way I have learnt to tackle this issue is whenever you realise you're stuck in a loop, JUST STAND STILL!! Stand still between each task and don't move until you're clear what your next task is.
This method really helped me.
Also, LET EVERYTHING GO AND EAT FIRST.
This was a very helpful suggestion. I will try it!! Thanks 🙏🏽
Thanks for the tip
Dude! I was stuck in the loop right at the moment I read your comment and realized that I haven't eaten yet. The last part of the message, I felt so hard and now I'm going to go eat before trying to do anything more. Lol Thanks. 😊
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First time leaving a comment and it says push this to leave current time 😳 this isn’t MY current time! Push again, repeat…
Only going to say that I’ve tried stopping the loop. Only works for me about 30 minutes. Thank God I have a patient husband that has a huge sense of humor and still puts up with me after 25+ years. Finally seeing a psychiatrist this month to be tested.
I do this!
A lot of ADHD creators have tried to make this video but this is the first one that feels the most accurate. Your goal was to accomplish A SINGLE TASK and things snowballed from there. And I feel you on that moment because clean the kitchen isn’t just a single easy task. I felt this so hard I almost started crying.
The other commenters have summed things up really well. I just wanted to give you kudos for having found time to go to the library and borrow a book on calculus! Oh, and I hate washing up, too.
Exactly!
I explained to my psychiatrist that just emptying the dishwasher was overwhelming because it was like someone had written down instructions for how to empty it and then torn up the instructions into tiny bits and scattered the bits all over the place. And I had to put it all back together before I could even start emptying the dishwasher!
Medication has helped so much! I’m now able to do most tasks without overthinking.
Yeah this, my psychologist gave me some very helpful apps, not all were useful to me, but I do love sweepy. You need to spend some time on setting it up, but once you've done that you've got yourself a list of household tasks, and you don't have to think about how urgent a certain task is, or isn't, because sweepy tracks the frequency and I only have to keep track of which tasks need to be done today, and I can forget the rest, I don't need to do them yet.
This is an amazing analogy and I will be using it from now on
Holy motherfucking shit YES THATS WHAT ITS LIKE
Wow. that’s a great analogy for how it feels for me too.
Cleaning a dishwasher is a children task, there is nothing to overthink. The only problem is if you keep mess in your home, then any task immediately escalates into overwhelming levels. The environment around us affects directly the state of mind.
Just finish every task you begin, stop piling them up, put your shit together and you will ease your mind and suddenly realize that you can do anything.
Love that you acknowledged the insane amount of negative self talk that comes along with it. I’m hypercritical of myself partially bc I was the scapegoat of the family, but seeing this made me feel less alone in how my inner monologue tears me apart over the smallest things. The “of course you forgot, you’re so forgetful, you always mess up, you can’t do things correctly” voice is so exhausting to battle with.
It's exhausting to even watch somebody struggle with it 😭. I dated someone with ADHD and it was like every small wassup ughfhdisjshd by dhd
@@NamesZKPdid you have a stroke? Are you ok?
But also, you are beautiful.
I spent my whole life hating myself. I’m 40 yrs old and just got diagnosed with severe combined type adhd. My whole life makes sense now. If my mom would have taken me to the doctor instead of making fun of me or giving me shit cuz my thinking was so “wrong” maybe I wouldn’t have been a drug addict from age 11-30yrs old. Guided meditations on self esteem changed my life. ❤ once you learn how to love yourself, the whole world changes for the better.
I felt that.
Aw, it's heartbreaking to realise that this is how it must be for some people. No wonder my son struggled so much at school, with all the 'distractions' going on in his head. I'm just so grateful that I'm home schooling him now. I'll do it for as long as he wants me to. I could only watch about a minute of this video - it was so distracting, but I can totally understand why you've done it this way. I initially thought that I must have got another UA-cam video playing in another tab, but when I paused your video - I could see that the other audio / talking was coming from your video and when I paused your video - the additional sounds stopped....Very effective way to demonstrate. I'm going to show this to my son - to see if that's how it feels for him...I'll also show it to my husband x
This is so accurate. It's like having two or three people constantly talking to you. It's a task in and of itself just to keep track of what you're doing.
I have the same thing but I doubt it's adhd since it's just because other people are thinking and talking so slowly that my normal thought process is several times faster
@@jimmcneal5292 that's a symptom of adhd, your thoughts process faster so you talk faster and lack focus on others when they can't match that speed
nah man, you don't know if others are thinking slowly, but i can assure you - i am thinking way faster than i can speak a coherent sentence, i bet that's the case for many people
Yeah, normally people think three times faster than they can speak.
@@Danielathan On a good day I can think around a thousand times faster than speaking. I don't think in English.
I genuinely thought everyone felt like this… this is spot on minute to minute in my brain but I never realized this was ADHD and not just how everyone’s inner monologue and task completion went, just assumed everyone else were better at managing their shit. Thank you for sharing and producing ADHD content! It is helping us all learn and find ways to improve day to day more than any doctor I have seen
Well there are ways that people with ADHD can actually manage their stuff. Just have to work on it ❤❤
Find out what works for you and stick with it and it will help a lot
Just excuses for not taking responsibility for yourself. 🙄
@@robertstevens3522 ADHD is a well-documented neurological condition which requires specific strategies and sometimes medication to treat/combat/live with. It's not about being irresponsible; it's about having a brain which processes things differently. It's not an excuse, but an explanation for why certain tasks seem more challenging for those with ADHD.
Plenty of folks with ADHD perform very well in, say, their careers but struggle to take care of themselves. This is unfortunately not a condition that one can outgrow. It also has a lot of comorbidities such as depression, anxiety, etc.
It is very important that people who suspect they have ADHD get diagnosed so they know what they are dealing with, and not rely on internet diagnosis: that said, it's equally important not to disparage people for a health condition.
I agree, hearing from actual people who experience what you experience has been the only helpful thing in my experience! Clinical powerpoint presentations mean nothing.
Have you heard of the _Struggle Care_ podcast by KC Davis? She has put into words a lot of things that I couldn't put my finger on, or didn't realise were actually part of the deal.
As someone who was just diagnosed with ADHD last week, I truly have spent well over 20 years thinking that this was everyone’s experience. Thankful that I’m not alone in this and I can start getting treatment. Thank you for your awesome content!
just make sure you do NOT use Adderal, or Ritalin. Ritalin will rot your teeth, and more often than not leaves you with worse problems than before. Adderal is extrordinarily addictive, and is really bad for your health. It's much better to try and cope in different manual ways than with meds. I have ADHD, I was diagnosed when I was 6 years old, And I have learned to cope in many ways.
I personally find that Ritalin helps me focus. But I agree about the teeth problem, and the taste when chewing is pretty gross.
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Is this not everyone’s experience? And if not, then _how?_ What to you do when you remember that you need to complete another task to finish the task already at hand if not this???
@@KeitieKalopsia I do not have ADHD at all (my brain works the opposite way) and this is definitely not my experience. I just focus on single task and entire world around it fades away (to the point that you can sneak up on me). It's just calm and clear in my head, but also very slow and never ever can I do 2 tasks at the same time and hate "context switching" - I like to pick one single thing and dive very deep into it. But also never get bored with anything. It's pluses and minuses. It seems the world is changing in favor of ADHD as everything goes faster and faster with 20 different things happening at the same time and people get bored so fast. It is becoming more and more difficult for me to adapt to this new faster "blinking" overwhelming world.
This is terrifyingly accurate to my everyday life. It's a struggle that makes it hard for me to even want to exist another day. ADHD has consumed me for over 40 years and has destroyed my life beyond repair. I've lost countless jobs which put a strain on myself and my family and cost me two marriages. If I do go out in public and my ADHD causes me to mess something up, people act and look at me like I'm an idiot, not knowing why I messed up and its out of my control. I've gotten to the point where I avoid everyone and everything at all cost. I don't want to explain myself every time I find myself in those type of situations. I have no more fight left. I don't have the energy or the will to deal with it any longer. Life isn't fun.
I recently was diagnosed ADHD.... This is exactly how my mind feels and sounds. I thought everyone had these thoughts but we're just better at handling them or doing ALL THE THINGS. Or maybe they didn't have all the bad experiences and traumas rolling around their head? It's incredible how you captured the random, negative and overwhelming thought spirals.
Have you tried forgiving your mother?
@@Blackout0900 LOL
As someone who does not have ADHD, this was horribly stressful to watch! We all have moments when we get overwhelmed, but it appears as if, according to this video, there's an inability to keep one's thoughts organized in your head, along with a crushing anxiety. I was thinking to myself while watching this thoughts like "Well, I'd just go to store to get the bags, take the book with me and drop it off the library on the way to the store. Before leaving, I'd run the dishwasher so the dishes will be clean when I get back, and I'll organized the cabinets, put the clean dishes away, and put dirty dishes in the sink when I get back.
This is pretty constant, yes. Our prioritization function is a bit wonky, so finding your keys winds up being as important as putting the baking soda away and eating something before you pass out, and each one of those items has a million steps leading up to it.
Oh... I thought this was maybe a bit overdone, or that it represented my worse days, or perhaps I don't even have ADHD (because I'm only self-diagnosed), but then I read your comment and realised that I didn't even start thinking about how I'd organise the tasks, I was already confused and exhausted trying to follow them, although they aren't even mine and I don't need to do them. Oh well.
Yeah, but then you walk into the hallway to get your shoes and realise you only have summer shoes out and it's raining, so you need to find waterproof shoes somewhere, and then you notice the wet laundry while walking to the box with winter shoes, and wet laundry will get mildew so that needs to be dried right now, otherwise you'll forget it and it will stay where it is for 3 days before you see it again and remember it, and it will need to be washed a second time. So you can't leave yet, otherwise the laundry WILL just escape your mind. Then when the laundry is done your stomach rumbles, so you remember you wanted to eat and the kitchen loop repeats (with the exception of making the list on the whiteboard). And then you will finally find the shoes you needed and go to the store, but you will forget the dishwasher. because that's inside of the kitchen task list which is completely separated from the shopping and library task list. So when you come back you need to turn that dishwasher on, and then you can start on the dishes. Meanwhile you still haven't eaten.
And if you're lucky you won't meet another list of 10 tasks when you walk into the living room, or bedroom, or bathroom, etc etc.
This comment is just *chefs kiss*. You just described, to a 'T', what my last hour has been like. And it's like that every day, all the time.
It is incredibly stressful, the first time I took medication I was confused about being able to just do stuff, never felt calm before in my life
This hits home. My dad has ADHD and is a really smart man, but he can easily be perceived as lazy or forgetful. It's hard to understand someone with the condition without having the condition yourself, so you always have to be patient with who have ADHD. This video really helps me understand my dad a lot better.
Absolutely.
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i’m so glad you were able to learn and sympathize using this video, as an ADHD person myself it’s not often that people are understanding of what our real challenges are
OMG!!! This video nails it! AND most of us probably don't realize this is NOT going on in everyones head.
This is why I never complete anything lol
Same lol but I complete a lot I manage my 3 kids my brains so chaotic all day though
This is why my room is a mess lol
Fr tho
This is why I cannot pass exams
As good an excuse as any other
I don’t have ADHD but my mind is also like this. (I have been diagnosed with a whole bunch of other disorders). It’s a struggle I also thought everyone went through. I’m starting to realise that that’s not necessarily true, through all these ADHD videos (just found out that my baby cousin has been diagnosed).
When people say just do this ONE thing, trying to encourage you to get out of bed and out of your depressive episode, I always think that they’re crazy. It really never is just ONE thing. It builds and it builds until it seems impossible and you give up on everything because it’s all too much.
I’ve not been diagnosed as anything but I experience the video and what you described. I assume I have ADD but what do you think it is, if you don’t mind please
Sounds too much like me. I give up so much. I'll do some things here and there and be proud of myself, but really I'd love to see myself on top of things. I think I was thinking I was giving up for some other reason, but maybe it really is a brain thing from ADHD (haven't been diagnosed), trauma, depression, something. (I believe I have OCD, anyway, which causes things to be added on to my tasks and seems to make them feel unbearable). But I still think maybe I was just never taught how to organize and implement these tasks as well.
I hope you and I get better at this soon. No one is perfect, and I'm reminded that God uses our imperfections in our life to draw us to realize we need Him, and to learn to depend on Him for strength.
(if your cousin has been diagnosed you should look into it because it is genetic)
@@miss_bhello7925 I definitely think/have found it to be a mixture - neurodivergent kids tend to learn differently/need to be taught organisation etc in a specific way. So there's a) something already making it difficult (depending on the exact "disorder"...) + b) not being taught as well or efficiently how to manage that.
Keyword: executive function ;)
My thoughts work this way too, but idk if I have it or not. It's videos like this that always get me wondering though. I do have OCD issues with intrusive thoughts so maybe it's just that. I'm pretty good with organizing and being tidy so I don't feel like I have an issue with executive function. I have no idea.
My husband has ADHD and this is helpful; I’ve always wondered how the “tornadoes of thoughts” (his words) in his brain sounded like as he became more flustered!! Thank you for making this!!❤❤
I used "racing thoughts" as my words. I'm going through my 3rd divorce now. I'd rather be single than being accused of things like I ignore a lot, I'm not interested anymore, I must be thinking of someone else.... Help your husband by helping him make his life easier. He will love you even more. But, don't lose yourself in the process. Make self-care a priority as well. 🙂
Thank you so much for putting in this effort for him.
I know that ADHD is one of those things that you can't fully grasp unless you've experienced it, but it warms my heart to see someone who cares enough about their partner to work towards understanding it.
People like you remind me that there is good in the world.
I can't imagine what it's like without ADHD.
It’s like trying to drink out of two thought fire hydrants at one time and the water is drowning you yet you can’t swallow one mouthful of thought to process it. Or like the dog trying to bit me the water coming out of a water hose, just like that.
@@SPANIMATIONS4114 I think I had ADHD pre-TBI, but I mainly had the hyperfocus. I could do just about anything I was interested in really well and better than most people. Now it is mostly attention deficit and getting hyper focused on everything except what I am trying to do. I sort of know what I’m missing. I wish I had always been like this. I think it would be easier to accept.
One of the best representations of what it feels like to have ADHD I've seen. Thank you for sharing.
I'm in my 20's and just this year got diagnosed ADHD. And honestly, I had no idea "normal" people didn't think this way. This is exactly what my brain sounds like (along with a song or 2 and some white noise coming from my ears), and growing up, I just assumed everyone's brains worked like this. It probably didn't help that my mom is also like this (she's never been diagnosed, but I guarantee she has it too), so she never questioned the way I thought either.
same
Oh my goodness, I always thought this was normal too. This is exactly what my brain is like. And I’ve often marveled at how people have immaculately clean houses. Probably because their brains don’t do this and aren’t left with a dozen half-done projects around the house. I’ve often wondered if I had add or adhd…this just makes me wonder more. 🤔
Yes! Lots and lots of music and singing going on in my head all the time too! 🎵🎵🎵 I must admit, sometimes it’s beyond frustrating being me, sometimes it’s super fun. I’m thankful I do mostly have fun. 🦋
Well, I've never been diagnosed, but people have suspected I've had it. This further proves it, this is ME.
Omg haha the song or 2 is such a big mood. I think I always have one playing on repeat
This is literally perfect. I know how this feels. It’s like playing one of those old point-and-click adventure games: in order to solve the puzzle you really want to solve, you need to get a specific item, but in order to get that item, you need to solve like two other puzzles.
Adhd is a metroidvania where the final zone/boss you have to unlock is the main task that you’re supposed to be doing RIGHT NOW (don’t forget to eat) is locked behind everything that’s getting in the way
Oh my god is this why I love point and click games so much??
Man, I loved those games so much. Perils of Rosella, Space Quest games, Martian Memorandum, etc.