'My GF Overheard My Family Talk About Her..' -- Reddit Story
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Dude she really poured herself into that family. Getting brother a job. Babysitting for free whenever they needed her. And she can’t even apologize for how shitty she acted towards her? Poor Sammy. She is a saint and I understand if she doesn’t want to see his family again. I hope she gets the family she deserves and I hope OP finds peace with all of this
Unfortunately this is what tends to happen when you are super giving. Like some people really think just because you are kind to them that they just automatically deserve your kindness no matter how they treat you.
@@jecayladeskin6786 yes !! as unfortunate as it is....this is absolutely true.
but thats so mean id love a friend or gf like that my family would adore her no matter what
I really like this Guy, he's a keeper. He's treating his partner great, and holding his family accountable.
What do want an apology for? Even if they apologize it doesn't change how they feel. They are just sorry they got caught talking about her and now they can use here like they have been with her babysitting, washing dishes, getting brother a job, buying gifts, and taking them out all the time. She is to good for your family and I hope she sees this and finds a family that will love her. Good job standing by your girl!
Morgan practically telling Justin where to look for a ring (when or if he does)
Justin : mhmm … yea….
Haha mines already sorted. I genuinely just think it’s cool
I would honestly feel so insecure every time I was arround his family. Like it would always be in the back of my mind. Once trust is gone it's gone, at least for me
If they’re not willing to apologize to her they’re not actually sorry, just embarrassed 🥰
Where is he NOW?! We have to KNOW!!!!!!!
I am in disbelief. Why are people so cruel. We can see what matters to that sh*tty family & it's obviously NOT for their son to be happy.
Even if the family apologized, Sammy will never be comfortable around any of them ever again. Mostly because not a single one of them actually feels bad and she knows it. And the fact that the one sister is just doubling down proves it.
Yeah absolutely not.
Honestly the dad is the only one I believe I feel like he's just the type of person to go along with what everyone says and only agreed with his family out of habit. he seemed genuinely interested in apologizing the right way
The only reason they are apologizing is because OP was more than ready to cut them off his life and they were scared(example: thanksgiving the mom never expected him not to come)
Also Sammy wouldn't know if they were actually happy to have her around. She would always feel like a burden to him and his family afterwards.
It's how I learned a hard I dislike you is better than pretending to be your friend and it coming out later that you were never wanted there. And now you can't trust when people say they care about you
... OP literally tells everyone in his post that his family INVITED her to all of these events. And they treat her like this. She loved them and thought that they loved her, too. This is gross, bullying behavior and I wouldn't forgive them or trust them after this. Edit: I'm extremely glad that the mother and father apologized, but all three of the siblings are being extremely selfish and rude. They clearly don't think anything was wrong with their behavior. Hopefully they change.
I for one would NEVER talk to my family again!! The poor thing spent hours on their handmade birthday gifts like r u freaking kidding me?!! She’s an absolute GEM 💎!! I wouldn’t care how sorry any of them were. I know that’s harsh but who the hell cares… they’re mean ppl. Straight up evil. And making fun of her physical appearance?!! 🤬😡 I was always taught if it’s not something someone can change in 5 seconds you DONT talk about it!!
I wouldn’t want them in my life anymore. Just the fact they got caught is the ONLY REASON they wanna say sorry
The mom said to pass on apology if I'm correct that's not an apology
@@juliapayne4511 She apologized in person, too, afterwards. For the record, I don't believe it was genuine. She's just horrified about being called out for being awful. None of them deserve forgiveness and, if I were OP, I'd go very low contact, or no contact with the sister that keeps doubling down.
Unfortunately my inlaw family can be like this where they will complain to my husband about a slew of random things I have done expecting him to scold me and put me in my place. He tells me about it and takes my side but he does complain its a lot of stress on him to deal with their moaning the whole time. We are looking to move far enough away from them that its inconvenient for them to visit us the whole time and critisize us. Complaints include
1. "oh she didnt say hello to us when she came over" when I did but they kept talking over and ignoring me nor do they ever say hello to me btw. Now I speak really loudly and repeat myself till they respond to me.
2. "You arnt cutting your daughters food small enough and she should be using a fork/spoon." My daughter is 1 1/2 if I cut her food she stuffs all the peices in her mouth and chokes I know this from experience and have explained that leaving food whole forces her to slow down and bit off pieces. Plus shes not even 2 yet she should be using her fingers to eat sometimes she does ask for a spoon sometimes so she knows how to use one.
3. Comments that my husbands car and our house are not clean enough to their standards and when are we going to stop being lazy and get around to cleaning. My husband works long hours and still needs to drive an hour to work and back and I am 7 months pregnant and have an energetic toddler to deal with so frankly we cant be bothered with a few toys on the floor. We would clean before they come but they will just rock up with no warning.
Sammy is an AMAZING person. I see why he would choose her over anyone. She seems like an absolute angel. I hate this happened to her and her partner 🥺that said, the twin sister is the one causing issues. Not SAMMY!!
What makes you think Sammy is amazing? I think she's emotionally manipulative and quite possibly a covert narcissist. Can you imagine never speaking your own mother again because she called your partner fat and annoying, especially when your partner is fat and annoying?
@@mewho6199 wdf ? What makes u think she is annoying? Did u know her ? Gosh u must be so annoying
@@mewho6199 What makes you think Sammy's annoying? Sammy is fat, but that doesn't make it ok for someone to say that they can't believe her partner likes her body and that her partner can do better. That's so messed up. If someone spoke about my partner like that I wouldn't give them the time of day unless they apologized either.
There's nothing in this story to suggest that OP was manipulated by Sammy or that she is a narcissist. She didn't ask him to cut off his family or anything like that
@@mewho6199 we know this is you, twin sister. Sammy seems like an angel. Act your age and quit acting like a teenager.
@@mewho6199Grow up. This reads like you are 13 years old.
It took him not going to thanksgiving for them to realize he will choose her over them. I would never go to their home again. They’re only apologizing because they got caught.
Totally agree. The mum was only crying because her son wasnt comming to thanksgiving and she had caused a rift with him. She couldnt care less that she had genuinly hurt Sammys feelings and ruined the relationship she had with Sammy.
Yupppp they totally expected their son to agree with them and dump her, and just got into deeper shit when he didn’t do that
The fact that they’re even willing to talk about the girlfriend while their own son/brother is in the house says a lot
You’re so right! I never even thought of tht!
I thought so as well. These are not good people, you can really tell by how comfortable they are speaking that way in his home
Right he would have heard them when he came back from the bathroom
Yeah- why did they feel comfortable trashing her in front of him?
I mean everyone is entitled to their own opinions, even if they’re negative, it would be dishonest not to tell him, he’s family and that demands honesty. If they feel that way it’s natural to want to know if others whom you can trust not to share what you said, think the same way as you!
The dads not a saint. He’s an enabler and he’s peacekeeping, that is all. He’s just as complicit as the rest. This is toxic family behavior passed down to the kids.
THANK YOU. My estranged mother behaved the same way, and the best decision I ever made in my life was cut myself free from that Zeplin of a family. All hot air, no substance.
Thank you for saying this
Absolutely!! Imagine if he held his wife and kids accountable? They wouldn't turn out this way. That's why the siblings don't care despite having every reason to. Smh
Very true
Hes complicit but not as complicit
This guy is literally the golden retriever of humans. So happy that he stuck for her and didn’t waver because of this being a rift between his family members. She found a good one!
Except he's not loyal to his family, which is a problem.
@@mewho6199 He is loyal to his family. Family are the ones who love you and love the other people who love you. Family is love, not blood. Period.
@@mewho6199 sometimes family’s way to toxic to have a good relationship with them and sometimes it has nothing to do with that person
In this positon screw his family. If they don’t know how to be respectful and realize what’s their business and when they should keep stuff to myself.
I don’t communicate with my family because my mom is literally the evil queen in Snow White is surrounded by yes men and manipulated everyone and everything
Family’s wrapped around her finger. The only thing I did wrong was struggle with undiagnosed autism she never took me to get tested for so I struggled in nearly every sense of the word.
Blood does not mean loyalty respect and love means loyalty and if your blood cant respect the person you love then screw them why would I want that around me and the person who makes me happy. The one I want a future with.
Loyalty only goes so far when it’s literally only because you are related. he chose to let this person in his life and clearly wants to keep them there if they don’t like it screw their toxic ass
@@mewho6199 i’d also like to add is always a way to approach a conversation and when somebody’s literally using words you talk shit they clearly didn’t approach it the right way and they can either apologize and correct themselves or give them the space a grown adult deserves
If they had an issue with her they should’ve had her they are on had the conversation with her or have the conversation another day when she’s not there are planning to come over
@@mewho6199 not all family is worth being loyal to. If he were to marry her and it sounds like he will then she will be above his biological family and will become his main family.
I found out, after 12 years, that my in-laws said some of the worst things about me. And like Sammie, I was always there, supportive, and helpful whenever they needed. In fact, at times my husband even fed into their self propagating bullshit. When I read the messages I believe I was split into pieces right then. It makes you feel crazy. Like your entire reality was a lie, and stupid to think that you were completely clueless about it. Not unlike catching your spouse cheating. The devastation is indescribable
Ugh. 12 years?! So so sorry you went through that
That's awful, I am so, so sorry 😩 sending love and strength your way
What happened after?
It basically being gaslight in my opinion
I am so sorry they did that to you, they are not good people
I realized only after 5 yrs of marriage that my whole reality was all a lie and they all revealed their true colors only after i had my first child. I was initially angry at myself for being so trusting and guillable but I later realized that this shouldn't change my trusting nature just because its them who are in the wrong. So sorry you had to go through that as well!! Atleast now I'm able to clearly see whenever I'm being gaslighted and I call them out instantly!
Wow that twin sister is really something huh? Using Sammy as free childcare and than badmouthing her behind her back? What a child… before OP said it was her that had babies I was sure she the twins were teenagers 😵💫
I wouldn't watch them kids AT ALL anymore....apology or not 😂
She’s def jealous, she’s a single mom and Sammy is a positive person in a loving relationship who’s great with kids. She’s probably bitter
Yeah OP’s family is absolute TRASH.
No, I looked at the post and the twins were in their 30’s. Plus that Reddit post was 8 years old
It seems like the siblings are jealous of her. She does all this stuff for them and seems to be a caring person. They must feel like they can't match her energy but no one is asking them to. They are bullies and their parents should have shut it down. I would NEVER baby sit for them again.
Same thought
That’s why they don’t have anything more specific to say about her than “she’s annoying.” She’s probably cheerful and eager to please them. Then they find the go-to “she’s fat” criticism because they enjoy the feeling of looking down on her.
That's not jealousy. That's suspicion. I would be suspicious too.
@@mnbbgg Cheerful and eager to please is annoying. It can come across as insincere and desperate. Sammy, by all accounts, seems desperate.
@@mewho6199 LMAO you comment everywhere on here, so it tells me you have big feelings. OP's sister, is that you?? 😂👋🏻 You're hilarious.
This is what it’s like to be a fat person. You don’t have to do anything but you’ll be labeled as annoying for being yourself. People have this hatred for fat people that is deeply ingrained into our culture.
SPOT ON. This is so horrifyingly sad to me. She’s done nothing but be amazing towards this family and I have no doubts that she’s never done anything truly annoying and they just have such deep seeded fatphobia. They look down on her, she’s not “good enough” because of her weight. I mean seriously they labeled her a downgrade for nothing to do with her actual personality.
It’s not just fat people, don’t get me wrong, I was on the heavier side as a kid and didn’t get invited and got called annoying, but since then I have become like somewhere in the middle, and I still get treated like this by my boyfriends mom and sister… it kills…
Yup 🙃
@@amandaleighplans my guess is that this whole family has never struggled with their weight. No one knows how it feels unless they have had to put a smile on when they know someone is looking at them with disgust because of their weight. I have friends that have told me their lives will never be the same because they remember how they felt before they lost weight.
@@briannabrown7031 I have never agreed more with a comment in my life. But I've gotten it from my mom, aunts, and particularly one sister. I've suspected she's embarrassed or something of me for a while. Mostly because she'll never take pics of me or show me to anyone unless she absolutely has to and I'm just on the heavier side as well compared to my other sisters...
I love that OP stand up for his girlfriend. I don’t know what I would do if I was in Sammy shoes. Family is very important to me. I don’t think I can be with someone if their family dislike me.
Agreed, it would be so hard to marry someone whose family doesn’t like you - and how do you even get past this. I feel so bad for Sammy and the son. My parents love my gf, and vise versa. Although Sammy probably thought they loved her too! But my gf has had her mom on speakerphone when her mom had no idea I was home and she talks about me so positively and sweetly. It makes me happy. And I’m pretty sure my parents like my gf more than they like me 😂 that just makes me feel so grateful because it wasn’t always that way in my past relationships… my parents somehow knew when they didn’t like my past partners lol
The fact that the mother thought they were coming to Thanksgiving, even when he said they wouldn't be, just proves she thought she'd get a pass. You have to hold people accountable, or they'll just do it again in the future.
The fact that such a good guy came from such a toxic family is the miracle here
Right he could’ve easily been a toxic dude
How are they toxic? They thinks she's fat and annoying. She is fat. She seems, based on the evidence, quite annoying. Then they refused to lie and say they were sorry for telling the truth. They sound like honest people.
I would be annoyed by a woman trying to forcefully insert herself into my family. You have to earn that and not through bribery.
@@mewho6199 10 months ago so I don't remember what this is about but you are either a troll or need therapy. Bye now.
@@mewho6199 but they invited her to these events and asked her for favors like watching the kids or helping bro get a job amongst other things. They used her and refused to talk to her honestly to her or her bf’s face cause most likely they are toxic, it is bs and they know it. It also seems like they took no interest in actually trying cause they didn’t even have a clue about her past 🙄
@@mewho6199 Hi younger sister use your real id 😂
The apologies seem forced and come from a place of embarrassment rather than remorse. It’s gross. Sammy is a better person than I am. I could never trust any of them again. She deserves happiness with her fiancé though, even if it’s not ever going to be the same with his family.
Ya they were just sorry they got caught
Notice the only one willing to apologize in person was the only one who didn’t actually say anything specifically rude?
Honestly, it sounds like the dad fell in love with a horrible person and let her raise his kids the same way😔
@@Buncano I agree
Wasn't it the dad who said she was just a rebound and that's why he's dating down?
@@kitsulu8576 no, that was the sister I think... more like the sister is trying to rebound from that break up 🙄😆
@@kitsulu8576 it was the sister
Sammy sounds like an absolute angel! To risk her professional career to get their son employed!?! and they still talk shit about her..... unbelievable. I'm glad OP is as supportive as he is, but man that's gotta sting. Poor Sammy!
No, she does not.
@@mewho6199we know it’s you, younger sister. Cry harder little girl.
I hope to marry a man like this someday. MEN TAKE NOTES.
I don't. I would never marry a man who stops hanging with his parents and siblings because they called me fat and annoying. I'd be like, "Yeah, I'm fat. How can I be less annoying? Your suggestions probably won't help, but I'd love to hear them." I certainly wouldn't cry about it for days or at all. That crying was clearly for OP's benefit: it's called emotional manipulation.
@@mewho6199 Are you kidding me? She goes out of her way to do all sorts of nice things and then gets insulted like that? All she wants is to be accepted by her boyfriend's family and they won't give her that. The emotional manipulation is from the family, not from her!
@@mewho6199 no. Emotional and verbal abuse isn’t okay. I would never let my family disrespect my boyfriend like that.
I was with a man who let his mom walk ALL OVER ME and treat me like crap for 7 years and by the time he ever stuck up for me it was too late. I still have a fear of getting close to any of my partners mothers or letting them in to get to know me in fear of being abused again.
Update ;
I finally found my person 🤍
@@sarahludwig7436 oh my god!!! Congrats girl 👏 👏
This man is GOLDEN. I let my husband listen to this and he said the man made the right decision. My husband said he would handle it the exact same way. We need an update after the wedding
I had to choose my wife and daughter over my toxic parents & haven’t spoke to them in years.
My wife was as nice as anyone could be to them, my mother in particular, yet she told me I had to choose and I did.
How did they react when you chose her?
Were your parents "toxic" before, or did you only start to see them as such through the eyes of your gf/wife? If the latter, you may have been hoodwinked by a narcissistic or abusive partner. They love to isolate and cut you off from people who love you but see them for what they are.
@@mewho6199 What the hell is wrong with you like honestly what is wrong with you
Y’all I’m crying. He’s so cute and it’s hard to believe he was raised in that family!
This one hit close to home as someone who recently had her marriage “unblessed” by her MIL this weekend before my wedding.. I’ve never been good enough for her, (comments about my weight and health conditions, looks etc.) I hope that some day we can work things out because I hate the tension and don’t want a toxic relationship but I have nothing to prove to her. She’s had the same comments about me for 5 years (ex. why marry someone with a chronic illness, they’ll just be a burden to you down the road.) and the hurt is going to take time to heal.
Wowww!!! That’s absolutely horrible!! She sounds like a nightmare and like someone you don’t even need in your lives… I’m getting married in June and there was so much family drama at my engagement party I’m just waiting for the shit storm to happen at or before my wedding. I’m kind of dreading it actually. I totally sympathize!! I really hope your fiancé/ husband sticks up for you because it speaks volumes if he doesn’t! 💜💜💜
My MIL never approved of me. In fact, she hated me before she even met me because my now husband wanted to spend some holidays with me and my family instead of them (he was living with his dad at the time so I only met his dad and step mom). She felt as if I was taking her son away from her. She was always a little snotty when it came to talking to me or about me. No one agreed with her and her comments, and I was surprisingly welcomed from his whole family. Even being two years married, she still gives me nasty looks when we share a recliner chair... it sucks, I wish she would've liked me or even gotten to know me, but it is what it is. I'm happy with my husband and that's all I need. That's all you'll need too. I hope you have a wonderful wedding filled with love. You will heal, even if slowly ❤
@@saraa4203 What is it with mothers feeling like their son's partners are taking their sons away from them?!? Like he's a grown man with his own thoughts and feelings! Hope things with your MIL get better!
You are not your illness. Sending you positive vibes and love 💖💖💖
@@chelseamcfarland6170 I’m thankful because he has always put her in her place when she brings me up. She’s very ableist and he’s called her out for it several times. He’s considered cutting her off a few times, but somehow she’ll calm down for a bit and we end up here again. I hate to see him in a rocky relationship with his mother so there’s a part of me that wants them to make up, but it’s going to be a long time before I can ever “accept her” as my MIL. We had a courthouse wedding this last week (because of covid ruining our plans) which she didn’t attend so luckily no drama there. She lives out of state so there was no way for her to come rain on our parade, lol.
"How dare she come to events that we invite her to! Ugh. So AnNoYiNg!" OPs family sounds like a cluster of twats to be honest
Edit: I'm so glad it ended better than I was expecting! Always love a good engagement ending
Sammy has an amazing partner. He showed her that she’s his biggest priority & that she comes before his family & won’t ever allow anyone to disrespect her. when they get married i know he’ll always protect her. Wishing them the best 🤍
She got the brother a job at her company… that’s a really nice thing to do… hope the brother feels like shit forever.
This couple seems so lovely. I’m so sad for her but glad Sammy had him on her side the whole time. Sammy was never unreasonable in her requests and even didn’t want him to cut them off. I’m a big Sammy and her Fiancé fan.
Literally started crying when she said the girlfriend doesn’t have a family of her own. That family is cruel.
Edit after watching the entire thing: I am glad the parents apologized BUT I would never fully trust them again. I would keep them around and talking to them somewhat but if I was in this situation, I’d definitely be keeping them at arms length for the rest of my life.
100%
What? Why?! Why should he lose his family for that, such nonesense!
Not to mantion they didnt even Say anything that bad..
They Say shes annoying thats It .. Grow up ...
@@megafone11 because at that point, if they’re willing to talk about your girlfriend like that when your not around. Imagine what they would say about her if she were his wife. It’s not like the girlfriend made him choose either, he did that willingly. They didn’t just call her annoying either, they said she was fat and that she was a step down from him, if your family talked that way to your SO would you honestly treat your family the same. Or if you had a child Would you talk that way about your child’s girlfriend or boyfriend
@@megafone11 adding to what was said
It's about trust as well
@@megafone11 family isn’t everything. The fact that they had no respect for him or his gf is wild. Blood don’t mean shit. Coming from a family of assholes I always thought it was dumb that just cuz I shared DNA with these people, I have to take their shitty treatment and keep contact
I hope him and Sammy grow old and happy together. She seems like an amazing girl.
He is not going to be happy with Sammy. Sammy thinks she can force how others feel about her. That's not healthy.
@@mewho6199 Do you fucking know Sammy like how she hurt you personally
The dad is not innocent in this. He enabled the behaviour and enablers are just as culpable!
I have been in Sammie’s shoes and it’s the worst feeling. I found text messages where his sisters and mom are calling me names and giving him reasons to leave me. Still haven’t gotten an apology from my bf’s family, things will never be the same! But as long as we have each other, we don’t need anyone else. I give props to Sammie for forgiving them and OP for sticking up for her!
as a fat woman, this hits my fears so dead on it’s ridiculous. this would break me. she’s a bigger person than me (no pun intended - see y’all, we can joke abt our fatness. you don’t have to do it for us) for forgiving them. i would publicly forgive but never forget. this one really breaks my heart. i’m glad they’re still finding their happiness together
Just the fact that the youngest sister is a single mom lowkey makes sense assuming she’s the same type of person in all the relationships she’s had. AKA Toxic
Big yikes that you think being a single mom is a toxic thing.
It said the twin sister had kids not yhe youngest the youngest apologized fist but by text, then the brother and the brothers twin sisters still hadn't and was pissed she lost her free babysitter in Sammy
@@nessapie8407 so the twin 🙃
@@jayliketheletter4941 well youer assuming alot you should at lest have the fact straight 🙄
@@nessapie8407 meh I’m sure you’ll live
i was crying for sammy, that is so heart breaking
Me too😞
This made me so teary! I can’t imagine how terrible that made her feel, knowing the family she grew to love didn’t feel the same. But her boyfriend is a keeper. That is exactly what a life partnership should be like, and I love that he had the sense to distinguish right from wrong and have her back, despite the fact it would damage his relationship with his family. If they continue their relationship like that, I think they’ll have a very happy, supportive marriage.
they’ll talk behind her back but can’t apologize to her in person that’s so low
The fact that the sister is more concerned about not having a free babysitter…
Narcissistic behaviour
Omg Sammy is obviously a gracious woman with a big heart I could’ve never handled that the way she did and still wanted him to have a relationship with the asshole fam
That is such a betrayal, it’s amazing he is supporting her, but she will never forget this, it is going to have devastating consequences for her. Your family should be ashamed. Sammy is amazing, despite the fact they have hurt her, she still wants you to have a relationship with them, she’s the adult in this situation. Xx
Nah she more than that she queen 👸 she just dropped her crown same as her fiance he the king 🤴
The family is only embarrassed because they got caught talking about her like that. Probably isn’t the first time and really won’t be the last. He needs to get rid of the family even though it will be hard. They won’t change.
Exactly. “They feel really bad and are so embarrassed” no? They don’t feel bad at all, they just feel awkward they got caught. They probably takes about her like that all the time
The OP is such an amazing boyfriend. He handled the whole situation amazingly and I am truly proud of him. He put everyone in their place. I cried a little after the proposal. What a great story. What a great guy.
Sammy is a keeper. So is he.
The “oh fuck” when you saw she saw the text with the engagement stone 😂
I was stunned 🙈
I really can’t see myself ever forgiving them tbh every apology would seem shallow at that point because the apologies should’ve been ASAP not after thanksgiving when it hit them that he wasn’t coming around
Exactly!! They only feel sorry they were caught. And when they realized he wasn’t going to brush it off and chose his girlfriends side then they wanted to “fix”things.
Sammy sounds like a sweetheart. Even if the family was sincere in their apologies, this is something that will always hurt a little.
Exactly cause u know they meant it in the moment or they wouldn't have said anything. They're just sorry they were caught
I've gotta say Sammy is a far better person than I could ever be. I'm fat and have been all my life. I have family members that treated me shitty when I was a kid because of my weight and honestly I have avoided them in adulthood. If I was dating someone who's extended family made me believe they loved and accepted me only to catch them talking shit about me behind my back--not because I was bitchy, or too loud when I drank too much, or because I was selfish or gossipy BUT BECAUSE I WAS OVERWEIGHT???? Yeah, I'd have to seriously consider if I wanted to marry OP and tie myself (and our future children) to his horrible family for the rest of my life.
Seems to me that they’re jealous of her kind and generous heart.. she seems like such a sweetheart going above and beyond for his family, just for them to talk badly about her saying things that they can’t even justify. Plus, they don’t feel guilt. They’re just embarrassed that they got caught. That poor woman. I wish I could hug her.
I want to know Sammy personally. She sounds like the person I would want in my life and my family would love to take her in 💕 she’s an Angel !
I wish they would do a current update too 😩 I am so invested!
Me too I’ve tried searching it up on Reddit but it doesn’t come up 😭
I feel so bad for Sammy! How shitty. But I’m glad he’s in her corner. He knows it was wrong and he really loves her.
The other sister is so embarrassed she has chosen to overlook her own familys morals!! Really disgusting.
They don’t feel bad they said it they feel bad they got caught
I'm not sure what to really say here. This is the petty shit you see in highschool. Talking shit about people behind your back, while smiling in there face. I hope you two can work through this, since it seems like you genuinely love her. Definitely limited or no contact for a while until they can apologize, and shows through their actions that they will be better. The only person who seems redeemable here is the dad. ( before I didn't heard the update )
This is how it is at my work it sucks
It’s v common among adults too
I’m most ticked at the brother tbh she got him a job and then he only apologizes to save his own hide. Loser.
You know this guy is too kind when he thinks about the bad time his sister would have if she spent Christmas alone. An empathic skill that good sister obviously can practice herself.
Damn... so short: OP's Girlfriend is a literal ANGEL and this family still thinks this is not enough because they see her as fat and annoying ... how unthankful and disgusting can a family be?!?!
I'm glad that OP sees the good in his GF so at least not everyone is toxic and at least she can still trust OP ...
This family is garbage... and the fact that she still handed the present and didn't throw them away made my heart break... this Girl is so cute and I hope one day the family might see her in the same way OP sees her: as the pretty, talented, wonderful woman that she is 🥺♥️
Edit: I'm also glad OP isn't one of those men who put their mom's/dad's/sisters etc over his partner and I'm glad he didn't play it down like "they didn't mean it that way... don't overreact... blablabla" but who's able to see the bad things his family did! His Girlfriend really has his back and that's amazing!
Edit 2: The dad is the only person who seems truly sorry because already at the table he said they shouldn't talk like that about her and he apologized in person for his behavior... if I was in that situation he might be the only person I would trust again and he would be the only person who's apologies I'd take seriously
I understand people make mistakes and vent. However, the lack of apology and apathy is what gets me.
I feel like those are things she heard growing up and it brought back terrible memories for her. She seems like such a nice woman and they're jealous for what he's found.
Sounds like my husbands family! We decided to cut them out, and we’ve never been happier! We don’t need people in our lives who don’t think our marriage will last 🤷🏻♀️
If "they can pass" on giving her an apology, they don't feel bad. For her...I don't know. If I was her, I'd have to leave. It's just not worth feeling like that for forever.
sorry to break it to you but they've more then likely talked crap about her before it's just this time they got caught so they're trying to act like they're sorry. they will continue to do this and sammy is never gonna be comfortable around them again.
I kinda feel for Sammie here! While things with my in laws are better now and we’ve moved on, I won’t forget what they said about me to my now husband when we were first dating and weeks before our wedding. It really makes me feel like I can’t be completely open with them or be myself. It’s always awkward, has been for the 15 years I’ve been around them 🤷🏼♀️
Completely agree and understand. 14 years in and we are cordial but it never goes away
Sammy seems like a fricking angel. OP seems like a keeper too and I hope they’re very happy together.
I want Sammy to be my best friend. She’s amazing and her bf also seems like a good guy
We don’t deserve people like his fiancé 😭 He seriously found an amazing woman
If I were Sammy, having hindsight in a similar situation, I’d run. When family doesn’t like your spouse, over time it works on you and small arguments will be blown up by the family. Hard to explain but you marry the family.
I think the fact that OP could objectively see how toxic they were/are helps. You're right, you marry the family but if he did cut them out, it's a family of one. Personally, I'm one for second chances if you're genuine but that's it cuz 'fool me twice'.
This was my initial thought too. I think I might just have to never see his family but still encourage him to see them because they’re his family. I would just separate myself from them :/
Even if they did apologize, she’ll never forget this it’ll ALWAYS be in the back of her head “they hate me “
Absolutely. Any compliment they gave her would seem fake, it really broke trust
Sounds like the sister is mad she’s single and unhappy
That mom just wanted him at the damn thanksgiving dinner. She’s not worth crap.
Those kind of words from your partners family is the kind of wound that never fully heals.... You can forgive and try to move on but that trust is gone forever
All those insecurities projected. I think the dad was the only one who didn’t say anything, but I can see how he would need to apologize for not defending her and allowing his family to be so mean. I think the sister with kids doubled down because she is jealous her brother is a better partner than the father of her kids. It sounds like they’re divorced.
I'm so sensitive, I would be heartbroken if I was Sammy. Even if they sincerely apologized it would always be in the back of my mind that, that's how they felt about me. I would be respectful but ALWAYS on guard!
Their apologies are hollow. Especially the siblings.
@@babytooty04I feel like the dad MIGHT be somewhat sincere
I can only imagine how awful the twin sister’s kids must be with that gold example of a mom
U can apologise all u want, but things are never going to be the same again. I would be so embarrassed ever facing that girl again!
Older sister seems like the instigator
Of course the sisters mad, cuz she has to watch her kids more now 😒 and the brother, he better stay scared. That family is all kinds of messed up 😒
Family is always the first to cross the line and take advantage or be toxic. I’m glad he didn’t cave to the whole “blood is thicker than water” crap. Chosen family is where it’s at.
Blood is thicker than water is only the partial saying. It's actually "blood of the covenant is thicker than water of the womb" which essentially means exactly what you said-- chosen family, the family you build is more important than the one you're born into. It's so odd how it's been flipped on its head to colloquially mean the exact opposite.
I understand Sammy. I grew up with barely any family connections so the relationship I have with my in laws are extremely important to me. I can only imagine how that makes her feel. She would probably feel lonely and without family again. That’s the most unfair feeling a person could ever experience.
I love how much you can tell he loves her 🥺 but honestly mother’s in law and sister’s in law are always the worst!
Stories like this are always a nice reminder of how wonderful my mother in law is. I have been blessed with a sane, kind, and welcoming mother in law.
My MIL is the worst, but my SIL is my favorite human
Sounds like the sister is a jealous hater(along with the rest of the family) "Her kids will be with their dad" ..... clearly her relationship didn't work out and she's jealous of Sammy, whom she clearly deems to be "annoying" and "fat" and therefore undeserving of a successful career and loving relationship, both things that she obviously must not have. He sounds like he knows that doesn't matter what your family thinks, bc it's his life, not theirs. He's one living it, and if they don't like that? F them. And Sammy sounds pretty amazing for not letting him drop his family. Good luck to them both.
The nerve that Family has to talk about how annoying she is and that she’s fat after she did so much to try and be a part of their family and trying to help them out and not be you know what are those normal girlfriends that just says hi and bye. That’s so fucking sad man OP needs to put his family in check for that like that’s not cool and you need test seriously talk to your whole family and rip a new one to them for how fucking rude they were I need to tell them that they need to apologize each and everyone of them a different apology they all owe her one.
This story broke my heart at first, as someone who hasn't had a big family and really wants one later in life, I really felt for Sammy, but the updates and the ending are so cute
It's the fat thing.
As an obese lady, people will treat you that way just because they feel offended by your appearance, especially as a female.
WHY are ppl so fake? Why use her for gifts and babysitting, etc. when you don't like her. FOR NO DISCERNIBLE REASON. unbelievable
"the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb" js
It’s jealousy.. they see how she’s such a good person and they feel shame/insecure within themselves and reflects it on other people.. I’ve been in Sammy’s position and have had to go to therapy 👏🏻 Don’t let people disrespect your relationship especially not family! You can never see the family the same even if they feel sorry and it definitely weighs heavy on relationships….
Sounds like sister with the kids is divorced ... wonder why? She seems so lovely.
💀 right
I genuinely think the Dad wants to mend the relationship and is the only one who is truly sorry. I think he likes Sammy but agrees that his son can do better. I think every parent on some level thinks their child can do better but love and accept the partner their child chooses. The mom and siblings are the problem and are only sorry they got caught
I wouldnt be supprised if the dad finds her more than adequate in most regards but not the one that matters most to "him" which is physical attraction and she is not what he would choose. (She helps out the family, treats their son well, makes him happy, she gives her time to the family and gifts, is in a significant position in her job to have family/the brother employed (OP didnt get his brother a job where ever he works)she is well educated Etc. Etc. Etc.
(OP finds her attractive - but i think the father is hung up on her looks that arent what he thinks she should look like so thats y he thinks she "isnt good enough" unfortunately 😥)
This is an amazing man. Sticking by the love of his life's side through the hardest of times and chose to stick by her and defend her! The amazing ending of them getting engaged!
If I were Sammy and I went to a family event with his family , every time I leave the table I'd be wondering what they saying about me behind my back. That family is something else , wow !! Shout out to Sammy's now fiance for standing up for her , he is definitely a keeper 👏🏼👼🏼
They’re not embarrassed about what they said. They’re embarrassed and sorry they got caught. Weak.
This made me cry. People are so mean 😪
My husband is literally a spaghetti noodle compared to me (also on top of already being big I’ve given birth to 2 children) his parents have always been welcoming towards me & have NEVER treated me differently but if I ever heard them saying something like this, he wouldn’t have to stick up for me because they would all hear what I had to say. They don’t pay my bills or babysit or anything. I owe them literally nothing. But I won’t ever be disrespected to that level EVER.