Right. I feel sorry for anyone struggling with fertility. Even that woman, I would be devastated in her situation. However, she probably could’ve had a healthy relationship with these children had she acted right. Her entitlement is uncalled for. The levels she would go to knows no limits. Her desperation and entitlement could easily danger those children and their mother.
@@FukaiKokoro this isn't demonizing all infertile people, it's bringing light to the ones who go to desperate and awful measure to get a baby. it isn't the norm but it absolutely does happen.
She's so scary. The stress she must of had (the mother). Honestly, if you are barren you can adopt or be a foster family, there are plenty of opportunities but that is too much She went to that mother school and got crazy!!! She just ruined herself for any "parent" type relationship. Hopefully, the kids are ok!!
It’s refreshing to hear the family reprimand their own son for treating his wife badly than to make excuses for him. It’s wonderful of them to back up the daughter-in-law because I rarely see that happen in the case of their son vs. their DIL
My future in laws are generally like this. If he’s being difficult they’re usually like be nice or yea she’s right. We’ve been together since we were teenagers and they’ve always been good to me.
It's amazing how we treat baby trapping like a joke, but rape is treated as worse than murder. Which is more imtimate, having sex with someone, or having a child with them? EDIT: Rape is having sex with someone non-consentually, just like baby trapping is having a child with someone non-consentually. Stop virtue signalling in the replies. You are proving my point 110%. I call baby trapping "having a child with them" and no one even blinks. I call rape "having sex with someone" and everyone loses their minds.
@@Dennis-nc3vw what the fuck are you talking about. Rape is rape not sex. Lying about using any form of birth control is assault and tampering is assault. No one here is making a joke. rape is VERY serious and just as horrific and horrible as murder and so is FORCING someone to have a child with you by tampering with birth control. What are you talking about
@@Dennis-nc3vwwould you rather get r*ped and have to live with it for the rest of your miserable life or be killed? Having sex can be more intimate than having a baby together depending on the circumstances, what if you get pregnant after getting r*ped? What is intimate about that? People who have never even met before sex and probably will never see each other again( men usually abandon their children anyways) have babies. How dense can you be?
I feel like the woman who's boyfriend of 9 years suddenly started messing with her birth control cheated on her or something. He clearly is suddenly terrified of her leaving him and is trying to lock things down. This is usually the reason that people "baby trap"
I'd lay money down there are other things he did that she didn't catch or brushed off as surely there's an explanation or accepting any reason/excuse he gave that was even a little plausible. Those kinds of issues and entitlement don't just pop up over night.
I agree. It doesn’t make sense that she would fearfully hide it from him, while he was open to talking about it and having a baby. There was definitely some cheating going on, or some thing. I think she either cheated on him and is trying to lock him into their relationship, or she cheated with somebody else and got pregnant with somebody else, and hasn’t told him that it might not be his baby yet.
i think it goes beyond “baby trapping” i 100% believe that this is rape. He altered the premise on which she agreed to have sex with him. If two people consent to sex with a condom, and one of them removes the condom without the others knowledge.. the consent is no longer applicable! he raped her & I’m so happy she’s getting tf out!
@@noodlepoodlegirl I think you’re thinking about the wrong story. The one where the woman stopped taking her pills was a different story. This is the one where the Fiancé threw her pills into the recycling bin and started poking holes in the condoms.
I have to say, it’s kind of ironic that Jacob, someone that bullied a young woman for something natural (menstrual cycle) ended up with a partner that can’t have kids. And now is in the position of needing that young woman’s reproductive ability to have children of his own. Karma is not only a bitch, but a clever one.
The girl who got pregnant 3 months postpartum made me cry. I’m 6 months pp and while my labor and birth was an amazing experience for me, I’m still healing physically and trying to raise an infant while being pregnant would be MISERABLE. I would 100% take her to court and in laws would never know their grandchildren.
I found an update and she is miserable. Her husband doesn’t help at all and she’s going through morning sickness etc. this was a year ago and I’ve found no other updates. “Background: I (21f) am currently a SAHM to a six month old baby girl, and pregnant with our second child. My husband (23m) works, I take care of the house and baby in between school work. Recently, we’ve been getting into it because he seems to feel that because he works, he shouldn’t have to do much of anything else - especially when it comes to the baby. He hasn’t said as much, but it’s his actions that make me feel that way. He comes home, stays up for two or three hours playing his game, and then goes to bed. He doesn’t even change diapers on weekdays, so I have him do all diaper changes over weekends and he still complains. I do all the night wakes, I get her up in the morning when she wakes up because he won’t. So usually I let him sleep until two hours before he has to get ready for work, and then wake him up so he can spend time with the baby and I can get a few things done. Now on to the actual AITA part. Yesterday morning, I woke up feeling terrible. I was sore all over and kept running to the bathroom to throw up, but I take the baby in the living room like every morning. Baby girl is crawling now and getting into everything, so I was running back and forth between the bathroom to throw up, and to the baby to stop her from killing herself. I couldn’t leave her long enough to get any breakfast either, so by the time my husband’s two hours are up, I’m tired, hungry, and just generally annoyed. I go wake him up, and say, “Baby, please will you get up? I’m really overwhelmed and I need some help.” He grumbles that he’ll be up soon, and then spends another forty minutes in bed. When he finally gets up, he walks into the living room and I come towards him with the baby, and he backs away and says, “I have to poop”, and then goes and sits in the bathroom for 30 minutes. By this time the baby has gotten fussy, and I’m having trouble controlling her as she writhes in my arms. The last straw was when she dumped my coffee into my lap. I put her down and went banging on the bathroom door. I told my husband to get the fuck out of the bathroom NOW. He comes out looking lost like he’s just innocent and hasn’t done anything, and I just lay into him. I tell him I’m overwhelmed and I need a break from the baby sometimes since I have her 24/7 and I’m asking him for that help and he’s not listening or trying to help me. In my frustration I yelled, “This is exactly why people shake the fuck out of their kids! I’m telling you I need help and I’m becoming frustrated and you’re not giving me the support I need.” Well he got pissed off and accused me of threatening to hurt our daughter out of frustration which isn’t what I was saying at all. AITA for making that statement?” When she has the second baby the situation will be worse. The shit ass lazy husband needs to man up and take care of the baby. After all he did help make her. If she goes into depression there really is no telling what she might do out of desperation, frustration and anger. This post was a year ago & I’ve found no other posts or updates. I feel so sorry for her. Her family is in another state and she’s still at odds w MIL. My wife had PPD and I was as involved as much as possible. It’s not nice at all and I’d she’s already this frustrated I’m scared for her and the baby/babies. Here’s the post if you want to read more of her comments. www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/dsfx3h/aita_for_snapping_on_my_husband_and_telling_him/
Many doctors normally strongly advise against getting pregnant too soon after birth, even if mom is in perfect health and had a healthy, normal pregnancy & delivery with zero complications. From what ive seen they generally recommend about 18 months at minimum. Less than 1 year, let alone less than 6 months, is considered extremely risky for mom & baby, as there are significantly higher rates of preterm birth, low birth weight, placental abruption, uterine rupture, anemia, congenital disorders, stillbirth, infant death, and maternal death.
Additionally to what you and others have said, the paternal grandmother is focused on the family surname being passed down when it's not even the one she was born with! It's her husbands family name, she just changed her name to it when they got married, so why the hell is she so damn obsessed with it?
@@sarvolkskaya it’s not fair at all for the kids. People should only have kids from a place of love - I think some people don’t realise kids are human people that will become adults, not just a cute little baby to make you happy
My sister was friends with this girl in high school who was breaking up with her boyfriend, so he asked for a “one last time” hook up. She agreed, and he purposely got her pregnant to try and get her to stay with him. They broke up and he doesn’t even see the kid.
Oh. My. God. What a absolute sicko. You’re breaking up, and you think it’s a good idea to be connected to that person forever and have to coparent?!?! Ugh poor gal
The story about the girl who's husband didn't want to have sex with her because she gained baby weight... awful but lol Morgan: "I would never have sex with him again. Take note" *Justin lifts eyebrow*
@@bobraekevelt7953 I don't think their talking about sex during pregnancy but after. But completely agree with what you said, I feel so bad for her tho. Can't be good for her health, mental or physical.
I literally laughed OUT LOUD when she said the GF was complaining about how her job wasn't letting her take maternity leave. Last time I checked, you weren't the one actually pregnant or having any babies! 😂 If she was a surrogate or adopting the babies afterward (a case where the bio mom didn't want her baby), that'd be one thing. But, it isn't. This mother wants her babies and is going to raise them herself. SHE'S the one who deserves maternity leave!
I do think that jobs should give adopted parents personal time with their new kids too since adoption doesn't make the child less valid and less in need of bonding
When you said Kim got child endangerment charges I literally said "oooooo, nice!" Talk about a blessing before the kids arrive. The first story just enrages me!
For the mother in law one, I honestly would cut off the grandparents. They were doing this right after they just had a new born and I would hate to see how they would treat the baby girl if they did have son. I love that they are changing the name and she is getting proof.
Absolutely! One thing that wasn't even mentioned, health organizations and physicians try to promote as much as possible to not get pregnant in the first year postpartum because it increases the chance of complications and even miscarriage. Image going through something traumatic as losing your baby, just because your MIL is shallow and crazy...
I found an update and she’s in a bad situation. “Background: I (21f) am currently a SAHM to a six month old baby girl, and pregnant with our second child. My husband (23m) works, I take care of the house and baby in between school work. Recently, we’ve been getting into it because he seems to feel that because he works, he shouldn’t have to do much of anything else - especially when it comes to the baby. He hasn’t said as much, but it’s his actions that make me feel that way. He comes home, stays up for two or three hours playing his game, and then goes to bed. He doesn’t even change diapers on weekdays, so I have him do all diaper changes over weekends and he still complains. I do all the night wakes, I get her up in the morning when she wakes up because he won’t. So usually I let him sleep until two hours before he has to get ready for work, and then wake him up so he can spend time with the baby and I can get a few things done. Now on to the actual AITA part. Yesterday morning, I woke up feeling terrible. I was sore all over and kept running to the bathroom to throw up, but I take the baby in the living room like every morning. Baby girl is crawling now and getting into everything, so I was running back and forth between the bathroom to throw up, and to the baby to stop her from killing herself. I couldn’t leave her long enough to get any breakfast either, so by the time my husband’s two hours are up, I’m tired, hungry, and just generally annoyed. I go wake him up, and say, “Baby, please will you get up? I’m really overwhelmed and I need some help.” He grumbles that he’ll be up soon, and then spends another forty minutes in bed. When he finally gets up, he walks into the living room and I come towards him with the baby, and he backs away and says, “I have to poop”, and then goes and sits in the bathroom for 30 minutes. By this time the baby has gotten fussy, and I’m having trouble controlling her as she writhes in my arms. The last straw was when she dumped my coffee into my lap. I put her down and went banging on the bathroom door. I told my husband to get the fuck out of the bathroom NOW. He comes out looking lost like he’s just innocent and hasn’t done anything, and I just lay into him. I tell him I’m overwhelmed and I need a break from the baby sometimes since I have her 24/7 and I’m asking him for that help and he’s not listening or trying to help me. In my frustration I yelled, “This is exactly why people shake the fuck out of their kids! I’m telling you I need help and I’m becoming frustrated and you’re not giving me the support I need.” Well he got pissed off and accused me of threatening to hurt our daughter out of frustration which isn’t what I was saying at all. AITA for making that statement?” When she has the second baby the situation will be worse. The shit ass lazy husband needs to man up and take care of the baby. After all he did help make her. If she goes into depression there really is no telling what she might do out of desperation, frustration and anger. This post was a year ago & I’ve found no other posts or updates. I feel so sorry for her. Her family is in another state and she’s still at odds w MIL. My wife had PPD and I was as involved as much as possible. It’s not nice at all and I’d she’s already this frustrated I’m scared for her and the baby/babies. Here’s the post if you want to read more of her comments. www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/dsfx3h/aita_for_snapping_on_my_husband_and_telling_him/
That poor last woman who’s husband didn’t find her attractive, she needs to leave him because her life and looks should not have to be changed in order to make him want to be attracted to you
Can we all have a laugh though.. the sister + sister + jacob story .. he bullied her relentlessly over her period accident and several years later NEEDED her reproductive system to have a baby. What goes around really comes around
I know a couple from the church I used to attend as a kid who were in an incredibly toxic marriage. They had two kids, an elder daughter and a son my age. They always argued and then one day when I was around 16 my mom told me that the mom got pregnant after her husband threatened divorce and after she have birth they shoved the boy off onto their older kids to raise. Apparently the marriage got better for a couple years until a few years back they got into another argument, brink of divorce, he was threatening to leave her and she suddenly bore twins. They again shoved the twins off onto their eldest kids to raise. Mind you the oldest daughter is currently married with two babies of her own and the eldwst son also has a kid of his own and his own marriage. Like damn, imagine having such immature parents
Wow it's like you would definitely want to cut them off but at the same time then you wouldn't see your siblings and who knows how they would be treated by the parents then 🥺 Thats such a shitty situation
At that point, I hope the eldest daughter takes them to court and get custody. Definitely would change their tone and prevent them from trying to use their kids as a weapon against her by taking them back if she did something they didn't like.
I had an unplanned pregnancy and found adoptive parents very early on so I was basically a surrogate. I was invited to the baby shower and the mother even cut the umbilical cord. I couldn’t imagine having an experience like the first story !
Regarding the second story, I can't imagine having a loooooong-term relaitionship, being engaged, and not being on the same page after all that time or not accepting your partner to not be on the same page. Disgusting
I think they did talk about it and decided on doing it later in life. But I kinda think the guy must've thought at that time that she'll come through and "get over it". He probably thought he'd get his way and he could convince her; which is also SO TOXIC. Such an ass
@@ClySaga yes, exactly! Not the way to be in a long-term relationship, though… It’s all about taking decisions together, especially those that completely change both lives 😅😂
It’s ridiculous. My sister and her husband have been married for nearly 10 and have been together longer and just now had their first kid because my sister wasn’t ready. It’s not that hard to wait if one of the partners isn’t ready.
When my aunt was 20, she booked to go traveling round the world with her friend. She was with a guy who she didn't see a future with so told him she was going to be traveling for a year & that she'd loved the time spent together over the last few months, but she didn't see a future together. He seemed cool with it but asked if they could still be together up until the day of her flight, she agreed 🤦🏻♀️. This man hid my aunt's birth control & when questioned said not to worry because we could just use condoms....lo and behold, 5-6 months into my aunt's trip around the world she is not feeling great! (She's in New Zealand at this point, we live in the UK) She gets a scan done & obviously she's pregnant. Her & her friend cut the trip short & come home to have a very messy & complicated birth where my cousin had to cut out as soon as possible (3 months premature), which nearly killed my aunt & my cousin. She's now been stuck with this absolute piece of turd of a man for 23 years....& tbh I could make a book with all of the shady, awful things he's done since then, but she hasn't left him because of my cousin 🤦🏻♀️😤
The story with the partner getting pregnant on purpose and then tearfully admitting it to the OP... his story is well written and seems mature, you both said basically how awesome he seems. I defs think there is WAY more to the story like Justin mentions.
For the story on the crazy step mom trying to take over parenting of the unborn twins: horror movie based on a true story. Also... if the guy was parent trapping then whose to say he didn't just snip the condom? Like the next story. Scary stuff 😨
This happened to me. Got pregnant by my brothers friend after “sex” when I was blackout. My brother was the first person I told and he told me to not tell his friend because he’s been trying to get someone pregnant for welfare money. Well I did I’m dumb and I thought we were like family. He tried to propose, I declined. I tried to adopt her out with his permission and he tried to use the situation to take her once my right were signed away. I never signed anything before him and kept my baby. He constantly tried to get me to leave her with him, “I know you don’t want to be a mom, I got this, go live your life.” Um no. When that didn’t work he tried to get me to sign papers saying he had her the majority of the time because he needed it for “WIC” but was really trying to collect welfare and file for child support against me. Sadly my family kicked me out and supported him through everything. My priority has always been to my daughter and I’ve learned to not be the nice guy trying not to stir the pot in order to protect her. Watch out for men like this. They’ll try to take whatever they can, however they need to from you just so they don’t have to work. If he put all that work into himself instead of schemes he probably would have already been married with kids rather than sleeping on my grandmas couch
Why was your brother friends with someone who assaults black out people? Your brother needs to assess his friendships. He should not be supporting people like that
It’s actually extremely common for a man to change his behaviour once he feels ownership over you- wether that’s engagement, marriage or first pregnancy/child
My baby bad baby trapped me. He admitted that he thought if he got me pregnant I wouldn’t leave him if he went to prison (he was in some trouble at the time) And he knew I wouldn’t get an abortion. The kicker is being pregnant made me more responsible and made me not wanna be with someone that didn’t have their life together or wasn’t trying to. So I ended up leaving him. But my son saved my life so I’m actually very grateful. I was in active addiction when I got pregnant, and when I found out I was pregnant that was what I needed to get clean.
Congratulations on being clean ❤ that's not an easy bridge to cross, and I'm glad you found strength in your child and hope that you two are continuing to live a blessed life as you most definitely deserve ❤️
My most recent ex tried to baby trap me! I had the Nuvaring and he’d pull it out without telling me. I was LIVID and his response is “but we’d have such pretty babies” 🤮
Definitely make it public but not to punish him (as lots of people don't want to deal with that drama and that's ok. It's also ok if you do want revenge or punishment) but to hopefully protect anyone else from having it happen to them. Certainly file a report and try to have a conversation with them first to get proof if you can stomach it. Like pretend that you're maybe willing to get back together but you want them to apologize and promise never to fuck with their birth control or protection again without consent
@@everleighxoxox I'm pretty sure the thing she's talking about is just a flexible ring that you shove in there and it releases hormones to be the birth control and you change it after so long. So I imagine he pulled it out during a sexual encounter
The surrogate story reminds me of my dad’s “girlfriend” he’s had for the last 10 years. She would always try to bash my mom and act like she was gonna adopt us but she was/is legit psychotic
So I dated a guy that constantly had condoms "rip" or would tell me he "forgot" to pull out and after going through 6 plan b pills in two weeks, I went to the doc and got the bar implanted in my arm so he couldn't tamper with it. Should've dumped him sooner than I did but I do think the implant saved my ass in the end
That is awful! I've had two breaks (100% due to inadequate lubrication/ maybe the condom fell off one time) and had to use plan B twice and it was really rough. The period afterward feels like a punishment. We use enough lube now and I am so happy not to be sending him off to the pharmacy (may I note he was always back within the hour). It sounds like he was banking on you tiring of taking plan B and deciding to take the risk. I have to say, though, it is so crazy you had to take plan B and still wanted to have sex that often. I was so irritable about it. 'Why didn't you check it!! How did you let it fall off!' That's a week right there, not interested sir. Also, forgot? He has never forgot. I never rely on pulling out when I am 'fertile' and still he never forgets. Maybe he'll be asking me to skip it but either I'll say no (and we are using a condom now) or I'm not fertile so it's fine (we will check it right then) but a bad habit// crazy low chance of actually being risky. Never been pregnant and not able to use hormonal birth control that safely apparently because I have migraines.
My bf and I had an oopsie and we have a 14 month old together and have been together just over 2 years. Its definitely put a huge strain on our relationship. We have had to learn to parent together while working on our relationship. I wont ever understand why people think having a baby will keep someone.
Does he not understand that some babies are like 10lbs at birth? Also, they treat pregnant women like crap in general, more so if you are overweight or poc.
My best friend is 5'3 and tiny (she's a runner). Her first baby, a little girl, was just shy of 11 lbs. It was insane, and she ended up having an emergency c section. Her second baby, a son, was just over 9 lbs, so still big but significantly smaller than his sister. She exclaimed how relieved she was about the smaller baby to her nurses and they all thought she was nuts to think that was small until she explained how big her daughter was. 😂 I, on the other hand, am much taller and heavier, and I haven't had children yet but if/when I do I'm really nervous about it because I have other health issues having nothing to do with my weight but I know I'll probably be treated differently either way.
Latina nursing student here. Yes those statistics are scary and also part of why I’m terrified of childbirth 😅 Love your channel for the drama and random medical facts ❤️
When I was 2 or 3 my dad met a woman that absolutely fell in love with me and tried to be my mom sooooo hard. She even technically kidnapped me by taking me out of the state to Disney world (without my older sibling who she hated) for multiple days and didn’t tell my actual mom. She gave me everything. In her house my room was the master with a jacuzzi tub, she took me shopping constantly and threw away all the things my actual mom bought for me and replaced them. Even though I was so young I knew something was weird about it. She was over the top obsessed 😯
The story of the woman who got pregnant 3 months postpartum literally made me tear up. My mother had five kids including me and we're all 2 years apart and I'm the oldest. She told me that after she had the third child, (my brother) it was *miserable* so I can't imagine having an infant while also being pregnant, and then once the second child is born how it would be having two tiny children. My heart goes out to her.
12 years is a very long time I would think since they had agreed on starting trying a year later that they had gone through this conversation. In my opinion there’s good reason why he’s naturally not so angry.
For the first story, OMG! It’s really really not a good idea to have a home birth with twins!!!!!!! One twin could flip at the last second into an unsafe position and then you need a C-section.
The one with the creepy stepmom sounds like a lifetime movie waiting to happen. She's gonna invite OP over for a tea and chat and then run her off the road and take the babies out of her. Or, in the middle of the night, someone is gonna catch her trying to breastfeed the babies. No overnight visits and limited supervised visitation. Sorry Dad, but you're attached to a creep so no 🙅♀️
the story about being a surrogate for OP's sister and OP's bully: it's funny how the bully made fun of OP for having a period but having to face the whole situation.
what I don’t understand is, OP said that the girlfriend has issues with fertility. She did not say that she was in fertile, so she could have gotten in vitro, found her own surrogate, or potentially even got pregnant herself! I tried to get pregnant for about five years, and I met so many women who initially said that they were infertile who ended up getting pregnant, naturally, after they decided to give them selves a break and not try so hard. Some thing about removing stress from your life makes you so much more fertile! Anyway, it’s not like this is her only chance.
Bullying really changes people. I used to be a nice , shy, friendly, and happier kid. I had many friends. I was made front of in 5th - 9th. After 7th grade I started to become colder and not as friendly of fear of being made front of. She would always make it seem she was a victim and was better than us. In 9th I was bullied by same girl and cried . After that I wasn’t friendly and told her I didn’t like her. I was more shy and anti social to people and stayed with same group of friends through high school. I’m in 11th now. I moved schools still hate her and blocked her on insta .
Thank u Morgan for sharing ur bullying story. Honestly, it was like hearing my life story told to me. I had girls bully me to the point of self harm thoughts flooding my head every day in middle school and high school. Going to college changed my life. Though I did slip back my second senior year, I was finally able to crawl myself back into a good place. Talking about how bad I truly got has always been nearly impossible for me. Thank u so much for sharing. I think hearing u talk about ur story has finally given me the confidence to tell my family what happened to me back then. For those who r concern, I did get help and I’m on antidepressant. I haven’t had a true suicidal thought in five years!
1:05:00 Bullying really does stick with you forever. I was bullied all throughout my school years and it absolutely ruined my school experience. I got kicked out of middle school and high school for skipping classes due to being bullied. The worst part is that I told everyone I could and no teachers or principals got involved until my friend started threatening my bullies, and I was the one in trouble for that.
Why my pregnant self listing to this with all these crazy scenarios. Lawd, 1 I would've murdered Kim. 2 the man who wife lied he is an amazing man. 3 I'm glad my in-law have no say or can have any impact on my personal life. Sis in law should've said something as well but she redeemed herself as well a bit. 4 The friend wasn't wrong saying no to surrogacy. She isn't the reason why her friend can't have kids she can always adopt. 5 that husband is an idiot and the sisters did the right thing. Embarrass him for his nonsense.
For the man who's wife of 14 years baby trapped. I think they need counselling for why she couldn't come to him and the broken trust and I think they'll be fine. Actually savable. The one with the grandmother poking holes! The changing the name is genius! The woman who got mad that her friend wouldn't be her surrogate is beyond entitled! She should reply, no, get over it!
As a note on birth control - a copper IUD is a great option for some people who can’t take hormonal birth control. May not be for everyone, doctors know best, but your partner/their moms/etc. can’t tamper with it!
I personally HATE mine but had to get off hormonal birth control. And now? Not a chance in hell I'm getting rid of the most effective bc on the market, no matter how bad my periods got!
I'm an Irish twin! My mom also got pregnant with my little brother around 3 months postpartum! It was really HARD on her to feed two babies as well as herself.
My parents divorced and I lived with my dad and stepmother. I had no idea how much drama there was until I was an adult. As a kid, I thought everyone got along and liked each other. I will always have so much respect for both sets of parents for putting their pettiness aside to make sure I had a good relationship with everyone.
Babies are amplifiers. If there’s love, joy, and respect it will times it by 10. If there’s distrust, resentment, and disrespect it will times it by 10.
Yeah… this brought me back to the situation my sister went through. Although I would never tell my 9 year old niece this, when my sister was 17 she and her boyfriend were experiencing relationship problems after he took her car out for a beer run with a friend that was old enough to get it. Basically when my sister woke up the next morning to get Starbucks for a hang over cure, she found her almost brand new ford fiesta hatchback in horrible condition. All four of the tires were torn apart and the rims were rubbed horribly, because of this the paint on the doors and lower part of her car was scratched.. she was extremely upset but he just told her his parents would pay for it because they are extremely rich. Though it did end up getting fixed like new, there was tension in the relationship and he must have known she was going to break things off because only a few weeks later, she found out she was pregnant. No one really suspected anything until my sisters friend Jessica found their box of condoms and asked if she could take them since Chelsea no longer needed them. Later on she opened the box for use but low and behold, they were all punctured with tiny holes in them. Nine years later he’s in prison for drugs and theft and doesn’t seem to care for my niece at all, only that Chelsea send him money and he hopes they’ll get back together one day. This is heartbreaking because Bonnie is an extremely sharp and talented child. Not that he would know this but she just got accepted to the fine arts school my sister and I went to and is also moving her way up to be a competitive skater. Luckily my sweet niece has a new baby brother stepdad Josh who has treated her as his own since she was a toddler and is now working on adopting her so that she can take his name.
Okay, so for the story about the wife lying about taking birth control, I 100% believe that woman had an outside person talking in her ear about this and talking negatively about her life. Her choice is her own, but her reaction to the deceit she did was weird, especially with how strong their relationship is.
Yeah I don't know that she did it to babytrap the husband given her reaction. Tbh what I kind of thought was that the wife ran out of birth control or smth or realized the birth control was messing with her mental state and couldn't be bothered to take them anymore, thinking that since they never had a scare before, "how easy could it be to get pregnant". Given her reaction I almost think she's the one not ready to have a child, that's why she needed so much confirmation from the husband and ended up telling him anyway
I am not the person to comment on you tube but I want to say this is spot on! I just been rewatching this episode. I love your channel and I like how you guys dig deep into these things. I am starting to work on blogging about social justice issues and I think this brings up the issue regarding consent and how reproductive rights affect men as well. Some of these situations are completely insane. However, I can validate that these things happen in relationships especially when people are not on the same page about this. You brought up a really good point about how it can be hard to leave someone your already invested in and been with for a long time, so it does make sense why people do this kind of thing. I am not saying this is ever justified and I agree with your point about either being on the same page or reevaluating the relationship. This speaks to my personal experience because I been in a long-term relationship with someone who wasn't on the same page. The only thing was that I never and still never want to have kids, but he never really had a stance. We were both young but did mention that he may expect children in the future. This isn't something you really discuss at the beginning of the relationship especially in college or high school and people do change. Now that I am single and older it's something I want to know right away. I agree that it's important that couples are on the same page about whether not to have children and every situation is different. I think there are people who may want children but okay having partner who doesn't but there are others where this may be a deal breaker. Regardless it is never okay to manipulate someone into having children without their consent. Another thing I got out of this is that this is not considered a crime and I think that is messed up. I did, however, get to thinking that is this different when women do this compared to men. As much as its terrible thing for anyone to do regardless of their gender and sex at least men don't have to carry the child like the women would unless they have access to abortion. You brought up a good point about how it's wrong for either partner in a relationship to make huge decisions without partner's consent. This also got me thinking about what if the case was the opposite. I would love to hear your thoughts and opinions on cases when the partner gets sterilized without the other persons consent or maybe the women decide to go on birth control when the other person is not okay with it. Do you see those situations different from baby trapping? Also do you think that there are certain decisions that person should be able to make without the other persons input but having a baby is not one of them? Anyways love to know your thoughts.
If I were the girlfriend who can't get pregnant and this happened I would have a chat with the mom. Tell her I'd love to be as much involved as she will allow. Offer to help. Throw HER a shower if she was okay with it.
As for the holes in condoms; it’s not so much as for the sperm to get through the hole but in the hopes it will split at or near the moment of ejaculation so they don’t work at all and he could say it just broke and he didn’t realize it. And her saying that they had split it seems that’s what he wanted to happen. If it doesn’t split on its own like with normal or even w rough sex he can manipulate the split by hand w o her knowledge. Either way he had no regard for her feelings not only because she didn’t want kids right now but for hiding the pills as if it was her problem or her fault they were gone. It’s emotional manipulation, emotional abuse and actual physical abuse.
They have never said it directly but I know my in laws are not happy we had two daughters. They are HUGE on the whole “carrying on the family name” thing.
I just went and got a vasectomy on Friday I can confirm it was so clean and easy. Also its not entirely reverse able theres only a 75% chance a reversing will work. Theres also a 1% chance you have terrible testicular pain for the rest of your life that can potentially be fixed but no guarantees But honestly you're in and out within an hour ur testicle hurt bout as much as like a light squeeze it dies hurt for a day to laugh or cough The hard part is finding a doctor that will do it if ur under 35 with no kids
This! Vasectomies are a great option for guys who want PERMANENT birth control. It should not be done if a guy thinks he might want kids one day. Spent some time getting treatment for male factor infertility, and fully half of the patients seeing my husband’s Urology/Andrology specialist were post-reversal, and were now severely infertile. Like, digging around in the testicle for a single viable sperm infertile. The longer the time between the vasectomy and the reversal, the lower the chances of the reversal restoring normal fertility. I’m all for men taking their half of the responsibility for birth control, but advertising vasectomy to be anything but permanent is not it.
the first story is so scary. what do they think this is sims? you don't just have twins and then give one to your ex and his psycho girlfriend and call it a day. they arent objects and shes not a surrogate.
Women keep weight on after birth because it’s the bodies way of making sure there’s enough to keep the baby alive for two years, the minimum you would breastfeed. Sad that woman are plagued by the thought of extra weight
There is no minimum that a woman should breast feed anymore than there is a maximum. I breast fed for six months because I stopped producing enough after that. Shut up please.
im an irish twin! i know its not relevant but i will say having a sister so close in age was incredible growing up it was hard in someways but i loved it, its like having a twin and a bestfriend built in growing up you always have a companion
lol as Morgan was talking about how she doesn't know how people with kids do it I was listening while I was washing dishes with my newborn (5th child) strapped to my chest.
Dude wtf!! Something similar happened to me , when I found out I was pregnant I was extremely depressed bc at the time I was going through financial issues and had to live with my mother in law , my husband's sister is around our age she's 24 and at the time I was 19 , I felt comfortable telling her that I wasn't to happy about this pregnancy and that I felt my life was over she then went to say "give me the baby and leave " right after that conversation I found out she had told the WHOLE family that she was gonna take care of the baby and that I had agreed to give her the baby !! Fast forward I had my baby and live 1hour away from my SIL and MIL and they would get so offended bc I never brought my baby around and even told my husband to take my baby away from me :(
Lol first story reminds me of my own situation. Baby daddy cheated on his gf w me- I didn’t know until after- and I got pregnant. His gf thought she had infertility issues, and wanted to adopt my kid. It was a whole back and forth- she got mad I wouldn’t let her be a part of the pregnancy etc etc. he still with her 2 years later and they had their own baby and live across the country from me 🤗
I can meet someone for the 1st time and not being attracted to them at all, but if they have a great personality and basically on the same page about things, and he does things that make me admire him the attraction builds.
I have fertility issues all I want is a baby so much so where its really affected my mental health and cause my depression to get worsr... cause the one thing I KNOW I was meant to be, was a mom and everyone always tells me id be the best mom because I'm so great with kids im the only person who any of my friends have ever left their newborns with for an extended period of time because I know exactly what needs to be done to care for a child and im great at it (my BFF calls me the baby whisperer cause of how easy caring for children is for me - I moved in with her full time while her husband was deployed to help raise her boys and she always said I was the 3rd parent and she always got mad cause I had such an easy time taking care of them and balancing them when I had them by myself) .... One thing I can say is it does hurt, my best friend is pregnant with her 3rd child and when she told me i cried tears of joy for her but also tears of sadness for me.... it sucks when you're body won't do the one thing its meant to as a woman,, especially when you know of people who aren't great parents having kids so easily and they can't even stand their own children to the point where they try and pawn them off on everyone else so they don't have to deal with them only to continue having multiple kids.... its the worst feeling in the world knowing God chose (what feels like) everyone in the world to be a parent but you... BUT for as much as it hurts, especially when you see all your close friends and family having kids, it still doesn't mean you have the right to hate someone else for being pregnant..that wasn't Kim's life unfortunately Kim's life was meant to be more complicated than that and her body is what kept her from her perfect ending NOT her man's ex... she needs to realize that and get help both with her mental health and her fertility. Especially because as someone who KNOWS the pain of wanting a child more than anything and not being able to have one Kim should understand better than anyone what that pain would be like, to take another woman's baby(s) away from her just because you want your own....
I was terrified of being a parent before. Now I have a 6 weeks old. It's hard, yes, but the unconditional love helps going through the tough moments. 😊
I've got my second who's 7 months. My son had been our second super easy, chill baby. He sleeps great and has since he was just three weeks old . It's not always no sleep and being miserable.
What’s crazy to me is that parents don’t talk about the sheer exhaustion, the mental exhaustion of just listening to a kid, and having to be patient and responsive and kind all the time, just having your attention constantly claimed. I absolutely love kids, really wanted to be a mom, and relish my role as gramma, but there are days that I hid from the toddler just so I could read in peace. It’s not necessarily the chores involved, it’s the nonstop nature of the demands. Parenting is exhausting. 100% Unrelated; I read that crazy Reddit story and I remember thinking “relocate before you deliver! Get restraining orders and RUN!” If one crazy person is bombarding you with gaslighting and insanity, it’s hard enough to keep your sense of self, not question yourself, and stay on an even keel in the face of that kind of assault on your mental health. To have your ex AND his girlfriend AND the mother…this woman is pregnant with twins, apart from the father, hard enough! And she’s being assaulted by so much irrationality and gaslighting, that is just NUTSO! I was so relieved to hear that she moved and took out protective orders! Because…I remember the first time I read of a pregnant woman whose baby was cut out of her belly. The mother was left tied to a tree, disemboweled. The culprit was caught fairly quickly because the baby died. Since then (that was the 80’s) several similar cases have occurred and I would not put it past a person as unbalanced as “Kim” not to try to steal the babies. Horrible story.
Oddly enough my husband thought I was the most attractive when I was pregnant and looked like a beached whale 😆. It was more than just physical though it was the process of me growing our family and he was so adorable with each pregnancy how much told me how I was beautiful. Marriage and relationships have to be more than skin deep.
I’m not justifying what the wife did (because it’s obviously wrong) but Depending on the type of birth control she was on some doctors recommend stopping a year prior to when you’d like to get pregnant because it can be very difficult to get pregnant for a while after some birth control.
I'm actually a baby trap kid it's traumatizing. especially if one parent didn't want you like my dad told my mom to get an abortion and that hurt me for years.
I remember learning that a man's genes are the ones that decide the gender of the child in relation to king Henry and his 6 wives. He killed one and divorced another all because they couldn't produce a live male heir. He went as far as to smear the name of Anne Boleyn with lies of adultery and incest. He smeared the name of Katherine Howard with adultery as well, even when it's more likely that not only was she faithful but was instead faced with unwanted advances and was likely assaulted by the man she is accused of adultery with. So in laws can't be upset with her for having a girl.
In the 6th grade I was bullied and that was the first time i started to hate my body, a boy I really liked said I had the body of a 8 year old boy in front of everyone in the hall when we were getting our snacks, to this day I have never ever been happy with my body, throughout high school I got bullied so bad I tried ending my life twice, the school did nothing about it, neither did the cops (there were death threats). To this day I’ve struggled with everything, I remember every little thing my bullies have ever said. And it kills me inside
The only thing I can think in the married couple thing when she stopped taking birth control (and I don’t mean this makes it okay) is that it’s possible that she thought it might take awhile to get pregnant. I had always heard that you had to be off BC for around a year before fertility was consistent. When my husband and I got married as older adults we started right away because we thought it would take a long time. Imagine my surprise when it was basically the first month being off birth control. My sister, same thing - heard it might take a year, got pregnant during the honeymoon.
For the Surrogate story with the crazy gf, I hope she moves to a mother state and have her babies there. So everything will be in her favor and since they were not married she would be the only one to have full custody until court order says other wise. And hopefully the babies have her last name!
Dude the first story reminds me of all the true crime cases I’ve seen where pregnant women were targeted by random strangers and even their best friends to be attack, cut open and their baby stolen. When I was pregnant I was fucking TERRIFIED first of miscarriage and other health stuff and basically anything that could go wrong with baby or me during pregnancy and birth and then again of the fact that pregnant women are at a higher risk to be murdered. The statistics are scary and then there are fools out here literally stealing people from inside their Moms. What the fucking fuck! 😱😱😱😳
First story is scary. Reminds me of women who cut babies out of mother's wombs because they so desperately want a baby. 😕
Right. I feel sorry for anyone struggling with fertility. Even that woman, I would be devastated in her situation. However, she probably could’ve had a healthy relationship with these children had she acted right. Her entitlement is uncalled for. The levels she would go to knows no limits. Her desperation and entitlement could easily danger those children and their mother.
Ok let’s not demonize infertile people. That’s a negative stereotype.
@@FukaiKokoro It's literally happened three times in popular media. I wouldn't call that a stereotype.
@@FukaiKokoro this isn't demonizing all infertile people, it's bringing light to the ones who go to desperate and awful measure to get a baby. it isn't the norm but it absolutely does happen.
She's so scary. The stress she must of had (the mother). Honestly, if you are barren you can adopt or be a foster family, there are plenty of opportunities but that is too much
She went to that mother school and got crazy!!! She just ruined herself for any "parent" type relationship. Hopefully, the kids are ok!!
Surrogate reddit updated 😭 She moved and now has an order against both of them.
That’s amazing (I think I may be reading this wrong) but I hope her kids grow up safely
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@@mochi1762 It's in their description
I am so happy for her. Glad she moved!
Yayyyyy
It’s refreshing to hear the family reprimand their own son for treating his wife badly than to make excuses for him. It’s wonderful of them to back up the daughter-in-law because I rarely see that happen in the case of their son vs. their DIL
My mother in law is almost always on my side
Dude my mother in law is always on my side too.
My future in laws are generally like this. If he’s being difficult they’re usually like be nice or yea she’s right. We’ve been together since we were teenagers and they’ve always been good to me.
My mother in law backs me fiercely and I'm so thankful! My lasy MIL was the complete opposite so it's amazing to get along.
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Forcing someone to have a child (mom/dad/parent/whoever) by tampering with BC/condoms, lying about taking BC and wearing condoms, etc. is assault.
This.
It's amazing how we treat baby trapping like a joke, but rape is treated as worse than murder. Which is more imtimate, having sex with someone, or having a child with them?
EDIT: Rape is having sex with someone non-consentually, just like baby trapping is having a child with someone non-consentually. Stop virtue signalling in the replies. You are proving my point 110%. I call baby trapping "having a child with them" and no one even blinks. I call rape "having sex with someone" and everyone loses their minds.
@@Dennis-nc3vw what the fuck are you talking about. Rape is rape not sex. Lying about using any form of birth control is assault and tampering is assault. No one here is making a joke. rape is VERY serious and just as horrific and horrible as murder and so is FORCING someone to have a child with you by tampering with birth control. What are you talking about
@@Dennis-nc3vwwould you rather get r*ped and have to live with it for the rest of your miserable life or be killed? Having sex can be more intimate than having a baby together depending on the circumstances, what if you get pregnant after getting r*ped? What is intimate about that? People who have never even met before sex and probably will never see each other again( men usually abandon their children anyways) have babies. How dense can you be?
@@Dennis-nc3vw
Sex and rape are not the same thing. Rape is worse.
I feel like the woman who's boyfriend of 9 years suddenly started messing with her birth control cheated on her or something. He clearly is suddenly terrified of her leaving him and is trying to lock things down. This is usually the reason that people "baby trap"
I'd lay money down there are other things he did that she didn't catch or brushed off as surely there's an explanation or accepting any reason/excuse he gave that was even a little plausible. Those kinds of issues and entitlement don't just pop up over night.
I agree. It doesn’t make sense that she would fearfully hide it from him, while he was open to talking about it and having a baby. There was definitely some cheating going on, or some thing. I think she either cheated on him and is trying to lock him into their relationship, or she cheated with somebody else and got pregnant with somebody else, and hasn’t told him that it might not be his baby yet.
i think it goes beyond “baby trapping” i 100% believe that this is rape. He altered the premise on which she agreed to have sex with him. If two people consent to sex with a condom, and one of them removes the condom without the others knowledge.. the consent is no longer applicable! he raped her & I’m so happy she’s getting tf out!
Ooooooh!!! Interesting and it would totally fit!
@@noodlepoodlegirl I think you’re thinking about the wrong story. The one where the woman stopped taking her pills was a different story.
This is the one where the Fiancé threw her pills into the recycling bin and started poking holes in the condoms.
I have to say, it’s kind of ironic that Jacob, someone that bullied a young woman for something natural (menstrual cycle) ended up with a partner that can’t have kids. And now is in the position of needing that young woman’s reproductive ability to have children of his own. Karma is not only a bitch, but a clever one.
exactly my thoughts!
Irony is karmas sister lol
@@Kali_0303 So who’s the brother? Just out of curiosity
@Pretty boy? That’s pretty fitting, actually
@Pretty boy? love that
The girl who got pregnant 3 months postpartum made me cry. I’m 6 months pp and while my labor and birth was an amazing experience for me, I’m still healing physically and trying to raise an infant while being pregnant would be MISERABLE. I would 100% take her to court and in laws would never know their grandchildren.
I found an update and she is miserable. Her husband doesn’t help at all and she’s going through morning sickness etc. this was a year ago and I’ve found no other updates.
“Background: I (21f) am currently a SAHM to a six month old baby girl, and pregnant with our second child. My husband (23m) works, I take care of the house and baby in between school work. Recently, we’ve been getting into it because he seems to feel that because he works, he shouldn’t have to do much of anything else - especially when it comes to the baby. He hasn’t said as much, but it’s his actions that make me feel that way. He comes home, stays up for two or three hours playing his game, and then goes to bed. He doesn’t even change diapers on weekdays, so I have him do all diaper changes over weekends and he still complains. I do all the night wakes, I get her up in the morning when she wakes up because he won’t. So usually I let him sleep until two hours before he has to get ready for work, and then wake him up so he can spend time with the baby and I can get a few things done. Now on to the actual AITA part.
Yesterday morning, I woke up feeling terrible. I was sore all over and kept running to the bathroom to throw up, but I take the baby in the living room like every morning. Baby girl is crawling now and getting into everything, so I was running back and forth between the bathroom to throw up, and to the baby to stop her from killing herself. I couldn’t leave her long enough to get any breakfast either, so by the time my husband’s two hours are up, I’m tired, hungry, and just generally annoyed. I go wake him up, and say, “Baby, please will you get up? I’m really overwhelmed and I need some help.” He grumbles that he’ll be up soon, and then spends another forty minutes in bed. When he finally gets up, he walks into the living room and I come towards him with the baby, and he backs away and says, “I have to poop”, and then goes and sits in the bathroom for 30 minutes. By this time the baby has gotten fussy, and I’m having trouble controlling her as she writhes in my arms. The last straw was when she dumped my coffee into my lap. I put her down and went banging on the bathroom door. I told my husband to get the fuck out of the bathroom NOW. He comes out looking lost like he’s just innocent and hasn’t done anything, and I just lay into him. I tell him I’m overwhelmed and I need a break from the baby sometimes since I have her 24/7 and I’m asking him for that help and he’s not listening or trying to help me. In my frustration I yelled, “This is exactly why people shake the fuck out of their kids! I’m telling you I need help and I’m becoming frustrated and you’re not giving me the support I need.”
Well he got pissed off and accused me of threatening to hurt our daughter out of frustration which isn’t what I was saying at all. AITA for making that statement?”
When she has the second baby the situation will be worse. The shit ass lazy husband needs to man up and take care of the baby. After all he did help make her. If she goes into depression there really is no telling what she might do out of desperation, frustration and anger.
This post was a year ago & I’ve found no other posts or updates. I feel so sorry for her.
Her family is in another state and she’s still at odds w MIL.
My wife had PPD and I was as involved as much as possible. It’s not nice at all and I’d she’s already this frustrated I’m scared for her and the baby/babies.
Here’s the post if you want to read more of her comments.
www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/dsfx3h/aita_for_snapping_on_my_husband_and_telling_him/
Many doctors normally strongly advise against getting pregnant too soon after birth, even if mom is in perfect health and had a healthy, normal pregnancy & delivery with zero complications. From what ive seen they generally recommend about 18 months at minimum. Less than 1 year, let alone less than 6 months, is considered extremely risky for mom & baby, as there are significantly higher rates of preterm birth, low birth weight, placental abruption, uterine rupture, anemia, congenital disorders, stillbirth, infant death, and maternal death.
@@princesslulu5795 not to mention PPD after having children that close together
Additionally to what you and others have said, the paternal grandmother is focused on the family surname being passed down when it's not even the one she was born with! It's her husbands family name, she just changed her name to it when they got married, so why the hell is she so damn obsessed with it?
@@YourShadowKeeper That is a really good point too! 🤔
A mutual baby trap is called an anchor baby: the baby you have to save your sinking relationship
I was an anchor baby. Shit sucked to realize when I was in middle school lmao
They can also be for immigrants to stay in the U.S.
Wow I’m one of these :o
@@abbyz13 Sorry to hear that
@@sarvolkskaya it’s not fair at all for the kids. People should only have kids from a place of love - I think some people don’t realise kids are human people that will become adults, not just a cute little baby to make you happy
My sister was friends with this girl in high school who was breaking up with her boyfriend, so he asked for a “one last time” hook up. She agreed, and he purposely got her pregnant to try and get her to stay with him. They broke up and he doesn’t even see the kid.
Oh. My. God. What a absolute sicko. You’re breaking up, and you think it’s a good idea to be connected to that person forever and have to coparent?!?! Ugh poor gal
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Same girl same
WOW that is seriously so fucked up and even more fucked up that he's now a fucking dead beat and doesn't see the kid!!
I never got why someone would even agree to hooking up one last time, I mean this happens so often that its sad
The story about the girl who's husband didn't want to have sex with her because she gained baby weight... awful
but lol Morgan: "I would never have sex with him again. Take note"
*Justin lifts eyebrow*
But like as a pregnant woman I kinda feel like you aren’t really in the mood for it either
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@@bobraekevelt7953 it always depends on the person, some people have an increased libido during pregnancy and others have a decreased libido.
@@shaniastuart349 thats... wow I didn’t know that, ah well the more you know...
@@bobraekevelt7953 I don't think their talking about sex during pregnancy but after. But completely agree with what you said, I feel so bad for her tho. Can't be good for her health, mental or physical.
I literally laughed OUT LOUD when she said the GF was complaining about how her job wasn't letting her take maternity leave. Last time I checked, you weren't the one actually pregnant or having any babies! 😂 If she was a surrogate or adopting the babies afterward (a case where the bio mom didn't want her baby), that'd be one thing. But, it isn't. This mother wants her babies and is going to raise them herself. SHE'S the one who deserves maternity leave!
YES THIS! in my opinion someone can get maternity or paternity leave If they birth a Baby or taking 100% Care of a Baby after its born
She is clearly not well in the head
I do think that jobs should give adopted parents personal time with their new kids too since adoption doesn't make the child less valid and less in need of bonding
When you said Kim got child endangerment charges I literally said "oooooo, nice!" Talk about a blessing before the kids arrive. The first story just enrages me!
For the mother in law one, I honestly would cut off the grandparents. They were doing this right after they just had a new born and I would hate to see how they would treat the baby girl if they did have son. I love that they are changing the name and she is getting proof.
I would demand child support lol
changing the name is such a power move i am here for it
Absolutely! One thing that wasn't even mentioned, health organizations and physicians try to promote as much as possible to not get pregnant in the first year postpartum because it increases the chance of complications and even miscarriage. Image going through something traumatic as losing your baby, just because your MIL is shallow and crazy...
I found an update and she’s in a bad situation.
“Background: I (21f) am currently a SAHM to a six month old baby girl, and pregnant with our second child. My husband (23m) works, I take care of the house and baby in between school work. Recently, we’ve been getting into it because he seems to feel that because he works, he shouldn’t have to do much of anything else - especially when it comes to the baby. He hasn’t said as much, but it’s his actions that make me feel that way. He comes home, stays up for two or three hours playing his game, and then goes to bed. He doesn’t even change diapers on weekdays, so I have him do all diaper changes over weekends and he still complains. I do all the night wakes, I get her up in the morning when she wakes up because he won’t. So usually I let him sleep until two hours before he has to get ready for work, and then wake him up so he can spend time with the baby and I can get a few things done. Now on to the actual AITA part.
Yesterday morning, I woke up feeling terrible. I was sore all over and kept running to the bathroom to throw up, but I take the baby in the living room like every morning. Baby girl is crawling now and getting into everything, so I was running back and forth between the bathroom to throw up, and to the baby to stop her from killing herself. I couldn’t leave her long enough to get any breakfast either, so by the time my husband’s two hours are up, I’m tired, hungry, and just generally annoyed. I go wake him up, and say, “Baby, please will you get up? I’m really overwhelmed and I need some help.” He grumbles that he’ll be up soon, and then spends another forty minutes in bed. When he finally gets up, he walks into the living room and I come towards him with the baby, and he backs away and says, “I have to poop”, and then goes and sits in the bathroom for 30 minutes. By this time the baby has gotten fussy, and I’m having trouble controlling her as she writhes in my arms. The last straw was when she dumped my coffee into my lap. I put her down and went banging on the bathroom door. I told my husband to get the fuck out of the bathroom NOW. He comes out looking lost like he’s just innocent and hasn’t done anything, and I just lay into him. I tell him I’m overwhelmed and I need a break from the baby sometimes since I have her 24/7 and I’m asking him for that help and he’s not listening or trying to help me. In my frustration I yelled, “This is exactly why people shake the fuck out of their kids! I’m telling you I need help and I’m becoming frustrated and you’re not giving me the support I need.”
Well he got pissed off and accused me of threatening to hurt our daughter out of frustration which isn’t what I was saying at all. AITA for making that statement?”
When she has the second baby the situation will be worse. The shit ass lazy husband needs to man up and take care of the baby. After all he did help make her. If she goes into depression there really is no telling what she might do out of desperation, frustration and anger.
This post was a year ago & I’ve found no other posts or updates. I feel so sorry for her.
Her family is in another state and she’s still at odds w MIL.
My wife had PPD and I was as involved as much as possible. It’s not nice at all and I’d she’s already this frustrated I’m scared for her and the baby/babies.
Here’s the post if you want to read more of her comments.
www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/dsfx3h/aita_for_snapping_on_my_husband_and_telling_him/
@@Shawn-rq4py damn thats dark... The husband needs to man up 🙈 the poor wife can see the depression coming and still does everything
That poor last woman who’s husband didn’t find her attractive, she needs to leave him because her life and looks should not have to be changed in order to make him want to be attracted to you
Completely agree!!!
that poor woman almost seemed like it was normal for him to treat her like that, I wonder how many other ways he was sh--y towards her :(
Can we all have a laugh though.. the sister + sister + jacob story .. he bullied her relentlessly over her period accident and several years later NEEDED her reproductive system to have a baby. What goes around really comes around
I know a couple from the church I used to attend as a kid who were in an incredibly toxic marriage. They had two kids, an elder daughter and a son my age. They always argued and then one day when I was around 16 my mom told me that the mom got pregnant after her husband threatened divorce and after she have birth they shoved the boy off onto their older kids to raise. Apparently the marriage got better for a couple years until a few years back they got into another argument, brink of divorce, he was threatening to leave her and she suddenly bore twins. They again shoved the twins off onto their eldest kids to raise. Mind you the oldest daughter is currently married with two babies of her own and the eldwst son also has a kid of his own and his own marriage.
Like damn, imagine having such immature parents
Wow it's like you would definitely want to cut them off but at the same time then you wouldn't see your siblings and who knows how they would be treated by the parents then 🥺 Thats such a shitty situation
At that point, I hope the eldest daughter takes them to court and get custody. Definitely would change their tone and prevent them from trying to use their kids as a weapon against her by taking them back if she did something they didn't like.
I had an unplanned pregnancy and found adoptive parents very early on so I was basically a surrogate. I was invited to the baby shower and the mother even cut the umbilical cord. I couldn’t imagine having an experience like the first story !
I bet you Kim, joe and the mom disliked this video
For real 🥺
Kim disliked it from Joes account lol
@@ShanaLawson 😂😂😂
So he bullied her for being able to have kids but now he wants her to have his.. 😂 oh hell no
Regarding the second story, I can't imagine having a loooooong-term relaitionship, being engaged, and not being on the same page after all that time or not accepting your partner to not be on the same page. Disgusting
I think they did talk about it and decided on doing it later in life. But I kinda think the guy must've thought at that time that she'll come through and "get over it". He probably thought he'd get his way and he could convince her; which is also SO TOXIC. Such an ass
@@ClySaga yes, exactly! Not the way to be in a long-term relationship, though… It’s all about taking decisions together, especially those that completely change both lives 😅😂
It’s ridiculous. My sister and her husband have been married for nearly 10 and have been together longer and just now had their first kid because my sister wasn’t ready. It’s not that hard to wait if one of the partners isn’t ready.
When my aunt was 20, she booked to go traveling round the world with her friend. She was with a guy who she didn't see a future with so told him she was going to be traveling for a year & that she'd loved the time spent together over the last few months, but she didn't see a future together. He seemed cool with it but asked if they could still be together up until the day of her flight, she agreed 🤦🏻♀️. This man hid my aunt's birth control & when questioned said not to worry because we could just use condoms....lo and behold, 5-6 months into my aunt's trip around the world she is not feeling great! (She's in New Zealand at this point, we live in the UK) She gets a scan done & obviously she's pregnant. Her & her friend cut the trip short & come home to have a very messy & complicated birth where my cousin had to cut out as soon as possible (3 months premature), which nearly killed my aunt & my cousin. She's now been stuck with this absolute piece of turd of a man for 23 years....& tbh I could make a book with all of the shady, awful things he's done since then, but she hasn't left him because of my cousin 🤦🏻♀️😤
Bruh this is so sad
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Thank you!
The story with the partner getting pregnant on purpose and then tearfully admitting it to the OP... his story is well written and seems mature, you both said basically how awesome he seems.
I defs think there is WAY more to the story like Justin mentions.
For the story on the crazy step mom trying to take over parenting of the unborn twins: horror movie based on a true story.
Also... if the guy was parent trapping then whose to say he didn't just snip the condom? Like the next story.
Scary stuff 😨
This happened to me. Got pregnant by my brothers friend after “sex” when I was blackout. My brother was the first person I told and he told me to not tell his friend because he’s been trying to get someone pregnant for welfare money. Well I did I’m dumb and I thought we were like family. He tried to propose, I declined. I tried to adopt her out with his permission and he tried to use the situation to take her once my right were signed away. I never signed anything before him and kept my baby. He constantly tried to get me to leave her with him, “I know you don’t want to be a mom, I got this, go live your life.” Um no. When that didn’t work he tried to get me to sign papers saying he had her the majority of the time because he needed it for “WIC” but was really trying to collect welfare and file for child support against me. Sadly my family kicked me out and supported him through everything. My priority has always been to my daughter and I’ve learned to not be the nice guy trying not to stir the pot in order to protect her.
Watch out for men like this. They’ll try to take whatever they can, however they need to from you just so they don’t have to work. If he put all that work into himself instead of schemes he probably would have already been married with kids rather than sleeping on my grandmas couch
THIS IS INSANE ?????
When you blacked out? Thats rape. His ass can go ti jail
@@Telly5strartist In a perfect world maybe but have you seen Americas Justice system?
@@NappingprettyASMR But isn’t that life 😅
Why was your brother friends with someone who assaults black out people? Your brother needs to assess his friendships. He should not be supporting people like that
It’s actually extremely common for a man to change his behaviour once he feels ownership over you- wether that’s engagement, marriage or first pregnancy/child
Average weight for a 20 year old is 170 pounds... Average weight for a 15 year old though is 120 pounds... who raised this man to think that's okay
Seriously. No wonder why his family was so disappointed and arranged an intervention!
Right 120 is so less
My issue here is there isn’t a real average based on age, as healthy weight fluctuates based on one’s height, and what the weight is comprised of ofc
please make a part 2😭 these are so good
This may have to be a recurring theme 🙈 !!
@@TwoHotTakes I’m begging you to 😂
@@TwoHotTakes yes these are awful but sooo interesting
My baby bad baby trapped me. He admitted that he thought if he got me pregnant I wouldn’t leave him if he went to prison (he was in some trouble at the time) And he knew I wouldn’t get an abortion. The kicker is being pregnant made me more responsible and made me not wanna be with someone that didn’t have their life together or wasn’t trying to. So I ended up leaving him. But my son saved my life so I’m actually very grateful. I was in active addiction when I got pregnant, and when I found out I was pregnant that was what I needed to get clean.
Good work being a better person for you and your child!
WOW
Congratulations on being clean ❤ that's not an easy bridge to cross, and I'm glad you found strength in your child and hope that you two are continuing to live a blessed life as you most definitely deserve ❤️
These podcasts are SO binge-able! They are amazing to have on while working, thank you for helping me get through the work day!!
First girl- please document EVERYTHING . Use it in your case . I’m sorry you’re going through that BS .
My most recent ex tried to baby trap me! I had the Nuvaring and he’d pull it out without telling me. I was LIVID and his response is “but we’d have such pretty babies” 🤮
That's horrific. Good thing you got out there, it definitely would have only gotten worse.
That's an immediate breakup, smear his name in your social group and online, and go to the police to file a complaint.
Definitely make it public but not to punish him (as lots of people don't want to deal with that drama and that's ok. It's also ok if you do want revenge or punishment) but to hopefully protect anyone else from having it happen to them.
Certainly file a report and try to have a conversation with them first to get proof if you can stomach it. Like pretend that you're maybe willing to get back together but you want them to apologize and promise never to fuck with their birth control or protection again without consent
I’m sorry, what??? How the heck did he take it out without telling you????
@@everleighxoxox I'm pretty sure the thing she's talking about is just a flexible ring that you shove in there and it releases hormones to be the birth control and you change it after so long. So I imagine he pulled it out during a sexual encounter
The surrogate story reminds me of my dad’s “girlfriend” he’s had for the last 10 years. She would always try to bash my mom and act like she was gonna adopt us but she was/is legit psychotic
Okay you need to marry this man. He seems like such a level headed, compassionate man. I love your content!
This one was a roller coaster for sure! Like wow I feel for these people going through these situations and it must be so freaking hard. Wow wow wow
That was me the whole time reading these stories.. "wow wow wow"
@@TwoHotTakes lol who needs an amusement park or a VR to enjoy a rollercoaster. Just read some Reddit stories 😀👍🏼
So I dated a guy that constantly had condoms "rip" or would tell me he "forgot" to pull out and after going through 6 plan b pills in two weeks, I went to the doc and got the bar implanted in my arm so he couldn't tamper with it. Should've dumped him sooner than I did but I do think the implant saved my ass in the end
6 plan B pills in 2 weeks?? Girl I am so glad you are rid of him. You deserve better
@@rachelprice324 yea the effects that has on your body is insane and I can't say I recommend it.
That is awful! I've had two breaks (100% due to inadequate lubrication/ maybe the condom fell off one time) and had to use plan B twice and it was really rough. The period afterward feels like a punishment. We use enough lube now and I am so happy not to be sending him off to the pharmacy (may I note he was always back within the hour).
It sounds like he was banking on you tiring of taking plan B and deciding to take the risk.
I have to say, though, it is so crazy you had to take plan B and still wanted to have sex that often. I was so irritable about it. 'Why didn't you check it!! How did you let it fall off!' That's a week right there, not interested sir.
Also, forgot? He has never forgot. I never rely on pulling out when I am 'fertile' and still he never forgets. Maybe he'll be asking me to skip it but either I'll say no (and we are using a condom now) or I'm not fertile so it's fine (we will check it right then) but a bad habit// crazy low chance of actually being risky.
Never been pregnant and not able to use hormonal birth control that safely apparently because I have migraines.
bro wtf
HOW DO YOU HAVE LESS THAN 1k VIEWS @ 9 HOURS!? I love your channel. You deserve more views and hype
Still new kiddos on the block! Thank you for the love!!
My bf and I had an oopsie and we have a 14 month old together and have been together just over 2 years. Its definitely put a huge strain on our relationship. We have had to learn to parent together while working on our relationship. I wont ever understand why people think having a baby will keep someone.
Does he not understand that some babies are like 10lbs at birth?
Also, they treat pregnant women like crap in general, more so if you are overweight or poc.
My best friend is 5'3 and tiny (she's a runner). Her first baby, a little girl, was just shy of 11 lbs. It was insane, and she ended up having an emergency c section. Her second baby, a son, was just over 9 lbs, so still big but significantly smaller than his sister. She exclaimed how relieved she was about the smaller baby to her nurses and they all thought she was nuts to think that was small until she explained how big her daughter was. 😂
I, on the other hand, am much taller and heavier, and I haven't had children yet but if/when I do I'm really nervous about it because I have other health issues having nothing to do with my weight but I know I'll probably be treated differently either way.
@@BreeS-zd5rxI got you beat by 1lb.... my friend's kid was just 2oz shy of 13lbs. 🤣🤣🤣
Latina nursing student here. Yes those statistics are scary and also part of why I’m terrified of childbirth 😅
Love your channel for the drama and random medical facts ❤️
When I was 2 or 3 my dad met a woman that absolutely fell in love with me and tried to be my mom sooooo hard. She even technically kidnapped me by taking me out of the state to Disney world (without my older sibling who she hated) for multiple days and didn’t tell my actual mom. She gave me everything. In her house my room was the master with a jacuzzi tub, she took me shopping constantly and threw away all the things my actual mom bought for me and replaced them. Even though I was so young I knew something was weird about it. She was over the top obsessed 😯
I need to know what happened after. Any cops called no contact!
Omg, and what happened later? Or throughout the years?
The story of the woman who got pregnant 3 months postpartum literally made me tear up. My mother had five kids including me and we're all 2 years apart and I'm the oldest. She told me that after she had the third child, (my brother) it was *miserable* so I can't imagine having an infant while also being pregnant, and then once the second child is born how it would be having two tiny children. My heart goes out to her.
12 years is a very long time I would think since they had agreed on starting trying a year later that they had gone through this conversation. In my opinion there’s good reason why he’s naturally not so angry.
For the first story, OMG! It’s really really not a good idea to have a home birth with twins!!!!!!! One twin could flip at the last second into an unsafe position and then you need a C-section.
Even with 1 you may need a C-section. Thank you son. 🤦🏻♀️
The one with the creepy stepmom sounds like a lifetime movie waiting to happen. She's gonna invite OP over for a tea and chat and then run her off the road and take the babies out of her. Or, in the middle of the night, someone is gonna catch her trying to breastfeed the babies.
No overnight visits and limited supervised visitation. Sorry Dad, but you're attached to a creep so no 🙅♀️
saw a clip on tiktok and now I'm hooked! Morgan sounds like Shailene Woodley
Thank you!!! I couldn’t figure out who she sounded like for so long! It’s totally Shailene Woodley
she reminds me so much of BrookeAB the streamer ?
My god, you're right. I couldn't place it!!!
You guys look like an amazing couple, you're so cute! Loved the episode, I love how I always find myself aggreeing with you Morgan!
Ahh thank you ❤️ he's a keeper. Hahah I'm glad because sometimes I'm like "oh shit did I just say that?!"
yeah i am watching like damn i need a friend like her. I just keep agreeing with you a looot.
@@mlskksl Same!!
the story about being a surrogate for OP's sister and OP's bully: it's funny how the bully made fun of OP for having a period but having to face the whole situation.
what I don’t understand is, OP said that the girlfriend has issues with fertility. She did not say that she was in fertile, so she could have gotten in vitro, found her own surrogate, or potentially even got pregnant herself! I tried to get pregnant for about five years, and I met so many women who initially said that they were infertile who ended up getting pregnant, naturally, after they decided to give them selves a break and not try so hard. Some thing about removing stress from your life makes you so much more fertile! Anyway, it’s not like this is her only chance.
She would have to pay for fertility treatment or surrogate.
Bullying really changes people. I used to be a nice , shy, friendly, and happier kid. I had many friends. I was made front of in 5th - 9th. After 7th grade I started to become colder and not as friendly of fear of being made front of. She would always make it seem she was a victim and was better than us. In 9th I was bullied by same girl and cried . After that I wasn’t friendly and told her I didn’t like her. I was more shy and anti social to people and stayed with same group of friends through high school. I’m in 11th now. I moved schools still hate her and blocked her on insta .
I don't know how many times I came back to this episode but I'm LIVING for your "she has problems, for sure" in the first Story.
Thank u Morgan for sharing ur bullying story. Honestly, it was like hearing my life story told to me. I had girls bully me to the point of self harm thoughts flooding my head every day in middle school and high school. Going to college changed my life. Though I did slip back my second senior year, I was finally able to crawl myself back into a good place. Talking about how bad I truly got has always been nearly impossible for me. Thank u so much for sharing. I think hearing u talk about ur story has finally given me the confidence to tell my family what happened to me back then. For those who r concern, I did get help and I’m on antidepressant. I haven’t had a true suicidal thought in five years!
1:05:00 Bullying really does stick with you forever. I was bullied all throughout my school years and it absolutely ruined my school experience. I got kicked out of middle school and high school for skipping classes due to being bullied. The worst part is that I told everyone I could and no teachers or principals got involved until my friend started threatening my bullies, and I was the one in trouble for that.
sorry to hear about that hope your doing great 💕
Why my pregnant self listing to this with all these crazy scenarios. Lawd, 1 I would've murdered Kim. 2 the man who wife lied he is an amazing man. 3 I'm glad my in-law have no say or can have any impact on my personal life. Sis in law should've said something as well but she redeemed herself as well a bit. 4 The friend wasn't wrong saying no to surrogacy. She isn't the reason why her friend can't have kids she can always adopt. 5 that husband is an idiot and the sisters did the right thing. Embarrass him for his nonsense.
What makes it worse is 4. It’s her half sister they’re just not close so they act more like friends
Just want to say how much I adore Morgan. Fellow Minnesotan here. Keep it up with the pod !
Love have our fellow Minnesotans join ❤️ thanks for the support!!
More women go through that with men not wanting to be intimate with them because they gained pounds. They aren’t just as open about it.
For the man who's wife of 14 years baby trapped. I think they need counselling for why she couldn't come to him and the broken trust and I think they'll be fine. Actually savable. The one with the grandmother poking holes! The changing the name is genius! The woman who got mad that her friend wouldn't be her surrogate is beyond entitled! She should reply, no, get over it!
As a note on birth control - a copper IUD is a great option for some people who can’t take hormonal birth control. May not be for everyone, doctors know best, but your partner/their moms/etc. can’t tamper with it!
are you speaking from experience? what’s it like i’ve been wanting to look into it!!
I personally HATE mine but had to get off hormonal birth control. And now? Not a chance in hell I'm getting rid of the most effective bc on the market, no matter how bad my periods got!
I'm an Irish twin! My mom also got pregnant with my little brother around 3 months postpartum! It was really HARD on her to feed two babies as well as herself.
The two hot takes is my favourite podcast. It gets me through my trips to work on the bus
Never stop 💖
My parents divorced and I lived with my dad and stepmother. I had no idea how much drama there was until I was an adult. As a kid, I thought everyone got along and liked each other. I will always have so much respect for both sets of parents for putting their pettiness aside to make sure I had a good relationship with everyone.
Babies are amplifiers. If there’s love, joy, and respect it will times it by 10. If there’s distrust, resentment, and disrespect it will times it by 10.
I'm glad I found this channel because its engaging and long enough to put in the background while I'm cleaning.
Thanks, I appreciate it.
Yeah… this brought me back to the situation my sister went through. Although I would never tell my 9 year old niece this, when my sister was 17 she and her boyfriend were experiencing relationship problems after he took her car out for a beer run with a friend that was old enough to get it. Basically when my sister woke up the next morning to get Starbucks for a hang over cure, she found her almost brand new ford fiesta hatchback in horrible condition. All four of the tires were torn apart and the rims were rubbed horribly, because of this the paint on the doors and lower part of her car was scratched.. she was extremely upset but he just told her his parents would pay for it because they are extremely rich. Though it did end up getting fixed like new, there was tension in the relationship and he must have known she was going to break things off because only a few weeks later, she found out she was pregnant. No one really suspected anything until my sisters friend Jessica found their box of condoms and asked if she could take them since Chelsea no longer needed them. Later on she opened the box for use but low and behold, they were all punctured with tiny holes in them. Nine years later he’s in prison for drugs and theft and doesn’t seem to care for my niece at all, only that Chelsea send him money and he hopes they’ll get back together one day. This is heartbreaking because Bonnie is an extremely sharp and talented child. Not that he would know this but she just got accepted to the fine arts school my sister and I went to and is also moving her way up to be a competitive skater. Luckily my sweet niece has a new baby brother stepdad Josh who has treated her as his own since she was a toddler and is now working on adopting her so that she can take his name.
Okay, so for the story about the wife lying about taking birth control, I 100% believe that woman had an outside person talking in her ear about this and talking negatively about her life. Her choice is her own, but her reaction to the deceit she did was weird, especially with how strong their relationship is.
Yeah I don't know that she did it to babytrap the husband given her reaction. Tbh what I kind of thought was that the wife ran out of birth control or smth or realized the birth control was messing with her mental state and couldn't be bothered to take them anymore, thinking that since they never had a scare before, "how easy could it be to get pregnant". Given her reaction I almost think she's the one not ready to have a child, that's why she needed so much confirmation from the husband and ended up telling him anyway
This poor girl. Betrayed by her own MIL! Thankfully she has her husband’s support! And changing the last name is gold!
Your show brings me so much comfort, I can’t even describe it.
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Thank you!!!
I am not the person to comment on you tube but I want to say this is spot on! I just been rewatching this episode. I love your channel and I like how you guys dig deep into these things. I am starting to work on blogging about social justice issues and I think this brings up the issue regarding consent and how reproductive rights affect men as well. Some of these situations are completely insane. However, I can validate that these things happen in relationships especially when people are not on the same page about this. You brought up a really good point about how it can be hard to leave someone your already invested in and been with for a long time, so it does make sense why people do this kind of thing. I am not saying this is ever justified and I agree with your point about either being on the same page or reevaluating the relationship. This speaks to my personal experience because I been in a long-term relationship with someone who wasn't on the same page. The only thing was that I never and still never want to have kids, but he never really had a stance. We were both young but did mention that he may expect children in the future. This isn't something you really discuss at the beginning of the relationship especially in college or high school and people do change. Now that I am single and older it's something I want to know right away. I agree that it's important that couples are on the same page about whether not to have children and every situation is different. I think there are people who may want children but okay having partner who doesn't but there are others where this may be a deal breaker. Regardless it is never okay to manipulate someone into having children without their consent. Another thing I got out of this is that this is not considered a crime and I think that is messed up. I did, however, get to thinking that is this different when women do this compared to men. As much as its terrible thing for anyone to do regardless of their gender and sex at least men don't have to carry the child like the women would unless they have access to abortion. You brought up a good point about how it's wrong for either partner in a relationship to make huge decisions without partner's consent. This also got me thinking about what if the case was the opposite. I would love to hear your thoughts and opinions on cases when the partner gets sterilized without the other persons consent or maybe the women decide to go on birth control when the other person is not okay with it. Do you see those situations different from baby trapping? Also do you think that there are certain decisions that person should be able to make without the other persons input but having a baby is not one of them? Anyways love to know your thoughts.
If I were the girlfriend who can't get pregnant and this happened I would have a chat with the mom. Tell her I'd love to be as much involved as she will allow. Offer to help. Throw HER a shower if she was okay with it.
As for the holes in condoms; it’s not so much as for the sperm to get through the hole but in the hopes it will split at or near the moment of ejaculation so they don’t work at all and he could say it just broke and he didn’t realize it. And her saying that they had split it seems that’s what he wanted to happen.
If it doesn’t split on its own like with normal or even w rough sex he can manipulate the split by hand w o her knowledge.
Either way he had no regard for her feelings not only because she didn’t want kids right now but for hiding the pills as if it was her problem or her fault they were gone.
It’s emotional manipulation, emotional abuse and actual physical abuse.
They have never said it directly but I know my in laws are not happy we had two daughters. They are HUGE on the whole “carrying on the family name” thing.
DON'T (!!!) take a shot everytime Morgan says "at the end of the day ..." cuz you will have alcohol poisoning. Lol
😂 I’ve been better though right?!
I just went and got a vasectomy on Friday I can confirm it was so clean and easy. Also its not entirely reverse able theres only a 75% chance a reversing will work. Theres also a 1% chance you have terrible testicular pain for the rest of your life that can potentially be fixed but no guarantees
But honestly you're in and out within an hour ur testicle hurt bout as much as like a light squeeze it dies hurt for a day to laugh or cough
The hard part is finding a doctor that will do it if ur under 35 with no kids
This! Vasectomies are a great option for guys who want PERMANENT birth control. It should not be done if a guy thinks he might want kids one day. Spent some time getting treatment for male factor infertility, and fully half of the patients seeing my husband’s Urology/Andrology specialist were post-reversal, and were now severely infertile. Like, digging around in the testicle for a single viable sperm infertile. The longer the time between the vasectomy and the reversal, the lower the chances of the reversal restoring normal fertility. I’m all for men taking their half of the responsibility for birth control, but advertising vasectomy to be anything but permanent is not it.
the first story is so scary. what do they think this is sims? you don't just have twins and then give one to your ex and his psycho girlfriend and call it a day. they arent objects and shes not a surrogate.
Women keep weight on after birth because it’s the bodies way of making sure there’s enough to keep the baby alive for two years, the minimum you would breastfeed. Sad that woman are plagued by the thought of extra weight
There is no minimum that a woman should breast feed anymore than there is a maximum. I breast fed for six months because I stopped producing enough after that. Shut up please.
im an irish twin! i know its not relevant but i will say having a sister so close in age was incredible growing up it was hard in someways but i loved it, its like having a twin and a bestfriend built in growing up you always have a companion
“There’s a third party involved in this one” MOTHER IN LAW!!! IT’S ALWAYS THE MOTHER IN LAW
lol as Morgan was talking about how she doesn't know how people with kids do it I was listening while I was washing dishes with my newborn (5th child) strapped to my chest.
Super human
I have never wanted an update on a story so much in my life. I desperately need to know that this mother and her twin babies is ok.
Dude wtf!! Something similar happened to me , when I found out I was pregnant I was extremely depressed bc at the time I was going through financial issues and had to live with my mother in law , my husband's sister is around our age she's 24 and at the time I was 19 , I felt comfortable telling her that I wasn't to happy about this pregnancy and that I felt my life was over she then went to say "give me the baby and leave " right after that conversation I found out she had told the WHOLE family that she was gonna take care of the baby and that I had agreed to give her the baby !! Fast forward I had my baby and live 1hour away from my SIL and MIL and they would get so offended bc I never brought my baby around and even told my husband to take my baby away from me :(
All the stories were great and so interesting!!
Morgan sounds just like Shailene Woolley when she talks and laughs 😍
This is literally the second time i watched it, and I’m watching it like I’m seeing it for the first time
Lol first story reminds me of my own situation. Baby daddy cheated on his gf w me- I didn’t know until after- and I got pregnant. His gf thought she had infertility issues, and wanted to adopt my kid. It was a whole back and forth- she got mad I wouldn’t let her be a part of the pregnancy etc etc. he still with her 2 years later and they had their own baby and live across the country from me 🤗
I can meet someone for the 1st time and not being attracted to them at all, but if they have a great personality and basically on the same page about things, and he does things that make me admire him the attraction builds.
Btw love how the decorations change every episode - different vibes every time 👍🏾
I have fertility issues all I want is a baby so much so where its really affected my mental health and cause my depression to get worsr... cause the one thing I KNOW I was meant to be, was a mom and everyone always tells me id be the best mom because I'm so great with kids im the only person who any of my friends have ever left their newborns with for an extended period of time because I know exactly what needs to be done to care for a child and im great at it (my BFF calls me the baby whisperer cause of how easy caring for children is for me - I moved in with her full time while her husband was deployed to help raise her boys and she always said I was the 3rd parent and she always got mad cause I had such an easy time taking care of them and balancing them when I had them by myself) ....
One thing I can say is it does hurt, my best friend is pregnant with her 3rd child and when she told me i cried tears of joy for her but also tears of sadness for me.... it sucks when you're body won't do the one thing its meant to as a woman,, especially when you know of people who aren't great parents having kids so easily and they can't even stand their own children to the point where they try and pawn them off on everyone else so they don't have to deal with them only to continue having multiple kids.... its the worst feeling in the world knowing God chose (what feels like) everyone in the world to be a parent but you... BUT for as much as it hurts, especially when you see all your close friends and family having kids, it still doesn't mean you have the right to hate someone else for being pregnant..that wasn't Kim's life unfortunately Kim's life was meant to be more complicated than that and her body is what kept her from her perfect ending NOT her man's ex... she needs to realize that and get help both with her mental health and her fertility.
Especially because as someone who KNOWS the pain of wanting a child more than anything and not being able to have one Kim should understand better than anyone what that pain would be like, to take another woman's baby(s) away from her just because you want your own....
I was terrified of being a parent before. Now I have a 6 weeks old. It's hard, yes, but the unconditional love helps going through the tough moments. 😊
I've got my second who's 7 months. My son had been our second super easy, chill baby. He sleeps great and has since he was just three weeks old . It's not always no sleep and being miserable.
What’s crazy to me is that parents don’t talk about the sheer exhaustion, the mental exhaustion of just listening to a kid, and having to be patient and responsive and kind all the time, just having your attention constantly claimed. I absolutely love kids, really wanted to be a mom, and relish my role as gramma, but there are days that I hid from the toddler just so I could read in peace. It’s not necessarily the chores involved, it’s the nonstop nature of the demands. Parenting is exhausting.
100% Unrelated; I read that crazy Reddit story and I remember thinking “relocate before you deliver! Get restraining orders and RUN!” If one crazy person is bombarding you with gaslighting and insanity, it’s hard enough to keep your sense of self, not question yourself, and stay on an even keel in the face of that kind of assault on your mental health.
To have your ex AND his girlfriend AND the mother…this woman is pregnant with twins, apart from the father, hard enough! And she’s being assaulted by so much irrationality and gaslighting, that is just NUTSO! I was so relieved to hear that she moved and took out protective orders! Because…I remember the first time I read of a pregnant woman whose baby was cut out of her belly. The mother was left tied to a tree, disemboweled. The culprit was caught fairly quickly because the baby died. Since then (that was the 80’s) several similar cases have occurred and I would not put it past a person as unbalanced as “Kim” not to try to steal the babies. Horrible story.
Oddly enough my husband thought I was the most attractive when I was pregnant and looked like a beached whale 😆. It was more than just physical though it was the process of me growing our family and he was so adorable with each pregnancy how much told me how I was beautiful. Marriage and relationships have to be more than skin deep.
I’m not justifying what the wife did (because it’s obviously wrong) but Depending on the type of birth control she was on some doctors recommend stopping a year prior to when you’d like to get pregnant because it can be very difficult to get pregnant for a while after some birth control.
I'm actually a baby trap kid it's traumatizing. especially if one parent didn't want you like my dad told my mom to get an abortion and that hurt me for years.
ive been bingeing a lot of episodes, im so invested in these stories bc my life is so boring lmao
I remember learning that a man's genes are the ones that decide the gender of the child in relation to king Henry and his 6 wives. He killed one and divorced another all because they couldn't produce a live male heir. He went as far as to smear the name of Anne Boleyn with lies of adultery and incest. He smeared the name of Katherine Howard with adultery as well, even when it's more likely that not only was she faithful but was instead faced with unwanted advances and was likely assaulted by the man she is accused of adultery with. So in laws can't be upset with her for having a girl.
In the 6th grade I was bullied and that was the first time i started to hate my body, a boy I really liked said I had the body of a 8 year old boy in front of everyone in the hall when we were getting our snacks, to this day I have never ever been happy with my body, throughout high school I got bullied so bad I tried ending my life twice, the school did nothing about it, neither did the cops (there were death threats). To this day I’ve struggled with everything, I remember every little thing my bullies have ever said. And it kills me inside
The only thing I can think in the married couple thing when she stopped taking birth control (and I don’t mean this makes it okay) is that it’s possible that she thought it might take awhile to get pregnant. I had always heard that you had to be off BC for around a year before fertility was consistent. When my husband and I got married as older adults we started right away because we thought it would take a long time. Imagine my surprise when it was basically the first month being off birth control. My sister, same thing - heard it might take a year, got pregnant during the honeymoon.
For the Surrogate story with the crazy gf, I hope she moves to a mother state and have her babies there. So everything will be in her favor and since they were not married she would be the only one to have full custody until court order says other wise. And hopefully the babies have her last name!
Dude the first story reminds me of all the true crime cases I’ve seen where pregnant women were targeted by random strangers and even their best friends to be attack, cut open and their baby stolen. When I was pregnant I was fucking TERRIFIED first of miscarriage and other health stuff and basically anything that could go wrong with baby or me during pregnancy and birth and then again of the fact that pregnant women are at a higher risk to be murdered. The statistics are scary and then there are fools out here literally stealing people from inside their Moms. What the fucking fuck! 😱😱😱😳