If you're gonna plan a destination wedding, set aside a ton of cash, charter a private plane, and take the wedding party and guests with you. Otherwise, don't expect people to attend.
I feel like the issue for her is more so that he says he just doesn’t want to go like I understand not being able to afford it but being like “well it’s not what I want so I don’t want to be part of it” is so selfish
All i know is if that was my daughter and i got 17 months prior warning, i would save $60 a month. This is her day which only happens once ( in theory) and i would want to help her fullfill her dream. I thought thats what any parent would want.
On one hand it’s their choice to have their wedding where ever they want however they want and to inform their guests of the details. On the other hand don’t expect people to say yes if they feel they can’t go no matter the circumstances. Because if you have a set criteria on how much it’s going to cost them then don’t be surprised if they can’t make it.
If I were having a destination wedding I would expect very few people to be able to afford it even with a two years notice $1500 is a lot of money to most people
She forgets it’s virtually forcing them to have a vacation where they think they should go. The fact that she’s even telling them how to save up for it is pretty rude. She’s telling them how to spend their money. You want one then contribute to the expenses
Saving $62.50 cents a month for a wedding over two year period is not unreasonable on paper.. but the choice should still be left up to guests if they want to come.
This is her wedding. She gave people a lot of time to decide & plan. If people don't want to come because of the time & money so be it, but her father? How dare he. He spends money with other travel. There is more behind this and obviously he does not care enough, so wash your hands of him.
She knew how this would play out....She wants to keep using him to pay ridiculous money, so since she decided to do it her way and had zero regard for anyone's financial situation, because LIFE happens and folk have to handle business in the real world, she can enjoy her wedding on her terms, and they'll see her when she gets back. Her wedding, her choice....Their finances, their choice, too easy. And he can take vacation whenever he wants to, he actually LABORED to be able to do so, something SHE needs to learn how to respect.
I hate destination weddings it's so extremely rude and puts loved ones and close friends in a terrible situation! Isn't it about having a wedding with family and friends in the eyes of God and the honeymoon is for traveling! This seems reasonable to me not putting everyone in a situation???
"Hey, we gave you plenty of time to save up and spend the equivalent of months of rent or a car on me and not on rent - I'm so hurt you won't pour YOUR money into MY wants!!" Ugh.
I think everyone missed the point of showing the segment to this family. Yes is it selfish to expect people to save money and be able to go far away and are they right that they could have had a beautiful wedding near their family and friends. Dr phil was showing this father the flaw in his thinking. He's willing to spend thousands and thousands on someone he barely knows for a long distance relationship but it's offensive to his sensibilities to spend less than he has on that for his daughters wedding. That doesn't make sense and his excuse of I don't have the money is just that a excuse. He's mad they didn't pick where he thought the wedding should be so he doesn't want to go. It's simple as that. Yes I would never spend this amount of money on my own wedding or others. My husband and I saved up for our future for a year and because of savings we already had built I was able to contribute 10,000 on our wedding and he had 10,000 for the down payment of our first condo. I much rather do that then not be able to have half my family at the wedding and we still had a beautiful day. It was perfect. I never will understand when people spends so much on a wedding but I also don't understand why a father would choose to spend thousands on a romantic relationship but not on a wedding with his daughter. Both of their priorities are on the wrong thing.
I would too. It’s selfish of her to force them to go to go to another country and have to save up for months. If she wants it there, have a commitment ceremony here and have it there. That’s way more money than they’d spend on clothes and gifts. It’s a passport (if they don’t have one), tickets, accomodation, meals while they’re there, other expenses, etc. it’s like forcing them to have the holiday THEY want to have. If they’re so intent on going, YOU pay for their air fares and accommodation
I wouldn't want my kid to do a destination wedding. Plus, many divorces often quickly follow those who squander their future on expensive things. Still I'd give them the benefit of the doubt and go.
Destination weddings are quite selfish, in my opinion. Thinking that you are so important and entitled that people are required to drop hundreds if not thousands of dollars to travel to a place they don't want to go for the sole purpose of watching you get married. It really is amazing.
it ended up costing us over $4,000 to go to my husbands brothers wedding, after a required 7 day cruise because their ceremony was in the middle of it. He and I got married 2 years later...they didn't even send a fkn card! Needless to say, I WON'T be going to anything else.
If you are planning a destination wedding you must not want people to come. I wouldn't care if you were friendly. Would he be at your wedding if you had it locally? If so then you can't be made at him for not wanting to spend the extra money. The only destination wedding we went to was in Hawaii and it was because we were going there anyway, we just had to change the date of our vacation. You could have ask the question on who would attend before you made your decision.
This question is answered in *EVERY SINGLE VIDEO WHERE THE COMMENTS ARE TURNED ON.* Literally. It's getting real annoying seeing this question asked and answered *ALL THE TIME,* even several times in one video many times. Yeez. Check out the comments before you ask the same annoying question with an answer so *OBIVIOUS,* you don't even have to ask anyone why there are so few comments on these videos where the comments got opened by Dr. Phil's YT-channel. This is not that hard, okay? I never thought any type of comment would be more annoying than "fIRsT".. yet here we are. 🤨😑😑😠
@@hollyharrison1377 Geez. Why do you care so much what I do? Did my comment trigger you? Seems so. I know what can help ease being triggered- have some pills and go to bed! That'll help;)
Just off the title alone, and the general popularity of narcissistic content, I’d guess he’s boycotting his daughter’s happiness to make the whole event of her life about him and to show her and their whole family who is really in control and at the helm of their special day. AmmiRight?
If you think I'm saving my hard earned cash doing long shift to go to a destination. Wedding you are insane. 1500 could buy and run a car, pay for winter fuel etc.
Honestly it’s all crazy Destination wedding guests pay to attend for 1500 for a week long resort vacation At home couple pays 5-10k to entertain everyone for 1 night in exchange for toasters and new towels Pick your poison lol
No it’s selfish to tell them how to spend and save their money. She’s an awful person for forcing them to go on her honeymoon. Wedding’s arent for travel. Honeymoons are
i mean i wouldn't go either if you really want him there marry him at home so everyone doesn't have to waste money on a marriage that probably wont last anyway what's the point..
She’s entitled to have her wedding wherever she wants it. She notified them 2 years ago which gives them enough time! if they care about her they’d find a way to go
@@jeanroger4738 it isn’t pocket change it she told them years prior to save for it. Her family seem to feed off the drama, it’s a wedding who would want drama there? You’d push that aside
@@laurenjankulovski62, don't tell me what to save for. I will save for whatever I want. I worked for my money, you have no say in how I save or spend it.
But she doesn’t consider they may have to save up money while paying off debts, other expenses etc. That’s very selfish to say, I want you to pay x amount on my wedding and I’m giving you this timeframe to do it. 1500 is a lot of money to have a holiday wheee the couple want to have not necessarily where they want to have. There’s also the time off work, the other expenses they’ll have while there, possibly trying to get care for children, animals, a destination they don’t necessarily want to go to and be stuck at for a week, for something that they’ll be a part of for a few hours. If she said I want this for my wedding present it’s 1,500 bucks, I’m giving you this long to save for it it’s just as rude. It’s way more than people would pay on a regular wedding. If she’s so intent then she can pay for it. If not, don’t be so offended by the fact it’s a lot of money to ask and they can’t do it. She’s even telling them how to save for it. $60 a month is a lot. A lot of people don’t get cable because of that
The problem with this family is the drama and lack of empathy. Weddings are stressful, regardless of the destination. A million decisions are put on the bride and groom’s shoulders, and any one decision could infuriate a family member. This drama would have come up at any location, even if it was being held in the bride’s backyard. As close family, given 2 years notice, they are not at all obligated to attend. But watching your sister/daughter get married is a one in a lifetime moment, and there is irretrievable damage done by not attending.
If you're gonna plan a destination wedding, set aside a ton of cash, charter a private plane, and take the wedding party and guests with you. Otherwise, don't expect people to attend.
It's kind of ridiculous to expect someone to spend a huge amount of money just for your wedding. $1500 is a huge amount of money. So entitled.
I feel like the issue for her is more so that he says he just doesn’t want to go like I understand not being able to afford it but being like “well it’s not what I want so I don’t want to be part of it” is so selfish
@@ansleigh81 she’s telling them that they have to save for it for over a year. If she wants it there, then she pays for them to come
All i know is if that was my daughter and i got 17 months prior warning, i would save $60 a month. This is her day which only happens once ( in theory) and i would want to help her fullfill her dream. I thought thats what any parent would want.
@@kehindeemiabata4032 if she really cares she’d offer to pay for them. It’s selfish
This man is ridiculous. Willing to spend thousands on women who just want his money but unwilling to go to his daughters wedding.
I missed two destinations weddings as i couldn't afford it. Perhaps the bride and groom could offer to pay?
She's toooo entitled
If they're not paying for travel and lodging expenses then don't get upset if I can't afford to go to your fancy destination wedding. How pretentious.
On one hand it’s their choice to have their wedding where ever they want however they want and to inform their guests of the details. On the other hand don’t expect people to say yes if they feel they can’t go no matter the circumstances. Because if you have a set criteria on how much it’s going to cost them then don’t be surprised if they can’t make it.
Destination weddings are fine IF you plan to pay for EVERYONE’S travel costs as well as accommodations while there. What a waste of money.
I agree! Destination weddings are expensive and you should be prepared for that
Yeah. Or if all your friends are rich.
To paraphrase : “ _We gave you plenty of time to save thousands to come to our wedding so what are you complaining about_ !”
*Unbelievable* …
If I were having a destination wedding I would expect very few people to be able to afford it even with a two years notice $1500 is a lot of money to most people
That's a month of rent for me!
A 1500 $ entry fee for a wedding (because that's what is essentially is). Are you kidding me ?
She forgets it’s virtually forcing them to have a vacation where they think they should go. The fact that she’s even telling them how to save up for it is pretty rude. She’s telling them how to spend their money. You want one then contribute to the expenses
There's a few nice tropical beaches in the USA that will give the same exact vibe.
Family or not, no one should have to pay a ton of money to attend a wedding. That's ridiculous. Who cares if he has spent money going to other places.
Anybody having a destination wedding is a narcissist
Not exactly. That’s why less than 20 people usually come.
Guess I’m a narcissist Bc I’m having a destination wedding
@@jakey7813 congratulations I bet it will be beautiful
It's a great way to save costs on guests.
@@jakey7813 shame on you... jk
so you wanted people to save money just for your wedding?
Or pay credit cards off for months and months.
No, not me. Sorry bride
Saving $62.50 cents a month for a wedding over two year period is not unreasonable on paper.. but the choice should still be left up to guests if they want to come.
I could rack up over $1200 with three months plasma donation twice a week
But you can’t tell someone how to spend/save their money. If my brother asked for $1500 for a wedding present I’d tell him where to go
@@sliat1981 Sorry if things with your bro aren't going as great as you'd like. Big asks don't automatically mean disregard.
@@michaelbyrne5606 they do
This is her wedding. She gave people a lot of time to decide & plan. If people don't want to come because of the time & money so be it, but her father? How dare he. He spends money with other travel. There is more behind this and obviously he does not care enough, so wash your hands of him.
She knew how this would play out....She wants to keep using him to pay ridiculous money, so since she decided to do it her way and had zero regard for anyone's financial situation, because LIFE happens and folk have to handle business in the real world, she can enjoy her wedding on her terms, and they'll see her when she gets back. Her wedding, her choice....Their finances, their choice, too easy. And he can take vacation whenever he wants to, he actually LABORED to be able to do so, something SHE needs to learn how to respect.
I hate destination weddings it's so extremely rude and puts loved ones and close friends in a terrible situation! Isn't it about having a wedding with family and friends in the eyes of God and the honeymoon is for traveling! This seems reasonable to me not putting everyone in a situation???
I hate destination weddings.
Yeah that just seems very snobby!
"Hey, we gave you plenty of time to save up and spend the equivalent of months of rent or a car on me and not on rent - I'm so hurt you won't pour YOUR money into MY wants!!" Ugh.
Why was it such a big deal to not just go to Cancun for their honeymoon?
Because they want everyone to have the holiday they wanted
I think everyone missed the point of showing the segment to this family. Yes is it selfish to expect people to save money and be able to go far away and are they right that they could have had a beautiful wedding near their family and friends. Dr phil was showing this father the flaw in his thinking. He's willing to spend thousands and thousands on someone he barely knows for a long distance relationship but it's offensive to his sensibilities to spend less than he has on that for his daughters wedding. That doesn't make sense and his excuse of I don't have the money is just that a excuse. He's mad they didn't pick where he thought the wedding should be so he doesn't want to go. It's simple as that. Yes I would never spend this amount of money on my own wedding or others. My husband and I saved up for our future for a year and because of savings we already had built I was able to contribute 10,000 on our wedding and he had 10,000 for the down payment of our first condo. I much rather do that then not be able to have half my family at the wedding and we still had a beautiful day. It was perfect. I never will understand when people spends so much on a wedding but I also don't understand why a father would choose to spend thousands on a romantic relationship but not on a wedding with his daughter. Both of their priorities are on the wrong thing.
Totally siding with the sister. The bride could be gracious and realistic but she's just being stubborn.
I agree too!!
The blonde sister is setting real boundaries and standing by them!
I would too. It’s selfish of her to force them to go to go to another country and have to save up for months. If she wants it there, have a commitment ceremony here and have it there. That’s way more money than they’d spend on clothes and gifts. It’s a passport (if they don’t have one), tickets, accomodation, meals while they’re there, other expenses, etc. it’s like forcing them to have the holiday THEY want to have.
If they’re so intent on going, YOU pay for their air fares and accommodation
I wouldn't want my kid to do a destination wedding. Plus, many divorces often quickly follow those who squander their future on expensive things. Still I'd give them the benefit of the doubt and go.
Destination weddings are romantic and dreamy but are they realistic, not so much… you can’t expect that everyone can go or even wants to…
Destination weddings are quite selfish, in my opinion. Thinking that you are so important and entitled that people are required to drop hundreds if not thousands of dollars to travel to a place they don't want to go for the sole purpose of watching you get married. It really is amazing.
We gave you plenty of time to save up 🙄
it ended up costing us over $4,000 to go to my husbands brothers wedding, after a required 7 day cruise because their ceremony was in the middle of it. He and I got married 2 years later...they didn't even send a fkn card! Needless to say, I WON'T be going to anything else.
It’s not selfish, but if we you give people enough time to set money aside and plan it out, or just invite the most important people.
Forced monthly saving for a forced vacation…destination weddings are easy ways to lose friends and family members.
If you are planning a destination wedding you must not want people to come. I wouldn't care if you were friendly. Would he be at your wedding if you had it locally? If so then you can't be made at him for not wanting to spend the extra money. The only destination wedding we went to was in Hawaii and it was because we were going there anyway, we just had to change the date of our vacation. You could have ask the question on who would attend before you made your decision.
Where's the WHOLE STORY
This came out 5 years ago with millions of views! Yet for some reason theres only a few comments?
This question is answered in *EVERY SINGLE VIDEO WHERE THE COMMENTS ARE TURNED ON.* Literally. It's getting real annoying seeing this question asked and answered *ALL THE TIME,* even several times in one video many times. Yeez. Check out the comments before you ask the same annoying question with an answer so *OBIVIOUS,* you don't even have to ask anyone why there are so few comments on these videos where the comments got opened by Dr. Phil's YT-channel.
This is not that hard, okay?
I never thought any type of comment would be more annoying than "fIRsT".. yet here we are. 🤨😑😑😠
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@@idalarsen2540 geeez. Go take a pill and go to bed. Lol
@@hollyharrison1377 Geez. Why do you care so much what I do? Did my comment trigger you? Seems so. I know what can help ease being triggered- have some pills and go to bed! That'll help;)
@@idalarsen2540 lol. How original. Great comeback.
The couple getting married should be paying for everything. How selfish of the couple to want guests to pay for the trip. How selfish.
Just off the title alone, and the general popularity of narcissistic content, I’d guess he’s boycotting his daughter’s happiness to make the whole event of her life about him and to show her and their whole family who is really in control and at the helm of their special day. AmmiRight?
If you think I'm saving my hard earned cash doing long shift to go to a destination. Wedding you are insane. 1500 could buy and run a car, pay for winter fuel etc.
I wouldnt lay out $1500 plus for anybodies wedding......shes nuts
Honestly it’s all crazy
Destination wedding guests pay to attend for 1500 for a week long resort vacation
At home couple pays 5-10k to entertain everyone for 1 night in exchange for toasters and new towels
Pick your poison lol
She seems a bit self involved & entitled.
So it’s selfish to get married at a place someone wants!!!! The sister and father are awful humans
No it’s selfish to tell them how to spend and save their money. She’s an awful person for forcing them to go on her honeymoon. Wedding’s arent for travel. Honeymoons are
i mean i wouldn't go either if you really want him there marry him at home so everyone doesn't have to waste money on a marriage that probably wont last anyway what's the point..
came on tv to argue about this? must be slow at the Dr Phil show
She’s entitled to have her wedding wherever she wants it. She notified them 2 years ago which gives them enough time! if they care about her they’d find a way to go
1500$ isn’t exactly pocket change. I don’t know anyone who could afford it. Especially who would want to spend that money to have a miserable time.
@@jeanroger4738 it isn’t pocket change it she told them years prior to save for it. Her family seem to feed off the drama, it’s a wedding who would want drama there? You’d push that aside
@@laurenjankulovski62, don't tell me what to save for. I will save for whatever I want. I worked for my money, you have no say in how I save or spend it.
But she doesn’t consider they may have to save up money while paying off debts, other expenses etc. That’s very selfish to say, I want you to pay x amount on my wedding and I’m giving you this timeframe to do it. 1500 is a lot of money to have a holiday wheee the couple want to have not necessarily where they want to have. There’s also the time off work, the other expenses they’ll have while there, possibly trying to get care for children, animals, a destination they don’t necessarily want to go to and be stuck at for a week, for something that they’ll be a part of for a few hours.
If she said I want this for my wedding present it’s 1,500 bucks, I’m giving you this long to save for it it’s just as rude. It’s way more than people would pay on a regular wedding. If she’s so intent then she can pay for it. If not, don’t be so offended by the fact it’s a lot of money to ask and they can’t do it. She’s even telling them how to save for it. $60 a month is a lot. A lot of people don’t get cable because of that
The problem with this family is the drama and lack of empathy. Weddings are stressful, regardless of the destination. A million decisions are put on the bride and groom’s shoulders, and any one decision could infuriate a family member.
This drama would have come up at any location, even if it was being held in the bride’s backyard. As close family, given 2 years notice, they are not at all obligated to attend. But watching your sister/daughter get married is a one in a lifetime moment, and there is irretrievable damage done by not attending.
Lot of poor salty people in the comments.
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Y’all really broke talking about $1500 is a lot. You guys need to get off UA-cam and work more if you can’t afford $1500
Rather be broke than a jackass 😘🤡
@@mclovin6039 I wouldn’t 😂😂😂😂 don’t comment at me you punani
Agree
Lol I wouldn’t pay that much for a wedding present. There are blue collar workers out there
If ur father doesn’t come to the wedding ur father doesn’t come toughen up u
Save to your sick wedding