@@flutatious_music4 Believe....bmales hate to see us indigenous (Negros/Blk) women happily single or even divesting and moving forward without being used for our resources by them.
It sounds like she’s miserable trying to understand how to be happy with her own company. Single by choice women are busy living their best life, happy and at peace not even thinking about women who choose to not be single and/or have children. She’s definitely terrified to perish alone.
@@anonnnymousthegreat Exactly! She has nothing without being able to virtue signal to us. Does she ever talk about this husband she apparently has? What makes him so great that she's nourishing her healthiness and happiness? Where IS this man? I need a wellness check at this point as proof, LOL! The fear of dying alone is so weird to me when many people have friends, family, even coworkers who will show up for them in their final moments. Everyone dies alone (unless your partner is dying at the same time as you??? LOL) it's who's there holding your hand when that final breath comes. I keep hearing it's not the man, cause that fool died first, 20 years prior.
But we have relationships we don't have romantic relationships. These lusty people they just don't get that you can control that lust and turn that energy inward and make yourself into a superpower.
She's a married woman, but she's constantly making videos about other women, I honestly don't think she's happy in her marriage. Her husband doesn't spend enough time with her, or giving her enough attention because she's constantly online looking for attention
Ugh! All these mini Pearls. It doesn't make sense to you cause it's not your reality. Why are you so bothered about other women's choices for their own lives? Or is it that you want to be like the women you demean but are worried of how it would look like to the people in your life?
I think that's exactly what it is. She sees happy, healthy Women existing in their wholeness and she can't understand how that's possible b/c she's never done it. Being "whole" for her means being attached to a man- which, ironically, is going to deplete you, 9 times outta 10.
I'm the last "single with no kids" woman among my family n friends. Before I told all of them to kick rocks, I used to get a variation of "something is wrong with you" from all of them. However, most of them are married with a bunch of kids and absolutely miserable. The other half are about to get a divorce, need to get a divorce or are now divorced and bitter, after being married to a man that treated them like garbage. They're jealous, cruel, vindictive, hateful and regretful. They made poor choices, are saddled with the consequence of those choices and are looking for someone to bash, blame and unload on. They wish they had our life, our peace and quiet, our freedom, our joy and profound happiness. That resentment and misery is eating them alive and they're like emotional vampires, trying to suck the joy out of anyone who is single and child free by choice.
My mom is on my back with this trope of you "need"a man. I'm glowing and genuinely happy in my singleness❤. Mind you, every man she has chosen has taken her to hell and back with nothing to show for it.
I Made a comment very similar to yours, but My aunties are not vampires who want me or My counsins to feel miserable too... No, they are víctims of their upbringing... They were socialized to be pick mes ...aka centering men before them... They all are divorce now execpt for one... Only one out of 7 aunties had a good marriage .... Soooooooo is NEVER about women doing the most, is being lucky You had a decent men ... Is a lotery .... And all suggest to Marry , is more like brainwash than anything else. I pity older generation women, cuz most NEVER wake up flr the social conditioning, they die being picks me, trying so hard to get men validation .... My aunt are Nice women... Very sweet, sadly now most all are alone cuz they husbands they decide to pour everything into cheat and leave them. Also they are so brainwashed that most think is TRUE the old old school lie ever told by men... That cheating is a mistake, or that men cheat and is biological, oh boy ... Thats the whole issue there ... Women now know cheating is abuse, disrepected and SOMETHING You domt give second chances to repeat .... Women poor poor conditioned women.... Is not their fault. It takes a Lot of strong Will to not fall into the eternal brainwash women are put since kids, our formative years.
All of this. The number of people that are bothered by my disinterest in being in a relationship is very odd. My happiness makes them feel uncomfortable. Mind the business they pay pays you! Please and thank you 💅🏽
Sis sounds insecure af! It's unfathomable to her that some of us can be happy and fulfilled alone. Emotionally, I'm at 100% by myself. I make my own happiness When they're dragging me down to 95% which so far they've all done, it's time to bounce.
People who are not comfortable or happy without a man just have no idea that some of us truly feel so happy that way, they can't relate at all and project their own unhappiness into that situation.
@@human_no847 It's not just that they can't relate to other women not being unhappy without a man. The thought of it makes them jealous that we're not suffering the way they do when they're single.
She's insecure because, if she is loyal to BM, she's someone that BM would choose last. So, she's trying to do extra credit in order to get chosen. SMH
You know, a healthy relationship sounds amazing. But being stuck with an abuser, a man child, someone that extorts you of all of your resources, puts so much pressure on you that you gain/lose weight, lose hair is NOT amazing. We don't want to be single because we're bitter, we want to stay single because we've seen the options and they ain't that good. Also, some people are just happier by themselves, what's wrong with that?
And the odds are SO against us. The house always wins. Men who will treat you badly far, far outnumber those who won't. Even if it's just not doing what they say they will and exhausting you until you develop medical problems. Romantic relationships just aren't appealing to many women any longer
Exactly. I am single, happy, and healthy. I don't choose to be single. I choose peace, safety,sanity, and reciprocity. Unfortunately, these choices have left me single.
Exactly, the options are not good. I'd rather be alone than unhappy. True. We are not CHOOSING to be alone, we have decided to be alone because it is better than being in a toxic relationship.
@@katherines144 Right, very draining and too much pressure on your bank account and menta health. As a single woman, I always notice how a lot of married women keep their eyes on their husbands when single women are around. It is like, I am watching you. Nope...I like my freedom.
Frankly, I want to know why the 1st woman needs to judge me and my joy, because "it doesn't make sense" to her. I sure as hell don't care about her choices, cuz they don't affect me. Regardless of WHY I'm choosing my path, I'm a very happy, healthy 4B. My joy doesn't require an explanation ❤❤❤
She's very unhappy with herself. Instead of projecting she should take her own advice and get some therapy. I've been divorced for 4 years and have not been in a relationship since, and I have no kids. I'm doing great!😊
It seems like she is missing being single and that's her way of communicating it. Happily married people mind their business, just like happily single ppl.
The way the first lady looks speaks volumes am not shaming her but if she was happy and healthy she would be glowing and would not even try to convince single ladies are not happy😂❤😂 am just saying
🎯🎯🎯 this!! I thought the same thing, skin dull no glow, eyes dead, girl blink twice if you need me to call the police 👮♂️ cuz she down bad and it shows!! 😢
You're not wrong bc I was thinking the same thing. Her energy gives dingy and miserable. Most women I know who are glowing are happily single or happily married and the latter is rare to see.
@@Unapologetically_Savage Another commenter said she's in her 20s... she's rough despite the melanin cuz she doesn't look like she's in her 20s. I would have said late 30s/early 40s. I don't think she's looking after herself too well, but instead of self-care she's worried about what other women are doing..? She got bigger problems than other women choosing 4B. She needs to drink more water & you know that's true cuz usually it's white women who don't age well (tho some do)...
She gives the same energy even with a full beat. Her boring processed hair isn't helping. Not saying BW have to be natural, but her hair isn't giving what she thinks it is.
The question should be why so many women are choosing to be single. Just separated from my husband because I was lonely in my marriage I need therapy to heal from his toxicity. Most women stay married because they want status just to say they have a “MAN”
I always say this to people that you can be lonely in a relationship because it's very painful to be with someone and there's no love left and they treat you bad. When I found myself single after 13 years I had to learn to do things alone and my ex husband had broken me down and I had to fix myself back together. I have no desire to live with another man, I love my own space and peace. I wish you a happy journey x
Right? She can't. Shaming women who choose a different path in life that's disconnected from a male seems like her entire platform. She'd have nothing going for her own life is she wasn't able to denigrate us. She also seems very lonely and probably doesn't have any friends who are women since they're off... dealing with their male partners and I guess being healthy and happy with them? I just don't understand what her message is. If we all go do what she suggests and get into a relationship... will she stfu? Will she come on and praise us and congratulate us? Her logic is circular and broken.
I’m single because I have done therapy and healed myself and I refuse to allow men into my life and give them the chance to cause me more trauma. Not after all the years of work I e done to fix myself.
assuming that your incapability to understand a certain lifestyle choice means that everyone undertaking that choice requires a mental health professional is exactly the kind of arrogance that should maybe be addressed in therapy.
I’m trying to understand why a single woman gets under her skin so much. How is your life impacted by that? It’s like when people have kids and shame you for not having them. Happy married people also don’t get up online and talk about single people when you are happy 😆 😅
@@shaypope4732 Definitely an energy (emotional and financial) vampire. Sis has been at it for awhile. Men and other pick me Patties like her make up her audience. Funny but Melanie King went from playing with puppets (demonstrating family values) to bashing women, to a single woman humiliating herself in the manosphere. They never learn.
@@guinealove3744 omg that sounds so sad honestly hope they wake up eventually and choose peace of mind no one should devalue themselves for others entertainment so I don't get it but whoever she is I hope she heals and choose herself cause she's worth it
This girl in the green stays saying some nonsense. In one of her videos she says that older women are jealous of younger women - people in the comments thought that she was one of the older women she was talking about 😂😂
She has the nerve to have another video captioned "Stop tearing women down." The irony was definitely in the room with her. But now I'm looking for the video where she said older women are jealous. Because, baby, I'm looking at her page, and even with a full beat it's giving middle-aged divorcee. Now, nothing wrong with a middle-aged divorcee, but you shouldn't look like one when you're ALLEGEDLY 28. 😗
@@LadyAstarionAncunin What???? This reminds me of a situation a couple of years ago(minus the “hate”). I worked with a then 28 y/o who wanted to know my age(35 at the time). When I told her she couldn’t believe it and said that she thought I was younger and looked so good. I couldn’t believe her age either, but it was bc she looked sooo much older than me.
I think she’s the one who needs to find a therapist, so she can work on MINDING HER BUSINESS. If a woman is happy being a wife/mother, then let her be that. If she’s happy being single and child-free, then let her be that. How does another woman’s choices for HER OWN LIFE affect THIS WOMAN’S life???
My parents were MARRIED and within 4 years my mother was dead. My father beat her and the more he beat her the more she drank. She passed at 30 and left 4 babies behind. I promised myself that I would never end up like my mother. If I never get married I would be fine with it less stress and aggravation.
It's very heartbreaking the way men can destroy a woman's life. So sorry you lost your mom.😢 thus could have been my story if my mom didn't leave my abusive dad.
My granny's sixty six and has been single since the 90s and occasionally dated when I was in elementary school. Never ONCE did she have her dates around me. Our home was OURS. She was the woman who raised me while my mama was off getting her heart stomped on. She got her kids taken away because of the man she was entertaining. My granny's got more than any married woman I know, HER own house, HER own money, HER own car. When she passes, I'm literally getting generational wealth. She's a tribal elder of the Little Riverband of Ottawa Indians as well so not only is she getting her own from her career, her tribe will never let her suffer financially. Don't project onto women who are strong enough to stand on their own without men. YOU'RE the one who's giving bitter, Ms. Ma'am. You STILL ain't gonna get picked either. 😂
its crazy cause she actually has it backwards. people who are not healed are more likely to be in relationships, and toxic ones at that. happy, healthy people are more likely to be either single or in good, healthy relationships. but straight women dont have many options for healthy relationships so they are deciding to stay single. makes perfect sense.
@@jbenevy that’s not the point. She made a video stating older women that are fashion forward, do their makeup well and have men chasing them, outgoing etc are trying to be like younger women (as herself around 27-30) to compete with them. When it’s really the fact that these older woman (45+) eat her and a lot of younger women UP in the looks department. 💀💀 Most older women are naturally confident because they know who they are and aren’t pressed about what people (mostly men) think of them like the younger gals do. She herself looks about 40 at 28 so I see why she feel some type of way. LMFAO That’s why I love befriending older women, they know what’s up and are cool af.
These ladies make SUCH good points. One of my favorite phrases/ sayings though is: "Being alone is only scary if you're a person you're afraid to be" alone with
I'm in my late 40s, happy, healthy, slim and fit. No kids never married. I can not be arsed to be in a relationship. I will leave the men to this woman, and whoever else wants them.
To the pick-me lady in the green top: Women can choose to live be contentful with or w/o being in relationship. We are human and you can choose who you want in your life.
That's old girl that said older women r jealous of younger ones about a year ago? looks like she found a filter n luv that hair do but even though we the same age I think she one of those ppl that like to get a reaction out of ppl to fuel her own life like one of those ppl who just luv creating chaos cause they bored type thing idk but that's the vibes I'm getting I might be wrong but who knows
Women who get online to air out their issues with women who choose to be single give me “I’m not happy in my own situation” vibes. Cause why do you care so much about the choices another grown woman is making in her life if isn’t affecting anyone else??
The lady in green needs the very therapy she recommends. Just because you can't and won't doesn't mean something is wrong with it. She just insists on bringing negative energy into every room she steps in.
This woman is problematic, full stop, people need to stop paying her mind. She just wants attention, she was on the previous video saying how women choosing to have children alone are selfish. I had the misfortune of interacting with her 1 time on tiktok re a video where she says how she is training her 5 yr old daughter how to be a wife!!! She is a clout chasing, pick me. We need to stop giving her a platform.
Hmmm...so a bachelor is normal, but a single woman is NOT? Why is it that a woman's sole purpose to be a wife/mother? F-that! I have adventures beyond interpersonal relationships - I travel, work on my own ideas, and live for myself.
@@georgec8210 ever heard that, that clock runs for everybody, and not just women? The quality of men’s sperm decreases as a woman’s eggs do. No one stays young forever.
Unattractive women who can only get a man's attention by absolutely sucking up to them and stroking their ego. That's the only way they can attractive attention- it's an unhealthy mindset.
I was married for 18 years and now recently divorced. It’s a choice that I thought I didn’t want to make but the weight lifted from me is more than I ever could have imagined. We need to pick our own happiness.
@georgec8210 That's fine for those women, but not every woman wants marriage and children. It doesn't mean that something is wrong with a person who doesn't want what the next person wants. People are unique in their goals and ambitious.
I agree. I never desired marriage or children, and that's okay. I love my freedom and the joy of practicing non-attachment. Being in a romantic relationship and a mother would make me very depressed especially as an introvert who enjoys my own company. You are right. Every woman isn't monolithic.
So BW can’t be single and happy. We have to be lonely and miserable? Good grief! 😅 I’m sitting in my single bliss, peace, and joy. Not miserable and not remotely lonely. ✌🏽♥️🙏🏽
Why would I purposely add anything r anyone in my life to drain my energy? I barely have energy for myself sometimes but that's the only person I truly care about sorry not sorry
When I first decided to be single it was to work on myself, now I am single because I want to be and I only date or involve myself with people that bring me happiness. Single women are single for a lot of reasons, it doesn't mean they are not happy.
Why does she have so much to say? It is actually Healthy Happy Women who know better to stay single. I have had so many friends who were doing well and got into relationships and got destroyed. Everyone is not supposed to be with someone. Society should show a recommendation but not be the standard for what an individual wants to do in their life. Why are people trying to pressure people (specifically women) into a particular lifestyle? Those who want to, will get married. Those who want a career, will do that. Those who want to live traveling the world, will do that. Those who want to start a business, will do that. The greatest part of this is that they are Healthy and Happy! This pick-me is talking too much from a one-sided perspective. I can't wait until she thinks for herself.
Happy, healthy people are generally not desperate for a relationship. They’re usually at peace on their own and even if they get lonely, they don’t give in and jump into relationships with just anyone.
This young woman is exactly that...a young woman. I'm a widow. I have no intention of remarrying. I gave 30 years to home and hearth. I loved it and it fulfilled me, but never once did I hate on anyone single because I was too busy living my OWN life. Now, I love my peace, my ability to come and go as I please, my ability to choose how I spend my time and with whom, and how much control I have over my finances. I wish someone WOULD try to advise me to remarry. I just turned 50 yesterday. My peace was hard won and I'm not the least bit lonely. I'm wonderfully balanced. For young women out there, take your time. Live your life, and learn yourself, establish your own boundaries and embrace the joy and beauty of YOU. Once you do that, YOU set the rules and you can easily walk away from toxicity.
The first woman... She's apparently never heard of asexual people who don't want relationships (There are different kinds of asexual people) Also I don't mind casually dating but I'm not interested in a relationship. I'm not interested in getting married. I'm certainly not interested in having children.
Why is it anyone’s business if a woman is single? Why? I don’t understand what the woman at the beginning is asking because it doesn’t make sense. People really don’t have anything else to talk about at all smh 🤦🏾♀️. 1:50-2:00 absolutely 👏🏾.
i was healthy and happy before i met my bf. if you can't handle the possibility of being alone, you have issues. get this lady a therapist. if you can't handle being alone, you'll put up with bs trying to escape it and end up in a worse situation.
Of course it doesn't make sense to her. There is so much dust around her she can't see straight. Many of us are happy and like our peace over here SANS DUST. You can tell she doesn't have many stable female friends and the ones she has around are probably keeping her at arms length.
Maybe she's right. Maybe some women are broken and that made them choose to be single. That's smart, why put yourself in a situation that broke you once or multiple times? It's not the insult she thinks its is 😂
The mammy's and Pick-mes not getting picked so they coming after women who are happy in their Peace. They are the ones who need to see a therapist they don't feel whole with out a man and kids are the ones who need mental health
This young lady in the green shirt is under the impression that every woman thinks and see things like she does on this issue. This is a fallacy! She is failing to make allowance for differences in women.
I am the happiest and emotionally healthiest I have been in a very long time since becoming single. I like it here and I think that I'll stay here and enjoy myself for a while. :)
Oh wow! *So* I guess that the book was lying about _some_ people that can truly actually live _fully_ off the joy of *GOD* lije "Jesus." 😅 It said *IF* you cant then ot 8s _better_ to get married. So the BOOK ITSELF actually_suggests that it IS POSSIBLE to do. ...THROUGH the *POWER* of *GOD* ....IF je IS your JOY & your PORTION....HE NOT gonna MAKE you FEEL that you are missing something. HE CAN FULLyFILL you.
I think it depends on the person, some people enjoy being by themselves. I'm one of them. And my reason for being alone is my business, not everyone is meant to be married and have children and that's perfectly fine. I don't know what the future holds for me, but as for right now I'm comfortable in my singleness, and don't desire a romantic mate. Getting in a romantic relationship is an individual choice, not a requirement.
My thing is, why do they belittle? If you really think a woman is hurt and damaged, if she is not attacking other people, why attack her? They don't suggest therapy with empathy or listen kindly and give suggestions for healing. They mock them and tell them to look for the number on their insurance card. Like, why? It’s how you recognize that it's not genuine.
I’m not in a “group” I’m in a club. Like happy adults unite club. We share the same interests. “Live life happy” is our motto. Minding the business that pays us is our belief.
I don’t know that lady but she is getting on my nerves. 😂😂 always on here complaining about women. She cares too much. She must not have a lot going on
It's funny. I have a narcissistic mother. She only ever wanted to be a housewife and doesn't work. But even she's never said the dumb stuff these propagandists be saying. I told her I'm ace, want to remain single and a vir/gin forever, and she said, "I thought so," and we left it at that! I'm forever alone (never lonely), childfree, but I never tell married women they're miserable because they're married/have kids. Why? Because secure people don't do that!
Can people just do what makes them happy without having to explain why it makes them happy? Do you and stop worrying about what others are doing. In other words, mind your damn business!
I think most of us were healthy and happy BEFORE we got in a relationship😂
Correct.
I know that’s right. The single life is liberating.
That part!
I am happier without a Son of Baal (Babylon).
Was even happier before them.
@@flutatious_music4
Believe....bmales hate to see us indigenous (Negros/Blk) women happily single or even divesting and moving forward without being used for our resources by them.
The only person responsible for your happiness is you and not anyone else.
Facts💯
The end!
It's not fair to put that responsibility on someone else in the first place. Only you can live in your skin.
Exactly. The first woman sound like she’s the one that needs therapy if being single, healthy and happy bothers her and sounds ridiculous to her.
The first woman in the green is a classic PickMeisha. I'm far happier and more at peace single than I ever was in relationships.
Why is EVERYONE so bothered by Single women? It's very telling. 😂😅
SAME! I don’t desire romantic partnership at alllll!
Facts💯💪🏾🥰
It sounds like she’s miserable trying to understand how to be happy with her own company. Single by choice women are busy living their best life, happy and at peace not even thinking about women who choose to not be single and/or have children. She’s definitely terrified to perish alone.
@@anonnnymousthegreat Exactly! She has nothing without being able to virtue signal to us. Does she ever talk about this husband she apparently has? What makes him so great that she's nourishing her healthiness and happiness? Where IS this man? I need a wellness check at this point as proof, LOL!
The fear of dying alone is so weird to me when many people have friends, family, even coworkers who will show up for them in their final moments. Everyone dies alone (unless your partner is dying at the same time as you??? LOL) it's who's there holding your hand when that final breath comes. I keep hearing it's not the man, cause that fool died first, 20 years prior.
married women with kids don’t need therapy? 😂😂
Lolz girl they're slow 😂
I think they're the demographic that needs therapy the most.
🙋🏽♀️13 years married woman with kids here.....
5 years on Prozac 🙃
They need the MOST therapy.
Married women, blink twice if you need help?!
@@nannaleifagreat minds think alike
A major, bitter pick-me who is so insecure with her in life, she's bothered by how other women choose to live their lives. It is beyond sad.
She's the mentally unstable one
True
Leave women alone. If they don’t want to be in a relationship, mind your damn business. It’s not hard.
Facts💯🤡🤛🏾
This
This and be happy in your relationship. Why are you bothered by single ppl? Sound like projecting to me.
So not hard…
Lol. Right.
a big part of this thought process i believe is that many are still indoctrinated into the thought of "you can't be happy without a relationship"
I agree
But we have relationships we don't have romantic relationships. These lusty people they just don't get that you can control that lust and turn that energy inward and make yourself into a superpower.
It's sick on So many levels 🤦🏾♀️
💯✅
You CAN'T be happy without a relationship. However, most relationships are not romantic.
The irony of telling people to go to therapy when she’s showcasing an unhealthy mindset that genuinely warrants a visit to a therapist 😅
Exactly, and the ironie IS, the more therapy I went through, the faster I could see the red flags while dating
And the faster you know it is not worth it 😂
Right, the same ones that tell people to go to therapy, be the ones who need it the most. Smh
Exactly!😳😹😹😹😹😹😹🤦🏾♀️
@@oktobejustelaFacts💯
People who are codependent are the one having a hard time understanding the difference between someone who's lonely or alone.
Either way it's not the Pick-me's business to try to tell women what they need.
Exactly!
The lady in the green top and braids gets on my nerves. She’s a pick me
Omg, i was about to say the exact same thing! She the Mayor of PickmeVille, urgh.
And she is still not being picked😂😂😂😂
She sounds judgmental and ignorant. She is definitely seeking attention by doing such videos.
Period
She's a married woman, but she's constantly making videos about other women, I honestly don't think she's happy in her marriage. Her husband doesn't spend enough time with her, or giving her enough attention because she's constantly online looking for attention
Ugh! All these mini Pearls. It doesn't make sense to you cause it's not your reality. Why are you so bothered about other women's choices for their own lives? Or is it that you want to be like the women you demean but are worried of how it would look like to the people in your life?
I think that's exactly what it is. She sees happy, healthy Women existing in their wholeness and she can't understand how that's possible b/c she's never done it. Being "whole" for her means being attached to a man- which, ironically, is going to deplete you, 9 times outta 10.
Absolutely, and well said!
I'm the last "single with no kids" woman among my family n friends. Before I told all of them to kick rocks, I used to get a variation of "something is wrong with you" from all of them. However, most of them are married with a bunch of kids and absolutely miserable. The other half are about to get a divorce, need to get a divorce or are now divorced and bitter, after being married to a man that treated them like garbage.
They're jealous, cruel, vindictive, hateful and regretful. They made poor choices, are saddled with the consequence of those choices and are looking for someone to bash, blame and unload on.
They wish they had our life, our peace and quiet, our freedom, our joy and profound happiness. That resentment and misery is eating them alive and they're like emotional vampires, trying to suck the joy out of anyone who is single and child free by choice.
Misery truly loves company
My mom is on my back with this trope of you "need"a man. I'm glowing and genuinely happy in my singleness❤. Mind you, every man she has chosen has taken her to hell and back with nothing to show for it.
It’s true they want you to have kids and be miserable like them cause you can do what you want when you want
I Made a comment very similar to yours, but My aunties are not vampires who want me or My counsins to feel miserable too... No, they are víctims of their upbringing... They were socialized to be pick mes ...aka centering men before them... They all are divorce now execpt for one... Only one out of 7 aunties had a good marriage .... Soooooooo is NEVER about women doing the most, is being lucky You had a decent men ... Is a lotery .... And all suggest to Marry , is more like brainwash than anything else.
I pity older generation women, cuz most NEVER wake up flr the social conditioning, they die being picks me, trying so hard to get men validation .... My aunt are Nice women... Very sweet, sadly now most all are alone cuz they husbands they decide to pour everything into cheat and leave them.
Also they are so brainwashed that most think is TRUE the old old school lie ever told by men... That cheating is a mistake, or that men cheat and is biological, oh boy ... Thats the whole issue there ... Women now know cheating is abuse, disrepected and SOMETHING You domt give second chances to repeat .... Women poor poor conditioned women.... Is not their fault. It takes a Lot of strong Will to not fall into the eternal brainwash women are put since kids, our formative years.
All of this. The number of people that are bothered by my disinterest in being in a relationship is very odd. My happiness makes them feel uncomfortable.
Mind the business they pay pays you!
Please and thank you 💅🏽
"Healthy and Happy" means _whole._ If you're already a whole person, why would you need to be looking for somebody else??
Cause ppl like that need validation from others to make them complete
They don't think they can be strong enough alone so they get there strength from others if that makes sense
Exactly I'm at peace alone and rather be alone - I agree these people who do this are codependent
Exactly💯
@77kc_77 Needy and desperate to be owned by a man is who this Pick me is. She wont get picked😹😹😹😹🤦🏾♀️
Sis sounds insecure af! It's unfathomable to her that some of us can be happy and fulfilled alone. Emotionally, I'm at 100% by myself. I make my own happiness When they're dragging me down to 95% which so far they've all done, it's time to bounce.
People who are not comfortable or happy without a man just have no idea that some of us truly feel so happy that way, they can't relate at all and project their own unhappiness into that situation.
She thinking like a man. 🤷🏽♀️🤦🏽
@@human_no847 It's not just that they can't relate to other women not being unhappy without a man. The thought of it makes them jealous that we're not suffering the way they do when they're single.
She's insecure because, if she is loyal to BM, she's someone that BM would choose last. So, she's trying to do extra credit in order to get chosen. SMH
That abuse from in-laws is the worst ever.
True
As soon as that ring goes on your finger.. They turn into your biggest ops. 😮
@@genevieveaniko6492 Sheeeeeeeeeeeeeiiiiiiit. Some of them start that mess way before that...
People who choose that are arguably the most healthy people in society lol .. the codependency is insidious and women fall for it too much.
The last guy 😂😂😂 “ go fry some eggs for yo kids” 😂 “ go wash his clothes” 🤦🏽♀️
😂😂 I instantly wanted a fried egg…
You know, a healthy relationship sounds amazing. But being stuck with an abuser, a man child, someone that extorts you of all of your resources, puts so much pressure on you that you gain/lose weight, lose hair is NOT amazing. We don't want to be single because we're bitter, we want to stay single because we've seen the options and they ain't that good. Also, some people are just happier by themselves, what's wrong with that?
And the odds are SO against us. The house always wins. Men who will treat you badly far, far outnumber those who won't. Even if it's just not doing what they say they will and exhausting you until you develop medical problems. Romantic relationships just aren't appealing to many women any longer
Russian Roulette except ALL bullets are locked in and ready to destroy
Exactly. I am single, happy, and healthy. I don't choose to be single. I choose peace, safety,sanity, and reciprocity. Unfortunately, these choices have left me single.
Exactly, the options are not good. I'd rather be alone than unhappy. True. We are not CHOOSING to be alone, we have decided to be alone because it is better than being in a toxic relationship.
@@katherines144 Right, very draining and too much pressure on your bank account and menta health. As a single woman, I always notice how a lot of married women keep their eyes on their husbands when single women are around. It is like, I am watching you. Nope...I like my freedom.
Frankly, I want to know why the 1st woman needs to judge me and my joy, because "it doesn't make sense" to her. I sure as hell don't care about her choices, cuz they don't affect me. Regardless of WHY I'm choosing my path, I'm a very happy, healthy 4B.
My joy doesn't require an explanation ❤❤❤
I’m happily single. Not by myself 🙄❤️
She's very unhappy with herself. Instead of projecting she should take her own advice and get some therapy.
I've been divorced for 4 years and have not been in a relationship since, and I have no kids. I'm doing great!😊
It seems like she is missing being single and that's her way of communicating it. Happily married people mind their business, just like happily single ppl.
I love being single. I have a peaceful life. I got no man to get on my nerves.
Single is not synonymous with alone.
The way the first lady looks speaks volumes am not shaming her but if she was happy and healthy she would be glowing and would not even try to convince single ladies are not happy😂❤😂 am just saying
Yep a healthy happy person is living their life not trying to shame others into doing something they don’t want to do.
🎯🎯🎯 this!! I thought the same thing, skin dull no glow, eyes dead, girl blink twice if you need me to call the police 👮♂️ cuz she down bad and it shows!! 😢
You're not wrong bc I was thinking the same thing. Her energy gives dingy and miserable. Most women I know who are glowing are happily single or happily married and the latter is rare to see.
@@Unapologetically_Savage Another commenter said she's in her 20s... she's rough despite the melanin cuz she doesn't look like she's in her 20s. I would have said late 30s/early 40s. I don't think she's looking after herself too well, but instead of self-care she's worried about what other women are doing..? She got bigger problems than other women choosing 4B. She needs to drink more water & you know that's true cuz usually it's white women who don't age well (tho some do)...
She gives the same energy even with a full beat. Her boring processed hair isn't helping. Not saying BW have to be natural, but her hair isn't giving what she thinks it is.
I am healthy and happy and single.
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🥰
The question should be why so many women are choosing to be single. Just separated from my husband because I was lonely in my marriage I need therapy to heal from his toxicity. Most women stay married because they want status just to say they have a “MAN”
I always say this to people that you can be lonely in a relationship because it's very painful to be with someone and there's no love left and they treat you bad. When I found myself single after 13 years I had to learn to do things alone and my ex husband had broken me down and I had to fix myself back together. I have no desire to live with another man, I love my own space and peace. I wish you a happy journey x
How about she worry about her own life, mind her own business and leave other women TF alone?
How about that?
A angry Pick-me who should be happy were opting out. Better her chances to get picked 😹😹😹😹
Right? She can't. Shaming women who choose a different path in life that's disconnected from a male seems like her entire platform. She'd have nothing going for her own life is she wasn't able to denigrate us. She also seems very lonely and probably doesn't have any friends who are women since they're off... dealing with their male partners and I guess being healthy and happy with them? I just don't understand what her message is. If we all go do what she suggests and get into a relationship... will she stfu? Will she come on and praise us and congratulate us? Her logic is circular and broken.
Apparently she's married 😂 she's missing singlehood, clearly!
@@baby_dahl162 it's rage bait pick me content and she's not even a good actress!
She doesn't sound like she even believes what she's saying!
I’m single because I have done therapy and healed myself and I refuse to allow men into my life and give them the chance to cause me more trauma. Not after all the years of work I e done to fix myself.
Period! 🔥🔥🔥💚💚💚
She hasn’t seen the stats😂
Men live longer and are less depressed when married. Women it’s the opposite 🤷🏿♂️
Right
Men did MGTOW and no one said a thing. So why is women going their own way soo triggering?? 🤨
It's all about control.
They have nothing to control
Because men thought women would come running after then and then got pissy when we were like "cool".
assuming that your incapability to understand a certain lifestyle choice means that everyone undertaking that choice requires a mental health professional is exactly the kind of arrogance that should maybe be addressed in therapy.
I’m trying to understand why a single woman gets under her skin so much. How is your life impacted by that? It’s like when people have kids and shame you for not having them. Happy married people also don’t get up online and talk about single people when you are happy 😆 😅
She knows her husband wants the sw lol
she’s not happy with her own life so she projects that onto single women
She's missing singlehood. Unfortunately this behavior is common from people who are not happily married. They wish to be single again
Why does she have so much time to worry about other people's lives?
Does women like her need a hug or something?
No just energy from others to fuel their own life
@@shaypope4732 Definitely an energy (emotional and financial) vampire. Sis has been at it for awhile. Men and other pick me Patties like her make up her audience. Funny but Melanie King went from playing with puppets (demonstrating family values) to bashing women, to a single woman humiliating herself in the manosphere. They never learn.
@@guinealove3744 That’s a shame.
@@guinealove3744 omg that sounds so sad honestly hope they wake up eventually and choose peace of mind no one should devalue themselves for others entertainment so I don't get it but whoever she is I hope she heals and choose herself cause she's worth it
Way more than a hug
This girl in the green stays saying some nonsense. In one of her videos she says that older women are jealous of younger women - people in the comments thought that she was one of the older women she was talking about 😂😂
Right 😂
Really? 😂😂😂 can someone please drop the link? 😆
She has the nerve to have another video captioned "Stop tearing women down." The irony was definitely in the room with her. But now I'm looking for the video where she said older women are jealous. Because, baby, I'm looking at her page, and even with a full beat it's giving middle-aged divorcee. Now, nothing wrong with a middle-aged divorcee, but you shouldn't look like one when you're ALLEGEDLY 28. 😗
@@LadyAstarionAncunin What???? This reminds me of a situation a couple of years ago(minus the “hate”). I worked with a then 28 y/o who wanted to know my age(35 at the time). When I told her she couldn’t believe it and said that she thought I was younger and looked so good. I couldn’t believe her age either, but it was bc she looked sooo much older than me.
@@LadyAstarionAncunin 😂😂😂staap
I can take therapy from the best in the world and no matter how much therapy I have it won't change the nature of men.
I know right. You’d need mind altering drugs for that 😂
You can't change hard wired biology unfortunately.
Men will refuse to go to therapy but terrorize you with their emotions forcing you to _have_ to be in therapy.
Many married women in my therapy office traumatized anxious depressed and stressed.
Cause they doing it alone regardless
@@shaypope4732 you’re right sadly
@@AmaLoveGoddessTV hopefully they wake up and choose peace
I think she’s the one who needs to find a therapist, so she can work on MINDING HER BUSINESS. If a woman is happy being a wife/mother, then let her be that. If she’s happy being single and child-free, then let her be that. How does another woman’s choices for HER OWN LIFE affect THIS WOMAN’S life???
0:48 It’s not your life why do you care?? It doesn’t need to make sense to YOU because it’s not your life.
My parents were MARRIED and within 4 years my mother was dead. My father beat her and the more he beat her the more she drank. She passed at 30 and left 4 babies behind. I promised myself that I would never end up like my mother. If I never get married I would be fine with it less stress and aggravation.
I am so sorry! 💔😢
😢ohhhh
I am so sorry for the untimely lost of your mother.
It's very heartbreaking the way men can destroy a woman's life. So sorry you lost your mom.😢 thus could have been my story if my mom didn't leave my abusive dad.
😢sorry ❤
My granny's sixty six and has been single since the 90s and occasionally dated when I was in elementary school. Never ONCE did she have her dates around me. Our home was OURS. She was the woman who raised me while my mama was off getting her heart stomped on. She got her kids taken away because of the man she was entertaining. My granny's got more than any married woman I know, HER own house, HER own money, HER own car. When she passes, I'm literally getting generational wealth. She's a tribal elder of the Little Riverband of Ottawa Indians as well so not only is she getting her own from her career, her tribe will never let her suffer financially. Don't project onto women who are strong enough to stand on their own without men. YOU'RE the one who's giving bitter, Ms. Ma'am. You STILL ain't gonna get picked either. 😂
Your granny is an amazing woman❤
Your granny is legendary ❤
its crazy cause she actually has it backwards. people who are not healed are more likely to be in relationships, and toxic ones at that. happy, healthy people are more likely to be either single or in good, healthy relationships. but straight women dont have many options for healthy relationships so they are deciding to stay single. makes perfect sense.
Ain’t this the one who said older women jealous because they be SHOWIN her up in the looks department and they look better than her ? 😂😂😂
Idk who she is
Older women have usually have more money. Looks fade
And she’s not even pretty so I don’t understand her stance 😂
@@shanaleasha6550 exactlyyyy😭😭😭
@@jbenevy that’s not the point. She made a video stating older women that are fashion forward, do their makeup well and have men chasing them, outgoing etc are trying to be like younger women (as herself around 27-30) to compete with them.
When it’s really the fact that these older woman (45+) eat her and a lot of younger women UP in the looks department. 💀💀 Most older women are naturally confident because they know who they are and aren’t pressed about what people (mostly men) think of them like the younger gals do. She herself looks about 40 at 28 so I see why she feel some type of way. LMFAO
That’s why I love befriending older women, they know what’s up and are cool af.
If bitter was a person it would be the first woman.😂 Childfree, 4B and genuinely happy.
No sweety, YOU NEED therapy if YOU THINK YOU NEED someone in YOUR LIFE in order to be happy 😂
You got it twisted.
These ladies make SUCH good points.
One of my favorite phrases/ sayings though is: "Being alone is only scary if you're a person you're afraid to be" alone with
You know what I call single women? I call them the smartest women on the planet!
Yes, we are alone and happy by choice. Having a man or kids isn’t a flex.
There's a difference between bitter and just having pattern recognition
I'm in my late 40s, happy, healthy, slim and fit. No kids never married. I can not be arsed to be in a relationship. I will leave the men to this woman, and whoever else wants them.
35 and no way in hell am I dealing with these men
Cheers to slim and fit! 🥂
I’m aromantic asexual. I don’t need a therapist. I’m just not attracted to anyone.
Sameee
Asexual and not interested in having smexx with anyone
Same I didn'know it had a name but imma die a virgin cause I don't want to be touched not even hug unless it's a funeral honestly
I feel you! This woman has problems and thinks everyone else does.
Same
Me myself and I. Was she telling us she has no friends? No other family?
To the pick-me lady in the green top: Women can choose to live be contentful with or w/o being in relationship. We are human and you can choose who you want in your life.
Little girl in the green shirt is in for a rude awawkenkng 😂 especially if she wants to date and marry in the BC.
She already is 😂
@@AlchemyandcoYou can tell that’s why that “happy glow” is missing. Girl just look at you…who you think you fooling? 😂
That's old girl that said older women r jealous of younger ones about a year ago? looks like she found a filter n luv that hair do but even though we the same age I think she one of those ppl that like to get a reaction out of ppl to fuel her own life like one of those ppl who just luv creating chaos cause they bored type thing idk but that's the vibes I'm getting I might be wrong but who knows
She looks like she likes abuse
Women who get online to air out their issues with women who choose to be single give me “I’m not happy in my own situation” vibes. Cause why do you care so much about the choices another grown woman is making in her life if isn’t affecting anyone else??
What I find concerning and unhealthy is needing your role in life to be defined by someone other than you.
All single by choice happy women hit me up we need to be friends and band together
I'm not single but I support the movement.
Single and open to friends with single women who have DECENTERED men
Healthy happy women are able to make decisions for herself without worrying what makes other people happy. 😁
The lady in green needs the very therapy she recommends. Just because you can't and won't doesn't mean something is wrong with it. She just insists on bringing negative energy into every room she steps in.
This woman is problematic, full stop, people need to stop paying her mind. She just wants attention, she was on the previous video saying how women choosing to have children alone are selfish. I had the misfortune of interacting with her 1 time on tiktok re a video where she says how she is training her 5 yr old daughter how to be a wife!!! She is a clout chasing, pick me. We need to stop giving her a platform.
I'm not on TT, but I found her page on there, and I can already see that she talks too much and is PickMe personified.
Why is being a pick me bad? What's wrong with aspiring to be a wife?
Hmmm...so a bachelor is normal, but a single woman is NOT? Why is it that a woman's sole purpose to be a wife/mother? F-that! I have adventures beyond interpersonal relationships - I travel, work on my own ideas, and live for myself.
Exactly! No one says anything about a single man enjoying his best life. What’s wrong with a woman enjoying hers?
Ever heard of a biological clock
@@georgec8210 ever heard that, that clock runs for everybody, and not just women? The quality of men’s sperm decreases as a woman’s eggs do. No one stays young forever.
@@georgec8210doesn’t matter for a woman who doesn’t want that smarty pants
Why do these people keep coming at us, single women, as if they're paying our bills?
Unattractive women who can only get a man's attention by absolutely sucking up to them and stroking their ego. That's the only way they can attractive attention- it's an unhealthy mindset.
women are usually not alone! We have other relationships
..and are usually in therapy. She needs to tell the men to get in therapy.
"Overseer for patriarchy." I'm dying!!!
Girl the WORLD 🌎 does not revolve around your opinion ... Pickmeesha . And neon green is NOT your color ... mmmmkay ... your welcome 😊
I was married for 18 years and now recently divorced. It’s a choice that I thought I didn’t want to make but the weight lifted from me is more than I ever could have imagined. We need to pick our own happiness.
It's annoying when women think that all women want to live their lives. Not every woman has the same goals
It's true that most women are more fulfilled in life by marriage and a husband and aspire to that. Women are more social
@georgec8210 That's fine for those women, but not every woman wants marriage and children. It doesn't mean that something is wrong with a person who doesn't want what the next person wants. People are unique in their goals and ambitious.
I agree. I never desired marriage or children, and that's okay. I love my freedom and the joy of practicing non-attachment. Being in a romantic relationship and a mother would make me very depressed especially as an introvert who enjoys my own company. You are right. Every woman isn't monolithic.
So BW can’t be single and happy. We have to be lonely and miserable? Good grief! 😅 I’m sitting in my single bliss, peace, and joy. Not miserable and not remotely lonely. ✌🏽♥️🙏🏽
Why would I purposely add anything r anyone in my life to drain my energy? I barely have energy for myself sometimes but that's the only person I truly care about sorry not sorry
Im only 53 seconds in and she can’t be serious…🙄
They also don’t choose to be in bad relationships, they wait until someone worth her time and attention comes into her life
When I first decided to be single it was to work on myself, now I am single because I want to be and I only date or involve myself with people that bring me happiness. Single women are single for a lot of reasons, it doesn't mean they are not happy.
Why does she have so much to say? It is actually Healthy Happy Women who know better to stay single. I have had so many friends who were doing well and got into relationships and got destroyed. Everyone is not supposed to be with someone. Society should show a recommendation but not be the standard for what an individual wants to do in their life. Why are people trying to pressure people (specifically women) into a particular lifestyle? Those who want to, will get married. Those who want a career, will do that. Those who want to live traveling the world, will do that. Those who want to start a business, will do that. The greatest part of this is that they are Healthy and Happy! This pick-me is talking too much from a one-sided perspective. I can't wait until she thinks for herself.
“Happily married wm” do NOT have this much concern with sw and their dating preferences.
Happy, healthy people are generally not desperate for a relationship. They’re usually at peace on their own and even if they get lonely, they don’t give in and jump into relationships with just anyone.
This young woman is exactly that...a young woman. I'm a widow. I have no intention of remarrying. I gave 30 years to home and hearth. I loved it and it fulfilled me, but never once did I hate on anyone single because I was too busy living my OWN life.
Now, I love my peace, my ability to come and go as I please, my ability to choose how I spend my time and with whom, and how much control I have over my finances. I wish someone WOULD try to advise me to remarry. I just turned 50 yesterday. My peace was hard won and I'm not the least bit lonely. I'm wonderfully balanced.
For young women out there, take your time. Live your life, and learn yourself, establish your own boundaries and embrace the joy and beauty of YOU. Once you do that, YOU set the rules and you can easily walk away from toxicity.
I have always been healthier mentally, financially, physically, without a man.
Same
I think that poor girl is miserable.
The first woman... She's apparently never heard of asexual people who don't want relationships (There are different kinds of asexual people)
Also I don't mind casually dating but I'm not interested in a relationship. I'm not interested in getting married. I'm certainly not interested in having children.
Why is it anyone’s business if a woman is single? Why? I don’t understand what the woman at the beginning is asking because it doesn’t make sense. People really don’t have anything else to talk about at all smh 🤦🏾♀️.
1:50-2:00 absolutely 👏🏾.
When u don't know urself, or don't have a life outside of a man...these are the results 🤷🏾♀️😂
Yep idk why people are worried about my life and what I'm doing
Their miserable just like the first women - looks like she's been sucked dry of her life force
It's giving codependent n im not happy in my own skin n environment n I need others to make me feel wanted n complete idk just my thoughts
i was healthy and happy before i met my bf. if you can't handle the possibility of being alone, you have issues. get this lady a therapist. if you can't handle being alone, you'll put up with bs trying to escape it and end up in a worse situation.
Of course it doesn't make sense to her.
There is so much dust around her she can't see straight.
Many of us are happy and like our peace over here SANS DUST.
You can tell she doesn't have many stable female friends and the ones she has around are probably keeping her at arms length.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Sad rabbit is that it again 😒
😂😂😂
Maybe she's right. Maybe some women are broken and that made them choose to be single. That's smart, why put yourself in a situation that broke you once or multiple times? It's not the insult she thinks its is 😂
I just don’t hold relationships at a high value like that. The friends and family I allow in my life fill my cup as I theirs.
Of course most lesbians think like that. She was referring to straight sane people
@@georgec8210 not a lesbian but go off sis.
Minding your own business is the ultimate power move. Focus on your own growth and development.
The mammy's and Pick-mes not getting picked so they coming after women who are happy in their Peace. They are the ones who need to see a therapist they don't feel whole with out a man and kids are the ones who need mental health
This young lady in the green shirt is under the impression that every woman thinks and see things like she does on this issue. This is a fallacy! She is failing to make allowance for differences in women.
I am the happiest and emotionally healthiest I have been in a very long time since becoming single. I like it here and I think that I'll stay here and enjoy myself for a while. :)
Oh wow! *So* I guess that the book was lying about _some_ people that can truly actually live _fully_ off the joy of *GOD* lije "Jesus." 😅
It said *IF* you cant then ot 8s _better_ to get married. So the BOOK ITSELF actually_suggests that it IS POSSIBLE to do. ...THROUGH the *POWER* of *GOD* ....IF je IS your JOY & your PORTION....HE NOT gonna MAKE you FEEL that you are missing something. HE CAN FULLyFILL you.
I think it depends on the person, some people enjoy being by themselves. I'm one of them. And my reason for being alone is my business, not everyone is meant to be married and have children and that's perfectly fine.
I don't know what the future holds for me, but as for right now I'm comfortable in my singleness, and don't desire a romantic mate. Getting in a romantic relationship is an individual choice, not a requirement.
Lmao, says who? I think most happy single women are happy the way they are. And prefer it that way.
Pick mes don't understand how freeing being single and childfree can be.
I would just tell that pick me "I'm not straight" and see the horror dawn on her face 😂😂😂😂😂 🧡💛🤍🩵💙
There is ZERO wrong with choosing me. It doesn’t have to make sense to her, it’s not her life 🤷♀️ oh well
My thing is, why do they belittle? If you really think a woman is hurt and damaged, if she is not attacking other people, why attack her? They don't suggest therapy with empathy or listen kindly and give suggestions for healing. They mock them and tell them to look for the number on their insurance card. Like, why? It’s how you recognize that it's not genuine.
I’m not in a “group” I’m in a club. Like happy adults unite club. We share the same interests. “Live life happy” is our motto. Minding the business that pays us is our belief.
I don’t know that lady but she is getting on my nerves. 😂😂 always on here complaining about women. She cares too much. She must not have a lot going on
It's funny. I have a narcissistic mother. She only ever wanted to be a housewife and doesn't work. But even she's never said the dumb stuff these propagandists be saying. I told her I'm ace, want to remain single and a vir/gin forever, and she said, "I thought so," and we left it at that! I'm forever alone (never lonely), childfree, but I never tell married women they're miserable because they're married/have kids. Why? Because secure people don't do that!
Exactly
Can people just do what makes them happy without having to explain why it makes them happy? Do you and stop worrying about what others are doing. In other words, mind your damn business!