REF THROWS PARENT OUT OF GAME!

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  • In this soccer match, a parent was verbally abusive and was thrown out of the game.
    She was treated like a soccer player, getting first a yellow, then a red card for ejection!
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  • @stevea5985
    @stevea5985 5 років тому +1203

    Just think how embarrassed the kids feel when their mom or dad act like this during a game .

    • @noelt8895
      @noelt8895 5 років тому +1

      @@mipilot30 Why have you made it a race issue?

    • @noelt8895
      @noelt8895 4 роки тому +2

      @Ulysses432 I would agree with your statement that "your" country is beyond redemption. But there is always hope. And whilst I accept your insult, I don't think Jesus Christ deserves insulting by you.

    • @akahaney1
      @akahaney1 4 роки тому +4

      I had a kid escort his dad out of a basketball game

    • @BraydenMCFC
      @BraydenMCFC 4 роки тому +8

      My Mom did this once, it is very embarrassing having them yelling, she stopped now because she knew it is stupid

    • @bearpayton34
      @bearpayton34 4 роки тому +4

      AT LEAST SHE DIDNT FIGHT THE OTHER PARENT AND ENDED UP ON THE NEWS LIKE JANICE DID. (sopranos)

  • @josephgately2378
    @josephgately2378 5 років тому +1596

    The same parent that yells at the teacher when their kids are getting bad grades or in trouble at school.

    • @mipilot30
      @mipilot30 5 років тому +9

      No doubt.

    • @arnoldjack7956
      @arnoldjack7956 4 роки тому +6

      ABSOFUCKINLUTELY

    • @FabSmgVEVO
      @FabSmgVEVO 4 роки тому +4

      Joseph Gately that’s a good reason to yell at a kid

    • @Michael-hz7ye
      @Michael-hz7ye 4 роки тому +6

      Fab SmgVEVO no, its not. Just showcasing their bad parenting

    • @xenagos3336
      @xenagos3336 3 роки тому

      @@FabSmgVEVO can you read?

  • @mickallen899
    @mickallen899 7 місяців тому +63

    I was attacked physically as a 12 year old by a parent when playing soccer. Some people are a disgrace to their kids.

  • @SteveDisenhof
    @SteveDisenhof 8 місяців тому +21

    I refereed and coached for almost 2 decades. As a rule, which was never broken, when I asked my players what they hated most about the sport, they would almost unanimously answer, “the parents.“

  • @TheSafetySmith
    @TheSafetySmith 5 років тому +1660

    Parents' are also a reason why trained coaches stop coaching youth soccer.

    • @lavianahampton4641
      @lavianahampton4641 5 років тому +3

      John Doe yes

    • @philipthomey7884
      @philipthomey7884 5 років тому +13

      The same in Junior hockey

    • @bhkidd
      @bhkidd 5 років тому +33

      I coached U13 and U9 for several years. Parents were the reason I stopped.

    • @chungusyt4641
      @chungusyt4641 5 років тому +26

      Don’t you mean every youth sport.

    • @RedCard94
      @RedCard94 4 роки тому +36

      Not only that, misbehaved parents are a reason why there's a shortage of youth referee's now, because they abuse the referee's.

  • @H0TWHEELS
    @H0TWHEELS 5 років тому +1162

    When you can hear her loud mouth over the game and kids, you know how she really is. Good job Ref, someone give him a raise.

    • @gerryendersen4718
      @gerryendersen4718 3 роки тому +14

      As a youth ref I can tell u we don’t need a raise. Center refs get paid a dollar a minute straight cash to deal with this bullshit.

    • @VotexSin
      @VotexSin 3 роки тому +10

      Don’t forget the tornado and planes in the background

    • @yousufrizvi557
      @yousufrizvi557 3 роки тому +4

      He only made one mistake, which was when the free kick was kicked play should’ve continued, it was behind where it was supposed to be kicked and I think that’s fine.

    • @aizekkemp9024
      @aizekkemp9024 3 роки тому +6

      As a ref i wish raises were a thing

    • @ianritchie3810
      @ianritchie3810 3 роки тому +1

      @@yousufrizvi557 sorry mate, that ain’t a rule. From a guy in uk, played and followed football all my life. Meant to be where foul was committed... none of this rolling the ball forward or behind.
      I agree the ref should have let it play and then gone back to ask the parent to leave... although I have never seen someone in the crowd receive a card??? Is that a American amateur thing? In the uk even at amateur u16s for example if you get booked you still get fined or your club gets fined. Don’t know who to and what fine the “mum” would pay?

  • @kensavage7657
    @kensavage7657 4 роки тому +76

    As a referee, I can say that "competitive parents" are the very worst part of this level of football. Verbal abuse from parents is very common at this level (towards the ref, opposition players/coaches and even towards their own players/coaches). At youth level, I would estimate that I have ejected more spectators than players.

    • @charlesvoss1393
      @charlesvoss1393 6 місяців тому +3

      Agree 100 % parents can be more of the problem in all sports.

    • @johnmu7034
      @johnmu7034 4 місяці тому +1

      And there are many sports that struggle to get officials for games, I wonder why !

    • @SoupBeans-ln5ye
      @SoupBeans-ln5ye 3 місяці тому

      This is America. It's soccer.

    • @karatearmchairhistorian9825
      @karatearmchairhistorian9825 2 місяці тому

      @@SoupBeans-ln5ye No, in America now more people are calling it "football". The game played with a misshapen-egg ball on a field with weird lines by people dressed like medieval knights is called "American football".

    • @SoupBeans-ln5ye
      @SoupBeans-ln5ye Місяць тому

      @@karatearmchairhistorian9825 I'm sorry but that's just incorrect. In America if you say football you are talking about a sport that's fully padded with helmets and a oblong ball. When you're looking through a tv guide to find something to watch and you see the word football it iis football with the forward pass 100% of the time (except latin stations which say futbol but that's for people who were not born in the United States. Their 1st generation American children call it soccer.) I live in a city with a MLS team and when you go to it you say one of 2 things. I'm going to the Crew game or you say I'm going to the soccer game. People are starting to call it football lol. I'm American. l know that you're are either nuts or a straight up liar.

  • @therealmessiah1965
    @therealmessiah1965 4 роки тому +337

    I don’t even know what she said but he gave her a warning first so I’m gonna side with the ref

  • @kellyfontes7757
    @kellyfontes7757 5 років тому +1544

    A bunch of people who never played soccer harrassing a ref.

    • @pablosanchez5294
      @pablosanchez5294 5 років тому +27

      Kelly Fontes I played football cause that’s it’s real name not soccer but I never seen a ref kickout parents watching a game before I wouldn’t have left if he did that shit on me

    • @michael4129
      @michael4129 5 років тому

      Kelly Fontes

    • @kylew.4896
      @kylew.4896 5 років тому +14

      This ref has clearly never played lol what's he gonna card the goal post next hahaha

    • @kipknee
      @kipknee 5 років тому +42

      @pablo sanchez, Then it's game over and your team would forfeit.

    • @kellyfontes7757
      @kellyfontes7757 5 років тому +3

      Jose Gutierrez no guey es Futbol

  • @joesignoretti9039
    @joesignoretti9039 5 років тому +803

    Nothing ruins youth sports like parents. When I coached rec I made sure every girl played and every girl sat equally. Somehow that was a problem especially with one father. He was angry I would pull the best player. He couldn't get it through his head this was not competitive soccer. He complained about me and when I explained what I was doing they told him either accept it or take her elsewhere. He left and took the worst player I had. I got a thumbs up from the rest of the team. The rest of the season was fun.

    • @badgumby9544
      @badgumby9544 5 років тому +51

      "this was not competitive soccer". What the hell does that mean? If it's not competitive soccer then it's not soccer. You probably give out "participation" trophies as well.

    • @annadavide2776
      @annadavide2776 5 років тому +18

      You are a good citizen and a good coach❤

    • @jcwatts79
      @jcwatts79 5 років тому +60

      Timothy - this is what people don’t get. It’s recreational league, a club aimed at kids learning to love the game. And yes you do get participation trophy’s. You are rewarded by how you do on the field each game of the season. If your child plays competitive league you better hope they are good enough to stay off the bench otherwise your child will not get much play time and will eventually lose interest.

    • @coldblue9mm
      @coldblue9mm 5 років тому +39

      Timothy Landon You just don't get it, do you? It's recreational, supposed to be fun. These kids have the rest of their lives to deal with douche bags like you. Let the kids have fun. Stuff a sock in the parents mouth if that's what it takes.

    • @badgumby9544
      @badgumby9544 5 років тому +31

      Bullshit. Trophies for all convey an inaccurate and potentially dangerous life message to children: "We are all winners". This message is repeated at the end of each sports season, year after year, and is only reinforced by the collection of trophies that continues to pile up. We begin to expect awards and praise for just showing up - to class, practice, after-school jobs - leaving us woefully unprepared for reality. Outside the protected bubble of childhood, not everyone is a winner. Showing up to work, attending class, completing homework and trying my best at sports practice are expected of me, not worthy of an award. These are the foundations of a long path to potential success, a success that is not guaranteed no matter how much effort I put in. Trophies should be given out for first, second and third; participation should be recognized, but celebrated with words and a pat on the back rather than a trophy. As in sports as well as life, it is fact that there’s room for only a select few on the winners’ podium.

  • @samirchavi5121
    @samirchavi5121 4 роки тому +132

    TEAM mates: Hey Chelsey isn't your mom ?..
    CHELSEY :No I don't know her🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣👏👏👏👏

    • @vicO1323
      @vicO1323 3 роки тому +7

      CHELSEY, No, I'm adopted.

    • @russs7574
      @russs7574 2 роки тому

      It can be kind of like a St. Peter thing, eh? "Before the whistle blows, you will deny your mother three times?" lol

    • @samirchavi5121
      @samirchavi5121 2 роки тому

      @@russs7574 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
      Cracked me up
      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @HousBinPhartiin
    @HousBinPhartiin 4 роки тому +16

    I' m sure she said,......."but wait, don't you know that my child is gifted?"

  • @robertstv8045
    @robertstv8045 5 років тому +6

    I was at a local baseball league last week. A parent used the F-word. Immediate ejection from the park. ZERO tolerance. No option. Zero means ZERO. Gone. Was told it has cut down bad behavior by 99%.

    • @tonyfranklin8306
      @tonyfranklin8306 5 років тому +1

      I'm afraid that in football and sometimes at rugby here in the UK you'll hear the F bomb and a few more choice words besides , by time they are 14-15 parents and even the kids themselves will be 'effing and blinding' like it's casual conversation. Our old rugby PE master would crack you a backhander if he heard you swearing (this was the early to mid 80s when corporal punishment was still a thing) The fact he was an ex pro rugby player helped with how some parents behaved but too often, particularly in football the reaction of parents is horrendous

    • @robertstv8045
      @robertstv8045 5 років тому

      @@tonyfranklin8306 US youth football parents are nuts. Flag football is growing very fast, while tackle football numbers shrink. CTE issues and overall parent craziness is at fault

    • @robertstv8045
      @robertstv8045 5 років тому

      @Mark Oster I attend baseball youth primarily. Football at the youth level gravitates to violence at times.

  • @27westmount
    @27westmount 5 років тому +543

    Good for the ref. Throwing out rude and unruly parents!!!

    • @southwestfan7060
      @southwestfan7060 4 роки тому

      @@ethan3949 I think it's actually fun. Get to see the game from a different view.

    • @southwestfan7060
      @southwestfan7060 4 роки тому +2

      @@ethan3949 You can't get a referee licence until you are 12, just so you know.

    • @southwestfan7060
      @southwestfan7060 4 роки тому

      @@ethan3949 I'm sorry, I misinterpreted you. I thought you said you quit reffing.

    • @southwestfan7060
      @southwestfan7060 4 роки тому

      @@ethan3949 :)

    • @Downsouthroots
      @Downsouthroots 3 роки тому

      You never show a fan a card!!!!

  • @kevinrogers7650
    @kevinrogers7650 4 роки тому +81

    Speaking as a FIFA ref, sometimes you need to throw parents out of games, but it's usually handled differently. If a parent is a problem, you stop the game, and have the Coach, who represents the team that the parent is rooting for, quiet down. If it continures, you tell the coach to remove the parent, or he/she loses in a forfeit. It's less confrontational that way, and less embarassing for the kid, and the parent.

    • @amongthederps
      @amongthederps 9 місяців тому +2

      You are a red in fifa what players did you meet I'm so curious your lucky to meet them all

    • @devonalomar9012
      @devonalomar9012 6 місяців тому +1

      Speaking as the inventor of football, blah blah blah. Sure buddy.

    • @kevinrogers7650
      @kevinrogers7650 6 місяців тому +11

      @@amongthederps Not that you know what you're talking about, let me give you a little edumakashun, bubba:
      FIFA has a system where teenagers, and some adults, are developed into being a ref. There are 8 grades of being a ref. To ref international games, such as World Cup, Olympics, etc, you must be a grade 1 ref. It takes many years to reach this level and not everyone can make it.
      Starting as a teenage ref, you are only allowed to referee other teens/children, as long as you are 2 yrs older. Once you've refereed and served as a linesman for enough games (and with your ocal FIFA coordinator's approval) you become a grade 7 ref. The process is long. There are physical fitness standards when you reach the highest levels. In an 11 vs. 11 match, an avg ref runs 10 miles if he's doing it right - a ref is supposed to try to remain within 10 meters of the ball. FIFA refs take re-certification tests annually on the "Laws of the Game" The rules are the same for children through adults. FIFA issues modifications/changes to the rules every year.
      Yes, even those teenagers you see refereeing kids games are most likely FIFA refs. The only exception is high school and college athletic associations have their own certifications, but 99.9% of the refs doing hs and college games are also FIFA refs.

    • @Subangelis
      @Subangelis 6 місяців тому +2

      It is quite possible the ref conveyed the info that coaches control their parents pre-match.

    • @henrikiversen3084
      @henrikiversen3084 6 місяців тому

      Speaking as a coach training division teams - id like for you to link where a spectator can have a red card within the fifa rules or any other football rules - jeez@@kevinrogers7650

  • @dallased25
    @dallased25 4 роки тому +11

    I've had multiple friends coach youth sport and all of them would never do it again....because of the parents.

  • @itsmeagain8760
    @itsmeagain8760 5 років тому +736

    I’m a club coach in California, I had to cut really good players from my team because of their parents.

    • @javtimestwo
      @javtimestwo 5 років тому +29

      oscar-good job. probably was not an easy decision but took a lot of courage.

    • @itsmeagain8760
      @itsmeagain8760 5 років тому +81

      I’m really good...my team is rank #5 in the state. I’m here to coach a team, not to deal with frustrations from parents, if you let someone abuse you... that’s on you buddy!!!!

    • @PhilDenton
      @PhilDenton 5 років тому +13

      You are an idiot and if you have kids it's apparent that you're an awful role model and awful parent as well. If you don't have kids please stay that way. We don't need any more of your entitled attitude in the gene pool.

    • @itsmeagain8760
      @itsmeagain8760 5 років тому +64

      Phil Denton all my players have above 3.00 GPA... they’re on their way to college some of them with athletic scholarships, for some people that’s pretty good.... I’m sure you’re one of those parents that likes to be coaching your kid from the sidelines, abusing refs and acting like a complete idiot on the sidelines....Your kid would never excede in sports.!!!

    • @carloscarballo2840
      @carloscarballo2840 5 років тому +18

      Oscar G. Keep up the good work coach hope u make it rank #1 some day and it's stressful eliminating good players from ur team just because of their parents but look at ur team now they are rank #5 which is something tht another coach might never get.

  • @brianbeiler5162
    @brianbeiler5162 6 років тому +725

    Parents are the reason that there are fewer and fewer experienced referees out there. The only ones left are really old and have lost a step, or are very young and don't know any better.
    Yes, referees make mistakes. But they do not deserve this abuse. Do they get to come to your place of work and scream at you when YOU make a mistake? No. So what makes you think they deserve your abuse?
    Without referees, there is no game.

    • @wesleyraman9014
      @wesleyraman9014 5 років тому +6

      Brian Beiler thanks dude that would've helped a lot of people's opinions

    • @PhilDenton
      @PhilDenton 5 років тому +34

      Not to mention most of these refs do this part time either for fun or to make a little extra money on the side. When I was a kid my dad used to ref as a fun way to stay in shape and make a little extra money. He really enjoyed it until he had to eject a parent who then threatened to go his car, get a gun, and come back and shoot him. That was his last game as a ref. Some people ruin it for everybody...

    • @slpguy6026
      @slpguy6026 5 років тому +2

      Well said

    • @billyd5301
      @billyd5301 5 років тому +2

      True but the ref here is clueless.

    • @cs1458
      @cs1458 5 років тому +15

      There are parents who yell at the refs at my kid's U-7 soccer games. It's a joke, I have no idea what goes through these people's heads.

  • @Lava1964
    @Lava1964 3 роки тому +4

    I umpired baseball and softball in Canada for 30 years. I was told by one of the umpire supervisors that most new umpires don't last two seasons because of the abuse they take--often from parents. However, he said, if they last two years they likely will last ten years.

  • @ivansimonetto8957
    @ivansimonetto8957 3 роки тому +47

    At the question: "What is your dream after you won this Championship?", an Italian coach answered: "My dream is to train a team of orphans".

  • @jeffstewart7639
    @jeffstewart7639 5 років тому +30

    As an experienced 4-sport official, one of the most fundamental understandings is - parents are ignored UNLESS they become a source of concern to players and other fans.

    • @mipilot30
      @mipilot30 5 років тому

      It's usually checked or monitored more at the instructional stages of a program where I come from. As the kids get older, the refs are better and used to dicks. Not saying they like it, but it's harder to do anyting about it by high school or travel and select programs.

    • @iamlordinho5229
      @iamlordinho5229 2 роки тому +1

      In the UK we are told to never approach the parents. If they get too bad then the home team should have their welfare officer deal with it. If it’s unresolved after that then the game should be suspended or abandoned. A parent would never be shown a yellow or red card in a game and in the UK it would have the opposite effect anyway cos ppl would definitely take the piss out of you 😂

    • @tewaewae
      @tewaewae 2 роки тому

      no, you don't ignore, you kick them out and feel sorry for the kids. Eventually the parents will self police the morons.

    • @danmodevs7227
      @danmodevs7227 7 днів тому

      @@iamlordinho5229 Whereabouts are you reffing in the UK? Refs are taught from the age of 14 to send disruptive parents away from the field of play if they become abusive in any way. Welfare officers from the league will then attend attend a set amount of the offending team's matches. If it is a young ref, just hope his / her dad doesn't get you first.

  • @glseibert0825
    @glseibert0825 5 років тому +48

    Being a Soccer Ref for the last 20 years, I totally agree. It's far more effective to try a 2-step resolution: 1) Walk calmly to the sideline and remind the entire collection of "adults" reminding them how they are supposed to be role models for the soccer-playing children. If that doesn't work, walk calmly to the coaches are say something like, "Coaches. We're having a problem with that person (describe to identify) in the spectators section. Can you help us with that?" Most good coaches will take care of the problem. If not, walk calmly to the offender and state in a professional manner, "Sir/Madam the game will resume when you are in the parking lot." Walk away to prepare for restart while watching the offender depart. That generally gets the point across that the adults need to act like adults.
    What you don't do is show cards to spectators. It makes the referee look amateur. Those are reserved for players.

    • @jasonmcleod6001
      @jasonmcleod6001 4 роки тому +4

      It is absolutely amateur and much over the top. Preventative officiating will solve nearly all the problems - not blowing the whistle, stopping the game, running over (far over) and looking like an absolute idiot issuing yellow/red cards to spectators. Then going out of his way to find the tourney directors? How lame. Just ask the coach(es) for help.

    • @criscrosxxx
      @criscrosxxx 4 роки тому +1

      Wheres step 2 ???

    • @sachsgs2509
      @sachsgs2509 2 роки тому +2

      First of all you don't show cards on spectators.
      Only players coaches team personnel.
      I like your calm approach however it takes a long time from the game.
      Players waiting.

    • @MaydayAggro
      @MaydayAggro Рік тому

      @@jasonmcleod6001 No. Preventive officiating will not stop even 50% of the problems because the problems most of the time are the PEOPLE, not the situations. I personally rarely have issues with spectators, but I have been relatively lucky.

    • @XwpisONOMA
      @XwpisONOMA Рік тому +1

      Nope, you NEVER talk to these people. The proper way to deal with such spectators is to ask the respective team's coach to control them. If they do not or are unable to do so, simply refuse to continue the game and even terminate it. Btw, a youth soccer referee is entitled at any point before, during or even after a game to call local law enforcement and depending on the severity of the behavior even ask that the person is arrested.

  • @nautica7084
    @nautica7084 Рік тому +11

    as a soccer referee reffing in various age groups, we are not supposed to interact with the spectator side. I'm so sad to see this happen. We are supposed to go to the coach to handle spectators.

    • @slpguy6026
      @slpguy6026 5 місяців тому

      Not necessarily, depends on league rules. He is probably completely justified issuing the warning & then notifying the parent they were gone. He did indeed then seek the coach’s help. The cards were silly & inappropriate.

    • @jackel99
      @jackel99 5 місяців тому

      yes
      you never show a card to a spectator (including player on the bench) a card@@slpguy6026

  • @jhagestad
    @jhagestad 3 роки тому +3

    Can we just admire the fact that this game was played in a tornado?

    • @JILL0704USA
      @JILL0704USA 2 роки тому +1

      Eye of a hurricane, maybe?

  • @philtevlin3853
    @philtevlin3853 5 років тому +94

    My brother coached/refereed girl's soccer for several years. He gave it up after having to deal with unreasonable parents one too many times.

  • @emmanuelrobert208
    @emmanuelrobert208 5 років тому +67

    Totally agreed with the decision. Stop the game until the parent leaves.

  • @cd1857
    @cd1857 4 роки тому +16

    I've had to do this several times. The kids are great, never had to red card a one. But some parents are the worst!

  • @aanon5716
    @aanon5716 5 років тому +100

    nothing worse than an obnoxious parent at the kids games except having to live with them. lol.

    • @stevenberry3294
      @stevenberry3294 5 років тому +2

      awe poor whittle ref

    • @bigboymatthew7471
      @bigboymatthew7471 2 роки тому

      People are completely different at home and at ⚽️ games there are always lots of emotions

  • @oscarjetson128
    @oscarjetson128 5 років тому +7

    Good for the ref. Some parents can be absolutely brutal to deal with.

  • @tomwalsh63
    @tomwalsh63 11 місяців тому +1

    Love how all these parents couldn’t run a mile, yet know how everything should be in a game.

    • @Sxogy
      @Sxogy 4 місяці тому

      THATS IM SAYIN

  • @dokim9269
    @dokim9269 4 місяці тому +2

    These type of soccer moms and baseball dads are adults that just never matured. They're still children.

    • @Paladin327
      @Paladin327 24 дні тому

      When i played basketball in high school in a community league, the worst parents i encountered just happened to be the league commissioner and his wife. Also their kid was a total asshole as well

  • @sealand000
    @sealand000 5 років тому +11

    Daughter: "No, I don't know who that woman is."

  • @5150Murph
    @5150Murph 5 років тому +102

    Good job mom. Take your anti depressants before the game.

  • @PeterBee911
    @PeterBee911 26 днів тому

    Probably the first time they ever got told "NO".

  • @rahulbarca4112
    @rahulbarca4112 3 роки тому +37

    I wish we have a red card for karens in real life situation too.

    • @Unclefire
      @Unclefire 2 роки тому

      A former boss of mine is a huge hockey fan. He would joke around at work and said work should be like hockey sometimes. If somebody is being an ass, you drop the gloves and go at it, then you go to the penalty box for 5 minutes. lol

    • @Linus76
      @Linus76 2 роки тому

      The "K" Card. :)

  • @hotdog8214
    @hotdog8214 5 років тому +23

    Love it..can't stand big mouth parents

  • @scottl9840
    @scottl9840 5 років тому +33

    I was a ref in my teens. When all the parents were behaving badly..this formula worked well.
    1) warn the coach and have he/she tell the parents to pipe down.
    2) next time It happens, walk calmly up to all the parents and say “one more outburst and your team forfeits”.
    Works every time! Being a ref taught me so much about standing up for what’s right. And Hopefully teaching some kids that bullying has a price.

    • @randalhill6283
      @randalhill6283 5 років тому +2

      yeah real classy, make the kids pay for the parents acting like jerks. What a piece of shit ref you probably were. you don't punish the kids for the parents Behavior you ass.

    • @mipilot30
      @mipilot30 5 років тому +3

      Well what a piece of work you clearly are. The kid ref did the right thing. He took charge and made a good call. If the coach let's the parents act like assholes that's not the ref's fault. If you can't handle doing the right thing, go find your safe zone snowflake.@@randalhill6283

    • @LaPelotaenlaCabeza
      @LaPelotaenlaCabeza 4 роки тому +1

      I agree, this whole thing was way over the top.

    • @Chase0370
      @Chase0370 4 роки тому

      @@randalhill6283 umm you question someone class with a trashy post great logic

    • @LaPelotaenlaCabeza
      @LaPelotaenlaCabeza 4 роки тому

      @Mark W If they fucking suck, you should go do it and we'll see how good of a job you do.

  • @lgarcia67
    @lgarcia67 4 місяці тому +1

    My son played competitive soccer since he was 9 until he was 16. He played at all levels, all the way to state championship. I saw parents with the most outrageous behaviors in all that time. They simply destroy the fun for the kids. I saw many kids turn around and ask their parents to shut up. It was absolutely crazy.

  • @scottt5088
    @scottt5088 Місяць тому

    Parent behavior like this is a complete disgrace

  • @steveboyd9522
    @steveboyd9522 4 роки тому +13

    I bet your kid is so proud of you!

  • @tonimp4317
    @tonimp4317 5 років тому +4

    I had to remove a parent for harrassing their own kid. It was awful. He threatened to fight me (and he had at least 100lbs and an extra foot of height on me). Now we have a parent that can't stop coaching from the sideline. It ruins everything for the kids.

    • @Icecube88
      @Icecube88 5 років тому

      i would have fought him for you

    • @badkaladoo8637
      @badkaladoo8637 2 роки тому

      Go for the retracted nuts next time dear

  • @JJKid-yw7vk
    @JJKid-yw7vk 4 роки тому

    Parents are not even in the game but still get thrown out..😅🤣😅🤣😅

  • @dennissvitak148
    @dennissvitak148 Рік тому +1

    I was a little league coach for years. The best approach is for the ref to go to the coach whose kid is this ladies' player, and tell them to deal with it. Works every time.

  • @bearbrand6626
    @bearbrand6626 5 років тому +3

    I'm stuck in an eerily satisfying wormhole of unsportsmanlike parents and coaches (across several sports).
    I feel like the kids could figure out the close calls easier if the adults weren't around.

    • @russs7574
      @russs7574 2 роки тому

      Point well taken. In a lot of cases, they could. We did when we were kids. During the summer, we spent almost all of our free time playing all sorts of sports (Football in the park in July? Sure, why not?), and the vast majority of that was NOT spent in an organized league, so we just officiated ourselves. We were the best umpires/referees on the planet. lol
      The best way to ruin a sport for kids is to get the adults involved.

  • @vasily2022
    @vasily2022 5 років тому +11

    It is a disgrace when parents desperately try to live their failed lives through their kids and take things to these extreme levels and sometimes start fights. I feel sorry for the refs. Yes! Some might be unprofessional or may miss calls, but that happens even in professional games in any sport. I couldn't be a ref, because at these little events because I am not going to be able to take the abuse they take from the parents. Some refs have been beaten up, attacked and in some cases, even killed. This is really a disgrace.

  • @melodyeisenberg2789
    @melodyeisenberg2789 2 роки тому

    Both my children were in soccer from pee wee community to high school club. I witnessed so much of this from mom, dads, coaches. I think it's so stupid.

  • @janetpartyka5968
    @janetpartyka5968 6 місяців тому

    Joseph, You are so right. She is verbally abusive to the teacher when her kid gets in trouble or gets a bad grade. This is a parent who feels guilty because she isn't spending enough time with her kid so she takes it out on everybody else. THE REF. DID AN EXCELLENT JOB by THROWING HER OUT. HOW EMBARRASSING. NICE EXAMPLE FOR YOUR KID, LADY.

  • @The_Aligor
    @The_Aligor 4 роки тому +4

    I play soccer so I've seen parents like this in the crowd and my God there so annoying.

  • @ianweldon4796
    @ianweldon4796 2 роки тому +41

    I’m okay with what progressed with the situation, but as an referee myself, a rule says that you cannot give a parent any cards. If there are problems with the parents, you’re supposed to warn and give a yellow card to the parent’s coach.

    • @mtkimbrell
      @mtkimbrell 2 роки тому +3

      Same here. I yellow card the coach this last weekend but let the coach know it goes on him but it is due to the parent. This was after verbal warnings. Coach was also instigating and for his sake he is lucky he decided to stop because the red was coming and he had no assistant so the game would have been forfeited in our league. U12 game and hate to see kids not get to play because of the the parents and coaches. The kids were actually really well behaved. The offending parent's kid actually told his dad to sit down so they could play.

    • @ImaDirt
      @ImaDirt 2 роки тому

      That’s league rules

    • @liambrowne8255
      @liambrowne8255 2 роки тому +2

      Yeah, ref here too and would never card a parent. Its not on a ref to do so (follow laws of the game, nothing else). If a parent/supporter is getting too hot and heavy, inform the home team coach, who must inform whoevers looking after the grounds, to remove them from the grounds.

    • @dannyfitzpatrick9783
      @dannyfitzpatrick9783 2 роки тому

      @@liambrowne8255 Yeah, referee to stop the game, referee to go searching for the coach, coach argues with him, referee leaves it to the coach to find the ground manager ... on and on it goes. Attack the parents, tell 'em to leave immediately and to come to the mid week judiciary to explain themselves. Why did the referee here have to first find the fat sheila to act and then find the old fella to act, with his faithful manservant Pancho?

    • @liambrowne8255
      @liambrowne8255 2 роки тому +2

      @@dannyfitzpatrick9783 It ain't hard to find the coach.. they'll be on the line. You get the coach to sort it, or you stop the game and leave it to the league to decide.

  • @lbyvik
    @lbyvik 3 роки тому +2

    Actually, according to the Laws of the game, the official has no authority to remove a parent or spectator. Showing a yellow card to a spectator is not allowed. The procedure is to ask coaching or management staff to deal with the spectators. If that doesn't work warning or sanctioning the coach (yellow card) is the correct response. If that still doesn't result in a behavior change, The referee can stop play and alert tournament officials to intervene until the issue is resolved. But, they are not actually allowed to remove or send off spectators.

    • @shelperkins5315
      @shelperkins5315 3 роки тому +1

      Why should the coach be getting a warning?

    • @russs7574
      @russs7574 2 роки тому +1

      OK, the rules for soccer must be different than those for baseball. Because I coached years and years ago, and the umpire was most definitely allowed to eject out-of-control fans from the facility.
      Actually, the best tactic would be, parent get out of control....whistle.....unsportsmanlike conduct.....free kick the other way.....and if it's in the offending parent's team's end of the field, a direct free kick.

  • @joshuaespinoza5082
    @joshuaespinoza5082 3 роки тому +2

    I thank God for being taught how to be honest!

  • @Amazin-ji8sn
    @Amazin-ji8sn 5 років тому +9

    I love these parents they never played the game in their life yelling at refs from the sidelines. Instead of coaching, volunteering or trying to ref themselves.

  • @TheStuport
    @TheStuport 5 років тому +34

    It's really not at all surprising to see and hear kids who have no manners these days....their Parents raised them that way by example.

  • @Hestiff
    @Hestiff 3 роки тому +2

    People don’t understand how difficult it is to ref a game. They really expect you to see everything and never make a mistake.

    • @janetpartyka5968
      @janetpartyka5968 6 місяців тому +1

      @Hestiff, I understand. They are entitled parents who don't spend enough time with their kids.

  • @LaPelotaenlaCabeza
    @LaPelotaenlaCabeza 4 роки тому +1

    I refereed different age groups and would hear the parents yelling, a lot of times just to complain. When it was way over the top, I would go talk to the coaches about it. Referees have to learn to have thick skin and not react like this every time a parent says one word about not agreeing with the call. Nobody even threw out an insult, just do the game. There's no need to cause such a scene over a parent disagreeing with a call.

  • @commonsense31
    @commonsense31 5 років тому +11

    This should be done so much more often you have no idea.
    If parents are acting like that throw them off the side line.

  • @Biblicalone
    @Biblicalone Місяць тому

    I coached travel soccer and basketball for both of my daughters. Parents ruin a good % of the joy, the competition and the sportsmanship that should be learned playing sports. Many of them think their child is going to be a star and ruin it, instead of letting a natural progression work itself out. The stars will eventually shine if you allow it to happen. The great ones always rise.

  • @BAZZAROU812
    @BAZZAROU812 5 років тому +17

    My boss is a coach and he tells me all the time about unruly parents.. He has had to ban them from the games.. He told me about several fights over the years all involving women for some reason..

    • @number62
      @number62 5 років тому

      @steve b why should they elect women for the sake of having a woman in office? Surely the platform matters more......unless your a treasonous libtard.

    • @mipilot30
      @mipilot30 5 років тому +2

      Hey asshole, libs didn't elect Putin's bitch, cons did. Cons have been traitors since the revolutionary war when they fought against the founding fathers who were liberals - progressives.@@number62

    • @russs7574
      @russs7574 2 роки тому

      @@mipilot30 You two should both get red cards for trying to politicize this board.

  • @Bonagracia-777
    @Bonagracia-777 4 місяці тому +1

    Parents walk of shame.

  • @dustinbennie1813
    @dustinbennie1813 6 місяців тому +1

    Karens gotta Karen somewhere.

  • @MaskHysteria
    @MaskHysteria 4 роки тому +10

    Seen this one too many times at my stepdaughter's games. Worse when the parents berate their own kids from the sidelines.

    • @Pmtd1234
      @Pmtd1234 4 роки тому

      Sadly that happens all too often.

  • @MrThaddeus1980
    @MrThaddeus1980 5 років тому +47

    i do not ref soccer and never have but for over 30 years I have officiated basketball at all levels including the NBA. I will say that the fans are becoming more and more unreasonable and rude. Whatever the price for admission does not give the fan the right to act a fool. Plus, I always tell fans "IF YOU CAN DO BETTER WE ARE ALWAYS LOOKING FOR MORE OFFICICALS! One time during a college game I had, one of my co-officials took off his wistle, sat in the stands next to this fan and gave him his wistle and said "obviously you are seeing a different game than I am. Why don't you go and call the rest of the game since you know so much more than I do." I challenge anyone who think the refs are terrible to go join the local association and start getting all the calls we miss!

    • @joelparish3851
      @joelparish3851 5 років тому

      mtt i

    • @besto6279
      @besto6279 5 років тому

      I do not believe you! If your partner went into the stands during a collegiate game then he never work another college game again. If you cant take criticism in the profession then find another avocation. Tell me professional POSER! How many rules are in the rule book?

    • @jamisojo
      @jamisojo 5 років тому +2

      @@besto6279 You're an idiot BestO.

    • @josephhumbles140
      @josephhumbles140 5 років тому

      mtt *foo

    • @levivv
      @levivv 5 років тому +1

      hahaha so how was reffing the NBA mtt? must have been a great experience. did the players moms yell at you there too? poor guy

  • @RainFall2112
    @RainFall2112 8 місяців тому +1

    Soccer parents are the worst part of coaching

  • @doctordef324
    @doctordef324 2 роки тому

    I love it, the ref joyfully jogs over like twinkle toes and gets the parent tossed!!!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @mac7083
    @mac7083 2 роки тому +3

    When I first started coaching kids I was told “The hardest part about coaching kids is managing the egos of the parents”. This arse hat parent proves that.

  • @sifender56
    @sifender56 4 роки тому +3

    Since when does a ref have power over a spectator in a public park?! 🤣🤣🤣
    If that was Scotland he’d be told where to go! 😂🤣😂🤣

    • @clearstar8354
      @clearstar8354 4 роки тому +1

      Agreed. He cant card the fans, he should be carding the team sidelines. That's when the coach steps in and tells the parents to stfu.

    • @brettbatz695
      @brettbatz695 3 роки тому +1

      The carding of the parent is wrong (unless that specific league allows it) but the ref is well within his right to stop the game and not allow it to continue until the abusive parent is removed. Usually league policy (and most youth leagues have a similar policy) is that this is done by going over and telling the coaches that the game will not continue until said parent has left. As a ref myself if I have an abusive parent I pause the game and go talk to both coaches and have them go over and remind their parents to be respectful. If it continues a second pause until the parent is removed. If the parent wont leave the ref can end the game and file a report with the league.

  • @jordycalvin8272
    @jordycalvin8272 19 днів тому

    I'd ban my own mom or dad from coming to my games if they acted like this during a game.

  • @TheSports50
    @TheSports50 23 години тому

    Parents need to respect all officials . Kids look up to there parents so parents need to set a good example of conducting themselves properly at sporting events

  • @cleehomes
    @cleehomes 5 років тому +8

    I am ex professional coach who traveled from UK to America to coach select, my biggest nightmare was the parents and not the kids! To be fair most of the parents were pretty cool but there was always one or two parents for each team who would always get on the referees back! They were also the parents who had never played the game themselves before but always viewed themselves as the experts and set a terrible example to their kids!!!

  • @bluesteel5688
    @bluesteel5688 4 роки тому +6

    Well done referee, get those loud mouthed mofos out of there....they are a disgrace and know zippo about football

  • @westcoast9651
    @westcoast9651 3 роки тому +2

    What is sad is that we are experiencing the same thing in France. That's what made me stop training young people, I had more problems with parents than with kids 🙄

    • @winksongs
      @winksongs 4 місяці тому

      I've seen the same here in the Charente. Father's leaving their sons in tears with their abuse and criticisms. Not worth the hassle of being involved with kid's sport.

  • @lochlemonde
    @lochlemonde 3 роки тому

    Reffed a game where Dad was talking trash about other 11 year olds. Told him to stop. Only positive encouragement. He kept it up. After he said, "That kid guarding you is garbage.", I blew the whistle. Called both coaches over and said loud enough for everyone to hear while pointing at him. "He just called a player on the other team garbage. Which of you wants to claim That?" One coach reluctantly raised his hand and told the Dad to leave.

  • @tjjo136
    @tjjo136 5 років тому +4

    The walk of shame hahaha

    • @mipilot30
      @mipilot30 5 років тому

      No shame if you have no moral or conscience. I'm guessing she tore up social media with her rants on how wronged she was by an evil ref at a kids game. WTF?

  • @princetimon6733
    @princetimon6733 4 роки тому +19

    You know he meant business when he ran all the way there to get them ejected.

  • @MsSoccer1111
    @MsSoccer1111 4 роки тому

    Thank you!!!!

  • @MrJacobkick
    @MrJacobkick 2 роки тому

    One of the reason my wife quit teaching. She loved the kids, but the late night phone calls from parents driving her to tears was too much.

  • @penubly
    @penubly 5 років тому +157

    Parents should shut up or get out there and referee a game! These guys aren't out there to make money, they are out there to provide a service to the community on their day off! They don't deserve the abuse from the sidelines; they don't deserve the abuse from people who aren't willing to get out there and ref a game. Everyone wants people to give them a break when they make a mistake or have a bad day. Don't referees deserve one too?

    • @nickm8874
      @nickm8874 5 років тому +1

      penubly if it’s anything like England then a lot of them are out there for attention and a sense of authority. This guy looks the type ...

    • @penubly
      @penubly 5 років тому +2

      This isn't England - soccer isn't the top sport and most parents haven't played. Spectators need to realize they shouldn't be commentators, especially if they aren't willing to get out there themselves.

    • @andywerner838
      @andywerner838 5 років тому +1

      penubly I have refed game s and I still hate so called refs .hate that they act like they are better than anyone else .

    • @JoseLopez-bt7zp
      @JoseLopez-bt7zp 5 років тому +4

      penubly refs are definitely out there the money! No one would put up with some of the shit that goes on out for free. At the same time some of these refs are control freaks and make the game about them self.

    • @penubly
      @penubly 5 років тому

      Are you lumping all refs in the same category?

  • @Srman1999
    @Srman1999 5 років тому +9

    I’m glad that the community will not stand verbal abuse gets rid of it

    • @Mancer666
      @Mancer666 5 років тому

      The Arbiter snowflake

  • @gregmaynard3401
    @gregmaynard3401 4 роки тому

    I've coached for over 30 years in soccer, and volleyball. I had a parent get some stupid on me during a break between volleyball matches at a tournament, that I told her she wasn't welcome to at courtside for the remaining part of the tournament. She made her daughter come tell me, they were leaving. And "adult" women made her 12 year old tell the coach that had to leave. I made it clear to the young lady, the situation had nothing to do with her. It was a disagreement between her mother, and me. Why do some parents actually some foolish?

  • @hpaulbryant729
    @hpaulbryant729 5 місяців тому

    When coaching youth soccer, I had my players vote on a very important issue at the first team meeting.
    Simple question.
    Do you want you want your parents to yell at you or anyone else on the field during the game.
    For over 10 years, the unanimous result was a resounding "no."
    I enforced this rule with each and every parent.
    Did not take long for everyone to realize it made the game more enjoyable.

  • @JavierTorres-jw1bd
    @JavierTorres-jw1bd 5 років тому +4

    Great job Ref!!! Parent take it to seriuos is just soccer people please!!! Behave.

  • @70dvn
    @70dvn 4 роки тому +9

    He was ahead of his time, now we can card coaches in 2019

  • @mahlstadt
    @mahlstadt 2 роки тому

    Great work ref. I wish this guy was at a recent game where a parent stood behind the goal and refused to move, arguing “It’s a free country I can stand wherever I want”

    • @russs7574
      @russs7574 2 роки тому

      I used to ump. An obnoxious mother pulled that one me once. She insisted on sitting directly behind the backstop, when the rules of our league definitely said that parents had to sit in the bleachers behind the benches, and that spectators with lawn chairs had to sit down the foul lines. It was a safety thing, for one, but it was also our experience that parents who sit there are the one who like to chirp at the plate ump the most.
      So I told her she couldn't sit there. Same response..."It's a free country, and I'll sit where I damn well please." So I told her, "This may be a free country, but on this field I am an absolute dictator. This game will start when you remove yourself to the parking lot." And then I went to the manager of the team her kid played for and told him, "You saw, I tossed (kid's name) mother. If she's not gone in 5 minutes, you guys are forfeiting the game. I'm not putting up with her nonsense."
      She left.

  • @DitchDoctor11334
    @DitchDoctor11334 4 дні тому

    Parents need to learn to keep their mouths shut and let the coaches handle challenging the officials.

  • @eljackryan3681
    @eljackryan3681 5 років тому +6

    Wtf? Yellow card? Then red? 🤣🤦🏻‍♂️

    • @mipilot30
      @mipilot30 5 років тому +1

      What? You want purple to sooth the snowflake angst?

  • @MARKBART02
    @MARKBART02 5 років тому +3

    I've been a soccer ref for three years now and grew up on the game and one major thing I've kicked parents out of games is cursing and harassing the other team

  • @gingerhead666
    @gingerhead666 2 роки тому +2

    The tournament organizers did there job correctly with this

    • @Linus76
      @Linus76 2 роки тому

      I was thinking that. Responsive and supportive field Marshalls. Good on them for doing their job. Sadly there are those that don't!

  • @stewbab8784
    @stewbab8784 2 роки тому

    that mom was out of control....what a complete clown .....she should stay home and keep her mouth shut for months

  • @joshuak2810
    @joshuak2810 4 роки тому +3

    I played alot of sports when I was a kid. My father was getting kicked out of my hockey games alot of the time & I was very embarrased throughout the rest of the games. If it's an upper level elite highschool varsity game, I could understand it but some parents can easily cross a line.

  • @Kyoto99952
    @Kyoto99952 5 років тому +14

    I hate these kind of parents.

  • @larrylutsky181
    @larrylutsky181 8 місяців тому +2

    Parents kicked out of the game for saying, "oh come on," "that's unbelievable, and "that's pathetic. If your skin is that thin , then you have no business being out there officiating. Man up!

    • @jorgepuga8104
      @jorgepuga8104 20 днів тому

      WOW is that what she said? I didn't heard anything

  • @signoresantinoburnett1169
    @signoresantinoburnett1169 2 роки тому

    He REALLY likes to give out cards to the crowd. I like this guy.

    • @russs7574
      @russs7574 2 роки тому

      Well, yes, except that a soccer ref isn't not supposed to be carding spectators. He needed to get the coach and the leage/tournament officials involved before he did.

  • @kevint9125
    @kevint9125 5 років тому +8

    Here is how you handle parental harassment...Stop the game and give the game to the opposing players...A couple times of this strategy and the sidelines are sorted.

    • @russs7574
      @russs7574 2 роки тому

      Only one problem with that. It's really unfair to the kids who really just want to play. Abandoning a game should be a last resort...a "nuclear option," so to speak.

  • @baseballumpires6901
    @baseballumpires6901 5 років тому +22

    LOVE IT!!!! Na Na Na-Na, Na Na Na-Na, HEY HEY HEY....GOODBYE!!!! Parents are killing youth sports.

  • @MenoeldeVieques
    @MenoeldeVieques Рік тому

    Pretty frustrating when you hear this kind of parent yelling at the ref next to you!

  • @brandonrandell8236
    @brandonrandell8236 2 роки тому

    To be fair he doesn’t need to show a card to a parent he just asks them to leave 🤣🤣

  • @phillosophy5103
    @phillosophy5103 5 років тому +10

    Parents need to remember they are there to cheer on the players and are in no way to do the job of the ref. If they want to they could apply for the jersey! 😃

  • @jasonjackson5696
    @jasonjackson5696 5 років тому +17

    When a member of the keyboard warrior mentality meets reality - priceless, public humiliation & kicked out from spectating at a freakin’ *KID’s* soccer game.
    If I was there, I would have given the ref a standing ovation 👌👍👏

    • @mipilot30
      @mipilot30 5 років тому +1

      So would decent folks anywhere. There is growing element in this country to celebrate bad behavior. There's no coming back from the stupidty behind that trend.

    • @XTheCrystalBeastGuyX
      @XTheCrystalBeastGuyX 4 роки тому +1

      That's when you start singing "Na na na na, na na na na, hey hey-ey, goodbye!"

    • @elizabethwedge9136
      @elizabethwedge9136 4 роки тому

      Not so fast the ref needs to take his training course again...you can’t card spectators but his overall lack of experience is what lead to this getting as big as it did

    • @jasonjackson5696
      @jasonjackson5696 4 роки тому +1

      elizabeth wedge - of course the ref knew that, the point was to humiliate the parent & it worked.
      Remember, THESE ARE KIDS playing & trying to learn & have fun. These types of parents are horrible & really bad role models. My son played in a similar soccer league & before the game started, the refs explained that he wasn’t going to tolerate this type of crap & if it got out of hand, he’d call the game & give the win to the other side.
      I coached basketball & the rule was, if parents get out of hand the refs would call a technical foul against the offending team. It happened once & I turned to the area where the obnoxiousness was coming from & said to dial it down, these are 9 year old kids. It worked.

    • @elizabethwedge9136
      @elizabethwedge9136 4 роки тому

      Jason Jackson you just verbally warn the parent. If he was being assessed he would’ve failed. I don’t know about basketball but football/soccer takes and dim view on just winging it with the laws of the game

  • @justron1865
    @justron1865 Рік тому

    As a Ref I love this video. We are just trying to do our job. nobody is perfect. We don't get in the parents face when their child makes a mistake. Ref's should Ref - Coaches Coach and Kids be kids and play.

  • @Yolyfamilytoons
    @Yolyfamilytoons 2 роки тому

    children are the reflection of their parents