SEX is POWERFUL | A conversation with a Sex Therapist | The Basement w- Tim Ross
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HAPPY EARLY VALENTINES DAY! This is a special one. Let us know how this ep impacted you!
We need part 2
Please bring her back because… SHEESH!
So many wow learning moments in this episode!
this deserves a series on its own
Can you talk about manifestation and Christianity
Y'all we need to be praying for Tim... I know he's being used by God to break chains in so many people's lives. Our God is faithful AND I believe he needs the dwellers to be covering him in prayer as God is working through him.
God look out for Tim your son I ask you keep his feet from stumbling sand to keep his heart open always before you. Keep him amen.
Yes, praying for pastor Tim💜He has words for what happend to him en how it has affected him AND he knows how to use them. Thank You.God bless pastor Tim and everyone under his voice here🥳
Yessss we need to pray for him…. in name of Jesus … bless Tim! Thank you for sending him to shed your light and break chains🙏🏾
Amen 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thank you, JEHOVAH GOD for Tim Ross, the Bassement Crew and his guests 🙏🏽 I pray for their protection and and their gifts you installed in them to spread far and wide continuing to influence & inspire people to do better in their lives & help others. In yeshuweh's name amen.
I appreciate this so much! I’m preparing to talk to my sons about sex and appreciate you falsifying the notion that sex with a condom is “safe sex”. I had a Tim Ross “thank you Holy Spirit” moment where God said to me a condom protects your penis but your mind, heart and spirit remains vulnerable and at risk. Sex outside the context of marriage will ALWAYS be high risk 🙏🏽
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾this is good!
Your moment just helped me! Woah... thank you so much for sharing this compassionate language. I have a 7 year old as well & fellow friends in our 20s and have been trying to find language that speaks about why sex is high risk! Thank you sooooooooo very much.
woah 🤯🤯
So this is my crazy faith statement… I will be on The Basement. When God allows for that door to be opened, I will be ready. Holy Spirit has already confirmed this to me and my circle ⭕️ In Jesus name, it is done, Amen.
Can’t wait!
same no cap in Jesus Name.
What will be the topic so I can list it?
Amen!!
Amen
"We've made sex dangerous in our culture. In and of itself, it is NOT dangerous." That's huge! Thanks Jenna 💖
Sti, std is scary. But I understand your point
When you said “everybody out here in a same sex relationship is not out here because they were born this way” I felt that in the very being of my soul.. I too was sexually abused around 7-8 years old by a teenage girl and from there I thought I was attracted to girls… I never opened up about it until 25 years old… it was something that was so confusing but felt so nice to tell someone . THANK YOU FOR SAYING THAT!!
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Wow thank you so much for sharing Mariana! Reading your comment actually reminded me how the same thing happened to me when I was the same age.. I always thought that I was attracted to girls but I wasn’t…I was traumatized by a girl which made me believe that.
I know see the importance of talking about experiences/traumas/pain , because you never know who you might save!! Thank you, God bless you
Wow! Same! I was sexually touched by a teenage boy cousin at 5, my virginity was stripped by a different boy cousin around 16, and then was sexually introduced to a trusted teenage family girl friend shortly after. As a young mom of 4 now in my late 20s.... this episode is so overwhelming for me. I didn't understand the depth of my sexual trauma until today that also kept me more secretly attracted to women. Now, I assume because it felt "safer" with her than my experiences with those male family members and previous male partners. Yet, I have a husband and have never identified as homosexual. I'm just overwhelmed right now as you can see, lol. My alarm system has been off for a very very long time. I pray that the deeper we go, the greater and more bold we may become in our healing and helping others make sense of their traumas and assumptions.
@@shiyabrookins wow
Same, and this is coming from a male.
The point around 1:03:00 hit me hard. I asked a girl on a date a few months ago because I thought we were an excellent match. I had gotten to know who she was, but I didn’t give her any of myself, so she (rightly) rejected me after the first date. I was lonely and was happy to talk about everyone else, but I didn’t want to show people who I am.
Jenna needs to be a regular on here. You two talking about intimacy is a healing mechanism for marriages, the second greatest covenant in our lives.
Would LOVE to hear Jenna’s take on how we should be educating children on sex at different ages in a future pod ❤
Word!
OMG!!! I am 66 years young and the wisdom nuggets dropped on this program has just exploded in my soul!!! Wish I would have known what I know now 40 years ago!!! Pentecostal church raised me to believe that if it looks good, smells good, or tastes good… You were going straight to hell… Lol Today with programs like yours, you can experience freedom decades, sooner!!!👏👏👏
"There is no arrival point in life, yet we are so obsessed with finish lines." Wow Tim!! I just cannot get over how powerful this episode is! LIFE CHANGING stuff was said! I will have to go back MULTIPLE TIMES and rewatch this! Thank you, thank you, thank you, Tim!!! God bless you!!!
This brought me so much healing! Especially as an individual who can’t afford therapy. Thank you Tim♥️
Check hospital with behavioral clinic and see if the offer financial medical assistance. Hospital are required to offer Medical Financial Assistance for uninsured and uninsured. There are some exceptions
I LOOVVEEE this conversation SO MUCH!! I love that this has EVERYTHING to do with sex and nothing to do with sex AT the SAME TIME! I still have 38 mins left to watch, but I had to comment that I've always struggled with the idea (just the thought) of being intimate (not even sex, just talking) with a significant other, but I have no problem with family and friends, and it's because of safety. I didn't feel safe (and during those times-- I DEFINITELY had my alarm system going off, but couldn't figure out why) and rather than doing the work to find out why, I summed it up to "you're just wired different," or "you've always been weird," and hearing this convo about "you're walking, there is no destination" has honestly brought me to tears. I didn't even know I needed to hear this as much as I did. I thought I felt 10 pounds lighter after healing my anger against my father.....*phew* didn't know I'd loss another 15 from this convo alone.
This was AMAZING!!! As a mom of 11 and a wife of 14yrs I understand that I was poorly EDUCATED in so many things. So I'm grateful for people who are educated in those areas with the voice to help us. G ta Gratitude 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤❤
Trauma takes away power, voice and choice. And it has to be given back
I have a 2 year old grandson. Two daughters, 18 & 20. I went through sexual trauma as early as I can remember, 4 yrs old or till I was 9. More trauma through foster care. Very promiscuous throughout the rest of my life l, and an addict that twisted even more so the perverse sin in my life. This podcast is LIFE CHANGING!! Real perspective that I can teach and use with my grandson, my daughters, and in ministry. Thank you both😭🙌🏼🔥
The information spoken here is not only educational but healing. ❤thank y’all so much for this platform
Amen.
“Being very fruitful and multiplying nothing” love it
Love the comment that safety is the foundation of positive emotions. Relationships is the mortar that builds that foundation
🤯 can’t have fun if your not safe. Makes so much sense as to why sex with my ex-husband stop being enjoyable. I wasn’t safe anymore. I dealt with physical, emotional and verbal abuse and I stopped feeling safe. I felt like the sex was trash not realizing it was because I wasn’t safe and it would never be enjoyable until I felt safe again. Wow!! All praises to the Most High for showing me that.
For real!!!!
THIS CONVO WAS THE BEST I HAVE EVER HEARD, I MADE SO MUCH NOTES ON THIS AND HAD LAUGHS NOT BECAUSE ANYTHING WAS FUNNY BUT THE DEEP INTIMACY OF THIS CONVERATION AND ITS DEEEEEEEP
Saying thank you is not enough to explain how this saved me from my trauma at 18 years old. HUGE relief. Almost 15 years later God has shown me SO much. I am so grateful for these podcasts 💕💕
My marriage could have been saved if my husband would have agreed to work with me on what his betrayal had done to me. This right here is healing for me. I’m I’m in therapy now and this has just helped me in ways I never imagined!!!
That betrayal recovery is something that's been plaguing me and I've learned a lot here. Thanks Tim and Jenna.
Yes we need more Jenna. Thank you for coming on the podcast please come back like once a quarter
I'm receiving healing and deliverance by just watching this video. Thank you Tim Ross and Jenna for this session.
This one was so interesting! You guys gave me alot to think about. Here are 3 takeaways:
1. This past year, feeling safe has come up ALOT. Lately I've been wondering why I feel so safe with some friends, but with others I am less open. The truth is that not trusting most people has been my habit for a long time and recently I have been searching for the "why".
2. The idea of going back to early childhood was enlightening. And how it relates to the things I learned at home that as an adult I would have known were not true and yet as a kid, I thought were true. Unlearning seems like a long journey, lol.
3. What she said about sex drive and how everyone is made a little different... some have higher sex drives than others. And then that bit on arousal.🤯
I haven’t had but 1 good woman therapist. & 1 very good man psychologist right now. I’m working on a better team. My Ph.D is in neuropsychiatry so I expect to meet a lot more. I’m excited because I can really listen and talk about mental health more these days than law (my current field of practice). It’s like a whole treasure trove for those of us washing off religious doctrine of all type.
Freedom!!!
Encore, Jenna!
This destination thing has been programmed in us in the schooling system. I will be growing until I am dead. I am so teaching this to my kids
Open that box. We want all the smoke!! You don’t understand how this hit home for me. I could cry. This is the conversation that needs to be included in sex ed. I truly appreciate this conversation and your points of views. This podcast never ceases to amaze me!!!! Keep blessing us!
This episode is the marriage conference we need for breakthrough in our marriages. Gain clarity and some essential tools that I will implement in my marriage. Simply Amazing !!!
This was a WONDERFUL episode. So much of what I was taught about sex was learned in church. And when I tell you, THIS was a healing balm! 😭❤️
This conversation is so profound and rich. But how many noticed this is not just about sexual relationships, but relationships in general? This conversation needs multiple views to unpack it. I am so glad it is on video. 🤦🏾♀️🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
I can't wait for parts 2, 3, and four. I am very appreciative of this conversation.
I am going to watch this again soon. Currently trying to unlearn the purity culture I was raised with, and there are so many things here I wish I had heard growing up.
My goodness!! This conversation ministered to me so incredibly! So grateful to Holy Spirit for directing me to listen. Tim, you MUST have her back as often as possible! Thank you both. My future partner and I will definitely watch/listen and study this. I pray GOD continues to work in and through you all!
We need her back on the basement more often. This is so good!
Timmy, you brave man … and an inspiration to us young men. You’re changing the lives of men for generations. Keep on being you bro. Excellence.
By far one of my favorites. I love all the podcast but this one was so educational and real!! Both of you did an incredible amazing job. Thank you!!
I crave more from this conversation!! Thank you so much for the education and clarity!!
This whole "destination point" discussion so resonates with me! I am a recovering addict. I have struggled so badly with my choices and experiences in life. I have been trying to work through so much as well as let go of my past and trying to believe that my past does not define me. The argument I have always had with this is once we are labeled an "addict", THAT never goes away. It never goes away. Accepting this has been tough. I've been battling depression and anxiety. Hearing that possibly we should work on not focusing on a "destination".,,,do you know how good that sounds to me?? That sounds fkn amazing. To me, every day that I can get my butt up and out of bed and get through my day, sometimes is a complete miracle! Many people do not realize how miraculous this can be for some of us.
Sheeesh! So much healing for so many people! Continuing to pray over you all!
This episode was amazing. We’ve been taught so many wrong things around sex in the Christian community that now we have to deal with as adults in our marriages. I so so highly appreciate this…
I’m single but I’m so excited to one day implement these tactics in my marriage one day. I’m excited for the journey and the work I’ll have to put in for my marriage one day.
Jenna needs to be a regular on here. You two talking about intimacy is a healing mechanism for marriages, the second greatest covenant in our lives. So many marriages are broken - even within the Church body. We need healing and restoration in these relationships worldwide.
Is anybody watching the episode more than once? This was MIND BLOWING.
Wow! Her alarm analogy could be used in so many facets of life! Love it
39:06 !!!!!!! She is amazing and can interpret things like no other. She's so aware of the core issue with people and the realm of emotions in our society that it's scary. TURN IT ON
Not gonna lie!! Tuesdays take forever to get here when I've already watched the pod!!! 😅😅😅 I'm excited it's Tuesday!!! 😊😊☺️☺️
I love that most men are like this when it comes to protecting in relationships. At least that’s been my experience. Very thoughtful. They track pedicures, vagina health, hair health, podiatry health, even nutrition health. Men really go all in when it comes to the woman’s body. I found it quite fascinating over the years… all that they know & are curious about. All of the men in previous relationships with me knew more about my body than I did. They are the reason I’m thoroughly enjoying this new self love season for myself. They taught me very well. God is good and faithful.
I really wish I could put into words all of what this Episode has given me. I knew that The Basement/Tim Ross resonated with me …Jenna you have sealed it.
My therapist had me read “The Body Keeps the Score”
Your “Alarm System” had me flash all the way back to my childhood.
I’m big on Safety!
Communication (I’m a Speech Pathologist that has worked with some of the poorest communicators as peers in relationships😮).
I became a lifestyle/sex Coach on my healing journey (trying to figure out how to stay in a safe place and teach others)
Soo much to grow on from this. Exponentially Powerful Episode To God be the Glory!!!
My, My! Thank you for yet another amazing episode. There was confirmation for me in the way I have spoken and educated my four girls while being a single mother and after marriage. I grew up sex was never talked about in any manner like it was taboo. I was an ignorant teen who became pregnant and then ostracized from my family and church for a season. I took responsibility for my part and for many years my parents didn’t, I learned recently they didn’t because they were never educated.
Thank you again for keeping it so real and transparent and for normalizing these conversations especially as and for Christ followers. ❤
I’m not finished this first full podcast and I already need Jenna back🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️❤️
For me it was the safety… spoke so deeply to my current season and gave me context to some things I haven’t been able to verbalize. Thank you. ❤
I don’t think I’ve ever stopped, paused and rewound a pod so much in my life….
Thank you Heavenly Father for bringing me this episode and healing my pain. Thank you Tim and thank you to your amazing guest. 🙏🏾
Thank you for this...Never once have I even considered a need for sex therapy. As I listened I took an inventory of the myriad of unhealthy sexual experiences I have had. Some by choice, some not. It brought me to tears, not in shame but grief. Grief for missing out on the pure gift of sex God created for our enjoyment & the tainted way I chose or sometimes has been forced on me. I realized it has colored my view and ability to freely experience the kind of sex God gifted us. I see now the need and benefit of sex therapy. To take every thought captive, renew my mind & heart experiences to have fullness in this area of life.
1:02:16 #CLIPIT Vulnerability includes sharing with other people. If you are always listening or talking about other people in your life…you aren’t being vulnerable or getting seen.
No boundaries = going into shame.💜
That was the best thing said & it was a soundbite. Ok, Jenna!!!!
Omg. ALLLLLLLL of this. That alarm system illustration hit home on a different level b/c I JUST DID THAT with ours a few months back 😆 That one illustration opened my eyes to how I've been dealing with (rather avoiding) various issues in my life. Y'all I LITERALLY fell on the floor bawling right here in my kitchen! 😭 #breakthrough
I'm gna be honest this conversation made me uncomfortable in terms of possibly unearthing things I didnt realise I went through as a kid but it felt so healthy to be listening to it. It helps. Good conversation🙏🏾
This lady is WRECKING my mind in all the right ways!
I grew up not treated well on the topic of relationships, particularly in the context of churches and relationships in the presence of God. Thank you for this healthy step in my own healing.
With all due respect, this needs to have a part 2. There is so much that I believe was left on the table. Please consider it.
"We as people are obsessed with finish lines." When it comes to processes of healing, our uncomfortability (as people) with the unknown makes us antsy and anxious to get it over with.
When we start to embrace healing as a journey then that's where we can grow!
Those are bars man🔥
NOT LONG ENOUGH! 😅 Will def need her back on! After this conversation, I feel SO inadequate to have this kind of conversations with my kiddos. I thought I had it down, but not so much.
This episode was extremely insightful and a breath of fresh air in a world where so many are afraid of talking about this. Thank you Basement team and Jenna ❤
Having an obsession with the finish line is so crazy accurate
Very rarely do I leave a comment but thank you BOTH for opening the door to this conversation it is not addressed properly. Tim thank you for your obedience and using your platform the way Jesus teaches us to do. Share and confess to one another. As a newlywed and a person of sexual trauma this opens the door for dialogue. THANK YOU! I've shared this 100x
Deactivating your alarm system don’t increase your safety at all WHAT this thing is so mind blowing I’m enjoying it. Still have two hour to watch.
Tim, this podcast just reached new heights. I’m officially a dweller!
Can you invite her back to discuss getting over/through past/childhood sexual trauma & how to be comfortable/sexually free in marriage.
I wish I could have this kind of therapy and people around me where I live. This helped me in so many ways. Thank you so much for all you guys do ❤️
I feel this with every episode lol. Like the amount of understanding I receive I just wish I could share it with everyone I know
This has helped me so much! This ENTIRE podcast has really opened my eyes and is really helping me through things in my life. I would still be blind to mental health and how it can coincide with my faith in Jesus. Thank you so much for taking those steps out on the water!❤️
It’s Tuesday, Let’s Goooooooooooo! ( in my Tim Ross voice) 😂
❤❤❤let’s gooo
I absolutely love the Basement and Tim and his team for the transparency. Thank you a thousand times .
This episode is amazing and so informative and powerful. Thank you Tim Ross for being you and allowing God to move you to where you are going. You are the best!
“Sex is never spoken about” yet we live in one of the most sexualized societies in the world.
This is alot of great information...😯I need to watch this again coz the thought processing is not for one day....such quality😯❤❤
I love this. Great great great talk. Very much needed. So many conversions need to be had around this topic from children on up to marriage and everything in between. So good. Thank you Tim as always. Much love ❤
This was so uncomfortable for me to sit through but it made me so aware of my touch points it’s really crazy
New subbie. Loving your content. As an EMDR therapist myself, I'm glad that you are bringing awareness to this form if treatment. Keep the videos coming ♥️
I’ve gotten so much from every podcast but wow. This one. I learned so much for my marriage. I learned so much for raising a son. Just wow. Thank you for this knowledge.
I'm not even married but this and the episode with your best friend. Best.... episode man. I instantly sent this to my lady. Bro like....y'all are... it's safe in The Basement. Period
The alarm system analogy is a reminder of the prophetic word Tim and Juliette got when they transitioned the church
I’m only 38 mins in and feel a bandaid has been ripped off me. Exposed and hurt, but it’s necessary to find healing. Thank you 🥺
Another unscheduled midday LIVE would do us some good after this conversation.
Yessss❤
Hunny when she said “divorce yourself from the finish line” I broke!!
We need you! Thank you for your vulnerability and awareness. ❤️
So good. Whatever personal work and study you both have done to achieve the EI and freedom you have is amazing! So good to see and hear. #Blessing
#GreatEpisode
I'm 50:00 in and just had this thought: If we were even able to cross the finish line on this side of heaven, then there would be no adventure left. We have a greater covenant now to be children of God which is unearned, but we also have a walk to stay on.
Thank you for sharing this message! I resonated with it, and I am reflecting. I loved when she talked about safety and communication. For someone healing from trauma, this is an important foundation for moving forward. I also love the word storytelling because a story is powerful, but what's more powerful is empowering others to find who they are and do what works for them and not just because it works. God bless you all! Thanks for the wisdom and teachings
Thank you so much for this episode!! Powerful‼️Tons of affirmation & clarification at the SAME TIME!! She’s a BEAST!
I was so excited to watch this one and so unprepared for the emotional response it brought out of me. How do we find a quality therapist?
This is SOOOOOOOOOOOOO GOOOOOOOD!!!!!!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Thank You Jenna! Your Gift is Immeasurable in the Kingdom! Deep Calls To Deep Tim!
Wow! This is something else. I will have to watch it again to absorb it properly. Just mind blown at all the complexities that have been simplified in here!! Thanks so much Jenna. Thank you Tim! May God bless yall!!!
Wow… A safe space huh?
Guess I needed to hear it all the way through. 🤔
Y’all are just throwing grenades, but I love that the convo got organized around safety. That’s a good place to start. Cuz I was like ‘where is this going’ cuz the convo can go anywhere, depending. I appreciate how organic this convo is [duh, it’s the basement].
I’m going to have to listen to this a couple more times because there was a lot to digest here !
So much...and I need my notebook
My favourite of these sessions is the guy who is always laughing cracking up at the back… he just makes me laugh every time!!!!!!