Being the 'Golden Child' of a narcissist hurts you... and your relationships.
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- Опубліковано 28 сер 2024
- Being the "Golden Child" isn't all it's cracked up to be. And when you happen to have a narcissistic parent or two, it can lead to a world of impossible expectations.
Can't do anything wrong? Get away with nonsense? Might sound good but it can get old fast and leave you with very poor self-esteem and a lack of identity.
Have a sibling who is the Golden Child? You envied them and now you see them differently?
This is a VERY IMPORTANT EPISODE to straighten your thinking about yourself and others who were treated as Golden Children growing up.
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
- Why being the Golden Child is not a great role
- Help to understand the downsides of being raised by a narcissistic parent
- Recognize the lasting effects of being the Golden Child or Scapegoat child in a narcissistic family
- Giving up the "overachiever" role given to you by your family dynamic
Living up to the Golden Child moniker can lead to damaging perfectionism, unrealistic expectations of how you or your life "should" be performing, unreachable goals, and standards that no partner or child of your own may ever be able to reach.
Time to take a step back and assess...
33:20 - Viewer Q&A Starts
* * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * *
and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker.
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I am praying you feel better Dr. thank you for helping others including me. God bless you 🙏✝️🕊️💕
1st and foremost, praying you feel better. I've just found your videos and have watched 3 this morning. This video opened my eyes to being the only child and how I've felt for 47 years, but it's also opened my eyes on what I've done to my 30 year old Son. My husband his Dad died when my son was 8 and my daughter was 6. I didn't realize the pressure I put on my Son. Today he is a perfectionist I've told him so many times to relax. Not knowing I was the one who caused this. I never new what a hyjackle was until this past year when I went through a horrible relationship. I then began researching. I'm certain I wasn't the narcissist in the relationship (true empath) but fear I had narcissist tendencies as a Mom. Thank you for your dedication with the videos. Truly an eye opener.
Are you ok? My heart is breaking watching you try so hard to share your experiences/knowledge with us when I don’t think you’re feeling so well.
I feed your pain & it’s scaring me. I hope you get better soon. Sending you much love and good health.❤
God bless your spirit, soul, and physical! You truly show us that you care about our well-being
Dear Dr Shaler, you are giving to others, even when your health is so weak.
I thank you deeply, from the bottom of my heart. I cherish the wisdom you have shared with me & through these channel. So many Have benefitted from your giving heart.
Thank you ❤
Thank you Wonderful Dr. Rhoberta Shaler!!!!! Your words of wisdom always echo in our minds and hearts. Sending you Love & Light ♥
That’s exactly what my dad did. He always said I would be his perfect wife, except I was too smart & he always like his women stupid. I also noticed my dad has never been in love.
I was the golden child & the scapegoat. Honestly these past 3yrs I found myself extremely exhausted because he excepted me to do everything & I actually believed that was what I was meant to do, until he completely lost it. I definitely suffer from anxiety which I got from my parents. I could go on & on. I’m just so grateful that I’m over emotional & too sensitive rather than being a narcissist.
Why have you chosen this name?
😢I was an only child till my sibling was born I was 10 years old BOTH my parents are NARCOPaTHs AND their families of origin
I was groomed to be the Golden Child but REFUSED to MISTREAT OTHERS is where I drew the line as a SMALL child so my one and only sibling 10 years was BORN she took the ROLE knowing the inhumane ways I was treated there’s this DEEP sadism fundamentally 💔
You are a beautiful soul. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.🙏
Thank you 💝✨
You dont look like your in the best of health🤔
You're cruel.