How to say no to people - The skill of rejecting
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- Опубліковано 22 вер 2023
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"I lied and i said i was busy, I was busy but not in the way most people think, I was busy taking deeper breaths, I was busying silencing irrational thoughts I was busy calming a race heart, I was busy telling myself I'm ok and I wont apologize for it"
Probably is the best quote I've heard till now
Fr hits hard for no reason
imagined if i chose to worke at mcdonalds instead of pursuing youtube 💀💀💀💀 Mc Missed Opportunity
MY MOTHERS TRYING TO DO THAT TO ME NOW HELPPPP
@@KenmaLizzie arent u too young, ur gonna walk in for the job interview and they're gonna ask if you want a happy meal with a toy 💀💀💀💀
I LOVE YOUUUUU
@ItsMeRuff YOURE SO MEAN MAN, PLUS I SM LEGAL TO WORK, ITS JUST IM TOO YOUNG SO NOBODY WANTS MY STUPID ASS EXCEPT FOR MCDONALDS
@@stein3646 SAVE ME MY MAN
Not being able to say "no" to people and prioritising someone's else's needs over mine has always been something I struggle with and as always this video of yours proved to be really helpful.
same screw people
"If you can't be present mentally... don't be present physically." good stuff
I like how you give ACTUAL advice and not all that bs everyone repeats 24/7
ruff doesn't have a cup or bottle filled, he has a damn whole galloon filled and ready to donate to us
REAL
Ur mama
@@Angad_Thakur your not wrong
I've been struggling to decline people for so long that it became a habit & others take it for granted. Now I'm trying to build those boundaries so that I can prioritise myself. It's a long process. But we can do it
Part of being a man
you went from 20k to 130k in like 3-4 months, good luck man
appreciate it, cringe to say but it rly wouldnt be possible without everyone's support
@@ItsMeRuff how is tht cringe
@@man_990kinda cuz everyone says it. And it’s true hence everyone says it, including people who scam, make trash videos that rot their fans brains and manipulate them then still say it. Plus it just sounds like the end of a Barney episode I guess.
@@difevfx3275bruh same thought hahaha
@@ItsMeRuffdude u deserve it
Learning how to say 'no' respectfully and confidently is a crucial skill for maintaining boundaries and preserving your time and energy. This video offers some great insights and techniques for handling these situations gracefully. Thanks for sharing.
its crazy how i get soo motivated when i see your videos i do like 50 pushups and actually spend my time efficiently, but i realised its literally just relying on other people for your productivity and its useless cuz it only lasts for a couple of days, but now that i have realised it i know i will rely on myself only to be productive but, you have helped me a lot and still helping me on my self improvement journey so i hope you prosper in whatever you want to do in life bc you are amazing!
I relate to you on a universal lvl 💀
Jeez 50 pushups in one go is crazy
Thank you, I think this eased my mind as I am all of the above you mentioned: depressed, sleep deprived, and stressed.
I dont know what's the solution to stop being a people pleaser but I certainly dont want to keep neglecting myself anymore. ❤️
Thank you for this wonderful video. It really inspired me.
[12:51 am, Philippines]
Thanks for uploading more. Love how you give examples to stuff and how we could implement it.
That's not selfish. It's kindness. It when you stop being nice and afraid of rejection for long term sustainability. It is the kind that will benefit you, the people around you and your environment in the long run as oppose to being nice and trying to be accepted.
Sometimes its just hard to say no to people, especially if you have a soft heart. I like filling other peoples cup with my water if they need it, or ill just do it to see their smiles. Some people might call this cringe but i really like seeing other peoples smile, maybe it has something to do with my childhood on how i lacked the attention and love with the people around me.
it’s normal
Their face after you say no really doesnt help, i remember once that a classmate of mine needed notes for a physics exam, he asked me 4 days before the final exam, he had this pleading face i couldnt say no to, i made him promise to return my notes 2 day before exams, and guess what...... .... he fu9 ing didnt, he came to my house and returned them a night before the exam, i tried getting angry at him, but i always have this blank face, sometimes people dont even realize im angry, i asked him why he didnt fulfill his promise and he just gave me lame ass sorry, and i couldnt even come up with anything to say, and guess what, i scored a 43 out of 75 i think and it ruined my final grade, ugh, i spent an year on making my notes look preety all to not even get to read them properly before the exam, sigh, learning to say no to peoples hard
Same literally me :,(
If everybody would have watched your videos this world we are damn good place.
I love you ruff keep it up❤
You look very genuine. You give realistic advice in a practical way. You don’t need fancy video making shots. You are very original. Thank you!
I love your videos, bro. That simple humor you put in to your vids are smooth. More motivation speech!!
i definitely needed to hear this because i always give my time and energy away by indulging in random useless distractions or especially talking with friends because i dont want to leave them all alone and bcs of that my grades amongst a few other things have suffered, this vid was like a wake up call
I was the same back in school, now i stopped doing it in college, and as i result, i have an astonishing total of 0 friends or people i used to see as friends
You got me there when you said "your friends want you to priotize yourself" sometimes i'd only do things thinking about the responses/validation i'd get from it and my friends scolded me for it, they said the most important thing was to do what makes me happy first.
Broooo, thank you so much. You can't imagine how much you are helping me rn!
i did the same and am finally finding my value in my time thank you for this literally took the words out of my mind
pov: you want to be sincere with your sleep schedule but you have your maths exam the next day☠️
Just say no I will sleep now 😂
bro you had no idea this analogy of the glass and the water just CHANGE MY LIFE
Never felt your videos are not helpful thank you you have helped me alot in the past few days
was literally scrolling mindlessly on yt and my books were all scattered in front of me but now i think i got to know the value of time so thanks man!
the cup reference was really good and actually made me realise things. I haven’t been fully present in my life or prioritising myself which has been affecting my relationships with others. Makes sense tbh
This man makes videos SPECIFICALLY for me and me alone I'm convinced now. like bruh I have been struggling with this EXACT THING sm lately. Your channel is amazing bro keep up the good work
Ruff i was literally missing your videos today and you uploaded!! 😂❤
6 th viewer ,i am on a self improvement journey for 2 years relapsing again and again along with school 🏫 a lot has happened,but yah i am still upto it ,seeing someone else going through it realising its hard for everyone,so keep moving forward , i love your videos, muahhhhhh
Thanks ruff, this was really helpful.the part where you mentioned youtube it really resonating within me
thank you ruff. you've had a big impact in my life. thanks.
How are ur vids always about something im struggling with in the moment?
Keep it up man
You can never predict when an emergency happens. I always have my phone on DND as well mainly because I use it too much anyway, but I think it is best to set custom notifications for different people or muting everyone except for the people who you'd actually need to hear about if anything important happens (such as your parents)
7:33 oh that was really a good quote, my friends used to call me for things and i mostly say that i'm busy/have some other plans and they say "you're doing nothing" but i was busy!!
this video hit me hard cause i'm thinking too much about a girl and maybe my cup is not full enough to fullfill hers (and maybe she'll reject me but i know that i'm gonna try anyway; if you never bleed you never gonna grow..)
Your videos helped me a lot specially that No bitches video I set a standard for myself and now I am focusing on building myself ! Thank u man ✨
As a people pleaser this is so hard to swallow but I definitely needed this video
discovering your channel was the best thing iv done in a while
You know (u probably don't), a few months ago, I think I sent this to one of my close friends and thought that they needed it. But now that I myself have watched this at midnight with school in the morning, thinking "What exactly is happening rn? I want to do better but idk I'm tired." (Stuff like that) I really think that I was the one who needed this. I watched this now after rewatching the "disappearing for a year" vid and dayum did I realize A LOT in two vids.
Oh and also, be4 I watched the 2 vids from u, I watched a vid abt "academic comeback" from another UA-camr and I didn't even continue watching it bc his points didn't really hit and idk I just wanted to watch ur vids🥰 lodi kita bro HAHAHAHHAHG
As a people pleaser who really can't say no even if my life depends on it, I really needed this video. Thanks a lot
I have respected myself for a long time, i have realised that recently that has been crumbling a bit, thanks for making me more aware of this and give me some ideas on maintaning it, also could you make a video about maintaining good habits and good values?
Maintaining good habits and values comes down to your deeply held convictions, that's why things like religion are important.
Thanks, I needed this
Thank you so much for this video!
ay u r freakin right and i love how u think so much❤
i love all your videos so much
I totally understand your situation, Reject that girl bro
your videos have made a difference in my life
how can i relate to this guy so much ;-; watched lots of ur videos that i can even guess what u may talk about afterward ;-;
that kiss almost felt personal
also super helpful guide i actually paid attention to a video for once
This is so good! 💙
hii im trying to self-improve and ur my fav ytuber to watch so ty :) apparently you read these all soooo.. have a good day
As always an amazing video 💗
When i told my mom how much i needed time for myself and trying my best to explain to her, she told me "u literally eat by yourself we dont feed u like a baby anymore, u sleep by yourself and shower by yourself like an adult what more u want, dont be selfish"......
I also have this problem with my mum. I think it's clear we can't change people but just try to communicate your boundaries and try to explain to her that you're trying to unlock the best version of yourself and she can either support you or get out of your way. I know it's harsh and it'll be difficult communicating your boundaries but if you can get through the hard part, your life will be so much better.
Thank you so much for this video
bros one of the most goated youtuber ever fr
new ruff upload
I have actually set my desktop background as "Take Action"
Great work bro...
This is your best video so far
What I learned from This Video-
1) Successful people value their time and self-respect. If work hard now, so that your future self reaps the rewards.
2)We fill up our cup so that we can fill up theirs. By being selfish for a short time now, you benefit yourself and others in the long term which is much more important.
3) Fill your cup; decline other people now so that you can spend time with them in the future.
4) You need to prioritise yourself. You need to focus on yourself and be selfish because this is Self-Improvement. Your friends that care and family will actually prefer that you prioritise yourself even if declining their requests now seems like you are being rude.
5) At some point, your cup will start to overflow. This is when you give it others. Not when you have barely 2-3 drops. If you try to give something to someone with an empty cup, you are not giving much value thus making it pointless.
6) If you are spending your time on something or someone, be fully present. If you are not present mentally, you might as well not be present physically.
I have been struggling with putting myself first for the longest time so this is very helpful. Thanks Ruff!
This is exactly what I needed.
Immaculate video bro. Thank you for not working in a mcdonald's!
I love your videos sm
requesting for a flow state video! we really really need this :>
I needed this in school rn🙏
Ppl be abusing me because Im a ppl pleaser
Understandings of video are, just value yourself first and be fully present in your work and if someone want your time first complete the work and then fill up their cups , so remember first fill up your cup then theirs
ruff:"bro why are u still on the video"
mee:"waiting for your kissss":D
My cup is probably in pieces over there, over there, and up there.
this encourages me but then 1-2 days later, im back on the same shit
Bro your voice makes us sleep. So cold 🔥
i need to fill my cup AsAp OHH MY goodddd HURry runnn
Excellent video ! But I think you forgot one thing : others can fullfill our cup too. It's like an exchange : I fullfill your cup, and you do the same, no ?
But anyways, I understand what you were saying, and I agree with that !
Love your little videos, keep going
👌
Your right, that's why not being friends with losers is important. When your both on the same path you can help each other.
this dude has too much wisdom for his age
Thank you ruff tbh my cup is almost empty and I try to value other n instead of focusing on my fuking work I tryna help em and I respect others comfort zone but forget about mine they actually use me cuz I never put limits and I don't know how to say no!
I LOVE YOUR VIDEO SO MUCH THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING
How can I have thoughts like you? I've never think in that perspective.
It's so funny and thank uuuuu so muchhhhh
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I lowkey didn't get enough sleep last night. I was watching/listening to streams on Twitch, and when I woke up this morning, I told myself, "Alright, listen, you can't keep doing this to yourself. Nobody wants to be around a lazy, sleep-deprived (I've been sleep-deprived for like the past 2 years), undisciplined slob, so get up." If that's harsh, whatever, but I deleted Twitch after. I must prioritize time, schedule activities, and do them FOR ME. Cause I'm the only one who can better me, I can't rely on someone else to do the work I'm supposed to do. Saying NO is important but really hard especially to the people you love. But it has to happen. It's not being selfish it's having self-respect.
best youtube channel
Bro had to end it like this 😂
Bro just exposed me me 60 different languages 💀
Edit : when I find yo channel it was like 50-60k sub and now you have 100k subs I'm literally taking screenshots every single day of your channel the watching the subscribers growing ❤
I think I've been doing this subconsciously
But rejecting gramma
back with another banger! (me saying that even though i haven't even watched 😅)
i can confirm it was a banger
I love your videos and all channel
Thank you for all the support that you have provided me Ruff. I can't put it to words even, how much I have transformed since I found your UA-cam channel. I went from literally being a useless organism watching a glass screen and occasionally using their thumb to swipe it, to being a straight A student. My report card came out yesterday, and I can verify that all of your habits and talks have influenced me, and have shown me the right path.
P.S. bro imagine u joined mcdonalds, u would still earn like only around 2800 a month, if u worked 10 hours a day, and 3 days worth of holiday aka sick leave. also, cup.
Love you bro
Bars bro
The "if you can't be present mentally, you can't be present physically" resonates with me so much 😭
Thas crazy man i never even thought about it this way
NO
my NO will make me get whooped by my parents
I can't like a video a second time 😭
hey im early for this, love your vids
fire 🔥 🔥
Nah the end is crazy 💀
hey Ruff, could you make a video on how to get over girls? Thanks bro, appreciate you and everything you do ❤
Estava indo tudo bem até ele citar o Elon Musk como referência de sucesso kakakkaka se o cara é bilionário não é por mérito não amigo, ninguém trabalhando mesmo ou gerenciando, o melhor, seu tempo consegue chegar onde ele chegou, precisa já nascer rico pra caramba e explorar o trabalhado de muita gente.
Fora isso, amei o vídeo ❤
Sunlight is amazing
Patch the cup
How long do u edit each vids for? Whats ur daily routine