Why i always stand up for myself
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- Опубліковано 21 лют 2023
- in our dreams we imagine ourselves beating up the bully. we earn other's respect.
in our nightmares, even if we stand up we can't be heard. we don't have anyone's respect.
in reality, it's not about standing up for anyone else's respect but for your own.
and also learn martial arts for that one annoying kid that pushes it too far and u can snap his entire blood line into extinction.
muah
(no innocent bookworms on the bus just reading and minding their own business were harmed in the making of this video)
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Driving school can be done at 16? multilevel license from 16 to achieve a full one at 18? Correct me but I thought that was fairly similar across the board. Driving school where I live also offers good insurance and time cuts to achieve a full license.
Getting a job and working is not instant gratification, nor is it easy. You're lying to yourself, convincing yourself that not getting a job and working on UA-cam is somehow better than doing both.
Putting all your eggs into a self improvement channel at 16 is ludicrous, you haven't had enough life experience for anyone over your age to give a shit.
You've convinced yourself you're special, different than the rest, figured out the system before anyone else, and became a youtuber. Congrats you're achieving everyone's dream.
You talk about authenticity in another video, the "Hamza effect." I'm here to tell you you're in his cult. With his and many other influences you made the right changes and became better, "self improved" and are ready to become your own Hamza. He preaches that anyone could make it like him if they copied his topics, editing style, and messages.
You've not only taken them but improved on them somewhat, in 3 months you've gained 6.3 thousand subscribers, you'll surely gain many more.
Yet as someone who's watched my fair share of self improvement content, none of your messages are perfectly original, this kind of content is found in the thousands of already "Self Improvement" channels. Remix and add your own spice but it's still the same bottom line.
Consistency is key and you clearly have it, currently. When you've only hit 60k subs in 6 months, what then, it's not enough, in 12 you've hit 100, in 2 years you're at 300k.
That's not enough to sustain yourself, you might value your time at 100/hr, but who fucking cares if you don't have enough subs to dish it out to you.
Do you really think you're the only one with this mindset, that you've cracked the code and have better editing, more unique ideas, more energy and a more interesting personality than the thousands of other self improvement content creators?
I've watched them and there's plenty that do.
Why is your content so much better? What does a skinny masked up 16 year old straight A student with a loving family and some decent scriptwriting and remixed ideas have to offer?
That's YOUR image, the depth of your authenticity from a viewers viewpoint.
Why are you so much more relatable than someone like Hamza?
You're still a child, and think you know how the world works, someone who's ahead of it all, yet you're not relatable to anybody over 18.
What are you going to do if you don't make it? Because you're still one of Hamza's 1.7 million followers with the exact same mindset.
-An 18 year old realist who's on the same self improvement journey with a different perspective.
ok first, im doing exactly what every other kid is doing my age. im still going to school and everything im just balancing youtube on top of it. “putting all my eggs in one basket” would be me quitting everything to focus on youtube when in reality, im doing the same thing as every other person my age. im putting like half an egg into the basket.
the whole “you arent saying anything new”, like… u want me to invent a new colour or smth¿ theres nothing new; theres just different perspectives.
there are no new concepts unless scientists find some better way to increase productivity or sleep etc etc.
and this bullshit of “what if you’re not good enough” like i am an extremely privileged person who still has years to mess up and learn. if a 22 year old weed addict like hamza can make it big, me (who has like 6 years on him) can too. i have 6 extra years to fail. if im not good enough, ill get better lmao the times gonna pass anyway.
yeah i dont have a real job but neither do the people my age working at starbucks or smth thats not what they want. its a “real job” but its making them miserable and they adopt this slave mentality which is encouraged in school too. they make like at most 18/hr? and theyre not even happy doing it.
then they go home and play video games and jack off because 90% of people my age arent EVEN on self improvement
next, 100,000 subs is “not enough to sustain myself”? i live at home with my parents. why would i need that much money anyway? if 300,000 subs cant sustain myself, everyone else my age cant either. there is so much money in youtube, one viral video can increase the bottom rate by 100 or 1000 times. if u truly think people with 100,000 subs dont make an unreasonable amount of money then u literally know nothing about youtube.
im pretty sure hamza at 300,000 was making 10k a month. even if i make HALF of that, which 17 year old is making 5k a month? which 17 year old is making 60k a year? even if i make 1/3 or 1/4 of that i would still be fairly successful for my age.
either way; i have ZERO expenses so whatever i make is far is simply a bonus. it just gets saved.
and the whole “why is my content better”. it is simply a matter of preference. some people like Cole Hastings, some like Ali Abdul. thats the nature of competition. u appeal to ur certain audience. thats it.
im “more relatable” than hamza to CERTAIN people. some people find him more relatable, sone find me more relatable. thats all. and the whole “not relatable to anyone over 18”, i get enough comments from people from any age to disprove that.
yeah 1.8m of hamza’s subs have the same mindset but how many of them have the amount of time and the amount of drive to rly put in the work? not even the 1.8m subs, of every 16 year old in the entire world, how many of them do u rly think would delicate the time?
this comment isnt meant to come off as rude (except some points) but at the end of the day, im just like every other 16 year old. what happens if i dont make it? then im just like everyone else, still living at home with my parents with no rent to pay and still going to school like a normal kid. at that point maybe ill start a business or something else and try to succeed in that. im okay with failing at youtube because i dont see it as a failure at all. if the channel dies, i would be upset of course but i would be able to move on because i would have gladly done all this for free.
hope u understand (edit: you get the pin of shame because im not a nice person)
"yet you're not relatable to anybody over 18."
im 20 and he's relatable.
bro gets it
@@ItsMeRuff Adhering to your mindset and this video, you stood up for yourself. Pinning this just earned you my subscription.
You responded to a hate comment with "hope you understand." I only have pure respect.
I'd spend more time on a proper response but this is cutting into my study habit progression lol.
Much of my "hate comment" came from not knowing everything you just explained, I have still have different perspectives on many points, but it would be weirder if I didn't
We'll all make it, you've already put in more work than everyone watching your video so don't stop.
When did realism and conceited bullshit about how if you aren't getting a minimum wage job at 16 you aren't doing enough become the same thing. Getting a job and working minimum wage for a 16 year old is extremely easy the only difficult part is sacrificing your time for 10$ an hour
-A 17 year old who has had many jobs and can see the value in people doing something they enjoy that is productive and may lead towards a career instead of wasting energy standing behind a counter doing the same thing robots can do at this point.
respect yourself by refusing to be disrespected.
or in other words
“to love yourself, tell your enemies to kill themselves.” - Sun Tzu
@@Khubimehta standing up for yourself is an act of self defence. for example when ur outside and the crack head comes at u trying to steal ur money u fight back in self defence.
in the case you've so kindly explained, you're the crack head. so stop that shit and stay away from me (i have no money to give u)
@@ItsMeRuff what happens when you succeed in not being disrespected or win a physical encounter only for someone to returned with a bruised ego looking to overwhelm you verbally/ physically perhaps with more people
i think standing up for yourself can be very situational at times, not necessarily a given 100% of the time
i assume you don't live in america but usually you need to be smart about picking and choosing how to respond here, you can do that without losing respect for yourself
@@Noa-hb1oo you succeed in a physical encounter with learning how to fight. after you win, you better have learnt track and field because the first thing you do is gtfo. dont wait around for them to get their friends. when someone initiates something you try to back out if you can or you try to get them to back out. if you cannot, then you fight. but after the fight, time to back out like the backstreet boys (that doesnt make sense but regardless...) and walk away.
K but what if you feel bad for the bully and have finally learnt to not fight back bc that's what u thought was right.
this is why i always tell someone who disagrees with me "kys"
People who fight may lose, but people who don't fight, have already lose
Ruff coming in with the W’s as always
I think it's interesting how fighting back is the way you get respect, I'm gonna try this in social situations now.
u get respect by being generally a nice person but if someone disrespects u then you gotta fight back cuz if u dont then ur just disrespecting urself
@@ItsMeRuff nah bro don't stoop down to another person's level just to prove a point. Humility is a trait that is very hard to achieve but may be one of the most important.
@@orxfn if someone disrespects you and u dont fight back i think ur a pussy. fight back doesnt mean throw a punch. even if u just say "bro that was not cool, chill out" that is infinitely better than taking any disrespect like a lil bitch. there's a difference between humility and simply being a pussy.
@@ItsMeRuff Think abt it this way, if a millionaire is walking down the street and a homeless person insults him, you would expect the millionaire to just keep walking and ignore him. You determine your own worth. Unless it gets physical, ignoring the person is always better.
@@ItsMeRuff Also, I don't know what type of school u go to, but with my school being a public school and half the kids wanting to act ghetto. If a kid presses u and u say something back, its gonna turn into an argument and eventually a fight. Their friends might jump u and whatnot. Just laughing off a joke/insult and going on about ur day might save u from a suspension in school or death in the real world.
Honestly I need to learn this, I still struggle with saying no to things that I really have no interest in or don't wanna do (I literally have to do 2 extra years of school cuz of this). Even in social situations, whenever someone is saying disrespectful shit about me, I just laugh over it because I'd rather not seem overly emotional
yeah as i sad, verbal is far harder than physical. dont worry bro, just stand your ground and truly say whats on ur mind. do it politely of course dont start like “YOU SHOULD KILL YOURSELF NOW”. if they dont respect it then i have the mindset that they arent the right people to be around anyway
Same but I'm learning to implement ways to stand up for myself and put up boundaries.
@@ItsMeRuffreally bro u know I always stand for myself and my believe but my family are like don't be stright forward don't argue with them they are older respect them. You are becoming so desperate like this😶. Like why can't I defend my self if I don't like something and it affecting my mental health.
@@Mitopiya "average asain households" (i've been through that kinda shit)
"If you let everyone walk over you like a bridge, then you are just everyone's lil' bitch" ahh words to live by 🤌
"ah man im toxic"
"k gimme a kiss"
ruff is a mood lmao
I lost my sandals to some kids that took them when i was like 10 and bullied me for it, now I'm 15 and I developed a better mind and now I havent been picked on in 5 years. I would recommend people to just walk into a room and think that you're THE man, no matter what just have that thought in you, but be respectful and peaceful to people that deserve it lol
confidence & self assurance stops more bullying cases than “stop bullying” posters ever will
U give vibes of faline san youtuber
Respect yourself most of all.
for years I let my family walk all over me...
even though I’ve always had the most ambition out of all of them; they just try to tell me how my life should be, and don’t seem to understand the bigger picture.
I’ve just accepted it at this point and become stronger because of it.
But for a long time I just ran and hid from all my problems and procrastinated years of potential, because I was afraid of how they would perceive me or treat me.
*Biggest mistake of my life!*
I used to have the fighting spirit of a thousand warriors. Somewhere along the way I let myself and others shut it down so I stopped being that warrior for a long time 😔
Always stand up for yourself and don’t back down, even if it ur dad. You can’t let others intimidate you or make your dreams feel small.
Truth is they do that out of fear or because their dreams aren’t as big as yours or they don’t even have dreams of their own.
Don’t be afraid to choose your own path.
So now I’m working harder than ever to achieve what I’ve always wanted.
What I shoulda done eight years ago... time lost is the biggest regret you can have but I’ve learned a lot so it’s not a total loss.
ty u for reading.
✌🏻💎💯🚀👊🏻
This hits so damn personally ,the timeline, the reason everything.
Truth❤
My 19 yr old current self soon to be 20 getting hitting advice from a 16 yr old...you just gained another sub!!!
A job is not an instant gratification, you actually have to put in hours, it doesn’t matter what you do with the money as long as you were patient, you can’t live your whole life without working for somebody else, you’ll have to do it at one point before being financially independent. Love your content.
At the end of the day tho it’s his life, if he don’t wanna work then he don’t wanna work
@@Joshluhchrome That's true, I do wanna work for somebody though as long as it's balanced. Since I'm working on self improvement as well
"If you let everyone walk over you like a bridge, then you're just everyone's lil' bitch" -Ruff
Huge respect for you doing what you think and know is going to be the best for you. Keep up the great videos man, been loving them❤️
I'm so grateful that I found your channel. I was depressed since 1 year didn't know what to do I thought it's the end of the world for me then now I'm focusing on self improvement and I'm also 17 and I relate to you and your videos keep me motivated.
Another great video! I love the way you convey your message and ideas in a composed but also funny manner. Keep it up!
ive just seen ur what people who dissapear for a year acctually look like and ive never related to someone so much.. but i just wanna say that u seem like a legit cool dude and ur vids are quiet comforting in a weird way which earned u a new sub :)
man, i have always had these situations where i never fought back and later regretted and now it has eventually become a habit & i am really willing to chng. Also i too have those nightmares sometimes about getting overlooked or unheard or just being ignored when i have a point. As i watched this video, something in me just sparked and now i absolutely have to work on fighting back verbally (it is hard and my eyes never cooperate so i just stopped trying) but i have to stop letting ppl disrespect me and my boundaries. Thankyou so much for this vid Ruff , i really really appreciate u sharing this .
Definitely keep putting effort into the channel! You're making great and helpful content, can't wait to see where it takes you :D
Ruff I just discovered you and I want to thank the algorithm for letting me discover you. Your really inspire me
"...i dont think thats gonna hold up in court" 😂. Funny, deep, and motivational. W channel, so glad i found it! keep going!! :)
Oh lord, I have just found this channel and I love your vibe. Im defenitly staying here
There was sth I noticed about my life. Didn't espect to hear this from my peer. Ruff + pen¬ebook.
Self-improvement is the Way.
Thank you Man
You're gonna be a big UA-camr one day inshallah, on a great path G keep at it! Here since 140k, this guy will have 1 million by 2024-2025 no doubt.
Im 15 turning 16 soon and seeing someone else striving towards there goals is inspiring. Wish you the best on your journey, bros gonna make it big one day for sure!
brou i love your content and how youre motivate people to become a better person in realistic way
Thanks man, needed to hear that
I just love watching you speak.. The background music, the way you speak so comfortably in front of the camera, the short clips you add in between, your voice, your words, everything is just perfect.
Yeah hes cute
a year or two ago i was constantly surrounded by people who weren't good for me, many were actually toxic and their parents were problematic as well for not only me but my family as well. my parents have always told me to just be polite and ignore it but I've stopped doing that. who cares if you don't like me? I speak my mind when I need to and stop people in their tracks. it works really well, once they see you stand up for yourself a couple times, they'll back down and find another person to pick on (cause they don't have anything better to do lol). You can't be everyone's favourite anyways. Just fulfil your own goals and live your life - as simple as that.
bro is so real for these videos, earned my sub
For most of my life, I tried my best to appease others (including family) just to avoid problems, and while it sometimes worked, I always felt pathetic about it. I tried to tell myself that I was the bigger person to help me cope. The truth is as you said, you need to stand up for yourself, even if just once. Thanks for this video, Ruff
Gotta say, I love this guy, that's great advice bro im subbing
Brooo, you were so funny at the beginning, also very nice and wise content, way to go!
theres no way you only have 1.5k subs, I assure you you're gonna blow up.
he is growing very quick, it wasn't even 1k last week
Look at him now, 114K
134K
149k
this kawai video was one of the most inspirational and motivational thing I have ever watched in my life. It has helped me achieve my lifelong dreams of becoming an ikea dining table. i wouldn't have done it without this inspirational video, i truly thank the creator for this. i'm now going to school to study the art of being a dining table, and also i'm teaching children about how i saw this video on a dog and it changed my life. my table skills are amazing now and it's all thanks to this
this dude has 2k rn, you def gon have 100k before 2024 bro. Im glad im here to see the progress
Was some good psychic shit
You’re so brave tbh. I’m trying to get to this point too
Also this video resonates with me alot as i dont stand up for myself infront of my parents and listen and do whatever they say even though i dont want to. I am trying to change that!
yoo bro remember me :)
u will get famous very soon!!
love from delhi :)
thanks bro i will remember u
love from not Delhi
Can't wait to see how you'll turn out by 18, you still have lots of growth potential
10:10 'i didn't earn their respect but i definitely earned mine' 💯🔥
TY TOUR SO SMART, u really help me, now i just need to take this into action... sighhhh
Thanks man, I needed it
I believe in you 💪🏻, yes you reading this. We got this ✨
Just found your videos, love them man keep it up. :)
keep grinding man, you’re gonna be huge one day my guy
You are going to get at least 100 k by the end of the year keep grinding
accidentally read it as "100kg". im on the bulk but thats a little bit much lmaoooo. thanks bro muchly appreciated we're like 1/100th there so that's progress
yo i actually needed this. ive always been afraid of standing up for myself, bc of others and how they would see me after. but its for me, not them. i need to start respecting myself. it will take a while to build self respect and boost my self esteem, but this was an important realization to make. thanks, if it werent for u, things were boutta get realll ruff 😉 haha no but thank you for this vid, helping out lots of ppl!!
How is everything
@lafettesimmons6735 things are pretty similar. I'm still afraid of standing up for myself, but I can see how I will get better, I'm just not there yet. Before things felt hopeless, now I'm starting to understand and feel the light, even though I'm not fully there. Interesting to see how my mindset has evolved, allowing me to open up to self defense. But yeah change won't happen overnight so hopefully I'll get there. Thanks for asking btw, how's everything with you?
I love your videos and your channel is very underrated, keep it up dude👍💪
Bro my friend recommended ur channel to me and damnnnn!!! Your videos have a lot of potential and u will definitely blow up one day👍
thanks broski
@@ItsMeRuff Jerry did not lie bro
@@maisshaaawhen did he say Jerry lied?
I love to see singaporean creators on youtube. Good job on your videos and i hope u improve as a creator too!
thanks. support local very important.
@@ItsMeRuff eh bro u should try shorts to get more traffic, works wonderfully
@@vsrgdog my content wouldn't work with shorts it would be so weird and out of context. imagine watching those "what music are you listening to" "double it and give it to the next person" shorts then i pop up like "bro ur a fucking jeffrey get off ur computer chair and do some pushups" LMAOOO im not andrew tate bro i cant do that
plus i made a video shitting on shorts creators so fuck that shit XD
i have quite a strong stance of that shit because it's inherently instant gratification. imo it is no different from video games and porn. it's fine if u like it its just not for me
@@ItsMeRuff haha all good bro! I use shorts on my own channel to (horrendously) attempt to build an audience LOL plus my target audience is gamers anyway, which is also gratification. Good luck brother!
@@vsrgdog all the best bro
you're gonna be big bro, just keep grinding
man i recently discovered your channel andddd i gotta say you're so fucking real I love u so much keep up w ur amazing work ruff , ur tuff (bars)
Bro like to himself 💀💀
@@My_Honest_Reaction_1 WAIT HOW DO YK
I’m a 22 year old woman. I was bullied by my peers when I was younger, and the worst cases for me were when I was teased and pressured by my best friends. I have always struggled to stick up for myself, mainly because I don’t fully realize in the moment how shitty someone is being and by the time it clicks, the moment has passed. I’ve always tried to improve and better myself and right now I’m focusing on how I interact with people. For the last few months, I’ve been having some bad anger issues and violent fantasies involving the people who have hurt me and I didn’t fight back. I’ve never acted on these feelings. I think I finally have enough respect for myself to know that I deserve better, but I don’t really know how to fight back since I’ve never really done it before. I always try to see the best in people and give people the benefit of the doubt, we’re all just flawed people after all, but this leads to me often overlooking when people are being shitty and letting them mistreat me. The last time I really stuck up for what I thought and believed about something, I lost my only 3 friends at the time. But I need to learn that that won’t always happen and when it does, they probably weren’t worth keeping around anyway. I get myself in this cycle of intense anger and disappointment in myself. I think the way to break the cycle is to fight back and stand up for myself. I think all this anger is buildup from when I was silent when people mistreated me or disrespected me. I think this realization came to me the other day when I was in lab (for school). A couple of small but harmless loud noises occurred that made me jump or whip my head to find the source. My lab partner and a couple other students told me that I was really anxious and kinda giggled about it. I giggled along too but then I thought more about it. Yeah, I know I’m anxious. I’ve had debilitating generalized anxiety disorder for nine years and it’s gotten worse in the last year because I got taken off of Lexapro due to my other health issues. That also adds to my fear of standing up for myself. But I need to change. Thank you for your video, it helped put some things in perspective for me.
Singaporean channels rise up! Love your stuff bro
truly regardless of race language or religion
Thank you very very much for your advices!!! I think it'll really help me... The thing is that,, in my situation the bullies are doing pitty things to me and if idc, they start pushing me or annoying and stuff just so they can provoke me to fight back to make me seem like the bad guy and report to teachers. But i think imma just solve it somehow..
Bruuh this video is so good.
My guy u have changed my life for the better,so have a kiss *muah*
This man’s advice is so much better and realistic than the ones they give in school istg
Your vdos give me a major reality check
I can back this up, the other day my sister started crap talking one of my friends acting like I couldn't pick up on what her and her friend were talking about and I stood up for myself by slightly raising my voice and stating that I'm aware of what they're talking about and that I'm not okay with that kind of toxic talk about someone I care about in my room. My sister has been mad at me for the past few days and hasn't said a single word to me. My sister is older than me and most younger sibling knows how it feels to be walked over by older siblings.
tried to defend myself but ended up getting into a huge argument I don't think I won but still proud of myself for standing up for myself :)
w a classmate btw
im proud of u!at least u tried unlike me(@@realgirlboss
Dang this is killer advice. I still struggle a lot with it tho, b/c if you fight back physically you get respect, but when ppl say things u disagree with and u fight back verbally, u often lose respect, friendship, etc. I’ve spent yrs pretending to have the same political beliefs as my friends for instance, but it sometimes makes me feel like crap 🤦♀️ hojgudhgojhsohgjfnjgnfjksjsrkhg
Amazing content as usual
I love how he mixed his sense of humour and his point
m in my mid twenties, embRassing yes but i need to update my settings . thanks for sharing ur ideas
... respect your family! No matter what they say and demand from you, but live as if they were dead. Always take the w even if your family wants you to take the l
hey man I know this vid is old but keep fighting those demons bro you funny as shit and im sure you will figure something out BEST OF LUCK!
Its good to stand up for yourself, but it may be a good idea to do as they asked for that one. I may be wrong but it sounds like you haven't had a job before. Its really good experience
id rather make money from youtube and grow the channel. im gonna double my subs in a month and quadruple it the next. i would be kicking myself if i gave up THAT experience to get paid 15/hr
plus i just got monetised on yt! can still make moneh :)
@@ItsMeRuff you got monetized and you are still cussing in yo videos lol... and did you think about getting a job and doing youtube aswell? i don't know you're schedule but getting just a little source of income could be nice well you are still at the earlier stages of youtube. and you could even invest the money you earn into youtube
Since Hamza quit your fr the only reason I watch yt bro
Ruff I hope you do well on your journey
"Staying away from yo-" 💀
I love this dude.
love u too
How come I binged all of yr vids eventho you’re toxic (not so much, ur a good person, i get what you mean when you say you stand up for yrself yada yada, i like you a lot, i hope you keep on making more vids in the future and hopefully cover lutut one liao 😭)
I hope you succeed and find happiness in everything that is good for you! All the best!
-subscribed 🎀
Ruff quote are literal hit 😭😭
This video is really helpful so thanks for making it :D But with the one that “it’s okay to have nobody respect you as long as you respect yourself”. Can’t that lead to entitlement?
Crazy how I get this recommended to me not too long after having the same thoughts myself
All I gotta say was I was here amazing video
When I was 6-7 i would get bullied (verbally), and i wasn't good at verbally fighting back so i would just fight back physically cause that's what I could do and later I would kinda regret it and even now i think i looked like clown. Then 8-10 i was bullied physically just because I -was- am better than the bullies, here i had learnt to fight back both verbally and physically depending on what the other's doing just so it's a bit fair.
And now 11-12 i didn't rly get bullied much but when i did it was again bc I'm better (academically and kind too ig)✌️
But recently those old bullies be getting back at me physically, like id be standing there and someone would pull my hair and run away i would think of chasing back but I'd stop, then once i found my self hit by ball (intentionally) while riding my bike but i understood that this time the bully was overly self conscious of himself and thought of it as playfight, i had another kid with me who was getting kid so i almost hit the bully with my bike but took pity on him.
Then later the bully decided to come for my sister and my sister fought back, and i helped my sister bc she's my sister and i wouldn't wanna be enslaved when i got back home, but that made me ask if i should've fought back in the start
I honestly don’t know how to stand up for myself except for asking my friends to scold or like take revenge on the people who bullied me
the 'like murdered someone or even worse failed the maths exam'!!!!!!
Was much needed
Keep it up g! What do you edit your videos on?
6:47 dayummm, ruff, sigmaaa
Good stuff.
Respect it
Brooo you will be big just take it serious trust me
respect bruv ++
good luck with your journey
So underrated
This dude’s kisses is legit my adrenaline boost
I go in a small little bus with a few kids (ranging 6-11). Today one boy started teasing a girl over something trivial. She started teasing him back, thinking they were both just having fun. That boy just hit her outta no where then. I do have a soft spot for that boy, he’s sweet, but he has major anger issues. Still, I reported him to the parents of our bus. That girl asked me why I reported him over something ‘small’, I told her that we should have boundaries and we should respect ourselves, if someone crosses the line then they should get a warning, or stuff will get worse. Whether it be that boy’s mindset or the situation around him. Then just now I saw this video and it made me even more confident about what I did. Oml sorry for the long paragraph jeez
lets start by addresing the whole UA-cam thing. The problem with platforms like UA-cam is that most people with up to 2 mil viewers can't keep up to the number of views they have now.
This is happended to countless big youtubers from back when i was younger. They still can make enough money for some time but for how long is the question.
Don't misunderstand me its good that u keep on your YT grind and do something u enjoy but having job expierences were you're forced to work with different people is extremly important too.
And fighting against your parents isn't the same as fighting back against bullies because in comparison to these bullies they have the best for you in mind. Of cause they aren't perfect and you always should question the the things they say but not only frome your perspective but also try to understand why they are doing what they did there. In this example it's probably because they think its not a job with long time security which its really not. In additon the experiences you get from having to work with others and also learnig how to propperly question athority within your workplace is worth so much more than the 18/hr. You can build on that knowledge later in life. Trust me it's so much worth.
As someone who got bullied quiet a lot i also know how important it is to be able to fight back but ive also learned to know when to suck it up. You dont have to take any shit from people that are on your level in restospect of experiens, the hierarchy and/ or age. (May also variate on the setting you find yourself in) but if a superior (or a parent) is telling you something, you need know how to give them what they want without loosing credibility by doing that. To properly respond to stuff like that you need to have experiences with conventional jobs.
You might think that to be able to escape the hive mine mentallity you need to be your own boss and then you dont need to listen to supervisors would be ignorant. Being indepentend often goes along with an 80 hour week and this lifestyle isn't fullfilling in any way for most people. But you can get a very well paying job with a 60 hour week where you have to listen to some boss. even if youre independent you sometimes need to listen to the commands of your customers.
And to finish my comment i want to go back to the point were u said that you are aware that you make mistakes. If you are also try to take advice from those with more life experience. these advices often come from their own mistakes and they are telling you these so you dont have to make those same mistakes.
Learnig from your mistakes are good but being able to learn from the mistakes of others is even better.
Bro your awesome
Ruff bout to ruffle my feathers with this video
its ruffin time
starts ruffin all over the place
ok so i had gyno bcuz of a genetic condition and because of that i was overlooked by everyone and bullied in the most toxic ways you can imagine . on the rating of being broken im like 10/10 . question is how do i start improving ? how do i see myself as worth protecting ?
that comes down to ur self worth. for me i hv a massive ego so i think im super important (probably too much)
confidence comes from progress
for example if someone asked me about youtube i would be confident because doing youtube is my life. but if someone asked me about astrophysics i wouldnt be confident.
so u have to get good at something to become confident. when u achieve things and make progress u will inevitably feel more confident because uve put in the work.
ur brain gives u the confidence that it thinks you deserve.
so what have u been doing recently for the past few months? do u deserve to be confident by ur actions?
dont focus on being confident.
focus on achieving things.
if ur below like 20 years old i dont believe u should focus on confidence because u simply havent had enough time to do anything to deserve it yet. but u can start now.
hope this helps, i can answer any questions u have. good luck
Something that I've learned is that the best way to stand up for myself is to stay quiet in silence while they spend their time saying what they shouldn't or trying to make my mind up to their ideas. Don't get me wrong, is always good to hear feedback on how we can improve ourselves and what we can do or look with other eyes, but there are times that we must protect ourselves in the best way, which means, the way that works for each one of us.
but when someone disrespect you, you just stay quiet?
I just say thank you very cool,cool, or whatever to the person. It shows them that you dont care and what they say wont affect you.
It worked so well in highschool for me. It diffused the situation all the time, and made the person trying to provoke me ackward and look wierd.
If you are emotionally reacting to someones bullshit, then they are living in your head rent free. You are giving them what they want.
Your ego is only under attack if you think its under attack. No point to get reactive to someone who isnt worth your time. Granted i still also believe there is a time and place to speak your mind or stand up for yourself. I think though, alot of the time its not worth it to give such a person your time.
@@anaclara-sb7rr Most of the time yes, but when they're acting too disrespectful I just leave and let them there. :)
@@felixluna4184 I agree with u, this week I changed It a bit and It helped me out a lot, even tho I still have no energy to say something to those
this video was very helpful and did you know nice guys and bad boys both have anxiety nice guys keep it in and explode on you later its called passive aggressive and bad boys are always pushing it out and they become more honest i do want to be liked but i don't need to be liked by everyone the right people will stay and the wrong ones will go
I approve of this but dont let "anger" be the fuel of your bright consciousness. Think of positive things like you do, but I've noticed that when you do that, the core of those of positive things usually tends to come from a negative corner/interaction in your life. I understand you're comparing them to grow from that but hear that term out. "Grow from that", meaning that the negativity is being used as a seed, and what comes from that angry seed more often or not is no good.
I did learn something and that's: He who tolerates everything, stands for nothing.
The ending is exactly what I'm talking about. Sooner or later youre going to be the bully, the instigator, the oppressor because "you take no shit" from anyone. Respect your parents even if they are wrong, Im pretty sure they want something good for you, listen to them and talk about kindness, positivity and growth, instead of how to fight back a bully. You listened and talked more about inconveniences and issues with other people rather than improving yourself. In a way youre improving but only to "fight" them back. You're accommodating yourself in their ranks. Your mind is getting filled with dumb trash that will not matter later in your life when you have control of every aspect in it.
What's happening to you now is minor inconveniences that are shaping you, youre smart, dont let your environment right now shape you in a negative way.
I know I never listened to my parents but I never disrespected them in any way shape or form. I once stood infront of my mom and received 7 slaps that came all the way from hong kong and changed my nationality. That's how hard she hit me consecutively. What I did was the following: Do you feel better mom? She said no. I said I love you, and iam sorry, but im still going out to skateboard. Yes, the reason was because I wanted to go skateboarding. She dropped to the floor crying as I left. Then when I came back, she was upset but not angry, no words no nothing, just a: what do you want for dinner tonight son? -This is just a small example that may or may not teach some one a different perspective on how I dealt with a family that I never approved anything with.
My mind was set on a far bigger perspective, and that was to skate. I knew that if I would have fought back and had a huge discussion with my mother, I wouldnt be able to go out in PEACE, and she wouldnt be able to sit down in PEACE afterwards. Sometimes we just dont have to reply/react to wild karens out there at all.
Keep it bro, just dont be toxic. Review your videos every now and then so you dont deviate into nonsense.
I’m so glad my parents didn’t yell at me for things and instead used video game time to bribe me into doing what they want
Hand gesture at the thumbnail told me that i need to eatch this.