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Same happened with my ex. My intuition tells me she was fake but I still have faith that she could change. A narcissist and a toxic person will never change because don't know how and need you to believe in him/her and your empathy. They don't have anything to offer you even though they want that.
I told him "why you call me crazy if you're more crazy than I". He didn't respond but he was boiling with rage. He called me ugly the day after (after he praised my looks) lol. Glad he's gone for a while
So true but - they are more than capable of appearing to be broken and of appearing to be sorry, regretful etc....BUT only as a temporary ploy to say what you want to hear to hoik you back in! I found it so hard to accept the lack of authenticity to how they appear. Heartbreaking.
To admit they are broken would bring their belief system crashing down on their heads. They believe they are always right and for them to accept otherwise would destroy their sense of identity...and, probably, their minds.
And they think they are special kind of human, often some kind of half goddess or half god, they have some kind of superpower and not like other people.
Many narc are like that but some have traits and do see and want to change. But its not easy and sometime to late for relationship to work because of the pain they have caused. But to call them as hopless is to much i believe. I am a narc and realize what I am and dont like it one bit. Work on myself to fight this condition. I dont want to believe I am void of Love.
Our Satanic culture that seems so docile produces this Godlessness. We are by nature sinners and must seek God's help through His Word in order to be conformed to His image of holiness, righteousness, and knowledge.
@@KellyMNicke I really can't believe how dense I can be at times. Your comment regarding your brother immediately brought my stepbrother to mind. Thanks for the wake up call.
Our therapist saw right through him... He left to go to the bathroom and she told me he was the best pathological liar she had ever seen and she told me to RUN. I went no contact in July and never looked back at his lying cheating face. Learning self love ❤️❤️
moonstruck believe it. I've seen a therapist with a PhD who was his therapist break confidentiality at least two times to the other party when it was the guys therapist he had been working with for 6 months. She was very blunt and candid and I never repeated what she said. Maybe you might want to take off the rose-colored glasses when it comes to therapists violating privacy instead of the commenter who has no reason to lie up here. Think about it. Forewarned is forearmed.
DIVINE COMMERCE Well firstly, bravo, you dodged a bullet thankfully. Secondly, he couldn't have been that good or she wouldn't have been able to spot it so easily. Wish we had mire to this scenario sounds like a victory for the honest, moral woman who has an angel on her shoulder. That's actually something I feel strongly about. When you are involved with someone who has always filled you with some odd level of anxiety and you just aren't sure if you are the one being overly sensitive, call in your higher power, angels, guides, deceased family members and give the task to them. Ask them very clearly, if this person is not who they say they are, or are deceiving you, have the person screw up majorly so there's no doubt that your intuition is working just fine and to remove them from your life safely, properly, gently, easily. And then just let go... Trust... If there's something you need to see it will reveal itself. An accidental butt dial conversation you'll hear. A text goes to you instead of someone it was intended to. A therapist will break confidentiality to keep you safe from harm. Trust, I have so many great stories. Russel Targ quoted the most gifted psychic ever in saying what people hide shines the brightest and is wanting to be seen. You see, it takes a lot of energy to hide something from people. I can explain in more detail but I think you get it. Glad you're ok! 👼
The Narcissist generates adequate self respect by latching onto more humble persons and mentally degrading them. Small imperfections are blown out of proportion and used to prove superiority; supply is created when the victim buys into it. And why shouldn't they. Narcissists are thriving in America.
I am clinically depressed since 3 years due to Narc ex. I am so much depressed due to the fact that he has some pictures of me. I am always scared if he will defame me by using them.. Please how do I protect my reputation if he tries to do wrong to my reputation?
it also happens to be a false and disempowering statement for any therapist to make. mentally and emotionally healthy people can maintain their integrity in any situation because they dont rely on the validation of others to regulate themselves. that is what psychological health looks like. blaming another person is disempowering, even if it might be a band aid on the short term for people with their own mental dysfunction called codependency.
Smh been there. My oldest romantic soulmate is a narcissist. I mean, we go back 1000s off years, many lifetimes together. I could feel the connection, we even became telepathic. He felt the connection but his poor, wretched narc heart couldn't come to terms with it, so he ghosted me for the 4th time in August. I went berserk. Sent him probably around 100 texts, called him about 30 times. Nothing. I finally decided to stop last month. Been crying on and off since August. Crazy thing is, we never dated. I've never loved someone so much, and never been so heart broken. But I'm sure no one else has driven him as crazy as i did lol. And to be honest, he's the nicest narcissists I've experienced. I'm a narc magnet because i'm an empath unfortunately, and the narcs I'm attracting now make him look like an angel.
But it takes more out of you to die one day knowing some one took your soul and used it for their own selfish reasons. FIGHT!!!! GET ANGRY AND FIGHT FOR YOURSELF!! You deserve it
1. "I've decided to go to counseling." 2. "I met them the last time we were broken up." 3."Can we just be friends" 4. "I knew you weren't right for me!" 5. "I'm sorry for hurting you and vow to make it up" 6. "I love only you" 7. "I've had an epiphany"
@@CharlotteLeguy Charlotte don't cast your Perils before swine. Those two lines are mind games. Hope you are doing well. Kind regards from Ireland Kate. 👱♀️💕☕☕
Yahyma Queen this comment is old but I'm just now seeing this video and completely agree! I'm mad at myself for sticking around for so long and letting him continuously mistreat me.
Yahyma Queen My Narcissist was in the form of a so called "best friend " and yes I am also angry with myself for ignoring the signs that date back to the beginning of the relationship. I am so grateful that it is over.
Yahyma Queen girl me too! I have kids with MINE! I also have another child who he tried to continue to be in her life also😩. He discarded me and abandoned us for another girl at work. The healing process was hard but getting better. How have you been?
Yahyma i feel for you I too am angry at myself he was also verbal towards my teenage daughter n violent towards me i used to tell him all the time if he ever put a finger on my daughter i would kill him
Please do it Its difficult at first admittedly but you wont regret it. The freedom and peace is astounding. You connect with yourself again and learn self esteem,self love and boundaries.
In my experience with narcissists, once you confront them and have it out with them and say no to the hoovering, they shrug, give up and go on to another victim. I'm talking really close relationships here. They just can't admit anything and blame everything on you.
The last relationship i had found out at the end 3 women including me had dumped him within two years. He went from one to the other and still blames us his exs.
My ex Narc came back one last time with a Revelation....he said "I had a Revelation...being with all those other girls made me realize how much I Loved you" WOW! GROSS!!
Tanya Depoalo The warped part about this revelation is that in his own sick delusional mind this type of behavior is acceptable..How twisted is that !!! This is how the mind of a psychopath operates, replacing all logic and rational reasoning with evil..
Tanya Depoalo and mine got rejected by multiple women on Tinder and one he was dated for a few weeks before it didn't work out, he came back with how I was the one but also wanted me to feel sorry for him and what he sent through on Tinder and how that girl he dated for a few weeks trying to get over me really "hurt him".... Wtf!
I watched plenty of videos on narcissism. just broke up two weeks ago w someone who did every last thing described on this list..and wow!!! Im shocked!!! My ex lied and said she went to counseling...haha. said she'd be ruined w/o me... cheated w over 30 ppl. men & women.went thru her found and whooooooaaaaa. 👀👥👥👥👤👥👤. one week after I found out i left. 2 weeks later I am regaining my strength w each passing day and I will never tolerate this behavior from a partner again. the betrayal was a blessing. I once was lost, but now I am found!!
Oh good for you. My narc is my mom . Currently balancing maintaining respectful boundaries with dear friend who is just now realizing he is victim of narc abuse from semi estranged wife who has twice tried to injure or kill him. I am in training to be a spiritual counselor in my fifties just finally living my life my own way. God bless and help all victims of narc abuse.
Everything said in this vid is spot on. Dead in the center of reality, their brains are BROKEN and will never be fixed. No amount of logic, reasoning, getting angry, yelling NOTHING wakes them up. They never get an ah ha moment. Ever. Which is super frustrating for a person like me, who used logic on them only to be met with a blank stare afterwards. The world is breeding more narcs due to the natural selfishness that ppl have. I wonder how many mentally stable ppl there are left in the world.
tranquility It's also becoming tougher to detect these freaks! The amount of effort required to repel them is over the top, they seem to be a dime a dozen.
tranquility Haha you are hilarious! It's so true! I'm just at the beginning of this discovery and now we have one as president. It's going to be a fun 4 years!
Girl I hope his ass gets impeached. He is the epitome of Narc. And they do the exact opposite of what their advisors tell them to do. But dig this right....if he got impeached mama get ready for this one. He would say, they threw me out bec they were JEALOUS of my abilities. They knew that I was too intelligent and it threatened them. I was the best president this country has ever seen. Yawn, keep dreaming Ditzy Donald lol.
You can imagine how frustrated I was when he told me that I AM illogical. My narc is interesting in a sense that he has tourette's - he tells me everything he thinks. Like the fact that he doesn't even like me or anyone else, he just wants to keep me! His brain is so twisted I can't believe he's the same species..
Oh. gotta love that projection. You you you...they really need to give it a rest. But at least he was honest when he said he doesn't like you or anyone else. They tend to not like themselves either. So why not destroy everyone else so that misery can have company. Sad existence they have.
I got depression while being in a relationship with a man I thought I truly loved, turned out his ego was so big it pushed me down and made me feel worthless. Boy are they good at getting their way
Oh my gosh exactly the same ! Such a big ego he made me feel worthless and less than. Such a horrible guy and experience ❤ Stay strong. You deserve better
I wish I had. The sad part is they come off as the calmest, most kindest and understanding being until you are not longer beneficial to them. I'm literally so grateful he found a new supplier and someone to use.
kathy dunn - Seeing as Mz Saeed has amazingly nearly successfully quoted almost every otherwise normally reasonable English language combination of apologies & attempts at romantic repair,-- then of course he has to have said whats on her list. She may as well have just said ANYTHING a Male says is proof of Narcissism - Kathy, when deciding about your life - please use only your OWN reasonable/sensible thoughts & feelings The ones she lends to people via her video etc. are all her own attempts of trying to ensure all other relationships are as horribly, hopelessly, irrepairable as her own have been. I wish you heartfelt, realistic contentment in what ever decision you make. Good luck. May God bless you.
kathy dunn life's not always fair, I know, be strong because over time your wounds will heal, and your reality will set in that dogs are better than most people. I keep saying to myself "omg I miss the closeness of a woman" do like I do turn on P hub and handle it! W/out your dog watching. : )
Be careful I made mistake after going no contact for 10 years Yes 10 years ...we reconnected and it ended up worse I thought hed change Mistake Hell never change
Wow that's a long time to go no contact then connect again? Wth. I was married to a covert narcissist for 10 yrs, just recently left him 4 months ago. He moved on after 1 month and has a baby on the way 🤣. Then tells everyone I'm the toxic one. I've been no contact. He tried to love bomb me back but it didn't work. I completely ignored him. We have 3 kids together so its hard sometimes so if we have to talk its about the kids only
I want change. I no longer wish to meet and befriend these demonic personality types. No Thank You!!! I want peace and I WANT TO BE ABLE TO RELAX IN MY LIFE.....
23 Psalm Mine too. I realized like 4 1/2 yrs ago that too many awful things were happening to me & my family. Our daughter had become ill & required brain surgery to remove tumor. She was left disabled. Almost ten yrs later my husband became seriously ill in early 2016 then passed away a day after thanksgiving. Then early last year I felt ill. I had injured my back. After seeking help from drs, therapists, neuro surgeons, chiropractor. All said it wasn't serious, recommended physical therapy, prescribed medication & sent me home. Pain continued despite this so I asked God for help. He led me to a spiritual healer. With help from SH & my late husbands spirit he revealed it was my demonic narc ex & his wicked mother who had put a curse on me & my family WAYYY back in early 80s. I discovered physical evidence that left NO DOUBT! They caused my daughters illness, late hubbies death & too much to mention here. They wish for me & my daughter/relatives to lose health, lose job, lose house. Basically to be left out in the street, flat broke, alone & finally death. All because I abandoned abusive narc bf back in 1978. He was an alcoholic, smoker & drug addict & I married someone from their own hometown. Spell has been broken. I am NOT afraid of them! I had NO idea evil sorcery even existed & I held NO ill will towards these sick individuals, but God opened my eyes & showed me the way in order to protect me & my loved ones. Praise God our KING of Kings! He and ONLY HE is our Saviour! Amen.
I am clinically depressed since 3 years due to Narc ex. I am so much depressed due to the fact that he has some pictures of me. I am always scared if he will defame me by using them.. Please how do I protect my reputation if he tries to do wrong to my reputation?
Kimberly Gabaldon I had a good laugh!!! Yeah it’s ugly specially when it has been your reality ...😭 Accept the truth , grow and move on Become your best Self ....❤️❤️❤️❤️
If you do get him out of your life. For your own sake as you reflect later, be sure its the way he really is that gets to you as a bad place to be, Not the false symptoms this damaged author has thrown out there as bait to all the hurt people who need to make some sense of what has happened. Ensure - if you get rid if him that it is really because he is bad for you, not because this woman is cruelly clever with words. You'll sleep better when you know your decisions are based on your own conclusions not based on this vipers recipe for killing all relationships having hard times to ease her own history of pain. Either way, maybe pray, & think of all real scenarios & your own needs now & in the future before your final decisions. Good luck whatever path you choose - sincerely !.
Wish I seen this while I was with my ex or even after the break up, I won't have fallen for "Let's fix it, I want to marry you , let's go to therapy" and his none stop lies. Run and never look back
Honey I am toying with mine as I type this to test out a video called how to dissarm a narrsist key words are you are entitled to your opinion, I accept i can't controller your perception. Everything you say is right. I realized fully and completely of mine and his patterns when I allowed him back only this time I played the old me reacted the same only in words but calmer just to see the patterns I was blind to before. So his last approach was to with hold from our child despite of me accept the actuality is anytime in the pasr I did tyebtibest thing he didn't like it called him out on it he would disappear not giving two fucks if our new born needs anything or if I need anything for I just gave birth how about when I was pregnant or prior when weren't married when I first met him I called him a narrsist only when I got to know he was charming
Reality has hit but I'm more mad at myself for accepting abuse now I'm healing and moving on and I'm happy I'm not arguing everyday I'm looking forward to the future.
MeJay I felt the same way as you, angry at MYSELF for being suckered in and accepting the abuse. It was not our fault, I know that now. Lots of love in your healing xx
You are healing and moving just remember 3 things 1 Don't think past.....isthe best medicine 2 Don't hope your feature Depend ??? Self Realyence is a big hope. 3 Most important Tonic Wow always be in present. Plan your day you will be happy at the end of the day. Most important wow have a good sleep without Dream God will take care Regards
@@joannbyrd6324 it's been a year! Life is getting better everyday! I have myself back and the ability to grow and change again. They steal your life. You feel like you can't breath and you are stagnant! No more!
Danielle Nepinak yes I can relate also after going though a device and I took care of her for 9 years and six mounts and we had a five year old son together and I still take care of my son until this day
Alex Sage you are the narcissist! Look how you just turned that around and blamed the whole situation on her! You are a gas lighter. Typical abuser behavior. Get outta here man! I you don't like American women then don't talk to us.
I was married to a narcissist for 5 years. After the last 3 yrs in and out of therapy and hospital visits I was finally diagnosed with PTSD from living through his hell. We have finally seperated for nearly a year now. But truthfully, he still pursues me, tries to shower me with gifts and money and pays my bills without my consent. If you watch this video and see this as your partner, run while you can because you will never believe how hard it is to completely break away after time. It's nearly impossible without the help of people who genuinely live and care about you.
Wow, that video was right on and exactly what everyone who is in a relationship with a narcissist needs to hear!! THANK YOU for making this!! Good information!!
I am in tears, Thank you for this video. Sometimes (almost always) it takes an objective viewpoint to see the truth. You've provided that for me. I am so grateful.
mine sent a text "have a great Christmas, I forgive you." I asked, forgive me for what? he said, for your mistrust in me. I had no response to that. stupid narc.
Hahahaha!!! They always say,"I forgive you". Lol. Since they don't see their own faults. Well they do they just try as much as possible to avoid the fact they are SO MESSED UP!
None of it was ever real, not to them. All your effort, love & tears just goes to prove they’re right for thinking so highly of themselves and therefore can never be wrong. Their thirst for vengance when you disagree (period!) more boundless than your love could ever be. Break, devalue, discard is the m.o. Still not sure which was the most painfull part. Thank you for the video! cried trough the whole thing, none of it was real.
Yes! I got "I don't know what you're talking about" , it was his classic line when I called him out on his BS. I would then show him proof . I'd then get "I can't remember" , typical narc amnesia 🤦
@@rachp5176 or say "trust me " after having a debate\opinionated conversation about a 25min subject that he thinks he is always right about what he says. Lol or throws in an educated guess without factual information.
Jesus it's like a play by play of my previous relationship. She was a clear-cut narcissistic sociopath. Luckily it only lasted a year before I got myself out; it felt like a four year relationship. But I didn't get out unscathed. Emotionally and mentally it screwed me up. I did not listen to my intuition or gut when there were signs.
bang on. didn't know this type of 'person' could be sleeping beside me. yup. such an overall waste of time and effort. creepy to the bones. why did i have to go through that?
Kevin Davis I believe we all go thru these experiences as a lesson in life. It is important to seek understanding about the Narcissist but you must also take a closer look at what caused you to attract that type of person. Many times it's our unresolved inner conflicts and childhood traumas we need to let go of and the Narcissist shows up all charming to show us what we need to see the hard way. Take to your inner world and do some introspective soul searching, this is a healing lesson for you.
Thanks Angela, it's a harsh truth, yes. I also think this narc showed up at a random time in my life when I happened to be available, not necessarily vulnerable. I was indeed blind sided by the initial charm. I was under the belief of the 'birds of a feather' theory but I guess that doesn't always fly..lol. I have made much stronger boundaries since then. Now she is annoying me because I set new ones for her and she doesn't like it. I hate to see someone I really cared about flopping around like a fish out of water. Nothing I can do for her now.
Kevin Davis I also set boundaries for my life and it's been quite a struggle with my main narcissistic, but it also affected several others I have been living with in my immediate family that I never suspected. It's amazing what boundaries can do in time, when you stick to them. Many things have opened up for me in terms of stepping back into my own power, you just have to remain strong!
The infidelity part where “you weren’t showing me attention” brought me to tears. I was told I was to blame for him going elsewhere (I was suffering from PTSD at the time). Thank you for this video, it has helped me greatly.
Same thing for me.. it has completely crushed my self esteem, and I used to feel really attractive and charming. Just ruined it. When we show said affection, they don't want it or are too busy. I'm starting to document the patterns and lies.
Hey. The narcissist was projecting onto you what HE does to you. A narcissist is incapable of giving anyone attention because he cannot afford to give any part of himself away. A narcissist is shriveled and empty on the inside, devoid of love or empathy for anyone except for himself. The narcissist cares only about protecting his FALSE image of himself.
Thank you for helping me realize. Im 20 weeks pregnant and now a single mom. My ex was abusive and im sleeping on a friends couch untill i find a place. Scared but better off.
Also, a few characteristic from a narc i’ve encountered with: 1. They like to boast or bluff about their achievement and what they can do 2. They know what you want to hear and they will manipulate you with it 3. Love bombing. If you feel sudden and intense attention from him/her out of nowhere, Run. 4. They almost never apologize, anything that happen to their life is bcs of external force, nothing to do with theirselves. 5. They will shower you with tons of compliment, sugarcoating everything. 6. They will tell you why their brother/sister/friend isnt as good as himself 7. See how they treat someone preferably in service job like waiter, etc. That’s their true mask
Mine treated customer service employees with kindness. He treated everyone with kindness. It’s not always so ugly on the surface. They can be godly cunning.
Seems they all like to name drop also. And gossip alot. Snoop alot in others business. Ignore your messages. They think it's all funny. Lol. I know so many signs now. It's amazing. They have to be worn out.
I am clinically depressed since 3 years due to Narc ex. I am so much depressed due to the fact that he has some pictures of me. I am always scared if he will defame me by using them.. Please how do I protect my reputation if he tries to do wrong to my reputation?
Forgive but don't forget , it's a pattern ,neither return to it, be wise, be vigilant , for all spirits"evil" will test again , only for more of a prize your soul , and to iniliat your love for GOD, ITS WHOLE INTENTION
Extremely accurate. In addition to all of this, it was ALMOST impossible for me to get away from one of these relationships because she was so beautiful and so good in bed. My self respect finally made me pull away for good. Thank god.
This video is on point and it actually made me cry. It sucks when you realize how much time and energy you wasted on someone like this and you‘ll never really know what was genuine or fake all these years you spent together.
you forgot "you don't know nothing..*laughing* you don't know anything about me." Or... "I don't know why I married you.. you can't help me so I'll marry someone else who can." or he blames everything on you and pretends as if you're crazy in front of your family when they know the truth..
Wanting to be loved is a neurosis. Pay your own bills, do your own thing and stop caring about who loves you. If you can do this, almost everyone will love you.
The Let's Be Friends, is the most common and too easy to spot one my ex uses I don't even know why he sees me as a victim I look strong and too hot for him anyway .
About the one I heard yesterday; our relationship is broken because you can't forgive and move on. If you could, we would be back and love each other like before. Am I the only one that heard that?
Hi Sylvie! Yes, that is another of their blueprint comebacks. I'm getting ready to post an article on my site in just a bit. You should go check it out because I think it will help you gain clarity. www.LetMeReach.com :)
No. It was apparently my fault we are having problems because I decided not to go running back. I do forgive him; I'm just no longer willing to be his victim. Forgiveness does not equal putting yourself back into harm's way.
Sylvie Caouette Yes, I've heard that one many times. I need to live in the present and not the past. She told me once while pregnant by someone else "if it takes the rest of my life to make it up to you". Guess who's gone again and I'm raising this fantastic daughter!
100% Truth! Great job with this video! Now that I have broken free for nearly a year and healed from a relationship with a narcissistic person, I actually laughed out loud at some of the things that are so true and apparently the common acts of all narcissists. It's amazing how accurate this video is! Thank you for sharing. I am so grateful to be OUT of the relationship and have my life back. The person is completely out of my life - ZERO contact - and I am keeping it that way. That's the only way because the narcissists will ALWAYS try to manipulate you back into their sick relationship filled with lies and deceit. They are masterful liars and masterful manipulators. Stay as far away from them as you can and your life will be healthy, whole and complete again. YES our intuition always tells us and we need to trust and listen. I knew I shouldn't have entered into the relationship but allowed myself to be manipulated into it and it was traumatic mentally, emotionally and physically. That will NEVER happen again so thank you to my ex-narcissist for the lesson. The big lesson was VALUE - when we value ourselves, we wont draw in the narcissist. When we are not valuing ourselves is when the narcissist has an opportunity to sneak in.
No Contact I for one am proud of you. many if not most people who spent that long with a narc never get the courage to leave. but you know, God helps those who help themselves...
The narcissist can no longer drain your energy that was previously needed to combat the fear, dread of having to deal with them. The day i told my narcissist empathy was no longer in stock.....magic happened. No contact, no guilt. Got my Life back and enjoy my HAPPY way of seeing things.
Wow! 25 Years married to a woman like this. Everytime she "leaves" it's my fault for not treating her right. finds a boyfriend that lasts about 6 months and always sucks me back. I notice she never loses contact with her past flings. Talks crap about them then yo-yo's back and forth. I'm finally done after 25 years. I'm a slow learner I guess. even our daughters can't stand their mom and tell me to stop being so sweet. 😖
Joe Caruso everything you said sounds like me my two boys have easier time with no contact with their mom and I do. She's still hovering over and he even to this day was texting I've attempted no contact so many times I must try again. But I know exactly how we're feeling
Yeah, it's always you who neglected them, you who caused them to be abusive, you who left them no option, or any other excuse to be assholes with you and blame it all on you
dude you take the words right out of my mind,, find a boyfriend and that lasts 6 month or a year and then she tricked herself into my life again. and she KNEW EXACTLY WHAT BOTTOMS SHE HAD TO PRESS;TO TAKE HER BACK: SHE WAS SICK ; BUT ME TOO: NEVER AGAIN its also too late. idont hate woman dont get me wrong. i hate narcissists sick or not, they know exactly what they do, otherwise they couldnt be SO TRICKY. hold on brothe , you are not alone a bitter LOL
This video was spot on! I am amazed at how all of them do the same thing without rehearsing it with each other. It comes naturally. That is the scary part because that confirms that fact that their behavior and actions are mental!
Swarthy Daisy I find it strange too. If it is mental, then who or what uploaded the narcissistic programing that allows so many to be "the same"? To say, what are the universal or common circumstances revolving around us that creates the narcissist?
Married to a covert NPD for 5 yrs. She selected a counselor, he diagnosed her as NPD. As soon as she felt he was looking at her, she bolted and left counseling. Six months later she found another counselor, we went together. She tried to intimate that I had all of these problems and she was a sweet little lamb. He saw through it and he too diagnosed her as NPD independent of the first counselor, I never told him. Soon after this she bolted again. They cannot stay because by definition there can be nothing wrong with them. She then went to a female Pastor friend of hers to counsel us. I was sceptical of her bias and met with her alone to insure that she could be impartial. The so-called woman of God secretly allowed my then wife to listen to the entire 90 minute session on her hidden cell phone. A brutal betrayal for which she has never apologized. I went complete "no contact" with the NPD and that upset her bigtime. I never spoke to her for 2 1/2 years. Now married to a wonderful woman, hang in there. God Bless.
Wow! That's a story you went through! Great you kept you own health. And so glad for you that you found a better person. I'm getting out of an abusive relationship, as he does seem to always want to blame on me... not even considering his big behavioral mistakes. (This vid is wrong, they don't excuse themselves)... Take care. 🤗
After being married to a narcissist for nearly 26 yrs and separated for 15 years I am only just learning what sort of man I was married to .These sessions have been a tremendous help to me. I would like to say a big THANK you.
Lol...as if people hadn't chosen to the belief of "reincarnation." Trippy stuff, though at the phase of acceptance on the behalf to such information. Alike the learning of materials, no more trespassing, because plenty of people live to done had lit the path of history. And narvo's crumbs became algae. You're knew heaven. Boastfully, Thanks.
Yes. When they realize you're on to them they do their best to buy time until they find their new supply. They either suck up or try to confuse you as much as possible with fake feelings. They can't afford to lose and being discarded by the victim going no contact is the ultimate defeat of the narcissist. So they buy time so they can plan the discard drop on you.
Frustrating beyond belief. The narcissist will take your heart, your trust, and your faith, as well as all things good, wholesome, and balanced in your life and crush you until you can't get up. Your otherwise logical brain will be rendered completely defenseless against their charms, manipulation and trickery. They lack any sense of empathy. They are a horrible breed bent only on pleasing themselves at your expense... Stay clear peeps! Seriously, learn how to spot them, then run like hell!
Randy,... whether you know it or not,... you have just described....." ALL".... women....(the good news) moving forward,....(using this knowledge, the BAD news)✌️.
deanna williamson stay strong and don't give up!! iv been two years free from my situation with friend with benefits and he finally broke me and I had enough of his selfish minipulations. 😊
I had a "friend" that tried to get me in an intimate relationship with him. He was a Christian besides, so being just friends with benefits wasn't good enough, he wanted a full commitment. He did a lot of this stuff, unfortunately it got so bad I had to get a restraining order, but I've been better without him.
Mine kept some clothes and the keys he had because he thought I would visit for them. I totally blocked him and went no contact. He dropped them off at my sister in law when he saw that I ignored him. It is really really stressful being with them
OMG YES my NARCISSIST will steal my stuff and hide it just to make me crazy! So weird. 13yrs....have a 2 year old daughter and its impossible 2 co parent with a NARCISSIST!
Jesus Christ, "The greatest commandment is to love the Lord thy God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your strength. The second is likened unto it, to love thy neighbor as thyself" Narcissism is not a disease. Narcissism is a sin by breaking God's commandments.
I have been no contact for almost a year now and I still check the parking lot before I go into a public establishment. Once I realized that he never loved me and never could it was easy to stop contact but the damage is deep.
Notice not a single NPD ever comments on this or any other video on this subject. No NPD ever chimes in to defend themselves or their actions. Interesting. Great video and spot on. Thank you.
That‘s because they want to be SEEN as good ppl. Only few of them are bold enough to be blunt about their intentions. But usually they are cowards, so don‘t date a male pussy or cocky douchebagger. They lead to nowhere in life! 🤷🏻♀️
I believe it’s also because narcs never think there is anything wrong with themselves so why would they even think of watching a video on this topic anyways?! It’s always everyone else’s fault and they’re the victim. ALWAYS!
To be honest I think they just come on here to read about people's experiences just to get more fuelled up and discover something they haven't tried.. Guys I have never ever "hated" someone this much
I just saw someone admitting to it. 3 comments followed saying the same (one was called A PERSON, the other one NOBODY). Sad isn't it? I feel so sorry for the ones who realise their disconnect. It must be a terrible reality. I do believe these can improve but they need digging very deep into their childhood. It's just so freaking sad. I feel more sorry for their victims though.
Self-reflection is work. Many people are not able to self-reflect. That is a key indication of sociopathy and psychopathy. And yet, you went to labeling others as your first comment.
So true! It's been quite a journey to understand that narcissist's behave the same way. That they use such trickery and cunning and then I am the one who feels guilty. Thank you for your videos!
Narcissistic behavior of one's partner is too hard to handle because instead of helping resolving the problem, they do blame you even if you don't do wrong at all. You really need to know the personality of a person first before jumping right into a relationship because once you get there it will be too hard for you to get out.
They are not human beings, they lack the basic key components that make a person human. Stay away from them by all means necessary or else they will break you down and spit you out like the nothing they think you are. Be strong and stick to your guns, I had to do it and I know if I can you can too.
Unfortunately, they are humans, just not fully functioning ones, therefore a grave danger to the rest of us on the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual levels. We are ridiculed for our positive traits, which they see as further signs of our weaknesses.
I believe there IS something spiritually negative connected, but not exactly them not being human. Brain scans have shown blockages in the brain’s section that gives the empathy function. I don’t know what it is exactly, but those black spots are manifestations of what is happening spiritually. I’m not saying possessed, but to be capable of such cruelty comes with a lot of thick, dense darkness. I still cannot fathom that there are people so empty, and capable of such cruelty. They eat light and spit out darkness. How in the hell does that even happen?
I was with my ex for 5 years. He broke up with me a year ago and since then he has been dating another person. He came back several times saying how much he loved me and missed me meanwhile he was still with the other person. Everytime he came back he would say that she didnt understand him like i did and that i was special. Three months ago i decided to talk with him. He was very mean and rude to me. the last thing he said was that he didnt want a relationship with anyone (Lie) but he liked the other girl more than he liked me. l asked him why he would come back and say that he loved me if he didnt want anything to do with me. He denied everything and said the blame was on me.
Hi Yeny, thank you for sharing. If it makes you feel any better, this is an extremely common scenario that happens with these types of people. I don't say that to trivialize what happened to you, but in hopes that you won't internalize his "rejection" because this is one of their blueprint behaviors...meaning, they do that to everyone. Sooner or later, the new girl will receive similar treatment.
Kim Saeed thanks for your words. I know he is not a sincere person. Two days ago he saw me walking to uni and honked so that I could see him too... no normal person would do that after hurting me and treating me so poorly..Then next day a friend of mine told me that he had been asking about me. I now understand thats not normal.. but why do you think narcissists want to know about their former partners after a period of no contact and after discarding them in a very mean and rude way? .. Do they still expect us to be pining for them?
+Yeny, Yes, maybe because we've cooled off in the past and forgiven them. From my own experience 5.5 yrs living together, a fall/winter church going friendship, followed by 10 years of silence on my part...No matter who else they might see/date/live with, you will always 'belong' to them. I think they know it will take work, but they believe you'll always be attainable. I agreed to talk only because I knew all these years later, I could resist all the lies & tricks. He thought he'd actually be able to hide his new gf and get me back, all those years later. I call it the year of eating well. I let him wine & dine me for a year without so much as a kiss. He refused to speak of the past. .lol, now I realize it was because he couldn't keep those lies straight anymore. Told me he didn't expect to have any romantic feelings for me, but realized he does. Then he said, "I guess I waited too long to come back. I always thought you'd be there." (as if all the women in between, all the lies wouldn't matter?) I am actually worried he's trying to fix some of his behavior problems. Then again it could easily be his way of testing me, just another scam..
Hi Yeny. Yes Ive had that same situation happen to me on & off going on 9 yrs now so as you can see it's a tactic of theirs. The ex narc has Bern telling me the Very Same Thing for 9 yrs while seeing other people!! Thank God & with the help of Kim Sieed, I no longer believe that pure BS he's been telling me! New Years Day, 2017, I have not been with the Ex Narc for One full year & I am very proud of myself for being able to do this! And you too will have the strength & courage to do this! I promise, there IS A LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL! But it's up to you as to how long it takes to get to that light. My prayers will be with you! Message me anytime if you need someone to talk to because I've been through so much & for so long with a Narc, I know All Too Well their little tactics they will use. And I'm a good listener too!! Sending hugs to you today! Be strong! 🤗
The most scary part from the narcissist father they do not love there children. They use the kids against you and tell them to say and do things, lucky for my 3 and half year old is mature enough to tell me his father is abusive and tells me that his father tells him to act naughty for mummy so you live with me, ah I'm a few up my narc on this,they think there smart but all narcs traits are the exact same.
Skye if you at any time truly believed this was a seriously professional article after hearing the sarcasm in the narrator's voice, than you are a douchebag narc. fyi
I've experienced everything in this video exactly in that order. It took me so long to understand that what I've experienced with this man is beyond vile. He has destroyed my family. I've lost everything in the time that I have been with him. He delights in seeing me struggle. Outright lies and laziness. No such thing as a compromise. He's said horrible things and done worse. All the while telling me that I was "nuts" "too sensitive" or "crazy." Turns out those are all pretty accurate descriptions for him. These videos and support groups have been very helpful. For anyone going thru this if you have to communicate as much as you can by text/email. That way when they deny having said something or being told something you can pull up proof. It took me years to figure this out. Also, the narrator in this video is right. If you find yourself having been sucked back into one of their fateful arguments- forgive yourself and move on. They will always have the upper hand because they are not capable of caring for or about anyone other than themselves. Love yourself! Educate yourself. I have a child (that I cherish) with this man so going "no contact" isn't really an option. Still, it calls for firm boundaries that they will bulldoze thru. Just keep putting them in place. Pray, meditate, and most of all know that one day YOU will be JUST FINE❤❤❤
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Big hugs! XoXo
Deepak chopra
Kim Saeed 9n
Thankyou!
Thanks a lot for your subtle sense of humour across this such painful thing. You made me smile and see him miserable. It really helps to heal.
Can you kindly read my comment , I'm very confused
they don't apologize at all.. they make you seem like you are the cause of what they say to you
That's mostly correct. Sometimes they do "fauxpoligies". Faked apologies part of their manipulative scheme.
ohh this is 100 pct true never say anything positive about anything always you
Just a thought.... maybe you are....
Same happened with my ex. My intuition tells me she was fake but I still have faith that she could change. A narcissist and a toxic person will never change because don't know how and need you to believe in him/her and your empathy. They don't have anything to offer you even though they want that.
Right!! Do you really want to ruin our family??? 🙄😑
they love to tell you that "your crazy".
I went through that, in reality, my ex is a narcissist
That's called reflection. When the say "you're crazy", they're telling themselves that, aka. "I'm crazy".
@@BrotherTree1 Exactly
I told him "why you call me crazy if you're more crazy than I". He didn't respond but he was boiling with rage. He called me ugly the day after (after he praised my looks) lol. Glad he's gone for a while
They love to say: I didnt say that
Narcissist dont acknowledged they are broken. so they cannot be fixed
Bethley Cooper so sad 😭
Makes you want to help them more.... but helpless
So true but - they are more than capable of appearing to be broken and of appearing to be sorry, regretful etc....BUT only as a temporary ploy to say what you want to hear to hoik you back in! I found it so hard to accept the lack of authenticity to how they appear. Heartbreaking.
To admit they are broken would bring their belief system crashing down on their heads.
They believe they are always right and for them to accept otherwise would destroy their sense of identity...and, probably, their minds.
And they think they are special kind of human, often some kind of half goddess or half god, they have some kind of superpower and not like other people.
Many narc are like that but some have traits and do see and want to change. But its not easy and sometime to late for relationship to work because of the pain they have caused. But to call them as hopless is to much i believe. I am a narc and realize what I am and dont like it one bit. Work on myself to fight this condition. I dont want to believe I am void of Love.
The world is full of these sick people.
Our Satanic culture that seems so docile produces this Godlessness. We are by nature sinners and must seek God's help through His Word in order to be conformed to His image of holiness, righteousness, and knowledge.
@Yellow Mustardgas
Define _disabled_ for me, please, as the term is more than a little ambiguous.
Unfortunately, you are right. If they are there, change your attitude towards yourself.
Mission Impossible My own brother....classic narcissist
@@KellyMNicke
I really can't believe how dense I can be at times.
Your comment regarding your brother immediately brought my stepbrother to mind.
Thanks for the wake up call.
Our therapist saw right through him... He left to go to the bathroom and she told me he was the best pathological liar she had ever seen and she told me to RUN. I went no contact in July and never looked back at his lying cheating face. Learning self love ❤️❤️
Darius Washington You sound like a spokesperson for Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
@Raman D Great story!
That was very unprofessional of your therapist. Almost unbelievable
moonstruck believe it. I've seen a therapist with a PhD who was his therapist break confidentiality at least two times to the other party when it was the guys therapist he had been working with for 6 months. She was very blunt and candid and I never repeated what she said.
Maybe you might want to take off the rose-colored glasses when it comes to therapists violating privacy instead of the commenter who has no reason to lie up here. Think about it.
Forewarned is forearmed.
DIVINE COMMERCE Well firstly, bravo, you dodged a bullet thankfully. Secondly, he couldn't have been that good or she wouldn't have been able to spot it so easily. Wish we had mire to this scenario sounds like a victory for the honest, moral woman who has an angel on her shoulder. That's actually something I feel strongly about.
When you are involved with someone who has always filled you with some odd level of anxiety and you just aren't sure if you are the one being overly sensitive, call in your higher power, angels, guides, deceased family members and give the task to them. Ask them very clearly, if this person is not who they say they are, or are deceiving you, have the person screw up majorly so there's no doubt that your intuition is working just fine and to remove them from your life safely, properly, gently, easily. And then just let go... Trust...
If there's something you need to see it will reveal itself. An accidental butt dial conversation you'll hear. A text goes to you instead of someone it was intended to. A therapist will break confidentiality to keep you safe from harm.
Trust, I have so many great stories.
Russel Targ quoted the most gifted psychic ever in saying what people hide shines the brightest and is wanting to be seen. You see, it takes a lot of energy to hide something from people. I can explain in more detail but I think you get it. Glad you're ok! 👼
"You will never bi in control of your self-esteem or your emotions as long as the Narcissist is in your life." - that hit me hard as hell. :(
Oh wow now everything make sense why I feel more peaceful when I'm not around some people
The Narcissist generates adequate self respect by latching onto more humble persons and mentally degrading them. Small imperfections are blown out of proportion and used to prove superiority; supply is created when the victim buys into it. And why shouldn't they. Narcissists are thriving in America.
I am clinically depressed since 3 years due to Narc ex.
I am so much depressed due to the fact that he has some pictures of me.
I am always scared if he will defame me by using them..
Please how do I protect my reputation if he tries to do wrong to my reputation?
Same here
it also happens to be a false and disempowering statement for any therapist to make. mentally and emotionally healthy people can maintain their integrity in any situation because they dont rely on the validation of others to regulate themselves. that is what psychological health looks like. blaming another person is disempowering, even if it might be a band aid on the short term for people with their own mental dysfunction called codependency.
Best Revenge??
BE HAPPY!! They hate it!!! Ha
Laugh
Smile
Feel Blessed and Move on! 😍💗💗💗💗😀
SO true, they can’t mentally handle the fact that you could ever be happy without them!!
Carol Loraine how do you stay happy if it’s your only child
Yup any time I was excited or happy about something, he found a way to sabotage it.
Thanks Carol very spirited and living words 💚☀️
@@mollyg4980 Unfortunately..I know Exactly what you mean😞💩
It is so hard to love someone so deeply and finally need to let go for your own good. It takes too much strength to do so.
Gogo only and when you finally move on and are in a better place they come back begging you for another chance
So much strength. It's so difficult. Weird thing is I still feel guilty about moving away. Sigh.
Smh been there. My oldest romantic soulmate is a narcissist. I mean, we go back 1000s off years, many lifetimes together. I could feel the connection, we even became telepathic. He felt the connection but his poor, wretched narc heart couldn't come to terms with it, so he ghosted me for the 4th time in August. I went berserk. Sent him probably around 100 texts, called him about 30 times. Nothing. I finally decided to stop last month. Been crying on and off since August. Crazy thing is, we never dated.
I've never loved someone so much, and never been so heart broken. But I'm sure no one else has driven him as crazy as i did lol. And to be honest, he's the nicest narcissists I've experienced. I'm a narc magnet because i'm an empath unfortunately, and the narcs I'm attracting now make him look like an angel.
But it takes more out of you to die one day knowing some one took your soul and used it for their own selfish reasons. FIGHT!!!! GET ANGRY AND FIGHT FOR YOURSELF!! You deserve it
I know coz m dealing with one of these who I considered my DM... Let universe decide.. But for now it's time to let go
“I was abused as a child” is another one they use..............
Omg reading these comments is scaring me. If only I wasn’t so spineless
Oh yeah my second ex used this!
@@alexcanning5383 It takes real guts to face reality. You have the Right Stuff Alex.
@Rod Walchly Do you mean by "two to tango" that we have a responsibility for being a Supplier of energy to narcs?
Sad
Yes. The abuse is much worse when we go back! 😞
So true. They will pull you back just to humiliate you
Sadly true...
"cheating....making you think they are desirable while making your self esteem worse..." so true
1. "I've decided to go to counseling."
2. "I met them the last time we were broken up." 3."Can we just be friends" 4. "I knew you weren't right for me!" 5. "I'm sorry for hurting you and vow to make it up" 6. "I love only you" 7. "I've had an epiphany"
I had the can we just be friends and I knew you weren’t right for me and I felt aweful about it for many years
@@CharlotteLeguy
Charlotte don't cast your Perils before swine.
Those two lines are mind games.
Hope you are doing well.
Kind regards from Ireland Kate.
👱♀️💕☕☕
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Im still trying to recover from the mind games my narc played on me. I feel angry that i would allow him to treat me so bad for so long.
Yahyma Queen this comment is old but I'm just now seeing this video and completely agree! I'm mad at myself for sticking around for so long and letting him continuously mistreat me.
Yahyma Queen My Narcissist was in the form of a so called "best friend " and yes I am also angry with myself for ignoring the signs that date back to the beginning of the relationship. I am so grateful that it is over.
Yahyma Queen girl me too! I have kids with MINE! I also have another child who he tried to continue to be in her life also😩. He discarded me and abandoned us for another girl at work. The healing process was hard but getting better. How have you been?
Yahyma i feel for you I too am angry at myself he was also verbal towards my teenage daughter n violent towards me i used to tell him all the time if he ever put a finger on my daughter i would kill him
+@@abigailwilliams5302 . Does any normal person expect to meet up with a demon ?
I've been in love with a narcissist for over 5 years and because of this video I think I can finally move on.Thank you so much..
me too
I’ve been there. No contact will bring freedom like you wouldn’t believe. Totally worth it - you deserve to be happy.
You should. I did
I'm on year 5 as well, I'm definitely in the discard stage 😂😂
Please do it Its difficult at first admittedly but you wont regret it. The freedom and peace is astounding. You connect with yourself again and learn self esteem,self love and boundaries.
In my experience with narcissists, once you confront them and have it out with them and say no to the hoovering, they shrug, give up and go on to another victim. I'm talking really close relationships here. They just can't admit anything and blame everything on you.
The same in my experience! The refusal to accept responsibility for what they do & how THEY make other people feel!!
Yes it’s draining
The last relationship i had found out at the end 3 women including me had dumped him within two years. He went from one to the other and still blames us his exs.
He discarded me like I never existed yet still has anger and is behaving like I have dumped him..A true jackal and Hyde personality
C E the same happened to me!
C E same with me right now!
Same story
They're always the victim. I hope you're in a better place this year.
When I left my narcissist x he was telling everyone he didn't know why I even left....
My ex Narc came back one last time with a Revelation....he said "I had a Revelation...being with all those other girls made me realize how much I Loved you" WOW! GROSS!!
Hi Tanya! Yes, that's what I jokingly refer to as their having "The Divine Epiphany". :)
Tanya Depoalo The warped part about this revelation is that in his own sick delusional mind this type of behavior is acceptable..How twisted is that !!! This is how the mind of a psychopath operates, replacing all logic and rational reasoning with evil..
Christo so true
Tanya Depoalo and mine got rejected by multiple women on Tinder and one he was dated for a few weeks before it didn't work out, he came back with how I was the one but also wanted me to feel sorry for him and what he sent through on Tinder and how that girl he dated for a few weeks trying to get over me really "hurt him".... Wtf!
Mine says he fucks them but he only LOVES me...yup!
I watched plenty of videos on narcissism. just broke up two weeks ago w someone who did every last thing described on this list..and wow!!! Im shocked!!! My ex lied and said she went to counseling...haha. said she'd be ruined w/o me... cheated w over 30 ppl. men & women.went thru her found and whooooooaaaaa. 👀👥👥👥👤👥👤. one week after I found out i left. 2 weeks later I am regaining my strength w each passing day and I will never tolerate this behavior from a partner again. the betrayal was a blessing. I once was lost, but now I am found!!
TRIGGA TRESE TV TTT. God bless
Omg say what’s this ex name I’m trying see something
Make sure you heal yourself internally so you never attract that type of abuser again! I recommend NARP
Amazing how they all operate the same
Oh good for you. My narc is my mom . Currently balancing maintaining respectful boundaries with dear friend who is just now realizing he is victim of narc abuse from semi estranged wife who has twice tried to injure or kill him. I am in training to be a spiritual counselor in my fifties just finally living my life my own way. God bless and help all victims of narc abuse.
I literally cried watching this. The whole video was the last four weeks of my relationship. It was killing me.
Everything said in this vid is spot on. Dead in the center of reality, their brains are BROKEN and will never be fixed. No amount of logic, reasoning, getting angry, yelling NOTHING wakes them up. They never get an ah ha moment. Ever. Which is super frustrating for a person like me, who used logic on them only to be met with a blank stare afterwards.
The world is breeding more narcs due to the natural selfishness that ppl have. I wonder how many mentally stable ppl there are left in the world.
tranquility It's also becoming tougher to detect these freaks! The amount of effort required to repel them is over the top, they seem to be a dime a dozen.
tranquility Haha you are hilarious! It's so true! I'm just at the beginning of this discovery and now we have one as president. It's going to be a fun 4 years!
Girl I hope his ass gets impeached. He is the epitome of Narc. And they do the exact opposite of what their advisors tell them to do. But dig this right....if he got impeached mama get ready for this one.
He would say, they threw me out bec they were JEALOUS of my abilities. They knew that I was too intelligent and it threatened them. I was the best president this country has ever seen. Yawn, keep dreaming Ditzy Donald lol.
You can imagine how frustrated I was when he told me that I AM illogical. My narc is interesting in a sense that he has tourette's - he tells me everything he thinks. Like the fact that he doesn't even like me or anyone else, he just wants to keep me! His brain is so twisted I can't believe he's the same species..
Oh. gotta love that projection. You you you...they really need to give it a rest. But at least he was honest when he said he doesn't like you or anyone else. They tend to not like themselves either. So why not destroy everyone else so that misery can have company. Sad existence they have.
I got depression while being in a relationship with a man I thought I truly loved, turned out his ego was so big it pushed me down and made me feel worthless. Boy are they good at getting their way
Better off without him.
I see you.
Oh my gosh exactly the same ! Such a big ego he made me feel worthless and less than. Such a horrible guy and experience ❤ Stay strong. You deserve better
And one more thing, you will know my worth when I leave you
Trust your intuition!
It's a blessing and always right.
I wish I had. The sad part is they come off as the calmest, most kindest and understanding being until you are not longer beneficial to them. I'm literally so grateful he found a new supplier and someone to use.
So sad being an empath can get you in and keep you in a situation like this 👀
I can relate.
Who would have thought
I know... However, being an empath is a gift...One that must be mastered, as to avoid such situations! 👍💚
Oh my gosh. Been through all this. Never again! Spot the signs NOW. and GET OUT. you cannot change or inspire them.
Ziggy Lu 2022 nope... your right
Don't ever stay they never change
Wow, he has said almost every item on this list.
Eyes opening,😳
💔 Heart broken.
Reality setting in😐
The sun will rise, I will heal. 😊
kathy dunn - Seeing as Mz Saeed has amazingly nearly successfully quoted almost every otherwise normally reasonable English language combination of apologies & attempts at romantic repair,-- then of course he has to have said whats on her list. She may as well have just said ANYTHING a Male says is proof of Narcissism - Kathy, when deciding about your life - please use only your OWN reasonable/sensible thoughts & feelings The ones she lends to people via her video etc. are all her own attempts of trying to ensure all other relationships are as horribly, hopelessly, irrepairable as her own have been. I wish you heartfelt, realistic contentment in what ever decision you make. Good luck. May God bless you.
kathy dunn. hi kathy sorry your going throw that ..u. sound nice
It's very broad almost anyone could look like a sociopath after watching this broad realm of "problems"
YES GIRL GO GO GO👏👏👏
kathy dunn life's not always fair, I know, be strong because over time your wounds will heal, and your reality will set in that dogs are better than most people. I keep saying to myself "omg I miss the closeness of a woman" do like I do turn on P hub and handle it! W/out your dog watching. : )
Be careful
I made mistake after going no contact for 10 years
Yes 10 years ...we reconnected and it ended up worse
I thought hed change
Mistake
Hell never change
I know why you reconnected, you have a SOUL TIE AND YOU NEED TO GET RID OF IT! ua-cam.com/video/T_nOvCIpkIQ/v-deo.html
lol how do you keep in contact with someone after 10 years? That’s interesting.
They don't. Finished means Finished. A reminder for us all
Damn
Wow that's a long time to go no contact then connect again? Wth. I was married to a covert narcissist for 10 yrs, just recently left him 4 months ago. He moved on after 1 month and has a baby on the way 🤣. Then tells everyone I'm the toxic one. I've been no contact. He tried to love bomb me back but it didn't work. I completely ignored him. We have 3 kids together so its hard sometimes so if we have to talk its about the kids only
I want change. I no longer wish to meet and befriend these demonic personality types. No Thank You!!! I want peace and I WANT TO BE ABLE TO RELAX IN MY LIFE.....
sylvestina 53, poet/writer. Be that
One word for my narc...DEMONIC.
23 Psalm I second that !!
23 Psalm yes and amen ..just like Judas Iscariot get away
YESSSSS! Thought I was the only one who thought this
23 Psalm TRUE now RUN!!!
23 Psalm Mine too. I realized like 4 1/2 yrs ago that too many awful things were happening to me & my family. Our daughter had become ill & required brain surgery to remove tumor. She was left disabled. Almost ten yrs later my husband became seriously ill in early 2016 then passed away a day after thanksgiving. Then early last year I felt ill. I had injured my back. After seeking help from drs, therapists, neuro surgeons, chiropractor. All said it wasn't serious, recommended physical therapy, prescribed medication & sent me home. Pain continued despite this so I asked God for help. He led me to a spiritual healer. With help from SH & my late husbands spirit he revealed it was my demonic narc ex & his wicked mother who had put a curse on me & my family WAYYY back in early 80s. I discovered physical evidence that left NO DOUBT! They caused my daughters illness, late hubbies death & too much to mention here. They wish for me & my daughter/relatives to lose health, lose job, lose house. Basically to be left out in the street, flat broke, alone & finally death. All because I abandoned abusive narc bf back in 1978. He was an alcoholic, smoker & drug addict & I married someone from their own hometown. Spell has been broken. I am NOT afraid of them! I had NO idea evil sorcery even existed & I held NO ill will towards these sick individuals, but God opened my eyes & showed me the way in order to protect me & my loved ones. Praise God our KING of Kings! He and ONLY HE is our Saviour! Amen.
I got a really bad knot in my stomach watching this.
Kimberly Gabaldon hugs* :(
Sameeee
I am clinically depressed since 3 years due to Narc ex.
I am so much depressed due to the fact that he has some pictures of me.
I am always scared if he will defame me by using them..
Please how do I protect my reputation if he tries to do wrong to my reputation?
Kimberly Gabaldon
I had a good laugh!!!
Yeah it’s ugly specially when it has been your reality ...😭
Accept the truth , grow and move on
Become your best Self ....❤️❤️❤️❤️
OMG THE TRUTH HURTS....I was shaken through out the entire video. Need to get this mother - f**** out of my life for good.
okereke catia hope you got away!
If you do get him out of your life. For your own sake as you reflect later, be sure its the way he really is that gets to you as a bad place to be, Not the false symptoms this damaged author has thrown out there as bait to all the hurt people who need to make some sense of what has happened. Ensure - if you get rid if him that it is really because he is bad for you, not because this woman is cruelly clever with words. You'll sleep better when you know your decisions are based on your own conclusions not based on this vipers recipe for killing all relationships having hard times to ease her own history of pain. Either way, maybe pray, & think of all real scenarios & your own needs now & in the future before your final decisions. Good luck whatever path you choose - sincerely !.
Wish I seen this while I was with my ex or even after the break up, I won't have fallen for "Let's fix it, I want to marry you , let's go to therapy" and his none stop lies. Run and never look back
Honey I am toying with mine as I type this to test out a video called how to dissarm a narrsist key words are you are entitled to your opinion, I accept i can't controller your perception. Everything you say is right. I realized fully and completely of mine and his patterns when I allowed him back only this time I played the old me reacted the same only in words but calmer just to see the patterns I was blind to before. So his last approach was to with hold from our child despite of me accept the actuality is anytime in the pasr I did tyebtibest thing he didn't like it called him out on it he would disappear not giving two fucks if our new born needs anything or if I need anything for I just gave birth how about when I was pregnant or prior when weren't married when I first met him I called him a narrsist only when I got to know he was charming
Mater mind i hope you did that i only left mine in march this year n have never looked back yet wish i have the guts to do it the first time he hit me
Reality has hit but I'm more mad at myself for accepting abuse now I'm healing and moving on and I'm happy I'm not arguing everyday I'm looking forward to the future.
MeJay I felt the same way as you, angry at MYSELF for being suckered in and accepting the abuse. It was not our fault, I know that now. Lots of love in your healing xx
Me too; you aren't alone. I can't believe I put up with his crap for so long.
My ex nearly drove me insane. I'm still so angry with myself and so broken by it all
You are healing and moving just remember 3 things
1 Don't think past.....isthe best medicine
2 Don't hope your feature Depend ??? Self Realyence is a big hope.
3 Most important Tonic
Wow always be in present. Plan your day you will be happy at the end of the day.
Most important wow have a good sleep without Dream
God will take care
Regards
I would rather be alone. I'm buying a house 2000 miles away. That is a great buffer zone.
Me too
@@joannbyrd6324 it's been a year! Life is getting better everyday! I have myself back and the ability to grow and change again. They steal your life. You feel like you can't breath and you are stagnant! No more!
It is a gift if they respond to your no contact with nada. A gift if they no contact you.
@Cecelia Russo Indeed! Mine became a fanatic, overzealous, twistminded stalker.
I love these videos soooooooo much it makes me feel sane again. after dating a narcissist for 3 years my mind felt backwards and upside down.
danielle Nepinak I relate so much :/
Danielle Nepinak yes I can relate also after going though a device and I took care of her for 9 years and six mounts and we had a five year old son together and I still take care of my son until this day
Danielle Nepinak same here smh
Alex Sage you are the narcissist! Look how you just turned that around and blamed the whole situation on her! You are a gas lighter. Typical abuser behavior. Get outta here man! I you don't like American women then don't talk to us.
I was married to a narcissist for 5 years. After the last 3 yrs in and out of therapy and hospital visits I was finally diagnosed with PTSD from living through his hell. We have finally seperated for nearly a year now. But truthfully, he still pursues me, tries to shower me with gifts and money and pays my bills without my consent. If you watch this video and see this as your partner, run while you can because you will never believe how hard it is to completely break away after time. It's nearly impossible without the help of people who genuinely live and care about you.
Wow, that video was right on and exactly what everyone who is in a relationship with a narcissist needs to hear!! THANK YOU for making this!! Good information!!
I am in tears, Thank you for this video. Sometimes (almost always) it takes an objective viewpoint to see the truth. You've provided that for me. I am so grateful.
mine sent a text "have a great Christmas, I forgive you." I asked, forgive me for what? he said, for your mistrust in me. I had no response to that. stupid narc.
mspixiedust100 ha ha ha ha how arrogant of him
Hahahaha!!! They always say,"I forgive you". Lol. Since they don't see their own faults. Well they do they just try as much as possible to avoid the fact they are SO MESSED UP!
ugh, their arrogance knows no bounds
Yes, he "forgave" me for a lot of crap too. It was crazy weird.
mspixiedust100 n
None of it was ever real, not to them.
All your effort, love & tears just goes to prove
they’re right for thinking so highly of themselves and therefore can never be wrong.
Their thirst for vengance when you disagree (period!) more boundless than your love could ever be.
Break, devalue, discard
is the m.o.
Still not sure which was the most painfull part.
Thank you for the video!
cried trough the whole thing, none of it was real.
Geez im scared she's been my world for 19yrs. I keep saying she has to know I love her but I guess not which makes me sick.
When you see both the truth about yourself and the "narc" the whole game stops.
I laughed in the clown’s face when he suggested we be friends...
Gotta love this line "What are you talking about" lol
My ex love saying that and I didn't say that
Yes! I got "I don't know what you're talking about" , it was his classic line when I called him out on his BS. I would then show him proof . I'd then get "I can't remember" , typical narc amnesia 🤦
@@rachp5176 or say "trust me " after having a debate\opinionated conversation about a 25min subject that he thinks he is always right about what he says. Lol or throws in an educated guess without factual information.
Jesus it's like a play by play of my previous relationship. She was a clear-cut narcissistic sociopath.
Luckily it only lasted a year before I got myself out; it felt like a four year relationship. But I didn't get out unscathed. Emotionally and mentally it screwed me up. I did not listen to my intuition or gut when there were signs.
bang on. didn't know this type of 'person' could be sleeping beside me. yup. such an overall waste of time and effort. creepy to the bones. why did i have to go through that?
Kevin Davis I believe we all go thru these experiences as a lesson in life. It is important to seek understanding about the Narcissist but you must also take a closer look at what caused you to attract that type of person. Many times it's our unresolved inner conflicts and childhood traumas we need to let go of and the Narcissist shows up all charming to show us what we need to see the hard way. Take to your inner world and do some introspective soul searching, this is a healing lesson for you.
Thanks Angela, it's a harsh truth, yes. I also think this narc showed up at a random time in my life when I happened to be available, not necessarily vulnerable. I was indeed blind sided by the initial charm. I was under the belief of the 'birds of a feather' theory but I guess that doesn't always fly..lol. I have made much stronger boundaries since then. Now she is annoying me because I set new ones for her and she doesn't like it. I hate to see someone I really cared about flopping around like a fish out of water. Nothing I can do for her now.
Kevin Davis I also set boundaries for my life and it's been quite a struggle with my main narcissistic, but it also affected several others I have been living with in my immediate family that I never suspected. It's amazing what boundaries can do in time, when you stick to them. Many things have opened up for me in terms of stepping back into my own power, you just have to remain strong!
Angela Elizabeth loo
Kevin davis it got that bad i would sleep with next to him with a knife tucked between my side of our mattresse so i know where your coming from
The infidelity part where “you weren’t showing me attention” brought me to tears. I was told I was to blame for him going elsewhere (I was suffering from PTSD at the time). Thank you for this video, it has helped me greatly.
Same thing for me.. it has completely crushed my self esteem, and I used to feel really attractive and charming. Just ruined it.
When we show said affection, they don't want it or are too busy. I'm starting to document the patterns and lies.
The old "you got a wake up call"---
@@VincentHexx same
that's another thing! narcs do not care if you hurt physically or mentally...like they get mad your crying like a baby..
Hey. The narcissist was projecting onto you what HE does to you. A narcissist is incapable of giving anyone attention because he cannot afford to give any part of himself away. A narcissist is shriveled and empty on the inside, devoid of love or empathy for anyone except for himself. The narcissist cares only about protecting his FALSE image of himself.
i gotta go cry now. But thank you.
Pray God keeps these horrible evil people away from u
Thank you for helping me realize. Im 20 weeks pregnant and now a single mom. My ex was abusive and im sleeping on a friends couch untill i find a place. Scared but better off.
God🙏 Bless you both on the new journey...stay strong!! Know yourself worth!!
God will protect you & provide for you
Hope you and your baby are doing well?
Also, a few characteristic from a narc i’ve encountered with:
1. They like to boast or bluff about their achievement and what they can do
2. They know what you want to hear and they will manipulate you with it
3. Love bombing. If you feel sudden and intense attention from him/her out of nowhere, Run.
4. They almost never apologize, anything that happen to their life is bcs of external force, nothing to do with theirselves.
5. They will shower you with tons of compliment, sugarcoating everything.
6. They will tell you why their brother/sister/friend isnt as good as himself
7. See how they treat someone preferably in service job like waiter, etc. That’s their true mask
Devi Natalia wow you nailed that’s exactly how they act characteristically fits there ego l hate them 😰😰
Mine treated customer service employees with kindness. He treated everyone with kindness. It’s not always so ugly on the surface. They can be godly cunning.
Seems they all like to name drop also. And gossip alot. Snoop alot in others business. Ignore your messages. They think it's all funny. Lol. I know so many signs now. It's amazing. They have to be worn out.
Hi I'm
I am clinically depressed since 3 years due to Narc ex.
I am so much depressed due to the fact that he has some pictures of me.
I am always scared if he will defame me by using them..
Please how do I protect my reputation if he tries to do wrong to my reputation?
I am literally living this out right now. But I am going to educate and heal myself and forget him so he can not hurt me again
Melanie Tania Evans
Me too. Prayers for you
Forgive but don't forget , it's a pattern ,neither return to it, be wise, be vigilant , for all spirits"evil" will test again , only for more of a prize your soul , and to iniliat your love for GOD, ITS WHOLE INTENTION
Sme situation
. 😑 Wish u the best
A A good for you! 👍
Extremely accurate. In addition to all of this, it was ALMOST impossible for me to get away from one of these relationships because she was so beautiful and so good in bed. My self respect finally made me pull away for good. Thank god.
This is the first video I’ve watched on narcissism that was straight up! Don’t sugarcoat! They are evil! You have validated me!!!!!
Yes, very evil.My ex is a pastor now😀😀.
This video is on point and it actually made me cry. It sucks when you realize how much time and energy you wasted on someone like this and you‘ll never really know what was genuine or fake all these years you spent together.
you forgot "you don't know nothing..*laughing* you don't know anything about me." Or... "I don't know why I married you.. you can't help me so I'll marry someone else who can." or he blames everything on you and pretends as if you're crazy in front of your family when they know the truth..
Wanting to be loved is a neurosis.
Pay your own bills, do your own thing and stop caring about who loves you.
If you can do this, almost everyone will love you.
Good one Ivan. That's exactly what I do
But you have to do it for your own sake ..peace of mind and safety. .and happiness
Nothing wrong with wanting to be loved and cared for. Dont let yourself become negative and calous because of some trash.
Thanks for this comment,it can change a lot of lives👍
The Let's Be Friends, is the most common and too easy to spot one my ex uses I don't even know why he sees me as a victim I look strong and too hot for him anyway .
“I couldn’t stop thinking about you.” 🤮
"I miss you"🤮
They forgot to mention #8. “I’ll kill myself if you don’t come back”
The right answear is "please, go ahead".
Ok, well say "Do what u feel u gotta do and never talk to em again."
My cousin's ex husband tried that with her once. I told her to call his bluff.
Can I help you choose the tools you’ll need to do that?
yes, exactly, this is another trick and I felt it difficult not to panic and go back to save him...
Thanks I will listen again to remind me not to fall back with my ex
About the one I heard yesterday; our relationship is broken because you can't forgive and move on. If you could, we would be back and love each other like before. Am I the only one that heard that?
Hi Sylvie! Yes, that is another of their blueprint comebacks. I'm getting ready to post an article on my site in just a bit. You should go check it out because I think it will help you gain clarity. www.LetMeReach.com :)
Sylvie Caouette totally got same dialogue... uggg
No. It was apparently my fault we are having problems because I decided not to go running back. I do forgive him; I'm just no longer willing to be his victim. Forgiveness does not equal putting yourself back into harm's way.
Kelly Sohn exactly. you don't forgive prople for their benefit. you forgive them so you can move on permanently.
Sylvie Caouette
Yes, I've heard that one many times. I need to live in the present and not the past. She told me once while pregnant by someone else "if it takes the rest of my life to make it up to you". Guess who's gone again and I'm raising this fantastic daughter!
Mine tried the "I thought we could still be friends" ,I basically told her,"HELL NO!!!!"
100% Truth! Great job with this video! Now that I have broken free for nearly a year and healed from a relationship with a narcissistic person, I actually laughed out loud at some of the things that are so true and apparently the common acts of all narcissists. It's amazing how accurate this video is! Thank you for sharing. I am so grateful to be OUT of the relationship and have my life back. The person is completely out of my life - ZERO contact - and I am keeping it that way. That's the only way because the narcissists will ALWAYS try to manipulate you back into their sick relationship filled with lies and deceit. They are masterful liars and masterful manipulators. Stay as far away from them as you can and your life will be healthy, whole and complete again. YES our intuition always tells us and we need to trust and listen. I knew I shouldn't have entered into the relationship but allowed myself to be manipulated into it and it was traumatic mentally, emotionally and physically. That will NEVER happen again so thank you to my ex-narcissist for the lesson. The big lesson was VALUE - when we value ourselves, we wont draw in the narcissist. When we are not valuing ourselves is when the narcissist has an opportunity to sneak in.
Let's grow old together..
Barf.
How about you grow old and I continue to become awesome
:)
MaryLynn 😊😊😫😩
No Contact I for one am proud of you. many if not most people who spent that long with a narc never get the courage to leave. but you know, God helps those who help themselves...
MaryLynn i love your narcississtic comment
No Contact .
Another one is.. " You've said exactly what my heart needed to hear "
The narcissist can no longer drain your energy that was previously needed to combat the fear, dread of having to deal with them. The day i told my narcissist empathy was no longer in stock.....magic happened. No contact, no guilt. Got my Life back and enjoy my HAPPY way of seeing things.
did the same... :)
How about " Dont ever say anything to me in life again ".
"I wont never bother you again"
YES.
or "Take me to home" when you call them out on the issues
All these are spot on 🎯
:Mike Mad GA
I've said that a few times myself
From one year I felt depression confusion and at last crying crying crying only. Now I realise their intention through this vedio. Thanks a lot🙏
Wow! 25 Years married to a woman like this. Everytime she "leaves" it's my fault for not treating her right. finds a boyfriend that lasts about 6 months and always sucks me back. I notice she never loses contact with her past flings. Talks crap about them then yo-yo's back and forth. I'm finally done after 25 years. I'm a slow learner I guess. even our daughters can't stand their mom and tell me to stop being so sweet. 😖
Joe Caruso everything you said sounds like me my two boys have easier time with no contact with their mom and I do. She's still hovering over and he even to this day was texting I've attempted no contact so many times I must try again. But I know exactly how we're feeling
Yeah, it's always you who neglected them, you who caused them to be abusive, you who left them no option, or any other excuse to be assholes with you and blame it all on you
omg 25 wow im way sorry you wasted so much life on this horrible women God bless you
You're not a slow learner Joe Caruso you just loved your wife a lot, she did not deserve a guy like you
dude you take the words right out of my mind,, find a boyfriend and that lasts 6 month or a year and then she tricked herself into my life again. and she KNEW EXACTLY WHAT BOTTOMS SHE HAD TO PRESS;TO TAKE HER BACK: SHE WAS SICK ; BUT ME TOO: NEVER AGAIN its also too late. idont hate woman dont get me wrong. i hate narcissists sick or not, they know exactly what they do, otherwise they couldnt be SO TRICKY. hold on brothe , you are not alone a bitter LOL
This video was spot on! I am amazed at how all of them do the same thing without rehearsing it with each other. It comes naturally. That is the scary part because that confirms that fact that their behavior and actions are mental!
Swarthy Daisy me too!
It's so true this actually makes me realize I can move on bc it's not me
A A that took me a While. But I'm free. 🌞
Swarthy Daisy I find it strange too. If it is mental, then who or what uploaded the narcissistic programing that allows so many to be "the same"? To say, what are the universal or common circumstances revolving around us that creates the narcissist?
I AM I uploaded it, available for £2.99 online.
Girrrrrrl, “you and them against the world”.. that line hit home lol.. leave narcissists tf alone!!!
Thank you for opening my eyes and giving me the tools to find myself before he destroyed me.
Damn this video explained my whole “relationship” to the T 🤦🏽♀️ it’s crazy to see things that I already know explained by someone else
Deep down jnside you already know the answer you need confirmation.
Shaay Jordan exactly. My narc is everything she is sayn in this video. That’s how u know this is a real thing.
So sad that so many men are like this.
One of my favorites... "no one will ever love you like I do". Let's hope not!!!
You need me! Ugh! It’s such a relief to be away from a narc. You feel like you have your life back.
Married to a covert NPD for 5 yrs. She selected a counselor, he diagnosed her as NPD. As soon as she felt he was looking at her, she bolted and left counseling. Six months later she found another counselor, we went together. She tried to intimate that I had all of these problems and she was a sweet little lamb. He saw through it and he too diagnosed her as NPD independent of the first counselor, I never told him. Soon after this she bolted again. They cannot stay because by definition there can be nothing wrong with them. She then went to a female Pastor friend of hers to counsel us. I was sceptical of her bias and met with her alone to insure that she could be impartial. The so-called woman of God secretly allowed my then wife to listen to the entire 90 minute session on her hidden cell phone. A brutal betrayal for which she has never apologized. I went complete "no contact" with the NPD and that upset her bigtime. I never spoke to her for 2 1/2 years. Now married to a wonderful woman, hang in there. God Bless.
I would try to take legal action against this pastor due to the confidentiality breach.
Wow! That's a story you went through! Great you kept you own health. And so glad for you that you found a better person. I'm getting out of an abusive relationship, as he does seem to always want to blame on me... not even considering his big behavioral mistakes. (This vid is wrong, they don't excuse themselves)... Take care. 🤗
Thanks for your story
It is forbidden in Scripture for woman to be pastors.
Nothing he could say would work. There is no way I'd take him back!! I value my peace and happiness.
After being married to a narcissist for nearly 26 yrs and separated for 15 years I am only just learning what sort of man I was married to .These sessions have been a tremendous help to me. I would like to say a big THANK you.
This video is good - finding changes in a narc is like expecting a fish could breathe on land- thats not gonna happen ...
Lol...as if people hadn't chosen to the belief of "reincarnation." Trippy stuff, though at the phase of acceptance on the behalf to such information. Alike the learning of materials, no more trespassing, because plenty of people live to done had lit the path of history. And narvo's crumbs became algae. You're knew heaven. Boastfully, Thanks.
Yes. When they realize you're on to them they do their best to buy time until they find their new supply. They either suck up or try to confuse you as much as possible with fake feelings. They can't afford to lose and being discarded by the victim going no contact is the ultimate defeat of the narcissist. So they buy time so they can plan the discard drop on you.
Traumatizing douchbagery..... love it!
Can't wait to use this phrase in conversation, humorously of course. 😉
Trust me when I say as soon as I broke up with my narcissist bf, I regained control and freedom after 7 years!
😭😭😭 jerks, i wish he was the one for me but our goals werent similar. Instead of finding happiness in someone else,find it in yourself.
Excellent advice, Samantha👍👍
Frustrating beyond belief. The narcissist will take your heart, your trust, and your faith, as well as all things good, wholesome, and balanced in your life and crush you until you can't get up. Your otherwise logical brain will be rendered completely defenseless against their charms, manipulation and trickery. They lack any sense of empathy. They are a horrible breed bent only on pleasing themselves at your expense... Stay clear peeps! Seriously, learn how to spot them, then run like hell!
Randy,... whether you know it or not,... you have just described....." ALL".... women....(the good news) moving forward,....(using this knowledge, the BAD news)✌️.
@@theartfulcodger7459" ALL WOMEN" and here i thought this article described "ALL MEN"
@@kittkatt032 Of course you thought that... The narcissist.... will always turn the situation away from themselves...😂
@@theartfulcodger7459 Dayum! Sounds like me and you might be a narcassist! 😂
@@kittkatt032 Perhaps... But of course I would be too modestly humble to ever admit to such .😛
I am watching this a second time because your list is spot on with regards to what I am going through.
same!
deanna williamson stay strong and don't give up!! iv been two years free from my situation with friend with benefits and he finally broke me and I had enough of his selfish minipulations. 😊
I had a "friend" that tried to get me in an intimate relationship with him. He was a Christian besides, so being just friends with benefits wasn't good enough, he wanted a full commitment. He did a lot of this stuff, unfortunately it got so bad I had to get a restraining order, but I've been better without him.
Despair Doctor. Good for you, hang tuff, your stronger than you know.
SAME
They hide your items..nd then after a while it appears ..oh I found it..nd you kno it wasnt there when u looked!!!👀
=DANGEROUS👿
Vontrycya Yarbrough- my sisters husband does that to her,
My daughter does this to me. It's a form of gaslighting
Mine kept some clothes and the keys he had because he thought I would visit for them. I totally blocked him and went no contact. He dropped them off at my sister in law when he saw that I ignored him. It is really really stressful being with them
It took me a while to realize that its so true and scandalous 😳😳😳😳😳😳.
OMG YES my NARCISSIST will steal my stuff and hide it just to make me crazy! So weird.
13yrs....have a 2 year old daughter and its impossible 2 co parent with a NARCISSIST!
This is so painfully true.
Jesus Christ, "The greatest commandment is to love the Lord thy God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your strength.
The second is likened unto it, to love thy neighbor as thyself"
Narcissism is not a disease. Narcissism is a sin by breaking God's commandments.
I have been no contact for almost a year now and I still check the parking lot before I go into a public establishment. Once I realized that he never loved me and never could it was easy to stop contact but the damage is deep.
ilovetreestd
yes they teach us the real world
im actually grateful...Ive learned what boundaries are for and how they protect us
Notice not a single NPD ever comments on this or any other video on this subject. No NPD ever chimes in to defend themselves or their actions. Interesting. Great video and spot on. Thank you.
That‘s because they want to be SEEN as good ppl. Only few of them are bold enough to be blunt about their intentions. But usually they are cowards, so don‘t date a male pussy or cocky douchebagger.
They lead to nowhere in life! 🤷🏻♀️
I believe it’s also because narcs never think there is anything wrong with themselves so why would they even think of watching a video on this topic anyways?! It’s always everyone else’s fault and they’re the victim. ALWAYS!
To be honest I think they just come on here to read about people's experiences just to get more fuelled up and discover something they haven't tried.. Guys I have never ever "hated" someone this much
I just saw someone admitting to it. 3 comments followed saying the same (one was called A PERSON, the other one NOBODY). Sad isn't it? I feel so sorry for the ones who realise their disconnect. It must be a terrible reality. I do believe these can improve but they need digging very deep into their childhood. It's just so freaking sad. I feel more sorry for their victims though.
Self-reflection is work. Many people are not able to self-reflect. That is a key indication of sociopathy and psychopathy. And yet, you went to labeling others as your first comment.
So true! It's been quite a journey to understand that narcissist's behave the same way. That they use such trickery and cunning and then I am the one who feels guilty. Thank you for your videos!
Narcissistic behavior of one's partner is too hard to handle because instead of helping resolving the problem, they do blame you even if you don't do wrong at all. You really need to know the personality of a person first before jumping right into a relationship because once you get there it will be too hard for you to get out.
They are not human beings, they lack the basic key components that make a person human. Stay away from them by all means necessary or else they will break you down and spit you out like the nothing they think you are. Be strong and stick to your guns, I had to do it and I know if I can you can too.
Thanks
Unfortunately, they are humans, just not fully functioning ones, therefore a grave danger to the rest of us on the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual levels.
We are ridiculed for our positive traits, which they see as further signs of our weaknesses.
@@billyandrew we are wheat they are chaffe
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I believe there IS something spiritually negative connected, but not exactly them not being human. Brain scans have shown blockages in the brain’s section that gives the empathy function. I don’t know what it is exactly, but those black spots are manifestations of what is happening spiritually. I’m not saying possessed, but to be capable of such cruelty comes with a lot of thick, dense darkness. I still cannot fathom that there are people so empty, and capable of such cruelty. They eat light and spit out darkness. How in the hell does that even happen?
I was with my ex for 5 years. He broke up with me a year ago and since then he has been dating another person. He came back several times saying how much he loved me and missed me meanwhile he was still with the other person. Everytime he came back he would say that she didnt understand him like i did and that i was special. Three months ago i decided to talk with him. He was very mean and rude to me. the last thing he said was that he didnt want a relationship with anyone (Lie) but he liked the other girl more than he liked me. l asked him why he would come back and say that he loved me if he didnt want anything to do with me. He denied everything and said the blame was on me.
Hi Yeny, thank you for sharing. If it makes you feel any better, this is an extremely common scenario that happens with these types of people. I don't say that to trivialize what happened to you, but in hopes that you won't internalize his "rejection" because this is one of their blueprint behaviors...meaning, they do that to everyone. Sooner or later, the new girl will receive similar treatment.
Kim Saeed thanks for your words. I know he is not a sincere person. Two days ago he saw me walking to uni and honked so that I could see him too... no normal person would do that after hurting me and treating me so poorly..Then next day a friend of mine told me that he had been asking about me. I now understand thats not normal.. but why do you think narcissists want to know about their former partners after a period of no contact and after discarding them in a very mean and rude way? .. Do they still expect us to be pining for them?
+Yeny, Yes, maybe because we've cooled off in the past and forgiven them. From my own experience 5.5 yrs living together, a fall/winter church going friendship, followed by 10 years of silence on my part...No matter who else they might see/date/live with, you will always 'belong' to them. I think they know it will take work, but they believe you'll always be attainable. I agreed to talk only because I knew all these years later, I could resist all the lies & tricks. He thought he'd actually be able to hide his new gf and get me back, all those years later. I call it the year of eating well. I let him wine & dine me for a year without so much as a kiss. He refused to speak of the past. .lol, now I realize it was because he couldn't keep those lies straight anymore. Told me he didn't expect to have any romantic feelings for me, but realized he does.
Then he said, "I guess I waited too long to come back. I always thought you'd be there." (as if all the women in between, all the lies wouldn't matter?)
I am actually worried he's trying to fix some of his behavior problems. Then again it could easily be his way of testing me, just another scam..
Yeny Rivas isn't it funny how it's always our fault? ive heard all that too, it's good for a day or two then they're back to the same ole creep.
Hi Yeny. Yes Ive had that same situation happen to me on & off going on 9 yrs now so as you can see it's a tactic of theirs. The ex narc has Bern telling me the Very Same Thing for 9 yrs while seeing other people!! Thank God & with the help of Kim Sieed, I no longer believe that pure BS he's been telling me! New Years Day, 2017, I have not been with the Ex Narc for One full year & I am very proud of myself for being able to do this! And you too will have the strength & courage to do this! I promise, there IS A LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL! But it's up to you as to how long it takes to get to that light. My prayers will be with you! Message me anytime if you need someone to talk to because I've been through so much & for so long with a Narc, I know All Too Well their little tactics they will use. And I'm a good listener too!! Sending hugs to you today! Be strong! 🤗
My favorite line from my narc.... “I went to 4 sessions of counseling... He said I was all better so I don’t need to go back and I’m healed”
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The most scary part from the narcissist father they do not love there children. They use the kids against you and tell them to say and do things, lucky for my 3 and half year old is mature enough to tell me his father is abusive and tells me that his father tells him to act naughty for mummy so you live with me, ah I'm a few up my narc on this,they think there smart but all narcs traits are the exact same.
Absolutely..
Wow
Am I the only one shocked to hear the word "douchebaggery" in an otherwise informative, professional video? Seriously hilarious.
Skye if you at any time truly believed this was a seriously professional article after hearing the sarcasm in the narrator's voice, than you are a douchebag narc. fyi
Skye Ikr,loool
I thought the same thing girl
And “secrete a few years”, lol
Humdinger
One of my favourite quotes in the world is "sometimes the brightest light comes from a burning bridge" 😂
Don't ignore your intuition. You don't really know a person that well especially when it's just an online relationship.
or I've found God, started going to church, etcc..
"I am a prophet."
This is true...I ate popcorn while watching it lol.....sad but true. Luckily, neither of the narcs will ever be in my life again.
I've experienced everything in this video exactly in that order. It took me so long to understand that what I've experienced with this man is beyond vile. He has destroyed my family. I've lost everything in the time that I have been with him. He delights in seeing me struggle. Outright lies and laziness. No such thing as a compromise. He's said horrible things and done worse. All the while telling me that I was "nuts" "too sensitive" or "crazy." Turns out those are all pretty accurate descriptions for him. These videos and support groups have been very helpful. For anyone going thru this if you have to communicate as much as you can by text/email. That way when they deny having said something or being told something you can pull up proof. It took me years to figure this out. Also, the narrator in this video is right. If you find yourself having been sucked back into one of their fateful arguments- forgive yourself and move on. They will always have the upper hand because they are not capable of caring for or about anyone other than themselves. Love yourself! Educate yourself. I have a child (that I cherish) with this man so going "no contact" isn't really an option. Still, it calls for firm boundaries that they will bulldoze thru. Just keep putting them in place. Pray, meditate, and most of all know that one day YOU will be JUST FINE❤❤❤
Beautiful and strong!😍 Well said!!