How to grow deeply happy | Jonny Thomson

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  • @pcbacklash_3261
    @pcbacklash_3261 6 днів тому +135

    I don't know about the "philosophy" of happiness, but l learned a very important _key_ to happiness when I was in my 40s (FINALLY!), and in the decades since it seems more and more obvious to me:
    Don't let ANYONE decide _for_ you what happiness is! You need to find your OWN way to be happy.

  • @polytechnica
    @polytechnica 4 дні тому +54

    “It is difficult to find happiness within oneself, but it is impossible to find it anywhere else.”
    ― Arthur Schopenhauer

    • @jerzypawlowski7999
      @jerzypawlowski7999 4 дні тому +1

      Schopenhauer was mentally disturbed, like many other philosophers.

    • @pulse3554
      @pulse3554 4 дні тому

      yes and schopenhauer took much of his philosophy from indian phil!

  • @kevinquiambao6573
    @kevinquiambao6573 6 днів тому +47

    thich nhat hanh once said “there’s no way to happiness. happiness is the way.” i find it so true for me.

  • @kkp4297
    @kkp4297 6 днів тому +50

    happiness is doing what i love, not having pressure, and being surrounded by supportive people and people I get along well with

  • @c_cma1971
    @c_cma1971 10 годин тому +2

    Hello from Bucharest, Romania - a huge underrated city in Europe:)

  • @catche85
    @catche85 3 дні тому +27

    I consider myself truly happy and agree with everything presented in the video. The way I achieved it was by intentionally deeply connecting with other people, valuing being a good person who contributes positively to other people's lives, and being the person that I am proud of, not who anyone else wants me to be. Living with agency, accountability and courage.

    • @Jade15888
      @Jade15888 2 дні тому

      @@catche85 thank you

  • @algirdaskersys9173
    @algirdaskersys9173 19 годин тому +1

    Thanks

  • @GlennGoryl
    @GlennGoryl 6 днів тому +12

    (IMO):
    "1. Take responsibility for EVERYTHING in your life. YOU decide how you are going to react to everything.
    2. Treat EVERYONE with kindness. STOP being Tribal (humans are still barbaric because they are Tribal).
    3. Find the most intelligent AND kind people you can and work to make them friends for life."
    Glenn Goryl

    • @ele81946
      @ele81946 6 днів тому

      Your #1 is right on all the pillars. #2 is in the Virtue pillar. #3 ia practical and have its challenges as who you want to make them friends for life since the most intelligent and kind are often neither wise nor likely exemplify the second pillar, not to mention that they have challenge of being happy themselves. Your #1 is the most critical. Thanks for pointing it out.

    • @TheExistenceClass0
      @TheExistenceClass0 5 днів тому

      Yes Sir ❤ The Advices We Give Are The Solutions Of Our Own Problems We are Trying To Find 😉

  • @jl-dq5ch
    @jl-dq5ch 6 днів тому +15

    Also, knowing and being true to who you are is huge

    • @josemadrid2913
      @josemadrid2913 6 днів тому +1

      And knowing what actually makes you happy

  • @zeddybear257
    @zeddybear257 3 дні тому +3

    I’ve been pursuing happiness through purpose and contentment and have stripped away as many ‘extras’ as I can in order to do so, in order to focus. Too many distractions have left me with little that aligns with my values. To be truly happy, I will want my values to be a central focus in all of my activities.
    I want security, creativity, affection, activity and rest. When I was in the wrong occupation for me, I did too many things that were unfulfilling and too little of what I found fulfilling - it took time away from activities and people that I loved.
    I asked myself how I want to spend my days and I had to narrow it down to only a couple of flexible activities outside of my main occupation which I also want to absolutely love doing. In practice, I keep finding ways to refine my planning and role execution because it’s enjoyable. I trust that with time, I will get better at everything that I do, as I always have before and this calms any anxiety over insecurity. I know that I’m already in the process of creating an ideal and am not just in the beginning. The journey is what I will remember at all stages, not the destination because I’ll never be “there” since it doesn’t exist.

  • @HamouBrahimou
    @HamouBrahimou 3 дні тому +4

    First of all, thank you, Thomson, for this insightful presentation. I would like to share what happiness means to me, how I have always searched for it, and where I finally found it.
    From a young age, I was always the smiling, happy, and cheerful person who liked to joke and spread happiness around. As I grew older, I read self-help books to find meanings and strengthen my desire to lead a happy life. This worked for some time, but then I felt a strong urge to find my own happiness, not the one described in books. This journey was both joyful and miserable, and I made sure to experience both the best and worst feelings you can imagine.
    This path lasted a few years before I realized it was not the direction I wanted to continue. So, I surrendered to God's path-the path to serve others and pray for guidance every single day from the greatest Allah. Surprisingly, I finally felt blessed by the smallest things in my life. This doesn't mean my life is perfect; in striving for perfection, I lost my soul. It doesn't mean I have everything figured out, but I have found my purpose in this life: to create wealth, praise Allah, and always be kind to others.

  • @mojganafagh7800
    @mojganafagh7800 4 дні тому +5

    How can I thank you? you brought philospphy into our modern daily life! it is awesome❤

  • @elsassparklyposts5252
    @elsassparklyposts5252 3 дні тому +1

    This man described happiness the best. The final few minutes of this talk about why you might be unhappy are pure gold❤

  • @magicllama9614
    @magicllama9614 10 годин тому +1

    Agree or disagree, this was very well explained. Thank you Mr. Thomson

  • @LanceWinder
    @LanceWinder 5 днів тому +21

    I watch a ton of big thing videos, this is easily one of the best

  • @patsingleton2093
    @patsingleton2093 5 днів тому +2

    To me, happiness comes in moments , often unexpectedly. Trying to plan or create happiness can be futile and disappointing. Pleasure is only as good as its peak and it usually comes at a cost. I try aiming for contentment and satisfaction and let happiness come as it may. Happiness to all !

  • @highcue
    @highcue 6 днів тому +5

    The most compressible explanation about happiness I've ever heard

    • @pulse3554
      @pulse3554 4 дні тому

      i wouldn't trust a westerner on this lmao

  • @agotakolman7418
    @agotakolman7418 3 дні тому +2

    Happiness is to be happy for what you have, and work about what do you want to enjoy yet. Don't let to anybody to tell you, how you must live your life, is your responsibility. Happines you can found in small thing's..Sunshine, Sea, Birds, Music, Crying because you take out all your heavy feelings..if is Raining, you can watch a good movie..i think, we can found always something to feel happy, many things are about how we are thinking/see our world.😇

  • @kevinknight1139
    @kevinknight1139 3 дні тому +1

    This man is brilliant at providing a concise discourse on philosophical tenets.

  • @nicoloputzu
    @nicoloputzu 2 дні тому +4

    admirable knowledge, a comparative work across all the kind of philosophies requires a lot of work and skimming, thank you for the very interesting video!

  • @SafiaMoffatt
    @SafiaMoffatt 4 дні тому

    There have been times when I've seemed happy outwardly but were some of the most stressful times of my life. Which put a damper on my happiness at the time.

  • @dcterr1
    @dcterr1 День тому +1

    Very helpful video, and I agree that these are the main things that we need to be happy.

  • @edrotenberg
    @edrotenberg 6 днів тому +1

    I think a lot about this from time to time... But now we have the structural approach - the framework. Thanks a lot Jonny

  • @ChMir-cv3xf
    @ChMir-cv3xf 5 днів тому +2

    Wow! this is just mind blowing!!
    The best thing here in this "scientific" video is that it makes hapiness measurable in a way...
    Just great!!

  • @genebrowne3138
    @genebrowne3138 5 днів тому +1

    Happiness is a fleeting moment. The pursuit of happiness is an evolutionary survival mechanism.
    Its like feeling full or hungry if we constantly felt full we would starve to death. If we constantly felt completely happy we might just say be content to sit in or own muck with no need or desire to move.
    And what make you happy changes eating icecream might make you happy but if u were forced to eat it for every meal for weeks it would make you unhappy.
    People need to learn how to be grateful

  • @tonyfrench8656
    @tonyfrench8656 6 днів тому +6

    Brilliant stuff Jonny. Found my missing pillar straight away.

  • @tania.creates
    @tania.creates 6 днів тому +12

    jonny and his approach to teaching philosophy in an accessible way has been one of the best things in my 2024, looking forward to continuing to learn - thank you :)

  • @iDebateishere
    @iDebateishere 6 днів тому +12

    this is why i love this channel. good information provided simply and very well.

  • @mskilike1302
    @mskilike1302 17 годин тому +1

    Extraordinario. Me ha dado una imagen clara, concisa y muy estimulante. Además está muy alineada con mis propias reflexiones. gracias y enhorabuena

  • @mileskeller5244
    @mileskeller5244 6 днів тому +1

    I love mini philosophy, I love big think, and you are an amazing man Johnny. Keep up the great work guys.

  • @GeorgiKarchev
    @GeorgiKarchev 3 дні тому +1

    To me this is the best interview you did so far! TY!

  • @jellyshorts0to1
    @jellyshorts0to1 5 днів тому +3

    Thank God. Please more video about this

  • @jerzypawlowski7999
    @jerzypawlowski7999 4 дні тому +2

    Epicurus argued that most healthy people are naturally born happy. Young healthy people are naturally happy. They find happiness in simple things, like jumping, hopping, and playing.
    Epicurus argued that happiness is maintained by avoiding things that make us unhappy. Happiness is not achieved by wealth or indulgence. We don't have to strive for happiness. Happiness is maintained by moderation, friendship, and simple pleasures.

  • @yvngarmz5984
    @yvngarmz5984 5 днів тому +1

    This is amazing, like a philosophical meta-analysis! So incredibly explained and edited too, a new fave for sure.

  • @katieleofficial
    @katieleofficial День тому

    Happiness is not what you're looking for. Happiness is already within you, but you're too busy to look inside yourself and keep looking outside. No one or nothing can make you happy. When you're truly and deeply happy with no attachment, then you see happiness everywhere.

  • @andy_ppp
    @andy_ppp 5 днів тому +2

    There’s no wrong paths only different learnings along the way.

  • @Lruiz3865
    @Lruiz3865 6 днів тому +1

    Johny is so accurate what it comes to explain philosophy to mortals
    Great video 👍

  • @santlalchaudhary424
    @santlalchaudhary424 2 дні тому +1

    Hi i am from india i love to listen this channel. I keep such talk in my playlist.

  • @TheRevies
    @TheRevies 5 днів тому +5

    “1 coffee with a friend, that’s enjoyable, but if I have 7 coffees, not so much”… hold my coffee

  • @zyfg4710
    @zyfg4710 6 днів тому +4

    I enjoy the explanation. Still processing the content

  • @Jade15888
    @Jade15888 5 днів тому +2

    I think of a Japanese neuroscientist, Dr. Kenichiro Mogi. He wrote a book about "生き甲斐". I think he knows well in this field.

  • @swlucas
    @swlucas 5 днів тому

    Fantastic! I feel like I just received an extremely useful 10 min distillation of his PhD thesis.

  • @1mphamvu
    @1mphamvu 10 годин тому

    When I surfed, there was no purpose beyond what I did. I literally just loved the action for itself. We live in our mind too much, and we're 'trained' to want. We go to school, we get a job, we have kids - society wants this. For me, all the happy things are really in the moment. Laughing in Capoeira when someone falls over, being on a wave in a golden dusk light, seeing my wife smile as she really looks into my face. I helped a friend by paying for the edication, I got a PhD, I had a chld - but these weren't what made me feel I was 'living'. I dont think we should pursue happiness. There is some 'normal human liviing' which is a mixture of things. I prefer the word 'content' but maybe its not quite accurate.

  • @creativecontrive
    @creativecontrive 3 дні тому +1

    This video really made me rethink what happiness means! I love the distinction between hedonia and eudaimonia. It's so true that we often chase fleeting pleasures instead of lasting fulfillment. 🌟

    • @catche85
      @catche85 3 дні тому

      Watch some of Ross Edgleys docos about his swimming feats, he talks about his pursuit of eudiamonia a lot.

  • @phothar93
    @phothar93 5 днів тому +10

    Bro just tricked normies to listen to Aristotle. Well done.

  • @juliteles
    @juliteles 5 днів тому +2

    Absolutely amazing video, thanks for sharing your thoughts with us! ✨️

  • @neo-physics
    @neo-physics 3 дні тому +2

    Thank you for this.

  • @TaisFiki
    @TaisFiki 2 дні тому

    To be truly happy, I will want my values to be a central focus in all of my activities

  • @ashishc.s4353
    @ashishc.s4353 5 днів тому +3

    Happiness = Golden retriever and vice versa ❤❤❤

  • @Mustafa_Naqvi5
    @Mustafa_Naqvi5 2 дні тому +1

    Amazing video. Amazing man; Johnny brother is indeed a very kind, pleasant and moderate person. Because he has seen beauty in any religious aspect and philosophy of all sects.
    I admire and respect him deeply as i see this video. He taught me about Islamic value which I also was unaware.
    Great man. ❤
    Very appreciated.

  • @dertilly
    @dertilly 6 годин тому

    Fantastic explanation! Thank you

  • @wubwub616
    @wubwub616 4 дні тому

    The thing about justice is that it is something we generally have a need for but which we don’t actually have. A sense of justice is a cognitive construct created by the mind but justice itself does not exist in the external reality.

  • @danjam2955
    @danjam2955 5 днів тому +1

    I’m happy that I woke up still not dead again today! But, then again, maybe not!

  • @Cheyne4Chelsea
    @Cheyne4Chelsea 3 дні тому +1

    Altruism vs egoism
    Kindness vs cruelty
    Justice vs injustice
    Wisdom vs ignorance
    Humility vs arrogance

  • @mazatlurbini6293
    @mazatlurbini6293 День тому

    We would never be truly happy if we seek universal happiness as an answer

  • @Staoicism
    @Staoicism 5 днів тому +1

    Thank you for this enlightening exploration of happiness through the lens of Aristotle, Taoism, and broader philosophical traditions. 🌱 The metaphor of the thorny forest beautifully illustrates how the search for happiness often leads us down paths we don’t fully understand until hindsight offers clarity.
    The three pillars resonate deeply - happiness beyond pleasure, moderation as a guide, and the inextricable link between virtue and true joy. It’s a gentle reminder that flourishing often emerges from balance and kindness, not the fleeting highs of hedonism. How do others reconcile these pillars with the demands of modern life? Curious to hear your thoughts.

  • @wthomas5697
    @wthomas5697 3 дні тому

    People do in the effort to deal with their fear of nonexistence. So they can relax and just be. Which is what happiness amounts to. It's not complicated in the least.

  • @kariannecrysler640
    @kariannecrysler640 6 днів тому +1

    I would suggest that virtue should be seen as understanding the self to its purest self and accepting that, creating a fact based foundation for addressing the other items on the list. This individualizes virtue for “spiritual” pursuits and provides a foundation for navigating societal interactions when used in accordance to the laws that govern the individual.

  • @rosabeen
    @rosabeen 6 днів тому +1

    Love this explanation, thank you Jonny!

  • @Angela-hf2qn
    @Angela-hf2qn 5 днів тому

    According to most research, studies generally indicate that people without children tend to report higher levels of happiness compared to those with children, with many studies finding that parents are often less happy than child-free individuals,

  • @brawinandrew
    @brawinandrew 5 днів тому

    It's actually four pillars; if you want to experience supersensuous joy, you should be following all these four pillars and balancing them accordingly.
    The first one is the study of spiritual knowledge to understand the divinity of the supreme being and your relationship with the universe, time, and life.
    The second is meditation, or remembrance. If you believe in the divine living being that is more powerful than the universe, make sure to remind yourself constantly throughout your day so that you can feel the connection and joy at the same time.
    The third is the practice of divine virtues; if you believe that you are connected to a divine living being, make some efforts to project it through your lifestyle (one of the special virtues is love, altruistic love).
    and the last is the service you provide to others without even the slightest expectation of its return (altruistic server)
    And all the other day-to-day activities give you and make you experience the deepest reality within you; it can be your child, or your spouse, or your work; everything makes you feel that fulfillment, and it's always there in the universe until you see it.

  • @iftiquarali9550
    @iftiquarali9550 6 днів тому

    The best way to be happy is to see good in everyone and not taking pride in yourself. Also, you need to find a link between all the things that happen in your life. Divide them so that you can understand. Do not do meaningless things in your life. Do not do unnecessary things. I think that is what calm state of mind is. Maybe it is happiness. Or maybe it is not. But, at the least, you will not be sad.

  • @DanSpenhoff
    @DanSpenhoff 6 днів тому +3

    What about having a sense of purpose in life, which is missing here? Can one find true happiness without it?

    • @Mark_Bollinger
      @Mark_Bollinger 6 днів тому +1

      I agree. At the top of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs is self-actualization, becoming the best version of yourself. How many people are deeply unhappy at one or more various times in their life because they feel the aren’t living in their niche?

    • @matt291
      @matt291 6 днів тому +1

      Chase meaning not happiness.

  • @donovanroberts8607
    @donovanroberts8607 6 днів тому

    I Love This Channel .... Seriously!

  • @empireravenshadow5
    @empireravenshadow5 3 дні тому +1

    that was useful than all my university degrees combined

  • @j.ustineowens
    @j.ustineowens 4 дні тому +1

    Great video. Thank you for sharing this. A question - are there any patterns in the occurrence or recurrence of these pillars? Thanks.

  • @jamiezenichi1017
    @jamiezenichi1017 5 днів тому

    People's definition of happiness changes as we get older, develop, and change. What made us happy as a child is different than what makes us happy as a teenager, twenty-something, 30 something, and so on.

  • @deleted01
    @deleted01 5 днів тому +1

    Happiness is pleasure, or at least the cessation of displeasure.

  • @jazzmastaj
    @jazzmastaj 6 днів тому +4

    Pretty sure it’s the golden rule not the golden mean? 5:03

  • @Raerae705
    @Raerae705 5 днів тому +1

    I thought this was a very convoluted way to conceptualise happiness. There’s been a few philosophers that have been on big think who have done a better job (imo) explaining it

  • @Bat_Boy
    @Bat_Boy 6 днів тому +1

    Attachment is the root of all evil. I dont "want" a specific outcome, like happiness, success or failure...I "want" the process itself, the becoming, the effort ..and the sometimes, pain, suffering and sacrifice that may come with it.
    I do what I do, because I dont know what to do, when Im not doing it.

  • @Talespin33
    @Talespin33 День тому

    Thank you 😊 so 🙏 much

  • @mikejarrells431
    @mikejarrells431 6 днів тому

    Should we pursue happiness (bliss?) or authenticity? It would probably be easy to follow the path put before us by our culture, but some may argue that culture is toxic and manipulative. Authenticity requires rebelling against what others want you to do. That isn't an easy path.

  • @WolvesOfApollo
    @WolvesOfApollo 6 днів тому

    "If, then, there is some end of the things we do, which we desire for its own sake (everything else being desired for the sake of this), and if we do not choose everything for the sake of something else (for at that rate the process would go on to infinity, so that our desire would be empty and vain), clearly this must be the good and the chief good. Will not the knowledge of it, then, have a great influence on life?" The Nicomachean Ethics by Aristotle, Book I, part 2

  • @n.d8001
    @n.d8001 6 днів тому

    brilliant presentation❤

  • @BUSINESS_LECTURE
    @BUSINESS_LECTURE 5 днів тому

    Amazing, always happy, guys

  • @craigmerkey8518
    @craigmerkey8518 6 днів тому

    What I learned is outside forces specifically *** people have brought me the most unhappiness ! It is an easy fix!

  • @kellykizer7014
    @kellykizer7014 3 дні тому +1

    If you want to feel good you have to be good.

  • @erickgiovanniescobarareval3345
    @erickgiovanniescobarareval3345 6 днів тому

    Thank you! Great speech…

  • @rehnumakarim3857
    @rehnumakarim3857 6 днів тому

    Excellent content!

  • @MiottoAdriana
    @MiottoAdriana 4 дні тому +1

    Love it .

  • @suthardurga7078
    @suthardurga7078 4 дні тому

    Thank you

  • @Jade15888
    @Jade15888 2 дні тому +1

    Happiness is just a chemical reaction in the brain to me.

  • @fillhixx
    @fillhixx 5 днів тому

    “We’re here to just mess about. Don’t let anyone tell you different.” Paraphrasing Kurt Vonnegut Jr. Happiness is not a goal, it is a result of activity.

  • @NousNoesis225
    @NousNoesis225 5 днів тому

    The correct pronunciation of “Nichomachean” is with the stress on the penultimate syllable: the ‘e’.

  • @FairnessIsTheAnswer
    @FairnessIsTheAnswer 6 днів тому

    What causes a mind to experience happiness? How did the mind get created, designed, configured, and programmed? If the mind was designed, configured, and programmed to experience happiness from something different, then would happiness mean something different? Who and/or what caused the mind to exist? Has anyone achieved the ability to create a brain/mind?

  • @josuecallejero9864
    @josuecallejero9864 6 днів тому +3

    6:47 The Golden Mean? Not the Golden Rule?

  • @bernardphilipsen6124
    @bernardphilipsen6124 День тому

    Thank you for this! But for a next step (yes there always is), what's your view on reincarnation and multiple lives where every live contributes to whatever fulfilling ultimate goal there might be for every entity?

  • @brimendis
    @brimendis 5 днів тому

    Smiling soul, I love that

  • @RowanWoods-w9h
    @RowanWoods-w9h 8 годин тому

    Where does Gratitude fit within these pillars?

  • @WolvesOfApollo
    @WolvesOfApollo 6 днів тому

    "It may be said that every individual man and all men in common aim at a certain end which determines what they
    choose and what they avoid. This end, to sum it up briefly, is happiness and its constituents. Let us, then, by way of
    illustration only, ascertain what is in general the nature of happiness, and what are the elements of its constituent parts.
    For all advice to do things or not to do them is concerned with happiness and with the things that make for or against it;
    whatever creates or increases happiness or some part of happiness, we ought to do; whatever destroys or hampers
    happiness, or gives rise to its opposite, we ought not to do.
    We may define happiness as prosperity combined with excellence; or as independence of life; or as the secure
    enjoyment of the maximum of pleasure; or as a good condition of property and body, together with the power of
    guarding one’s property and body and making use of them. That happiness is one or more of these things, pretty well
    everybody agrees." The Rhetoric by Aristotle, Book I, part 5

  • @avinashgore6258
    @avinashgore6258 3 години тому

    Lagom is best represented by “ Not too much Not too little”

  • @alwaysthinkingmindset
    @alwaysthinkingmindset 5 годин тому

    Good stuff

  • @whatfffd
    @whatfffd 5 днів тому

    There is no end point as a temporary state of chemical balance is the point itself. We do everything as a living biological being to release hormones to achieve a feeling.
    Happiness exists only as the opposite to misery. They simply can't exist without the other.
    You can either embrace your biological impulse and achieve a state of highs and lows or.....reflect and use the conscious override feature embedded in each and every one of us and recognise the prison in which we reside. Accept what you are and let it all go.

  • @totalfreedom45
    @totalfreedom45 5 днів тому

    A good, happy, loving human being has no followers, follows no one, and needs no recreational drugs, no weapons, no flags, no holy books, no religions, no churches, no saviors, no gods.
    *_Without love and sense of humor there is unhappiness and life is meaningless._*
    💕☮🌎🌌

  • @lilithblackmoon161
    @lilithblackmoon161 5 днів тому

    I'm curious as to what your thoughts are on Maslow's hierarchy of needs in comparison with the three pillars of happiness?

  • @hudhaikal5847
    @hudhaikal5847 6 днів тому +2

    Never heard of jonny thomson but this video is too good to be left uncommented. Thanks jonny

  • @breal7277
    @breal7277 4 дні тому

    Physiology plays an important role in happiness, or lack thereof.

  • @Jade15888
    @Jade15888 2 дні тому

    Is this channel an ad platform??

  • @youngfonz
    @youngfonz День тому

    Felt like I was in philosophy class!