Wendy's part was great and Zen Buddhism was just mind blowing. Now I can say to myself that I am not wasting my time on Internet but creating new ways of looking at world because of such channels like Big Thik.
Absolutely beautiful how we people are built so individually yet have the same basic need to be seen for who we genuinely are & accepted. Such a simple thing💗
This is the most underrated video on UA-cam! The three things I learned about that can bring joy and happiness into your life. You just need to know how to use them all in everyday life, and you will be the happiest person ever.
When I work as a software dev, I can get into the flow state. When a software dev is in the flow state, he is highly efficient. One can easily be 10 times as efficient compared to the normal state. However my employer does not understand this and successfully prevents me from getting into the flow state, by interrupting me numerous times, useless meetings, phone calls, etc. I can only get into the flow state once or at most twice a day. After that, it's over, I can't get anything else done efficiently that day. Modern work places are not suitable to enter the flow state.
As a Sysadmin, I agree. Solving problems, even when I don't know the answers, and trying new ideas, being creative, and thinking outside the box - that's flow for me. Loud offices and daily meetings really put the brakes on that flow.
Hey guys, I think your contents are incredible and very interesting. But I think you should consider that the combination of background music and people are talking makes it really difficult to focus. The music is too exciting and I can never keep my concentration to the details. Somehow it feels too fast.
00:00: Flow is a state of effortless effort, where anxiety can be beneficial. 01:02: Anxiety is a normal emotion; neuroscience can help us leverage it. 02:34: Flow is characterized by total absorption and altered perception of time. 04:25: Challenge-skill balance is crucial for achieving flow; comfort with discomfort is key. 05:40: Concentration and distraction management are essential for entering flow states. 07:29: Curiosity drives focus and is foundational for passion and purpose. 09:00: Group flow enhances performance and well-being, highlighting our potential. 10:02: Anxiety is a natural response; understanding it can lead to personal growth. 12:40: Cognitive flexibility allows for new approaches to anxiety and challenges. 13:59: Anxiety can lead to productivity; transforming worries into actionable tasks is vital. 15:11: Empathy can be cultivated through shared experiences of anxiety. 17:23: Zen emphasizes community and relationships as a means of self-discovery. 18:18: Impermanence teaches us to let go of fixed identities and expectations. 20:28: Mindfulness involves being present and accepting life's unsatisfactory moments. 22:31: Loving-kindness meditation fosters empathy and understanding towards others. 24:00: Beginner's mind encourages curiosity and openness in relationships, reducing suffering.
I read her book. Learned a lot, specifically how to better organized what I already knew were otherwise natural yet still at times overwhelming sources of anxiety and/or excitement. That awareness introduced a different perception as to what anxiety is, backed by neuroscience research and industrial psychology, that I think is intuitively groundbreaking
Idk about everyone else, but the music was too loud and distracting in this video. I hope they edit it and turn it down so I can hear the people better.
I feel that I am a procrastinator by nature, im sure there is more to it but that is what I know about myself at this time. SO I was taught to use my alarm and timer. I have 8 daily alarms such as take medication, feed the dogs etc... simple things but I used to forget to do those things until I set my alarms for daily use. Now i learned to do the same with task I do not want to do. I set a alarm for 15 min or 20 min depending on my mood then i do the task undistracted, after alarm I decide if I want to keep going and reset the timer or If not I feel like I accomplished some movement toward what needs to be done. I want to not have to do things like this so I am still working on it but setting 15 min aside a day to clean or to make calls or anything else keeps me from getting stuck in my procrastination. I get things done with this method keeps anxiety and disappointment (in myself) at bay BUT ONE DAY I hope to be more mindful and motivated on my own. May we all stay blessed.
Thank you Wendy for this segment. As someone fighting social anxiety, I can say I will be the champion in this fight because I'm going to listen to her book and I'll be a living example that if I can do it, there's no excuses, only results!😊
Flow from personal experience: Pursue something that requires a higher mastery, practice until you start to enjoy it, flow will enter when autonomy from practice/trial and errors results sinks in, everything seems to fall in place, every action of the body is moving in itself, like ultra instincts, it's like your mind entering a complete zoned in focus on reaching something and the body itself will generate movements at maximum effort in sync with the mind (both action and focus at maximum), and all you will feel is euphoria in the moment of doing.
@@gooddaysahead1 I am not sure if it's possible to always be in flow throughout life From what he is saying and exp, it tends to happen when we are doing something.
Interesting. I had no idea about Zen Buddhism. While this is a trained skill, it may take away from a more natural way of being. In other words, sometimes we need to be reactive to call someone on their bullshit with how our society is run, for example, and prove to the bullshiters you have produced an effective result compared to them like with community development, city building, etc. In a way, it may align with practical skills, compared to skills that use people more. To manage all this, perhaps Zen Buddhism is an imperative skill for some to cope with this concern in my example. Thanks for the food for thought!
Nice, but we need another video solely on Zen. In my country it's not popular and I struggle to learn more about it. Probably the same problem happens in most of the world
Watching out of order, revisiting 13:40 I got an "ideas" list and a "todo"list. The 4 categories got hypervamped into a venn diagram at some point 22:48 For some reason it narrows down to my cousin. She is younger than me and seems to have a busy life of college but also art. I am more of a story teller, but I feel a givingness like a mentor.
I JUST watched a video that said anxiety is NOT an actual human emotion but just a physiological response in relation to other emotions meaning we can work on managing it.
IN response to Robert Waldinger's segment on Zen Buddhism. I think loving Kindness and empathy is and should be reserved to those who have already gained our trust (trusted family and friends and collegues etc) People should not give out loving kindness as freebies to any tom, dick and harry because the chances of being taken advantage of will be exponentially high. If kindness leads to others hurting or taking advantage of us, then that is stupidity. Loving kindness does not operate alone, it must be done with discernment, protection and strength. Or loving kindness would just make one a victim or a doe doe.
The music behind it is kind of distracting. I would just like to hear the words. Do you have a another version of this without the super dramatic music in the background I can’t focus.
If you suffer from something as inane as negativity bias and it makes you less happy, try bootstrapping it with something like optimistic nihilism. At least then you can still laugh and smile, rather be distraught and lost about not being "where you should be in life". Wrong, you're exactly where you are, start noticing from different angles.
It's disturbing for me when people say humans are like this humans tend to see negative they are like this that etc. Humans were given certain patterns when they were born, but they were also given the ability to change those patterns and adapt themselves that serves them best according to their environment. There had to be some patterns so naturally the patterns of primates got inserted in us as default but that doesn't mean you have to cling to them now or that they can't be changed, people are taking it as an excuse that we are hard wired to do certain stuff because change feels uncomfortable and they are not willing to put efforts to change. There are some instincts that can't be replaced but patterns and habits are very well changeable
Genuine question. I don't have anxiety. Am I abnormal? But I know exactly what it's like to feel anxiety. I get anxious when I smoke pot. Its state of mind I had never ever experienced until i smoked pot. I decided that it's debilitating and I stopped doing it.
There are levels to anxiety. It doesn't have to be debilitating to be anxiety. It can simply be the driving force to take action as the result of a random thought. For example, I have pets who eat twice a day, at a specific time (they know when mealtime is, and remind me). I took my wife out to dinner, and we were going to be gone long after meal time. Anxiety caused me to be concerned about the pets' happiness before we left, for about 15 seconds. We still left, and they got fed when we got home.
@@catatonicbug7522 I disagree. I think anxiety was only useful when we were living in the hunter gatherer life surrounded by dangers all the time. Today 99% of anxieties people have about our lives are useless. Forgive me I don't remember the names, but what the second woman and the third man says contradictory to each other. I live a life like the third man says.
Learn to be with what is unsatisfactory in life, learn to be with pain, or perhaps do something to change the circumstances? If humans had had this attitude thousands of years ago, we would still be living in caves and feeling virtuous about it😉
I can resume all this video in one sentence: stay positive Don't get me wrong, this is good for people that need constant validation from the outside world but those that don't care like myself these words are empty no matter how much you circle around and how much "positive energy" you try to convey it won't reach because that's for normal wired people not for introverts. So if you feel this video didn't reach you, remember you are not alone.
Being an introvert doesn't have ANYTHING to do with the lessons explained in the video. Being an introvert isn't an abnormality. If anything, being an introvert actually helps A LOT with the development of certain skills that they show us here. If the video doesn't reach out to you it's not for the fact that you're an introvert, that's for sure.
You can’t imagine how much I tried taking this specific brand yet one way or another I will have to vomit everything out unbelievably stomach twister, kind of supplement
Flow is overrated. It’s like expecting a sunny weather with efforts like push up. I see it more as bringin myself towards it like a couple doing a foreplay to get aomewhere. By doing somethings which I know because I tried not because I read somewhere in a book, that it really helped me go to that place of focus.
No, there are no masters in Zen. If you meet anyone who calls themselves a Zen "master", you turn around and leave, because they will inevitably try to sell you something.
According to this aren't autists and aspergers the ultimate mindful people? They are not capable to fade out the background noises in a noisy environment
No, that's backward. In mindfulness, you have to select something to focus on and block out all other things. When the mind "wanders", you must work to pull your focus back to the chosen item.
There’s a huge difference between being forced to listen to background noises and doing so willfully through meditation! It’s like when someone is forced to study vs someone who studies out of their own interest! The latter person learns way more
I think it was less of a flex and more of establishing credibility for the video sake. I don’t think that’s how he would speak to you in your living room, as so much as the interviewer prompting him to introduce himself. I could be wrong
U still decompise me. I know that u want it all from me long time. It is frustrating that we cant find a dialogue couse u stuck. U need to start asking me questions if you want to progress our negotiation faster. If u can of course asking. I am about 10 steps before u and u dont even know that. U stop at level 3of understanding, fly plz at level 5 and understand why i am behavioring like that before you judgem also start asking so we can lost less time. Answering u for this video i can say that i know u want it from the long time ago. I need to know why do you want it from me. Specify
Dude, at the end calls himself a master and then says if somebody else calls him the master, he thinks he doesn’t know very much. That is a fucked up Zen.
I would just love to see presenters flow without sitting on a roll of pulled out paper. It is such a fad. It's sad to see intellectuals following the convention, as if they're sheep.
Dr. Waldinger looks so joyful. It's just such a treat listening to people share their happiness and passion. It invigorates.
“Stretch, but don’t snap.” Great advice; a commonality among these three mind states.
Wendy's part was great and Zen Buddhism was just mind blowing. Now I can say to myself that I am not wasting my time on Internet but creating new ways of looking at world because of such channels like Big Thik.
I like that "when the challenge of that task slightly exceeds our skill set" you have to get comfortable with being uncomfortable
This is the entir premise of the Dark Souls games.
Absolutely beautiful how we people are built so individually yet have the same basic need to be seen for who we genuinely are & accepted. Such a simple thing💗
This is the most underrated video on UA-cam! The three things I learned about that can bring joy and happiness into your life. You just need to know how to use them all in everyday life, and you will be the happiest person ever.
When I work as a software dev, I can get into the flow state. When a software dev is in the flow state, he is highly efficient. One can easily be 10 times as efficient compared to the normal state. However my employer does not understand this and successfully prevents me from getting into the flow state, by interrupting me numerous times, useless meetings, phone calls, etc. I can only get into the flow state once or at most twice a day. After that, it's over, I can't get anything else done efficiently that day. Modern work places are not suitable to enter the flow state.
🎉 yup. I used to called. I entered into the screen. Or as Mark Zuckerberg calls it. Plugged 🔌
As a Sysadmin, I agree. Solving problems, even when I don't know the answers, and trying new ideas, being creative, and thinking outside the box - that's flow for me. Loud offices and daily meetings really put the brakes on that flow.
Hahaha.
Hey guys, I think your contents are incredible and very interesting. But I think you should consider that the combination of background music and people are talking makes it really difficult to focus. The music is too exciting and I can never keep my concentration to the details. Somehow it feels too fast.
The music they use is what makes me want to give up watching these videos every time because I get anxiety from it 😅
The music they use is what makes me want to give up watching these videos every time because I get anxiety from it 😅
00:00: Flow is a state of effortless effort, where anxiety can be beneficial.
01:02: Anxiety is a normal emotion; neuroscience can help us leverage it.
02:34: Flow is characterized by total absorption and altered perception of time.
04:25: Challenge-skill balance is crucial for achieving flow; comfort with discomfort is key.
05:40: Concentration and distraction management are essential for entering flow states.
07:29: Curiosity drives focus and is foundational for passion and purpose.
09:00: Group flow enhances performance and well-being, highlighting our potential.
10:02: Anxiety is a natural response; understanding it can lead to personal growth.
12:40: Cognitive flexibility allows for new approaches to anxiety and challenges.
13:59: Anxiety can lead to productivity; transforming worries into actionable tasks is vital.
15:11: Empathy can be cultivated through shared experiences of anxiety.
17:23: Zen emphasizes community and relationships as a means of self-discovery.
18:18: Impermanence teaches us to let go of fixed identities and expectations.
20:28: Mindfulness involves being present and accepting life's unsatisfactory moments.
22:31: Loving-kindness meditation fosters empathy and understanding towards others.
24:00: Beginner's mind encourages curiosity and openness in relationships, reducing suffering.
You are amazing, saved me from quitting the video thanks much stay totally blessed❤
@@prateekanarwi2241 thanks! we are improving to provide more value
Outstanding!
I read her book. Learned a lot, specifically how to better organized what I already knew were otherwise natural yet still at times overwhelming sources of anxiety and/or excitement. That awareness introduced a different perception as to what anxiety is, backed by neuroscience research and industrial psychology, that I think is intuitively groundbreaking
Idk about everyone else, but the music was too loud and distracting in this video. I hope they edit it and turn it down so I can hear the people better.
Even better, turn the music off. It is so difficult to concentrate on what is spoken with any music in the background.
I feel that I am a procrastinator by nature, im sure there is more to it but that is what I know about myself at this time. SO I was taught to use my alarm and timer. I have 8 daily alarms such as take medication, feed the dogs etc... simple things but I used to forget to do those things until I set my alarms for daily use. Now i learned to do the same with task I do not want to do. I set a alarm for 15 min or 20 min depending on my mood then i do the task undistracted, after alarm I decide if I want to keep going and reset the timer or If not I feel like I accomplished some movement toward what needs to be done. I want to not have to do things like this so I am still working on it but setting 15 min aside a day to clean or to make calls or anything else keeps me from getting stuck in my procrastination. I get things done with this method keeps anxiety and disappointment (in myself) at bay BUT ONE DAY I hope to be more mindful and motivated on my own. May we all stay blessed.
Great idea. You should increase the task time to 30mins later.
@@Amistad377 Hillariouse! 👏
Thank you Wendy for this segment. As someone fighting social anxiety, I can say I will be the champion in this fight because I'm going to listen to her book and I'll be a living example that if I can do it, there's no excuses, only results!😊
Excellent overview.
Flow from personal experience: Pursue something that requires a higher mastery, practice until you start to enjoy it, flow will enter when autonomy from practice/trial and errors results sinks in, everything seems to fall in place, every action of the body is moving in itself, like ultra instincts, it's like your mind entering a complete zoned in focus on reaching something and the body itself will generate movements at maximum effort in sync with the mind (both action and focus at maximum), and all you will feel is euphoria in the moment of doing.
Obviously you're talking about a skill. What about the whole of life?
@@gooddaysahead1 I am not sure if it's possible to always be in flow throughout life From what he is saying and exp, it tends to happen when we are doing something.
Life is not about being as capable as possible. It's about contentment and balance.
✔️
Nopeb
Such a informative video ☺️
thank you for this, these are literally life changing.
Interesting. I had no idea about Zen Buddhism.
While this is a trained skill, it may take away from a more natural way of being. In other words, sometimes we need to be reactive to call someone on their bullshit with how our society is run, for example, and prove to the bullshiters you have produced an effective result compared to them like with community development, city building, etc. In a way, it may align with practical skills, compared to skills that use people more.
To manage all this, perhaps Zen Buddhism is an imperative skill for some to cope with this concern in my example.
Thanks for the food for thought!
Take a deep breath and let go and let god ❤
Nice, but we need another video solely on Zen. In my country it's not popular and I struggle to learn more about it. Probably the same problem happens in most of the world
Watching out of order, revisiting
13:40 I got an "ideas" list and a "todo"list. The 4 categories got hypervamped into a venn diagram at some point
22:48 For some reason it narrows down to my cousin. She is younger than me and seems to have a busy life of college but also art. I am more of a story teller, but I feel a givingness like a mentor.
Oh wow kotler! I gotta get one of his books
Is there a version of this without the background music? The message is good….but the music makes it very difficult to follow.
Great video but needs a better mix with music. Music overpowers the talking
I JUST watched a video that said anxiety is NOT an actual human emotion but just a physiological response in relation to other emotions meaning we can work on managing it.
IN response to Robert Waldinger's segment on Zen Buddhism. I think loving Kindness and empathy is and should be reserved to those who have already gained our trust (trusted family and friends and collegues etc) People should not give out loving kindness as freebies to any tom, dick and harry because the chances of being taken advantage of will be exponentially high. If kindness leads to others hurting or taking advantage of us, then that is stupidity. Loving kindness does not operate alone, it must be done with discernment, protection and strength. Or loving kindness would just make one a victim or a doe doe.
Ok, now i love Robert Waldinger
The music behind it is kind of distracting. I would just like to hear the words. Do you have a another version of this without the super dramatic music in the background I can’t focus.
How can you practice flow if you have short attention span bc of ADHD?
Thank you 🥲
Audio is quite bad, the background music is too high and makes it very challenging to follow the speech unfortunately
what a valuable video !
Hey @bigthink who is your sound designer?
Turn the music up a bit more🙄
If you suffer from something as inane as negativity bias and it makes you less happy, try bootstrapping it with something like optimistic nihilism. At least then you can still laugh and smile, rather be distraught and lost about not being "where you should be in life". Wrong, you're exactly where you are, start noticing from different angles.
Entering flow can't be done without monotonous training previously ... Could be that flow is another disconnection from 'reality'
practice = flow
Learn about impermanence and stillness.
It's disturbing for me when people say humans are like this humans tend to see negative they are like this that etc. Humans were given certain patterns when they were born, but they were also given the ability to change those patterns and adapt themselves that serves them best according to their environment. There had to be some patterns so naturally the patterns of primates got inserted in us as default but that doesn't mean you have to cling to them now or that they can't be changed, people are taking it as an excuse that we are hard wired to do certain stuff because change feels uncomfortable and they are not willing to put efforts to change. There are some instincts that can't be replaced but patterns and habits are very well changeable
Being forced to watch an infomercial gives me anxiety
Good anxiety 😂
Forced? 😂 you’re never forced to do anything. You always have a choice.
That is a good sign of your hidden productivity, you just need to train yourself to do more
Use ReVanced
😂
Effort effort is the zen of riding a motorcycle
Warms a Zen Buddhist's heart. 😊😊😊
Loved the third part 😊🙏 The Zen budism insights
I've had anxiety while watching this. It must be a bad yet good omen.
Genuine question. I don't have anxiety. Am I abnormal?
But I know exactly what it's like to feel anxiety. I get anxious when I smoke pot. Its state of mind I had never ever experienced until i smoked pot. I decided that it's debilitating and I stopped doing it.
There are levels to anxiety. It doesn't have to be debilitating to be anxiety. It can simply be the driving force to take action as the result of a random thought. For example, I have pets who eat twice a day, at a specific time (they know when mealtime is, and remind me). I took my wife out to dinner, and we were going to be gone long after meal time. Anxiety caused me to be concerned about the pets' happiness before we left, for about 15 seconds. We still left, and they got fed when we got home.
@@catatonicbug7522 I disagree. I think anxiety was only useful when we were living in the hunter gatherer life surrounded by dangers all the time. Today 99% of anxieties people have about our lives are useless.
Forgive me I don't remember the names, but what the second woman and the third man says contradictory to each other. I live a life like the third man says.
The background music is so disturbing
Insightful and useful 😉👍♥️
Learn to be with what is unsatisfactory in life, learn to be with pain, or perhaps do something to change the circumstances? If humans had had this attitude thousands of years ago, we would still be living in caves and feeling virtuous about it😉
I can resume all this video in one sentence: stay positive
Don't get me wrong, this is good for people that need constant validation from the outside world but those that don't care like myself these words are empty no matter how much you circle around and how much "positive energy" you try to convey it won't reach because that's for normal wired people not for introverts.
So if you feel this video didn't reach you, remember you are not alone.
Being an introvert doesn't have ANYTHING to do with the lessons explained in the video. Being an introvert isn't an abnormality. If anything, being an introvert actually helps A LOT with the development of certain skills that they show us here.
If the video doesn't reach out to you it's not for the fact that you're an introvert, that's for sure.
Please avoid having heavy music over the top of speakers... The music over Wendy was really distracting and annoying.
You can’t imagine how much I tried taking this specific brand yet one way or another I will have to vomit everything out unbelievably stomach twister, kind of supplement
this is great
"Have an activist mindset"! We have way too much of that these days!!!!!!! The rest of what is said here makes pretty good sense.
Guys, in your experiences when working/studying can flow state be reached when doing an activity with background music?
Why did the last segment make me cry?? 😭😭
You probably already know.
Very useful 😊
You know a struggle is happening when health supplements start being advertised
Can you please turn down this annoying background sound? It’s as loud as the speaker itself
Flow is overrated. It’s like expecting a sunny weather with efforts like push up. I see it more as bringin myself towards it like a couple doing a foreplay to get aomewhere. By doing somethings which I know because I tried not because I read somewhere in a book, that it really helped me go to that place of focus.
What women wrote about Flow?
ok
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the background music is literally triggering an amygdala hijacking. WTF?
No, there are no masters in Zen. If you meet anyone who calls themselves a Zen "master", you turn around and leave, because they will inevitably try to sell you something.
William James looks like a copy of Wim Hof
A Roshi is no Zen master. There are no Masters in Zen.
According to this aren't autists and aspergers the ultimate mindful people? They are not capable to fade out the background noises in a noisy environment
No, that's backward. In mindfulness, you have to select something to focus on and block out all other things. When the mind "wanders", you must work to pull your focus back to the chosen item.
There’s a huge difference between being forced to listen to background noises and doing so willfully through meditation!
It’s like when someone is forced to study vs someone who studies out of their own interest! The latter person learns way more
Who bites a burger like that 🫠
Flip the script
Scip the Flript
If you're a Zen master you probably don't say, "I'm a Zen master". Just sayin'. But a good video none the less.
I think it was less of a flex and more of establishing credibility for the video sake. I don’t think that’s how he would speak to you in your living room, as so much as the interviewer prompting him to introduce himself. I could be wrong
Lolwut what’s more zen master than recognizing your own abilities and limitations
Does a physicist say "I'm a physicist"?
This is different from enlightenment. He is stating a title, like a teacher. Not a state or ego like saying he is enlightened.
Why not?
25 min vedio but 10 hecking ads
Bro forgot transcendence... Not that he ever reached it...
U still decompise me. I know that u want it all from me long time. It is frustrating that we cant find a dialogue couse u stuck.
U need to start asking me questions if you want to progress our negotiation faster. If u can of course asking.
I am about 10 steps before u and u dont even know that. U stop at level 3of understanding, fly plz at level 5 and understand why i am behavioring like that before you judgem also start asking so we can lost less time.
Answering u for this video i can say that i know u want it from the long time ago.
I need to know why do you want it from me. Specify
Imagine buying a supplement that literally has an asterisk in their name.... facepalm.
*sigh* r/thanksimcured
Dude, at the end calls himself a master and then says if somebody else calls him the master, he thinks he doesn’t know very much. That is a fucked up Zen.
Zen sounds like being delusional tbh
Why? I liked the Zen part the most tbh. Why it's delusional?
I would just love to see presenters flow without sitting on a roll of pulled out paper. It is such a fad. It's sad to see intellectuals following the convention, as if they're sheep.
Am i the only one who felt so bored by watching this??
FIND JESUS, FIND REALITY.
John 1.1-18
Stop wasting TIME!!!
Give this kind of knowledge to Blacks and BLM and they will trademark it as if it belong to them.