I would love that.... also can you make some merch that are less girly I would love that! I’m genderfluid but am closeted so to everyone who doesn’t know I’m a man and would love to get some of your merch but it’s all more aimed at girls imo. You are an amazing creator and deserve a bigger platform!!
Pre-ordering now; pls accompany it with a pisstake 'Autism $peaks' style promo video à la 'I Am Autism'. WE ARE THE ROBOTS AND WE'RE COMING FOR YOUR FAMILY 😂
"Undiagnosed people know they're autistic, they know they don't fit in, they're different" AAHH SO TRUE AND THE ALIEN THING, BLEEHH. trying to get a diagnosis now at 21, thank you for speaking about this stuff ❤
yesss! Never thought I was an alien - prob bc my whole family is like this in some form or another - but not like everyone else, oh yeah. Def understood I was different.
My favorite quote ever, said by Chole, "Feelings are for the weak and for the neurotypical" lmao. I kid you not, when I told someone that I'm Autistic, I was asked, "Do you experience emotions"? I was puzzled by that question
It amazes me that we're the ones thought of as incapable of empathy when it's the neurotypicals who are unable to empathize with us enough to realize that we do
When I told someone I was autistic, they said “you seem fine”. I ABANDONED that person, I was so mad at them. I was going to try and educate them about autism, but they obviously weren’t willing to learn anything, so I got rid of them.
When she mentioned that undiagnosed children know they're different, but just don't know why. That's what I've always felt, though I'm not diagnosed with autism I find autism very relatable.
I didn’t get diagnosed with autism until I was 18 after fighting to be tested for 3 years I’ve also been diagnosed with adhd so they were hesitant to say I had autism bc the “symptoms” can overlap
Emotions are weird. I'm generally quite calm and even-tempered but when I feel I feel STRONGLY. Like REALLY. STRONGLY. To the point where I can't describe it, it's so intense. And it can be a little embarrassing. I just saw computer parts, like, just the boxes I got to see, at a store yesterday (computers are one of my major hyperfixations) and I started _crying._ They were so beautiful
As damn emotional rollercoaster I can confirm, emotions are weird. Few days ago I nearly started crying because ,,oMg I fEeL sO aLiVe AnD tHiS fLoWeR iS rEalLy AmAzInG (trows flower in hair) i'M gReEk NyMpH nO oNe WaTcHeS iT's EvEnInG IT'S SOMETHING LIKE ROMANTICISM". I hope no one saw this...
I think that the thinking that people on the spectrum don't feel empathy comes from misunderstanding of what empathy is. There are actually three types of empathy: emotional, somatic and cognitive. Belief that we, people on the spectrum lack empathy in general, stems from the fact that we may struggle with cognitive empathy, which is basically ability to perspective-taking, understand another's people perspective. But even if cognitive empathy isn't our strength, we still can feel emotions of others (somatic, emotional empathy).
"We're not the ones that need to change, it's society" facts. Also totally relate to the part about normal seeming boring like why would anyone wanna be normal?
Me: [wondering if I also have autism or if it’s all just ADHD] Princess Aspian: [just vibing] Me: [vibing along] Wow, I really resonate with this girl. Princess Aspian: I have ADHD and autism! Me: [surprised pikachu face]
Autism often will have a lot of "comorbitities"! So it's really common to have anxiety, depression, ADHD, OCD, and other things like that that go along with Autism! C:
Adhd & Autism can go hand in hand a lot. So you could! I have autism (also ocd) and will be getting tested to see if I have adhd! :D I probably have a lot of disabilities lol-
I relate to a lot of people on the neourdivergent spectrum and with a lot of criteria that I’ve researched but I can’t tell if that’s just because of my anxiety or depression🤷🏻♀️😂
Feeling intense empathy and not knowing how to express it is one of the things I hate about being neurodivergent. It's so painful when my friends are upset and I can't work out how to help or even show them that I care.
I recently found out I have ADHD and I was always called weird when I was a kid. I always took it as a compliment because who wants to be “normal”? That’s boring.
The empathy part is so true, there’s so many times where someone else around me is crying and I just start crying with them instead of comforting them??? Like I just can’t take seeing other people in distress I have to like cry about it
@@caitie226 I have 1 specific drive that I love and I dont get to do it anymore so now I just barely drive. Or if I do drive I bring my dog to calm me down
Like Soylent Green Soda, it varies from person to person for taste: how well do they drive? I got an ASD diagnosis in 2002, an ADHD diagnosis added to that last month, I’ve been driving for about 33 years now, perhaps I lost track a little. Most of the cases where I’ve been a driver and an accident has occurred involved me and my cars at a stop, of all things. Once I got t-boned by a car I turned in front of that was impossible to see as it was coming straight out of the setting sun, so I was blinded. I’ve accidentally minorly scratched some parked cars. Once, driving my sister’s car, someone insisted on occupying the same lane I was in while I was there, I had the right of way, as they turned into me. I’ve done multiple road trips of several thousand miles without incidents so far as any real import, unless you consider speeding ;) September 2022 I put about 6,000 miles on my car on one spanning from the Seattle area to Michigan and back, and points along the way, including driving some interesting ungrated mountain gravel roads 8 miles from downtown Boulder, Colorado: simply ended up with a dirty car. My older autistic sister, whom I suspect may also have ADHD? She has problems with riding a bicycle due to the stresses that she doesn’t handle well. She’s never driven nor (to the best of my knowledge) expressed an interest in trying to learn. She’s more rigid in many ways than I am. She can’t handle stress nearly as well, and is too slow to respond to many things happening for it to make sense for her to drive a car. Myself, when I’m conscious, I don’t think in pictures without a HUGE amount of concentration to reduce the amount of interference from my senses, though I can do it readily in a lucid dreaming scenario, and sometimes I’m in the weird in-between state of incorporating outside senses such as sound into dreams and creating visuals to match, with perhaps a small lip synch issue. I suspect my sister consciously thinks in pictures, but I never thought to ask.
On labelling...my mother (who's also autistic, as was her mother) did everything she could to avoid any kind of diagnosis or other involvement from psychiatric or social services when I was young. She knew full well that we were...different, and although she didn't really have a name for it she had her suspicions. Here's the trick - I'm 43. Back in the late 70s and 80s, an autism diagnosis had one result and one result only: "special" school. I've only recently had the epiphany that I'm autistic (helpfully nudged by my wife), and having asked my mother about it...while it's frustrating that I went through school feeling like an alien, I totally get it. If she'd done the "right" thing and sought a diagnosis for me, there's no way in hell that I'd have had all the opportunities I've had, and I almost certainly wouldn't have anything like the life I do now. It's different now, though; certainly pretty bloody far from perfect, but the world is definitely waking up to the fact that autistic people _can_ (and often do) have a lifestyle similar to the one the world is built for, but it's just a bit easier if the world around them adapts...just a little bit.
Oh ! normal is a SETTING on the washing machine - had listen to that a couple of times (for those who find this sort of humor difficult I thought Chloe said sitting...)
Back in high school, I would actually google stuff about autism to see if other people understood my diagnosis. The results I got was honestly the most depressing stuff I’ve ever read. Seriously, would NOT recommend doing this to anyone trying to find self acceptance. Thank you for spreading the truth to other people who might not understand.
Asperger's has not been eradicated - it is still being diagnosed in certain places when not using the DSM-5. (It is still under the autism category though and it should no longer be used in a few years).
In Germany they are calling it aspergers beacause in germany the Diagnosis criteria is the icd10 wich is the old one with asperger Syndrom and kanner syndrom. That is the reason because aspergers is still in most of their minds because the icd11 isn‘t there yet which will be containing the new definitions.
This is interesting! I was just comparing the old OCD 10 with 11 recently. Also it's just the USA that use the DSM as a diagnositic tool. Elsewhere we use it only as a research reference. 😊
I have something that some would call mirror-pain synestesia, but it's coming to just be known as "vicarious experience" in literature. If I see people or animals in pain then I will feel a strong constricting, electrifying pain in the back of my thighs, calves, and glutes. This isn't just vivid imagery, it's visceral pain that makes me yelp, cringe, and shudder, and has been directly linked to higher empathy. Of course, I'm only autistic-suspecting at the moment. That being said, I am actually terrible at showing sympathy or empathy because being vulnerable makes me deeply uncomfortable and it is difficult for me to imagine how another person feels if I have not felt that same way before. Crying faces and voices sometimes register as funny in my brain even though I know they aren't, so I might even have a knee-jerk response to laugh when I first see someone crying. Wow, I may have less empathy than I previously thought. I also don't really "miss" friends and family the way that I feel like I should.
yes, good speech about google misconceptions, I have Autism too, and as a way of clarifying the statements you make on social awareness, yes we have problems with peoples names and numbers, etc, but this is because WE HAVE NO social BRAIN like you do, OUR brain remembers figures, pictures, extraneous details of the car journey, etc, this is what stimulates our brains, WE still love, respect others, ESPECIALLY our families, we just have no clue how to show/ say it, we know what a burden on you we are, we just can't help it, it is who / what we are. also we ARE empathetic, ESPECIALLY towards other disabilities/ disabled people, as we have a fair idea of what kind of a life everyone on the disability spectrum leads, and how essential understanding, respect and inclusion is, what it feels like to be bullied at school, etc.
Quick question! I know you're not going to see this but what do I do if I think I'm autistic, ADHD, or both but no one believes that there is anything wrong with me and I'm just quirky. I'm speaking with a psychologist and she refuses to test me because I "don't look autistic" and "don't act ADHD" when I literally have almost all the symptoms of both.
If you live with your family and feel confident enough to do it, try to explain everything to them! If they don't understand, you could try to talk to someone else. And if you live alone, seek another psychologist. She may even be good in other aspects but if you're seeking for a diagnosis, someone who thinks Autism/ADHD is something someone can "look like they are" is probably not the one that will help you about this.
I think it is odd that your psychologist would be disregarding your questions and for saying something so blunt and uneducated as “you don’t act autistic”, so if you think a diagnosis will help you get further in life, it might be a good idea to speak to another psychologist or councillor to seek their opinion on the matter. It is quite a long process to get tested for ASD (at least it was for me) and took over a year for me to get my diagnosis because my physiologist was completely booked and I can’t leave the house so she had to drive to my house. But if you find you relate to a lot (most even) of the diagnostic criteria and autistic traits, then you very well could be. I was tested because my severe anxiety, meltdowns and lack of social skills pointed straight towards ASD. my mum was the one who asked if I wanted to be tested because she thought I could be autistic (which I am). I don’t know much about ADHD or the diagnosis process, but I presume it would be very similar to ASD testing. I am very grateful for my ASD diagnosis, because it means I can now get an assistance dog to make me more comfortable leaving the house, and I am exempt from wearing masks out (I haven’t left the house for a long time anyway) So if this would help you then a diagnosis or test would be super beneficial. I hope this is of some help to you and you can get tested! Good luck!
There are tons of autistics out there who have no diagnosis. I got lucky and got a sketchy one when I was seven, but that was after five years of fighting, denial, family who say I don't look autistic, and psychologists who say I'm just really bright. Having no diagnosis doesn't mean you're not autistic and you don't have ADHD, it means you don't have proof. You're valid whether or not your family believes you and whether or not you have a diagnosis to prove it. That being said, if you really want to pursue a diagnosis, you should know that it's more common than people think for psychologists to do what yours did. It's odd, but it happens quite a bit. This is because you're masking, and unfortunately, psychologists can't see through that. The best way to get around this is to start writing down everything in your everyday life that makes you think you're autistic and have ADHD. It doesn't matter how miniscule it is, if it's even remotely relevant, write it down. Take your time on it, this might actually involve writing it down as it comes to you over the course of a couple weeks, or even a few months. Then, when you see the psychologist again, show them that list. This way they have something concrete to look at, you don't have to defend yourself on the spot as bad, and they can't just base it off of looking at you. Good luck!
I knew my brain worked differently to 'normal' people forty years ago. I said as much to my parents and teachers but they just told me I was lazy and to try harder.
Awesome!! I love your videos omgggg I watched the video where you showed your blanket fort bed and Im getting so much inspiration from it!! Keep up the epic work :)!
BRO I WAS DIAGNOSED WAS ASPERGERS AND LIKE BRO I THOUGHT I FELT THE MOST EMOTIONS EVER 😭 My empathy is also through the roof to the point where its a literal problem! My emotions, mostly due to my anxiety, are very extreme, in both good and bad ways.
Chloe, I so LOVE your "Beauty in Neuordiversity" Butterfly T-Shirt:)!!! And I so LOVE your floral headband, your locket, and your choker necklace:)!! And people do ask the craziest questions. I know people with Autism have "feelings\emotions" because I dated a Boy in High School who was in my L.D. Class and he is Autistic. When I went to High School in the 80s, nothing was known about Autism. My Ex-Boyfriend is now a Psychologist. Well, I happened to read a story that involved him. He helped an Autistic Teenager in England who was about to "commit suicide because he was so badly mistreated" because "he is Autistic". My Ex-Boyfriend told the Young Man that he can have "free Therapy" and my Ex-Boyfriend got help "to raise the money" for this Teenager's Plane Fare to America. Our relationship did not work out because we were young, my Ex-Boyfriend had a lot of anger, and we were not right for each other. However, As an Adult, I am happy the my Ex-Boyfriend as a Psychologist had the "feelings of compassion" to help this Young Man from England:)!! For this reason I can truly say yes, people with Autism have emotions and I also know because Chloe has emotions!! God Bless you Chloe for all the good you do:)!!!
I never understood having been in a wreck to be an indicator of good driving. I've been in 3 or 4. But how many times have I safely driven? Like a thousand times, literally. So that's an almost 100% success rate with less than 1% rate of failure. In my opinion that's pretty good (pls dont point out that even horrendous drivers most likely have a low ratio of wreck vs no-wreck driving instances lmao)
In my opinion a lot of the "problems" that show up with autism are caused by too much empathy as opposed to too little. The problem is to neurotypical/sociopathical onlookers the results of too much and not enough empathy are very similar. When 2 people fight a third party person with too much or too little empathy will do their best to ignore it. If they have too little it's because the fight is an annoyance. If they have too much empathy they dont want too feel the fight inside themselves. Now the biggest problem is sociopaths(those lacking empathy) will do their best to pretend to have too much instead. So to the neurotypical psychologist what is the difference?
Don't worry about the car thing, I've been driving for four years and I've totaled three cars. 1 arguably wasn't my fault and the last one DEFINITELY wasn't my fault, but my point is it that it's just part of life sometimes
A lack of empathy is a trait of psychopathy, not autism. Autistic people may be less expressive emotionally than neuro typicals, which can be misinterpreted as being aloof.
I actively reach out to my family that is spread all over the U.S. now because they have accused me of not caring about them. It's exhausting. But I've learned it's how they feel love, so it's worth the hard effort to me... My friends understand I come and go, and if they can't understand that, I've learned it's okay to let them drift away.
Hey can you talk about the show atypical? As someone who's not diagnosed with autism but from self-evaluation most likely is on the spectrum. I personally like the show all around but I'm just curious about what your perspective is.
So glad I found your channel. I'm currently in the process of getting a diagnosis at 25 and your videos are helping me understand myself more. I never even knew people ask these things! Shows just how socially unaware I can be at times lol.
Hey. I know the autism diagnosis process can be long and overwhelming, so here's some virtual hugs for you! (Or if you don't like hugs, good vibes!) Also if you have any questions about the process or anything else then this community is pretty much perfect!
yes, we do have emotion, just not the ability to show / control it sometimes. for example, just the thought of a soundtrack of a movie, sometimes gets us teary, just because it stimulates us in that direction so strongly we have no control, we just cry.
I am seeing a lot of similar themes that were popular when folks were asking questions about people who got beat and murdered for the way they are. I hope that doesn't happen that would be sad.
on the note of working! some autistic ppl might actually thrive better than neurotypical ppl in 9 to 5 jobs bc we love structure and routine, and a 9 to 5 job can give us that. i work in retail and i love it bc of how repetitive it is
Ivr always known I wasn't normal. But I also know that there isn't such a thing as normal. No one is really normal. We're all a little weird in our own way
Your so inspiering and make me smile everyday This may sound weird but you are honestly so pretty and im 13 so whem in older i pray i look like you your honestly amazing !!!! ❤❤❤❤🌻🌻🌻🥝🥝🥝🍉🍉🍉🥰🥰🥰🥰
Hi, Chloe! I'm relatively new to your channel and I'm loving your aura. ❤️ I'm a suspect autistic and your videos helped me understand autism better. Hope you are well!
You should get tested for it. I got tested for ADHD and it took me a while to get diagnosed. I was not diagnosed until 3rd grade and I HIGHLY recommend that you get tested. (If it’s safe and worth it in these times.)
@@maddykrantz Hey there! Thanks for your concern. I do want to get tested but right now I'm just seeking to learn as much as I can about ASD. Consultations are pretty expensive in my country, and I want to make sure I sufficiently understand ASD (if that's even possible) before getting into testing. I'm quite afraid that I'd be seen as a hypochondriac...
I love love love your sense of style. It reminds me of a pastel pixie meets Stevie Nicks/Fleetwood Mac vibe? Like you would own a pastel tambourine and endless ribbons to meet with your pixie energy.
I usually miss people right after I’ve said goodbye and I know I wont be able to see them for a long time and right after meeting up with someone after not seeing them for a while. But in between I really don’t
It should be noted that when people ask this questions they are usually thinking about level 3 autism, a lot of times they don't know about the mild and light flavors.
Although I wouldn’t be able to try and get an ADHD (or autism but this comment in particular is about ADHD) diagnosis until after I become an adult, is there a way of knowing whether there would be any point in trying to get a diagnosis or whether it is just my personality type because I’m an INFP and a lot of INFPs show ADHD traits.
My mum says dumb stuff like “most parents who have kids at 40+ have autistic kids” it’s kind of really weird, and I don’t get it because it doesn’t make sense
My uncle is autistic, one of my grandmas is autistic, my cousin is autistic and I also suspect some of my other family members of being autistic. I think I’m autistic
She was being sarcastic, don't worry. It can be hard to tell but anytime in this video where she was agreeing with an outlandish statement was her being sarcastic. That tends to be the way Autistic people "do" sarcasm but it can be hard for both other Autistics and NTs to pick up on lol
When missing some emotional concepts and with brain-body disconnect / missing interoception i think it could be said that autistic people do not feel emotions, but it does not meen feeling nothing. As far as i know autistic people have to rely on affect - valence and arousal and life experiences and words .... just read one book so i could be wrong. it is maybe the reason why i instead of sharing emotion share my story of feeling the same - when alexithymia "works"
„What is normal? Normal is a setting on the washing machine“- my new fav quote.
I was looking for thisss yess! I love it !
I'm p sure it's an old ashley purdy quote
If she makes merch with that quote on it im going to buy it the minute it comes out!
that’s amazing omg
I found a sticker that said that on etsy
Absolutely turning ‘feelings are for the weak and for the neurotypical’ into my next merch tbh
P L E A S E
I would love that.... also can you make some merch that are less girly I would love that! I’m genderfluid but am closeted so to everyone who doesn’t know I’m a man and would love to get some of your merch but it’s all more aimed at girls imo. You are an amazing creator and deserve a bigger platform!!
Do it
Omg yeeeessss I need that
Pre-ordering now; pls accompany it with a pisstake 'Autism $peaks' style promo video à la 'I Am Autism'. WE ARE THE ROBOTS AND WE'RE COMING FOR YOUR FAMILY 😂
"Why do autistic people rock"
Because that's how awesome we are.😎
"Can autism go away"
"Yes. Don't have children"
Lol
Yes they can leave and be adopted by a loving family
"Undiagnosed people know they're autistic, they know they don't fit in, they're different" AAHH SO TRUE AND THE ALIEN THING, BLEEHH. trying to get a diagnosis now at 21, thank you for speaking about this stuff ❤
yesss! Never thought I was an alien - prob bc my whole family is like this in some form or another - but not like everyone else, oh yeah. Def understood I was different.
My favorite quote ever, said by Chole, "Feelings are for the weak and for the neurotypical" lmao. I kid you not, when I told someone that I'm Autistic, I was asked, "Do you experience emotions"? I was puzzled by that question
Yeah I think everyone is just emotional but some others don't want to express it.
We do experience emotions it just takes us longer to process them and understand ourselves
Best response to that question is: Does an all consuming rage to strangle you to death count as an emotion?
B.
It amazes me that we're the ones thought of as incapable of empathy when it's the neurotypicals who are unable to empathize with us enough to realize that we do
When I told someone I was autistic, they said “you seem fine”. I ABANDONED that person, I was so mad at them. I was going to try and educate them about autism, but they obviously weren’t willing to learn anything, so I got rid of them.
When she mentioned that undiagnosed children know they're different, but just don't know why. That's what I've always felt, though I'm not diagnosed with autism I find autism very relatable.
I didn’t get diagnosed with autism until I was 18 after fighting to be tested for 3 years I’ve also been diagnosed with adhd so they were hesitant to say I had autism bc the “symptoms” can overlap
My favourite quote. You’ve met one autistic person, you’ve met one autistic person.
"Can autistic children become normal? I bloody well hope not!" YES MATE ✊🏽✊🏻✊🏾✊✊🏿✊🏼
Emotions are weird. I'm generally quite calm and even-tempered but when I feel I feel STRONGLY. Like REALLY. STRONGLY. To the point where I can't describe it, it's so intense. And it can be a little embarrassing. I just saw computer parts, like, just the boxes I got to see, at a store yesterday (computers are one of my major hyperfixations) and I started _crying._ They were so beautiful
As damn emotional rollercoaster I can confirm, emotions are weird. Few days ago I nearly started crying because ,,oMg I fEeL sO aLiVe AnD tHiS fLoWeR iS rEalLy AmAzInG (trows flower in hair) i'M gReEk NyMpH nO oNe WaTcHeS iT's EvEnInG IT'S SOMETHING LIKE ROMANTICISM".
I hope no one saw this...
@@nietoperzzszafy29966 months later and here I am seeing this random Greek nymphs confession
I cry for everything it’s so embarrassing. Better when your a girl. People over look it as hormones.
I think that the thinking that people on the spectrum don't feel empathy comes from misunderstanding of what empathy is. There are actually three types of empathy: emotional, somatic and cognitive. Belief that we, people on the spectrum lack empathy in general, stems from the fact that we may struggle with cognitive empathy, which is basically ability to perspective-taking, understand another's people perspective. But even if cognitive empathy isn't our strength, we still can feel emotions of others (somatic, emotional empathy).
Thank you, alot of people think not having empathy is not having the ability to be kind and caring.
“Can autism be prevented? Yes, by not having children.” You’re hilarious!
"We're not the ones that need to change, it's society" facts.
Also totally relate to the part about normal seeming boring like why would anyone wanna be normal?
I have aspergers and have always felt the out of sight, out of mind thing with people. Thanks for talking about it!
Me, when it comes to friends and family dying 😣
"They're just, like, on vacation somewhere, without access to their phone or internet.."
LMAO HER FACE AT “Can autistic people drive?” I could tell she was gonna talk about her various car accidents
Love ya Chloe lol
Me: [wondering if I also have autism or if it’s all just ADHD]
Princess Aspian: [just vibing]
Me: [vibing along] Wow, I really resonate with this girl.
Princess Aspian: I have ADHD and autism!
Me: [surprised pikachu face]
Autism often will have a lot of "comorbitities"! So it's really common to have anxiety, depression, ADHD, OCD, and other things like that that go along with Autism! C:
Adhd & Autism can go hand in hand a lot. So you could! I have autism (also ocd) and will be getting tested to see if I have adhd! :D
I probably have a lot of disabilities lol-
yeah! I think there might be a chance i have both or have autism instead of adhd that i thought it was for a long time
I relate to a lot of people on the neourdivergent spectrum and with a lot of criteria that I’ve researched but I can’t tell if that’s just because of my anxiety or depression🤷🏻♀️😂
Me like 8 months ago lol. Then I got a diagnosis and now I'm vibing with both.
This has to be my favorite outfit and makeup that you’ve done for a video yet! The soft pinks and soft greens really pop!
I NEED merch that says “Normal is a setting on a washing machine”
Feeling intense empathy and not knowing how to express it is one of the things I hate about being neurodivergent. It's so painful when my friends are upset and I can't work out how to help or even show them that I care.
I recently found out I have ADHD and I was always called weird when I was a kid. I always took it as a compliment because who wants to be “normal”? That’s boring.
You are a more chaotic version of me and it's amazing.
back in 4th grade me and my friend would say normal is weird 🙃
I honestly didn’t think I was different until I found out about my ASD diagnosis.
The empathy part is so true, there’s so many times where someone else around me is crying and I just start crying with them instead of comforting them??? Like I just can’t take seeing other people in distress I have to like cry about it
I 👏🏻 LOVE 👏🏻 THIS! 👏🏻 Own those neurotypicals girl!
God I love your energy so much. I’m rarely hyperactive like that I’m more inattentive 24/7
I love you butterfly shirt so much!!!
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Can autistic ppl drive? Yes? Can ppl people with autism AND adhd drive? I mean legally we can.
Like people asking me why I'm not relaxing behind the wheel and just THIS IS A VERY DANGEROUS ACTIVITY OKAY
@@caitie226 I have 1 specific drive that I love and I dont get to do it anymore so now I just barely drive. Or if I do drive I bring my dog to calm me down
I got adhd and i’m supposed to get my driver license in summer(turn 18) and i’m terrified. Like i am scared bcuz my focus can shift in any minute
Like Soylent Green Soda, it varies from person to person for taste: how well do they drive?
I got an ASD diagnosis in 2002, an ADHD diagnosis added to that last month, I’ve been driving for about 33 years now, perhaps I lost track a little.
Most of the cases where I’ve been a driver and an accident has occurred involved me and my cars at a stop, of all things. Once I got t-boned by a car I turned in front of that was impossible to see as it was coming straight out of the setting sun, so I was blinded. I’ve accidentally minorly scratched some parked cars. Once, driving my sister’s car, someone insisted on occupying the same lane I was in while I was there, I had the right of way, as they turned into me.
I’ve done multiple road trips of several thousand miles without incidents so far as any real import, unless you consider speeding ;) September 2022 I put about 6,000 miles on my car on one spanning from the Seattle area to Michigan and back, and points along the way, including driving some interesting ungrated mountain gravel roads 8 miles from downtown Boulder, Colorado: simply ended up with a dirty car.
My older autistic sister, whom I suspect may also have ADHD? She has problems with riding a bicycle due to the stresses that she doesn’t handle well. She’s never driven nor (to the best of my knowledge) expressed an interest in trying to learn. She’s more rigid in many ways than I am. She can’t handle stress nearly as well, and is too slow to respond to many things happening for it to make sense for her to drive a car. Myself, when I’m conscious, I don’t think in pictures without a HUGE amount of concentration to reduce the amount of interference from my senses, though I can do it readily in a lucid dreaming scenario, and sometimes I’m in the weird in-between state of incorporating outside senses such as sound into dreams and creating visuals to match, with perhaps a small lip synch issue. I suspect my sister consciously thinks in pictures, but I never thought to ask.
Could you do Google's most asked questions on adhd. I love this video
On labelling...my mother (who's also autistic, as was her mother) did everything she could to avoid any kind of diagnosis or other involvement from psychiatric or social services when I was young. She knew full well that we were...different, and although she didn't really have a name for it she had her suspicions. Here's the trick - I'm 43. Back in the late 70s and 80s, an autism diagnosis had one result and one result only: "special" school. I've only recently had the epiphany that I'm autistic (helpfully nudged by my wife), and having asked my mother about it...while it's frustrating that I went through school feeling like an alien, I totally get it. If she'd done the "right" thing and sought a diagnosis for me, there's no way in hell that I'd have had all the opportunities I've had, and I almost certainly wouldn't have anything like the life I do now.
It's different now, though; certainly pretty bloody far from perfect, but the world is definitely waking up to the fact that autistic people _can_ (and often do) have a lifestyle similar to the one the world is built for, but it's just a bit easier if the world around them adapts...just a little bit.
Oh ! normal is a SETTING on the washing machine - had listen to that a couple of times (for those who find this sort of humor difficult I thought Chloe said sitting...)
Back in high school, I would actually google stuff about autism to see if other people understood my diagnosis. The results I got was honestly the most depressing stuff I’ve ever read. Seriously, would NOT recommend doing this to anyone trying to find self acceptance. Thank you for spreading the truth to other people who might not understand.
Asperger's has not been eradicated - it is still being diagnosed in certain places when not using the DSM-5. (It is still under the autism category though and it should no longer be used in a few years).
In Germany they are calling it aspergers beacause in germany the Diagnosis criteria is the icd10 wich is the old one with asperger Syndrom and kanner syndrom. That is the reason because aspergers is still in most of their minds because the icd11 isn‘t there yet which will be containing the new definitions.
This is interesting! I was just comparing the old OCD 10 with 11 recently. Also it's just the USA that use the DSM as a diagnositic tool. Elsewhere we use it only as a research reference. 😊
Yes, I can't wait for 2022 and criterias to change.
I wanted to add that as well. I got my formal diagnosis/assesment a couple days ago and it says Asperger's Syndrome.
the one from 7:25 forward: YES GIRL
not me going off to google all this stuff to see what the people who googled it saw
I love you so much. You have helped me so much through my autism
I have something that some would call mirror-pain synestesia, but it's coming to just be known as "vicarious experience" in literature. If I see people or animals in pain then I will feel a strong constricting, electrifying pain in the back of my thighs, calves, and glutes. This isn't just vivid imagery, it's visceral pain that makes me yelp, cringe, and shudder, and has been directly linked to higher empathy. Of course, I'm only autistic-suspecting at the moment. That being said, I am actually terrible at showing sympathy or empathy because being vulnerable makes me deeply uncomfortable and it is difficult for me to imagine how another person feels if I have not felt that same way before. Crying faces and voices sometimes register as funny in my brain even though I know they aren't, so I might even have a knee-jerk response to laugh when I first see someone crying. Wow, I may have less empathy than I previously thought.
I also don't really "miss" friends and family the way that I feel like I should.
Me crossing my fingers that I get Princess Aspien merch for Christmas 🙊
Did you?
@@ratkid4560 I got a “different not less” pin! 💗
@@auroraswarriors that's awesome! I remember the kevin chapman different not less merch. Merry Christmas (:
It took me way too long to try to figure out when you were being sarcastic or giving an actual answer lmao I can never tell 😂
yes, good speech about google misconceptions, I have Autism too, and as a way of clarifying the statements you make on social awareness, yes we have problems with peoples names and numbers, etc, but this is because WE HAVE NO social BRAIN like you do, OUR brain remembers figures, pictures, extraneous details of the car journey, etc, this is what stimulates our brains, WE still love, respect others, ESPECIALLY our families, we just have no clue how to show/ say it, we know what a burden on you we are, we just can't help it, it is who / what we are.
also we ARE empathetic, ESPECIALLY towards other disabilities/ disabled people, as we have a fair idea of what kind of a life everyone on the disability spectrum leads, and how essential understanding, respect and inclusion is, what it feels like to be bullied at school, etc.
"Drink up!" hahaha i died at that matcha bit!
cutest youtube thumbnail ever
"What is normal? Normal is a setting on the washing machine."
"Whats normal to the spider is chaos to the fly."
Quick question! I know you're not going to see this but what do I do if I think I'm autistic, ADHD, or both but no one believes that there is anything wrong with me and I'm just quirky. I'm speaking with a psychologist and she refuses to test me because I "don't look autistic" and "don't act ADHD" when I literally have almost all the symptoms of both.
If you live with your family and feel confident enough to do it, try to explain everything to them! If they don't understand, you could try to talk to someone else. And if you live alone, seek another psychologist. She may even be good in other aspects but if you're seeking for a diagnosis, someone who thinks Autism/ADHD is something someone can "look like they are" is probably not the one that will help you about this.
I think it is odd that your psychologist would be disregarding your questions and for saying something so blunt and uneducated as “you don’t act autistic”, so if you think a diagnosis will help you get further in life, it might be a good idea to speak to another psychologist or councillor to seek their opinion on the matter. It is quite a long process to get tested for ASD (at least it was for me) and took over a year for me to get my diagnosis because my physiologist was completely booked and I can’t leave the house so she had to drive to my house. But if you find you relate to a lot (most even) of the diagnostic criteria and autistic traits, then you very well could be. I was tested because my severe anxiety, meltdowns and lack of social skills pointed straight towards ASD. my mum was the one who asked if I wanted to be tested because she thought I could be autistic (which I am). I don’t know much about ADHD or the diagnosis process, but I presume it would be very similar to ASD testing. I am very grateful for my ASD diagnosis, because it means I can now get an assistance dog to make me more comfortable leaving the house, and I am exempt from wearing masks out (I haven’t left the house for a long time anyway) So if this would help you then a diagnosis or test would be super beneficial.
I hope this is of some help to you and you can get tested! Good luck!
@@auroraswarriors Thank you so much for the advice
@@mannuzan8791 Thank you for the advice
There are tons of autistics out there who have no diagnosis. I got lucky and got a sketchy one when I was seven, but that was after five years of fighting, denial, family who say I don't look autistic, and psychologists who say I'm just really bright. Having no diagnosis doesn't mean you're not autistic and you don't have ADHD, it means you don't have proof. You're valid whether or not your family believes you and whether or not you have a diagnosis to prove it.
That being said, if you really want to pursue a diagnosis, you should know that it's more common than people think for psychologists to do what yours did. It's odd, but it happens quite a bit. This is because you're masking, and unfortunately, psychologists can't see through that. The best way to get around this is to start writing down everything in your everyday life that makes you think you're autistic and have ADHD. It doesn't matter how miniscule it is, if it's even remotely relevant, write it down. Take your time on it, this might actually involve writing it down as it comes to you over the course of a couple weeks, or even a few months. Then, when you see the psychologist again, show them that list. This way they have something concrete to look at, you don't have to defend yourself on the spot as bad, and they can't just base it off of looking at you. Good luck!
Omg your energy!! I just love it😂😂💕💕💕💕💕
I knew my brain worked differently to 'normal' people forty years ago. I said as much to my parents and teachers but they just told me I was lazy and to try harder.
Where are you getting your flower crowns I love them!!!! I seriously want one for my horse lol
You can find them online or even in two dollar shops, or you can make your own! I made my own one inspired by Chloé
@@auroraswarriors That’s really cool!!!
I’ve been recently been diagnosed with ADHD and Autism. My psychologist told me about you. I love your channel!
I thought that by "why do autistic people rock" they meant like... rock-star rock and was so happy. Life is disappointing.
Same
Awesome!! I love your videos omgggg
I watched the video where you showed your blanket fort bed and Im getting so much inspiration from it!!
Keep up the epic work :)!
BRO I WAS DIAGNOSED WAS ASPERGERS AND LIKE BRO I THOUGHT I FELT THE MOST EMOTIONS EVER 😭 My empathy is also through the roof to the point where its a literal problem! My emotions, mostly due to my anxiety, are very extreme, in both good and bad ways.
I love when autistic people make merch. Because I know it will be me-friendly.
Yes I love matcha! ❤️ It's so good (well prepared right)
The whole object permanence bleeding into your relationships is so true 🤦🏾♀️😭🤭
Thank you for talking about it 💕💕
I got sooo excited when I saw on your Insta story that you posted a YT video! I was like yaaaaass queeeen!
You remind me of Björk. Btw I love how fast and precisely you speak. I normally listen to videos on 1.5 because people just speak too slow haha
Chloe, I so LOVE your "Beauty in Neuordiversity" Butterfly T-Shirt:)!!! And I so LOVE your floral headband, your locket, and your choker necklace:)!! And people do ask the craziest questions. I know people with Autism have "feelings\emotions" because I dated a Boy in High School who was in my L.D. Class and he is Autistic. When I went to High School in the 80s, nothing was known about Autism. My Ex-Boyfriend is now a Psychologist. Well, I happened to read a story that involved him. He helped an Autistic Teenager in England who was about to "commit suicide because he was so badly mistreated" because "he is Autistic". My Ex-Boyfriend told the Young Man that he can have "free Therapy" and my Ex-Boyfriend got help "to raise the money" for this Teenager's Plane Fare to America. Our relationship did not work out because we were young, my Ex-Boyfriend had a lot of anger, and we were not right for each other. However, As an Adult, I am happy the my Ex-Boyfriend as a Psychologist had the "feelings of compassion" to help this Young Man from England:)!! For this reason I can truly say yes, people with Autism have emotions and I also know because Chloe has emotions!! God Bless you Chloe for all the good you do:)!!!
6:01 wow. That hit hard. I would love to have that label. It would explain everything
I have adhd and watch all videos on x1.75. Not yours. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ So glad I found you!!! You're amazinggg
I'm literally obsessed with your videos
There is no such thing as normal. You are right.❤
You are so amazing, Chloe!!
I never understood having been in a wreck to be an indicator of good driving. I've been in 3 or 4. But how many times have I safely driven? Like a thousand times, literally. So that's an almost 100% success rate with less than 1% rate of failure. In my opinion that's pretty good
(pls dont point out that even horrendous drivers most likely have a low ratio of wreck vs no-wreck driving instances lmao)
In my opinion a lot of the "problems" that show up with autism are caused by too much empathy as opposed to too little. The problem is to neurotypical/sociopathical onlookers the results of too much and not enough empathy are very similar. When 2 people fight a third party person with too much or too little empathy will do their best to ignore it. If they have too little it's because the fight is an annoyance. If they have too much empathy they dont want too feel the fight inside themselves. Now the biggest problem is sociopaths(those lacking empathy) will do their best to pretend to have too much instead. So to the neurotypical psychologist what is the difference?
Don't worry about the car thing, I've been driving for four years and I've totaled three cars. 1 arguably wasn't my fault and the last one DEFINITELY wasn't my fault, but my point is it that it's just part of life sometimes
A lack of empathy is a trait of psychopathy, not autism. Autistic people may be less expressive emotionally than neuro typicals, which can be misinterpreted as being aloof.
I came across one that asked if autistic people can have kids... Uhhh, okay let me go ask my five kids if I can have kids lol
I actively reach out to my family that is spread all over the U.S. now because they have accused me of not caring about them. It's exhausting. But I've learned it's how they feel love, so it's worth the hard effort to me... My friends understand I come and go, and if they can't understand that, I've learned it's okay to let them drift away.
Hey can you talk about the show atypical? As someone who's not diagnosed with autism but from self-evaluation most likely is on the spectrum. I personally like the show all around but I'm just curious about what your perspective is.
So glad I found your channel. I'm currently in the process of getting a diagnosis at 25 and your videos are helping me understand myself more. I never even knew people ask these things! Shows just how socially unaware I can be at times lol.
Hey. I know the autism diagnosis process can be long and overwhelming, so here's some virtual hugs for you! (Or if you don't like hugs, good vibes!) Also if you have any questions about the process or anything else then this community is pretty much perfect!
yes, we do have emotion, just not the ability to show / control it sometimes. for example, just the thought of a soundtrack of a movie, sometimes gets us teary, just because it stimulates us in that direction so strongly we have no control, we just cry.
I am seeing a lot of similar themes that were popular when folks were asking questions about people who got beat and murdered for the way they are. I hope that doesn't happen that would be sad.
Not like there already were a bunch of autistic mass murders
Tags bother me so much so I get really excited for your merch
on the note of working! some autistic ppl might actually thrive better than neurotypical ppl in 9 to 5 jobs bc we love structure and routine, and a 9 to 5 job can give us that. i work in retail and i love it bc of how repetitive it is
Ivr always known I wasn't normal. But I also know that there isn't such a thing as normal. No one is really normal. We're all a little weird in our own way
That’s always what I look for in clothing zero tags they are the bane of my existence 😂
Your so inspiering and make me smile everyday
This may sound weird but you are honestly so pretty and im 13 so whem in older i pray i look like you your honestly amazing !!!! ❤❤❤❤🌻🌻🌻🥝🥝🥝🍉🍉🍉🥰🥰🥰🥰
CONGRATS!! Your on an offical UA-cam playlist for Women’s day! Also, I love your flower crown!
Hi, Chloe! I'm relatively new to your channel and I'm loving your aura. ❤️ I'm a suspect autistic and your videos helped me understand autism better. Hope you are well!
You should get tested for it. I got tested for ADHD and it took me a while to get diagnosed. I was not diagnosed until 3rd grade and I HIGHLY recommend that you get tested. (If it’s safe and worth it in these times.)
@@maddykrantz Hey there! Thanks for your concern. I do want to get tested but right now I'm just seeking to learn as much as I can about ASD. Consultations are pretty expensive in my country, and I want to make sure I sufficiently understand ASD (if that's even possible) before getting into testing. I'm quite afraid that I'd be seen as a hypochondriac...
I love love love your sense of style. It reminds me of a pastel pixie meets Stevie Nicks/Fleetwood Mac vibe? Like you would own a pastel tambourine and endless ribbons to meet with your pixie energy.
Sorry if it sounded weird, I'm a first time poster but a long time viewer.
I usually miss people right after I’ve said goodbye and I know I wont be able to see them for a long time and right after meeting up with someone after not seeing them for a while. But in between I really don’t
It should be noted that when people ask this questions they are usually thinking about level 3 autism, a lot of times they don't know about the mild and light flavors.
You’re my favourite UA-camr, i found you like a week ago and you have already raised my confidence 📈📈📈📈
I love your energy
Although I wouldn’t be able to try and get an ADHD (or autism but this comment in particular is about ADHD) diagnosis until after I become an adult, is there a way of knowing whether there would be any point in trying to get a diagnosis or whether it is just my personality type because I’m an INFP and a lot of INFPs show ADHD traits.
My mum says dumb stuff like “most parents who have kids at 40+ have autistic kids” it’s kind of really weird, and I don’t get it because it doesn’t make sense
I am such an empathetic, emotional person like I just feel so incredibly deeply. I can't lie I cry so so so much and easy
Trains haha 😂 a freaking doctor told me I couldn't be autistic cause I didn't like trains..... 🤦🏼♀️
I for some reason just say I like trains and also I like clicking my pen which gets me in trouble
“Also regularly cry about one direction” same
Your shirt is too cool
My uncle is autistic, one of my grandmas is autistic, my cousin is autistic and I also suspect some of my other family members of being autistic. I think I’m autistic
Your giggle is the sweetest!
$7 woot woot I'd take that money... Lol I'm such an anxious driver
I do get it nearly 40 Aspie female diagnosed at 23, only drive an automatic and even though I got my license at 18 still a nervous driver
I am autistic and married. You might have been saying this sarcastically but I want to know 😂
She was being sarcastic, don't worry.
It can be hard to tell but anytime in this video where she was agreeing with an outlandish statement was her being sarcastic. That tends to be the way Autistic people "do" sarcasm but it can be hard for both other Autistics and NTs to pick up on lol
When missing some emotional concepts and with brain-body disconnect / missing interoception i think it could be said that autistic people do not feel emotions, but it does not meen feeling nothing. As far as i know autistic people have to rely on affect - valence and arousal and life experiences and words .... just read one book so i could be wrong. it is maybe the reason why i instead of sharing emotion share my story of feeling the same - when alexithymia "works"
One of my favorite quotes from A Seperate Peace is “Normal.. what a stupid ass word that is” lol
My autistic cousin went for her L plates on her birthday a few days ago and got them first try so yes they can very well drive 💕☺️🙂
Love this video. Also best thing in my life is watching your videos in 1.5X speed :)
I knew I was different from others but I always thought they were the weird ones.