This is exactly what happened with me and my long term partner. We shared a trauma bond of narc parents but she hadn't healed yet. Our relationship started from me educating her on narcississm until red flags started to show with her. When I told her it can be NPD and how, she discarded,silent treatment (narc injury) a few times then acted as she had an epiphany when she returned. She actually got triggered by 1 of your videos about silent treatment and went off on a rage saying you're lying. It donned on me after the last discard and hoover she's a full blown covert narc that blames her trauma and actions on the past that rejects solutions. Slowly but surely no contact.
My mom would say horrible things to me as a child when I would get sad she would light up with a smile. As an elderly person now she has to always insult me for no reason. Now that I have done this work of understanding narcissistic people it doesn't bother me. But as she gets older I don't think she could ever live with me..
The quicker you become indifferent the quicker that demon energy they put on you will go back to them .get indifferent and let the devil do his job working their mind
I have someone like that my wife when she's unhappy when something's not going her way her finances not where they should be and the reason for that she chooses not to go to work come up with reasons her son not being alive the distance is too far to drive her body aches and so on always some excuse. I'm not the perfect husband I have flaws too but I don't blame anyone for my wrongdoing or the wrong choices in my life I've made. This marriage has been going on seven years and I see no happiness in this marriage. This is my second marriage and this is her third marriage. I have two children from a previous marriage she has two adult children had a third but he's deceased now. Her children now are 33 and 31 adults . My children are 26 and young adults as well and 17 that lives with us and when she can't see flaws in me she looks for flaws in her. But before my seventeen-year-old came to live with me her oldest and her youngest lived with us two adult males that didn't want to work very disrespectful did what they wanted to do like this new millennium . I can go on and on I'm trying to make it work but I'm getting tired of the blaming sarcasm remarks even some threat it has turned me away.
I'm sorry you are going through this, it sounds really difficult, when I was with my ex Narcissist I use to keep a diary, as I know a lot of times, there is no one to talk to about it, and it can be incredibly frustrating and lonely, sometimes the only support a person can get is from these sites, but I can tell you from experience these people don't change, and staying isn't an option, I know from 1 st hand experience, you will end up a shell of your former self, these people completely deplete you, burn you out and and affect your over all health and your mental health, and it takes a long time to recover from the damage they do, I really hope for your sake you can find a way out, you deserve better, and to be happy in your life My wish for you is that you do get away and have a happy fulfilling life✨💜✨
I reckon it may work better if we stop talking about narcissists, and instead, we talk about narcissism. I say this because nobody ever admits to being a narcissist. The other person is always the narcissist, not us. Now, imagine saying this to a friend, "I've been feeling stressed recently" What kind of answer do you think you would receive back. 1. Your friend would say something like "What do you think may be causing it?" or 2. Would they say something like "Exercise is key. Exercise and diet. I use dietary supplements myself, but I find exercise best of all. If I can't get to the gym, I go for a half hour walk" In point 1, your friend would be trying to develop empathy with you, to get inside your headspace. They would follow this question up with a series of questions - and it is unlikely they would ever get to telling you what to do. Nope. All they would do is try to see your problem in their own mind, and in doing that, they will show you what is going on, as well. I won't even bother discussing point 2. It is just so commonplace now - and so tedious and boring. The worst part is, it feels like a door is closing in on you, locking you in a dungeon. Do you ask questions of others? I know you're not a narcissist, but when was the last time you tried to get inside somebody's headspace? When was the last time anybody tried getting inside your headspace - to try find out what makes you tick?
If you raised by someone makes you feel you can't do anything right wouldn't that be demoralizing? Then when you thoroughly demoralized they urge you to take urgent action makes you feel further demoralized, how much of that can one person take?
Those people end up suicidal with cptsd and usally addition to numb pain . The Bible describes narcissism as pride and ego it’s just worse now because the word of God says it will get worse that man will be lovers of themselves boosters and proud . That person will remain broken until they find Jesus Christ until Jesus saves them because even the victims of the narc can eventually display the same behaviors or only their is more victim state and more rational than the narc but none the less it will produce the me me me and I pronouns.My advice for anyone is call on the Lord Jesus Christ because salvation is in him alone . The narc is demonized.
This is exactly what happened with me and my long term partner. We shared a trauma bond of narc parents but she hadn't healed yet. Our relationship started from me educating her on narcississm until red flags started to show with her. When I told her it can be NPD and how, she discarded,silent treatment (narc injury) a few times then acted as she had an epiphany when she returned. She actually got triggered by 1 of your videos about silent treatment and went off on a rage saying you're lying. It donned on me after the last discard and hoover she's a full blown covert narc that blames her trauma and actions on the past that rejects solutions. Slowly but surely no contact.
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My mom would say horrible things to me as a child when I would get sad she would light up with a smile. As an elderly person now she has to always insult me for no reason. Now that I have done this work of understanding narcissistic people it doesn't bother me. But as she gets older I don't think she could ever live with me..
The quicker you become indifferent the quicker that demon energy they put on you will go back to them .get indifferent and let the devil do his job working their mind
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I have someone like that my wife when she's unhappy when something's not going her way her finances not where they should be and the reason for that she chooses not to go to work come up with reasons her son not being alive the distance is too far to drive her body aches and so on always some excuse. I'm not the perfect husband I have flaws too but I don't blame anyone for my wrongdoing or the wrong choices in my life I've made. This marriage has been going on seven years and I see no happiness in this marriage. This is my second marriage and this is her third marriage. I have two children from a previous marriage she has two adult children had a third but he's deceased now. Her children now are 33 and 31 adults . My children are 26 and young adults as well and 17 that lives with us and when she can't see flaws in me she looks for flaws in her. But before my seventeen-year-old came to live with me her oldest and her youngest lived with us two adult males that didn't want to work very disrespectful did what they wanted to do like this new millennium . I can go on and on I'm trying to make it work but I'm getting tired of the blaming sarcasm remarks even some threat it has turned me away.
I'm sorry you are going through this, it sounds really difficult, when I was with my ex Narcissist I use to keep a diary, as I know a lot of times, there is no one to talk to about it, and it can be incredibly frustrating and lonely, sometimes the only support a person can get is from these sites, but I can tell you from experience these people don't change, and staying isn't an option, I know from 1 st hand experience, you will end up a shell of your former self, these people completely deplete you, burn you out and and affect your over all health and your mental health, and it takes a long time to recover from the damage they do, I really hope for your sake you can find a way out, you deserve better, and to be happy in your life My wish for you is that you do get away and have a happy fulfilling life✨💜✨
I reckon it may work better if we stop talking about narcissists, and instead, we talk about narcissism. I say this because nobody ever admits to being a narcissist. The other person is always the narcissist, not us.
Now, imagine saying this to a friend, "I've been feeling stressed recently" What kind of answer do you think you would receive back. 1. Your friend would say something like "What do you think may be causing it?" or 2. Would they say something like "Exercise is key. Exercise and diet. I use dietary supplements myself, but I find exercise best of all. If I can't get to the gym, I go for a half hour walk"
In point 1, your friend would be trying to develop empathy with you, to get inside your headspace. They would follow this question up with a series of questions - and it is unlikely they would ever get to telling you what to do. Nope. All they would do is try to see your problem in their own mind, and in doing that, they will show you what is going on, as well.
I won't even bother discussing point 2. It is just so commonplace now - and so tedious and boring. The worst part is, it feels like a door is closing in on you, locking you in a dungeon. Do you ask questions of others? I know you're not a narcissist, but when was the last time you tried to get inside somebody's headspace? When was the last time anybody tried getting inside your headspace - to try find out what makes you tick?
If you raised by someone makes you feel you can't do anything right wouldn't that be demoralizing? Then when you thoroughly demoralized they urge you to take urgent action makes you feel further demoralized, how much of that can one person take?
Those people end up suicidal with cptsd and usally addition to numb pain . The Bible describes narcissism as pride and ego it’s just worse now because the word of God says it will get worse that man will be lovers of themselves boosters and proud . That person will remain broken until they find Jesus Christ until Jesus saves them because even the victims of the narc can eventually display the same behaviors or only their is more victim state and more rational than the narc but none the less it will produce the me me me and I pronouns.My advice for anyone is call on the Lord Jesus Christ because salvation is in him alone .
The narc is demonized.