The Impossible Choice: When a Crime Leads to Pregnancy

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  • @DadSavesAmerica
    @DadSavesAmerica  Місяць тому +1

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  • @JoanCouncil
    @JoanCouncil Місяць тому +19

    What a magnificent woman! I would love to see her lead in this country. Very wise. Very sweet.

  • @celianewman4809
    @celianewman4809 Місяць тому +16

    Oh I like her!!! Thank you so much for this interview. I love it when people take ownership of their life and don’t believe they’re a victim. We need more women like her to stand up and speak up. I would vote for her in a heartbeat.

  • @lisaroper421
    @lisaroper421 Місяць тому +3

    Loved this conversation! She was a fabulous guest, and I loved all the topics you covered

  • @Floccini
    @Floccini Місяць тому +11

    This reminds me that Bryan Caplan says, very few people regret having any of the children they have but most people who pass their child bearing years without any children regret that they did not have children.
    BTW Your guest seems like a wonderful woman.

    • @katiez688
      @katiez688 Місяць тому +2

      How can you or anyone know this? There is no reliable data for either points you touch on.

    • @Kathy4Truth
      @Kathy4Truth Місяць тому

      He can say it the same way people like you say 97% of all scientists believe climate change is an existential threat. Really? Do you know ALL the scientists in the world to say 97% of ALL...

    • @trumpius_maximus47
      @trumpius_maximus47 Місяць тому +1

      @@katiez688You missed out on parenthood?

    • @Oatriumph
      @Oatriumph Місяць тому

      ​@@katiez688I'm not sure i'd trust a survey. I think some hope unexpected parents will rise to the occasion. Like the gun people say however, they instead fall to the level of their training.

    • @DadSavesAmerica
      @DadSavesAmerica  Місяць тому +2

      Katie, check out "Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids" by Bryan Caplan.

  • @Sher7061
    @Sher7061 Місяць тому +10

    The division we see is not so much Dem against Republican, this is a spiritual battle.

  • @blondealterego
    @blondealterego Місяць тому +6

    This is a very difficult story. I understand that in that climate getting any care after a crime like that would have been very hard to find but what the hell is wrong with a family that not only allows a man to live after raping a child but actually creates the situation that allows it to happen again?! What the fuck. Bless her to have the courage and presence of mind to grow so well mentally and emotionally, her grandparents obviously loved her regardless of the genesis of her being but seriously they not only didn’t feed that bastard to the pigs but made her mom marry the guy?! Sorry, that is messed up. He never should have breathed another breath after raping a child

  • @PetraYelp
    @PetraYelp Місяць тому +15

    I am the consequence of a r*pe, my mother was a 14 year old runaway. My biological father and his family had no idea of my existence, My mother's family disowned me before I was even born. When I was born there was not one person in the world that welcomed me. Instead of putting me up for adoption, the government social workers decided to give my teenage mother an apartment and custody of me. She had no family support and was completely on her own. It did not go well. She started harming me when I was 3 months old and persisted until I left home at 17 years old. I was never loved, cared for and had no hope or aspirations in life. I was in survival mode for much of my life and struggled with depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues. I was told very early on that I was the result of a r*pe and "ruined" my mother's life. I am not grateful for my childhood and the struggles I have had. No baby or child should live through what I did. I deserved better -- even no life would have better than what I had.

    • @DadSavesAmerica
      @DadSavesAmerica  Місяць тому +13

      Thank you for sharing this painful story. For what it's worth, I'm certain the world is better for you being in it. Even to give testimony to your survival is incredibly powerful. Our world would be a MUCH darker place if every person whose life involved nightmarish pain was simply erased. Given what human existence was like for most people not that long ago, I don't know that we would exist if our standard for prevent life was pain.

    • @Kathy4Truth
      @Kathy4Truth Місяць тому +8

      Petra, thank you for sharing your story. Your story adds value to this very nuanced conversation. I know it's not easy and I'm so sorry for all that I'm sure you suffered. But, as John said, I'm glad you're here. I would love to speak with you if you're okay with that. Blessings!

    • @PetraYelp
      @PetraYelp Місяць тому +6

      ​@@Kathy4Truth Thank you for your message and your offer to speak. It is appreciated, but I'm not sure how I feel about it. But to offer more nuance to this discussion. The first 10 years of my life were very unstable, with over 16 moves and even some time living in a van. When I was about 10, my step-dad (my mother had many children with different men, but married a man who took us all on) got a unionized construction job. For the first time we had some financial stability. He built us a house and I was able to join a school swim team and girl scouts. I believe these things saved me from a worse outcome. So, I have a few policy recommendations. If you ban abortion, then the following should be in place: (1) well developed mechanisms to ensure all babies have a home with adults or full-time supervision for underage moms (2) strong wages and affordable housing for workers (3) strong funding for schools and extracurricular activities (4) well-regulated and accessible mental health care. Best wishes.

    • @blondealterego
      @blondealterego Місяць тому +3

      You and your life deserved So much more than what happened to you, I am so sorry for what you endured and it’s very sad and hard to have to live with. It’s a failure of the people around you, not your existence, and they blamed you instead of themselves and the person who took advantage of your mother, who clearly was unable to handle her circumstances either. It’s a terrible statement on our cultures and society. None of that determines your worth and although I 100% understand what you’re saying and why you would say it, but I’m glad you’re here and I hope you can find something to help you heal, to find something that brings you purpose and move through the process of healing. No one truly gets “over” anything, you move through it like a tunnel of light and dark

    • @BigD4Real.
      @BigD4Real. 28 днів тому +3

      You are not alone. I’m also a victim of similar circumstances. It’s not your fault.

  • @blondealterego
    @blondealterego Місяць тому +8

    John while I appreciate what you’re saying here but I have to debate the argument that is being presented here because her example is Very unusual. Our culture, our government, our whole society, is Not geared to helping women, children who are raped or otherwise find themselves unable to provide a place for a baby. Her circumstances were extremely difficult, but there are even more difficult! To remove an option for people legally will cause even more brutality. Religion is wonderful when handled appropriately, just like any other tool of dealing with life

  • @ThatCircusShow
    @ThatCircusShow Місяць тому +3

    Been lingering for a hot minute, but it was this guest and your interviewing that prompted the sub - make of this what you will

  • @blondealterego
    @blondealterego Місяць тому +4

    The lack of self control was the reason her mother was raped how are you comparing someone being stupid with their morals at a a bar and the criminal behavior of a predator?

    • @architennis
      @architennis 20 днів тому

      I'm not totally anti-abortion but can understand his point of view. If you believe personhood starts at conception (which he does as a Catholic), a killing of any baby-to-be is the same as any other. For him it's about the fetus/embryo's right to not be killed, not about the circumstances of the mother.

  • @DanlowMusic
    @DanlowMusic Місяць тому

    Just came to say, i subsribed because you spoke truth in your ad. We do not have a democracy, we hace a Constitutional Republic. I really wish one politician would say that.

  • @dzerweck
    @dzerweck Місяць тому +2

    Excellent interview - very interesting and relevant! Thanks.

  • @briandillon8041
    @briandillon8041 Місяць тому +4

    This is who we could’ve had for senator from Pennsylvania instead of Federman if only Trump had endorsed her. she would do a great job

  • @Mej_Javiky
    @Mej_Javiky 29 днів тому

    Just commenting for the algorithm, because others already expressed my thoughts. Great interview!

  • @jennifernyhof9907
    @jennifernyhof9907 Місяць тому +2

    Wow! Great interview! Than you @kathy4truth for speaking!

    • @Kathy4Truth
      @Kathy4Truth Місяць тому

      Thank you for listening in. Blessings!

  • @eljaymcafee3455
    @eljaymcafee3455 Місяць тому

    Excellent discussion!!

  • @kelcritcarroll
    @kelcritcarroll 18 днів тому

    The state dosent prohibit murder…..the death sentence is carried out in many states

  • @barbarabrooks4747
    @barbarabrooks4747 Місяць тому

    In 2020, the courts completely failed to look at evidence such as Georgia's failure to check signatures to see if they matched. Unfortunately, we have election officials who are political partisans. We need election officials who think like forensic investigators as well as administrators. If they faced losing their professional licenses if the computers aren't inspected, don't have secure passwords, fail to check signatures, destroy ballots before the legal date etc, we wouldn't have had such a tainted election as we had in 2022 or in AZ in 2022/

  • @rogue1303
    @rogue1303 24 дні тому

    Why on earth would you laugh about the sexual assault of a child? What a disgusting reaction.

  • @kelcritcarroll
    @kelcritcarroll 18 днів тому +1

    I dont think you need to be religious to be a decent kind person…I do wish your mom had a choice….I think,your a gteat person but what happened to,your mom was terrible

  • @wendellbabin6457
    @wendellbabin6457 Місяць тому

    1:54:14 Good people ain't doing nothing without a job, or at least some shred of hope for one. Instead of a check.

  • @MichelleJones-dh1ry
    @MichelleJones-dh1ry Місяць тому +4

    This story regardless of how painful it is doesn't change my mind one iota about keeping the government out of a woman's right to choose or her reproductive freedoms. I definitely wouldn't give her ra&&st any say in the matter.
    Our Body Our Choice bottomline.
    Her mother was forced to marry her predator and keep the baby it's NO doubt the mother is going to hate him and endure an abusive relationship on top of everything else smh.
    Yes and of course she's grateful to be alive duh.......
    Btw Trump's and his evil cronies are trying to dismantle the constitution that she loves soooo much.

  • @FlamingBasketballClub
    @FlamingBasketballClub Місяць тому

    Gonna interview EconTalk podcast host Russ Roberts though?

    • @DadSavesAmerica
      @DadSavesAmerica  Місяць тому +2

      Russ is a dear friend. I've had him on the show twice actually! ua-cam.com/video/TIo2PGo7tu4/v-deo.html
      ua-cam.com/video/aTKcJdgz7U4/v-deo.html

  • @Beelzebubba1983
    @Beelzebubba1983 Місяць тому +3

    People should very much understand what happens in countries where limited abortions are NOT allowed.. in our own country women have been murdered, thrown down stairs, kicked in the stomach, and the very gruesome home abortions involving coat hangers... and some suicides. Lets say it doesn't take much time with abortions being abolished completely in some countries to see women of all ages coming into emergency rooms and morgues because of it.
    I believe in the sanctity of life, our government has a role to play, but they can not stand against the men in vans offering abortions in a black market world, money talks and bs takes the bus.

    • @DadSavesAmerica
      @DadSavesAmerica  Місяць тому +1

      Where do you live, my friend?

    • @s.b.9430
      @s.b.9430 28 днів тому

      I think this is true, of course. But a lot of people will also just not have an abortion if it is illegal. I have heard testimonies of people who have said the only reason they were here today was because at the time their mother was pregnant with them abortion was not legal where they lived and that was enough of a deterrent for their mothers. Of course, laws do not prevent 100% of evils, but I think that they do prevent a lot of things from happening... otherwise why have laws at all? I mean just take murder for example. Don't you think we would have more murders if there were no legal consequences? I bet you that we would.
      A lot of abortions are done out of convenience. I very much doubt that those women who want a family eventually, but are just feeling like this is not the right time would opt to throw themselves down stairs or use hangers at the risk of their lives. You are right that if abortions are illegal, there will likely be a rise in "black market" abortions and death of the women who undergo them, but I'd argue there would also definitely be a LOT fewer abortions... I think if you take into consideration the dead babies, you'd have a lot fewer deaths in general.
      Obviously the best thing would be for everyone to see the value in each human being. To not want to harm or discard another person because of personal desires. I'm not just talking of women here. If men didn't commit evil acts, if men stuck around to provide and care for the children they helped create, there also would be fewer women feeling like abortion is the only way. Alas, this is not the world we live in...

  • @katiez688
    @katiez688 Місяць тому +8

    I do not vote if I am very frustrated with the Dems. But I will never show up to vote for Reps as long as they support me being forced to carry a pregnancy and give birth against my will. I am pro family and pro policies that make life easier for American families. But no one has a right to force me to carry a pregnancy and give birth against my will.

    • @airman122469
      @airman122469 Місяць тому +1

      There are very few circumstances where abortion is acceptable. Rape, incest, fatal risk, or other extreme genetic or developmental abnormalities that will be life-limiting.
      If you don’t want to carry a child to term, don’t have unprotected sex. This is not hard.

    • @Oatriumph
      @Oatriumph Місяць тому +4

      ​@@airman122469It clearly IS hard. Sex is more fundamental than religious beliefs of chastity.
      Why are so many people claiming when it's "acceptable" for another person to abort a baby or not? Coming from an "airman," this is especially rich. Hard to take morality advice seriously from a mercenary.

    • @bbainter7880
      @bbainter7880 Місяць тому

      ​@@Oatriumphaaannnndddd...here we are. Sex is the most fundamental part of your identity. Literally *where you put your privates* is more important than your religious beliefs.
      This is why we have pride parades where people walk around naked and simulate banging each other in front of families and children. It's cult worship, but unlike so many ancient fertility cults, it's an *infertility cult*, and abortion is the chief sacrament of this cult.
      It's not that sex is more *fundamental* than religious belief systems, it's that sex *is* your religious belief system.

    • @richardthurston2171
      @richardthurston2171 Місяць тому

      Astonishing that Libertarians™️ favor gubmint dictating to a woman what healthcare choices she is limited to. “Pro Life” is the most successful advertising slogan ever created. Ever see the “Pro Life” crowd protest against capital punishment or US wars abroad? Of course not. And you never will.

    • @bbainter7880
      @bbainter7880 Місяць тому +2

      ​@@OatriumphIf you consider sex to be *more fundamental* than a religious belief, have you ever considered the idea that sex might be a part of *your fundamental religious belief system*? Everybody worships something, right? And you just made a claim that sex is more "fundamental" than a form of religious sacrament. Have you ever looked at fertility cults? Have you ever seen a pride parade? Have you ever seen those tiktok videos where people claim to get pregnant on purpose so they can then terminate their baby?
      How is that not a sacrament?

  • @blondealterego
    @blondealterego Місяць тому +1

    If she’s speaking about the “woke crowd “ then yea you can get hundreds of PoC to a “rally” but there are many conservative black and brown people who would go to a rally if they aren’t being pandered to and insulted

  • @briandillon8041
    @briandillon8041 Місяць тому +1

    This is a smart dude, but he has political opinions without knowing any of the facts to back them up. How could he not know the grievances committed by the Pennsylvania legislature against their own laws which led to the suit by Ken Paxton, Texas, which was eventually joined by multiple states thereby constitution had to be resolved by the Supreme Court. Yeah, they refused to hear it if they had January 6 would not have occurred.

  • @kelcritcarroll
    @kelcritcarroll 18 днів тому

    Younseem like a nice lady….but you were with Vivek Ramaswamy and dr oz…two nut cases…….smh

  • @flagulantmichael
    @flagulantmichael Місяць тому +7

    the state will take your baby for free if you cannot handle the responsibility. obviously this is a hard thing but, DON'T let RAPE turn to MURDER. God's way is always the right and loving way.
    take care

    • @BajatheChickenMan
      @BajatheChickenMan Місяць тому +2

      kids are already raised by the State too much and you think they should raise more babies? What do you want them to do breed an IRS Army?

    • @Oatriumph
      @Oatriumph Місяць тому +1

      ​@@BajatheChickenManPlease don't give them any ideas!

    • @trailertrish2587
      @trailertrish2587 Місяць тому

      I don't understand why a parent who is a match to their child who will die without an organ transplant isn't compelled by law to provide that life saving donation. I'm not as extreme as the politician who said he was of the opinion the life of the baby should be prioritized in the case of a dire pregnancy complication. They should have a right to decline when they face certain death but in cases where it's marrow or a kidney or a lung they shouldn't be allowed to decline.

    • @Oatriumph
      @Oatriumph Місяць тому

      @@trailertrish2587 Tyranny much?

    • @madra000
      @madra000 Місяць тому

      ​@@trailertrish25872 questions, from what angle do you think this view places on the overall trend downstream of the passing of a law that compells ideas of 'descency and or moral claims that do and still interpret with long traditional legacy' on people who are antisocial but not conmen on society/ more apathetic? as an alternative do you think support of such measures and entitlements need a registry of thos who couod be called to transfer such entitlements? in other words if you support, you go on a resgistry like hippa or what not, that allows the above board enactment of utlizing your organs as in case scenario in non fatal conditions( you can decide on the rate of acceptable risk before undergoing the compellment or in your case voluntary donation). Really woukd like to know, intereating question to say the least.

  • @publicutility
    @publicutility Місяць тому

    When was the colonies or the "united " states OF america ever moral?

    • @willmercury
      @willmercury Місяць тому

      When were you ever literate?

    • @willmercury
      @willmercury Місяць тому

      When were you ever literate?

    • @helixxharpell
      @helixxharpell Місяць тому +12

      Morality never comes from the state, the colony or the institution. Morality emerges from the individual no matter what state or colony or institution they're a part of. ❤

    • @Kathy4Truth
      @Kathy4Truth Місяць тому +5

      Agreed. Morality is simply knowing the difference from right and wrong. This *knowing* does not come from the state. It comes from a higher source.

    • @Anonymous-nr6qb
      @Anonymous-nr6qb Місяць тому +1

      That's a very nihilistic view.