It's good that you receive comfort from Psych2Go. However, it's moreso sad that a social media channel on UA-cam has more compassion for its viewers than your parents do for you as their child.
I love how parents don't care about our mental health, only our grades and or how we do in school. Please put your mental health first before anything 🙏
I'm so sorry this has been experienced this. You are MORE than just grades! You are a complex, uniquely created individual. Sending love from a Mental Health Professional and a Mom 😘
Another problem without getting therapy is the fact that, it can make you feel like your depression is invalid because you haven’t been diagnosed by a proffesional and make you think “what if I don’t? What if I’m overreacting?” And the problem with that is when you tell people, especially at school, they can make fun of you, and make you feel 10x worse.. it’s so unfair, but, that’s what happens I guess…
That's me. I don't know if I got depression from 2020 till now since I didn't get any professional help cuz I'll think I'm just trying to get attention even though I did try to plan out how I'm going to die
@@johnnyanderson2-roblox185 I really think you should try and get diagnosed, and like immediately because what if one day something super terrible happens and combined with how things already are, you commit suicide. Also please try and get help for the suicidal thoughts, and keep living, because I think you can still enjoy life, it might be hard now, but if you keep going to therapy, I think it will really help.
I'm 33 and have some of this struggle with my parents. My dad just doesn't get it, he's still trying to get his head around the idea that depression isn't sadness. He also doesn't understand anxiety issues, saying "what do you have to be anxious about" - showing he doesn't get it. My mum at least empathises to some degree, but she takes it personally thinking she failed me in some way so it's hard to talk to her about it. They never prevented me getting professional help, they just never took it seriously enough to help me get help.
Thank you for sharing your struggles with us. Through these years, how have you been dealing with your depression? Did you ever end up getting professional help?
@@Psych2go - a mixture of things help, all forms of relaxation and escapism; gaming is the primary thing along with working out. This channel has helped me figure out some stuff, along with other channels that talk about mental health stuff. I've used BetterHelp recently but while helpful, I think I got all the use out of it being through an app rather than face to face. Currently waiting on a call back from my GP to talk about getting a local therapist through the NHS - I'm in the UK for context.
I think I've been suicidal my while life. I first brought up that topic, when I was 8, but when I told my mom about my ideations, she just replied with "do it". I felt myself so dumb. I think my ideations weren't fully formed by that time and I was just seeking attention, because around that age I used to also fake injuries, that seemed the only way to make her care about me. Few years later I had an episode when a bully was threatening to kill me and I just broke down in tears, asking him to do it. I fully realized the way I feel around 13 and until that day things were only getting worse. A few months ago I had one hell of a night, which I spent having close to none sleep and crying, I just felt like it's impossible to survive for me. I still don't know, why have I chosed life. Just before taking my own life, I suddenly felt some sudden stubbornness and anger both towards myself and people around me. Suicide for me was not only the tempted escape, but also a way to scream in agony, which is simply being alive for me, so loud, that nobody will be able to just ignore it. And so I realized that even if I did it, nothing would change. My mom would be angry and spiteful, my grandma will start some religious sheet, like speaking with every single one of her colleagues about how I betrayed god and her and about how I'm now tortured in hell. The only thing that would have change is my little brothers life, because my mom would just lay all the problems on him, like she did on me, when her marriage started to break down and she decided to fix it with kids. All the other comments are so nicely written, but mine is just a mess, that nobody will read. I just wanted to share my experience and get everything from my chest
I read your comment and it wasn't a mess at all, I'm sure others will also appreciate you sharing this. I'm sorry you had to go through all that. I know we shouldn't compare these things, but it feels like my issues pale in comparison to your experience. Age of 8 is so young to start having suicidal ideation... It sounds like you went through hell, honestly. I hope you are doing better now and that the realization along with the stubbornness and anger helped you in a way to see the way things are and to push forward. Wishing you best of luck and happiness.
My friend is in a similar state, but she doesn't express it. It is necessary to vent, it doesn't matter if it seems messy, lame, horrible or depressing. You are really great. Fighting with our dark impulses, trauma, fear, intrusive thoughts etc is no joke. You are fighting the most tempting impulse, ending everything. That means you chose to not escape, it is so cool! You are very courageous and stubborn to be able to continue living (I can't imagine myself alive in your state ngl, I may have given up on everything.....I'm really weak). I'm not trying to comfort you! You are really great. Since you could make it till now, you can make it to the end. Nothing is permanent, wish you success in finding your best self 💙💛🤍 And, thank you for sharing these things. I will show this to my friend, hope it will make her feel a little better :)
i hope things gets solved and you get all the happiness you deserve.I'm really sorry you had to go through all this, thank you for sharing. your life is precious , wishing you all the best for better days and sending love💗
Damn. Just damn. I want to reply somehow to you, but I don't know how. I want you to feel understood but I don't think you'll believe me. Maybe my situation is not exactly the same, but I've never read something so relatable before. it's like you took the words out of my mouth and typed them out. Again, I don't think my reply will mean anything to you, but I still wanna say that first of all, I'm so, so sorry that you have to go though this. Second, you're not alone. I, the person behind the screen that has typed this comment to you understands you. I know how you feel and I know you just wanna end it. I know you feel stuck. But please, listen to me and don't do it. Ok? There are so many suicidal people that have recovered and lived happy lives after, so why can't we become that? Even tho we feel completely hopeless. There's still a possibility and I think it's worth waiting. You can seek professional help, but if there's a reason you can't (like if your parents don't let you), you can speak to me. I'll be here for you if you need someone to vent to, even if it's a stranger on the internet, trust me it helps. But please, for me at least and your little brother, don't end it. Nothing can stay the same, even if you wanted it to. It's just a matter of time. So you'll find a way out one day yeah? Ly mate.
@@Psych2go thank you. Essentially, I think someone armed with that knowledge from an early age will be better equipt to take life on. Having said that I'd say, carry a big handful of perspective for along the way because blame and/or resentment is an inevitable part of healing. If a parent doesnt reconise that sensitivity in their own child, its not likely they'll ever really change so investing too much emotionally is potentially debilitating. I've got too much to tell about the issue and cant really say it well enough. It's really nice to know that millions of young people have the benefit of your content. I'd never take a minute of my journey back but I often wonder where I'd have been in knowing some of your stuff 40 years ago.
The worst part about mine is that when my brother and sister had depression and suicidal thoughts, they got professional help. Me? Not a single, I'm listening. I've told more strangers online about it too and it feels like they understand me more than my parents do. My parents, the ones who brought me into life and promised to protect me with all their life.
Fancy, present that to your parents exactly like you wrote it. Parents see each child differently a lot of times. They maybe seeing you as "the okay" child and really believe you are okay when your not.
Are you the oldest child? Parents often see their eldest as "stronger" and "more independent" and which results in emotional neglection, paying more attention to the youngest, (it happened to me)
This. I had the same treatment. I have one older sister. My sister was allowed to stay home from school when she was feeling depressed. For me, I had to go to school regardless. I also felt my mother was more sympathetic toward my sister than toward me when it comes to depression. If that's not favoritism, idk what is.
This happens all too often. Had to experience it 1st hand myself. I got to a point where I felt like my parents didn't care about me at all and I would often talk about it with my friends online. When they found those messages they kicked me out for saying such "slander". This is precisely what a parent should NOT do, your struggles are valid and I hope that everyone here never has to go through what I'm going through right now.
You should disown them. Change your name & never associate yourself with them for as long as you live. They no longer have have right to call you their own. Sad truth is these days, bad parents will more often than not *decide* their own truth without ever hearing what you have to say. This is all too true with the youth these days that will grow up to have legitimate problems with them. And thats how you get *bad* people on this Earth. We as adults must set the example of being a good person to all, especially their kids. I feel as if though your parents have robbed you of your youth and innocence. If you can't afford to be a parent, *then dont be one.* If you don't teach your kids good values, they wont have any. My hot take; _If_ what your saying is true. Edit: typo
This is too relatable. I struggled a lot in my youth (got worse with time). I sat down on the couch, wrapped in blanket and crying. Told my mom I wasn’t feeling well, trying to open up. But I was dismissed with the sentence “stop, you don’t have anything to cry about. Others have it worse”. I clammed up and never spoke about my mental being from then on. It took years until she got depression herself to understand it. I’m not proud but I threw it in her face “ now you know how I’ve felt” and walked away. We worked through it, luckily, and have better talks and understands the struggle and support each other. But deep down, while I’ve more or less forgiven her, it still stings not being believed by the person you trust the most…
Powerful. I'm sorry you looked for help from the person you trust most and didn't initially get it. I'm glad issues are being resolved but your feelings are totally valid. ❤
Saying that “others have it worse” is flat out stupid. It’s like saying “You can’t be happy because others have it better than you” Your trauma is your trauma. Not their trauma. And the worst part about it is that no one will understand because they’ll ask for reasons or just say that you have no reason. But the thing about trauma, sadness, all emotions is that they can’t be properly justified. They just happen. And you don’t need any reason to feel that way. As long as you feel what you feel.
@@arublackwood7823 yea it stung pretty bad. I stopped talking or crying in front of her. When the person you trusted the most, to understand or help, kinda turns on you. It leaves scars. Only after her own depression and mental struggle, she shows empathy when I now tell her I’m unwell. But honestly, we can’t expect everyone to be able to understand and have empathy for someone. It does need some kind of personal experience or knowledge to deal with these things. Which my mother simply didn’t have. She didn’t do/say stuff out of malice, just ignorance 🤷🏼♀️
4:00 that slight change in tone really speaks for itself how serious this really is, hearing that made me feel like I wanted to tone up my voice like that too when I’m speaking about my problems to my parents, but I can’t :””)
I talked to my dad about me being depressed and wanting to talk to speak to a therapist and he just joked about it. Later on I told my mom the same thing and she said it was just a phase and that I will probably change my mind later on… As if depression was a choice!!
It seriously hurts my heart even more to know that I'm not the only kid that feels this way. Honestly no one deserves to feel this amount of pain because to me it feels like a whole other low.
1:37 Your parents don't let you get professional help 2:28 They make jokes and manipulate your situation 3:15 They don't make make changes in your day-2-day life 4:26 They make excuses for your depression 5:32 Everytime your depression is mentioned, they argue with you
This is false and destructive. Most parents would SERIOUSLY care about their children if their issues were expressed. It's part of parental instinct. DO NOT BELIEVE THIS VIDEO
@@PapaBear187 well not everyone has caring parents that give af. Mine don’t, they not only care about how well I do in school but they also don’t like whenever I express any emotion
I got bullied in school. From age 6 to age 16. Everyone knew what was happening. My classmates who weren't involved in the bullying got bystander syndrome, and so did the teachers. It was seldom physical; mostly the bullies made faces at me whenever I showed eagerness in class or made fun of the way I walked. (I have flat feet, and it ruined my posture and gait. My weight gain aggravated it.) My parents knew, but like my teachers and peers, I was routinely advised to "ignore them." I developed suicidal thoughts by 13 and 14, but I've never made any attempts. By then, my grades were slipping, but my parents chalked it up to my lack of focus, having a one-track mind. My teenage years were hell. I was irritable, and my mother hated big emotions in general. She hated seeing anyone upset; but instead of tackling the problem with me, she only ever scolded me for as little as a frown. If I cried, she scolded me for being upset. Even when I was a child, she never handled my anger well, not any better than her own. I might have brought up twice when I was 17 and/or 19 that I wanted to get treated for depression. My mother told me that it's something that anyone could handle on their own. (My parents stance on this never changed.) I did eventually learn to self-regulate, but I did it mostly on my own. It took a long time, but my frequent bouts of rage died out when I was 27. My parents and I don't fight anymore, mostly because there aren't any conflicts anymore either, now that I'm an adult. I still get moments where my temper flares up over little things, and my mother's idea of helping me is implicitly telling me that my problems are small and that I'm not handling them well. I don't have any friends. My boyfriend has similar problems as me, and it's hard to confide in him because venting to him triggers him. Every fight always seems to be my fault, and I always had to be the one to apologize. No one is ever on my side. I feel alone a lot. Earlier this year, I brought up some of my experiences in school, and to my shock, my parents don't seem to remember that I was bullied. They claimed that I never told them. I was pretty sure I did. And even if I didn't, I wrote it on my diary, which I'm sure my mother sneaked a peek at. There's no way they didn't know.
I am sorry you had to go through That :(( reading it made me cry because I understand, even though we don’t know each other much I still believe you are awesome and you deserve to be treated better❤️
Thanks for being vulnerable. In some ways I saw myself in what you shared. Maybe it helps, I like to tell myself that there’s so much waiting to connect with me when others choose to shut me out. Nature, random blessings of finding cash on the floor or getting an extra snack for free by the cashier simply because I complimented an anime shirt I really liked. Small things add up, just like the pain did to begin with. It did t hit you out of nowhere, and it’s good that you recognized it. I suggest flowing your heart in what lights you up - is it smiling with people and making jokes about the movies you like, the TikTok’s or music videos. Or if it’s about nature specific, etc. take notice the way nature is with you, the animals and plants. If you’re already doing this, then this was simply a confirmation that things will be ok in the end & this is not the end yet.
Oh my Gosh What!!!!!! We women are really more vulnerable to such things. Please please protect your soul from the ignorant & toxic ones. Your soul is beautiful✨ & happiness is always around, I hope you reach it. Apart from Self Or Professional Therapy, Buddhism also have good ways. There are many more ways... ❤
I was having a hard time during Middle School. I experienced a lot of anxiety, and a bit of depression. I was grieving for personal reasons and they just dismissed my pain. And since that happened I gained a sense of understanding that " You need to get over your pain because it's stupid and you don't need to be crying over ridiculous things. " It's hard to open up especially as teens. After grieving effects of it still stayed with me, and it affected me. I was in a bad state, and I felt unseen, and since grief, things haven't been the same. Sure, they went back to normal and I was able to cope a little better. But I still experience isolation. Barely being productive. Thank you for this informational video.
Man this hit home pretty hard. My mom did the same thing to me and to this day I hide my depression from her. I just don't want to hear " You're so sensitive; it's not my fault that you took my words in a wrong way. " and " you're choosing to be sad" or "come back to me when you have my problems" and the classic "just smile more". But over the years she has changed a bit I just... Can't trust her anymore after years and years of this cycle repeating its self over and over again. I'm scared trusting her again with this topic; especially when it comes to me. I was the main target of her abuse (more mental and verbal) But I'm lucky that I found a group of friends that help me with my depression and anxiety. Now my mom thinks that I was just going through a phase, but in reality I'm just hiding it away.
I'm 36 and I've had depression all my life, which did come as a shock because I've never thought of me being depressed. But turns out, I've been sick since being a kid. My parents did not have the slightest hint that being physically abusive is not the right way to go when it came to punishments for doing bad things. I've started treating myself and the feeling of complete detachment with alcohol when I was 12 and got addicted. I solo wanted to feel I'm someone or that I belong somewhere because no one ever could pick up on the fact that there was something off about me. Now, when I came out to my parents as being addicted and depressed, apart from a moment of shock went into silent denial. Months after that they still didn't do any homework to try to understand their child. Honestly, I'm very angry with them. I don't really care for their reasons because I am still hurting due to their indifference. They have a successful other child my older sister with a husband and a daughter while I'm the depressed alcoholic getting a divorce. There is no moral to my story. There is no lesson here. I just wanted to share how powerful the relationship with your parents can be and what kind of impact it may have and how it resonates throughout life. Professional help is NEVER a bad idea and there's ALWAYS a good time to start getting help. Even, and especially, if it's only for yourself to help better understand that the hell happened in your life and how to prevent that from happening in the future with (if that's your cup of tea) the next generation.
The worst about it I’m also depressed too after hearing this vid I’m 23 years old and I live by my self because my parents the longest conversation is when they wanted argue about something for example the stupid part I got grounded because I bought food and I even told my mom if I can buy it she said yes so I did and she got mad set me for buying it
This video explains why I'm reluctant to tell my parents anything about my mental struggles. Parents are stubborn and hate being wrong but unfortunately it's sometimes to the detriment of their kid. I will either confide in a friend or just shut myself down, as both options are much easier.
My mom and dad have acknowledged that I have depression but they don’t always handle it the best. Whenever I was dealing with suicidal thoughts, they grew angry. Especially my mom. She called me ungrateful and many other awful things despite the fact that she had been through the same thing from *her* mother. When I tried to attempt on my life, I never heard the end of it since. I have since then made steps to *never* go down that path ever again. But my mom is seemingly convinced that I am only a second away from trying again. I only pray I can someday leave from the toxicity of my family
I am still in my teenage life... I have tried bringing this topic to my parents but it always ended up being a life lesson for me or even worse they say that I'm just acting so at some point I stopped talking to them about it and I'm currently acting in front of them like I'm the happiest child in the world but only my pillow would know how many tears have been out from my body in this past 1 year... But I really hope others' situation is not like mine and really hope that they can cure their mental health problem, unlike mine... So please leave ur grades aside and put ur mental health first...
I hope that you find someone that'll be there for you. Do not loose hope of the possibility that your parents will change. I'm not the best in helping but Im in a bad situation myself. I'm a trans guy and they think it's a fase. Especially my mother, she doesn't think it's a fase, she needs it to be. Cause she thinks I'm doing this for attention, because of my phone and she just wants her "cUTe LittLE pRiNCeSs" again. If you see that they won't budge. You can try and leave "peacefully" until you can finally leave, and go to a place, stay with people that actually love you. Hang in there!!୧(＾ 〰 ＾)୨
Hey man I know how it feels to have parents who don't care about mental health. I think the best way to get help is to talk with like-minded individuals online in your situation or has experience in your situation. And I really hope you well. I've been in a similar situation before and it really hurts having your parents neglect your feelings. I've been faking my happiness for a while but I became friends with some people whose became my true family.
When I told my parents when I was 13 that I thought I had depression, I had hoped for some form of help, or at least some encouraging words. They completely ignored me. They brushed it off as an outlandish thought because "I was happy all the time". Right now situations have gotten worse. I still don't have any professional help, we commonly argue, and they blame my anxiety, stress, and depression on my phone (which i don't use since I dislike social media, and have a small group of close friends). It's saddening that it's still going on after a few years.
I feel so bad for my parents because they aren't bad people, they just dont understand. Its really hard to explain what's going on because I dont really understand it myself. I feel like a huge burden to them. I feel like they dont have any reason to be proud of me, making me feel worthless. These feeling haven't led to suicidal feelings, but they have made me feel emotionally drained and just sad. Thank you for these videos. They are encouraging me that this stuff isn't all my fault.
Just try your best to get out, i had accumulated suicidal thoughts since middle school and begged them to stop treating me in depressing ways but to no avail. Now I have a good job in a foreign country, pursuing my dream and do whatever I want because I have reached a level of financial flexibility and I thought that they finally give me some respects. I was totally wrong, when talking about my career and achievements, they said that without THEM raising me I wont be able to be successful and whenever I mentioned they way they mistreated, imprisoned, isolated me from the outside world, leading to my 15 years depression, they said that it is because I would surely became a delinquent without those mistreats and my depression aint real lol I am half way cutting them off now. Still have to fulfill a duty of a son, but to let them move here, live with, or touch any members of my future family it is a big no no.
@@koukaibi I’m very happy that that’s worked for you. That takes a lot of strength. I do appreciate the comment too but I’m not old enough to financially support myself and I have no one to go too. Oh, and I’m homeschooled btw so talking to a school counselor is out of the question
@@AnnieLeigh111 I understand your feelings because I could not get out until the age of 24. Before then I had zero circles, no financial independence, no knowledge on the outside world, totally ignorant on person to person interaction and criminally under-skilled to even get hired as a waiter. Yes, at the age of twenty four lol Luckily, when my narcissistic, overly entitled mother decided to try buying me an office job in the Air force, my general uncle, and his general friend persuaded her for almost a year to send me abroad. Because, as they said, I was too naive, had no knowledge on how the world runs and too under-skilled to get hired at any job sites. Even now, answering calls from my mom is like tortures, she keep dismissing my successes, claiming all of them comes from her brilliant visions and orientations while blaming me for my own depression. I just want to tell you, it is painful, but at the moment, all you can do is just to try your best to prepare for that moment you can go independent. It may take times, 1 to many years but stay strong and have a self belief that eventually things are going tl be Okay.
Teenage Me: I’m depressed and I can’t do the things I need to Mother: “We all have to do what we don’t want to. That’s life.” Teenage Me associating the two: Oh, so life is suffering. Then I don’t want to be a part of it. Parents really need to watch what they say
I was living with my grandparents for a while, going through a pretty hard depression the whole time. One day I brought up that I'm always stressed out and tired. My grandfather basically said, "You do nothing but stay in your room and sleep, you don't have anything to be stressed about." I just stopped talking about it and kept even more to myself after that. So glad I've been doing so much better as of late.
All of these points were sadly relatable. Especially the first and second one. I remember talking to my mom about how I felt tired, sad and unwell mentally like as if my mind was just all over the place and would sometimes shut down leaving me with depressive and sometimes even intrusive thoughts. I asked her if we could go to a psychologist but she just waved it off and said that I didn't need it. Later on, she was talking to her friends about that event and they all just laughed about it making jokes and comments like "it's just a phase. She'll get over it soon" and "she probably just wants attention so don't worry about it". Thankfully, my friends were there to help me push through and I'm feeling a bit better now ^^
it's almost hilarious how this channel is more understanding than the people i know, my parents can't be very present at home and because of that i don't even try to explain my problems with them, it has always been like this, i never open up, stocking the anger and never letting it be. i don't fight back during arguments, just let them pass by and pretend nothing happened. this takes me to the condition where i don't want to seek for help myself. every day is like i'm running through a deja vu with the same, exact, awful, thoughts of the day before, that i can't just get rid of. and still, i'm a little masochist about it, cause i don't want it to stop from some points of view. i just wish i could let go, everything
Its just sad that I a child watch these videos and realize how bad my relationship with my parents are, and how shitty my mental health actually is. I just want someone to understand
I know exactly how you fel, they just don’t get it, but it’s not like you could tell them anyway, well I don’t know that but I’ve gotta but of a fear of rejection so I’d rather not
As a teen who’s going through the same thing, I hear you. My advice is try to cut ties with your parents because if your parents aren’t willing to change, they won’t change. Nobody understands you well other than yourself. Try to make a plan for yourself that will improve your independence from your parents and reach a community network for support
You really don't know how much I needed to hear this. Every single point and topic brought up I feel on a very personal level. And I'm autistic as well, so it's so incredibly hard to able to communicate my intentions, feelings, and thoughts with others, and especially my parents. What a coincidence that I was just arguing with my parents all afternoon about my thoughts and feelings, and every single point and topic was brought up here. And i do this arguing every single day, even though I don't really have depression anymore. Example, every time I even get a little off, they always resort to their ol reliable reason of its the food you ate a week ago. Like why would you be paying attention to something I ate a week ago? I really don't understand why they are who they are.
crying when watching this. in 2020 i almost committed su*cide but then my sister in law who from other city came home and help me out from the darkness. she wanted to learn about me, approached me with no judging way. she’s considerate and solutive. she taught me a lot and gave me more loves that i should have been received it from parents. my favorite member in my family is my sister in law. until today, im becoming the best version of myself ❤️ no more scared to be expressive, starts to feel more confident and stronger, self love is number 1, and of course into equal relationships ❤️ even until now my parents don’t want to learn about me, they think i have no brain while in other side, i achieve a lot academic achievements. i also aware of emotional intelligence. but they think im just a little kid who doesn’t understand about literally anything. i don’t care anyway, i hate to admit that actually. but i have a responsibility of my life ❤️ i want to live my best life and value each others who value mine as well ❤️
Thankfully, my parents weren't like that. They caused me to have some mental issues, but they took responsibility for it, and they sent me to a therapist. I'm blessed to have good parents. Please remember to take care of your health, everyone!
My depression began at the age of 17, my parents weren't very fond of it and didn't understand it, yet they still let me have therapy. My father said it was for crazy people but as time went on he would stay quiet when someone talked about depression. Now he is depressed and still neglects it with his doctors but with family he shows it without realizing it. 😐
I told my mom I think I might have some form of depression. I'm not sure still. I don't like going out much, I'm a bit of hermit, it got worse after the COVID Self-Quarantine thing. But anyway, I told her one time and she was like,"What do _YOU_ have to be depressed about!? You barely do anything!" Which is true, I barely do anything, I'm lazy and have no motivations, and barely take care of my self. Which is WHY I was wondering if I had some form of depression or something! She didn't have to say it the way she did. I told her, there's different forms of depression. It can be more then just being overly sad.
This is very relatable. I'm an 18-year-old young man, and during about the past 2 years I've been struggling with mental health and coping in my everyday-life, for example. I haven't always told to my parents about my problems, but the one times that I've tried, It still has felt that they don' t quite understood my situation in life. And yes, one reason flr sure is that I haven't told them about my problems. However, what I personally think is that our parents still may simply not quite understand or even know what kind of things may cause mental issues with youth these days, because the youth is living in an entire different world than a few decades ago. Our parents aren't that conscious about the stress that social media may cause, or how going to school today is like, for example. I also think that this part 1:37 has another side: parents may reject or sometimes even belittle their children's problems because they want everything to be okay with them. I guess that parenthood may also include feelings of guilt quite often, and therefore they might think what has gone wrong with their education when you bring your issues up to them. I know all this by experience. All in all I'm feeling very much better now. One thing I recommend to all is that bring your issues up as early as possible. At least to someone, like a parent, a student counsellor, your friend or a professional, for example. 🙏🏻 - greetings from Finland🇫🇮
I just love how my parents say that I’m not depressed and that there’s no reason to feel that way… or how they compare it to their childhood and say that it’s “just a phase you’ll get over it” I especially love how they make feel like I’m overreacting ✨💗
6:45 I heard this exact line when i opened up to my relatives "I feel like I have depression" , they told me "but you're still young and not an adult yet". Those words stuck with me in years, im 20 yrs old now.
Just before being diagnosed with severe OCD and ADHD at 12 years old in 2014, I felt like a nuisance to my family. I have since gotten better, but now at 20 years old, the new responsibilities my parents add on, including looking for a "traditional" FT job (my goal is to be a freelance songwriter/musician and author) and increasing rent come the new year have exponentially exacerbated my anxiety and OCD (I have no plans to return to school). Transitions are never easy for those with anxiety. I've been out of work for almost a year. I've also been suffering from an addiction about which I've never told anyone except for one close friend. Recently, I told my mom on a really bad day that I feel no motivation to do anything, to which she replied, "Well, you know the consequences of not being motivated, right?" I couldn't tell you how disgusting I felt. I sympathize with the point that I should just open up, but I'm a very sensitive person and just can't bring myself to confiding in them. I really do feel like I may have depression. Also yes, phones don't necessarily cause a lack of motivation or make people "sad." I use mine to research topics I enjoy, like music and history, and to listen to soothing music or audio to keep me centered. Sending love to everyone, but especially to those in my age demographic trying to find something to be passionate about, while healing internal wounds that are difficult to bring up to the surface, let alone express. I may not know you personally, but I feel for you and I'm thinking about you. I love you. ❤🙏
I have anxiety disorder ( OCD)and I begged for 5mnths to my parents to let me see a professional but they were so dismissive . At last I was able to convince them and took treatment for 4 mnths at the 5th mnth it was time to take an appointment but they made excuses and I realised they are not willing of it so had to quit my medication. I decided to make some lifestyle changes on my own but everyday I have a battle with my self . And now my mom says we have spent MONEY for your treatment.sigh!🤧😞 My suggestion to you is making even a smallest good habit might help you I know it's not gonna be easy . You are lost and hopeless but moving on is the only way to keep up😇
That thumbnail hit home. I remember telling my mom I thought I was dealing with depression. Mind you, this was the same person who I encountered my first anxiety attack with. She pointed it out to me! So when I told her about my depression, she said without hesitation, "you're not depressed, you're fine".
I’ve had depression since I was 10. I never felt I could go to anyone because I felt no one actually took me seriously. Every time I finally went to my family, I was met with a lot of backlash and that I didn’t need it but my other siblings actually needed help. I’m finally 20, and getting help for like the first time ever in my life. Wish I had gotten the chance sooner.
I am very lucky that my mum is a therapist, so she’s not ignorant in this matter. For example when I opened up to her about my social anxiety, she was very understanding. Later, I found out you can get social anxiety from trauma, or you can inherit it from your parents, and that my mum actually had a really bad anxiety from an early age. But it’s also hard for me to open up about any other things, because then I just feel as another one of her patients. Which then worsen my feelings because I see her and talk to her every day. If that makes sense. And also because she wants to keep talking about it. And sometimes, I just Don’t want to, but feel bad if I say no, because she’s trying to help.
hii maybe u could explain that you want a therapist to work with, one thats not directly related to you and one that you would only interact with during therapy time, and that this will remove lots of unnnecessary pressure from u, she's a therapist im sure she'll get it, bc when a therapist has a client, they are prohibited from becoming 'friends' with this client, obv they can be friendly, they should be friendly but not 'friends',,, and u have your MOM be ur therapist for now, thats not goood
My mum just says "wake up early, study hard, play outside and there'll be no depression" Like oh thanks woman for reminding me that i can just choose to be happy
The hardest part is having understanding and caring parents, but they don’t know how to help me or what I really need. Especially when they have so many problems and issues going on themselves
Thank you Psych2Go for making this video! Honestly, I've been struggling to tell my parents that I just want them to listen to my problems instead of making up reasons for my 'depression' and saying that I'm ungrateful. Don't get me wrong, I love my parents. Except I often feel like a burden to them. I was always told that crying is a sign of weakness and teen depression is nonsense. I just wish someday someone could understand my problems and reassure me that I'm already doing my best. To all the teens struggling, please seek help whether it's from your parents, school counselors or your best friends. It's better to tell someone your problems than keeping it inside. Once again, thank you Psych2Go for making this video and giving me the courage to rant here. Thank you for reading all this 'nonsense'. ❤
Timestamps 1). They don't let you get professional help 1:34 2). They make jokes and manipulate your situation 2:23 3). They don't make changes in your day-2-day life 3:14 4). They make excuses for your depression 4:23 5). Everytime your depression is mentioned, they argue with you 5:30 Hope this helps you out. Sorry this is so late.💙💙💙
Ás a depressed teenager that gets this, as an adult that's struggled with depression all my life and as a parent with depressed teenagers who are now adults I want to say it's ALL HARD regardless. BUT, don't stop trying to take care of yourself. Talk to anyone and everyone you need to. Eventually someone will hear you. You are a person with feelings that are true and should never be ignored. ESPECIALLY by you. When depressed this is so very hard and exhausting, I know. But, don't stop taking care of you. You are a person of value.
I feel like this can function with various situations, I wouldn’t say I have depression but I would say a small bit of this video functions to identify social anxiety or anything else. Depression isn’t the only misunderstood problem. 😢
Me: I get overwhelmed My Parents: So just don't get overwhelmed and you'll be just fine Me: Well, thank you for that bit of GENIUS advice!! Why didn't I ever think of that? Just, don't get overwhelmed! WOOO!
A way that parents mess up and make it a lot harder 4 their kids and teens with depression is saying things like, “don’t let it bother you” or get over it.” Depression is something teen’s can’t help but feel, and everyone is aloud to feel what they feel. Feelings, especially depression is valid and people should never be forced to not feel that way
I opened up about my depression to my parents but they told me 'at this age you will feel like this and soon it will be gone ' I cry every night thinking about it. I came across one of your videos and now I'm feeling like my situation is getting understood by many. Thanks seeing your videos I'm kinda getting out of depression.
Im so happy that i am not the only one..and i kept on thinking that i was only overreacting about it. I've never tried to bring it up before to my parents, and even if i did, they would just say that its a "phase". ive said my stories to my best friends(and even a few online ones), and they all say that ive been through a lot, i should go to a therapist. Im literally not yet into my teens, yes. i will next year, but the fact that a literal pre-teen is having this and im not the only one just shows how toxic the last generation was. Im so sure that the next generation children are going to be well understood and treated. To whoever is reading this, please know that there is this whole comment section who are ready to comfort and defend you. I know you can get over the depression(if you think or know you have it).❤❤❤❤❤
Great video, I’m trying to get therapy for some traumatic memories. Just so I can understand what’s actually wrong with me, or if it’s actually real or not. Plus being told being in my room too often makes me depressed, when it’s the only room I feel I can be myself. I just hope others seek a professional when they realize something is wrong. Instead of telling themselves they are fine, I’m just starting to get out of that hole
This hits me hard. But the problem is simply deciding to make more time to help your child isn’t that easy. Any parent that deserves a child would definitely help them if they could. But there is just too much going on.
I have struggled with depression for several years. Based on how my parents were towards commercials that mentioned anxiety/depression as side effects of medications, I knew I couldn’t talk to them about it. They don’t acknowledge things like this. I actually growled at my mom and tried to give an example of anxiety. Got her to stop. I’m grateful to my friends, coworkers and my current boyfriend for helping me out with mental health stuff. I actually moved out of my parents house on Nov 1. I was driven to it in a way by the toxicity from both. Mostly my mom. I already know she has lied to my dad about some things. Both have a hatred of my boyfriend but don’t actually know he’s my boyfriend and that’s fine with me. He’s my soulmate and missing piece
This was my life for the past year. I told my parents and I got worse ever since because they didn't understand me when I told them. Then I was driven to multiple counselors they chose for me that were not helpful to me. I think finding someone who understands your issues is more likely to lead you on a path of healing than someone that doesn't. Parents can be the most and least understanding of their kids because they love and hate them the most. I would personally suggest imagining the conversation and their response before you just tell anyone about what you're going through. It can make things worse.
When was no help or anyone around ,I used to put My depression in painting and art and writing songs and poems I think it was the only thing that kept me alive
I wrote my first book during a few months where I was alone abroad, feeling constantly dark and frozen under a heavy sunshine. Probably saved my life too.
I’ve tried calling out for help to my mom. The only response I got in return was “you have straights A’s, you don’t need therapy.” And for a while I though I didn’t. But now it’s getting too much at this point. I’ve also been told that this will be on my record and impact me for future careers. Which is something I don’t want. I don’t know ether I should get help or risk my potential job careers.
I just would like to say thank you. Your videos made me realize most of my family are toxic! I'm working on getting out of this toxic place so thank you again❤
I remember my mother adamantly denied the fact that I had anything wrong with me, even when I'd turned to unhealthy habits that affected my physical health to cope with it. She was also severely abusive and neglectful, which made it worse and she'd use my mental illness as ammunition against me. My dad on the other hand has always been there for me. He understands what it was like to be in my shoes, feeling misunderstood and being sad without any real clear reason, being confused and feeling like I don't fit in- If it weren't for him, I'd probably be in a much different place right now, and I'm so happy I have him there for me. With my mom, if I failed at anything she took it personally and would shove all of the blame on me and how I just am not enough. My dad though, always asked me "Are you doing alright?" before asking me about why I failed whatever I failed. It helps so much to have someone there for you who actually understands what you're dealing with, and is willing to help you, especially when you're stuck in an abusive situation on top of having mental health issues.
The worst part is they never really notice your depression and when they scold you and notice your sadness they say "Dont act like you are the saddest person in the world". Our parents never really care about us, the only thing they care about is our grades and our behavior in front of other and that's it! You are never allowed to show your true emotions.
I had my first panic attack today in school and when I came home. I wasn't fully- out of it. I told it to my father. He never listens. He calls it "the trends nowadays" and picks on me with every single thing. Calling it a joke, spreading it between our other family members. I did not give him permissions to do that. I have been trying to stand up for myself. Such as I come home, relax a bit and then get to work. As soon as I sit down. He calls me lazy and that I can not do anything right. My mum just sits there. Watching the whole situation. (I am 14. dealing with ADHD, Kakorrhaphiophobia, Agoraphobia and much more. My school psychologist was talking to me at my appointment. She told me everything.) I am middle child and always left out. "There's no you. Just your siblings" they say. I hate my family so much. I can't go with this anymore.
I truly hope your situation gets better I hope you can feel love from my comment. Plus you can check out this song called lost by suga and save me by bts I hope you can find empathy in these songs.❤❤💜💜
i feel like the best thingh for you is to move out as soon as you turn 18. i realy hope you can make it to there. parents are idiot, they don't see all the problems their child could have they just think it's acting.. be strong, stonger that the wall blocking your pathway on life!
I am actually shocked that I relate to this so much. All I've wanted is to be able to run to my mom, tell her everything and just know she's there to help. It's not my parents fault, but I've never been able to be that close, thank you for making this
I am so incredibly glad that my parents understand and support me and my mental health. But it makes me sad that not everyone can have that. I have a friend who, from what she's told me, seems to relate to all of these. It's really sad that she has to deal with both depression and demanding parents. I always listen to her when she needs to vent and I try to give her advice when I can, but I'd really appreciate it if you could maybe make a video on how to deal with parents who don't understand mental health issues? It'd really help me to help her, I think.
Her family is also very religious from what I can tell. Poor girl is convinced that if she goes against her parents she'll burn in heck. Even though "going against them" would be seeking help. She really needs it.
This hits hard. I've tried to tell my problems to my parents, and I always get one of the signs. This happened in Middle School. Now I've only really talk to my friends about my mental health.
This whole video hits home. I'm pretty sure my adopted mom is a narcissist and my dad is her puppet. The only time I have gotten them to take my health seriously was by following the ending of this video. I had to basically tell my mom that my having depression and the other disorders I suspect I have doesn't equate to her being a bad mom.
its time like these that i really do feel blessed that my mom understands what i went through and always listened to me and totally disregarded my school work and grades she even offered me homeschooling she is an amazing mom and woman i strive to be like her when i have kids but not everyone is as lucky so if your parents don't care someone will so please keep going you beautiful human! (sorry for bad grammar if so i have dyslexia)
I have a Therapist and I go to her once every week. I've doing it for a year now but it doesn't seem to help me. In fact, my overthinking, anxiousness and sadness seems to grow even more everytime I go. I eat myself to sleep, not even go to school and just stay on my bed everyday and sometimes play games to chat with other people, it usually helps but everytime I go off it just comes back.
*i'm a 13 year-old and i relate to ALL of this.* my parents don't even "believe" in mental health. my dad laughed at me when i tried to open up and my mum's always like "we give you EVERYTHING. a home to live in, food, clothes to wear and you should be grateful. we spend money o'er you, we're working hard too so why are u depressed in the first place??" and all that bs. the only thing i need right now is some emotional support. my friends aren't that good either in supporting me but yeah, atleast they understand that mental health is real and i need support and even though they can't do much as we're all just teens, they still say kind words to me unlike my parents. i hate to socialize, i hate to talk to my mum, dad and other relatives, my parents are always forcing their beliefs upon me and want me to turn out just like them-have a boring job, boring life. if i try to do anything out of the box, they're the first and ONLY obstacle standing in my way. they have shattered my dreams and my heart but i still act fine in front of them, like they're the best parents ever. also, my mum's a paranoid and is suspicious of every thing i do and my dad just hates me. i also have a brother and he equally sucks. how i wish i had better parents, a better family who would guide me, support me, protect me and help me grow.
4:38 to 5:10 is SO TRUE. I literally heard a conversation from my parents regarding phones ruining kids, bro didn’t even have evidence behind the claim they both just made assumptions. So unfair that us teenagers are victims and serve as entertainment when we are suffering… but Gen X is basically FREAKING LOYALTY. (Boomers and Gen X is blind, they got it so good at certain times)
I can totally relate it... when I talked with my mom about how I depressed I am feeling these days, she said like, "Don't force yourself to believe that you have grown older than me"
I told my parents about my depression, they laughed and told me I was emotionally blackmailing then . Some parents use their kids as a way out of struggle, than care about their emotions. Seeing me as a prize pool and uses my siblings as backup plan, even threatened to disown me. At the end I’m the bad guy. It’s just a burden I have to face. And I’m just 16
Remember that we still care about you! Be confident, and if you want to vent we're all here because we don't want someone so great to think such stupid things, you're amazing just the way you are.
Yup. Checkmark to all of these points for me. I'm better now, but like many people, growing up in an abusive and negligent household was difficult. It's frustrating knowing that the people who are threatening your well-being are also the ones who are supposed to have your back.
NK had suffered a lot during their Post Graduation days and while they were working in a private school in Delhi. The parents overlooked their problem and did not pay any heed. Little did they knew that it would worsen with time and yes that happened. I wished they could have treated them better and had provided medical help earlier.
It hits so close it feels borderline triggering, but yeah, funny not really thing is that just to make your depression kinda spiral out of control it can really add more problems to solve and fuel depression further, just because that emotional neglect sticks and it hard, at least for me, to communicate with parents the way it could help resolve struggles stuck to them. Sorry for the rant and great video as always!
5:10 ok.. cause they found out themselves the day they found out i harm myself was just..wow.. father just said im being dramatic, disrespectful and a clout chaser..why is that-..he even tell it too my aunties that made me look like its my own fault that im this way...and just like they're against me instead of understanding me...
The worst part about my depression and other mental health problems I'm suffering from is that I'm too self-aware about them. I know what problems I have, I know the probable causes, I know the symptoms, I know the adverse effect it is having on my life and I know what can be the cure for it. But the thing is I cannot access the cure itself, partly because my parents don't consider mental health issues as actual real problems. They just think I'm making excuses for my mistakes and throwing jargons at them to hide my mistakes. It pretty damn sad and depression to be aware of your problems and not being able to do anything about them.. Oh & this is going on since 4+ goddamn years...
As someone who has had a terrible year so far, my bf broke up with me, I’m homeschooled, and I am having bad grades in school because I’m scared. My life has gone to a dark place. But thank you for talking about these situations. You are like a therapist, sweet, and kind. ❤
I’ve tried so hard to talk about this with my parents. They just don’t get it. They don’t want me to get professional help and I’m really sick of this. They just excuse this with: you have an exam tomorrow, you do this always. Just cause I explode the days before my exams because everything bottle up doesn’t mean I’m well and it’s just “anxiety”. I feel alone and I don’t have the money to seek professional help myself.
My parents are 100% the main reason for all my mental health issues the rest of my family doesnt help any either and most of the time due to how i was raised i tend to ignore my own problems when with my friends cause i dont want to burden them. This channel and the comments on these videos is the only thing that helps me at all even though it is just understanding some of the issues i have
The main reason why I developed depression anyway is because ever since I moved to a new state (Maryland) life has been so stressful. First we had to live in an apartment, and that was during 2020. I had my first toxic friend ever, and my parents hated each other. Then, during mid 2020, we moved to another house in this place called Jefferson that's in maryland. Its basically like a really small town, and it's okay I guess. However, in school its a different story. BOOM! 10 more toxic friends, and only 3 true friends. I used to have around 15 friends before I moved. My parents started arguing, school is getting harder and harder, friendship is getting worser and worser, grades are getting more and more bitter, and don't even get me started on my mental health. School is very challenging for me especially as an introvert, so I normally keep to myself at School. At the time since I was the new kid, everyone wanted to talk to me, even though I just wanted to get my work done and get outta there. Now I'm doing worst than ever, and my parents even divorced. I'm starting to hate myself even more, because my mother blamed me on the divorce, even when I did absolutely nothing! I'm A bit sensitive too, and guess what? Turns out I have the MOST strict teacher ever that yells at us, assigns us DOUBLE HOMEWORK on top of the other homework that I have to do, and one time my teacher even made my friend straight up cry. Not only that, but honestly, I've been feeling a bit suicidal... I mean, my life's a mess and I just want to escape the pain, but I can't. It's like I fell into a pit of darkness ever since I've moved. I started doing self harm and pulling out the crochet hook again...and honestly, I've TRIED to tell my parents I have depression and I want therapy, its just they are never emotionally there for me. For example, I tried telling my mom my struggles, and she just says "oh you're fine!" And whenever my mom is arguing with my dad and is crying, I actually comfort her. Oh, and my dad. It's like I can almost never talk to my dad due to work. My older brother plays too much mobile legends, and whenever I try to vent to him he just says "Melissa that's not my problem just get yourself together" and I hate it when no one is there for me since that just proves how much of a terrible person I am.
I mean... I never really opened up to my family when I'm having mental problems honestly... I would mostly kept it to myself or maybe even talk about to a friend... Only I didn't really express it quite well to make them think that there was is wrong with me, I ask my parents if it's ok for me to go to a physiologist... And guess what? They would ask why and I couldn't answer they're questions, I have to fight my mental illness alone and I'm still am doing it till this day. I would even told myself that I'm not a human and I'm a nobody, I would pretty much train my brain to also think negative impact on myself thoughts, and since I've never seek help for my mental issues I would pretty much do a self-diagnos... I am a very moody and weird person together... I feel so unsafe, wherever I was or whenever I'm with I feel so unsafe...till this day I'm still telling myself that Im nobody and still is doing a self-diagnos
You are wonderful. Maybe you don't know this, but there is nothing weird about this. It is totally ok to feel this way. You are safe here. Maybe life has been hard on you, maybe everybody find it hard to sympathize, maybe everybody made you forget how amazing you are or empathy still exist but everything is going to be okay. It's hard to believe, I understand. When life closes a door, it will open another one. Maybe you won't see that door right now, but there will be one. If you want any tips, just ask me. I will reply to you. 💕
When my parents found out I was cutting myself in high school, they tried to find out why. My dad got angry because it seemed like he wasn't getting the response he was looking for. I was just depressed. He ended up ignoring me for weeks and after that, he didn't speak to me properly for a long time. I never got the help I needed back then. School knew but didn't do anything, parents knew but didn't do anything. It just made it worse. I ended up trying to help myself in uni but it wasn't until more than 15 years later that I got diagnosed with dysthymia (chronic depression) and I'm finally on medication to help control it. I've spent years struggling without any help and I wish more parents could try and understand their child's struggles rather than putting it down to a phase or whatever
You gotta love the traumatic grind-set that helps my day to day life get worse, and a special mention to my constant family and school issues, who have helped me become the “sleepyhead” I am today. Really, I wouldn’t be at this point in life without you all
My family (including myself) does use each others' depression or other issues to lighten the situation. It has taught me to be less serious about things, and I'm slowly learning when enough is enough--my traumatic brain injury has provided endlessly amusing situations, though it does affect my learning curve, so both lessons have been useful. I don't feel mistreated when others joke about my little (sometimes major) quirks, because I have come to see how laughable I can be, and a little gentle joking can help others laugh a bit about their own quirks. Not too long ago, my boss made a coffee cup for me that says, "Sometimes I talk to myself, and we both laugh!" That's the kind of gentle teasing that helps me understand that potentially serious problems can also be fun. I love that lady to bits because she understands me so well!
How was your experience like when you told your parents about having depression?
I haven’t told them yet should I?
@@CheeseTheHuman idk maybe you should they're here to help you
@@CheeseTheHuman same
Complete sh@t
They laughed and said I was making up stuffs
Sleep is no longer sleep, it’s an escape from reality.
-Okay, why do I legit feel this?-
Ong omggggggg
Wow. It really is…
My reality escape is youtube
yes.... its also hard when its your only escape, but you do it so little.
tbh this channel is more understanding and comforting than my parents
We are happy to hear that! Have you shared our videos to your parents to understand more about mental health?
@@Psych2go it'd be really awkward 💀
It's good that you receive comfort from Psych2Go.
However, it's moreso sad that a social media channel on UA-cam has more compassion for its viewers than your parents do for you as their child.
@@some_goomba Dude Psych2go has made me actually realize that emotions actually matter 🤔
@@Psych2go you know thats gonna end badly specially with indian parents 💀💀
I love how parents don't care about our mental health, only our grades and or how we do in school. Please put your mental health first before anything 🙏
Right! We have feelings to you know!😠
yeah true
I'm so sorry this has been experienced this. You are MORE than just grades! You are a complex, uniquely created individual. Sending love from a Mental Health Professional and a Mom 😘
It's pointless talking about how you feel to any family in my experience I guess my scars on my arms we're accident then
Honestly, same.
Another problem without getting therapy is the fact that, it can make you feel like your depression is invalid because you haven’t been diagnosed by a proffesional and make you think “what if I don’t? What if I’m overreacting?” And the problem with that is when you tell people, especially at school, they can make fun of you, and make you feel 10x worse.. it’s so unfair, but, that’s what happens I guess…
That's me. I don't know if I got depression from 2020 till now since I didn't get any professional help cuz I'll think I'm just trying to get attention even though I did try to plan out how I'm going to die
Indeed
Another problems that would make it 100x worse if you have friends that don't even care and think your lying
yea, like you might get backlash for "self diagnosing"
@@johnnyanderson2-roblox185 I really think you should try and get diagnosed, and like immediately because what if one day something super terrible happens and combined with how things already are, you commit suicide. Also please try and get help for the suicidal thoughts, and keep living, because I think you can still enjoy life, it might be hard now, but if you keep going to therapy, I think it will really help.
I'm 33 and have some of this struggle with my parents.
My dad just doesn't get it, he's still trying to get his head around the idea that depression isn't sadness.
He also doesn't understand anxiety issues, saying "what do you have to be anxious about" - showing he doesn't get it.
My mum at least empathises to some degree, but she takes it personally thinking she failed me in some way so it's hard to talk to her about it.
They never prevented me getting professional help, they just never took it seriously enough to help me get help.
Thank you for sharing your struggles with us.
Through these years, how have you been dealing with your depression? Did you ever end up getting professional help?
@@Psych2go - a mixture of things help, all forms of relaxation and escapism; gaming is the primary thing along with working out.
This channel has helped me figure out some stuff, along with other channels that talk about mental health stuff.
I've used BetterHelp recently but while helpful, I think I got all the use out of it being through an app rather than face to face.
Currently waiting on a call back from my GP to talk about getting a local therapist through the NHS - I'm in the UK for context.
This might sound crazy but... I have a solution, GO THE GYM BUM
@@tadaskal5381 - weightlifting and calisthenics helps but the gym environment doesn't.
I’m 13 and I get you 😢
I think I've been suicidal my while life. I first brought up that topic, when I was 8, but when I told my mom about my ideations, she just replied with "do it". I felt myself so dumb. I think my ideations weren't fully formed by that time and I was just seeking attention, because around that age I used to also fake injuries, that seemed the only way to make her care about me. Few years later I had an episode when a bully was threatening to kill me and I just broke down in tears, asking him to do it. I fully realized the way I feel around 13 and until that day things were only getting worse. A few months ago I had one hell of a night, which I spent having close to none sleep and crying, I just felt like it's impossible to survive for me. I still don't know, why have I chosed life. Just before taking my own life, I suddenly felt some sudden stubbornness and anger both towards myself and people around me. Suicide for me was not only the tempted escape, but also a way to scream in agony, which is simply being alive for me, so loud, that nobody will be able to just ignore it. And so I realized that even if I did it, nothing would change. My mom would be angry and spiteful, my grandma will start some religious sheet, like speaking with every single one of her colleagues about how I betrayed god and her and about how I'm now tortured in hell. The only thing that would have change is my little brothers life, because my mom would just lay all the problems on him, like she did on me, when her marriage started to break down and she decided to fix it with kids. All the other comments are so nicely written, but mine is just a mess, that nobody will read. I just wanted to share my experience and get everything from my chest
I read your comment and it wasn't a mess at all, I'm sure others will also appreciate you sharing this. I'm sorry you had to go through all that. I know we shouldn't compare these things, but it feels like my issues pale in comparison to your experience. Age of 8 is so young to start having suicidal ideation... It sounds like you went through hell, honestly. I hope you are doing better now and that the realization along with the stubbornness and anger helped you in a way to see the way things are and to push forward. Wishing you best of luck and happiness.
My friend is in a similar state, but she doesn't express it. It is necessary to vent, it doesn't matter if it seems messy, lame, horrible or depressing. You are really great. Fighting with our dark impulses, trauma, fear, intrusive thoughts etc is no joke. You are fighting the most tempting impulse, ending everything. That means you chose to not escape, it is so cool! You are very courageous and stubborn to be able to continue living (I can't imagine myself alive in your state ngl, I may have given up on everything.....I'm really weak). I'm not trying to comfort you! You are really great. Since you could make it till now, you can make it to the end. Nothing is permanent, wish you success in finding your best self 💙💛🤍
And, thank you for sharing these things. I will show this to my friend, hope it will make her feel a little better :)
i hope things gets solved and you get all the happiness you deserve.I'm really sorry you had to go through all this, thank you for sharing. your life is precious , wishing you all the best for better days and sending love💗
Im so sorry for what happend..
Damn. Just damn. I want to reply somehow to you, but I don't know how. I want you to feel understood but I don't think you'll believe me. Maybe my situation is not exactly the same, but I've never read something so relatable before. it's like you took the words out of my mouth and typed them out. Again, I don't think my reply will mean anything to you, but I still wanna say that first of all, I'm so, so sorry that you have to go though this. Second, you're not alone. I, the person behind the screen that has typed this comment to you understands you. I know how you feel and I know you just wanna end it. I know you feel stuck. But please, listen to me and don't do it. Ok? There are so many suicidal people that have recovered and lived happy lives after, so why can't we become that? Even tho we feel completely hopeless. There's still a possibility and I think it's worth waiting. You can seek professional help, but if there's a reason you can't (like if your parents don't let you), you can speak to me. I'll be here for you if you need someone to vent to, even if it's a stranger on the internet, trust me it helps. But please, for me at least and your little brother, don't end it. Nothing can stay the same, even if you wanted it to. It's just a matter of time. So you'll find a way out one day yeah? Ly mate.
If your parents don't know you well enough to recognise your depression, chances are they're a good part of the reason.
That is so sad but also true... what would you recommend to our audience if that is the case?
@@Psych2go thank you. Essentially, I think someone armed with that knowledge from an early age will be better equipt to take life on. Having said that I'd say, carry a big handful of perspective for along the way because blame and/or resentment is an inevitable part of healing. If a parent doesnt reconise that sensitivity in their own child, its not likely they'll ever really change so investing too much emotionally is potentially debilitating.
I've got too much to tell about the issue and cant really say it well enough. It's really nice to know that millions of young people have the benefit of your content. I'd never take a minute of my journey back but I often wonder where I'd have been in knowing some of your stuff 40 years ago.
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The worst part about mine is that when my brother and sister had depression and suicidal thoughts, they got professional help. Me? Not a single, I'm listening. I've told more strangers online about it too and it feels like they understand me more than my parents do. My parents, the ones who brought me into life and promised to protect me with all their life.
Fancy, present that to your parents exactly like you wrote it. Parents see each child differently a lot of times. They maybe seeing you as "the okay" child and really believe you are okay when your not.
Are you the oldest child? Parents often see their eldest as "stronger" and "more independent" and which results in emotional neglection, paying more attention to the youngest, (it happened to me)
*cough cough favoritism cough cough*
This. I had the same treatment. I have one older sister. My sister was allowed to stay home from school when she was feeling depressed. For me, I had to go to school regardless. I also felt my mother was more sympathetic toward my sister than toward me when it comes to depression. If that's not favoritism, idk what is.
bro. i feel you
This happens all too often. Had to experience it 1st hand myself. I got to a point where I felt like my parents didn't care about me at all and I would often talk about it with my friends online. When they found those messages they kicked me out for saying such "slander". This is precisely what a parent should NOT do, your struggles are valid and I hope that everyone here never has to go through what I'm going through right now.
Don’t worry
All you got to do is shove them in a nursing home down the line and all the inheritance is yours
They failed as parents then, you deserve so much better
That's on them, not you. I wish you every bit of success, and success on your own terms. 🙏❤👍
They done KICKED YOU OUT?!?!?!? Man I hope you're ok! I can't believe parents would do that to their kid.
You should disown them. Change your name & never associate yourself with them for as long as you live. They no longer have have right to call you their own. Sad truth is these days, bad parents will more often than not *decide* their own truth without ever hearing what you have to say. This is all too true with the youth these days that will grow up to have legitimate problems with them. And thats how you get *bad* people on this Earth. We as adults must set the example of being a good person to all, especially their kids. I feel as if though your parents have robbed you of your youth and innocence. If you can't afford to be a parent, *then dont be one.* If you don't teach your kids good values, they wont have any.
My hot take; _If_ what your saying is true.
Edit: typo
This is too relatable. I struggled a lot in my youth (got worse with time). I sat down on the couch, wrapped in blanket and crying. Told my mom I wasn’t feeling well, trying to open up. But I was dismissed with the sentence “stop, you don’t have anything to cry about. Others have it worse”. I clammed up and never spoke about my mental being from then on. It took years until she got depression herself to understand it. I’m not proud but I threw it in her face “ now you know how I’ve felt” and walked away. We worked through it, luckily, and have better talks and understands the struggle and support each other. But deep down, while I’ve more or less forgiven her, it still stings not being believed by the person you trust the most…
Powerful. I'm sorry you looked for help from the person you trust most and didn't initially get it. I'm glad issues are being resolved but your feelings are totally valid. ❤
Saying that “others have it worse” is flat out stupid. It’s like saying “You can’t be happy because others have it better than you”
Your trauma is your trauma. Not their trauma. And the worst part about it is that no one will understand because they’ll ask for reasons or just say that you have no reason. But the thing about trauma, sadness, all emotions is that they can’t be properly justified. They just happen. And you don’t need any reason to feel that way. As long as you feel what you feel.
@@arublackwood7823 yea it stung pretty bad. I stopped talking or crying in front of her. When the person you trusted the most, to understand or help, kinda turns on you. It leaves scars. Only after her own depression and mental struggle, she shows empathy when I now tell her I’m unwell.
But honestly, we can’t expect everyone to be able to understand and have empathy for someone. It does need some kind of personal experience or knowledge to deal with these things. Which my mother simply didn’t have. She didn’t do/say stuff out of malice, just ignorance 🤷🏼♀️
“Others have it worse” Achievement earned: The least proper way to talk to literary anybody.
Well… it’s good to know that I can relate to at least one person
4:00 that slight change in tone really speaks for itself how serious this really is, hearing that made me feel like I wanted to tone up my voice like that too when I’m speaking about my problems to my parents, but I can’t :””)
Thank you for noticing that. Have you tried talking to your parents about your depression?
I talked to my dad about me being depressed and wanting to talk to speak to a therapist and he just joked about it. Later on I told my mom the same thing and she said it was just a phase and that I will probably change my mind later on… As if depression was a choice!!
Lol bro I think we should just choose to be happy instead 🙄😒
It seriously hurts my heart even more to know that I'm not the only kid that feels this way. Honestly no one deserves to feel this amount of pain because to me it feels like a whole other low.
1:37 Your parents don't let you get professional help
2:28 They make jokes and manipulate your situation
3:15 They don't make make changes in your day-2-day life
4:26 They make excuses for your depression
5:32 Everytime your depression is mentioned, they argue with you
Thank you for the timestamps!
@@Psych2go thank you for the video!
This is false and destructive. Most parents would SERIOUSLY care about their children if their issues were expressed. It's part of parental instinct. DO NOT BELIEVE THIS VIDEO
@@PapaBear187 girl shut up
@@PapaBear187 well not everyone has caring parents that give af. Mine don’t, they not only care about how well I do in school but they also don’t like whenever I express any emotion
I got bullied in school. From age 6 to age 16. Everyone knew what was happening. My classmates who weren't involved in the bullying got bystander syndrome, and so did the teachers. It was seldom physical; mostly the bullies made faces at me whenever I showed eagerness in class or made fun of the way I walked. (I have flat feet, and it ruined my posture and gait. My weight gain aggravated it.) My parents knew, but like my teachers and peers, I was routinely advised to "ignore them." I developed suicidal thoughts by 13 and 14, but I've never made any attempts. By then, my grades were slipping, but my parents chalked it up to my lack of focus, having a one-track mind. My teenage years were hell. I was irritable, and my mother hated big emotions in general. She hated seeing anyone upset; but instead of tackling the problem with me, she only ever scolded me for as little as a frown. If I cried, she scolded me for being upset. Even when I was a child, she never handled my anger well, not any better than her own. I might have brought up twice when I was 17 and/or 19 that I wanted to get treated for depression. My mother told me that it's something that anyone could handle on their own. (My parents stance on this never changed.) I did eventually learn to self-regulate, but I did it mostly on my own. It took a long time, but my frequent bouts of rage died out when I was 27. My parents and I don't fight anymore, mostly because there aren't any conflicts anymore either, now that I'm an adult. I still get moments where my temper flares up over little things, and my mother's idea of helping me is implicitly telling me that my problems are small and that I'm not handling them well. I don't have any friends. My boyfriend has similar problems as me, and it's hard to confide in him because venting to him triggers him. Every fight always seems to be my fault, and I always had to be the one to apologize. No one is ever on my side. I feel alone a lot. Earlier this year, I brought up some of my experiences in school, and to my shock, my parents don't seem to remember that I was bullied. They claimed that I never told them. I was pretty sure I did. And even if I didn't, I wrote it on my diary, which I'm sure my mother sneaked a peek at. There's no way they didn't know.
I am sorry you had to go through That :(( reading it made me cry because I understand, even though we don’t know each other much I still believe you are awesome and you deserve to be treated better❤️
Thanks for being vulnerable. In some ways I saw myself in what you shared. Maybe it helps, I like to tell myself that there’s so much waiting to connect with me when others choose to shut me out. Nature, random blessings of finding cash on the floor or getting an extra snack for free by the cashier simply because I complimented an anime shirt I really liked. Small things add up, just like the pain did to begin with. It did t hit you out of nowhere, and it’s good that you recognized it. I suggest flowing your heart in what lights you up - is it smiling with people and making jokes about the movies you like, the TikTok’s or music videos. Or if it’s about nature specific, etc. take notice the way nature is with you, the animals and plants. If you’re already doing this, then this was simply a confirmation that things will be ok in the end & this is not the end yet.
@@Mariee.Destiny this is helpful! 🌼
Oh my Gosh What!!!!!! We women are really more vulnerable to such things. Please please protect your soul from the ignorant & toxic ones. Your soul is beautiful✨ & happiness is always around, I hope you reach it. Apart from Self Or Professional Therapy, Buddhism also have good ways. There are many more ways... ❤
I'm going through the same thing to so I know how you feel
I was having a hard time during Middle School. I experienced a lot of anxiety, and a bit of depression. I was grieving for personal reasons and they just dismissed my pain. And since that happened I gained a sense of understanding that " You need to get over your pain because it's stupid and you don't need to be crying over ridiculous things. "
It's hard to open up especially as teens. After grieving effects of it still stayed with me, and it affected me. I was in a bad state, and I felt unseen, and since grief, things haven't been the same. Sure, they went back to normal and I was able to cope a little better. But I still experience isolation. Barely being productive. Thank you for this informational video.
Man this hit home pretty hard. My mom did the same thing to me and to this day I hide my depression from her. I just don't want to hear " You're so sensitive; it's not my fault that you took my words in a wrong way. " and " you're choosing to be sad" or "come back to me when you have my problems" and the classic "just smile more". But over the years she has changed a bit I just... Can't trust her anymore after years and years of this cycle repeating its self over and over again. I'm scared trusting her again with this topic; especially when it comes to me. I was the main target of her abuse (more mental and verbal) But I'm lucky that I found a group of friends that help me with my depression and anxiety. Now my mom thinks that I was just going through a phase, but in reality I'm just hiding it away.
I'm 36 and I've had depression all my life, which did come as a shock because I've never thought of me being depressed. But turns out, I've been sick since being a kid. My parents did not have the slightest hint that being physically abusive is not the right way to go when it came to punishments for doing bad things. I've started treating myself and the feeling of complete detachment with alcohol when I was 12 and got addicted. I solo wanted to feel I'm someone or that I belong somewhere because no one ever could pick up on the fact that there was something off about me. Now, when I came out to my parents as being addicted and depressed, apart from a moment of shock went into silent denial. Months after that they still didn't do any homework to try to understand their child. Honestly, I'm very angry with them. I don't really care for their reasons because I am still hurting due to their indifference. They have a successful other child my older sister with a husband and a daughter while I'm the depressed alcoholic getting a divorce. There is no moral to my story. There is no lesson here. I just wanted to share how powerful the relationship with your parents can be and what kind of impact it may have and how it resonates throughout life. Professional help is NEVER a bad idea and there's ALWAYS a good time to start getting help. Even, and especially, if it's only for yourself to help better understand that the hell happened in your life and how to prevent that from happening in the future with (if that's your cup of tea) the next generation.
The worst about it I’m also depressed too after hearing this vid I’m 23 years old and I live by my self because my parents the longest conversation is when they wanted argue about something for example the stupid part I got grounded because I bought food and I even told my mom if I can buy it she said yes so I did and she got mad set me for buying it
Same here but I am 21 years old now
This video explains why I'm reluctant to tell my parents anything about my mental struggles. Parents are stubborn and hate being wrong but unfortunately it's sometimes to the detriment of their kid. I will either confide in a friend or just shut myself down, as both options are much easier.
My mom and dad have acknowledged that I have depression but they don’t always handle it the best.
Whenever I was dealing with suicidal thoughts, they grew angry. Especially my mom. She called me ungrateful and many other awful things despite the fact that she had been through the same thing from *her* mother.
When I tried to attempt on my life, I never heard the end of it since. I have since then made steps to *never* go down that path ever again. But my mom is seemingly convinced that I am only a second away from trying again.
I only pray I can someday leave from the toxicity of my family
Me too 😩 but stay strong and stay high bro 😏
@@leroidavidbulleh you think this is a joke
I hope you’re doing better, unfortunately people are like that. If you’re still dealing with suicidal thoughts please call a helpline/spc.
I am still in my teenage life...
I have tried bringing this topic to my parents but it always ended up being a life lesson for me or even worse they say that I'm just acting so at some point I stopped talking to them about it and I'm currently acting in front of them like I'm the happiest child in the world but only my pillow would know how many tears have been out from my body in this past 1 year...
But I really hope others' situation is not like mine and really hope that they can cure their mental health problem, unlike mine... So please leave ur grades aside and put ur mental health first...
I hope that you find someone that'll be there for you.
Do not loose hope of the possibility that your parents will change.
I'm not the best in helping but Im in a bad situation myself.
I'm a trans guy and they think it's a fase.
Especially my mother, she doesn't think it's a fase, she needs it to be. Cause she thinks I'm doing this for attention, because of my phone and she just wants her "cUTe LittLE pRiNCeSs" again.
If you see that they won't budge.
You can try and leave "peacefully" until you can finally leave, and go to a place, stay with people that actually love you.
Hang in there!!୧(＾ 〰 ＾)୨
Hey man I know how it feels to have parents who don't care about mental health. I think the best way to get help is to talk with like-minded individuals online in your situation or has experience in your situation. And I really hope you well. I've been in a similar situation before and it really hurts having your parents neglect your feelings. I've been faking my happiness for a while but I became friends with some people whose became my true family.
@@ThatEstonianYT thanks and I hope u find ur happiness too
@@Player_Raccoon thank u for those comforting words and I hope u will find ur happy place soon...
@@gukkiebae your welcome and I have been trying to
When I told my parents when I was 13 that I thought I had depression, I had hoped for some form of help, or at least some encouraging words. They completely ignored me. They brushed it off as an outlandish thought because "I was happy all the time". Right now situations have gotten worse. I still don't have any professional help, we commonly argue, and they blame my anxiety, stress, and depression on my phone (which i don't use since I dislike social media, and have a small group of close friends). It's saddening that it's still going on after a few years.
I feel so bad for my parents because they aren't bad people, they just dont understand. Its really hard to explain what's going on because I dont really understand it myself. I feel like a huge burden to them. I feel like they dont have any reason to be proud of me, making me feel worthless. These feeling haven't led to suicidal feelings, but they have made me feel emotionally drained and just sad. Thank you for these videos. They are encouraging me that this stuff isn't all my fault.
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Hits blunt
This what exactly is my problem too!!
Please please please do a video on how to stay positive when living with toxic parents! ❤
Yes please!
Just try your best to get out, i had accumulated suicidal thoughts since middle school and begged them to stop treating me in depressing ways but to no avail.
Now I have a good job in a foreign country, pursuing my dream and do whatever I want because I have reached a level of financial flexibility and I thought that they finally give me some respects.
I was totally wrong, when talking about my career and achievements, they said that without THEM raising me I wont be able to be successful and whenever I mentioned they way they mistreated, imprisoned, isolated me from the outside world, leading to my 15 years depression, they said that it is because I would surely became a delinquent without those mistreats and my depression aint real lol
I am half way cutting them off now. Still have to fulfill a duty of a son, but to let them move here, live with, or touch any members of my future family it is a big no no.
@@koukaibi I’m very happy that that’s worked for you. That takes a lot of strength. I do appreciate the comment too but I’m not old enough to financially support myself and I have no one to go too. Oh, and I’m homeschooled btw so talking to a school counselor is out of the question
@@AnnieLeigh111 I understand your feelings because I could not get out until the age of 24. Before then I had zero circles, no financial independence, no knowledge on the outside world, totally ignorant on person to person interaction and criminally under-skilled to even get hired as a waiter. Yes, at the age of twenty four lol
Luckily, when my narcissistic, overly entitled mother decided to try buying me an office job in the Air force, my general uncle, and his general friend persuaded her for almost a year to send me abroad. Because, as they said, I was too naive, had no knowledge on how the world runs and too under-skilled to get hired at any job sites.
Even now, answering calls from my mom is like tortures, she keep dismissing my successes, claiming all of them comes from her brilliant visions and orientations while blaming me for my own depression.
I just want to tell you, it is painful, but at the moment, all you can do is just to try your best to prepare for that moment you can go independent. It may take times, 1 to many years but stay strong and have a self belief that eventually things are going tl be Okay.
@@koukaibi Thank you ❤️
Teenage Me: I’m depressed and I can’t do the things I need to
Mother: “We all have to do what we don’t want to. That’s life.”
Teenage Me associating the two: Oh, so life is suffering. Then I don’t want to be a part of it.
Parents really need to watch what they say
Even if that werent the case, its still kinda true
I was living with my grandparents for a while, going through a pretty hard depression the whole time. One day I brought up that I'm always stressed out and tired. My grandfather basically said, "You do nothing but stay in your room and sleep, you don't have anything to be stressed about." I just stopped talking about it and kept even more to myself after that. So glad I've been doing so much better as of late.
All of these points were sadly relatable. Especially the first and second one. I remember talking to my mom about how I felt tired, sad and unwell mentally like as if my mind was just all over the place and would sometimes shut down leaving me with depressive and sometimes even intrusive thoughts. I asked her if we could go to a psychologist but she just waved it off and said that I didn't need it. Later on, she was talking to her friends about that event and they all just laughed about it making jokes and comments like "it's just a phase. She'll get over it soon" and "she probably just wants attention so don't worry about it".
Thankfully, my friends were there to help me push through and I'm feeling a bit better now ^^
Most are relatable but my don't have any one to turn to for help
5:56 my mother once told me I was ungrateful for all she and dad had done for me when I mentioned that I didn’t care if I were dead or alive
it's almost hilarious how this channel is more understanding than the people i know, my parents can't be very present at home and because of that i don't even try to explain my problems with them, it has always been like this, i never open up, stocking the anger and never letting it be. i don't fight back during arguments, just let them pass by and pretend nothing happened. this takes me to the condition where i don't want to seek for help myself. every day is like i'm running through a deja vu with the same, exact, awful, thoughts of the day before, that i can't just get rid of. and still, i'm a little masochist about it, cause i don't want it to stop from some points of view. i just wish i could let go, everything
Its just sad that I a child watch these videos and realize how bad my relationship with my parents are, and how shitty my mental health actually is. I just want someone to understand
If you read this i am here to hear you you can vent to me if it will make you feel a bit better then we can vent to each other
I know exactly how you fel, they just don’t get it, but it’s not like you could tell them anyway, well I don’t know that but I’ve gotta but of a fear of rejection so I’d rather not
if you want to reach out to me i can give you my socials, i am here for you!
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As a teen who’s going through the same thing, I hear you. My advice is try to cut ties with your parents because if your parents aren’t willing to change, they won’t change. Nobody understands you well other than yourself. Try to make a plan for yourself that will improve your independence from your parents and reach a community network for support
You really don't know how much I needed to hear this. Every single point and topic brought up I feel on a very personal level. And I'm autistic as well, so it's so incredibly hard to able to communicate my intentions, feelings, and thoughts with others, and especially my parents. What a coincidence that I was just arguing with my parents all afternoon about my thoughts and feelings, and every single point and topic was brought up here. And i do this arguing every single day, even though I don't really have depression anymore. Example, every time I even get a little off, they always resort to their ol reliable reason of its the food you ate a week ago. Like why would you be paying attention to something I ate a week ago? I really don't understand why they are who they are.
It's half a miracle any of us decided to actually go on living after our supposed most trusted allies in life let us down.
Proud of All Of You.👊
Thanks bro. Youre a really nice person. may i get a fist bump with you? 😎🤜🤛😎
@@funnychannel5068 👊
@@-A-c thanks bro. i hope you will have a good life
crying when watching this. in 2020 i almost committed su*cide but then my sister in law who from other city came home and help me out from the darkness. she wanted to learn about me, approached me with no judging way. she’s considerate and solutive. she taught me a lot and gave me more loves that i should have been received it from parents. my favorite member in my family is my sister in law. until today, im becoming the best version of myself ❤️ no more scared to be expressive, starts to feel more confident and stronger, self love is number 1, and of course into equal relationships ❤️ even until now my parents don’t want to learn about me, they think i have no brain while in other side, i achieve a lot academic achievements. i also aware of emotional intelligence. but they think im just a little kid who doesn’t understand about literally anything. i don’t care anyway, i hate to admit that actually. but i have a responsibility of my life ❤️ i want to live my best life and value each others who value mine as well ❤️
Thankfully, my parents weren't like that. They caused me to have some mental issues, but they took responsibility for it, and they sent me to a therapist.
I'm blessed to have good parents. Please remember to take care of your health, everyone!
That sounds bad. I'm sorry that you've had to go through that. But luckily you got the support you needed!
@@akarii-chan Thanks, but it's all in the past. I hope that everything is okay in your life. And I hope the same for everyone.
@@עידומחלוף-ר4ח I'm glad you're OK now!
These videos legit giving me tips how I need to treat my child when I'm older-
My depression began at the age of 17, my parents weren't very fond of it and didn't understand it, yet they still let me have therapy. My father said it was for crazy people but as time went on he would stay quiet when someone talked about depression. Now he is depressed and still neglects it with his doctors but with family he shows it without realizing it. 😐
I told my mom I think I might have some form of depression. I'm not sure still. I don't like going out much, I'm a bit of hermit, it got worse after the COVID Self-Quarantine thing.
But anyway, I told her one time and she was like,"What do _YOU_ have to be depressed about!? You barely do anything!" Which is true, I barely do anything, I'm lazy and have no motivations, and barely take care of my self. Which is WHY I was wondering if I had some form of depression or something! She didn't have to say it the way she did. I told her, there's different forms of depression. It can be more then just being overly sad.
This is very relatable. I'm an 18-year-old young man, and during about the past 2 years I've been struggling with mental health and coping in my everyday-life, for example. I haven't always told to my parents about my problems, but the one times that I've tried, It still has felt that they don' t quite understood my situation in life. And yes, one reason flr sure is that I haven't told them about my problems. However, what I personally think is that our parents still may simply not quite understand or even know what kind of things may cause mental issues with youth these days, because the youth is living in an entire different world than a few decades ago. Our parents aren't that conscious about the stress that social media may cause, or how going to school today is like, for example.
I also think that this part 1:37 has another side: parents may reject or sometimes even belittle their children's problems because they want everything to be okay with them. I guess that parenthood may also include feelings of guilt quite often, and therefore they might think what has gone wrong with their education when you bring your issues up to them. I know all this by experience.
All in all I'm feeling very much better now. One thing I recommend to all is that bring your issues up as early as possible. At least to someone, like a parent, a student counsellor, your friend or a professional, for example. 🙏🏻
- greetings from Finland🇫🇮
Ne sanoo että suomi on iloisin maa
@@micollonen8 Niin…
I just love how my parents say that I’m not depressed and that there’s no reason to feel that way… or how they compare it to their childhood and say that it’s “just a phase you’ll get over it” I especially love how they make feel like I’m overreacting ✨💗
6:45 I heard this exact line when i opened up to my relatives "I feel like I have depression" , they told me "but you're still young and not an adult yet". Those words stuck with me in years, im 20 yrs old now.
Just before being diagnosed with severe OCD and ADHD at 12 years old in 2014, I felt like a nuisance to my family. I have since gotten better, but now at 20 years old, the new responsibilities my parents add on, including looking for a "traditional" FT job (my goal is to be a freelance songwriter/musician and author) and increasing rent come the new year have exponentially exacerbated my anxiety and OCD (I have no plans to return to school). Transitions are never easy for those with anxiety. I've been out of work for almost a year.
I've also been suffering from an addiction about which I've never told anyone except for one close friend. Recently, I told my mom on a really bad day that I feel no motivation to do anything, to which she replied, "Well, you know the consequences of not being motivated, right?" I couldn't tell you how disgusting I felt.
I sympathize with the point that I should just open up, but I'm a very sensitive person and just can't bring myself to confiding in them. I really do feel like I may have depression.
Also yes, phones don't necessarily cause a lack of motivation or make people "sad." I use mine to research topics I enjoy, like music and history, and to listen to soothing music or audio to keep me centered.
Sending love to everyone, but especially to those in my age demographic trying to find something to be passionate about, while healing internal wounds that are difficult to bring up to the surface, let alone express. I may not know you personally, but I feel for you and I'm thinking about you. I love you. ❤🙏
I have anxiety disorder ( OCD)and I begged for 5mnths to my parents to let me see a professional but they were so dismissive . At last I was able to convince them and took treatment for 4 mnths at the 5th mnth it was time to take an appointment but they made excuses and I realised they are not willing of it so had to quit my medication. I decided to make some lifestyle changes on my own but everyday I have a battle with my self .
And now my mom says we have spent MONEY for your treatment.sigh!🤧😞
My suggestion to you is making even a smallest good habit might help you I know it's not gonna be easy . You are lost and hopeless but moving on is the only way to keep up😇
@@mili8605 Thanks for the suggestion! All the best! 😊
That thumbnail hit home. I remember telling my mom I thought I was dealing with depression. Mind you, this was the same person who I encountered my first anxiety attack with. She pointed it out to me! So when I told her about my depression, she said without hesitation, "you're not depressed, you're fine".
I’ve had depression since I was 10. I never felt I could go to anyone because I felt no one actually took me seriously.
Every time I finally went to my family, I was met with a lot of backlash and that I didn’t need it but my other siblings actually needed help. I’m finally 20, and getting help for like the first time ever in my life.
Wish I had gotten the chance sooner.
I am very lucky that my mum is a therapist, so she’s not ignorant in this matter. For example when I opened up to her about my social anxiety, she was very understanding. Later, I found out you can get social anxiety from trauma, or you can inherit it from your parents, and that my mum actually had a really bad anxiety from an early age.
But it’s also hard for me to open up about any other things, because then I just feel as another one of her patients. Which then worsen my feelings because I see her and talk to her every day. If that makes sense.
And also because she wants to keep talking about it. And sometimes, I just Don’t want to, but feel bad if I say no, because she’s trying to help.
hii maybe u could explain that you want a therapist to work with, one thats not directly related to you and one that you would only interact with during therapy time, and that this will remove lots of unnnecessary pressure from u, she's a therapist im sure she'll get it, bc when a therapist has a client, they are prohibited from becoming 'friends' with this client, obv they can be friendly, they should be friendly but not 'friends',,, and u have your MOM be ur therapist for now, thats not goood
My mum just says "wake up early, study hard, play outside and there'll be no depression" Like oh thanks woman for reminding me that i can just choose to be happy
The hardest part is having understanding and caring parents, but they don’t know how to help me or what I really need. Especially when they have so many problems and issues going on themselves
Thank you Psych2Go for making this video! Honestly, I've been struggling to tell my parents that I just want them to listen to my problems instead of making up reasons for my 'depression' and saying that I'm ungrateful. Don't get me wrong, I love my parents. Except I often feel like a burden to them. I was always told that crying is a sign of weakness and teen depression is nonsense. I just wish someday someone could understand my problems and reassure me that I'm already doing my best.
To all the teens struggling, please seek help whether it's from your parents, school counselors or your best friends. It's better to tell someone your problems than keeping it inside.
Once again, thank you Psych2Go for making this video and giving me the courage to rant here. Thank you for reading all this 'nonsense'. ❤
The fact that SO many people can relate to these just says something about society😢
Just know that every kid deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a kid.
@@cupofjoe1785 fr
Timestamps
1). They don't let you get professional help 1:34
2). They make jokes and manipulate your situation 2:23
3). They don't make changes in your day-2-day life 3:14
4). They make excuses for your depression 4:23
5). Everytime your depression is mentioned, they argue with you 5:30
Hope this helps you out. Sorry this is so late.💙💙💙
Ás a depressed teenager that gets this, as an adult that's struggled with depression all my life and as a parent with depressed teenagers who are now adults I want to say it's ALL HARD regardless. BUT, don't stop trying to take care of yourself. Talk to anyone and everyone you need to. Eventually someone will hear you. You are a person with feelings that are true and should never be ignored. ESPECIALLY by you. When depressed this is so very hard and exhausting, I know. But, don't stop taking care of you. You are a person of value.
Thanks, man, cheered me up
I feel like this can function with various situations, I wouldn’t say I have depression but I would say a small bit of this video functions to identify social anxiety or anything else. Depression isn’t the only misunderstood problem. 😢
Me: I get overwhelmed
My Parents: So just don't get overwhelmed and you'll be just fine
Me: Well, thank you for that bit of GENIUS advice!! Why didn't I ever think of that? Just, don't get overwhelmed! WOOO!
A way that parents mess up and make it a lot harder 4 their kids and teens with depression is saying things like, “don’t let it bother you” or get over it.” Depression is something teen’s can’t help but feel, and everyone is aloud to feel what they feel. Feelings, especially depression is valid and people should never be forced to not feel that way
I opened up about my depression to my parents but they told me 'at this age you will feel like this and soon it will be gone ' I cry every night thinking about it. I came across one of your videos and now I'm feeling like my situation is getting understood by many. Thanks seeing your videos I'm kinda getting out of depression.
I’m proud of you!!
5:48 I felt that, I remember I even tried to just go to my room to be alone and they came after me just to yell at me
This is so like my parents
Same, it’s not fair, it’s not their space
Im so happy that i am not the only one..and i kept on thinking that i was only overreacting about it. I've never tried to bring it up before to my parents, and even if i did, they would just say that its a "phase". ive said my stories to my best friends(and even a few online ones), and they all say that ive been through a lot, i should go to a therapist.
Im literally not yet into my teens, yes. i will next year, but the fact that a literal pre-teen is having this and im not the only one just shows how toxic the last generation was. Im so sure that the next generation children are going to be well understood and treated.
To whoever is reading this, please know that there is this whole comment section who are ready to comfort and defend you. I know you can get over the depression(if you think or know you have it).❤❤❤❤❤
Great video, I’m trying to get therapy for some traumatic memories. Just so I can understand what’s actually wrong with me, or if it’s actually real or not. Plus being told being in my room too often makes me depressed, when it’s the only room I feel I can be myself.
I just hope others seek a professional when they realize something is wrong. Instead of telling themselves they are fine, I’m just starting to get out of that hole
This hits me hard. But the problem is simply deciding to make more time to help your child isn’t that easy. Any parent that deserves a child would definitely help them if they could. But there is just too much going on.
I have struggled with depression for several years. Based on how my parents were towards commercials that mentioned anxiety/depression as side effects of medications, I knew I couldn’t talk to them about it. They don’t acknowledge things like this. I actually growled at my mom and tried to give an example of anxiety. Got her to stop. I’m grateful to my friends, coworkers and my current boyfriend for helping me out with mental health stuff. I actually moved out of my parents house on Nov 1. I was driven to it in a way by the toxicity from both. Mostly my mom. I already know she has lied to my dad about some things. Both have a hatred of my boyfriend but don’t actually know he’s my boyfriend and that’s fine with me. He’s my soulmate and missing piece
This was my life for the past year. I told my parents and I got worse ever since because they didn't understand me when I told them. Then I was driven to multiple counselors they chose for me that were not helpful to me. I think finding someone who understands your issues is more likely to lead you on a path of healing than someone that doesn't. Parents can be the most and least understanding of their kids because they love and hate them the most. I would personally suggest imagining the conversation and their response before you just tell anyone about what you're going through. It can make things worse.
When was no help or anyone around ,I used to put My depression in painting and art and writing songs and poems I think it was the only thing that kept me alive
I wrote my first book during a few months where I was alone abroad, feeling constantly dark and frozen under a heavy sunshine. Probably saved my life too.
@@benjaminthibieroz4155 someone i can relate to ! I hope you’re doing well and I wish you shining life full of happiness and joy💛
@@Grypolx Thank you. I wish you the best as well
I’ve tried calling out for help to my mom. The only response I got in return was “you have straights A’s, you don’t need therapy.”
And for a while I though I didn’t. But now it’s getting too much at this point. I’ve also been told that this will be on my record and impact me for future careers. Which is something I don’t want. I don’t know ether I should get help or risk my potential job careers.
I just would like to say thank you. Your videos made me realize most of my family are toxic! I'm working on getting out of this toxic place so thank you again❤
Me too..I sincerely hope to see you on the other side
I remember my mother adamantly denied the fact that I had anything wrong with me, even when I'd turned to unhealthy habits that affected my physical health to cope with it. She was also severely abusive and neglectful, which made it worse and she'd use my mental illness as ammunition against me.
My dad on the other hand has always been there for me. He understands what it was like to be in my shoes, feeling misunderstood and being sad without any real clear reason, being confused and feeling like I don't fit in-
If it weren't for him, I'd probably be in a much different place right now, and I'm so happy I have him there for me. With my mom, if I failed at anything she took it personally and would shove all of the blame on me and how I just am not enough. My dad though, always asked me "Are you doing alright?" before asking me about why I failed whatever I failed.
It helps so much to have someone there for you who actually understands what you're dealing with, and is willing to help you, especially when you're stuck in an abusive situation on top of having mental health issues.
The worst part is they never really notice your depression and when they scold you and notice your sadness they say "Dont act like you are the saddest person in the world". Our parents never really care about us, the only thing they care about is our grades and our behavior in front of other and that's it! You are never allowed to show your true emotions.
Every thing said in this video is practically my worst fear, and is keeping me from telling anyone that could possibly help from doing so.😔
I had my first panic attack today in school and when I came home. I wasn't fully- out of it. I told it to my father. He never listens. He calls it "the trends nowadays" and picks on me with every single thing. Calling it a joke, spreading it between our other family members. I did not give him permissions to do that. I have been trying to stand up for myself. Such as I come home, relax a bit and then get to work. As soon as I sit down. He calls me lazy and that I can not do anything right. My mum just sits there. Watching the whole situation. (I am 14. dealing with ADHD, Kakorrhaphiophobia, Agoraphobia and much more. My school psychologist was talking to me at my appointment. She told me everything.) I am middle child and always left out. "There's no you. Just your siblings" they say. I hate my family so much. I can't go with this anymore.
I truly hope your situation gets better I hope you can feel love from my comment. Plus you can check out this song called lost by suga and save me by bts I hope you can find empathy in these songs.❤❤💜💜
i feel like the best thingh for you is to move out as soon as you turn 18. i realy hope you can make it to there.
parents are idiot, they don't see all the problems their child could have they just think it's acting.. be strong, stonger that the wall blocking your pathway on life!
I am actually shocked that I relate to this so much. All I've wanted is to be able to run to my mom, tell her everything and just know she's there to help. It's not my parents fault, but I've never been able to be that close, thank you for making this
I am so incredibly glad that my parents understand and support me and my mental health. But it makes me sad that not everyone can have that. I have a friend who, from what she's told me, seems to relate to all of these. It's really sad that she has to deal with both depression and demanding parents. I always listen to her when she needs to vent and I try to give her advice when I can, but I'd really appreciate it if you could maybe make a video on how to deal with parents who don't understand mental health issues? It'd really help me to help her, I think.
Her family is also very religious from what I can tell. Poor girl is convinced that if she goes against her parents she'll burn in heck. Even though "going against them" would be seeking help. She really needs it.
This hits hard.
I've tried to tell my problems to my parents, and I always get one of the signs. This happened in Middle School. Now I've only really talk to my friends about my mental health.
This whole video hits home. I'm pretty sure my adopted mom is a narcissist and my dad is her puppet. The only time I have gotten them to take my health seriously was by following the ending of this video. I had to basically tell my mom that my having depression and the other disorders I suspect I have doesn't equate to her being a bad mom.
its time like these that i really do feel blessed that my mom understands what i went through and always listened to me and totally disregarded my school work and grades she even offered me homeschooling she is an amazing mom and woman i strive to be like her when i have kids but not everyone is as lucky so if your parents don't care someone will so please keep going you beautiful human! (sorry for bad grammar if so i have dyslexia)
I have a Therapist and I go to her once every week. I've doing it for a year now but it doesn't seem to help me. In fact, my overthinking, anxiousness and sadness seems to grow even more everytime I go. I eat myself to sleep, not even go to school and just stay on my bed everyday and sometimes play games to chat with other people, it usually helps but everytime I go off it just comes back.
*i'm a 13 year-old and i relate to ALL of this.* my parents don't even "believe" in mental health. my dad laughed at me when i tried to open up and my mum's always like "we give you EVERYTHING. a home to live in, food, clothes to wear and you should be grateful. we spend money o'er you, we're working hard too so why are u depressed in the first place??" and all that bs. the only thing i need right now is some emotional support. my friends aren't that good either in supporting me but yeah, atleast they understand that mental health is real and i need support and even though they can't do much as we're all just teens, they still say kind words to me unlike my parents. i hate to socialize, i hate to talk to my mum, dad and other relatives, my parents are always forcing their beliefs upon me and want me to turn out just like them-have a boring job, boring life. if i try to do anything out of the box, they're the first and ONLY obstacle standing in my way. they have shattered my dreams and my heart but i still act fine in front of them, like they're the best parents ever. also, my mum's a paranoid and is suspicious of every thing i do and my dad just hates me. i also have a brother and he equally sucks. how i wish i had better parents, a better family who would guide me, support me, protect me and help me grow.
You do not understand how well timed this video was. I literally had this situation happen with my parents just hours before!
Shit bro I'm sorry
4:38 to 5:10 is SO TRUE. I literally heard a conversation from my parents regarding phones ruining kids, bro didn’t even have evidence behind the claim they both just made assumptions. So unfair that us teenagers are victims and serve as entertainment when we are suffering… but Gen X is basically FREAKING LOYALTY. (Boomers and Gen X is blind, they got it so good at certain times)
One thing I've learned over the years is that the only really important thing a parent should do is support their child, no matter what.
I can totally relate it... when I talked with my mom about how I depressed I am feeling these days, she said like, "Don't force yourself to believe that you have grown older than me"
I told my parents about my depression, they laughed and told me I was emotionally blackmailing then . Some parents use their kids as a way out of struggle, than care about their emotions.
Seeing me as a prize pool and uses my siblings as backup plan, even threatened to disown me. At the end I’m the bad guy.
It’s just a burden I have to face. And I’m just 16
Remember that we still care about you! Be confident, and if you want to vent we're all here because we don't want someone so great to think such stupid things, you're amazing just the way you are.
Yup. Checkmark to all of these points for me. I'm better now, but like many people, growing up in an abusive and negligent household was difficult. It's frustrating knowing that the people who are threatening your well-being are also the ones who are supposed to have your back.
NK had suffered a lot during their Post Graduation days and while they were working in a private school in Delhi.
The parents overlooked their problem and did not pay any heed.
Little did they knew that it would worsen with time and yes that happened.
I wished they could have treated them better and had provided medical help earlier.
It hits so close it feels borderline triggering, but yeah, funny not really thing is that just to make your depression kinda spiral out of control it can really add more problems to solve and fuel depression further, just because that emotional neglect sticks and it hard, at least for me, to communicate with parents the way it could help resolve struggles stuck to them. Sorry for the rant and great video as always!
5:10 ok.. cause they found out themselves the day they found out i harm myself was just..wow.. father just said im being dramatic, disrespectful and a clout chaser..why is that-..he even tell it too my aunties that made me look like its my own fault that im this way...and just like they're against me instead of understanding me...
Me too... you're NOT ALONE❤ sending support, seek professional help (like school counselor, that REALLY helped me)
dont worry your not alone in this💕I hope you soon find the help you needed
The worst part about my depression and other mental health problems I'm suffering from is that I'm too self-aware about them. I know what problems I have, I know the probable causes, I know the symptoms, I know the adverse effect it is having on my life and I know what can be the cure for it. But the thing is I cannot access the cure itself, partly because my parents don't consider mental health issues as actual real problems. They just think I'm making excuses for my mistakes and throwing jargons at them to hide my mistakes. It pretty damn sad and depression to be aware of your problems and not being able to do anything about them..
Oh & this is going on since 4+ goddamn years...
My mom, as a nurse, understands that depression is something that teens are more vulnerable to.
As someone who has had a terrible year so far, my bf broke up with me, I’m homeschooled, and I am having bad grades in school because I’m scared. My life has gone to a dark place. But thank you for talking about these situations. You are like a therapist, sweet, and kind. ❤
thank you for posting this video. It's heartbreaking to know how many parents do this to their teens.. this includes my parents as well
from the first sign, i just couldnt stop crying for hearing that this video understands me. thank you. it gave me a sense of comfort, in a way.
I’ve tried so hard to talk about this with my parents. They just don’t get it. They don’t want me to get professional help and I’m really sick of this. They just excuse this with: you have an exam tomorrow, you do this always. Just cause I explode the days before my exams because everything bottle up doesn’t mean I’m well and it’s just “anxiety”. I feel alone and I don’t have the money to seek professional help myself.
My parents are 100% the main reason for all my mental health issues the rest of my family doesnt help any either and most of the time due to how i was raised i tend to ignore my own problems when with my friends cause i dont want to burden them. This channel and the comments on these videos is the only thing that helps me at all even though it is just understanding some of the issues i have
The main reason why I developed depression anyway is because ever since I moved to a new state (Maryland) life has been so stressful. First we had to live in an apartment, and that was during 2020. I had my first toxic friend ever, and my parents hated each other. Then, during mid 2020, we moved to another house in this place called Jefferson that's in maryland. Its basically like a really small town, and it's okay I guess. However, in school its a different story. BOOM! 10 more toxic friends, and only 3 true friends. I used to have around 15 friends before I moved. My parents started arguing, school is getting harder and harder, friendship is getting worser and worser, grades are getting more and more bitter, and don't even get me started on my mental health. School is very challenging for me especially as an introvert, so I normally keep to myself at School. At the time since I was the new kid, everyone wanted to talk to me, even though I just wanted to get my work done and get outta there. Now I'm doing worst than ever, and my parents even divorced. I'm starting to hate myself even more, because my mother blamed me on the divorce, even when I did absolutely nothing! I'm A bit sensitive too, and guess what? Turns out I have the MOST strict teacher ever that yells at us, assigns us DOUBLE HOMEWORK on top of the other homework that I have to do, and one time my teacher even made my friend straight up cry. Not only that, but honestly, I've been feeling a bit suicidal... I mean, my life's a mess and I just want to escape the pain, but I can't. It's like I fell into a pit of darkness ever since I've moved. I started doing self harm and pulling out the crochet hook again...and honestly, I've TRIED to tell my parents I have depression and I want therapy, its just they are never emotionally there for me. For example, I tried telling my mom my struggles, and she just says "oh you're fine!" And whenever my mom is arguing with my dad and is crying, I actually comfort her. Oh, and my dad. It's like I can almost never talk to my dad due to work. My older brother plays too much mobile legends, and whenever I try to vent to him he just says "Melissa that's not my problem just get yourself together" and I hate it when no one is there for me since that just proves how much of a terrible person I am.
@karlee kh Thank you so much for your kind reply. Your are such an amazing person :)
One of the best animation styles I have seen on your channel so far.
Agreed
I mean... I never really opened up to my family when I'm having mental problems honestly... I would mostly kept it to myself or maybe even talk about to a friend... Only I didn't really express it quite well to make them think that there was is wrong with me, I ask my parents if it's ok for me to go to a physiologist... And guess what? They would ask why and I couldn't answer they're questions, I have to fight my mental illness alone and I'm still am doing it till this day. I would even told myself that I'm not a human and I'm a nobody, I would pretty much train my brain to also think negative impact on myself thoughts, and since I've never seek help for my mental issues I would pretty much do a self-diagnos...
I am a very moody and weird person together... I feel so unsafe, wherever I was or whenever I'm with I feel so unsafe...till this day I'm still telling myself that Im nobody and still is doing a self-diagnos
you are not a nobody.
maybe your parents are jercks, but you are not. you are your own person; chose to be someone, cratf your self and be that self!
You are wonderful. Maybe you don't know this, but there is nothing weird about this. It is totally ok to feel this way. You are safe here. Maybe life has been hard on you, maybe everybody find it hard to sympathize, maybe everybody made you forget how amazing you are or empathy still exist but everything is going to be okay. It's hard to believe, I understand. When life closes a door, it will open another one. Maybe you won't see that door right now, but there will be one.
If you want any tips, just ask me. I will reply to you.
💕
When my parents found out I was cutting myself in high school, they tried to find out why. My dad got angry because it seemed like he wasn't getting the response he was looking for. I was just depressed. He ended up ignoring me for weeks and after that, he didn't speak to me properly for a long time. I never got the help I needed back then. School knew but didn't do anything, parents knew but didn't do anything. It just made it worse. I ended up trying to help myself in uni but it wasn't until more than 15 years later that I got diagnosed with dysthymia (chronic depression) and I'm finally on medication to help control it. I've spent years struggling without any help and I wish more parents could try and understand their child's struggles rather than putting it down to a phase or whatever
It's always a great day when psych2go uploads
You gotta love the traumatic grind-set that helps my day to day life get worse, and a special mention to my constant family and school issues, who have helped me become the “sleepyhead” I am today. Really, I wouldn’t be at this point in life without you all
Hey Psych2Go! You're always so considerate of others and I appreciate the videos and comments you make! I hope you're doing ok, as well.
My family (including myself) does use each others' depression or other issues to lighten the situation. It has taught me to be less serious about things, and I'm slowly learning when enough is enough--my traumatic brain injury has provided endlessly amusing situations, though it does affect my learning curve, so both lessons have been useful. I don't feel mistreated when others joke about my little (sometimes major) quirks, because I have come to see how laughable I can be, and a little gentle joking can help others laugh a bit about their own quirks.
Not too long ago, my boss made a coffee cup for me that says, "Sometimes I talk to myself, and we both laugh!" That's the kind of gentle teasing that helps me understand that potentially serious problems can also be fun. I love that lady to bits because she understands me so well!
“Often times deppersion can feel like your stuck in a maze with no idea how to get out” that’s my life in a nutshell 😅