As a hocd sufferer I just now understand that it is the real fear of being gay that is keeping the disorder going. If I truly stoped fearing being gay and stoped caring weather I was or wasn’t I would have no hocd. I think the feeling of shame is a massive emotion that comes with hocd.
YES!!!!! ERP is the only thing that has ever worked for me. I have literally wasted thousands of hours trying to beat OCD any other way I could think of. I wish I would have just bit the bullet and done ERP years ago. One thing I recently noticed is that for years I was using meditation in ways that kept me stuck without my knowing it. I would meditate as a way to relax, and escape from my painful, anxious feelings. It settled me down and made me feel better at the time, but ultimately kept me stuck. Meditating became one of my rituals! No good. The meditation you take us through in this video is excellent! We don't need to try to make bad feelings go away. It doesn't work anyway. We can absolutely learn to tolerate the uncomfortable feelings!
I understand accepting uncertainty now! Accepting uncertainty is accepting and being ok that you notice men and that they come into your awareness and that there is nothing you can do about it. Same with uncomfortable intrusive thoughts learning to be ok with these things. Learning to be ok with the possibility you could be gay. Giving up on trying to figure it all out and surrendering to ocd and doing nothing other then being ok with the uncertainty of it all.
Aye first off I really appreciate what you do man I’m suffering thru the same kind of thing that you talk about in your videos. Along with HOCD I do have something else I still can’t categorize I just call it “magical thinking ocd”. The main being HOCD right now it coincides with my other OCD too I can see. I’m doing ERP and feeling better but worse at the same time. But thru this ERP I’m doing I see that new fears are coming up into my brain and I would try to incorporate this general uncertainty with everything that comes in causing anxiety but for the better. I wish I could ask you a couple questions about what I’m going thru because I was in therapy for a while for OCD learned a lot from it and now I’m continuing the ERP where we left off without my therapist, but not sure if I should continue doing the ERP without supervision or guidance even though I feel like I have some good tools to continue. And again thank you so much for what you do this idea that you went thru this and want to help others with the same is amazing thank you so much.
Just found your videos recently. They are helpful - especially knowing you’ve been through it! Your comments around feeling anxiety being a good thing, and the attitude of “bring it on” reminds me of Reid Wilson’s work which has been helpful to me too. Not sure if you know of him! Once I’m feeling the anxiety and uncertainty, I hate it but I’m able to sit with it. What I have trouble doing is the next exposure because I’m associating the negative feelings of anxiety with the exposures, if that makes sense. Any suggestions?
Yep I know Reid Wilson well. My suggestion would be to trust the process that bringing on anxiety and allowing it to do its thing will result in habituating and learning that it's nothing to fear.
Mine are so instant, my compulsions happen so instantly. I can't stop as it's a instant compulison. This shit has ruined my life, I've moved towns cause people think I'm gay. Lost all my friends. Can't take them taking the piss out of me. I'm going on a counselling course in September. Can't go to the gym, curtain jobs I can't do. It's hell.
I have been able to cut out most rumination. But I still struggle with checking. I had suicide ocd. So I check to see if I want to really live or not check to see if I'm happy or grateful. Check to see if I want to die and almost imagine it to see my reaction. Any tips that help besides just don't do it lol
Just reminding yourself that it's a ritual that feeds itself. It's the trickiest ritual and it takes faith in the treatment and practice to continually walk away from it.
A question about reassurance. Sometimes when I read, or watch a Movie and theres a scene or whatever. (let’s say a sex-scene and I get a feeling in my body (probably anxiety, but could be something else) which I read into as ” Wait , is this feeling arousal or excitement?” . I’ve realised that in many of these situations, I think to myself okay. Let’s find more examples of this so I can use it as ERP. But I’m not sure if this is ERP or reassurance. It’s impossible for you to say what it is, but maybe you have some tips. Thanks anyway for the good videos🙌🏼
Sounds to me like there's some figuring out attempt going on there. My general advice would be if you're unsure if you're doing exposure or ritual, it's likely a ritual. Any figuring out, analyzing, comparing can easily be masked by OCD and only you know if you're engaging in some ritual
Im in my 6 day of hocd and ik already accepting the uncertainty and its actually good its better than answering the question its like i rather mot findinh out my report card at school
@@thatboydrew8159 wouldn't be watching the clock but I encourage people to start treatment and make a commitment to uncertainty for 3 months and see what happens. Can always go back to letting OCD win and trying to get certainty if you don't get any better
Ok, I understand that, but it is hard when I think someone like you, delete this coment, because I think you think it isn't ocd 😅 Thanks for videos btw. :)
What to do if i no longer feel anxiety.,? What can i do any suggestion. Like i was traveling through male conpartment in india it is fully packed. And there are male body rubbing on each other. I didnt feel anxiety but it is more like my mind is constantly checking whats happening in gronial area.
As a hocd sufferer I just now understand that it is the real fear of being gay that is keeping the disorder going. If I truly stoped fearing being gay and stoped caring weather I was or wasn’t I would have no hocd. I think the feeling of shame is a massive emotion that comes with hocd.
Thank you thank you thank you!!! I've learned a little bit of non duality over the past year! The only thing that exist is the I AM!
YES!!!!! ERP is the only thing that has ever worked for me. I have literally wasted thousands of hours trying to beat OCD any other way I could think of. I wish I would have just bit the bullet and done ERP years ago. One thing I recently noticed is that for years I was using meditation in ways that kept me stuck without my knowing it. I would meditate as a way to relax, and escape from my painful, anxious feelings. It settled me down and made me feel better at the time, but ultimately kept me stuck. Meditating became one of my rituals! No good. The meditation you take us through in this video is excellent! We don't need to try to make bad feelings go away. It doesn't work anyway. We can absolutely learn to tolerate the uncomfortable feelings!
I understand accepting uncertainty now! Accepting uncertainty is accepting and being ok that you notice men and that they come into your awareness and that there is nothing you can do about it. Same with uncomfortable intrusive thoughts learning to be ok with these things. Learning to be ok with the possibility you could be gay. Giving up on trying to figure it all out and surrendering to ocd and doing nothing other then being ok with the uncertainty of it all.
Surrendering to the perfective and certain expectation you have of yourself.
Aye first off I really appreciate what you do man I’m suffering thru the same kind of thing that you talk about in your videos. Along with HOCD I do have something else I still can’t categorize I just call it “magical thinking ocd”. The main being HOCD right now it coincides with my other OCD too I can see. I’m doing ERP and feeling better but worse at the same time. But thru this ERP I’m doing I see that new fears are coming up into my brain and I would try to incorporate this general uncertainty with everything that comes in causing anxiety but for the better. I wish I could ask you a couple questions about what I’m going thru because I was in therapy for a while for OCD learned a lot from it and now I’m continuing the ERP where we left off without my therapist, but not sure if I should continue doing the ERP without supervision or guidance even though I feel like I have some good tools to continue. And again thank you so much for what you do this idea that you went thru this and want to help others with the same is amazing thank you so much.
Just found your videos recently. They are helpful - especially knowing you’ve been through it! Your comments around feeling anxiety being a good thing, and the attitude of “bring it on” reminds me of Reid Wilson’s work which has been helpful to me too. Not sure if you know of him!
Once I’m feeling the anxiety and uncertainty, I hate it but I’m able to sit with it. What I have trouble doing is the next exposure because I’m associating the negative feelings of anxiety with the exposures, if that makes sense. Any suggestions?
Yep I know Reid Wilson well. My suggestion would be to trust the process that bringing on anxiety and allowing it to do its thing will result in habituating and learning that it's nothing to fear.
First 😤😤💯
Mine are so instant, my compulsions happen so instantly. I can't stop as it's a instant compulison. This shit has ruined my life, I've moved towns cause people think I'm gay. Lost all my friends. Can't take them taking the piss out of me. I'm going on a counselling course in September. Can't go to the gym, curtain jobs I can't do. It's hell.
I have been able to cut out most rumination. But I still struggle with checking. I had suicide ocd. So I check to see if I want to really live or not check to see if I'm happy or grateful. Check to see if I want to die and almost imagine it to see my reaction. Any tips that help besides just don't do it lol
Just reminding yourself that it's a ritual that feeds itself. It's the trickiest ritual and it takes faith in the treatment and practice to continually walk away from it.
Do you receive emails about OCD? I would like to speak to you about mine
I can stop ritualizing! sometimes i feel addicted. I don't think i can change ever; i kind gave up
have you tried?
A question about reassurance.
Sometimes when I read, or watch a Movie and theres a scene or whatever. (let’s say a sex-scene and I get a feeling in my body (probably anxiety, but could be something else) which I read into as ” Wait , is this feeling arousal or excitement?” .
I’ve realised that in many of these situations, I think to myself okay. Let’s find more examples of this so I can use it as ERP. But I’m not sure if this is ERP or reassurance.
It’s impossible for you to say what it is, but maybe you have some tips.
Thanks anyway for the good videos🙌🏼
Sounds to me like there's some figuring out attempt going on there. My general advice would be if you're unsure if you're doing exposure or ritual, it's likely a ritual. Any figuring out, analyzing, comparing can easily be masked by OCD and only you know if you're engaging in some ritual
Thanks...
Im in my 6 day of hocd and ik already accepting the uncertainty and its actually good its better than answering the question its like i rather mot findinh out my report card at school
Way to go! Stick w it. It tends to creep back so anticipate tough days but stay the course
@@ocdmindful618 do you really think i can recover from these in a 2 or 5 months
@@ocdmindful618 and i request watching nocd videos
@@thatboydrew8159 wouldn't be watching the clock but I encourage people to start treatment and make a commitment to uncertainty for 3 months and see what happens. Can always go back to letting OCD win and trying to get certainty if you don't get any better
@@ocdmindful618 so the treatment is like these
1 accept the uncertainty
2 is Erp
And thats it right these not for a ritual these for information
Hi Brian is accepting you have ocd important As well as accepting uncertainty?
Accepting uncertainty means accepting that it might not even be OCD!
Thank you Brian! And thank you for your help I apreciate it 🙏
@@ocdmindful618 i believe that dr steven philipsons method is tge best way to treat your hocds in my opinion
That method is the same across the board by people who know how to treat OCD
They all do. Your other comment didn't come through. Please repost
Why you delete coments, its not ok, because that can bi trigger for person to think that isn't ocd...I left coment in another video. :/
I don't delete the comments. UA-cam does. But if you've listened to any of my videos you should know that triggers are good for treatment.
Ok, I understand that, but it is hard when I think someone like you, delete this coment, because I think you think it isn't ocd 😅 Thanks for videos btw. :)
What to do if i no longer feel anxiety.,? What can i do any suggestion. Like i was traveling through male conpartment in india it is fully packed. And there are male body rubbing on each other. I didnt feel anxiety but it is more like my mind is constantly checking whats happening in gronial area.
Stop checking and enjoy being anxiety free!!
@@ocdmindful618 thank you so much. The thing you said that you cant get an answer resonated with me. Its like it was engraved on my forehead.
its hard....